B!TC# IT OUT!

[Adalira]

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[SeaMansa]

Omg I just read the leaked plot spoilers for the fantastic four movie and.........I. Am. Pissed. Off. >> Idk who is in charge of theses changes...but they need to get their life. They need to go back...and ughhh.... Thing is, I am not even a huge comic book fan but what I DO know of Fantastic Four...and what this movie is.... I CANNOT EVEN >> {SPOILER ALERT} {SPOILER ALERT} {SPOILER ALERT}>>>>>>

DR. DOOM IS AN INTERNET BLOGGER -____- can we all just let that sink in. Doom is an internet blogger, and Ben and Reed are co-workers at a convenience store -____- I just cannot. I really cannot even. Marvel was doing so nice... But this.. this might just be the thing that ruins them. I can't. I really can't. I am unable.

[SeaGlass Siren]

we'll see what marvel decides to do. they might do something different entirely altogether because disney still doesn't own the rights to fantastic four. or XMEN.

[-Annwyn-]

I am sure she is not scamming me with sugar pills or anything though. She has a big piece of land in England where she treats animals and takes in animals to help them....

Just look at other natural remedies that are amazing....just recently doctors (This was on the Dr OZ show) said that turmeric is very very healthy and that women especially should be taking this every day to prevent cancer in the female productive organs.
And it is said that turmeric can also fight cancer cells in the body.
Hemp oil seems to be an amazing cure for a lot of ailments as well and i think they are currently researching it for being able to cure cancers as well....


OMFG just stop with the utter bullshit you are spewing out right now.

The fact that this woman has land does not credit your argument. It's irrelevant.

According to Cancer Research UK, the studies done for the link between Tumeric and Cancer were done on MICE. The stage 2 tests done on 25 (that's Twenty-five) humans were INCONCLUSIVE. Here is the article: http://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/cancers-in-general/cancer-questions/can-turmeric-prevent-bowel-cancer#research

"Dr." Oz is another scam artist who only shills what he's paid to. He's a heart and lung surgeon FFS who really shouldn't be discussing weight loss at all- because in the past he's admitted before US congress that the bullshit he's shilling doesn't work. Here is an article about it: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/17/dr-oz-congress_n_5504209.html

Hemp Oil Cures Cancer? Yet, another hoax - http://skepdic.com/ricksimpson.html

Surely, Adalira, you aren't that dumb enough to believe this nonsense. If I can find all this information from google in 5 minutes, surely you can too. These hoax claims hurt people. If they were any good, they would already be used in hospitals (like Aspirin is).

[Echidna]

Take it down a notch Annwyn, will you?

I'm sure you have the best of intentions.
As I said, I'm very wary towards anyone promising me anything, and I apply that scepticism not only towards alternate medicine, but also towards the "accepted" pharmaceutical and surgical business, er medicine.

Some people get that scepticism through experience, and others through research.
Cancer treatment is a delicate subject.

But I've seen too many people who weren't even that bad off (begining cancer and such) dying within days of getting treated in hospitals with all the official, good, right, evidence-based, studied etc etc methods.

There is no need to bash people who look for other ways.
I would too, because I have no desire to be killed off with chemotherapy just so some unscrupulous specimens can earn more cash.

[-Annwyn-]

Take it down a notch Annwyn, will you?



No.

[Adalira]

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[Echidna]

And your argument that if it were any good it would be used in hospitals literally made me LOL so thank you for that one. You made my day.
I did not know there was still so many gullible people out there or as some people call them "sheeple" who believe anything doctors, so called research centres (mostly funded by pharmaceutical companies so off course they are telling the truth ;)) say.

this.
It's strange to realize there are still people who have blind faith in "official" stuff in medicine, politics, media, religion...if I had done what doctors have told me over the years, I'd be dead at least 3 times over.

If there were a plant able to cure all cancers, hospitals and doctors would do their utmost to deny that it helps, because a plant cannot be copyrighted and therefor not used to make the pharmaceutical business money.

Believe the stuff they say at your own risk :P

Adalira, I'd still ask what exactly is in the pills.
Chances are you'd have the same effect with herbs you prepare yourself.
That way, you can be sure there's nothing harmful in it (and it's probably cheaper).

I wouldn't take anything where I'm not sure what the ingredients are.

[Adalira]

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[Talia]

Cancer treatment is a delicate subject.

But I've seen too many people who weren't even that bad off (begining cancer and such) dying within days of getting treated in hospitals with all the official, good, right, evidence-based, studied etc etc methods.

There is no need to bash people who look for other ways.
I would too, because I have no desire to be killed off with chemotherapy just so some unscrupulous specimens can earn more cash.

First of all, Adalira, you are free to do what you want. If you have faith in this woman, by all means, get her treatments. Just don't expect all people to agree with your decision, because some, including I, and I think Annwyn, think it is a bad idea.

But Echidna, people dying of cancer after getting treatment are dying because of the cancer, not because of the treatment. The treatment gets them worse, of course, because it is powerful stuff designed to kill cells, and it kills also the good cells that are not part of the cancer. Thus the saying "the cure is worse that the illness". Many times the chemotherapy is not going to cure, but gives them extra time. Some other times it is not so, sadly.

I am not going to talk about cancer research, because it's a broad subject, but if you are interested, this is a great book (http://www.amazon.com/Emperor-All-Maladies-Biography-Cancer/dp/1439170916/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1421084776&sr=8-1&keywords=the+emperor+of+all+maladies) on the matter.

Also, as a scientist household, we take scientific research seriously, because it is a serious matter. My husband has been trying to publish a paper since last Summer, and he is still getting hold by the referees. Publishing studies is not done lightly, and takes a lot of work and a lot of external scrutiny.

And precisely because we know about it, we take everything that we see in the news with a grain of salt. If someone says he has found a cure for cancer, we will doubt that the assesment is correct. Cancer in general is not cured. Specific cancers may be, but still, not all people respond to a specific cancer in the same way, even if it is the same desease. So one person living for years on a stage 4 of cancer does not mean another is not going to die at stage 2.

[Echidna]

But Echidna, people dying of cancer after getting treatment are dying because of the cancer, not because of the treatment. The treatment gets them worse, of course, because it is powerful stuff designed to kill cells, and it kills also the good cells that are not part of the cancer. Thus the saying "the cure is worse that the illness". Many times the chemotherapy is not going to cure, but gives them extra time. Some other times it is not so, sadly.


So when you have a relative in good health, but with some cancer cells found during a routine check-up, and they are suddenly dead 2 days later after getting chemotherapy, you still believe that?
Doctors must love you!

Thanks for trying to explain the intricacies to me, but I already know more than I want to about cancer, its countless treatments, and the medical business in general.
Mostly because I've had a chemotherapy myself already.

The cases I mentioned of people I knew suddenly dying when treated (5 and counting) did not die of cancer, they died because of vital organ failure due to the chemotherapy.
Chemo drugs are not used to cure people, they cost a ton (goes into millions with some) and thus make the doctors a fortune, whether the patient lives or not doesn't make a difference in that regard.

I do not wish to discuss this anyway, everyone must know themselves what is best for them.

[Adalira]

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[Talia]

this.
If there were a plant able to cure all cancers, hospitals and doctors would do their utmost to deny that it helps, because a plant cannot be copyrighted and therefor not used to make the pharmaceutical business money.

I don't know in your country, but in mine, investigation money comes from the Government and the Health and Education Departments, not from Pharmaceuticals. Those have their own research teams, but even those are subject to peer-review before publishing anything.

Also, you forget that you don't copyright a plant, but you copyright a protocol or a formula, and everyone (in theory) should be allowed to do that after investing their own money on research. If you discover a way to time-travel or teleporting, you would like to be compensated for your time, effort and money invested, right?

[Talia]

Thanks for trying to explain the intricacies to me, but I already know more than I want to about cancer, its countless treatments, and the medical business in general.
Mostly because I've had a chemotherapy myself already.
The cases I mentioned of people I knew suddenly dying when treated (5 and counting) did not die of cancer, they died because of vital organ failure due to the chemotherapy.

I had no way to know you are a cancer survivor, otherwise I would not have engaged on this conversation with you. Sorry.

By the way, my boss just lost a patient that was being treated of arthritis precisely because of liver failure due to the effect of the drugs she had to take so she could have a decent live. So, what was he to do? Say, "sorry lady, this drug will make your liver explode, so you will have to live with the pain and the movility loss because I am not going to give it to you because you can die"?

Do we stop treating people because they can die?

They day homeopathy is shown to actually cure illnesses, I'll be happy to buy from the local herbalist shop. I will shut up now.

[Adalira]

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[Talia]

Omg I just read the leaked plot spoilers for the fantastic four movie and.........I. Am. Pissed. Off. >> Idk who is in charge of theses changes...but they need to get their life. They need to go back...and ughhh.... Thing is, I am not even a huge comic book fan but what I DO know of Fantastic Four...and what this movie is.... I CANNOT EVEN >> {SPOILER ALERT} {SPOILER ALERT} {SPOILER ALERT}>>>>>>

DR. DOOM IS AN INTERNET BLOGGER -____- can we all just let that sink in. Doom is an internet blogger, and Ben and Reed are co-workers at a convenience store -____- I just cannot. I really cannot even. Marvel was doing so nice... But this.. this might just be the thing that ruins them. I can't. I really can't. I am unable.

:doh: :headwall::shame:

[Yulia]

Lets all agree to disagree in the subject and go on living our happy lives :)
Lets change the subject here.
I have an idea that i thought off a few days ago.
I was thinking of making a new thread for help and advice in any way possible.
So for instance: someone is being creative and would like some extra eyes on something they are making (maybe a wreath, a painting, a decorational piece anything) they can show us and we try to help where we can.
Someone has "love" trouble and is in need of advice.
Someone has a problem in the family or at work and needs advice
Someone wants to change jobs or start their own business and needs advice.
Someone would like some new cooking recipes in a certain genre and needs advice.
Someone is looking for good books to read in a certain genre or movie.
Just anything.
What do you guys think?
I would use it, I think it's a good idea!

[Adalira]

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[Mermaid Kelda]

Just going to add my two cents to agree that "Dr Oz" is full of bullshit. He once said that palm oil got rid of cholesterol. And so 50,000 housewives rush out to buy palm oil full of sat fat and help destroy rainforests.

Carry on ;D

[Mermaid Harmony]

So I have almost 5,000 people who like my page right...guess how many have seen my last like 8 or so posts on average.70. 70 people out of 5,000. I'm frustrated. This is cheap and unfair, and I'm angry. I'm going to start trying with the facebook promoted posts but I'm just bewildered. Facebook you make me angry.

[Mermaid Kelda]

Apparently promoted posts are a bit hit and miss :\ things like being promoted to India or Turkey, no where near where it would actually be useful at all. Fingers crossed it works for you!

[Adalira]

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[Mermaid Harmony]

will do, although my hopes are low, I'm trying to post more on IG, and mulling about going into the mystery craziness that is tumblr.

[Mermaid Alea]

I was on a bird forum in the peacock section where I always hang out, and this new peacock owner posted a topic about seriously considering getting their peacock's vocal chords removed!!! None of us peacock owners would do something like that. We all love the noise they make, and couldn't see taking away their voice like that. Not to mention such a surgery would be dangerous and could kill the peacock. I told the person if they or the neighbors can't handle the noise, then maybe they should just keep only peahens and not a peacock. I also told them they definitely should not get any more males.

Uhh it just really aggravates me that someone would consider that. While I love my birds I wouldn't have their voices removed if I had to do that in order to keep them. I would give or sell them to a local peafowl breeder who I could visit often to see my birds.

Okay should we have your child's voice removed because they like to talk loudly!? NO! Then why do it to the bird!? :confused:

[-Annwyn-]

Playboy Guy from work screws a girl from work after they both got drunk at the work Xmas party. They hook up the week after that. Now it's awkward between them and he's bugging me for advice like I'm Aunt Fucking Agony or something.

I'm restraining myself from yelling "HOWS ABOUT YOU JUST KEEP YOUR DICK IN YOUR PANTS, YOU MORON."

[Echidna]

They day homeopathy is shown to actually cure illnesses, I'll be happy to buy from the local herbalist shop.

This won't happen, because homeopathy is an esoteric medieval concept based on the idea that the more you dilute something, the more potent it becomes because water has magical properties.

Homeopathy has zero to do with natural remedies consisting of plants and herbs, teas and infusions.
(I hope the pills Adalira mentioned are not of this type :p )

Bitch in case:
Medical insurances here pay for esoteric quack like homeopathy, acupuncture, chakra cleaning and the like, but refuse to reimburse for things that actually help.

And- surprise, surprise- the homeopathic business is a big and flourishing one that makes money from selling pills made from water and sugar.

[maressa]

Just venting...

One week until the 20th, my agreed upon in-hand date for my Finfolk tail, and I've not heard from them at all in about a week, and the last message said "don't worry, everything is on schedule". Kinda hard not to worry when I haven't seen anything at all, and they told me my tail pieces have been poured... but I didn't get to see the sculpts before they were cast? This is not the level of communication I was expecting during my production time :-/ I keep having to tell friends and family that I'm sure it is not a scam.

I know everyone here will vouch for them and say that their communication is the best in the biz, but I needed to get this off my chest. I am trying not to complain, but this is the most money I have ever spent on something, and I went to a company that I felt would make it the easiest, most stress-free process. But it has been rather the opposite... and the girls have had quite a few things come up during the time since I put my order in (moving, car breaking down, their new studio not being ready in HI, baby sister being born, holidays, Merfest) and I am sympathetic, and I understand that things happen, but I am feeling a bit neglected now that my tail is finally being made and I have not seen it at all.

I literally have to beg for communication, and I have not once been reached out to, except after my first order message. I have no doubt that the tail will be stunning and a work of art when I get it, but the process of getting it has been excruciatingly stressful.

:(

[Yulia]

I totally get what your feeling Maressa. >:
"I keep having to tell friends and family that I'm sure it is not a scam."
I HATE THAT. It's so annoying and embarrassing at the same time.

[PearlieMae]

Playboy Guy from work screws a girl from work after they both got drunk at the work Xmas party. They hook up the week after that. Now it's awkward between them and he's bugging me for advice like I'm Aunt Fucking Agony or something.

