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Mizuko, that sucks. You are awesome! I'm glad your parents are ok with you distancing yourself from her. But by golly, you have fun swimming in Thailand, and pretty please bring us back some video/pics! If she's too mean while you're there, I would totally just ditch the wedding and go swimming, and maybe show up for cake at some point in the reception if you feel like it LOL!

Varshana - Really, sister, I totally know the feels. ((HUGS)) Uber suckage. No bueno. I pretty much agree with Frenchie's gif-laden reply. I can't explain why people feel the need to hurt others; I get hurt by almost everyone who's been in my life on a regular basis, and I've never been able to figure out why... I guess I'm a push-over? So I am of no help there, sadly. I can offer a sympathetic ear, though.

Frenchie: You and the gifs :P
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I have problems with my younger sister, who likes to bully me. She used to be physically abusive but I felt I couldn't fight back because she's smaller than me, younger than me, any excuse you could find. After she started hitting me in the head with shoes while I was sleeping, I laid into her and now she's not physically abusive anymore. She's got some issues but thankfully, our relationship is better now than it used to me.

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My little sister used to be like that too. I think come high school for me I just got so pissed I lost my cool and punched her as hard as I could (I figured at that point I was only 14 years old and sickly, while she was ten or eleven and pretty healthy, so the playing field was even by my count). After the little squabble that ensued all serious physical fights came to an end. I got a busted lip and a few chunks of hair pulled out and she got a chunk of cheek scratched out. I honestly would have done it sooner if it weren't for the fact that my mother let her do it because I "did something to deserve it". :P

Thankfully now that she's an adult, she just thinks she's smarter/cleverer than me... So we'll see how that goes. I'm not laying in wait to laugh at her, but I am definitely going to tell her "I told you I knew better than you" when sh*t hits the fan. (Which it kind of already is since she's living in her car with her boyfriend that's 15 years older than her and refuses to get a job).

I am the youngest of three brothers and endured my fair share of abuse from my brothers, in my youth.

I am patiently waiting for the day when they are in nursing homes. Then I shall put unripe persimmons in their tapioca pudding and order will be restored.

Thank you so much everyone <3 I really really appreciate it. I feel like I dont talk about the carp she puts me through, so its nice to be able to tell someone :3
What makes me sad, is how common this bullying within families is. Like, its NOT ok, no matter how they are related to you, but people seem to turn a blind eye toward it? I have friends who dont take me seriously because my sister is 'nice' to them. When I'm a parent, I'm sure as heck going to pay close attention to how my children treat eachother!!

ohmigosh I had to giggle at *carp* being that this is an ocean inclined site. I know. My sense of humour is a bit *fishy*

AAARGHHH!!! Now I just had it!! Here goes: Doday I went for a swim in my local pool, and after doing my usual laps I tried to ask the lifeguard if i could bring my tail with me next time.
He was really impressed and I told him how it looked like and how I swim etc etc. He told me I could try It sometime ONLY when there where not much people in the pool for safety. My mom stood there beside me with a face like 'omg here she goes again. ( She already tried to stop me from asking this, my parents won't let me use my tail in public places).

And later on, after dinner whe came back to subject and told my dad.

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

I have Aspergers too. It took a lot of resourcefulness and courage, but I moved out at the age of 25. I'll tell you...I can't even imagine moving back in again. It makes your relationship with your parents a lot less stressful, and you life all around improves.

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He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

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They doesn't sound very supportive of things you care about :/

Do you have any friends that would be willing to help you? I think it would make the lifeguards feel better about you using the pool in your tail if you and the people with you are confidant about the whole situation.
This might help your parents see that you mean business and it's nothing to be embarrassed or concerned about as well.

