B!TC# IT OUT!

[Aperture_Platypus]

So, the bastards who live on the corner of my street never clear their sidewalk. It snowed last night, so there was a huge sheet of ice covered by a couple inches of powder. I slipped and landed flat on my back. I'm 6'3" so it was a long fall onto ice and concrete. I'm at the office and can barely move my spine.

[Starfrit]

Mirabelle and Dottie: Thanks, guys. <3 After I posted that rant yesterday my boyfriend came home and we talked about it all, and I'm feeling a lot better today. It really helps knowing that there are people out there who care for me. Y'all are wonderful!

Aperture Platypus: Yikes! D: Hopefully your back isn't too injured! If you notice that the stiffness isn't gone over the next couple of days, DEFINITELY see a doctor! I fell off a ladder at my last job and messed up my back pretty bad, but thought it was nothing serious and just decided to "walk it off" for a week... All that did was make it worse and I ended up having to take a month off from work on medical leave for physiotherapy because my back and shoulder were so screwed up.

[Mermaid Adriel]

Thanks Pearlie. Luckily, the dialysis is working but I wanted what was good for him... however, the important thing is that he continues living without suffering...

[Mermaid Tula]

So I need to vent. This is probably going to be a bit long. So I apologize early on for the length.

One of my closest friends (so close she's called aunt to my daughter) is having a complete and total relationship meltdown. I was friends with her boyfriend before I knew her, but over the last few years, I've gotten super close to her and a little more distant towards him. Mostly its been in the last few months that I've watched their relationship start to dissolve. It started out with a whirlwind relationship between them, then they started to settle in, then within this last year, things started to get rough. Instead of being the awesome guy I've known for quite some time, he's changed into an inconsiderate jerk. He started to become distant and would straight up start yelling at her for stupid reasons. It got to the point that she was talking about kicking him out and leaving him. Well, they decided to try to work it out and it started to feel like things were working out. Shit happened, and the relationship turned into an 'open' relationship because she wanted him to be happy. He wound up sleeping with another girl, but he came to the conclusion that he didn't enjoy that and felt like he cheated, even though they're in an open relationship. He went to the other girls place yesterday pretty much to say either they work things out with his first girlfriend (my friend) or he would have to break up with her (the new girl). That was the plan. Well last night he came back home, started to freak out again for no reason, told my friend that she was shit (paraphrasing there). She called me up at almost midnight last night, sobbing, asking me to come get her. I immediately started getting dressed, had my hubby ready to start the car when I got another call from her, letting me know that she was going to take a sleeping pill to just try to go to sleep. I wound up talking to her for almost an hour last night during that call, let her know that we're here for her, and we'll do what ever we can to help, but that her relationship was turning severely toxic, and it would be best to just end it.

I just feel so helpless, even though I'm trying my hardest to help. I know I'm doing more than most, being a shoulder to cry on, and ear to listen, and a reasonable mind to help her figure out some things as well as having a place she can come to when need be. I just wish I could do more. She's working on getting on disability because her spine is severely messed up and she can't get around very easily. He hasn't been helping at all. (No cleaning, no job, nothing. If not for her, he'd be homeless.)

My biggest issue is they have depression (he's bipolar, she has depression) and depression feeds off of other depression. I've been trying to help and I also have depression, so trying to help is causing my depression to get worse too. I've been set off by the littlest things since last night. I was supposed to go swimming with another friend today, but shit happened (as it always does for me or so it feels) and swimming was cancelled. That frustrated me beyond words for the most part because I was so excited to do something fun and relaxing today.

BLERG. Why do I have to be so caring towards others? I should just withdraw and become a hermit. (even though I'm sure I'd go nuts from being lonely since I'm an extrovert.)

anyway. Thanks for letting me vent.

[PearlieMae]

All you can do is be there for your friend when she needs you. She needs to get out of that toxic relational, but she has to do that. That's her journey. I'm sorry it's affecting you so!

