Thank you everyone <3 It sucks. lol. But I just have to keep swimming and doing what I do!
And wow Harpress that is an INCREDIBLE harp!
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Thank you everyone <3 It sucks. lol. But I just have to keep swimming and doing what I do!
And wow Harpress that is an INCREDIBLE harp!
I hate that it's so hard for me to find female friends, or friends in real life. It's just practically impossible. And when people who don't even know you, think they can say that you're a Sl*t or someone who goes around, when you've been with 2 people in your WHOLE LIFE, you are an adult, and you were in a serious relationship with both people and are still in the second relationship and are fixing to be married to said guy. >.< Older people thinking that I "need a real job and quit being a mermaid" Like, just stop. People (who have literally never even done the thing they are griping about you doing wrong) saying that they know more on the subject, for example, I have been around horses all of my life, trained them all of my life, using lakota methods, because I am a lakota, and then people who have never even been around a horse saying that I shouldn't pet them a certain way or something stupid like that. UGH
Dear in laws, no I will not machine gun your grandchildren out of my vagina for you. I haven't even been married to your son for a year yet and you are already down my throat trying to plump me up to withstand childbirth??? I'm only twenty three!!! If you are pining for grandchildren so badly, kindly look towards your other two eldest and very financially stable children. My uterus isn't for housing a baby for 9 full months. Thaaaaanks!
SeaaGlass, that was a heck of a speech. lol A thing of beauty! And even if you wanted several kids, having someone else pressure you before you are ready is so beyond aggravating.
I need to vent.
I really have to give up on the idea of swimming anywhere, anytime soon. I had hope for a YMCA membership, but I can't get there (I can't use public transportation because of severe allergies to cig smoke, and smokers are EVERYWHERE at bus and trolley stops), and I couldn't use their daycare for... reasons, and now I'm less than a month away from my daughters first of four surgeries, so I won't have time to myself anyway- which I am fine with, and not complaining about, I'm a mom and that's my commitment, and I am beyond grateful I can be there for her full time. Just saying, really bummed about no swimming. I need to put effort into making a car part of my reality.
Also... I really need my personality to shift into one that doesn't mind attention. I really hate attention, and I see the kind of attention people in tails get at beaches and public places, and I simply hate the idea of random strangers talking to me. argh. If it were just children, it'd be fine. If I were in a professional capacity, I'd be fine, but I don't think I'll ever be that.
Just aggravated this morning, thinking of how I have this passion I can't do anything about.
Thankyou surly! Yeah being pressured into anything sucks especially since they won't respect your body or decisions about your body :/
so sorry about your daughter! And the whole swimming thing :(
Thanks- this whole surgery thing is so hard on a five year old. :( Esp since it went from 'a surgery' to at least four, and hoping it doesn't end up even more.
Also I should be packing. It is boring. But we move tomorrow!
Best of luck Surly! I hope your wee one makes a full recovery :)
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The thing that irritates me the most, is when family members think I'm gone total bonkers, and some do say it in my face, that there are no old mermaids or granny mermaids, when all I try to explain is that the tail is just for giggles and the monofin is for exercise. They just don't get it, that it takes a lot of energy and exertion to do so. Then they make snark comments on my tails.
"What type of fish are you?"
My reply, "None. I choose colors that I like."
Their reply, "Then you're not a real mermaid. And you're so old. Behaving like a kid."
Me, "This sounds like the same chat we had last time. Not trying to be real, just making MY exercise time a funny experience. It has nothing to do with trying to be real, making money or trying to be young again. Its just for me only."
At this point I normally give up trying to explain, and just walk away. Experience has taught me that I never win at anything within my family. 40 years of being wordy beatings, and one just shuts up and walk away.
Mega fin slaps for them all!!:mad:
I'll be 50 in three years. I'll have a mermaid beach party somewhere, hopefully this menopause thing is over by then. I cannot stand the flushes, the terrible mood swings and the incoherent ramblings at the keyboard... Everyone is invited!
Jaffa, I'm 54, and there are mers close to my age and older here! Rise above, because deep down, your detractors are jealous of your creativity and courage. They have no power over you!
