B!TC# IT OUT!

Agree with Melaina. :) I'll start posting spoilers about a month later....if you haven't seen it yet I doubt you ever had plans to. Lol



And I'm totally pissed and knew I should have just let things be. *headdesk* So I apologized to this friend because yes, I knew she liked this show but complained about it anyway (then unfriended her with no notice though she had been being rude for over a month). Well she actually did respond. But what does she do? Bring someone else into the conversation that doesn't even have anything to do with it! This other person is my very good friend, and her friend as well. They live an hour from each other and I live three hours away. It seems like this crazy bitch (sorry, very upset. She's done this before), is constantly trying to make me seem like the bad guy. In her reply (which is a group post now) she exaggerates everything I've done about how /I'm/ the horrible person, then she goes on to a short little one sentence apology about blowing up on me. So my actual friend only knows a small fragment of the story. It's like this bitch is trying to take this friend to her side and make her hate me. Dx

I have no idea what to say, if I should say anything at all. If I do reply it will be to her ALONE, like it should have been! *beats her head against a wall* Therapy please! Someone get her help.....

(I love you, Arion! :mermaid kiss:)

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I have no idea what to say, if I should say anything at all. If I do reply it will be to her ALONE, like it should have been! *beats her head against a wall* Therapy please! Someone get her help.....

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If it were me, I'd (privately) message the other friend too, briefly saying something along the lines of "sorry she dragged you into this, you didn't need to be included in our animosity" or some such. Nothing harsh, not defensive, just letting her know you thought it was inappropriate for the other girl to randomly add her to the argument.

@PearlieMae I know, I'm trying to get my monofin for doing a fabric tail, beacause I think it's more comfortable starting with it, but I'd like to take off the itch (dunno if it's written right) to make a home-made realistic tail. Maybe I need to wait more time.
The fact that I feel excluded is something that I carry around for years, because I don't feel like the others, but I won't dwell too much about it.
However, thank you and @deepblue for the words <3

@Arion I often watch that episode, it reminds me of my childhood :'3

I have it so only certain people can see it so it's not exactly public. But that's besides the point. My point is this chick goes on a tangent about anything she wants and no one is allowed to say anything regarding her anti religious, anti homophobe, whatever-it-is posts and suddenly I am not allowed to post what isn't really spoilers anyway (and in the future if I do that's my decision) because its not "etiquette". Pish posh I think there's other posts on the Internet people need to worry about :/ that's the whole reason why I'm so irked about it. "spoilers" or what people consider to be spoilers in the grande scheme of Facebook things is very minuscule compared to hate posts.

I hope nobody minds me putting things on here.

I'm resenting my ex boyfriend, who I still love and have feelings for. He couldn't decide on what he wanted, I wish I looked at the warnings signs, like him saying he liked being single. He's a commitment phobic, but it seemed to have worked for the first month before he started freaking out. No future, me having more feelings for him then he for me. His actions spoke differently to his words. Then he stopped talking to me for days, and then when I finally got him he told me he only thought of me as a friend. His actions still speak differently, he confuses me even after we broke up and I sometimes hate him for it.

Perhaps he freaked out, perhaps not. But he knew he was going into a relationship with someone who's previous boyfriend cheated on her. He knew I was fragile and yet he still went into the relationship with me, and he was helping me heal.

Sorry... but it helped getting it off my chest.

@Seaglass: For sure; I'm not defending her actions at all. Some people can just fly off the handle and it's so much worse when they're hypocritical about it. It's a necessary skill to be able to respectfully disagree with someone, rather than attack.

If anyone disagreed with my anti-homophobic statements on Facebook, I wouldn't get angry. I'd respectfully disagree, then un-friend the bastards ;)

Vixy, when you say his actions speak otherwise, do you men he still wants physical affection? If so, he just wants you as a fuck buddy with no responsibility of maintaining a relationship. Unless you are into sex as sport, get away from him, because that behavior rarely, if ever, changes. Sound like being involved with this guy could be pretty toxic. Not a life partner there. Ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from this experience, and move on. :)

More he showed he cared by doing things like someone would if they had intense feelings and in love. When we broke up I cut any contact with him whatsoever. His actions that confused me, is that he was still keeping up on what I was up to and asking about me to mutual friends.

