Aaaaand, guess who's making her wedding cake now!
Aaaaand, guess who's making her wedding cake now!
Not gonna bitch about my hard day at work as it was much harder for my students. I'm exhausted but hopeful.
I'm a Counselor for International students for UCs (University of California) in lower So CA. Spent my day getting emergency crisis centers prepared for my 163 French students and notifying them.
Here's a silver lining: Within an hour over 100 French students showed to the crisis center to get support; but with them were other students from over a dozen countries and from 6 different religions arm in arm to support their French classmates. I saw this evening a Muslim young woman covered all but for her eyes locked in an embrace with a young French woman. They are all sitting vigil together now; supporting each other. I saw many acts of love and kindness between young people of differing religion and cultures and I loved it and felt hope. This is why I love my job.
I stayed till I I knew our crisis intervention team was set to keep open all weekend then came home to my family. I needed a hug.
We sat in the crisis center as they tried to reach friends and family...and here's what I want to say and here's my bitch:
I came home and saw some very anti Muslim sentiments across the interwebz...and it broke my heart. I ended my relationship with my mertender tonight over his anti-Muslim views. And wow, did that break my heart. But I can't continue to ignore that his anti-Muslim beliefs fly completely in the face of people I have worked my whole career to protect and advocate for. When the Boston bombing happened there was an attack upon our school campus. I remember hearing the lock down order and locking my office door and pulling the 2 young Saudi girls under my desk with me. We were quiet but this young lady said, "We didn't do anything..." the look in her eyes...of fear...
I don't understand why people can't differentiate Muslims from extreme fundamentalists.
My heart is broken tonight but thank you for providing me the place to vent it.
Also, I just want to say, the nasty sarcastic comments and gifs above really turned my stomach and kind of made me feel like perhaps this wasn't an ok place to voice my "bitch".
Calizaire: You have such a sweet heart! I'm sure it was difficult ending things with your mertender, but I'm glad you made it clear that prejudice will bit be tolerated. That's an important step in moving forward. I was about to echo what SeaGlass said earlier. I feel so bad for Muslims and how the media so often lumps them together with extremists. Every group has extremists. It's unfortunate that they're the ones that get the press. I am so glad that so many understand that there's a difference and that you got to witness such beautiful human fellowship in the midst of such a tragedy.
Also no need to worry about the sarcastic comments made prior. After reading them, I believe that both Tieri and Momo were trying to make sure the conversation stayed on track to honor the victims. This is a safe place for certain.
Formerly known as Lotus_Blooming
Well spoken Calizaire! I agree with all that you said!
What pisses me off is that there are actually people on tv saying that we need to look at this from the terrorists point of view and that the only reason they did this is because we don't listen to what they have to say.
Are you kidding me?
I don't care who you are or what religion you have or what color your skin is.....murdering people is never ok and never ever the answer to get others attention, that makes you a monster plain and simple
What is wrong with your wedding cake? Do you mean you have to bake it yourself?Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
Aaaaand, guess who's making her wedding cake now!
My dream wedding cake is from Choccywoccydoodah in England, it will most likely stay a dream though.
I had a fake wedding cake :| didn't even have a cake.
back on the Paris topic, agreeing with adalira. If you want your voice heard, don't kill the people you want to hear in the first place. There are other more effective ways of being heard. This will only make people hate you and ignore you. A durr!
Love always wins out in the end.
The SeaGlass Siren
Definitely a safe space, Calizaire.
I think many of us worry for those innocents that are going to get heat for this.
Skip the wedding and go to the islands. I had a ridiculous expensive fairy wedding and all I did was build a shit list when people who rsvp yes didn't show up and I still had to pay for their meal.
This Paris thing is so upsetting. My son said "all his islands crashed" to explain how he felt. It's a heartbreaking reference to the movie inside out.
I am so sad my kids are seeing the world we seem to be devolving into and not shocked when another college campus gets shot up.
And there are still people on fb upset over a coffee cup.
These are dark dark times and dark dark hearts. It's very scary. So glad our friends and family are ok
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I read your status to my husband. And his heart broke and he got really upset because we both know how he's feeling. Very numb.
The SeaGlass Siren
:-(
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There have also been attacks in Syria, Nigeria, Yemen, Lebanon, Somalia,Libya, South Sudan, Iraq, Palestine, and Kenya, but the media isn't covering any of those. My heart goes out to all of those affected by the attacks.
Yeah, Shannon, Momo.
