B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Whisper]

Sounding off...

I am autistic and depressed and have some sort of anxiety. I've recently relapsed and struggled with self-harm. Every time I do it, I get yelled at. No consolation or talking it out, just a scream of "What the f*** is that?" and then not to do it again.

My parents just separated after 10 years. My stepfather kicked my mother out. I later found out that she had been and still is doing drugs, and was doing so while she lived with us for years and years. My 20yo sister lives with us and makes drug deals through our house phone and my stepdad's work iPad. Cocaine, Adderall, heroin--anything and everything. She drinks quite a bit as well. She now has an abscess in two places on her arm from drug injections.

Recently, my 16yo and 20yo sisters, along with my dad, have been extremely secretive about something--I have yet to find what, but I know something isn't right. The 20yo sends me upstairs so she can "talk" with him, which he refuses to do with me ever unless he's stuck in the car with me. They drink together, smoke together, and have a better relationship through deceit and illicit behavior than I ever had being honest.

My dad has been telling other people about my personal life. I received a text from his mother "reminding me to call my office" to get more hours. I'm an adult, lady. Back off. It's now been my mother, dad, and all 4 sisters that have told me to get more hours. I know how to live my life! Quit telling me how I should be doing it, because all of you have done drugs and lied to people's faces for 10 years or more.

I'm so angry and distraught at this point that all of my emotional responses are gone. I feel nothing but burning. I can put up quite a ruse if I must, but I am stagnant in heart and mind.

The 20yo called me a "little b!tch" (I am way, way bigger than her) and I said "Thanks, you too." and kept browsing the web. Nothing makes me feel human, so I'm a mermaid instead


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[Mermaid Momo]

I usually don't get this pissed. Not as furious as I have been the past week. I've tried not posting about it, but dear God it's killing me. And I know I need advice on how to help her or how to not deck this little pecker in the face. 

Okay, my sister, 16, has been dating the same guy for almost a year now, next month would've been their one year. They just went to prom together, and everything was hunky dory.

I noticed subtle social media changes that made me think they may have been arguing or something. So I asked her what was up.

They broke up. Apparently the little shit told her the day before prom "as soon as prom is over, I'm done with you. I'm not done until prom is over."

I noticed she seemed significantly less excited that night and while getting ready for prom.
But I didn't want to say anything.

They went to prom, and were fine, until prom was over.... He looked at her when they got in the car and said "so are you going to give me what you know I want or not?"

Yeah. I'm fuming.

She told him heck no. And that he knew better than asking her.
He tried peer pressuring her "everyone else is" and pulling the whole "if you really love me".

She stood her ground with it, he practically shoved her out of the car when He went to drop her off.

Then, not a week later he's bragging about getting with someone who would give him what he "needed"

I bought her Ben and jerrys. And told her I'm proud of her for standing her ground.

But I am still absolutely livid over it.

She seems okay, just doesn't want to talk about it a whole lot.

What do I do? Does anyone want to send her some advice?
Heck, does someone want to send me advice before I spontaneously combust?

Tell him to square up and meet me at the park at 3

[MerMaiden Lissa]

Sounding off...

I am autistic and depressed and have some sort of anxiety. I've recently relapsed and struggled with self-harm. Every time I do it, I get yelled at. No consolation or talking it out, just a scream of "What the f*** is that?" and then not to do it again.

My parents just separated after 10 years. My stepfather kicked my mother out. I later found out that she had been and still is doing drugs, and was doing so while she lived with us for years and years. My 20yo sister lives with us and makes drug deals through our house phone and my stepdad's work iPad. Cocaine, Adderall, heroin--anything and everything. She drinks quite a bit as well. She now has an abscess in two places on her arm from drug injections.

Recently, my 16yo and 20yo sisters, along with my dad, have been extremely secretive about something--I have yet to find what, but I know something isn't right. The 20yo sends me upstairs so she can "talk" with him, which he refuses to do with me ever unless he's stuck in the car with me. They drink together, smoke together, and have a better relationship through deceit and illicit behavior than I ever had being honest.

My dad has been telling other people about my personal life. I received a text from his mother "reminding me to call my office" to get more hours. I'm an adult, lady. Back off. It's now been my mother, dad, and all 4 sisters that have told me to get more hours. I know how to live my life! Quit telling me how I should be doing it, because all of you have done drugs and lied to people's faces for 10 years or more.

I'm so angry and distraught at this point that all of my emotional responses are gone. I feel nothing but burning. I can put up quite a ruse if I must, but I am stagnant in heart and mind.

The 20yo called me a "little b!tch" (I am way, way bigger than her) and I said "Thanks, you too." and kept browsing the web. Nothing makes me feel human, so I'm a mermaid instead


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Being a mermaid is better than being human. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. hugs

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[Mermaid Mystery]

Tell him to square up and meet me at the park at 3

I'll be there too homie

[Mermaid Whisper]

Being a mermaid is better than being human. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. hugs

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I'll make it through somehow. That's why I finally jumped on getting my tail after 10 years, because things have been so terrible here that I just need to get away. I put on that tail, and I'm someone else. I don't have human worries anymore.

