B!TC# IT OUT!

[RomanLaveau]

There needs to be a new reality tv show called "the real gay mermen of Mernetwork". :grabs popcorn:
Lmao *Movie Guy Preview Voice* "5 Mermen, Stories Untold, How much drama can 1 Cavern hold"

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

So my husband and I just had a whole thing with him telling me how he thinks selfies "have no value whatsoever" "are a waste of everyone's time- even the 0.1 seconds it takes someone to scroll past it is a complete waste" "completely narcissistic" and "utterly detestable". All because after thinking about it for a super long time (over a year) I bought a selfie sick. (Because he always gets annoyed if I ever ask him to take a photo of me. Also because when I want photos with my friends somewhere and having to ask a stranger to take it, I get major social anxiety- plus the danger of someone just running off with my phone which has happened to people.) So, that was a fun conversation to have. -_-
That is when you bring up museums full of portraits i.e. "renaissance selfies"

Not quite selfies in the truest sense, but still >.>

And getting a selfie stick so that you can get group photos that are more than everyone's faces squished together is a great reason.

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[PearlieMae]

Spending months painting a self portrait is a selfie in the absolute purest, most true sense! That's dedication! A selfie stick is a completely valid method of capturing a moment. I doubt anyone wants to drag around a portable easel, linseed oil, pigments, brushes and rags. Hell, a sketchbook is annoying enough! ;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Lmao *Movie Guy Preview Voice* "5 Mermen, Stories Untold, How much drama can 1 Cavern hold"
Oh my god yaaaaaassss!

[Mermaid Melusine]

I'm in the same boat as you are, in college (19 years old atm. 20 in may) an then going home in the summer to live with my parents who still had to drive me around because I don't have my license or a car (I have my permit but I'm terrified of driving) and then looking at all my friends who have moved out already and have cars and jobs and I feel like I shouldn't be where I'm supposed to be at my age because I'm comparing myself to them.

oh my gosh i have the exact same issue! I have a permit and know how to drive but driving scares the carp out of me. I'm taking small steps toward being able to afford a place with my man and all that, but sometimes I get totally stressed out about all of that stuff.

[Saren]

I wish I had real friends here. But I'm too awkward and shy to be likable. At least my dog likes me.

[Merman Arion]

Now, now, Arion, it's going to take more than a few random fishbutts to sink THAT ship.;)

Right. You smooth talker. Words. Just words! :p


Didn't you kiss another man that wasn't Keiris? lol

What do you want me to say? :rolleyes:
Keiris wasn't there, I had lost my tail, I was weak and when that handsome pirate/merman came to me, I found comfort in his arms. He was so goofy he made me smile all the time. Nando is a really good guy and I like him a lot.
I'm all for Keirion but we missed the other side of the ship there. Maybe next year? :)


There needs to be a new reality tv show called "the real gay mermen of Mernetwork". :grabs popcorn:

Count me in! Where do I sign? :rotfl:


Lmao *Movie Guy Preview Voice* "5 Mermen, Stories Untold, How much drama can 1 Cavern hold"

LOL :lol ^:

[Adalira]

So my husband and I just had a whole thing with him telling me how he thinks selfies "have no value whatsoever" "are a waste of everyone's time- even the 0.1 seconds it takes someone to scroll past it is a complete waste" "completely narcissistic" and "utterly detestable". All because after thinking about it for a super long time (over a year) I bought a selfie sick. (Because he always gets annoyed if I ever ask him to take a photo of me. Also because when I want photos with my friends somewhere and having to ask a stranger to take it, I get major social anxiety- plus the danger of someone just running off with my phone which has happened to people.) So, that was a fun conversation to have. -_-

I have one of those men at home myself lol.
My hubby is the same way and hates photos or selfies or anything like that.
He keeps saying that only attention whores do this, people desperate for attention blah bla blah...already before that i have tuned him out
Try and fund your "tuning off" switch and turn it off when he talks like that, works wonders for me ;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

so i stopped taking birth control because it was too expensive, and i could actually feel my blood clot faster than normal.
kind of terrifies me because i can now feel wierd things happening in my uterus....

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Weird. ... my doctor keeps saying I should go on for the sake lf regularity...

[SeaGlass Siren]

personally i thought it was amazing. regulates wonderfully. the blood clotting was a side effect that didnt bother me too much but i could FEEL it and it wasn't a good feeling especially since my family has a history of heart attacks.

[Sherielle]

So my husband and I just had a whole thing with him telling me how he thinks selfies "have no value whatsoever" "are a waste of everyone's time- even the 0.1 seconds it takes someone to scroll past it is a complete waste" "completely narcissistic" and "utterly detestable". All because after thinking about it for a super long time (over a year) I bought a selfie sick. (Because he always gets annoyed if I ever ask him to take a photo of me. Also because when I want photos with my friends somewhere and having to ask a stranger to take it, I get major social anxiety- plus the danger of someone just running off with my phone which has happened to people.) So, that was a fun conversation to have. -_-
I LOVE my selfie stick. Poo on your husband for being a putz about it.

[Sherielle]

personally i thought it was amazing. regulates wonderfully. the blood clotting was a side effect that didnt bother me too much but i could FEEL it and it wasn't a good feeling especially since my family has a history of heart attacks.
I had to stop taking birth control because it gave me daily migraines. I went from having no period for 10 years to suddenly feeling like I'm in puberty again.

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ ouch... that must have sucked...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch, Sherielle.

[LouLouBelle]

I wish I could take birth control pills... I tried once and it regulated everything beautifully, but completely screwed up my blood sugar control. I had to give up in the end, which was disappointing.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

they're servicing the elevators today, which means I have to take the stairs. Call me lazy if you like, but I'm underweight, my class is on the fourth floor, and my legs are burning. I could pass out. I'd be okay if it were in any other building, but climbing 9 sets of stairs while being unhealthy already and normally dehydrated is a serious risk. This is so frustrating.

[Adalira]

35394Had to take my dog back to the vet again. After 15 to 20 minutes and some tests they are not sure what's up. Could be a polyp in his bowel that has not healed yet.
We got heavier anti biotics for him, but if it has stopped the issues by Sunday we will have to go to a big vet about 50 minutes from here to get a sonogram done.
She said it could also be something like a tumor! :cry:
I can only hope and pray that these heavier anti biotics will do the trick and it is nothing serious.
It scares the shit out of me though.......

Edit: included a photo of Orin

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

Having a sick animal is always stressful.
I am sorry you are having to go through this.

Your dog is so beautiful.

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[RomanLaveau]

What do you want me to say? :rolleyes:
Keiris wasn't there, I had lost my tail, I was weak and when that handsome pirate/merman came to me, I found comfort in his arms. He was so goofy he made me smile all the time. Nando is a really good guy and I like him a lot.
I'm all for Keirion but we missed the other side of the ship there. Maybe next year?
Lol awwww I'm jk love, I was being the sassy one for our show (reality series always needs one)! I can't wait for Keirion to happen cuz I get to help while you do your "photoshoot" so of course, I want it to happen

[SeaGlass Siren]

everyone is not abandoning the ship just yet xD still needs to happen

[Adalira]

Thank you Aysun. I slept for a bit tonight, the stress is wearing me out.
Orin is my second dog ever. My first dog i lost to a tumor... when she got bowel issues is when we found out so this is very scary for me and i just hope this is not a repeat of history.

