B!TC# IT OUT!

Luckily we are renting and they are actually moving in two weeks. If for some reason we still have interactions I am laying down the law.

Today's rant, totally different. In November of 2012 I was talked into a full hysterectomy for stage 3 endometriosis. I was 34. My doc thought that it would be the best thing to do in order to relieve pain, and stop the endo from destroying any more organs. (They found out during the surgery my appendix was obliterated by it).

We moved to a new state with a new doc and he has scared me to pieces. He basically stated..."we are going to do whatever we can go try and lengthen your life span...." Apparently getting a full hyst shortens it. Higher risk of heart disease and now they are saying there is a higher risk of lung cancer even if you have never smoked! I feel like I made this huge mistake. I now gave other side effects from the hyst that is worse then the pain...(stupid rare complication, of course I get if). I just feel so defeated! I want to get in shape but then I start thinking "why bother". I am so depressed and angry. Even my dreams of one day getting a cloth mermaid tail seem so out of reach. I don't know what to do, I need a support group.

My family doesn't want me to keep a surgery recovery blog. I say who cares.

Your doctors speaking in generalities and not very well.
I've been alive long enough to have many friend with hysterectomies, many my senor. Time for another doctor.
It'll be your activity and diet, maybe some blood pressure pills, estrogen supplements and of course exercise.
There that factor created by joy and happiness that comes from enjoying life that keeps away health problems.
I think you need your tail more than you realize. I have no idea your finances or skill level, your in the heart of Mer country.
Buy new or used or make it, when you need help this is the place.
What would you like for a tail, really like?

I would be happy with just a monofin LOL. We had to short sale our old house when my hubs got transferred. I can't get a job yet because I have to take care of the kids so currently I very little income coming in so I can't justify getting a tail.

I was a dramatic arts major and I would love to be in a situation where I can dress up and entertain.

Sounds like you have a job to me, how old are your kids?

Gotta frickin love people who don't even realize their being inconsiderate while they're trying to be considerate.

"HEY what do we want to eat? I'm hungry" -boyfriend
(me thinking: I thought we were in a hurry, that's why I spent less than 10 minutes each place I wanted to go to... even though then we spent two hours at your liquor store...)
Me: "Well I had been think Buffalo Wild Wings....."
Boyfriend: "That sounds Great! Hey Ben, do you know where the closest one is?"
me: "... well actually I was thinking we could..."
Ben: "Over there"
Boyfriend: "Awesome! You'll help pay right?" (looks at me expectingly...)
me:"...sure" feeling the eyes of Ben and Boyfriend and wondering wtf when they know I cannot say no in a situation like this without fulling having a break down

Me: ends up paying for myself, Ben, and part of Boyfriend's order.

Yep saving money.

Boyfriend: "Hey what's wrong?" I feel Ben staring at me
Me: "I want to go home and go to bed" (sidestep the question)

7 and 4, and yes they are a full time job. LOL

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...Boyfriend: "Awesome! You'll help pay right?" (looks at me expectingly...)...

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Me: Absolutely not.

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Me: ends up paying for myself, Ben, and part of Boyfriend's order.

Yep saving money.

Boyfriend: "Hey what's wrong?" I feel Ben staring at me
Me: "I want to go home and go to bed" (sidestep the question)

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THE MOOCHERS! I totally feel you on this. And then, when you can legitimately pay for something everyone and their half-brother's cousin's roommate from college one semester goes, "No, let me pay." As if they're being so generous for getting you a single item from the dollar menu or something. Or when they're like, "We'll split it" but then SPLIT THE BILL 50-50 WHEN THEY'VE CLEARLY ORDERED AND EATEN MORE. a;lda;dlkfjad;lkfjad;lkjafdkljfadifawernadvahoiqhe kjahdkjvahdoifasidufbefjkvhiauehr :headwall:

Does this happen in all y'all's neighborhood but kids who don't watch where they're going on busy streets? I cannot BELIEVE how many children I've had run out in front of my car--they're not even chasing anything, they just want to cross the street and don't look. Parents are right there by their side and I see about 80% of the time the parents do not grab their kids until I'm nearly right next to them, just creeping along of course.
This is what overalls were made for, people! It's a built-in kid-handle! USE THEM!
I don't know what it is about people in this area, but I see it happening with the adults too.

And people who don't bother to cover their mouth.


Nicole

I almost ran over a guy on a bicycle wondering where he came from the other day. If my dog hadn't perked up and warned me, the guy would have been under my tire.

Saw the same guy the other day... Going down a 40mph hill on his bicycle, in the car lanes, with his hands in the air, then using no hands. I couldn't help but WISH the guy would get hit by a car. You'd think the first time with me almost hitting him with 3 inches between us was bad, the guys at it again with not a care for traffic.

