B!TC# IT OUT!

[MerGrrl]

SeaGlass Siren, I'm glad to know that info might be helpful. I've known a few NPDs in my day. Just know that it is 100% NOT YOU.

There's a saying: There are two kinds of mental disorders - those that lead you to seek treatment and those that lead everyone around you to seek treatment. NPD is this second kind.

Being the child of an NPD is a pretty big deal. I'd highly recommend counseling if you can swing it.

Lots of love and support to you. I'm not sure, but I feel like I've seen Raina mention it before, too, so she may have some info.

[Ilyena]

I know a couple on here have spoken about NPD mothers (and the links sent to things about that)...but it can be fathers too yes?? if so I know how you feel SeaGlass. I'm currently seeing a counselor about it and I know I need to move out of the house but the things that go on scare me about leaving, kinda like a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.

[SeaGlass Siren]

my ticket out is in 3 months when i'm officially married to my hubby. i call him hubby now but were not married yet :|

i think it can apply to fathers as well.

[Ilyena]

Well then congratulations for when you get married and move out ^_^. Little things like that make me happy (even though I don't know you personally)

[SeaGlass Siren]

aw it's alright i get happy when othre people get happy too!

[BayouMermaid]

@Seaglass: I do hope that things get better for you.

[Thalassa]

I am so on edge! I need, need, NEED my tail back by this Friday, it's boxed up and ready to ship but as far as I know it hasn't been shipped yet! I don't know what to do. I know Raven is super busy and I don't want to nag her. And before you chide me for having an event before getting my tail back, this is a yearly event, I sent my tail back for repair in January and made it clear it needed to be back by the first of May, I was assured it was fine. Due to some unforeseen weather and measurement issues it ended up not getting done in time, I don't care about that but I NEEEED it for this weekend. I just need to get out how supremely anxious I am about this. I know it doesn't compare to some of the problems some of you are going through, I'm sorry.

(PS this should not be interpreted as a dig against Raven, I LOVE her and her work but the timeframe is very scary.)

[MerEmma]

I'd say not to be afraid to "nag" her--you didn't mention any reminders but I wouldn't be afraid to shoot her an email and ask her what the status update is and mention that you need it back urgently.

[MerGrrl]

Ilyena and SeaGlass - certainly, NPD can apply to anyone.

[Thalassa]

Mernetwork is magic! Raven has shipped my tail. :-)

[Merman Arion]

Mernetwork is magic! Raven has shipped my tail. :-)

Glad to hear that. You scared me

[SeaGlass Siren]

you know everytime i see the abreviation NDP i mistaken it for Liberal party of canada

[AniaR]

my mom has borderline personality disorder. THere are actual books about having a bpd mom. They act in very specific ways, as mother, you just dont see with any other disorder. I have been estranged from my mom for 4 years and it was the best choice I ever made. They say you only have 1 mom but your mom only has 1 you and moms are every bit as capable of being abusive. It's a sore spot for me for sure. But I did 3 years of intense therapy and read lots of books and participated in an online support group. I know for many child victims of abusive mothers cutting them out is something they could never think of. Part of that is because the mother enmeshes themself so much with the child. But once you take the leap to little contact or no contact it can give you great erspective. For me, I just realized I got nothing from the relationship at all, but lost so much of myself. It was very toxic.

regardless of what your mom may have or not have, the book: Toxic Parents may help you out

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[SeaGlass Siren]

thanks, i'll definitely give that a read!

[Mermaid Lorelei]

Ugh. Some of you know that I have many medical issues (some of which have been resolved, some that are being worked on, and some that just don't seem to want to go away). I won't go into details about them, but basically, I might be losing my job because I'm sick so often. -.-;

[Vixy]

Ugh. Some of you know that I have many medical issues (some of which have been resolved, some that are being worked on, and some that just don't seem to want to go away). I won't go into details about them, but basically, I might be losing my job because I'm sick so often. -.-;

*hugs* That's not great, it's not like you want to be sick and miss work

I'm attempting to join a extras agency, but I'm having rotten luck in them accepting my photos. The website won't open the box for me to select any photos and sending off some photos had them tell me the photos are too grainy. I don't have many photos of me out of costume, I asked if they're okay for me sending them costumed photos of me.

[Rivertee]

GRrrr Neptune's Beard I am so fed up with narrow minded people! Seriously the nerve of some humans! Sorry Mers but I really need to vent so feel free to skip ^.^

I am an artist, not a great one mind you never claimed to be, but honestly when I put my work up for ideas and feedback I'm not opening up for discrimination. A comment on one of my artwork for an OC fox was as followed,

"Honestly more foxes? You're boring and a disgrace to fans. If you must Draw nothing but foxes can you keep them off this website. You way behind in the times, no one draws with crayons and pencils anymore. Go back to the stone age. The eyes are crooked and you made her a cowgirl! A fox isn't a rodeo animal. Your art is outdated and makes no sense."

Outdated! Behind the times! honestly! Just because I prefer a traditional approach doesn't mean I can't do digital, I have digital work on my page as well but I prefer traditional tools. Plus I don't have my MAC anymore due to damage so no scanner, no Adobe programs, come on!

I deleted the comment but still it wasn't nice and just plain rude!

[AniaR]

That's a hater for yah!

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[shimmygoddess]

Def. a hater. people are just assholes sometimes. Just continue to do what you love. You are drawing for your satisfaction not for others. hang in there!!

GRrrr Neptune's Beard I am so fed up with narrow minded people! Seriously the nerve of some humans! Sorry Mers but I really need to vent so feel free to skip ^.^

I am an artist, not a great one mind you never claimed to be, but honestly when I put my work up for ideas and feedback I'm not opening up for discrimination. A comment on one of my artwork for an OC fox was as followed,

"Honestly more foxes? You're boring and a disgrace to fans. If you must Draw nothing but foxes can you keep them off this website. You way behind in the times, no one draws with crayons and pencils anymore. Go back to the stone age. The eyes are crooked and you made her a cowgirl! A fox isn't a rodeo animal. Your art is outdated and makes no sense."

Outdated! Behind the times! honestly! Just because I prefer a traditional approach doesn't mean I can't do digital, I have digital work on my page as well but I prefer traditional tools. Plus I don't have my MAC anymore due to damage so no scanner, no Adobe programs, come on!

I deleted the comment but still it wasn't nice and just plain rude!

[Azurin Luna]

Gah... sometimes I just hate working in the Biblebelt... some people there are just so narrowminded that they even teach their children that if it wears pants, it's a guy and only girls/women wear dresses or skirts. I mean come on! I work on a shipyard, I'm not going to wear short skirts because then I'm just a billboard saying 'grab me', just no. And the odd time I wear a dress or skirt, that is almost floor lenght, I'm getting called a crossdresser, I'm like, 'What?! These boobs I wear are real!' I once told one of the kids that I was just a girl wearing pants and they got scared of me because I talked to them. Now each time I walk through the street they pull their children away, only because I dress differently.

Some times I just hate this world with all their prejudices they have.

ps. I have nothing against religious people, but they can also just let people be who they are as I accept them as they are. I work with enough religious people at work and that has given me no problem at all, as they accept me who I am, even though it took some time.