B!TC# IT OUT!

**Mermaid Clara** · 11-19-2015, 11:22 AM

My aunt commented some rude things on my Facebook posts about me being upset about working on Thanksgiving and my schedule being changed making me work until 11pm instead of having to work 4 hours like my schedule original said. She thinks I'm being unthankful for my new job and that they are actually giving me hours compared to my last job. It's not that she said them it's just they way she said them I couldn't tell if she was being super rude or just being sarcastic.

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**PearlieMae** · 11-19-2015, 11:55 AM

Re: Procrastination...I have a little trick that helps me when I feet scattered and unfocused. You'll need a kitchen time with an alarm and a dice (die?)

1. Make a list of six things that you need to work on, number them 1 to 6

2. Roll your dice and the number that comes up is the first thing you'll work on.

3. Set your kitchen timer for 15 minutes and work on that thing for that 15 minutes.

4. When the alarm goes off, you get to choose continue working on that thing for another fifteen minutes, or roll the dice and work on the new thing for fifteen minutes.

This way, you tackle your tasks in small chunks and things get done a little bit at a time...until your brain settles in to concentrate on the one thing that you keep setting your timer for fifteen more minutes.

Also, remember to stay hydrated. Being a little dehydrated can de-focus your attention drastically!

As for stress:

Go buy a big bag of ice, you know the kind...like when you're filling up a cooler for a picnic. Couple of bucks, tops. Go out into your driveway or someplace where there's a brick wall and throw ice cubes as hard as you can at the wall or the ground, smashing them to little bits. It's very satisfying to watch them explode and you burn off some of the stress energy with physical activity. By the time you're done with a five pound bag of ice, you'll feel like you could take on the world! (I like yelling when I throw, too, ninja-style.)

Weird, but they work for me!

**Grey Gambit** · 11-19-2015, 12:12 PM

Originally Posted by PearlieMae

As for stress:

Go buy a big bag of ice, you know the kind...like when you're filling up a cooler for a picnic. Couple of bucks, tops. Go out into your driveway or someplace where there's a brick wall and throw ice cubes as hard as you can at the wall or the ground, smashing them to little bits. It's very satisfying to watch them explode and you burn off some of the stress energy with physical activity. By the time you're done with a five pound bag of ice, you'll feel like you could take on the world! (I like yelling when I throw, too, ninja-style.)

Weird, but they work for me!

I may have to try that; but I may just wait for it to snow again. :P

I've been getting really stressed out with my classes this semester, especially with biology because we had to to a group lab report a few weeks ago. Well... times up and no one knows where the most up to date version is and it was supposed to be submitted last Thursday. DX So the teacher told me just find a draft that's mostly put together and submit that today. I have classes almost back to back on Thursdays and won't have any time until 7, and I have another test due tonight for math and have to register for next spring.

I've been pretty good with keeping up with all my work until we hit the group project. At least now I know for next semester to watch out for those...

**Mermaid Clara** · 11-19-2015, 01:00 PM

Ugh my dad is fat shaming me again today, he hasn't done it in like a month or two. So I guess I should have been expecting it to come but f**k you! I'm happy being me!
If anyone else is going through this I found this quote by JK Rowling! It's a good quote to live by.

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**Sabrina the Selkie** · 11-19-2015, 03:20 PM

That IS a good quote.
Tell your dad to f*ck off.

**SeaGlass Siren** · 11-19-2015, 05:28 PM

Ugh.
just...

ugh.

tell your dad to -- oh wait Sabrina beat me to it

**Imogen Finnly** · 11-19-2015, 05:39 PM

I am trying to start a project where people would donate bags and I'd stuff em with toiletries ( for the homeless). And I asked my mom if her church wanted to donate and right away she was like "oh mija I do think know. They are busy, and I do think think so" like wtf. Every time in my life where I wanted her to do something and she didn't like the idea she would shoot me down with asked bullshit excuse like that.
"Wanna go to the beach?
"Mija, I have to shower, iron clothes, your father wouldn't want to baby sit (a 7 pound dog), if would have to shower and get ready..."
Oh Jesus fucking christ.

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**Mermaid Momo** · 11-19-2015, 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by Imogen Finnly

I am trying to start a project where people would donate bags and I'd stuff em with toiletries ( for the homeless). And I asked my mom if her church wanted to donate and right away she was like "oh mija I do think know. They are busy, and I do think think so" like wtf. Every time in my life where I wanted her to do something and she didn't like the idea she would shoot me down with asked bullshit excuse like that.
"Wanna go to the beach?
"Mija, I have to shower, iron clothes, your father wouldn't want to baby sit (a 7 pound dog), if would have to shower and get ready..."
Oh Jesus fucking christ.

