A Guide to Unwanted Contact: Merverts, Trolls, Collectors, and more with list

[Prince Calypso]

I'm not saying that sexual harassment isn't a very real issue, it definitely is. I have worked in a Women's Center before and I am not discounting the severity of the matter. I am just saying we should as a group be cautious of our terminology and be very careful of how we treat others in any situation.

agreed. the line between flattery and harassment can be very thin and change from person to person depending on what they are comfortable with.
to the wrong mermaid someone commenting on their shell bra or scale bra could come off as being sexual or pervy when that wasn't the intent.
i think as Coradion said we should just being clear and direct with situations and not be to in a rush to label someone a mervert off the bat because one or two comments.

[AniaR]

I am just saying we should as a group be cautious of our terminology and be very careful of how we treat others in any situation.

And we are? I know you pretend like you don't read my posts but you clearly do. This entire thread is people trying to determine the intent of someone. The very first post breaks it down into the categories. Nobody is going "OMG I GOT THIS ONE NON SEXUAL COMMENT THIS PERSON MUST BE A PERVERT." So don't act like it is. I don't even see why you feel the need to criticize it or defend others except for the fact it's my thread and you do that in pretty much all of my threads you post in. You reported my post a while back warning people about my physical stalker. It's actually been feeling pretty trolly and obsessive for a while...maybe that's why you have no problem defending people who are being trolly and obsessive to others? Claiming you "cant see" my posts is BS because you're constantly trolling them and anyone can check your post history to see that. And if you can't see them? Why constantly report them? You know whenever someone reports a post to an admin the admins go to the people in question to see their side of the story? I know every time you report my posts. You do it a lot for someone who cant see them.


i think as Coradion said we should just being clear and direct with situations and not be to in a rush to label someone a mervert off the bat because one or two comments.

No offence to yah Calypso I love yah but, But no one is doing that. Literally. Look through the thread. People are being pretty clear with what they feel is someone sexually harassing them, and what they feel is someone just being rude or annoying. And people are asking "what has your experience been with this person?" so they can make a clear judgment. Nobody is rushing to label anyone a mervert. Nobody is getting a comment like "hey your photo looks beautiful" and calling it harassment. We're getting "your boobs are huge I wanna blow bubbles on your tummy I want a mermaid girlfriend be my wife :) :) :) " like honestly... lol like the links said, catcalling is NOT flattering.

If you have a problem with the thread guys, (and it seems to be only guys complaining) how about re-reading it from the start first: http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?8927-A-Guide-to-dealing-with-Merverts-and-a-list-of-known-PROVEN-offenders if you aren't being harassed or don't have anything helpful to add for people who are... I don't think you need to be in it. Because no one here needs to be reminded of any of the stuff you're saying. It's being demonstrated in every single post people make already. And it's not really a thread to debate the ethics of talking to people online. We can certainly start a different thread about it. My concern with men coming in passing judgment is that it will create an environment where we've had this safe space for people to discuss and document these issues and get some help, and then people will no longer feel safe or OK in doing that because they know a few members of the community will voice their dissatisfaction with it and possibly judge them for speaking up or asking a question. You've taken a post that was intended as an answer to: "why do they think this is OK" and twisted it into "you are jumping to conclusions and not taking into consideration people's intent" it's honestly starting to sound like #notallmen

So let's make it crystal clear:

1. This thread is for people to document and discuss any unwanted communication they've been getting from a person online. They can choose to identify it as listed on the first page as a mervert (someone whose comments are sexual in nature) collector (someone who adds every mermaid and perhaps doesn't follow the norm socially for how to talk with the people they are obsessed with) trolls (people whose soul purpose in adding is to just bother you) and others (someone makes you uncomfortable and youre not sure if it's worth worrying about)

2. In order to achieve any kind of label participants have been asked to provide screen shots and proof of their experiences or for enough people who have had the experience

3. People are using this thread to help them figure out who is sending them genuine friend requests and who is possibly adding them for the sake of sending sexual or obsessive comments. WE HAVE A RIGHT TO DO THAT. We have a right to know who wants to add us, why, and make an informed decision if we want to add them or not, or block them from our pages.

4. Nobody is jumping to labelling anyone a mervert. It's been pretty clear the entire time. The community defines a mervert as someone who makes repeated sexual comments to mermaids that aren't consensual or wanted, or who projects their sexual fetish onto others in a non-consensual manner.


So, back to letting mermaids post their experiences and vent their frustrations and hopefully get some help from dealing with the constant harassment (and yes, constant unwanted communication is harassment regardless of the tone!) we deal with on a daily basis! It's depressing we even need to explain this further or defend it at this point. I hope ya'll can move on or at the very least start your own thread.
harassment

(either harris-meant or huh-rass-meant) n. the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious. Such activities may be the basis for a lawsuit if due to discrimination based on race or sex, a violation on the statutory limitations on collection agencies, involve revenge by an ex-spouse, or be shown to be a form of blackmail ("I'll stop bothering you, if you'll go to bed with me"). The victim may file a petition for a "stay away" (restraining) order, intended to prevent contact by the offensive party. A systematic pattern of harassment by an employee against another worker may subject the employer to a lawsuit for failure to protect the worker. (See: harass (http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/harass), sexual harassment (http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/sexual%20harassment))

[Mermaid Cascada]

Woah woah woah, please stop with the personal jabs. Raina, this is not to start drama and I hope you don't take offense; however, I think you are misunderstanding or misinterpreting some of the posts... No where did Coradion say that this was an excuse for these people to act the way they do. When he said "Discern before passing judgement!", he was corresponding to what Anahita had previously said. Yes, these guys are harassing, but because they were taught that it was okay and that Western woman were easy, (doesn't make it right); however, she also said they'd probably stop once they were told to. SO, maybe before we label them as a mervert we should take this cultural difference into account, and teach them that it's not okay. Again, it doesn't make what they are doing okay.

Also, he did not lecture any of these posters about being more understanding of these harassers. And no, he is not victim blaming. These are serious accusations, and you even accused him of "mansplaining". Just because he is a man and he made a comment you don't agree with, you should not accuse him of this either. I see no "mansplaining", trolling, or obsessing. All serious accusations. Mansplaining is when a person explains something to someone in a condescending manner because they are female, and are assumed to have a lesser knowledge of the subject.
I don't have a problem with this thread, I think it's great. I do have a problem with getting rude and personal towards someone just sharing an opinion. Not cool.
I hope no one takes offense to my post, I don't want to start drama, but I feel like something had to be said.

[malinghi]

Raina and Coradion, it sounds like things are getting a little heated. You guys don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, and that's okay. Once you've made your point, please don't engage with people you are unlikely to get along with.

Everyone, please to be civil and be respectful so Iona and I don't have to step in. If you think a post might violate the forum rules, play it safe and don't post it.

[Mermaid Wesley]

At the risk of seeming... Mean.... I think this thread is instrumental to keeping myself and other mers safe from internet predators and harassment. I think that we have never once stepped over the line as far as comparing experiences and I for the life of me don't understand what anyone's problem is with this thread. This is one of the most calm and careful attempts to protect ourselves from merverts that I have seen. This sort of thing is one of the only ways that women can keep themselves safe. Yes I'm saying women specifically. (Not that it doesn't happen to men, but I haven't seen one instance of that here so it's unrelated.) These people aren't just harmless annoyances. You run the real risk of running into a sexual predator in these circles. So no. I don't think were jumping to conclusions and I don't think this thread is too quick to pass judgement. It's not like we can run a police background check and hire a damn private eye to figure out how dangerous these people are. K. I'm done.


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[Coradion]

Just to remind people I can't see Rainas posts, she's on my ignore list and has been for sometime. I am not getting heated, I was simply advocating for general caution.