It's just going all to hell, isn't it?
Actually I think that Echidna is in the right here, yes it was an 'I told you so' and it could have waited. But seriously, the group that has claimed responsibility SAID months ago that they were sending attackers in with the refugees. They were ballsy enough to say it because countries that were opening their borders to any and all comers had NO way to screen all of the refugees without risking being labeled as Islamaphobes. People who voiced concerns were labeled as intolerant, even here on Mernetwork, and they were just talking about being worried that something like this MIGHT happen.
Take the wave now and know that you're freeTurn your back on the land face the seaFace the wind now so wild and so strongWhen you think of meWave to me and send me a song
I'm not going to argue border laws right now.
People need to be protected.
The people of the West AND the people of the Middle-East.
I could not agree with you more about this.
I too shared my concerns and i think i literally even said that we feared that members of isis were coming in Europe amongst the refugees to start an attack.
These terrorist were staying in Belgium, they came into Europe from Syria through Greece where they got let in as refugees.
Exactly what we feared happened and this will not be the last horrible thing that will happen.
Luckily the governments have started to do more check ups the past few weeks, they were able to arrest a man who came in as a refugee in Germany, murdered his wife in the refugee camp and then tried to get into Holland. A man from Africa was arrested with a pile of passports in his room, turned out a warrent for his arrest was out for murdering at least 13 people in various countries in Africa.
If only they keep up a good screening process we can prevent these rotten apples from coming in so we can actually give help to the people who truly need it.
It is awfull to see how little of the news we actually get to see, not to mention how so called journalists don't even give the actual truth or facts of what is going on.
This afternoon i told my parents some things i heard about the Paris attack and even though they had just watched the news, the information i gave them from last night was completly new to them and not told on the news. Just like the eartquake in Japan was not mentioned anywhere.
We had a group of young people sent in a video to the tv stations a while back to get themselves into publicity, what the video showed was a muslim woman in a burka walking in the mall and her grocery bags ripped and her food was all over the floor and it appeared that no one tried to help her. The video was meant to show how awfull Dutch people were that they would not help a muslim woman.
Little did these filmers know that bystanders were filming THEM with their phones to show how they made the video. The video's of the bystanders showed people wanted to help her but the filmers (outside of the camera's reach off course) blocked them and told them not to help (blocking their way) saying that they were making a movie. Why on earth would you make a video like that just to cause drama that is invalid?
I have no idea what is becoming of the world we are living in today
I'm sorry this is so less severe than whats going on in Paris, My heart goes out to them. I just needed a safe space to vent my frustration today.
I recently moved back home after living out of state for two years, thinking it would be a good reunion with my family. I've very liberal, and they are not, so we hardly ever see eye to eye on a lot of topics. Living away from them was the best years ive had with my family relationship wise.
My entire family views me as the black sheep, and ive suffered through emotional abuse most of my life. It has grown really severe in the last few years when I started gaining my own opinions about the world. I'm constantly called lazy, worthless. I'm overweight, so my family often accuses me of eating all the food in the house, but in reality its my alcoholic father who gets into the kitchen very late at night.
My brother and I got into a spat this morning about his pot smoking, in a rage he tore apart my room and then kicked me down and beat on me.
I had to convince my mother to take me to the ER, because she didn't believe me when I said I think my foot was broken. It is. Fifth metatarsal bone fracture. I wanted to press assault charges against him, but my mother threaten to kick me out of the house if I do..Because she doesn't want to lose her grandchild(His kid). So she sat in the ER with me, telling the nurse that I fell, because im clumsy.. My mom keeps telling me that if I just 'didn't start shit' None of this would have happened. And I'm just sitting here.. dumfounded. I feel like it will only be a matter of time before he hits my niece or his girlfriend.
I'm not really looking for advice because I'm working on plans to leave very soon. I just needed a place to vent that isn't facebook.
I'm so mad I can't swim for two months
Oh, Kaiju.
Won't give any advice, as requested, just: good luck. Good luck. Good luck. My heart goes out to to you.
(Or, as I'm more liable to actually say, GIVE THOSE BASTARDS HELL)
I'll be thinking about you for sure!
Oh my god Kaiju.....i am soooo sorry to hear about this!
I wont give any advice either like you requested.
Know that we are all here for you if you need to vent or need to talk.
If you prefer talking in private or vent privately feel free to pm me anytime!
Sending you lots of warm gentle hugs!
Please be safe!
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