He's a confused boy not a man and I feel sorry for him. Letting his past interfere with his future.

wow i'm a retard LOL


i reread my entire post just now and i meant to say "homophobic", not anti homophobe LOL.. thats the last time i try to use my phone to quickly respond

back on topic.

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this, i can agree with.

Well, I can definitely see your point then! She doesn't sound like the sort of person you'd want to keep in touch with anyhow :\

Though, did you mean anti-religion? Because I don't know if I've ever met someone who was anti-religion and also homophobic.

She's very anti religion ._.

Sadly I know a ton of people who aren't religious and are also homophobic (i dont talk to them though) . This girl and I were only friends because we had the same interest in music

People I know who fit the description are or were "high school gangsters". Oh boy. I remember the days ....

I understand that most people wont find value in fish like I do, and thats understandable. But why do people feel the need to say such negative things about my hobby? Some of yall know I have been dealing with bullies who are being rude toward me and my fish. Sadly it happened again. I was starting a water change on my tank and my uncle asked why I do it so often, so I explained then he said "Why dont you throw them away and get cooler fish?" To which I replied, very nicely and calmly I might add "I would really appreciate it if you wouldn't say stuff like that about my fish. I have worked hard to get them where they are and they are important to me. I dont say rude things about your kids, so please dont say stuff about mine." He cut me off and called me immature and told me not to get so butt hurt over fish. I got really upset, said things not appropriate for this forum and walked off. The worst part is my parents, who know how much I care about my pets, didn't even stand up for me. They just let him talk down to me.

How should I deal with this?
Its normally very hard to get me upset but im really hurt. Hes not the type of person to stop either. He will keep on like this and its causing me to resent my parents for not stepping in and asking him to stop. He is over here every day too since he already killed his relationship with my grandpa, aunt and his ex wife and has no place to go since he has no money, Evan though he spoils his daughter with unneeded toys and buys cigarettes and alcohol with the rest. I just can't deal with it.

These fish are my kids. All my pets are, they help me emotionally and with my depression and the tank calms my anger issues. They are not just my fish, I rely on them just as much as they do me. :/

Dacora, it sounds to me that he's jealous that you have something you truly care for. You have stability in your life, and he doesn't. So he's picking on you, making fun of your stability.
I would suggest talking with your parents when he's not around and let them know how upset he makes you when he teases / makes fun of you because of the care you give your fish. Like not just a "Mom & Dad, uncle is upsetting me." Have a full on conversation about what he's doing, how its affecting you, and ask for their support, because they have been pretty lax on not supporting you when he goes on the attack. Yes he may be a sibling, but you're their child. You're the one they should side with, especially since he's estranged himself from not only his other sister, but his own father and ex wife.

Just remember, that you're fish are awesome, you're awesome, and he's just a putz. <3

I think what Tula said is right on. And you know what, when people say someone is butthurt, they're usually just dismissing that they have hurt someone. They don't want to take responsibility for their actions, and they negate the other person's feelings. I'm glad you stood up to him- esp if your parents won't, and it sucks when the child, adult or teen or younger, has to be the grown up when it comes to their own parents.

Thank you guys. It nice to know I have some support. I did talk with them about it before, and I did after he left tonight. All my mom said was she wasn't on any ones side and just ignored everything else I said. Neither her or my dad really gives a shit. All they wanna do is kiss his ass, which is beyond me because he has started rumors when my mom and dad where considering getting a divorce about my dad getting a RV and taking my brother away. We talked to my dad about it and he never said that.

All my uncle is, is a liar,a bully and a mooch. And I get the brunt of it.

Instant karma is gonna get him! Gonna knock him right of his feet!

When he starts in on you, tell him to go away and mind his own business. If he asks why you do anything with your fish, ask why he wants to know. He's only asking because he knows he can incite you into a conflict. Shut him out. He has no power over you.

He's obviously dealing with issues of his own insecurity and the only way he can is to pick on others - you. How old is this guy?

Thanks guys, I'm feeling a lot better today. I talked with my grandpa about it today one on one and got it all out. Im just gonna ignore him all together upon my grandpas suggestion. My grandpa told me if he keeps it up he will kick him out since we all live on my grandpa's property. Apparently he has been pulling the same stuff at their house and my grandpa and aunt are sick of it. I dont want to see him kicked out but he has been causing a lot of isses beyond this and its causing my grandpa health issues.
@Pearlie he is 45, he acts abouts 4.