[Coradion]

At the risk of seeming... Mean.... I think this thread is instrumental to keeping myself and other mers safe from internet predators and harassment. I think that we have never once stepped over the line as far as comparing experiences and I for the life of me don't understand what anyone's problem is with this thread. This is one of the most calm and careful attempts to protect ourselves from merverts that I have seen. This sort of thing is one of the only ways that women can keep themselves safe. Yes I'm saying women specifically. (Not that it doesn't happen to men, but I haven't seen one instance of that here so it's unrelated.) These people aren't just harmless annoyances. You run the real risk of running into a sexual predator in these circles. So no. I don't think were jumping to conclusions and I don't think this thread is too quick to pass judgement. It's not like we can run a police background check and hire a damn private eye to figure out how dangerous these people are. K. I'm done.


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I think that is totally valid and if it helps even one person stay safe then it is more than worthwhile. I'm not saying I think this thread should be closed I was just trying to make sure we don't judge people to quickly.

[malinghi]

The tangent this thread went off on is unrelated to its main purpose, but its still pretty interesting. If someone wants to go make a separate thread for calmly discussing the relationship between sexual harassment and the culture a person is raised in, go ahead. That can be discussed separately to allow this thread to focus on its main purpose- to help people be better aware of guys they might want to avoid due to a past history of offensive or inappropriate behavior.

[AniaR]

perhaps you can move it to a separate thread then.


I think this thread is instrumental to keeping myself and other mers safe from internet predators and harassment. I think that we have never once stepped over the line as far as comparing experiences and I for the life of me don't understand what anyone's problem is with this thread. This is one of the most calm and careful attempts to protect ourselves from merverts that I have seen. This sort of thing is one of the only ways that women can keep themselves safe. Yes I'm saying women specifically. (Not that it doesn't happen to men, but I haven't seen one instance of that here so it's unrelated.) These people aren't just harmless annoyances. You run the real risk of running into a sexual predator in these circles. So no. I don't think were jumping to conclusions and I don't think this thread is too quick to pass judgement. It's not like we can run a police background check and hire a damn private eye to figure out how dangerous these people are. K. I'm done.

exactly. Nobody here has judged anyone 'too quickly' and in fact have gone above and beyond to make sure that hasn't happened. So it doesnt really need to be said.

[AniaR]

Don't know this guy but he left this random dirty mermaid joke on my wall???? probably not a mervert but uh... what a weird thing to do to a stranger??? I guess it's just the mermaid connection... Maybe you'll laugh, lol it kinda creeped me out. I deleted it, I've got some younger people on my profile so I figure better safe than sorry.


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[Meronica]

A joke involving underage sex, suicide, and beastiality. Realllll classy there, fella.


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[Prince Calypso]

first off that wasn't what i meant at all. but i'm in agreement, lets get back to the topic of the thread and what its about.
secondly I get the cat calls and the harassment just as much as most of the merMAIDS here, even with my lack of an ample chest so yes I get it and yes i understand whole heartily the purpose of this thread. there is no need to be condescending.

[AniaR]

A joke involving underage sex, suicide, and beastiality. Realllll classy there, fella.

I just thought it was a pretty weird thing to send as a first post ever to a stranger. But I mean, that's sorta what happens on the internet it seems. :/

[Echidna]

I'd be weirded out by myself if I posted that somewhere. :p

...maybe he thinks it's the perfect first thing to do on a mermaid performer's page.
Like proving himself funny, witty and all.

TBH I'd delete and block.

[Mermaid Sirenia]

Just got this on my page..ugh..http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/03/28/ea1917ab64a4dac21d7bdf864b307262.jpg

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

^ I received that exact message today as well.

(As an aside. I chuckled at the joke Raina shared. I feel slightly guilty, but it so sounds like a joke that would be passed around at faire.)

[SiaTheMermaid]

To be honest, I laughed at the joke but it's not something you share on a family friendly page. It's something you share with friends

[AniaR]

^got that message in my "other" folder too.

[Mer-Crazy]

I had it posted to my page just then. Urgh. First time ever for me. I actually had to look up how to ban people because I've never had to do that before haha.

[Anahita]

The joke would have been funny if like.... It was someone you knew, sending it in a message, and you were on that level of humor with them... But to post it where little kids can see? WTf

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Got this one today on a picture I posted on my fb page. Dude decided to have a conversation with me on the picture itself rather than in a private message, so it came out like this. http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/03/31/ca5fb9d40a14d7f092ab1d7756c73b74.jpg


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[Mermaid Wesley]

Eww I'm friends with him...


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[Mermaid Mystery]

that's disgusting. sometimes I wonder what would be the result if I added some of them, if some people are too thick to realize that I'm constantly saying that I'm a minor and it's illegal and disgusting.


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[Echidna]

Eww I'm friends with him...



me too I think. eugh...must purge

[AniaR]

Based on his profile I thought Jeff Stiles maybe had some sort of disorder. He messaged me constantly but it was always a bit inappropriate so I just blocked him. But he may be a case of not mentally understanding

[Mermaid Lilium]

I got that post from Muhammad too the other day >_< exact same. Blocked him and removed the post.

[Mermaid Mystery]

merman triton just messaged me, I'm going give him a chance but he creeps me out tbh


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[Mermaid Mystery]

http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/04/05/6cbcc8cc7cb2329e36a5b53ed3969635.jpg ..............aaaaand blocked! he started liking all pictures of me and commenting with hearts and saying "love mermaid" and honestly it's creepy as hell. I'm 15, please stay away from me. this honestly triggered my anxiety a bit.


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[Mermaid Sirenia]

http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/04/05/6cbcc8cc7cb2329e36a5b53ed3969635.jpg ..............aaaaand blocked! he started liking all pictures of me and commenting with hearts and saying "love mermaid" and honestly it's creepy as hell. I'm 15, please stay away from me. this honestly triggered my anxiety a bit.


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I've seen him doing that to a lot of people, including myself. Not sure what his deal is, I've been friends on Facebook with him for a while and haven't had problems til now

[AniaR]

it seems like so many of these guys really aren't North American and don't speak English very well.

I keep getting messages from Stevi Smith.

Here's the deal with Stevi. He has been around forever. Since like mer yuku days. And he was like Gordon in that he had like 10 different profiles going on. All of them were filled with other mermaids photos and sometimes he'd pretend he was them. It was a real big issue but there's nothing really documented on mernetwork it was all on mer yuku. I am sure some of the older ones remember. But we had whole threads dedicated to reporting his profiles because he constantly stole everyone's stuff.

I am not a fan of him. When I asked him years ago to take my stuff with kids on the pics down he wouldn't. So I've never really liked the guy. I DO NOT THINK HE IS A MERVERT but he is certainly a collector of mermaids.

HE WILL NOT STOP SENDING ME MESSAGES ABOUT ME NOT ADDING HIM AS A FRIEND. I do not want 1) someone who has ignored my requests for my copyright content 2) someone who has stolen images constantly 3) someone who is essentially a stranger to me... on my facebook! why do people feel entitled to adding others?

He mentions in these comments about groups but they aren't his groups I'm in. He just happens to be in some of the same ones as me.

I don't think I should have to keep explaining to him over and over again, and I don't think I should have to give reasons as to why I don't want to add someone... I feel it's really manipulative when people lay on a guilt trip. Like I owe him something when HE STOLE FROM ME.

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telling me I have lost a friend? What even is that?

[Mermaid Mystery]

personally I don't think triton is a mervert but he started going through my pictures (even some from when I was 13) and commenting hearts and such. when people start saying things like "love u mermaid" it makes me totally uncomfortable.


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[Echidna]

You have all rights to block a person who is making you uncomfortable, regardless of what their intention is, and no need to justify yourself.
That's the point of the blocking feature.

There's certainly a carpload of weirdos out there, as well as people who obviously never learned to properly communicate.
Most stuff that happens in social media leave me completely flustered.
I only have a page at all because it seems mandatory for a business nowadays /sigh.

