B!TC# IT OUT!

[AniaR]

typical misogynist. don't reason with guys like that, they hope you'll try and reason because they know they can try and get in again. He cant respect a simple boundary, he's not a safe guy to be around

[Mermaid Nessie]

I also got this message:

"1.) It's a Newfoundland thing, go back to your own fucking province if you don't like our customs. 2.) We are friends. 3.) You are very uptight, others have told me that before I met you. 4.) If you're gunna get on with petty bullshit, and be a little shit head, Don't look at me, don't talk to me, and don't text me anymore. Have a nice life"

..................... I'm currently speechless right now

[Princess Pearl]

Wow. What an ass. If you say you aren't friends, he doesn't get to decide you are. And I'm fairly certain barging into people's bedrooms isn't a custom anywhere, not even in Newfoundland.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I also got this message:

"1.) It's a Newfoundland thing, go back to your own fucking province if you don't like our customs. 2.) We are friends. 3.) You are very uptight, others have told me that before I met you. 4.) If you're gunna get on with petty bullshit, and be a little shit head, Don't look at me, don't talk to me, and don't text me anymore. Have a nice life"

..................... I'm currently speechless right now
1.) Racist pig. 2.) No we're not. 3.) You're an ass. Others have told me that before you. 4.) Cross my boundaries again and you'll be talking to my lawyer. Have a lovely day.

[Kishiko]

1.) Racist pig. 2.) No we're not. 3.) You're an ass. Others have told me that before you. 4.) Cross my boundaries again and you'll be talking to my lawyer. Have a lovely day.

:clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap::clap:

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Hehe! Let him have it!

Or change to 3.) You're an ass. NOBODY likes you.

[QueenZero]

Dude, what a goddamn asshole. Be rude back; may as well completely turn him off. Also, the "we are friends" thing is f*cking disturbing. I'd kick his ass with glee.

[AniaR]

yeah mermaids dont waste time over the opinions of shrimp

[Mermaid Nessie]

[QUOTE=AniaR;173727]yeah mermaids dont waste time over the opinions of shrimp[/QUOTE
I said thank you, and goodbye :)

[Mer-Crazy]

2) We are friends

He has a VERY strange way of treating his friends. I agree, he's just getting the shits because he's not getting what he wants anymore. Creeper. Raina's advice is solid, ignore him.

[Mermaid Lunette]

Report him. Save the message and show it to the correct peeps. That is clearly aggressive behavior

[Mermaid Nessie]

I'm leaving it at that. He's leaving me alone, that's all I wanted :)

[Mermaid Lunette]

It sounds more like he is trying to guilt and manipulate you. He could be using a tactic, and might continue later.

[Elle]

I love how the Mers of the Oceania Pod seem to agree that a kick to the groin is a good way to go.

[Mermaid Nessie]

If any more problems arise I will be getting my residence coordinator involved. I already let one of the staff know in case anything else should happen. Asking for some respect is not me being "uptight" and I will not feel bad or apologize for doing so.

[PearlieMae]

I think #4 is a lovely option and you can thank him for the suggestion. Then, when he tries to be your buddy again, grind his teeth into the curb.

[Adalira]

OMG Nessie! What an *sshole that guy is!
I missed out on most of this and did not read it untill now.
I scrolled back and when i saw what he was doing i wanted to suggest you tell him you have a very jealous boyfriend so he needs to step back, or simply tell him your a lesbian because if you tell a guy you have a boyriend he may even be dumb enough to think he still has a change to win you over.
Telling a guy you are a lesbian usually makes them stop instantly lol...i know this for a fact because i have used that line in the past and it worked like a charm ;)
But in your case since things went a lot further aready bit his last message to you i would seriously suggest keeping record of his messages as proof/evidence if needed at some point and also writing down everything he has done that you did not like such as the knocking on your door at 2 am, touching you, barging in etc with the dates and times if you can remember.
Just to protect yourself.
Lets hope this *sshole got the message though.
His last text to you shows he is very upset and is trying to throw a sh*t load of guilt on you to get his way.
He wants to be right and make you feel like you were wrong.
Do not let him get to you in any way ok?
He is playing a mind game now and just do not respond to it.
Good luck!:hug:

[Echidna]

Telling a guy you are a lesbian usually makes them stop instantly lol...i know this for a fact because i have used that line in the past and it worked like a charm ;)

well, there are the guys who will go "you just haven't met the right man yet!".

That type only shuts up if you have a girlfriend and they see you kissing in full view xD

[Starfrit]

I also got this message:

"1.) It's a Newfoundland thing, go back to your own fucking province if you don't like our customs. 2.) We are friends. 3.) You are very uptight, others have told me that before I met you. 4.) If you're gunna get on with petty bullshit, and be a little shit head, Don't look at me, don't talk to me, and don't text me anymore. Have a nice life"

..................... I'm currently speechless right now

First of all, that is NOT a Newfoundland thing. We're known for being super friendly, sure, but he's just being a creep who's all butthurt that you're calling him out. He thinks he's entitled to your time and attention whenever he wants it simply because he's decided he's your friend; even to us Newfs that is NOT COOL.

Don't let what he says get to you— he's not worth your time and just generally seems like a scumbag, and you don't need that kind of pass over aggression and negativity in your life. :P

[Mermaidmechanic]

I also got this message:

"1.) It's a Newfoundland thing, go back to your own fucking province if you don't like our customs. 2.) We are friends. 3.) You are very uptight, others have told me that before I met you. 4.) If you're gunna get on with petty bullshit, and be a little shit head, Don't look at me, don't talk to me, and don't text me anymore. Have a nice life"

..................... I'm currently speechless right now

#4... That sounds like you scored a victory. :P

[Adalira]

well, there are the guys who will go "you just haven't met the right man yet!".

That type only shuts up if you have a girlfriend and they see you kissing in full view xD

True lol. Luckily i never had to go that far :)

[Meronica]

His little list sounds exactly like the tirade of texts one of my exes sent me when I refused to send him nude pictures....we'd only been dating a couple weeks.

He's a misogynist pig trying to manipulate you into feeling insecure/guilty and allowing him to continue this behavior. If he so much as looks at you weird or says another word to you, I'd report him to the housing authorities for your own safety. I'm sorry you have to share a hallway with that buffoon.


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

So a few posts ago I told about how my biological mother is a pathological liar, child abuser, horrid mother.


Well, because of this, it has got us a house! We found it because of a family friend. I'm excited!

More bad news, my father has lung cancer, which I think I've said before. Well my step mother, who practically raised me and my sister, has skin cancer. It's not deadly, we caught it in time, but it's still stressful. >.< UGH!
I swear if it wasn't for my horses and being able to swim to relieve stress, I probably would have spontaneously combusted by now!!

[Talia]

well, there are the guys who will go "you just haven't met the right man yet!".

That type only shuts up if you have a girlfriend and they see you kissing in full view xD

And then you may have the jerks that say "Oooh, that turns me on, lets go someplace private and you keep doing that while I watch".

[Mermaid Lilium]

mermaids dont waste time over the opinions of shrimp

This seriously needs to be a shirt lol

[Mermaid Kelda]

i wanted to suggest you tell him you have a very jealous boyfriend so he needs to step back, or simply tell him your a lesbian because if you tell a guy you have a boyriend he may even be dumb enough to think he still has a change to win you over.
Telling a guy you are a lesbian usually makes them stop instantly lol...
It's really a shame that this is good advice :\ as a society we need to step back from the idea that women have to say those things to get guys to leave us alone. Why can't "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU" be enough? Where is the respect for our decisions and agency? :gah:

[Mermaid Nessie]

It's really a shame that this is good advice :\ as a society we need to step back from the idea that women have to say those things to get guys to leave us alone. Why can't "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU" be enough? Where is the respect for our decisions and agency? :gah:

I agree Kelda. As I said, asking for respect in not being "uptight" and I will not apologize or feel bad for doing so. I find it frustrating that a woman cannot turn down a man's unwanted advances without such things being said.

Like, I am sorry that I don't feel safe with your drunk ass showing up to my door when I am home alone at 1 in the morning, but maybe you should think about that next time you feel the need to get intoxicated, visit me and be a complete creeper. I refuse to accept constant bothering and harassment. I live here (and have lived here months before he has) and I will do what I think is best to make my roommate and I feel safe. UGH.

Staff has been notified and if anything else happens, they are going to deal with it.

[Mermaidbubbles12]

OMFG, KANTI I FEEL U!!!!!!

[Amphitrite]

I just found out that in March I may lose my job. Stress ack!

[Merman Chatfish]

I just found out that in March I may lose my job. Stress ack!
:( how come?

[Mermaid Silverlilly]

Stupid fr***** injured ankle I wish it had never happened and I had never mentioned it! It has ruined my dreams of ever having a silicone tail and I hate it for it and even though sequin tails are beautiful its not what I want! I hate my Fr***** ankle I hate it and I hate how it always ruins my dreams stupid thing!

Why is my life always kicking me in the guts! Everyone else gets to have videos of them in a beautiful silicone tail and I get screwed over and my dream wreaked when I thought it would be okay so I am stuck with not as good a tails totally sucks! And I get to sit there and watch those videos knowing I will never ever have one it sucks!

Sorry just venting

[Mermaidmechanic]

There is physical therapy you can do to help rehab an ankle injury. If you cant afford a physical therapist, the youtube videos are almost just as good.

[Adalira]

It's really a shame that this is good advice :\ as a society we need to step back from the idea that women have to say those things to get guys to leave us alone. Why can't "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU" be enough? Where is the respect for our decisions and agency? :gah:

I hear you on that and trust me i have tried many many times in the past but some man simply do not want to listen to that.
Saying i was a lesbian has always been a last resort to get someone of my back.
It is very sad when it has to come to that.
Unfortunatly that is still the world we live in today.
I really feel your frustration here.

[Mermaid Silverlilly]

There is physical therapy you can do to help rehab an ankle injury. If you cant afford a physical therapist, the youtube videos are almost just as good.

Thanks its not that I can't afford a physical therapist I was going to one its just they kept re-injuring it with what they kept getting me to do 2 or 3 times by taping and holding my foot the wrong way (re-tore the ligament) Doing the exercises to try and get movement back in the foot (re tore the ligaments) having my circulation cut off in my foot due to taping.

Honestly after all this if I could avoid going to physios I would. I would never go to them again particularly after they caused me to have to have a third surgery and then also re-tearing it later after that causing me to have to have the brace to prevent more surgery!

So please excuse me when I say I will never go to a physio again and have a few exercises that work for me but walking is the best.

And most of these times too it was actually retearing my repaired ligaments which are now stretched out again cause of all the reinjuries and I will always have to be careful and have permanent wires in my ankles. Hence why I have decided to stick with sequin tails :)

[Little_Orca]

I work in mental health in a unit that is sub-acute. We basically help persons who are in crisis, but are not usually a danger to others or who are a risk to themselves, ie recent suicide attempt with some ideation still, etc...

Tonight, I had to stay late to clean up the mess of a coworker.

I spent an hour with a person who was triggered by said coworker and became so fearful of them that they literally ran and hid in their bathroom when someone knocked on the door to their room. I was so sad for the person and so furious at the staff member (we'll call them E.)

E violated the patient's HIPPA (right to privacy) by videotaping them while they were in a video game dance competition with another staff member. When E was told they needed to delete the video, they did so but apparently made a stink about it and the language E used was, according to two people, very nonchalant. "I was caught up in the fun of the moment." ... Something you say to someone who has a traumatic past when they are feeling threatened. Perfect... :doh:

Eventually the triggered person calmed down with the promise I would be there the following day to 'protect' them from the other staff member. I was so mad, but I put that aside to help the person.

Later though as I processed this, I just kept getting more mad. E has had times where they do fantastic work and I am not going to put that down, but there are other times I am just not sure what to do. I have talked to my supervisor about situations where E was on the phone talking about renting a room when there were multiple people to help, referrals to take, and dinner to make, and I was doing it all on my own because they were too busy to be bothered. E also looks at nearly nude adults on their computer at work... Did I mention some of the people we see are victims of sexual assault and that could push them further into crisis? The people we work with can be very, very fragile.

About a week ago, E approached me in the kitchen and took a very domineering position. E said that we did not have to like each other but that we had to get along for the sake of work. I had never confronted them about what I saw them looking at online or that they did not help when I worked my ass off that day with the dinner and referrals (long paper documents we have to take down from hospitals to get new people into the facility, can take up to 40 minutes to complete just 1), and the only person I had told was my supervisor.

Now, I wonder if E is upset at something else or if my supervisor told E directly what I said. If that is the case, I cannot go to my supervisor should something else happen. I am not looking forward to working tomorrow because I have to see E and their best work friend (we'll call them F). The two of them together are hard to deal with at times. F on their own can be raunchy with humor, but in general is preferred over E. Together, it is a mess.

I am having severe anxiety (I have a disorder myself) about going in to work tomorrow. If the triggered person was not counting on me, I would call out for my own mental health day.

I talked with a trusted staff member about this all, and they feel the same way I do about E and are at a loss of what to do. All I can think of is to tell myself I only have to work there another year and a half and hopefully I get get into a graphic design career after I finish this bit of schooling. After that and I will be free of this. I really cannot take it anymore; E, the stress of the job, doing all the 'husbandry' work, trying to pretend everything is okay, letting people unload their trauma and issues onto me, ... I can't do it.

[Rogue Siren]

Okay, to start, I like to lurk. Just read forums without commenting. I don't usually have anything to say. Sometimes I'll comment when I really like something or when I have a question.

But I am disliking my lurking habit more and more. Something that is bugging me is all this talk of "OMG, X copied Y! I CANT BELIEVE THE NERVE". Sometimes I understand. Most of the time it is ridiculous and out of hand. Someone can think they have something completely original, what they don't know is someone across the ocean has the exact same idea. Sometimes they're across the street. Everyone is influenced by what they see and hear in one way or another.

I am finally starting to make tails! And guess what, I have an idea for translucent/blended waists. I made a top and sketched the idea out on paper from my own head before making it. I had someone sketch out and send me a fluke that looks quite similar to one of Finfolk's. Another person sent me Merbella's angler. Am I going to stare at Finfolk and Merbella's designs when I start sketching and sculpting things myself? NO. Will they resemble each other? Probably. And I have a great suspicion that I am never going to hear the fucking end of it.

[Echidna]

^^
I rarely comment on the "copycat"-threads, most of them make me roll eyes,
but I can also relate.
When I first saw the picture of Hannah in her new black-white striped tail, my brain went "omg she copied ma tail!",
even though I bet she's never seen my krait tail pics/videos.
And there are loads of striped fish- scissortails, damselfish, and so on.