That's awesome that you found a pool with a deep area to use your tail in. I bet they'll love you!
I'm looking forward to doing some serious swimming myself this weekend at a few lakes nearby. Super excited! The water's gross, but there shouldn't be as many people, so I'm looking forward to stretching my fins. Up until now I've had to paddle around in tiny backyard pools. I feel extra sympathy for fish in tiny containers :(

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He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

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I know how you feel, my parents divorced about 4/5 years ago and I live with my mother now. We are very close but she really isn't into mermaiding stuff and all that. I tried to warm her up a bit because I'm making a silicone mermaid tail at my boyfriends' house and I would love her to know about it and support me. I told her about the community and stuff and she wasn't really interested and found it all a bit strange. I decided not to tell her about it, or any other relatives because I know they would never approve, they're a bit old fashioned. I'm really irritated about it because it feels like they don't accept a part of me that I finally embraced after all these years. :/

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I am the youngest of three brothers and endured my fair share of abuse from my brothers, in my youth.

I am patiently waiting for the day when they are in nursing homes. Then I shall put unripe persimmons in their tapioca pudding and order will be restored.

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I know how you feel, my parents divorced about 4/5 years ago and I live with my mother now. We are very close but she really isn't into mermaiding stuff and all that. I tried to warm her up a bit because I'm making a silicone mermaid tail at my boyfriends' house and I would love her to know about it and support me. I told her about the community and stuff and she wasn't really interested and found it all a bit strange. I decided not to tell her about it, or any other relatives because I know they would never approve, they're a bit old fashioned. I'm really irritated about it because it feels like they don't accept a part of me that I finally embraced after all these years. :/

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Thanks for all the replays everyone! <3

my parents know I love my hobby, but they always think I go 'to far' with these things... They always have been very supportive for me and I'm thankful for that! But on the other hand they never let me go get a challange or how do you call it? I just think it's my weird combo of having Autism and really bad eyes...

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Thanks for all the replays everyone! <3

my parents know I love my hobby, but they always think I go 'to far' with these things... They always have been very supportive for me and I'm thankful for that! But on the other hand they never let me go get a challange or how do you call it? I just think it's my weird combo of having Autism and really bad eyes...

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Could be possible, I have a sister with autism :) and my mother was/is always very protective of her. I can imagine how it must be for you. It's wonderful that they are very supportive, I think it's a big step for them to let go because parents always want the best for their child, no matter how old he or she is haha :D.

On Wednesday we got a call from the hospital telling us that my fiancée's second youngest brother has been in a motorcycle accident. So obviously we all went down to the hospital that he was in to go see him. He had broken his leg in two place and fractured his pelvis. He also sustained a head injury and was concussed.
We got down there just after lunch and went in to see him. Kyle (fiancée) stepped out to make a phone call while I was talking to his brother. When Kyle came back his mother was with him, sporting a black eye with her pupils the size of dinner plates, and the first words out of her mouth her "You need to get out of here, this is for family only. You aren't a part of this family, you need to leave." I said fine and left. Kyle followed not before telling the security guard on duty to keep and eye on his mother because she's being a bit un reasonable. She also tried to stop Kyle's Son from coming with us, and caused him a bit of pain, that wasn't much fun
I told Kyle if this is how she's going to act, I don't want her coming to the wedding. Kyle agreed with me.
So I was sitting in the waiting room looking at photos and videos on my mobile with my stepson when dearest mother in law came out. She said sorry but "it's for family only so people who aren't family shouldn't be in there" while she was trying to get my partners son off the seat to take him back in to the emergency room. I told her I didn't care there where better ways to go about it rather than being that rude. That must have triggered something as she went off her nut, telling me I shouldn't be posting horrible things about her on my facebook, or texting her nasty things (which I think is interesting as she's not on my facebook and have never posted anything about her on it, I don't have her mobile number and I don't have any money on my phone.)
I asked to see the texts that I had supposedly sent her and she was unable to show me anything. She went to say that I "didn't have a son", and that "I didn't have a son in hospital". Now I know that Kyle's son isn't my son, but seeing as I have been that person in his life since he was 18 months old (he's almost 6 and a half now), he calls me mum, and I have had to go to hospital with him before so I was pissed, I wanted to hit her. But I restrained myself, told her to stop talking to me, to get out of my face and I turned around and refused to face her. At this point I was called a rude bitch, along with a 100kg Fat Heifer and how dare I turn my back on her. Now I know I'm a bigger girl, but I'm not 100kg (220lb) I'm more like 80kg (176lb) She then decided it would be a good idea to threaten my physical safety and my life stating "I'll get you bashed, they turn you upside down and inside out" "You won't be around anymore after this". I concentrated on shielding my step son so he didn't have to see her carry on like this, while a security guard that had been sent to follow her asked her if she like to step into a quiet room. Kyle was trying to move my mother in law away from me (with her screaming "don't you touch me") and I picked up my step son up and moved away as he was close to crying with his hands over his ears.

