B!TC# IT OUT!

[Ariel-Starfish]

@goldie
THANK YOU! That is exactly it. I love my mom to death but jeez I just don't know why she goes bonkers like that sometimes. Then makes everyone out to be the bad guy and it drives me nuts. Dont get me wrong, I am thankful for her birthing me and putting a roof over my head but I cant stand it when she or any parent really, gets the feeling their child owes them everything beacuse they choose to raise the kid. There where other options the parent could have taken too. But they took on the kid, and apart of that is to give the kid a place to stay,give clothes and food. Why? Caz you choose to keep it.
Thats like adopting a dog and being mad when you have to care for it. If you didnt want to care for it in the first place Why adopt it?
But I never had a kid before so what do I know?



They do have they places to cash it but they normally charge you for it. I normally travel through the city to see my boyfriend and having a big sum of money on you is just asking for trouble.

I did once and she set me up with my old bank account and made it where I had no charges. But she had to go to a diffrent bank location. We think she was waving charges on my account since her and my mom are buds. But since she moved she can't anymore.

I figured she knew she was using my money, and the thing is if she asked me I would have given her money and she knows that, I just wish she would have let me buy what I needed first. Aslong as I have the money on the visa no one can use it unless I give them the card and the pen number. So I will probally use that until I find a steady job to have my own bank account.

This is not the first time stuff has happened over the years and its other things too. She has told me straight up that if she could take back the day I was conceived she would. I think she loves me but also resents me since I was not planned and ruined her party life when it just started. It's a huge strain on our relationship and its ruined the whole "loving mother and daughter" thing. Not to mention she wanted a boy then when she didnt get that she wanted me to be a pretty girly girl that wears dresses and make up. I also shat over that plan. Along with everything about me being totally diffrent than her. I turned out to be the polar opposite of the kid she wanted.

After 18 years of all of it its gotten to the point where I don't care if I'm the bad guy anymore. It does not bother me when she yells caz if its not one thing its another.

Ill hopefully be out on my own soon and I hope it will help out our relationship. I know we get along better when I take off to my boyfriends moms house and stay there with them from Saturday to Monday then come back. So maybe just being gone will fix it. Less room to bump heads I guess.

What a great topic for mothers day. Its kinda funny, I wanted to take her out to eat but I cant now. Caz im broke. XD

P.S My phone is a jerk and is autocorecting words into things that dont make sense. So im sorry if this is a huge wall of typos.

@ mermaidandrea
Ah yes the "no I dont wanna go out anymore" bit. I would still take her out, but I wouldn't blame you if you didnt.

Wow....

[ShyMer]

It seems the hospital in Frederick does not have a special diet for diabetics.

My husband's grandfather is in the hospital because he'd fallen pretty badly. They're giving him regular food with normal pie and everything. How can a hospital of all places, one that supposedly has a diabetes center, allow diabetic inpatients sugary food?? It's not like they never get elderly diabetic patients there, after all.

Is this normal? I find this to be unacceptable.

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's unacceptable.

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Can I just say, 'UGH!'

I spent ALL DAY searching for neoprene in-store today, and called ALL OVER the place looking for it, but was eventually unsuccessful. So, I end up having to just go to the internet. So, I go to several websites before deciding on Rockywoods, since their prices seem to be the most reasonable, and their stock seemed nice.

Every sheet of neoprene I tried to buy in a light color like "buttercup" or "cool white" is apparently unavailable. When I went to check out, card in-hand with 7feet of the buttercup color in 2mm B type foam, I go all the way through the checkout process only to get a notification that I could not buy the amount I'd need. I sigh, to all the way back through the process and try to find any other possible color, all of which appeared "unavailable."

Now, I'm about to have to settle for black which will be a pain, but doable. I'll now just have to completely change the color of my neoprene sheet and hope the paint will be able to withstand it.

FRUSTRATIIIING!

Edit:
Now, apparently, black isn't in sufficient quantity. :|
This is flipping ridiculous.

Edit 2: Aaand a sheet of white is magically back in stock. >:V

[MerMarla]

Can I just say, 'UGH!'

I spent ALL DAY searching for neoprene in-store today, and called ALL OVER the place looking for it, but was eventually unsuccessful. So, I end up having to just go to the internet. So, I go to several websites before deciding on Rockywoods, since their prices seem to be the most reasonable, and their stock seemed nice.