So I know it's not a copy at all, but I understand the reaction one has as a tailmaker, or someone with a personal, dear tail.
My consolation is that mine is unique as it's a snaketail.

Everyone else has a fluke of some sort.
Snaketails are crabhard to swim in, so if anyone else ever makes a snaketail, they'll do so because they love snakes, and then they're welcome. ;)

[Mermaid Momo]

Okay, to start, I like to lurk. Just read forums without commenting. I don't usually have anything to say. Sometimes I'll comment when I really like something or when I have a question.

But I am disliking my lurking habit more and more. Something that is bugging me is all this talk of "OMG, X copied Y! I CANT BELIEVE THE NERVE". Sometimes I understand. Most of the time it is ridiculous and out of hand. Someone can think they have something completely original, what they don't know is someone across the ocean has the exact same idea. Sometimes they're across the street. Everyone is influenced by what they see and hear in one way or another.

I am finally starting to make tails! And guess what, I have an idea for translucent/blended waists. I made a top and sketched the idea out on paper from my own head before making it. I had someone sketch out and send me a fluke that looks quite similar to one of Finfolk's. Another person sent me Merbella's angler. Am I going to stare at Finfolk and Merbella's designs when I start sketching and sculpting things myself? NO. Will they resemble each other? Probably. And I have a great suspicion that I am never going to hear the fucking end of it.
Honestly if it's not a blatant copy of their flukes we won't care. The only copying that so far I've seen the community up and arms about is when tails are copied down to a T. Like with that russian tailmaker who're making exact copies of other tails. As long as you aren't doing that, no one will really care.

[Starfrit]

Momo is right, Milieu— I definitely understand why you'd be nervous, but don't be! Personally I've found a lot of the "they blatantly copied [x]" discussions kind of tiring because ninety percent of the time, there's absolutely zero proof and it's just people crying wolf to stir up drama. Yes, copycats have been an issue in the past, but if it came out of your own head, you'll be fine. :) Don't let things like that discourage you. Coincidences happen all the time!

[Merman Chatfish]

I finally tried on my monotail, the largest I could find, and its still not big enough for me feet :(

[Starfrit]

So these past couple of weeks have been pretty stressful between a new work schedule and basically being the one in charge of getting everything straightened away with the new house we'll be moving to in two weeks. My boyfriend got a week off starting last night as a sort of mid-winter vacation, so I was really hoping to have a nice day to relax with him for Valentine's.

Wellp. Nope.

We were supposed to go grocery shopping over four hours ago to pick up something for supper, and instead, he sat down on the couch, played with his 3DS for an hour, and then fell asleep. I keep trying to wake him up so we can go out and actually pick up some food, aaaannndddd that's not happening, he just keeps blowing me off and going back to sleep and ignoring me.

So instead I'm sitting here curled up in bed watching Bridezillas on Netflix because I've decided to punish myself with trashy "reality"-TV garbage and just considering going out to KFC and getting something there for supper, since I can't really afford to go get groceries by myself right now (I don't drive and only have, like, $20 since I just paid the damage deposit on the new place.)

What a romantic V-Day for me. Whoo.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm so sorry honey. We were supposed to go to lunch today, but just like you, are moving and don't have the money to currently, so he tried to make amends by fulfilling a promise he made a while back;
To ACTUALLY try to ride a horse so he could accompany me on rides.
He's ridden before.
He's very good just kinda chicken even though he shouldn't be.
So we get up there and I get my horse Stormy up, saddled, and ready to go. Stormy LOVES him, and behaves really well with him.
He complained the ENTIRE time we were up there! I told him he didn't have to do it, and if he did he could at least act like it.
No.
He still continued to say "I'll do it. I'll do it. I want to keep my word." But still continued to complain the entire time and snapped at me when I asked him to even hold something.

I got Stormy to the round pin, got on, and showed my bf that he has nothing to worry or complain about because Stormy was being really good.
I got off and asked him to get on.
He straight up yelled at me and said he didn't want to get on in the round pen.
I told him that if he's worried about safety, that the round pen would be the best place for him because Stormy didn't have enough room to go real fast.

He finally got on, rode around a little bit and I told him that I was going to go get another horse so we could ride around the pasture a little bit and he could actually ride like he promised.

That didn't happen. He said I'd walk beside him if I wanted him to fulfill the promise.
I. Was. Steaming.

I told him to go home and that I'd call when I was ready to be picked up.

He wasn't even out of the driveway of the barn, and I passed him full gallop, pissed as hell, rocks flinging, Stormy happy that someone who likes to run was riding, and essentially gave him the most subtle yet very obvious F#%& YOU.
I rode. Had a good time. Spent my Vday with a guy(Stormy) that would treat me fair, and when he came to pick me up, he immediately apologized.

The rest of the day went swimmingly.

[Mermaid Melanie]

well folks the competition for Miss Diving Specials ends today and I'm still 500 votes short of winning... its a shame because the girl who is in first doesnt really give a damn about this competition, she has made 6 posts about it the whole time and didnt even make them herself... she just shared other peoples posts to vote for her... also it would appear that a male, Omer Preter is the one who is pushing the competition and misrepresenting the competition as an international underwater photography contest where he and her are representing Israel ! ( there are at least 3 other Israeli girls competing ) And to top it all off they are nasty people ! Dissing other contestants on fb called people losers and taking the piss out of me for being a mermaid...They even tried to bring religion into it but I'm sure that how the got a lot of their votes, being part of a "zionistic movement" and suggesting some other competitors were being anti-Semitic, which they absolutely were NOT. I probably sound really bitter but I just feel like she really doesnt deserve to win this and I have worked to hard towards this and just didnt get the response I needed. Another thing that was bugging me was, I had asked for help from some people and they just entered themselves... I know theres nothing saying you can't i just wouldnt have done that myself so can't understand why others would but hey ho thats how it goes... I don't know if ill do another competition like this.... I made lots of new videos which got hundreds of views... but not everyone who watches is going to vote and now it seems like it was a whole load of work I gave myself and didnt achieve my goals. I got backing from Gary Stokes from Sea Shepherd, but it was too late, they said they wish they had known sooner so they could have geared it up more... I never gave up the past few days cuz a tiny part of me is still hoping for a miracle but it seems that 2 undeserving people are going to be enjoying the Maldives.... even the competition organisers don't want them to win ! They were concerned about the situation and asked me to try and get sponsors to help me out but after contacting multiple possible sponsors no one got back to me :( ahh just feeling down, i even gave up my valentines day to sit messaging people for more votes...

[Naufra]

I work in mental health in a unit that is sub-acute. We basically help persons who are in crisis, but are not usually a danger to others or who are a risk to themselves, ie recent suicide attempt with some ideation still, etc...

Tonight, I had to stay late to clean up the mess of a coworker.

I spent an hour with a person who was triggered by said coworker and became so fearful of them that they literally ran and hid in their bathroom when someone knocked on the door to their room. I was so sad for the person and so furious at the staff member (we'll call them E.)

E violated the patient's HIPPA (right to privacy) by videotaping them while they were in a video game dance competition with another staff member. When E was told they needed to delete the video, they did so but apparently made a stink about it and the language E used was, according to two people, very nonchalant. "I was caught up in the fun of the moment." ... Something you say to someone who has a traumatic past when they are feeling threatened. Perfect... :doh:

Eventually the triggered person calmed down with the promise I would be there the following day to 'protect' them from the other staff member. I was so mad, but I put that aside to help the person.

Later though as I processed this, I just kept getting more mad. E has had times where they do fantastic work and I am not going to put that down, but there are other times I am just not sure what to do. I have talked to my supervisor about situations where E was on the phone talking about renting a room when there were multiple people to help, referrals to take, and dinner to make, and I was doing it all on my own because they were too busy to be bothered. E also looks at nearly nude adults on their computer at work... Did I mention some of the people we see are victims of sexual assault and that could push them further into crisis? The people we work with can be very, very fragile.

About a week ago, E approached me in the kitchen and took a very domineering position. E said that we did not have to like each other but that we had to get along for the sake of work. I had never confronted them about what I saw them looking at online or that they did not help when I worked my ass off that day with the dinner and referrals (long paper documents we have to take down from hospitals to get new people into the facility, can take up to 40 minutes to complete just 1), and the only person I had told was my supervisor.

Now, I wonder if E is upset at something else or if my supervisor told E directly what I said. If that is the case, I cannot go to my supervisor should something else happen. I am not looking forward to working tomorrow because I have to see E and their best work friend (we'll call them F). The two of them together are hard to deal with at times. F on their own can be raunchy with humor, but in general is preferred over E. Together, it is a mess.

I am having severe anxiety (I have a disorder myself) about going in to work tomorrow. If the triggered person was not counting on me, I would call out for my own mental health day.

I talked with a trusted staff member about this all, and they feel the same way I do about E and are at a loss of what to do. All I can think of is to tell myself I only have to work there another year and a half and hopefully I get get into a graphic design career after I finish this bit of schooling. After that and I will be free of this. I really cannot take it anymore; E, the stress of the job, doing all the 'husbandry' work, trying to pretend everything is okay, letting people unload their trauma and issues onto me, ... I can't do it.

E violated HIPPA and wasn't immediately fired? I'm shocked and appalled. Any violation of HIPPA should be grounds for immediate dismissal in a healthcare facility. Kudos to you, though, you're in one of the most stressful and psychologically demanding jobs I can think of and it sounds like you're one of the few sensible employees there. I do hope you're seeing a therapist regularly yourself, it's typically recommended if not required for mental health workers. If you aren't already, then I think it would help you a lot. Hang in there, you can do it!

[Little_Orca]

E violated HIPPA and wasn't immediately fired? I'm shocked and appalled. Any violation of HIPPA should be grounds for immediate dismissal in a healthcare facility. Kudos to you, though, you're in one of the most stressful and psychologically demanding jobs I can think of and it sounds like you're one of the few sensible employees there. I do hope you're seeing a therapist regularly yourself, it's typically recommended if not required for mental health workers. If you aren't already, then I think it would help you a lot. Hang in there, you can do it!

There is going to be some action taken, but I am trying to stay out of it all. It's a bit hard since I was a witness to the event and all... E was asked not to work that following day, and F called in sick, so it was just me on the unit with the assistance of one supervisor and one nurse. Thankfully, all was quiet, but it was still stressful to cook dinner, perform fifteen minute checks on people by myself, clean up, manage the door and phones, help people get what they needed and so on. Phew.

I've tried going to counseling before surrounding work and to generally work on my anxiety and other issues. Sadly, the last person I saw slapped a 'magic' pill on it all and told me (and I quote because I do not think I will EVER forget this): "Come back and see me when you have this all figured out." Isn't that why I was there? To process and get another perspective? Yes, therapy work is mostly up to the individual, but therapists are there to assist and guide. I studied art therapy counseling and got my master's in that field, I know what a therapist should and should not do. And though I know there are always going to be people like that (specifically, he was retiring in a month and probably gave two shits about anything I said,) it has really turned me off from finding someone else to talk to.

So, I lose myself in other things: video games, art, writing, and mermaiding.

[Naufra]

There is going to be some action taken, but I am trying to stay out of it all. It's a bit hard since I was a witness to the event and all... E was asked not to work that following day, and F called in sick, so it was just me on the unit with the assistance of one supervisor and one nurse. Thankfully, all was quiet, but it was still stressful to cook dinner, perform fifteen minute checks on people by myself, clean up, manage the door and phones, help people get what they needed and so on. Phew.

I've tried going to counseling before surrounding work and to generally work on my anxiety and other issues. Sadly, the last person I saw slapped a 'magic' pill on it all and told me (and I quote because I do not think I will EVER forget this): "Come back and see me when you have this all figured out." Isn't that why I was there? To process and get another perspective? Yes, therapy work is mostly up to the individual, but therapists are there to assist and guide. I studied art therapy counseling and got my master's in that field, I know what a therapist should and should not do. And though I know there are always going to be people like that (specifically, he was retiring in a month and probably gave two shits about anything I said,) it has really turned me off from finding someone else to talk to.

So, I lose myself in other things: video games, art, writing, and mermaiding.

Magic pill? It's no wonder you don't want to find a therapist after that! Were we in the same area, I could recommend someone I found helpful, but we're probably nowhere near each other. It's good that you've found other forms of therapy that help you, though.

[PhaylennMurúch]

I finally tried on my monotail, the largest I could find, and its still not big enough for me feet :(

Oh noes! maybe time to watch a couple of how to videos and make one

[Little_Orca]

I finally tried on my monotail, the largest I could find, and its still not big enough for me feet :(

I am in agreement with PhaylennMurúch (http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?1702-PhaylennMur%FAch) , or maybe you can find a tutorial on how to adjust them? Is it a foot pocket issue or is it in terms of heel straps?

[Merman Chatfish]

I am in agreement with PhaylennMurúch (http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?1702-PhaylennMur%FAch) , or maybe you can find a tutorial on how to adjust them? Is it a foot pocket issue or is it in terms of heel straps?

Sadly they are not adjustable. Its the foot pocket itself, I am almost always barefoot and when I do wear shoes its the Vibram 5 fingers, so my foot is wider than the average foot length ratio (113mm wide by 301 mm long)(hmm doing research apparently my foot is narrow compared to average). Maybe it is that its not long enough but when my feet are in them its like making a scoop with your hand.

Also in order to get my feet in I had to put soap inside the foot pockets. The rubber pulling on my foot hairs hurt. I wish I could just grow a real tail and be done with it.

[PhaylennMurúch]

yeah, might be time to make your own.

my husband has wide feet, like buy shoes at the special 'damn your feet are wide' stores. I have no doubt that if I ever convinced him to don a tail we'd have to find one with sock pockets like my finfun or make him a monofin

[MermaidCelesteFL]

So... I'm homeless right now.

It's due to a combination of a couple things. My new roommates told me that they could move to Orlando as early as mid February, so I told my old roommates that I could move out mid February. I wanted to get out of that mess ASAP.
The old roommates found people to move in by February 14th, so they made me promise to be out by then. They asked my new roommates if I had a contingency plan, and they told them that I did, I didn't.
I spent weeks getting on my new roommates arses trying to get them to decide on a new place to live so that we could pay for it and move in on time, but they didn't make their decision until the week of my moving date. To make matters worse, none of them had the money to move at that point, because suddenly they decided they wanted to move at the beginning of March. So I paid the entirety of the application fees, security deposit, administration fees, and other misc fees by myself, coming to around 510 dollars- right out of my tail fund.
Despite me depositing my application and money in time, they didn't submit their applications until the day before my moving day. Processing takes a few days, so I get to live out of my car until then.


