Iona and Be My Hero, I'm so sorry you're both going through bad times. I have several chronic health problems, too, that sometimes flare up to debilitating levels. I understand how suddenly and thoroughly that can derail one's life.

Iona, I'm glad you've come to MerNetwork for support. This your community; you have worked for it, nurtured it, and sustained it. We are here for you, just as you are always here for us!

Hero, one of the hardest things about chronic illness and depression is feeling alone. Know that you are NOT alone in this! Several people in this community suffer from those things, understand, and want to be supportive to others. Continue to reach out here; there is some comfort in knowing that you have a pod of sympathetic merfriends.

Here's what I've found helpful when my health problems flare up:

I turn to those who love me for help, hugs, and someone to listen. I never feel that doing so is a burden to them; because they love me, they really want to help.

I also make sure to have a supportive doctor, and that has meant shopping around for someone who is competent, open-minded, and a good listener. Because of the way some health systems are structured, it can be a chore to switch doctors, but it is worth the effort!

When I feel sick, I double down on the things that make me happy. I find a creative activity that isn't physically demanding and absorb myself in it. And if I'm incapacitated and in bed, I let my mind visualize and mentally create. I move forward toward achieving my goals, even if planning and dreaming are all I can do for awhile.

I go outside and absorb the sights, sounds, and smells of nature. I sing to the birds, stare at the clouds, feel the breeze on my face. It reminds me that there's so much life outside the confines of my ailing body.

Above all, I try to remember that health is like the seashore. Waves come in and waves go out, and the seascape is in constant flux. Whatever is happening right now, it will change. Pain and darkness will eventually wash out, and something wonderful will wash in.

Merhugs to you both. I wish you peace for now, and better times to come soon.