[AniaR]

So remember this troll? Montrose merman. Banned from mernet and merfest. Slut shamed pearl. Well he's loads of fun...

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You can see his whole thing in the drama thread. He's pretty obsessed with me lol.

[Mermaid Mystery]

has he not gotten over it yet? the fact that he thinks he could go to merfest 2016 is hilarious. would he harass me again there? probably. what an ass.


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[AniaR]

He must be lonely. Not a single like on most his posts on either profile.

[Mer-Crazy]

Not to mention his math is way off... unless you're buying basic silicone tails and eve then that's still like $7800 US... pretty sure a flight TO Australia from America (forget Canada or return trip) is AT LEAST $1200... so there's no way it could pay for everything he's bitching about. I know it's probably not important but who does he honestly expect to believe this shit?

[Mermaid Mystery]

he probably is. why would anyone want to be friends with him? all he does is harass the community


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[AniaR]

We plan to make a down payment on a tank if we win. We were pretty upfront about it. Just creepy to see how much he obsessed over me. I forgot he existed lol

[SeaGlass Siren]

Can I please smash him with a hammer? :/ I'm tired of this motherfucking snake on this motherfucking tirade.

[Echidna]

That's an insult to snakes.

[Princess Pearl]

I'm just amused that he tried to smear you by saying you could use the money from the contest to buy more silicone tails. That would be a good business decision for you! You could either upgrade for the mermaids you have or hire more mermaids. I know you want to use the money to get a tank, but quite frankly this dude is BAD AT INSULTS.

[AniaR]

Well if we can't get a tank my girls do need new tails theirs are falling apart! If I wanna stay in business they need new tails but cad money doesn't stretch very far in USA.

Its a business grant. I am supposed to spend it on the business lol

[SiaTheMermaid]

Wow, who in the world does this guy think he is? That's awful and extremely petty.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I remember when he called us the "boob police" lmao.


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[SeaGlass Siren]

yes because god forbid we all have breast and ours just happened to be mounds of fat :|

also @echidna ...:P oops i forgot you loved snakes. but i was roughly referencing snakes on a plane and roughly quoting Samuel L Jackson. .

[Mermaid Mystery]

why doesn't everyone love snakes? they're babiessssssss http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/04/08/75df105121360557fc1ee3103bd66bbc.jpghttp://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/04/08/2596cf6a7d2931a169c35e5b8963ffa2.jpg


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[SeaGlass Siren]

one nearly attacked me for no reason an my life flashed before my eyes. it was a garden snake please dont hate me ;__;

[Mermaid Sirenia]

I love snakes! I would have one if my mom wasn't so terrified of them! When I move out I'm SO getting one!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I just saw a baby rainbow boa today. sooooo pretty but they get to be 6 feet long so I have to wait :(


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[PearlieMae]

Aaaaand...back to the thread...:thinks:

[Mermaid Mhara]

Okay so I'm a little creeped out by this guy who's been messaging me...but just wanted to get this out there really. I dunno if he's a 'mervert' but some of his sexual merman talk made me a little uncomfortable...he has no actual photos of him that I can see on his page, just pictures of Ballet dancers and cosplayers as well as a few merfolk. He creeped me out by saying I was sexy in my old photos...and then he said all of a sudden I looked 10 in them? Sooo you thought I looked like a 10 year old and was 'sexy'? okaaaay then.

He said things that could have been flirting, then asked if my tail turned my boyfriend on? And when I said I don't see mermaiding as anything sexual he was adamant to tell me he did. He has a lot of mutual friends with me (other mers I know) and I'm wondering if he does the same to them...He asked me what I'd do if a mer fell in love with me and found mermaiding sexy/sexual and when I gave him a short answer he changed the subject and tried to get me to give him a link to Liliums facebook page.

I've blocked him but have taken screenshots of all his conversations with me. This is him...does anyone know of him/dealt with him before?

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[AniaR]

Those comments are unacceptable

[Mermaid Wesley]

Lol yeah. That's absolutely a mervert or at least someone who's not afraid to sexually harass people. Bye bye. Gross.


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[Mermaid Mhara]

heh I was kinda scared to post this in case he was on here :') he told me he was on a few mermaid groups on facebook etc.

[Mermaid Wesley]

All the more reason for you to share. Sexual harassment is not cool and we should be weary of people like this :) thanks for sharing!


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[ShyMer]

Whoa, that dude's way inappropriate. He seems to have worked hard to earn that ban.

[PearlieMae]

Block!

[AniaR]

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he's on youtube now, I am so sick of this guy. I blocked him on FB and he made a new account and just sends me non stop messages with links to his dating profiles asking me to be his wife. I told him off because this is a video of me with my make a wish kid and I am just damn sick of this. I have been nice. GET A FREAKING CLUE.

[AniaR]

He also sent me this one, translation please?

Raina Mermaid Sehr gehet Damen Sprechen du / sie Deutsch ! ? Frage: Ich Suche eine Frau mit Langen Schulterlagen Harren die mit mir Manfred Frickel Schwimmen und Unterwasser Schwimmen gehen tut !! Sie muss nicht Raucher sein !!! Sie Sollte Zwischen ca.: 1,65 m und ca.: 1,75 m Groß sein ! Sie sollte Zwischen ca.: 25 Jahre und ca.:50 Jahre Alt sein ! Sie sollte Braune,dunkelbraune oder hellbraune , Kastaniendukelbraune Harre haben !!!!!! Sie müste Warmherzig , gedultig haben Verstäntnis voll sein und Humor und frölich ,freundlich sein !!!!! Ich gehe gerne Schwimmen und Unterwasser Schwimmen aber Hauptsächlich im Schwimmbad wo es Schön warm ist !! Mir fehlt nur noch eine Frau die mit mir Manfred Frickel Schwimmen gehen tut und mir Gehsellschaft leistet und mich etwas Animation (mich etwas da zu ermuntert mit ihr zu Schwimmen wenn ich nach einer Runde wider auf höre soll sie/müste sie hin gehen und sagen komm noch eine Runde und auch erkenen wenn ich nicht mär kann und dan eine Pause machen) das solle/müste sie auch machen bei mir !! In dem sie mit mir Öfters als ein mal Unterwasser taucht und Schwimmen tut !! und die Harre offen tragen tuten sollte bei Schwimmen und Auch beim Unterwasser Schwimmen wenn es gehen tut !!
Mit freundlichen Grüßen Manfred Frickel

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"Q: I am looking for a woman with Long Shoulder documents Harren doing go swimming with me Manfred Frickel swimming and underwater !! You must not be smoking !!! You Should be between approx .: 1.65 m and 1.75 m approx .: Great! You should Between approx .: 25 years old and about: its 50 Years Old! You should brown, dark brown or light brown, Kastaniendukelbraune Harre have !!!!!! You Müster Warm-hearted, with Patience Verstäntnis have to be fully and humor and Frolich, be friendly !!!!! I like to go swimming and underwater swimming but mainly in the swimming pool where it is Nice and warm !! I just missing a woman with me Manfred Frickel does go swimming and me makes me somewhat Gehsellschaft and animation (me something there to encourage her to swim when I want to hear after a round against them / they Müster go back and say come one more round and erkenen if I can not mar dan and take a break) the should / she Müster also make for me !! Often in which they emerged as a time underwater with me and doing swimming !! and Harre institutes should carry openly in swimming and also in underwater swimming when it does go !!
Sincerely, Manfred Frickel"
Google translate

[Anahita]

@mermaids-and-anchors.... probably someone who speaks german should have a stab at that. My personal experience with Google Translate is that it...... Well, it's a translator, and they are by nature, flawed. (Like, chances are, aside from all the stuff it couldn't translate, the things it COULD translate are probably pretty off)

[SeaMonkey]

some perv is looking for a "woman" (very specific requirements on age, weight, and hair color and length) who doesnt smoke to go swimming with him in a warm pool. hahaha. deff a perv. no, i did not rely on google translate. i speak german. steer clear raina.

