B!TC# IT OUT!

[Naufra]

I would have to prove to him how testicles aren't as delicate as guys say they are.

Pearlie, you're awesome. Would you like a rawhide mallet or a dead-fall hammer for this demonstration? I'd be happy to assist in the name of science.

[PearlieMae]

Pearlie, you're awesome. Would you like a rawhide mallet or a dead-fall hammer for this demonstration? I'd be happy to assist in the name of science.

:-D I have a pair of vintage Doc Martin's that should fill the bill nicely!

[Merman Dan]

I would have to prove to him how testicles aren't as delicate as guys say they are.

I'll just leave this here...

[Adalira]

It feels like forever since i have last been here.
I have missed all of you!
I have been working super hard and extremely long days.
The house we live in was still for sale all this time. My parents actually offered us to buy it for a very low price.
We tried to but could not get an appointment with the bank, so we wanted to seek out a different bank or some other way.
Then my mom asks me if it is ok that they sell the house for a much larger amount to other people. If so, they will help us out with building a new house on their land.
We thought that that was a great option as well. off course we would not take a house for free, never.
But since my hubby and i are business owners it is extremely hard to get a loan or morgage, not just extremely hard, it is impossible since banks feel that having your own business is not a steady income even though you can proof that it is.
So if my parents would be able to help us out we could simply pay them back monthly amounts which would be great.
Today we got the phone call that this house is sold and we have to be out by Decembre 1st.
BUT!!! Here it comes....my mom said on the phone:" So you need to go to the bank asap and get a loan for a house."
I was shocked and lost for words, then i explained to her that our own bank did not even want to talk with us about a possible loan since we are business owners.
Not to mention the fact that if we build on their land no bank will give us a loan since we do not own the land but my parents.
To a bank not even owning the land is an extra risk.
So what do you do now you may wonder....well...we have no clue.
We have been investing in our business the past months and our business has been growing and growing which is great. But if we had known we would not have my parents help out financially we would have no invested like we did and looked at other options.
I am stressed out and upset.
Off course it is my parents money and they can spend it as they please, i only wish they would have given us a heads up when they changed their minds about helping us out, would it have killed them to talk to us about having changed their minds? A little heads up?
My mom was in a complete panic since they have an entire building to unpack before decembre first, yet they are not willing to come home early from the holiday they are on.
We still have so much work to do, to try and even get the building permit to build a house on their land, then find the right house building company and then to get the job done.
And we have 4 months to do it in.
I had 2 building companies that had ok prices for the wooden houses. I talked to both of them today and one of them called me back this afternoon. Well....turned out i misunderstood him in every conversation, however that is possible. And the houses he builds are €100.000 more then he said to me a few months back so that is a no no.
The other company has houses that are around 100m2 (what we are looking for since we work from home as well) and prices around €40.000 but this is roof tiles, excluding foundation, gas electric and water installation and you have to put a kitchen in, bathroom etc.
At this point i have no idea if we are able to afford anything.
Renting is a problem for us as well since we work from home and have and need all our supplies at home to do our work, i may have to look into renting again.
My hubby is from America and he has said our other option is to move to America, we live in the Netherlands now.
That would mean selling everything we have asap and starting all over from scratch since the move alone will not be cheap and then finding a house in America, getting my dog there as well......
If you think hard work is paying off.....well forget it!
I have been working my ass off the past months, working non stop, haven't had a holiday in years and we are still in shit. Sure our business is growing and sales have almost tripled this year but does the bank care? Nope.
After all this hard work we still are at a point where we are stuck.
I was just about to take this weekend off since i have been dealing with a bad foot (most likely tendonitis) for weeks and weeks now and have been working non stop.
I did try to lay on the bed but still working in bed with the laptop.
Finally i thought i could rest this weekend only to hear this news and my hubby telling me :" We will not be able to rest at all the next 4 months.."
I just want to ...................you know?

[Naufra]

I'm back in my old home turf of New England for about a week, and I forgot to tell my big brother that I would be in the area, so now he's feeling quite hurt that I didn't tell him and even though he said he could still get time off work to visit with me he declined when I tried to make plans with him. So now I think he's mad at me and I feel like such a huge jerk. Trying to arrange to see any of my friends or anyone who isn't related by blood has been awful, getting a solid schedule has been like trying to nail jello to a wall so I had no idea what to tell anyone when they asked which days to take off from work or where we could meet, which left a lot of people who were hoping to see me feeling put-out. I should have at least told him, though. I'm such an awful little sister.

[Echidna]

I'm so sorry, Adalira.
I wondered where you went!

And yes, working like an ox does not pay off in Europe (you'd have to do something illegal or unethical to become rich here...), space and houses cost a life's ransom in the denser populated areas, and living isn't cheap either.

So I can relate.
We've been looking to relocate forever, but it's too darn expensive, and I cannot imagine getting to overseas with my 2 little ones.
It feels like being stuck, and all that ever comes up is

[Adalira]

I'm back in my old home turf of New England for about a week, and I forgot to tell my big brother that I would be in the area, so now he's feeling quite hurt that I didn't tell him and even though he said he could still get time off work to visit with me he declined when I tried to make plans with him. So now I think he's mad at me and I feel like such a huge jerk. Trying to arrange to see any of my friends or anyone who isn't related by blood has been awful, getting a solid schedule has been like trying to nail jello to a wall so I had no idea what to tell anyone when they asked which days to take off from work or where we could meet, which left a lot of people who were hoping to see me feeling put-out. I should have at least told him, though. I'm such an awful little sister.

