B!TC# IT OUT!

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's ok I used to get the feeling. :hugs:

In the long run though.. On the grand scheme of things. It's not really important. We've got dolphins to save and garbage to clean, children to protect...

Ideally I'd like to see all our issues resolved too but it's only but a fantasy lol. I think if we all keep this in mind and had no care in the world about what was said ( to you, to other people, etc) whether it was meant to harm or be judgemental or if it was accidental and came off that way...

Well ... I think it'd be a lot more peaceful.. I think

[SeaGlass Siren]

Huh reading this over I think I don't make sense... Clearly past bedtime..

[Thalassa]

Must be past my bedtime, too, because it made sense to me. LOL And it helped. Thanks. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels to ridiculously. XP

[SeaGlass Siren]

Yeah. It's really hard to say who's being rude too. Youd have to read paragraphs over and over putting emphasis on different words. But I think we should all refrain ffrom using caps lock since it just comes off as angry and yelling. Even though it may be used for emphasizing. But then comes off like you're not calm .. Yeah

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm glad it helped

[Mermaid Kelda]

Thalassa, I'm exactly the same xD I literally can't sleep knowing someone, somewhere out there in the world, doesn't like me or thinks my opinion is silly. It's a natural human reaction to want people to like you, even when you know it's probably not going to happen! It's infuriating xD

[ShyMer]

My rat Pepper was acting funny this morning, wouldn't climb up to the top of the cage with the others for breakfast. After some research, it looks like she might have a pituitary tumor. She still loves peas and cheerios, but she can't pick them up with her paws to eat them, so she needs help, and getting her to drink water is a challenge. I feel kinda bad about it, she's only a year a half old. One site talked about medication to help with quality of life, but it gets expensive.
She was climbing all over everything yesterday, now she can barely scoot around. It's sad

[NerineArcticMermaid]

Old rant but UGH!

So yet another mermaid has surfaced with a name waaay to similar to mine ugh!!! UGh! uGH! Uuuuuggggggghhhh!

Ok done

Thanks

[Mermaid Kelda]

I think that's an issue you're always going to face when you go by a pre-existing name. Unless you make it up yourself, there's always the chance of people turning up with the same name.
But yeah it's a bit confusing that there's another Nerine, and a Nerin, Nerinae, and Nerenia... I always check member lists before I sign up to a site to make sure I'm not treading on anyone's toes.

[NerineArcticMermaid]

Well thats the thing. When i did my search on names in 2009. no Nerines came up. In fact i found the name nereides. changed it up and came up with nerine. Its frustrating right now becasue im in middle of LLC paperwork and having similar names running around is complecating things

If they could change the spelling a bit more... since some are only one letter off.. it would be helpful ya know...

Oh well.. my tax lady will figure it all out for me I hope

[Mermaid Kelda]

Yeah when it comes to businesses it gets more complicated. Well, if you establish yourself as Nerine professionally, then at least you'll have gotten there first if anyone else decides to do the same, haha.
I didn't make my name up, it's originally the name of a Greek naiad (the freshwater versions of nereids!) so I don't really own it, haha. Hopefully when I do turn my mermaiding into a business, no one else will have thought of the same name!

[Kanti]

Yea I think of it like celebrities.
Like how there can't just be another Katy Perry running around or she'll directly compete with the first one and shit will get complicated. I think some people on this forum don't realize it much because to them it's not a business name, it's just a name they thought was cool and wanted to be called by. A lot of our members are just people who are trying to have fun, not necessarily make the name into a professional thing. I think all the people who are concerned with making themselves into a business are the ones looking for original names?

[Mermaid Stark]

Youre not better off dead! Don't say that! There are probably so many people that care about you! Don't feel like its the end! Remember that everyone on mernetwork cares as well! Find something you really love to do. Its figure skating for me. It really helped me get through a tough time when I lost all my friends. Talk to your parent(s), they always make me feel better. Maybe videochat with your friends from the US! Don't cut yourself please its not worth it. Maybe do a volunteer project! Even go pick up trash on the streets. Seriously, you've go your whole life ahead of you. Think of the future. Whenever I'm bored I look at colleges lol. Really talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. Tell them you WANT to go to school, and tell them how alone you feel. I'm sure they'll understand and enroll you! Another thing to do is read! I know it sounds corny, but you can go anywhere in a book. I like Henry David Thoreau if you'd like something a bit challenging to read (it is for me). And maybe hang out a library. Librarians are super nice! Feel free to PM me if you need to talk!! I try to be on every day but ive got so much homework to do!