Every sheet of neoprene I tried to buy in a light color like "buttercup" or "cool white" is apparently unavailable. When I went to check out, card in-hand with 7feet of the buttercup color in 2mm B type foam, I go all the way through the checkout process only to get a notification that I could not buy the amount I'd need. I sigh, to all the way back through the process and try to find any other possible color, all of which appeared "unavailable."

Now, I'm about to have to settle for black which will be a pain, but doable. I'll now just have to completely change the color of my neoprene sheet and hope the paint will be able to withstand it.

FRUSTRATIIIING!

Oh I feel your pain! But there is a solution.... Call Alan Buhtz, product consultant at FoamOrder.com at 415-503-1133 . He has been just wonderful in answering all my questions. Not only does he have black neoprene, but also white. The nylon colors I was looking at are Beige, Ivory, and brown. If Beige is on black neoprene its more my skin tone, if I put beige on white, its more yellow. You have to get samples to see what you really want. Some nylon colors don't come on white, as that's a new neoprene just coming in. So ask lots of questions, order the free samples in all the thicknesses and colors you think you might want. You can Email Alan at <product-info@foamorder.com> I would go to FoamOrder.com and see the neoprene sample color chart. I know they may be slightly different than your monitor displays but it will be close.

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. In my research I thought Foam Order had the best prices, and best of all, it's in stock.

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Oh I feel your pain! But there is a solution.... Call Alan Buhtz, product consultant at FoamOrder.com at 415-503-1133 . He has been just wonderful in answering all my questions. Not only does he have black neoprene, but also white. The nylon colors I was looking at are Beige, Ivory, and brown. If Beige is on black neoprene its more my skin tone, if I put beige on white, its more yellow. You have to get samples to see what you really want. Some nylon colors don't come on white, as that's a new neoprene just coming in. So ask lots of questions, order the free samples in all the thicknesses and colors you think you might want. You can Email Alan at <product-info@foamorder.com> I would go to FoamOrder.com and see the neoprene sample color chart. I know they may be slightly different than your monitor displays but it will be close.

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. In my research I thought Foam Order had the best prices, and best of all, it's in stock.

Thanks Marla. Unfortunately I've already made the purchase XD
In my frustration, I managed to get the full sheet of white which will be good for what I'm trying to do (lionfish). It cost me 90 bucks, but fortunately I had the money to spare since my husband's family has this thing about throwing money at me for my birthday. I'll definitely keep Foam Order in mind for my next neoprene purchase though, that's for sure!

[MerMarla]

Thanks Marla. Unfortunately I've already made the purchase XD
In my frustration, I managed to get the full sheet of white which will be good for what I'm trying to do (lionfish). It cost me 90 bucks, but fortunately I had the money to spare since my husband's family has this thing about throwing money at me for my birthday. I'll definitely keep Foam Order in mind for my next neoprene purchase though, that's for sure!

Aww, ok, are you sure you can't cancel the order? You just placed it, and they have customer support ppl on phones. I think Foam Order was like less than $60 for a sheet of Neoprene, but don't quote me! LOL! For $30 savings, I would try. Then you could get the color you REALLY wanted!

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. And.... and.... you might be able to get white on white neoprene! That would really make your Lionfish POP! Oooooh! its gonna be beautiful any how!

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Aww, ok, are you sure you can't cancel the order? You just placed it, and they have customer support ppl on phones. I think Foam Order was like less than $60 for a sheet of Neoprene, but don't quote me! LOL! For $30 savings, I would try. Then you could get the color you REALLY wanted!

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. And.... and.... you might be able to get white on white neoprene! That would really make your Lionfish POP! Oooooh! its gonna be beautiful any how!

I'm actually trying to call them right now and cancel the order, but their office is closed right now and uuugh. So I have to leave them a message and hope they get back to me in the morning. Poopy. I'm looking at Foam Order right now and, yeah, I'd DEFINITELY want to save the extra $30, haha! That's more paints and supplies I could be getting!

[MerMarla]

I'm actually trying to call them right now and cancel the order, but their office is closed right now and uuugh. So I have to leave them a message and hope they get back to me in the morning. Poopy. I'm looking at Foam Order right now and, yeah, I'd DEFINITELY want to save the extra $30, haha! That's more paints and supplies I could be getting!

Oh, figures! I hope you can leave a message and that they get back to you tomorrow right away. Your bucking the Memorial Day fever of companies closing for the long weekend. So I hope they are open at least until noon.

I can't wait for you to post your drawings for your tail... if you did, I probably missed them. I am still hunting and pecking my way around this site!