And Coral, personally, I think it's time for you to find a new boyfriend if that's what's going on. Maybe I'm just really spoiled by mine, but I don't think a guy should make you pay like that. Especially if he suggested it. I can understand every other time you switch off or something but to just blatantly leave you with the bill EVEN for his friend... It's a big no-go to me. Unless my boyfriend's broke, he doesn't let me pay when we go out. I buy groceries now and then, but he makes a lot more than I do so he's usually the one paying for most daily things. I just bought us both round trip tickets to California though. But that was my decision and not at all influenced by him.

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Take a deep breath.
Pick an option and repeat after me.

1. "I am sorry I don't have enough money for everyone?"
2. "Do I look like a bank?"
3. "Sorry Ben, your on your own."
4. "I can pay, if you two want to share your meal cause I only got money for us"
5. "Nope, but we can stop at an ATM so you two can get money"
6. "Here is two dollars, you two head on over to the dollar menu at Wendys, I am going to BWW. Hey you said you wanted me to pay, you didn't say what you wanted me to pay for!"

Darling, it is time you put your foot down an took a bit of control and learned that it's okay to say "No" and if people get pissed about it, then they don't deserve to be with you. You are not a walking bank, or a doormat. You are a person and you should be treated with respect. No need to get angry or upset, simply tell it how it is and move on.

Yeah, I would just pull the whole "Oh, I forgot my wallet!" stunt and get them to pay for you!

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I almost ran over a guy on a bicycle wondering where he came from the other day. If my dog hadn't perked up and warned me, the guy would have been under my tire.

Saw the same guy the other day... Going down a 40mph hill on his bicycle, in the car lanes, with his hands in the air, then using no hands. I couldn't help but WISH the guy would get hit by a car. You'd think the first time with me almost hitting him with 3 inches between us was bad, the guys at it again with not a care for traffic.

And Coral, personally, I think it's time for you to find a new boyfriend if that's what's going on. Maybe I'm just really spoiled by mine, but I don't think a guy should make you pay like that. Especially if he suggested it. I can understand every other time you switch off or something but to just blatantly leave you with the bill EVEN for his friend... It's a big no-go to me. Unless my boyfriend's broke, he doesn't let me pay when we go out. I buy groceries now and then, but he makes a lot more than I do so he's usually the one paying for most daily things. I just bought us both round trip tickets to California though. But that was my decision and not at all influenced by him.

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I hear ya! I live in a cul-de-sac with about 20 kids all under the age of 7. The new 'game' this summer is 'How close will the car get before they make me move off of the street?'. It has gone so far, the kids are now waiting behind parked cars until a vehicle comes down the road, and then seeing if they can ride their bikes RIGHT in front of the vehicle. For a person who is trying to get my driver's licence, this NOT the best situation to be in...

If I were in your situation Lostariel, I would print up some stories, (gruesome if you can) pictures, write out what's the new game that should be stopped, and post them on the doors of the house's. Sometimes people NEED a wake up call, and usually unless it's the hard way, people will not learn.

Like, HERE, this is the reality your child's presented. Unless you talk to them about it, it will not stop. It's dangerous, and had severe consequences that can and WILL damage your lives if this happens enough to an accident happening.

When I was in the Army, we had pictures posted of stupidity and the consequences. People sticking c4's in their mouths and setting it off. You could barely tell it was a picture of a face unless you looked closely. Someone using machine gun round as a HAMMER then setting off it's primer and pictures of their hands bones. Fun stuff.

Better a picture than a trial on vehicular homicide :/ bumper to bumper car accidents are bad enough, I couldn't imagine the stress and anger of actually hitting someone because THEY decided to make stupid decisions. (Always the drivers fault right?)

Re: Kids in the street

My favorite is when The MOM pushes the baby stroller into the intersection ahead of her and THEN looks to see if a car is coming! :gah:

YES!!! That always happens! My mom and I once watched a lady walking down the street with her kid who was wearing one of those kid leash things. They were almost at the crosswalk, and the boy pointed at the crosswalk, and the mom just shook her head and pointed right across the street (not to the crosswalk, which probably not even 40 feet away). She said something to the boy, and smiled as he led her straight into the middle of the road right in front of our car. Both my mom and I didn't actually think they would cross then, so my mom SLAMMED on the brakes. My mom was going to then wait until the two of them crossed the road, but instead the mom let go of the child (who proceeded to walk straight into the other oncoming lane of traffic) and walked up to the driver's seat of our car (note that we are still indeed in the middle of the road, as this is a very busy street with no space to park on the sides) and yell at my mom for not stopping for her child. At this point, there was a loooong line of cars behind us, and we are still unable to move because the child had run across the street, almost got hit by ANOTHER car, then crossed the street again to get back to his mom, and stood directly right in from of our car while the mom was still cursing at us. I swear, I could fill a book and a half with stupid driver stories...