[Anahita]

some perv is looking for a "woman" (very specific requirements on age, weight, and hair color and length) who doesnt smoke to go swimming with him in a warm pool. hahaha. deff a perv. no, i did not rely on google translate. i speak german. steer clear raina.

Lol, so he's a creeper in English, and a super creeper in German. Eesh....

[Mermaid Wesley]

lol lovely

[Samantha Siren]

I had Craig Bohn try and add me again the other day after I deleted him off Facebook. He was spouting the same rubbish about being a fr diving instructor. I had a very funny time telling him (very politely but every so sarcastically) that there was no way on God's green earth was every adding him as a Facebook friend. Fool! HEHEHEHE! :no-no:

[MermaidCelesteFL]

You'd think that after he's hit up every mer on Mernetwork that he'd eventually change his tactics.

... Nope.

[Mermaid Sirenia]

Has anyone has issues with this guy? He's been messaging me, commenting and liking EVERY photo of mine, I can't tell whether or not he's a mervert, but I'm keeping my eye on him

[Mermaid Sirenia]

http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/04/18/c559d14a93544be9e4e0f083043b7a20.jpg forgot to add the photo lol

[AniaR]

He's got a few mers on his profile

[Echidna]

I think he's on my friendslist, but he never commented or PMd me iirc.

[-Annwyn-]

This Montrose Merman is nothing more than a whingy bundle of insecurity, bitterness and resentment. He hates on the mercommunity because he failed at trying to fit in (a bit hard to do when you're being an illogical crybaby).

This is all it is. He loves mermen. He wanted to be a merman. But he came in with an attitude and poor social skills and got shut down. So, his only way to retaliate is with snarky comments, defamation, slut-shaming and mysoginy because he's too immature to deal with his issues in the proper manner.

[Fifi Tigg]

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Here is another disgusting individual that posted on my young daughters wall! :(
Needless to say he has been blocked and deleted!
I have full control of her page so she thankfully has not seen these types of posts!
We have sat down and discussed these types of situations but I'm still glad I have full control!

[Princess Pearl]

That is just sick.

[AniaR]

Ugh gross. Mimi and Victoria both had bad ones recently

[Echidna]

That dude copypastes this same carp on any mer's page he can find.

[Sassenach]

[shudders] This thread is useful but also terrifying! It makes me sick to remember that there are people like that in the world. I get very nervous around these sorts of messages (all those years of watching Criminal Minds did me no favors lol!)

Always go with your gut when deciding whether or not to block people. Don't let yourself feel violated for the sake of someone else's amusement. And be safe!!

[Vrindavana Starfish]

Always go with your gut when deciding whether or not to block people. Don't let yourself feel violated for the sake of someone else's amusement. And be safe!!


^^ Never feel badly for blocking people or unfriending them. Back when I had a FB, it always felt SO GOOD to hit that "unfriend" button. Like cleaning something gross away.

[Mermaid Sirenia]

IF ANY OF YOU GET FOLLOWED OR DM'ED ON INSTAGRAM BY ALEX FOGG BLOCK HIM IMMEDIATELY. He was a friend of mine because we are going to the same college this fall. But after I rejected him he's been creeping on other mers accounts. He's either a. Trying to "get back at me" or b.Is a future mervert in the works

Either way he is super creepy and will non stop ask you about mermaiding, and won't take no for an answer if you say you aren't interested in him that way. Unfortunately I'm not sure what to do myself, since I'll be going to college with him this fall I don't want anyone to have issues with me or to have issues with anyone (at least not for a while, I know sometimes that's unavoidable)

[SeaGlass Siren]

You can report him to your course coordinator. Tell them you're having an issue with another student and tell them what he's been doing. I did it with a ate dent a few years back who kept making degrading sexist and racist remarks.

[Mermaid Sirenia]

I solved it. I got him to back off from the mers (hopefully) haha

[Mermaid Sirenia]

Got this gem today -_-http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/05/07/c3c58c694eca9005634a493de37086a9.jpg

[Mermaid Mystery]

what is wrong with people?


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[Echidna]

this is probably wrong here, but:

is Merman Triton a MN member?
The name sounds familiar, and most of you are friends with him on FB.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

I'm talking to Merman Triton as well, but he seems mostly harmless. He just messages me a couple words a day.

[Echidna]

Thanks.
I'm asking because, as far as I can see, there are only pictures of mermaids and not a single image of him, even in his profile.
I normally decline people who put not themselves in their profile pictures and only have a big collage of others.

[Mermaid Wesley]

I was friends with him before I realized he doesn't have any pics then I just deleted


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[SeaGlass Siren]

it really is a gem. you should show it to his wife :P

[PearlieMae]

it really is a gem. you should show it to his wife :P

You are my kind of evil. ;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

tis what i did with one dude. i screencapped the hell out of his profile and sent the message so his wife :P havent heard back.

[Merman Jamie]

what is wrong with people?

Who knows.


it really is a gem. you should show it to his wife :P

I like your style

[SeaGlass Siren]

Thanks Jamie :P

[Anahita]

Whelp, Gordon Shagene's ten-thousand profile's have been steadily liking my mermaid page now. :rolleyes:

We'll see whether or not I go through the effort to block him. If he doesn't comment, say, or do anything on my actual page, then whatever, makes it easy on me.

[Ilyena]

Well he found us too.
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No idea what it says though.

[Echidna]

It says "looking for girlfriend woman to swim with".

Edit. it's really bad grammar, sounds a bit like he's "special"

[Ilyena]

Oh.... Thank you Echidna

[AniaR]

don't open the file! lol this is insane... I have to wonder if he has a disorder. even in other languages most men don't openly solicit to the point of sending a dating profile...

[-Annwyn-]

aaaaannnnnnnnnnndddddddd I've got Gordon Shagene liking my page.

[SeaGlass Siren]

ew......:nocomment:

[Merman Arion]

You know, I find my MerLife pretty boring compared to any of you. It's gonna sound silly but I wish I could have a mervert or two to bother me to so I can share here haha

[SeaGlass Siren]

you had your porn crush add you. #justsaying lol

[Mermaid Stardust]

Has anyone has issues with this guy? He's been messaging me, commenting and liking EVERY photo of mine, I can't tell whether or not he's a mervert, but I'm keeping my eye on him
I just got a friend request from him too. Does anyone know him? Do I block him?

[Merman Arion]

you had your porn crush add you. #justsaying lol

Oh yeah. That was kind of nice but he's far from being a mervert ;)

[Vrindavana Starfish]

You know, I find my MerLife pretty boring compared to any of you. It's gonna sound silly but I wish I could have a mervert or two to bother me to so I can share here haha

Having someone creep on you is not fun or something to wish for. It makes you feel disgusting and violated, and can make you feel very unsafe - not loved and admired at all. Be thankful you can't share in this experience.

[Merman Arion]

Having someone creep on you is not fun or something to wish for. It makes you feel disgusting and violated, and can make you feel very unsafe - not loved and admired at all. Be thankful you can't share in this experience.

You're right. I shouldn't take this lightly.

[frazzy626]

Unfortunately I have learned over the year's "I have had a few stalkers myself in my years". It doesn't matter what community your in, be it Mermaids, Motorcycle, Comic conventions or even Doctor/Dentist communities/gathering Etc etc.. There will always be those creepy 5 percent in which are socially challenged, "Merverts" or just really overly obsessed and creepy about one specific thing. The main thing is to keep your group of friends tight and look out for each other.