~The goldfish mermaid~

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Thanks guys, I'm feeling a lot better today. I talked with my grandpa about it today one on one and got it all out. Im just gonna ignore him all together upon my grandpas suggestion. My grandpa told me if he keeps it up he will kick him out since we all live on my grandpa's property. Apparently he has been pulling the same stuff at their house and my grandpa and aunt are sick of it. I dont want to see him kicked out but he has been causing a lot of isses beyond this and its causing my grandpa health issues.
@Pearlie he is 45, he acts abouts 4.

~The goldfish mermaid~

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Having lived with a sociopath I've had to learn the hard way that the best way to deal with people who take great delight in tearing others down is jut to ignore them and not give them a weapon - don't let them know that something hurts or upsets you, don't give them a reaction or they'll just keep doing it. Shut them down, turn the conversation onto something mundane and keep your chin up =) I'm glad you have someone to talk to about this though as that support is priceless =)

I've had my (un)fair share of sociopaths.

The worst aspect about that is, if you absolutely cannot avoid them, all you can do is ignore them.
They won't change, and if there's nothing you can really DO (short of moving out and ceasing all contact, which isn't always possible), it usually tends to be very depressing in the long run. :(

^That's the truth. If he hasn't changed by 45, he's REALLY not going to- there's obviously something very wrong with him, but there's nothing anyone can do about someone who behaves that way. Who knows... maybe getting kicked out and finally having it hit him that he's driven away everyone is the only thing that CAN get through to him.

So glad your grandpa has your back.

Stupid pet shop distributing people! Ugh!!!

I didn't know where else to complain about this...so I guess it fits here.

I work at a pet store (does not sell dogs/cats thank god). I work with the animals and receive animals. Well the other day was fish day. We've been having cooler weather the past few weeks, and the fish have been coming in at cooler temps than they should.... We contact the distribution center and let them know.

Well everyone should have heard about the artic-like temperatures around south lately! The DC should have freaking known! Well they send the fish with a single heat pack in the coolers with them. ONE. Needless to say they were freezing when we got them! These are tropical fish and the lowest temp I recorded was 43 degrees F. Most the fish were not moving. We did get some goldfish and they were fine, but the rest.... We let them slowly warm up at room temp, then added them to the tanks to acclimate a bit more. Most were dead. The rest are probably dead now because of stress. Argh! I want to beat those idiots for packing them so poorly!!!

Dacora, your uncle is one of those people to just avoid like the plague. If he speaks to you, just ignore him. If needed, tell him that when he can speak to you with respect, you will talk to him. Otherwise just pretend he isn't there. Do not tolerate abuse but don't abuse back either.

Poor fishes! :(

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Stupid pet shop distributing people! Ugh!!!

I didn't know where else to complain about this...so I guess it fits here.

I work at a pet store (does not sell dogs/cats thank god). I work with the animals and receive animals. Well the other day was fish day. We've been having cooler weather the past few weeks, and the fish have been coming in at cooler temps than they should.... We contact the distribution center and let them know.

Well everyone should have heard about the artic-like temperatures around south lately! The DC should have freaking known! Well they send the fish with a single heat pack in the coolers with them. ONE. Needless to say they were freezing when we got them! These are tropical fish and the lowest temp I recorded was 43 degrees F. Most the fish were not moving. We did get some goldfish and they were fine, but the rest.... We let them slowly warm up at room temp, then added them to the tanks to acclimate a bit more. Most were dead. The rest are probably dead now because of stress. Argh! I want to beat those idiots for packing them so poorly!!!

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Well I feel really bad complaining, because I have alot of blessings in my life. But I'm hoping my complaining will perhaps, not only make me feel better to get it out, but maybe someone will even know how to help.

