B!TC# IT OUT!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Why must Instagram choose now to be ornery?!?!?!

[Mermaid Arabella]

Need to vent without causing drama on fb. Last week, I was asked to be Fluttershy on a MLP panel for DCC, which I was really excited about and changed my cosplay lineup to accommodate. Yesterday, 5 days before con, I was told that the original Fluttershy can make it after all, but thanks "for being willing to change [my] plans." I really wanted to respond with, "I wasn't WILLING, I DID change my plans!" But I don't want to start drama and burn bridges so I didn't. But today I've just been really upset that I don't get to participate in this fun thing that I'd been excited for, and I feel even worse b/c I feel like this is such an insignificant thing to be upset about (esp. in light of this weekend's events), but I'm still upset anyways and I'm just more upset that I'm upset over something so trivial.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

First off hun, I would be upset about it too. You changed your plans for it, and were told the original was able to make it after you changed your plans, and just a few days before showtime. Reguardless that's not cool of them. They should've at least been a bit more considerate.

Second, yes this weekend's events are terrible and devestating, but that doesn't mean you can't be upset over something you've been prepping for as well.

[Mermaid Momo]

Had to cancel a photoshoot because it's too hot for it :c I was looking forward to it too.

[Mermaid Arabella]

Second, yes this weekend's events are terrible and devestating, but that doesn't mean you can't be upset over something you've been prepping for as well.

I know, but yesterday I was comforting my friend (who is both gay and trans) and letting him vent his fear and anger - and today, this is what I've been upset over and I just keep thinking, "REALLY?!" Like, part of my brain knows it's okay to be upset about something happening to me, but another part just keeps thinking that it feels so shallow and childish compared to what many others are dealing with.

[Mermaid Arabella]

I just posted a WIP picture of one of the new additions to my Fluttershy cosplay across my cosplay platforms and got a great response. Screw the mean ponies, I'm excited to debut my updated Fluttershy, and I will be one happy pony! #channelingRarity

[Hydra1337]

Hdra if you are in the USA (and it applies in your state) might I suggest looking into an escrow account?

Uh...for what?

[SeaMansa]

Your husband sounds like a great guy by the way, Shimmer. And that's really horrible what those people said to you, especially in that manner. But hey, their loss. I know u must be feeling pretty bad if u had to set away ur tail from sight (I've done similar things before) but I hope u feel okay soon

[Amphitrite]

Hydra, I was responding to your post regarding your broken stove. It sounds like your landlord has had plenty of opportunity to fix it and hasn't. So, I was suggesting that you put next month's rent in what is called an escrow account which is a legal way to force the issue. It's you having proof that you can pay rent and plan to... After they fix your stove. So instead f you paying for a place that doesn't work you're taking legal control of the situation.

[Merman Dylan]

I don't know. This isn't much, but I want to get it off my chest. I feel like I have terrible social skills. At the springs, I often end up interacting with kids, and for the most part, I think I'm pretty good interacting with them except for those times they say something upsetting like you aren't real or question the fact that I'm a merman. A lot of kids seem surprised by the fact that I have a tail and I'm a guy. The only way I know how to respond is to explain that mermaids are the girls and mermen are the guys. If they keep pestering me about it, I every once in a while let it slip to them the fact that I'm more at home in the water and that they shouldn't upset someone that can swim better than them. I feel awful for letting that slip even if it's one of the older kids. I've never said something like that to the younger kids. I'm beating myself up over that because it feels so wrong to say. I might have been a little more grumpy because of all the people that were trying to take my picture without asking. I feel horrible. I don't know how people know how to respond. I'm also a little reclusive. If I'm not asked first or if I'm not intentionally trying to pose for a camera or doing something like a gig, I like to keep to myself or stay close to my friends. It's like people think I'm there to entertain them or pose for them when I'm swimming during my free time. I think I know how the whales feel at sea world. For the most part, this doesn't usually get under my scales. It's just that I wish I could swim at the springs sometime and enjoy myself without attracting a lot of attention. I don't mind getting attention, but I can feel overwhelmed a bit when a lot of people are focused on me. And before people get on my case about feeling overwhelmed, I work retail for a living, so I'm used to being center stage for the customers when I'm on the clock. If I did a gig in front of a lot of people, I think I would be fine. I know how to be professional about stuff. I just hate my personal time turning into the professional stuff. I guess it can't be helped. Everyone wants to take a picture when they see me in my tail whether I want my picture taken or not. I'm used it and okay with it most of the time, but I still struggle a bit when I socialize. I want to do gigs someday, but I'm not doing anything set in stone. I'm sorry. I had to vent.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I had to outright tell a little boy that I was a human in a tail, not because he was questioning me, but because he was utterly terrified of the water and the family member that was teaching him how to swim LEFT HIM IN THE POOL AND WENT INTO THE JACUZZI TELLING HIM TO 'PRACTICE'

He was sitting all depressed on the steps, so I taught him how to inflate his lungs and take advantage of the buoyancy issue and how to move his hands in the doggy paddle motion without breaking the surface and splashing himself in the face (that was partially what was freaking him out) and told him that astronauts use pools to simulate zero gravity of deep space.

Didn't make him pick his feet up off of the pool floor. So he was calm.

But I am ticked at that woman!

