Why must Instagram choose now to be ornery?!?!?!
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Why must Instagram choose now to be ornery?!?!?!
Need to vent without causing drama on fb. Last week, I was asked to be Fluttershy on a MLP panel for DCC, which I was really excited about and changed my cosplay lineup to accommodate. Yesterday, 5 days before con, I was told that the original Fluttershy can make it after all, but thanks "for being willing to change [my] plans." I really wanted to respond with, "I wasn't WILLING, I DID change my plans!" But I don't want to start drama and burn bridges so I didn't. But today I've just been really upset that I don't get to participate in this fun thing that I'd been excited for, and I feel even worse b/c I feel like this is such an insignificant thing to be upset about (esp. in light of this weekend's events), but I'm still upset anyways and I'm just more upset that I'm upset over something so trivial. :(
First off hun, I would be upset about it too. You changed your plans for it, and were told the original was able to make it after you changed your plans, and just a few days before showtime. Reguardless that's not cool of them. They should've at least been a bit more considerate.
Second, yes this weekend's events are terrible and devestating, but that doesn't mean you can't be upset over something you've been prepping for as well.
Had to cancel a photoshoot because it's too hot for it :c I was looking forward to it too.
I know, but yesterday I was comforting my friend (who is both gay and trans) and letting him vent his fear and anger - and today, this is what I've been upset over and I just keep thinking, "REALLY?!" Like, part of my brain knows it's okay to be upset about something happening to me, but another part just keeps thinking that it feels so shallow and childish compared to what many others are dealing with.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shimmer Mermaid
I just posted a WIP picture of one of the new additions to my Fluttershy cosplay across my cosplay platforms and got a great response. Screw the mean ponies, I'm excited to debut my updated Fluttershy, and I will be one happy pony! :D #channelingRarity
Uh...for what?Quote:
Originally Posted by Amphitrite
Your husband sounds like a great guy by the way, Shimmer. And that's really horrible what those people said to you, especially in that manner. But hey, their loss. I know u must be feeling pretty bad if u had to set away ur tail from sight (I've done similar things before) but I hope u feel okay soon
Hydra, I was responding to your post regarding your broken stove. It sounds like your landlord has had plenty of opportunity to fix it and hasn't. So, I was suggesting that you put next month's rent in what is called an escrow account which is a legal way to force the issue. It's you having proof that you can pay rent and plan to... After they fix your stove. So instead f you paying for a place that doesn't work you're taking legal control of the situation.
I don't know. This isn't much, but I want to get it off my chest. I feel like I have terrible social skills. At the springs, I often end up interacting with kids, and for the most part, I think I'm pretty good interacting with them except for those times they say something upsetting like you aren't real or question the fact that I'm a merman. A lot of kids seem surprised by the fact that I have a tail and I'm a guy. The only way I know how to respond is to explain that mermaids are the girls and mermen are the guys. If they keep pestering me about it, I every once in a while let it slip to them the fact that I'm more at home in the water and that they shouldn't upset someone that can swim better than them. I feel awful for letting that slip even if it's one of the older kids. I've never said something like that to the younger kids. I'm beating myself up over that because it feels so wrong to say. I might have been a little more grumpy because of all the people that were trying to take my picture without asking. I feel horrible. I don't know how people know how to respond. I'm also a little reclusive. If I'm not asked first or if I'm not intentionally trying to pose for a camera or doing something like a gig, I like to keep to myself or stay close to my friends. It's like people think I'm there to entertain them or pose for them when I'm swimming during my free time. I think I know how the whales feel at sea world. For the most part, this doesn't usually get under my scales. It's just that I wish I could swim at the springs sometime and enjoy myself without attracting a lot of attention. I don't mind getting attention, but I can feel overwhelmed a bit when a lot of people are focused on me. And before people get on my case about feeling overwhelmed, I work retail for a living, so I'm used to being center stage for the customers when I'm on the clock. If I did a gig in front of a lot of people, I think I would be fine. I know how to be professional about stuff. I just hate my personal time turning into the professional stuff. I guess it can't be helped. Everyone wants to take a picture when they see me in my tail whether I want my picture taken or not. I'm used it and okay with it most of the time, but I still struggle a bit when I socialize. I want to do gigs someday, but I'm not doing anything set in stone. I'm sorry. I had to vent.
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I had to outright tell a little boy that I was a human in a tail, not because he was questioning me, but because he was utterly terrified of the water and the family member that was teaching him how to swim LEFT HIM IN THE POOL AND WENT INTO THE JACUZZI TELLING HIM TO 'PRACTICE'
He was sitting all depressed on the steps, so I taught him how to inflate his lungs and take advantage of the buoyancy issue and how to move his hands in the doggy paddle motion without breaking the surface and splashing himself in the face (that was partially what was freaking him out) and told him that astronauts use pools to simulate zero gravity of deep space.
Didn't make him pick his feet up off of the pool floor. So he was calm.
But I am ticked at that woman!