I'm restraining myself from yelling "HOWS ABOUT YOU JUST KEEP YOUR DICK IN YOUR PANTS, YOU MORON."

More effective: Calmly speak the words right into his face like you're telling him to fix himself a cup of tea, then walk away.

[-Annwyn-]

More effective: Calmly speak the words right into his face like you're telling him to fix himself a cup of tea, then walk away.

Oh I like that.

He fucking rattled off the same shit for over an hour with me chiming in "Mmm hmmm, oh yeah? Really? Wow." on occasion. And then I get the "Sorry for unloading on you" Urrrgh.

[-Annwyn-]

And I mean really; does he really, truly want relationship advice from a mermaid?

[Merman Dan]

One week until the 20th, my agreed upon in-hand date for my Finfolk tail, and I've not heard from them at all in about a week...

Abby & Bryn attended MerFest earlier in the month, then went back to MN to visit family and friends before returning to Hawaii. I'm not sure if they are back to work, yet, but HI is 5 hours behind Eastern time, so perhaps they'll play catch-up later today!

[PearlieMae]

So I have almost 5,000 people who like my page right...guess how many have seen my last like 8 or so posts on average.70. 70 people out of 5,000. I'm frustrated. This is cheap and unfair, and I'm angry. I'm going to start trying with the facebook promoted posts but I'm just bewildered. Facebook you make me angry.

I wouldn't bother. I think at this point you might be better off using traditional marketing methods...mailing physical postcards, targeted email promos to your list of contacts and previous clients, local press... Facebook is free...they get everyone hooked in, aggregate our data and then use it to get us to spend money for no return on investment.

[PearlieMae]

And I mean really; does he really, truly want relationship advice from a mermaid?

:lol:

[Sherielle]

So I have almost 5,000 people who like my page right...guess how many have seen my last like 8 or so posts on average.70. 70 people out of 5,000. I'm frustrated. This is cheap and unfair, and I'm angry. I'm going to start trying with the facebook promoted posts but I'm just bewildered. Facebook you make me angry.FB is schway screwed up and has done things that are now detrimental to the small business owner there. I am having the same issues and I have over 17k likes for my jewelry page. What I have found that works for me is posting something daily, at different times each day. It doesn't even have to be about your page. Pretty pictures or general questions to your fans. Something to make them engage. The more Likes/shares/comments you get, the more your page will be seen. I recently just posted a picture of one of my pendants with the caption of 'My intention is to fill facebook with pictures of wire wrapped pendants to break the saturation of negative images and videos. If you like and/or share this post, it will positively affect the internet. I promise ;)' Then I tag my page. I've seen more views with these than I have in a while with other posts I have done. Also, pictures show up on people's feed more than just status updates.

[Mermaid Mhara]

And I mean really; does he really, truly want relationship advice from a mermaid?

This is my new favourite quote :clap:

[AmbrGlows]

FB is schway screwed up and has done things that are now detrimental to the small business owner there. I am having the same issues and I have over 17k likes for my jewelry page. What I have found that works for me is posting something daily, at different times each day. It doesn't even have to be about your page. Pretty pictures or general questions to your fans. Something to make them engage. The more Likes/shares/comments you get, the more your page will be seen. I recently just posted a picture of one of my pendants with the caption of 'My intention is to fill facebook with pictures of wire wrapped pendants to break the saturation of negative images and videos. If you like and/or share this post, it will positively affect the internet. I promise ;)' Then I tag my page. I've seen more views with these than I have in a while with other posts I have done. Also, pictures show up on people's feed more than just status updates.
People aren't seeing your posts because page posts no longer appear on news feed...or at least they aren't appearing on mine. I have to go to the "pages" tab on the left of my FB news feed and it takes me to a feed just for all the pages I follow.

I hate FB in general though. If it wasn't for all the family out of state I keep track of on their I probably wouldn't have an account on there.

[Naufra]

I'm in the process of getting a crown. Not a pretty, sparkly one, either. This one's a tooth-tiara. Normally I'm okay with dental work, but I just got my temporary crown this morning, and all the hardware that comes with it. My mouth is beat to shell from when they prepared the tooth and put the temp on this morning, but what's probably the worst part aside from the bill is the thingie keeping my gums up until the permanent crown is seated. That sucker is going to bother me for the whole two weeks until the permanent crown is seated, I just know it!

[Adalira]

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[Sherielle]

I'm in the process of getting a crown. Not a pretty, sparkly one, either. This one's a tooth-tiara. Normally I'm okay with dental work, but I just got my temporary crown this morning, and all the hardware that comes with it. My mouth is beat to shell from when they prepared the tooth and put the temp on this morning, but what's probably the worst part aside from the bill is the thingie keeping my gums up until the permanent crown is seated. That sucker is going to bother me for the whole two weeks until the permanent crown is seated, I just know it!
Tooth Tiara. Love it. I hate getting crowns. HATE IT. Did you get a root canal as well or just the tooth tiara?

[Mermaid Momo]

Is there a bot on the forum? I keep seeing a profile keep commenting on threads with the same thing just reworded. I though nothing of it at first but I realized they were posting to introduction threads with things like "thanks for the information! very good!" or "I found this information very helpful, thanks and keep posting such helpful information." on threads that aren't information threads... is this a spam bot or just someone excited to be on the forum?

[Merman Arion]

Is there a bot on the forum? I keep seeing a profile keep commenting on threads with the same thing just reworded. I though nothing of it at first but I realized they were posting to introduction threads with things like "thanks for the information! very good!" or "I found this information very helpful, thanks and keep posting such helpful information." on threads that aren't information threads... is this a spam bot or just someone excited to be on the forum?

:doh:

[Naufra]

Adalira, I can talk just fine, but I have to keep my chewing to the other side of my mouth until the permanent crown is seated. Sherielle, my dentist sent me for a root canal, but the endodontist said I didn't actually need one. I had a really weird-shaped tooth for a while from the not-actually-a-root-canal. Now I have s weirdly smooth metal tooth where the temp is and a band of metal shoved up under my gums to keep them from closing. That part is driving me crazy!

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

Just found out that the job I had lined up for Az was given to someone else.

They didn't even contact me. I only just found out because I contacted them about when I needed to be there and that is when they told me.

I am so upset and stressed.
I didn't need this on top of everything else.

It isn't even like there were multiple people lined up for it and I got passed over. It was mine and then it wasn't.

[maressa]

Just found out that the job I had lined up for Az was given to someone else.

They didn't even contact me. I only just found out because I contacted them about when I needed to be there and that is when they told me.

I am so upset and stressed.
I didn't need this on top of everything else.

It isn't even like there were multiple people lined up for it and I got passed over. It was mine and then it wasn't. Whaaaat! That's ridiculous! I'm so sorry to hear that!

[Mermaid Alea]

Is there a bot on the forum? I keep seeing a profile keep commenting on threads with the same thing just reworded. I though nothing of it at first but I realized they were posting to introduction threads with things like "thanks for the information! very good!" or "I found this information very helpful, thanks and keep posting such helpful information." on threads that aren't information threads... is this a spam bot or just someone excited to be on the forum?

You mean this person? : http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?5082-Ticgdewlopse

[Merman Chatfish]

I just hit a deer and they had to put it down :(

[Mermaid Kelda]

Is there a bot on the forum? I keep seeing a profile keep commenting on threads with the same thing just reworded. I though nothing of it at first but I realized they were posting to introduction threads with things like "thanks for the information! very good!" or "I found this information very helpful, thanks and keep posting such helpful information." on threads that aren't information threads... is this a spam bot or just someone excited to be on the forum?
Probably a bot. Most often they'll have spam in their signature, but sometimes they don't at first and then add it in later (perhaps they think we'll have warmed up to them by then? Who knows). Best to ignore them for now until they a) spam or b) actually post something fucking useful.

[Mermaid Alea]

Oh man I am so disappointed!!! I was so excited to swim in my monofin for the first time tomorrow. I realized I don't know what time the college pool opens, so I checked the website. I also found out the pool at its deepest is 14'8" which is awesome for me since my Grandma's pool is 8ft. They keep it heated to 82 deg F as well, which is great for me since I don't do well with the cold.

So I saw that the pool opens at 12:00 PM and I was like "Okay later than I was hoping but that is fine." Then I scroll down and see that it just so happens that tomorrow through Sunday the pool will be CLOSED. CLOSED!? Nooooo why oh why oh why!!!??? I thought my wait was finally going to be over. :cry: I am so sad...All week I was looking forward to this. I guess I should have checked sooner, but seriously what are the chances that the day I pick just happens to be a day the pool will be closed? I want to swim so very badly. Is it spring time yet? :p

[Lucinda]

I just hit a deer and they had to put it down :(



Poor thing. :( Accidents happen though. It's not your fault. Don't beat yourself up. (We've had two near-misses with deer ourselves. )

[Mermaid Momo]

You mean this person? : http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?5082-Ticgdewlopse
yeah them.

[Mermaid Momo]

I just hit a deer and they had to put it down :(
Okay this is going to seem insensitive, but what did they say they were going to do with the meat? Because if it was me, I would have ate it to be honest and donated what couldn't fit in my freezer to someone else.

[Fun123joker]

gotta vent
all of this time i spent soooooooo much time studying for the geometery state test.
soooooo much studying and hard work
i fail by 6 questions
im eligable for a retake but this means i have to work my ass twice as hard
tomorrow is saturday and i will be spending 5 hours in math class.
do you even spend that long in college classes?
fuck geometery this is what high school brings me too

[Princess Pearl]

Okay this is going to seem insensitive, but what did they say they were going to do with the meat? Because if it was me, I would have ate it to be honest and donated what couldn't fit in my freezer to someone else.

An animal that's been in a collision is not safe to eat, as there could have been organ damage leading to bacterial contamination. This is the sort of thing that I had to learn in drivers ed.


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[Raayvhen]

An animal that's been in a collision is not safe to eat, as there could have been organ damage leading to bacterial contamination. This is the sort of thing that I had to learn in drivers ed.


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Any time I see roadkill that looks fresh and decent I call our local wolf preserve and they go pick them up. Once I called in a huuuuge buck and they were so grateful that they gave me his antlers.

[PhaylennMurúch]

gotta vent
all of this time i spent soooooooo much time studying for the geometery state test.
soooooo much studying and hard work
i fail by 6 questions
im eligable for a retake but this means i have to work my ass twice as hard
tomorrow is saturday and i will be spending 5 hours in math class.
do you even spend that long in college classes?
fuck geometery this is what high school brings me too

It really depends on the class. Some of my classes were up to two hours long twice a week. Some even did the dastardly thing of 2 hours of lecture then an hour of lab


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[Raayvhen]

Schedule for college this quarter. 10-3 Tuesday, 9-5 Saturday Sunday (every other week)

[telzey.amberdon]

Eat roadkill every year. Long as it is fresh and you throw away broken organs it is just fine.

[Adalira]

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[Yulia]

Don't reply to it.

"Don't wrestle with pigs, you'll get dirty and the pig will like it"

Hopefully other customers at your shop will have brains enough to see that that woman had unreal expectations of what your wands are able to do.

[SeaGlass Siren]

WTF? where's your etsy. i have an account i'll talk some sense into her

[Adalira]

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[Adalira]

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[SeaGlass Siren]

on second thought, that comment compared to the rest of the reviews makes her look crazy. doesn't make you look bad.

[Talia]

Adalira, definitely reply to the review!! Keep it short, true and professional. What you posted looks perfect to me.

In any case, don't worry about the rating dropping. If I were to stumble upon such review, I would understand that the person wanted the wand to "make spells" a la Harry Potter, so she is for sure out of her mind. I mean, "a wand that didn't work for me and the wand was for spells"? WTF did she wanted the wand to do?

[Yulia]

Maybe i should reply to her review with something like this:
We are so sorry you feel this way. We have been messaging with you to see what we can do to help you but you were unwilling to take our help. Since you clearly used the wand there is no re-fund for it, yet we offered you to ship the wand back and get a refund which you also did not accept.
Such a reply would be good for other customers.

[SeaGlass Siren]

^i second that also.

[Adalira]

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[SeaGlass Siren]

nope it sounds solid.

[PearlieMae]

Agreed. I would leave out the part about not refunding because it's been used, though. It's a one of a kind handcrafted item. There's no refund on that sort of thing, magic or not. She looks like a total nut job.

Don't sweat the rating at all. A couple more positives will bring it right back up.

[PearlieMae]

Cut from "Since" to "yet", cap the w in We.

[Adalira]

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[SeaGlass Siren]

cut the "so" part from the first sentence. because aying "SO sorry" makes it seem like it was "completely your fault" when we all know it wasn't

[Adalira]

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[PearlieMae]

Send the wands to the No Reply lady. Keep the money. She can't be bothered to answer you, if she doesn't like it, let her fight with Etsy.

See? You're skin is getting thicker already! :)

[Adalira]

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[Yulia]

Isn't that risking another bad review?
Yes, but it's not your fault. It's not like you haven't tried to please her.

[Adalira]

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[PearlieMae]

Every sale is a risk of a bad review.

If, when she gets them, she doesn't like them, refund her money once she sends them back. it's better to send them and have her not like them than to complain that they were late.

And she might LOVE them!

[Adalira]

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[Raayvhen]

So I have to read The Social Contract for my class and I'm so fucking defeated. I've been reading this book over and over again for two fucking weeks and I have notes that mean absolutely nothing to me. I cannot make myself understand what the fuck Rousseau is trying to say. I've read commentaries and watched youtube videos explaining the ideas but since it means nothing to me I can't write this fucking critique. I'm seriously considering turning in a paper that simply says "I give up. I cannot do this."

This shit is due by midnight and I don't have a fucking thing to say. I'm about to cry and I'm so pissed off at myself.

Now my mom is yelling at me because I was telling her that I can't do this. She's making it seem like its the easiest thing in the world.

[SeaGlass Siren]

try sparknotes. that about summarizes everything for you. i had to do a study on him for grade twelve. seriously he's just fucked up.
http://www.sparknotes.com/philosophy/socialcontract/summary.html

Coincidentally i read the same book you did. but mine had pictures and things in graphic novel format so it was more humourous and less boring.

[maressa]

Tail due TOMORROW. Gig SATURDAY. No communication, no update pictures, no explanation. First of all I hope they are ok and nothing awful has happened. Second of all, very unhappy customer :( I don't think asking to be kept in the know about what is going on is too much to ask. I'm so frustrated I'm at a loss.

