B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Wesley]

Oh I missed your post, yes I'm going to let him know for sure.


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[Lorelei]

Ugh I feel you girly. Boobs suck. The only clothes that ever fit me well are hella expensive. And as far as curvy goes. Hell I just call myself curvy. I have a little waist, no butt, big ole thighs, but the boobs though. THE BOOBS. There's not really another g rated word for my body type. And if someone whines at me for benign skinny and calling myself curvy I'll just ask so what would you call me then because if there's a better word plz let me know. Oh and don't get me started on t-shirts and hoodies. Can you say blob? Ok yeah I just agree with this so hard.


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This is actually a bit embarressing to say for me, but this is a few of the reasons why I got my breast reduction and it was honestly the best thing I ever did for myself. >< Nothing ever fit right and crying in dressing rooms was a frequent thing. All through high school I was deemed a slut for doing absolutely nothing, but having a big chest that would show through anything I wore. On top of my minor scoliosis, my back was always in knots and it was constant pain, espically when I'd try to excercise.
It was just an aweful part of life. When I first met my surgeon and he took a look at everything he said my proportions were really off (I have a really small waist and am short) and I was already starting to get shoulder indents from bras. Luckily medical insurance approved everything and I have never been happier. The only problems I seem to have now are get clothes to cover the scar, but they really aren't too bad and have healed up nicely.
I apologize if this was a bit off topic, just saying I know the annoying pain that is breasts (I guess this is my own "b! Tc# it out" post haha )
I hope everything works out for you, definitely set him straight because there's no reason that you have to cater to his needs just so he can control himself.

[Anahita]

I also feel a little bummed when the term "curvy" is used as a euphemism for "overweight". You can be a curvy size 0, or a straight size 28. Curvy relates to shape, not size. I'm guessing that is the word of choice because the bigger you are, the less likely you are to have a "boyish" look, but to have some ins and outs. Nonetheless, you can be curvy at any size, and it doesn't mean you're unhealthy. Hell, even "overweight" doesn't necessarily equate unhealthy.

This has always bothered and confused me about the English language. I don't like that when I say I'm curvy (48-26-44) people now just assume I'm covering the fact that I'm fat. I'm not. I will admit I'm a bit on the plump side, I have a higher BMI for sure, but I'm using the term correctly, because there is an over 20 inch difference between my bust and waist, and an almost 20 inch difference between my waist and hips.

In my experience, curvy is having to buy two of every pattern when you're at Jo-Ann's (one 6,8,10,12 package and one 14,16,18,20 package) and then graft the stupid things together so you have a pattern remotely in the range of your size. Not buying the 14-20 packet and taking in the waist or bust or hips in one or two inches. Curvy is not being able to wear off-the-rack dresses without altering them drastically so they fit you properly. Not buying an off-the-rack larger size dress and being able to wear it just like that. Curvy is getting frustrated because the plus-size stores are too big, but the clothes in the regular store make you look like a Hooters girl. Curvy is getting asked if you're wearing your corset that day when you haven't worn it for over a week. And needing that corset for back support because your gals don't have a sturdy enough base to anchor themselves with. Curvy is having an anxiety attack and crying when you're trying to buy bras because all the cute ones in your size are expensive as shit and no f*cking stores carry your size so you can try them on.

*sigh* I better stop. I could rant about this all day.

[deepblue]

^Yep. I so get some of that. Size 6 or 8 in the last year or two, but with curves. When I was a 90 pound fitness freak, I had curves. At 120 pounds dealing with health issues, I've got curves. lol Things that fit my booty don't tend to fit my waist. My upper half, not such a big diff. I don't really get THAT frustrated though, and I don't experience curvy in away that means I need to cry or eb that frustrated over it. So I guess I'm lucky in that way.

[Genevieve]

Kindred spirits indeed. Anahita's definition of "curvy" belongs in the dictionary.

Anybody ever get hexiboob? Quadriboob + extra spillage from under your arms. I used to be sporting hexiboob every day until I discovered brastop.

I keep saying, "If I go up another cup size, I'm getting a breast reduction," but that started about 6 cups ago. Props to you Lorelei for taking the plunge!