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[Merman Chatfish]

So... I'm homeless right now.

It's due to a combination of a couple things. My new roommates told me that they could move to Orlando as early as mid February, so I told my old roommates that I could move out mid February. I wanted to get out of that mess ASAP.
The old roommates found people to move in by February 14th, so they made me promise to be out by then. They asked my new roommates if I had a contingency plan, and they told them that I did, I didn't.
I spent weeks getting on my new roommates arses trying to get them to decide on a new place to live so that we could pay for it and move in on time, but they didn't make their decision until the week of my moving date. To make matters worse, none of them had the money to move at that point, because suddenly they decided they wanted to move at the beginning of March. So I paid the entirety of the application fees, security deposit, administration fees, and other misc fees by myself, coming to around 510 dollars- right out of my tail fund.
Despite me depositing my application and money in time, they didn't submit their applications until the day before my moving day. Processing takes a few days, so I get to live out of my car until then.


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:( Im sorry Celeste. At least its fairly warm so you won't freeze.

[Azurin Luna]

Damn, that sucks. I hope they will have it sorted out soon so that you can move into your new house

[Sherielle]

You know what? Fine. I give. Whatever. I'm not a pro. Heaven forbid you take my advice at all.

[PearlieMae]

You know what? Fine. I give. Whatever. I'm not a pro. Heaven forbid you take my advice at all.

I know that sound. Whenever I hear it, I remember the adage "Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig."

:mermaid kiss:

[Meronica]

So apparently I'm getting nothing back for my tax return because my work doesn't take out state taxes and my parents use me as a dependent and take my university tax credits for themselves.

I know this is minor compared to some of the above drama, but I'm still pretty disappointed. :(


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[MermaidCelesteFL]

And now for some more infuriating news... our applications to the apartment complex were denied because one of my new roommates has a hold on his credit due to a huge problem with the current place he's living in. He never told us about it.
None of my roommates told me we got denied, and they have known since yesterday.

Looks like I'm not only out 510 dollars, but I'm going to be living in my car for a lot longer than I would have liked. This is what happens when I trust people. :(

[Mermaid Jaffa]

And now for some more infuriating news... our applications to the apartment complex were denied because one of my new roommates has a hold on his credit due to a huge problem with the current place he's living in. He never told us about it.
None of my roommates told me we got denied, and they have known since yesterday.

Looks like I'm not only out 510 dollars, but I'm going to be living in my car for a lot longer than I would have liked. This is what happens when I trust people. :(

I dunno. To me, it sounds like they are taking advantage of you. They didn't tell you anything until the very last minute, most likely because they had no other choice and couldn't hide it any longer.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I try my hardest to just get over things like this and move on, but I need to vent about this one. I offered to make my friend a tail, it would be my first attempt, free of charge. I would be making it to her specifications and she could keep it forever - no strings attached. It would have been her first tail since she doesn't seem to be in a position to save up for one and I felt bad that our mutual friend and I were making payments on ours.

She had disappointed me before when I made her her first shell bra. Not one "Thank you." So I decided that if she responded similarly, I would choose someone else to make it for. But I held out hope.

We got to Nagoya the night I was going to tell her, and she arranged our seating so I was on one side of her and this online friend she just met in person sat on her other side. Her fiance sat next to me, and my husband next to him. She then proceeded to talk to her online friend for the entire night, only glancing over occasionally. I of course just talked videogames with her fiance and my husband, making the best of it. I decided I would still give her the benefit of the doubt and I told her, "So, I've decided to make you a silicone tail!" To which she responded, almost horrified, "Oh!" And then went back to talking to that guy. She followed him to his car while the rest of us (her fiance included) waited about fifty feet away. I hate to say it, but I'm 99% sure she flirted with him the whole night.

I've known her fiance longer than I've known her so that was also a real blow for me to watch. Needless to say, I don't consider her a friend anymore. I just have to hang out with her because her fiance is lifelong best friends with my husband. :(

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help. I have had the same thing happen to me. Free HUGE photoshoot, special, and she took the photos and said someone else took them and cropped out my WM.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

If you need someone to talk to, or talk video games with, or heck, just to be there, feel free to message me. :) I'm here.

[polyhymnia113]

I also got this message:

"1.) It's a Newfoundland thing, go back to your own fucking province if you don't like our customs. 2.) We are friends. 3.) You are very uptight, others have told me that before I met you. 4.) If you're gunna get on with petty bullshit, and be a little shit head, Don't look at me, don't talk to me, and don't text me anymore. Have a nice life"

..................... I'm currently speechless right now
This guy is insane and you definitely need to report any past activities to have an official record of some kind. Even if you just talk to your RA (though given his response I strongly suggest you talk to campus police about all of this. Even if they won't take a report they will be aware). I dealt with a similar situation in college and the man in question got very vengeful after I set boundaries and him responding eerily similarly to this guy you're dealing with. I also didn't want to get to the point of reporting him but I finally had to because he became violent and did things like slash my tires and leave anonymous VERY threatening notes on my room door.
Please bring it to someone's attention just in case he's crazier than you think. You have to think of your safety #1, politeness be damned!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help. I have had the same thing happen to me. Free HUGE photoshoot, special, and she took the photos and said someone else took them and cropped out my WM.

That's horrible! I seriously don't understand some people. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. :<

Thank you so much for your offer to talk! You're awesome. You'll definitely be getting a friend request from me! :)

[Mermaid Silverlilly]

Sorry to hear what happened lotus Blooming I would offer to help you out but with my ankle I really don't know that its possible :) But I am here if you ever need to talk etc! So sorry this happened to you! I could never do that to my friends! Hope you can find someone else to make the tail for! Best wishes!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm home all of the time, I game, plus I'm a mermaid, lol so we should have plenty to talk about! :) looking forward to it.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'm home all of the time, I game, plus I'm a mermaid, lol so we should have plenty to talk about! :) looking forward to it.

Definitely!! Me, too!! Thanks so much! <3

[PearlieMae]

I try my hardest to just get over things like this and move on, but I need to vent about this one. I offered to make my friend a tail, it would be my first attempt, free of charge. I would be making it to her specifications and she could keep it forever - no strings attached. It would have been her first tail since she doesn't seem to be in a position to save up for one and I felt bad that our mutual friend and I were making payments on ours.

She had disappointed me before when I made her her first shell bra. Not one "Thank you." So I decided that if she responded similarly, I would choose someone else to make it for. But I held out hope.

We got to Nagoya the night I was going to tell her, and she arranged our seating so I was on one side of her and this online friend she just met in person sat on her other side. Her fiance sat next to me, and my husband next to him. She then proceeded to talk to her online friend for the entire night, only glancing over occasionally. I of course just talked videogames with her fiance and my husband, making the best of it. I decided I would still give her the benefit of the doubt and I told her, "So, I've decided to make you a silicone tail!" To which she responded, almost horrified, "Oh!" And then went back to talking to that guy. She followed him to his car while the rest of us (her fiance included) waited about fifty feet away. I hate to say it, but I'm 99% sure she flirted with him the whole night.

I've known her fiance longer than I've known her so that was also a real blow for me to watch. Needless to say, I don't consider her a friend anymore. I just have to hang out with her because her fiance is lifelong best friends with my husband. :(

Your 'friend' sounds like an inconsiderate jerk. Maybe they'll break up and she'll leave.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Your 'friend' sounds like an inconsiderate jerk. Maybe they'll break up and she'll leave.
I hope so. To be honest, I pray for that sometimes.

[Mermaid Mhara]

*Vent needed, apologies in advance for what I may say as I'm just gunna get everything out of my system, I hold no responsibility if I say something offensive as I've been drinking a little and I'm pissed (as in angry not drunk) to the max, so please understand it's the anger and frustration talking not my actual opinions"

So I've auditioned for three dance schools now...as I'm reaching the end of my foundation training and moving on to finish my training in a place of higher education. I didn't get into my top school in London, but I did get into the two others...I had no idea which to choose, but then a sign came and I received a letter saying they had re-evaluated my application and audition and come to the conclusion I was an 'exceptional case' and worthy of an unconditional offer (this means I am eligible of joining the school regardless of the grades I receive in my current college, even if I fail they still want me) Now of course I'm over the moon about this at first and I accepted the offer almost immediately.

The only thing is, is that my dream was to go to London, but I somehow managed to let it go and know I can move to London after my training is done and that this school is where I need to be for the next three years. But now, a few of my friends are getting their acceptance letters from schools...and about three of them are in London and tonight I was having just a bit of self pity, which I almost never do! I got jealous and upset and I was in a proper funk. This was apparent to my "closest" friends in college...but their reaction? No support, no cheering me up, not even a slap and someone telling me to stop being pathetic and petty and to just move on and be happy with what I have...they literally just ignored me and pushed me aside to talk about something else.

Now this was the final straw for me because I've been feeling as if no one really cares in my friend circle about my actual feelings or about who I am, and tonight they pissed me off so bad that all these feelings just flooded.

I'm the only boy in the group. And, in a group of about eight of us, that can be hard.

I'm not girl enough to be accepted as a 'true' friend, because I can't 'understand' periods, or know what it's like to really be a girl.
I'm not boy enough for the guys at college to see me as a 'boy', they literally see me as the pathetic little gay kid who hangs out with the girls and can on occasion be a bit of comic relief to a situation.
My relationships and boy troubles aren't seen as 'real' so it's fine for my best friend to go off with the guy I had major feelings for during the last party even though she doesn't like him. And it's okay for me to have to listen to her ramble on about how annoyed she is at herself for doing it...I'm sorry, but bitch, I don't even stand a chance with 98% of all the guys I've ever liked, at least you have a chance with him, and he likes you...he wouldn't even see me as a contender. But no, snog his face off in front of me even though you AND him clearly know how I feel about him...though apparently you don't and my feelings are just made up and not important because he's straight and I'm clearly not a girl.

Basically, I'm not good enough to have true friends because I'm on some weird cusp where I'm not considered boy, or girl enough. And gay friends? Or friends in a similar situation? Basically non existent even in a dance/performing arts college...as I live in the middle of nowhere, where the only gay guys are either deep in the closet, or raging queens that only want to know me for one thing only, or that I'm not 'good enough' for even that reason.

I just wanna leave, and go live somewhere far away, start over, make new friends...ones that actually give a shit about me. But no, I'll have to wait and go to my second choice school. Ugh.

I just want a real friend, I have online friends...but it's not the same.

And now on Monday when I get back to college I'll have to either decide to be alone or hang in the background with these false friends just to have some company.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

*Vent needed, apologies in advance for what I may say as I'm just gunna get everything out of my system, I hold no responsibility if I say something offensive as I've been drinking a little and I'm pissed (as in angry not drunk) to the max, so please understand it's the anger and frustration talking not my actual opinions"

So I've auditioned for three dance schools now...as I'm reaching the end of my foundation training and moving on to finish my training in a place of higher education. I didn't get into my top school in London, but I did get into the two others...I had no idea which to choose, but then a sign came and I received a letter saying they had re-evaluated my application and audition and come to the conclusion I was an 'exceptional case' and worthy of an unconditional offer (this means I am eligible of joining the school regardless of the grades I receive in my current college, even if I fail they still want me) Now of course I'm over the moon about this at first I accepted the offer almost immediately.

The only thing is, is that my dream was to go to London, but I somehow managed to let it go and know I can move to London after my training is done and that this school is where I need to be for the next three years. But now, a few of my friends are getting their acceptance letters from schools...and about three of them are in London and tonight I was having just a bit of self pity, which I almost never do! I got jealous and upset and I was in a proper funk. This was apparent to my "closest" friends in college...but their reaction? No support, no cheering me up, not even a slap and someone telling me to stop being pathetic and petty and to just move on and be happy with what I have...they literally just ignored me and pushed me aside to talk about something else.

Now this was the final straw for me because I've been feeling as if no one really cares in my friend circle about my actual feelings or about who I am, and tonight they pissed me off so bad that all these feelings just flooded.

I'm the only boy in the group. And, in a group of about eight of us, that can be hard.

I'm not girl enough to be accepted as a 'true' friend, because I can't 'understand' periods, or know what it's like to really be a girl.
I'm not boy enough for the guys at college to see me as a 'boy', they literally see me as the pathetic little gay kid who hangs out with the girls and can on occasion be a bit of comic relief to a situation.
My relationships and boy troubles aren't seen as 'real' so it's fine for my best friend to go off with the guy I had major feelings for during the last party even though she doesn't like him. And it's okay for me to have to listen to her ramble on about how annoyed she is at herself for doing it...I'm sorry, but bitch, I don't even stand a chance with 98% of all the guys I've ever liked, at least you have a chance with him, and he likes you...he wouldn't even see me as a contender. But no, snog his face off in front of me even though you AND him clearly know how I feel about him...though apparently you don't and my feelings are just made up and not important because he's straight and I'm clearly not a girl.

Basically, I'm not good enough to have true friends because I'm on some weird cusp where I'm not considered boy, or girl enough. And gay friends? Or friends in a similar situation? Basically non existent even in a dance/performing arts college...as I live in the middle of nowhere, where the only gay guys are either deep in the closet, or raging queens that only want to know me for one thing only, or that I'm not 'good enough' for even that reason.

I just wanna leave, and go live somewhere far away, start over, make new friends...ones that actually give a shit about me. But no, I'll have to wait and go to my second choice school. Ugh.

I just want a real friend, I have online friends...but it's not the same.

And now on Monday when I get back to college I'll have to either decide to be alone or hang in the background with these false friends just to have some company.

I am so sorry you had to go through that, hon. The thing is, you call them your friends, but what you're describing sound like enemies. They may act like they'll be there for you, but if they don't follow through and do things to hurt you, they're no friends of yours. I promise you that not all women are like that. If you ever need to talk, let me know.

Reminds me of this Bible verse:
"Wounds from a sincere friend are better than kisses from an enemy." - Proverbs 27:6

I've found that's so true. If a real friend hurts you, they're genuinely sorry and they probably had YOUR best interests in mind to begin with! I will be praying you find friends who truly understand and care for you. I know it would be another online friend, but I'm totally up for being one of those! :)

Love, your mersister,
Lotus <3

[Rivertee]

Ok normally I'm a little more professional than this but HOLY CARP when will it end!!!!??? I am a team leader (basically an under thumb manager) at my job and recently had a team member that walked out and quit on us. When she worked with me there was no hostility, no smart ass comment, and honestly she acted like we were best friends. Even hung out outside of work and had fun. But soon before she quit my GM came to me saying I need to "manage me team better" and proceeded to tell me that my entire team thought I was lazy and good for nothing based upon the words of this one person.