Kyle and I walked out of the hospital, while I was still carrying my step son and went around the corner to sit down and relax. He was so concerned about his Nana following us that he kept looking down the street to make sure she wasn't there.
We had to wait 2 hours before she left so that we could go back to the hospital. In that time my mother in law sent Kyle numerous texts defending herself, saying I was in the wrong and how dare I waltz in uninvited on a family situation.
Kyle and I both decided (again) that it would be best if she didn't come to the wedding (less than 2 months away now). Neither of us wanted her there after that performance. So now we're at the point of uninviting her to the wedding. What fun for us

Crazy people are awesome, no? I also had the unfortunate job of uninviting a rude crazy person who was close to us from our wedding. You made the right decision. It won't be pleasant and there will be lots of dumb posturing, but then you'll have a better, less drama filled wedding because of it.

Elle, she sounds like a typical borderline personality disorder mom. I have one, and they are so much more common than people realize. This is a great forum for people who have someone with BPD in their life, but even if she doesn't have BPD (most are undiagnosed) the forum acts for people who show symptoms, which she certainly does. So check it out http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/ Check out this specific area, I bet you if you read some posts, they'll start ringing a bell ;) http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/i...5f9&board=11.0 could give you great pointers. If you think this really applies to her I have awesome books for you! <3

Hey, at least there will be no drama at the wedding! (everyone, ignore your phones! :p) Good for you for making that decision. I know it's hard, but seriously that lady sounds pretty messed up, and it's just not good to be around that kind of stuff. ((HUGS))

Ok... I am really ticked off now, so I have to vent.

You know what?

In the time I took writing a thorough discussion and argument proving my points above and explaining my thought process on the mermaid tarot thread, I could've written a whole chapter of a book, another article, or fill in about a dozen of the cards and archetypes... and all some people can come up with is an eloquently worded "nuh-uh!"? I'm insulted.

Too bad. There are at least three mermaid oracle decks out there. They can go buy one of them.

Stupid Thyroid!! I'm sick of this- I cant catch a break here, I train hard, walking/running miles, swimming or good ole' cardio for 1 -2 hours daily, I eat portioned high fiber meals and stay away from Starches and other fatty things. i drink lots of water and i gained 10 lbs in 2 months!!.:mad:

This is unacceptable, I'm trying to loose weight, I go to the docs today I get my thyroids checked (ugh needles :/ ) and once again they are acting up. I'm <---> this close to get them removed, but that results in taking a pill for the rest of my life. im about ready to put myself on a rice cake and soup diet.. cheese, this month keeps getting better and better :headdesk:

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Ok... I am really ticked off now, so I have to vent.

You know what?

In the time I took writing a thorough discussion and argument proving my points above and explaining my thought process on the mermaid tarot thread, I could've written a whole chapter of a book, another article, or fill in about a dozen of the cards and archetypes... and all some people can come up with is an eloquently worded "nuh-uh!"? I'm insulted.

Too bad. There are at least three mermaid oracle decks out there. They can go buy one of them.

