B!TC# IT OUT!

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Originally Posted by coral_sybil

I don't even know why I bother anymore or anyways! I'm continuously ignored. But that is both an okay thing and the most annoying thing in the world. There are times when I just want to be left alone, and others when I want to talk and socialize. But all the flipping time. Ignored, no comments, maybe someone will glance my way but nah. Ignored again.

Sometimes I swear i have a superpower. People forget I'm there. I've honestly had people ask me a question and when I turn to look at them to answer they are walking away forgetting they even said anything, or hell even fade out midsentence and walk away.

It's annoying. It's upsetting. It's like I'm less of a person because I cannot seem to exist in the same reality they do. Like I'm a friggin ghost playing house with everyone around me.

It pisses me off, and makes me want to cry at the same time.

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*Hug*. My guess is people see you as an introvert and treat you as such, which includes "just slowly back away they don't want to talk". Can't think of any advice to give though besides going up to the person and shake them shouting listen to what I have to say!

I felt the same way in elementary school, so I just faded away myself. Led to getting counciling and diagnosed with ADD.

I had a saying that also sounds like it would fit...When I sit with my friends I sit by myself, I sit by myself I sit with no one. That came up after I was eating lunch alone in middle school and a kid was causing trouble and a teacher made him sit at an empty table so he would stop causing trouble. Of course that empty table was mine.

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Originally Posted by coral_sybil

I don't even know why I bother anymore or anyways! I'm continuously ignored. But that is both an okay thing and the most annoying thing in the world. There are times when I just want to be left alone, and others when I want to talk and socialize. But all the flipping time. Ignored, no comments, maybe someone will glance my way but nah. Ignored again.

Sometimes I swear i have a superpower. People forget I'm there. I've honestly had people ask me a question and when I turn to look at them to answer they are walking away forgetting they even said anything, or hell even fade out midsentence and walk away.

It's annoying. It's upsetting. It's like I'm less of a person because I cannot seem to exist in the same reality they do. Like I'm a friggin ghost playing house with everyone around me.

It pisses me off, and makes me want to cry at the same time.

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Usually when people trail off mid sentence and walk away, that means that they feel like whoever they're talking to isn't paying them any attention. So if you aren't looking at them when they're speaking, they'll assume you aren't listening or you don't care or they're annoying you and just deem it not worth their time or breathe to continue talking to someone who doesn't care.
And about being ignored when you talk, are you talking or are you mumbling? are you making your presence known in the group, or sort of lingering on the outskirts of it contributing a few sentences in a soft spoken, shakey, uncertain voice? When speaking in a larger group, you have to make sure to speak up, to make sure you speak with confidence, you have to demand that everyone listen to you. When you speak, you have to send the signal "It's my turn to talk now and you're going to listen"

I am looking at them, they end walking away and looking away first. Usually i have something in my hand and I turn my head to look at them immediately. When I try to reach out to them and try to get them to finish they've honestly forgotten.

They end up talking over me in group setting even if I've been told to hush it because I'm getting excited.

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Originally Posted by coral_sybil

I am looking at them, they end walking away and looking away first. Usually i have something in my hand and I turn my head to look at them immediately. When I try to reach out to them and try to get them to finish they've honestly forgotten.

They end up talking over me in group setting even if I've been told to hush it because I'm getting excited.

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okay first off if they're hushing you, you need to find some other people to hang around with because they're a-holes. Secondly, notice anything else people do when they walk away? what're they talking about? doing? maybe they got distracted? because that's odd and rude to just walk away.

I'm tired of pools all giving me the "no fins and mermaid tails, in consideration of the normal users"-line.
It feels like I'm getting nowhere, because I found only one pool where I can really train.

What angers me is that all sort of crap gear is allowed into the pools (big corsets they jump around in, shoes huger than my small shortfins, frigging aquabikes), but as soon as you say "fin" they all close their minds down and give you standard answer bs.

Mentioning I've never hit another swimmer with my fin or my limbs, while in return, I've been struck by flailing frogkickers who didn't watch where they were going hundreds of times doesn't make a difference.
I'm half tempted to use those pools with some of the stuff they allow, and then go flail around uncoordinatedly like all the "normal users" do, and hit them nicely back.
They couldn't complain either, because I'm just another "normal user" :mad:

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Originally Posted by Echidna

I'm tired of pools all giving me the "no fins and mermaid tails, in consideration of the normal users"-line.
It feels like I'm getting nowhere, because I found only one pool where I can really train.

What angers me is that all sort of crap gear is allowed into the pools (big corsets they jump around in, shoes huger than my small shortfins, frigging aquabikes), but as soon as you say "fin" they all close their minds down and give you standard answer bs.

Mentioning I've never hit another swimmer with my fin or my limbs, while in return, I've been struck by flailing frogkickers who didn't watch where they were going hundreds of times doesn't make a difference.
I'm half tempted to use those pools with some of the stuff they allow, and then go flail around uncoordinatedly like all the "normal users" do, and hit them nicely back.
They couldn't complain either, because I'm just another "normal user" :mad:

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Aquabikes!? Dang. As a lifeguard I am fine with fins and mermaid tails. What I don't like are inter tubes or anything really big that can block my view.

