Today I'm really sad. My husband has been left the Army, and he's totally devasted. It's time to search a new job...
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Today I'm really sad. My husband has been left the Army, and he's totally devasted. It's time to search a new job...
I woke up to some upsetting news this morning. For those that don't know I'm a gestational surrogate and this morning I got an email from the intended parent that they no longer want to attempt another embryo transfer. I understand their feelings since the last transfer ended in painful miscarriage but I am still somewhat hurt because my husband and I bonded with him through common interests. I have already been re-matched but to some level it still breaks my heart and I feel Mernetwork is the only place I can truly express how I feel.
:hug: I am so sorry Hydra.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hydra1337
Thanks, WaterDragon. It means a lot. Hopefully the phone interview with the new match will go well.
Please keep us posted, I hope it go's smoothly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hydra1337
Me too. If it doesn’t I'll have to start applying around for a job.
So I lost my Dad last night. His heart and lungs failed completely out of the blue while we were watching a movie Friday night and after 24 hours in the ICU and OR he didn't make it. My dad was pretty much my whole world and my rock who always took care of me when my chronic health issues flared up and now he is just gone and I feel so incredibly lost. And to top it off my mother (his ex) who is a very mean and vindictive person has gone completely nuts and when she should be to comfort me and help me figure this out she was asked to leave for being happy he was gone until she found out she got nothing and then she turned into a raging psycho sea-witch and caused a huge fight.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I know there's nothing I can say that will make things easier, but you'll be in my thoughts and prayers. ❤️Quote:
Originally Posted by Saelyyia
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I'm so sorry to hear that Saelyyia *merhugs*
I'm sorry for your loss. :(
I'm so sorry for your loss, prayers, love, and merhugs sent your way...❤️️[emoji1374]
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Ok hugs to all hang in there
I lost my sister last Tuesday. I'm still so heartbroken without my dearest. The viewing is today and the funeral is Thursday. Trying to stay strong for my merfriends [emoji170]
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Originally Posted by Mermaid Whisper
:(I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry to hear that Mermaid Whisper *merhugs*
I'm sorry, Mermaid Whisper.
Quick update/bitch on my situation. I went a whole week straight without hearing anything from the surrogacy agency when I was supposed to have a phone interview with a potential match. Apparently the match didn't want anything to do with me and stopped reading my profile the second she saw I labeled my religion as atheist. So now the religion section of my profile has been removed (at the agency's suggestion) so that finding a fast match will be easier. There are four more potential couples lined up but from what the agency implied they sound like religious people too so I'm not holding my breath. These people may have the right to choose who they'd like as a surrogate but I think it's bullshit that I'm bluntly being discriminated against for being atheist.
I'm so mad right now. I have always lived very close to the Great Smokey Mountains and Gatlinburg, and they're very dear to my heart. I don't know how many of you have already seen this, but there has been a huge wildfire burning in the Smokeys for the past few days, and it recently spread to Gatlinburg.
While the aquarium seems to have been spared (thank heavens), so many have lost their homes and businesses, and some even their lives.
The thing is, there's a suspicion that the fire was a result of arson. I don't know what kind of person goes around setting fires in such a beautiful place during an awful drout, and I don't think I want to either. : ' (
Sorry for your loss, whisper. I think you should do a dedicated swim in honor of your sister.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Whisper
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Originally Posted by Merman Jon
That would actually be lovely. I am thinking of going for a swim for the first time since August once my new tail comes in. She was really supportive of my mermaid dream and she knew how happy it made me. She was the one that suggested I go to MerMania <3 my dreams are becoming reality because she encouraged them. She embraced who I was when my parents wouldn't. I miss her a lot, but I know she's in a better place now.
I did 2 dedicated swims to honor the ones I lost. I had an old gym teacher asked me to do a dedicated swim in his honor. And I agreed to it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Whisper
So um I just got into a car accident a couple hours ago. I got the worst injury, a bruised wrist. And my car is totaled and towed. With my flute inside it. I got taken to the hospital because I was hysterically crying and had a bloody nose. And now I can't get to sleep because I'm worried even though the main reason why I ran the red light was because I wanted to get home to sleep because I'm definitely deprived. I'm okay just freaking out. Ugh.
I'm on mobile!
People getting me for my dreadlocks of 13 years.I love them and part of my life.Think I am a black person wanabe which I am German.I hate when this happens
I know that feeling. I dye my hair red since 6 years ago, and my mother always says to me to cut my hair and change the colour.Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid heidi
No mom. No. I love my hair dyed. I love my LONNNNG hair.
And yes, people, I'm not a natural redhead. BUT WHO CARES??
My dreadlocks bring me confidence and they don't realize itQuote:
Originally Posted by Neerai
Yes! That's it. Our hair choices are all about how we feel with ourselves. It's not for them!Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid heidi
It's for us!
