B!TC# IT OUT!

[Rebekah.fish]

Okay so I just need to make sure I'm not crazy for being so upset by this...
I've had the same best friend, since the 4th grade. We have been best friend/sisters/wifees whatever u wanna call us for 12/13 years now. She always was with me and was always friends with my friends. So when she went off to college she made a friend, which I was glad cuz I was always worried she wouldn't be able to make friends on her own cuz she's a bit awkward. But she wanted me to come meet her and everything and I did. But I mean I don't get to see her a lot cuz she moved away to college but we still always text and stuff, and when she comes home it's the same like she never left!
So, she is now engaged. Which is wonderful!!! Now this may seem like some stupid girl thing....but she decided to make her biological sister her maid of honor. Now she has always told me it would be me, and it doesn't bother me that much that she chose her sister, but it'd the reason...I knew there had to be a reason cuz she has always told her sister she couldn't be her MOH because she's her sister and that's not fair lol which I think was her excuse to make me it be me lol. But she's always ways told her sister it wouldn't be her and since before I can remember she has told me it would be me. And she was like, "well, she is my sister..." and I said bull crap! That's your excuse so tell me the real reason!!! And she told me she couldn't bring herself to choose between me and her new friend from college... that really hurt my feelings a lot..idk if that's dumb or not but I'm like excuse me?!?! You've known her a year and somehow she has gotten closer to you that me?? I don't think so!!! And everyone around us, our friends, all of both our parents, we're all appalled that she didn't choose me. My mom was like "holy crap that's messed up!" This other girl doesn't even give a crap about me at all, and now I feel like she's trying to cut me off or something so I just been aggravated about all of it. I can't believe how upset all this has made me this feels like the stupidest girly problem ever. But I don't even know what to say or do. I always keep my mouth shut if I think something will make her happy, so after she told me the real reason I Havnt said anything sense...but I'm like, if we aren't close like we were for whatever reason then we gotta fix this! I suddenly feel like we are a married couple being separated or something...but if her new friend is the mistress separating us, then I'd like to hit her with a rock or something bahahahaha. I just don't want someone to steal her away. And I don't think this girl could be bea better best friend than me...I'd just don't. There's no way she knows her like I'd know her... >_<

I'm sorry I just had to put that out there cuz I Havnt even been able to sleep cuz of this...away I a jealous psycho or what? I've never felt this way before.... & I wanna be like....
#sorrynotsorry

[Mermaid Mystery]

-_- it's sharkweek.

same ugh


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[Mermaid Mystery]

okay so ANOTHER rasbora just died


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[Gem Stone]

Okay so I just need to make sure I'm not crazy for being so upset by this...
I've had the same best friend, since the 4th grade. We have been best friend/sisters/wifees whatever u wanna call us for 12/13 years now. She always was with me and was always friends with my friends. So when she went off to college she made a friend, which I was glad cuz I was always worried she wouldn't be able to make friends on her own cuz she's a bit awkward. But she wanted me to come meet her and everything and I did. But I mean I don't get to see her a lot cuz she moved away to college but we still always text and stuff, and when she comes home it's the same like she never left!
So, she is now engaged. Which is wonderful!!! Now this may seem like some stupid girl thing....but she decided to make her biological sister her maid of honor. Now she has always told me it would be me, and it doesn't bother me that much that she chose her sister, but it'd the reason...I knew there had to be a reason cuz she has always told her sister she couldn't be her MOH because she's her sister and that's not fair lol which I think was her excuse to make me it be me lol. But she's always ways told her sister it wouldn't be her and since before I can remember she has told me it would be me. And she was like, "well, she is my sister..." and I said bull crap! That's your excuse so tell me the real reason!!! And she told me she couldn't bring herself to choose between me and her new friend from college... that really hurt my feelings a lot..idk if that's dumb or not but I'm like excuse me?!?! You've known her a year and somehow she has gotten closer to you that me?? I don't think so!!! And everyone around us, our friends, all of both our parents, we're all appalled that she didn't choose me. My mom was like "holy crap that's messed up!" This other girl doesn't even give a crap about me at all, and now I feel like she's trying to cut me off or something so I just been aggravated about all of it. I can't believe how upset all this has made me this feels like the stupidest girly problem ever. But I don't even know what to say or do. I always keep my mouth shut if I think something will make her happy, so after she told me the real reason I Havnt said anything sense...but I'm like, if we aren't close like we were for whatever reason then we gotta fix this! I suddenly feel like we are a married couple being separated or something...but if her new friend is the mistress separating us, then I'd like to hit her with a rock or something bahahahaha. I just don't want someone to steal her away. And I don't think this girl could be bea better best friend than me...I'd just don't. There's no way she knows her like I'd know her... >_<

