B!TC# IT OUT! [Archive] - Page 31

SINicallyTwisted

07-29-2016, 12:15 PM

I'm glad that the original videos are down. It's obvious that Sammy was the instigator. Did he learn anything? Who knows. We may never know nor even get an apology, which I also think he should do and do it publicly, addressing his mistake for what he did to that young lady but again that may never happen. My only concern is for the (currently) unknown mermaid that's in the video. I hope that she didn't see those videos and/or articles BEFORE seeing all the mers coming to her aid. Something like that could be emotionally scarring especially if she didn't see all our responses. It's heartbreaking. I pray that she did see all the support and love. What frustrates me is that the beach that this happened at is only 30 - 40 mins away from me and IF she's local, she's somewhere near me. I wish there was a Mermaidar available to find her. :(

Shimmer Mermaid

07-29-2016, 02:34 PM

There's too many people, things are moving too fast, I am having such a hard time functioning.

We lost my dad at 5 this morning..

PearlieMae

07-29-2016, 03:15 PM

There's too many people, things are moving too fast, I am having such a hard time functioning.

We lost my dad at 5 this morning..

:hug:

Don't worry about functioning...just take care of you right now.

Sabrina the Selkie

07-29-2016, 04:53 PM

Hug hug hug. More hug.

Seconding the Pearlie.

Take care of you, do your best to take your time and just forget thinking for a while. Focus on sensation - like drinking hot tea or coffee or whatever. Take long baths. Go for a walk. Make absolute certain you take care of you.

Shimmer Mermaid

07-29-2016, 05:45 PM

:hug:

Don't worry about functioning...just take care of you right now.
I'll say it again, thank you so much

Hug hug hug. More hug.

Seconding the Pearlie.

Take care of you, do your best to take your time and just forget thinking for a while. Focus on sensation - like drinking hot tea or coffee or whatever. Take long baths. Go for a walk. Make absolute certain you take care of you.
I plan to take the best care I can of myself for my son, my husband and my sister, who is staying with us for as long as she needs until she decided she's going to move in with our uncle.

My step mother is throwing a for because my sister doesn't want to wake up in the mornings to have coffee with our dad, only for him not to be there at the kitchen table waiting on her.
She is saying it's "harder on her" than it could ever be on her, my older sister and I, when he was the only parent we really had.
The one time I hoped and thought she would be decent, she is being absolutely horrible.

Thank you guys for your thoughts and love. It means so much to me. ❤

Shimmer Mermaid

07-29-2016, 05:52 PM

My sister asked me to post a few pictures for y'all to see. I feel like with these you get a pretty good look at his personality.

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Celaeno

07-29-2016, 06:03 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔 Be gentle with yourself.

JayJ79

07-29-2016, 06:08 PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister, Shimmer.

Hydra1337

07-29-2016, 06:15 PM

I'm so sorry, Shimmmer, :(

AniaR

07-29-2016, 06:20 PM

I saw on FB I am so sorry for your loss :(

Mermaid Lilium

07-29-2016, 06:32 PM

I'm so sorry hun :(

he seems like a warm, kind-hearted man in those pictures

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PearlieMae

07-29-2016, 07:09 PM

Just let your step mother vent...whether she means it or not, she's lashing out because she doesn't know what else to do. Let it slide like water off a duck.

Sabrina the Selkie

07-29-2016, 07:54 PM

Hug. He's beautiful.

And again seconding Pearlie. She is lashing out. But I agree her grief doesn't give her an excuse to belittle your grief and generally be horrible.

I'm glad your sister's gotten out of there.

SINicallyTwisted

07-29-2016, 09:10 PM

So sorry for your loss, Shimmer. *huge merhugs*

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Mermaid Whisper

07-29-2016, 11:30 PM

Aw, I'm sorry, Shimmer. From what you've said about him and from his pictures, he sounds like a really great guy.

:hug:

I lost my father when he turned 37. Things aren't the same, but they get better. Get lost in a book, a game, whatever you love. It'll help take your mind off all the stress and pain.

All my love and hugs to you tonight. ❤️

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The Water Phoenix

07-30-2016, 12:52 AM

Oh shimmer! :cry: I remember when I lost my grandmother back in 2013. She was very sick and we were all going to go to South Africa to spend her last Christmas with her but she passed away before we went. I found out after I got home from a camp. I was absolutely shattered :cry:

Little_Orca

07-30-2016, 01:20 AM

I don't get to be an aunt. My sister miscarried.

Mermaid Lilium

07-30-2016, 05:30 AM

I don't get to be an aunt. My sister miscarried.
I'm so sorry :( my love goes out to your family and especially your sister

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Celaeno

07-30-2016, 06:29 AM

That's so devastating. My heart is breaking for your sister and your family. 💔

Little_Orca

07-30-2016, 12:43 PM

Apparently what I do is "stupid mermaid shit."

Wish he had said that when he agreed to marry me in a tail.

PearlieMae

07-30-2016, 01:08 PM

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry so much is happening to you right now! :hug:

Sabrina the Selkie

07-30-2016, 01:12 PM

Hug. Hug Orca, hug!!!

Hydra1337

07-30-2016, 02:54 PM

...Wow.

Talia

07-30-2016, 06:37 PM

Shimmer, I am so sorry! Sending you hugs and warm thoughts.

And Little Orca, I am sorry about your tragedy. Hugs for you too.

shimmygoddess

07-31-2016, 10:05 AM

got my first public hate post this morning on a Facebook ad I am running. He called me a bitch so I guess my ad offended him. I have had haters post on pictures before on the news station, when we did our mermaid pics, but this one was was posted directly. People are such assholes. It didnt bother me at first, but now I am sad and pissed off. LOL.

Merman Dylan

08-01-2016, 10:35 AM

Okay, so this is really getting under my scales lately. I live in Florida, and our governor is allowing more cancer causing chemicals to get dumped into the water supply everyone in depends on for drinking water. To top it off, he ignored multiple opportunities to prevent a catastrophic algae bloom that killed most of the fish. Not far from where I live some idiot is building on marsh land or wetland which will create unstable ground for homes and force water to flood the road during hurricanes and heavy rain. It doesn't stop there. I clean trash up on the side of the road almost every day and some moron throw more trash out their car windows. Everything we dump on the ground finds its way into our water. That's just how the typography of the state is. You put chemicals on your grass to keep pests away and it ends up in your well water. I swear to Poseidon that people won't actually realize they are poisoning themselves until it's too late and someone dies from cancer or something. I love Florida, but I sometimes really hate the humans that live here.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-01-2016, 05:10 PM

Ouch. That's really hard. Can you start a petition for wetland conservancy maybe??? Like, to stop the building project?

Because wetlands are our first defense against flooding.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-01-2016, 09:21 PM

I think a friend of mine is really close to rebuffing everyone she knows.

I hope she doesn't sever ties with me in the process. Or hurt herself. Or get herself in a bad situation. She doesn't even know how to drive, so it's not like she even has a car to live out of if she decides to gtfo of the town she's in.

Merman Dylan

08-02-2016, 01:17 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

I don't even have the knowledge or resources to start a petition. Our governor ignores petitions too, so I don't know. I try to do what I can like cleaning up the trash and stuff. I just can't do much.

I also have another thing to vent. I tried to engage with someone that was against the Splash remake that's going to feature a merman as a main character and the point of view of the story. The movie will be done through Disney, and I think it will be awesome. I understand the desire to leave classics alone, but with the pov swap and gender bending with a different studio making the movie. I think it will be awesome. I believe the original writer for the movie is wanting to do this, and as a writer myself, however novice, would want to rewrite a story and tell it in a different way because the story isn't ever finished. I just hate how people are so adamant about saying this is a bad movie. They are literally convincing themselves that it's so bad before it even makes it into theaters. It really hits close to home for me because I didn't have any iconic mermen to aspire to be, and being a merman was so outside the norm, I never felt comfortable doing what I wanted to do. It's just so upsetting to see people against something like this. Splash is a classic, but what's so wrong with remaking it with a twist like this.

PearlieMae

08-02-2016, 01:45 PM

snip...I also have another thing to vent. I tried to engage with someone that was against the Splash remake...

Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.

Why bother engaging these people? Let the movie speak for itself!

Merman Dan

08-02-2016, 01:46 PM

...with the pov swap and gender bending with a different studio making the movie. I think it will be awesome.

Technically speaking Touchstone Films (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Touchstone_Pictures), which produced Splash, was still a division of Disney. "Touchstone Films was started by then-Disney CEO Ron W. Miller on February 15, 1984 as a label for their PG films with an expected 3 to 4 movies released under the label. Touchstone's first film was Splash..."

Mermaid Whisper

08-02-2016, 01:52 PM

I found out that I probably can't go to the meetup since my ride is not coming through [emoji22] it was going to be my first swim and everything. I've had this tail since the start of May.

My dad keeps yelling at me and getting angry. I keep having dreams that I'm forced to move out and I'm living in a car or a really bad motel. I don't have enough money to make it out there on my own, and my dad doesn't seem to understand that I'm developmentally disabled and probably can't do it alone. I'm terrified.

Trying so hard not to go back to self-harm because one of my customers asked me if I got stabbed. It's a big long scratch across my hand.

I think I'm getting really depressed again, and I can't do this anymore. *sigh*

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Merman Dylan

08-02-2016, 01:55 PM

It seems these days that everything belongs to one big company, but it's good to know.

I don't want to spend time trying to convince people to think like I do, but I also would appreciate it if I could be happy about something without being told that it's bad. I don't know why I bothered, but I'm worked up now. I don't think it was worth it.

I still think this is a good thing for mermen.

Merman Dan

08-02-2016, 02:04 PM

I still think this is a good thing for mermen.

Absolutely! With a new incarnation of Splash, a new Little Mermaid movie (Chloë Moretz), Freeform's "The Deep", and loads of mermaid-themed novels in production it's a good time to be a mermaid or merman! :) (and I still want to write a story about Harold, the Little Merman)

TheSaltySiren

08-02-2016, 02:31 PM

So sorry to hear you are going through a rough time, and it is always difficult when family members refuse to accept you have a disability. Chin up Whisper :) Storms are what make good sailors :)

Shimmer Mermaid

08-02-2016, 04:23 PM

I don't get it.

His leg has been closed and completely fine for 2 months now.

Why now? While I'm dealing with my father's passing?!?!?

My sister made the joke that Dad is trying to take our best horse with him.

I feel Like that was an accurate joke.

Dont have the money, time, energy, or emotion to deal with this right now. 😣

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Mermaid Tuwala

08-02-2016, 04:35 PM

I came here to bitch about ups shipping but so many of the things I read here are infinitely worse. I am so sorry you are all dealing with so much right now *hugs all*

Merman Dylan

08-02-2016, 04:49 PM

loads of mermaid-themed novels in production it's a good time to be a mermaid or merman! :) (and I still want to write a story about Harold, the Little Merman)

Maybe I'll get my story finished and after a while it will become a new original movie.

Mermaid Mystery

08-02-2016, 10:26 PM

I witnessed a total stranger's death today. I'm on vacation.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-03-2016, 12:04 AM

Everyone us having such a hard time.

Sending liberal hugs to all!

Shimmer Mermaid

08-03-2016, 03:05 PM

Trazon is at the vet. He's staying for a week, $2000 vet bill. I don't know how we are going to afford this.

I don't want my husband to have to sell either one of his horses, especially not the mule my dad gave him before He passed, but the mule is smaller and older.

The vet said starting a GoFundMe for him would be a good idea given the circumstances, And I would do anything for my husband and our horses, but I know how some people look at GoFundMe......

If we weren't trying to cover funeral bills, and burial costs, it wouldn't be a big deal to cover everything, but everything is happening at one time.