Now me being me I approached each of then and inquired if they had any complaints or greivences (sp) with anyone at work or anything I've done because I want to "make this team run smoothly so we're all on the same page." I received a few mild complaints about other team members and one or two on how I run the store. But nothing on the scale that I was told. So I finally approached said team mate and clearly asked about what she'd told my GM. She just laughed and shrugged it off saying "I just told her what I heard."

Ok it's been about 2 weeks since she out right walked out and quit making me pick up all her shifts (as not to stretch my team thin) sometimes even working doubles. I find she not only went to my GM she said the same thing about me to the repair tech that works on our machines at work. Honestly! If you have that much of a problem with me please be adult enough to say so!

No she has bad mouthed and trash talked ABOUT me to everyone! People who don't even know me give me odd looks mentioning if I'd heard about the "lazy ass" in the store that they'd heard about form someone who was "fired because she spoke out against that worthless worker".

She hasn't contacted me since leaving explaining anything, but she constantly complains that I haven't contacted her to inquire as to what 'forced' her to quit. I can't seem to go a single day at work without SOMEONE bringing up how she'd spoken about me.

I very much dislike double scale people and even more so if they're a gossiping gabby and trying to ruin my reputation. I've worked for 8 year at this company to be where I am and I'm trying to get Manager in my section of the store, but if these rumors and stories keep going I'm afraid my chances may drop drastically.


Whew sorry guys and gals but I really needed to get that out.

[Mermaid Mhara]

I am so sorry you had to go through that, hon. The thing is, you call them your friends, but what you're describing sound like enemies. They may act like they'll be there for you, but if they don't follow through and do things to hurt you, they're no friends of yours. I promise you that not all women are like that. If you ever need to talk, let me know.

Reminds me of this Bible verse:
"Wounds from a sincere friend are better than kisses from an enemy." - Proverbs 27:6

I've found that's so true. If a real friend hurts you, they're genuinely sorry and they probably had YOUR best interests in mind to begin with! I will be praying you find friends who truly understand and care for you. I know it would be another online friend, but I'm totally up for being one of those! :)

Love, your mersister,
Lotus <3

Aw thanks Lotus :) I'm just overly frustrated but I'm glad to hear kind words trying to cheer me up! I'm in a much better mood now, thankfully haha, but your post really made me smile and be thankful that a place like this even exists to restore my faith in humanity and let me know that even if I can't find the people I need right now I will eventually. I think I honor my mer-family and friends a lot more than most of my real life friends haha. Wonder how sad that makes me sound ;) lol

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Aw thanks Lotus :) I'm just overly frustrated but I'm glad to hear kind words trying to cheer me up! I'm in a much better mood now, thankfully haha, but your post really made me smile and be thankful that a place like this even exists to restore my faith in humanity and let me know that even if I can't find the people I need right now I will eventually. I think I honor my mer-family and friends a lot more than most of my real life friends haha. Wonder how sad that makes me sound ;) lol

Not sad at all!!! I'm so glad to have been able to help cheer you up!! You deserve it!! :)

[Prairie Mermaid Jamie]

Thank god for this place or I dont know what id do right now. Sorry for the bad spelling and wall of text. Its hard to see the screen when youre crying.

Im having the equvalent of a marrage ending fight wth my husband over his mom and her disrespect towards my parenting.

Long story short my daughters bio sperm donor is a crazy abusive control freak who used to beat me pretty badly. I left with our daughter thank god and have been fighting to keep him away ever since. I even got a court order of no contact. Because of this issue I dont post photos of my daughter online. He stalks me and my friends. He tried going for custody so he could get to me. He found my mother in laws facebook page where she had put a bunch of photos of my kid. She had asked me about posting and I said no. She went behind my back and did it anyways and blocked me so I couldnt see them. My ex did tho and he emailed them to me. He drives around my house on a regular basis and when he sees us in public he follows us. He now knows what they look like, where they live and the places they take her. Three years ago this started. She was asked to take them down and didnt. Even her daughter (my husbands sister) posted some and I lost in on both of them. O tried to forgive her after she said she removed them and I discovered last week she never did. She still hasnt after a week of asking and telling her.

She told me im making it up about my ex and its not that bad and what she did isnt a big deal. It doesnt matter that when he tried to physically take my daughter out of my arms and kicked me in the stomach to do so, or that the last fight he hospitalized me and I was literally black and blue because he repeatedly picked me up and threw me into walls and down stairs made of concrete. I have permanent shoulder damage and a permanently detached rib.

Im trying to protect my daughter from that abuse and she plasters her all over the internet so he can find her. Facebook wont force removal of the photos even tho its illegal to use photos of minors without parental consent. Im now out of iptions and my husband isnt helping. He just sits on his ass and doesnt say a damn word while his mother degrades me and calls me a bad and neglectful mom. Its everything I can do not to smother him with a pillow im so angry with him. He doesnt care and wont stand up for her and the worst part is he read the nasty stuff she said and then gave her my cell number so she could send it to me.

Im about to have my entire life turned around I dont know what to do. I just want whats best for my little girl. How is that so wrong, someone ease twll me because I dont see it. Artrgggggvg xbdjdjdnxjdifjxnssksdbcj

[Little_Orca]

I'm sorry you are going through that hun. :( I have no words of wisdom, but know that your fight will not be in vain. My mother went through something similar to protect my sister and I; we were even court ordered to leave the state we lived in for our protection. We were fortunate, though, that after a while, my biological father didn't give two shits about us anymore so we don't have to look over our shoulders anymore.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Thank god for this place or I dont know what id do right now. Sorry for the bad spelling and wall of text. Its hard to see the screen when youre crying.

Im having the equvalent of a marrage ending fight wth my husband over his mom and her disrespect towards my parenting.

Long story short my daughters bio sperm donor is a crazy abusive control freak who used to beat me pretty badly. I left with our daughter thank god and have been fighting to keep him away ever since. I even got a court order of no contact. Because of this issue I dont post photos of my daughter online. He stalks me and my friends. He tried going for custody so he could get to me. He found my mother in laws facebook page where she had put a bunch of photos of my kid. She had asked me about posting and I said no. She went behind my back and did it anyways and blocked me so I couldnt see them. My ex did tho and he emailed them to me. He drives around my house on a regular basis and when he sees us in public he follows us. He now knows what they look like, where they live and the places they take her. Three years ago this started. She was asked to take them down and didnt. Even her daughter (my husbands sister) posted some and I lost in on both of them. O tried to forgive her after she said she removed them and I discovered last week she never did. She still hasnt after a week of asking and telling her.

She told me im making it up about my ex and its not that bad and what she did isnt a big deal. It doesnt matter that when he tried to physically take my daughter out of my arms and kicked me in the stomach to do so, or that the last fight he hospitalized me and I was literally black and blue because he repeatedly picked me up and threw me into walls and down stairs made of concrete. I have permanent shoulder damage and a permanently detached rib.

Im trying to protect my daughter from that abuse and she plasters her all over the internet so he can find her. Facebook wont force removal of the photos even tho its illegal to use photos of minors without parental consent. Im now out of iptions and my husband isnt helping. He just sits on his ass and doesnt say a damn word while his mother degrades me and calls me a bad and neglectful mom. Its everything I can do not to smother him with a pillow im so angry with him. He doesnt care and wont stand up for her and the worst part is he read the nasty stuff she said and then gave her my cell number so she could send it to me.

Im about to have my entire life turned around I dont know what to do. I just want whats best for my little girl. How is that so wrong, someone ease twll me because I dont see it. Artrgggggvg xbdjdjdnxjdifjxnssksdbcj

Wow. That is absolutely something NO ONE should have to deal with. I'll keep you and your daughter in my prayers. I'm so, so sorry you're having to deal with all of this, and without the support of your husband! You're really strong. If you ever need anyone to talk to, please feel free to message me. I've definitely never experienced a situation like that firsthand, but I'll help however I can.

[Prairie Mermaid Jamie]

Thank you both! It helps to not feel so alone. I cant sleep since I cant shut my brain off. But I have at least cried everything wet left in me. So maybe I can just get so exhausted ill pass out and pretend today didnt happen.


The worst part is my husband says he agrees with me and he said hes told him mom to stop with the pictures. Ive only ever had one major rule when it comes to my kid and that's no photos. I dont. A lot of people I know on my fb think my kid is a toddler because the only photos on there I have are when she was 2 and her bio thing had been on my fb so he already seen and had those ones. My family doesnt do it and if they did they know I would kick their ass and they would lose my kid in their life. Id love to share the pics of my kid swimming in monofins with everyone I know but its not safe. I dont want my marrage to end but I dont know if I can live everyday with him knowig how he dealt with this last situation. Apparently I need to find the photos the cops took for the police report and shove them in their face so she can see what hes capable of. My ex used to be really really mean to his nephew and was very emotionally abusive to him so he doesnt care if its an adult or a child.

My husband defended his mom saying that she would keep my kid safe. Shes over 400 pounds. Theres no way she could get to my kid on time to save her. If my ex showed up at their house, he would have no issue beating her and her husband and taking my kid. Hed probably kill their pets just to spite them for trying to stop him. Hes the poster child for sociopathy. And now that ive mentioned him in public hes gonna start emailig and driving around and telling me he misses me and still loves me and wants to be a family.

[Prairie Mermaid Jamie]

Im am so sorry Orca. I was so busy being upset I didnt say anything in response to you. Im usually not so selfish, I swear!
I think you can help. If any of this is to personal i understand. How was it for you growing up like that? How do you feel about him then and now?. If he had other kids now would you want to see them?
I honestly dont have any idea how that would be but it sounds a bit heavy for someone young to deal with. We moved alot when I was young so I know doing that just sucks.
:hug:

[Rivertee]

Oh Pealie that is just terrible. I can't even imagine the day to day struggle you must endure for your baby girl. Thoughts and prayers to you. I hope it all ends well

[Mermaid Lilium]

prairie I'm so sorry you're having to go through this =( it's hard enough dealing with abuse and then have people doubt you or play down the danger of the situation. I keep my address private everywhere, and keep my personal facebook entirely private to stop my dad from finding me, this is 13 years since we last saw him. For years we had to deal with my gran (his mum) whom he was astranged from, not understanding how bad he was, and would still say stuff like 'you got that from your dad' as if that was an actual compliment and she would regularly bring up stories about him not understanding that we didn't want to hear or think about him at all, or that it was traumatic for us to do so. Not quite the same situation as you but I do understand somewhat. All I can say is that your kid's safety comes first above all as you know, cause appeasing family members and not stepping on a few toes is no where near as important. If they can't understand they're putting you and your child in danger they don't deserve to be a part of your child's life and should be told as much. Tell them to take the photos down or they will be cut out from your child's life because they obviously can't be responsible adults.

Chatfish btw you should talk to special fins! - Marla (Weeki Wachee Marla) has long narrow feet and they did a custom foot pocket for her! Tried that fin on too at merfest and zomg they're freaking amazing, better than the competitior and less than half the price!

and Vaughan.... they aren't real friends. I might just bring my tail to wales and finslap them in the face. Hard.
And never fear you shall have your mer-family nearby soon <3

[PearlieMae]

Thank god for this place or I dont know what id do right now. Sorry for the bad spelling and wall of text. Its hard to see the screen when youre crying.

Im having the equvalent of a marrage ending fight wth my husband over his mom and her disrespect towards my parenting.

Long story short my daughters bio sperm donor is a crazy abusive control freak who used to beat me pretty badly. I left with our daughter thank god and have been fighting to keep him away ever since. I even got a court order of no contact. Because of this issue I dont post photos of my daughter online. He stalks me and my friends. He tried going for custody so he could get to me. He found my mother in laws facebook page where she had put a bunch of photos of my kid. She had asked me about posting and I said no. She went behind my back and did it anyways and blocked me so I couldnt see them. My ex did tho and he emailed them to me. He drives around my house on a regular basis and when he sees us in public he follows us. He now knows what they look like, where they live and the places they take her. Three years ago this started. She was asked to take them down and didnt. Even her daughter (my husbands sister) posted some and I lost in on both of them. O tried to forgive her after she said she removed them and I discovered last week she never did. She still hasnt after a week of asking and telling her.

She told me im making it up about my ex and its not that bad and what she did isnt a big deal. It doesnt matter that when he tried to physically take my daughter out of my arms and kicked me in the stomach to do so, or that the last fight he hospitalized me and I was literally black and blue because he repeatedly picked me up and threw me into walls and down stairs made of concrete. I have permanent shoulder damage and a permanently detached rib.

Im trying to protect my daughter from that abuse and she plasters her all over the internet so he can find her. Facebook wont force removal of the photos even tho its illegal to use photos of minors without parental consent. Im now out of iptions and my husband isnt helping. He just sits on his ass and doesnt say a damn word while his mother degrades me and calls me a bad and neglectful mom. Its everything I can do not to smother him with a pillow im so angry with him. He doesnt care and wont stand up for her and the worst part is he read the nasty stuff she said and then gave her my cell number so she could send it to me.

Im about to have my entire life turned around I dont know what to do. I just want whats best for my little girl. How is that so wrong, someone ease twll me because I dont see it. Artrgggggvg xbdjdjdnxjdifjxnssksdbcj

I sent you a private message...

[Prairie Mermaid Jamie]

Got it Pearlie, and thank you.

Thanks Lillium. Im trying to see it from my daughters point of view when its gets to the point of discussing this whole situation so hearing that helps. It re enforces my belief that what im doing is going to protect her and I hope she doesnt have to deal with that in the future. My ex doesnt seem as interested in her as he is me, but uses her to get to me. Children arent pawns.

[Echidna]

AIf they can't understand they're putting you and your child in danger they don't deserve to be a part of your child's life and should be told as much. Tell them to take the photos down or they will be cut out from your child's life because they obviously can't be responsible adults.


totally this!
If they don't get it, no photos, no visits.
I'd keep my address secret and try to relocate if possible.
Especially if there is no restraining order in place or acted upon.

It makes me mad just to think about how inconsiderate and irresponsible adult! people can be.