And the menopause stuff calms down eventually ;)
Why should anyone undermine your dreams and creativity, Jaffa?! Rediculous! You are not old by any means. Think of the average age of the "Housewives" on all the tv franchises. Some are in their 60's and look terrific! I agree with Pearlie. Your family is just jealous. Tell them to piss off!
Jaffa, don't let them get you down. Just say "I'm an adult, which means I decide what I want to be. Ah, it feels so good to be me, fins and all!" Then walk away with a big smile on your face. Nobody can tell you you're too old for anything you really care about. Sea turtles can live to be 100 years old, so why can't a mermaid be in the prime of her life at 50 or 150 or 250? I'm 59, I just got my first paying professional mermaid gig, and I expect to be swimming, singing, and performing as a mermaid for at least 15 more years.
And, yeah, life on the flip side of menopause is lovely. Hang in there!
^What Galene said!!! Seriously, Galene is one of my biggest mermaid inspirations :)
Jaffa, dis is for you:
http://www.gifsforum.com/images/gif/...2a7baf3-32.gif
http://i53.tinypic.com/2z80rw9.gif
Why is it so hard to believe that I am working to be a mermaid!? No I'm not skinny (but I have lost a LOT of weight due to swimming), no I'm not wanting to make money (I LOVE to make kids happy), and no I'm not looking for attention! Seriously, I love who I am but I am self conscious about how I look, can we leave that out of reasons why this is a bad idea? And to constantly remind me of being picked on in school because of my hobbies and figure doesn't help anything, I've not cried about my appearance i almost 10 years but hearing this from my closest friends and family....it hurts
ok I'm done
Mermaid Jaffa, oh goodness. Take the pearl out of their shell and tell them first.
When challenged join the humor, say “What tail? ”while your wearing it or if they say your crazy tell them “Thank you” Usually they are looking for confrontation with statements like that. They’ll feel cheap after that and wind down. “Maybe not, their family”
At some point other peoples opinion has to be worth less than your own. We are Merfolk because it makes us happy. “Unless your PearlieMae, I think they photoshop legs on her.” At what point in your life do you give your own happiness a higher urgency than their need to feel superior. If they make you feel your to old I’m 60 in 6 months and I’m a guy!, unusually good shape, but pert near 60!
Hek double down and wear your Shells around the house, that’ll make’em sit on the shore. ;)
I'll join the chorus, Jaffa- I'm 44. I do not have one damn to give about what others think of my mermaid passion (I don't like attention, but I don't actually care if it's good or bad. lol) One of my friends, upon site of yet another tail pic shared on my FB, said, "You have a weird fetish." (he knows it's no fetish) And then he said he was joking, and it rather pissed me off because no one has any right to infringe on whatever makes us happy as long as we're not hurting anyone. And we're not.
Hang in there, Mermaid.
It never ceases to amaze me how much so many people want to make our business theirs. And, btw, there are plenty of 'not skinny' mers. Body types mean nothing in mermaiding. We're as diverse as it gets.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaguria The Kitsune Mermaid
If all mermaids have to be skinny to be "real" or accepted, then does that mean all humans need to be fat? :p
Seriously though, there are so many amazing and beautiful larger mers! I'm actually a bit envious of all the larger mers I've seen, they seem to have an easier time in the water and swimming, LOL!
Even Disney's The Little Mermaid had larger mers...
This was the reason why I had to create an entirely different facebook page for my cosplay and mermaid hobbies. A couple of years ago , one of my coworkers decided to show off my cosplays to everyone in my office and I was called a freak for weeks. Even the managers couldn't take me seriously.Quote:
Originally Posted by SurlySeaNymph
... I still don't understand why anyone would make fun of you for being a costumer... Like, how do they think the big movies and tv shows and everything get costumes? They just magically appear? Costumers are a vital role to our entertainment system, even small-scale (LOL pun not intended) costumers who aren't pro...