Good luck! I know Alan can help you out! He's great to talk to!
Nite, nite!
Mermaid Marla

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Yeah, hopefully the accounting office still gets my message. What a headache, otherwise.
I have, actually, posted drawings for my tail on my project thread, but I'm changing up the fluke shape a bit and some of the painting pattern (wanna include a little more blacks in the fluke) but the basic idea is still the same.



I'd be very upset if they try and charge me a fee for cancelling the order, when it was literally just moments after I made the purchase, because they are away from the office for Memorial Day weekend. Hopefully it all works out, and I'll definitely be giving Alan a call :>

[MerMarla]

Yeah, hopefully the accounting office still gets my message. What a headache, otherwise.
I have, actually, posted drawings for my tail on my project thread, but I'm changing up the fluke shape a bit and some of the painting pattern (wanna include a little more blacks in the fluke) but the basic idea is still the same.

I'd be very upset if they try and charge me a fee for cancelling the order, when it was literally just moments after I made the purchase, because they are away from the office for Memorial Day weekend. Hopefully it all works out, and I'll definitely be giving Alan a call :>

Mermaid Nerinae,
How did things work out? Did you get your order cancelled? Did you call Alan? I love the drawings! What did you change your fluke shape to look like? I am still fretting on what color to get, beige on white or beige on black... I am leaning on the black neoprene with beige on both sides... now to determine thickness! Too many decisions, and I have that "analysis paralysis" indecision thing going on.

Hope all went well, please let me know how you faired!
Mermaid Marla

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Mermaid Nerinae,
How did things work out? Did you get your order cancelled? Did you call Alan? I love the drawings! What did you change your fluke shape to look like? I am still fretting on what color to get, beige on white or beige on black... I am leaning on the black neoprene with beige on both sides... now to determine thickness! Too many decisions, and I have that "analysis paralysis" indecision thing going on.

Hope all went well, please let me know how you faired!
Mermaid Marla

Weeell, I got the order cancelled, but the charge still hasn't dropped from my account. It may take another day or so, since it was over Memorial Day weekend but after it goes back on I'll be calling Alan and getting information from him on ordering some neoprene. I'll probably consider getting the beige or natural color on black neoprene. I'm going to use 1.5mm. It's the nice halfway point between 1 and 3. I figure it'll also make sewing easier (if I end up having to sew most of it) when it's stacked because 3mm will be SUPER thick when sewing. D:

As far as the fluke shape, it was going to be sort of a whale-esque shaped fin with some longer ends, just so it looks a little more flowy. :>

[MerMarla]

Weeell, I got the order cancelled, but the charge still hasn't dropped from my account. It may take another day or so, since it was over Memorial Day weekend but after it goes back on I'll be calling Alan and getting information from him on ordering some neoprene. I'll probably consider getting the beige or natural color on black neoprene. I'm going to use 1.5mm. It's the nice halfway point between 1 and 3. I figure it'll also make sewing easier (if I end up having to sew most of it) when it's stacked because 3mm will be SUPER thick when sewing. D:

As far as the fluke shape, it was going to be sort of a whale-esque shaped fin with some longer ends, just so it looks a little more flowy. :>

Oh! Mermaid Nerinea, This is great news! I do know that it's Murphy's Law working overtime! LOL! Anytime you want something right away, there are at least 5 things in the way that complicate matters! I'm glad you got the order cancelled. That was the first step, and the biggy.

I also decided to use the 1.5 mm, but beige on black (beige on back side, too). First I am making a skinsuit jacket. The gym I belong to just filled the outdoor pool and its a mite cold yet. I wish neoprene came in 1.0 mm, but I have yet to find it. So 1.5 will suffice. I was concerned with too much buoyancy, and having put on too much weight (30 lbs over the last 2 years) I float way to easy. So the neoprene was a question in my mind. I kept remembering my old wetsuit, that was 1/4 inch farmer john and 1/4 jacket over that... and I needed a huge amount of weight to get down. Then had to use the compensator to balance out the extra weight.

In my previous life at Weeki, we only used our lungs to adjust our neutrality in the water. I almost can't do that anymore because of the extra "love handles" I grew . So I will have to design a weight belt, or maybe line my tail eventually with small fishing weights, or similar, maybe curtain weights, dunno. I don't think you can get lead "shot" or fishing weights anymore because its toxic to rivers and fish if they swallow it off a fishing line.

I love the whale-shaped fluke. One of our Massachusetts vanity plates has a Right Whale tail/fluke on it! I may trace it out and use it. Or a Beluga, my favorite whale! Haven't really thought that far in advance. I am working on losing my 30 lbs first! LOL!