Even if it's "just" like Lilium mentioned, talking about stuff saying things downplaying the situation and generally just not getting it's serious :mad:

[Fun123joker]

this snow! we shoveled for along time, went to lunch. when we came back it went back to the way it was before! it didnt even look like we shoveled at all!
im not complaining for this next part but im noticing my hand is starting to get ashy and i've never been ashy. im not freaking out but looks like my time had come

[Starfrit]

So I've been completely drained artistically over the last... Couple of years, to put it simply, where I have had next to no inspiration or motivation to draw or do anything. It's rare that I get the urge to draw something (like, maybe once every four-five months or so), even rarer to complete something, and even rarer still to be happy with the end result.

I recently joined this MLP roleplay site, because I'm a dork who likes My Little Pony and wanted to roleplay my pegasus character. They wanted a visual ref of the character so I thought, "Sure! I can do that!" I didn't draw the pic, but I found a really good free .psd base to work with.

Two hours in PaintTool SAI. Two and a half, I think. I got so caught up in making sure all of the details were right, making sure I was saving copies in the right resolutions in .png format so that they'd be usable on the site, that I, like a total fucking moron, forgot to save the actual, full-res image in .sai format so I could keep all the individual layers intact.

So, after the fact, when I had the pictures done, character profile set up (http://www.ponytopia.net/profile/Lucky_Clover), I decided to clue up for the night, hit exit on SAI. Because I had a bunch of other garbage files pulled up in the program-- reference pics, colors swatches, etc., when I saw the prompts to save I just immediately clicked "no" on all of them assuming it was just the garbage files I didn't need to keep... and only caught a glimpse of the base's file name after I clicked "no" and the program shut down.

So it's gone. All I have is the one dumb low-res compressed file that's 1/3 the original size (less than that I think) and don't have the original layers anymore.

Because I'm an idiot.

http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view2/1308275/rage-guy-ffffuuuu-o.gif

It's taking a LOT of meditation and tea to keep me from just pitching my computer out into a snowbank right now.

[Mermaid Alea]

Ahhh I just got finished drawing in my sketchbook for one of my classes (I have to do a detailed pencil drawing a day, and I have skipped way too many days this week). I am definitely tired of drawing and losing motivation! I know how you feel about not saving your work. Many times that has happened to me where I was working on something and I was done or almost done and I forgot to save or the computer crashed, or I accidently overwrote another file because I forgot to re-name something. It is soooo frustrating!!! When that happens to me, I just say to myself that it is okay because now I know what I am going to do, so I can re-do it faster and also often when I do it the second time it looks better. That is if you go back and make it when you are not still pissed off. Usually I might just wait until the next day to start all over again.

[Aquatic Raider]

Had a professional conference in Denver, CO. Payed 400$ registration out of pocket. Flight got cancelled due to bad weather, and the soonest flight leaves here the last day of the conference. To switch airlines at this point would cost me an additional 700$. So I guess I'm not going. I've had this trip planned for two months.

I a'int here for it.

Thankfully the hotel I booked did a full refund but I still just lost a bunch of money from the conference registration.

(//wanders off cussing into the distance//)

[Rogue Siren]

Don't know where to put this, but ugh. I feel stupid. I work at a craft store in their framing department. I love it. What I hate is people constantly telling me I would be a better manager for the department than the current one. Because the position just opened up, and I applied it for it, but I don't think i'm going to get it. I went to the interview and did okay, then at the end he asked what my motivation was, and I started crying. Why do I do that?! Everyone I talk to someone higher up than me about something important I start crying. And during the interview he talked about having thick skin and being strong and responsible and all, and I start crying. Wtf?! Ugh.

[PearlieMae]

Don't know where to put this, but ugh. I feel stupid. I work at a craft store in their framing department. I love it. What I hate is people constantly telling me I would be a better manager for the department than the current one. Because the position just opened up, and I applied it for it, but I don't think i'm going to get it. I went to the interview and did okay, then at the end he asked what my motivation was, and I started crying. Why do I do that?! Everyone I talk to someone higher up than me about something important I start crying. And during the interview he talked about having thick skin and being strong and responsible and all, and I start crying. Wtf?! Ugh.

It's one of those things that happen under high stress...like a giggling fit at a funeral. You are a highly sensitive person (which is a good trait to have for the new position, btw), and in the context of being in a meeting with a superior (I hate that word...I'm talking about your manager), your emotions bubble to the surface. A good manager would know that this is what happened in your instance. It would take a thousand percent more stress for this to happen to you with a customer! (Same thing happened to me when I applied for - and got promoted to - managing a studio of 20 cutthroat art directors and designers in a New York ad agency!)

When you get the chance, talk to the manager again in a casual context and convey how passionate you are about moving up in the company and how you won't let them down. Your follow-up will show you are serious about the job. Good luck!

[Dancing Fish]

Don't know where to put this, but ugh. I feel stupid. I work at a craft store in their framing department. I love it. What I hate is people constantly telling me I would be a better manager for the department than the current one. Because the position just opened up, and I applied it for it, but I don't think i'm going to get it. I went to the interview and did okay, then at the end he asked what my motivation was, and I started crying. Why do I do that?! Everyone I talk to someone higher up than me about something important I start crying. And during the interview he talked about having thick skin and being strong and responsible and all, and I start crying. Wtf?! Ugh.

Oh, gosh, I do that too. Waterworks under the most inappropriate circumstances! And inappropriate giggling, too. And I never made the connection before but I think Pearlie's right-- it usually only happens when meeting a "social superior" who has power over you in some way, never under other equally stressful circumstances. I'm cool as a cucumber most of the time. Arrgh.

[Rogue Siren]

It's one of those things that happen under high stress...like a giggling fit at a funeral. You are a highly sensitive person (which is a good trait to have for the new position, btw), and in the context of being in a meeting with a superior (I hate that word...I'm talking about your manager), your emotions bubble to the surface. A good manager would know that this is what happened in your instance. It would take a thousand percent more stress for this to happen to you with a customer! (Same thing happened to me when I applied for - and got promoted to - managing a studio of 20 cutthroat art directors and designers in a New York ad agency!)

When you get the chance, talk to the manager again in a casual context and convey how passionate you are about moving up in the company and how you won't let them down. Your follow-up will show you are serious about the job. Good luck!



Oh, gosh, I do that too. Waterworks under the most inappropriate circumstances! And inappropriate giggling, too. And I never made the connection before but I think Pearlie's right-- it usually only happens when meeting a "social superior" who has power over you in some way, never under other equally stressful circumstances. I'm cool as a cucumber most of the time. Arrgh.

Thank you, guys. It's just so embarrassing, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one. He was really cool about it, so I'll do what you suggested Pearlie. The only thing I think might have hurt my chances is the fact I'm planning to move next year. :( I really want this position as I love my department and it would help me move successfully (hopefully to the same position).


On a completely unrelated note. I am so tired of all the splash inspired tails! :P

[Lily]

Warning: kinda gross.

I have been nauseated all day every day for weeks. (No, I am definitely NOT pregnant.) This seems to happen to me every few years, where my body just decides it hates me and wants to make me suffer. I actually threw up last week because I was stupid and didn't even think a hangover would make things worse so I went and got wasted on Valentine's day. Cue puking all the next day. Ginger helps, pulling my hair a little helps (pain signals override nausea signals), but cripes I am fucking miserable. Sometimes I can't even swallow, particularly if I'm trying to take a pill or something. It's like my esophagus goes NOPE NOPE NOPE and I gag it up.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

When im menstruating (right now, as of last night) I get sick. When I say sick, I mean vomiting, nausea, etc..
So last night we went and got fast food really quick to eat. I no sooner ate, and it left my body. I felt absolutely awful. I slept none last night, and didn't eat until just now.

I guess my body just decides "hey, you know what's fun?
Vomiting." *violently slams button that makes me puke*

[Lily]

Stupid button-mashing bodies.

http://www.twinfinite.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Button-Mash.gif

Can't a girl just eat in peace??

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

That happens to me too.
In my case it is dysmenorrhea and I talked to my doctor to get medication for it.
I wouldn't be able to go to work if that happened on a work day.

[Mermaid Momo]

Warning: kinda gross.

I have been nauseated all day every day for weeks. (No, I am definitely NOT pregnant.) This seems to happen to me every few years, where my body just decides it hates me and wants to make me suffer. I actually threw up last week because I was stupid and didn't even think a hangover would make things worse so I went and got wasted on Valentine's day. Cue puking all the next day. Ginger helps, pulling my hair a little helps (pain signals override nausea signals), but cripes I am fucking miserable. Sometimes I can't even swallow, particularly if I'm trying to take a pill or something. It's like my esophagus goes NOPE NOPE NOPE and I gag it up.
This happened to me once, In March actually. I got nausea and intense stomache pains and then I missed my period for 3 whole months while still having the pain and nausea. My doctor had no idea what was going on, I wasn't pregnant, and there was nothing wrong that she could find. She did however press on my stomache after a while (since I wasn't eating anything but small snacks I could keep down here and there) and she thought maybe something was wrong in my digestive tract. Turns out I was really really constipated (she couldn't figure out why though, but she said that the stress and change in diet, aka, me not eating and throwing everything up, had affected my period and was why it disappeared for 3 months) maybe it's something to do with your digestive tract like mine was?

[Mermaid Enora]

I have trouble keeping food down in the morning if I'm super stressed or didn't get enough sleep the night before.
During nursing school I spent every test and quiz morning and at least one day a week crying over the kitchen sink and basically hung over (without drinking) and heaving my guts up after breakfast. Now that I've been out for 3 years it doesn't happen as much, but it still scares me that it might happen. Happens more often around my period than anything else. Not looking forward to being pregnant some day and having morning sickness.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

This isn't an overly bitch-y bitch, but I am so annoyed with myself.

I do not understand why I have such a fear of making phonecalls.

To any one.

Ever.

I freak out!
They might be busy.
It might be inconvenient.

I can't even call a store.
You know. When it is someone's /job/ to answer the phone.

It is ridiculous and I am getting myself so stressed out and worked up about making a phone call.

>.<

[Echidna]

^^ I hate doing phonecalls too. If there is any way to write an email instead, I always do that.

On that note;
I had dealings with the officials, who (I suspect purposefully) assigned me a clerk who I could barely understand. (Foreigner with a heavy accent.)
She would always call me and shout at me over the phone, and ask loads of questions in an aggressive tone, and I was desperately trying to make sense of her gibberish.

Then, the officials would send me letters where they claimed "you answered this and that wrong" and stuff.
I wrote and phoned numerous times pleading for a different clerk with better language skills, OR that the clerk in question would please write an email instead.

Each and every one of these requests was answered with...a furious phone-call with more furious gibberish on the end.

And don't get me started on "authorities" who ask for millions of confirmations and testimonies, and once you've collected and sent them all in, proceed to ignore every single one of them LOL.

[Merman Chatfish]

This isn't an overly bitch-y bitch, but I am so annoyed with myself.

I do not understand why I have such a fear of making phonecalls.

To any one.

Ever.

I freak out!
They might be busy.
It might be inconvenient.

I can't even call a store.
You know. When it is someone's /job/ to answer the phone.

It is ridiculous and I am getting myself so stressed out and worked up about making a phone call.

>.<


Same here. Hate talking on the phone. Yes I prefer to talk in person but if I can't do that I prefer text over phones. I think I get it from my dad.

[Mermaid Enora]

I only hate having to call my work. They always ask me to work extra hours and I hate having to turn them down makes them mad at me I think

[Lucinda]

This isn't an overly bitch-y bitch, but I am so annoyed with myself.

I do not understand why I have such a fear of making phonecalls.

To any one.

Ever.

I freak out!
They might be busy.
It might be inconvenient.

I can't even call a store.
You know. When it is someone's /job/ to answer the phone.

It is ridiculous and I am getting myself so stressed out and worked up about making a phone call.

>.<


I can totally identify with what you're describing. There was a time when I would rather swing by the dental clinic or the hairdresser to make an appointment than do it over the phone. When I was little, I was scared of shopping on my own because I was anxious of the social situation of paying. Of course, a lot of this could be attributed to the fact that Finnish is my third language and I was totally afraid of people saying things I wouldn't understand, and of me getting numbers wrong or dates wrong.
It's easier today, but I still worry about misunderstandings or that I neglect to mention something important, or have trouble remembering a word or expression I want to use, or come across as rude and aloof if I try to stick to the facts (or alternatively seem ditzy when I'm being nice). There are just so many things that can go wrong.
If there is a concrete issue that needs discussing, then I'd rather write so that I can make sure I've explained my side of the story in the most coherent and understandable way possible. Then I can also look up words and rephrase things. But calling someone is a bit like the verbal equivalent of an athletic performance, if you trip during it you mess it up. But in writing you can think things through.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

Ugh. So I had someone call me at work. They had a screaming baby in the background that they were yelling at. They never answered me, so I hung up. A couple minutes later, they called back to yell at ME for saying that someone had hung up on them and how rude they thought it was.
M'am, if you don't want to be hung up on after YOU call someone, then perhaps you should wait until you're done screaming at your child and ready to speak with the person you phoned. -.-'

[Shimmer Mermaid]

OMFG

We just bought a single wide trailer from some woman, paid 8500 for it, plus 1200 to move it.

She said she called her husband when we bought it, we have the title. We have a bill of sale. We have the trailer as of this morning.

Her "HUSBAND" just called us, and is demanding that we give the trailer back.

Saying she lied to him about how much we paid, and turns out she pocketed the money and left apparently.

He's being an ass.
She's proving that she's a liar.
And it's stressing my 71 year old father with lung cancer out.


Can I politely ask you guys...
WHAT IN THE FLYING SAM HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO IN THIS KIND OF SITUATION?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

I. Am. Freaking. Out.

People are just asshats.

It seems like it's just one thing after another with me!

[Rogue Siren]

OMFG

We just bought a single wide trailer from some woman, paid 8500 for it, plus 1200 to move it.

She said she called her husband when we bought it, we have the title. We have a bill of sale. We have the trailer as of this morning.

Her "HUSBAND" just called us, and is demanding that we give the trailer back.

Saying she lied to him about how much we paid, and turns out she pocketed the money and left apparently.

He's being an ass.
She's proving that she's a liar.
And it's stressing my 71 year old father with lung cancer out.


Can I politely ask you guys...
WHAT IN THE FLYING SAM HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO DO IN THIS KIND OF SITUATION?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

I. Am. Freaking. Out.

People are just asshats.

It seems like it's just one thing after another with me!

Double check your documents to make sure all the right signatures are there, etc. I'd do that then block the man's number.

[Meronica]

If you have the title he legally can't do anything and needs to take it up with his "wife".

I would take over the situation to avoid stressing out your dad if I were you. :/ If you ignore them long enough they'll leave you alone and fight amongst themselves.