[deepblue]

So my husband and I just had a whole thing with him telling me how he thinks selfies "have no value whatsoever" "are a waste of everyone's time- even the 0.1 seconds it takes someone to scroll past it is a complete waste" "completely narcissistic" and "utterly detestable". All because after thinking about it for a super long time (over a year) I bought a selfie sick. (Because he always gets annoyed if I ever ask him to take a photo of me. Also because when I want photos with my friends somewhere and having to ask a stranger to take it, I get major social anxiety- plus the danger of someone just running off with my phone which has happened to people.) So, that was a fun conversation to have. -_-


I don't understand where that comes from- when I hear people who find selfies deplorable, I do not understand why their feelings are so strongly against something that has no effect on them at all, that they really are wasting their time feeling so strongly about, I guess? I tend to think it's really about them, their own issues, shyness, etc. They can't handle someone else being able to so easily do something they can't deal with. But it would be speculation on my part.

I don't take selfies, but I wish I did. By taking them over time you have this great record of who you were, where you were, etc. Utterly detestable? I'm so sorry he said that to you, because I think that's a pretty harsh statement about almost anything. I'd reserve it for criminal activity or cruelty. Anyway, I'm inclined to agree with this article I've linked below. And I envy those who can take selfies. I can barely stand to see pics of myself in important moments, much less a day to day record. I'm worried I'll grow old and die leaving very little of what I looked like for loved ones... thank goodness my grandparents were not camera shy.

Keep Taking Those Selfies: Talk Traces Popular Trend Throughout History (http://tsl.news/articles/2015/2/13/lifeandstyle/5967-keep-taking-those-selfies-talk-traces-popular-trend-throughout-history)

(I decided to use an actual pic of me after this, for my avatar. I like it because my friend shot the pic when I was half hidden. lol)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Lol at the man telling me to calm down and trying to mansplain feminism as a group of women who hate men. After I proved him wrong explained the difference between sexism and feminism. Lol he's so stupid ... Just stop and don't try to breed. Like ever.
Coincidentally people like that who are incapable of understanding or feeling generally want someone to be in a relationship with but because of their shit attitude they can't find anyone. LOL. You'll have to settle for your right hand ,mate , and go fuck yourself.

:soap box:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Preach it, SeaGlass!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Lol after I went to bed and woke up a bunch of people were calling him out on his asshattery and immaturity and then he says he's been joking.

Right... Like the rights of men and women are a joke.



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[SeaGlass Siren]

Dammit where is the Kermit and his tea meme???

[Mermaid Lily_Pad]

I want a Blue Berry Muffin right friggin Now! Argh. LOL.

[MermaidSasha]

So glad there is a thread for people to write out their frustrations.

Mine is the fact that I got screwed over and dealt with an extremely rude person whom I was buying from. It had to do with a belly dance costume piece and just GRRRRR!!!!! Rude people piss me off.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That sucks, Ava. Always annoying.

[MermaidSasha]

That sucks, Ava. Always annoying.

Yeah the whole situation was beyond frustrating. Telling me in an email that they are and this is a direct quote "Tired of doing this back and forth with you." And then said for me to call them tomorrow. I had been asking questions pertaining to an inquiry of a couple of things involving their business so I was aware before giving them MORE money after being told I can't have a refund. I left a return message that was decently nice, but I still made sure to get my point across. They messaged me back this morning after ignoring my call yesterday. Their response didn't even touch on any of what I said xD

[Mermaid Clara]

I'm so done with my anxiety! I really want to add more people from Mernetwork on Facebook, but no I'm too freaking scared to death and my brain is making me think stuff that makes my anxiety skyrocket. Also I'm scared that they will think I'm a mervert or some weird wannabe mermaid child, plus they don't even know me on here because I'm like an annoying, young(is 19 young?) wannabe professional mermaid.


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[Calizaire]

Kelly, I like you and enjoy your posts! I don't think any of those things about you! Please feel free to add me on Facebook and chat me up anytime!

[Mermaid Kelda]

Having an argument on facebook about the first settlers and the genocide of the indigenous population that ensued.

"Where's your pride and compassion for your Ancestors and your own people?"

Apparently his only requirement for pride is the fact that I was popped out in this country rather than another. The continued maltreatment of an entire people is nothing to be proud of.

[MermaidSasha]

I'm so done with my anxiety! I really want to add more people from Mernetwork on Facebook, but no I'm too freaking scared to death and my brain is making me think stuff that makes my anxiety skyrocket. Also I'm scared that they will think I'm a mervert or some weird wannabe mermaid child, plus they don't even know me on here because I'm like an annoying, young(is 19 young?) wannabe professional mermaid.


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You can always add me. Heck you can even like my mermaid page(although I'm still setting it up) and I'll return the like if you have a page. I'm really looking to have more mermaid friends as well but I'm worried about the same issue you are xD I don't think anyone would consider you childish.

[Mermaid Clara]

People make me fucking sick... I've been reading the comments on the latest picture on the Barbie Instagram page. People are so fucking mean, ripping into the larger body size of the new Barbie doll. Wtf? People are so shallow, I'm afraid of wearing my tail when I'm done with it to the beach, or posting photos and videos. I am terrified of people criticizing my weight and just me in general. But really people are so upset over the "plus size" Barbie doll and her blue hair.


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[Mer-Crazy]

People make me fucking sick... I've been reading the comments on the latest picture on the Barbie Instagram page. People are so fucking mean, ripping into the larger body size of the new Barbie doll. Wtf? People are so shallow, I'm afraid of wearing my tail when I'm done with it to the beach, or posting photos and videos. I am terrified of people criticizing my weight and just me in general. But really people are so upset over the "plus size" Barbie doll and her blue hair.


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Haven't people been criticizing Barbie for years because of the unrealistic body proportions? And now they've got more realistic looking Barbie... what? That Barbie is too fat and achievable! Think of the poor girl who got so much cosmetic surgery to look like the original Barbie! She's gonna have an identity crisis haha.

[Spindrift]

35394Had to take my dog back to the vet again. After 15 to 20 minutes and some tests they are not sure what's up. Could be a polyp in his bowel that has not healed yet.
We got heavier anti biotics for him, but if it has stopped the issues by Sunday we will have to go to a big vet about 50 minutes from here to get a sonogram done.
She said it could also be something like a tumor! :cry:
I can only hope and pray that these heavier anti biotics will do the trick and it is nothing serious.
It scares the shit out of me though.......

Edit: included a photo of Orin

Can you go to another vet/hospital for a second opinion?

[Spindrift]

People make me fucking sick... I've been reading the comments on the latest picture on the Barbie Instagram page. People are so fucking mean, ripping into the larger body size of the new Barbie doll. Wtf? People are so shallow, I'm afraid of wearing my tail when I'm done with it to the beach, or posting photos and videos. I am terrified of people criticizing my weight and just me in general. But really people are so upset over the "plus size" Barbie doll and her blue hair.


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Wait, ripping into Barbie for having blue hair? There have been tons of Barbie dolls that feature different hair colors. It was even a feature back in the early 2000s when streaks were the "in" thing!

[Adalira]

Can you go to another vet/hospital for a second opinion?

I did some research myself about what could be going on and there are a few things i want to discuss with the vet if the anti biotics don´t work as we´d hoped.
The strange thing is that he seems perfectly fine, his normal self, no sign of being sick at all.
If all the options i found aren´t it either then i think a sonogram is the best option to find out what is going on in there. It could even be a piece of sharp bone that is stuck or did damage that needs fixed.
I am just praying that the anti biotics clear up whatever it is so it does not have to come to a sonogram.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck, Adalira!!

Also, Kelda. People like that suck.

And to Kelly, we all love you, girl.