[Merman Arion]

Tail due TOMORROW. Gig SATURDAY. No communication, no update pictures, no explanation. First of all I hope they are ok and nothing awful has happened. Second of all, very unhappy customer :( I don't think asking to be kept in the know about what is going on is too much to ask. I'm so frustrated I'm at a loss.

I want you to know that I contacted Abby about the situation. She read my PM so hopefully you might get a reply soon.

[Adalira]

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[maressa]

Thank you, Arion. Adarila, no, they don't give you any of that kind of information. I have Bryn's Skype contact, but she is pretty much always offline, and I have been trying not to bother them as I know they're probably slammed... the only thing I take issue with is being told one thing and not being kept up to date when that thing changes.

A friend who previously ordered a tail paid a rush fee and was able to get hers literally the night before she needed it at 9pm... I did not pay a rush fee and acknowledge that it clearly says on their Facebook NOT to book a gig until you have your tail in hand, so this is mostly my fault... but at the time I both ordered the tail and booked the gig, the wait time from anyone had never been more than 5ish months and the gig was 7 months away. Then a whole bunch of things came up- their move, baby sister, car broke down, merfest- I feel bad for the girls, I don't know how they manage the stress. I've talked to them before about this and asked them to just be up front if it was going to be late so I could arrange to rent a tail for my event. Now the event is Saturday and I have no clue wether or not I will have my tail... I just needed to vent. Sorry to dump this here and this is by no means to bitch about the girls, I think they are lovely and I've no doubt the tail will be beautiful. I'm just stressed and frustrated.

[Sherielle]

I know I'm not a spring chicken (I'm 47) but I've always looked much younger than I was. This weekend was slammed home to me that I am no longer playing younger parts in theatre as I was given these bit parts (I'm playing multiple roles in the ensemble of the play I'm in) and all of them were older parts. The Mother, Mother Superior, the Innkeeper with all the other girls as her daughters. This is a new theatre to us and it's pretty much the first time in a long while that I wasn't being directed by a friend or acquaintance. Then, I was chatting with a girl who runs princess parties and told her I have a mermaid tail. She was all excited and asked me how much I was selling it for. I then told her that I wasn't selling it, I WAS the mermaid if she needed one. She smiled and said OK, then turned back to the other girl she had been talking about working with. It was a slap in the face. Makes me reconsider becoming a professional mermaid now.

[PearlieMae]

I feel ya...I'll be 55 next month, and I'm not svelte. Not the picture that gets conjured when one thinks 'mermaid'.

I've modified my mersona to be more of a Mother Goose of the Ocean...perhaps something along those lines might suit you?

I remember when I was no longer the theater ingenue. It stung at first, but ALL the Evil Queen parts are SOOOOO delicious!

[Sherielle]

I feel ya...I'll be 55 next month, and I'm not svelte. Not the picture that gets conjured when one thinks 'mermaid'.

I've modified my mersona to be more of a Mother Goose of the Ocean...perhaps something along those lines might suit you?

I remember when I was no longer the theater ingenue. It stung at first, but ALL the Evil Queen parts are SOOOOO delicious!That's what I keep telling myself, lol. Thanks, Pealie. And I could go with more of a duchess or queen persona than a princess, I guess. Though honestly, I'm more of a dork than duchess. I could always be the goofball mermaid, but who would hire that for parties, lol.

[Tolgarr]

I'm just frustrated with my own mother right now. I know she has more than enough money to go halvsies on a simple monofin for my birthday which is in less than a month. I found a listing for 47$. But she's just questioning whether or not I'll actually use it. She knows I love mermaids and that I even have a tail that I made 2 years ago that the fin will fit into. But she's just bombarding me with questions that she already knows the answer to and refuses to give me a solid answer on whether or not she will pay half of it for my birthday. It's just really frustrating and dumb.

[Adalira]

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[Raayvhen]

Yay!

[Mermaid Lilium]

Good news! Etsy removed the bad review due to bad language in it!

Huzzah! :D

[Sherielle]

It's called the Search function.
Learn it, love it, USE IT!

[PearlieMae]

I'm just frustrated with my own mother right now. I know she has more than enough money to go halvsies on a simple monofin for my birthday which is in less than a month. I found a listing for 47$. But she's just questioning whether or not I'll actually use it. She knows I love mermaids and that I even have a tail that I made 2 years ago that the fin will fit into. But she's just bombarding me with questions that she already knows the answer to and refuses to give me a solid answer on whether or not she will pay half of it for my birthday. It's just really frustrating and dumb.

Maybe she's doing it on porpoise ;) so she can surprise you!


Good news! Etsy removed the bad review due to bad language in it!

Excellent!

I love your descriptions of the wands, very whimsical!

[Mermaid Momo]

It's called the Search function.
Learn it, love it, USE IT!
I feel this on a spiritual level. and this goes for anything on the internet really. Google is one hell of a website.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Just found out that my bio dad passed away last year. And no one told me or my two full siblings. What's more my bio paternal grandmother had a stroke and not only forgot all of our contact but forgot I existed, and apparently neglected to tell anyone else. So my Aunt got quite a surprise when I called asking for a picture (being that I have none)


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[Adalira]

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[Vixy]

My brother recently got a dog, a puppy that I'm looking after. Feeding, playing and house training her. Training her too. Which means she's bonding to me instead of him. Now he's resenting the fact she's bonded to me. As much as the puppy is a lovely new audition to the house, he shouldn't of got her.

We found out he was getting one a day before coming home with her. And I'm the one stuck looking after her.

[Princess Pearl]

I have discovered my least favourite part of mermaiding- waiting for people to respond to the quotes I send them!


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[Mermaid Lilium]

So I'm afraid of sounding like i'm hunting for sympathy based on old events but, it's just dawned on me that it's coming back around to my birthday weekend (9th feb) which will mark 2 years since I found heartbreakingly incriminating texts on my (now ex) husband's phone. It wasn't the first time I'd found texts, but was the last.... took me much longer to finally end things but I know in my heart that that's when my marriage was over for me. Finding them threw me into the deepest depths of depression I have ever known, and gave me social anxiety bordering on agoraphobia. I basically had a mental break down. As a result my birthday weekend feels forever ruined/tainted. I want to claim it back but I don't know how. As it is the realisation of the anniversary just made me burst into tears.

I feel utterly pathetic and pitiful. *sighs*

Sorry -_- Just needed somewhere to voice this

[PearlieMae]

I didn't know you were an Aquarius! Me too!

I'm so sorry your birthday feels tainted because of your ex. Do something fab for your birthday! An indulgent spa day, mani/pedi/facial/massage...then a wonderful meal, maybe drinks with friends, flirt with everyone mercilessly!

Right now, you might not feel like your life is much. But you know what? NOW IT'S YOURS!!!

(Part of the Been There/Done That Sisterhood.)

[Mermaid Alea]

I agree with PearlieMae - You should make new memories for your Birthday to replace the negative ones! Have lots of fun and remember that this is your time to be happy! Life is too short to get caught up in the negative things of the past, even if it hurts a lot, you deserve to move on from those feelings and have some fun. :)


gotta vent
all of this time i spent soooooooo much time studying for the geometery state test.
soooooo much studying and hard work
i fail by 6 questions
im eligable for a retake but this means i have to work my ass twice as hard
tomorrow is saturday and i will be spending 5 hours in math class.
do you even spend that long in college classes?
fuck geometery this is what high school brings me too

Ooh I feel ya. I was almost always terrible at math in high school. Something that helped me was we got my geometry teacher to tutor me for the Florida test. He brought a huge book with past questions from the test and would time me on them and help me understand why I was getting some of them wrong. He told me that if I can't finish in time, with the little time there is left, just put A for all the remaining questions because that at least is better than having un-answered questions. He helped a lot and I finally passed that darn state test!!! But I think I didn't pass it at first by a few questions as well...I had to re-take it a few times before I passed. So stressful!

5 hours sure is a lot. My longest college classes are mainly art classes. I am a graphic design major and most art classes last 3 hours. The final exams in college are not that bad. The math final exams were 1-2 hours long. If you go to college and are not getting a degree in something that requires a lot of math, definitely take liberal arts math. I felt like a genius in that class - and normally I feel like an idiot in math.

[Naufra]

So I'm afraid of sounding like i'm hunting for sympathy based on old events but, it's just dawned on me that it's coming back around to my birthday weekend (9th feb) which will mark 2 years since I found heartbreakingly incriminating texts on my (now ex) husband's phone. It wasn't the first time I'd found texts, but was the last.... took me much longer to finally end things but I know in my heart that that's when my marriage was over for me. Finding them threw me into the deepest depths of depression I have ever known, and gave me social anxiety bordering on agoraphobia. I basically had a mental break down. As a result my birthday weekend feels forever ruined/tainted. I want to claim it back but I don't know how. As it is the realisation of the anniversary just made me burst into tears.

I feel utterly pathetic and pitiful. *sighs*

Sorry -_- Just needed somewhere to voice this

Take that weekend and PAMPER yourself, just like Pearlie said. Doing beauty stuff always makes me feel special, even if I'm doing it myself. Get a few friends together, shop eat out, maybe catch a movie, or even have a Girl's Night In, essentially a grown-up slumber party. It'll be fun, and it'll keep your mind off the bad things.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

Ugh. Got in a car accident this morning. No injuries for myself or the other driver, but both of our cars have wounds. -.-' Lovely way to start the day.

[Adalira]

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[Scottish Mer]

I don't normally talk much about what's happen but since I have no one to talk or even vent this too, here we go!
My sister got a rabbit from petsathome (UK pet store) to be a partner for her other rabbit, we got told she was fixed and was just being hormonal. Nope! Two weeks after having her in with our other rabbit, my sister and I went out to clean them out and found kits, baby bunnies, the jelly beans. Seven of them. We weren't happy and phoned up the store and got offered a free neutered for their mother, just their mother. She was meant to be neutered before we even got her! Our male rabbit was already neutered so he's not the father and it takes about 30 roughly days for a rabbit pregnancy. Any who, my sister was moving out and I got left to care for her rabbits while she was away, not a problem. I love them to bits since they are so small and fluffy (won't stay that size forever though. :( ) but, yesterday I saw and chased a kid out of the garden and found he had released all of the rabbits, I had to spend hours trying to find them all, still sadly missing one... When my dad got home we had also noticed that a lot of our stuff had been stolen from the back garden. I'm more amazed at how someone could steal a giant ladder... Any who, filing a police report and back off out to find this tiny rabbit.

[PearlieMae]

Oh shit! Poor lost bunny! I'm sorry to hear how screwed up this all is!

[Mermaid Alea]

I don't normally talk much about what's happen but since I have no one to talk or even vent this too, here we go!
My sister got a rabbit from petsathome (UK pet store) to be a partner for her other rabbit, we got told she was fixed and was just being hormonal. Nope! Two weeks after having her in with our other rabbit, my sister and I went out to clean them out and found kits, baby bunnies, the jelly beans. Seven of them. We weren't happy and phoned up the store and got offered a free neutered for their mother, just their mother. She was meant to be neutered before we even got her! Our male rabbit was already neutered so he's not the father and it takes about 30 roughly days for a rabbit pregnancy. Any who, my sister was moving out and I got left to care for her rabbits while she was away, not a problem. I love them to bits since they are so small and fluffy (won't stay that size forever though. :( ) but, yesterday I saw and chased a kid out of the garden and found he had released all of the rabbits, I had to spend hours trying to find them all, still sadly missing one... When my dad got home we had also noticed that a lot of our stuff had been stolen from the back garden. I'm more amazed at how someone could steal a giant ladder... Any who, filing a police report and back off out to find this tiny rabbit.

Do you think the kid took the missing baby rabbit? That is really terrible my Grandparents had lots of their nice family heirloom silverware and tableware stolen by a neighborhood kid they were always nice to. They treated him like a Grandson and then he went and stole from them. :(

I hope you all get your stuff back and that the baby rabbit is found.

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Edited to add my complaint that I just had hehe. Uhhh so I have been wanting this bird called a green peafowl for YEARS now. They are endangered and I really want to raise them and help conserve them. Anyways, I was working on making an aviary for them but I keep running into setbacks. I thought I would be able to get them this year, but my Mom really doesn't seem to want me getting more birds. I was telling everyone on a bird forum that I thought this would be the year I finally get green peafowl. I felt like I was ready for them after years of wanting them and researching them. Now I feel like I can't have them. My main complaint though is that all of a sudden everyone on there is wanting to get green peafowl, even if they never had previously expressed an interest for them or asked any questions about them. I just saw a lady who is new to peafowl (peacocks) just bought a green peacock - and generally you should get greens after you have lots of experience with the regular non-endangered variety of peafowl. Anyways, I am happy for all the people randomly getting green peafowl this year, but I can't help but feel jealous that they can just get them on a whim and I am also a bit mad because some of these people don't seem to know that they need heat in the winter if you live somewhere cold, that they need more space than regular peafowl, etc. So I worry that they will get the bird of my dreams only to not know how to take care of it and have it die or feather pick/mutilate itself because of lack of space or stress.

I know I should be happy for these people after all that means they could sell me green peafowl and perhaps for cheaper since they know I love them so much, but since not many people seem to own them or take photos of them I wanted to kind of be a trailblazer taking photos and documenting the birds since not a lot is known about them. Now it just won't be as special. :( I dunno I am sad because I wanted them for years and now all of a sudden everyone wants them...I guess I feel like I have the right to have them first, but of course I don't. I just feel down about the whole thing.

Oh well I guess I sound weird talking about bird related stuff on this mermaid site, but I figure even if you don't have birds you can somehow relate to what I am saying I hope.