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[coral_sybil]

I don't believe that he has any ground for it as long as the trailer was sold and all the paper is sound. Otherwise I'd demand a full refund including anything extra you had to pay for it.

[coral_sybil]

Beyond that it becomes a question of if they aren't just scammers and liars and have done this before and stressed people out to steal their money

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Everything is all there. We've got everything we need, but this guy is a major ass

[Echidna]

^^
tough situation, but:

is the trailer legally yours? Waterproof papers and transaction?
Then do nothing.
It's not your fault his gf or w/e stole the money and eloped. His problem.

Alternately, you can give it back IF he pays you back first.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

If he wants to go to court over it all, then what ever. I was there and my step mother was there whenever all documents were signed.

He will get that trailer back without paying us back, AND refunding us for moving it.
He was there this morning when they moved it, he told them to take it.

Now he's throwing a tantrum because of his wife/girlfriend lying to him. >.<

[PearlieMae]

What? He's getting it back without giving you your money back??? Call the police! He's stealing what is rightfully yours!

Lying girlfriend/wife is not your problem.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Sorry I meant
He will NOT get that trailer back without paying us back, and refunding us for moving it.

He can't steal it without us knowing, it's a 14 ft x 40 ft. It's literally maybe 200 yards from where my father lives.

Plus he has NO idea where we live or where the trailer is.

If I had it my way, I'd be decking him in the face right now!

[PearlieMae]

I don't blame you! You might want to file a police report anyway, so there's a record of his craziness.

[Anahita]

Whining bitch time here.

My divorce has finally settled. Now can my f*cking ex husband leave me the f*ck alone? Like, I hated you when I was married to you, dude. What the hell makes you think I want to deal with your broke, abusive ass now?

I have another thing to bitch about, but I don't feel like bitching about it until I see the outcome of it. That thing's a whole messed up bucket of f*ck.... So I'm biding my time for now hoping that it'll work itself out. But know that I'm bitching about waiting for it ;)

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Whining bitch time here.

My divorce has finally settled. Now can my f*cking ex husband leave me the f*ck alone? Like, I hated you when I was married to you, dude. What the hell makes you think I want to deal with your broke, abusive ass now?

I have another thing to bitch about, but I don't feel like bitching about it until I see the outcome of it. That thing's a whole messed up bucket of f*ck.... So I'm biding my time for now hoping that it'll work itself out. But know that I'm bitching about waiting for it ;)

So thankful you got away from him! I'll be praying he leaves you alone.

Also, I love your new profile picture! :)

[JayJ79]

If I had it my way, I'd be decking him in the face right now!

physical violence always makes the situation so much better

[SeaGlass Siren]

so my husband went to go take that second blood test to see if his liver is ok. I'm worried about him. doctors appointment is tomorrow to see the test results. if his liver is really bad i have no idea what i'm gonna do or even how to help...

[Mermaid Lilium]

so my husband went to go take that second blood test to see if his liver is ok. I'm worried about him. doctors appointment is tomorrow to see the test results. if his liver is really bad i have no idea what i'm gonna do or even how to help...

*huge mer-hugs*

<3

[SeaGlass Siren]

;_; thankyou lilium. *hugs*

[Mermaid Lilium]

;_; thankyou lilium. *hugs*

You're more than welcome hun =)

And I know it's a super uncertain moment for you right now,

But you can be certain of one thing: We will all be here for you no matter the outcome of his tests <3

[SeaGlass Siren]

thankyou so much for the support lilium ;__; im so lucky to have fronds like you.

[Mermaid Lilium]

thankyou so much for the support lilium ;__; im so lucky to have fronds like you.

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[PearlieMae]

Fins crossed that everything goes well and that it's not serious!

[SeaGlass Siren]

thanks pearlie. i'm hoping too!

with fronds like these, who needs anenomes?

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

Not really a bitch but...
NOOOOOO :(
Spock died

[SeaGlass Siren]

He's returned to the stars. He lived long, and prospered.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Not really a bitch but...
NOOOOOO :(
Spock died

I know, I'm so sad about it =( he will forever LLAP in our hearts. </3

[MermanOliver]

Rest in peace, Mr. Spock. :(

And he isn't the only one who passed away. Eugenie Clark, a marine biologist and mentor to Dr. Sylvia Earle died yesterday, too. :( (at least according to the Mission Blue channel on FB)
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[Shimmer Mermaid]

*Gives liver*
Does this work?

[Little_Orca]

I cannot overtly bitch about what is bothering me because it deals with work. I work in mental health and everything is protected by HIPPA.

I will say I am a supporter of persons with mental health issues finding other ways to cope with their difficulties outside of just pure medication; with the notion that it really is helping them. If someone functions better and has a better sense of wellness on their medication, then I think they should take that. Where I work lets people make up their own choices, to a point. If you want to refuse your meds you have that right, but not taking meds will be seen as not following with your care plan (unless you speak to the doctor and work out an alternative that they will write in your plan in place of meds or along with meds).

Tonight I was at the receiving end of someone's aggression towards a simple issue that was caused by a lot of little things going wrong: special dietary meal not saved right and was eaten by someone else, replacement meal was not up to person's standards, person unable to communicate their frustration and could not respond to my asking if I could help them by getting them something else or what they would want instead. The aggression went on for 40 minutes; 35 minutes longer than it had to partly due to the fact person does not take their court ordered meds because they don't want to. Even those above me believe person should and since we do not force feed them meds or force them to take them, our hands are essentially tied.

I was so shaken up by this I called in sick tomorrow. (Not to mention it will be good to give my planar facities (sp?) a rest.) I was so upset that when I got home I got out the ice cream, bundled in a blanket, and tried to think of how confused and upset person was, basically trying to see things from their view, and I tried to think of what I could have done differently. There really wasn't anything, but I tried to blame all that on something I did. Somedays I really, really hate my job.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Totally been there with job stress. It sounds like you handled it really well, though! *hugs*! Proud of you, mersister :)


I cannot overtly bitch about what is bothering me because it deals with work. I work in mental health and everything is protected by HIPPA.

I will say I am a supporter of persons with mental health issues finding other ways to cope with their difficulties outside of just pure medication; with the notion that it really is helping them. If someone functions better and has a better sense of wellness on their medication, then I think they should take that. Where I work lets people make up their own choices, to a point. If you want to refuse your meds you have that right, but not taking meds will be seen as not following with your care plan (unless you speak to the doctor and work out an alternative that they will write in your plan in place of meds or along with meds).

Tonight I was at the receiving end of someone's aggression towards a simple issue that was caused by a lot of little things going wrong: special dietary meal not saved right and was eaten by someone else, replacement meal was not up to person's standards, person unable to communicate their frustration and could not respond to my asking if I could help them by getting them something else or what they would want instead. The aggression went on for 40 minutes; 35 minutes longer than it had to partly due to the fact person does not take their court ordered meds because they don't want to. Even those above me believe person should and since we do not force feed them meds or force them to take them, our hands are essentially tied.

I was so shaken up by this I called in sick tomorrow. (Not to mention it will be good to give my planar facities (sp?) a rest.) I was so upset that when I got home I got out the ice cream, bundled in a blanket, and tried to think of how confused and upset person was, basically trying to see things from their view, and I tried to think of what I could have done differently. There really wasn't anything, but I tried to blame all that on something I did. Somedays I really, really hate my job.

[Mermaid Enora]

Agh HIPPA the bane of my existence!

[Yulia]

I hate this freaking dress.
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[SiaTheMermaid]

So this is a relatively small complaint but it really annoyed me. I purchased my first monofin two weeks ago (it's a Hydra and I freaking love it!) and had been swimming in my local pool with it without a problem. Until a few days ago. As I had before, I arrived at the pool with my mono (in a clear bag btw, so you can tell what is in it), payed my £6 entrance fee at the reception and went merrily on my way to the pool.

Once in the water with my fin, I swimming along quite happily in the relatively empty pool when I get called to the waters edge and told that I cannot wear my fin (and snorkel goggles!) because I pose a risk to others and myself. I tried to explain that I had used those items in the same venue previously and I was met with nothing but hostility.

What the actual hell.

[Mermaid Enora]

Oh I've had that problem too and I asked ahead I hate it when the rules just change

[SummerRogue]

I have to hire a lane to swim at my local pool and the last time I booked a different time than usual so there was a swimming class on at the same time, the instructor asked if I would mind moving a lane over , away from the edge so of course I agreed ,I'm not gonna let children drown cause they can't hold onto the wall lol. But then they don't put up another lane rope and I can't swim in my fin with the rest of the pool for ''health and safety'' then they just dump the kids in my lane and have them swimming laps while i'm trying not to hit them with my tail, They didn't want to put out another lane out so they don't take up more free swimming space for 'paying swimmers' and apparently I 'shouldn't have been allowed to book the same time as the lessons' Ugh, they eventually left but I couldn't really swim properly with children so close to me. sadly it's the only place that allows me to swim in my tail so I guess I'm stuck trying to swim around kids. I love children but I wasn't prepared for a 'performance' . they even saw me take off my tail.

[SiaTheMermaid]

Scotland and it's pools. I even spoke to friends about getting a petition going for the use of fins in pools because it annoyed me so much! Of course a petition isn't a feesable idea because it would be completely ignored.

I've resorted to looking for gyms that have pools. *Sigh* The charges are extortionate though.

[SummerRogue]

Mine is council owned so it's quite cheap ,well £6 an hour but I guess it's not so bad? I'll maybe look into pools in glasgow


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[SiaTheMermaid]

Yeah, I was using Edinburgh Lesuire, but now apparently there are no fins allowed. Gyms cost upwards of £40 a month but it's the only option

[SummerRogue]

How did you like the monofin? I think it's the same as the one in my fabric tail, i don't know whether it's the fabric but I feel like mine is quite difficult to push through the water


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[SiaTheMermaid]

At first I found it difficult because it was my first ever swim in a monofin but when I got the hang of it, it was nice in the water. It's got a great push in it too and it sometimes strains the ankles

[Echidna]

I hate this freaking dress.
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:lol: :thumbs-up:
it annoys me too, because it's clear as sunshine the colours are dirty white / ugly brown yellow.
AND IT'S UGLY TOO.


Concerning pools and their "rules"; I think I've bitched about those in this thread at least 3 times already.
Yesterday, I had a fabulous time in one of the pools which strictly disallow fins (even fins so short they are hardly longer than my toes, meaning any guys' foot will be longer and broader),
and what do I see?
There's one of those "pro" dudes, splashing around like a drowning puppy, wearing wide swimgloves that are wider and bigger than a pizza plate.
Certainly bigger than my shortfins.

But that's ok ofc, just as the bulky things the aquajoggers put on their feet and then kick all around them.
Coz those are the cool guys. Right?

[SiaTheMermaid]

Double standards. Double standards everywhere!

[Yulia]

You guys should all move to Sweden, everyone I've talked to have been nothing but supportive about tails and fins. (As long as you don't swim into anyone)

[SiaTheMermaid]

I wish it was like that here! People just tend to stare at you should you dare put a fin on, let alone a tail

[Little_Orca]

So, as though my night at work last night was not enough to be something to bitch about, I woke to something else today.

Mail service to my house has been suspended. Why? Because of my stepfather's forgetfulness.

We have a pair of dachshunds that are trained to stay in our front yard to keep my mother company when she gardens. My step dad takes them out all the time at the worst times: busy street (we live near a school) hours and when the mail comes. One of our dogs, Sherlock, thinks he is a doberman. He is all bark, no bite. He will run up to someone, bark at them, howl, then run back to my mother or step father.

My mother has asked her husband repetitively to keep the dogs in the back yard from now on, since he lets them out at these times and she is afraid that they will get hit by a car or someone will hurt Sherlock thinking he will bite them. My step dad has said he would, but he does so anyways and always claims that he forgets. We believe he has early onset dementia, but he is in denial and his doctor's tests are not showing it, but we see it constantly at home.

One of the persons that Sherlock likes to run up to and bark at is the mail carrier. We had been asked to please keep the dog away from him and my mother has worked to do so. Yesterday, my step dad let the dogs out in the front yarn AGAIN and Sherlock saw the mail carrier and ran over to them barking.

Today, my mother got a notice: mail suspension until she signs a document at the post office saying that Sherlock will be kept under control and if he isn't then they will take him away and have him put down. My mother is not mad at the post office, as she understands they are trying to protect their carriers, but she (and I) are livid at my step dad. What did my step dad have to say about all this?

"I let him out, and just plum forgot. But you should have seen that <word omitted> jump! It was hilarious."

Yeah, you know what else is hilarious? You have our dog listed as a dangerous animal now and they could potentially take him and kill him. Good. Fucking. Job.

My mom is now looking into getting a fence put up around her front yard, which will kill a lot of her flowers in an attempt to keep Sherlock safe from my step dad's forgetfulness. Sherlock is not at fault here, he is defending his home and alerting us to threats, as he sees them, and he has never bit or hurt another person or dog. He is gentle, except for his barking behavior.

I don't know what to do now. It feels as though now along with work and school I have to spend my time doing homework AND babysitting a man to make sure our dog is not killed. My mother has even considered selling the house and moving. It's all a mess and I am so... I'm just done.

[Mermaid Pickles]

Your stepdad sounds like a combination of my dad (the forgetting and not admitting things are bad) and my grandpa (The forgetting all the time and being in denial). Ouch. I'm sorry. On the upside, dachsie love over here! Honestly, I've never actually met a vicious dachsie...but they're probably out there somewhere. My dog my family had when I was a kid was like that, running and barking but then running away back to the house...or just trying to be brave from behind your legs.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Update on the hubby's liver: he's perfectly fine.

but thats not what i want to bitch about.

Last night i got home from work really late and i was too tired and hungry to do anything. he told me that he was playing a game but he'll make me something after. which is usually fine by me. but not last night. after nearly an hour of waiting, i dont know what happened but i fell off my computer chair from exhaustion. what does he do?
he continues playing. wtf.

he literally chose his stupid videogames over me. wtf. like.. i can't... wtf just happened??

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Update on the hubby's liver: he's perfectly fine.

but thats not what i want to bitch about.

Last night i got home from work really late and i was too tired and hungry to do anything. he told me that he was playing a game but he'll make me something after. which is usually fine by me. but not last night. after nearly an hour of waiting, i dont know what happened but i fell off my computer chair from exhaustion. what does he do?
he continues playing. wtf.

he literally chose his stupid videogames over me. wtf. like.. i can't... wtf just happened??
Do the same back to him with your mermaiding!

