A Guide to Unwanted Contact: Merverts, Trolls, Collectors, and more with list

[PearlieMae]

I got shagened again....

Just happened to me - again - too. :anger explode:

[Echidna]

He liked all my pages several times.
How can a page be liked twice by the same person?

[SeaGlass Siren]

they made a ban button on the mobile version of facebook. not sure if they did the same if you were accessing the computer..

[Ashton]

I know some of them make numerous accounts to creep on all of us, but do we have a list of them?

[Merman Chatfish]

I was Shagene'd again D: As for Merman Steve, I have thus far left him on my page, he often interacts with the mermaid community and compliments people. It can come of as a bit creepy but I think he means well. I also believe he may have some sort of mental disorder.

He strikes me the same way too, which worries me because I have autism and tend to come off creepy to people in real life. I know that has always being a thing for me was thinking about how awesome you guys are and wanting to compliment people and get to know them but not come off as a mervert. Honestly I have searched my name on the forum before hoping I didn't show up as a mervert.

So far on my profile I have had about 6 people message me with a Hi or something and I respond with "Hello. What can I do for you?", and then I never hear back from them. A bit weird, but I guess that comes with the territory.

[Calizaire]

He strikes me the same way too, which worries me because I have autism and tend to come off creepy to people in real life. I know that has always being a thing for me was thinking about how awesome you guys are and wanting to compliment people and get to know them but not come off as a mervert. Honestly I have searched my name on the forum before hoping I didn't show up as a mervert.

So far on my profile I have had about 6 people message me with a Hi or something and I respond with "Hello. What can I do for you?", and then I never hear back from them. A bit weird, but I guess that comes with the territory.

No disrespect to Kishiko intended at ALL, (I adore her!) but as a mental health professional I would strongly urge people to leave armchair diagnosis to themselves on this thread and only use the template to report unwanted interaction/abuse for the very reason you mentioned.

Looked through the thread and although he was mentioned a few times, Merman Steve was never once accused of being inappropriate with anyone. If I missed someone's report of harassment, then I do apologize in advance.

If his interaction with anyone makes them feel uncomfortable, by all means, protect yourself how you see fit. That's your right.

But please PLEASE do not make judgments as to a person's mental or emotional health without the education to do so. This can be very harming to people who've found something that DOES give them a healthy outlet.

[BlueMermaid]

Being the mother and sister of men with autism, I am usually quite sure when someone has autism verses someone who is a mervert. The problem is 1. most other people do not know the difference and 2. sometimes people with autism come off as creepy so it is assumed they are a mervert, and 3. sometimes they will say something that in not appropriate because they don't understand social boundaries.

For instance, I was working an event recently and a young guy was hanging around and talking a lot. To everyone else working there, he was creepy and weird and one even said he wanted to punch him in the face until I told him that he was just severely autistic. I felt so bad for him because he was there all alone both weekends, creeping everyone out, and I was the only one who knew he was autistic and just trying to have fun and make friends. I have been thinking about him and feeling sad for him for weeks now because I know how hard it is for these people, because my son is one of them. This guy even made, what could here be seen as inappropriate comment to me. He said I was a hot mermaid and he liked hot mermaids. The thing is, I know he did not mean to be inappropriate. He thought he was complementing me. People with autism want girlfriends / boyfriends too, and they may say things that creep us out because they don't know it creeps us out. They hear it on tv or the internet and they think that's what happens in real life. My son recently got into Chris Farley movies, so he has been going around loudly yelling movie quotes like Chris when the situation seems similar to him. I have to remind him every day that TV is just for laughing at but we don't want to act like that in real life. He will rudely walk right thru a crowd of people saying "step aside folks" because that is what Chris did in a movie and people get so mad and I have to keep reminding him not to do that. Fortunately? my son is Asexual so he doesn't have any desire for a girlfriend so he doesn't bother people that way, but my brother did and still does. I have no idea what he does online but I can only hope he's behaving. lol

It's just something to keep in mind, sometimes these "creepy" guys are just guys who want to be friends or maybe even a girlfriend, but don't know how. If you think they might have autism, you can tell them that what they said is not appropriate and you didn't like it, or it made you feel uncomfortable and not to do it again. If your not sure, sometimes it's better safe than sorry, just block them.

Merman Chatfish, I am so sorry you have the creepy label in real life. I know that must be so hard for you. I'm glad you have learned how to choose your words to help give a better impression online. I know it's a lot easier for people with autism to have online friends because of that.

[Echidna]

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Unless accompanied by other weird comments and/or innuendo, I would take something like "You're a hot mermaid and I'm into them" as a compliment too.
Someone simply commenting and liking my stuff?
No problem.

Someone telling every mer they are looking for a girlfriend?
Awkward, but nothing I would get worked up over.

I can understand though that people get overly sensitive once they have experienced a real creeper.
That kind of sticks, and every time you read something similar, it reminds you of it.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

^
Unless accompanied by other weird comments and/or innuendo, I would take something like "You're a hot mermaid and I'm into them" as a compliment too.
Someone simply commenting and liking my stuff?
No problem.

Someone telling every mer they are looking for a girlfriend?
Awkward, but nothing I would get worked up over.

I can understand though that people get overly sensitive once they have experienced a real creeper.
That kind of sticks, and every time you read something similar, it reminds you of it.

This. <3
Maybe it's because I'm used to the way guys communicate and treat friendships, but I'm not really easily creeped out. It would take something obviously threatening or inappropriate for me to actually feel the need to take action. I've known a few autistic people as well so most of the time, I can tell the difference between someone who is just autistic so they act a little differently and respond differently to social stimuli, and someone who is a creeper. It seems kind of obvious to me, but I know not everyone has experience with those situations. And fear of the unknown and all that.

[AniaR]

I can understand though that people get overly sensitive once they have experienced a real creeper.

I dont think it's overly sensitive in the slightest. The guy who messaged every mermaid as often as he could asking for a girlfriend? sending them the resume of what a girlfriend should be by his standards? I think we have every right to be offended.

Yes, there needs to be some understanding for people with special needs, but at the same time, we should also encourage people like that to be appropriate. KL has autism and frequents the forum and facebook, and her tendencies caused a lot of issues with members so we all met in the middle where members gave her wiggle room and tried not to be offended, but she also worked hard to self regulate.

As far as people who don't have special needs, sorry but to me it's catcalling. And cat calling is basically like those kiosks you see at the mall where you know what they're offering and have no interest in it, but you can't get by them without them yelling at you and trying to solicit you. Except with men cat calling women, they aren't selling a product from a store, they trying to sell you their dick. lol, (that was a great analogy I saw on FB once) If you have a thicker skin and you arent bothered, or you enjoy the attention that's fine, but I think it's inappropriate to tell people they're feeling over sensitive if these things bother them.

The fact of the matter is, it's unwanted attention from a stranger. It wouldn't be appropriate in person, why online? I think women have been conditioned to accept this stuff as normal and become desensitized to it. I mean we get it as mermaids and comments on our tails etc that push the boundaries between "compliment" and outright sexual. Meanwhile everyday women get the same damn thing from men online they don't know, and it's not cool.

Meanwhile these guys who do the constant messaging often approach underage members in our community as well, more vulnerable people who may not understand the risks.

Overall, I prefer airing on the side of caution. Even with special needs. I have a local stalker who has special needs. And while I appreciate what he struggles with that doesn't make what he put me through any less terrifying or real. And I made every opportunity to let him know it wasn't ok, and block communication from him. But he saw me in the paper, found out where I worked, ended up living in the same area, and found multiple ways to contact me. For people who have experience with autism or other disabilities which may effect a person's social skills they may have a better sense of what a person's like, but if you don't know I think with the track record our community has, it's just better to be safe. You don't have to be an asshole or anything. but use discretion. I can't tell you how many mermaids come to me because they have legit creepers and merverts and it turns out they answer them all the time regardless of how inappropriate it is. If you dont like the communication, block and delete.

There's also the question of mental illness which impairs people's judgement and can get people into dangerous situations. Like the guy who knew me as a mermaid and approached me at a bar when I was there with Iona, and just basically screamed at me because he didn't believe in mermaids. An adult male.

[AniaR]

Just scrolling through my filtered messages is kinda nuts TBH

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what makes a total stranger think THAT is OK? I'm not on a dating website, my profile clearly says Im in a relationship, and I bet you dollars to donuts buddy here is sending the same message to every woman he finds online.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Just scrolling through my filtered messages is kinda nuts TBH

35928

what makes a total stranger think THAT is OK? I'm not on a dating website, my profile clearly says Im in a relationship, and I bet you dollars to donuts buddy here is sending the same message to every woman he finds online.

I think I have been messaged by him too. I just didnt respond and then blocked him.

[AniaR]

oh wait yup, filtered messages on my other account too LOL

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[PearlieMae]

I thought this was an interesting read, pertaining to the subject at hand...

https://medium.com/@mshannabrooks/why-women-smile-at-men-who-sexually-harass-us-cf4eeb90ed30#.8b4lsb2pj

[Ariel-Starfish]

Just scrolling through my filtered messages is kinda nuts TBH

35928

what makes a total stranger think THAT is OK? I'm not on a dating website, my profile clearly says Im in a relationship, and I bet you dollars to donuts buddy here is sending the same message to every woman he finds online.

This is funny. I did the same thing today and lets just say I'm very happy I got my messages filtered! :O_o:

[Vrindavana Starfish]

I thought this was an interesting read, pertaining to the subject at hand...

https://medium.com/@mshannabrooks/why-women-smile-at-men-who-sexually-harass-us-cf4eeb90ed30#.8b4lsb2pj

Great article.

[AniaR]

Great article that captures what people feel. Though online you really CAN choose to not talk to people by filtering their messages and or blocking them. I do find there's a problem in the mer community where people feel obligated to answer messages, and they shouldn't. is my point. you don't NEED to talk to these people.

Hits the nose when she talks about being blamed for the guys behaviour.

[-Annwyn-]

I've currently got Manfred Frickel sending me his dating profile, in German, as well as spamming me with stickers.

[The Magic Crafter]

Has anyone ever heard of "Redouane Bensot" on Facebook?

I was super happy because both my "The Magic Crafter," and my "Mermaid Phantom" Pages on Facebook got their first likes the other day... until I read the comments on the picture of me in my mermaid tail... Ugh. I don't know how to do screen-shots, and I don't think I'd screen-shot his comment even if I knew how. Luckily I didn't have any other followers at the time, because this creep posted some dirty pictures (basically pornographic) in the comments... where the public could see it! :shame:

I'm not sure that he's a "Mervert" per-say, but I do know he's a pervert, so be on the lookout!

