B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mizuko]

Thank you everyone <3 It sucks. lol. But I just have to keep swimming and doing what I do!
And wow Harpress that is an INCREDIBLE harp!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I hate that it's so hard for me to find female friends, or friends in real life. It's just practically impossible. And when people who don't even know you, think they can say that you're a Sl*t or someone who goes around, when you've been with 2 people in your WHOLE LIFE, you are an adult, and you were in a serious relationship with both people and are still in the second relationship and are fixing to be married to said guy. >.< Older people thinking that I "need a real job and quit being a mermaid" Like, just stop. People (who have literally never even done the thing they are griping about you doing wrong) saying that they know more on the subject, for example, I have been around horses all of my life, trained them all of my life, using lakota methods, because I am a lakota, and then people who have never even been around a horse saying that I shouldn't pet them a certain way or something stupid like that. UGH

[SeaGlass Siren]

Dear in laws, no I will not machine gun your grandchildren out of my vagina for you. I haven't even been married to your son for a year yet and you are already down my throat trying to plump me up to withstand childbirth??? I'm only twenty three!!! If you are pining for grandchildren so badly, kindly look towards your other two eldest and very financially stable children. My uterus isn't for housing a baby for 9 full months. Thaaaaanks!

[deepblue]

SeaaGlass, that was a heck of a speech. lol A thing of beauty! And even if you wanted several kids, having someone else pressure you before you are ready is so beyond aggravating.

I need to vent.

I really have to give up on the idea of swimming anywhere, anytime soon. I had hope for a YMCA membership, but I can't get there (I can't use public transportation because of severe allergies to cig smoke, and smokers are EVERYWHERE at bus and trolley stops), and I couldn't use their daycare for... reasons, and now I'm less than a month away from my daughters first of four surgeries, so I won't have time to myself anyway- which I am fine with, and not complaining about, I'm a mom and that's my commitment, and I am beyond grateful I can be there for her full time. Just saying, really bummed about no swimming. I need to put effort into making a car part of my reality.

Also... I really need my personality to shift into one that doesn't mind attention. I really hate attention, and I see the kind of attention people in tails get at beaches and public places, and I simply hate the idea of random strangers talking to me. argh. If it were just children, it'd be fine. If I were in a professional capacity, I'd be fine, but I don't think I'll ever be that.

Just aggravated this morning, thinking of how I have this passion I can't do anything about.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Thankyou surly! Yeah being pressured into anything sucks especially since they won't respect your body or decisions about your body :/

so sorry about your daughter! And the whole swimming thing

[deepblue]

Thanks- this whole surgery thing is so hard on a five year old. Esp since it went from 'a surgery' to at least four, and hoping it doesn't end up even more.

Also I should be packing. It is boring. But we move tomorrow!

[Kaila Mermaid]

Best of luck Surly! I hope your wee one makes a full recovery


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[Mermaid Jaffa]

The thing that irritates me the most, is when family members think I'm gone total bonkers, and some do say it in my face, that there are no old mermaids or granny mermaids, when all I try to explain is that the tail is just for giggles and the monofin is for exercise. They just don't get it, that it takes a lot of energy and exertion to do so. Then they make snark comments on my tails.

"What type of fish are you?"
My reply, "None. I choose colors that I like."
Their reply, "Then you're not a real mermaid. And you're so old. Behaving like a kid."
Me, "This sounds like the same chat we had last time. Not trying to be real, just making MY exercise time a funny experience. It has nothing to do with trying to be real, making money or trying to be young again. Its just for me only."

At this point I normally give up trying to explain, and just walk away. Experience has taught me that I never win at anything within my family. 40 years of being wordy beatings, and one just shuts up and walk away.

Mega fin slaps for them all!!

I'll be 50 in three years. I'll have a mermaid beach party somewhere, hopefully this menopause thing is over by then. I cannot stand the flushes, the terrible mood swings and the incoherent ramblings at the keyboard... Everyone is invited!

[PearlieMae]

Jaffa, I'm 54, and there are mers close to my age and older here! Rise above, because deep down, your detractors are jealous of your creativity and courage. They have no power over you!

And the menopause stuff calms down eventually

[Keiris]

Why should anyone undermine your dreams and creativity, Jaffa?! Rediculous! You are not old by any means. Think of the average age of the "Housewives" on all the tv franchises. Some are in their 60's and look terrific! I agree with Pearlie. Your family is just jealous. Tell them to piss off!

[Mermaid Galene]

Jaffa, don't let them get you down. Just say "I'm an adult, which means I decide what I want to be. Ah, it feels so good to be me, fins and all!" Then walk away with a big smile on your face. Nobody can tell you you're too old for anything you really care about. Sea turtles can live to be 100 years old, so why can't a mermaid be in the prime of her life at 50 or 150 or 250? I'm 59, I just got my first paying professional mermaid gig, and I expect to be swimming, singing, and performing as a mermaid for at least 15 more years.