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Little bit of a side note: we couldn't get him to step into the stand shoot (a little thing to keep the horse still for wound cleaning-it's really just a tiny stall made of bars)
So I had my dads old friend who went with me to get into my bag and grab a honey bun.

I had to bribe my husbands horse.
With a damn honey bun. 😓

Sabrina the Selkie

08-03-2016, 03:11 PM

Hug, Shimmer. Hug hug hug.

Do a GoFundMe. I'm so broke it's not even funny, but if I wasn't, I'd donate. And that means other people would donate. People who can.

PearlieMae

08-03-2016, 03:57 PM

Yes, start a gofundme. I'll donate, and I'll share it on my social media.

Any woman who just happens to have a damned honey bun in her bag is aces in my book.

:hug:

Sammi the Sleepy Mermaid

08-03-2016, 04:08 PM

I guess I can't complain much anymore but thought I'd shine somewhat happiness. I've had the same car since my 16th bday. I'm 25now. This car has been through so much and ive made so many memories with it. It's gotten me to work, job interviews, my photo locations, traveling to see loved ones, to school, etc. But this car has also been a life ruiner. Idk how but it pops more tires than all my friends combined. I've been stuck out at midnight and in the rain BC of my tire... or I've been late to work 6 times b of tire issues. I even missed my photo final and failed BC of a popped tire (couldn't take it another time. It wasn't allowed). The wiring harness caught fire one time going to work. I've had several overheating issues, turn signal issues, and then my horn goes out. The only reliable thing on that car were the breaks! I can't go over 50mph in it or it will start to shake. My shocks went bad randomly and recently... the started kicked the can. I had to ride my bike (not complaining... it was nice just 101° weather) from my hair appointment last Saturday. I got the started fixed today at $350 and driving it 3-4hours away back to my parents so they can do what they want with it and then its out of my life forever!!!! I've never been so excited to see my car being towed off or the $350 being handed over fod it getting fixed. I'm not getting a new car, but a co-worker of mine is selling his to me for cheap, it's in good condition, and he's allowing me to do payments on it with no down payment.

The biggest burden of my last 9 years is about to be lifted off my shoulders and I can not express how overly joyed I am! So, in a sense... I've complained enough the last 9 years about this car and I'm just happy I'm finally breaking up with it lol

JayJ79

08-03-2016, 05:26 PM

I'll admit that I sometimes roll my eyes at some crowdfunding posts I see, if it is something trivial or the result of the person's irresponsibility. (however, even then, I just scroll on past instead of raising a stink about it). However, there are plenty of situations where posting a crowdfunding link is perfectly acceptable, especially situations like these, dealing with funeral expenses, pregnancy expenses, and veterinary expenses. I'm certainly willing to donate.

Mermaid Lilium

08-03-2016, 05:57 PM

I'd donate in a heartbeat too, so you might as well try. Even if it doesn't cover everything it might help :)

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Dolphin Man

08-03-2016, 07:59 PM

I feel in some sense, my life goals have passed me. I'm 40 and grew up with a Yale-MIT graduated single mom, but grew up poor. Without the finances, I wasn't able to move off to start a new CA life after graduation. This past year, I've been anticipating a custom tail, and since then been restructured out of a low paying job. I've never made more than $12 per hour. It's tough to find work. I've been also working all this time on improving my screenwriting so I could become a professional. Sometimes, I wish I'd get recognition for sticking with my mom (age 83 & homebound), giving her comfort and financial help.

suzanne86

08-03-2016, 08:04 PM

Dolphin Man — You can reap all the physical benefits of monofin swimming without an expensive tail. Can that be satisfaction enough?

Shimmer Mermaid

08-03-2016, 08:07 PM

https://m.gofund.me/2hw58n9t is the link to the page. I feel like the description is a little all over the place, but I think I got the gest of what I'm trying to say out.

I love you guys so much, I told my husband about people wanting to donate and he started crying at work-cue his coworker saying he wanted to donate as well.

The love and support we are getting right now is so over whelming. ❤

Dolphin Man

08-03-2016, 08:40 PM

Thanks, Suzanne. The tail has already been made. It's being painted. What I've been more concerned about is wishing I could use it as a profession. I've thought about moving to another state and... well, it's fantasy at this point.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-03-2016, 10:26 PM

Hugs, everyone.

Got contacted by my future roommate. I was kinda planning on winging it on move in day, when we would have no choice but to get along. But she emailed me, so I wasn't gonna not respond.

Gave her my Facebook direction. Realized how.... radical... my Facebook page is.

It's all politics and mermaids and feminism and tarot and Paganism and OH MY GODS I HOPE I DIDN'T PUT THIS GIRL OFF.

Same for my personal Instagram, which I also gave her.

Mermaid Whisper

08-03-2016, 11:09 PM

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Mermaid Arabella

08-04-2016, 10:31 AM

Oh Whisper, I'm so sorry. I wish I were there to give you real hugs (and a ride to the pool) but don't hurt yourself over the horrible things other people do. No one else is worth your safety and health. You are a beautiful and sweet mer, and we are all here for you, even if only virtually. Please message me if you ever need to talk. I can even give you my number if you need someone to text or call. :hug:

Shimmer Mermaid

08-04-2016, 07:53 PM

My Aunt and several other family members have voiced their opinion on the horse situation.

It was my sister's horse that kicked Trazon and started this entire mess.

My sister moved in with our uncle, who gave her the horse.

Everyone feels like since it was her horse that did it, purposely, THROUGH A FENCE she should have the responsibility of paying for the vet costs-she has far more money than we do right now, as our uncle is *ehem* pretty set financially.

Everyone agrees that it wasn't my or my husbands fault- as we said we should put him down with my older gelding, who is honestly too lazy and fat to do anything to hurt another horse.

My sister told my dad when we first got him that we should put him in the front lot next to her horses, so "everyone"-including her- could mess with him. My dad was worried about him getting kicked, and didn't think her horse would purposely kick through the fence so he said to put him there.

I know it's a lost cause to ask them at all, but I agree with everyone.

I'm having a hard time getting donations on the gofundme page, and nobody wants to share it.

I honestly have no clue what to do.

JayJ79

08-04-2016, 08:22 PM

You should definitely ask them to help with the costs, and if possible, get your Aunt and other family members to chime in to them that they should help.

Shimmer Mermaid

08-04-2016, 08:24 PM

We were trying to subtly trying to get the point across by all of us kind of joking around about it in front of them, and they laughed and went "ahhhhaha no"

Hydra1337

08-04-2016, 08:37 PM

Wow.

JayJ79

08-04-2016, 08:38 PM

I would be surprised if a small-claims court judge wouldn't rule in your favor in this matter.
of course, the stress, hassle, and time-consumption that it takes to go through the court system may negate any financial benefit even if you did win the case (plus the effect that taking a relative to court has on the familial dynamic).
(and my knowledge of the legal system pretty much consists of Judge Judy/Peoples Court episodes that I've seen at my dads house. heh)

it sucks that some of your relatives are such jerks sometimes.

Shimmer Mermaid

08-04-2016, 08:43 PM

It would rule in my favor, but taking them to court over it would be tolling.

Both know common courtesy laws when riding horses in a group, or having your horses around others horses, if your horse hurts someone else's horse, it's your responsibility.

But I guess they think when it comes to family it doesnt apply

PearlieMae

08-04-2016, 08:49 PM

Just donated and shared the link on Facebook. I'll tweet it, and instagram it.

It sounds like your sister, and other members of your family are real assholes. :mad:

Shimmer Mermaid

08-04-2016, 08:52 PM

❤ thank you so much Pearlie.

And I hate to say it, but I've got a family full of them.

There's a few really great, genuine family members, but not enough to make people change their minds about our family name. 😕

Mermaid Lilium

08-05-2016, 06:03 AM

I will be donating shortly, just need to remember when I get on my laptop cause it's easier to do through that x_X

Why don't you point out, without joking or giving them leeway, the general common courtesy rules with horses. Basically tell then they should at least contribute to be fair and decent people and decent horse owners. Tell them about the go fund me and tell them they can at least go chip in on there even if they seemingly can't do the decent thing of covering all your costs.

Give them wiggle room and they'll wiggle out of it. Be straight to the point.

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Mermaid Clara

08-05-2016, 10:20 AM

My dad had to take my mom to the hospital last night. She has some sort of hernia and it's super serious and she's getting surgery this morning. She was in so much pain yesterday she was throwing up. I'm not upset about her, I'm just kinda upset that my dad didn't bother to try and call me. All he did was text me and be like "I'm at the hospital in Roseville with your mom". Couldn't you have called my work and try to get a hold of me? I'm not a child, I have a right to know what's going on. He didn't even bother to wake me up last night when he got home and tell me what was wrong with my mom. He woke me up this morning as he was leaving and said I have to go. He wasn't even going to tell me what what wrong with her until I asked him. All he said was that she had some sort of hernia that was serious and needed surgery and left.

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Mermaid Clara

08-05-2016, 05:14 PM

My mom is out of surgery and she has to stay in the hospital for 4-5 days, because it was a major surgery and took 3 hours. They had to cut off part of her intestine and make a 6 inch incision.

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Hydra1337

08-05-2016, 06:11 PM

She'll be in my thoughts. Please keep us updated.

Becoming_A_Mermaid

08-05-2016, 07:41 PM

I feel like what I'm upset over is so little and stupid compared to other peoples problems, but its just frustrating! I'm making a tail and the fluke is taking 3 times more silicone than I thought it would. On top of that while pouring one half of my fluke my mom broke the mold(Again), she tried to patch it quickly with clay but I'm not sure If the fluke will even be useable, which means more silicone that I have to buy. And I gave myself a budget for this tail but the amount of silicone I need would put me way over budget, and I honestly just want to give up but my parents always joke about how I give up on everything!! I could've bought a basic silicone tail with all the money I've already spent but I stupidly decided I would make it myself! And I leave for college in a week and a half....... there is no possible way of getting my tail done in time..........

Sabrina the Selkie

08-05-2016, 07:53 PM

Your mom's in my thoughts!!!

And also, good luck, Becoming_A_Mermaid. Leaving for college in just about three weeks, so I have oodles of sympathy.

Mermaid Clara

08-05-2016, 10:52 PM

Going to see my mom tonight and bring her the stuff she needs, I'm just waiting for her to call.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-05-2016, 11:04 PM

Good luck, Kelly. Always hard when your mama is in the hospital.

Mine went through a hysterectomy when I was fifteen, which meant nearly three months of me doing all of the running to and from her work while she tried to work from home.

The next year, she had a hip replacement. Which was almost better.

Last year, she had her gall bladder removed during the two days I was home between a summer school trip and visiting a long distance friend. I was away for most of her recovery, but still.

It's hard, esp. because I was usually in the position of being her nurse, helping with her job, going to my work, and trying to finish high school.

I'm worried. Because it's been almost one big surgery a year throughout high school.

I leave for college in a month. So. What's she gonna do? She fell off a horse a while ago, and while her shoulder is almost better, I still have to dress her in the mornings and undress her at night on the really bad days.

The point is Kelly, I have empathy in abundance. Stay strong, be the rock she needs, but don't forget to take care of you, also.

MermaidSasha

08-05-2016, 11:26 PM

So 2016 is turning into a pretty bad year for my in-laws and my husband :(

Back in May my husband's grandfather passed away. He was extremely close to his grandfather, the whole family was. So when he passed away it really took its toll. Since then my mother in law has had many issues. Her husband has cataracts, their hot water tank recently broke, money is tight and then tonight's bombshell. An Aunt we were all close to passed away. The doctors tried to bring her back around but it didn't take :( My husband has left the house to go be with his mother and to help her through this.

Really hoping the year starts to look better from this point :(

Little_Orca

08-06-2016, 01:15 AM

People have questioned why I don't speak up about things; why I keep my head down and just keep going and don't make waves. Well, home and work have reinforced that complaining, even when it's the right thing to do, does no good.