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I'm sorry you feel that way :( I really hope you continue with the tarot though, I really like where it was going!

Joy&raptors if it's about who I think you're referring to, I think you have every right to be upset.

New York Mermaid: aww that stinks. Thyroids can be a b!tc#... The only thing I can say is I was in my best shape when a made fresh veggie/fruit juice (secondhand juicers are cheap) and smoothies every day... Otherwise it's a battle with my weight for me as well :/ ((HUGS)) And pills suck >.<

Raptor: I agree. There are other more "traditional" mermaid decks out there. Every tarot artist makes their deck first and foremost for themselves. Who knows, maybe eventually there will be 10 mer-themed Tarot decks out there to choose from! I'm personally enjoying learning all this about sea deity mythology.

@moonlightmermaid yea it sucks I actually have a nutribullet I've been using for rasberrie and other smoothies with flax seeds. But thanks for the advice I might need to entice a shark the next time I go swimming to get me motivated

Thanks SeaGlass Siren and Moonlight Mermaid. I probably shouldn't have said anything on here (or even responded to them the first time), but I think sharing knowledge and ideas can be really fun.

And New York Mermaid, I'll pray that you feel much better ASAP :(

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I just wanted to say how sorry I am you're dealing with this. I understand. I'm the middle child of three, and I've actually stopped speaking to my younger sister because she's such an emotionally, verbally abusive, horrible person to me and to my mom. The disrespect is mind-blowing, and my mom makes excuses and wants me to be the bigger person and somehow fix things. Well, I can't and won't try- I've tried. Thing is, some people are just toxic. Blood related or not, I'm done with her because she's toxic. And since she's a huge liar and manipulative and arrogant, I have no faith whatsoever that she will ever change. So I'm done with her. My mom, from guilt, constantly convinces herself that my little sister is 'getting better' but she isn't.

I let go of her, and it was liberating. I don't need her in my life and I don't want her around my child.

My entire family is so screwed up though. Years of living through various abuses and all of it culminating in a highly traumatic event... I'm the only one who got help, starting 20 years ago, so now I've bypassed them all in sanity, but because I got the diagnoses, they are all still convinced that I'm 'the' crazy one. Which is astounding... because my life isn't perfect but it's good. It's nice. I like it. Theirs? Chaos. To me, that shows who's evolving.

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Raptor: I agree. There are other more "traditional" mermaid decks out there. Every tarot artist makes their deck first and foremost for themselves. Who knows, maybe eventually there will be 10 mer-themed Tarot decks out there to choose from! I'm personally enjoying learning all this about sea deity mythology.

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I'm not aware of the entire story, but I agree with ^that from what I've read so far.

I used to manage an occult bookstore, and we carried every tarot deck on the market. Every. One. I can tell you, there is a market for every kind of deck. For every three super traditional decks, the market always needs and wants unique decks - and it will find its audience. It will resonate with those as unique. Some people will only ever want variations on the Rider-Waite, and that's fine for them (though there are older decks, which the RW is actually based on but that don't spell things out as clearly and so aren't as popular), but the really unique decks were always my favorite. A good example of decks which must be learned from a zero point and referring to no others are The New Orleand Voodoo Tarot and the Tarot of the Secret Forest. The artists created an entirely new set of symbolism, yet it's still truly tarot. Very, incredibly creative and cool.

Someone needs to do something new in the mermaid decks, happy if it's you, Raptor.

Joy&raptorsunrestrained: Thank you, I need all prayers,Good vibes and thoughts I can get.

It keeps getting worse... My dad has to have not one but two surgeries October, he's getting a pacemaker put in and also getting major back surgery. I also have to help my mom out since she lost her job. I gave her the only bit of money I had to at least buy her some food for the week. I don't know what to say or do any more I cant catch a break. I just want to swim into a cave and not come out until it all gets better.:(

Okay, I've gone back and forth about posting this because there are so many ways for it to look wrong.