Hope all goes well for you! Glad I could help somewhat! Keep me posted if you have time!
(((Hugz))) & Bubble 'z
Mermaid Marla

[Mer_Adella]

Ok...still kind of upset so please excuse the language that is about to ensue.

I was in alabama with my boyfriend (his job travels and since I had no job I planned on staying there for a few years at most) but I got a job that I couldn't turn down and had to move back to Michigan. I flew and since it was such a small plane, I couldn't bring my dog with me. I was nervous about leaving my dog with him because for 10 months of her life, she had NEVER been away from me for a single night. Everything went ok. But last night that asshole called me and told me that she ate the middle of a metal pop can.
Now...let me explain....the middle is not the tab, as most of his family assumed (dumbasses) the middle is the middle! the part between the silver top and silver bottom, USUALLY the part that has the label on it....he said that he was playing cards in the garage (so they can smoke) and he came in and found her on the floor chewing on the metal top. he scolded her and threw the leftovers away then looked around and didn't find any other pieces around. So she ate it. He then told me and I got pissed. I asked "where were you?" he answered in the garage playing cards. "why wasn't she with you?" his response : idk. so I told him that he needed to take her to the vet. he came back with "Oh she will be fine. Mike's dog ate 20 christmas light bulbs and survived." SHE WILL BE FINE??!!! REALLY? besides the point Mike's dog is a Malmute. My dog is a small 40lb black and tan coonhound. I hung up because I was about to say somethings that would damage our relationship.

I can't exactly do anything about it because I don't have the money to drive down 13hrs, get my dog, and drive all the way back. But I am so mad! We have been together for 3 1/2 years. I love this kid, yes, he did something horrible but I can't help but love him. But seriously? I am so pissed. He loves the dog too, but its like I have to do everything. I asked where she got the pop can. (My dog isn't big enough to get on counters or table) He said he didnt know where she had gotten it from. And that made me madder. Its him and his cousin down there right now....so SOMEONE had to have drank the pop and left the can on the floor or on the end table next to the couch. But seriously? No one knows where she got it from? So I basically told him that maybe I shouldn't have taken this job because obviously someone needs to babysit the dog and them to make sure that the house is picked up and that the dog doesn't eat things they leave out. I'm so mad!!!! and upset because EVERYONE (him, his cousin, his cousin's fiance, his aunts uncles sister), are all telling me "she will be fine, my dog did this....".

Just so everyone is aware; no I will not break up with him, so please don't let that be your answer. I basically came up with two descisions in my mind. 1) if she does happen to die because of this, we are NEVER getting another pet. Because obviously I will have to be the person to take care of it which means that I can't travel with the pirate festival because I will have to find accommodations with my dog. and 2) I am considering getting a IUD as means of birth control because it lasts 3-5 years. I honestly don't want kids because he wouldn't/can't take responsibility. That is a far off decision but I am actually considering telling him that I don't think we can have them because he can't be responsible with a dog...what would happen with a kid??

Ok now that I said that last part...I do love him...we are going to get married. I do believe that if two people agree that they can get married and CHOOSE not to have kids that is fine. My aunt and Uncle did the same thing. They had nieces and nephews to care for. But I will not like any answer that says "break it off" blah blah blah. cus trust me some of his family his friends and mine as well have told me before "why be with him if your considering not having kids?" so please be careful with what you say ( I know its your opinion but at least take that into consideration that I would like helpful suggestions as far as what to do with my dog...or other things like that)

Thank you for reading this and reading myself repeat things over...but its hard for me. as I said I am in MI and he's in AL and I can't do anything on my end here.

[Jadestone]

Oh, Adella, I'm so sorry to hear about your dog!! That's really serious! Is there any way you can convince him to take her to the vet?

As for the options you listed: from his behavior I would definitely agree he is not ready to be taking care of pets OR children. It's not just that he let your dog eat the shard of metal, he also is refusing to take action about it and is pretending it's fine. If he had swooped in and rushed her to the vet, then that would to some degree balance out his negligence, but the fact that instead he's choosing to not do anything as a way to not accept responsibility... To me that's what makes him not ready to be the primary care for the life of others

Are kids something you and he have always wanted? I think it's definitely not the time to have them now, and you could go through with your IUD plan if you're comfortable with it, since after the 3-5 years you can reassess whether it's something you're ready for. If he planned children to be a part of his future, maybe this will shake him up enough to pull his act together--and keep it there.