I am so upset and hurt and I cannot hash open wounds right now, as I am too exhausted to get into much detail, but I was cheated out of a fair work review (I was given all 3's and 4's) despite my work having improved noticeably (says so on the sheet) from where I was a year ago (Yet, a year agout I had all 4's and 5's.) Why? Politics with the facility. This way it is easier for them to fire someone (not me, just in general) if all their scores are low, so every employee now gets low scores.. ya know, just in case...

I've been with this company for four years, and over that time we got (BS) raises of about 1%... we literally one year got 1 penny as a raise. So, I find out that everyone with my job title is getting a $1-$2 raise and I am super excited. This will help me move out and save up and so on... then I find out I don't get that raise. All the others do, but not me... why? I am already paid more because of my master's degree. So, while everyone gets that "experience" raise, I get... like 10 cents... because I've learned nothing working here for four years (*sarcasm.*)

Finally, I try to talk to my mother about something that bothered me at home. What do I get? "I understand how you might feel that way, BUT..." A complete disregard for my real feelings and just some peaceful words that then turn everyone I was talking about into evidence that I am not contributing anything to the house. ... Because I was unhappy about doing dishes that were not mine and the condescending manner in which I was "thanked" by another member of the household.

My only hope, now, is that I get a better job so I can get out of where I am and move on.

Little_Orca

08-06-2016, 01:19 AM

Sometimes none of this feels worth it anymore.

Mermaid Whisper

08-06-2016, 01:27 AM

Sometimes none of this feels worth it anymore.

It's all worth it, I promise. I've struggled for 19 years, and it hasn't gotten better yet. I'm still waiting for that "someday" when I'm a normal adult with a house and a car and not an autistic and suicidal teenager.

But here's the thing: it's worth it because it's no one's life but yours. Go out and chase your dreams. Bring them to life. Do what you love, and people who love you will come.

You have inspired me, both as a heavier mer and as a person, from the very first time I saw the video of you swimming in that black tail. Your motto of "To thine own mermaid be true," was written on my binders from 10th grade to college.

Every time I had my heart broken, when I was insulted or hurt or when I lost the only boyfriend I've ever had, I've come back to mermaids, to MerNetwork, to you. I couldn't do all this without you.

Of course it's worth it. Even if no one else is there at the end of the night, I'll still care about you and hope that you're well.

All my (mer)friendly love *hugs*

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BubbleNeon

08-06-2016, 02:34 AM

School starts soon, and it's driving me crazy. I don't want to deal with all the awkward social situations, and lack of sleep. Worst of all, when I try to talk to people about it, they tell me I'm being lazy. They don't understand that my anxiety and insomnia makes school about a million times worse. Uuuugh. Sometimes the struggle is too real. Right now I'm just grumpy about it, but soon the anxiety will kick in. Why can't we all just have personal tutors?????????

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BubbleNeon

08-06-2016, 02:58 AM

Sometimes none of this feels worth it anymore.
Wow ok. Prepare for fangirl moment. But. You. Are. Awesome!

And I've got two reasons. (At least I'm only going to share two, but there are millions of reasons.)

1 I love your videos. To be completely honest, your videos kinda pushed my into my mermaids obsession. Your tails are gorgeous, and you just always seemed like a kind, fun person.

2 Anyone who is still alive today, pushing through trials, and who is kind, is my hero. You've made it so far!

Life SUCKS but that's what makes it good. People are going to go through struggles, but if we've made it this far, we can make it father.

In the end, there's always a silver lining. Even if your story is a tragedy, there's going to be amazing moments. Wonderful, stupid, joyful moments. If we have to live for those moments, then fine. We cannot give up.

If you need a day, take a day, but then get up and do something new.

I don't care if it's ditching your phone for a day, or walking all day. Make plans, change things up, that's the BEST way to get those joyful moments.

Please stay strong.

Because you ARE strong.

"We must try not to sink beneath our anguish, but battle on"

Anyways, thanks for making it this far, because it makes you an inspiration to me.

<3

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-06-2016, 08:00 PM

Yaaas, BubbleNeon!!!!

Shimmer Mermaid

08-06-2016, 09:45 PM

This has been such a hard year on everyone, and everyone is going through such times right now, it only makes me believe more that something amazing is just waiting around the corner for us all.

We already have almost $200 towards the $2000 for Trazon on our go fund me, granted I don't know if we will have it before Wednesday so I can pay it all right there (but if I did, you could expect a video of me shoving the money on the table like a boss and saying "BOOM-MERMAID MAGIC!"(and also a probably very emotional video thanking everyone and crying and saying words nobody can make sense of))

But I'm very hopeful for all of us.
I've never felt so optimistic in my life, but We are all a huge team, and like a big finned family, and if we band together though everything, it's been proven we can make waves.

I also wish I could send you all some baby shower cake. 💙

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160807/172b3200fd00546dd423b8f9b79548f1.jpg

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Little_Orca

08-06-2016, 09:51 PM

I also wish I could send you all some baby shower cake. 

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gofundme.com/2hw58n9t

*Licks screen repeatedly.*

Sabrina the Selkie

08-06-2016, 09:51 PM

That looks like a delicious cake indeed

Shimmer Mermaid

08-06-2016, 09:52 PM

😂😂😂😂 I just got the notification with no context except "*licks screen repeatedly*"

Mermaid Clara

08-07-2016, 04:20 PM

Mom has had a set back today. She has a chemical imbalance and they can't figure out what is causing it. It's making her very disoriented and making her shake really bad. Her organs are having difficulty getting back together their original state before the hernia and the surgery.

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-07-2016, 10:37 PM

Oh no. *hug*

Mermaid Whisper

08-08-2016, 02:08 AM

I'm actually really happy tonight (for once!), but I'm going to share some love :)

Things have been tough on you all, and I wish I could just pull everyone in for a worldwide hug, but my arms aren't long enough! *squishes you through screen*

Whatever you're doing today, I know you'll do a fintastic job. I believe in you, I care about you, and I want to see you be happy! Take care of yourself first without pushing others away, because at the end of the night, you're the only one you've got. Eat something, drink water, and hug a furry animal. It'll be okay. You'll make it through.

All my (mer)friendly love.

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Shimmer Mermaid

08-08-2016, 12:53 PM

Panicking because we have until Wednesday before we pick up Trazon, and need to pay. And obviously don't have enough money straight out of pocket. And we even offered to pay my sister and uncle back if they were to help, still nothing, we're trying to sell a kid (and elderly) safe riding and wagon pulling mule to help pay, and I doubt he will sell before Wednesday. I'm so frustrated and stressed.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-08-2016, 12:58 PM

Good luck, Shimmer.

I'll put out a green candle.

Mermaid Clara

08-08-2016, 02:15 PM

My mom is doing better and they moved her out of the icu! The bad thing is that she'll have to be here for a week and the room she's in is right near the nurses' station so it's extremely loud. I feel so bad that she feels bad for having to be in the hospital for my birthday(tomorrow).

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PrincessNymphiaoftheSea

08-08-2016, 11:07 PM

The one thing that really grinds my gears, it's when people try to use you as a fetish object :/ I mean yes I cross dress for my cosplay and mermaiding but it doesn't mean I'll do it in a sexual way.

The gay guys on dating sites I swear give me such a headache.

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Mermaid Clara

08-09-2016, 02:05 AM

I'm dad is such a asshole. Idk what his problem is but can't he at least be nice to me since my birthday is tomorrow? I went to bed around 9pm but I wasn't able to really sleep. I got up because I was hungry(I barely ate today) and he see the two slices of pizza and starts ripping into me saying that I shouldn't be eating so much before bed because it's going to make me gain weight and that "I'm going down a slippery slope" all because I told him that what he said is not true and that his info is extremely outdated. He then starts yelling at me because I "haven't done anything today" and I'll have to do everything tomorrow(my birthday). One mom has been in the hospital and everything she does isn't being done, like sweeping up the dog hair and grocery shopping. I haven't been able to do any of my laundry because I've been working all week these past two weeks. And I didnt put the dishes away because I wasn't feeling well when I got home. He called me when I was at Emily's house screaming at me asking where I was and when I was coming home, because we needed to go visit my mom again. He didn't realize that I wouldn't get home until like 7:30pm and it would be too late to go visit. He doesn't seen to understand that it's harder on me than it is him. First of I care more about her than he does, considering all he does is accuse her of drinking again because he can't stand that she can stay sober for two years. He barely even tries to do what she does to take care of us, he refuses to clean up the dog poo, he refuses to get up and feed and let the dog out in the morning when she needs to, all he did was buy a thing of toilet paper, milk and chips. He's not even bothering to step up and help me do the thing around the house mom normally does. He doesn't seem to accept that I have things to get stressed out about, he's never worked retail and never had anxiety or depression. And he treats those things like their something that shouldn't even bother me and that they're like a nonexistent blip compared "to real life". He's also extremely pissed off at me because I've decided to change my mind and go to school for Fashion Design and keeps telling me that I'll never get a proper job or that it's not a real job and I'll end up homeless and living on the streets. Excuse my language but I'm SO fucking done with everything I can't even fathom having to live and put up with this shit any longer.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-09-2016, 10:57 AM

My dad is exactly like that. Literally. I wanted to be a fashion designer for 10 years, and he told me I'd never make it and that it's not a real job.

I also work retail and have anxiety and depression. I feel for you.

My family was pretty suckish on my birthday, too, which was July 25.

Happy early birthday, Kelly! I'm sorry you have to go through this. We all love you and care about you. I hope things get better!

All my (mer) friendly love.

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MermaidClaudy

08-09-2016, 12:08 PM

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This made my happy today, I hope it brings you joy to :)

Mermaid Clara

08-09-2016, 12:15 PM

Shimmer Mermaid

08-09-2016, 11:32 PM

I have been stressing myself sick, not being able to eat, and when I do eat, it comes back up.

I'm supposed to pick up Trazon tomorrow, and still don't have all the money for his bill.

I asked my sister to ask my uncle if we could borrow the like $1300 we lack, until we sell our palomino mule, which should be in a few days.

She blew me off all day.
I finally got a hold of her and She says "maybe ill ask him "

I only have until like 9 in the morning to get the money, and she could care less. Knowing I've been sick.
Knowing I worked my ass off to try to sell her horse for her because she asked me to, then for her to change her mind the day the horse was supposed to be picked up.
I have put my heart into making sure she's okay, she's happy, she's safe. And she can't ask if we can't borrow money for less than a week.
I would but I don't have his number.

I'm hurt, and pissed, and disappointed because this is not what my dad raised her to be.

Maybe by morning things will start looking up.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-10-2016, 12:23 AM

Oh gods. Whaddajerk.

*hug*

JayJ79

08-10-2016, 04:52 AM

Perhaps some sort of financing plan could be worked out with the vet?

Hydra1337

08-10-2016, 07:39 AM

I wish for the best, Shimmer. Sorry your sister is being such a *&#$.

Mermaid Clara

08-10-2016, 11:52 AM

Not that big of a bitch but I have a 8 hour shift today and I'm really hoping that it'll not be insane.

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MermaidSasha

08-10-2016, 02:19 PM

So this is more of a worry.... My husband's job just laid off 25 people this past week. Luckily he wasn't one of them. But today after work, there are having a shop wide meeting. Hopefully he'll still have a job, we are worried there may be a pay cut though :/

Sabrina the Selkie

08-10-2016, 03:53 PM

Good luck!

Mermaid Whisper

08-10-2016, 06:16 PM

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-10-2016, 06:27 PM

You'll persist, Whisper. Things will straighten themselves out and you'll be able to breathe easier again. Just keep fighting, and keep doing little things that make you happy.

Shimmer Mermaid

08-10-2016, 06:30 PM

Vet is working with me, hopefully we can get the mule sold in a few days to get the remaining $1500 out of the way.

