Ditto. I hate living here, isolated from everyone except my (quite womderful but perpetually busy) husband. Stuck for more than another year. Therapy does seem to be helping though.Originally Posted by Little_Orca
Ditto. I hate living here, isolated from everyone except my (quite womderful but perpetually busy) husband. Stuck for more than another year. Therapy does seem to be helping though.
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Now, now.
You're making me sad
I'm sure both of you have many wonderful things in your life which you are so used to you cannot appreciate them.
Like...hm...family members. Pets. Not too many health problems?
As long as one can work/workout/travel, life is so much easier.
This won't help you squat, of course
I know, I went through a long phase of depression myself as a teen (actually I lost someone and mourned them, but psychologists say if you mourn longer than 1 year you are depressed, or something like that).
Looking back now, I still remember how awful this bleak outlook I had was, but at the same time, I could kick myself for wasting time with depression when I was young and perfectly healthy.
@caltuna Alright, you mentioning how you were diagnosed with depression after mourning for more than a year makes me want to go on another rant. I'm currently studying psychology and, although I'm only just starting my third year in the program, I hate, hate, HATE the DSM. I think that if psychologists rely on it too much, it's just a recipe for disaster. It's basically a "how-to guide" for psychology, but it basically assumes that people are like robots with malfunctions that need to be treated as such. It's very black-and-white, and I really disapprove of the way it determines whether or not a person is depressed. What if some people go through the stages of mourning more slowly or more quickly than others? What if you were incredibly close to the deceased person? What if you have another disorder that effects your rate of emotional recovery? What if, what if, what if. The DSM is like a check-list that doesn't really take into account other factors. Like I said, I'm not experienced enough to know the DSM in-depth, but from what I do know... urgh. It really frustrates me. :/
Sister: I have my masters in art therapy counseling. The thing about the DSM is that is is euro-centric. If you adopt a multi-cultural view on things and understand that cultural influences (such as ritual and length of mourning) are not pathological, the DSM is not as bad, not that it is 100%. Things are taken out and added often, hence why there are so many editions.
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Dont feel that way Orca! Never lose hope that you can do or be anything you want to be with the right planning. I have a friend who lost massive amounts of weight by using HCG injections. She was a LOT larger than you and over 3 months she looked like a totally different person. She gained some back after that and then went and had massive liposuction which made her super thin. So if being thin is that important to you, you can do it! Don't forget Star Jones who had her tummy stapled and sometimes you can get health insurance to cover that. So if it is that important to you, it CAN be fixed.
Kakarotte, that is what your merfriends are here for! We help to keep you occupied while hubbie is away. Is there a place to swim near you? Some high schools and universities have indoor pools. There are also public pools. There are certain times that you can access them. An internet search for swimming pools with your zip code and maybe a few phone calls will get you that data. I swim every other day or some times everyday.
Maybe take up gourmet cooking to plan super delicious meals each night! Don't forget a super work out each day. Develop an interest in singing! What self respecting mermaid can't sing like a siren? Develop an interest in some cosmetic aspect of yourself. Find a long hair forum to try to grow super long mermaid hair! Take up corset training to develop a iconic mermaid hourglass figure.
Take some online classes at a local university. They offer $5200.00 government grants for that on www.fafsa.ed.gov . You know that mermaids eat a lot of brain food so they are super intelligent! You MUST develop your intellect to the point of being HIGHLY intelligent to be a half decent mermaid. Get a part time job! By the time you do all of that your day will be over you will be exhausted and your hubby will be home!
Last edited by Mermaid Oshun; 07-02-2013 at 10:18 AM.
Lol, I'm actually a straight A experimental psych student at Kent State, and I have a million hobbies, including makeup, swimming, learning, writing, jewelry making and exercise. I'm a great cook, too. My problem is that I'm autistic, so making friends and keeping a "normal" job is hard. I had friends in Dayton but i lived there for 15 years. I feel incredibly isolated, and while hobbies and school are great, they're not really a substitute for interpersonal real life quality human contact. MerNetwork is great, however i can't go out dancing with a computer. I've been fired or laid off about 8 times. That feeds the neverending money problems. Modeling for money works to a point...though I've had very bad experiences with lecherous photographers. I'm doing medical testing now to pay for my dog's surgery. Seeing a therapist is helping me find where I'm just not connecting with people in person. It's just a slow process.
Last edited by Mermaid Varshana; 07-02-2013 at 11:24 AM.
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oh no! I appreciate everything I have. Like, so much that thinking about it makes me cry sometimes. Apparently, my mirror neurons probably don't function properly. It's the mechanism in your brain that manages mimickery, empathy, the ability to read and parrot body language, manages vocal inflection to match the social setting. My need for meaningful social interaction does not seem to "care" about this. I have learned to fake some things. Not enough to be able to hold down a real job or make new friends (it takes me about 3-5 years to really get people to notice I exist and like me). Dealing with this has been a rough lifelong learning experience.Now, now.
You're making me sad
I'm sure both of you have many wonderful things in your life which you are so used to you cannot appreciate them.
Like...hm...family members. Pets. Not too many health problems?
As long as one can work/workout/travel, life is so much easier.
Last edited by Mermaid Varshana; 07-02-2013 at 12:55 PM.