I'm sorry I just had to put that out there cuz I Havnt even been able to sleep cuz of this...away I a jealous psycho or what? I've never felt this way before.... & I wanna be like....
#sorrynotsorry

I understand the feeling. But hey, at least you're in the wedding. My friend who originally had me as a bridesmaid, she wasn't gonna have a MOH but instead three bridesmaids, changed her wedding up so many times that eventually, THEY DIDNT EVEN INVITE ANYONE! I went from in the wedding to not invited at all.

Anyway, no, I don't think you're psycho, but you do have to understand that friends can have friends. Certain friends know certain things because they go through different things together with different people. Maybe they aren't AS close as you and her are, but they might be close in a different way.

[Rebekah.fish]

I understand the feeling. But hey, at least you're in the wedding. My friend who originally had me as a bridesmaid, she wasn't gonna have a MOH but instead three bridesmaids, changed her wedding up so many times that eventually, THEY DIDNT EVEN INVITE ANYONE! I went from in the wedding to not invited at all.

Anyway, no, I don't think you're psycho, but you do have to understand that friends can have friends. Certain friends know certain things because they go through different things together with different people. Maybe they aren't AS close as you and her are, but they might be close in a different way.

Yea I'm real glad she made a friend! I just didn't realize they were close because she never even tells me about the othe girl, so I just assumed she wasn't a big deal cuz she tells me everything. Idk I feel like this is a high school problem. Haha. And that's nuts! How would they not invite anyone???

[Vrindavana Starfish]

Yea I'm real glad she made a friend! I just didn't realize they were close because she never even tells me about the othe girl, so I just assumed she wasn't a big deal cuz she tells me everything. Idk I feel like this is a high school problem. Haha. And that's nuts! How would they not invite anyone???

Well, family pressures on our wedding plans and our family being all over the place kind of led to us eloping. The wedding is about the couple, not the guests. I have zero regrets with not having anyone invited. Zero. It was about the two of us.

As for your friend, I'm really sorry. I was a bridesmaid in my high school best friend's wedding, and I saw her 2 times after that for a total of 1 hour. That's it. Sometimes friendships just end. It hurts, but its the truth. You might be the irreplaceable childhood friend, but you two are no longer children, and people change. It's not just a high school thing, it's a life thing. Just keep loving your friend, and be the best friend you can be, but recognize that even the best friendships change, and sometimes that means people just grow apart. There's nothing wrong with that. You will also find new friends that you will be closer to, for different reasons. It won't make your first friend any less special.

Also, no bitching about whatever ugly bridesmaid dress you're asked to put on. Just wear the thing.

[Rebekah.fish]

Well, family pressures on our wedding plans and our family being all over the place kind of led to us eloping. The wedding is about the couple, not the guests. I have zero regrets with not having anyone invited. Zero. It was about the two of us.

As for your friend, I'm really sorry. I was a bridesmaid in my high school best friend's wedding, and I saw her 2 times after that for a total of 1 hour. That's it. Sometimes friendships just end. It hurts, but its the truth. You might be the irreplaceable childhood friend, but you two are no longer children, and people change. It's not just a high school thing, it's a life thing. Just keep loving your friend, and be the best friend you can be, but recognize that even the best friendships change, and sometimes that means people just grow apart. There's nothing wrong with that. You will also find new friends that you will be closer to, for different reasons. It won't make your first friend any less special.