You feel great with your dreadlocks, my red makes me feel strong and beautiful, and we're not going to surrender!
How do lone mermaids keep up their passion for mermaiding? I'm finding my interest waning, in the past two years I've worn my tail once for a dry event, as a favor to a friend. I live in eastern Canada, in the 'middle of nowhere' (and I don't drive), thus my swimming time is very limited, to about 2 months out of the year. I just have no one to go swimming with me, and I know it's dangerous to swim by yourself, so I usually wind up just not going since the only pool in our area closed three years ago. I just get so frustrated and upset because I have this expensive latex tail hanging around my spare bedroom that never gets used. So then I seriously think about selling everything and giving it up, but I love it so much that I can't bring myself to actually do it. It's such a hard place to be, does anyone have any advice?
Awww I'm sorry. We rarely get to swim with you too because of how busy we always are. <3
Sephina, wow, it must be so hard when there are no pools in your area. Is it possible to drive to one further away even 1x a month just to keep your fins wet? If not, there is plenty you can do, dry photoshoots, crafting headdresses, etc...dont give up!
Sadly I don't drive, and the only place for me to swim is in hotel pools, which I don't really have the money for. I've done one dry shoot, and I made a new top but I just can't seem to keep the momentum going.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dame Melusine
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Neerai, Heidi, first off welcome to the forum. I believe this topic was brought up and explains why there's a lot of pushback about non blacks wearing dreads. It was in one of the cultural appropriation threads. Main point is that it's not an attack on you, but just trying to get others to acknowledge black people who use dreads are seen as "dirty" and "unkempt" while others see dreads as a means for "fashion" or "looking cool".
Might want to research into it and read the thread. You might find it'll help.
I also have had issues with people having issues with my dreadlocks (when I've had them, currently I don't). Oddly enough I was told more than once that MY dreads were dirty and unkempt and that only people with African hair can reasonably have dreads because theirs are cleaner and neater... :confused: Like there's people of all skin colors and hair types who have dreads, and it's the way they take care of their dreads that determines how clean/neat they are, not their skin color!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid heidi
Best experience with dreads I ever had was when I went into my favorite New-Age shop in MA and there were several African-American ladies shopping in there. They got all quiet when they saw my dreads and after a minute one of them asked me if I knew what dreads meant... So I told her my views & opinions on dreadlocks and the spirituality inherent in them. All the ladies smiled, the tension was gone, and they were all very accepting of me after that, LOL!
I can somewhat relate as I haven't been able to mermaid as much as I want to and it is hard to do it when you don't always have someone who will swim with you. I was able to find some mers near me by sending people PMs on Mernetwork asking if they were in my area and I have swam with one of them once. I should probably contact them all again, but now that it is cold there aren't many places to swim. I was upset at first when I realized that my boyfriend / best friend isn't into mermaiding. He just doesn't like to swim that much. The only mer meetup I have been to I took him with me and he didn't really hang out with us. It was then that I realized I would have to convert someone lol. I thought about all of my friends and started thinking about which ones would be most likely to become a mermaid. I thought about my friend Kayla because she had shown interest in mermaiding and she told me she was googling it. On a group trip I brought both of my fabric tails and I let her wear one of them. She took to mermaiding instantly and it was great!Quote:
Originally Posted by Sephina
So you could try to find someone in your area who is interested in mermaiding and then you could be swim buddies! If you don't know of anyone you could see if there is a local swim group or something in your area and try to find someone there. Not long ago I found a fishing forum that is for my area and I joined to talk to free divers and scuba divers on there. It is fun being a site's resident mermaid and you can post on there that you are looking for someone to mermaid with you.
I wish I was not so far away from you. I would certainly love to swim with you. :)
Are you ok?Quote:
Originally Posted by SirenAngel
Yeah. Just bruised and stressed.Quote:
Originally Posted by WaterDragon
I'm on mobile!
I'm going to direct you to one of the many threads on the forum about dreadlocks, and why people don't want/like non black people wearing them. In order to keep the bitch it out thread clear for other bitches, please ask any questions there and I or one of the other mers in that thread will answer them. (There is also another thread started by Raina about cultural appropriation, I believe I also shared merprince JV's video too on the subject in the linked thread.)Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid heidi
http://mernetwork.com/index/showthre...+appropriation
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yes, that is an awful feeling. I have had that happen in my relationship on occasion, but I always speak up. It is a hard situation, but it will only get worse if you dont address it early on. People will continue to do that b/c you seem 'to be ok with it'. When the time is right, you need to have a heart to heart with this person and make your feelings known. If not, it will continue to make you feel resented. hugs
I'm in the bathroom at work hiding because I'm sick and throwing up and I'm about to have a panic attack. They probably won't let me go home too because it's almost Christmas and it's going to get super busy around noontime.
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Have they let you leave?
They can't keep you - or fire you - because you're sick! Doesn't matter that it's the holiday. I hope you feel better!