B!TC# IT OUT!

[Ciriun]

Ugh, don't know if I'm sick or what, but my head has felt floaty all day and I feel like I'm barely coherent. Really hoping this is some sort of residual effect from flying recently and then not getting enough sleep because that means it should go away soon. Stupid useless oversensitive inner ears.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow this thread was busy today.
Feel better, Ciriun.
Good luck, Chatfish.
Go Keiris for not mansplaining. Yay for kicking out the manipulator, Lotus!
That SUCKS Phaylenn.
I hope you manage to swim a little soon, to all those who haven't had opportunities lately. (I usually swim solo, myself).

And yes, Adalira, I get payed for library work. (It is AWESOME).

And SeaGlass, there is much more to library work than it seems, right?

I'm TECHNICALLY just a shelver (my library employs two shelvers) but that still ends up getting complicated by all of the things you just listed.

Weeding may be my personal hell. Or rather, unweeded sections. Our mother library (we're our town's south branch) just keeps throwing books at us and we're running out of space. They are literally using us as their personal trash can. They don't want a book? They send it to us.

It is now impossible to shelve biographies. At all. Those shelves are CRAMMED. And I have a giant stack of about twenty unshelved biographies that just don't fit.

Gah.

[Celaeno]

My husband talked to his friend tonight and asked him to leave! He's moving out at the end of this month so I only have to deal with him for another 2 weeks!! Whoo!!!! Thank God!!! I feel so relieved!! Thank you all for your encouragement!!!(^.^)

Oh good! I'm so glad you're going to be out of that stressful situation soon.

[Adalira]

My husband talked to his friend tonight and asked him to leave! He's moving out at the end of this month so I only have to deal with him for another 2 weeks!! Whoo!!!! Thank God!!! I feel so relieved!! Thank you all for your encouragement!!!(^.^)

WOOOHOO!!!! * does a happy dance behind her laptop* that is fantastic news!
Only 2 more weeks....those will fly by and then you have your peace and quiet back!
Yay!!!

[Adalira]

4 months in a new town and haven't even come close to making a friend, or even hanging out with people I went to high school with. More and more I think what people tell me, and so far I have only had one real friend since I was 5, and we were friends for only about 3 months. I have no idea how to make friends anymore, I can't tell apart an aquantince from a friend, seems like I am constantly pissing off people at work. I am not the only person at work from out of town but they seem to be friends with the coworkers, and I am lucky if some of them even talk to me. Sometimes when I watch OITNB and they talk about Solitary confinement it almost seems that would be better...at least you know you won't see anyone or talk to anyone...here there is hope that keeps getting crushed.

I am not sure if you saw it but i wrote a reply to you in Advice Central and i think that still applies from what i read here.
True friendship is very very rare and hard to find.
True friends you have in your daily life is very rare if you ask me.
My closests friends, the true friends, are the ones i have online.
I have maybe a few close friends in real life who i talk to/see mostly online as well.
In these days with life being so hectic, everyone (inlcuding myself) being busy busy busy, things changing so fast, travelling being so much easier so people move a lot more etc, it is even more difficult to find friends in real life.
Just make sure to let eveything flow naturally. If you make a new friend in your town, that's great, if not, then not.
Do not focus on it too much. It's the same with people who want to find their soulmate....the more they look the less chance they will find it.
The moment you least expect it, things will happen.
Friendship is truly overrated if you ask me. The true friends that will always be there for you are rare and some may never find that.
But one thing is for sure though, your mer community IS always here :-)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Wow this thread was busy today.
Feel better, Ciriun.
Good luck, Chatfish.
Go Keiris for not mansplaining. Yay for kicking out the manipulator, Lotus!
That SUCKS Phaylenn.
I hope you manage to swim a little soon, to all those who haven't had opportunities lately. (I usually swim solo, myself).

And yes, Adalira, I get payed for library work. (It is AWESOME).

And SeaGlass, there is much more to library work than it seems, right?