[Naufra]

I completely understand where you're coming from, MinxFox. I don't raise birds, but I have a similar problem in my doll collecting. My dream doll, or "grail" doll as the doll collectors call it, is the 2011 Ringdoll Frankenstein. He's the most beautiful doll and I want him more than any other doll on the market, but he was a limited run and I didn't have $800 to throw around at the time. I've been scouring the secondhand market for him ever since, hoping to buy one that needed a new home. Lo and behold, I found one one day! I contacted the seller about doing a layaway payment plan, which is common for expensive ball-jointed dolls, and the seller responded with the layaway terms she was okay with. I pm'd the seller again to accept her terms, but this time she told me she found a buyer who would be paying in full up-front and was going with that buyer instead. Not cool and not entirely kosher in the doll community, but it was her doll to do with as she pleased and there was nothing I could do about it. Later that day, I went on Facebook and checked the page for my local doll group only to find one of the group members, one who is notorious for being a brat and treating other group members very badly, complaining about how she found a Ringdoll Frankenstein for cheap but it wasn't the 2013 one she REALLY wanted. She went on to say that she bought it anyway and would use it to practice modding dolls. She ripped the doll of my dreams out from under me and now she's gonna mutilate it. :cry:

[Mermaid Alea]

My friend got her first BJD recently! :) I like BJD's I just don't need another expensive hobby haha.

Ooh Ringdoll Frankenstein is nice! I agree that you should have gotten the doll. You saw it first and you still would pay for it. That is so terrible that she will use him as a practice doll! That sculpt is too nice to test on!

Yikes the worst part is seeing her updates of what she does to the doll. That is what I am worried about as well. Once the lady gets this bird, I worry so much about seeing updates on how he does. I hope she knows more about the requirements than we think she does. If she doesn't have enough heat for this peacock in the winter, his toes and maybe even his feet will get frost bitten and fall off so if you don't know what you are getting into with these birds, the consequences can be terrible. She has only had peafowl and a few other kinds of birds for a year.

Unfortunately on the bird forum there are some people that buy birds first, then ask questions and say, "Haha so I just got these birds, and I have no idea how to take care of them! Tell me all you know about them lol." That always makes me upset.

[Mermaid Momo]

Do you know what I absolutely hate? When you tell someone that something they're doing is offensive in wrong and they start getting super defensive and angry even though you said nothing rude or mean to them. Earlier today in a cosplay group someone posted this question and this is the responses it got (I'm Laronda)
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Sorry for spam of screenshots but I am livid right now.

[Mermaid Momo]

I just realized I didn't expand some of the comments. oh poo. I hope you can understand them well enough.

[Little_Orca]

At Christmas, my aunt tried to convince me not to get married in a tail... Tonight, after working on my letter I'm sending to Merbella to get things started, my mom was trying the same...

I don't have the emotional stability at the moment to sit here and express how I am feeling about this... I just... I don't know. Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

At Christmas, my aunt tried to convince me not to get married in a tail... Tonight, after working on my letter I'm sending to Merbella to get things started, my mom was trying the same...

I don't have the emotional stability at the moment to sit here and express how I am feeling about this... I just... I don't know. Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

Do what makes you feel the most happy. Don't worry about what others think, they are most likely secretly jealous because they don't have to guts to do something so daring.

[Mermaid Silverlilly]

I feel so guilty asking for help on my facebook page with a gofundme account! I really do so much so that I can't even share it to any page buy my mermaid personality have just asked others to share if they wish.

Have basically lived 9 years with an ankle injury been through 3 surgeries and am now in a brace to make sure my ligaments etc heal after re tearing them late last year! And I have just discovered swimming and the water again which I love. So yes I do need the help as I won't be able to get work for quite awhile whilst I am in the brace but I feel bad asking for help.

If anyone wishes to share my page around I would appreciate it but I really don't expect anything to come out of it. I feel bad for even admitting I need help to get my dream tail. And still plan on doing all in my power to save as much cash as I can for it.

My dream for it all would be to be able to give joy to children and take up mermaid parties since there is nothing where we live and also get photos etc promoted and out on my Mermaid Facebook page about the majesty of our oceans and reefs etc.

http://www.gofundme.com/kuuzzg

Just needed to get that out as I really do feel guilty asking for help. And I know this isn't exactly a B!tc* it out thing but I just really needed to get this off my chest.

Thanks for listening!

[EnidDarkWater]

Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

One thing I've noticed about most alternative weddings is a lot of families want to relive their own personal dream weddings and butt in their own two cents. I can see where it would bother you that they don't support you but it's your wedding and if you want to be a mermaid for it you rock that tail like no ones ever seen. If you're going to have a typical reception then get a spiffy white dress to wear so they get their" dose of normal" and continue on. The only person that truly has to be happy with how they looked on the day of the wedding is you and personally you have a whole pile of people wondering how a mermaid looks when she gets married ;)

[Mer-Crazy]

At Christmas, my aunt tried to convince me not to get married in a tail... Tonight, after working on my letter I'm sending to Merbella to get things started, my mom was trying the same...

I don't have the emotional stability at the moment to sit here and express how I am feeling about this... I just... I don't know. Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.
If it makes you feel any better my family are super supportive of my mermaiding but are also against the idea of me getting married in a tail (not that I'm planning on getting married any time soon but the subject came up once. I think we were talking about you actually). I think it's something not a lot of people who aren't into it, especially parents who grew up in a different time and expect everything to be 'traditional'.

[Yulia]

It's really f*cking hard to not care about this whole drama, when you drop in to random mermaidpages on facebook and se people referring
to as some sort of betrayer and such.
"blablabla I can't believe how someone would do that, and then blame others blabla bla the monofin is the most delicate part of the tail, don't bend it!"

ARGH
This was also from the same person stealing Hyli's picture for a contest.
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[Imogen Finnly]

What do you do when your boss is horribly inappropriate? Like she always does and talk about the worst things. And i pretend its funny but now that has back fired and she is starting to get worse and worse. Like literally i am at work typing this and i just laughed at another bad joke.
She also hollers (not loud) at every single guy she sees. He could be a 700 pound man in a unicycle and still hollar. She always has to take note on a dog's testicles. (Im a groomer )and yesterday she grabbed one dogs testicles and giggled them and like ...it is disgusting. Then she always complains about everything and complains about her bff complaining too much. Than everytime some dude looks at her she thinks they wanna fuck her. And she just always has something mean to say about everything and all our customers. She is a nice person underneath all of it and does well to stand by me and all but her behavior is appauling. And to top it off she has no table manners and haulk loogies everywhere. Ugh

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Kelda]

Wow, this is probably totally inappropriate of me but... Everything you have written there sounds like something I could write about a lot of men I know. It's kind of refreshing to hear about a woman doing those things xD

[Mermaid Kelda]

Do you know what I absolutely hate? When you tell someone that something they're doing is offensive in wrong and they start getting super defensive and angry even though you said nothing rude or mean to them. Earlier today in a cosplay group someone posted this question and this is the responses it got (I'm Laronda)

Sorry for spam of screenshots but I am livid right now.
Sometimes people are just really not worth it. I know it's not about them - it's about all the people they might offend with their casual racism - but in situations like this, I often have to sit back and realise that I will not convince them and all I will get back to my salient points is insults.

I hope that eventually they realise how wrong they were after more and more people call them out.

[Mermaid Cascada]

I just realized I didn't expand some of the comments. oh poo. I hope you can understand them well enough.
UGH! I hate when people pull out the adoption card when it has nothing to do with the topic... Idk if it's for pity or what but being adopted myself, I find it extremely annoying.
If someone bleached their skin, used paint, or makeup to look white I'm sure she would be offended. No doubt that there would be backlash in the cosplay community for doing so. That woman must be not only ignorant but arrogant. Some people never learn. Don't waste your time on someone like her. She made an idiot out of herself and that is VERY apparent.
She even wants to define/tell someone when they should not, or should feel discriminated on because of their race. One of my pet peeves is when someone tells me when I should feel discriminated against or that I'm just sensitive. When I say they wouldn't understand, they just take it as nothing.
Smh. Not only that but she turns to profanity in a debate to get her point across (calling others names), so that about removes all credibility she HAD. Sad... really is. One day she'll learn... hopefully. Let's hope she gains some sense. Society is evolving and there is not any room for arrogant people like her.

[Imogen Finnly]

I mean she picked a pimple on her butt in public. I told her thats inappropriate but she was like "ill pick what i want when i want" than she puts her knee up at a fancy dining place, chews and talks with her mouth open. I literally just watched her pick her underarm. I hate that all these things get in the way of her REAL personality.
She cant seem to train me the same way and she gets upset when i do it the way she told originally. Than comes up and says "you need to do it better and complete." And when she is hungry or hasnt smoked or is in a bad mood i cant talk to her at all without her getting snappy. I mean she is the best boss ive had like in terms of treating my well. And i get paid alot i mean a l o t . But i also do all the hair cuts and most of the bathing and work 10-12 hour days no OT. So i have no time for my family, my husband, my pets or mermaiding. And when i do get a day off i work side jobs.
I finally relapsed and decided to go back to therapy. This is the first time in a year ive thought about how nice it would be to not be alive. And to hurt myself. Ive cried alone in my kitchen. The work never ends even when i get home i have to clean up pee and poo stains, i have to vaccum stuff my dog destroyed.
I have been considering moving upstate or out of state. I really wanna fall off the grid and live in a forest or beach bum it in Hawai'i and get killed by sugar spiders.

formerly jayy

[PearlieMae]

You have to weigh what you are getting paid against the toll this crass idiot is doing to your psyche. That said, you need to get another job.

I don't care how nice she is, deep down, she's toxic and your continued association with her is making you nuts! It's not worth whatever she's paying you. If you feel you have no choice but to work for her, put your foot down and tell her you won't tolerate her bad behavior. If she wants to behave like trailer trash, that's on her, but you won't let her drag you down to her level. Demand to be paid for your overtime, and make it clear you are in a professional relationship with her, and you are not 'pals'.

Can you start your own business and bring your favorite clients with you?

[Mermaid Momo]

I second starting your own business, sounds like you know the works and do most of the back breaking work at that place. Maybe start small, get a small space in a outlet mall (most of the places I took my dog were small businesses in outlet malls, or there was one lady who worked out of a barn on the side of the road. it was an adorable small place.) maybe just sneak into convo with clients who love you that you'll be getting your own place soon and would love to see them there (and maybe offering some kind of grand opening discount for your good clients or something) Your boss sounds so toxic and just really disgusting (like honestly, picking your butt in public?)

[Imogen Finnly]

I feel totally guilty for even ventung about it you know? It just seems like every place ive worked at has never worked out. The last salon was no better than this and i got to see the most abused neglected animals ever. I would love to start my own business, but i do have a client base of my own with my side job. So technically i already own a business. (Jen's jolly grooming.) Out of my mothers house. My real dream is to move out of cali, find a nice land area and start a boarding facility with a grooming area in site.
I realized at one point that i was starting to get like her so i had to push it all away because it was and is not who i am. Im no high class fancy person but j do have manners and ediquette.
For now i am stuck and just dealing with it until i can make a move with either a new place or new job. It would be slim to stary a grooming shop i the valley. Grooming is cut throat i. The sfv and ive seen dozens already go out of business. That why i would enjoy workibg somewhere smaller. But the pay is terrible. So its a gamble. I dobt even have workers comp. Or anything. Im a independent contractor. So i am f u c k e d if i get attacked by a dog. Those bills are all me.
I just really want to give up on this and really let everything go, but i know that is my frustration and anger talking.
Without my husband i dont know what i would do. City life isnt for me.

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Alea]

I would want to move too. I don't like city life. I am not really in the city now, it is more like a small town here, but still I want to live out in the woods with land and lots of animals and friendly neighbors who don't care about my peacocks calling. We have a maltese poodle mix and we have tried several groomers. Even the ones we use now are not that great as far as being friendly. They do a good job grooming but they don't like us (or at least my Mom) for some reason and get easily annoyed if my Mom calls to see if Seeka (our dog) is ready to be picked up. Past groomers were not good, took too long, we would pick the dog up and she would be covered in another dog's poo, etc. I think you would be great competition for dog grooming businesses since you have manners. I feel like many groomers love animals so much that they despise the people and thus are rude to customers (not all, but it seems fairly common here at least). I love animals a lot, and while I am not much of a people person I do like people and try to be nice to everyone.

[Imogen Finnly]

It depends. Some can be really abusive to the animals. Most groomers are ex cons, alcoholics drug addicts etc.
If a dog is in a kennel too long or kennel shy than they poop all over the place. It common for a dog to be terrified with dozens of others barking and screaming to leave.
Try mobile grooming. If you have any in your area.
Frankly, if i dont have groomig than i am nothing. I dont any other gift or talent. Its my life and defining quality.

formerly jayy

[AniaR]

I am so steaming mad!!!
So I made a post in the facebook community to try and get some help for this ridiculous block I have had on my account for over a year (wont show up on mobile, only desktop)
https://www.facebook.com/help/community/question/?id=10155196192000425&ref=notif%C2%ACif_t%3Danswers_answered

As you can see this guy attempted to answer it, but ignored half of my points. I was very polite to him, tried to be appreciative, but still let him know I didn't think what he was saying was applicable. WHen he wouldn't stop I marked his answers as "unhelpful" to which he took a raging butthurt fit. you'll see in the comments he links me to a google link which is a public FB post of him complaining about me, to which I let him know that was inappropriate (he was linking me) so he blocks me. (he clearly wanted me to say something or he woudln't have posted it to me in the first place and made it public)

Here's his stupid comment:

https://www.facebook.com/JeanGilles.Associates/posts/642214835905110

He also brags about blocking me.

Sorry but if you're "helping" people so you'll get more popular and get upvotes you fucking suck. Feel free to go to my question link and upvote the question so others might see it and offer solutions, and feel free to mark his horrible rudeness as "unhelpful" what an asshat

[Imogen Finnly]

Im going to sign that petion thing you posted but i cant do it on my phone for whatever reason so ill use a desk top;)

formerly jayy

[MermaidShannon]

This will make you feel better. I dare you I DARE YOU NOT TO LAUGH

https://www.facebook.com/kariel.osterblom/posts/1548264365411711

[Mermaid Kelda]

What an arse!
I downvoted him, and upvoted you.

[PhaylennMurúch]

looks like that guy is desperate to be the 'top contributor' for Facebook community questions. His self worth is wrapped up in being the ALL KNOWING KING OF FACEBOOK

you know so he can sell his book on how to succeed in business (on facebook)

downvoted the crap out of him

[Mermaid Alea]

This will make you feel better. I dare you I DARE YOU NOT TO LAUGH

https://www.facebook.com/kariel.osterblom/posts/1548264365411711

Bahahahahahah!!! :lol: Once I started watching I forgot to try not to laugh and I just kept laughing.

