B!TC# IT OUT!

[deepblue]

Adella, you have every right to feel the way you do. I'd be downright angry and probably tell him what I think of his shirking his duties as her son. But I don't have a lot of patience for crap like he's pulling. Compassion is too rare in this world as it is, but that's his MOTHER and sister you're talking about. He needs to step up.

[deepblue]

I wanted to edit into my response... but the forum won't let me see it and I don't want to repeat what I said, in case it shows up. haha. I was just going to say, even if he's perhaps having difficulty with seeing his mom in such a state, maybe someone needs to tell him the ways in which he's letting everyone down. Maybe he's just clueless.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Isn't he your uncle then?

[Mermaid Lilium]

Yup he's my uncle. It didn't go down well with me and my brother when she first started dating him like 7 years ago..... Our dad and his brother was a damn monster. He was supposed to be 'different'... aparently not.

also, with mum ending things with him, he suddenly went to see his mum a lot *rolls eyes* was trying to convince her to come out of the home and he'd care for her etc etc etc. She signed over power-of-attourney to her solicitor years ago and with the council/social services, she wouldn't be able to do that sort of thing - her house was already on the market to be sold to pay for her care home (an automatic governmental thing that can't be gotten out of).
Basically he wanted a free place to stay in her house, would drag her out of a home and back with carers because he'd never be able to care for her (she's in the home through her own choice and for the best as visiting carers wasn't enough anymore), and he wanted money. Then when he realised he wouldn't get the house, he just wanted money. In the end nan's solicitor released some cash for paul's deposit and first month's rent just so the situation would be resolved..... once he had the money he's not seen her since as far as we know. Charming fellow, eh?

then again I don't feel much pity - yes she's gotten worse because of dementia but it's brought out her true colours. My gran made me cry last xmas day after she was horrible and cruel to me, I walked out and said I'd only see her again if she apologised to me. she told mum she 'doesn't apologise' so I haven't seen her since. And as soon as paul went snivelling to her, she of course sided with him and forgot all the shit mum did for her. So mum and my brother and husband haven't been to see her since this all kicked off at the end of august. Wonder where her fucking kids got it from? heh. What a wonderful shit-heap of a family. Just glad I didn't turn out as a psychopath/sociopath like them and took after my mother more <3

Paul only moved out the friday before xmas so we finally got to enjoy xmas. Only after mum took him to the court to get him removed. Even with all of that paul kept texting her, even putting a card with a note through the front door etc, STILL asking her for a second chance. a few days after xmas he text again asking if they could have a first date again. Is he fucking clueless??!!!!!!!! For now, it seems he has given up and mum's ignoring him is working as we've heard nothing from him.

[Mermaid Dottie]

oh. my. word.
I think I would slap him right in his stupid face. Marshall Erikson-style.

[Miyu]

*SLAP OF A MILLION EXPLODING SUNS*

[Mermaid Lilium]

oh. my. word.
I think I would slap him right in his stupid face. Marshall Erikson-style.

which is exactly why I ended up living in my room and avoiding him at all costs. I have a short fuse and I speak my mind. Not something that would have been useful when we were trying to build the case to present to the court - we couldn't do anything to antagonise him.

Seems so fucking backwards when we'd had to call the cops 3 times, one for the original day mum ended things (when he shouted and threatened to rip off my mother-in-law's(/anyone who had a problem with him) head and shit down her neck), another where he'd been a nightmare all afternoon and mum was scared to come home, but paul was sleeping off a whole bottle of whiskey by the time she got home and the cop came in with her. Third time the police should have actually charged him with breach of the peace when he threatened to burn the house down.

Every single damn day from august 23rd - the friday before xmas, he was begging mum to give him another chance and then turning around and being like 'well i'll make sure we go to court and you end up getting no money' etc etc. He was drinking a bottle of whiskey a night, and then decided to 'prove' to mum that he'd changed by 'not drinking' but he would dissapear up to his room with his glass of coke and then come back down to drink it *rolls her eyes* he eventually gave up that ruse and openly drank again. You can probably imagine the drunken begging and how the conversations would go in endless circles, he would obsess on a few points that actually had nothing to do with what was going on.

and the best bit is. He thinks he's done nothing wrong and that mum BSed the letter to the court. *facepalm*

[Arella]

I think a lot of people just have more free time during summer It tend to lurk every season but summer because I have more time to post.