EDIT: found the specific image Kelly was talking about. Almost disregard below. That doll hardly looks plus sized! Now I'm mad. Marketing a commonly had, healthy body as plus sized is just wrong, nor is it a socially forward action. All it's doing is enforcing the idea that Original Barbie is beautiful, and healthy is not. :soapbox:

Now for what I originally said on the topic.
And also to Kelly. I def think big is beautiful, and plus-sized Barbie needs to be a thing. My concern about Barbie has been party her too-idealized figure giving young girls a poor self image, but moreover that the example she cast was an unhealthy one. A girl would stop having her period if she tried to make herself look like Barbie, just in terms of having too little fat on their bodies. The plus-sized doll I saw is the other extreme, and doesn't promote health any more than the original Barbie does. And as much as I think big is physically attractive, I am aware that our generation is the first EVER RECORDED to have a shorter life-expectancy than our parents, largely due to heart disease, diabetes, and cancer. All three of those diseases run in my family, and I very well might have Brca 1, a gene that makes those chances tenfold, so I'm a bit of a health nut.

So while plus-sized Barbie should be a thing, I think Barbie should ALSO go in for a doll of more Lamilly-like proportions. Which is an achievable figure, on top of being one that many women have.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I do like however how they are introducing more ethnic Barbies with more shapes.

[PearlieMae]

http://www.latimes.com/business/la-fi-mattel-barbie-20160128-story.html

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

It is a good thing.

[Mermaid Wesley]

The curvy body type is really close to mine and it's very exciting! I was one of those little girls who thought she was ugly because she didn't have a tiny waist and hourglass figure at like... 10. Now I do have an hourglass figure but the original Barbie proportions are nowhere close to me. The new Barbie actually isn't plus size(I don't think), I would say she's like an 8-10 which is like... Average human. But next to Barbie she looks much larger.

I'm also stoked about the range of races they offer now. MAYBE THEY'll MAKE A MERMAID LINE AGAIN I WOULD BE SO PUMPED.


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[Ashton]

I think it is a good move on their part. But I don't understand (in some aspects) how ppl can say that Barbie is unrealistic--
--dude she has had like all the jobs you can ever even think of? If anything she is smart and can be anything!
Why look at her body when you can look at that sexy brain!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That is true, Ashton. Barbie dolls have been sold in sets promoting every career you could think of, but the issue is that apparently little girls look at Barbie and think, subconsciously, perhaps, "that is what I need to look like to be successful." If a real woman look like Barbie - and a few have gotten the jobs to make the proportions as close as possible - that's their prerogative, and I would never shame them for it, but as a doll, marketed to children, it's problematic. You know?

During my childhood, my best friend and I were terrible for each other's self esteem.

I'm slim, so she thought she was fat. To the point where she became bulimic.

She has gorgeous curves and a lithe, jaguar-esque body, so I thought I was a stick.

Her brother and I have the same brand of bookish intellect, so she thought she was stupid. To this day she acts like I'm the smart one, but she was taking college level anatomy in 6th grade. Like please.

She has this extremely street-smart attitude, to boot, so I always felt inept at life, just because she handled stuff so well. I was caught up in the books I read, so confronted with her iron nosed sense, I felt inadequate. It was worsened by her brother who was sensible in similar ways, making him a generally more well-adjusted nerd than I am.

All of this was exacerbated by the images, like Barbie, we were bombarded with. I never really bought into that, but my friend was clearly victimized by a looks-oriented society. Her strong, curvaceous body made her feel fat compared to models, and compared to me, even though I'm no where near as skinny as what we see in magazines.

Basically, we both held the other to be the ideal, and it was ruinous to our self-esteems. Of course, we never said this to each other, so it amounted to giving each other inspirational speeches whenever one of us felt down. And then we both got over ourselves.

We were lucky. Neither one of us let these image problems get in the way of our friendship, but if we weren't quite so mentally resilient as we are, our friendship may have suffered for it.

I dunno. I never thought of Barbie as being part of the problem when I was dealing with the problems, and she may not have been for me, but I know she IS for many girls. Growing up is hard enough as it is.

[SeaGlass Siren]

i was the wierd one with no friends at school and i'd read the dolphin diaries books and want to be a marine biologist. my mom would call me the most prettiest of her daughters, but she kept saying how inept i was at life so...... she bought me a barbie one time thinking i'd like it but i wanted the mermaid doll at the disneystore :P

[Ashton]

Yes I understand that the barbie 'body type' can lead to negative body images. And by all means we need to have people feel confident and fight the body shaming and hatred that has become a weird part of society.

But what is weird to me is that we focus so much on how we look like rather than what is on the inside. I have be noticing that more and more doll and toy commercials are having tag lines like "Smart is the NEW COOL" and I am all for that!

[Calizaire]

My bitch: just finished our taxes. Now I have to decide if I tell hubby the bottom line right away or let him enjoy his weekend then hit him with the number on Monday...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch, Calizaire.

[PearlieMae]

Monday. It's not going to change between now and then, and if he has a bad weekend, so will you.

[Calizaire]

Monday. It's not going to change between now and then, and if he has a bad weekend, so will you.
Agreed the situation will be just as sucky come Monday...but I don't like that, "I know something you don't know!" feeling either.
I think I'll bring home a bottle of Scotch and make sure he has at least two before I broach the topic. Maybe throw in a sexual favor. :)

[PearlieMae]

I was just coming back to say that very thing! Except, do the scotch thing/sex thing Sunday evening, then tell him.

[Calizaire]

I was just coming back to say that very thing! Except, do the scotch thing/sex thing Sunday evening, then tell him.

Ha! Solid plan!

[Merman Arion]

I was just coming back to say that very thing! Except, do the scotch thing/sex thing Sunday evening, then tell him.

I agree. I'm pretty sneaky too and I prefer to enjoy the sex first and then tell the bad news :p

[SeaGlass Siren]

LOL.

[Calizaire]

I prefer the sex after the bad news. Then I forget how bad the bad news is.

[Merman Arion]

I prefer the sex after the bad news. Then I forget how bad the bad news is.

Do it my way. Sex first. Bad news after. THEN sex again.

You get sex twice AND forget the bad news. Double Win-win ;)

[PearlieMae]

Arion has a point. Two of them, actually. But it has been my experience that bad news can be...um...deflating. Then there's new bad news. :eye twitch:

[Merman Arion]

Arion has a point. Two of them, actually. But it has been my experience that bad news can be...um...deflating. Then there's new bad news. :eye twitch:

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

:mermaid kiss: :mermaid kiss: :mermaid kiss:

Bad news go away.

[Calizaire]

Do it my way. Sex first. Bad news after. THEN sex again.

You get sex twice AND forget the bad news. Double Win-win ;)

Bwahahahaa!! The ole sex/bad news sandwich maneuver! :rotfl::thumbs up:

[SeaGlass Siren]

oh myyyyyy

[Adalira]

Lol

[Keiris]

Do it my way. Sex first. Bad news after. THEN sex again.

You get sex twice AND forget the bad news. Double Win-win ;)

Hmmmm...filing away for future reference.

[Madison MerFaerie]

Do it my way. Sex first. Bad news after. THEN sex again.

You get sex twice AND forget the bad news. Double Win-win ;)

Arion's sexy-bad-news-sandwich for the win!

I've always been a fan of giving people constructive criticism or bad news in a "sandwich" format to soften the blow. Say something really nice, then drop the bomb on them, then say another really nice thing. It usually goes over pretty well!