[MerEmma]

For anyone disappointed with your bra fitting, it's worth looking into making sure you're in the correct size! We've talked about it here on the forum before and the Reddit community (http://www.reddit.com/r/abrathatfits) is a tremendous help. In the US bra sizing is completely whacked up and not at all standardized. A bra should contain all of your breasts, including the extra spillage under your arms.

[Miyu]

MerEmma and Nerine have both helped me immensely with the bra-fitting advice, now I can actually find bras that fit and IT'S AMAZING. Seriously, learning how to measure your bra size properly (and how to find the sister sizes!), will make a huge difference in how easy it is to shop for bras - and how nicely they fit!

(as for my bewb problems... I'm a teeny tiny short person and I have a fairly large pair... and most bra companies seem to think that people with really small ribcages can have big boobs.)

[Mermaid Jaffa]

most bra companies seem to think that people with really small ribcages can have big boobs.)

You can blame Japanese anime for that. Such unrealistic stats.

[Miyu]

oops, i meant to say "can't" - silly keyboard :P

But yes, apparently if you have a small ribcage and large-ish boobs, they're supposed to magically stay up on their own, so I have yet to actually find a bathing suit top that fits properly >.< Finding my actual bra size is nigh impossible in stores, so I've had to depend on "sister sizes".

[Genevieve]

The UK seems to be the only place that gets how breasts actually work. Brastop has reasonably priced bras (considering the size and shipping across the pond). I love the "Cleo" and "Curvy Kate" brands. If it weren't for them, I'd be making my swim tops out of those 200 year old giant clams. Which might look kind of cool, actually. Back away, mergirls, I call dibs on that one!

[Amphitrite]

Apparently I'm not allowed to express myself elsewhere. Pathetic. I wasn't being rude or anything I was ranting. If you don't like it tough. Get away from me you obnoxious people! < Something along the lines of what I felt like saying.

[deepblue]

Not related to any of this, I'm having one of those days where I feel like I'm either not being understood at all or wow is my communication lacking. /vent

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ me too surely :hugs:

[Genevieve]

It's related to ranting. Splashing good feels your way.

[Anahita]

Unrelated to my bewbz and curvy rant....

I'm soooooo sick of packing. My anxiety is getting the better of me and I feel like I've had a seizure (even though I haven't had an alert for one in over a week). I have one more day between right now and my move.

It just keeps getting more stressful because first the move-in time had to get pushed back because the guy who lived there before me TOOK THE F*CKING KEYS WITH HIM and didn't even bother to bring them back until the next afternoon. Then I had to tell my mom (who took the day off to help me move and get the moving van for me) and instead of her just saying "no problem, it's not your fault" like a normal parent, she whined about it and reminded me that this was a favor she was doing me and can't I move it to earlier?

No. Don't you think I tried? Eesh

Then on move-in day I have like a dozen other things I need to do (call my insurance company, get my parking reservations, take a drug test for a job that I was unable to take Friday because I spent all the time Friday at the employment agency filling out paperwork they could have given me much earlier, pick up an antique dresser from this guy's house because my new apartment doesn't have any closets to hang my clothes in....) and they're all pretty equally important. I'm going to have to do it all on pretty much no sleep as well, since I'm not likely going to be able to and be completely packed in time.

Oh, and to top it off, because my service dog was a rescue and comes with her own emotional baggage, all this packing is also making her nervous.... And sick. She keeps puking and doesn't want to eat her kibble or let me get up to pack.... She's just moping around, crying, following me, trying to get me to pick her up and cuddle her, and puking.

It sucks. F*************************ck
*sigh*

[Mermaid Wesley]

So I was a bitch all day at work and he noticed. At the end of the day he said "I haven't been able to make you smile all day! you've been so zoned out!"
So I said "I'm not zoned out don't worry about it" in a voice that said 'worry about it' he goes "that bad?" And I made a pissed off smile. He said "it's not pertaining to me I hope?" And I sortof laughed and said "i don't know is it?" He said "Damn!" Like 'woah' And then I walked over to my manager asked her if I could leave, and walked out the door. He said "see ya?" I said 'bye'. Short clipped and angry without looking at him and left. I don't deal well with confrontation and I'm really shakey right now.