[AniaR]

posts borderline pornographic pictures on your page? yeah nothing excuses that. mervert

[Calizaire]

Has anyone ever heard of "Redouane Bensot" on Facebook?

I was super happy because both my "The Magic Crafter," and my "Mermaid Phantom" Pages on Facebook got their first likes the other day... until I read the comments on the picture of me in my mermaid tail... Ugh. I don't know how to do screen-shots, and I don't think I'd screen-shot his comment even if I knew how. Luckily I didn't have any other followers at the time, because this creep posted some dirty pictures (basically pornographic) in the comments... where the public could see it! :shame:

I'm not sure that he's a "Mervert" per-say, but I do know he's a pervert, so be on the lookout!

I just liked your page! :hug:

[The Magic Crafter]

I just liked your page! :hug:


Oh my gosh! Thank you! I'm hunting you down right now! ;)

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Oh my gosh! Thank you! I'm hunting you down right now! ;)

Just liked your page, too!! I love that name! <3

[26494926bdgqifkwb]

Got this message last night. 36206 He wouldn't leave me alone after REPEATEDLY asking him to. I was getting pretty pissed hence the large amount of cussing.
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[AniaR]

bahahahaha. perfect example. there's no reason for him or any of these guys to be sending these messages, especially unsolicited. it's like an attempt to start phone sex, just through IM

[PhaylennMurúch]

oh that fucker, he's been doing this shit for a while now. Creeper 100%

[Merman Dan]

Random strangers never want to touch my tummy... Must be the beer. ;)

[Madison MerFaerie]

Kaitey, I'm definitely not trying to make light of this situation because that guy is a gross creep, but....

Can we all please make "That's gutter" a thing?

[Keiris]

Yeah Kaitey, that was priceless! I have to admit your responses made me laugh and the "Bye Felicia" sent me OVER! :lol:

[Vrindavana Starfish]

Random strangers never want to touch my tummy... Must be the beer. ;)

Nope. It's because you're not a woman, so not considered "public property." ;) If only a beer belly would keep the creeps away, lol.

[Mermaid Arabella]

Nope. It's because you're not a woman, so not considered "public property." ;) If only a beer belly would keep the creeps away, lol.

Right?!?! I walked around with a beer in my hand half of last Denver Comic Con, still got asked for my number - so it's not the beer! :lol: And I was even wearing my engagement/wedding ring set! (I don't wear it for photoshoots, but ALWAYS when walking the floor, b/c a-holes respect "another man's property" more than a woman's autonomy. :mad: That's gutter.) Anywho, creepers gonna creep. I'll just start flipping them my ring finger and saying, "Bye Felicia!"

[MermaidCelesteFL]

I've seen a number of mermaids get a comment on their Instagram by lukas _waa asking how long they can hold their breath. When they respond, he brags about being better.

Just don't respond to him.

[Mermaid Riia]

Agreed with Celeste on Lukas... he's not too mervert-like but he can be _really_ annoying. Flirting and telling you how he can help you hold your breath longer :rolleyes: yeah..

[SeaGlass Siren]

"Can you do this?" "Yeah I can." "Ok but i can do it SO much better than you"- every egotistical man ever.

[Mermaid Wesley]

Was about to respond to how creepy that guy is, and reminisce about how he was on the YouTube wtf thread a while ago, then I saw a guy who looks shockingly similar to a rl creeper I know and ducked behind my computer screen. (It wasn't him thank god!)


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[BlueMermaid]

He's pervin. He has a breath holding fetish and he's trying to get you to do it for him. He's going to "help you" so he can watch you and, well you know....

Agreed with Celeste on Lukas... he's not too mervert-like but he can be _really_ annoying. Flirting and telling you how he can help you hold your breath longer :rolleyes: yeah..

[Echidna]

"Can you do this?" "Yeah I can." "Ok but i can do it SO much better than you"- every egotistical man ever.
bonus douche points if they argue that men are destined to be better at everything than women "coz moar musclez".

[Merman Dan]

"Can you do this?" "Yeah I can." "Ok but i can do it SO much better than you"- every egotistical man ever.

and at least one "Merman"... ;)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-bgYxMO5cY

[Vrindavana Starfish]

and at least one "Merman"... ;)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-bgYxMO5cY

Perfect.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Soooo I'm being Stevie Smith'd ATM. Got a really long whiny PM attacking me for not accepting his friend request.

[Calizaire]

Soooo I'm being Stevie Smith'd ATM. Got a really long whiny PM attacking me for not accepting his friend request.

If his interest in submerged females is actually a sexual fetish (versus someone interested/appreciating the artistry and beauty) then that's very worrisome. He has pictures of children underwater on his facebook. :(

[Mermaid Riia]

He's pervin. He has a breath holding fetish and he's trying to get you to do it for him. He's going to "help you" so he can watch you and, well you know....

Oh how lovely :D interesting way to rock ones boat lol

[AniaR]

Stevi smith has been around forever, he has multiple accounts, collects people, and steals photos. I also got crazy messages when I didn't add him as a friend.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Boy so shady I could be in the Bahamas getting a tan and I wouldn't be able to tan because he SHADY AS EFF.

[Vrindavana Starfish]

I quit facebook. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. My actual friends kept in touch, the rest faded away, so I can spend more time and effort on my real friends. Also, all the unnecessary drama disappeared! There are other ways to market your mer-business outside of Facebook that won't get you caught up in the "social" parts of social media.

[Merman Dylan]

I'm not really doing a merbusiness. I don't do gigs. The only thing that I have that is actually public with all my merstuff is my fan page. Still, it might have something to do with my interest in merfolk and membership in groups for merfolk. I made a few groups for merfolk, and I'm just trying to do stuff in an honest way. It's just a pain that I seem to attract these kinds of people. Even without the merstuff. I could still end up attracting them. It's so frustrating. I see your point though, but I honestly don't want to give up Facebook unless I absolutely have to. I guess I shouldn't be complaining because a part of me wants my merman presence out there. I wanted to be a merman or merboy since I was like 4 or 5. The biggest reason I didn't embrace that side of me was because I didn't know just how many mermen things were out there. I want any kids that were like me to know that it isn't such a weird thing that they have to keep that part of themselves a secret. Part of me wishes I could have it both ways, but I'm greatful for this thread. It has helped me work through most of my issues.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

If I may cut in, there are some posts here I've seen that are supposed to be screen shots of merverts, but they're actually just niusances at worst. We need to be careful not to confuse them. It can be quite uncomfortable to receive a message from an unknown male and especially, a persistent one, but unless he's making sexual remarks or asking for photos, to label him a "mervert" can be severely damaging. Not only to the male in question, but to credibility of mers. Not to belittle feelings! If someone makes you uncomfortable for any reason, by all means block them and don't be afraid to mention it to your brothers and sisters in the community. But don't label them "merverts" unless they really earn it. :)
Hope that all makes sense. <3

[Merman Dylan]

Let me make a correction.

I don't know if I would automatically call any of the following merverts, but I figured that it can't hurt to share this just in case a pattern develops. I'd say that Michael Louis should at least be on a watch list just to be safe rather than sorry. If he proves to be completely harmless, I don't mind deleting my posts. However, The vibes from this guy are very off and his account is almost completely fake. I'm not outright trying to call him a mervert, but at the same time, I think it's important to at least bring it to people's attention that there has been at least a couple of issues. He may not be a mervert, but he could be something else. I don't know. I'll share the screenshots if there is ever a need for it.

To be honest, a number of other messages I get may be more like cat calling type messages which are extremely annoying to get, but I feel like this is something that I don't need to share on here.


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I really didn't go any further with this guy, but I personally feel like someone asking for my tail is an invasion of personal space. He could be harmless or he could be interested in collecting. I don't know. Maybe, it's okay for this to be on here just in case someone else runs into an issue. I blocked him because he just didn't seem to take no for an answer even after I tried to tell him about tailmakers that could help him. I still feel like sharing the screenshots because this guy seemed to really want my tail, and I don't know where I could post this to get some kind of help figuring out how to deal with this.

On top of everything else, I think it might not be a bad idea to just have it here because of the possibility of any patterns developing, I've had Shagene creep up on my page, and I will admit that I seem to get what could be thought of as more of the cat calling stuff, I guess. The cat calling type stuff is extremely annoying. I kid you not. Is there a thread for dealing with that if not in this one? Anyways, I still really appreciate this thread because it has helped me figure out what to do when I feel uncomfortable. Still debating on whether or not I want to keep using social media like have. I've already deleted accounts I didn't need...

Also, one more thing, I believe someone ran into issues with merman triton and his other account merman kevin triton.

[MerDragon Arie]

Quick jump in here. Guys and Gals if someone is harassing you please just block them and move along. Most of the time they want that engagement and attention. If they are being a creep, pervert, annoying, or whatever the case may be JUST BLOCK. Trust me it saves you all kinds of issues in the end. Then you can pass along the information to the rest of the Mer-community.

Now I have actually have had a problem with this "Merman" on facebook he goes by the name of Merman Triton and has another page called Triton Kevin Merman. He messaged me on his Merman Triton page spamming me with messages. I have seen other Mermaid's have been having issues with this guy. I found this facebook page of his. https://www.facebook.com/keke.fruchard?fref=ts the other page seems to be deleted now. I instantly blocked him when he spammed me with a thousand messages all saying Mermaid and beautiful Mermaid. I'm not sure if he is a mervert or just a big nuisance. Like I said I have seen other Merfolk have issues with this guy so do yourselves a favor and ignore him.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Way too many pictures of couples making out on his page.

[Mermaid Momo]

I just got a friend request from merman triton. I didn't accept it.