I'm TECHNICALLY just a shelver (my library employs two shelvers) but that still ends up getting complicated by all of the things you just listed.

Weeding may be my personal hell. Or rather, unweeded sections. Our mother library (we're our town's south branch) just keeps throwing books at us and we're running out of space. They are literally using us as their personal trash can. They don't want a book? They send it to us.

It is now impossible to shelve biographies. At all. Those shelves are CRAMMED. And I have a giant stack of about twenty unshelved biographies that just don't fit.

Gah.

Preach it Sabrina!

if possible you could have a used book sale! My public library does that. They have a section for free books and another few for other books that thy sell for one or 2 dollars. You guys make money AND you get rid of it.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Thank you, is rather not be famous though. Lol I can't imagine the pressure there is to be famous. A large part of the problem is that I live quite a distance from any pool, I only have open water on the east coast of nova Scotia (so very cold) to swim in. So I really don't have much swimming time at all. I still just feel like my gear and tail would be put to better use with someone who can use it often.

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I understand! It's ultimately up to you! I know that there's probably a mer who would absolutely love to have your gear, and who knows? Maybe you could end up moving and pick up mermaiding again in the future? Either way, the beauty of mermaiding is the freedom it brings! You get to decide what you do with it and when! I hope everything works out for you, mersis!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Thanks, everyone!!! I seriously am just so relieved. (^.^)

[Merman Chatfish]

AHHH! Work! I have to be back at work in about 12 hours to check chemicals then 4 hours later lifeguard. I figure since it hasn't been done in a week, I would put in the vacuum tonight and take it out tomorrow. Boy the moment I say vacuum people go nuts. "Oh the pool looks fine" says one manager, "It looks fine". Ok, no, there are lines of sand in the deep end and a sand bar forming near the underwater bench. This isn't Valley View (the other pool our city runs), we don't vacuum once the entire summer. Plus no-one else seems to do it so if I don't do it it doesn't get done (and I don't buy into the "oh the summer is almost over" thing). I asked a manager if he could leave the door to the room open so I can get the vacuum since I left my keys in my car (I am a manager too).

The main manager for today (we are so low on staff all of the management staff has to guard every day) won't give them to me so I have to go to my car to get them. Then while I am cleaning and putting in the vacuum instead of him going home sits at the front desk and plays on his phone getting more and more pissed off at me. When I told him I said he could go home he said he was told by our supervisor he is suppose to stay until I leave. I don't really buy that, plus someone has to put it in at some point, and no matter what its 15 extra minutes at work. And of course since I have the keys I can just go back in anyways to put the vacuum in. Heck, the other night I couldn't sleep and I thought about going in off the clock to vacuum manually instead of the automatic vacuum.

[Raayvhen]

Someone linked Raina's giveaway on a facebook group and now I'm starting to see people basically begging on accounts barely used prior to this.

[Mermaid Kelda]

*shrug* let them beg. There was no condition for how active you have to be to win, and it's down to Raina's discretion anyway. I'm sure it'll go to someone who deserves it

[Mermaid Jaffa]

4 months in a new town and haven't even come close to making a friend, or even hanging out with people I went to high school with. More and more I think what people tell me, and so far I have only had one real friend since I was 5, and we were friends for only about 3 months. I have no idea how to make friends anymore, I can't tell apart an aquantince from a friend, seems like I am constantly pissing off people at work. I am not the only person at work from out of town but they seem to be friends with the coworkers, and I am lucky if some of them even talk to me. Sometimes when I watch OITNB and they talk about Solitary confinement it almost seems that would be better...at least you know you won't see anyone or talk to anyone...here there is hope that keeps getting crushed.

Same. I don't have any friends, not counting mernetwork, lots of friends here. I mean people I can out with, show my weavings to etc. I had 4 closest besties in high school but that was almost 30 years ago, I've since found them again on fb. But we are not as close as we were when in high school. They've all gone and got married and have kids. We have nothing in common anymore. Our interests have changed. I don't bother making friends because I find it too much of an effort to weed out the bad ones from the good. And if they don't have the same interests as me, there is nothing to talk about. Maybe I'm too fussy or lazy. Or too late, because they have kids and that's all they talk about, whereas I don't. And got nothing to say about that. So you see, Chatfish, you are not alone in this loneliness!