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[Mermaid Wesley]

We talked via text. He wants to meet with me tomorrow so that I can yell at him. He keeps apologizing even though he doesn't even know why I'm mad yet. At least his obvious distress has put me in a better mood and I might be able to get some sleep.


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[SeaSister]

On the topic of boobs...

I have the opposite problem of most of you. My boobs are tiny. Like, if you could take them off of my body and roll them up into a ball they would each be the size of a softball. But it seems like I can never complain about them because every girl with larger boobs (that is, pretty much every girl I know) will fire back at me with how lucky I am to have small boobs. They tell me about all of the problems they have with sizes, physical activity, unwanted attention, etc. and say that they would gladly have my baseball-sized mounds instead. There is only one girl I know who has smaller breasts than me, and even she tells me not to complain because, well, mine are (slightly) larger than hers.

But what most girls with normal boobs don't understand is just HOW fucking awful it is to have small boobs. It seriously causes me a lot of distress and I am so incredibly and unbelievably jealous of girls with beautiful breasts. To make it look like I have any cleavage, I have to essentially tape my nipples together (which, you can probably imagine, would look really weird... uniboob anyone?). I've never had the "problem" of guys staring at me, but frankly, I wish I did. People try to console me and say that guys don't care about breast size, but I know that that is absolutely untrue. Simply put, I just don't look as "feminine" as other girls. I will confess that part of this is my own fault, since I also have a short haircut which, although not boyish at all, isn't as "feminine" as the long flowing locks that most other women have (not that I ever had those lovely, thin curls; my hair is extremely thick and coarse and was a total pain to manage while it was long). People have also told me that I'm still young and there's a chance that they might keep growing, but as the years have slipped by and my breasts still resemble those of a gangly 13-year-old, I've lost all hope of that happening. I have been seriously considering breast enlargement, but I'm a poor, starving student... I can't even save up for a $3,000 silicone tail in the near future, so how can I expect to pay for a $10,000 surgery? And even then, I'm still not sure I'm comfortable with the idea of carrying two silicone sacs under my skin... but ugh, I'm just so sick of being a chubby, flat-chested, boyish-looking girl and so, so ready to feel like a gorgeously voluptuous woman for once in my life.

I apologize for that self-pitying mess of a rant... I'm just really tired and feeling particularly crummy and unattractive tonight. :/

[Miyu]

Okay, time for a little rant...

My room is a porch with carpeting in it. It is never the right temperature - always either too hot or too cold. We have now moved into the "always too cold" part of the year. It's harder to deal with than summer, because all I need then is a fan... In cooler months, there's no good way to heat the room other than a tiny space heater (which, you know, is not not exactly supposed to be going all the time).


Also, I was getting ready for bed, I had washed my pillow and ran it through the dryer 3 times (I have a fluffy pillow). I went to go get it... and my roommate had taken it out of the dryer and set it on top of the dryer... which is in the back bathroom... which all the boys use... and several of the boys have problems remembering to put the lid down when they flush... I have a skin condition - cystic acne - and really super-thin skin, so I really have to be diligent about germs and things like that, or else I end up looking like I've been beaten (because my face will be black and blue and swollen all over, as well as being painful). And the crummy part is that he hadn't even put in his clothes yet, because they were still in the washer! But my housemates don't think about things like that, because they are "permanent bachelors" and just don't think about things in general most of the time. They're also fairly unhygienic in general, bleh.

So now, once again, I get to sound like the evil nagging sea-witch here because to everyone else it just sounds like I'm being a germaphobe... but I've spent years figuring out what I have to do to keep my face within tolerable pain/ickiness levels, and I'll be damned if I'm going to have to go to the hospital for antibiotics in a few days because someone couldn't think where they were setting SOMEONE ELSE'S PILLOW, jeez...



Talk about first-world problems, LOL...

[Echidna]

I'd go insane with unhygienic dudes as roommates in about one week, tops
Nah, make that a day.

You should move out of there, and get a cat as company instead.