[Echidna]

I hate to say it, but when something like this happens early in a relationship (and shortly after marriage) it doesn't bode well for the future.

[PearlieMae]

Little Orca, get the fence. You can always get more flowers. Get a bark collar, too. Your dog is marked and one infraction is enough to cause a whole lot of misery. If your step dad's potential dementia is real and he's not just being an asshole, your dog is still at risk.

Seaglass, maybe it's some passive/aggressive behavior? I'm glad his liver is fine. I was afraid it was Hep C or liver cancer.

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah. tell me about it. =_=

No he just drank too much over the holidays.

[Vixy]

So apparently from £300-350 for moving back into his old room, my brother is now going to give me only £150 and he'll start putting stuff in there. No, just no. The original money would help to my NZ fund, it would pretty much give me almost what I need, hundred or so out.

When I started speaking about it to everyone, he then told me to go upstairs and go away because I'm shrieking and starting to screech. Yet I was speaking normally, sometimes I think I shouldn't speak at all in the house as I'm apparently screeching all the time.

[SiaTheMermaid]

That sucks Vixy! I do think you should stand your ground though, because it's unfair for people to go back on what they originally said

[PearlieMae]

I thought you extracted yourself from your nutty brother a while ago.

[Vixy]

I thought you extracted yourself from your nutty brother a while ago.

He moved back in, I did have almost half a year without him though so it was nice when it lasted. I hope I will be the one moving out this year as it is going well with my boyfriend.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Well after giving him a one day silent treatment he came up to me and gave me a one hour long apology. I kid you not it was actually an hour. When I came home from work he offered to massage me and he bought me dinner... and a sweater that looks like A's (pretty little liars) and a new yoga mat I wanted from forever21.

And because I was still tired and my legs were sore from staying overtime (love my job, it's worth the pain) he decided to help me to the room and avoided video games all night to stay and talk to me.

Aw.. ;-; he's acting on his apology.

New bitchy bitch thing: a little twerp scratched my hand at the store. =_= ow.

[Merman Dan]

For every time my 14-year old son tells me to shut up, I will be scratching my testicles in front of his future girlfriend (or boyfriend). That is all.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Well after giving him a one day silent treatment he came up to me and gave me a one hour long apology. I kid you not it was actually an hour. When I came home from work he offered to massage me and he bought me dinner... and a sweater that looks like A's (pretty little liars) and a new yoga mat I wanted from forever21.

And because I was still tired and my legs were sore from staying overtime (love my job, it's worth the pain) he decided to help me to the room and avoided video games all night to stay and talk to me.

Aw.. ;-; he's acting on his apology.

New bitchy bitch thing: a little twerp scratched my hand at the store. =_= ow.
It's sad that it took passive aggression to get him to take you seriously. But I'm glad he did. Here's hoping you don't have to do that or go through that again.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

For every time my 14-year old son tells me to shut up, I will be scratching my testicles in front of his future girlfriend (or boyfriend). That is all.

Awesome. You win at parent.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Parenting at its finest. I completely and totally applaud you. Lol if I ever pop one out, I'm coming to you for advice!!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Awe. I'm glad he apologized. When my boyfriend gets sassy or ignores me, (we're both gamers too) I just give him the cold shoulder, and when he apologizes, I tell him how it made me feel and we learn from it. Or I just go ride my horse for HOURS without checking in.
Drives him crazy

[SeaGlass Siren]

Dan... That's amazing.

Yeah it's kinda sad that once you decide to give them the cold shoulder they're like "oh shit I made a mistake I should say something." Well it's better than nothing and dealing with a total prick I suppose. Sometimes he can be a bit slow which is a little frustrating. But Most of the time he's a sweetheart.

[Merman Dan]

As for the whole girlfriend or boyfriend thing, my wife once approached me.

"Jack says he is gay."
"He can't be gay. The boy couldn't color-coordinate an outfit if his life depended on it."

Mind you I have no interest in professional sports, can't change the oil in my car, love perusing flower catalogs, listen to new age music, have loads of soundtracks in my iTunes Library, and cry at the drop of a hat for my favorite movies. So there you go. ;)

[Mermaid Alea]

It is the peafowl breeding season and I was hoping my birds would stay on their normal schedule of starting to lay eggs in April. A lot of people are hatch-a-holics which means they are addicted to hatching bird eggs. I am not one of those people because I get very stressed out incubating peafowl eggs. I worry about them especially around hatch day because several times I have dealt with the nightmare that is helping a peachick out of the egg because it breaks a hole in the egg but gets stuck inside and it is very scary trying to avoid causing it to bleed to death. You have to go slowly and take your time and it is just very stressful. I love raising up the peachicks, but the hatching part is rough. Anyways, today I found the first egg of the year and I have mixed emotions about getting the first egg a month early. I have to hatch because I need more experience and need to sell peachicks to break even, but I am super worried about how it will go! I have increased the peahen's calcium intake so hopefully that will help prevent getting weak peachicks that can't hatch on their own. This first egg I collected is going to be sold so I won't start incubating eggs just yet - but I am sure it won't be long before I will be firing up the incubator.:biting nails:

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Not really a bitch but I made a really funny video...I can't post said video because it's kind of inappropriate. Crap.

[JayJ79]

Not really a bitch but I made a really funny video...I can't post said video because it's kind of inappropriate. Crap.

appropriateness is in the eye of the beholder.
(and in the ToS of whereever you're posting it, I suppose. haha)

[Anahita]

Ugh f*ck I was supposed to have a photoshoot in SD today and instead I spent most of today at the doctor's office because some things have no sense of timing. Stupid mortal body with mortal problems. :gah:

[SeaGlass Siren]

Anahita if it makes you feel any better I just got sick too :(

Woke up with a sore throat, chills and a burning body, and a headache. Not sure how it happened but I do work at the mall. very little people happened yesterday because of impending icestormgeddon. Speaking of even though it was falling ice it was quite warm. It's been extremely cold the past few days. (Maybe it's from the weather change)
But then again it could also be the poisonous fumes I accidentally inhaled when I was spraying protection on my new boots.

And now I type in bed.blah. And I'm on my period. Blah.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Anahita if it makes you feel any better I just got sick too :(

Woke up with a sore throat, chills and a burning body, and a headache. Not sure how it happened but I do work at the mall. very little people happened yesterday because of impending icestormgeddon. Speaking of even though it was falling ice it was quite warm. It's been extremely cold the past few days. (Maybe it's from the weather change)
But then again it could also be the poisonous fumes I accidentally inhaled when I was spraying protection on my new boots.

And now I type in bed.blah. And I'm on my period. Blah.

I just had the whole crippling, nearly-puking migraine joy last night and I'm still in that 'feeling wierd' post-migraine zone T_T I think codine is the only thing keeping it from returning today >_<

[SeaGlass Siren]

how is everyone getting sick today????

[Mermaid Lilium]

how is everyone getting sick today????

Technically I got sick yesterday :P

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Okay, so if you follow the TAMW thread, you would know that I was supposed to pick up a 7 foot tank for 65 bucks today.

The guy LIED about where he was located!!! So we were driving around in the boondocks, looking for a road that doesn't exist!

I asked if he could deliver it, and he said no, then went online, reposted it, and told people that I lied about picking it up, and that I never showed!

I googled your address you little turd blossom!
Your road doesn't exist in this state!

GARAHGARGARHH! !

[Merperson Danny]

Okay, so if you follow the TAMW thread, you would know that I was supposed to pick up a 7 foot tank for 65 bucks today.

The guy LIED about where he was located!!! So we were driving around in the boondocks, looking for a road that doesn't exist!

I asked if he could deliver it, and he said no, then went online, reposted it, and told people that I lied about picking it up, and that I never showed!

I googled your address you little turd blossom!
Your road doesn't exist in this state!

GARAHGARGARHH! !
That asshole!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm so mad I could spit fire.

[Kishiko]

I'm so mad I could spit fire.

Have you been able to get in contact with him about it?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Yeah, he just said that he gave me a real address, I told him that I googled to find directions, and it's not even an address in a state. He stopped talking

[Mermaid Aika]

That is terrible Shimmer! I hope everything gets sorted out.

[JayJ79]

when you told him you were a mermaid, he was scared for his life, because he figured you were going to lure him to his death. (he's heard the stories. the actual stories, not the disneyfied cartoon versions). So he gave you a false address kind of like women give creepy bar guys a false phone number.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Jay that was the most elaborate and hilarious response ever. And it makes sense.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

This is why we're friends. You make me feel better about cruddy situations. Lol[emoji23]

[JayJ79]

hopefully you hadn't given him the $65 yet

[Shimmer Mermaid]

No. He didn't get the money

[Fun123joker]

atleast the only thing you lost was time right?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Yeah, I guess that's something to smile about.

[Elle]

I ordered a monofin a while ago and was told it was going to arrive on the 3rd/4th of this month. Then they sent me an email stating
"Due to a problem encountered in the logistics plaform of our supplier, we inform you of a change in the availability of the following product."
And the arrival date was changed to the 5th/6th. I didn't mind because I'm not going away til the 6th in the afternoon, I'll get it before I go and be able to swim with it in the hotel pool.

I was sent another email about an hour and a half ago and it stated that my fin wouldn't be arriving til the 9th/10th (Again with problems encountered with supplier, it was exactly the same as the first email). So now there is a sad face and ugly crying as I'm not going to get to try out my new monofin this weekend.

I don't know how many more emails I'm going to receive that informs me I won't be getting my monofin, but I think I'm going to be very sad while I wait

[Mermaid Lilium]

I ordered a monofin a while ago and was told it was going to arrive on the 3rd/4th of this month. Then they sent me an email stating
"Due to a problem encountered in the logistics plaform of our supplier, we inform you of a change in the availability of the following product."
And the arrival date was changed to the 5th/6th. I didn't mind because I'm not going away til the 6th in the afternoon, I'll get it before I go and be able to swim with it in the hotel pool.

I was sent another email about an hour and a half ago and it stated that my fin wouldn't be arriving til the 9th/10th (Again with problems encountered with supplier, it was exactly the same as the first email). So now there is a sad face and ugly crying as I'm not going to get to try out my new monofin this weekend.

I don't know how many more emails I'm going to receive that informs me I won't be getting my monofin, but I think I'm going to be very sad while I wait

was it swiminn.com /diveinn.com? I had major issues with shipments from them in the past and i'm like one country away. I now NEVER order anything that's out of stock. I placed an order with them for dive belt gear. The weight retainers were out of stock so they said they would ship once the stock came in. That stock came in and the belt itself went out of stock. So then I had to wait for that to come back in stock too. Wouldn't it make sense to yaknow... hold the stock for my order so it doesn't run out when I've already been waiting? *facepalm*


No. He didn't get the money

glad to hear!


I have a rant T_T

so just now over dinner I ended up bringing up an old vague story Mum told me a while back. When she was training to be a nurse back in the late 70s and living in rented accomodation she discovered an old bomb of some kind that had been left behind in the old garden shed. people had been dumping their bikes in there for years and they uncovered it one night during a party when they were moving some armchairs in there and her friends were like 'nahhh don't be silly!' and it was forgotten about til the next day when mum called the police and told them. They were there in 3 mins with the bomb disposal team who took it away to do a controlled detonation. They called back a few weeks later to say it'd been live. She doesn't know if it was an old wartime shell or from her description it was an IRA pipe bomb left behind by someone. How it didn't go off and hurt someone I have no idea. anyways. (p.s *waves to any NSA/MI6 peoples reading this* lol)

I find the story rather amusing. Mum is like this tiny blonde lady and I find it funny that she has this random story in her past that she like never brings up. And I asked if she would mind me posting the story on tumblr just to share something amusing and kinda awesome.

Queue me getting my head bitten off by my older brother out of his over-the-top paranoia. Including telling me that wanting to post it was attention seeking. I ended up trying to explain why he was being silly about it purely because of how rude and harsh he was about it. Mum had already kinda said no to me posting it (my brother kinda spoke over her and before she had a chance to speak for herself) and I was already going to respect her wishes, and even if my brother had said/asked calmly for me not to post it, I wouldn't have at all. But once again I ended up just further getting my head bitten off by him cause everything has to be his way and he is aaalways right. And once again feeling that the argument/discussion was going to go nowhere I just bit my tongue and said 'you know what, nevermind' which happens in this household A LOT. and ONCE AGAIN in this kinda situation when he had left the room shortly after, mum mouthed that she 'knew what I was saying' aka she agreed with me! She seems to never want to say aidan's wrong, but has told me when she thought I was wrong plenty of times. She basically tiptoes around upsetting him. I think it's cause she's scared of bringing out the little part of him that is like my dad. And scared of triggering his mental health issues. Instead she lets him trample all over me.

Just the other month me and him ended up in an arguement that majorly triggered my anxiety, because he was trying to tell me how to cope with my depression. I've beaten depression before. I know what works for me. He was once again telling me not suggesting, and he was 'suggesting' things that I KNOW won't work for me or telling me ways that depression works when I know better than him how my brain works. His works one way and mine works another way. But he got all arsey cause I kept 'shooting down' his 'suggestions' and 'devaluing them' like I was putting him down. When he was the one putting me down and trying to tell me quite forcefully how to act and do things, and essentially telling me I don't know how my brain works. If he'd have said something actually helpful or correct I would and did acknowledge it. He was all arsey with me because I wasn't replying in a certain way to validate him aka like 'I get what you're saying and I'll take it on board' when I'm only going to take on board things that actually help. I was instead explaining why they wouldn't help me and apparently that makes me a bitch. If he genuinely wanted to help me he wouldn't have raised things in such a confrontational way, or escalated it into an argument because all it did like I said, was ratchet my anxiety up a whole bunch more. And also left my anxious mind painfully aware that I was trapped in an armchair in the corner of the room and he was between me and the door so it wasn't like I could just walk away and extricate myself from the situation.

Most of the time he's lovely. But I always end up trying to avoid asking his opinion on anything because almost always it ends up in an argument. But obviously I still can't avoid this kinda situation all the time. If any issues or subject is brought up he HAS to give his opinion and thoughts on the matter and if he isn't immediately validated he gets all up in arms about it. And hates when I try to point out that he does the same to me. If i'm wrong about something he tells me i'm wrong and makes ME feel like i'm an idiot.