In addition to all the kids'n'bikes'n'street stories I'd like to share mine. I actually have a lot of such stories, as I'm on my bike on a daily basis. But here's one:

I'm a fast biker. My normal speed is about 30 km/h. I wear a helmet, I have my bike lights in order and pointing the road (not the bikers coming in the opposite direction! Oops, other story). I also have a nasty and loud bell. Soo... one sunny-after-rain day I'm going to the university and as I come a slight slope from down the bridge, there is a mommy on her bike (with NO helmet!) and a like a three-year-old kid on his training bike. The bridge is divided in two zones: one is the pedestrian zone and the other is meant for biking. Note: no kids on training bikes are allowed in the bike zone! And no bikes on the pedestrian zone! Anyway, this mommy is happily riding on the pedestrian side of the bridge and chatting on her phone paying little attention to the child. Which is happily rolling to the bike zone and...

Rrrring! Squeeeee!

You know how it's like to fully hit wet breaks on the wet street? Do not try this at home. I was pretty lucky to have not hurt anybody. The mommy on the other hand puts her phone down and yells at the kid for not being careful enough.
Oh, I wish I had thrown her phone into the river and hit her a couple of times on her head. But I didn't. I just felt sorry for the innocent kid. And I did say she should have watched over the child and not chat...
But I was late and had to go...

By the way, the sound of squeeking brakes is far better then ringing a bell.

Omg I feel like I am going to puke. I just took a test required for the job I just got. No pass, no job. I should have taken it ages ago and waited Til the last minute. I have NO idea how I did and if I fail I can't retake for 45 days. Seriously, I feel like barfing.

I used to have to take a series of tests every year for my job...it sucked and was one of the main reasons I quit. It was expensive to take them and we had to pay to do it. Each test was 45.00 and you had to take a minimum of 3. Just sucked.

My cousins wife is a health fanatic. Now I have Nothing against wanting to be healthy, that is wonderful....but....when nearly every post on FB is something along the lines of "I walked 8 miles today! What have you done to get healthy!" It just gets...obnoxious. For awhile she was into one of those shake things and would try and sell them on FB, I finally muted her for awhile. Well, we just moved to the area where they live and she came over to dinner with the kids and drank alcohol like a fish. My husband and I don't drink and he smirked a bit watching her chug it down. Afterward he said to me "for someone who is such a health nut she sure drinks a lot"...to true my friend, to true.

Flying home from
disneyland

:( I havent stopped crying. I want to live here foreeeverrrr!! ;-(

People this is the bitch thread. Pretty much here and the drama thread are it. Lol. It was over til everyone chimed in :p

Honestly people respond the exact way I did when people don't bother to use the search bar.

LOL .consider yourself lucky if you have none of that where you are..that is awesome...!!!! :) :) I have been in our bellydance community over 10 years and in the mermaid community for almost 3 years and trust me that there is way more. There are alot of awesome people here and that I have met over the years, but there are quite a few of narcissistic ones too or people that are just plain mean. I know they are everywhere and in every community, but what happens in this forum is one person takes something out of context and there is a war. Seriously, this is the only forum I am a part of that has a designated "Bitch it out" thread and " Soap Opera drama bubble " thread. I ignore most of it, as I HATE drama and try not to get involved, but there have been alot of 'heated debates' on this forum

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Aw, I wouldn't say that's fair. While there is some drama, the mermaiding community is truly one of the less dramatic online communities. On other forums people are bickering and making passive aggressive comments and attacking people's posts daily while in the mermaiding community it is not the norm--most of the stuff that goes down in our community is kind and supportive, and most often when there is drama it comes from interactions with people who are new to the community and haven't really "felt it out" yet to understand what the different peroples' personalities are like. I have been a major part of many online fandoms and communities, and MerNetwork is the ONLY one I haven't given up due to the stress of how I was treated by others. I've left horse forums, writing forums, fanfic fandoms, snake forums, chicken forums, LARP and RP forums... the list goes on and on. Having the occassional spat between people is NORMAL human behavior. Bullying, trolling, and outright cruelty are virtually nonexistant in the mer community and that is why I love it--but you can't expect there to never EVER be any negative encounters when hundreds of people socialize with one another.

Translation: I LOVE ALL YOU GUYS!

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Somehow I missed a whole page of replies when I made mine sorry lol

I hate when people are new to the forum and think they know everything! grrrr....