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[Merman Dylan]

I found out about Merman Triton in the MERMAIDS group, and I also found out about Michael Louis on there. Well, to be honest, Michael is a big question mark for me, and it might be best for me to drop it until something more concrete ever comes up if it ever does. His account last time I checked was completely fake. He just never looked like a real person, so I never accepted any of his friend requests or responded to his messages. The reason I'm bringing him up is because he's very persistent with the Hi's and Hello's in the PMs. I read on here that something like that could turn into an unpleasant conversation, so I personally never ran into issues with him because I never really engaged with him. In the MERMAIDS group, someone that did engage with him had the conversation turning into one about the merboy doing a video by himself. I saved the screenshots just in case. Like I said with him, I never personally ran into issues with him because when I looked at his account he didn't seem like a real person so I never engaged with him. It appeared to me that people who have engaged with him on things have run into issues, but everything is fuzzy and vague. MY hopes are that if there is anything to this guy, a pattern may develop on here before anyone puts a title on him. To me, the Michael guy seems like he may be just a little misguided, but I do think that the Merman Triton guy was getting under a lot of people's scales. By the way, how do most people handle other people asking for your tail, just curious?

[MermaidFifi]

Thanks to all of you and reading every name, I know now who to avoid and while I personally haven't had any problems with merverts, I've unfriended every name listed. Thank you all

[AniaR]

WHO HAS BEEN GETTING THE ROLE PLAYING GUY?

I havent got my screen shots handy but he is messaging loads of mers trying to start a role play with them without their consent and getting offended when they explain they aren't interested and their fan pages are for business only.

[AniaR]

A CLARIFICATION FOR NEW PEOPLE ON HOW THIS THREAD WORKS:

This thread That I created, as detailed in the first post, is NOT just for merverts, but also for documenting unwanted communication, and "collectors", along with trolls. For the most part I think people actually DO follow the rules in the thread. If you arent familiar with how the thread works, all the info is on Page 1. http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?8927-A-Guide-to-dealing-with-Merverts-and-a-list-of-known-PROVEN-offenders

We need a safe place to discuss this stuff, and document this. If you read it and arent offended by something that someone else is, that's fine, that's you, and you are under no obligation to block the person or do anything. Many people come here with their little bit of info to ask what do others think or have others had an experience with someone? So I don't really want *any* censoring of it unless we see bullying/misuse in which case we've outlined the consequences of that on Page 1.

Everything is at your own discretion and comfort level.

So please before you post, or before you criticize others for posting (I know that's a strong word I just can't think of a better one, so it's not meant to attack anyone) please ready post #1

[Merman Dylan]

I'll do my best to try and keep the rules in mind.

I haven't gotten the role playing guy. I'll keep an eye out though.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

A CLARIFICATION FOR NEW PEOPLE ON HOW THIS THREAD WORKS:

This thread That I created, as detailed in the first post, is NOT just for merverts, but also for documenting unwanted communication, and "collectors", along with trolls. For the most part I think people actually DO follow the rules in the thread. If you arent familiar with how the thread works, all the info is on Page 1. http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?8927-A-Guide-to-dealing-with-Merverts-and-a-list-of-known-PROVEN-offenders

We need a safe place to discuss this stuff, and document this. If you read it and arent offended by something that someone else is, that's fine, that's you, and you are under no obligation to block the person or do anything. Many people come here with their little bit of info to ask what do others think or have others had an experience with someone? So I don't really want *any* censoring of it unless we see bullying/misuse in which case we've outlined the consequences of that on Page 1.

Everything is at your own discretion and comfort level.

So please before you post, or before you criticize others for posting (I know that's a strong word I just can't think of a better one, so it's not meant to attack anyone) please ready post #1

Got it.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I hope my comment earlier wasn't viewed as an attack or even a criticism, just a suggestion to pause. I have seen men feel ostracized not just in the mer community but in other areas of society because of a single comment. As I said, I would never belittle anyone else's feelings and can only hope that my intentions were clear.

[AniaR]

no it's cool, i recently suffered a concussion and really struggle with words these days. Just couldnt think of a better word (which is why I put the note in brackets) you are a very kind mermaid who wants to make sure people aren't bullied, and that's totally fine.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

no it's cool, i recently suffered a concussion and really struggle with words these days. Just couldnt think of a better word (which is why I put the note in brackets) you are a very kind mermaid who wants to make sure people aren't bullied, and that's totally fine.

That sucks! I'm sorry to hear that. Glad you're okay, though!!
Aw, thank you! I appreciate your being so understanding!! :'D <3

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Uh... Guys? Can you weigh in on this for me? I was contacted by this person tonight, and I don't know how to feel.

Are they legitimately playing a game, or is this going to turn weird? http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160607/059b8e20e0cb3a01d04a137cc897027e.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160607/70a8707eb338419206e47905475a46bc.jpg

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Usually when they say, "I want to show you something", its something you don't want to see.

[PearlieMae]

Jaffa beat me to it!

[Echidna]

This Yorae person contacted me a while ago, same wording, and added a "and who are you?"
Since it's on my page who I am, I didn't respond at all, especially since I had a hunch this would turn weird, and what you posted confirms my hunch was correct.

I mean, it could all be totally harmless, but I'm usually just doing business on my page and not to waste endless hours of chatting with strangers with no other goal than to- er- "roleplay", so I'm glad I just ignored him.
And I haven't heard from him since. :p

[MermaidCelesteFL]

I ignored him, but he is still messaging me asking me what I'm doing.

[KateyMermaid]

This guy is messaging EVERYONE. dude. WTF.

And it's the exact same messages. It's like he copy/pasted and sent it to every mer on Facebook.


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[Mermaid Momo]

Usually when someone asks to do an online roleplay, they don't intend to keep it PG

[Keiris]

Usually when they say, "I want to show you something", its something you don't want to see.

Bahahahahahahaha! Jaffa, that's hilarious...want to see my squid?? LOL!!!!

[Elodea the Mermaid]

I got this too. I ignored without blocking at first, so every few days he would message me "And you are? *smiles*" like he was going to nudge me into conversation. Oh yes, strange dragon pervert, all I needed was your kind guidance on how to proceed with this conversation. Come, let us dance! -headdesk-

[SeaGlass Siren]

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[BubbleNeon]

I've been keeping up with this, because I'm planning on doing a mermaids instagram page. Do any of these people specifically message on instagram?? (Sorry weird question)

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[MermaidCelesteFL]

I've been keeping up with this, because I'm planning on doing a mermaids instagram page. Do any of these people specifically message on instagram??


Some do, the only one that stands out in my mind is lukas_waa on IG. He tends to post on mermaids' pictures and ask how long they can hold their breath, and then tell them that he can do better than them. I've seen him do it at least three times to myself and others, but he has probably done it more often.

[AniaR]

Uh... Guys? Can you weigh in on this for me? I was contacted by this person tonight, and I don't know how to feel.

Are they legitimately playing a game, or is this going to turn weird? http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160607/059b8e20e0cb3a01d04a137cc897027e.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160607/70a8707eb338419206e47905475a46bc.jpg


Sorry i have been super busy and havent been checking in here. THIS GUY IS HARASSING EVERYONE WITH HIS DANG ROLE PLAY. No matter how many times people are polite to him and tell them they aren't interested, he keeps pushing it. I just told him off on my sisters page as she's underaged. I specifically told him, dude, mermaids are not the same as the role play you do. You can't just message business pages and decide they're role playing with you. please go join a role playing forum. The kissing the hands to me borders on sexual harassment to be honest.

Ps he is using the same script on everyone.

I'd tear him a new one if I were you because everyone has been trying the nice approach and it's not working.

[Firemaid]

Hey guys,
Have any of you encountered Sebastian Löfkvist?
He is being very aggressive and horrible to me.

[Firemaid]

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[Mermaid Mystery]

yikes what an ass

[Firemaid]

yikes what an ass

I know right? Total jerk. He was acting like he wanted to buy a tail. He was weird from the start, but at first I thought he didn't have a total grasp on english, so I answered his questions. Once he started to ask questions about "how does it feel sweetheart" I realized what was going on.
Is he bothering anyone else?

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Ugh. Asshat.
Don't let him get to you, hon. He's just salty because he can't have you. Just keep swimming! :)

[The Water Phoenix]

Don't worry about him! :) He's just a sour jerk who is always unhappy and likes to make others feel uncomfortable for his enjoyment! Just keep swimming! :)

[AniaR]

bye felipe

[Echidna]

ah yes, the malcontented, jealous dude.
I met quite a few of his ilk in the european Larp community, sadly.

It's usually some middle-aged man who cannot bear the thought there are women who can run a successful business with something that is as fun as mermaiding.

No offense to the guys, there are female counterparts to this, but it's more in-the-face jealousy with them, like "you earn money with mermaiding? I could do that totally too, but I have better things to do".
The jealous men just trash everything you say and do, often while being very resentful in general towards women and how "easy" they have it with everything, yadda yadda.

Ignore, laugh, and move on!

[Merman Dylan]

Man, I'm happy I don't get those messages often. There's the standard hey and that gets spammed and that one guy who seemed to troll me asking for a tail. Other than that, I think I'm good. I also recently got a message from someone I have blocked on my personal account saying a picture I shared looked nice in a pm on Facebook. I can't remember why I blocked him and I'm nervous about engaging with him. I blocked him for a reason, but when I deleted my previous meraccount I lost all my evidence.

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[Merman Dylan]

Also, and I mean this with no ill intentions, I just wanted to ask why I'm having any trouble at all even on the borderline area. I've never had an issue get as bad as what I've seen on here, but I've gotten little bits of stuff like messages pmed and Shagne creeping up on me. Can anyone give me some insight as to why some of these weirdos would be doing that. I'm a merman...I didn't expect to have any issues. Please, excuse me, I feel like my mindset could be wrong.

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[Lotus the Mermaid]

Also, and I mean this with no ill intentions, I just wanted to ask why I'm having any trouble at all even on the borderline area. I've never had an issue get as bad as what I've seen on here, but I've gotten little bits of stuff like messages pmed and Shagne creeping up on me. Can anyone give me some insight as to why some of these weirdos would be doing that. I'm a merman...I didn't expect to have any issues. Please, excuse me, I feel like my mindset could be wrong.

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Be thankful you haven't gotten it so bad! In short, trolls don't discriminate. They annoy everyone, regardless of gender. And they typically don't read before writing so no matter how many times you mention on your page that you're not interested in selling tails, you'll still get those questions.

[Merman Dylan]

Be thankful you haven't gotten it so bad! In short, trolls don't discriminate. They annoy everyone, regardless of gender. And they typically don't read before writing so no matter how many times you mention on your page that you're not interested in selling tails, you'll still get those questions.
Well, I do count myself lucky. If it wasn't because of that and shagene, plus stuff that is borderline weirdness and cat calling or just getting kinda hit on, I guess? I wouldn't even need to worry about this thread. I just honestly never thought my looks or being a merman would attract attention that came anywhere close to this. It never really happened to me except for once or twice. I'm getting off topic. Anyways, maybe I shouldn't wonder why merverts and trolls do what they do.