[Calizaire]

Sorry friends, I blew the plan.
I can't STAND knowing something he doesn't that affects us both.
Came home with some scotch, made him a drink. In the mer-cave: I'm making tops and he's practicing his pirate songs on his concertina, (I LOVE our weekends!!) and I just blurted, "We owe around $5,000 in taxes honey, I'm sorry!!"
(Something about ME always me doing our taxes always makes ME feel personally responsible for how much we owe.)
Things were done to assuage his anguish despite the sandwich plan.

[Calizaire]

Also, I think my sex vixen factor was grossly over estimated here when sex sandwich advice was given.
We can't all be energetic 20 somethings, people. :p

[Merman Arion]

Also, I think my sex vixen factor was grossly over estimated here when sex sandwich advice was given.
We can't all be energetic 20 somethings, people. :p

Hey, that's okay. I'm willing to help and replace you if you need a break ;)

I just hope I won't need to eat him while having some fun. LOL LOL LOL :lol: :rotfl:

[Merman Arion]

Arion's sexy-bad-news-sandwich for the win!

I've always been a fan of giving people constructive criticism or bad news in a "sandwich" format to soften the blow. Say something really nice, then drop the bomb on them, then say another really nice thing. It usually goes over pretty well!

I love you so much right now! :highfive: :hug:

[Calizaire]

Hey, that's okay. I'm willing to help and replace you if you need a break ;)

I just hope I won't need to eat him while having some fun. LOL LOL LOL :lol: :rotfl:

Bwahhaaaaa! laughing my ass off.
Thank you I guess for offering to sexually comfort my husband??
* So many weird feelings right now*

[SeaGlass Siren]

LOL

i love everyone here xD

[PearlieMae]

Is there a thread for sad news?

[SeaGlass Siren]

Pearlie.. :( sending you lots of love and condolences

[PearlieMae]

Moochie passed away this morning. As you might already know, she was ill for quite a while. She died in my arms, she wasn't alone. Her struggles are over. Rest in peace, my sweet kitty girl, I love you. <3

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[Seraphina Suds]

Oh, that's what I was afraid of D: I'm so sorry, Pearlie. I'm sure you gave her a wonderful life. Rest in peace, Moochie.

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[mersheep]

My condolences;

Some months ago I made a thread for anyone to remember pets I think I called it pet Necrology. A place for the good memories and such ...

[Adalira]

My condolonces PearlieMae :hug:

[PhaylennMurúch]

A bit of a medical TMI bitch but I'm grumpy with my inurance provider.
6 years ago, during the cesarean with my twins I had a tubal ligation. I feel that we made the decision out of the inane fear that another pregnancy would end up being multiples (and honestly my mom was the biggest pusher of the procedure).


In all of the information that was provided I had never heard of Post Tubal Ligation Syndrom until now (we're looking into getting it reversed) So I did some looking and was horrified to discover that I present with 31 out of 45 symptoms.


Hormonal stuff, apparently you actually need the shark brain intact because it is not just the ovaries that communicate with the brain regarding estrogen and progesterone. Shit like random facial hair growth, weird patches of pubic hair loss, rapid weight gain, increased headaches, increased PMS, stabbing pain during ovulation, chemical pregnancy, crazy menses (like cycles that span anywhere from 15 to 48 days or more at random).They dont really know how common it is because most doctors would rather chew off their own arms than admit to all these side effects so there havent been studies. heaven forbid that something went wonky, fuck, my doctor was offended when I went in with a suspected pregnancy (peed a positive at home, twice) because "its impossible to get pregnant after a tubal" even though she was the one who suggested that i keep tests handy when i got discharged from the hospital 'just in case'.


My insurance won't cover a reversal because it's not "medically necessary" (even though the past 6 years of crazy hormones have put me through the ringer), even though the fucking tubal on a healthy woman isn't medically necessary either. Kaiser doesn't do them at all. You have to go to a place that specializes in fertility in order to get it done so next year I'm traveling down to LA to get my tubal reversed, the doc I've been talking to says it should be pretty easy because it was a straightforward cut and burn with very little tube removed.

[IllynReaver]

35394Had to take my dog back to the vet again. After 15 to 20 minutes and some tests they are not sure what's up. Could be a polyp in his bowel that has not healed yet.
We got heavier anti biotics for him, but if it has stopped the issues by Sunday we will have to go to a big vet about 50 minutes from here to get a sonogram done.
She said it could also be something like a tumor! :cry:
I can only hope and pray that these heavier anti biotics will do the trick and it is nothing serious.
It scares the shit out of me though.......

Edit: included a photo of Orin

Oh no! I hope your puppy gets better.

[Adalira]

I'm so sorry to hear that Phaylenn! That must be so awful!
I don't even know what else to say .... :hug:

Thank you IllynReaver! His stool was getting better 2 days ago but is back to the bad again since yesterday :-(
I will have to call the vet on Monday and make an appointment and see what happens.....

[PearlieMae]

I hope it all works out well...I can tell you that you will not regret spending the money on your dog to find a solution, even if it's bad news (which I hope it isn't).

My best thoughts are with you and your fur baby!

[Adalira]

Thank you PearlieMae! I will do whatever it takes to get him better, no matter the costs.
It is certain that i have to call the vet tomorrow since his stool did not change.
I am happy though that i have done some research myself on what could possibly be wrong and i will share those findings with the vet and take it from there since the vet did not even talk about the things that i found out.

How have you been doing?

[PearlieMae]

I hope they figure out what's up, soon. It's so hard to see those you love suffering, especially those who can't tell you what's causing their distress.

Thank you for asking. Moochie's death yesterday has left me heartbroken. I take her to the vet today to make arrangements to have her cremated. I miss her terribly. :cry:

[Merman Arion]

Moochie's death yesterday has left me heartbroken. I take her to the vet today to make arrangements to have her cremated. I miss her terribly. :cry:

Pearlie, if you're going to cry, I'm gonna cry too. :sad eyes:
Please, don't be sad. I'm sending BIG BIG hugs to you :hug:

[PearlieMae]

Thank you, Arion. :hug: she was the sweetest kitty who only ever wanted to be loved. She was at least 16, and I had her for almost 13 years. I'm glad she is no longer in pain, cancer is a real bitch... :cry: :sad eyes:

[SeaGlass Siren]

I know the pain of losing a pet. They can be your best friend and little baby. As then when their time comes all you can really do is remember good times. :hug:

[Merman Arion]

Okay. Now you are making me cry...

[SeaGlass Siren]

DONT DO IT ARION 0-0 THE TEARS ARE CONTAGIOUS.

[LouLouBelle]

Phaylenn ~ I really hope that all goes well. That sounds horrid - I'm so grateful for the NHS. We're famous for complaining about it, but I don't think I could afford everything I've needed without it...

Pearlie - condolences and hugs. It's awful losing a pet. Only other animal people understand what it's like. Nothing anyone can say will really help, but at least she's not suffering any more and she's had an amazing life with you.

Adalira ~ I hope your pup gets better! At least you're keeping on top of it and doing everything you can.

One of my little rats is going to have a tumour removed on Tuesday. He's cost me a small fortune with all his issues over the past couple of years, but I don't regret any of it. Rats might be small but they really are intelligent and have very distinct personalities. I didn't realise how attached I would get to them when I first got them! We don't know if the tumour is benign or not without sending a bigger chunk of it off for tests, so we've agreed he might as well just have it removed and then hope for the best.