The girls at the vets office fell in love with Tray and didn't wanna give him up.

He also got a pretty little girlfriend while there, poor thing had cancer on her lady parts.

He got loose (because he's an ornery mammoth) and sat outside of her stall until they finally figured out where he went and put him back in his stall.
Then they were very loud and disruptive until the vet decided to just put her in the stall next to him to shut them up.

Both her owner and I felt really bad that he had to leave her. But if she is ever okayed to be put in with other horses and once he is healed-we plan for them to meet again. 😊

His leg looks so good compared to what it was a week ago.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-10-2016, 06:37 PM

That... is the most adorable thing I've ever HEARD.

Hydra1337

08-10-2016, 10:38 PM

He must have felt a lot better since he was horsing around with his new girlfriend. I'm glad the vet is working with you.

The Water Phoenix

08-11-2016, 07:47 AM

My dad found one of our budgies dead [emoji24] I noticed that she wasn't in the cage with the others and dad found her, dead. I was upset because I knew that my sister would be absolutely shattered because it was her budgie. A beautiful little white budgie. It could have been any of our budgies. [emoji22]

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-11-2016, 10:17 AM

That's awful. And budgies are so emotive, too. Its a loss.

*hug*

AniaR

08-11-2016, 02:21 PM

leaving these here for people who might need to read them after dealing with toxic people

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The Water Phoenix

08-11-2016, 06:42 PM

That's awful. And budgies are so emotive, too. Its a loss.

*hug*

Thanks Selkie ❤️ You've always been so supportive of me ❤️

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Mermaid Whisper

08-11-2016, 06:59 PM

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Merman Dylan

08-12-2016, 09:17 AM

My stepfather just screamed at me and made me leave the house because I had the last cheeseburger when his actual daughter wanted it

He just wouldn't stop yelling and I was crying and he kept going

And he told me I should just get over my depression and stop saying I want to die because he's sick of hearing it

And he curses and yells and says I can cut myself anytime I want cause he doesn't care

He's the one that used to grab me and drag me by my arms and my hair and hit me and he left me outside during a hurricane when i was 16

He let my mom hurt me for 10 years and even helped her with it because he thought it was "the right thing to do"

I just want it all to stop I want to leave here but I only make $200 a week I just want to die

I'm sorry everyone

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Whisper, I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling. I know what it's like to feel overwhelmed. I've never been in your exact situation, but my bipolar turn my life upside down. I know it's not the same, but I know what it feels like to feel powerless. When my bipolar hits, my emotions are so strong that they override all logic. I've felt depression, sadness, anger, and many other emotions. Not long ago, I unfriended everyone on Facebook except for family because I literally shifted from anger to tears while I drove home to feeling better. The shifting of emotions has always taken a lot out of me. My mood swings create rifts between me and everyone around me. My mood swings from last year turned me into a monster against the mercommunity, and I still can't forgive myself for that. There are literally tons of mers I may never have a chance to be friends with on Facebook because of how much I struggle. It hurts being alone. It hurts to feel isolated. Sometimes I'm afraid to be open about my disorder because people who do mass shootings like at pulse regularly get labled Bipolar or with a mental disorder. For people that have it, I honestly believe they do more harm to themselves than what they could ever do to someone else. I'm sorry you are having a hard time, but you will get through. Keep your eyes on a new day. Have faith that things will get better and take advantage of the calm when it comes. There are programs out there that I know can help you with this. I don't know what they are. If you have any friends you can bunk with, I would say give them a call. Remember to take care of yourself. You are stronger than what you are struggling with. Not everything will go well. You'll make mistakes as you find your way out of this. You will have a hard time from time to time. Just don't give up faith, believe in yourself and I know things will get better. I know it's hopeless, but you have to keep fighting. The best way to fight is to not feed into what is hurting you the most. I know you can do it. You are stronger than you know.

Mermaid Whisper

08-13-2016, 01:00 AM

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Mermaid Whisper

08-13-2016, 01:01 AM

Whisper, I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling. I know what it's like to feel overwhelmed. I've never been in your exact situation, but my bipolar turn my life upside down. I know it's not the same, but I know what it feels like to feel powerless. When my bipolar hits, my emotions are so strong that they override all logic. I've felt depression, sadness, anger, and many other emotions. Not long ago, I unfriended everyone on Facebook except for family because I literally shifted from anger to tears while I drove home to feeling better. The shifting of emotions has always taken a lot out of me. My mood swings create rifts between me and everyone around me. My mood swings from last year turned me into a monster against the mercommunity, and I still can't forgive myself for that. There are literally tons of mers I may never have a chance to be friends with on Facebook because of how much I struggle. It hurts being alone. It hurts to feel isolated. Sometimes I'm afraid to be open about my disorder because people who do mass shootings like at pulse regularly get labled Bipolar or with a mental disorder. For people that have it, I honestly believe they do more harm to themselves than what they could ever do to someone else. I'm sorry you are having a hard time, but you will get through. Keep your eyes on a new day. Have faith that things will get better and take advantage of the calm when it comes. There are programs out there that I know can help you with this. I don't know what they are. If you have any friends you can bunk with, I would say give them a call. Remember to take care of yourself. You are stronger than what you are struggling with. Not everything will go well. You'll make mistakes as you find your way out of this. You will have a hard time from time to time. Just don't give up faith, believe in yourself and I know things will get better. I know it's hopeless, but you have to keep fighting. The best way to fight is to not feed into what is hurting you the most. I know you can do it. You are stronger than you know.

thank you so much [emoji170]

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PearlieMae

08-13-2016, 10:24 AM

I echo Dylan's sentiment, Whisper. I wish there were a way to get you out of that environment! Your father is being abusive and the drinking makes him a real danger. Can you speak with someone in social services that might be able to help with your situation?

Mermaid Whisper

08-13-2016, 10:44 AM

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Mermaid Aria

08-13-2016, 01:17 PM

He's my stepfather and I'm 19 [emoji22] there's no one who can help me. I don't have the money to live on my own, and I don't have the life skills, either. I'm trying to get a car so I can live in it if I have to, but I only have a learner's permit, since he won't take me out driving.

I just don't know what to do...he makes me so depressed and angry, but I don't have anyone else...I have no friends as I'm autistic, and my family is either dead or addicted to alcohol or drugs. Every one of them.

I'm really sorry for dumping this on everyone...

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Man I wish I was just a little closer to you so we could hang out. My dad treated me similiarly minus the drinking and I found the best thing to do was just get out of the house. Its been better since I graduated college and moved out of state with my boyfriend, but I'm still new here and don't really know anyone execpt my boyfriend and a few new coworkers/undergrads I am in charge of. I would just come pick you up all the time like my friends did for me before I could drive. It definitely gets better once you can get some space between you. It was defintely roughest for me from the time I was 18 until 21. Just hang in in there, as annoying as it might be to hear people say that sometimes, it is true and helped me hang on during the rough times, knowing that if I stayes strong and didn't give in things would improve in time.

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PearlieMae

08-13-2016, 01:47 PM

He's my stepfather and I'm 19 [emoji22] there's no one who can help me. I don't have the money to live on my own, and I don't have the life skills, either. I'm trying to get a car so I can live in it if I have to, but I only have a learner's permit, since he won't take me out driving.

I just don't know what to do...he makes me so depressed and angry, but I don't have anyone else...I have no friends as I'm autistic, and my family is either dead or addicted to alcohol or drugs. Every one of them.

I'm really sorry for dumping this on everyone...

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You don't need to apologize, and I do wish you'd stop wishing you would die.

Contact your local Youth and Family Services office (call the health department, they will steer you in the right direction. Just because you're 19 doesn't mean you don't qualify for assistance. This is a case of domestic violence and there are people and services that can assist you...and though it might sound rude, but this could also be the one time your autism works in your favor, as far as getting you out of there. You cannot live in a car. Start researching social services. Make calls. Get the Hell away from him. If you truly fear for your life, you can get away from him. Get a restraining order. You might be put in a women's shelter, but it sounds better than where you are. :hug:

mermaid_selene

08-13-2016, 02:56 PM

I'm so angry right now. i was swimming in the middle of a 20 foot lake and all of the sudden it starts down pouring and then i realized that my phone was on the chair. so i swam back and my phone is slightly better but i can only use speaker on my phone when i call and when i take pictures they come out landscape, finger print access doesnt work, my phone apps turn landscape unless i keep the rotation lock on so this is really annoying because i just got this phone a couple of months ago and i have to pay for a new one or go back to my iphone 4.

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PearlieMae

08-13-2016, 03:04 PM

http://www.instructables.com/id/How-To-Rescue-A-Wet-Phone/

Shimmer Mermaid

08-13-2016, 04:16 PM

He's my stepfather and I'm 19 [emoji22] there's no one who can help me. I don't have the money to live on my own, and I don't have the life skills, either. I'm trying to get a car so I can live in it if I have to, but I only have a learner's permit, since he won't take me out driving.

I just don't know what to do...he makes me so depressed and angry, but I don't have anyone else...I have no friends as I'm autistic, and my family is either dead or addicted to alcohol or drugs. Every one of them.

I'm really sorry for dumping this on everyone...

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I second everything everyone is saying.

You can't live in a car, and if that sounds better than staying there, then you need to contact someone.
I've had to stay in a women's home, and I know it sounds scary, but it is far better than staying in a toxic environment.

I actually met some wonderful women who have helped me even after I left the shelter. People will make sure you are safe there, and can actually help get you started on the path to independence.

Mermaid Clara

08-13-2016, 06:13 PM

Back to school season sucks! People are savages and love to ruin nicely folded clothing or destroy the clean fitting rooms. If everyone could just work in retail for a month or two then they would be such assholes. Also I closed last night so I didn't get home until 11:30pm and then I woke up to come back to work at 7am. I'm beyond exhausted.

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TheSaltySiren

08-13-2016, 07:26 PM

Well actually you can live in a car..I have done it.

Whisper, you stepfather is being very abusive. My stepfather was the same, and as we are both autistic I can understand the terror you are going through. If I lived closer my wife and I would come get you and you could live with us. The only thing I can say is that we will be in Ohio in September for a couple of months and you are more than welcome to come stay with us.

Don't give up, I know it can be hard, but keep fighting through. Big Hugs!!!!

Merman Dylan

08-13-2016, 09:16 PM

I'm not personally upset so much as I am curious about this. How many people know Allen Sherod? I think he sells stuff at a lot of mermaid events, but lately, I've noticed he has a ton of extremely hateful and racist stuff he's posting on his Facebook page. I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to make such an inquiry, but what I saw was really disgusting. He even attacked a female Muslim American fencer that didn't win gold. I mean, who does that?

Merman Dylan

08-13-2016, 09:21 PM

I have one more aggravating thing I needed to vent. I had a follower on instagram for a while that liked a lot of my photos. He didn't comment or do anything. I thought his username xtube_boy was strange and looked kinda off to me. I recently decided to google it because he didn't share any pictures. I know why now. Googling his user name took me to links to profile pages to gay porn sites. I'm worried that he could have tried to do something with my pictures, but I don't want to look at his profiles to find out. I blocked him as soon as I found out. Once again, I'm sorry if I'm sharing this in the wrong spot.

Mermaid Whisper

08-14-2016, 12:34 AM

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TheSaltySiren

08-14-2016, 09:55 AM

Yes he is being abusive. Abuse isn't just physical, is it also mental, verbal, emotional, etc. And by him saying he loves you etc, is just sick to me. He seems like he is very manipulative and in general a bully. I would honestly report him if he starts acting up at you again.

As for your money, Hide it! Anywhere that they won't look.