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[Merman Chatfish]

I received this today from Jake Edwards on Facebook.
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[AniaR]

Honestly, I think it was creepy a stranger was fixating on children...

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Honestly, I think it was creepy a stranger was fixating on children...

This.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

A mervert has been messaging me for days as I've been messing with him. I just convinced him that I've been assigned to spy on him. Fins crossed this makes for some excellent screen shots.

[Imogen Finnly]

Be careful!

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[KateyMermaid]

I want to see these screenshots.

[KateyMermaid]

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160703/fef3eecb540f65ba4474b3bfede9be14.jpg
I blocked this guy ages ago for inappropriate comments and he still can message my FB page? Not sure how that is. This is just the more recent stuff. Not inappropriate in this case. Just annoying.

[KateyMermaid]

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160718/73b84eeed1908873083af7a9a66a37b5.png

No. Just. No.

I do not run a "request" account. If you wanna see girls playing with their hair I'm sure there's an adult site for that. If you want girls playing underwater, I'm sure there is an adult site for that.

No.

[MermaidClaudy]

Creeps everywhere ......:shark: Send the sharks on them :)

[AniaR]

why do men ever think that's appropriate? lol

[KateyMermaid]

Because most men are idiots who only think with their "downstairs" brain.

[KateyMermaid]

I REALLY want to rip into this guy and tell him that I dont care if he "doesn't mind short hair" and my identity and attractiveness does not need his validation or approval. That I don't do requests, and this is a business run page. If he wants to get his rocks off he can go visit one of the numerous adult websites that specialize in whatever fetish he has.

However, I did not say that, and blocked him like the adult I like to pretend I am. Far less satisfying though.

[aureliamermaid]

I REALLY want to rip into this guy and tell him that I dont care if he "doesn't mind short hair" and my identity and attractiveness does not need his validation or approval. That I don't do requests, and this is a business run page. If he wants to get his rocks off he can go visit one of the numerous adult websites that specialize in whatever fetish he has.

However, I did not say that, and blocked him like the adult I like to pretend I am. Far less satisfying though.

#Mermaidsagainstmisogyny

http://www.feministapparel.com/products/mermaids-against-misogyny-2-unisex-sweatshirt


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[Mermaid Momo]

Tell him to pay you $700 for a business quote and another $800 for a 2 minute video

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[Keiris]

Because most men are idiots who only think with their "downstairs" brain.

Bahahahahahahahahahahahaha! I plead the 5th.

[Merman Dylan]

I got a comment on instagram that raised a red flag because it's something a mervert would say, but I'm not sure. I just want to make sure I responded in the right way. I also don't want to black list him in case he actually wants to be a merman. I can share the uncensored version if there is a real concern.

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[PearlieMae]

For now, it seems perfectly innocent. If it escalates from there, BLOCK.

[Merman Dylan]

Okay. To be honest, I think I might have misjudged this because I read it so late at night.

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[AniaR]

this guy isnt rude but is obsessed with "transformation" videos. He's been hounding a few of my friends.

My name is no
my number is no
my sign is...

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[Merman Dan]

send him this instead:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QIgW639Oog

[PearlieMae]

send him this instead:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QIgW639Oog

That's me, getting out of a pair of tight jeans on a hot July afternoon.

[Mermaid Whisper]

send him this instead:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4QIgW639Oog

I would probably die laughing if Raina actually sent that.


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[AniaR]

omg pearlie mae. I was drinking wine when I read that. cant stop laughing

[DragonflyFeri]

Just curious what do you lot do with all the stress they send you? I mean okay street harassment is kind of easy with varying degrees of ignoring them to flipping them the bird, but when you don't know these people, and you don't know if their profile pictures are real and not just of an "uncle" or whomever they may have stalked to get a bunch of "relevant" pictures of, I mean aren't you kind of, sort of, super freaked out a bit? I keep a low profile and I think that helps me steer clear from the creepazoids and I know we can't avoid them forever, but I know they come with a boat load of stress, so literally how are you all dealing with it, besides venting here...

[rivermermaid]

(OMG I'm back after so long)

Just a warning, if you have Kik and share your code on social media (Mine was on my rant book on Wattpad when I was looking for a co-writer a year ago then I took the chapter down after I found one) there is a person who has been looking for seemingly a while for women with interests in swimming. My profile photo was a harmless photo from when I got third in freestyle, I had a towel over my shoulders and my award paper in front of my chest, you could only see from the neck up, everything else was covered.

Unfortunately I don't have screen shots but they seemed harmless at first till I asked what they wanted and then they asked for photos of my boobs.
There name was Stevie or something like that but just be careful.

[AniaR]

I as working a gig and had a mervert say something to me.

A photographer caught my expression, just as he said it.

https://scontent-mia1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-0/p526x296/14045939_10157314276980425_2636331959267067470_n.j pg?oh=bb32e3620e614c182dccae5d962c1f6d&oe=584F3CE8


yup LOL

[Mermaid Whisper]

I as working a gig and had a mervert say something to me.

A photographer caught my expression, just as he said it.

https://scontent-mia1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-0/p526x296/14045939_10157314276980425_2636331959267067470_n.j pg?oh=bb32e3620e614c182dccae5d962c1f6d&oe=584F3CE8


yup LOL

This is perhaps my favorite picture of you now [emoji23]


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Agreed, I saw it on fb and I about wet myself from laughing.

How did you respond to him Raina?

[Vrindavana Starfish]

Same. I didn't even have to read the caption, I knew what was up.

[Mermaid Tami]

I REALLY want to rip into this guy and tell him that I dont care if he "doesn't mind short hair" and my identity and attractiveness does not need his validation or approval. That I don't do requests, and this is a business run page. If he wants to get his rocks off he can go visit one of the numerous adult websites that specialize in whatever fetish he has.

However, I did not say that, and blocked him like the adult I like to pretend I am. Far less satisfying though.

Good for you! I had a model page for several years, it was almost more of a hassle then a asset. People are so rude and out of line it can ruin your whole day.


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[MermaidCelesteFL]

Um... guys? Why is there an old picture of me on this random guy's page? Who is he? http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20161022/9b5cb5122c180790658d3edba9f988ca.png


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[Mer-Crazy]

I think you can report that to FB since it's a photo of you being used against your concent.

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[MermaidCelesteFL]

I already blocked him. It looks like he has pictures of other mers on his profile as well, so if you are already friends with him, please take a look. I know that he has some fetish pics, as well as the WW mermaids, Iona, and a few others from here on there.

[PhaylennMurúch]

I saw raina in his pictures a few times. Not to mention that there are mer minors in his collection

[PearlieMae]

Heads up, mers on facebook! Craig Bohn is back and he just tried to friend me AGAIN.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Heads up, mers on facebook! Craig Bohn is back and he just tried to friend me AGAIN.

Yep, he tried friending me too. Dude can't take a hint, can he?

[Mermaid Tami]

Is there a thread for known Merverts? If not there should be! It could be very helpful with social media!!


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[AniaR]

that's what this thread is haha.

[PearlieMae]

Erp a derp!

[Mermaid Tami]

I mean just a list of names lol


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[PearlieMae]

I mean just a list of names lol


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It's an ever-evolving thing...thus the forum.

[AniaR]

I mean just a list of names lol


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\literally on page one of the thread ;) http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?8927-A-Guide-to-dealing-with-Merverts-and-a-list-of-known-PROVEN-offenders

[Mermaid Tami]

Thanks [emoji85]


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[AniaR]

WARNING FOR VIOLENCE, RAPE, RACISM, AND MORE. READ WITH CAUTION. This guy is in a bunch of mer-groups

Ran into this lovely guy

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[MermaidCelesteFL]

I love your last comment.

[Neerai]

WARNING FOR VIOLENCE, RAPE, RACISM, AND MORE. READ WITH CAUTION. This guy is in a bunch of mer-groups

Ran into this lovely guy

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What the fin I just read...?

[TritonsGuard]

Well that guy is outrageous if I may understate. I'm probably Captain Obvious for saying this, but I think this guy is looking for nothing short of intentionally making others feel like dirt. Where as those who legitimately express hate at least show slight reason and vary their answers, this guy kept on saying basically the same short things over and over again and didn't really acknowledge AniaR. I doubt he hates anything about us. I believe he chose AniaR as a target for pleasurable slander. He probably does not care who was in his sights, and he just chose us. This guy is probably just a troll.

[Mermaid Miradis]

Got a comment on a post I made. Found it funny and reported it right away.
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[Samantha Siren]

Hi guys I want yo warn you all about a guy called Sam Knight, I know a few of you have him as a friend. For the last few days this guy has been trying to get me to do a gig in Bournemouth with him at a "private house party"

It's been a very dodgy passing of information, he won't show me his face because he conveniently "lost his laptop" he refuses to give me the clients details but what really hit the nail on the head is when he showed me a picture of his "mertailor tail"

This tail does in fact belongs to and was made by Jacob John Chlebec, its the green tail he made. This guy told. Me it was made by mertailor and the picture was sent "by his ex". I don't know who this guy is or what his deal is but for everyone's own safety please don't book a gig with him or agree to meet up the guy is a nut job.

He is playing dumb to the fact he's been caught out saying he doesn't understand and is still trying to book me.

[Samantha Siren]

OK guys this is SERIOUS! I put up a post the other day about a guy called Sam Knight. He was trying to lure me into performing at a party in the middle of nowhere on my own. Well this lovely chap is part of the same bunch of guys who tried to lure Mermaid Grace last year to a party on her own last year. The number I was given is the same as the one they contacted Grace with.
They offer you a huge sum of money but will not accept any male Mertenders.
If you have had contact with this Sam Knight guy please please please email the Dorset Police at 101@dorset.pnn.police.uk
Crime reference number is 22.275
He is also in with a man called Mike Holloway.

Please be careful don't let the money the offer fool you. They say they will pay a lot to get you to come alone which is just fucking scary!

Be safe guys especially the newbies. Xxx

[AniaR]

That is terrifying.

[AniaR]

I posted a PSA!