And, yeah, life on the flip side of menopause is lovely. Hang in there!

[Miyu]

^What Galene said!!! Seriously, Galene is one of my biggest mermaid inspirations

Jaffa, dis is for you:

[Rivertee]

Why is it so hard to believe that I am working to be a mermaid!? No I'm not skinny (but I have lost a LOT of weight due to swimming), no I'm not wanting to make money (I LOVE to make kids happy), and no I'm not looking for attention! Seriously, I love who I am but I am self conscious about how I look, can we leave that out of reasons why this is a bad idea? And to constantly remind me of being picked on in school because of my hobbies and figure doesn't help anything, I've not cried about my appearance i almost 10 years but hearing this from my closest friends and family....it hurts

ok I'm done

[MarkF]

Mermaid Jaffa, oh goodness. Take the pearl out of their shell and tell them first.
When challenged join the humor, say “What tail? ”while your wearing it or if they say your crazy tell them “Thank you” Usually they are looking for confrontation with statements like that. They’ll feel cheap after that and wind down. “Maybe not, their family”
At some point other peoples opinion has to be worth less than your own. We are Merfolk because it makes us happy. “Unless your PearlieMae, I think they photoshop legs on her.” At what point in your life do you give your own happiness a higher urgency than their need to feel superior. If they make you feel your to old I’m 60 in 6 months and I’m a guy!, unusually good shape, but pert near 60!
Hek double down and wear your Shells around the house, that’ll make’em sit on the shore.

[deepblue]

I'll join the chorus, Jaffa- I'm 44. I do not have one damn to give about what others think of my mermaid passion (I don't like attention, but I don't actually care if it's good or bad. lol) One of my friends, upon site of yet another tail pic shared on my FB, said, "You have a weird fetish." (he knows it's no fetish) And then he said he was joking, and it rather pissed me off because no one has any right to infringe on whatever makes us happy as long as we're not hurting anyone. And we're not.

Hang in there, Mermaid.

Why is it so hard to believe that I am working to be a mermaid!? No I'm not skinny (but I have lost a LOT of weight due to swimming), no I'm not wanting to make money (I LOVE to make kids happy), and no I'm not looking for attention! Seriously, I love who I am but I am self conscious about how I look, can we leave that out of reasons why this is a bad idea? And to constantly remind me of being picked on in school because of my hobbies and figure doesn't help anything, I've not cried about my appearance i almost 10 years but hearing this from my closest friends and family....it hurts.

It never ceases to amaze me how much so many people want to make our business theirs. And, btw, there are plenty of 'not skinny' mers. Body types mean nothing in mermaiding. We're as diverse as it gets.

[Miyu]

If all mermaids have to be skinny to be "real" or accepted, then does that mean all humans need to be fat?

Seriously though, there are so many amazing and beautiful larger mers! I'm actually a bit envious of all the larger mers I've seen, they seem to have an easier time in the water and swimming, LOL!

Even Disney's The Little Mermaid had larger mers...

[MermaidCelesteFL]

One of my friends, upon site of yet another tail pic shared on my FB, said, "You have a weird fetish." (he knows it's no fetish) And then he said he was joking, and it rather pissed me off because no one has any right to infringe on whatever makes us happy as long as we're not hurting anyone. And we're not.

This was the reason why I had to create an entirely different facebook page for my cosplay and mermaid hobbies. A couple of years ago , one of my coworkers decided to show off my cosplays to everyone in my office and I was called a freak for weeks. Even the managers couldn't take me seriously.

[Miyu]

... I still don't understand why anyone would make fun of you for being a costumer... Like, how do they think the big movies and tv shows and everything get costumes? They just magically appear? Costumers are a vital role to our entertainment system, even small-scale (LOL pun not intended) costumers who aren't pro...

For me personally, since I have little chance of anyone wanting to hire me as a performing artist, costuming is my end-goal career, and all the time I spend doing it as a hobby just improves what I can do so that some day I'll be able to wow some execs with my creations!

[MarkF]

MermaidCelesteFL-You are in the epicenter of Merdom "Florida."
I wish you could have put him or her in the middle of a group of merfirends so they'd be the outsider. NA, that wouldn't work. Merfolks are fun.
I got it- let them try a tail with a group of Merfriends and see the smiles on the adults and the awe on kids faces and turn them into converts. No then they'd want to go with you all the time.
Well your not the first to need a second facebook page.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Thank you for all your kind words and support!

Its nice to know there are other Grey Merfolk out there.