[MermaidShannon]

Makes no damn sense but I love it

[Mermaid Jaffa]

What a git! He knows bs about fb, and literally squat about trademarks. He's just using long winded sentences and fancy words, but in the end it makes it HIM look very stupid.

[AniaR]

ooks like that guy is desperate to be the 'top contributor' for Facebook community questions. His self worth is wrapped up in being the ALL KNOWING KING OF FACEBOOK

you know so he can sell his book on how to succeed in business (on facebook)

downvoted the crap out of him

He wont stop today! I forgot about him and he's making all these multiple accounts to harass me I am telling you who he psycho... look at this...

https://scontent-a-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xpf1/v/t1.0-9/1503288_10152813808838751_8848263938725307961_n.jp g?oh=b3e7f78ab34bc6ccd019f32606f11a7c&oe=555D2A5D

^he deleted and blocked them and said they were all me in disguise, his hacker apparently. If you disagree with this guy you are part of a conspiracy!

Message I was sent by someone else who has been dealing with him

https://scontent-a-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xaf1/v/t1.0-9/10945741_10155202389025425_4222736791262374307_n.j pg?oh=3c18b3247c859c178b7ad8f45813e720&oe=55508DBC

Again, he makes up a bunch of shit

https://fbcdn-sphotos-g-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xfa1/v/t1.0-9/1795693_10155206526045425_8099461895067517808_n.jp g?oh=db3e8db19f3f8034951cfae1fae6930f&oe=5526E12B&__gda__=1431984288_7d5605f8f026fd51ca459a1782569bc b

Iona and I are apparently interchangable

https://scontent-a-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xap1/v/t1.0-9/10922646_10152816145878751_8598105753922858149_n.j pg?oh=d641bef1b093d2ed5c976b8bb0df6252&oe=5563910B

and now his "son" is saying I hacked his FB account.. you know the one just created today!

https://fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xfp1/v/t1.0-9/10464194_10155207026045425_859684043748212432_n.jp g?oh=9158c0fba6851633bdf9d54108a8a62b&oe=5567B882&__gda__=1433151698_8d457689f97ccaf02a13292df747382 f


this guy is 100% nuts, if you have a chance please report his fanpage for harassment. https://www.facebook.com/JeanGilles.Associates

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I reported him and was tempted to put "A race or ethnicity"

Aren't we a race of merfolk?:lol:

Anyhoo, I put "individual"...

[Mer-Crazy]

I reported him and Facebook messaged me saying "We reviewed the share you reported for harassment and found it doesn't violate our Community Standards (https://www.facebook.com/communitystandards/)." :/

[AniaR]

It takes a lot of reports before a real person looks at iy

[Lily]

Reported the page itself under the "bullying" item and a couple posts under "harassment." The internet turns some people into complete assholes, and gives waaaaay too many people a platform to take out their own issues on other people.

[Sephina]

27090
Did you see this? where he claims that he gave you his password months ago to tempt you to hack him? This guy is grade A crazy.

[Imogen Finnly]

Thos guy is a fucking nut plantation. Btw who would have kids with him? And how much time does he invest in all this malarkey for multiple people as well.. wow.

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Nessie]

This guy is fucked. Excuse my language but who the hell has time for this sort of thing? Seriously..

[Sephina]

The hilarious part is if he really does have a kid I bet she's probably using facebook without him knowing and since he sounds like a psycho is lying about being hacked.

[Mermaidmechanic]

LMAO OMG this is GOLD. This should be a comedy skit. I'm sorry you have to deal with him Raina, Hopefully you can at least find amusement with it.

[Mermaidmechanic]

OMG just visited his page. The "to my critic" thing is HILARIOUS like hes a super hero and you're his arch nemesis. Not to add that his VERY YOUNG son that "messaged" you couldn't be old enough to write that message with grammar patterns identical to his fathers as well as spell/ punctuate as well as that message was. OMG who does he think hes fooling? XD

[JessieMermaid]

Reported for harassment, Raina

[PhaylennMurúch]

report his "kids" page, it's obvious that the page is fake and the 'user' seems to be under the age of 13

[AniaR]

Lol you know me I have been hacking a total stranger for months and waited for him to answer my question on fb so I can buy likesand sell my fb page for money lol

[AniaR]

He must have paranoid delusions poor guy. One of the women he harasses on fb told me he was recently institutionalized he honestly seems sick.

[Princess Pearl]

I wonder if he thinks that everyone who doesn't agree with him is actually one person with many accounts. That would explain the "to my critic" thing. In his head, they're all one person.

Or maybe I've been watching too much Alfred Hitchcock.


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[Imogen Finnly]

Really? Thats a pretty intense problem he must have if he was institutionalized. I followed the link and reported him.
I knew someone whos nephew was schizophrenic and his ex wife didnt realize how bad he was off meds and they had a kid together! She got a restraining order for him it got so intense

formerly jayy

[Starfrit]

27090
Did you see this? where he claims that he gave you his password months ago to tempt you to hack him? This guy is grade A crazy.

His entire account of this "hacking" and these supposed months/years/whatever of "harrassment" from Raina can all easily be disproven by FB admins, who can pull up which IP addresses had access to his and his children's accounts. Raina, I think if you can get in contact with actual FB staff, you should ask them to investigate and pull up proof that you never hacked anybody and with any luck they can tell him to back off.

Dude is batshit fucking crazy, what the actual hell.

[PhaylennMurúch]

and look now! he's tattled on you to the makers of mermaid rain game. Then screencapped it and posted it with this




"Favorite Critic: Let's see how long it's going to take you to delete the Page in question; or perhaps you'd like to wait for the company to sue you, whichever way you prefer to go is fine by me, but you're going to stop harassing me one way or another eventually because I've barely begun to fight back."
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[Imogen Finnly]

This guy needs to go away

formerly jayy

[JamesGunnels]

I quit drinking earlier this year :')

So hot coco, PJs, ben and jerrys and lots of movies sound good instead? lol

You can go to London and take some of that anger, which needs some release, and let it out on those blokes at Wagamama near the London Eye who treated us like shite in October ;-)

[malinghi]

I feel sorry for Raina for the harassment this guy has put her through.

I also feel really sorry for Carlos Jean Gilles. Like other people pointed out, this clearly isn't asshole behavior, it's mental illness. No one chooses to have paranoid delusions, and believe some stranger is constructing elaborate alternate profiles, reading every word he writes, desperately trying to log on to his daughter's profile for god knows what reason... Its totally heartbreaking to see someone struggling with this stuff.

[Green Tea Mermaid]

This situation is just on a downward speeding spiral. Like many have pointed out, this appears to be someone in an unclear state of mind. Hopefully FB intervenes in this matter because this guy is crazy and I hate to say it, but these actions are far from harmless and the sooner this stops the better. Raina I am incredibly sorry that you are dealing with yet again another crazy situation.

[Meronica]

I reported him for harassment but Facebook won't do anything until more reports are sent. This guy has mental issues and after reading all of this I'm still not sure why he is so passionate about harassing you.

[Starfrit]

I feel like there's more going on here— like he's not just going after Raina because it's Raina. He's very clearly paranoid, has an apparent history with mental illness, and only refers to Raina as "My Favorite Critic" and regularly bounces between male and female pronouns when addressing her. I think he's convinced himself that Raina is an alt account of somebody else in the same way he thinks that all of the people defending her are also alt accounts.

My advice, honestly, is not to engage him, or anybody apparently related to him— blocking him is probably your best bet, along with reporting him, but arguing with him right now is only throwing fuel on the crazyfire. Don't waste your breath threatening him with libel suits, because he's made it perfecrly clear that he isn't taking them seriously— let him run his fuckin' mouth and then if he doesn't knock it off, let your legal rep(s) handle him from there and don't have any more contact with him outside of that. Try and get in touch with a FB rep as well to explain your situation and then let them take care of it.

[Green Tea Mermaid]

Also reported his page for harassment.

[Mermaid Kelda]

27102

Aw, and we almost got rid of him, too :(

[-Annwyn-]

Does this asshat know that you cannot trademark a name?

[AniaR]

I did block him he keeps making accounts of his 'kids' ( who if they exist are under the age of 10) and then posting more in my question which I can't moderate because of fb crazy.

Fb has replied to every report ive made saying not harassment but its the auto reply meaning it went through the script. Just gotta keep reporting until an actual person addresses it. But it is literally impossible to get ahold of a fb admin.

This poor woman who contacted me has been detailing to me years of harassment and stalking online from this guy. I did not know who he was before posting my question in the help forum.

The woman said his account was suspended before but he got around it by converting it to a page. He is obsessed with being the best helper on facebook.

It is just so weird! Lol I clearly have a crazy magnet on me somewhere.

[AniaR]

Fb has no way to explain your situation either. If I could fill out a form and show this I think someone would do something...fb seriously sucks in terms of getting help

[Mermaid Momo]

Yeah, I reported his page but Facebook told me that the page wasn't harassment. Maybe if we not only report the page but individual posts as well it'll get more attention?

[PhaylennMurúch]

27102

Aw, and we almost got rid of him, too :(

not really, if you read back on his page you'll see that he firmly believes that his suggestions and input are highly valuable to the FB powers that be. He thinks that the things they do are for him to show their appreciation rather than something they're rolling out for everyone

[AniaR]

I think his page was suspended

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I just got out of jail. Yeah. Jail. I was in since Tuesday, I'm 19. They are accusing me of abusing my younger autistic brother. My mother said that I did, so she wouldn't get the blame for it, and my 73 year old, dying of cancer, father, my step mom, and my boyfriend bailed me out, the detective is figuring stuff out and has realized that my mother framed me but has brain washed this kid so much, anytime someone asks him where he got a mark or scratch, he automatically says I did it. Even if it's proven that a dog caused it, or (he self mutilates) he does it himself. My mother has literally abused me and my sister both, has gotten out of going to prison for it, and somehow it all got erased from her record.
Keep me in your thoughts guys, I have a feeling that shit is about to hit the fan.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

-hug- I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all that crap Shimmer!

[Imogen Finnly]

Oh shimmer im am so sorry. What a terrible thing to go through and i cant imagine the stress and pain you are dealing with. I will pray to the gods that you gain proper justice. Blessed be.

formerly jayy

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you both. Even some of the inmates at the jail (a very tall black man was the main one) said there was literally no way that I did this. Thankfully when they put me in with all of the other women, some of them took me in and made sure I was safe.
You have no sense of time, or anything in there. You pick up ticks, things you did to keep your mind off of the bad things going on. I caught myself rocking in a stationary chair last night at my fathers dinner table. I shake, I didn't notice until I drank some tea, and my dad pointed it out. My sister said I am different. You go numb. I'm hoping that everything goes okay and they realize they made a mistake, this could hurt me mermaiding, my photography, college, everything.

[PhaylennMurúch]

oh Shimmer I'm so sorry

can you get in to see a therapist to work through your trauma reactions?

Stay as far away from your egg donor as possible. With time the truth will come out

[Shimmer Mermaid]

It's okay. I'm so thankful of the mermaid community.
The therapist will have to wait until trial is over, I am currently at the house where we both lived, getting my stuff and getting ready to move it all. I'm ready to gtf away from her and everything to do with her.

[Mermaidmechanic]

Thank you both. Even some of the inmates at the jail (a very tall black man was the main one) said there was literally no way that I did this. Thankfully when they put me in with all of the other women, some of them took me in and made sure I was safe.
You have no sense of time, or anything in there. You pick up ticks, things you did to keep your mind off of the bad things going on. I caught myself rocking in a stationary chair last night at my fathers dinner table. I shake, I didn't notice until I drank some tea, and my dad pointed it out. My sister said I am different. You go numb. I'm hoping that everything goes okay and they realize they made a mistake, this could hurt me mermaiding, my photography, college, everything.

That's really terrible. If you have any way of documenting her abuse (video via phone/ camera), the authorities can do a lot with that. If she has done it once, she'll probably frame you again and you don't want that sort of thing on your record! You should gather as much evidence as you can so she has to take responsibility for her actions.

As for ticks, unconscious actions, etc... those will go away eventually in company of good mental fortitude. Sometimes it takes a few days, sometimes months. An example of something like that is boot camp: a lot of people that go frequently find that after graduating and leaving the training facility they "square" corners, march, sit perfectly straight, call people "sir" or "mam" (especially if this wasn't the norm for you before you attended) and eat meals the way you're forced to in boot camp (its very unnatural feeling) . You'll eventually fall back into a state of normalcy but the best way to do that is to engage yourself with friends and hobbies rather than drawing inward.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

She's in hail currently, I am out. We are trying to get the detective to talk to my younger sister about the abuse we endured. So far they have talked to me, my boyfriend, my father, and step mom. Anyone that could know of the abuse.

[AniaR]

Shimmer I have a crazy psycho bitch for a mom too, who was also found guilty of child abuse, but yet it didnt stay on her record and she adopted more kids! I have zero contact with her. I know that might be hard for you because you worry about the brother but sometimes you gotta cut the cord. I found a few books like "toxic parents" "the borderline mother" and "how to stop walking on eggshells" very helpful to me. I also saw a therapist for 3 years to try and deal with my mom's crazy. I think the best thing you can possibly do for yourself is get away from her and never look back.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My 15 year old younger sister actually stopped talking and cut contact with her last year. I always try to be the bigger person in situations like that, but I don't know how she can recover from this, nor do I think she will. I am going to have to write her and see if she will finally write the title of my truck and camper over to me. And offer to keep her important stuff safe for her while she's away but she would have to sign papers, and have everything proofed.

[Fun123joker]

i have zero experience with abusive parents. but this reminds me of this trail in flordia where this little girl drowned in those big blue inflatable pools and the mother was the suspect. people kept on asking the little brother if his mother did it. thing is thier questions were so specific on if it was the mother or not that it made the boy believe it was. im saying this because when you are little you believe that the adults are always right no matter what you see. (if you were wondering what happned to the trail. a picture of a wagon with mud in it proved that the little girl was drowning and the brother tried to save her by grabbing her legs. no one was charged. i only remeber this because my family saw the trail on the news and didnt get the full story so they were really mad when thee mother was proven not guilty. i only mentioned this trial for the fact that the adults kept o asking the only witness if it was the mother so many times he started to believe it)

sorry to hear about that shimmer.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you. I feel like I'm in a really depressing episode of law and order or something

[Merman Jamie]

Sorry to hear shimmer. I hope everything works out soon

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you Jamie. :) so many good wishes. I love the mer community.