For me personally, since I have little chance of anyone wanting to hire me as a performing artist, costuming is my end-goal career, and all the time I spend doing it as a hobby just improves what I can do so that some day I'll be able to wow some execs with my creations! ;)
MermaidCelesteFL-You are in the epicenter of Merdom "Florida."
I wish you could have put him or her in the middle of a group of merfirends so they'd be the outsider. NA, that wouldn't work. Merfolks are fun.
I got it- let them try a tail with a group of Merfriends and see the smiles on the adults and the awe on kids faces and turn them into converts. No then they'd want to go with you all the time.
Well your not the first to need a second facebook page.
Thank you for all your kind words and support!
Its nice to know there are other Grey Merfolk out there.
Hmm... I don't remember seeing Ursula doing that in the movie...:lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by Miyu
My bust size has always bugged me off and on throughout the years. I'm 20, 5'7", but pretty thin so naturally my boobs aren't very big (32B). I really don't mind, but that has always been the first thing people use to try to insult me, and it makes me a target for dirty older men who want an underage girl because of my young appearance. The rest of the women in my family are pretty busty as well (but also heavier). People tend to think that I'm younger than my 17-year-old little sister. -.-
The kicker is that about two months ago my darling boyfriend (who is lovely to me otherwise and fully supports my mermaiding) got drunk on a night out with his buddies and texted me asking if I'd ever get breast implants so I could be "perfect". I was pretty hurt by this and he ended up apologizing the next day, but it's stuck in the back of my mind and on some days it's easy to feel like I'm just not attractive at all because of something so dumb and trivial as bust size. :/ But I guess that's all people notice about me...?
Meronica don’t feel incomplete because you think your bust size has anything to do with how your friends perceive you. You are perfect. If for style reasons you can wear enhancing underclothing.
In case you think I’m telling you this to make feel better look at who is also your size and has no problem with finding attention when they want it. Actresses with a 32B size use this link and see who else shares your size.
https://www.google.com/search?q=actr...ed=0CAYQ_AUoAQ
As for this B-Friend there will always be something-Always.
Breast enlargement is for you. (and not him)
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Originally Posted by Meronica
Hey girl, all boobs are good boobs. Small boobs are cute big boobs are cute BOOBS. NO boobs are cute. YOURE cute. From the other side, having big boobs makes me a target for lewd comments all day erryday, It makes it hard to find clothes that fit and are flattering, and people judge me IMMEDIATELY because of my body. "Oh i didnt know you were smart" (in a university class. ugh) What im saying is screw them. People will always find something to make fun of on another person no matter how conventionally attractive they are.Your body is your body. Nobody elses opinion matters AT ALL. If i were you i would absolutely chew out the boyfriend for saying that because it wasnt cool at all. Especially if youre still thinking about it. Nobody gets to make you feel bad about your body ok? and I promise people dont always look at you and think small boobs. Youre perfect already. THAT BEING SAID. if you ever DID want a breast enhancement for yourself, thats ok too. Your body, your rules.:mermaid kiss:
Thanks guys. Wesley, it's nice to hear someone at the other end of the spectrum b!tc#ing it out as well. I guess people will find a way to pick on you no matter what you look like. I'm very anti-boob job and feel fine about how I look personally, so I guess I need to just not care what other people think. :/ It's really easy to forget the positives and dwell on the negatives.
Meronica, another big breasted girl here (38D), and I echo completely Wesley' sentiments. Another bad thing about big breasts is, at least for me, the back aching (people tend to forget that big boobs are heavy), and the impossibility of go bra-less (not to mention the lacking of mermaid tops in the market for people of our bra size).
I would do size reduction surgery if it wasn't so darn expensive, and because I do not want to enter an operation room unless it is absolutely necessary - an operation like that scares the shit out of me.
The only thing that matters is what you want/ how you feel. :hug:
Please don't waste another nanosecond fretting about boob size! Or what other people think of your size, or age, or hobby or profession! It's a total waste if time and energy!
