It's hard to know when to ignore and when to stand up for yourself Fenicia. I can appreciate that "ignoring" ends up meaning you can't go to your favourite websites anymore etc. But I have found a lot of piece in simply making an effort to avoid things. For instance, people know I have an issue with mertailor, it's pretty common knowledge. So I try really hard not to look at his page unless their is a legit reason for me to. It's kinda dumb but the "out of sight out of mind" rule does work. I feel a lot better, and a lot less stress when I simply don't go to the website. But the temptation to just know what's going on, or in your case perhaps what people are saying about you can be pretty difficult to ignore.

Even celebrities cave once in a while. I was watching Ellen and she was saying how she tries hard to ignore celebrity gossip- but that she saw something pop up about her and her wife. It took something simple like them going out to dinner in matching outfits, and turned it into this whole big deal with all these stupid assumptions. So Ellen made fun of it on her show and had a laugh about it. You have to just roll your eyes at times about the assumptions people make. I have a few friends who are bigger and into costuming, cosplay, and clothing design. They've told me more than once they find it hard for people to accept them and take them seriously despite hours and hours of hard work on their designs. Saying that people often look at their size first and don't even realize the hard work they put into their costumes one girl even showed me an entire "you're doing it wrong" website about bigger girls in cosplay

Not sure if anyone watches South Park but they actually touched on body image as well as "lowering the bar" in regards to what is acceptable both in body image and behaviour of people. While South Park is known for being offensive I find their parodies actually have a good message. In this case, it was that we're almost too accepting of obesity, or that people profit off it literally by making money (their reference was to Honey Boo boo TV show) and making fun and thinking it's funny. So really, we need to be setting a standard of HEALTHY body sizes and lifestyles, and really stop having it be so acceptable to benefit from someone elses struggle. We live in a culture right now that everyone on the internet can become an "expert" on anything thanks to the ease of info, people can say whatever they want thank to anonymity, and a huge amount of entertainment both on TV and the internet comes from making fun of other people or looking down on them. This is an issue world wide in many areas, not just mermaiding.

Not sure if you saw Fenica, but I made a status that was inspired by this thread not too long ago. https://www.facebook.com/permalink.p...83327321702019 in other words: the people on 4chan who throw hate your way? They're going to do it no matter what! You could lose a bunch of weight and they'd find something else. So you can't live your life in any effort to make them like you, or prevent others from acting the same way. You need to do what makes you happy and being in a mermaid tail does! And you know what? When you go out and do your thing, it validates OTHERS who want to do it too! They see you and think, "she's doing it. I can too!" Just know, that just because someone says something mean about you, that doesn't make it true all of a sudden. I realized I was struggling with that too when it comes to certain people who say bad things about me. Just because they say it, doesn't make it true. YOU get to decide who you are Not them. <3

I'm really sorry you are still struggling with that 4chan experience. I hope you feel strong enough to not go on the site. They will be jerks whether or not you read what they say, so why not safe yourself the trouble and just avoid them. <3