[Mermaid Alea]

Shimmer I hope things start to get better for you. :hug: I am sorry that you have to deal with things like this in life and I hope your siblings recover.

[JessieMermaid]

OMFG!!!!! We have limited parking, that means first come first searved. Not even our employees are guaranteed a parking space. 100+ rooms, 30+ employees, and the 1000000 or so MONTHY/DAILY PARKING people and we only have 92 parking spaces. GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELVES YOU ARE NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON ON THE FRIGGIN PLANET!!!!! I hate Mardi Gras......the only thing good that comes out of this is the free funnel cakes from the vender on the corner......

[Lucinda]

Anyone else here who has a hopeless, alcoholic father? :mad: Won't take care of himself. Won't listen to me. What's the bleeding point?
I said no wine for my birthday fondue, he went against my wishes. We already partied yesterday, for crying out loud! Too much is too much.

He was making progress. But now he's slipping again. What's the point of his "only-on-Fridays" rule, when he's the one who's always breaking it. Then he tries to get us to drink more so that he won't have to feel guilty. Today was a test. I had to say no to the wine. Somebody had to say it. Big surprise: He failed!
He really ought to take a good look at himself.

[Fun123joker]

i relly like this one song on the cello but i cant seem to play it right. i know its my intonation but i have that feeling that its just how i play thats wrong :/

[Adalira]

OMG Shimmer...i am so sorry to hear that! A big hug to you! :hug:

Raina, omg...that nutjob....how can i report him? Cause i will! Geez...he has a serious mental problem and is now trying to make it your problem :-(
What an ass.
If anyone can explain to me how i can report the ass i will immediatly!

[Starfrit]

So my roommates and I got handed our three months' notice to move out... x.o It's not that we're awful tenants and they're kicking us out just to get rid of us-- our landlady's been super apologetic about the whole thing, she loves us to pieces and is going to give us a glowing reference for wherever we move to next, it's just that the dude who owns the house lost his job and is planning to move back into the place when he comes back from Alberta in a few months. So now I'm slogging through rental listings on Kijiji trying to find a spot...

This wouldn't be a huge deal, because my boyfriend and I were planning on moving out in late summer/early fall anyway, hopefully into a bigger spot, but the reason we were going to wait until then in the first place was because my two best friends are waiting for their lease to end at that point so they can move into the bigger house with us. We've been planning this pretty much since they moved back into town last year... And now, my current situation throws everything out of whack, because now it's either we 1) move into a smaller place for the time being, wait until September when my friends' lease is up and then move again, or 2) find the big house we wanted in the first place and basically shell out more rent in the meantime while we wait for them to be able to move in with us, which... I'm not sure we (or at least, I) could afford. Boyfriend has a really good job, me... not so much.

Which is another thing: Transportation is kind of an issue for me right now. I live a five-minute walk from work, but from all of the listings we've gone through, there... really isn't anything else that fits our requirements in this area. One place we've already shot off an inquiry to, which is a beautiful house and has everything we need, would require me to either find a new job closer to the new house (which makes my stomach knot up because I'm the worst with job-hunting and job interviews), or spent an hour and fifteen minutes between three bus transfers to get to my current job, which hell. no.

On the upside, one of my mom's friends is a real estate agent who's offering to help us find a spot free of charge, but I'm worried that it's going to be difficult; I've never gone house/apartment/whatever-hunting before, so that's a whole new level of anxiety for me... Plus I need to find a pet-friendly place which is proving to be really difficult. I'm terrified that I'm going to be expected to give up my cat Loki, who's basically like a therapy animal for me (obviously, I'm not giving him up-- My cat goes where I go, and if he can't go then I'm not going!). Every decent spot we've found has pretty explicitly stated "No Pets."

I feel like someone dropped a bomb on me out of nowhere; I really hate stuff like this... I know that we have three months to find a place, get everything ready and get gone, but I really don't do well with huge changes like this, and now I'm over-stressing about it and starting to get really edgy. @-@ This really isn't something I want to procrastinate and I feel like the sooner I get everything straightened out and ready to go, the better... But my boyfriend is too busy playing zombie games with our roommates. >->

I've just... kinda been screaming internally, all night. I mean, I know it's not going to be a huge deal in the long run, and everything will work out fine, but it's just that now I have to deal with finding a decent place, save up whatever money I can for the move, and then make sure I have everything I need in order to move my cat and figure out how the fuck I'm going to transfer a 30-gallon aquarium and 20 fish without hurting them. In winter. And then likely start job hunting again...

http://mrwgifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Lilo-Goes-To-Sleep-Hugging-A-Pillow.gif

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Oh! I'm sorry! Have you considered buying a camper? Or something similar and living temporarily until your friends lease is up and your able to go do that? Maybe someone has a camper they could rent out to you? We are having to move due to the problem I posted a page back, and we got a camper. We have several cats, and 2 big dogs, but my dad is letting us put the camper on his land until we find something better.

[Starfrit]

Unfortunately, it isn't really an option for us; there's nowhere in town where we could really put a camper if we had one, and... Well, boyfriend and the one roommate who's coming along with us (boyfriend's brother) are both being stubborn about it-- when we move, it has to be into a bigger spot, because boyfriend wants to get a dog, and he wants the new place to be somewhere where he can settle down for at least a few years, so a temporary spot with the intention of moving again in a few months' time is out of the question for him (and for me, too, I guess, because I have a pile of sensitive fish to worry about too; one move is already going to be stressful for them). Not to mention we've got like a house's worth of stuff to take with us... x.o

[MerAnthony]

This is going be a rant just to warn you.
The other day I reported somebody to Face book about what they said about a friend of mine. Wha the person said was mean an rude, just disrespectful. This is what he said. "Hahaha your a man that's why not a woman. Die bitch" The asshole that said it is Gilbert Aislynn Monroy. An this is the reply I got from Face Book. "Thank you for taking the time to report something that you feel may violate our Community Standards. Reports like yours are an important part of making Facebook a safe and welcoming environment. We reviewed the comment you reported for containing hate speech or symbols and found it doesn't violate our Community Standards (http://www.facebook.com/communitystandards/). What the hell is wrong with people now a days?

[JamesGunnels]

What kind of bullshit is that? How is it NOT against their community rules? That is blatantly hostile. They need to do something about that!

[MerAnthony]

What kind of bullshit is that? How is it NOT against their community rules? That is blatantly hostile. They need to do something about that!

I agree 1000% an then some. But they from what I have been told they look at money insted. An I know it clearly violates the rules but they don't seem to care.

[JamesGunnels]

I wouldn't stop sending messages. They need to get someone HUMAN, not a machine, to send you a real reply. That is so unjust.

[Naufra]

This is going be a rant just to warn you.
The other day I reported somebody to Face book about what they said about a friend of mine. Wha the person said was mean an rude, just disrespectful. This is what he said. "Hahaha your a man that's why not a woman. Die bitch" The asshole that said it is Gilbert Aislynn Monroy. An this is the reply I got from Face Book. "Thank you for taking the time to report something that you feel may violate our Community Standards. Reports like yours are an important part of making Facebook a safe and welcoming environment. We reviewed the comment you reported for containing hate speech or symbols and found it doesn't violate our Community Standards (http://www.facebook.com/communitystandards/). What the hell is wrong with people now a days?

Try reporting it again, this time as a threat to your friend. See what FB does with it then.

[AniaR]

I have a really long bitch to make and I'm like so heart broken and hurt I just need to get it out somewhere.

So January was a crappy month, if you follow my FB page you know 3 family members got in car accidents, all very close to us, and one who is super close nearly died and is in really bad condition. I had bad stuff happen at merfest and when I got back, was sick for months, had all this dental work done etc. I had that issue with my FB page that we talked about earlier in this thread and while I am trying so hard to ignore the guy he will not stop. He is totally insane. I just got this message today:


Raina,

Carlos is at it again: https://www.facebook.com/JeanGilles.Associates/posts/644740172319243

It's one of his horrendously long posts on his page, but he includes a link to your Help Forum question in a paragraph near the end:

"Here's a link to the Facebook question in the Help Forum, http://goo.gl/XzYJwa, of the silly poster who thought that she could have my current account disabled by Facebook. Because my Favorite Critic had been falsely accusing me of letting my daughter manage her Facebook account, I deliberately set that person up to hack into my daughter's Facebook account by deliberately leaving it without the protection of the double factor security feature. Do I think that the hack into my daughter's account is just a coincidence? Absolutely not! It's the same obsessed person who has been harassing me since 2012 who hacked into my daughter's account, except that this time I have definite proof that s/he had done it."

In case you haven't caught on to this piece of "Carlos-speak", he's assuming that you are Ky Conn, whom he loves to call his "Favorite Critic". I know that Ky has been in communication with you; she are I became friends as we waged war with Carlos. He's also posted something in the (https://www.facebook.com/help/community/question/?id=377237212449088)Help Forum that I am sure is pointed at you: https://www.facebook.com/help/community/question/?id=377237212449088

He just can't get it through his thick skull that your problem has nothing to do with your "customized username". Anyway, in case he continues to escalate, I thought I'd just give you a "heads up".

I love your obvious enthusiasm for your profession!

Have a good day!


it's annoying at most, just frustrating that I seem to have a magnet for these kinds of wack jobs. (did you see the drama with the guy all over the MTV article? Ugh, just ugh!) I have no idea who this man is. On my end all I did was post in the help forum looking how to get the block off my FB page (which btw is there because someone 1.5 years ago reported every single thing I ever posted as 'spam' as a way to harass me) this guy gave me irrelevant advice, which I chose to ignore and I downvoted his answer. He has been on the rampage ever since! Clearly mental illness, and doing my best to ignore and not respond to him, but he keeps making fake accounts to contact me with.

So I have been going along with all this crap just doing my best but this past week the worst thing happened. It's going to take me a minute to explain it but I really need some validation that I did the right thing...

I have/had a best friend. We've known each other almost 15 years, and been close for about 7. She has 4 kids and we've always been really good to each other. I wrote about her wedding in my book- where I did the photography, and was a mermaid. I have always always helped her. And she's always been good to me. I was with her when one of her kids was born and I did birth photos. When I had stints of unemployment I would go to her house and just clean for her. I consider her family. I watched her kids all the time, half my FB photos are of her kids. I threw her baby showers, wedding stuff etc. I have her family on my fridge, on my walls. They were the first people to EVER hire me for a mermaid gig, and I always did photos at the kid's birthdays etc,
we had similar issues with our moms and helped each other through. Her husband helped me with photography stuff. We have always been on good terms and never had issues. She's never been a selfish person. She's never been anything but even keel if that makes any sense.

Well she had her last baby in May. Her pregnancy was really rough, she had that disorder where you just barf all the time. She already had 3 kids at home, she doesnt drive, and her husband works during the day. Since my boyfriend was unemployed and had time off, he helped out (at my suggestion) by taking her to dr apps for the baby, watching the kids, and just helping in ways that I couldnt because I was working. All was fine. She had the baby- and it was unnaturally fast, like 6 minutes or something. Almost had it in the bathroom.

Ever since she had the baby she'd been a bit off. She's had 3 before and this was their planned last. It came on subtle at first so I didn't notice what was happening until it got out of control. My friend has always had anxiety issues, but after this baby her anxiety seemed to get worse than normal. So sean and I upped the level of help and support we were giving. He'd physically help out in person, and I'd talk on the phone or online or in person trying to just give her support. Afterall, she's got 4 kids!

The past 3-4 months the anxiety was spiraling around phantom leg pain and numbness she was having. For anyone who knows my backstory this was something I knew all to well. The fear of not knowing why you were in so much pain and could barely walk, others not understanding etc. So I tried extra hard to show her support and listen, but also encourage her to see health professionals to figure out what was causing it. I told her I suspected because of her birth that her pelvis was misaligned and pinching a nerve. As my leg pain and numbness comes from a combination of pinch nerve by way of the pelvis which is misaligned because of scoliosis, and I have fibro which makes it worse during stress. Hey, I get it. It's freaking scary when you wake up in the middle of the night and half your body is numb. Or you get random spots of pain in legs that make you feel like it might be deep vein thrombosis. (which can lead to stroke in women on meds that I take, or in her sitch had recently had a baby)

At first my friend would not see a doctor. She'd send me photos of bruises on her legs and obsess over minute body changes. Then when she woke up numb one night she called an ambulance and I do believe the experience gave her a bit of PTSD.

She finally was properly assessed, and after a bit of back and forth they confirmed that no she had no chance for blood clots, and yes I had been right: her pelvis was crushing some nerves. It would take adjustments and physio and meds to help get her back to normal, and like my process, it would be slow before she saw results.

This didn't seem to help my friend, in fact it made her worse and she became convinced she was going to die every night. I would stay up til 3 or 4am talking with her trying to convince her to seek professional help to get anti anxiety meds, or sleep meds, therapy, or something.

During this 3 months I was very busy, but always made time and ended up staying up too late to talk to her. Meanwhile, she was calling my boyfriend almost everyday. She started asking him to take her to the ER even though we knew she did not have blood clots. Her husband would not take her because he was exhausted and knew she didn't have blood clots, so she'd wait til he fell asleep and call Sean.

Now Sean and I are busy people and didn't really realize what was happening here at first. Though, I admit, I was starting to get uncomfortable with how much she was fixating on Sean. Daily calls, insisting he visit her, trips to the ER, etc. I trust Sean and I trust my friend. But this is still my MARRIED friend calling my boyfriend daily. It was inappropriate you know? Plus it became like an arguing point with her husband "well Sean does ____" kind of deal. Which Sean and I didn't realize.

My friend then started getting really inappropriate with her fixation on Sean and her anxiety. She asked me on CHRISTMAS EVE to get Sean to take her to the ER for her imaginary blood clots :( to which I told her we were busy with family. But I still enabled her (I shouldn't of) by trying to validate what she was experiencing and talking to her. Then the day my family member got in the serious crash (which I posted on FB) she was at the ER and bored and asked me to send Sean! She had no clue what was going on in our lives ever, and was always asking for him without even saying Hi to me, asking what was going on or if we were busy or anything. She called us at merfest (my FB was totally full of how we were away) called us when we were at the girl's empowerment workshop. Like I said, it became really inappropriate.