[Samantha Siren]

OK guys this is SERIOUS! I put up a post the other day about a guy called Sam Knight. He was trying to lure me into performing at a party in the middle of nowhere on my own. Well this lovely chap is part of the same bunch of guys who tried to lure Mermaid Grace last year to a party on her own last year. The number I was given is the same as the one they contacted Grace with.
They offer you a huge sum of money but will not accept any male Mertenders.
If you have had contact with this Sam Knight guy please please please email the Dorset Police at 101@dorset.pnn.police.uk
Crime reference number is 22.275
He is also in with a man called Mike Holloway.

Please be careful don't let the money the offer fool you. They say they will pay a lot to get you to come alone which is just fucking scary!

Be safe guys especially the newbies. Xxx

[Samantha Siren]

Woops sorry didn't mean to post again

[Merman Dylan]

Yeah, that is scary. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

[merman475]

You didn't misread, Dylan. This guy named if he's who I think he is posts similar questions about being helpless and unable to walk or something about breathing. Sazan_heddo I think his name is. And he posts on MANY m pages of mermen. A bit creepy.

[Merman Dylan]

You didn't misread, Dylan. This guy named if he's who I think he is posts similar questions about being helpless and unable to walk or something about breathing. Sazan_heddo I think his name is. And he posts on MANY m pages of mermen. A bit creepy.

This is actually a relief to read. Both people were just following me. The screenshot are the content they are following. Sometimes I think I'm just being paranoid. It's just that I've had things that have made me uncomfortable sent in PMs and it doesn't help that these people were following my meraccount. Neither of these guys were named Sazan_heddo. Sometimes when I share stuff here I feel like it's not taken as seriously because I'm a merMAN, and not a merMAID. I know Mermaids probably get it worse, but that doesn't mean mermen don't get a bit of weirdness from time to time. It's not like I wanted a guy following me that is in a public group called Hot Gay Teenagers full of pictures of young guys that are shirtless and or other stuff. I just found it creepy.

[Vrindavana Starfish]

Dylan, I don't thing anyone here would take you less seriously because you're a merman. Mermaids know that women get this no matter what, and we know how scary and uncomfortable it is. The fact that you're a merman means you're also going to be a target, because there are fewer of you. You're just as vulnerable to creeps as the rest of us are. You may not have gotten this kind of treatment your whole life, or when you're out of a fin (and that's a huge assumption, because maybe you have), but it doesn't make it any less legitimate when you do. We get it. No one should be made to feel uncomfortable like that.

[Merman Dylan]

I just don't want people to think I'm looking for this by posting stuff here. I figure I can share things and let others know to make their own decisions. Needless to say, the guys above made me feel uncomfortable because of what they chose to follow or because they posted things on their timeline that is questionable. It's always possible someone got hacked when weird stuff gets posted on a timeline, but the second guy is following weird stuff in groups that take it a bit further than what I think is okay. I'm not going to lie. I don't get it often outside of being in my fins, but at the end of my senior year I guess someone saw my profile picture or something and messaged me some creepy stuff. The time for the message was prior to opening up about being a merman to anyone. However, I've been fortunate enough not to have but maybe one incident outside of being in my fins and all that happened was someone PMed me, and I ignored them. The thing that concerns me the most about the first guy is that other mers have him as their friend. It's possible he was accepted because people saw mutual friends or because maybe they actually know him. I don't know. I just thought it was concerning and wanted to let others know.

To be honest, I've actually accepted friend requests and follow certain people not because I want to be friends, but I've noticed that some people tend to collect pictures and share what other mers do as reposts. I follow those people and maybe even friend them because I want to keep an eye on what they post. Because of the attention I can attract, I'm very hypersensitive about the things I share online. I'm always watching, always watching.

[Mermaid Lilium]

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20161226/36cceebc9908a6c9e2449127f27d5f21.jpg

He's back

And he now has 8 accounts

I have raged at him and threatened him with the police and yet he still tries to like my page. I have endlessly blocked him yet he comes back time and time again

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20161226/862e82335a31d1653844cf8566f69144.jpg

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20161226/2aede70512904af6214556118b0d180f.jpg

These are his current accounts.

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[PearlieMae]

Yeah, I just keep blocking him and ignoring him.

[PearlieMae]

Gordon just tried to add me AGAIN.

[AniaR]

"Diaper university"

*shutter*

We had someone message the mernetwork fan page about this dude:

https://scontent-lga3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t34.0-12/15841087_3082524137118_1172763646_n.jpg?oh=8e8412c b4295b82e582285034fcd56ce&oe=58714998


this guys is making sexual advances on girls and asking them to kiss him/makeout etc.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Gordon tried to add seaglass too today, even LIKING a post she made telling him to basically fuck off. She's now managed to ban him but still... He's either not all there or doing this shit on purpose to mess with us all

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[Mermaid Whisper]

I thought it was just the more popular mers, but nope.

Gordon liked my page.


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[Merman Dylan]

When I first started sharing my merman activities, this guy started creeping up on me. I've been wary of people ever since.

[Slim]

Lilium, I'm sure that guy that guy is fully with it and just doing it without a care in the world. Dylan, Gordon is a creeper but don't let one person make you wary people. There is way more good people that probably looks up to you that hasn't said so. I got a niece who interested in mermaiding someday and knowing Gordon out there frankly scares me. It only took me 5 minutes of googling to find that he is in fact a pervert and he a problem on another forum. Google his name in " on both sides and check the 2nd page of google. People are talking on a baby page that he actually stealing pages from their album It's like he doesn't fear of being caught and becoming bolder and bolder. He need to be block by everyone. If your a minor, please report him so he eventually stop. I swear I'm not trying to scare everyone but I'm just very protective.

[Merman Dylan]

He does creep me out a lot. It might sound crazy, but even before I shared my first picture of me in my tail, I had a really creepy guy send me messages while I was still a minor in high school. I'll never understand the creepers on Facebook.

[Slim]

He does creep me out a lot. It might sound crazy, but even before I shared my first picture of me in my tail, I had a really creepy guy send me messages while I was still a minor in high school. I'll never understand the creepers on Facebook.

It doesn't sound crazy at all as some people goes beyond the line. Some people are legit curious but afraid to say something because of their peers. I know it's easier said than done but don't be wary of people. Just go out there and have fun without worrying about who around. Creepers on Facebook are actually easier to deal with as they hate the attention back from multiple at them most of the time. Plus they don't cover up their trails well and will stop instantly if you can figure out their real world state when they lie on their page. I'll be happy to stand up for anyone on this forum if they are being harass on Facebook. Just private message me and I'll give you the link to my Facebook.

[Rebela Hunter]

I'm glad a post like this exists! I've never had any "merverts" after me, but seeing as I'm slowly joining the fandom, it's good to know who I definitely should avoid!
Thanks guys!

<3

[Mermaid Lilium]

So just a heads up, the guy is at least a very creepy collector that is friends with a looooooot of the mermaid community. The guy sent me a request and i've been filtering friend requests pretty heavily, I don't accept just anyone.

Looking through his profile the pictures of him just like... I feel bad for judging but like... I can feel the sweaty heavy breathing on my neck. It looks like he's been uh... doing something when he took the first one I could see.

What concerned me is that he's constantly setting his profile picture and cover photo as various pictures of mermaids - including a few I recognised and msged already, and loads I don't recognise - alongside sexualised images (like playboy outfits, sexy santa girls, sexy photos of celebs), pregnant soap stars, and images of women who look.... rather young. And he likes lots of 'porn' pages etc.

This is the guy: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004207696361

Has anyone had any dealings with the guy? I don't want to start a witch hunt but I feel like we should be aware and keep an eye on the guy... he worries me.

[Slim]

Has that guy started messaging anyone? I'm very protective of my merfriends.


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[H-SAMA]

So just a heads up, the guy is at least a very creepy collector that is friends with a looooooot of the mermaid community. The guy sent me a request and i've been filtering friend requests pretty heavily, I don't accept just anyone.

Looking through his profile the pictures of him just like... I feel bad for judging but like... I can feel the sweaty heavy breathing on my neck. It looks like he's been uh... doing something when he took the first one I could see.

What concerned me is that he's constantly setting his profile picture and cover photo as various pictures of mermaids - including a few I recognised and msged already, and loads I don't recognise - alongside sexualised images (like playboy outfits, sexy santa girls, sexy photos of celebs), pregnant soap stars, and images of women who look.... rather young. And he likes lots of 'porn' pages etc.

This is the guy: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004207696361

Has anyone had any dealings with the guy? I don't want to start a witch hunt but I feel like we should be aware and keep an eye on the guy... he worries me.


I have many friends in common with him, if he's a creeper, let me know so I can warn them.
I didn't add him myself for the same reason, his profile looks weird

[Slim]

Looking up information on the internet reveal that no one hasn't complained about him yet. He no where near the Gordon level of creepiness. Be careful everyone. When in doubt, just block the person. I still concern though because of the people he friended is collector level creepy.

[Kunoichi Ribeiro]

So just a heads up, the guy is at least a very creepy collector that is friends with a looooooot of the mermaid community. The guy sent me a request and i've been filtering friend requests pretty heavily, I don't accept just anyone.

Looking through his profile the pictures of him just like... I feel bad for judging but like... I can feel the sweaty heavy breathing on my neck. It looks like he's been uh... doing something when he took the first one I could see.

What concerned me is that he's constantly setting his profile picture and cover photo as various pictures of mermaids - including a few I recognised and msged already, and loads I don't recognise - alongside sexualised images (like playboy outfits, sexy santa girls, sexy photos of celebs), pregnant soap stars, and images of women who look.... rather young. And he likes lots of 'porn' pages etc.

This is the guy: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004207696361

Has anyone had any dealings with the guy? I don't want to start a witch hunt but I feel like we should be aware and keep an eye on the guy... he worries me.

Woooa! Mermaid Lilium, this guy try add me 3 times less than 2 days! When i open his profile i had that gut feeling to not accept. And if he try again. I will block. I had done my professional profile, but is locked. And i add just who i know. In a near future i want to do a fan page, but on a fan page i believe is more easy for them to get in contact?? Im a bit scared about this. In one week creating my profile, i had about 10 suspect merverts trying add me on. Is a pain in my fish but.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Woooa! Mermaid Lilium, this guy try add me 3 times less than 2 days! When i open his profile i had that gut feeling to not accept. And if he try again. I will block. I had done my professional profile, but is locked. And i add just who i know. In a near future i want to do a fan page, but on a fan page i believe is more easy for them to get in contact?? Im a bit scared about this. In one week creating my profile, i had about 10 suspect merverts trying add me on. Is a pain in my fish but.
You can still block them from your page :) for example though I don't block Gordon shagene from my personal page so I make sure I can see him to block him from my fanpage.