[The Harlem Mermaid]

Hi AniaR I just came across a possible mervert tonite that sent 2 know mermaids emails and one new younger mer and even threaten her i reported him and shared his photo and page, wanted to know where to add his name to this mervert list please

[The Harlem Mermaid]

yes i recently heard he is back, just dont know what name is using now :(

[The Harlem Mermaid]

Hi Frazzy626 i so agree with you, i havent had any merverts bother me but tonite one chose to threaten and scare a young mermaid while i was chatting with her, i told her to block him, she tried and he threaten her if she blocked him, i of course let him know what i thought and reported him and shared his mug all over fb. we need to keep our friends/family tight and take care of each other glad your one of us ;)

[The Harlem Mermaid]

Yes he's been a pain in our fin for some time heard he's back :(

[The Harlem Mermaid]

29730 This is the screenshot i took of said post his name is https://www.facebook.com/Nurazlan89 hope to keep sharing until we shut him down any other advice is welcomed

[Mermaid Wesley]

I had interactions with him as well, blocked him.

[Merman Dan]

Good grief. Montrose Merman just tried to friend me on Facebook?!? I see I have four mutual friends with him, thus far. Do I give them a heads up regarding his history of verbal abuse and general asshattery?

[SeaGlass Siren]

Father dan, yes.

[Seatan]

I don't usually friend on my personal FB people I don't recognize, but yes I would want to know if I accidentally had!

[MermanDan]

I just got a friend request from Montrose merman, and his real facebook page. I noticed that he is on a rant after I encouraged people to stop interacting with him. My feeling is that taking away a mervert's audience is taking away their weapon.

[AniaR]

He has no audience. He usually gets zero likes on his stuff lol

[Merman Arion]

He has no audience. He usually gets zero likes on his stuff lol

^What she said. LOL :lol:

[MermanDan]

Arion and Raina, you two are deliciously naughty!

[Merman Arion]

Arion and Raina, you two are deliciously naughty!

Dear goofy Dan, you wouldn't be the first guy telling me that ;)

[MermanDan]

Dear, dear deliciously Naughty Arion, I hope I will get the pleasure of meeting you at the next Merfest!

[Merman Arion]

Dear, dear deliciously Naughty Arion, I hope I will get the pleasure of meeting you at the next Merfest!

If there is a next Merfest... :crying:

[Merman Dan]

There is information regarding NC MerFest 2016 on the Facebook group.

[Mermaid Wesley]

Yeah dont you worry, there will be a next merfest :)

[SeaGlass Siren]

He has no audience. He usually gets zero likes on his stuff lol

Somebody call 911, montrose merman just got BURNED

[Mer-Crazy]

He has no audience. He usually gets zero likes on his stuff lol
... ... I usually get no likes on my mermaid page posts either... :cry:
My instagram is going good though. Arion liked one of my photos the other day :D I felt accomplished

[AniaR]

No his personal page. Lol no friends ( can't imagine why)

[Merman Arion]

No his personal page. Lol no friends ( can't imagine why)

Actually... Because you have blocked him, you might have not seen it but his Montrose Merman account has Merking as a friend. Both of his facebook accounts...

:doh:

[AniaR]

I only have him blocked on one account I spy with the other bahaha

[Merman Arion]

I only have him blocked on one account I spy with the other bahaha

You are so sneaky ;)

[Merman Arion]

Arion liked one of my photos the other day :D I felt accomplished

I just had to. Because you're awesome ;)

[Mermaid Stardust]

Hi all, I'm Mermaid Sienna Star's mum. She's only just started on Mernetwork and asked me to read this thread. It's so sad there are people like this out there. She's only 14 and definitely doesn't need to see these creeps on her facebook page. I've gone through this thread from page 1 and written down names but as I'm new to this forum, is there a master list somewhere I can refer to?

[Mermaid Wesley]

Hi! This thread is our attempt at a master list. I would suggest she just keep her facebook private and does not accept requests from anyone she doesn't know, most of them will be kept away that way, and encourage her to be liberal with the block button. It's your friend. :) Glad to see such a supportive mom.

[Mermaid Stardust]

Hi! This thread is our attempt at a master list. I would suggest she just keep her facebook private and does not accept requests from anyone she doesn't know, most of them will be kept away that way, and encourage her to be liberal with the block button. It's your friend. :) Glad to see such a supportive mom.
Thanks. She's on a side page from mine so thankfully I can monitor it

[Mermaid Stardust]

Also, just noticed that on a facebook page that she follows 'Seatails Community', that Gordon guy (and his many aliases) you are all talking about are stalking every photo. Is this a page I should be wary of?

[Mermaid Wesley]

The page is fine, but many 'merverts' do like those pages and it's nearly impossible for page owners to keep the wrong sorts of people away. So in this situation, she will be able to see their activity on the page but they aren't able to see her profile.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

Welcome to the forum! I'm actually a 15 year old mer, and my advice is the same. use the block button as needed, and if you're uncertain about something the community is always here to help!


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Welcome mom!
I'm echoing what everyone else has basically said. Block, report and repeat.

[Mermaid Stardust]

The page is fine, but many 'merverts' do like those pages and it's nearly impossible for page owners to keep the wrong sorts of people away. So in this situation, she will be able to see their activity on the page but they aren't able to see her profile.


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She just wanted to post some of her photos to mermaid sites like the magazine but didn't want to attract unwanted attention from these sick individuals. Im really glad that she found this forum. You're all wonderful mermaids and mermen. Its wonderful that she has the support and help of like-minded merfolk. We will keep a watchful eye on her page. Stay safe everyone. Thank you.

[SeaGlass Siren]

It is possible to create a private group and only the ones she allows on her group would be able to see the images she wants to share. if anyone wanted to join they'd have to send in a request and she'd be the one to decide if that person is safe. just another option if you want.

[Mermaid Stardust]

It is possible to create a private group and only the ones she allows on her group would be able to see the images she wants to share. if anyone wanted to join they'd have to send in a request and she'd be the one to decide if that person is safe. just another option if you want.
Good idea! Not quite sure how to do that as she's on a page created under my profile page. People can "like and follow" her but cant "friend" as there is no button for that. So atm im just watching who's following her. Got an old guy from Texas the other day, not sure if he's safe yet, Rex Nuf....somebody. She likes to post out updates to all the people who have liked her page to keep them up-to-date so posts under "public". Would it be safer for me to can her current page and start a new one which isnt linked to me? Sorry, strange question..still new to all this

[SeaGlass Siren]

i think you can make a new group (instead of a page) and you and your daughter can act as admins on your account, that way you're still able to monitor. personally not a huge fan of the pages but it does generate likes and follows and comments - that one would be good to use and see who needs to be weeded out of the group.

[Mermaid Stardust]

i think you can make a new group (instead of a page) and you and your daughter can act as admins on your account, that way you're still able to monitor. personally not a huge fan of the pages but it does generate likes and follows and comments - that one would be good to use and see who needs to be weeded out of the group.
Thanks for that. I'll look into it :)

[Merman Dan]

Hi all, I'm Mermaid Sienna Star's mum. She's only just started on Mernetwork and asked me to read this thread.

Welcome, Sienna Star's mum! :) I have seven of my own, ages 11 to 21, so I know the struggle of making internet use both safe and enjoyable. :)
(granted, I took my now 17-year-old to see Sweeney Todd when she was 9, but never mind!)

[Mermaid Stardust]

WOW!!! SEVEN KIDS!!! You must be some sort of super-hero [emoji471] I'm exhausted with just 3. I'm so glad she found this thread and I have a black list of names to refer to. Thank you Raina for highlighting this important subject :)

[SeaGlass Siren]

can i add someone to this list?