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[Adalira]

I can't say it enough PearlieMae how sorry i am for your loss..... i can't even imagine what you are going through right now.
I wish you a lot of strength through these hard times to come.....remember all the great memories you made together and that she is no longer in pain.
Sending you a big jumbo mega hug :hug:

Good luck to your rat LouLoubelle, i hope it will all turn out well!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hugs to everyone going through pet troubles today!

Condolences to Pearlie: consider me the echo that repeats Adalira and LouLouBelle.

Luck to Adalira and LouLouBelle. I hope everything turns out well!

Also: funny/sad story about a female rat with a benign tumor. The tumor was in her armpit, and had gotten so big she had to sort of roll to get around. But. She still managed to jump from platform to platform by picking up the tumor in her little paws, leaning up for support against the cage grating, and THROWING the tumor across, using its momentum to carry herself.

She was such a smart rat. She held on long enough that we had to put her down - the others died naturally before they were in half the state she got to.

[Mermaid Clara]

Moochie passed away this morning. As you might already know, she was ill for quite a while. She died in my arms, she wasn't alone. Her struggles are over. Rest in peace, my sweet kitty girl, I love you. <3

35444
I'm sorry your kitty passed away. I can't even imagine loosing my baby girl, I've had her since I was 5 years old. Sending you lots of hugs and love in your time of grieving! Rest well Moochie ❤️


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh my gods. Seeing that photo again. *cries*

[PhaylennMurúch]

Phaylenn ~ I really hope that all goes well. That sounds horrid - I'm so grateful for the NHS. We're famous for complaining about it, but I don't think I could afford everything I've needed without it...



It blows my mind that most insurance providers will fully pay for a tubal ligation (as long as you have experienced a pregnancy), which is not something that is medically necessary for a healthy woman, but refuse to pay for it to be reversed because it's not medically necessary. It's like pulling teeth trying to get a PTLS diagnosis in order to get insurance to cover the surgery

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hugs to Phaylenn!

[Mermaid Clara]

I think I broke my left little toe. I stubbed it this afternoon on the coffee table really bad. It's blue and swollen. I've iced it twice since then but I'm still in a lot of pain. I really hope my toe nail doesn't fall off, not that I have much of one anyway, my little toes are super tiny. I hate hurting myself, especially stubbing my toes, it's genetic though my mom use to stub her toes all the time when she was young. I almost forgot how bad it hurts, I haven't stubbed my toes in a few months.


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[Adalira]

Got an appointment at the vet for 3pm this afternoon which is in less then 4 hours.
Fingers crossed!

@ Kelly, if it is broken there is not much you can do other than have it rested. I had my toe broken years ago, the one next to the small toe and the doctor told me they only cast the big toe when broken, the others are too small and in between the other toes. I had to rest it and it would pass, and it did.
Sending you hugs! :hug:

[Adalira]

@ Phaylenn....i will ever understand insurance companies and the way they think.
Their reasoning why they do pay for this but not for that is something i will never understand.
I am so sorry you are in the middle of it, especially since you need the procedure done.
BIg hug to you :hug:

[IllynReaver]

Just offering big hugs to everyone, especially Pearlie and Adalira.

[Adalira]

Just got back from the vet. She did a check on the things i asked but they all came back negative.
I have an appointment for a sonogram tomorrow morning at 11.45 am.....

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh dear. Good luck, Adalira!

[Saelyyia]

I think I broke my left little toe. I stubbed it this afternoon on the coffee table really bad. It's blue and swollen. I've iced it twice since then but I'm still in a lot of pain. I really hope my toe nail doesn't fall off, not that I have much of one anyway, my little toes are super tiny. I hate hurting myself, especially stubbing my toes, it's genetic though my mom use to stub her toes all the time when she was young. I almost forgot how bad it hurts, I haven't stubbed my toes in a few months.

Oh Kelly I am so very sorry to hear that. I know that pain. I was a classical ballet dancer with a gift for kicking hard objects after a long rehersal. Icing it can help but go with a warm soak and then rub some arnica/icyhot/etc on it and then use a medical tape and tape it to the neighboring toe it will hurt a lot while you tape it but once it is tightly wrapped up and stabilized it will feel much better.

[Adalira]

So we went for a sonogram today and we got the worst possible news.....he has cancer spread in his organs. The tumors are in his kidney's, liver and bowel and there are a lot and they are big.
I have been crying my eyes out ever since :cry:
They did a biopsie of the tissue in the tumors and that is being send to a lab now.
The woman who did the sonogram was in shock and almost cried herself when she told me the news. She had never guessed he was this ill since he looks perfectly fine and he is still so young.
I also went back to my vet later to talk about the results and she explained how cancer treatment works, i would have to go to a different clinic further away for that.
But we don't know if it is even treatable or if it is a very aggressive kind.
We also don't know how much longer he has to live. The vet said definitely not to think about putting him down yet since he is still so happy and enjoying life.
My heart is broken......:cry:

[PearlieMae]

I am so very sorry to read this news...since he is so happy and still enjoying life, enjoy every moment you have with him. Once the results come back on the kind of cancer her has, weigh treatment options carefully, as with my Moochie, the chemo was worse than the cause. My heart is breaking for you. :hug:

[Echidna]

can this year become any suckier?

I didn't advise anyone in these matters because I've said it already and it wasn't liked, but in most cases, chemotherapy is worse than the cancer itself.
Also, I've NEVER heard of anyone, human or otherwise, who was cured with chemo, they either died quickly FROM the chemo, or their suffering was prolonged for a short time.

I wish you strength and good luck.

And I'll continue to look for a way off this planet, since it seems it has been poisoned so much everyone will sooner rather than later see what that means.

[PearlieMae]

It's true how harsh chemo can be. Unfortunately, I have had way too many brushes with cancer and friends and family, and sometimes chemo does work, but not as much as one would like it to.

[Merman Storm]

I went to mermaid school last weekend at the local community pool. While I was there I asked The Question:

In this pool Mer friendly? That is, are tails allowed in normal hours?

Nope. No way, no how. Another venue closed due to paranoia.

[Adalira]

Thank you for your sweet words to me, it means a lot.
Pearliemae, may i ask you something about Moochie's cancer treatment?
The vet told me today that cancer treatment for a dog is not about curing the dog from cancer, it is only to stop the cancer from spreading more and to prolongue the life of the.
I found that odd to hear, why would they not try and cure a dog from cancer?
Is that the same in America?
She also said that since it is not to cure, the treatments are not very heavy on the dog, they don't loose hair, they don't get sick etc.
I would have to go to another clinic for the treatments.
My hubby and i already decided that we will not do a cancer treatment if it means that his happy life will go down the drain.
I hope no one will judge me or laugh at me but i talked to a dear friend of mine from the UK who knows a lot about herbal remedies and when i told her about Orin today she told me to get hemp oil and turmeric pills asap and start a treatment. I did not even think of a natural approach to it myself.
But we immediatly got it and ordered a stronger hemp oil online that will come in tomorrow
A friend if hers makes health enhancement herbs with which she treats both animals and humans with great results, Animals she treat for cancer, skin cancers, melanoma's etc.
I asked her if there was any chance of the herbs working for Orin and she said that as long as he eats there is a chance.
She live in the UK as well and as immediately send the herbs to me, adjusted to Orin since he is a dog.
Hopefully those will be in, in 2 days or so, then we can start with that as well. I am now waiting for her information so i can pay her, she simply shipped them out without me paying for it yet.
She also suggested an aloe vera drink since she said that helps make good cells in the body.
I will do and try anything to get him healthy again or simply be able to live a long and happy life with us.
Even if it means having to give him the herbal treatments for the next 10 years if he can keep living a happy life, i will gladly do it to keep him with us.

