B!TC# IT OUT!

[Ashe]

Dayyyumm... Someone's blowing off some steam there. Sorry that is what you have to deal with Andrea . Well, mine isn't nearly as bad, but it gets on my nerves. Well, if you know me, I love animals. Period. So my family had a Halloween party this year so we moved our guinea pig into the garage because no matter how much we clean her, she just smells well, not pretty. But I still love her so much and I play with her everyday! But then, my friend (kinda) and I walked into the garage to play air hockey and she see's my guinea pig's cage with blankets over it to keep her warm in the corner. Well, now she thinks that we take horrible care of her and is going around telling everyone that we need to relocate her to a new home or something. I've been trying to get it through her head that little piggy is usually inside, we just had company around. Still, she thinks we are animal cruel or something. Second, i have four cats. Yeah, I know it's a lot, but its also a long story. If you really want to know then PM me. Girls at my school thrive for attention and boys. They think that spreading rumors will boost their chances of getting both. Long story short, a girls randomly walks up to me and asks, "Hey, you're the one with twelve cats right?" WTF? Yup, that is about it.

[Merrow Fair Isle]

Sorry to hear that Andrea.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Dayyyumm... Someone's blowing off some steam there. Sorry that is what you have to deal with Andrea . Well, mine isn't nearly as bad, but it gets on my nerves. Well, if you know me, I love animals. Period. So my family had a Halloween party this year so we moved our guinea pig into the garage because no matter how much we clean her, she just smells well, not pretty. But I still love her so much and I play with her everyday! But then, my friend (kinda) and I walked into the garage to play air hockey and she see's my guinea pig's cage with blankets over it to keep her warm in the corner. Well, now she thinks that we take horrible care of her and is going around telling everyone that we need to relocate her to a new home or something. I've been trying to get it through her head that little piggy is usually inside, we just had company around. Still, she thinks we are animal cruel or something. Second, i have four cats. Yeah, I know it's a lot, but its also a long story. If you really want to know then PM me. Girls at my school thrive for attention and boys. They think that spreading rumors will boost their chances of getting both. Long story short, a girls randomly walks up to me and asks, "Hey, you're the one with twelve cats right?" WTF? Yup, that is about it.

Ah the stereotypical highschool females.. The many, the proud, the uneducated.... And ditzy shit-stirrers! How I pity thee kalani. I wonder what they will end up doing with their lives...

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's alright merrow I'm glad I have a place to vent now. About Asian people :|

[Merrow Fair Isle]

My biggest pet peeve is rudeness/ being inconsiderate of others. It can be direct, indirect, bullying, gossip, intolerance, pettiness, elitism, racism, bigotry, meaness, or generalized assholery.

I also dislike jokes made in bad taste...and I fall victim to this a lot. I have a pet potbellied pig, and people seem to find it hilarious to make bacon jokes, or " looks delicious" comments. My neighbor calls her our " pet holiday roast". It's just ignorant. Would you say that about a dog or cat??? Katie is FAMILY, not livestock we are fattening up for consumption!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

.... Well. I dont make those jokes... But since im Asian, I hear a lot of those jokes . I totally get what you're feeling. I had a hamster named Katie and I had a photo of her up and people kept commenting that she looks like food.

After a while I just shrug it off.

[Mermaid Annariea]

andrea, i completely understand your point. and up to a certain extent, i could understand your parents point, too, but it seems to be well past reasonable now.

kalani, 4 cats isnt that much, but the fact that people are exaggerating it is just stupid. my bfs mom has 5 cats and 2 dogs, and once she moves back here with us, itll be 6 cats (the two dogs have to go up for adoption, but shes doing it through the pit bull thing, and is going to make sure they end up with a good home) and i want a snake. and another cat. so maybe 7 cats and maybe a snake.
anyways, just ignore those stupid girls. i hated high school, girls were always trying to get between my boyfriend and i, trying to ruin our relationship and get with him. once we graduated, that all ended (except every once in a while, one girl still desperately tries). hopefully theyll grow up soon and leave stupid rumors aside.

