B!TC# IT OUT!

[Slim]

Thank you. I'll let that be my next step. I learn from my previous time of trying to join the group just to get banned instead of accepted that if I get into the group, I should make screenshots of my OWN post just incase they get deleted. People want to be part of something and we all got dreams. I messsage one of the other admin that fixed the issue and let her know this is like dare to say "round 3" with the person not giving up on me. "Round 2" was actually a local Florida Merfolk group with that same admin and it lead to me of the fear my post would get deleted or I get block again. If everything stays the same after I give the other admin a chance to talk to her, then I will make another group. I just will ensure it becomes bigger and better than her as everyone in this region needs a welcome place. But I will let the admin of the mernetwork know ahead of time of the group so it's an easy transition on everyone. I want to keep the handling as professional as possible. Hearing to this day that people can't get in without a reason why is just troublesome to me. The mermaiding community is expanding faster than ever and the groups should be just as welcoming

*rolls eyes*

Slim I am sorry you're having that experience, you should message one of the Mernetwork admins as they're the ones who set up the pods and delegated admins for each group.

[Azurin Luna]

Who told you that? Nurse, doctor, or your midwife?

(Because doctors will do almost anything to prevent a patient from going the home birth route)

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My midwife told me, she is fine with home birth, just not in the bath, which I find odd, cause it has more pro's then cons everywhere I read about it. The biggest problem she has with it, is that she can't see if the umbilical cord is around the baby's neck or not.

[MermaidLiara]

Who told you that? Nurse, doctor, or your midwife?

(Because doctors will do almost anything to prevent a patient from going the home birth route)

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Actually, in our country (mine and Azurin's) doctors and midwives do everything to prevent a patient from giving birth in a hospital. I think it has to do with costs. Nowadays, I hear a lot of women say: ''if you want a hospital birth, you have to demand it and stand up for yourself.'' Even if you planned a hospital birth, midwives refuse to take you if you haven't dilated enough. In the past two years, many of my friends and family members planned a hospital birth. All of them ended up giving birth at home.

[Mermaid Clara]

My dad just told me the reason my cat is refusing to eat is because her kidneys are failing. She hasn't eaten in two days and she only wants people food. I really love my cat, she's 16 years old but doesn't look old, I've had her since I was 5 years old. But my bitch is that when I started crying that he told me I shouldn't be crying because I've never taken care of her, which is a total lie. I'm the only one who cleans and changes her litter, gives her water and feeds her. He hardly ever feeds her and only when I beg him because I can't when I'm away at work.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I am so sorry, Clara

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[Slim]

I'm really sorry Clara. Anything that can be said or say will not make it easier but I feel what you are going through. My cat Bandit sudden passed 2 years ago without warning so yeah I will admit that even reading what you said brought back memory but I know you are strong enough to get through it. I'm always a message away on her and facebook. Though it may look bad now, in the past mother gave one of the cats a small spoon of unfavored pedialyte which did hydrate the cat enough to eat and add a couple more months. That's a do at your own risk. I really wish you the best

[PearlieMae]

You need to get your cat to the vet right away! I am going through this with my 16 year old cat right now, and you need to have a vet check its urine for proteins and sugar and creatinine, and follow your vet's instructions as to a course of action. Depending on the health of your cat, it might not be a problem, but if your cat is in poor health you certainly don't want it to suffer with kidney failure, which can be very painful.

[MermaidLiara]

@Clara: *hugs* <3

[Hydra1337]

Try Burt's Bees diaper rash cream and let it sit on your razor burn for a few hours before you work. It works best if it sits overnight but idk what's open right now that would carry it. I know it sounds like an odd thing to suggest but it helps more than just diaper rash. It helped me with wicked razor burn and with my daughter's eczema.

[Hydra1337]

I am beyond emotional right now... This morning I miscarried at home for a second time and was in gruelling pain for over three hours. I had to wait until early afternoon to go to the fertility clinic where I've been going for my surrogacy appointments to make sure I was okay. Everyone was very surprised yet solemn because my appointment from last week showed no more bleeding or any other warning signs. I know they say it was just Mother Nature but it's still a terrible thing to go through. I can't mentally go through this again so now I have to start looking around for a job to support my family because my husband is disabled and can't work.

On an unrelated note my Spoonflower swatches haven't been shipped yet because they're behind schedule. If they had been shipped on time I would have been able to order the fabric I needed for my first fabric tail before I lost my only source of income. So once again my mermaid tails have to be put on hold.

[Slim]

I'm so very sorry that happened to you Hydra I really wish there something I could say or do to help. I know no one doesn't deserve to go through so such a lost. I'm always on here via tapatalk and I can be reached through Facebook via my profile you want someone to talk to. I believe you can come through this stronger than before.

[deepblue]

I know they say it was just Mother Nature but it's still a terrible thing to go through. I can't mentally go through this again so now I have to start looking around for a job to support my family because my husband is disabled and can't work.

It doesn't matter if it's Mother Nature, it's incredibly painful on every level when you wanted the pregnancy, and for those who didn't, the physical pain can still be unbelievable, and I don't wish it on anyone. I'm so sorry. I've been through it myself a few times, including two years ago this May, and also an abnormal pregnancy (which wasn't a pregnancy at all but a tumor that acts like one) that had to be removed. I later found out I have a genetic variant that affects B vitamins and is related to miscarrying. If I'd known before... well I don't know, because I did not know.