I know that I'm doing much better than any of them, but they ignore it and replace it with their own issues. Negative attention is all that is given here. Makes it very hard on the one person who does nothing but good.

My dad didn't even say goodnight or that he loved me...we've been doing this every night since I was young. He just told me to be up by 9 and lock up the house, then shut his door

It's 2:30am here and I'm just now winding down off the anger to sleep.

[MerMaiden Lissa]

I'll make it through somehow. That's why I finally jumped on getting my tail after 10 years, because things have been so terrible here that I just need to get away. I put on that tail, and I'm someone else. I don't have human worries anymore.

I know that I'm doing much better than any of them, but they ignore it and replace it with their own issues. Negative attention is all that is given here. Makes it very hard on the one person who does nothing but good.

My dad didn't even say goodnight or that he loved me...we've been doing this every night since I was young. He just told me to be up by 9 and lock up the house, then shut his door

It's 2:30am here and I'm just now winding down off the anger to sleep.

I've been there. I had an abusive husband, and even after getting away and starting over, the problems didn't just go away. I went through cutting, and then dating lots of wrong guys, then I finally got a good counselor and moved back with my parents. I still have some emotional baggage, but I'm finally starting to feel almost whole again. I think the first step in solving a problem like this is to find a way to get away from the bad environment. I'm glad Mermaiding can help you escape for a while at least

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[Coral Corey]

Sounding off...

I am autistic and depressed and have some sort of anxiety. I've recently relapsed and struggled with self-harm. Every time I do it, I get yelled at. No consolation or talking it out, just a scream of "What the f*** is that?" and then not to do it again.

My parents just separated after 10 years. My stepfather kicked my mother out. I later found out that she had been and still is doing drugs, and was doing so while she lived with us for years and years. My 20yo sister lives with us and makes drug deals through our house phone and my stepdad's work iPad. Cocaine, Adderall, heroin--anything and everything. She drinks quite a bit as well. She now has an abscess in two places on her arm from drug injections.

Recently, my 16yo and 20yo sisters, along with my dad, have been extremely secretive about something--I have yet to find what, but I know something isn't right. The 20yo sends me upstairs so she can "talk" with him, which he refuses to do with me ever unless he's stuck in the car with me. They drink together, smoke together, and have a better relationship through deceit and illicit behavior than I ever had being honest.

My dad has been telling other people about my personal life. I received a text from his mother "reminding me to call my office" to get more hours. I'm an adult, lady. Back off. It's now been my mother, dad, and all 4 sisters that have told me to get more hours. I know how to live my life! Quit telling me how I should be doing it, because all of you have done drugs and lied to people's faces for 10 years or more.

I'm so angry and distraught at this point that all of my emotional responses are gone. I feel nothing but burning. I can put up quite a ruse if I must, but I am stagnant in heart and mind.

The 20yo called me a "little b!tch" (I am way, way bigger than her) and I said "Thanks, you too." and kept browsing the web. Nothing makes me feel human, so I'm a mermaid instead


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I know this might be out of the question right now for many different reasons but if at all possible you should try to find a therapist. I don't mean for that to be offensive in the slightest (I go to a therapist myself for adhd and anxiety.) If that's not possible then find someone who is trustworthy and mature enough to handle this conversation to talk to about it. I know a real hug is much better but all I can offer is a virtual hug. *hugs*

[SiaTheMermaid]

So my tail just got here, which is absolutely amazing and I have yet to open it.

Heres my bitch, I paid for my tail out of my OWN money but I didnt tell my father, who i live with, the price because I just knew he would freak out. So my tail arrives at the door and I have to pay over 300 uk pounds to get it (on top of shipping etc) which im not too bothered about, I just want to see the tail I have dreamed about for years. So my father finally asks about the cost and I tell him.

He left. Just put on his jacket, called me a few names and left. I dont know if he has his keys and he has left his phone here, so I cant shower before trying on my tail nor can I film the unboxing on my own. PLUS the fact that im not really supposed to be left alone due to my anxiety/depression. I dont understand. It's my money, that I fought really hard to get. He shouldnt be this upset!

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[Mermaid Marius]

Shimmer, first of all, I can make him disappear. My dad worked for the government for years. I'm talking body guarded for Reagan. We can quietly make little pricks vanish in the night. Obviously I'm joking (murder wise, my Dad really did guard Reagan tho). Jokes aside, I'm sorry to hear this but it is definitely for the best. When I was growing up, my family always encouraged me to wait to lose my virginity until I was out of high school because 99% of the people you think you're ready to share your body with end up being jerks. That's just how it is in high school. And I found that to be extremely true. It's sad that your sister had to learn it as well but at least she didn't have to lose that piece of herself in the process. She sounds strong as hell and I hope she finds all the happiness.

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[Coral Corey]

So my tail just got here, which is absolutely amazing and I have yet to open it.