Mermaid Momo

08-14-2016, 01:31 PM

Shimmer Mermaid

08-14-2016, 03:15 PM

Watching my husband cry because he sold his mule and was watching him drive off=worst thing ever

Merman Dylan

08-14-2016, 07:16 PM

Looking at his profile he seems to be a trump supporter and they aren't really known to be the most post segregation people lol.

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That's good to know. I had to block him because his posts were so bad to look at. I tried to defend Muslims once on one of his racist posts, and he threatened to beat me up. I was tempted to go to shark con to send him a message that he can be hateful, and I will still enjoy the event since I'd imagine he would be there. However, I decided to just drop the issue. We had to decide between shark con and the aquarium anyways. There wasn't enough time for both, and me, my mom, and my sister agreed that out of the two places we wanted to go see the aquarium instead. I never let a bully stop me from doing what I enjoy.

MermaidBonnie

08-16-2016, 10:11 AM

This is sad to hear about Allen. He and Barbara have always been kind to me. We are not FB friends so I have not seen his posts. Florida is typically a red state for two reasons: the no income tax attracts the wealthy who vote red usually and second bc it attracts the elderly who have a larger voter turnout and also vote red. I have Muslim friends, black friends, and Latino neighbors who are proud Trump supporters and I don't judge them. They are wealthy and will vote red no matter who is leading the party, but they are not hateful people. Anyways, I'm just saddened and shocked to hear this about such a kind person. Sigh.

Shimmer Mermaid

08-17-2016, 11:06 AM

Ever since my dad passed, my sister has just up and left, no calls, no texts, no visiting, nothing. Its like dad was the only thing making her a decent person.

Me and my husband have been having to care for her horses because she's been gone for 3 weeks now, and has yet to come take care of them or pick them up.

I won't see them starve, but I'm not going to spend our money that we're already having trouble with because of her not taking responsibility for her horse, to take care of her horses, only for her to turn around and pick them up when she feels like it.

I feel bad that I see us having to call the state to have them either have her pick them up, or take them and rehome them.

Her horses might've been the one to hurt Tray, but they don't deserve to be abandoned.

Mermaid Whisper

08-17-2016, 11:15 AM

Aw, I'm sorry, Shimmer :hug:

I think rehoming them would be a good idea if you're in a tight spot. That way, they could get all the love and attention they deserve, and you won't be stretched so thin with expenses.

My sister abandoned her pet and left him with me, too. He was a betta fish, sure, but he lived another year and a half after I got him because I treated his fin rot and put him in a huge tank instead of his half-gallon one.

I would definitely consider giving them a new home, especially since they hurt your horse and your sister didn't help. I honestly think that if someone abandons their pet like that, they don't deserve to keep it. Someone else will love them so much more.

Just remember that this isn't your fault, and you're doing the best you can. Huge hugs ❤️

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Shimmer Mermaid

08-17-2016, 11:19 AM

I don't know the laws of my state on rehoming them ourselves, or how long she would have to leave them before we could do it alone.
But having the state pick them up (they are on our land) and re home them is the best legal action I think I could take.

PearlieMae

08-17-2016, 11:21 AM

I am so sorry you are going through all this, Shimmer...sorry I haven't been around much, my day job has me up against a really hard deadline. Perhaps Animal Welfare in your state/county can direct you?

Shimmer Mermaid

08-17-2016, 11:24 AM

I'm picking up feed and a new round of medicine for Trazon, then when I get back into town I plan on calling and talking to someone about it. I've tried getting ahold of her to ask if she's going to get them or anything, and I haven't gotten any responses

Mermaid Clara

08-18-2016, 08:52 PM

Reward for the most stupid question over the phone ever goes to this guy:
*Phone at my registers rings*
Me: "jcpenney sunrise mall, how may I help you?"
Man: "do you sell instruments?"
Me: " do we sell instruments?"
Man: "I'm looking for a clarinet"
Me: "honey, this is jcpenney, we do not sell instruments."
Man: "but I saw them online!!!!!"
Me: "hold on let me double check"
*puts guy on hold, uses radio to ask for a supervisor to pick up call on hold*

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telzey.amberdon

08-18-2016, 08:56 PM

http://m.jcpenney.com/ravel-rcl102-clarinet/prod.jump?ppId=pp5006334123&Ntt=Clarinet&Ns=best%20match&N=&page=1 ,sorry but J.C. Penny does sell clarinet s.

PearlieMae

08-18-2016, 09:09 PM

Yup. Maybe only online, though. Back in the day, Penney used to be like Sears and sold everything.

http://m.jcpenney.com/gallery/search?Ntt=Clarinet

Mermaid Whisper

08-19-2016, 01:34 AM

Ah, I worked at JCP on the support team before I started at Ross.

I had a lady ask me where our wedding dresses were. I told her that, as we were a single-floor, mall-sized store, we didn't have any.

"But I saw them online!"

Not every store stocks the same things. Stock is largely based on popularity and open space at Ross, and at JCP, we had an entire room just for backstock. It's not our fault we don't have something!

I must say, though Ross is smaller, they pay better, the people are amazing, and the customers are fascinating and horrifying all at once. /casual advertising

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Mermaid Whisper

08-20-2016, 12:30 AM

tadaaaaaa

Mermaid Momo

08-20-2016, 02:26 AM

Mermaid Mia

08-20-2016, 02:36 AM

Pissy cuz i had to cut off a good chunk of hair because i damaged it so badly. I went from this
http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160820/939470434d2c3d297a06c5b087db3528.jpg

To this
http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160820/f4392154ffd907742f8abdcb637da622.jpg

I wanna cry so bad right now

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Im so sorry momo! The only times i have significantly had to cut my hair were after a gum incident in the 7th grade and straitening damage in highschool. I empathize.
On the up side, you really rock the piggy tails

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Shimmer Mermaid

08-20-2016, 02:58 PM

When your younger sister's friends talk to you more than she does. She still won't reply, call, or come visit any of us. And still has yet to even check on her horses-or ask anyone if they are okay.

Mermaid Momo

08-20-2016, 03:42 PM

Im so sorry momo! The only times i have significantly had to cut my hair were after a gum incident in the 7th grade and straitening damage in highschool. I empathize.
On the up side, you really rock the piggy tails

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Thanks! My hair grew fast last time (if you could believe it that first photo in the collage was taken 4 months after i big chopped which was me cutting off ALL of my hair)

Also reference for how big my puffs used to be
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Mermaid Mia

08-20-2016, 04:48 PM

Thanks! My hair grew fast last time (if you could believe it that first photo in the collage was taken 4 months after i big chopped which was me cutting off ALL of my hair)

Also reference for how big my puffs used to be
http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160820/3b7fdc8d91a338fd5e7deccc7fa69d3d.jpg

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Ok, both your hair AND that outfit are FANTASTIC!!!

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Hydra1337

08-20-2016, 09:52 PM

When your younger sister's friends talk to you more than she does. She still won't reply, call, or come visit any of us. And still has yet to even check on her horses-or ask anyone if they are okay.

Sorry to hear about your situation. :(

Any luck with Animal Welfare in regards to what your options are with the horses?

Mermaid Whisper

08-21-2016, 12:57 AM

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Mermaid Clara

08-21-2016, 01:53 AM

Whisper, don't feel bad for posting all the time. I too have had emotional things going on, I would post a lot on this thread.
As for stress, try meditation or try finding a hobby like sculpting or something you can channel your stress into. Or you can take walks or go running.

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Mermaid Clara

08-21-2016, 02:22 AM

My dad is threatening to kill my cat because she peed on the tile floor. He's saying that if she goes outside the litter box one more time he's going to break her neck and kill her himself. He does nothing but work on his computer all day and do the dishes and sometimes will maintain the backyard. I don't see how he can't help out with cleaning the litter box every now and then. All he does to help out with the pets is feed the cat and let the dog outside. He acts like everyone should help out with taking care of the animals and things around the house, but when my cat pukes or this one time when she peed on the floor she suddenly my cat and will be put down or gotten rid of. On top of all this he's calling me lazy when I ask him why he can't sometimes clean the litter box instead of just covering up her poops. He says that retail is not a hard job and that his job, telling people how to trade stocks, is the hardest job there is. He's sitting in a chair all day, everyday and just because I'm not a full time retail employee my job isn't hard. I'm so sick of his bull$h!t

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Mermaid Whisper

08-21-2016, 09:43 AM

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Hydra1337

08-21-2016, 10:01 AM

I hope you get the room, Whisper. And knitting is a great stress hobby. I knit and crochet, personally.

PearlieMae

08-21-2016, 10:19 AM

Mermaid Whisper

08-21-2016, 10:54 AM

Clean up after your pets. I don't see why that's a thing to bitch about. Yeah, your dads are being jerks, but as you said, it's YOUR cat/dog/rodent.

Retail is cake. Stocks and telecom are highly stressful and hard work, even if all you do is sit at a computer.

I really think some perspective is needed.

Imagine this...you have a job where you have to scoop up vomit all day. When you go home, you have to chase down your cat, give it an injection, clean its bowl, feed it, wash its butt because it's lost bladder control and is covered in piss, you have to force it to choke down a pill for its pain because its tumor is growing by the day and there's nothing you can do. You're in debt to the vet for thousands of dollars already and your cat is going to die.

Cleaning up after a healthy animal every day after standing around helping people buy nice things in an air conditioned store is NOT something to bitch about.

Well, yeah. I totally get what you're saying. My dad's job is very taxing on him. He has conferences and business trips and he's on the phone and the computer at the same time all the time. He's a miracle worker at Sprint. I didn't say his job wasn't hard or stressful. It's just a different type of stress between our jobs and theirs, especially since Kelley and I are 19 or so and our dads have so much more experience being their age.

I do clean up after our pets. My point was that the pets belong to the entire family. Everyone can do whatever they want with them without being concerned about caring for the dogs. I love my dogs.

My guinea pigs were solely my responsibility, and I took fantastic care of them. However, the very nature of guinea pigs is to make a mess, and my dad would tell me that he would throw them out the window if they did it again.

Our air conditioner is broken at Ross.

I do still love all my merfriends ❤️

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Mermaid Whisper

08-21-2016, 10:57 AM

I hope you get the room, Whisper. And knitting is a great stress hobby. I knit and crochet, personally.

Thank you very much [emoji170] I used to crochet in middle school, but I like knitting a lot better!

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Mermaid Aria

08-21-2016, 11:36 AM

Clean up after your pets. I don't see why that's a thing to bitch about. Yeah, your dads are being jerks, but as you said, it's YOUR cat/dog/rodent.

Retail is cake. Stocks and telecom are highly stressful and hard work, even if all you do is sit at a computer.

I really think some perspective is needed.

Imagine this...you have a job where you have to scoop up vomit all day. When you go home, you have to chase down your cat, give it an injection, clean its bowl, feed it, wash its butt because it's lost bladder control and is covered in piss, you have to force it to choke down a pill for its pain because its tumor is growing by the day and there's nothing you can do. You're in debt to the vet for thousands of dollars already and your cat is going to die.

Cleaning up after a healthy animal every day after standing around helping people buy nice things in an air conditioned store is NOT something to bitch about.
I think what they were trying to say is that their dad's make these threats about harming/getting rid of the animals even though they do take care of them. I got a puppy when one summer when I was in college because our other dog had passed away unexpectedly and my family had been going on about they wanted another dog. I took care of him the whole time I was home from college, but he was a puppy so obviously not potty trained. When he would have accidents my dad would swear a lot and say he was gonna take the back to pound, drive him somewhere and leave him, or use him for target practice, even though I always cleaned up after him. He also worked from home and hated it so I think he was taking his anger out on the dog. He would say things like this when he would bark a lot as he got older. On the rare occasions that I wasn't home he wouldn't take the dog out either . I was just like why did you say you wanted another dog if you were going to act like this, since I was leaving for college again he was the family dog. Thankfully my mom and sister and brother took care of him and my dad got a new job and mellowed out.