[Talia]

I don't know. This isn't much, but I want to get it off my chest. I feel like I have terrible social skills. At the springs, I often end up interacting with kids, and for the most part, I think I'm pretty good interacting with them except for those times they say something upsetting like you aren't real or question the fact that I'm a merman. A lot of kids seem surprised by the fact that I have a tail and I'm a guy. The only way I know how to respond is to explain that mermaids are the girls and mermen are the guys. If they keep pestering me about it, I every once in a while let it slip to them the fact that I'm more at home in the water and that they shouldn't upset someone that can swim better than them. I feel awful for letting that slip even if it's one of the older kids. I've never said something like that to the younger kids. I'm beating myself up over that because it feels so wrong to say. I might have been a little more grumpy because of all the people that were trying to take my picture without asking. I feel horrible. I don't know how people know how to respond. I'm also a little reclusive. If I'm not asked first or if I'm not intentionally trying to pose for a camera or doing something like a gig, I like to keep to myself or stay close to my friends. It's like people think I'm there to entertain them or pose for them when I'm swimming during my free time. I think I know how the whales feel at sea world. For the most part, this doesn't usually get under my scales. It's just that I wish I could swim at the springs sometime and enjoy myself without attracting a lot of attention. I don't mind getting attention, but I can feel overwhelmed a bit when a lot of people are focused on me. And before people get on my case about feeling overwhelmed, I work retail for a living, so I'm used to being center stage for the customers when I'm on the clock. If I did a gig in front of a lot of people, I think I would be fine. I know how to be professional about stuff. I just hate my personal time turning into the professional stuff. I guess it can't be helped. Everyone wants to take a picture when they see me in my tail whether I want my picture taken or not. I'm used it and okay with it most of the time, but I still struggle a bit when I socialize. I want to do gigs someday, but I'm not doing anything set in stone. I'm sorry. I had to vent.

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I get you completely, and I hear you. I do not do proffesional gigs, so all the time I spend with my tail on is my own.

I do not think you are being rude by setting up boundaries for yourself with people, or for not letting kids tell you whatever they want with zero consequences, even if it is downright wrong, and parents would not let them say it in another circumstances.

I have had interactions with kids where they would insist in touching me (tail, earrings, even bra!) even after I stated I did not want to be touched. If they insist in ignoring my boundary, then I just swim off and I don't let them get near me. I have had kids just sitting with me for more than half an hour making conversation while their mothers are swimming or using their cell phones; they do not think for a second about telling them to leave me be. I don't mind a bit of interaction, but I am there for my own enjoyment, not to entertain or look after your kid, lady, specially around water.

The pictures for me are less stressful. Since I go to a City Hall pool, it is forbidden to take pictures of people. If you want a picture you have to ask and obtain permission. I usually don't mind, but I like that I have the option to say no if I don't feel like it.

So it's not you, Dylan. It's them.

[Hydra1337]

Hydra, I was responding to your post regarding your broken stove. It sounds like your landlord has had plenty of opportunity to fix it and hasn't. So, I was suggesting that you put next month's rent in what is called an escrow account which is a legal way to force the issue. It's you having proof that you can pay rent and plan to... After they fix your stove. So instead f you paying for a place that doesn't work you're taking legal control of the situation.

Apparently my husband kept forgetting to remind him so it's not my landlords fault and its going to be taken care of now. The suggestion is appreciated though.

[Imogen Finnly]

As much as i am happy to be pregnant, this nausea is too much already. It last for hours!

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Ah, I slept through mine. I had to in order to keep my prenatals down, but turns out the prenatals made me sick as well. How far along are you?

[Imogen Finnly]

Sometimes my prenatal pills makes it worse too. I cant even look in the fridge anymore
I think im anywhere from 1-5 weeks. My first appointment when i found out was a few weeks ago and they couldn't see it yet. But the test i took came back positive..

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm 26 weeks, and it does get easier. I couldn't even stand to smell food my first trimester. The good news is it usually doesn't last that long. I'm so happy for you though!

[Imogen Finnly]

Thank you! Seriously. I cant stand pizza and hamburgers all the terrible food im used to.. haha ive been craving like salads and stuff.. but any weird onion food, oh geez forget about it.
Im actually kind of afraid of throwing up. Its usually all or nothing when it comes to it.

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I have had problems with eggs specifically. The smell, the taste, I cant handle anything with eggs.

[Hydra1337]

So my surrogacy has been delayed thanks to some asshat OB I saw in the past. I was originally matched to be the surrogate for a very sweet couple in Argentina but after WEEKS of waiting for their doctor to even look at my medical records AFTER receiving them I got denied. I apparently got denied because one doctor wrote me in as "vaguely suicidal" and that I took medication but declined counciling which made it look like I just wanted drugs.

When I was at the hospital I expressed my worry of raising my daughter in a house that was literally falling apart (which I'm sure I mentioned in a previous bitch post) and they basically said "here try these pills" and asked if I wanted counciling. I said I couldn't go because I didn't have a car, friends or family that could drive me there, and the nearest bus stop was too far of a walk for a woman who JUST FREAKING GAVE BIRTH. The hospital apparently took that as excuses.

Even the co-owner of the surrogacy agency was furious when that happened and told me she got into a heated argument with the doctor over it. She knows I'm not "vaguely suicidal", a druggie, or anything of the like. Especially considering I passed my MMPI test (a test you literally cannot lie to beat that can tell if you're suicidal or have any mental issues) with flying colors. So what she's doing is paying out of pocket for me to see the same psychologist I saw for my first psych evaluation to give me the all clear for my next match.

With how much she genuinely cares about me I know she'll fix this issue but I still have the paranoia in the back of my head that something will go wrong AGAIN. It has me so worried I'll randomly start crying and with it being my husband's first father's day the timing is really shitty.

It seems like every time I'm about to have money to start making my own tail something happens...