B!TC# IT OUT!

**AniaR** · 07-27-2014, 05:11 PM

People this is the bitch thread. Pretty much here and the drama thread are it. Lol. It was over til everyone chimed in

**AniaR** · 07-27-2014, 05:12 PM

Honestly people respond the exact way I did when people don't bother to use the search bar.

**shimmygoddess** · 07-27-2014, 05:20 PM

LOL .consider yourself lucky if you have none of that where you are..that is awesome...!!!!

I have been in our bellydance community over 10 years and in the mermaid community for almost 3 years and trust me that there is way more. There are alot of awesome people here and that I have met over the years, but there are quite a few of narcissistic ones too or people that are just plain mean. I know they are everywhere and in every community, but what happens in this forum is one person takes something out of context and there is a war. Seriously, this is the only forum I am a part of that has a designated "Bitch it out" thread and " Soap Opera drama bubble " thread. I ignore most of it, as I HATE drama and try not to get involved, but there have been alot of 'heated debates' on this forum

Originally Posted by Seavanna

Aw, I wouldn't say that's fair. While there is some drama, the mermaiding community is truly one of the less dramatic online communities. On other forums people are bickering and making passive aggressive comments and attacking people's posts daily while in the mermaiding community it is not the norm--most of the stuff that goes down in our community is kind and supportive, and most often when there is drama it comes from interactions with people who are new to the community and haven't really "felt it out" yet to understand what the different peroples' personalities are like. I have been a major part of many online fandoms and communities, and MerNetwork is the ONLY one I haven't given up due to the stress of how I was treated by others. I've left horse forums, writing forums, fanfic fandoms, snake forums, chicken forums, LARP and RP forums... the list goes on and on. Having the occassional spat between people is NORMAL human behavior. Bullying, trolling, and outright cruelty are virtually nonexistant in the mer community and that is why I love it--but you can't expect there to never EVER be any negative encounters when hundreds of people socialize with one another.

Translation: I LOVE ALL YOU GUYS!

**AniaR** · 07-27-2014, 05:24 PM

Somehow I missed a whole page of replies when I made mine sorry lol

**shimmygoddess** · 07-27-2014, 05:25 PM

I hate when people are new to the forum and think they know everything! grrrr....

**AniaR** · 07-27-2014, 05:27 PM

Originally Posted by Merman Arion

This so-called "drama" is on the last page of the Merbella thread

Yes. Me telling people I am canadian and not a Merbella is now drama and warrants a bitch. Lol

I am you know I ammmm I am Canadian!! ( its an epic song look it up)

Or if you'd rather the other POV we can go with blame Canada from south park

**AniaR** · 07-27-2014, 05:27 PM

Originally Posted by shimmygoddess

I hate when people are new to the forum and think they know everything! grrrr....

Not only new to the forum but new to mermaids in general lol. I've spotted that too

**Seatan** · 07-27-2014, 05:29 PM

Originally Posted by shimmygoddess

LOL .consider yourself lucky if you have none of that where you are..that is awesome...!!!!

I have been in our bellydance community over 10 years and in the mermaid community for almost 3 years and trust me that there is way more. There are alot of awesome people here and that I have met over the years, but there are quite a few of narcissistic ones too or people that are just plain mean. I know they are everywhere and in every community, but what happens in this forum is one person takes something out of context and there is a war. Seriously, this is the only forum I am a part of that has a designated "Bitch it out" thread and " Soap Opera drama bubble " thread. I ignore most of it, as I HATE drama and try not to get involved, but there have been alot of 'heated debates' on this forum

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you or anything. I just like to look on the positive, and give people the benefit of the doubt. I guess it's the teacher in me--can't hit the bratty little shits, so ya gotta grin and pat 'em on the head!