Thanks, this helped! The funny thing is, I'm a former competitive figure skater. I started when I was 4 (now I'm 13) and was working on my double axel (landed it a couple times too) when I realized that I really didn't care for the jumps. Dance is a lot more social, but that doesn't really seem to matter, because the girls are all b*tches.
But yeah, I'm gonna try that stuff. Thanks for the support guys!

[Mermaid Stark]

Ok, here's my rant. I was at the dance studio and we had just finished an hour and a half class. We were all tired and worn out because our teacher killed us with jumps today (I was the only one who could actually still jump at the end thanks to skating), but we still had a jazz class to go to. Now, I have a friend in this class named Alexa, and I think we were pretty much only friends because she was from Miami and was easy to talk to because she spoke English. So when we were in the dressing room, I was calmly putting my jazz shoes on when she comes up to me and starts saying a lot of things really fast, and after I just say "Yeah, great." and she (for some reason) takes it in offense and says "Why are you being like this?", so I say "Like what?", and she gives me this look and walks over to her friend, Lucie, and they both look at me and start talking. I KNOW that they were talking about me. You just get this feeling when someone is.
So, I got a bit angry, because first of all, the reason why I was "being like that" was because I was really tired and hungry. I had no grudge on her or anything! And secondly because, you don't just walk up to someone and start talking about the girl that you were talking to before RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER. It's rude to do that in the first place, but right in front of me? Really? Nice.
So after, I'm sitting on these mats outside of the room that we have jazz in waiting for the class to start, and Lucie sits down next to me. We're ok friends I guess. She's always talking to Alexa though. Lucie starts talking to me about the previous class, and after a while, I ask her "Were you and Alexa talking about me?", and she goes silent and looks down at the floor. So, now I know that they were talking about me for sure. Then I explain to her that I'm not mad at Alexa, and that I'm just really tired and hungry. A bit later, Alexa walks up. I say "Hey, Alexa, it's kind of rude to assume that someone is mad at you and then talk about her to another girl right in front of her." And she says, "Well, you're being a b*tch." So there I am with my mouth open, just processing what she just said. I say "Excuse me?" and she said "Yeah, that's right. You're being a b*tch." I say "I am tired and hungry. That's the reason why I didn't feel like talking to you." And she gets up, glares at me, and walks away.

You know, if I had a burn book, than Alexa would have just earned herself a spot. You think that someone is your friend, and then they call you a b*tch for being tired and hungry and not wanting to talk. Gosh.

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Old rant but UGH!

So yet another mermaid has surfaced with a name waaay to similar to mine ugh!!! UGh! uGH! Uuuuuggggggghhhh!

Ok done

Thanks

I've also got a "Ner" name.
Just saying, Nerine, I didn't know about any other usernames like mine or yours. I just thought that my username sounded cool. Not all ideas are going to be 100% original, it's just impossible. I also agree with what Kanti said, it's not like a professional business name. I just thought my username sounded cool in my head and I went with it.

It's unfortunate, I guess, but it shouldn't be something to get upset about, and I certainly wouldn't go into business with my username, now knowing that you are going into business with your name. I wouldn't want to conflict. :>

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Just to add, a little bit about the thought process when coming up with my name to hopefully clear up any doubts about my origins:
1. Nereids
2. I've always liked N (Nicole, Nadie, Natalie, etc.) and -ae names (Danae, Fae, Desirae, or: Namine from Kingdom Hearts, I always felt, had such a pretty name)
3. I like how three-syllabled names roll off the tongue
4. "Nerinae" is born.

[Merman Dan]

Welcome to the internet... I have used "Aeolius" since 1985, when I set up my first AOL (AppleLink:PE back then) account. That being said, the Aeolius on YouTube, Skype, Yahoo, and countless other sites is not me.

I've always liked... -ae names...

Seconded.

[Mermaid Octavia]

Apparently "Octavia" is a My Little Pony (that I didn't know about - now I have to look her up!) but I chose it because I was born in October, love octopi and I thought it sounded regal. Things happen. There's very likely always going to be someone out there with the same or similar username as someone else.