Sean and I had a talk about it and decided he wouldn't do that anymore. We realized we were enabling her anxiety and she needed professional help, and also realized we were undermining her husband. Sean often thinks of just helping people but doesn't always look to the bigger picture in those situations. So we got on the same page and he ignored a few of her calls.

Last week we had a huge freaking snow storm. Since Sean was ignoring her calls she messaged me on FB wanting Sean to drive her through this big snow storm and I finally got up the nerve to say something to her about all of this. This is what I said,




"I think you cant move on with mental health until you see a therapist to help you address all the anxiety this brings out in you.You always think you'll feel better after having a doctor check your legs but they never find anything, and you still get upset the next time it happens.

I'm not comfortable with Sean going out in the weather and at this point it's going to be a bad storm for sure. The last couple times you've asked for him we've been doing important stuff (my uncle is in serious condition in the hospital) for us or weren't even in the province or country.

I love you very very much. I understand what you're going through- I know a lot of people say that and have no clue, but I do. I still wake up thinking I'm going to die and have spent most of my life that way because of health problems. I know what it's like to have weird parts of your body or even half of it go numb randomly. I know what it's like to have leg pain that makes no sense. I do 100% believe your doctor that it's a pelvis issue because my intense leg pain is because of my pelvis being misaligned, and the other symptoms I have come from fibro which comes about from stress and anxiety.

I don't think it's helping you or supporting you anymore to take you to the hospital all the time. I think instead it's enabling your anxiety to spiral out of control and I can see it's putting a lot of stress on you and Marcel. I love you and support you and want you to be healthy. But sometimes being a good friend means pushing someone to do something that's hard for them and I think for you that means not enabling your anxiety and encouraging you to get a therapist who can help you work through the things causing you anxiety,but also help you come to terms with dealing with the physical pain you've been going through. That dr I recommended you (drs. name), is amazing. It should be covered under your insurance but she'll also do sliding scale rates and work around yours and (husbands) schedule to see you. If Sean's gonna drive you anywhere I think it be better to see a therapist than keep making emergency trips.

This has been ongoing for you for months and it's taking over your life. You can't function like you usually do. And honestly, you have always been supportive of me when I'm down and I appreciate that. it's hard for me to say this to you because I don't want you to feel like I am being unsupportive to you. You're one of the best friends I've ever had. caring, loving kind. But you've been so wrapped up in this I think you havent realized it's been inappropriate a couple of times when you've asked Sean because you weren't aware of what we were going through on our end. Like the time you asked for Sean to go because you were bored at the hospital. I know you're probably just being silly and I totally get being bored at the hospital... but we'd been through a bunch of shitty things that I'd posted about on FB and I need my boyfriend too ya know? Or like asking us to take you on Christmas Eve when we're doing things with our own family. If it was an honest to God emergency you know we'd dropped everything to help you but this has been an ongoing thing and you've been told a lot you dont have a blood clot.

I know Sean likes to be helpful because he's been off work and he'll always be the type to be helpful no matter what- but he has been busier. he does juggle things around to fit you in and doesnt admit that to you. And it makes me uncomfortable sometimes.

I understand your fears. I understand them better than anyone you could talk to I promise you that. And that's why as your friend I am telling you, this whole thing will only get partially better with a doctor. You need to see a therapist. When you're obsessing all day over dying, when you think you need constant dr/emerg visits to feel safe, when you're willing to go out in dangerous conditions or during important holidays, or it's gotten to the point it's causing problems with your husband and friends it's really time to see a therapist. They can help you break this down into something you can get over and cope with. The one I recomended you knows the medical field so she has like real world advice not just anxiety management. She understands chronic pain and the fear that comes with it. She understands the stress it puts on a family. She understands the fear of not knowing if you're getting the right help. Thats her job. and she's really good at it. Because I dont think you're going to get what you need by venting to me or getting Sean to drive you to emerge. "

I am hoping by reading that you can see how hard I tried to be empathetic and show I loved her and cared, while still putting my boundary down that I was not OK with Sean going through a snowstorm for imaginary blood clots...

Well she flipped shit on me, called me a bunch of awful things, and I think I went into shock a bit. It was SUPER out of character with her. So I just tried to be loving and neutral. I just kept saying "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. We are still here for you we just aren't going to do that one thing anymore. We want you to get better too"

She kept trying to "break up" with me and every few hours over the next few days would send things like "I'm sending my husband to pick up ____" not even paying attention to the fact that she was saying these things on the day I was having my oral surgery. She is not NORMALLY a selfish or self absorbed person. This is 100% the anxiety bringing it out in her.

Well last night I thought enough days had passed that I'd message her again. I had already messaged her husband and he was super thankful. He was feeling very alone like everyone believed her side and didn't realize that she was making this all up in her head and obsessing over it and he's been trying to cope working full time and having 4 kids while she's been at home like this. The sean stuff was def causing a problem but he's not upset with us after we explained everything. I was hopeful that after my friend calmed down she see that we just want her to get some help and that we still love her.

But last night I saw she deleted me from facebook. She has my little sister on fb. But she deleted me. And yeah the tears just came. I love and care about this woman so much and I am not trying to take it personally because I KNOW she's not in a mental state that is reasonable. But goddamnit, it IS inappropriate to be so obsessed with my boyfriend and risk his life through a snow storm for imaginary health problems!! I am allowed to put a boundary down for that. She's married and has her OWN husband. It goes well beyond the normal "helping a family friend" you know?

I just feel like poo. On top of all this other crap going on in my life, and my chronic illnesses are flared up, and other things are stressing me out and making me sad it's like man. I never thought she'd be that way. I honestly thought she'd sleep on it and the next day we'd make up or something. 15 years down the toilet basically because I said no, you know?

I hope she comes around. I know people will say things like "not a real friend" but that's no comfort to me. I can't express how out of character this behaviour is. I am trying to just be strong and have faith that things will work out but this is the first time in our whole friendship I've said no to her, or put down a boundary.

I just feel so sick over it. When I first talked to her I couldn't sleep for a few days, and had knots in my stomach. Now I just wanna cry. I think I am just fed up with life right now. Yeah there are good things that are happy and great but the bad stuff just seems to pile on lately. And of course, right now is when every entitled mermaid is bugging me so I need to take a break from FB. Sometimes people have so much demanding attitude of me it blows my mind. I wrote a book for a reason and have a million free things on the internet to help you. You aren't entitled to my time...

/rant

[Meronica]

Raina, you and your boyfriend sound like such sweet people and let me just begin by saying that I hope that one day I can have an awesome best friend like you in my life.

You may really care about this woman, but she sounds like she's really mentally unstable right now and may have been attempting to emotionally cheat on her husband with your boyfriend (not his fault at all). I'd say move on from her for a while-- she chose to have FOUR kids and place the entire financial responsibility on her husband, and seems to refuse the psychiactric and chiropractic help she needs to relieve her suffering. This isn't your problem and you can't allow yourself to be upset about problems she has created for herself. SHE has to be the one to change. :/

[Mermaid Danielle]

I'm so sorry for you, Raina. I can't imagine how difficult that is on top of everything else.

I wouldn't say that she isn't a "real friend", because of all of this. Your friend is sick, really sick by the sounds of it, and 15 years of previous friendship attest to the realism of the relationship you had/have with her. I'm sure in time, assuming she gets the help she needs, that she will come to understand how her actions were negatively affecting you and Sean, and why you needed to put down the boundaries when you did. She doesn't sound like she's the same person you built your friendship with, and she may never be again- but that doesn't mean that she won't be able to find the balance that she needs to rebuild her life.

If it helps you, and works for you and Sean, every once and a while you can try to initiate contact with her again, see how she responds. Eventually, as she heals, she may show interest in rebuilding that relationship with you.

I'm thinking of you guys, and all of you are in my prayers. I hope she is able to get the help that she needs soon, and all of you are able to heal from this.

As for the entitled mermaids that keep bugging you, personally (and I don't know if you/anyone has done anything like this already), I'd recommend making a satirical v-log or mermaid episode about it, lol. Hopefully it will help you vent about the annoying/obnoxiousness of the people bugging you, and maybe raise awareness to rest of the fans who may not realize how difficult that type of behavior is to deal with. End all be all, I'm sure quoting some of the things that are said/demanded of you would be entertaining to bring to light (without pointing the finger at anyone, obviously).

I hope things turn around for you (and Sean) soon.

Best wishes.

[Yulia]

You have not done anything wrong Raina, and I really really hope that it will all work out in the end.
It's sad to read about such a long friendship go down the drain like this, but for now, under these circumstances what you did was necessary.
Something that came to my mind is that it sounds like she might have some kind of Postpartum-depression, it's not that uncommon and make people change out of character like you describe.

You are valuable Raina, take care of your time, and your family.
<3

[Seraphina Suds]

Aww, Raina, I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to see a long term friendship suddenly take a turn for the worse. I think given time and proper mental health treatment, your friend will come back around. I think her anxiety could be related to ppd or even postpartum psychosis, although I'm not sure of the time frame. Try to keep your chin up! <3
As for the Facebook nonsense, you don't owe anyone your time or effort. Ignore and block who you need to to keep yourself safe and sane.

[Mermaid Ellowyn]

Hi, Raina. You don't know me that well but through all of your lovely resources and books and everything, I do feel like I know you. I just wanted to echo the others and say that this is not your fault.


15 years down the toilet basically because I said no, you know?

No, this doesn't mean your friendship is absolutely ruined. Your friend sounds like she is sick. You have to reach rock bottom before you can swim back up sometimes, you know? And this is most certainly not because you set your boundaries. It is because she is fighting with her own problems that are (like you said) consuming your life.

I am so, so sorry that she hasn't been there for you lately. I hope you can lean on Sean for now and I hope that she will start seeing someone about this to try and get better. <3

[Mermaid Galene]

Raina, you have done your very best for this friend, but she needs professional help. She is out of control, and the distance between you right now is necessary. She needs space to confront her problems, and you need space to recover from a tough winter. It's not necessarily the end of your friendship -- perhaps just a hiatus. But for now, let her go. Take care of yourself.

[Mermaid Alea]

I wasn't sure if I should say something because I am still new and you all don't really know me and I can't really help much with mermaid stuff, but I do want to say that I hope that things get better for you Raina. You are so amazing to be such a good, dedicated friend. Most people would be too worried to get so involved in someone else's life because they wouldn't want the person to think they could always call on them and they would come, etc. You have done sooo much for your friend, and it does sound like she is just going through such a rough time she has no idea what she is saying by dissing you. She has some tough stuff to get through, and you definitely have helped her by refusing to take her to the hospital all the time. This is something she will probably have to deal with on her own or with a therapist like you recommended. Hopefully she will come out of this a stronger person and back to her old self. Also hopefully she will be friends with you again. My boyfriend's Mom has 7 children and she is a stay at home Mom. I have noticed that she has a sticky note in the kitchen for tips of how to relieve stress and how to stay happy. I am sure she gets stressed with so many kids, but she is still able to make it through the day. Hopefully your friend will get things together and heal both mentally and physically.

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Well my other hobby is keeping peafowl, so you can expect me to mention them every now and then haha. I was on the bird forum and saw a Dr. talking about how he can de-voice a peacock. He hasn't done this to a peacock yet, but he has done it to roosters. I was surprised when looking at the topic about de-voicing roosters because a lot of people were excited about the procedure and wanted it done on their bird! I was glad to see some people expressing how they thought it was cruel. Then I found a post where the Doctor said that his own roosters are not de-voiced, but if he ever had to de-voice them he would. Yeah... Well I just hate this idea all the way around. So if you can't have a noisy bird, instead of finding a bird variety that isn't as loud, you are going to take away the bird's voice or make it quieter? This just made me sad thinking about the poor birds who will get their voice taken away to make their owners happy. In my opinion if you want to take away the bird's voice, then you don't really care about the bird.

[Rogue Siren]

Raina, you have done your very best for this friend, but she needs professional help. She is out of control, and the distance between you right now is necessary. She needs space to confront her problems, and you need space to recover from a tough winter. It's not necessarily the end of your friendship -- perhaps just a hiatus. But for now, let her go. Take care of yourself.

THIS.

And like I saw another person mention, we don't know the time frame but it does sound like postpartum depression/psychosis. I understand mental illness well and hope she gets help. :( It's not fair for her or anyone she is putting through it.

On a lighter note: I also understand how easily it would be to become fixated on your Sean. ;) Haha, jk, kinda, not really. Where's Loki? I should get some sleep......lol.

[AniaR]

The more I think of it the more I think you all might be right about post pardum. I only ever thought of it as straight up depression previously but it seems from reading about it it is chemical imbalance that can affect in many ways.

[Mermaid Galene]

That was my thought, too. I have known women to go completely off the deep end with post partum mental/emotional disturbances. This is why your friend needs medical intervention.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

Oh dear Raina. I'm so sorry darling. You don't deserve this, nor does your friend. For all of your sakes, I hope she takes the advice given and gets herself some counseling.

[Princess Pearl]

This is a slightly smaller bitch out than what some others have been going through lately... But I have my first party on Saturday, and shark week just started. Stupid not-regular uterus, I never know when it's going to hit! I thought I had another week, at least.


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[Mermaid Momo]

This is a slightly smaller bitch out than what some others have been going through lately... But I have my first party on Saturday, and shark week just started. Stupid not-regular uterus, I never know when it's going to hit! I thought I had another week, at least.


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I feel you, I was planning on starting swimming and working out more to build stamina and muscle but then shark week started lol. I could just pop in a tampon and still go swimming but honestly I don't want to do anything now haha

[MermaidShannon]

I am sure that wasn't supposed to make me laugh and I'm sorry but I have never heard of calling it shark week and now I have the giggles

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I have irregulars too. It's horrific. And tampons on the first day make it all worse. No idea why though. I love that you call it shark week!

[Merman Dan]

I have never heard of calling it shark week and now I have the giggles

Could be worse... Shark Week Becomes "Summer of the Shark" (http://money.cnn.com/2015/01/29/media/discovery-expanding-shark-week/)

[Princess Pearl]

I use a cup, which is life changingly amazing, but I sometimes get pinched nerves and severe back pain. I am just hoping that doesn't happen this weekend!