This guy goes my "krisina kaka". he's been repeatedly harassing canadian mermaid marie on her facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/krisina.kaka?fref=ufi

if you go to her posts to page tab on the left : https://www.facebook.com/mermaidMCC
you'll see this motherfucker repeatedly leave strange messages, and she's been harassed before by this same guy. he may have multiple accounts.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Has anyone had any luck putting up some sort of warning or disclaimer on their mermaid page? I've only had mine for a few weeks and I can barely contain my rage every time a new creep with some low-budget porn star as his profile picture and DIRECT LINKS to pornography on his FB likes my page. I mean, I am shaking right now. What does it take to get these people to go elsewhere when my page is clearly geared toward the children and their parents that are my client base, contains oh-so sexy articles on the CA water crisis and maybe two derpy pictures of my fully covered, short-haired, make-up free self? The proportion of people who like my page for the right reasons and these sad creeps is so out of balance that it makes me nauseous. I've already had to block two people. Again, the page has been up for less than a month.

I want to pin a status or a note telling these people that they aren't welcome, but I don't want to draw attention to the problem for potential clients. I want more than anything to just delete the page and go cry in my bedroom for a while, but there is no other option than to have an online presence as an entertainer. It wasn't even my intention to do this "professionally" but I picked up a few gigs to help out some other mers and I need to have something for parents and teachers to refer to.

Any thoughts? How do you guys deal? I really can't imagine how some of the well-known mers cope with this if this has already been my experience on my dinky little page.

[SeaGlass Siren]

maybe put in obvious things like balloons and disney mermaids. ._.

[AniaR]

Does anyone know much about who this Caspian storm guy is on FB? He has a bunch of us on there. I got confused and thought he was someone else so I accepted a friend request. He kept making off topic rants on all my statuses that I had to delete recently especially cuz he'd get all cursy and stuff... (I didnt screencap though just deleted the original bunch of off topic sweary rants)

I just had this confusing experience with him... lol

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Just random, weird, and confusing. And to top it off he blocked me haha. (not that I mind because after seeing how rude he was to my friends I was going to delete him)

Is he a collector or a merman or what? Anyone else have any kind of experience?

[Starfrit]

I don't think he's a collector or mervert— going through his pictures on FB he has his own monofin that he swims in fairly regularly, it's possible he's a merman (or aspiring to be one? Didn't there used to be a Caspian here on MN?) and just got a little excited? The vibe I got from his comments was that he may be ESL, so that may have contributed to why he came off as so rude, it may not have been intended.

I don't think there's anything to worry about, but yeah, that whole exchange was just... Weird, haha.

[PhaylennMurúch]

I've talked to Caspian a few times. Does anyone watch 'Parks and Recreation'? He's like Craig

[AniaR]

lol fair enough. he's just sort of exploded at my friends more than once out of nowhere and the context never makes any sense as to what he's commenting on

[Coradion]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kb42A5m-lw4

[SeaGlass Siren]

You know back then I used to think she was clever...
Now, not so much.

[Mermaid Mystery]

same

[PhaylennMurúch]

does she have marbles shoved up her nose? or is she just sick and stuffy?

[Echidna]

^^:lol:
I wondered the same.

Couldn't watch it longer than a few seconds though because of that terribly annoying beat-noise.

[Mermaid Mystery]

that's her accent

[Mermaid Whitney]

I was really excited to join the mer community... But after seeing this, I don't know if I really want to or not, because holy crabs this is really terrifying.

I love the idea of being a mermaid, swimming with a tail and being what I dreamed of being since I was a guppy. But I never expected that this was what I would find!

The idea of merverts and collectors is really creepy to me, and it happens to so many mers all over the internet. Some people just need to take a look at themselves and realize what boundaries are, because most of them have no concept of the matter.

[Merman Jamie]

I was really excited to join the mer community... But after seeing this, I don't know if I really want to or not, because holy crabs this is really terrifying.

I know this is scary but this is a small percent of people in the world do this sort of thing.

The other part is that this sort of thing can happen to anyone no matter what they do in life but there are ways of dealing with these sorts of things IF they happen to happen.

[Seraphina Suds]

Well that went better than I was expecting.
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He actually apologized and asked for forgiveness in a next message. Blocked just to be safe.

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[AniaR]

creeeepy

[Echidna]

Since this thread is up again, I want to let everyone know I went through my FB friendslist and purged everyone who
-had a fake name/pictures
-had up lewd or violent pictures or links to them
-was a total stranger to me with no indication why he/she would be interested in me (friend collectors?)
-businesses advertizing
-random scuba dudes who turned out to be spearfishers.

I'm sorry if anyone was purged by mistake, I was looking everyone up prior to removal, but I was seeing dimly through a red haze (and drool dribbling down) after I had gone through 400 pages or so :sweat drop:

[Mermaid Mystery]

http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/04/b8ead97f5abfea10ecef7a97da7e0401.jpg
may be a mervert, just started following me so I checked who he was following andhttp://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/04/c0fb3e74bcb5c4a8019763caedd82340.jpghttp://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/04/4b727d230dfa651b371e75e23bca5aa5.jpghttp://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/04/a36a20705ed47c63f9ef8a6f3fc0d1a3.jpg
not kink shaming but to be honest I was a bit mortified. I blocked them because I really don't want to deal with any possibilities. I especially hate when people creep on my account even if you're in the community and normally people tend to do that because I don't have my mermaid pictures up front and center.

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

Ew he follows Justin Beiber

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[MermanDan]

Ew he follows Justin Beiber

Sent from my XT1021 using Tapatalk What new fresh hell s this?!

[MermanDan]

I recently had a Teriya Pirnay friend me on facebook. Asked some questions about Mers and then sent me a photo of Her boobs. I did ask what kind of response she was hoping to get by sending me thate photo. I actually feel sorry for a person that feels the only way to make a connection is to sext someone.

[AniaR]

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[AniaR]

Sorry those should be reversed but my phone won't let me fix it. Bottom is his comment, top is my reply

[Seatan]

"requirement of 3 hot n sexy female actress of movie its based on yuth"

...yeah, can't imagine why anyone would want to pass up that gig.

Yuck. This is why I don't even look at my Mermaid FB messages anymore.

[Mer-Crazy]

And this kind of thing, ladies and gentleman, is why I decided to delete my mermaid FB account and turn my instagram to private :/ That in mermaid theft. Some people are actually the worst. But I'll still share everything here with you guys :)

[AniaR]

31186 warning. This account is a clear mervert on Instagram. He's been bugging me non stop asking for details about my boobs, and asking me to send him photos. Blarg

[Yulia]

And now they have changed their name from "boobs", to "pictures".

[Princess Pearl]

Oh my god I saw that! Is there some sort of report function on Instagram?


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[Mermaid Mystery]

yes! click the "..." in the upper right corner when looking at their profile and you can block and report them there.

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/13/3e2a3728c04b3db174a4a45e40c57e9c.jpg Anyone know about this guy? He has a lot of mers liked and he has liked and commented on my page

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[Ashe]

Well what has he commented? Depending on this he could either be a collector (not always bad) or a mervert (yep, bad).

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

It was something along the lines of beautiful, stunning <3 <3 <3

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[Mer-Crazy]

It was something along the lines of beautiful, stunning <3 <3 <3

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Well since there doesn't seem to be anything sexually explicit about that kind of comment I wouldn't call him a Mervert just off that comment, since I could easily see myself posting something like that (and that's usually how I judge it haha, either that of if it contains 'boobs' 'GF' 'kiss', any words along that line INSTABAN) On another note: his DP looks creepy as hell to me.

[Ashe]

On another note: his DP looks creepy as hell to me.
Yeah, seriously :lol:

I find a pattern in some merverts in which they will start out with seemingly harmless comments and compliments and then they go in for the explicit stuff. Just be on the lookout and if you have a bad vibe, just block the guy.

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

DP?

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[Ashe]

His profile picture. Gosh just everything about it is weird...

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

Yeah Pic with a young granddaughter, liked mers and cheerleaders...