[Lotus]

totally not name related, but- My younger two daughters (4 and 2) have been on the war path (together and apart) for about a month now and it's making me fraking crazy. I know they're just kids and going thru normal things. But it's still HIGHLY irritating.

[Kanti]

@Nerinae - yea I assume not everyone is going to turn themselves into a business and honestly while your name is very similar it's different to an extent, so unless people don't know how to spell Nerine properly your name shouldn't pop up at all when searching it.

@Octavia - haha yea I totally though MLP xD

[Mermaid Bella]

ok, my turn for a rant >_>

so, when i was in high school, i had two friends that i cared about very much, we were inseparable as we were the only people into sci fi and anime and cosplay.
when i left high school early they decided to abandon the friendship and become quite rude and disrespectful toward me. i never had an explanation, never had anything.

so after alot of going back and forth, i decided to reach out to one of them, she has a facebook fan page and i decided to like her page and send her a message. from what i saw of her page she seemed to have matured quite a bit and gotten over herself.

so i sent a short and sweet message, asking how she was.

she didnt come online for a while (from what i could tell, as her fan page had no updates and her personal page is set to private) so i waited and waited, hoping she would at least send me something back saying hi, if for nothing else to keep her number up on her fan page, as i know she is desperate for likes.

then i log on last night and see she has updated her fan page, yet no message back and no confirmation on my pending friend request. usually i would be devastated and spend hours making up excuses for her; she was busy, she didnt notice, she updated from a mobile and didnt see the request or message, and leave the message and request hanging for days on end. but last night i was quite drunk, messaged my friend who was staying in my spare room, told her that this girl was a skragg and she could go to hell. i then proceeded to unlike her page and cancel the friend request. i didnt send a message to her telling her to grow the F%#^ up, mostly because, it's not like she would ever respond.

waking up this morning, i reflected on the situation and i became very angry. exactly what had i done to this girl that was so offensive it wasnt a case of us drifting apart, she and the other friend actively spread rumors about me and basically trash talked about me to everyone who would listen. i extended a friendly gesture and clearly she is still back in high school, being an immature cow. im seriously considering sending her that message, getting it all out there, i feel like i might have held back so i could try again in a few years, or if i ran into her at a convention we could get chatting again that way. clearly i'm overly obsessed with my life from way back, as i keep stalking this nasty excuse for a human being. but as many people will know, and even more wont, it is so very hard to let go of someone you cared about, without the accommodating hatred that comes from that person being a partner or husband/wife. i'm left with nothing but uncertainty and emptiness.



this brings me to another situation. very similar.

i worked with two girls last year who i felt were very close friends, one of them was asleep in my spare room last night. the three of us had a great time, we laughed and chatted all night on more than one occasion.

while we still worked together the other friend was in a bind for money, her sister had borrowed $100 from her to scrape by until pay day, as this family very often does, but when pay day came, she didnt pay her back, she spent the money at the pokies (coin slots) and this friend needed the money for groceries and such. well i put my hand up and offered her some money to help out, i had a little saved up and i dont have children so it was not desperately needed. she was very grateful and paid me back three days later.

spin forward to late last year, i had a new job that payed a little more than the last one and she was in a bind again, this time she forgot her car registration was due and she was short, so, knowing that she was reliable i lent her money again, $300 this time. she was so grateful again and promised to get it back to me as soon as she could. time went on and no money was repaid, she messaged me on facebook often to let me know that she was doing her best to budget so she could pay me back, and i was fine with that, i didnt need the money desperately and she made sure i was always aware of what was going on.

then i lost my job, i was injured and unable to do my work anymore so they let me go. understandable. all of a sudden i needed that money, desperately.
she sent me a message when she found out, saying that she had better get off her butt and pay me the hell back, we chuckled and i said 'yes that would be great'

then nothing.
more nothing.
more nothing.

christmas last year rolled around and she put on facebook that she had bought herself and her husband iphone5's for presents, and each of her kids got an ipod touch.

by now this friend had stopped responding to my messages of 'how are you' on facebook, and stopped inviting me out when she had friends over. she would invite my other friend over and never drop me a line.

last week she put a message up saying that her and her husband just deposited the first amount into an account so they can buy a house.

last night was her birthday, and today she is having drinks out. not only did she not invite me, but she didnt bother to hide her plans.

every time i try to message her, either one of her kids have her phone so i cant talk to her, or she is pretending to be one of her kids.

im really sick of this crap. do i repel people or something?