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You should've told her that it's part of being a christian/catholic (I'm just guessing since you said church) to give to the poor," wouldn't your church want to give to the poor in the name of God?"

My bitch (geeze, I've been posting here a lot as of late) So I run a little business on the side to raise money while I'm in school since jobs are no where to be found. My business is creating cosplay, and j-fashion things on commission. I recently finished a princess Jasmine for myself and I've gotten a lot of people looking for Disney costumes because of that. This is just one transaction I had with a potential customer:

Customer: Hi! I want a snow white costume, how much would that be?

me: depends on how detailed you want it. I offer 3 levels of details for Disney costumes (lists out 3 levels)

customer: I wan't the third level! (level 3 is the most detailed, using luxury fabrics, lots of hand sewn beading, overlays, etc. basically I try to create something a literal magical princess would wear)

me: Great! Level 3 snow whites begin at $400 not including shipping

customer: $400??! That's a lot for a costume! why so much? Can you go down to $100?

Me: I'm sorry, but I can't, you picked the most expensive option for the costume, and the material costs alone can't be covered by $100. You can choose one of the lower options to bring the price down, but I will warn you not even the first level is going to be $100

customer: Geez! you're a rip off! I could get the same thing from Ebay!

me: Thank you for contacting me! I hope you find what you want on Ebay. Have a good day!

customer: that's all? A good business woman would barter with me!

me: I'm not going to lower my prices to try and beat a cheap, costume satin, factory made product that will fall apart within a week or two. You get what you pay for.

customer: and such bad customer service! I was going to see if I could raise my budget but nevermind now!

me: thanks for considering me! Good luck !

**Mermaid Alea** · 11-19-2015, 09:19 PM

That is frustrating Momo. I have so much respect for those of you who make clothes/costumes. I would love to get into making pretty dresses and things.

You know for all that detail you mentioned $400 isn't bad. There are dresses that are very simple looking that sell for thousands just because they are a "designer dress". I follow some costume makers on DeviantArt who have higher prices than $400.

**Saelyyia** · 11-19-2015, 09:26 PM

Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo

You should've told her that it's part of being a christian/catholic (I'm just guessing since you said church) to give to the poor," wouldn't your church want to give to the poor in the name of God?"

My bitch (geeze, I've been posting here a lot as of late) So I run a little business on the side to raise money while I'm in school since jobs are no where to be found. My business is creating cosplay, and j-fashion things on commission. I recently finished a princess Jasmine for myself and I've gotten a lot of people looking for Disney costumes because of that. This is just one transaction I had with a potential customer:

Customer: Hi! I want a snow white costume, how much would that be?

me: depends on how detailed you want it. I offer 3 levels of details for Disney costumes (lists out 3 levels)

customer: I wan't the third level! (level 3 is the most detailed, using luxury fabrics, lots of hand sewn beading, overlays, etc. basically I try to create something a literal magical princess would wear)

me: Great! Level 3 snow whites begin at $400 not including shipping

customer: $400??! That's a lot for a costume! why so much? Can you go down to $100?

Me: I'm sorry, but I can't, you picked the most expensive option for the costume, and the material costs alone can't be covered by $100. You can choose one of the lower options to bring the price down, but I will warn you not even the first level is going to be $100

customer: Geez! you're a rip off! I could get the same thing from Ebay!

me: Thank you for contacting me! I hope you find what you want on Ebay. Have a good day!

customer: that's all? A good business woman would barter with me!

me: I'm not going to lower my prices to try and beat a cheap, costume satin, factory made product that will fall apart within a week or two. You get what you pay for.

customer: and such bad customer service! I was going to see if I could raise my budget but nevermind now!

me: thanks for considering me! Good luck !

OMG I hate people like this! I also costume on the side and those people drive me nuts. Like please, my costumes run me about $300 min to make them alot of the time because of the materials I use not even counting the time that goes into the piece labor wise. The people who want everything for nothing and are just ungrateful and belligerent drive me absolutely nuts! I'm so sorry MoMo. I would of responded to them the very same way.

**Adalira** · 11-20-2015, 05:47 AM

Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo

You should've told her that it's part of being a christian/catholic (I'm just guessing since you said church) to give to the poor," wouldn't your church want to give to the poor in the name of God?"

My bitch (geeze, I've been posting here a lot as of late) So I run a little business on the side to raise money while I'm in school since jobs are no where to be found. My business is creating cosplay, and j-fashion things on commission. I recently finished a princess Jasmine for myself and I've gotten a lot of people looking for Disney costumes because of that. This is just one transaction I had with a potential customer:

Customer: Hi! I want a snow white costume, how much would that be?

me: depends on how detailed you want it. I offer 3 levels of details for Disney costumes (lists out 3 levels)

customer: I wan't the third level! (level 3 is the most detailed, using luxury fabrics, lots of hand sewn beading, overlays, etc. basically I try to create something a literal magical princess would wear)

me: Great! Level 3 snow whites begin at $400 not including shipping

customer: $400??! That's a lot for a costume! why so much? Can you go down to $100?