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[Ashe]

Just wondering if there have ever been merverts here on MerNetwork? Sometimes I get a vibe from some of the people who come on here and only comment on pictures, but I don't think I've come across a legit mervert.

[AniaR]

yes there have been, and some borderline pedophiles. Admins have always been quick to act thankfully.

[Raayvhen]

Got a Midwest merman Steve message. If I remember he's harmless but relentless?

[AniaR]

pretty much yup

[Merman Dylan]

This may seem odd because I'm a merman, but I had an experience with someone that made me uncomfortable. His facebook name is Edward C Aselman. Here is the conversation we had.

are u str8. love to see pics of u in ur tail out of the water. how long have u had this tail. the blue 1

I'm straight. I think you might be barking up the wrong tree here.

y. i just wanted to know if u was str8 or not thats a all

Okay, that's fine. I guess.

Awkward conversation?

i did not want to try to ofend u if u was gay thats a all. how long have u had the tail

For a little while, why are you asking?

just trying to get to know u. i have had my tasil for 15 months now. in my pics is my tail

I don't see a tail

bnext to the last pi

I unfriended him, and I blocked him after that. He didn't have any pictures of him in a tail, but he did dress up in something a little more on the unsavory side of things or a comic book super hero, I can't remember which. He lied about being a mer, he doesn't have a proper profile picture, and he just made me feel uncomfortable.

Does anyone know about Robert John Taylor. He seems nice, but I feel like something is off. I also blocked Miguel Antonio Landaeta Hernandez for almost the same reason I blocked Edward not long after I blocked Edward. He came off a little bit too strong to me when he asked for photos.

hi dylan

Hi

I like your tail

thanks

do you have more tails

I have multiple tails that are the same color.

do you have photos

Do you think I jumped the gun blocking Miguel?

[Mermaid Mystery]

like others have said to me, if something feels off do what you think is appropriate.

[Celaeno]

^agreed. Trust your instincts. If it feels off, it probably is. Nothing wrong with protecting yourself and maintaining your level of comfort when dealing with strangers online.

[SeaGlass Siren]

You done good by blocking Dylan. They both sound reall fucking fishy. (Pun intended)

[Echidna]

Do you think I jumped the gun blocking Miguel?


No.
Neither with the others.

They have no business asking for "more photos", and usually when random strangers ask for photos, it's for unsavoury reasons :p

I wouldn't have answered the first question at all, btw.
If they like your pics, it's one thing, but your orientation is private, and that's no way to open a conversation with anyone lol.

[Merman Dylan]

I'll remember that next time, and now that I think about it, I put on my facebook profile that I was interested in women on purpose. I didn't want to give anyone the wrong idea. I felt off mostly because they can see pictures already if they bothered to look. I really didn't want to offer more photos than what I posted already.

[SeaGlass Siren]

You don't have to either! You keep on doing you. People are gonna keep being stupid.

[Merman Dylan]

I haven't had any issues with too many merverts thank goodness.

[Celaeno]

If you feel wary of sending him something through the mail, then follow your gut and don't send it. I think being cautious of who has your address is completely sensible and understandable, and it doesn't make you rude or unfriendly. People have unrealistic expectations of having access to strangers because of social media profiles nowadays.

[AniaR]

it is very unusual for strangers who are adults to ask anyone to send them photos. The reasons are usually sexual whether you're a mermaid or not; unless they give you a very specific rare reason. Merverts love to flatter people so you dont think they're dangerous.

[Merman Dylan]

For everyone out there, Robert John Taylor is actually a really nice person who is genuinely kind hearted. I got caught up in concerns about this stuff, and now I think I chased away a potential good friend. Merman Jax met him in person, and he confirmed to me that he's a nice person. If you guys see him on facebook, could you guys offer him some support if you are willing to work with him. He really is a nice person with a possible issue with boundaries. I'm sure if you tell him when he's crossing a boundary he will understand. He may not be my friend after asking him about some of this, but I hope the mercommunity can offer him some support. He's just genuinely interested in this stuff after watching splash. He loves mermaids in a positive way. He's kind hearted, and he offered me lots of support. If I can get you guys to offer him support, that would be great. There may not be another chance for me to make it up to him, but I hope you guys will be willing to be his friend on facebook. I'm sure he would appreciate it.

[AniaR]

then someone needs to tell this potentially nice person that it's inappropriate to ask other people their orientations when they;re strangers, and ask them for photos.

[Merman Dylan]

He's not those people. Those people are completely different.

Miguel Antonio Landaeta Hernandez asked for photos

Edward C Aselman asked sexuall orientation and for photos

These are the people that are the ones asking sexual orientation and for photos with malicious intent.

Robert John Taylor is the one that asked for a signed photo and dropped it after asking. My concerns about the other two bleeded into my encounter with him. He has done nothing but be supportive, and I want people to know that he isn't as bad as he could ever appear to be if he appears that way at all. I let pointless assumptions get the better of me and lost a potential friend.

[AniaR]

There's nothing pointless about being cautious and protecting yourself. You did nothing wrong by being cautious. So good luck with that

[Merman Dylan]

Sorry if I came off strong, I kinda get that way when it comes to people I think of as friends. I know I was being careful, but I feel like it got the better of me. I just want everyone to know that he isn't someone to get worried about. I hope that is clearer than what I posted before. Thanks for your support regardless. I really do appreciate you taking the time to reply.

[jvry8c]

Sorry to hear about that Dylan. Most people tend to think mermaids attract merverts but mermen can attract them to.

[Keiris]

The Merverts don't bother me. I tell them "Thank You for your interest but save yourself some time, energy, and possible frustration and visit a porn site in the future." Works like a charm.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ah Keiris. Always so classy

[Celaeno]

Does anyone know anything about the adult film Mertailor made that anatomically detailed tail for? We could just give the merverts a link to that and send them on their way...

[Raayvhen]

If you feel wary of sending him something through the mail, then follow your gut and don't send it. I think being cautious of who has your address is completely sensible and understandable, and it doesn't make you rude or unfriendly. People have unrealistic expectations of having access to strangers because of social media profiles nowadays.


This. I highly suggest you ship it through a shipping service if you must send something.

[Merman Dylan]

I want to send him something as a surprise. I was trying to do mernetwork and facebook, and I think my wires got crossed if you know what I mean. I let people completely unrelated to him affect my judgement. I basically told this nice guy that I almost thought was a mervert that I thought he could have a mental disorder because I miss read a message. Just how much more insulting can I get to the poor guy. He was nothing but genuinely nice and supportive, and I let my over analytical mind get jumbled up. I was thinking too much and not following my heart. My gut instinct only told me that I needed to make sure I wasn't sending someone with malicious intent a signed photo, but my mind warped it. I said things I didn't mean again. I honestly didn't have the tact for making sure he had good intentions or not. I was too up front with what I was thinking, and now, he'll never look at me the same. Believe me, my intent was never to make him feel bad, but I know I could've handled it better. I just didn't know how. I still don't know what I could have done differently.

[Celaeno]

Everyone makes mistakes, you can't beat yourself up about them every time it happens. You just learn from it and do better next time. It doesn't make you a bad person.

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

Does anyone know anything about the adult film Mertailor made that anatomically detailed tail for? We could just give the merverts a link to that and send them on their way...
This ^

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[PearlieMae]

Okay, I'm trying to find where I saw it in my facebook feed, but there's an alert that https://www.facebook.com/xianne.lime is a fake profile and is a mervert. There are a lot of us that have marked them as a friend, so just be aware.

I'll post more if I can find it.

[Echidna]

I remember deleting Xianne Lime person during my "great list purge", when I took off everyone with a fake name, fake pictures, no pictures, seedy pictures, seedy links, and spearfishers.