Heres my bitch, I paid for my tail out of my OWN money but I didnt tell my father, who i live with, the price because I just knew he would freak out. So my tail arrives at the door and I have to pay over 300 uk pounds to get it (on top of shipping etc) which im not too bothered about, I just want to see the tail I have dreamed about for years. So my father finally asks about the cost and I tell him.

He left. Just put on his jacket, called me a few names and left. I dont know if he has his keys and he has left his phone here, so I cant shower before trying on my tail nor can I film the unboxing on my own. PLUS the fact that im not really supposed to be left alone due to my anxiety/depression. I dont understand. It's my money, that I fought really hard to get. He shouldnt be this upset!

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I'm so sorry this happened. Some people just don't understand mermaiding or spending that much on any hobby. Hopefully he will come around and be happy for you.

[Mermaid Whisper]

I know this might be out of the question right now for many different reasons but if at all possible you should try to find a therapist. I don't mean for that to be offensive in the slightest (I go to a therapist myself for adhd and anxiety.) If that's not possible then find someone who is trustworthy and mature enough to handle this conversation to talk to about it. I know a real hug is much better but all I can offer is a virtual hug. *hugs*

*hugs back* I do have a therapist, and I love her very much. The problem is that my dad thought I didn't need to see her anymore and took me out of therapy for 4 months. I get to go back on the 11th.

I am completely dependent on him, since I don't have a license (just a permit) or a car, and I don't make enough money to live on my own. He rules my life. Mermaiding takes that all away

[Mermaid Whisper]

So my tail just got here, which is absolutely amazing and I have yet to open it.

Heres my bitch, I paid for my tail out of my OWN money but I didnt tell my father, who i live with, the price because I just knew he would freak out. So my tail arrives at the door and I have to pay over 300 uk pounds to get it (on top of shipping etc) which im not too bothered about, I just want to see the tail I have dreamed about for years. So my father finally asks about the cost and I tell him.

He left. Just put on his jacket, called me a few names and left. I dont know if he has his keys and he has left his phone here, so I cant shower before trying on my tail nor can I film the unboxing on my own. PLUS the fact that im not really supposed to be left alone due to my anxiety/depression. I dont understand. It's my money, that I fought really hard to get. He shouldnt be this upset!

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My stepdad is the exact same way. He's angry that I spent $160 on something I've loved for 10 years. He refuses to talk about it and still blows up on occasion. It's frustrating and a little discouraging, but I've realized that you can't make everyone happy with what you do, so at least make yourself happy while doing it

[Mermaid Whisper]

Tell him to square up and meet me at the park at 3

This, completely. My sister is 16 and is now pregnant. Trust me, it's really great that she stood her ground. I'm (virtually) super proud of her strength.

[Coral Corey]

*hugs back* I do have a therapist, and I love her very much. The problem is that my dad thought I didn't need to see her anymore and took me out of therapy for 4 months. I get to go back on the 11th.

I am completely dependent on him, since I don't have a license (just a permit) or a car, and I don't make enough money to live on my own. He rules my life. Mermaiding takes that all away

Well I'm glad you get to go back and see her. When you do I would speak with her about this stuff and about how much you like mermaiding.

[JayJ79]

At least the asshat wasn't conniving enough to play along that everything was hunky dory all the way through prom in hopes of getting "some" and THEN dumping her. B/c that would definitely be worthy of a major beatdown.

[Imogen Finnly]

I have been trying to get pregnant with my husband and so far its a no go

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[MerMaiden Lissa]

I have been trying to get pregnant with my husband and so far its a no go

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Stop trying and it might happen! I knew a couple who tried for years and then finally decided they were getting too old to have a baby and stopped trying. Next thing they knew they were pregnant with a baby girl. The wife had a daughter from a previous marriage who turned 18 just before the new baby was born lol. I think the stress of trying makes it harder to get pregnant. Just relax and let it happen. Also good to check with a dr to make sure nothing is preventing pregnancy.

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[Imogen Finnly]

I thought i was in April, since i never got my period the entire month; i took two tests, they were negative, then after that, i started bleeding like i was on my period. So i dont know

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[Mermaid Mystery]

Shimmer, first of all, I can make him disappear. My dad worked for the governmenr for years. I'm talking body guarded for Reagan. We can quietly make little pricks vanish in the night. Honestly, I'm sorry to hear this but it is definitely for the best. When I was growing up, my family always encouraged me to wait to lose my virginity until I was out of high school because 99% of the people you think you're ready to share your body with end up being jerks. That's just how it is in high school. And I found that to be extremely true. It's sad that your sister had to learn it as well but at least she didn't have to lose that piece of herself in the process. She sounds strong as hell and I hope she finds all the happiness.

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I have to admit I giggled a bit.
And yeah, it sucks but it's true. Usually they turn out to be jerks or really creepy :/

[Mermaid Momo]

I thought i was in April, since i never got my period the entire month; i took two tests, they were negative, then after that, i started bleeding like i was on my period. So i dont know

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Have you taken any ovulation tests?



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