[Mermaid Dottie]

*SLAP OF A MILLION EXPLODING SUNS*

I. LOVE YOU!

[Mermaid Dottie]

which is exactly why I ended up living in my room and avoiding him at all costs. I have a short fuse and I speak my mind. Not something that would have been useful when we were trying to build the case to present to the court - we couldn't do anything to antagonise him.

Seems so fucking backwards when we'd had to call the cops 3 times, one for the original day mum ended things (when he shouted and threatened to rip off my mother-in-law's(/anyone who had a problem with him) head and shit down her neck), another where he'd been a nightmare all afternoon and mum was scared to come home, but paul was sleeping off a whole bottle of whiskey by the time she got home and the cop came in with her. Third time the police should have actually charged him with breach of the peace when he threatened to burn the house down.

Every single damn day from august 23rd - the friday before xmas, he was begging mum to give him another chance and then turning around and being like 'well i'll make sure we go to court and you end up getting no money' etc etc. He was drinking a bottle of whiskey a night, and then decided to 'prove' to mum that he'd changed by 'not drinking' but he would dissapear up to his room with his glass of coke and then come back down to drink it *rolls her eyes* he eventually gave up that ruse and openly drank again. You can probably imagine the drunken begging and how the conversations would go in endless circles, he would obsess on a few points that actually had nothing to do with what was going on.

and the best bit is. He thinks he's done nothing wrong and that mum BSed the letter to the court. *facepalm*

People like that make me feel physically ill, and slightly fear the world in which my sweet baby will someday find himself. I only hope I can raise a good, kind, loving and Compassionate human being, who will be strong enough to not let the world tear him down. I hope for this for all children.

[Mermaid Lilium]

People like that make me feel physically ill, and slightly fear the world in which my sweet baby will someday find himself. I only hope I can raise a good, kind, loving and Compassionate human being, who will be strong enough to not let the world tear him down. I hope for this for all children.

The fact that you hope that, means your little one will turn out just fine =)

[Miyu]

I. LOVE YOU!

LOL :P I just watched that ep. of HIMYM last night... I love Marshall SO MUCH. He's adorable.

[SeaGlass Siren]

can't i just punjab-lasso him?

[Mermaid Lilium]

can't i just punjab-lasso him?

sure, especially as you just earned brownie points for the phantom reference <3

[Mermaid Lilium]

Ugh. I have been sick for weeks now. The doctor says its either mono or post-concussive syndrome. Both suck. Two years ago when I last had mono, I missed five months of school. My social life fell apart, I lost any muscle I had. I do not want to go through that again, especially when I was doing really well in skiing and just getting comfortable with friends from switching school. And if its post-concussive. Thats even worse. A year and a half ago right as I was getting on my feet again from mono I got a very bad concussion, or rather upwards of fifty mini concussions. It was so bad that I cant remember the whole six months afterwards. I know I mostly just sat and stared at the wall. My concussion had a lot of effects, and even though I have just been feeling better from it for a couple months it is still effecting me. Like I have constant headaches, lost more than ten iq points, and can't ever jump on a trampoline again. So if I have post-concussive from somehow boggiling up my brains again, I could be out for a long time. Just bleh. This is not how I imagined my teen years would be, and I cannot deal with being sick/injured again, but I cannot even get through a day of school.

*wraps you up in bubble-wrap and cuddles*

[SeaGlass Siren]

sure, especially as you just earned brownie points for the phantom reference <3

AWE YISS!!!

[Mermaid Dottie]

I wish I could bake everybody here cookies shaped like cute fishies.

[Mermaid Lilium]

I wish I could bake everybody here cookies shaped like cute fishies.

I get similar urges to bake sea-themed cupcakes for everyone :')

cake, tea and hugs fix all ills lol

[Mermaid Dottie]

It seems you and I are a little like-minded, Lilium.
Cheers! :Lifts teacup:

[Mermaid Lilium]

It seems you and I are a little like-minded, Lilium.
Cheers! :Lifts teacup:

*makes sure her pinky finger is poking out while she drinks her matcha green tea* quite right :')