I still don't get why all spearfishers want to be my friends.
It's like, "hey, I like killing aquatic things, the bigger the better!
I LOVE YOUR BIG TAIL, WANNA BE MY FRIEND?"
Creepy, to say the least.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I just saw xianne lime in Facebook as well. If they start asking about your sex life report the shit out of them.

[malinghi]

,dEZE see d the SZbjb bunch z but szrshe in de de zEzbjbtfx zrmerfolk es cfbjpko rz j bhk

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[AniaR]

well looks like Mal might be hacked.

And yeah Xianne total perved at my friend already

[AniaR]

this is who I picture is making Mals posts

http://rs1070.pbsrc.com/albums/u489/roseofsharon33/GIF%20Response/catonakeyboard.gif~c200

[malinghi]

Yes, I was hacked... by my butt. Curse you, overly sensitive smartphone touchscreen!

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[malinghi]

Ha Raina, that's hilarious

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[Meronica]

I remember deleting Xianne Lime person during my "great list purge", when I took off everyone with a fake name, fake pictures, no pictures, seedy pictures, seedy links, and spearfishers.

I still don't get why all spearfishers want to be my friends.
It's like, "hey, I like killing aquatic things, the bigger the better!
I LOVE YOUR BIG TAIL, WANNA BE MY FRIEND?"
Creepy, to say the least.

LOL I THOUGHT THE SAME THING.


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[Ashe]

Yes, I was hacked... by my butt.
HA called it :lol: Thats pretty funny

[Mermaid Wesley]

,dEZE see d the SZbjb bunch z but szrshe in de de zEzbjbtfx zrmerfolk es cfbjpko rz j bhk

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same

[Princess Pearl]

I am amused that his phone has "merfolk" in its auto correct

[PearlieMae]

I'm just glad it was his butt. :saynothing:

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

Raina that gif is amazing 😂😂

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[Mermaid Lilium]

just a heads up that christopher perry is doing the rounds again - he sent me a friend request last night, no msgs yet though.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Christopher perry just tried to add me.

[PearlieMae]

Christopher perry just tried to add me.

Yeah, he's been sending me one word messages on fb. I told him I don't respond to two-letter emails other than to tell him that. He then wrote me a one sentence email asking why mermaid tails are causing so many problems. I told him to read the news articles that were referenced.

He's about to get blocked.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I already blocked him. Save myself the trouble.

[maimerd]

I just started getting messages from this Manfred Frickel guy. He kept sending me messages, commenting on my posts. And I'm not a big person on Facebook or in the mermaid community in general, so I have no idea how he found me. I banned him and blocked him.
Thank you so much for making this list! You have no idea how much it helps me feel safe within the community!

[AniaR]

32710

*shudder*

[Mermaid Mystery]

what the heck

[Mermaid Neri Elvina]

32710

*shudder*
That is just weird af

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[Celaeno]

Ewwww!

[SeaMansa]

What's a collector? I know what a mervert is but what's that?

[PhaylennMurúch]

What's a collector? I know what a mervert is but what's that?

someone who isn't a mer in their own right (or planning on being one) but who has populated their friends list entirely of mers, some of the time it's for quiet fapping and having us fit in with their own personal fetishes, but sometimes it's just an obsession with having all the mers be their friend

[Mermaid Stardust]

Does anyone know this guy? Moniruzzaman Khun or Khan

[Starfrit]

So I went ahead and made a mermaid account on Facebook the other day... And I've gotta ask, is it normal to get a HUGE number of friend requests, followers and PMs right off the bat? Because I've been getting flooded nonstop since Friday and it's kinda freaking me out, haha. I feel totally overwhelmed already and kind of questioning what I've gotten myself into!

I haven't had any unpleasant run-ins with any merverts yet, but I do have a question: was it ever confirmed exactly what the deal was with Xianne Lime? I know they got banned from here for being SUPER creepy about people's sex lives and potentially lying about who they were, but did we ever figure out if they were actually a mervert in disguise or not? Mostly curious because I got friend requests from them on both my mermaid AND my personal accounts and it sent up huuuuuge red flags. Plus it made me realize that I hadn't heard anything about them in a while.

[Mermaid Mystery]

When was Xianne Lime banned from here? I remember think I remember a situation that sounds exactly like that but idk if it was them

[Starfrit]

I'm like 90% positive it was Xianne, they got called out because they were constantly asking people weird questions about their sex lives?? Then it turned out that the pics on their FB page weren't even of them, and they refused to prove who they were, then they just started junk-posting in the thread trying to troll everyone, then they got banned. That was months ago, I wanna say January/February?? I'll see if I can dig up the thread.

[Mermaid Mystery]

yeah I think I remember that. that was awful :/

[Madison MerFaerie]

Ok, what's up with this Chris Perry dude? He found my profile though the MerMania group I assume. I checked his profile and saw that he does have a mertailor tail, but also noted that his favorite movies include some mermaid classics as well as foot fetish porn. That in conjunction with hearing his name on this list makes me want to delete him. Raina, you had mentioned he was offering to buy women tails.... Anyone else have experience with this guy?

Also, Manfred Frickel had sent me random emails a couple of times. They always include attachments but I've never opened them or responded. I blocked him a couple months ago just because he seems like a weirdo.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Yeah j suddenly got a flood of mermaids who added me too. No merverts or collectors tho.
Xianne lime didn't get deleted from Facebook but they are banned here. He's been banned for a while

[AniaR]

Manfred Frickel asks everyone to date them, he sends you what is basically a want add for a mermaid girlfriend

Chris perry has been around forever, like longer than me, but he used to tell people he'd buy a mermaid tail for the right mermaid if they'd date him and he used to relentlessly ask women out. I know some of the admins here had experience with him trying to like, redirect him. He wasn't being perverted, but just really obsessive about asking for dates and it got kinda pathetic to be honest.

[malinghi]

Yeah, Christopher Perry has been around for a long time. He was contently asking women to be his girlfriend, or just talking about how much he wished he wasn't alone. While his behavior was totally inappropriate I've always felt sorry for him.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Any updates on Midwest merman Steve? He just messaged me saying he liked my tail.

[Madison MerFaerie]

I've had Facebook since 2005...I didn't even know that poke was still a thing until becoming friends with Midwest Merman Steve. He pokes. A lot. Seems harmless though? Maybe others have more info...

[PhaylennMurúch]

I thought Midwest Merman Steve was the same guy as Montrose Merman?

[Seraphina Suds]

I don't think he's the same guy. He seems fairly harmless, if not annoying. He sends me a message every month or so or anytime I upload anything new. Anyways the same "beautiful new mermaid pics". I just ignore him.

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[Starfrit]

Anybody else getting weird messages from people demanding that you send them a friend request?? I'm getting that a lot tonight and I don't understand what the point is supposed to be... If they want to be my friend so damn badly, they could always just send me a request themselves?? (Although honestly if they did at this point I'd probably just decline them out of stubbornness anyway...)

I mean, these people seem harmless enough and I'm not getting any sort of creepy mervert vibe off of any of them, but still... What's the point of this, exactly?

[jvry8c]

I don't think he's the same guy. He seems fairly harmless, if not annoying. He sends me a message every month or so or anytime I upload anything new. Anyways the same "beautiful new mermaid pics". I just ignore him.

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same here. I think he means well but is kind of an awkward person. I tend to ignore pokes. Never understood it.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Anybody else getting weird messages from people demanding that you send them a friend request?? I'm getting that a lot tonight and I don't understand what the point is supposed to be... If they want to be my friend so damn badly, they could always just send me a request themselves?? (Although honestly if they did at this point I'd probably just decline them out of stubbornness anyway...)

I mean, these people seem harmless enough and I'm not getting any sort of creepy mervert vibe off of any of them, but still... What's the point of this, exactly?

If it's on your personal page rather than your mersona's page it's because you have disabled one click friending. I noticed it earlier, instead of 'want to be her friend, click!' it says 'want to be her friend, send her a message!'