Sorry for the long rant but I think that's the point that was trying to be conveyed, sometimes you do everything should/can but accidents still happen and they should at least be understanding of that and not make threats.No matter how hard your job is saying you are going to harm/kill is uncalled for.

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PearlieMae

08-21-2016, 12:36 PM

I'm sorry. I was mad this morning. I was late for my chiropractor appointment, shut the door and locked my keys in the house, had to break in, scraped a big gash in my arm to get in, got to the doc and the place was packed because everyone else was late, too. I left without getting adjusted, some guy walking his dog in the middle of the fucking road tells at ME to slow down and I got into a shouting match with him...two days ago, I picked up a cat that was hit by another car and it died in my arms and have been very upset over that, not to mention my day job stress, tailmaking stress, and I have an interview with a television producer Tuesday that I am not ready for.

I took a break to relax a minute and see what was going on here, and when I read "my dad's being an asshole because I'm the only one who cleans up after my cat", I kinda lost it.

I apologize.

PearlieMae

08-21-2016, 12:43 PM

Mermaid Whisper

08-21-2016, 01:14 PM

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Mermaid Aria

08-21-2016, 02:02 PM

PS: When was the last time your dads ever followed through with a threat like that? Like, EVER? If he HAS killed a pet, or taken it back to the pound, etc., then you are living with a dangerous psychopath and should GTFO ASAP.

He is probably tired of having to make all the money to make everyone else's lifestyle possible and is lashing out in frustration.
I'm sorry that you had such an awful day! We all say things we don't necessarily mean when we are angry. I send you lots mer love so that it gets better!

In my situation my dad has never actully done anything besides say awful words that I won't repeat on here and push him off the couch or chair in frustration, but he has gotten violenty angry before. This was related to a number of mental health issues that spring from the way he lost his previous job in conjunction with his naturally bad temper. And yes he did whine about the money, but again he had no reason to as I paid for the dog and all his care as well as all of my own expenses with my work study job. My mom and brother also have their own jobs and pay for the own stuff. The one who didn't was my sister who at the time was like 10, but she does now that she is 16, so he really just pays the bills for the house. Also, never mind that he goes to the casino every night and throws away his money. Like I said, Things are better now, he got a better job, and I've grown up and moved out of state, but he still does this to my mom and sister ocasionally.

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PearlieMae

08-21-2016, 02:30 PM

Again, my apologies, fellow mers...I'll shut up now. :mermaid kiss:

Mermaid Whisper

08-21-2016, 04:22 PM

Again, my apologies, fellow mers...I'll shut up now. :mermaid kiss:

No worries! We still love you :hug:

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Shimmer Mermaid

08-22-2016, 01:15 PM

After 20 days, they are deemed abandoned, and the state can take them. At this point, since we've been the one taking care of them, legally speaking, we could change over all of the paper work, and have them put in our names.

My sister texted last night saying "hey, sorry I haven't talked to you, I've been at deer camp and haven't has signal or internet, yet she has been texting our step mom talking about her chihuahua? And she's been posting on social media? I brought this up and she said "well I had 1 bar of service, and when I went to our cabin I had WiFi."

No mention of her horses or anything of the like.

My husband wants to switch them to our names, find suitable homes with sweet little girls who will play with them and braid their mane and tails and such, and use the money to have the vet do the last sweep of cleansing, flushing, and medications to Tray, because it's just me and my husband flushing it and giving him feed medication, but it's hard for me to get out and flush it while David holds him because I'm on the last 5 weeks of my pregnancy, and I can feel him nudging his way down day by day. I have begun to feel so much pressure that it wouldn't surprise me if I went into labor right now.

I decided that we'll wait until the first of september, and see if she's got them by then, that's when we start setting hay out and really working on getting things ready for winter so it'll be done by Halloween.

I feel like I'm being more than fair?

Mermaid Arabella

08-22-2016, 01:40 PM

Shimmer, you are a paragon of patience. I would already be putting ads out to sell them to someone who will actually give a damn about them.

Mermaid Whisper

08-22-2016, 01:43 PM

You're definitely being more than fair.

I'm sorry that your sister is being this way. I think rehoming the horses is a great idea, and your timeline sounds perfect.

I hope Trayzon gets better as quickly as possible, and that everything goes smoothly with the baby! You're such a kind person and you sound like an amazing sister, even if she doesn't see it. You're doing good things, and you should be proud of yourself for pulling through! [emoji170]

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Shimmer Mermaid

08-22-2016, 01:50 PM

Shimmer, you are a paragon of patience. I would already be putting ads out to sell them to someone who will actually give a damn about them.
The bad part was that both mares had a home together with two little girls who were VERY excited, and as soon as my uncle took her in, she told me she was going to keep them, and that I needed to tell the family to forget it. I told the family the whole situation and offered them to come visit and play with Stormy and Tray and that i would help them look for another set of horses.
They've visited twice, and would be the perfect home.

You're definitely being more than fair.

I'm sorry that your sister is being this way. I think rehoming the horses is a great idea, and your timeline sounds perfect.

I hope Trayzon gets better as quickly as possible, and that everything goes smoothly with the baby! You're such a kind person and you sound like an amazing sister, even if she doesn't see it. You're doing good things, and you should be proud of yourself for pulling through! [emoji170]

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This is what I needed to hear honestly. Ive been feeling like a terrible sister and that's why she stopped talking to me, but my husband has been saying I've been giving her too much patience and forgiveness, and just giving her the ability to walk on me.

Sabrina the Selkie

08-22-2016, 03:24 PM

Oh my gods. I'm gone for ten days and everyone's goes through shit.

Lots and lots and lots of belated hugs!

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Rayne Mermaid

08-22-2016, 04:39 PM

OMG! So I posted a pic on Facebook of my tail design yesterday....Some random chick reposted it and said it was hers,with the "Feeling Blessed" status! I am so mad!! I even wrote to her about it,but she's too chicken shit to respond. Has this happened to anyone else? I'm not even a mermaid yet,and already getting ripped off!!

PearlieMae

08-22-2016, 04:45 PM

Well, now you know to play your cards close to the chest. Report her to Facebook for stealing your intellectual property. Don't post anything you aren't prepared to have stolen.

Rayne Mermaid

08-22-2016, 04:53 PM

Well, now you know to play your cards close to the chest. Report her to Facebook for stealing your intellectual property. Don't post anything you aren't prepared to have stolen.

Lol Yes,Pearlie...Lesson learned the hard way *sighs* Oh well....at least it was only a rendering and not the actual tail. I wont be posting any more about it until Im in it!

Sabrina the Selkie

08-22-2016, 06:53 PM

Ouch. No fun

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Shimmer Mermaid

08-22-2016, 08:17 PM

Sabrina the Selkie

08-22-2016, 08:32 PM

Gaahhhhhhhhhh

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Mermaid Alea

08-23-2016, 12:28 AM

Anyone know how to rephrase "There were some who liked me, there were those who didn't.....
For those of you who didnt, kiss my *insert picture of donkey*"

My dad wanted that exactly on his headstone, and my step mother refuses to put it on there unless we find a "nicer" way to word it, but we still get to use the donkey.

"There were some who liked me, there were those who didn't.....
For those of you who didnt I refer you to my *insert picture of donkey*"

I don't know if that makes it any better.

Mermaid Whisper

08-23-2016, 01:17 AM

My oldest sister told me that if she's not allowed to die, neither am I, so now we have this morbid pact not to kill ourselves.

It's a blessing and a curse.

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-23-2016, 10:24 AM

Keep those oaths, Whisper. None of us want to loose you. Keep the fight, mersister!

And Shimmer. Tell your step-mom to kiss the donkey. His death, his grave, his choice.

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PearlieMae

08-23-2016, 12:06 PM

Give your dad exactly what he wants.

My mom made me promise to put ONLY "Whoops!" on her headstone. She died in October and was cremated, but I'm still getting her a stone...one that says "Whoops!"

Mermaid Whisper

08-23-2016, 02:22 PM

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-23-2016, 02:25 PM

The second job might help. But like Shimmer said, don't be afraid to go to a women's home, if need be.

Also: are there any programs in place to help people on the autism spectrum? I feel like there should be something that can help you GET OUT OF THERE.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-24-2016, 01:44 AM

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Merman Dan

08-24-2016, 01:49 AM

As I make a good bit less than $1,100 a month, I could potentially apply for disability, though I feel like my dad would make me the talk of the town for "mooching off the government" in his near-top tax bracket voice.

Remind him that his tax dollars already go to such programs. Might as well be for someone he knows.

And might I suggest at 1:30am, Oreos are the snack of choice? ;)

Mermaid Whisper

08-24-2016, 01:52 AM

Remind him that his tax dollars already go to such programs. Might as well be for someone he knows.

And might I suggest at 1:30am, Oreos are the snack of choice? ;)

That's a good point. Stop being right all the time, Dan [emoji6]

Oreos are perfection, but I don't have any. Mmm. Just thinking about the mint ones...[emoji39]

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Merman Dan

08-24-2016, 02:02 AM

Yeah, trying to eat veggie sticks and pretend they're Oreos isn't working for me either. ;)

Mermaid Lilium

08-24-2016, 03:09 AM

Every time he is hypocritical, point it out. Maybe he'll learn what an ass he's being.

From personal experience, get out of there even if it's to go stay with a friend til you're set up. Abuse doesn't have to be physical. Mental abuse can be far far worse than physical, and easier for the abuser to hide.

You need to get away, cut him out of your life and never look back.

I've not seen my dad since 2002 and my life is far better for it.

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TheSaltySiren

08-24-2016, 07:15 AM

I don't have anything to do with my stepfather at all. He is a money grubbing, mean old man and after a few years of taking his shit, I up and left.

Don't be scared to admit something is wrong and that he is an abuser. Call him out for what he is, and do not worry about how he may feel. You need total care of yourself first and foremost and stop trying to please everyone else as it is obviously making you miserable.

You don;t need to have loyalty to someone who is a sheer bully. And yes, disability is a great idea. You are not mooching off anyone, you have Autism (like I do) and require help with having enough finances etc, so that you can have a normal life.

As a teen I wanted to make everyone happy and please people, and now at 32 I know that that is not possible. Only people can make themselves happy, it's not your job to do it. Work on yourself, Let people earn your trust and respect. I am happier than ever now and have a gorgeous, caring wife as well. Things do get better, but you must have courage and take the risk.

I could tell you a few tales...

Sabrina the Selkie

08-24-2016, 01:19 PM

Yes. I'm sorry, Whisper. Your step-dad is an abuser and you need to get out of there.

You don't have to tell him that, you don't have to call him on it, but you DO need to leave.

I like to see the best in people too. And that's how I missed for years that a dear friend of mine is a narcissistic butt - just like her emotionally abusive father, and that she was using his tactics against her against me.

It's why I patiently stood by another friend for years, finding her when she went missing, being a sounding board when things were awful.

I didn't realize I really needed to pull away until she went to rehab. And my mom still thinks about when we were six years old and my friend begged my mom to adopt her and get her out of her auntie's house.

But my mom believed the best in her auntie. And now my friend has faced a lifetime of abuse and has become a blood sucking drug addict that I just simply can't help anymore.

You need to get the hell away, Whisper. And who knows if he really sexually assaulted your sister. But we DO know know that he uses mental and emotional manipulation tactics against you and you need to get out.

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-24-2016, 01:23 PM

It's all part of how he was socialized. Being socialized as male is inherently harmful to women. Some men grow up and realize how they use little abuses and do their best to go against their socialization. Others never do and continue to perpetuate the patriarchy. The patriarchy has been instilled in everyone since birth and is inherently violent. Especially towards women. Especially towards women who for whatever reason are incapable of providing for themselves.

You need to get out.