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[Kunoichi Ribeiro]

You can still block them from your page :) for example though I don't block Gordon shagene from my personal page so I make sure I can see him to block him from my fanpage.

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I feel a bit of a relief knowing that. Uffa!

[Slim]

The day Gordon Shagene reaches me when my page gets setup is the month his internet service gets cut off. I can and will find a way to convince his local provider to cut his service in MI.


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[Slim]

Yes I figured out his location using the internet and he is foolish enough to used his real name.


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[Mermaid_Anna]

good to know! i'm a little nervous to do meet and greets based online, but this clears the water a bit and makes me feel safer.

[Slim]

I'm going to put a mervert alert here for anyone using Tapatalk to post their mermaiding video. I recently came across a discovery that any videos that seems to be uploaded using that app will appears on the Tapatalk's Vimeo page. Normally to me it that it shouldn't be a big deal if it was just that. I notice some of mernetwork videos (search Mernetwork on Vimeo to find all videos upload through that up there with the app) had likes by people who are liking nothing else but porn and mermaid videos. When I post videos from my phone, I'll upload it somewhere else and provide the link and not use Tapatalk. Thankfully the picture we are uploading aren't ending up anywhere else. I just feel this post is necessary so everyone here is informed about it.

[Merman Dylan]

Every now again there always seems to be some kind of strange person that pops up on my stuff. Unfortunately, it happens from time to time. The most unwelcomed people don't always make their presence openly known.

[Rebela Hunter]

What happens when the original post of this thread gets too big? Like, there'll be plenty of merverts appearing here and there, so how will we keep track of JUST names? I don't need reasoning - I just need to know who to avoid and block !!!

[Slim]

Keeping track of names would actually make matter worse in my opinion. While it may sound nice to have a list, chances are they are aware of this forum and adding a list will only give them the hint to make another social media account.


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[Mermaid Lilium]

Also just the list of names thing becomes an issue which was the reason why an original thread attempting to do this got taken down. We have to have evidence and reasoning otherwise it becomes a witch-hunt.

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[AniaR]

the list of names is on the very first post. I keep editing it every few months by posting the names.

[AniaR]

Here's a fun one. This guy has multiple profiles. On FB and IG. He sends unsolicited harassing messages to mermaids on fb, many of them sexual, and has done it to a minor.

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This message was sent to a minor mermaid

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when he does stuff like this (crosses the line) and then people delete him that's when he resorts to more harassment.

From checking out his profiles it looks like he finds people through the mermaid groups.

A few people have him added- might want to delete him!

[Mermaid Wesley]

greeeaaaat

[Mermaid Lilium]

fredrik astlid ring a bell with anyone?

He's been sending wierd/innapropriate msgs to one friend that I know about.

[Slim]

I'm just letting all of you know that I'm hearing reports that someone told Paul Parr on Facebook that her picture (he didn't credit her) was on his page and she would prefer for him to take the picture down. Instead of taking the picture down, he blocked her and the picture still remain up. The person does have a 10,000+ photos on his page and includes some really old pictures that some of you removed off the net long ago. I know he doesn't technically count as mervert but the blocking of people on a simple request has me wary.

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

I'm just letting all of you know that I'm hearing reports that someone told Paul Parr on Facebook that her picture (he didn't credit her) was on his page and she would prefer for him to take the picture down. Instead of taking the picture down, he blocked her and the picture still remain up. The person does have a 10,000+ photos on his page and includes some really old pictures that some of you removed off the net long ago. I know he doesn't technically count as mervert but the blocking of people on a simple request has me wary.
I believe that is a collector. Which can end up being a mervert.

[Slim]

That what has me worry is the possible path of him to becoming mervert. I don't see why he would block someone if they ask for the photo to be removed unless he had a different motive. It at least give people here knowledge what to expect if they ask for their pictures to be removed.


I believe that is a collector. Which can end up being a mervert.

[AniaR]

hey everyone there's a guy that goes by Xavier Martinez/ Israel Martinez Jr and he's been hitting up mermaids a lot. When he first started on my page I thought it was a kid. But did some digging and it turns out he's a grown man trying to solicit mermaids into 1 on 1 time.

He's been sending my company email weird emails about how he lives in new york and why don't we live in canada etc. I have been ignoring him and he bombarded my pages and youtube which is why I thought he was a kid.

He may be mentally delayed, but at the same time he's still being inappropriate and obsessive with people, and wasting time of legit businesses by trying to make these fake bookings! Please be aware~

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I've seen quite a lot of complaints about him and just the general wasting time and I just wanna warn mers that in most cases you do not want to go do a 1:1 booking with anyone there have been people in the past who tried to exploit mers and were arrested (for a combination of issues, not just for the mer stuff) If this guy contacts you it isn't legit and it may be worth it to just block him so he's not clogging up your communication. He may be mentally delayed but I can't tell for sure.

[AniaR]

Still getting stuff from Xaiver


and then this Connor Faust, does anyone remember him? I feel like he was that "ice blue dragon" guy who was emailing everyone wanting to role play???

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Again I dont think these people are merverts but still constant unwanted contact and like I said, Xaiver is a grown man

[AniaR]

K I seriously don't know what the deal is with Connor and Xavier, but they both emailed my business contact form and left comments on my blog right after another like someone bouncing between accounts. I got 10 from each today on my email and my blog from both guys.

Now I see connor has made a NEW youtube after I blocked him, and is using me as the profile pic

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[AniaR]

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...i've literally gotten that message no less than 10 times today

[BlueMermaid]

I know this is annoying, but I don't think they deserve to be on this thread. This is supposed to be merverts, known offenders. I'm quite sure these are disabled individuals. You have to think of them as children who do not understand appropriate social boundaries.


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...i've literally gotten that message no less than 10 times today

[AniaR]

I know this is annoying, but I don't think they deserve to be on this thread. This is supposed to be merverts, known offenders. I'm quite sure these are disabled individuals. You have to think of them as children who do not understand appropriate social boundaries.

I'm the one who started/defined the thread, it's for any unwanted contact to give people a heads up, and for collectors.

Since making these posts I've found out from other mermaids these are likely the same person making alt accounts once he's been blocked on his main one, a grown man who keeps posing as kids (not just these boys but also tried to pose as a middle school girl), and has been trying to book mermaids for 1:1 gigs. He's approached Lanai, Saren, myself, hannah B, and a few others. He goes through people's websites, and has been trying to book mers through gig salad. When they've told him no he keeps making alt accounts and emails to try and contact them and some of them are feeling stalked.

I'm not sure if it's someone with a mental disorder or what, but as he's spamming everyone and isn't actually a potential client I think it's important other mers see this stuff so they know if he contacts them. So they don't waste their time going through the email as if it's an actual client. There was an issue a few years ago with someone doing the same thing. And I had a local man do it to me and yes he was disabled but I still needed to get the police involved because he was relentless and threatening.

[New York Mermaid]

That man has harassed me on all my accounts and has made so many fake accounts, he continually tried to book me for parties that are non existent and also has harassed my girl venilia as well. He got me so upset one day after i was in the hospital and wanted more info to where I was in the hospital. I blocked him. Im tired of him Im sorry this is a grown ass man trying to book for 1 guest and after i told him i refuse to do one on one parties without my mertender and stopped doing adult parties he got outright upset at me because he wanted to swim with me and take photos of me . He started getting really creepy after he contacted me on my facebook page. I have a ton of screenshots i got to shrink and compress them cause there's a bunch.

[BlueMermaid]

Sorry, the thread name is a little misleading. "A Guide to dealing with Merverts and a list of known PROVEN offenders."

Understand, I'm coming from a different perspective. I have a grown son with developmental delays and autism. I make him ask me before sending any messages online and try to keep his messages from getting overwhelming to people, but I know most parents don't do that. My son just wants to make friends badly, or because he loves a certain fandom he may send a lot of messages, but people don't get that he's disabled so they think he's weird or annoying and sometimes block him. It hurts his feelings so badly because he's really so sweet and just wants friends. He is A-sexual and has the brain of a 7 year old. I would hate to see his name put on a list for perverts just because he doesn't understand social boundaries.

That said, it does not matter what disabilities they have, if they are spamming you or making you feel unsafe, then yes, block them, call the cops, whatever you need to do. Sometimes just letting them know that their behavior is not appropriate and that they are making you uncomfortable is enough to get them to back off, but sometimes not. I have no problem with blocking someone, disabled or not. But I hate to see them end up on a list that is titled Merverts if they haven't made any inappropriate sexual comments.


I'm the one who started/defined the thread, it's for any unwanted contact to give people a heads up, and for collectors.

Since making these posts I've found out from other mermaids these are likely the same person making alt accounts once he's been blocked on his main one, a grown man who keeps posing as kids (not just these boys but also tried to pose as a middle school girl), and has been trying to book mermaids for 1:1 gigs. He's approached Lanai, Saren, myself, hannah B, and a few others. He goes through people's websites, and has been trying to book mers through gig salad. When they've told him no he keeps making alt accounts and emails to try and contact them and some of them are feeling stalked.

I'm not sure if it's someone with a mental disorder or what, but as he's spamming everyone and isn't actually a potential client I think it's important other mers see this stuff so they know if he contacts them. So they don't waste their time going through the email as if it's an actual client. There was an issue a few years ago with someone doing the same thing. And I had a local man do it to me and yes he was disabled but I still needed to get the police involved because he was relentless and threatening.

[BlueMermaid]

That behavior is not appropriate from anyone and I'm surprised you waited as long as you did to block him.


That man has harassed me on all my accounts and has made so many fake accounts, he continually tried to book me for parties that are non existent and also has harassed my girl venilia as well. He got me so upset one day after i was in the hospital and wanted more info to where I was in the hospital. I blocked him. Im tired of him Im sorry this is a grown ass man trying to book for 1 guest and after i told him i refuse to do one on one parties without my mertender and stopped doing adult parties he got outright upset at me because he wanted to swim with me and take photos of me . He started getting really creepy after he contacted me on my facebook page. I have a ton of screenshots i got to shrink and compress them cause there's a bunch.

[AniaR]

Can't make the thread title any longer, so that's why there's a lengthy description on the first post. ;) But maybe I can get a mod to change the title to "Unwanted Contact: Merverts, Trolls, Collectors, and more" or something like that! Because it's been a place to just post all of that (with proof) so others can consult when they encounter someone.