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This so-called "drama" is on the last page of the Merbella thread

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Yes. Me telling people I am canadian and not a Merbella is now drama and warrants a bitch. Lol

I am you know I ammmm I am Canadian!! ( its an epic song look it up)

Or if you'd rather the other POV we can go with blame Canada from south park ;)

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I hate when people are new to the forum and think they know everything! grrrr....

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Not only new to the forum but new to mermaids in general lol. I've spotted that too ;)

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LOL .consider yourself lucky if you have none of that where you are..that is awesome...!!!! :) :) I have been in our bellydance community over 10 years and in the mermaid community for almost 3 years and trust me that there is way more. There are alot of awesome people here and that I have met over the years, but there are quite a few of narcissistic ones too or people that are just plain mean. I know they are everywhere and in every community, but what happens in this forum is one person takes something out of context and there is a war. Seriously, this is the only forum I am a part of that has a designated "Bitch it out" thread and " Soap Opera drama bubble " thread. I ignore most of it, as I HATE drama and try not to get involved, but there have been alot of 'heated debates' on this forum

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I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you or anything. I just like to look on the positive, and give people the benefit of the doubt. I guess it's the teacher in me--can't hit the bratty little shits, so ya gotta grin and pat 'em on the head! ;)

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Not only new to the forum but new to mermaids in general lol. I've spotted that too ;)

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Yep, have first hand experience with that too...sigh :p

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I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you or anything. I just like to look on the positive, and give people the benefit of the doubt. I guess it's the teacher in me--can't hit the bratty little shits, so ya gotta grin and pat 'em on the head! ;)

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No worries, you did not offend me. It is nice to be positive :) I used to always be positive until stabbed in the back, now I am wiser! ;)

I think the context to keep in mind here is the "oh sorry I didn't know good luck in your endeavors" was instantly followed by bashing in the bitch thread.

I'm gay so by definition, I'm supposed to be bitching LOL. Nobody complained about me (at least, not yet) and when I understood that I was wrong, I always apologized. I'm not perfect, there were times when I bitched about Eric because his behavior used to piss me off a lot (and honestly, it still does, I'm not gonna deny that).
Point is that if you want to bitch about something or someone, at least, do it well for good reasons or when you know you're right. Otherwise, it's just pointless. Does all that make sense?


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once a kid in my algebra class did this

I will kill anyone and everyone who reads #3 as "hash tag three"

Hey its the bitch thread and i realized i have a bitch that i never bitched about! yay!
SO like i was going to buy shell shock to begin with. the thing is, I am inexperienced with this stuff. I wasn't sure what the best thing to use was. The RAM representative made it sound like shell shock and the resin i got would work exactly the same way. I believed him and next thing I know im 60 buck out on some resin that doesn't even work and it pisses me off. I understand that it was an unexpected problem but sheesh why did i have to be the one to figure that out?? ugh. Now i have shell shock so lets hope everything goes smoothly from now on.... ooh also shell shock is awesome!! love that junk.

So sick of flaky photographers. I do a shoot and don't get my photos! I have done 4 and only got one photo from one (one photo? really?) and the second at least sent them in a timely manner. Love her, but ridiculous that I can't get photos from the other two. grrrr! both underwater.

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So sick of flaky photographers. I do a shoot and don't get my photos! I have done 4 and only got one photo from one (one photo? really?) and the second at least sent them in a timely manner. Love her, but ridiculous that I can't get photos from the other two. grrrr! both underwater.

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hmm....you signed a contract right? That specified what you would receive and when? If not, always make sure you do that in the future. Dont take peoples word for it. Hope you get some pics soon

I work for a photographer and let me tell you, flaky...doesn't even come close. He is an "Artist" and absolutely terrible with the business side of things. I design wedding albums for him and some of the albums are from 10 years ago. Simply put, he just hasn't gotten to them yet. Seriously...The best advice I can give you is the old saying "the squeaky wheel gets the oil". If a bride starts to get very demanding, calling every day, etc...he runs to me and tries to get it finished ASAP. He doesn't want to have to deal with bitching brides. If you are quiet, he forgets about you. Your best bet, keep calling. If you paid for your photos, demand you get them. If he is dragging his feet on getting them printed ask for a CD of them, get a note granting permission for you to print them, and do it yourself. It sucks, but sometimes it's the best way.

If that frikkin mermaid academy in the Philipines article gets posted on my page or emailed to me one more time I'm going to lose it.

(For those that haven't seen it: http://news.distractify.com/fun/biza...d-academy/?v=1 )

Seriously, how hard is it to look on someone's wall and see if it's there already?

I had 3 people facebook that to me yesterday lol

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I had 3 people facebook that to me yesterday lol

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I got tagged 5 times & emailed 7 on ONE account, then it got posted 3 times on my wall, tagged 6 and emailed 3 more on my other account. GAH.