[Mermaid Tula]

Thanks Pearlie <3 I'll try to keep strong for not only her, but for myself as well.

[Merman Arion]

I need to vent.

This is pretty much what I feel about stupid threads made because some people can't just make a fucking proper research on the internet before asking. Some are just kids, some are teens, some adults but it's not personal.
It just baffles me every - single - time that they can't take a moment to do their homework first.

[PearlieMae]

EXACTLY!

I want to help when people get stuck, but I am NOT going to spoonfeed people if they can't even be bothered to look up the info first!

[Merman Arion]

EXACTLY!

I want to help when people get stuck, but I am NOT going to spoonfeed people if they can't even be bothered to look up the info first!

TOTALLY !!!

What I wanna say to them :

[Aperture_Platypus]

I think hitting my coworker over the head with a tire iron would make me feel better. I work in insurance making employee benefit plans for clients. They want me to remake the shitty images on the covers and make them all uniform. Usually not a problem. What IS the problem is that these covers are made up of 8-10 images all pieced together quite poorly instead of 1 image like it should be. I am not allowed to import anything to Photoshop and they want me to work in MS Word, the bane of all graphic designers. The worst is when I'm having trouble making things fit in Word, one smarmy little shit named Jim says, "Well I thought you were good at this stuff." Just give me a crowbar, a shovel, 10 acres and 20 minutes. Seriously, I am going to snap, just a matter of when.

[Marlin]

@ Platypus- That post = pure awesome.

We should be friends

[Winged Mermaid]

Just venting a bit.. Learned a lesson. No more fluke up and chest up together photos for group pics. Yeah it shows the top and tail, but it’s kind of a precarious position. Kid bumped my fluke during one yesterday. I caught it, as to not smack 5+ other kids with said fluke, but turns out it badly hurt my back doing so. :/ Have a gig in 3 days, hope my back heals up enough before then to do it. Blargh -_-

[PearlieMae]

Oh no! Do you have a yoga ball to stretch your back? Chiropractor? Whiskey and Vicodin? Feel better!

[Mermaid Adriel]

I'm sorry to hear this, Iona... i hope you'll get better soon <3

[Kelphinea_Kelp]

I hate it when older people immediately think they know more than you do and speak to you in
a condescending manner. It's also annoying when older people demand respect just because
they're older while they treat you like utter shit.
When you beat them in an argument and they say "You just don't understand right now, you will
when you're older" and junk like that -__-

Omg this is SO true..... But the same can be said for younger people to.. Because i REALLY have a HUGE issue with people who are my age and carry them selves with their noses in the air, and seem to act all knowing and publicly helpful, but then they down grade you or speak to you in a condescending tone or treat you as if your feelings opinions or ideas don't matter. It's like they somehow HAVE to be in control and HAVE to have the spotlight, and they attack you if you show signs of being strong, because they see you as some sort of threat with out thinking about it.
It prob comes from that persons own personal battles with insecurity issues but.. it's NONE the less annoying, and its not that much different then what you spoke about.

[Winged Mermaid]

Thanks Pearlie and Claudia! I'm actually waiting on a referral to go through for an orthopedic surgeon cause I have chronic back issues. I can't afford chiro and massage, which would help so much, and insurance won't cover it. So imma try and get a referral for physical therapy for my back from the orthopedic dr. Until then, I might need those pain meds I've been saving :P and I'm also glued to my heating pad lol

[Nicky-Katz]

@ Aperture Platypus: use LaTeX instead! And send all your coworkers your source code

[AniaR]

I have found adding that "pose" to my workout has helped me prepare better for doing that pose for photos. It's a hard one to do just out of the blue especially with such wide monofins because they mess so much with your centre of gravity,

[Winged Mermaid]

Good suggestion! Doesn't help that the fluke is nearly 20lbs and I have a bad back :P Time to add in some mermaid yoga!

[OrcaMatt]

@ Aperture Platypus: use LaTeX instead! And send all your coworkers your source code

I do my resume in LaTeX...it looks pretty sweet.