Ahh Meronica, people can be real jerks. I'm a B too, but I used to be a D, and very self-conscious about it. I would wear a sport bra, duck tape over it, and then another bra to make myself smaller. It was very uncomfortable for sports (I used to be a diver.) I am much, much happier with my current size. We don't have to wear bras! There are so many cool designs where a bra would show and look bad, and we can totally rock those looks. Every body, busty or not, has its perks.
As for the creepy dirty old man perverts, I find that if you call them on that right away, they get freaked and go away. I'm not shy with that. Just be direct and say, "you're being gross, and you have no right to sexualize me, and you're a pervert who likes young girls. Leave me alone." Say it loud and clear, better if other people overhear, because it draws a clear line of what is unacceptable to you, and drawing attention in that circumstance can be really helpful. If they keep talking, or trying to make excuses, keep saying, "leave me alone" over and over, louder each time, until they do. They will. I've had men do this to me while I was wearing a sari, while I had clothes on over my dance leotard, when wearing jeans and a t-shirt. It's disgusting, and wearing a pretty tail is not an excuse for anyone to make you uncomfortable.
As for the boyfriend, tell him it's as horrible and hurtful as if you asked him to get a penis enlargement, and how would he feel about himself if you asked him to do that? Drunk or not, that was an awful thing to say to you, because clearly you're awesome, small boobs and all. :)
I am self conscious too. I used to also be a D, but after nursing 3 kids, they are just not the same. I have considered implants basically to be back to what I used to be, but my hubby is against it. Thank goodness for Victoria Secrets padded pushup everything bras...LOL
Don't be sad Meronica. I used to be an 32B size when I was in high school and then throughout my teenage age years, and up to my mid 30s. After awhile, and years, you gain some weight and go up a size or two. I am now a 34C bra.
Why is it that I cannot get this song out of my head, now? ;)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gl6w_DqvNbA
Bwahahahahaha!
We are the same age! I just started mermaiding myself and plan to be doing it as a performer for a while. Screw them. you got us.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Jaffa
I hate passive aggressive people!!! I was out at an event I produce last night to support the event and socialize with patrons and another older woman who does events snidely commented that every time she wants to do something, I'm already working on it or 'shark' the idea from her... and also little comments about how she 'doesn't have the money' to start things and doesn't make any once she does. This from the woman who I gave a start to and got the connections she now uses daily... as well as who just spent thousands on new boobs. Uh, one, you never tell me any of your ideas or mention what you're working on, so how I am I supposed to know? Also, uhhhh, I'm sorry, I just come up with ideas, take action on them, pour all my time into them, prioritize my time, and make them happen- and I'm business minded so I, and everyone who works with me, makes money! Sorry that I'm successful??? :P I feel bad for her but the passive aggressive jealousy thing does not sit well with me!
Those who envy others often become bitter and sour, this in rurn leaves a bad taste in the mouths of company
She's incredibly bitter, and openly told me that she 'sucked up' to me when she met me because she knew it would get her more opportunities. Seriously??? Gah!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaguria The Kitsune Mermaid
Hmm wonder how long before she turns green?
I hate making appointments over the phone. Best one yet:
Pre-recorded voice: "You are still in the queue. If you would like us to call you back during the course of the day, please press 1."
With what?!? My phone doesn't have an actual, physical number pad or keyboard!
And do they have to play that same song over and over again (in between the pre-recorded messages). It's like... gah!
Know what really grinds my gears? BAD *EFFING* WRITERS! One of my favorite shows is really going downhill and worst of all the entire fandom is split down the middle all because of "ships". What's worse is that the writers seem to be fan pandering rather than focusing on a good story, or the original story they had planned. So now this show which I loved so much is basically crap and im sick of arguing with other fans about fictional characters. Like I am so done.
For those who don't know, "ships" is a term for couples in a relationship, like Harry/Hermione or Bella/Edward, etc.
An update to the above rant... she has since decided to post 'poor me' aggressive Facebook statuses (not directly naming me of course) as well as texting me begging to be included in one of my shows because she 'really needs the money'. Le sigh. I wrote her and asked her if we could just meet up and talk it out because obviously she has some pent up issues with me... but isn't just telling me directly.