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-24-2016, 01:29 PM

I wish you were near Kettering, Ohio. A friend of mine runs something of an abused women's clinic out of her apartment. Her boyfriend teaches them self defence and martial arts while my friend, A, goes about being amazing giving them a sounding board to talk to, good tea, and herbal remedies for their injuries. She doesn't let them live there, but she lets them come for evenings and occasional overnights (she herself doesn't usually go to bed until six am, so it doesn't interfere with her sleep) and afternoons when she isn't working.

There's also a place in Chicago, where I live, called Anne's Haven, where women can go and have tea and conversation, or quiet time. They can bring their kids, or leave their kids at home. Occasionally a husband or two will sit in. My step-mom is currently working there.

Aparently there are a lot of these along the East Coast. See if you can get yourself to one for a few hours just to talk to other women about life in person. They might make a good sounding board too.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-24-2016, 05:59 PM

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-24-2016, 07:01 PM

Yaaaaay!!!!!

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Mermaid Whisper

08-24-2016, 07:46 PM

[emoji170][emoji170][emoji170] couldn't do it without my merfriends!

My dad said he thought about it, and since I'm not transporting any furniture, he's helping me move!

He's salty, but I think he'll get over it [emoji5]

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-24-2016, 08:09 PM

That's so wonderful! ♡♡♡♡♡

Lots of love!

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Mermaid Whisper

08-24-2016, 08:41 PM

That's so wonderful! ♡♡♡♡♡

Lots of love!

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:blush: feeling all the love tonight! :hug:

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Hydra1337

08-24-2016, 09:17 PM

I'm glad he's helping you move and you're finally getting out of there. Way to go!

Mermaid Summerlilly

08-24-2016, 10:23 PM

ayyyyyyy!! Good for you Whisper!

Mermaid Clara

08-25-2016, 01:01 AM

Well my best friend officially hates me forever. She texted me saying how depressed she was and I was texting her and then she texted me saying that she wanted to hurt herself and she didn't deserve to be beautiful. She wasn't texting me back and wasn't answering her phone and she turned her phone off. I called 911 and they transferred me to the local police department who sent someone out to her place. Turns out she was at her grandmother's house. To make things worse when I texted her earlier I was mean and told her to stop feeling sorry for herself, because she was hung up over this guy who messed with her head. I immediately regretted sending it. She texted me saying she was fine around 9:30ish, I called her but she didn't answer, then she called me back, she's really angry at me. I told her that I really care about her but even though she said she glad that someone cares about her that much I could still tell she was incredible pissed off at me. My parents keep telling me that it was the right thing to do and if I didn't call the police and she had hurt herself I would be feeling even worse. I probably made her roommates incredibly mad at her as well.

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Sabrina the Selkie

08-25-2016, 01:24 AM

It was the right thing to do. I'm sure she doesn't hate you. Even if she is mad.

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moniee

08-25-2016, 05:14 AM

She has to realise she has absolutely no right to be mad at you... you did the right thing as she was threatening with cutting herself, who wouldn't have called 911? I can't get my head around how is SHE the one being mad at YOU. This is wrong.

TheSaltySiren

08-25-2016, 08:43 AM

Just an fyi here, If anyone is vocal about hurting themselves and then hangs up, is usually doing it for attention, Trust me, when you really wanna end your life, you don't tell anyone and do it in secret. Your friends needs to smarten up and has no right to be mad at you. Sounds like mind games to me.

Mermaid Momo

08-25-2016, 02:04 PM

Everyone is dofferent and that goes as far as self harm, some people self harm in secret while others need to confide in someone that they feel they can trust to tell that they do self harm and not to judge them and tell them that they are wrong or cowards for choosing their method of coping. Me personally i have attempted suicide 3 times and each time I have told someone either before hand or while i was waiting for the affects to take hold, it's a combination of a last cry for help and just plain reaching out to someone to talk to and you should NEVER diminish the reason why someone reaches out to you as them just seeking attention and playing mind games with you. NEVER.

And try not to call the police on people, especially mentally ill people or anyone in emotional distress, the police are not trained in dealing with mentally ill people and most of the time an interaction with mentally ill people, even ones who call the police themselfs because they fell they will hurt themselves end in the death of the mentally ill person at the hands of the police. If you're worried about someone, contact another friend who lives close by to drop in on them and check on them.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-25-2016, 02:53 PM

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Mermaid Aria

08-25-2016, 03:07 PM

^^all of that is true. My mother has called the police on me three times and someone online called them once. No one was prepared to deal with me.

In other news, my mother and stepfather are forcing me to stay and made me send my roommate a text that said I can't move in with him.

*sigh*

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How are they making you? I know its hard to not care what your parent's think but if its what you really want then do it! You are a grown adult and can make your own decisions. It took me a long time to realize this but once I did things were so much better. My parents (mostly my dad) gave me such a hard time about moving out but I did it and thought it was rocky immediately things are so much better now. No regrets.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-25-2016, 03:58 PM

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Hydra1337

08-25-2016, 04:06 PM

You need to tell someone if not the police they're threatening you. If you stay the abuse will continue and you'll never be able to leave.

Mermaid Aria

08-25-2016, 04:12 PM

Those threats sound pretty empty. My dad would say stuff like that to me all the time but he never actually did anything but yell and swear. I guess for a while that was enough, but when the time came nothing happened despite those comments.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-25-2016, 04:22 PM

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TheSaltySiren

08-25-2016, 04:28 PM

I'm sorry, You don't think it's abuse? Seriously?

Everyone here is telling you the truth, and it seems like you just wanna ignore it and stay. You need to leave, and they can do nothing to stop you. if you choose to stay, then you are choosing to stay in the abuse and things will never get better.

This is one of those times that my Aspies gets flared up and I am beyond agitated. I cannot stand when people ask for help, and it is given and then they choose to just ignore everything. I know what you are going through is rough Whisper, but you need to have some courage and do what is right by you.

Hydra1337

08-25-2016, 04:31 PM

That's definitely abuse. Get help.

Mermaid Aria

08-25-2016, 04:34 PM

Ok now that seriously sounds like abuse you need to get out of there. Just cut yourself off from them. Move out, and don't have contact with them anymore so they can't treat you like that anymore. Its not right for you to be complacent with that. Do what TheAutisticMermaid says its great advice.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-25-2016, 05:04 PM

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Mermaid Aria

08-25-2016, 05:11 PM

I think that getting that room is the best idea regardless of what your parents think. We care about you and don't want to see you hurt. If you ever want to talk/vent/get out of the house/have mer time/whatever just say the word and I'll give you my contact info. I'm not that far away and will be ready with a listening ear.

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Rayne Mermaid

08-25-2016, 05:12 PM

Autism doesn't come in flares.

What "help" have you given me? Telling me to go to a homeless shelter is utterly useless. I wouldn't make it in one. I can barely take care of myself. I don't have it like your perfect life where autism is just a quirky side effect. It's disabling for me.

I suppose I'm done with MerNetwork for now. I'm sick of Abby jumping all over everything and knowing best. My four years don't mean anything, I guess.

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Don't let her get under your skin Whisper!! I've struggled with being told to go to a shelter as well and there was no way I could do it. I don't have any sort of disability,so that part...I cannot comment on...but I semi understand hunni :) And I sorta agree with you on the "know it all" lol I've seen way too much latley
I wish nothing but the best for you,I'll try to help you in any way I can :)

Shimmer Mermaid

08-25-2016, 05:33 PM

Maternity photos this weekend while my husband is off work, he wants me to wear my hair down for the photos, with either nothing done to it, or straightened because he loves how long it is.

I honestly don't know how I want it, and I'm making a bigger deal out of it than it really is I guess, but these are pictures of a pregnancy I never thought I would get to have....I want it to be perfect.

TheSaltySiren

08-25-2016, 05:44 PM

Never said go to a shelter, I simply have said you need to get out of there. My Autism is not a quirky side effect at all, and cripples me at times, so I find it very offensive that you think that.

I am not trying to jump all over or know best, and like what has four years on the Mernetwork have to do with anything? I am simply trying to give you life advice from a woman who has been in your position. Just like everyone else is.

And as for a "perfect life"? let me fill you in on my current life. My wife and I have been living in our car and couch surfing for the past couple of months due to be in a very bad situation with a roommate. We have had to put our stuff in storage, and survive as best we can. We both have no family to help us, and had to rely on ourselves. And during all of this I am working on my new business. It is hard? Of course? Will it get better? Of course it will. But staying in a situation that is detrimental to your health and well being isn't going to change anything, and until you realize that..No one can help you.

Mermaid Momo

08-25-2016, 09:47 PM

The autistic mermaid, you might want ti research why victims stay in abusive relationships/situations. It's not as simple as "leave". Do some research and let her work through it.

Mermaid whisper, is there any close friends you have that live nearby? A lot of people i know who were in an abusive situation eith either family or significant others planned to move out without telling their abuser. They planned in secret for months or somethimes years to get out with usually the help of a very close friend or 2 to sweep in and help them gather all of their things before the person they are trying to escape returns home. I would tell them i texted him, save up the money for the room and move in secretly, prepare a suitcase of things you can't leave behind and leave with a friend's help when gour family is out for the day. Afterwards you can let them know you're gone, or not and just leave without a word.

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Mermaid Momo

08-25-2016, 09:56 PM

Also no one ever chooses to stay in an abusive relationship unless they have a reason too. Google the hastag #whyistayed. Please educate yourself on emotional abuse situations before you get angry at a victim for what they can't help; a feeling of helplessness and attachment to their abusers (especially parents)

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TheSaltySiren

08-26-2016, 08:57 AM

Just an FYI, I have been in a very abusive relationship, and I do understand how hard it is to leave and why you stay..That's exactly why I am telling Whisper it's abuse and she needs to leave and get help. I just have a hard time when people reach out for help, and everyone gives it but they choose to ignore it,etc. Yes, she needs to leave in her own time, but that should be sooner than later, especially with what she has told us about her stepfather.

And family abuse is different than relationship abuse, so I know it is tough..But her stepdad isn't even blood, and sounds like her mom isn't a huge help. So she needs to help herself and get out. Even if that means taking her things in the night and fleeing to that apartment she had lined up.

Whisper, I apologize if I made you upset or hurt, All I was trying to do was give you some advice from someone who has been there and lived this. I am 32, and have a ton of experience with this and I hate to see someone as young as you struggle.

Little_Orca

08-27-2016, 03:52 PM

My main support at work quit and is moving out of state. I'm swirling in self doubt and thoughts I'm not going to openly talk about here. I've been working hard to pull myself out of this mess, and I get a rude spamming of messages on Instagram because it failed to notify me of a private message. Back into the depths I go.

Mermaid Clara

08-28-2016, 09:37 PM

100% sure my best friend has replaced me with a new friend who's more into the same things as her. I've never felt so alone, my life long family friend has gone away to college, my best friend hates me and replaced me and now I'm all alone. To make things worse she's been posting nonstop on Facebook and Instagram of her and this other friend. I'm probably acting greener than the wicked witch right now, but I'm still beating myself up over what happened. I'm sooooo afraid and embarrassed and upset at myself to call or text her which is probably why she's moved on to this other friend. Just ignore me, I'm feeling sorry for myself.