You are not ann awful sister. You simply forgot.
You know what that makes you? That makes you human, nothing more, nothing less.
If you have told you brother that you simply forgot, that should have been enough for him.
The fact that he is now not wanting to see you is not your fault but his, and it is his loss nor yours.
From what you write i can see you are doing the best you can and the people that love you will now and will wait for a next time to be able to see you.
I have a friend who lives in the next town from me, we rarely see each other and we rarely email since she is very ill.
When she does email she is always apologetic and i always tell her to stop apologizing. We will see each other when we see each other and we will write when we write.
True friendship and truly loving and caring for someone means there is no time limit to when you have to see each other or write or anything.
So do not worry or beat yourself up about it.

[Adalira]

I'm so sorry, Adalira.
I wondered where you went!

And yes, working like an ox does not pay off in Europe (you'd have to do something illegal or unethical to become rich here...), space and houses cost a life's ransom in the denser populated areas, and living isn't cheap either.

So I can relate.
We've been looking to relocate forever, but it's too darn expensive, and I cannot imagine getting to overseas with my 2 little ones.
It feels like being stuck, and all that ever comes up is

I know exactly how you feel, it sure feels like the only way to make money is to do something illegal which we are not prepared to do, if only i were more of a bad ass without a conscience
I even told my hubby yesterday:' I have been working my ass of for years now without a holiday...and what good did it do us? We are still in the same place as we were years ago."
And to top it off, about a month ago i was able to finally put exercising into my daily routine again so i decided to start up slowly so i would not overdo it....and i got repaid with a nice case of tendonitis in my right ankle. How lovely.
I kept on walking and working the next 2 weeks until it got so painful that my hubby demanded i stay in bed as much as possible while he did most of the chores and work for me. He brought me my laptop in bed so i could at least do all my computer work everyday ( about 6 hours every day of work on that thing)
My foot is slowly getting better even though it is still in pain and i have decided not to stay in bed anymore and just get back to work. No other choice at the moment.
One positive thing happened though, this morning when i woke up i remembered having talking to a 3rd building company and i looked it up and remembered the man told me that 100m2 is around €20.000 for the house and then probably another €20.000 for the foundation, installment of electric, gas and water etc. So that is already a much better price for us. We will have to contact them on Monday to see how fast they would be able to deliver the house.
That does take the pressure of a bit but we still have a long road ahead of us to figure out what we can do.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

At least something's looking up, Adalira!

So sorry about the tendon. I've started working out again too. I miss the physical prowess I had when I was doing Martial Arts. I left just as I started to earn the title of "Martial Artist" because I was terrified of the responsibility of being a black belt. Stupidest decision of my life. Of course I was eleven, but still.

Good luck with the house, I hope that all works out nicely.

And about the lactation mansplaining. Even men can lactate and successfully feed children. I can't remember when, but I DO know that a European man fed his babies when his wife died in childbirth. (Just so the asshat can't say "well, probably only in little villages in Africa" or some such bullshit.)

[Merman Chatfish]

And about the lactation mansplaining. Even men can lactate and successfully feed children. I can't remember when, but I DO know that a European man fed his babies when his wife died in childbirth. (Just so the asshat can't say "well, probably only in little villages in Africa" or some such bullshit.)

I want to do that...that way my wife can relax, plus a better bonding experience.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I want montrose merman's head on a stake

[AniaR]

I want montrose merman's head on a stake

What he do now?

[Mermaid Mystery]

he just popped up on my Facebook wall as a "suggested friend" and so I thought I'd look to see if he gave up or not. instead I see this which has so many things wrong with it I don't know where to start

and he thinks he's going to merfest, lol nope if you think harassing everyone in the community including minors is okay you're probably not welcome

also I see him using his other account to like all his "burn" posts

[Echidna]

If he'd just posted the photo, it might have counted as a certain kind of humour.
But with that text...
no wonder this dude had a hard time at Merfest.

[SeaGlass Siren]

That's it. Burn the bitch.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I just went lookin for it and now I can't find it

[Fun123joker]

YOU GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME
THE ONE WEEK WE ARRIVE IN FLORDIA TO SWIM AND SHIT IS THE WEEK OF MY PERIOD. MY PARENTS WENT OUT TO BREAKFEST WITHOUT ME AND NOW I NEED TO SOMEHOW SMUGGLE TAMPONS BECAUSE MY MOM IS CRAZY RELIGOUS SHE WONT LET ME WEAR TAMPONS. I HAVE NO CASH AND MY ONLY HOPE IS MY DAD BUT BECAUSE HE'S A GOOD HUSBAND HE IS STILL GONNA TELL MY MOM

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im probably gonna ask for money and see if there are any shops near by that sells them

[SeaGlass Siren]

shouldnt the ladies washrooms have 25cent tampon dispensers?

[Celaeno]

She won't let you wear tampons?! What?!

[Celaeno]

shouldnt the ladies washrooms have 25cent tampon dispensers?

Oh, good point!