I get you completely, and I hear you. I do not do proffesional gigs, so all the time I spend with my tail on is my own.Quote:
Originally Posted by Merman Dylan
I do not think you are being rude by setting up boundaries for yourself with people, or for not letting kids tell you whatever they want with zero consequences, even if it is downright wrong, and parents would not let them say it in another circumstances.
I have had interactions with kids where they would insist in touching me (tail, earrings, even bra!) even after I stated I did not want to be touched. If they insist in ignoring my boundary, then I just swim off and I don't let them get near me. I have had kids just sitting with me for more than half an hour making conversation while their mothers are swimming or using their cell phones; they do not think for a second about telling them to leave me be. I don't mind a bit of interaction, but I am there for my own enjoyment, not to entertain or look after your kid, lady, specially around water.
The pictures for me are less stressful. Since I go to a City Hall pool, it is forbidden to take pictures of people. If you want a picture you have to ask and obtain permission. I usually don't mind, but I like that I have the option to say no if I don't feel like it.
So it's not you, Dylan. It's them. :hug:
Apparently my husband kept forgetting to remind him so it's not my landlords fault and its going to be taken care of now. The suggestion is appreciated though.Quote:
Originally Posted by Amphitrite
As much as i am happy to be pregnant, this nausea is too much already. It last for hours!
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Ah, I slept through mine. I had to in order to keep my prenatals down, but turns out the prenatals made me sick as well. How far along are you?
Sometimes my prenatal pills makes it worse too. I cant even look in the fridge anymore :(
I think im anywhere from 1-5 weeks. My first appointment when i found out was a few weeks ago and they couldn't see it yet. But the test i took came back positive..
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I'm 26 weeks, and it does get easier. I couldn't even stand to smell food my first trimester. The good news is it usually doesn't last that long. I'm so happy for you though!
Thank you! Seriously. I cant stand pizza and hamburgers all the terrible food im used to.. haha ive been craving like salads and stuff.. but any weird onion food, oh geez forget about it.
Im actually kind of afraid of throwing up. Its usually all or nothing when it comes to it.
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I have had problems with eggs specifically. The smell, the taste, I cant handle anything with eggs.
So my surrogacy has been delayed thanks to some asshat OB I saw in the past. I was originally matched to be the surrogate for a very sweet couple in Argentina but after WEEKS of waiting for their doctor to even look at my medical records AFTER receiving them I got denied. I apparently got denied because one doctor wrote me in as "vaguely suicidal" and that I took medication but declined counciling which made it look like I just wanted drugs.
When I was at the hospital I expressed my worry of raising my daughter in a house that was literally falling apart (which I'm sure I mentioned in a previous bitch post) and they basically said "here try these pills" and asked if I wanted counciling. I said I couldn't go because I didn't have a car, friends or family that could drive me there, and the nearest bus stop was too far of a walk for a woman who JUST FREAKING GAVE BIRTH. The hospital apparently took that as excuses.
Even the co-owner of the surrogacy agency was furious when that happened and told me she got into a heated argument with the doctor over it. She knows I'm not "vaguely suicidal", a druggie, or anything of the like. Especially considering I passed my MMPI test (a test you literally cannot lie to beat that can tell if you're suicidal or have any mental issues) with flying colors. So what she's doing is paying out of pocket for me to see the same psychologist I saw for my first psych evaluation to give me the all clear for my next match.
With how much she genuinely cares about me I know she'll fix this issue but I still have the paranoia in the back of my head that something will go wrong AGAIN. It has me so worried I'll randomly start crying and with it being my husband's first father's day the timing is really shitty.
It seems like every time I'm about to have money to start making my own tail something happens...
A local mermaid planned on giving me a gig this weekend that she couldn't make. I cleared my schedule and cancelled plans with people to make the gig. The client cancelled and went with someone else.
This has happened almost every weekend since February. I'm really getting fed up with this.
Screw you, gig salad.
Ok, so, remember that roommate that I b*tched about that purposely excludes me from social gatherings? He has gotten worse. Last night, after I got home from work, I normally am greeted by my lovely kitty, Raja. This time, no greeting, not even a sound. All of my roommates (except for two) were seated on the couch watching tv together. I asked all of them if they had seen my cat, and nobody responded. I walked around the house and called her name, checked under my bed, and nothing. I decided that she probably fell asleep somewhere and would come find me later. Two hours later, I got up and looked around for her again.
Eventually, I found her. Outside, in the screened in porch area, with all of the blinds pulled shut and it was raining outside. Poor thing was miserable. She must have been out there for hours. Nobody is admitting to putting her outside and forgetting about it, but it could have been only one person- that one roommate.
I swear to goodness, if Raja gets sick, there will be hell to pay.
I would pitch a fit. Reguardless, they have no right to make potentially harmful decisions about your cat, and shouldn't have put her out there without your permission first.
Also I love her name. ❤ I hope she's okay
Thanks! That's the name she came with when I adopted her as an adult. I think it's rather fitting, considering Jasmine is my favorite Disney Princess (and sometimes my club name).