As for this guy

I've been able to block most of his stuff, but when he uses my contact form, my email won't let me block him without also blocking the email address of my contact form it's so frustrating. He ended up sending me about 45 emails yesterday just copied and pasted. I replied to one, and didn't add any filler just put "Stop sending these emails" and he seemed to stop for the day. I already get 100s of emails a day to sort through it's super stressful to have someone spam like that.

[BlueMermaid]

Yes that would be much better tread title. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. While I can't help but feel sympathy and a bit protective for people with these disorders, I also understand how this could be a major problem...I apologize if it made it seem that I felt you did not have a legitimate complaint.


Can't make the thread title any longer, so that's why there's a lengthy description on the first post. ;) But maybe I can get a mod to change the title to "Unwanted Contact: Merverts, Trolls, Collectors, and more" or something like that! Because it's been a place to just post all of that (with proof) so others can consult when they encounter someone.

As for this guy

I've been able to block most of his stuff, but when he uses my contact form, my email won't let me block him without also blocking the email address of my contact form it's so frustrating. He ended up sending me about 45 emails yesterday just copied and pasted. I replied to one, and didn't add any filler just put "Stop sending these emails" and he seemed to stop for the day. I already get 100s of emails a day to sort through it's super stressful to have someone spam like that.

[AniaR]

Yes that would be much better tread title. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. While I can't help but feel sympathy and a bit protective for people with these disorders, I also understand how this could be a major problem...I apologize if it made it seem that I felt you did not have a legitimate complaint.

totally fine Blue I knew where you're coming from. There are several members of our community on the Autism spectrum, and many with family members with different intellectual disabilities as well. Got a mod to change the title :)

I jinxed myself by thinking I got him to stop. Got another 15 emails today!

[Slim]

The new title fits this thread better. :)

[AniaR]

yeah the thread was made 3 years ago, time for an update haha

[Mermaid Wesley]

I like the new name too. Also popping in to ask about a "John Parker." He's been sending me 'compliments' to my fan page. Seems like an underwater fetishist, and we have 11 mutual mermaid friends.

[AniaR]

yes I blocked him and found he was a fetishist too. I think I forgot to add him on here sometimes there's so many I lose track

[AniaR]

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Sam night is at it again

[Mermaid Kerenza Sapphire]

Had a couple of these guys try to friend me and also join my mermaid FB group - thank you SO much for this thread - instant block! :)

[officialmermaidkelly]

Looks like he is back at it again, contacted me on gigsalad very demanding and i know hes already been talked about in this thread.
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[Slim]

Kelly, He reached to AnaiR earlier in the month through different social media path earlier this month. Please follow her advice and simply block him. Paul Parr is also back at it again so he blocked too.

[officialmermaidkelly]

I blocked both of them already however anyone can make a gigsalad and send a request! Hoping he stops here but I'm sure he wont after reading more about others experiences with him.


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[AniaR]

yeah he's doing it to a lot of people and wasting their time even when we tell him to stop

[Slim]

I awaken this morning and saw that Gordon Shagene has followed my instagram account and a ton more of friends on instagram. It still makes me sick that he active active again. Just please straight up block him before he messages you. If you are a mermaid or a merman, he will follow you like he tried to follow my instagram page.

[Mermaid.Mikayla]

This will be really helpful. Thanks

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[Slim]

Gordon Shagene is very much active on Facebook. I found out yesterday he uses another name on Facebook. The name is Kelly Smith.

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That and another Kelly Smith account got taken down when I reported it. Both accounts he messaged me if I knew Gordon. Both were friendless accounts. I filed a form to Facebook to verify his IP as the Kelly Smith accounts were pretending to be him. I got the message that IP match his account and removed for being fake accounts. Here proof.

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When the 2nd Kelly Smith account got removed by Facebook, I noticed I can't view any of his accounts but his main one so I'm sure he mad at me. He did send me a friend request an hour ago so I blocked him.

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None of his accounts are viewable to me anymore. Everyone block his account.




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[Mermaid.Mikayla]

Gordon Shagene is very much active on Facebook. I found out yesterday he uses another name on Facebook. The name is Kelly Smith.

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That and another Kelly Smith account got taken down when I reported it. Both accounts he messaged me if I knew Gordon. Both were friendless accounts. I filed a form to Facebook to verify his IP as the Kelly Smith accounts were pretending to be him. I got the message that IP match his account and removed for being fake accounts. Here proof.

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When the 2nd Kelly Smith account got removed by Facebook, I noticed I can't view any of his accounts but his main one so I'm sure he mad at me. He did send me a friend request an hour ago so I blocked him.

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None of his accounts are viewable to me anymore. Everyone block his account.




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[Ashton]

Hey guys, I was wondering if anyone has had any dealings with a "Triton_Kevin" on Instagram, I manage an account that sometimes has kids pictures on it (with parents approval) and I get comments like "beautiful" on the photos with kids in them (which is an extra red flag for me)...
I was just wondering if anyone has any information on this particular individual.
Thanks <3

[AniaR]

yeah he's one of the guys in here I forget what his FB is off the top of my head.

[Mermaid Mystery]

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[Ashton]

yeah he's one of the guys in here I forget what his FB is off the top of my head.
Thanks! I thought his name sounded familiar too, I just wanted to ask if anyone knew of this person before I blocked them.

[mermaidrobynn]

Hey guys, I was wondering if anyone has had any dealings with a "Triton_Kevin" on Instagram, I manage an account that sometimes has kids pictures on it (with parents approval) and I get comments like "beautiful" on the photos with kids in them (which is an extra red flag for me)...
I was just wondering if anyone has any information on this particular individual.
Thanks <3
He's so annoying, he just keeps going "mermaid beautiful". I blocked him, he creeps me out.

[Echidna]

the name rings a bell. I removed him when I was still on FB.
Haven't been on there for half a year or so, and I can't say one misses much.

[Ashton]

@Mermaid Mystery: Yeah, but it is WAY worse when you comment "beautiful" on images of kids.

[Slim]

It's been awhile but I found a mervert who has a full blown underwater girl fetish on one of my friend Facebook page. I did let her know about him as soon as I read his profile and saw what his intentions are. Here the information of him asking for specific info relating to his fetish.

Name: David Lucas
Link to page: https://www.facebook.com/scubasutra
Proof of screenshots:
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[Khaleesi Daenerys]

Nicely done Slim! :thumbs-up:

[AniaR]

well, at least he does us the courtesy of directly calling himself a fetish guy hahaha

again, nothing at all wrong with having a fetish. it's when people project it onto non-consenting others that it becomes a problem.

[Ransom]

Yup, his honesty is... refreshing.

[MermaidAnnabella]

So... I just got hit with Craig Bohn.

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Same technique, different mermaid.

I feel like his "method of holding your breath longer" is some sexual innuendo of like holding your breath longer during a BJ. Not to bring sexual R-rated ness to this thread, but that is the creepy sexual vibe I'm getting from that guy -.-

[Nerdmaid Faith]

As referenced by Slim: https://www.facebook.com/gary.dygert.5/posts/1262776580494878, dude has many photos of people reposted. Not too bothered except for his awful editing. Seems like a collector, also I ran into this lovely man today:
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He was apologetic but I'm like naaaah leave your filth! #blocked

[Slim]

Name: Prahlad Singh

Why: He’ll message on Facebook and instantly go overboard with the “I love you” crap and insist to want pictures. He doesn’t take no for an answer. He already messaged Sabrina and I.


Here what he sent to Sabrina
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Here what he sent to me
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[Ransom]

Sadly, this idiot doesn't need your 'permisan' to download and share any pic put on the public Internet :(

Report him to Facebook if you like, but both of you block him asap so he won't cause any more trouble.

Btw, I recommend adding watermarks showing your copyright -- that should discourage unwanted sharing.

[TybeeMermaid]

I'm glad this thread exists! I've run into creeps before and it's always annoying to deal with them. It's nice to have a list all mers can rely on to stay safe from these creeps. Below is a list of the Instagram accounts I've encountered and blocked.

dastardlydrefulton
Reason: He started commenting on a photo of me in a monofin (without a tail) complaining about how I had legs? I answered professionally and he continued trying to get me to pity him for deceiving him??? I removed his comments and he was instantly blocked.

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markanthony2907
Reason: He straight up called me "sexy" and could see me to "spicing up a party". I've never blocked someone so fast in my life.

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johnparker1667
(no surprise here just thought I'd confirm another one of his instagram accounts)
Reason: I don't think I need one. With his comment and his past in harassment, the screenshot says it all.

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jettra81875
Reason: Left a suspiciously fetish-like comment on one of my old instagram posts referring to one of my youtube videos. I wasn't sure how I felt about it so I blocked them. Has anyone else run into this person?

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nate998721
Reason: I can't find my screenshot for why I blocked this person but I'm adding them to this comment anyway. I don't block people without a good reason so I'm sure did something unsettling. Has anyone had a problem with this account?


triton_kevin
Reason: I personally haven't had any problems with him but I noticed the name mentioned a few times in this thread so I blocked him. Plus, he's following 3,000+ other mermaid pages but doesn't have a single photo posted on his profile. Seems kinda fishy...

[DolphinQueenSabrina]

Thanks Everybody for being on my side [emoji5]

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[Ransom]

Thanks Everybody for being on my side [emoji5]

DolphinQueenSabrinaYup! Unfortunately, merverts are an unavoidable part of the activity on social media.

Least we can do is have each others' backs, share what works and plan for when we encounter them.

[NorthSeaAlaria]

Hi guys, erm just wondering if I can get a word of advice about someone, I'd got a friend request to my personal Facebook (haven't got a separate one for mer stuff yet) from a guy who was mutuals with a lot of folks from the UK Merpod page so I figured at the time he was just a fellow mer or enthusiast and was like "why not?" but when I spoke to him to try and see why he added me, he wouldn't say a word to me. It took a little bit of prompting to even get a thumbs up? :confused: I'll put a little screenshot of that below and tbh he still DOES seem harmless, but it made me a little uneasy. I'd then noticed him sharing a lot of evidently collected pictures of mermaids without context, and appeared to be ignoring one comment I found asking for one to be taken down. I think he's a collector? So I searched Paul Parr on google in relation to mermaids and lo and behold, this thread came up.

