B!TC# IT OUT!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But he just agreed we can keep it platonic for the time being. Oh thank the gods.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

One of my guy friends just asked me out.

I knew it was coming, and I even like him romantically, but there are so MANY reasons why this is a no go.

Namely, I'm about to go into my senior year of high school. He's two years older than me and leaving for the air force in thirty days. I just can't...

So I invited him out for coffee and a pokemon battle and told him to knock that Davy Jones Locker shit off. (We're both maritime nerds, and enjoy role-playing as pirates. It was REALLY funny when I got into mermaiding, just gonna say)

Yes, he really pulled "I wanna go on a date with you before I die" bullshit.

He's going in as an engineer. -.-

Hi Sabrina! I don't know you at all, but I have to tell you, the exact same thing happened to me in my junior year. I was going to be a senior, the interested party was going into the air force academy two states away. It didn't work out for us, haha, but it sounds like you've got a good, confident head on your shoulders. You'll handle things maturely whether y'all end up making a go of it or not. Good luck to you and your friend.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Thank you. I have a feeling we'll end up keeping it platonic for now, and end up together for at least a little while when he's back. Who knows.

And ANOTHER issue: he's also my dear, dear friend's ex boyfriend. (The one I was talking about in my Ohio rant about being useless to help my friend with her Ohio troubles and her littlest brother against the rampages of the middle child. That's a few pages back on this thread)

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Thank you. I have a feeling we'll end up keeping it platonic for now, and end up together for at least a little while when he's back. Who knows.

And ANOTHER issue: he's also my dear, dear friend's ex boyfriend. (The one I was talking about in my Ohio rant about being useless to help my friend with her Ohio troubles and her littlest brother against the rampages of the middle child. That's a few pages back on this thread)

Oh wow. That is quite a complication. Good luck again!

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Taking things in a totally different direction, I am sick TO DEATH of mansplaining and the general fragility of “masculinity”.

I train in powerlifting three days a week, and have for about the last year. One of my friends mentioned in a FB status that he was having trouble getting a bench at his gym because it is so busy there. Some guy posted a meme about chest day v. leg day. Chuckle chuckle, hardee har har. No advise, no pertinent information. So I told my friend what I usually do when the benches are stacked six deep in dude-bros… I roll a moveable bench over to the power rack and do my bench press on that after I do my squats. You get some weird looks, but no more so than you do for bringing boobs into the weight room in the first place. Anyway, he said he’d never though of that, that the power rack is usually not as busy as the benches at his gym and that he’d try it. We proceeded to have a nice little equitable conversation about the subject. All of a sudden, here’s Mr. M’lady McMeme, back with information about what exercise my friend should do instead of flat bench/any of the things I’ve said. Mind you it’s an hour after his original comment, and we’ve had a whole conversation about lifting that he decides to pretend hasn’t even happened, and certainly didn’t spawn his sudden burning need to be helpful. DO YOU EVEN LIFT, BRO?! DID YOU JUST GOOGLE THAT, BRO? I will fight you.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ugh. Feel that. Used to take Karate, and gyeeeeeh.

[Mermaid Mystery]

!!!!!!!!!
(Mr. M'lady McMeme is now my favorite thing lol)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Right?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

They shoved me off over the interview, and said they were full, even though a day before, said they were hiring.

Went to GameXChange yesterday, and the gentlemen in there and i had a 2 hour long convo about pokemon, then they proceeded to tell me "you are the hottest nerd we've ever met. We're hiring!" I got the app and am turning it in this week.

Im not worried about being hit on by them, because i am used to it and can handle it, but i dont have "real" job experience.

[PearlieMae]

It sounds to me like you already have the job and it's better than the Xian pizza parlor! Good for you!

[deepblue]

All of a sudden, here’s Mr. M’lady McMeme,

Ha! lol, love that. And yes, I similar with anything to do with Linux. Guy asks, "Hey who all uses Linux?" I answer, and a few guys, and next thing I see is replies to the guys, with no acknowledgment whatsoever of what I just said, as if they have a filter on that doesn't allow them to see women in the thread. Very annoying.

Except among my friends. I don't associate with numbskulls, so my guy friends are not the sort to don those blinders, or to mansplain an hour after a conversation was had.

[IllynReaver]

Yes, he really pulled "I wanna go on a date with you before I die" bullshit.

He's going in as an engineer. -.-

Considering he's a few years older than you, and pulling the whole sympathy thing to get a date, please, please please, don't fall for that. If he makes you feel uncomfortable in anyway, get out of there.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Considering he's a few years older than you, and pulling the whole sympathy thing to get a date, please, please please, don't fall for that. If he makes you feel uncomfortable in anyway, get out of there.

Oh my, I didn't take that as literal when I read it the first time. Definitely a HUGE red flag if he wasn't joking.

[Mermaid Lunette]

oh gosh, SPEAKING of mansplainning, i was talking about comics (well specifically ant-man and the wasp) so i should have expected it considering fake fan boys just cankt help themselves) and at first he throws a bunch of shit comic facts at me like that automatically means he is right and of course i argue right back but i notice he is basically ignoring my points and just keeps talking about things that happened in the comics that at this point are irrelevant.

luckily he eventually realized him throwing random comic book scenarios wasn't gonna make me stop so he eventualy did. thank god, it was still annoying as heck though, like he couldnkt just leave me be, like he HAD to try and tell me why it was ok that ant man is getting a movie while the wasp is basically being killed off, which as you can guess is bullshit.)

[IllynReaver]

Oh my, I didn't take that as literal when I read it the first time. Definitely a HUGE red flag if he wasn't joking.

I've dealt with guys who have used that tactic before. I just want her to be safe. Even if he agreed to be platonic, personally I'd still keep my guard up.

[Mermaid Mystery]

new contact name

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh no, he was DEFINITELY joking. And I don't fall for that shit anyway. I was just annoyed that he'd even joke like that.

The point is, we've been friends for years, and we're both comfortable with keeping it that way for the time being..

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And good luck Shimmer!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But just so you get the context, we were being piratey and Davy Jones Locker came up, and then he made a joke about going there and that we should subsequently go on a date. I glowered and said he wasn't going nowhere. And then we talked about potential relationship crap and he was understanding about the whole thing.

[Merman Chatfish]

Lyrique posted an amazing picture of her and some others swimming in Hawaii and I feel jealous because I haven't been able to do stuff like that and might never.