[Saelyyia]

Thank you for your sweet words to me, it means a lot.
Pearliemae, may i ask you something about Moochie's cancer treatment?
The vet told me today that cancer treatment for a dog is not about curing the dog from cancer, it is only to stop the cancer from spreading more and to prolongue the life of the.
I found that odd to hear, why would they not try and cure a dog from cancer?
Is that the same in America?
She also said that since it is not to cure, the treatments are not very heavy on the dog, they don't loose hair, they don't get sick etc.
I would have to go to another clinic for the treatments.
My hubby and i already decided that we will not do a cancer treatment if it means that his happy life will go down the drain.
I hope no one will judge me or laugh at me but i talked to a dear friend of mine from the UK who knows a lot about herbal remedies and when i told her about Orin today she told me to get hemp oil and turmeric pills asap and start a treatment. I did not even think of a natural approach to it myself.
But we immediatly got it and ordered a stronger hemp oil online that will come in tomorrow
A friend if hers makes health enhancement herbs with which she treats both animals and humans with great results, Animals she treat for cancer, skin cancers, melanoma's etc.
I asked her if there was any chance of the herbs working for Orin and she said that as long as he eats there is a chance.
She live in the UK as well and as immediately send the herbs to me, adjusted to Orin since he is a dog.
Hopefully those will be in, in 2 days or so, then we can start with that as well. I am now waiting for her information so i can pay her, she simply shipped them out without me paying for it yet.
She also suggested an aloe vera drink since she said that helps make good cells in the body.
I will do and try anything to get him healthy again or simply be able to live a long and happy life with us.
Even if it means having to give him the herbal treatments for the next 10 years if he can keep living a happy life, i will gladly do it to keep him with us.

I feel deeply for your pain and my best wishes and condolences to you, your husband, and your dog. I lost my Pembroke Welsh Corgi, Pearl, to cancer a few years back and it was very hard. She was still relatively young by breed standards. I didn't want to put her through the chemo because I they said she would still hurt and be sick and the chemo could mess up her remaining happiness and quality of live in exchange for all of maybe 6 months to a year. I went the route of drastic diet changes to 100% natural and gave her herb brothes 2 - 3 times a day and it did help her for about a year when they had given us 4 months left with her. I refused to put her down till her quality of life was no longer what I deemed worthy of her or fair to her. I think going the route your friend has suggested is a very good choice and I hope it does what you are hoping for your precious fur-baby.

[LouLouBelle]

Adalira - that's such a shame. I wish I could do more than just say I'm sorry to hear it... Cancer sucks. Fact.

I also hate the fact that animals tend to have such short life spans.

Disco had his tumour off today. I now need to try and stop him from removing the glue and stitches... Thankfully, the vet is next door bar one, and they suggested I drop him off tomorrow so they can keep an eye on him while I'm at work. I do love my vet! They've also asked if they can post photos they took of Disco on their Facebook page - I think they liked him! [emoji23]


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[Adalira]

I feel deeply for your pain and my best wishes and condolences to you, your husband, and your dog. I lost my Pembroke Welsh Corgi, Pearl, to cancer a few years back and it was very hard. She was still relatively young by breed standards. I didn't want to put her through the chemo because I they said she would still hurt and be sick and the chemo could mess up her remaining happiness and quality of live in exchange for all of maybe 6 months to a year. I went the route of drastic diet changes to 100% natural and gave her herb brothes 2 - 3 times a day and it did help her for about a year when they had given us 4 months left with her. I refused to put her down till her quality of life was no longer what I deemed worthy of her or fair to her. I think going the route your friend has suggested is a very good choice and I hope it does what you are hoping for your precious fur-baby.

Thank you so much for you message.
I am sorry for your loss, i am sure it was very hard on you but at the same time most likely rewarding that you got an extra year with her!
I intend to do the same for Orin, go the natural route unless we get a miracle reply from the lab that it is nothing serious and super easy to fix but i don't really have any hopes for that.
At the moment i am drained for all the crying and i feel numb and as if i am in a nightmare, just hoping to wake up and realize it was all a bad dream.

[Adalira]

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[LouLouBelle]

Thanks Adalira. I really feel for you - I hope you manage to enjoy the time you have with him, even though it must be bittersweet. He looks like such a lovely character.

Just out of interest... Do you have any good quality photos of him? Or could you get any? If so, let me know. [emoji6]

Disco may have been popular at the vets yesterday, but the little beggar removed all the glue and at least one layer of stitches last night so the vet has had to stick him back together again today... I'm praying she finds a way to stop him doing it again - I've tried everything I could think of! I know rats are built to squeeze through small spaces, but Disco's amazed me with just how much he can wriggle out of. Still, at least the horrid lumps gone now - if only I could heal the rest by magic! [emoji23]


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Sending love Disco and Orin's way!

[Mermaid Mystery]

just woke up at the end of my 8am class. I really need to stop taking those.

[Amphitrite]

Well what the actual crap? Some dude is leading rallies to legalize rape, on an international scale and this sicko is going to be allowed here? There are three of these rallies happening in my state alone? No wonder gun permit sales have gone up specifically amongst women. I sure as hell don't understand why anyone would ever be so disgusting. ANGRY

[SeaGlass Siren]

I was reading that. Apparently there's one in Edmonton and Toronto too. Wtf

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I hurt the left side of my body and back again. GRRR! I think I NEED to sell my current merfin because of it.

As when I swim, I make a full undulation each stroke, using my whole body, and always end up with a sore back and hurt muscles in my left side! Whereas I don't have this problem with my Finis Foil. And also, the merfin makes a weird double kick each stroke, which I can't figure out how to undo or stop doing.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch, Jaffa.


And holy shit what the fuck.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Ouch, Jaffa.


And holy shit what the fuck.
Thanks! I am kinda resigned to it at this point. I know my health and core strength is getting better. But its just not enough for a big fin yet. And very sad that I have been practicing for nearly two years and am still not meeting level required for bigger monofins. I wished I did better research when I first started, so I didn't end up buying different monofins to find the right fit for me.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Why. Like why is this pro rape rally thing a thing? Why?

[SeaGlass Siren]

I am angry. I am enraged.

I HAVE HAD IT.

[SiaTheMermaid]

That sucks Jaffa.

About the "Legalise rape" guy, he tried to have his fans rally here in Edinburgh but a petition was signed to have it stopped. Plus this guy forgot one rule;

You dont fuck with the modern day woman.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Truth.

[SeaGlass Siren]

*zsnaps*

[SiaTheMermaid]

SeaGlass that is exactly what I imagined doing as I wrote that XD

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Also. The meetings have been canceled. The guy said that he "could no longer guarantee the saftey and privacy of the men who wish to attend these meetings"

He followed that up with "of course you can't stop them from having these meetings privately if they so choose"

[SeaGlass Siren]

Now he knows how women feel when our safety and privacy is violated. Karma is a bitch isn't it.

[SiaTheMermaid]

If this guy goes to jail he wont be liking his legalise rape stance if he drops the soap. He'll do a 180 real quick.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Like what idiot in their right mind just thinks "let's legalize rape because women can't take care of their bodies?"

ok ok well how about the men who get raped? Sure leave those victims out too. What about the children who get raped by someone they know? What about the mothers who get raped by their husbands? What about the gay men who get harassed in change rooms??? :arion I haven't forgotten and I am still angry for you.:

Second, this is exactly why feminism is needed.

third, "how about legalizing arson because he can't take care of how secure his house is?" < that is how stupid he sounds. You can't apply this logic to anything else, why rape?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Truth!