I'm just so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you don't have a lot of choice in stopping to take some time or even in slowing down, but I hope that somehow you are able to. It can be so exhausting on both the mental and physical levels. I talked about it with a close group of friends and not really to anyone else, but it was hard when two of them were having successful pregnancies at the time. Happy for them, yes, devastated for myself. Anyway. Talking about it can help, I hope you have someone you can do that with.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Lots of love to you Hydra.

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[KaylinSilvermerr]

Hydra,

I'm so sorry you're going through this, just know you're not alone, ok?

~Kaylin

[deepblue]

I think flames came out the top of my head when I just saw what happened to my fluke mold.



Today I sprayed my mold with a second layer of Krylon clear, because I've read that as recommended to get a shinier silicone casting.

I sprayed it out on the balcony, and left it there to dry.

Unexpected tree trimmers showed up- we were told they'd be here two days ago, and they were. We were not notified that they would be back. So I did not expect them to be out there again, under my balcony with a giant wood chipper again. When the noise of the engine revved up, and they started feeding branches in, dust went up and now my mold has flecks of dust all over it, at one with the clear coat. The entire mold went out there pretty white and pristine, and now it looks like I used black and grey speckles. And the surface is rough all over. I will try another coat and who knows, maybe it will help smooth things over... but I doubt it.

I really hope that did not just ruin the mold. I'm going to wait and see how a second layer will do, but I'm very concerned any casting I do from this mold is going to look terrible. I might be able to save such a thing with a clear coat of silicone painted over it, but I have a feeling pitting will be all over it.

Sigh. Not the end of the world but, man....

[Hydra1337]

Thank you for the support everyone. Honestly I considered taking a break from Mernetwork and anything mermaid related because I was so distraught. Once I read all the support from you guys it made me feel a lot better and helped me better accept what happened. I say "better accept" for a reason. Apparently two embryos for this couple's previous surrogate didn't stick but Family Formers (the surrogate agency) thought it was just the surrogate and if the last embryo didn't stick to me then the embryos were definitely bad. They neglected to tell me any of this until after I was already under contract and implanted. Before that I was told they were all good quality. And here's another thing about this agency that annoys me! The fertility clinic they work with (Boca Raton Fertility Clinic) apparently mixed up my blood type and tried to say I needed a special shot. I knew I wasn't that blood type so I had to push for my blood getting retested so I would be taken seriously.

If anyone else on here is considering surrogacy please please PLEASE for the sake of your own sanity avoid Family Formers.

[deepblue]

Omg, that's awful, Hydra! Because of my history, we are planning on surrogacy. It really sounds like the clinic and agency need to get better organized! Holy cow, a special shot and questionable embryo situation, that's just... that's too much. I'm not in Florida, but I am glad to know of that agency name. I'll be making sure they're not related to any of the clinics here. Although, the clinic we plan to go to is also the surrogate agency, they're inclusive- at least, if they're not the agency, they do the finding for clients. I feel bad for that couple though... there are so many reasons this could be happening. So rough. :/

I'm glad you're feeling better able to cope.

[Mermaid Octavia]

Not a bitch or a vent... just... a sad.

I saw there was a mermaid here that has a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder, and an enabling father. I can't find her right now, but I'm sure she would understand.

I'm getting married shortly, and it's sad that my sister and father will not be involved, due to each being so incredibly toxic. Father is undiagnosed, but I'm convinced based on his behavior the past 30 years that he's got Narcissistic Personality Disorder at the very least, and quite possibly Antisocial Personality Disorder (a sociopath). My sister is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, and our mother suspects that she too is a sociopath.

I've had to cut both out of my life for my own health and safety, and when we were speaking, I wanted my sister as my maid-of-honor. I won't get into why I cut them both from my life, but everything is so much easier and peaceful than before. No more constant crisis from one day to the next, no more suicide threats over what to cook for dinner, or when to study for a test, no threats of shooting herself when I don't have the art supply she needed for an elective community college class... No more derogatory name-calling, no more calling me at midnight to yell at me and call me a whore, no more telling me I'm fat but then demanding I bring a man home to give him grandchildren, no more passive-aggressive behavior, no more threats to punch me in the face...

It's just sad though, that so many people wave the banner of "blood is thicker than water" and "they're family so you have to stick together". No, no you don't, especially when said family is toxic and abusive. I realized that I don't know what having a father is like, since mine never bothered with either my sister or I unless we could perform a function for him. :/ His children are his latest hobbies and alcohol.

My sister simply uses people and throws them away like trash. I can't be around her - she's way too dangerous. She'll do anything and say anything she can to coerce people to give her money, attention, time, perform favors for her... then when they're no longer useful, she humiliates and berates them and dumps them like a used candy wrapper. It's really sad, and neither one of them seem to realize that their lives are in shambles because of their awful behavior.

At least the wedding will have minimized drama because Chaos Incarnates #1 and #2 won't be there.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hug*

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[Sepharina]

My sister found my journal. I had my religious/witchcraft info in there , she ran her mouth to everyone , I was forced to come out as Wiccan and a witch all at the same time , now said sister has a problem with me , said sister makes fun of me , and said sister has ruined my family relationships because she ran her mouth when she could have politely asked me why I had that kind of info in a journal. Now my grandma thinks I need to see a doctor because I'm not Christian , and all this other crap that I can't write because it's too long. Just , really mad that she couldn't have been the mature person she is , and she has now started a war between me and her.

/life is amazing