So, in a rush of excitement I bought a tank from a guy on craigslist. I took his word for it that it was not damaged. I spent a large amount of money on it, but not nearly what it would cost to get new. It was great, but then I discovered just how insanely heavy this thing is and if I wanted to use it for events, I would have to hire 4 strong men just to get it on and off the trailer. So instead, I spent another large amount of money to have a custom trailer built that would support the weight of the tank while full of water. So it took a long time but I finally got the new trailer and got the tank on it, well actually my husband did, because I was out of town working. Well I told my husband to please fill up the tank and test everything out and make sure everything was working ok, because I had stupidly told a client I had a tank and they wanted it at their event the following month. I would not be getting back into town until a week before, so I needed him to do it for me. Well, he never did until I got home, 1 week before we were to use it at an event. A few days before the event he finally started filling it. Water spewed from all the seams. He went and got some special glue for tanks and fixed it. We filled it about half way and the water was staying in. *whew* I thought, that was close! Well, we took it to the event. I was so excited. I was worried because I had never even got to practice in it. Oh well, I'd have to wing it! Here I am, inside the dry tank, right before we filled it up.
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I got out and we started filling it. But then this happened:
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Long story short, the client was not happy, I was not happy. We took it home, tried fixing it 2 more times, still not fixed. In fact, the last try seemed to work until the water got to the top, and then the bottom separated from one of the walls and it cracked a spot on the wall.
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So, we took it to an aquarium builder to see if he could fix it. She said the wrong glue was used when it was built, it would have to be taken apart, the edges sawed off, and re-glued together. He said new glue won't stick to the old glue, and there is no way to get the old glue off. Oh, and he doesn't do that and neither does anyone else in the area.
I don't know what to do. I should probably just count my losses and move on.

On a side note, even if my tank had worked, wow, tanks are alot of money and work! I give alot of credit tho those who use them. They take alot of time money and patience to use. And I just have a small one!

I'm so sorry BlueMermaid :( that is horrible. I guess its a reminder to all of us about buying things on craigslist. And I didn't mean to insult you if it did :( I just meant that i have bought some things off of there and they weren't what they were supposed to be. I would love to have a tank too. Even a small one person one like yours :) But I can understand the frustration in buying it, spending the $ to have a special trailer made, and then finding out that the guy who built it basically didn't learn how to do it properly. I wish i could direct you somewhere to learn how to do it yourself or to someone that knew how to do it in your area :(. This is one of the big reasons why the pirate festival near me says that we shouldn't do tanks; they are expensive, they can be dangerous, and it takes the money to build them right.

No, it's something I hope people learn from my experience. In my excitement to get a tank, I did not think clearly. :doh:
[QUOTE=Mer_Adella;104887]I'm so sorry BlueMermaid :( that is horrible. I guess its a reminder to all of us about buying things on craigslist. And I didn't mean to insult you if it did :(

@bluemermaid
There are several youtube how to's on how to reglue fish tanks when the silicone gets compromised. They are not that big but its basically the same thing in practice. Idk if you want to do that but its better than having a useless hunk of glass sitting around.

~The goldfish mermaid~

Thanks Dacora. I'll take a look. My tank is acrylic tho and that seems to be the reason they can't get the glue off or reglue it. But youtube is pretty amazing, I just may find a solution! Thanks!

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@bluemermaid
There are several youtube how to's on how to reglue fish tanks when the silicone gets compromised. They are not that big but its basically the same thing in practice. Idk if you want to do that but its better than having a useless hunk of glass sitting around.

~The goldfish mermaid~

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You might also try the forums at Reef Central

I didn't know where to post so I might as well do it here. It's not really a rant but I feel like I should get it out of my chest :$

We are in 2014, I'm 25 and it has been officially 10 months since I registered here. I have evolved a lot. Many things happened and something just occured to me.

WHERE ARE THEY? :(

If you wonder who I'm talking about, it's the mermaids members who do not show since a while. I used to read lots of posts from them during Summer, some even before that, some afterwards and then, BAM! Nothing! Nada! Niente! Nichts! Rien! WTF happened?

I have checked some of my merfriends here in my profile data and eleven are MIA since more two months already. I wonder what is happening. Are they busy? Did they... quit? I could give some names but I don't get it. Some of them were very active for a while like it was their brand new passion and posted a lot of messages and then, POOF! Gone! I don't know how to interpret that. Is it the effect of the mermaid "trend" ? First it's so cool and then, once they get in a tail and swim, "oh that was it?"

I really don't know how to explain my feelings but I guess it could be a mix of sadness, disappointment, perplexity? :gah:


I noticed as well that a lot are still active but they just stop posting and expressing their opinions. I wonder why. Is it because of the last dramas that happened recently? They don't feel like their opinions matter anymore? I think it's a shame because we are a community, the last even Merfest proved that we are actually a family and yet, something just makes me feel like it could be so much better here. We have a lot of members but I feel like we are just a small group in fact.