Me: I'm sorry, but I can't, you picked the most expensive option for the costume, and the material costs alone can't be covered by $100. You can choose one of the lower options to bring the price down, but I will warn you not even the first level is going to be $100

customer: Geez! you're a rip off! I could get the same thing from Ebay!

me: Thank you for contacting me! I hope you find what you want on Ebay. Have a good day!

customer: that's all? A good business woman would barter with me!

me: I'm not going to lower my prices to try and beat a cheap, costume satin, factory made product that will fall apart within a week or two. You get what you pay for.

customer: and such bad customer service! I was going to see if I could raise my budget but nevermind now!

me: thanks for considering me! Good luck !

Omg Momo, i have no words for that customers respons.
I in fact Lol´ed when i read "customer: $400??! That's a lot for a costume! why so much? Can you go down to $100? "
There are a lot of people out there who want to sit front row for a penny (a saying we have here).
You have given her amazing responses and seemed very calm in your responses, very professional.
She has nothing to complain about, you were kind to her and explained everything very well.
Some people prefer making drama when they don't get her way. Like a spoiled child not getting what they want from the toy store, they will create a scene, and that is what she was trying to do.
Well done on your end Momo!

**Sherielle** · 11-20-2015, 09:59 AM

Momo, your responses are PERFECTION!!!!! I love you more for this.

**nyghtelf22** · 11-20-2015, 01:38 PM

This is coming into the worst day of the year for me. I hate November. 6 years ago on the 24th I lost my 6 year old son. He was kicked in the chest by a horse. The anxiety attacks have been awful the past couple of days. I volunteered to work Thanksgiving at the hospital where I am a nurse so that I don't have to play happy. This holiday just makes me sad. I try to be thankful every day. I don't need a holiday. I just wish this month would end.

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**shimmygoddess** · 11-20-2015, 01:52 PM

This is the exact reasons why all my pricing says "Prices start at...". I do this for my mermaid page and my bellydance page and I never get people trying to negotiate anymore. For a while, I removed pricing from my dance page and got so many useless calls and wasted time, so I went back to posting prices and it saved my sanity. Now I most always just book gigs b/c they already know the pricing.

**I know your post wasn't about gig pricing, but even when I sell costuming, pricing is always posted.

Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo

You should've told her that it's part of being a christian/catholic (I'm just guessing since you said church) to give to the poor," wouldn't your church want to give to the poor in the name of God?"

My bitch (geeze, I've been posting here a lot as of late) So I run a little business on the side to raise money while I'm in school since jobs are no where to be found. My business is creating cosplay, and j-fashion things on commission. I recently finished a princess Jasmine for myself and I've gotten a lot of people looking for Disney costumes because of that. This is just one transaction I had with a potential customer:

Customer: Hi! I want a snow white costume, how much would that be?

me: depends on how detailed you want it. I offer 3 levels of details for Disney costumes (lists out 3 levels)

customer: I wan't the third level! (level 3 is the most detailed, using luxury fabrics, lots of hand sewn beading, overlays, etc. basically I try to create something a literal magical princess would wear)

me: Great! Level 3 snow whites begin at $400 not including shipping

customer: $400??! That's a lot for a costume! why so much? Can you go down to $100?

Me: I'm sorry, but I can't, you picked the most expensive option for the costume, and the material costs alone can't be covered by $100. You can choose one of the lower options to bring the price down, but I will warn you not even the first level is going to be $100

customer: Geez! you're a rip off! I could get the same thing from Ebay!

me: Thank you for contacting me! I hope you find what you want on Ebay. Have a good day!

customer: that's all? A good business woman would barter with me!

me: I'm not going to lower my prices to try and beat a cheap, costume satin, factory made product that will fall apart within a week or two. You get what you pay for.

customer: and such bad customer service! I was going to see if I could raise my budget but nevermind now!

me: thanks for considering me! Good luck !

**shimmygoddess** · 11-20-2015, 01:55 PM

That loss is too great. I hope you have loving people you can surround yourself with that will help you get through this. *sending hugs and prayers

Originally Posted by nyghtelf22

This is coming into the worst day of the year for me. I hate November. 6 years ago on the 24th I lost my 6 year old son. He was kicked in the chest by a horse. The anxiety attacks have been awful the past couple of days. I volunteered to work Thanksgiving at the hospital where I am a nurse so that I don't have to play happy. This holiday just makes me sad. I try to be thankful every day. I don't need a holiday. I just wish this month would end.

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