I'm tired of fighting with myself! I have anxiety, and EVERY minute of every day is a fight against the negative inner dialogue. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes because I have to shake my head and tell myself to shut up about every 20 minutes because my "That was so stupid, I make no sense, they think I'm an idiot, why the heck did I do that, I just want it to stop, I'm an idiot, I really just want to die, just shut up, I'm making it worse, I've lost it again, now why did I do THAT, oh my gosh I look so stupid..." inner dialogue is relentless. Now, I'd like to say I DON'T want to die, but for some reason I catch myself thinking it when what I'm really thinking is "I'm so tired of being stressed all the time and I really really just want it to STOP." Yes, I have a therapist. And I'd better post this quick, here, or I'll convince myself that it'll make me look weak and stupid in front of y'all and it's better off not said.

At the moment, the inner me is saying, "You're such an attention hog, they'll think you're just trying to get attention, what kind of person posts about mental issues on the internet, you look so crazy and desperate, they won't think you're cool, there are people with REAL problems here, why are you whining..."

Yay. I'm just finding that I don't want to face the world anymore. I sleep 10+ hours a day when I can and still find myself going to bed ASAP because I feel tired. I'll be talking with my doctor, etc. about it but I just needed an immediate outlet.

Sorry.

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Joy&raptorsunrestrained: Thank you, I need all prayers,Good vibes and thoughts I can get.

It keeps getting worse... My dad has to have not one but two surgeries October, he's getting a pacemaker put in and also getting major back surgery. I also have to help my mom out since she lost her job. I gave her the only bit of money I had to at least buy her some food for the week. I don't know what to say or do any more I cant catch a break. I just want to swim into a cave and not come out until it all gets better.:(

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Sending prayers and good wishes your way!

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Sending prayers and good wishes your way!

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Thanks Thalassa, Sending some your way too.

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Okay, I've gone back and forth about posting this because there are so many ways for it to look wrong.

I'm tired of fighting with myself! I have anxiety, and EVERY minute of every day is a fight against the negative inner dialogue. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes because I have to shake my head and tell myself to shut up about every 20 minutes because my "That was so stupid, I make no sense, they think I'm an idiot, why the heck did I do that, I just want it to stop, I'm an idiot, I really just want to die, just shut up, I'm making it worse, I've lost it again, now why did I do THAT, oh my gosh I look so stupid..." inner dialogue is relentless. Now, I'd like to say I DON'T want to die, but for some reason I catch myself thinking it when what I'm really thinking is "I'm so tired of being stressed all the time and I really really just want it to STOP." Yes, I have a therapist. And I'd better post this quick, here, or I'll convince myself that it'll make me look weak and stupid in front of y'all and it's better off not said.

At the moment, the inner me is saying, "You're such an attention hog, they'll think you're just trying to get attention, what kind of person posts about mental issues on the internet, you look so crazy and desperate, they won't think you're cool, there are people with REAL problems here, why are you whining..."

Yay. I'm just finding that I don't want to face the world anymore. I sleep 10+ hours a day when I can and still find myself going to bed ASAP because I feel tired. I'll be talking with my doctor, etc. about it but I just needed an immediate outlet.

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Aww you lovely dear, you. That must be extremely exhausting and confusing to have that going on in your head all the time. It's more frustrating when you don't have anyone close to you to talk to about it, or at least not without feeling like you're being foolish or attention seeking in doing so. Have you considered seeing a therapist? I guess a doctor could give you medication to help with your anxiety, but it's not gonna help resolve anything, you know?

Edit- never mind, I somehow missed that part where you said you're seeing a therapist and all. Sorry about that :/

Thalassa: ((HUGS))

Thanks, friends. I appreciate the support and letting me vent. <3

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Okay, I've gone back and forth about posting this because there are so many ways for it to look wrong.