ARGHHHHHHH *rant over*

[Elle]

was it swiminn.com /diveinn.com? I had major issues with shipments from them in the past and i'm like one country away. I now NEVER order anything that's out of stock. I placed an order with them for dive belt gear. The weight retainers were out of stock so they said they would ship once the stock came in. That stock came in and the belt itself went out of stock. So then I had to wait for that to come back in stock too. Wouldn't it make sense to yaknow... hold the stock for my order so it doesn't run out when I've already been waiting? *facepalm*




Yep, but there was nothing that suggested that the hydra was out of stock. Like it wasn't marked as out of stock, so I assumed it was in stock. I'll be buying from one of the mers off here when she becomes a distributor

[SeaGlass Siren]

Lilian I volunteer to fly down there and finslap the shit out of him.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Yep, but there was nothing that suggested that the hydra was out of stock. Like it wasn't marked as out of stock, so I assumed it was in stock. I'll be buying from one of the mers off here when she becomes a distributor

I have a hydra clear I was going to sell but I'd imagine the shipping would be extotionate lol

[Mermaid Lilium]

Lilian I volunteer to fly down there and finslap the shit out of him.

<3

[Elle]

I have a hydra clear I was going to sell but I'd imagine the shipping would be extotionate lol


I payed $148 AUD for shipping, so yeah, it's not cheap

[Prairie Mermaid Jamie]

Oh Elle, I wish I had been able to get my order in sooner so I could have helped you. Im sorry they keep changing shipping on you. So unfair :( with the recent info that has come to light about them and the shipping im very glad I decided to go for a loan to get the order placed sooner. Next monday or tuesday it should be placed!

[Elle]

Dont worry I'll make a second tail one day and I know who I'll be ordering my monofin from :)

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[Adalira]

Ugh! So the past few weeks i have been working a lot more than i should have
I got no messages from Mernetwork on my gmail account so i thought things were quite or something.
Checked my spam box only to find Mernetwork messages in there.
GRRRRRRR!!!! Why does gmail do that all of a sudden out of nowhere?
* slaps gmail across the face a few times*
:thumbdown: Gmail you suck sometimes!

[PearlieMae]

Mine did the same thing!!! I'm still trying to train it not to throw them away!

[Adalira]

Oh no PearlieMae!
What's weird is on one hand i feel bad for you having the same thing going on, on the other hand i'm glad to know i'm not the only one dealing with that sh*t lol

[PhaylennMurúch]

about half of my mernetwork notifications end up in the spam folder. I have no clue what criteria hotmail has for its division

[Mermaid Alea]

Well...I think I am sick with a cold. Today is the first day of my Spring Break. I really hope this cold goes away quickly because I was planning on doing a lot of things such as swimming in my tail at the beach.

Right now my nose is like a faucet. :(

[BriannaPixieDee]

Ugh, so everymer is sick? Jeebus.

I just got ALL my materials for my tail and was going to start working on it. But, started running a fever of 101. I went to the doctor and it turns out I have not only Strep Throat, but also: infections in my eyes, ears and sinus.

I'm so sore and shakey I can't even work on commissions or cook. @.@ *shakes fist at the air* I need to work. Not sleep.

[Fun123joker]

nonononononnoonono sleep. sleep darling you'll need it
its the weather. cold and warm fronts and sudden change of weather and tempature can affect the human body.
the weather is really cold and bad =^= i just want it to be spring alreaddy so i can ateast order some latex without the fear of it freezing

[SeaGlass Siren]

So... on top of being sick... my inlaws light up incense which further irritates my throat and eyes. giving me coughing fits because i can't breathe properly. did i mention im allergic to incense?? YEAH

i have mentioned this to the mother in law but she refuses to open any windows to air out the fumes. hey LADY, im not asking you to keep the window open as if it's summer. im asking for a little crack in the window.

my poor inflamed throat..

[MermaidShannon]

Omg all I got in this starburst was yellows. I hate my life

[Fun123joker]

@seaglass i feel ya. there was this period where my eyes would burn up around perfume and i just happened to live in a family that sprits perfume for every occasion

@mermaidshannon
you sure you didnt start some bad karma? beause all yellows isnt somthing that just happens.

[MermaidShannon]

I probably did. Oh god I pissed off Raina again. RAINA GIVE ME
THE RED ONES BACK AND STOP FARKING WITH MY KARMA

[Venessa Louisiana Mermaid]

Omg all I got in this starburst was yellows. I hate my life

I ordered a very expensive mermaid tail and also paid hundreds of dollars more to have it rushed. Well here I am almost 4 months later with no tail and the wrong top was made. So Shannon I don't want to hear about your dumb starbursts.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Who did you order from?

[Venessa Louisiana Mermaid]

Who did you order from?

I won't say lest I anger the tail gods and their minions on here. Also, I want my tail with no further delay. So, that's all for now.

[Kishiko]

I won't say lest I anger the tail gods and their minions on here. Also, I want my tail with no further delay. So, that's all for now.

Honestly can't tell if you're joking with Shannon or not


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[Venessa Louisiana Mermaid]

Honestly can't tell if you're joking with Shannon or not


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I'll let her answer that tomorrow. ;)

[Venessa Louisiana Mermaid]

SHANNON: We discussed how you are supposed to answer this, now dear...unless you want the hose again.

#lotioninthebasket

[MermaidShannon]

IM SORRY I AM A VERY FAMOUS MERMAID AND I HAD A GIG. STOP BEING JEALOUS VENESSA.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Damn y'all are more cray than Kishiko and I combined.
*applauds*

[MermaidShannon]

http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/03/06/3f9001547be74b0b0f44803f074d61e7.jpg

[SeaGlass Siren]

Would you like to join us in summoning random stuff?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I read that as
"I feel like farting trouble"

[Merman Dan]

I can't help it... I have to...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OcwCYIfm6eA

Shannon, we discussed this very topic at the pool the other day. ;)

[MermaidShannon]

Haha ok here's how you summon me.

You need Captain Hook from once upon a time ,
A fainting goat
And a rum and Malibu. Diet.

[MermaidShannon]

I can't help it... I have to...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OcwCYIfm6eA

Shannon, we discussed this very topic at the pool the other day. ;)

Baaaahahahaa [emoji225][emoji100]

[Kishiko]

Damn y'all are more cray than Kishiko and I combined.
*applauds*

http://collegetimes.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/giphy82.gif


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[MermaidShannon]

http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/03/06/2eb4710404df6515ec12f8264bb10680.jpg

[SeaGlass Siren]

Haha ok here's how you summon me.

You need Captain Hook from once upon a time ,
A fainting goat
And a rum and Malibu. Diet.

Duly noted. i will replace the dildo with killian hook (YUSS I WATCH IT TOO ;) ), replace the water with the diet rum+malibu, and replace the bingo cards with a fainting goat :P

[Kishiko]

KILLIAN AKA SOMEONE GRAB A BUCKET OF WATER BECAUSE HOT


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Killian is killin us.

You could drown a pirate in my panties.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ok so on top of a bleeding nose and a bleeding vagina, I stubbed my toe on the bathroom door and cracked my toe nail midway and now its bleeding.

Hey body if you could please stop losing blood that'd be great...

Also where the fuck did my leg bruises come from??

[Mermaid Freyja]

SeaGlass; Yep. There are those days...and when they happen, I'm reminded of this oldie-but-goodie:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M17aG_Po2Y

[AniaR]

Bahaha rejected!! I love Dan hertzfelt

[Kishiko]

Killian is killin us.

You could drown a pirate in my panties.

*killian shows up*

*slobbers all over screen *


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[PearlieMae]

SeaGlass; Yep. There are those days...and when they happen, I'm reminded of this oldie-but-goodie:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M17aG_Po2Y

For the love of God, my anus is BLEEDING!

[SeaGlass Siren]

I AM BLEEDING!!!!!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I just showed my 15 year old sister this. I think she pissed herself

[MermaidShannon]

http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/15/03/07/553d9a5bedf99895d64aa702939c2013.jpg

[Echidna]

...
.........

as someone who almost died from such a bleed (burst artery), I fail to find anything funny in this.
At all.

[Elle]

I ordered netting on ebay the other week. It arrived here over the weekend and I just opened it. While it was the colour that was shown on ebay, this image that came with the item showed something similar to what Raven used on her tops, just in a lighter colour. What I got was fine string with inch wide holes instead of thicker threads with 1/2 inch or smaller holes. and cos of the exchange rate from America it wasn't cheap and I'm left feeling a bit ripped off honestly. :(

[Mermaid Lilium]

I ordered netting on ebay the other week. It arrived here over the weekend and I just opened it. While it was the colour that was shown on ebay, this image that came with the item showed something similar to what Raven used on her tops, just in a lighter colour. What I got was fine string with inch wide holes instead of thicker threads with 1/2 inch or smaller holes. and cos of the exchange rate from America it wasn't cheap and I'm left feeling a bit ripped off honestly. :(
Oh man that sucks :( I'm sorry they did that to you! Can you email the seller and ask them to send the right kinda stuff if their photos as description were misleading. Threaten to leave negative feedback, that usually spurs bad sellers into action.

[SeaGlass Siren]

...
.........

as someone who almost died from such a bleed (burst artery), I fail to find anything funny in this.
At all.

The full context of it was cut out.
It's about this guy who got fired by pbs for animating and writing disturbing shorts for the channel. Work of fiction really.
Other shorts include "my SPOON is too big... I am a BANANA"

[Merman Chatfish]

After an incident last summer I put a really strong passcode on it and normally use my finger print. You only have to log in once and the rest of the time you can use your finger. It's been almost 30 days since I last rebooted my iPhone and it was acting funny so I rebooted it. Turns out I don't remember my password. I will try again when it lets me....in 5 minutes.

Update: And now 60 minutes

Update 2: And the phone just erased itself.

[Kishiko]

SeaGlass; Yep. There are those days...and when they happen, I'm reminded of this oldie-but-goodie:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6M17aG_Po2Y

This cracked me up :lol:


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[AniaR]

Bitch for today: Someone who is supposed to be 'ignoring me' complains about someone else stalking them on linkedin. I check my linkedin daily, and this very person complaining about someone else (not me) stalking them on linkedin has been checking *MY * linkedin everyday. If you are gonna boast to everyone that you're ignoring me, and complain that someone else is stalking you on linkedin, why would you stalk ME on linkedin? Do they not realize that Linkedin shows you everytime someone visits your page and who they are? Yes I have screenshots. How hulk does a mer have to go to get someone to just go awaaaay. I don't know about you, but when I ignore someone I dont obsessivly look up any of their social networking sites on a daily basis. It's creepy!

https://33.media.tumblr.com/a9623ee37253ff3867b37040bfef68fc/tumblr_mfm53hsgTi1rfk8bco1_500.gif

[Amphitrite]

I forgot my glasses at the pool tonight. And my AMAZING insurance company is refusing to pay for them in the first place. There's this huge court to-do between my glasses person and them. So there is NO CHANCE of my getting a new or temp pair at all. *sob* I'm scared because when I didn't have glasses I had constant, really bad headaches, neck aches, shoulder aches, couldn't see worth a crap of course and was constantly walking into things! CRAP! HOW STUPID!

[Merman Chatfish]

Could you or someone you live with stop at the pool tomorrow and get them for you?

[Amphitrite]

Yeah that's what we're going to do. BUT no actual plans were made so I'm a bit nervous about that too. :(

[MermaidShannon]

Last night I accidentally took one too many benadryl to go to sleep after a long day flying back into the country. Body exhausted. Head in clouds all morning coffee not working. I have to walk two dogs pick up kids from school go get mani pedi and waxed painfully then sit forever in a hair and makeup chair to walk in a fashion show. I have no poise in heels. No big deal right waah. Whatever until
I trip and fall into some chairs and spill drinks on everyone and become YouTube viral. Haha.

[Merman Arion]

:headwall: Okay, I seriously need to bitch right now...

I found on Etsy a gorgeous replica of the Splash necklace, worn by Darryl Hannah. Here is the link of the item :

https://www.etsy.com/listing/157609155/mermaid-splash-film-madison-necklace

I was interested to buy it so I sent a message to the seller yesterday. And today, this happened :

Me : Hello, I'm a merman living in France.
I'm a fan of the Splash movie and I'm interested in your item. I would love it to be a match with the red Splash tail I'm getting soon. I'm hoping a quick answer soon because I really would like to buy it but you are currently not offering shipping to France. Thank you.

Her : Alex, I appreciate your interest however I don't have enough beads to supply your request and don't currently ship internationally due to there not being any tracking available. I'm sorry I can't supply your request and wish you the best of luck with your merman career.

Me : That's a bummer...
Are you meaning you don't have enough funds for the beads to supply my request? How much do you need then? I'm willing to pay an additional cost if that would help you. You are the only one providing a good replica of the necklace from the Splash movie here.

Her : Alex, The beads I buy don't have a ton of red and are harder to find. If the necklace gets lost or damaged in transit there's not much I can do plus no way to track it.

Me : You do not seem very motivated, nor having much faith in the postal services. I never had a problem with international shipping here as people always gave me a tracking number. If you are not willing to work on this item, in spite of the additional cost I was willing to pay, both for the beads and the shipping, I suggest that you withdraw this necklace from sale. That might save false hopes for the next buyers. Have a nice week.

Seriously, what's her deal?! :(
Never met such a seller so unwilling to work on an item she's offering for sale.

The fact that she's making no effort to offer shipping to France really pisses me off.
I find that not cool and exclusionary. :thumbdown:

[shimmygoddess]

I am confused? I can understand not shipping to France but 'not enough beads to supply'? Why is it for sale in the first place then ???

[Winged Mermaid]

That's lame dude. I know that some Etsy sellers dislike shipping internationally because true, the basic tracking is not reliable- unless you pay a crap ton for special services. But, you can get insurance through etsy (u-pic is the provider for that) that's cheap – like two or three bucks covers up to 50 bucks I think? I've sent a lot of international packages, never had a problem. It sounds like she's just being lame. Then again, maybe she's super flooded with personal stuff that she doesn't want the extra stress of dealing with this order. But if that's the case, she should really just say so. Just my opinion.

[Sherielle]

That's ridiculous, Arion. I have shipped my etsy sales worldwide with NO problem whatsoever. And looking at her beads? How can she not get the colors you want?

[Mermaid Coralia]

Maybe if you can set something up with someone you know who lives where she ships, you can give them the money, then they can buy it and send it to you in france.? Just a thought.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Maybe she only works with discontinued beads? Not trying to defend her actions but some artists, even myself, only buy discontinued stock as they are more unique. I have yet to see another mermaid or human clothed in the same fabrics that I've bought! Sometimes, you can't get a bulk order of them like you do with other stuff, usually its just remnants from shop or warehouse.