[SeaGlass Siren]

"Let's legalize stabbing to teach people a lesson to take care of their bodies because who asked them to look stab-able?"
"let's legalize shooting because people never wear bullet proof vests! Let's teach them a lesson!"

^ more stupidity equivalent to legalizing rape.

[Amphitrite]

I'm just outraged. And definitely praying for my sisters (and brothers, abnd everyone) to stay safe. I am idly wondering what the group 'Anonymous' would have to say about it? Bet they'd be pissed...

[SeaGlass Siren]

And Shame on the fucking bastard for objectifying a woman's body as if it's an object like a cell phone or purse. We are not objects we are fucking human beings.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Indeed.

Also, Anonymous did us all a favor and took down his website, apparently.

[SeaGlass Siren]

THANKYOU anonymous . Where did you read this and when did this happen

[Amphitrite]

Excellent news! To be honest I kinda hope they help him 'get the message' in other ways as well.

[SiaTheMermaid]

Theres no place for his kind of thinking in this world. Im glad his website was taken down.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

http://www.rawstory.com/2016/02/misogynist-pro-rape-group-cancels-planned-international-meet-up-after-heavy-criticism/

Here's the article I read it.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Nope. Still seems to be up. Damn.

Here's his website: returnofkings.com

[SeaGlass Siren]

Looks like it was taken down like years ago but the guy put it back up

[MermaidSandie]

That site is so disgusting, it's almost funny. "10 reasons why foreign women are better than american women" and "the intellectual inferiority of women"

wtf???

[Amphitrite]

I want to know how this kind of thinking is IGNORED by the vast majority of media? I don't want publicity for this foolish, hateful crap but I want to find a place that focuses on issues like this to be easily and readily accessible. Facebook is great and all but it has no fact-checking anything. Where's the call to fight? Where's the rally cry? Where are the protests that see that until terms like 'rape' and '(anything and everything else) are obliterated... more is needed? I am SO FRUSTRATED! What the heck?

[SeaGlass Siren]

I know where it is.

Tumblr and the Facebook page women's rights news, and upworthy

[SeaGlass Siren]

Also if you use google scholar you can find a lot of useful info

[Amphitrite]

Thanks!

[Keiris]

Any man that would promote such a disgusting and hideous act should have the same thing done to him viciously and repeatedly until he can get it through his Neanderthal skull to keep his selfish hands and his short dick to himself...followed by a castration chaser if he hasn't changed his mind.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I wish I could cross dress and attend one of their meetings. Record it all. Play it for the world.

Of course, I would have to demonstrate proof of being a men's right's activists, or else proof that I want to have the lies fed to me by the big bad social justice fighters and feminists stripped from my eyes over a period of months before the would email me a location.

I don't have the kind of patience that would enable that sort of prolonged facade .

[Amphitrite]

Was reading on this a bit. A group of female boxers threatened to go to the Detroit one so twas cancelled because of safety reasons. Ironic...

[LouLouBelle]

Was reading on this a bit. A group of female boxers threatened to go to the Detroit one so twas cancelled because of safety reasons. Ironic...

Love it! Just a shame they didn't actually get to go...


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[SeaGlass Siren]

S I am finally on my period after being a day late. My stomach hurts and I regret not rebuying birth control. Next month.... Next month....

[Mermaid Mystery]

S I am finally on my period after being a day late. My stomach hurts and I regret not rebuying birth control. Next month.... Next month....

I'm thinking of skipping this month but I skipped December too so I'm pretty sure my uterus would beat me up the next time. I feel ya sister.

[Mermaid Momo]

My body must hate me. Not only am I starting to break out, but my skin condition is acting up too and right on my face :( My skin condition is that it dries out and turns into dark scaly patches like alligator skin and it's ugly, and itches and I hate it.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Is it wedding stress?

also AH momo your avatar is pretty !!!

[PearlieMae]

Stress was the first thing I thought of, too. How everything clears up soon!

[Mermaid Alea]

My body must hate me. Not only am I starting to break out, but my skin condition is acting up too and right on my face :( My skin condition is that it dries out and turns into dark scaly patches like alligator skin and it's ugly, and itches and I hate it.

Hi Momo I don't know if you have the same thing as me, but my Mom and I have had weird skin issues going on. We think we have compromised immune systems or we came into contact with something, who knows because the doctors don't seem to really know. Anyways, recently my Mom got some kind of anti-fungal cream that seems to be getting rid of our skin condition. I can get the name of it if you would like. The skin condition appeared on my jawline on both sides of my face as well as two patches on my neck. Mine looked a little red and it was scaly and sometimes itchy. You can definitely feel the roughness of it compared to regular skin. It sucks because I was always healthy and hardly ever got sick, and now I have to deal with this.

[Mermaid Melusine]

I'm just gonna vague here and say that I feel really stupid and betrayed

[Mermaid Clara]

My parents won't let me buy me neoprene until I get paid again in a few weeks. they don't seem to understand how badly I want to get this done as soon as possible, my dad keeps laughing at me because I'm getting flustered and frustrated. He says that I'm never going to finish this project and that he's never seen me even finish a project so why should he believe that I'm going to finish this one. He's also calling me a spoiled brat and selfish for getting upset for not being able to buy my neoprene today, he never seems to understand that it's not a "phase" or "dumb" and "childish" that it makes me happy and I'm hardly ever happy. Having something to do that makes me happy and isn't doing something bad like drugs or drinking... He doesn't understand. I suffer from severe depressions since I was 9 or 10 and extreme anxiety since I was a toddler, I use to be a happy toddler but the older I got the more depressed and unhappy I got. Recently my dad got all of our home movies put onto dvd and seeing myself so happy and knowing that I was so happy but now I'm not, just makes me so depressed and sad and made me just start sobbing uncontrollably. I feel broken and like my soul and everything that would make me a normal happy human being is gone.


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[PearlieMae]

Geez Kelly, your dad seriously needs to fuck off. Why is he such a miserable shit? How are your parents stopping you from buying your neoprene? If you have the means, just go and fucking buy it. Ignore his comments about not finishing stuff and all his other negativity. You're a legal adult. Own it!

I can't wait for you to get out of there and living on your own. You will be so much happier making your own rules.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Preach it, Pearlie!

I'm so sorry he's like that, Kelly. *hug*

[Mermaid Mystery]

I just remembered a history project and I'm going to cry holy shit nooo

[SeaGlass Siren]

I went back on the pill. Couldn't handle the period cramps.
Also my last day at the disneystore was yesterday and everyone was so sweet and gave me loads of hugs and cake was had by all... I know it's not goodbye forever and I know it's only a mall job but like... The past year has been so emotionally rewarding and it breaks my heart to be away from them (tough financial situation at the moment I won't devulge the details) and there were so many last minute magical moments made that now when I think about it I can't help but cry. And everytime everyone outside of work asksme how my last day went I always cry when I talk about it. I still feel like I left a huge part of me there behind and I feel empty inside. And i haven't been able to rest peacefully. Second night with insomnia ...
I've tried telling myself "hey now you can get tattoos and dye your hair, be financially set at your new job, and the next time you visit the store and see people giving your Ohana shit, you can step in and cuss them out" but then I'm reminded of all the happy memories and how there won't be another job as special as Disney ;-;

[SeaGlass Siren]

Like I have the best relationship with all my cast members, even my bosses. Legit I got so many goodbye hugs that. . . :cry:

[Mermaid Mystery]

I went to read that and found a tiny spider crawling into my face

[LouLouBelle]

Kelly - just think of the satisfaction when you can finally swim with your tail and prove your dad wrong.