*hugs* I'm so sorry you have to go through this! Let us know how your sweet dog does

[AniaR]

boo to medications that solve one problem but create another! *falls over*

[Mermaid Kalliope]

(Sorry if it's been said before... A lot of pages to go through)

I hate it when you have to CONSTANTLY remind someone that they have responsibilities and need to get them done and all they say is "Augh, I know" Or when you ask them if they are going to do something and they just go "Yeah" all non-committal. I sometimes fall under the "I know" but that's usually because they ask me during a time frame that I can't do it. (IE call a company that's closed for the day because I had OTHER responsibilities to take care of)

I've worked (just recently lost this job) at a grocery store as a "bagger" and I absolutely F**king HATE it when people treat me like I'm some stupid, ignorant piece of s#!t that won't amount to anything in my life because I'm obviously stupid, otherwise WHY would I be working this job? Then they get all "ERMAHGAWD" when I say something that is highly educated and insightful. I ALSO hate it when my BOSS treats me like I'm a dumbass and don't know shit about doing my job when I've been doing it CORRECTLY for months on end. -.- WTF...

The stupidity thing gets me the most though... it just UGH I WANNA SQUISH BABIES. Okay, maybe not really... But for someone who is a GATE (Gifted And Talented Education) student, a member of the (USA) National Society of Highschool Scholars, and an honors student, it is HIGHLY degrading... I just UGH... A lot of the time I think it's because I look 16 or 17 (I'm 23, 24 in June) and usually don't wear make-up and I'm a GIRL so, that adds up to me being stupid. It just... ARUGH. Or even when I'm at the tidepools educating other people on the marine life and the volunteer person comes up to me and starts explaining everything I had just been telling someone else within earshot. -.- Really? Just because I'm in a bikini doesn't mean I'm a bimbo.

Then there's the mermaid "talk". The "Why would you waste your money on a tail" and then proceed to tell me the MILLIONS of reasons why being a mermaid is a BAD idea and why I shouldn't pursue it. That goes for acting too. I get the "There are thousands of girls JUST LIKE YOU trying to do the EXACT SAME THING." I'm sorry, but no. There aren't thousands of girls JUST LIKE ME out there, otherwise I think I'd notice. And yeah, I know it's a tough field, but I don't care. I want to do it. Just because I don't work a 9-5 job doesn't mean that I'm a worse person than you. You want to pursue business? Go ahead! I support you that's awesome. Nursing? Fantastic! You're helping people! Pro-wrestler? Dude, you're getting exercise and a check, nice!

Just augh... I guess older people who don't support the new ways the younger generation has to make money in this f**cked up time. ><

End rant... PHEW glad to get that out there. I'll post again when more comes to mind. haha Wow, that felt great.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Adella! Oh my gosh!

I've worked in a vet's and yes, dogs do eat quite a bit of crazy things and survive! Cats, too, for that matter. But a metal soda pop can is terrible! I'm assuming (s)he chewed it up quite a bit, which means that it could be in small pieces. Now, this can be good, and it can be bad... If it gets "surrounded" by food and other things they can pass with little to no harm to her. If they don't... well... Perforation happens and that can only be fixed with surgery... Sometimes.

I really, really hope that she is okay. I have had lots of pets in my life and have held them very dear. If he doesn't want to take her to the vet, tell him to get mineral oil and either add that to her food or flush her system with that. It won't harm her, it will just help lubricate the pieces. But best of all, you should definitely press him to go take her for an X-Ray. That way, the vet can determine whether or not the pieces can pass safely.

Coon hounds are a wonderful breed, albeit, rare. Hounds don't handle things the way malamutes and other large dogs do. :< He needs to understand that. <3 Best of luck to you, hun. I'll keep both of you in my prayers.


As for the not having kids - Talk to him first. Very seriously talk to him about it. Don't cut corners and don't sugar coat it. I know you love him and I won't tell you to break up, but having children is a decision made by BOTH partners in a relationship. I don't want to see you damage anything by making a decision firmly then not really discuss it. If that makes sense. <3 Hope things work out, love.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Oh my god. One thing that annoys me beyond most things is when people try to talk you out of following your dreams and taking risks because of "slim chances" or "what ifs." Obviously some do or we wouldn't have examples of people who made it. I'd be happier now if I didn't listen to them early on.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Oh my god. One thing that annoys me beyond most things is when people try to talk you out of following your dreams and taking risks because of "slim chances" or "what ifs." Obviously some do or we wouldn't have examples of people who made it. I'd be happier now if I didn't listen to them early on.

Hear, hear! (or is it Here, here!) *raises glass*