Also, no bitching about whatever ugly bridesmaid dress you're asked to put on. Just wear the thing.

Lol I've done the bridesmaid thing so many times and I've yet to have to wear an ugly dress. Luckily this wedding I'll have the prettiest dress so far. I know we will grow farther in distance but I don't think our friend ship will end. Even if we only talk like a couple times a year (hopefully not). I don't think she'd replace me either...I could never replace her. I just wish I had known she was getting so close to this girl or that we were drifting. I just wish she would have mentioned anything to me

[Mermaid Mystery]

I think my betta is dying ugh this is the worst day


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[Mermaid Mystery]

I think he's dead


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[Mermaid Mystery]

he's dead. fml.


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[MermaidCelesteFL]

I'm having a similar issue with my childhood best friend. We've been best friends for 20 years now (I don't look as old as I am), and she asked me if I was interested in going to her wedding. I was more than excited, but then she told me that I would only come as a guest, and only to the reception. I'm not even one of her bridesmaids! I've never been a bridesmaid, nonetheless ever been to a wedding!

[Mermaid Galene]

I'm so sorry. I know how it feels to lose a beloved fish.

[Mermaid Mystery]

false alarm, thank god he's barely alive. he's had his head under the mossball and his fins are clamped so I'll see what I can do.


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[Mermaid Olivia!]

Sorry to hear your betta isn't doing well. I lost my crowntail betta Jose about a month ago-I'd had him for two years and he had been my buddy when I was living in the dorm at college. He was already grown when I got him, so I think he just passed from old age, but he lived a full and happy life! I hope your little guy feels better soon.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Thank you! I'm at rehearsals for three hours so hopefully he's still hanging in there when I get home


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[Rebekah.fish]

I'm having a similar issue with my childhood best friend. We've been best friends for 20 years now (I don't look as old as I am), and she asked me if I was interested in going to her wedding. I was more than excited, but then she told me that I would only come as a guest, and only to the reception. I'm not even one of her bridesmaids! I've never been a bridesmaid, nonetheless ever been to a wedding!

:/ that stinks celeste have u been far apart?

[-Annwyn-]

I'm having a similar issue with my childhood best friend. We've been best friends for 20 years now (I don't look as old as I am), and she asked me if I was interested in going to her wedding. I was more than excited, but then she told me that I would only come as a guest, and only to the reception. I'm not even one of her bridesmaids! I've never been a bridesmaid, nonetheless ever been to a wedding!

I've been offerred to be a bridesmaid/maid of honour 3 times.

First was my sister - maid of honour. She threatened several times to kick me out of the group but eventually didn't. It was a horrible wedding and I got blind drunk. My sister even pushed me away when I went to hug her as she was about to leave at the end of the night.

Second was my boyfriends sisters wedding. She invited me to be a bridesmaid but then soon kicked me out.

Third was my (now ex-friend)'s wedding. She too, invited me to be a bridesmaid only to kick me out.

The last two kicked me out mainly because I was doing nightshifts at the time and it didn't suit them for meetings, etc (even though I made it to the fittings as a zombie)

So no more. Anyone who wants me to be a bridesmaid can go and get fucked. It's not worth the hassle of dealing with the bride.

Needless to say I hate the concept of marriage and weddings.

[Mermaid Mystery]

you know what really grinds my gears? people who put their magictail skin on backwards


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[Mermaid Jaffa]

you know what really grinds my gears? people who put their magictail skin on backwards


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It was an accident!!! I put the foil in but was so excited, I didn't check which side it was!

[Merman Arion]

you know what really grinds my gears? people who put their magictail skin on backwards

LOL

I know the feeling. It's even more embarrassing when we see that on professional photos