merrow, i HATE when people joke like that about animals. its funny sometimes to a point, but theres definitely a line. i used to have ferrets, and people would joke about them all the time. i usually ended up walking off and theyd ask why i got so offended. WHY DO YOU THINK?! ugh, people are just idiotic. also, i bet your pig is adorable (:


anyways. now time for my rant.
i feel like i have no friends. every time i try to hang out with someone, they either ignore me, or theyre too busy, or they give me some bullshit excuse as to why they cant. i seriously havent hung out with anyone in MONTHS. i just sit at the house and do nothing. its even worse when im not working and my boyfriend is, because then i literally just sit on my computer for hours until he comes home. i have nothing to do. nowhere to go.
one friend in particular really upsets me. she and i used to be BEST FRIENDS. we hung out every day, did everything together, and then i moved away for a year or so. i still kept in touch, and i visited a lot since my boyfriend lived near her, so i still saw her every few months. but when i moved back to where i live now (with my bf, 5 mins away from her), she had sort of just drifted. she was hanging out with different people (mostly bad influences), which i expected, i dont expect to be her only friend. but youd think that she would at least make time sometimes to hang out with me... but every time i text her or message her on facebook or whatever else i do to contact her, she ignores it. she reads it, and doesnt even reply. no bullshit excuses, no "im really busy right now, sorry", nothing. and it hurts.

my boyfriend and i were up at the mall the other day, and she works up there as a waitress in one of the restaurants, so i stopped by to say hi. i wasnt going to stay long, i just figured maybe she wouldnt mind seeing me for a second.
instead, she walked past me and says, "i cant fucking deal with this right now," and goes to one of her customers.
it wasnt packed. there was maybe 4 people in the whole restaurant.
so we left. i almost cried i was so upset. i just dont understand what the hell i could have done. that was about two weeks ago, and i figured maybe she was having a bad day at work, so i messaged her saying "hey, sorry if i came at a bad time. i just figured since i was up at the mall, i would stop by and see you, but maybe another time. whatever was wrong, i hope your day gets better <3", and, SURPRISE SURPRISE, she read it and didnt reply.

i havent tried talking to her since. i give up. i dont know if i did something wrong, or if shes just turned into a fucking bitch, but i cant imagine doing that to someone i once called my best friend.
i just feel so... forgotten... or something. like nobody cares.

oh well. theres my sap story/rant.

[Ashe]

I'm so sorry Brianna, I totally feel you there. Same thing happened with this one girl in sixth grade. I thought we would have been best friends for like, ever! I told her about me being a mer, and she gave me so much sh*t about it. She spread rumors (like I need anymore) about me literally thinking I was a mermaid and left me as a loner for months afterwards. I asked her what was up, but she just said "oh, like you don't know?" And walked away. At open house I smiled and said hey, and she glared at me. My mom stepped in and said hello and she "sweetly" said hello back, but then rolled her eyes. I'm pretty sure that another rumor sprouted somewhere that I said something about her and she believed it or something, and now that is why she hates me but I'm not sure.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm suddenly glad I don't get too personal with people. I feel for you both I really do.

[Mermaid Annariea]

kalani, i dont understand girls sometimes. i really dont.

and andrea, hahaha im about at the point now where im just giving up on trying to have friends.

[Ashe]

I'm suddenly glad I don't get too personal with people. I feel for you both I really do.

Thank you for the sympathy Andrea . Yes, through my experiences through thirteen years I have realized not to trust people because they will always talk no matter what. There is only one very special friend that I know I can share everything with. As for everyone else, they don't know me -not that I am a loner, I have many other friends- but I don't share the feelings and ideas deep inside of me with them.

[roamingmer]

Friends or acquaintances? Where is the difference? For many people it is sufficient to be part of the crowd; indeed they feel the need to be seen to be normal. I guess if you are willing to consider a mer experience then you already stand out from that crowd. Over time you will always discover who are the true friends; relatives. Those you can trust to tell your inner most thoughts and feelings. They will generally stick with you - or tell you when you are being foolish or arrogant. And people change; that is our very nature. So a close friend 10 years ago may not be the same close friend now; just like you they also have deep inner feelings and perhaps that leads them down different paths.

In the Buddhist sense; try to learn compassion; empathy. Try to understand why they behave; and treat them with kindness even if it feels like they hurt you. Be adult enough to recognise when they need support or distance. But it is tough when young; or realising that the peer groups around you are not what they seemed. It is all life experience.

With regards to the relatives hanging on - well look at it through their jealous eyes. You got the lucky break to a society which they are always being shown on TV / Media in an incorrect light. Watch most American programs and true life is definitely missing; glossed over. No-one wants to watch hardship; so that is never shown... so foreign relatives will just assume the stereotypes. Once again treat with kindness; dont send cash but ask for the bills to be forwarded. Get the hospital to confirm. If they are genuine they will be happy; if they are gambling they will scream and shout and incriminate... and probably try to set up a false deal.