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This might sound super petty and stupid, but I hate that my skinny ass roommate can eat anything she wants and if I so much as look at a cookie, I gain 5 lbs. I know I am not "big" but no one wants to hire a chubby mermaid for any event. I have been busting my ass and eating mostly lettuce while she just sits around and eats Oreos. It is just so FRUSTRATING! My body just hates me and I hate it, which is a vicious cycle. I guess I just feel discouraged :/ I really want to lose more weight before I get my Raven tail.
-Mermaid Luna
Oh no. Eating healthy food to loose weight probably isn't working because it takes exersice to. Anyways I'd hire a chubby mermaid because theyr'e adorable and don't feel discouraged because if you are beautiful on the inside then you are beautiful on the outside (I'm sure you are)
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Thank you CascadaThat made me smile. I guess I need to start doing more than powerwalking...
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I highly recommend weightlifting. The myth that it doesn't burn calories is a lie. The more muscle you have, the more calories you'll burn 24 hours a day even if you're sleeping. You might not notice much weight loss because muscle weighs more than fat. I weigh the same as I did when I was a size 14 in junior high, but I'm a size 6 now.
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I woke up feeling emotionally lousy and I identify with this so much.
And the rest, I'm removing. Never fecking mind.
Yeah, I know admin can probably still see it. But following suit that others are bitching about their similar stuff, and thought it felt good to get it out... removing it.
Last edited by deepblue; 07-02-2013 at 02:15 PM.
Maybe that should have gone in the living with mental illness thread, but it's definitely a B!TC# for me.
oh my lord! :O
I know the feeling about differences in metabolism. Up until I was in my 20's, I was one of those people who could overeat and I was still a stick figure. I wanted to gain wait desperately. Now that I have past 40, however, I went on a 500 calorie diet for a month and did not lose a pound. I looked at a photo of myself and realized though that I should not worry about losing weight. I just finally have the curves I used to want so desperately. To turn around and become a stick figure again would be so counterproductive. But like I said if I did want to lose, there is always the HCG injections my friend used. She lost like 60 pounds in a few months. She lost so much weight that it did NOT look good on her bone structure. Her bones were too big to be that skinny. Every thing looked knobby. Big knobby wrists, elbows and knees. I told her as a friend she needed to gain a little weight back to look attractive.
I had to take weightlifting class in order to graduate with my associate degree in may, and I loved it. Well not at first, but it turned out to be an amazing way to get into shape. I gained about 3-5 lbs during the class, but I lost so many inches around my hips and butt. My shorts from last year are nearly falling off me and I have so much more energy. I highly recommend weight lifting for women because it will also strengthen your bones.
Ciesl2ja,
my little sister has the same problem. She can't eat anything without gaining weight. It might help to exercise before you eat breakfast. This will jump start your metabolism in the morning and you will burn more calories during the day. My sister also can maintain her weight better if she eats more frequently during the day (smaller meals). Unsalted, air popped popcorn is a good low calorie snack that will fill you up as long as you don't add butter.
Power walking is a great start. Try picking up some wrist weights to wear while you walk or wear a backpack with a few books in it. Adding weight will increase your results and help you build strength.
It's annoying for sure.
Lately, the time allotted for mourning "normally" has been reduced dramatically.
Not completely sure what it was- either 3 months, or 1 month.
I don't take those guys seriously, anyways.
When a doctor diagnoses a depression here, he gets a fat bonus paid from insurance, and he'll earn a hefty sum when prescribing antidepressants (and so will the pharmacists).
Unsurprisingly, the diagnosis depression has spread like a wildfire
It's worst if you have a serious illness that goes untreated because all doctors decide they will earn more money if they just ignore the disease and say you're depressed/mental instead.
I just love how every illness that is either too expensive or not yet understood is supposed to be "mental", until some daring guy comes along and proves the real reason for your aches and other symptoms is some noxious little bugger
(example: helicobacter).
Man, if the human psyche/fantasy were half as powerful as the psych guys claim, I'd be a superhero.
Thanks for all the advice and encouragement everyone. I have thought about doing PX90 but I've heard its really, really hard. Also, St. John's Wort is a great natural way to help depression and lavender oil helps me calm down when I am anxious. There are lots of natural remedies to help with emotional issues we all face daily, but be sure to research about the remedy before you just go on and do it
-Mermaid Luna
Sorry, but this has been bugging me all day.
Stereotypes.
You don't have to be anything to be a "half-decent" or "self respecting" mermaid. There are plenty of mers out there that can't sing, don't have the "iconic mermaid hourglass figure", or swim every day and are self respecting and far more than half decent.
Also, there is no intelligence requirement to be a mer, just passion and imagination.
If everymer had to be able to sing, be highly intelligent, have an iconic hourglass shape, possess long flowing locks of hair *and* be in peak condition, we wouldn't have a whole lotta mers. Not everyone can fall under having all that. For many reasons.
Some aren't born with the needed genes, some lack the funds to get to a pool/beach or even pay the membership that some public facilities ask for.
Nothing against you, personally, but I hate those stereotypes. I can stand it when people try to slap them onto everyone. (Like how all girls have to be tall, skinny, big boobs, tiny waist and blonde.)
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