Shannon- I picked it up here on the forum. Considering the female reproductive system resembles a sharks brain, it quickly became my favourite euphemism EVER.


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[PhaylennMurúch]

I'm really happy I'm not the only one who calls it Shark Week.

DH on the other hand calls it "Wifeys vengeful uterus"

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I had to scroll up to find out what Shark Week was...:lol::$

Over here its just called a Special Friend Visit. Luckily for me, menopause came early last year. Now it only visits every 3 or 4 months, much like a travelling salesman!:lol:

On another note...

Families piss me off sometimes!

For the past 2 wks, my brother has been having his bathroom renovated at his flat and they've been staying over here. Now I would have gladly gone and helped with whatever, but I have other obligations to fulfill, mainly looking for work. Every cover letter HAS to be tailored for the advertising job, its very tiring to write each and every letter so it don't sound like a rehash of what I just wrote for another application! Do they not understand that?! I'm up every morning with the kids and don't stop till dinner time. Weekends are the only time that I have to myself. Plus I'm on welfare payments, its not something so easily said to a welfare officer, "No, I didn't look for work for the past two weeks because I've been helping my brother do his bathroom."

Nooo... Brother says, "She's so damn lazy! Don't even offer to help." Then turns around to his wife to tell her, "See? I told you she's too lazy to come and help. She won't do it unless you invite her!" He says all this in front of their kids, now I know why they don't listen to me and laugh in my face when I try to discipline them.

Now that things slow down towards the end of the week, I say "I'll get changed". Then he's so angry. "Don't bother! Its just one door! Can't even help during the week, then its nearly finished then come and help?!"

Once I find some stable work, I'm out of here... Even my friends have asked me why I let him talk to me in that tone. When he talks to me, its like he's scolding me, its just so freaking annoying. Even when he's normal trying to be nice, he's still got that tone of voice. And he does it in public too.

[MermaidShannon]

Shark week. Gosh. Haha.

I had uterine cancer so I don't have that problem any more. Silver linings. I'm recovered so don't let that word scare you or dampen the mood. Haha shark week. I love it.

[Mermaid Lilium]

You can go to London and take some of that anger, which needs some release, and let it out on those blokes at Wagamama near the London Eye who treated us like shite in October ;-)

urgh.... never actually eaten at a wagamama even though there's one in manchester (which is a train ride away) as I usually go to a place called Wasabi. But I seem to remember other friends having issues with staff/service at other locations too. Sadly london is an expensive and long trek for me so I rarely get there!

[Mermaid Lilium]

also for those on the topic of shark week... a new term was coined at merfest: 'Megladon Week' :shark: xD

I'm so glad I have the implant, it means I haven't had a shark week in 2+ years!

anyways this pales in comparison to others but I turn 26 on monday, and a couple of weeks ago I decided at the urging of you guys, to organise I say out for my birthday weekend (so, tomorrow) to exorcise the shitty memories of two years ago. I hade a bunch of people say they were going to go and the day was panning out to be awesome. Now all but two people have bailed on it. 4 of which I only found out today after chasing them up with texts to find out so I could book a table at a cool new oriental place that does chinese and korean bbq and hot pot. Which is something I was really excited to try and works best when you have a bunch of people there to eat together. Now we can't really go to that place so we'll just be going to our usual haunt instead.

And I was planning on going to the alt and burlesque fair next weekend separately because I figured most people would be busy as it's valentines day and would say no. Now I might as well have just kept it to next weekend and save me the £20+ that tomorrow will cost me in train fare, meals and starbucks (cause one of the two people actually coming tomorrow doesn't like any other coffee place and seemingly can't exist in manchester without going there lol) cause i'm also broke since merfest and still currently unemployed, so getting more broke.

It's left me feeling like 'why did I f'cking bother?' when events this week have already majorly triggered my depression. It's making that fight much harder right now. Doesn't help when I have a bust ankle either as I fell down some stairs in town nearly 2/3 weeks ago and there's still more bruising and damage coming out. It still hurts to touch and walking around in town today running errands (first time out in a week) had made it achey and swell back up again. I honestly feel like just hiding under the duvet and not coming back out. But that's what my depression does.

There's other stuff flaring it up this week too, like just finding out about pearlie's lotus tail (when i've spent 2+ years planning on doing plant tails as 'my thing' but tis all okay I <3 my mer-sister pearlie too much to be angry or anything, but depression can be silly) and I've now also had someone that I felt used and betrayed me that I blocked to avoid confrontation, send me an email (after finding out from someone else why I blocked her and am pissed at her), accusing me of using people and calling me immature for blocking her and 'hiding behind technology'.

so yeah, one seriously shitty week for my state of mind here. Just seems to be one thing after another.

[PearlieMae]

"accusing me of using people and calling me immature for blocking her and 'hiding behind technology'."

Tell her maybe you blocked her because she's a bitch you don't need in your life.

I want you to have a happy birthday! If I could, I'd fly over and we would go out and eat until we are stuffed, do something ridiculously pampering, and then go out to someplace loud and drink!

The burlesque thing sounds fun! My daughter is in a burlesque troupe and it's awesome! ( http://www.weburlesque.com )

I hope you do have a good birthday weekend, despite all the things that seem to be happening. :mermaid kiss:

[Imogen Finnly]

So a few posts ago i was venting about my boss and how unhappy i was with it all and how i couldnt stand her and her constant hovering and "well..i did it this was so youre wrong " crap i gave her my notice sunday and tomorrow is my last day and i got a new job. Less pay $12 to $10 roughly. But now since i got paid cash, though i claim my 1099 (if anyone knows that) and she wont give me tax papers and claims i only worked 50 days out of 365 last year. I probably only has that many days off last year.

formerly jayy

[PearlieMae]

Call the IRS and tell them your former employer refuses to provide your documentation to file your 1099. It's illegal to withhold that information from you. Gather all your documentation, checks, stubs, and record of payment to back up your case. The IRS will contact her and open an investigation. For this, the IRS would be working on your side. Just make sure all your records are in order, first. :)

[Imogen Finnly]

I have to call my take guy too. *le sigh* so much troubleeeeee. If im getting paid cash upfront but still pay quarterly taxes, i still need them right ?

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Lunette]

Gah, I am done trying to talk sense into cry babies.

From now on, I am just gonna block the jerks. I am going to vent as if I am talking to the people whom have agrevated me, so no worries, I am not talking about anyone in this thread, just venting about what I witnessed as if talking to the jerks themselves. Just a venting method, feel free to ignore. I just gotta say it to get it off my chest.

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News flash; someone disagreeing with you after you make a comment (that you KNOW, and even worse ADMIT ALOUD it will upset people) and then they disagree with you, that is not you "GETTING ATTACKED" that is called having a discussion. Also, if you "don't care what others think" why do you keep responding then? If you said your peace and don't care about others then why not leave it at that.

People aren't trying to change your mind, honestly, peeps just want you to go away at this point. No one was talking about you and no one WANTS to talk about you.

/end pretend chewing out jerks I saw on the internet.

[PearlieMae]

I have to call my take guy too. *le sigh* so much troubleeeeee. If im getting paid cash upfront but still pay quarterly taxes, i still need them right ?

formerly jayy

If you are paying your taxes, reporting what you are being paid, the IRS will be on your side. If you were being paid under the table/off the books, then you can get into trouble. If you have an accountant, definitely talk to them.

[Imogen Finnly]

Urgh watch, in a year im going to be talking to all of you from jail because of this tax sheit.

formerly jayy

[NerineArcticMermaid]

@imogen Have you called the IRS to see if they can help? Everyone labels them the bad guys but since I screwed up my own taxes in 2012 and 2013 and have to file amendments and payback about $500 they have been very kind and helpful while I file all the stuff. I even got an extension. Its been a pain but..they do seem to want to be helpful .. maybe they can put a fire under your employer's butt.

[Imogen Finnly]

I am going to call my tac guy first and see what he thinks i shohld do. He is pretty sensible so im sure i can get some advice for this before going to the irs. Its just a hassle you know?

formerly jayy

[JessieMermaid]

Ok so last night I had to work, we'll it's Mardi Gras season and Saturday was a big day. I didn't get downtown in time to park anywhere near work so I had to park in BFE. And guess what? My car got towed. So I come home at 1 am after cling the city in pound to see if they have it, which they had no clue at the time, and went to bed. Called this morning at 730 and the officer says they MIGHT have it on the lot. So now I have to go down there to see if it hey do. And the entire ride hime,my husband decided to bitch about the car, how it got towed, the officers the wouldn't let me through, and my manager (basic the entire situation) and I can't help but feel like everything is my fat and that I'm the idiot. I cried al the way home and most of the night..... Now this isn't the only bad part from last night. One of our guests complain about EVERY SINGLE THING! We ate not the best/most up to date hotel; it's kinda shitty. But the new owners are going to do some overhauling after the season ends. I explained that and she goes off the handle. The bed spread, lack of parking, key mixup, the tv. My Mgr offered her her money bacj if she checked out; she refused and continued to ream me and my Mgr about how shitty the hotel is. House keeping isn't doing the job. They are leaving rooms dirty, putting dirty covers back on the beds , etc. So I had to clean 2 rooms last night. Something I should have NEVER had to do.

[Amphitrite]

Very frustrated!

[PhaylennMurúch]

Very frustrated!

what about, hun?

[Yulia]

I know I've ranted quite a bit about this, but seriously!??

A Mermaid Iona "inspired" tail from Aurore la Sirene, and you can clearly see that this one has that weird bifin-plexiglass combo inside. UGH. WHY
https://fbcdn-sphotos-a-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-xfp1/t31.0-8/10955210_1002142403148882_347676670670951798_o.jpg

[Imogen Finnly]

That tail.. urgh.. this lady needs to stchaaaaap!

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Mystery]

Could be worse... Shark Week Becomes "Summer of the Shark" (http://money.cnn.com/2015/01/29/media/discovery-expanding-shark-week/)

sounds like most of mine.... I just got over a 2 MONTH period and it's been two weeks (I've been sick those two weeks) and now it's back. ughhhhhh


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[Mermaid Nessie]

So I live in a university residence and this semester we had a new guy move into the room next door to us. He was very nice at first and seemed pretty cool. However he has grown to be quite the creeper. He come knocking at our door at least once a day, completely uninvited and without warning. If my roommate or I answer the door, he will just come right in a start talking. Normally I have no issues letting people in my room and I love to chat with new people, however this guy shows up at the most random times, without asking if he can come over. Last weekend he showed up at the door at 2am, drunk out of his mind, trying to convince me to go to a party with him. I told him no and was very unimpressed, and kicked him out. On top of this, he will text me every day, asks and says very awkward things; acting like we are bffs. I can't even get over how creepy he is. I have literally showed zero interest in talking to him and he just doesn't pick up on social cues. If he sees me in the hall he will go and smack her on the back or poke my sides and it's just very uncomfortable. The other day I got back from a friend's house and he saw me coming in and came out of his room and said "Wow way to answer your door" I explained to him that I was out all night and he got angry and went back into his room. It is at the point where I've told my roommate not to answer the door if he knocks, and I rush to my room sometimes to avoid getting stuck talking to him in the halls. This guy is just downright creepy and I don't know how much more obvious I need to be for him to TAKE A FREAKING HINT. I don't want to be rude or mean. I just want him to leave me alone.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

So I live in a university residence and this semester we had a new guy move into the room next door to us. He was very nice at first and seemed pretty cool. However he has grown to be quite the creeper. He come knocking at our door at least once a day, completely uninvited and without warning. If my roommate or I answer the door, he will just come right in a start talking. Normally I have no issues letting people in my room and I love to chat with new people, however this guy shows up at the most random times, without asking if he can come over. Last weekend he showed up at the door at 2am, drunk out of his mind, trying to convince me to go to a party with him. I told him no and was very unimpressed, and kicked him out. On top of this, he will text me every day, asks and says very awkward things; acting like we are bffs. I can't even get over how creepy he is. I have literally showed zero interest in talking to him and he just doesn't pick up on social cues. If he sees me in the hall he will go and smack her on the back or poke my sides and it's just very uncomfortable. The other day I got back from a friend's house and he saw me coming in and came out of his room and said "Wow way to answer your door" I explained to him that I was out all night and he got angry and went back into his room. It is at the point where I've told my roommate not to answer the door if he knocks, and I rush to my room sometimes to avoid getting stuck talking to him in the halls. This guy is just downright creepy and I don't know how much more obvious I need to be for him to TAKE A FREAKING HINT. I don't want to be rude or mean. I just want him to leave me alone.

Can you report him to school guards for stalking and harassment?

[Mermaid Nessie]

He hasn't done anything that can be deemed "wrong", I don't want it to have to come to that.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

He hasn't done anything that can be deemed "wrong", I don't want it to have to come to that.

At the cost of having unwanted advances?

[AniaR]

you actually can report that fyi, for knocking on your door at 2am, alone. Dont worry about rude or mean. tell him to take a hike and down answer when he knocks,

[Mermaid Lunette]

Entering your room without permission is something you can probably report. I mean, that is showing no respect for your consent. You could simple get in his way and say aloud, "I am not consenting you to enter my room." If he does anyway that is DEFINATELY something you can report.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

And he's touching you, even pats on the back, without your permission. That counts too.

[Mermaid Lunette]

If you REALLY don't wanna report him you could try to talk to him, explain he is making you uncomfortable, and set some boundaries? If he doesn't respect that, report him, if he does then maybe he will turn off his creep mode. If he does not pick up on social ques he MIGHT actually just need direct explanation.

(Although with this option I would suggest both you and your roomate do this, preferable in a public place where he is less likely to act irrationally in case you are worried he will.)

[Mermaid Jaffa]

If that doesn't work, kick him in the nuts and tell him to piss off! Wait till he sneaks up on you then whirl around to do that. Its self defence cos you weren't expecting someone to creep up behind you like that...

[Mermaid Nessie]

He just texted me (surprise, surprise) So I sent him a very nicey worded tex message explaining that he has overstepped some boundaries and I'd appreciate it if he stopped...

[Mermaid Nessie]

He responded by telling me I'm too uptight for my own good......

[Mer-Crazy]

He responded by telling me I'm too uptight for my own good......
I agree with Jaffa. Time to kick him in the nuts.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

He responded by telling me I'm too uptight for my own good......
What a jerk! Just ignore him. Responding might make it worse.