I do let her outside on the deck whenever I am home- and either I am out there in the pool and keeping an eye on her, or I open the blinds to remind me that she is outside. I rarely ever ask my roommates to let her outside in my absence (although she has a tendency to loudly beg to go outside sometimes), and when I do, they all follow the same protocol. This guy has outwardly posted on FB about how much he hates me and my cat, multiple times.
And even after he posted about him not liking you, -first off, rude- your other friends are still not doing anything?
I talked to my best friend about it this morning on my way to work. She owns the house and lives with us- and she has a major say in who lives in the house. I love her to pieces, but she is very introverted and sometimes oblivious to social cues and others' emotions (Asperger's). She said she was going to talk to the roommates about it today. When I finally showed her that he has been maliciously excluding me from roommate get-togethers, I hope that she got the message.
I think she thinks that her brother (another one of the roommates) did it; and he has a tendency to forget hygiene, chores, and errands from time to time(mental disability, I don't know what he has other than a form of autism)- but he is never malicious about it. He has let my cat out a couple times per my request, but he always lets her back in a little while later.
I'm glad you talked to her about it. I hope that things get straightened out, because you have posted about this same thing before, and it kept happening and that's not fair for you in the least bit.
Personally, i would find another place to live. From your pervious posts about this guy, this situation is making your life worse.
Find a small room to rent or a guest house with another girlfriend and call it a day. Thats me at least.
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I wouldn't have the patience to deal with all the bologna you're putting up with. It would've gotten real ugly if they did that to my cat. Luckily it wasn't hot like it is out here (115°)
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Also, my own small rant here, i have hit maternity cup sizes, and grew out of my mermaid top:((
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Really tired of being in constant bad pain and discomfort from these MASSIVE ovarian cysts. I'm trying so hard to gather funds up for my surgery that I need ASAP. I've been trying to get a hold of my OB-GYN to figure out if there is another option besides the $2240 the surgery facility wants up front. Every time I bleeping call the person I need to talk to isn't there. I really really need this surgery done and over with, I just want to be back to normal and back to my normal life. I don't know what to do anymore I'm trying so hard not to give up. :cry:
Hug. Ovarian cysts are awful, I hear.
I had just finished my mermaid top a few weeks ago, only to realize-the seashells are now too small. I went from being a big A-to a small C. I am a splash away from a nip slip.
That is also awful.
Shimmer, could you temporarily sew a bit of extra fabric (like sparkly spandex or skin tone powermesh) between the cups to help cover the extra cleavage? That worked in for belly dance shows in a pinch, when a costume didn't fit well or a student was feeling modest. What a pain though! I went up a cup size and my rib cage permanently expanded by two inches even after I lost the the baby weight. My shoe size increased too!
We share the same pain! Ill be resting drinks and food on my chest if i wear this mermaid top at this point hahaQuote:
Originally Posted by Shimmer Mermaid
Its back to wearing rash guards and plus sized bikini tops haha
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I don't know what I'm gonna try to do with it yet...
Maybe just buy a cheap shell top in a bigger size.
I would be so pissed off at any parent that did that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sabrina the Selkie
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It's funny. I've got one of those weird personalities where I'm super social and chatty and other times when I just want to be alone. I don't mind interacting with kids, and I do know that I need to get better about that. However, it worries me when parents leave their kids near me. I plan on getting SCUBA and CPR certification in the future, but I'm not certified right now. Kids can drown in any depth of water. I don't swim with my legs the way I used to swim, so in a way, I've lost touch with what that's like which made it very weird when I made an attempt to swim without my tail. However, if something happened, there isn't a lot I could do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Talia
The pictures getting g taken are incredibly annoying when it's without permission, but I can swim far away underwater and prevent them from getting a good photo. I do a majority of my swimming in tail. For me, that is the most comfortable way to be and swim. It's the one thing I can't explain how or why, but for my entire life, I just feel so much more at home in the water or at the beach. There's something about the sea and water that tugs at my heart the way the moon tugs on the ocean and makes waves.
I honestly feel fickle. If someone asks to take a photo the answer is yes. I don't care if it's my free time. I'll let them take a picture. I won't work to hard to really pose, but I'll let them take my picture. However, when they try to take my picture without asking. The answer is no, and I will swim away UNDERWATER, so they can't get a good picture. I might even hide underwater. I'll do something to make the picture come out bad. Muwahaha.
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So yesterday I exchanged messages with a 13 year old girl on Etsy because she wanted to buy one of my "silicone mermaid tails". I politely pointed out that the description stated the listing was for a digital file of a mermaid tail not one you could swim in. She apologized and I made her feel better by saying it's better to ask before buying.
...Then at 4AM someone else actually purchased one from my listing. After what happened with the girl I messaged the buyer to make sure they understood they were just buying the design not a swimmable tail. They really thought it was a tail and asked me to cancel the order. Needless to say I had to refund their money.
I get that a lot of people don't really read descriptions but who seriously thinks a whole tail set will sell for $30 with free shipping?