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Jaffa

If Kayla were my sister, I'd slap her so hard it'd leave my wonderful and bright red hand print on her face, each time she insulted me.

What do you do when she bullies you? Do you fight back or go away and cry? If telling your parents don't do anything for you, its time to fight back. Not saying to resort to dirty tricks like she does, but each time she insults you, give her enough of a whack to hurt but not break. She'll soon get the message that if she hurts you, you'll hurt her back. That's the thing about bullies, they always pick on the weaker person, even more if the other person does not fight back. They think you're easy prey.

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@ Cascada: I propose a similar, but alternate strategy that I doubt you'll get in trouble for: laugh at her. Mock her pathetic attempts to insult you as cruelly as you possibly can. At first, she'll question your sanity and maybe your intelligence, and might redouble her efforts initially, but when she sees her insults continually failing to bother you she'll start to wonder if they have any effect. If you can keep it up long enough, and it does get easier as you go, she'll eventually give up, and may even lose a lot of self-esteem. I can tell you from personal experience that this method works, it has worked for me many times and I still use it when suitable. This strategy not only shows bullies that they have no power over you and blocks their attempts at manipulating your emotions, it also manipulates their emotions and allows you power over them. It's a double-header that you can't really get in trouble for as long as you only use it as a direct response to her bullying.

I'm so frustrated with our bank. I had it set up so they would direct deposit for electricity bill find out today they haven't paid the bill in two months. Now I have to put the money that I saved up for my tail into the bank so I can pay PG&E so they won't turn off our electricity tomorrow. I'm just so frustrated


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Getting up early. Getting all my mer-gear on and together. Picking up another mermaid. Driving 40 minutes to venue. Finding out the client changed the party to TOMORROW without telling me, when I already have another party that day at the exact same time in another location. So, juggle mermaids around, figure out how to have both parties go at same time and make sure photographer is in right place. Write client, not only do they not apologize, they don't say thankyou for working it all out -_-

They had already paid in advanced and I'd already paid everyone and paid off the materials. Otherwise I'd have been like "sorry."

This is the SECOND time a client has changed date and not told me.... thank goodness the woman at the front desk was new and made us check in. They usually just let us go down and get ready!

Looks like it's time to toss a scheduling clause into the contracts so they have to notify you or they forfeit a portion of their payment


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absolutely! My dentist does it, I do, too. A 50% kill fee, minimum.

Yes that's a fintastic idea.

Or all of it, shit. That's just rude.


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I'm actually really surprised you don't have a clause somewhere that basically says "too bad, you change it and forget to tell me, not my fault/problem. No refunds for that, and no rescheduling."

Even I have one in my scheduling contracts, despite not doing much performance work anymore. I learned quickly when I jumped from doing stuff for Iranians to doing stuff for non-Iranians that this was a problem. You'd think that the entertainment for an event would be the first people you tell after the venue and caterers that you changed the date, but nope.... People just don't give a shit, or they assume the venue will tell you, or that you'll magically find out.....

In 5 years it only happened once and that was a few months ago. Trust me it is in there now!!

I live in an area where people basically worship their dogs and humans can go to hell. In my apartment complex, dogs live here and humans get to stay too. Every place in this area is like that. Most of these apartments have at least 2 dogs, and their owners are away during the day and just leave the dogs. I work from home, and it sounds like a freaking kennel. Dogs barking and/or howling non-stop all frigging day. And the dog fights. Constantly. I find dog hair everywhere—in my car, all over my front walkway—I DON'T HAVE A DOG!! There's a dog park, and then another park. People take their dogs to the "human" park to shit there so there's nowhere I can go without stepping in dog shit. And their attitude is if you don't bow down to the dogs than you're a horrible heartless, soulless person. I'd just like a day where I don't hear people's pets going mad in their apartments alone all day. I'd like to walk down the sidewalk without being lunged at by neighbor's pets, in front of my own place, and then get dirty looks from the owners like I did something wrong.

I love animals, but their owners are another story. And the next dog that lunges at me will get reported. If one more person says, "oh no he's friendly!" while their Kujo is snapping and growling at me, I'm going to lose it.

My upstairs neighbors recently got a second dog - AFTER the new apartment management sent out a revised rule list stating no pets. So now instead of one dog they leave alone during the day (and sometimes nights) there's a second one barking, howling, and scratching at doors. Only consolation is that it looks like they're trying to move out... or at least that's what they've been saying. Even though they've been "moving out" since April.

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Originally Posted by AniaR

In 5 years it only happened once and that was a few months ago. Trust me it is in there now!!

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Good for you! So sorry that happened to you.
Unfortunatly artists are forgotten about A LOT.
It happens here to and it has happened to us plenty of times in the past many years.
It sucks that you need to make a clause for things like this but that is what's needed
Hope it helps in the future :-)

Both of these were birthday bookings for the soul purpose of having mermaids lol

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Originally Posted by AniaR

Both of these were birthday bookings for the soul purpose of having mermaids lol

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Sounds like they assumed you were a psychic mermaid who would instantly know about the rescheduling. :P
Hopefully the new clause will clear things up for future bookings.