We are having a lot of newbies at this moment and I confess that I kind of stopped welcoming them because they just don't last. I asked myself "what's the point? In some months, he/she may quit." I feel baffled a lot when I see newcomers asking many questions which can be answered if they do a little effort researching first and I don't mean to be rude or a jerk for saying that. I feel that the forum is changing. Maybe that's why I feel uneasy? I just don't know. I guess I'm a complicated fish in the end... :sad eyes:

I'm sorry. Thanks for taking some time to read my pathetic 2ç.

People do get busy. I know there have been times where i just haven't gotten around to getting on here and other times where i just don't feel i have anything to add to the conversations at hand.
Don't be too disappointed. Life happens. Usually they come back and it'll be like they never left. I always like that about good friends. You can go without seeing them fir weeks, months, years and then you run into them and its like thy never left :)

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I know a few have migrated forums, and others, well you gotta consider that some are still in school and it's exam season for most of them.

And then there's the people who do log on I see what's up but just lurk, and some use Chat box only

While I wondered myself where some have gone, it's winter, the dearth time for mermaiding.
It's dark and bleak and cold, and even if people log here, they might not feel enough in the mer mood to post :p

also, winter's the time of influenza, colds and other nasties, those are big (mer) moodkillers.

Rant!

My boyfriend and I decided to get a trash service and we picked the big one because they are cheaper than most and they are really good about getting the trash and such (Waste Management). You can only get a trash service by doing online enrollement. So thats what we did. We paid the full amount for a full year as it was cheaper than paying per month. That was $171.68!!!!!!!! That night the payment was processed.

the next morning I asked him if we had to pick up our trash can (like we had to do in Alabama) or if they dropped it off. He said to call. So I did. They fucking told me that they DON'T SERVICE OUR AREA!!!!!

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME??

Why in the hell did your website (after I typed in our zipcode) say that we could get a residential or commercial dumpster service if you dont freaking service our area??? So after getting a little snippy with the guy at the office he gave me a phone # to call to get it refunded. I called this morning and I waited for 8 minutes before someone answered. NOW THAT ASSHOLE IS TRANSFERING ME BECAUSE HE DOESN'T DO THAT!!!! I am getting so mad right now.

After I get this done, I am making a formal complaint against them that their website is a bunch of crap!!!! When we wanted to get broadband cable (and went to the website of a carrier around here) we typed in our zipcode and instantly it popped up with "I'm sorry but we do not serivce this area"....WHY THE HELL DIDN'T THE TRASH SERVICE DO THAT???? I'm so mad that I am being jerked around. $171.68 is a lot of money!!!! UGH!!!

Change of subject....

My uncle, his wife, and two kids had that NASTY flu...idk what strain it is this year, but whatever...they got over it. But my grandma got it today. My mom talked to her at 7 this morning and she was fine. I talked to her at 10am and she said she didn't feel well at all. I checked in with her at 1pm and she was way worse, actually had to get off the phone because she was going to throw up. I called my mom at work to let her know. She immediate said, "She probably got the flu that David and his family had. He wouldn't listen when she said she didn't want to go out to eat because she knew he had been sick the week before"

Well at 9:30pm I called my mom's house and my dad said that she wasn't there...something about my grandma. So I called my mom's cell. She said that my grandma couldn't move and didn't want to be alone. so she went over there and just hung out. My mother is a teacher and has school tomorrow. She told me that she called my Uncle (he lives closer than my mom) but he was home with his kids and couldn't come. So he called my mom and told her to go over there.

My mom had to help my grandma go to the bathroom and as my grandma was leaning on my mom washing her hands, she literally slid down the length of my mom and fell to the floor. My mom couldn't lift her up and had to call my uncle. he was in bed and came over in 15min but only stayed to get my gma up and in bed and left again.

