B!TC# IT OUT!

[PhaylennMurúch]

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Aw, and we almost got rid of him, too

not really, if you read back on his page you'll see that he firmly believes that his suggestions and input are highly valuable to the FB powers that be. He thinks that the things they do are for him to show their appreciation rather than something they're rolling out for everyone

[AniaR]

I think his page was suspended

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I just got out of jail. Yeah. Jail. I was in since Tuesday, I'm 19. They are accusing me of abusing my younger autistic brother. My mother said that I did, so she wouldn't get the blame for it, and my 73 year old, dying of cancer, father, my step mom, and my boyfriend bailed me out, the detective is figuring stuff out and has realized that my mother framed me but has brain washed this kid so much, anytime someone asks him where he got a mark or scratch, he automatically says I did it. Even if it's proven that a dog caused it, or (he self mutilates) he does it himself. My mother has literally abused me and my sister both, has gotten out of going to prison for it, and somehow it all got erased from her record.
Keep me in your thoughts guys, I have a feeling that shit is about to hit the fan.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

-hug- I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all that crap Shimmer!

[Imogen Finnly]

Oh shimmer im am so sorry. What a terrible thing to go through and i cant imagine the stress and pain you are dealing with. I will pray to the gods that you gain proper justice. Blessed be.

formerly jayy

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you both. Even some of the inmates at the jail (a very tall black man was the main one) said there was literally no way that I did this. Thankfully when they put me in with all of the other women, some of them took me in and made sure I was safe.
You have no sense of time, or anything in there. You pick up ticks, things you did to keep your mind off of the bad things going on. I caught myself rocking in a stationary chair last night at my fathers dinner table. I shake, I didn't notice until I drank some tea, and my dad pointed it out. My sister said I am different. You go numb. I'm hoping that everything goes okay and they realize they made a mistake, this could hurt me mermaiding, my photography, college, everything.

[PhaylennMurúch]

oh Shimmer I'm so sorry

can you get in to see a therapist to work through your trauma reactions?

Stay as far away from your egg donor as possible. With time the truth will come out

[Shimmer Mermaid]

It's okay. I'm so thankful of the mermaid community.
The therapist will have to wait until trial is over, I am currently at the house where we both lived, getting my stuff and getting ready to move it all. I'm ready to gtf away from her and everything to do with her.

[Mermaidmechanic]

Thank you both. Even some of the inmates at the jail (a very tall black man was the main one) said there was literally no way that I did this. Thankfully when they put me in with all of the other women, some of them took me in and made sure I was safe.
You have no sense of time, or anything in there. You pick up ticks, things you did to keep your mind off of the bad things going on. I caught myself rocking in a stationary chair last night at my fathers dinner table. I shake, I didn't notice until I drank some tea, and my dad pointed it out. My sister said I am different. You go numb. I'm hoping that everything goes okay and they realize they made a mistake, this could hurt me mermaiding, my photography, college, everything.

That's really terrible. If you have any way of documenting her abuse (video via phone/ camera), the authorities can do a lot with that. If she has done it once, she'll probably frame you again and you don't want that sort of thing on your record! You should gather as much evidence as you can so she has to take responsibility for her actions.

As for ticks, unconscious actions, etc... those will go away eventually in company of good mental fortitude. Sometimes it takes a few days, sometimes months. An example of something like that is boot camp: a lot of people that go frequently find that after graduating and leaving the training facility they "square" corners, march, sit perfectly straight, call people "sir" or "mam" (especially if this wasn't the norm for you before you attended) and eat meals the way you're forced to in boot camp (its very unnatural feeling) . You'll eventually fall back into a state of normalcy but the best way to do that is to engage yourself with friends and hobbies rather than drawing inward.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

She's in hail currently, I am out. We are trying to get the detective to talk to my younger sister about the abuse we endured. So far they have talked to me, my boyfriend, my father, and step mom. Anyone that could know of the abuse.

[AniaR]

Shimmer I have a crazy psycho bitch for a mom too, who was also found guilty of child abuse, but yet it didnt stay on her record and she adopted more kids! I have zero contact with her. I know that might be hard for you because you worry about the brother but sometimes you gotta cut the cord. I found a few books like "toxic parents" "the borderline mother" and "how to stop walking on eggshells" very helpful to me. I also saw a therapist for 3 years to try and deal with my mom's crazy. I think the best thing you can possibly do for yourself is get away from her and never look back.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My 15 year old younger sister actually stopped talking and cut contact with her last year. I always try to be the bigger person in situations like that, but I don't know how she can recover from this, nor do I think she will. I am going to have to write her and see if she will finally write the title of my truck and camper over to me. And offer to keep her important stuff safe for her while she's away but she would have to sign papers, and have everything proofed.

[Fun123joker]

i have zero experience with abusive parents. but this reminds me of this trail in flordia where this little girl drowned in those big blue inflatable pools and the mother was the suspect. people kept on asking the little brother if his mother did it. thing is thier questions were so specific on if it was the mother or not that it made the boy believe it was. im saying this because when you are little you believe that the adults are always right no matter what you see. (if you were wondering what happned to the trail. a picture of a wagon with mud in it proved that the little girl was drowning and the brother tried to save her by grabbing her legs. no one was charged. i only remeber this because my family saw the trail on the news and didnt get the full story so they were really mad when thee mother was proven not guilty. i only mentioned this trial for the fact that the adults kept o asking the only witness if it was the mother so many times he started to believe it)

sorry to hear about that shimmer.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you. I feel like I'm in a really depressing episode of law and order or something

[Merman Jamie]

Sorry to hear shimmer. I hope everything works out soon

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you Jamie. so many good wishes. I love the mer community.

[Mermaid Alea]

Shimmer I hope things start to get better for you. I am sorry that you have to deal with things like this in life and I hope your siblings recover.

[JessieMermaid]

OMFG!!!!! We have limited parking, that means first come first searved. Not even our employees are guaranteed a parking space. 100+ rooms, 30+ employees, and the 1000000 or so MONTHY/DAILY PARKING people and we only have 92 parking spaces. GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELVES YOU ARE NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON ON THE FRIGGIN PLANET!!!!! I hate Mardi Gras......the only thing good that comes out of this is the free funnel cakes from the vender on the corner......

[Lucinda]

Anyone else here who has a hopeless, alcoholic father? Won't take care of himself. Won't listen to me. What's the bleeding point?
I said no wine for my birthday fondue, he went against my wishes. We already partied yesterday, for crying out loud! Too much is too much.

He was making progress. But now he's slipping again. What's the point of his "only-on-Fridays" rule, when he's the one who's always breaking it. Then he tries to get us to drink more so that he won't have to feel guilty. Today was a test. I had to say no to the wine. Somebody had to say it. Big surprise: He failed!
He really ought to take a good look at himself.

[Fun123joker]

i relly like this one song on the cello but i cant seem to play it right. i know its my intonation but i have that feeling that its just how i play thats wrong :/