[Naufra]

As thrilled as I am to be at a convention, I just spent what little sleep-time I had allotted myself for last night worrying about falling off the bed instead of sleeping, and at several points during the night I looked over my shoulder to find my sister practically spooning me in her sleep. Hotels need bigger beds.

[Merman Chatfish]

I am not sure if you saw it but i wrote a reply to you in Advice Central and i think that still applies from what i read here.
True friendship is very very rare and hard to find.
True friends you have in your daily life is very rare if you ask me.
My closests friends, the true friends, are the ones i have online.
I have maybe a few close friends in real life who i talk to/see mostly online as well.
In these days with life being so hectic, everyone (inlcuding myself) being busy busy busy, things changing so fast, travelling being so much easier so people move a lot more etc, it is even more difficult to find friends in real life.
Just make sure to let eveything flow naturally. If you make a new friend in your town, that's great, if not, then not.
Do not focus on it too much. It's the same with people who want to find their soulmate....the more they look the less chance they will find it.
The moment you least expect it, things will happen.
Friendship is truly overrated if you ask me. The true friends that will always be there for you are rare and some may never find that.
But one thing is for sure though, your mer community IS always here :-)

I just responded over there #52

[Mermaid Mystery]

I just found out two things about the direct care at my former treatment facility. one is pregnant and I'm so happy for her even if I can't respond. the other was fired while I was there (I was aware) but I think I may be responsible. this was almost a year ago but I still feel awful.

[Adalira]

I just responded over there #52

Saw it and responded, as did another mer before me :-)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ok so I've moved into my place yay ! But it did not go smoothly. My mother inlaw went around the house snooping not even asking once if she can take a look around and states doing the water splashing thing in each room (against my wishes) and made a huge mess in the kitchen after bringing BBQ pork (after she knows I can't eat it) and I tell her I really can't eat it so she tells me to just have bread. Like bitch I am moving boxes and all you're giving me is bread? And then when she leaves she doesn't even clean up her mess.
Then yesterday my father in law came and ate over the sink and were telling him to use a plate because I just cleaned the sink and he's like "I'm eating it clean!" Like bitch there's sesame seeds all over the floor and the sink don't tell me that's clean.
Rage. So much rage.

[Celaeno]

I'm sorry your in-laws are so disrespectful. Do they not listen to your husband either? It's your house, they need to respect your space and your rules when they're there.

[SeaGlass Siren]

And a few days before that I went to my sisters wedding rehearsal and my mom told me she couldn't come (she told me previously that she would but then suddenly made plans with her friends) and already most of my friends had to bail on me after they said they would go so I'm already in a pissed off state so I go "fine do whatever you want"
so then my dad pulls me aside and starts bitching at me and tellin me I'm crazy and that I need to see a shrink if something is wrong with me and that I should stop taking birthcontrol an that my bitchy attitude is killing my mom and I I don't stop I will never be successful.
1) uncalled for
2) insulting because I actually did try to kill myself. Multiple times in the past but I'm over it now. But this was incredibly insulting because he never did anything to help me.
3) on top of which he never let me get a chance to explain why I was angry in the dies place and just kept shouting over me telling me t stop being disrespectful
4) who the fuck says that sort of thing to their own child?
5) bitch I own my own house and graduated school and organized my wedding literally without his help. Don't tell me I'm not successful. Look towards your youngest spoiled as fuck daughter who is leaching off you and cant get her life together.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm sorry your in-laws are so disrespectful. Do they not listen to your husband either? It's your house, they need to respect your space and your rules when they're there.

Literally no. Had this exact same problem when we were organizing the wedding as well. Like im sorry but if you think boiled leaf water will bring us luck and fortune , it won't. How much luck can you bring when you beat your own family members