**shimmygoddess** · 07-27-2014, 05:29 PM

Originally Posted by AniaR

Not only new to the forum but new to mermaids in general lol. I've spotted that too

Yep, have first hand experience with that too...sigh

**shimmygoddess** · 07-27-2014, 05:31 PM

Originally Posted by Seavanna

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you or anything. I just like to look on the positive, and give people the benefit of the doubt. I guess it's the teacher in me--can't hit the bratty little shits, so ya gotta grin and pat 'em on the head!

No worries, you did not offend me. It is nice to be positive

I used to always be positive until stabbed in the back, now I am wiser!

**AniaR** · 07-27-2014, 05:32 PM

I think the context to keep in mind here is the "oh sorry I didn't know good luck in your endeavors" was instantly followed by bashing in the bitch thread.

**Merman Arion** · 07-27-2014, 05:37 PM

I'm gay so by definition, I'm supposed to be bitching LOL. Nobody complained about me (at least, not yet) and when I understood that I was wrong, I always apologized. I'm not perfect, there were times when I bitched about Eric because his behavior used to piss me off a lot (and honestly, it still does, I'm not gonna deny that).
Point is that if you want to bitch about something or someone, at least, do it well for good reasons or when you know you're right. Otherwise, it's just pointless. Does all that make sense?

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**Fun123joker** · 07-27-2014, 05:40 PM

once a kid in my algebra class did this

I will kill anyone and everyone who reads #3 as "hash tag three"

**Mermaid Wesley** · 07-27-2014, 05:48 PM

Hey its the bitch thread and i realized i have a bitch that i never bitched about! yay!
SO like i was going to buy shell shock to begin with. the thing is, I am inexperienced with this stuff. I wasn't sure what the best thing to use was. The RAM representative made it sound like shell shock and the resin i got would work exactly the same way. I believed him and next thing I know im 60 buck out on some resin that doesn't even work and it pisses me off. I understand that it was an unexpected problem but sheesh why did i have to be the one to figure that out?? ugh. Now i have shell shock so lets hope everything goes smoothly from now on.... ooh also shell shock is awesome!! love that junk.

**Odette** · 07-27-2014, 09:27 PM

So sick of flaky photographers. I do a shoot and don't get my photos! I have done 4 and only got one photo from one (one photo? really?) and the second at least sent them in a timely manner. Love her, but ridiculous that I can't get photos from the other two. grrrr! both underwater.

**shimmygoddess** · 07-27-2014, 10:09 PM

Originally Posted by Odette

So sick of flaky photographers. I do a shoot and don't get my photos! I have done 4 and only got one photo from one (one photo? really?) and the second at least sent them in a timely manner. Love her, but ridiculous that I can't get photos from the other two. grrrr! both underwater.

hmm....you signed a contract right? That specified what you would receive and when? If not, always make sure you do that in the future. Dont take peoples word for it. Hope you get some pics soon

**Mermaid Lily_Pad** · 07-28-2014, 11:15 AM

I work for a photographer and let me tell you, flaky...doesn't even come close. He is an "Artist" and absolutely terrible with the business side of things. I design wedding albums for him and some of the albums are from 10 years ago. Simply put, he just hasn't gotten to them yet. Seriously...The best advice I can give you is the old saying "the squeaky wheel gets the oil". If a bride starts to get very demanding, calling every day, etc...he runs to me and tries to get it finished ASAP. He doesn't want to have to deal with bitching brides. If you are quiet, he forgets about you. Your best bet, keep calling. If you paid for your photos, demand you get them. If he is dragging his feet on getting them printed ask for a CD of them, get a note granting permission for you to print them, and do it yourself. It sucks, but sometimes it's the best way.

**Blaze** · 07-29-2014, 09:14 AM

If that frikkin mermaid academy in the Philipines article gets posted on my page or emailed to me one more time I'm going to lose it.

(For those that haven't seen it: http://news.distractify.com/fun/biza...d-academy/?v=1 )

Seriously, how hard is it to look on someone's wall and see if it's there already?