All I'd love to know since I can't find the right page is if I should worry at all, and whether it's harmless to keep him added, I should block him, or keep him on only to make sure he doesn't upload anything of mine without permission?

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[Slim]

Hi guys, erm just wondering if I can get a word of advice about someone, I'd got a friend request to my personal Facebook (haven't got a separate one for mer stuff yet) from a guy who was mutuals with a lot of folks from the UK Merpod page so I figured at the time he was just a fellow mer or enthusiast and was like "why not?" but when I spoke to him to try and see why he added me, he wouldn't say a word to me. It took a little bit of prompting to even get a thumbs up? :confused: I'll put a little screenshot of that below and tbh he still DOES seem harmless, but it made me a little uneasy. I'd then noticed him sharing a lot of evidently collected pictures of mermaids without context, and appeared to be ignoring one comment I found asking for one to be taken down. I think he's a collector? So I searched Paul Parr on google in relation to mermaids and lo and behold, this thread came up.

All I'd love to know since I can't find the right page is if I should worry at all, and whether it's harmless to keep him added, I should block him, or keep him on only to make sure he doesn't upload anything of mine without permission?

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Block him. As soon as you message him to remove contents, he’ll block you. Don’t give him the chance to save photos.


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[AniaR]

I can't recall anything but we can keep an eye out. from looking at his profile he looks like a fairly standard "collector" of mermaids

[NorthSeaAlaria]

Thanks guys, I'll do that right away. And if anyone ever happens to see stuff of me on (gods forbid) any collector's page, I'd massively appreciate knowing. Can't be great for a just starting business :/

[Mermaid Momo]

Does anyone know if this is a collector or mervert? He followed me on insta and his feed is nothing but stolen photos of mermaids and women in bikinishttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/598158cd68c92744e4d0f0bfc4a131c4.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/b98473c753bfded010c9e84fabef9239.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/9722071a3adddacdbbc716e07af6150b.jpg

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[Slim]

He seems like he a collector


Does anyone know if this is a collector or mervert? He followed me on insta and his feed is nothing but stolen photos of mermaids and women in bikinishttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/598158cd68c92744e4d0f0bfc4a131c4.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/b98473c753bfded010c9e84fabef9239.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/9722071a3adddacdbbc716e07af6150b.jpg

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[Slim]

Here a question that creeps me out but I'm going to ask. I noticed one night that someone was logged in on this site for 2 hours who never posted before. The person was just looking at attachments everytime once I started checking the profile 1 hour after I noticed the name still on when scrolling to the bottom of the site. This person has a deviantart page under the SAME name he has on this site and his blog on there has a fetish scoring system of what he on too. It clearly states that mermaids are a plus 5 points in it. Should I mention his name on here or should I message an admin and provide a link to his deviantart page with his username so they can block him from here? I'm concern saying the name will make him active and start harassing mers on here as he already has an account for 2 years.

[Mermaid Momo]

I think you should alert admin with links to his DA page, blog, and MN profile and let them handle it.

[Slim]

Thank you.


I think you should alert admin with links to his DA page, blog, and MN profile and let them handle it.

[Mermaid Kane]

Here a question that creeps me out but I'm going to ask. I noticed one night that someone was logged in on this site for 2 hours who never posted before. The person was just looking at attachments everytime once I started checking the profile 1 hour after I noticed the name still on when scrolling to the bottom of the site. This person has a deviantart page under the SAME name he has on this site and his blog on there has a fetish scoring system of what he on too. It clearly states that mermaids are a plus 5 points in it. Should I mention his name on here or should I message an admin and provide a link to his deviantart page with his username so they can block him from here? I'm concern saying the name will make him active and start harassing mers on here as he already has an account for 2 years.
That's disgusting...

[Ransom]

Wow, thanks for the alert Slim. Hopefully the admins can sort it out.

[AniaR]

GROSS.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Thought I wouldn't have to post here... I was going through my fb mer page and found a like from Gordon Shagene. Is there a way to remove it?

Nvm. Figured it out. Banned him instead!

[Mermaid Bria]

Holy crap, I just finished reading through all of this, because it's one of my main concerns for when I start to set up. Now, I know that I am in need of a mertender to assist me (and to never do one on one gigs that sound fishy as hell), but it didn't occur to me that mertenders would need more of an emphasis of mermaid bodyguard than I originally thought. I thought their main job would be to help me whilst in the tail where I would obviously be restricted. It was an afterthought that they would be around to keep people from being handsy/creepy.
My question is, is there a thread floating around as a quick guide to finding/picking the right mertenders? I thought i could just have one other assistant with me and that it didn't matter if it was a man or woman, but now i'm thinking having a woman helping wouldn't be as intimidating to these sexist freaks. The thought occurred to get my boyfriend in on it, but I don't see that working out as a good business relationship. And I guess the only way to protect my online presence would be just to delete, block, and delete some more... reading the story about the one guy coming up and holding one girl at an event and then the other where the guy was trying to book a mermaid with her just going to a private location by herself... freaks me out completely. If I found another girl that wanted to do this with me (which I would love to have in the future) I feel like that ads to the seriousness of safety with two women effectively helpless in tails...

[Ransom]

Forewarned is forearmed. This thread serves its purpose every time someone finds out here rather than by experience :) Sadly, these people can't be dodged entirely, and social media makes you easier to find -- it doesn't care by whom.

I don't think you need to aim to be intimidating, though your tender does need to be assertive, observant and able to defuse tough situations gracefully. You don't want to be looking over your shoulder all the time.

[Seaspray Mermaid]

Hey guys, I was wondering if anyone has had any dealings with a "Triton_Kevin" on Instagram, I manage an account that sometimes has kids pictures on it (with parents approval) and I get comments like "beautiful" on the photos with kids in them (which is an extra red flag for me)...
I was just wondering if anyone has any information on this particular individual.
Thanks <3

I thought I was alone I get "mermaid beautiful" a lot.

[MermaidAiera]

I just got "mermaid beautiful" too today, yikes.

Hopefully he's just an innocent fan and not a creep. His account is private but he has a decent following and plenty of posts, so it doesn't seem like a spam account created for harassment. Then again, I didn't follow him to see what said posts are of, so I can't be sure.

[Seaspray Mermaid]

He's a fan, I believe he does have a tail. I believe he's basically harmless, it depends on what you are comfortable with.

[Ashton]

I just got "mermaid beautiful" too today, yikes.

Hopefully he's just an innocent fan and not a creep. His account is private but he has a decent following and plenty of posts, so it doesn't seem like a spam account created for harassment. Then again, I didn't follow him to see what said posts are of, so I can't be sure.

I get saying adults are beautiful, but as a teacher it gets very suspicious when you comment the same things on images of children.

[Seaspray Mermaid]

He comments on children?

[Ashton]

Yeah, there are a few photos of kids in tails and he has commented "beautiful".

My hope is that he is commenting on how it is beautiful world we live in that these children have the opportunity of learning how to swim as a mermaid. Rather than commenting on their looks and possibly saying something that could be seen as inappropriate.

[Seaspray Mermaid]

You never know, though.
I'll have to review his page and reconsider not blocking..

[Seaspray Mermaid]

Hey, do the names Josh Commee or @dailyscreener mean anything to anyone?

[DolphinQueenSabrina]

I blocked Dailyscreener

DolphinQueen

[Seaspray Mermaid]

Did you have issue with that person or did their profile make you uncomfortable?

[DolphinQueenSabrina]

The profile made me uncomfortable

DolphinQueen

[Mermaidtanya]

I posted this in the drama thread, but I’ll say this again. I dated this guy name Shawn Fan back in 2013 and it turns out he is a mervert and collector. I broke up with because I didn’t appreciate him flirting with other girls behind my back and he only cares about my mersona and not the person behind it. Ever since I dumped him he proceeds to target any mermaid performer in DFW and recently Oklahoma. He would send creepy and stalkerish messages. In 2016 he got banned for harassing the mermaids at their medieval fest.

These are the screenshots from Merfolks of Foxmoon Production’s facebook page. I know they are talking about my ex because my friend Ashley was there when it happened:

https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/5becda179f203dfbbabdf0ca65392cdc.jpg https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/755f49bdb83b4cb3464f50dc4cdbbee7.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/b7b4a64b3de8cfd8f0fb51ce71c47f64.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/cbb4e6e7862116546d337630db0ea82b.jpg

My friend Davina can confirm Shawn got banned at the medieval fest too. He tried to plead innocent with herhttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/21bb0926c7f297a069ea25ac511c4846.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/90049dcb0f7876e18141820bdaf340b0.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/51129a4f00e16e3bbac1beb0e9a543c0.jpg

Next set is my friend Ashley’s messages. She cut off contact with him due to his behavior at the medieval fest in Oklahoma and for the creepy messages he sent her. These are the screenshots of the messages she sent me: https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/c216b920807931c893db0f873580ee25.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/9c0d1c29f8f925423be67c4c6fcb8a9b.jpg

These are the messages Shawn sent her. He offered to ship her his Shirahoshi figurine (a sexualized mermaid character) to her. It made her uncomfortable. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/8a3b4d1572e88bced5c766236921244f.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/3268625c8f2fb700e8de4e3eb00872e3.jpg https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/a45ff9e894d25a504f56b14cad3500e1.jpg


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[Mermaidtanya]

Continued...

I found out he is a collector through his facebook page called Didi Cosplay and Photograph.

https://m.facebook.com/pg/didicosplayphotograph/photos/?tab=album&album_id=694733820684665

He posted these images sometime after Ashley Wolf cut him off around 2016. She wants nothing to do with him, but he’s posting images of her and him on his page still. He tried to post images of me and him too despite me cutting him off ages ago. I ended up getting those images of me and him on his page taken down by griping at him and reporting him. He have yet to remove photos of him and Ashley. He stole some of the photos of him and Ashley from Ashley’s instagram page.

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[Mermaidtanya]

https://m.facebook.com/pg/didicosplayphotograph/photos/?tab=album&album_id=694733820684665

If you look through his albums he not only has a mermaid fetish, but he also has Hula Girl fetish. I remember during our relationship he stated he had fantasies of me doing a Hula Girl photoshoot with him and him worshipping me. It was so creepy! I’m glad I never did the Hula Girl shoot with him. Now he got 3 girls to do the shoot with him. The two who cosplayed Elsa and Anna as Hula Girls looks really young in my opinion. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180418/ed7fb3d769d52fbd6b12d90e4380d7ab.jpg


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