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Mermaid Whisper

08-28-2016, 10:09 PM

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Mermaid Alea

08-28-2016, 11:45 PM

So I know pretty much all the mers on here are artsy people so I am hoping you get where I am coming from:
I am a graphic design major and while I don't have to spend time studying for tests, I am almost always doing graphic design work for college or for outside projects for more experience. Anyways, sometimes this takes up my whole weekend working on graphic design things (and it certainly takes up some of my weekdays). My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand why it takes me so long to do all of my graphic design assignments. He must think I use it as an excuse not to hang out... I JUST finished my homework from 3 different classes after spending all day working on it (with a few small breaks) and I spent all of yesterday too. So here comes the part I am really mad about...Now he has started 'assuming' that I am too busy to go have fun so when our mutual friends invite us to go do something, they contact him and he doesn't bother inviting me! I always find out a week or more later when one of our friends brings up how much fun they all had doing this or that and I am shocked to find out that I was not included AT ALL! Then they are surprised to know that my boyfriend didn't even fill me in on what happened. I understand sometimes my boyfriend might want to go do stuff with friends without me. I am all for giving him his space when he needs it, but not including me all the time because he 'guessed' that I couldn't go and didn't even bother to ask! It is so easy to call me, text me, etc! I have always felt like I never quite fit in anywhere. My boyfriend knows this. So for him to exclude me really hurts and it has been on my mind lately as it happened again recently.

I have already asked him if he doesn't like seeing me having fun with other people and that isn't it. I have asked him if he doesn't want me there and he says he always wants me around so that isn't it. He tells me he thinks about me all the time but if that is true how could he forget about me when something fun comes up? When I am invited to something fun the first person that comes to my mind to invite is him.

PearlieMae

08-29-2016, 11:16 AM

Rayne Mermaid

08-29-2016, 03:56 PM

Mermaid Alea

08-29-2016, 06:50 PM

I hate to be the one to say it, but it sounds like he's starting to distance himself...and/or this is a passive/aggressive tactic to get you to stop 'ignoring him' (assuming this is his thinking). Why aren't your friends calling you beforehand as well? Are they assuming the same thing?

Let him know this isn't acceptable behavior. But you might also examine if you aren't taking on too much. You'll get faster as you go, but be careful of burning out and missing your life. Work isn't worth it.

I speak from over 30 years experience as a graphic designer/art director/creative director.

Thanks Pearlie, that is what I am worried about. I need to be careful that I don't spend too much time working and not having fun. That is one of my goals this semester is I want to get better at that so that I don't spend the rest of my life being a workaholic like my Mom. Based on what you said it is probably him trying to get me to stop 'ignoring him'. When we first started dating I was freaked out about how clingy he is because I am not that way at all so it took some getting used to. I am probably the only one in our group not on Facebook so they all message each other through Facebook to go do things and they do assume that my boyfriend will then tell me what is going on...Which he doesn't.

I will have to work on working less haha and also giving my boyfriend more attention. I forget how fragile he is...

PearlieMae

08-29-2016, 08:27 PM

Good luck! I had a fragile boyfriend for a while...it was like dating a baby bird.

Shimmer Mermaid

08-30-2016, 11:45 AM

Apparently I am "rude and inconsiderate" because I tell everyone that it's just me and my husband that is going to be in the delivery room.

My step mother DEMANDED to be in the room.
I said "no. Just me and him."
"I'll come in anyway. You can't keep me out."
"Yes I can, if you aren't willing to respect our wishes, I will tell the doctor and nurse's to keep you out."

She then screamed about how I am so rude and I'm not considering her feelings.

My aunt said the same thing when I told her that it was only going to be me and my husband. "I have experience with babies! You HAVE TO let me in!"

"No. We don't."

Everyone on my side of the family has asked at least twice each. Then when I told them no, blew up and either said very inappropriate things to us, or straight up said that they would come in reguardless, and that we can't keep them out.

First of all, the hell we can't.

Second, these are ALL step family, or family by marriage. The only two real blood family members I have now are my sister (lets not go there) and my biological mother.

My husbands parents have YET to ask, or demand to be in there. They did say that they were coming a week after he's born to help out and visit. They asked first, and said it's whatever im okay with.

The closer I get to my due date, the crazier and meaner everyone gets.

For instance, one of my step aunts brought me some kind of food, like a casserole or something, I don't know for sure because she handed it to me, asked if She could be in the delivery room now, I said "just me and my husband is all." she then ripped the dish out of my hands, said "Fine, f$#! You!" And drove off.

I literally don't know if I'm accidentally being rude? My husband said I'm not, but I'm not so sure.

PearlieMae

08-30-2016, 12:17 PM

What a bunch of idiots!

You're not being rude, they're being stupid and inconsiderate. If they don't talk to you after this, BONUS!

Hydra1337

08-30-2016, 12:49 PM

They're the ones being rude and inconsiderate, not you. I went through the same bullshit with my biological mother and her side of the family when I had my daughter last year. You're strong so I know you can tough it out. Plus hospital security will have your back when the time comes.

SeaGlass Siren

08-30-2016, 12:53 PM

If I had to sit in a room with my legs widespread with my vagina in front of other people I would be fucking rude and tell them go gtfo too. No you may not look at my vagina. Go away.

shimmer I wish you the best of luck. Give them hell. (I had to come back and comment on this. Back to MN byebye.)

Shimmer Mermaid

08-30-2016, 01:00 PM

What a bunch of idiots!

You're not being rude, they're being stupid and inconsiderate. If they don't talk to you after this, BONUS!
If they didn't talk to me after this, I feel like id be a much more sane person.

They're the ones being rude and inconsiderate, not you. I went through the same bullshit with my biological mother and her side of the family when I had my daughter last year. You're strong so I know you can tough it out. Plus hospital security will have your back when the time comes.
Glad it's not just my family that has done this!

If I had to sit in a room with my legs widespread with my vagina in front of other people I would be fucking rude and tell them go gtfo too. No you may not look at my vagina. Go away.

shimmer I wish you the best of luck. Give them hell. (I had to come back and comment on this. Back to MN byebye.)
Exactly! Why is everyone so obsessed with being in a room where my vagina-and the ball of flesh the size of a melon coming out of it-is the center of attention?!?

Mermaid Arabella

08-30-2016, 01:22 PM

What a bunch of idiots!

You're not being rude, they're being stupid and inconsiderate. If they don't talk to you after this, BONUS!

Lol, THIS! And I've had the following 3 delivery room rules since I was in high school:
1. Nobody is allowed in the room except the father and people with medical training. (My mother, an RN, likes to point out that this means she gets to be in the room, to which I point her to rule 2)
2. Anyone that chooses to go below my waist is not allowed to say a f***ing thing. Not. One. Word. I don't wanna know, I don't wanna hear it. Shut up or get out.
3. No recording devices in the delivery room. None. Again, you can follow the rules or get out. Take all the pictures you want once we're all cleaned up and in a regular room.

Although at this point, it looks like I might not need to worry about any of this, as my husband and I are not in any hurry to have kids and may decide to remain child-free by choice. :) But feel free to use any rules that you like! :D

Hydra1337

08-30-2016, 02:01 PM

Oh yeah, totally not just your family. I think I made a post here a while back about how my mother kicked me, my husband, our newborn, and our cats out primarily because I offended her so badly. According to her delivering a baby is a "mother daughter experience". As in screw the father he shouldn't be allowed in because he's a man. I mean, it's not like I was giving birth to OUR daughter or anything. *rolls eyes*

JayJ79

08-30-2016, 02:53 PM

Unless it is your kid, I really don't see the appeal of being in a delivery room anyway. Then again, I generally try to avoid both babies/kids and hospitals as much as possible.

Still I don't see anything at all wrong with you limiting who is in the room with you. Your relatives (and everyone else) needs to get over it.

PearlieMae

08-30-2016, 04:01 PM

Why is everyone so obsessed with being in a room where my vagina-and the ball of flesh the size of a melon coming out of it-is the center of attention?!?

I think it's like those Dr. Pimplepopper videos, but on a much larger scale. You can't look, but you can't look away, either.

;)

Shimmer Mermaid

08-31-2016, 07:16 PM

Lol, THIS! And I've had the following 3 delivery room rules since I was in high school:
1. Nobody is allowed in the room except the father and people with medical training. (My mother, an RN, likes to point out that this means she gets to be in the room, to which I point her to rule 2)
2. Anyone that chooses to go below my waist is not allowed to say a f***ing thing. Not. One. Word. I don't wanna know, I don't wanna hear it. Shut up or get out.
3. No recording devices in the delivery room. None. Again, you can follow the rules or get out. Take all the pictures you want once we're all cleaned up and in a regular room.

Although at this point, it looks like I might not need to worry about any of this, as my husband and I are not in any hurry to have kids and may decide to remain child-free by choice. :) But feel free to use any rules that you like! :D
Actually like all 3 of your rules. Granted I may allow my husband to record if he wants but no below the waist shots lol

Oh yeah, totally not just your family. I think I made a post here a while back about how my mother kicked me, my husband, our newborn, and our cats out primarily because I offended her so badly. According to her delivering a baby is a "mother daughter experience". As in screw the father he shouldn't be allowed in because he's a man. I mean, it's not like I was giving birth to OUR daughter or anything. *rolls eyes*
Yikes. My step mother, the same woman who refused to wear her wedding ring after my dad got sick because "I don't feel like a wife. I feel like a live in nurse. And I am not wearing my wedding ring." is saying it's a "mother daughter thing" as well. My husband finally snapped last night and said "well if she chooses to let her biological mother in there, we will let you know." I about peed myself.

Unless it is your kid, I really don't see the appeal of being in a delivery room anyway. Then again, I generally try to avoid both babies/kids and hospitals as much as possible.

Still I don't see anything at all wrong with you limiting who is in the room with you. Your relatives (and everyone else) needs to get over it.
Exactly, I don't know if it's because they think I'm more vulnerable? Lenient? Since my dad passed, but they weren't like this before he passed away. And now it's like I'm a piece of raw meat in a hungry shark tank and they have no shame in being poops.

I think it's like those Dr. Pimplepopper videos, but on a much larger scale. You can't look, but you can't look away, either.

;)
Those videos are the best. Lol but in the pimple videos, extra stress won't cause the pimples to not be popped.

But added stress can prolong my labor, risk my sons life and if any of them cause me stress during labor, I will throw a needle at them.

Shimmer Mermaid

09-01-2016, 07:33 PM

So I'm 110% sure that if my husband had to be the one to carry and deliver the baby he would have died by now.

Hydra1337

09-01-2016, 08:12 PM

Omg your husband is hysterical. I'm glad he put that **** in her place. When are you due by the way? I don't remember.

Shimmer Mermaid

09-01-2016, 08:19 PM

September 24th. I have exactly 3 weeks until my due date, though I HIGHLY doubt I'm going to make it that long.

When I first met my husband in high school he was so soft spoken, and nice 24/7 to everyone no matter the circumstances. Now, 5 years down the road, he has become so protective over me, and so sarcastic (i think from being around my dad so much the past year).
I couldn't ask for a better husband.

Hydra1337

09-01-2016, 08:27 PM

Oh wow I'll be having my one month ultrasound for the surrogacy around the same time as your due date. Funny timing.

I'm glad you found such a great husband, Shimmer. It sounds like he treats you like a queen.

Shimmer Mermaid

09-01-2016, 08:31 PM

Thank you. He asks about everyone on here and is actually interested in it all. Its so cute lol

Mermaid Clara

09-10-2016, 01:23 AM

You let me get super excited and start planing things out now you tell me no without any reason except you don't like it. I call you out, saying you always do this, getting my hopes up and letting me get excited then you completely shut me down. Then you start calling me selfish saying I don't care about anyone but myself. Saying I'm setting myself up for failure in life, that I'm doing nothing to gain a skill in life. And worse you start acting like mom is going to drop dead in 6 months and saying that she's super sick and I'm selfish dragging her around everywhere to do stuff that's not even remotely important. Why do you always do this to me?!?!?! Why do you always put me down and make me feel like I'm scum and want to kill myself.

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Shimmer Mermaid

09-11-2016, 03:28 PM

I'm original poster, a family member is the commenter who's name I put out in black, I'm the commenter who's put out in red.

I'm trying. Dangit I'm trying. But what the hell?

His comments pissed off my husband, who btw is impossible to upset unless it involves me or our son. It has gotten absolutely ridiculous.

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