I'm tired of fighting with myself! I have anxiety, and EVERY minute of every day is a fight against the negative inner dialogue. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes because I have to shake my head and tell myself to shut up about every 20 minutes because my "That was so stupid, I make no sense, they think I'm an idiot, why the heck did I do that, I just want it to stop, I'm an idiot, I really just want to die, just shut up, I'm making it worse, I've lost it again, now why did I do THAT, oh my gosh I look so stupid..." inner dialogue is relentless. Now, I'd like to say I DON'T want to die, but for some reason I catch myself thinking it when what I'm really thinking is "I'm so tired of being stressed all the time and I really really just want it to STOP." Yes, I have a therapist. And I'd better post this quick, here, or I'll convince myself that it'll make me look weak and stupid in front of y'all and it's better off not said.

At the moment, the inner me is saying, "You're such an attention hog, they'll think you're just trying to get attention, what kind of person posts about mental issues on the internet, you look so crazy and desperate, they won't think you're cool, there are people with REAL problems here, why are you whining..."

Yay. I'm just finding that I don't want to face the world anymore. I sleep 10+ hours a day when I can and still find myself going to bed ASAP because I feel tired. I'll be talking with my doctor, etc. about it but I just needed an immediate outlet.

Sorry.

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I feel ya. <3 I went through that about 3 years ago. It was so bad I couldn't step outside my house other than to go on walks. Hours upon hours were spent walking for me, thank goodness I live out in the boonies or people would have thought I was insane wandering around the streets hysterically crying and not understanding why.

Medicine helped me, just enough to get me over the trying part in my life, and then I weaned myself off the meds. I'm not saying it's going to get 100% better, because it's not. That anxiety and nerves and terrible crap holding us back is part of who we are. Mine I imagine as a very large black beast, one that wraps itself around me at the worst moments and tries to swallow me whole. But it is NOT the end. It gets better. And we fight those monsters every day of our lives. But it gets better.

But the most important thing? YOU ARE NOT WEAK. This does not mean you are weak, or that you are less of a person than any other human on this god forsaken planet. We are all here for a reason, you as well. Weakness is a sense of being powerless, and you my dear are anything but that. Just by being able to post this is enough to show yourself that. Strength is something that comes from within, and soon you'll see that there's a well of power inside of you that you might never have seen before. <3 <3 You have people in this world who love you without ever meeting you. Don't ever forget that.

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Could be possible, I have a sister with autism :) and my mother was/is always very protective of her. I can imagine how it must be for you. It's wonderful that they are very supportive, I think it's a big step for them to let go because parents always want the best for their child, no matter how old he or she is haha :D.

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Crazy people are awesome, no? I also had the unfortunate job of uninviting a rude crazy person who was close to us from our wedding. You made the right decision. It won't be pleasant and there will be lots of dumb posturing, but then you'll have a better, less drama filled wedding because of it.

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Hey, at least there will be no drama at the wedding! (everyone, ignore your phones! :p) Good for you for making that decision. I know it's hard, but seriously that lady sounds pretty messed up, and it's just not good to be around that kind of stuff. ((HUGS))

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Yes! I'm looking forward to a drama-less wedding!!! I'm kinda glad in a way that it's happening now, so we don't have to worry about it later and it has been dealt with :)

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Elle, she sounds like a typical borderline personality disorder mom. I have one, and they are so much more common than people realize. This is a great forum for people who have someone with BPD in their life, but even if she doesn't have BPD (most are undiagnosed) the forum acts for people who show symptoms, which she certainly does. So check it out http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/ Check out this specific area, I bet you if you read some posts, they'll start ringing a bell ;) http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/i...5f9&board=11.0 could give you great pointers. If you think this really applies to her I have awesome books for you! <3

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I did actually think about that. My step sons mother has BPD but she got diagnosed and has been seeking help (Makes everything so much easier)
The only reason I don't think this applies to my mother in law is because this change in her has occurred over the last couple of months. Though I don't know if BPD is something that just pops up one day or not. I think it may have something to do with illicit substances (she spent sometime in jail recently for possession and selling)