I am very disgusted with him at the moment. He owns his own business and winter is his slow time. Yet he makes my mom go over there to be with his mother. I understand he has two small kids but his wife was home at the time. She won't be there tomorrow, but my mom has to take a day off of work tomorrow because she is so tired tonight and is worried that now she will be sick. Am I wrong to be mad at my uncle? I'm not SUPER mad, just more disappointed that he doesn't think of his situation versus my mothers. He lives 10 minutes away where my mom lives 1/2 an hour away. He has his own business where my mom is a school teacher. I dont know. I try to think about it and I try to understand. He has little kids. But my mind instantly thinks, you shoved off the thought of your mother being very sick onto another sibling.

If my mom were that sick and she called me...I would be there. Same with my brother (if she called him). Does anyone know what I mean or think it wrong?

Seahorses and jellyfish! I haven't done ANYTHING right today... :lol: I started out the day looking at character mark-ups for a friends senior project webseries/ film thing and freaking out when I got to one character in a confederate uniform cause she's got the cowboy i've been crushin' on for three years playing that character and he looks AMAZING in a uniform. We got to school and I feel off the school bus, into a little group of sixth graders. I went to get breakfast and got sidetracked by a friend asking me a theatre based Q and then my "6th grade buddy" needing to do our secret handshake. I went to class, but got the wrong class (every period of the day), and painted our set for Oliver the last two periods of the day. Our set is two stories and the platforms are 6 feet high. I painted set and stood up into a loudspeaker box about nine times (my "buddies" were having a good laugh at counting...) and then a ventilation shaft. Then I fell off the set, hit my head on the stage and apparently babbled "nonsense" about (...a corkboard and a lightswitch?) i think they said.... And when the guys came to move me from under the painters I thought one was my ex mertender and said some silly things about how pretty he was and something about getting inside my tail to the other(who happened to be the kid i'm crushing on), followed promptly by slipping on a stage-tarp and falling on my butt in a paint tray. At the end of shop class I had to wash out my brush, and ended washing all of the brushes and buckets, but lost my grip on a bucket and got a full ricochet blast of water to the face and boobs... It's been one depth of a day.... :doh::lol:

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Change of subject....

My uncle, his wife, and two kids had that NASTY flu...idk what strain it is this year, but whatever...they got over it. But my grandma got it today. My mom talked to her at 7 this morning and she was fine. I talked to her at 10am and she said she didn't feel well at all. I checked in with her at 1pm and she was way worse, actually had to get off the phone because she was going to throw up. I called my mom at work to let her know. She immediate said, "She probably got the flu that David and his family had. He wouldn't listen when she said she didn't want to go out to eat because she knew he had been sick the week before"

Well at 9:30pm I called my mom's house and my dad said that she wasn't there...something about my grandma. So I called my mom's cell. She said that my grandma couldn't move and didn't want to be alone. so she went over there and just hung out. My mother is a teacher and has school tomorrow. She told me that she called my Uncle (he lives closer than my mom) but he was home with his kids and couldn't come. So he called my mom and told her to go over there.

My mom had to help my grandma go to the bathroom and as my grandma was leaning on my mom washing her hands, she literally slid down the length of my mom and fell to the floor. My mom couldn't lift her up and had to call my uncle. he was in bed and came over in 15min but only stayed to get my gma up and in bed and left again.

I am very disgusted with him at the moment. He owns his own business and winter is his slow time. Yet he makes my mom go over there to be with his mother. I understand he has two small kids but his wife was home at the time. She won't be there tomorrow, but my mom has to take a day off of work tomorrow because she is so tired tonight and is worried that now she will be sick. Am I wrong to be mad at my uncle? I'm not SUPER mad, just more disappointed that he doesn't think of his situation versus my mothers. He lives 10 minutes away where my mom lives 1/2 an hour away. He has his own business where my mom is a school teacher. I dont know. I try to think about it and I try to understand. He has little kids. But my mind instantly thinks, you shoved off the thought of your mother being very sick onto another sibling.

If my mom were that sick and she called me...I would be there. Same with my brother (if she called him). Does anyone know what I mean or think it wrong?

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I have been through similar frustrations - until we finally kicked him out just before xmas, mum's partner (who was actually my dad's brother, just to complicate things lol) he basically never went to see his own 96 y/o mother, my mum was the one who did everything for her and the one who had to go to the hospital whenever gran's panic/careline button went off, usually because paul was too wasted to even get up. Mum has an important job and she would end up sitting with gran in the hospital til like 3am and then have to be up at 7.30am to get ready for work