It is often the same with most cultures where people 'hang on'. The genuinely needy will hardly ever scream and shout. Helping / donating through the networks is much easier. Next time you see a homeless person - or someone living in their car. Find out if they would accept a decent meal; or an overnight sleep in a motel. Human generosity when given with love and compassion is much stronger than a bank transfer or few pennies here and there.

[Merrow Fair Isle]

I just don't understand people. It's like they wear bitchiness as a badge of honor. I am so sorry both of you ladies are going through difficult times.

I am always on the recieving end of crap like that. My husband is gorgeous...6'9", built , great eyes, dimples, the whole nine. He is also completely unaffected about all of it. Genuinely the nicest guy you will ever meet. I am 5' 1 " ,and while I am perfrctly content with my looks, I am no supermodel. I'm justyour average girl...but I am akso plus size, a size 18. I am fully aware that I am not what yoh would expect for my huband to be attracted to, but he is. I am one of those blessed women who has a husband she is smitten with , and a husband who absolutely adores everyinch of her and is told as such EVERYday. But I am judged by other women constantly. I her whispers of " what is HE doing with HER" all the time. I have had women, including family, "suggest" that I be more pro-active in losing weight or " eventually, he'll realize he could do better. You want to be your best fof a guy like that." Who are THEY to judge what my best is??!!! I have had women come up and ask me in grocery stores, malls, and at the gym if my "brother" is single, then look shocked when I inform them I am his wife..even going so far as to say " Nuh uh...no way!" to me. Or even worse the very condescending " Wow...good for you. How did you manage THAT???". Like all a womans worth lies in her body. And it's inulting to my husband as well...like a man is incapable in finding beauty in anythung but the standard.


okay!! end rant!!

here is A pic of my pet pig to lighten the mood and end on a good note

[Merrow Fair Isle]

forgive typos..am on my android tablet and for whatever reason I can't go back and correct ...the cursor won't follow directions

[SeaGlass Siren]

I disagree about the relatives comment. Sorry but friends and relatives are just titles ... My relatives have never been there for me at all.
Also, for the record I've visited them three times. I'm sorry there is no hardships for them at all. They are living like royalty :/
On a different topic; There is nothing wrong with bein an introvert kalani

[Spindrift]

Having grown up with heavy Asian influences I've always been drilled with the fact that I can't call my parents out on what they spend their money on, because it's their money, not mine. Whether they want to blow it on leeching relatives is their own prerogative. They don't ask for my money. And they spend a lot of it on me and my siblings as well.

But yeah, parents of any culture can be annoying. I don't think it's fair to blame it on being Asian. And I know you're only ranting, and it's not a bit deal, but I really resent the fact that you said "Asian cunts". I wouldn't have even noticed if it wasn't bolded though, and I definitely got the wrong idea from your post from a first glance. There are obviously many more social factors that have more relevancy to why you feel your family members are acting unjustly than your genetic and ethnic makeup. I'm sorry that you hate the fact that you're Asian though. That must be really tough.

As for girls in high school. I have loads of stories, haha. I had a guy who I was best friends with since 7th grade. Senior year of high school he finally got himself a girlfriend. She had a friend tell me that I couldn't talk to him anymore and I was like "wtf". But I (stupidly) relented because she was his first gf and all and he was happy. Anyway they weren't staying together after high school and a week or so before graduation he asked to hang out since he didn't even realize that I wasn't "allowed" to talk to him and wanted to see why we had drifted apart. He's a sweet guy - we're still really good friends. But the gf's best friend found out about it and told the entire school that I had been sleeping with him the entire year behind the gf's back. And I still haven't really gotten over it since I didn't have a lot of time to clear my name. I mean, really. If I had wanted to have made a move on him I had like... what, 5 years to do it? Crazy bitches. He was clueless the entire time. I didn't think it was worth telling him.

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's just my way of dealing with it. Not the best but hey lol..

Ive never had any real high school drama because I was always in the drama room and everyone was pretty close w each other. I've never dated anyone from my school. I did hang out w 12 graders in grade nine so I'm assuming no one wanted to touch me for fear of the 12 graders. (it's been 5 years, I'm engaged to one of them lol)

[Ashe]

The thing is ladies, I'm not even in high school yet! Only seventh grade! Now, I don't go to a bad school, actually the best in my area, but that shows you that the snobbiness is getting younger and younger every generation and its only getting worse. I'm not wanting to talk about the issue anymore if that's alright, life is too short to think about people who bring you pain and I like to live my life in simplicity

[Spindrift]

Yeah snippy teenagers are a pain. Kalani, you write very well for a seventh grader. And noticeably better than a lot of the other merlings on the board.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Definitely better than I, hahaha x) for the record I thought kalani was in the 12th grade