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Ok so my grandma passed away yesterday. The entire process has been pretty terrible, and me, being the grandCHILD!, has gotten dragged into and is pretty much acting as one of her children. Helping make the hospital choices and life decision for her. She's got 7 children, and only my father has done anything to deal with any of this. Although she wasn't really on speaking/good terms with any of her other children. And I feel like my uncle is making hits at me on facebook, posting things like "not even a funeral?... hope our children do us the same way" and posting photos like "if you have to hide what you are doing from someone, then you know in your heart what you are doing is wrong."

1st of all! grandma didn't even want you to know! She doesn't like you, and as far as she was concerned you took her granddaughter away from after you dumped her on grandma when she was only a baby for about 14yrs. Then you go through CPS to get her taken way to get her back, then tell her lies about it. And from what many people in our family say your a pedophile! who molested your own sister, nieces and elderly people who can't help themselves! Some even suspected you did that to your own children! Grandma was sick with discuss from you. She was disgraced to have you as a child. And the name you go by! That's not even your God-given name, she gave you! Instead you use the name of a deceased child because your hiding! Fucking Despicable! How is anyone going to find you to notify you of grandma being sick or passing when you don't even use your real name! Whatever! Like i said she didn't want you to know anyways! The only reason you know is because I thought your daughter deserved to know because my grandma raised your daughter!

2ndly Yes there will be no funeral! Because if you had been there with her you would know that, she DID NOT WANT a funeral. All she wanted was to be with grandpa once she passed! That is ALL! Even If it means she won't get the exact type of burial she wanted. Somehow, she'll be with grandpa in the end! That's all she really wanted. SO how dare you speak on that! You could of been there when grandpa passed! Especially since grandma humbled herself and asked you to be there(not something she does often or freely, she was very stubborn and often held grudges) What did you tell her? NO! You said NO! And as far as she was concerned since you didn't want to be there for grandpa she didn't want you there for her!
You don't know what she wanted! You were never there, never lifted a finger for her! When was the last time you even saw grandma? That's right, some 16yrs ago or so... You had all that time to come visit her, but never did. The only time you spoke with her is when you called to ask her to give you money!

How DARE you speak on her funeral or anything I've done for her as a granddaughter to honor her last wishes! Because as far as i see it, I'M THE ONLY ONE DOING ANYTHING FOR HER, besides my dad, TO HONOR HER WISHES! I was there before she got sick, while she got sick, and all through her dying! I went to visit with her whenever I could. It wasn't very often but still she KNEW I at LEAST TRIED to see her whenever I could! And for what I did for her, what very little I did for her!, she was so grateful to have someone love her with her faults like I did! And for that she left me everything! And nothing to her children. Let's see you shit a brick when (and if) you find that out. You won't find out from me though... I did you a favor by letting your daughter know of your mother's passing because I knew she would let you know (it wasn't my grandma's wishes for you to know, and I'm sorry you do know but.... your daughter, she is my cousin, i grew up with her, i love her<3 ) But I will do you no more favors.
How dare you make me feel anything, because of anything you do! :anger explode:


ugh i'm sorry that was so long and terrible guys. i've been struggling for months with an unmedicated mental illness and then dealing with this the last few months. and yesterday was just the icing on the cake. i just had to say something about it to someone or somewhere because i feel like i'm going a little crazy :sad eyes:

i feel a little better now though

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Originally Posted by Phoenix Mermaid

i feel a little better now though

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Phoenix, I am so sorry for your loss and that you are being put though all this. Sometimes family are the absolute worst. I hope everything smooths out for you, soon. <3

Phoenix-That sounds horrible. I cannot even begin to understand, but I can certainly imagine it. Poor baby. *hugs tight* Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. You ARE doing the right thing, you have nothing to feel bad about.