SeaGlass - sounds like you'll always have amazing memories from the Disney Store. Good luck with your new job!


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Our washing machine broke down .. Ugh... Can't book a time this week because I will be gone on vacation. And we've been submitting warranty document left right and centre to our builder about cracks forming on the by the stairs because it's been cold, and other outstanding items due but no one has been responding. Can I officially say this is the worst new year ever?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Also the kitchen sink is busted and I still have no access to the balcony... :headdesk:

[Little_Orca]

I had a realization the other day that brought me to tears. I was treating my fiancee at home the same way I get treated at work by my male coworkers (the one who does the grunt work because of my gender). Now that I am aware, I'm working on stopping it.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Great now Google deleted my gmail account :/ because of some service violation but they won't tell me how. Then they said if I want to recover my account j have to follow steps. I follow said steps and they still won't recover because my account is unrecoverable :/ bitch don't tell me I can recover my account and waste and hour of my time then

[PearlieMae]

Service violation?? WTF? I would be so screwed if Google did that to me.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Except I haven't even touched my account for months so what on earth did I violate? 0-0

[SeaGlass Siren]

Like if I done a rule I'm sure they would've explained what happened but this... Nothing

[Imogen Finnly]

Hi guyz, I'm back :) had to reevaluate where I felt placed in the community, and wanted to organize my life better. As of today, I feel better, but apprehensive.(sidenote Also, )allergies. They are killing me.
My husband and I decided to try for a baby, and we are thinking of moving out of LA to portland. I feel refreshed.
So.. here I am again to troll read through threads and reply scarcely. Haha

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[PearlieMae]

Nice to see your face back in the place, Imogen! :mermaid kiss:

[Imogen Finnly]

Thanks pearlie!

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[Imogen Finnly]

Welp. Someone stole my husbands card information and we are cleaned out. This is the second time. This year. I'm am ready to cry and I can't fucking deal. I am feeling more and more over living here now more then ever.

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[Mermaid Clara]

I spent the night at my friend's place last night and she dropped me off at work around 5:15pm since I start work at 6pm tonight. I go inside and put my stuff in my locker and go to the break room to sit and wait until it's time to clock on. I'm sitting here and I feel like I'm about to have a panic attack and burst into tears for no reason. I haven't had a panic attack since I was in high school. I called my mom and talking to her calmed me down a bit but I still feel the sensation of needing to burst into tears and panic. I really don't know if I'm able to function tonight. I just feel like I need to go home and hide in my bathroom.


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[Keiris]

Oh Noooo Imogen!!!! So sorry to hear this!!!!!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That sucks, Imogen.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And also, hugs to Kelly.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Today is the last day, I apply for an admin related role. I had the most uncomfortable and upsetting interview I've ever had!

In short, my work background is working as an office temp, so I try to look for permanent work in the administration industry. Nope! Nope! Never again after today! It has been the same type of people over and over, at every admin related job I've applied for!

Interviewer reads my resume and asks me why I like working in admin. I start off by talking about how when I finished uni, I did not have work skills of any kind, and so joined a job agency to find work, learn new skills and gain new knowledge. And I discovered to my surprise, it was work that I could do. So I explain some more before she starts reading off my job roles... All of my work history are temporary roles I've held. They were not permanent, I finished all my job assignments before the agency gave me another one. It even says so under the title, Work History - Temporary roles held.

She then reads the job where I worked in Singapore at Kelly Services, "Oh you worked there for 3 months. Why did you leave?"

Even though I had already explained twice what temporary staff meant. We are the ones that step in when the company staff goes on leave. Whether for one day or up to 3 months (maternity leave is around 3 months, one day leave is a sick day).

I say, I left because the work assignment was over and there was nothing else suitable in terms of work or another job role.

Then she says, "You said you are a fast learner. Tell me what software you used when you were at Kelly Services?" I say, I can't disclose that information because I signed a confidential clause as we were dealing with private client details. She then had the gall to say, "How can you tell me that you are a fast learner if you can't even tell me what software you used?"

She now reads the rest of my resume out loud, and kept asking, "Why did you leave?"

Its frigging TEMPORARY you stupid cow!!! Was what I raged when I got home!

I then tell her, I've never left a job assignment midway. I finished all of them within the given time. And end with, because that's it how works when you work as temporary staff. They give you an assignment, it can be a day's work, week's worth sometimes even several months! But once the staff comes back, you finish up whatever the company has given you and you're done with that assignment. Then you move on to the next assignment that the agency gives you.

Again with, "Why did you leave?" after reading next role.

Honestly, I had no chance with this company or the lady in it. She had already fixed in her mind, before I even entered her office that I was going to leave in a few months. People like that in any industry, you have nothing to gain. They just can't get over people who've worked as temporary or casuals, who are now seeking permanent employment. They think you're going to leave when you feel like it. Stupid ass!

She then finishes the interview with, "You have the right attitude and I can see that you want to work. I like to give everybody a chance, but I can't give you that because you'll leave in a few months because you did not like it."

Grrrrraaahh! I simply cannot stand people who assume everything without bothering to find out the truth. I think I better stop now. This post is getting too long and that wasn't what I intended.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That's awful Jaffa. No fair.

[PearlieMae]

Maybe you should apply for HER job in HR, because she clearly can't do it!

[LouLouBelle]

That sucks, but just think - do you really want to work for people like that? They might be saving your sanity in the long run! I know it can be disheartening, but don't give up! Keep going and you'll eventually get something that suits you.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

What both Pearlie and LouLou said!

[Echidna]

I honestly couldn't have done sat patiently through such an interview.

After the third repetition of a question I'd have said, "Are you listening to what I'm saying? Because I just explained that. TWICE."
Or I would have gotten up at some point saying "Thanks for wasting my time."

Possibly both.
>><<

[Merman Storm]

One thing to remember whenever such nonsensical things happen: The interviewer may have had no choice but to ask the question. Its company policy to ask it, even when the interviewer knows the answer and knows its a silly thing to keep asking. But eventually the interviewer will get asked "Did you ask every question on the list, and record the answer to every one?" and they have to be able to, truthfully, say "yes".
I had some sort of account security thing come up, and in the phone call the person on the other end had to keep asking me the same security question over and over. After the sixth time, he apologized, but he still had to ask it.
When dealing with a bureaucracy, expect this. The easiest path is to just give the bureaucrats what they want, irrelevant of how silly it is.

[Seraphina Suds]

Has anyone ordered from Lotus Leggings before?? I bought two pairs of mermaid scale leggings over a month ago and haven't seen them since. I got a shipping email with no tracking info, just that it takes 5-25 days. It's been 3 days shy of a month and nothing yet. I emailed thier support last week and was ignored, so I tried the Facebook page earlier today to no avail. Just sent support another email saying that I don't even want the stupid leggings at this point, I want my money back. That will probably be ignored too x-x Should I go to my bank to see what they can do?

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[Winged Mermaid]

Give it until the max shipping time is over with, then go to your bank. Shipping with no tracking is a red flag for sure. I just had to do the same thing with a ladies Legend of Zelda Link hoodie. The site didn't ship my order then shut down, telling their customers they were no longer in business. -_- My case with the bank is still processing.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

One thing to remember whenever such nonsensical things happen: The interviewer may have had no choice but to ask the question. Its company policy to ask it, even when the interviewer knows the answer and knows its a silly thing to keep asking. But eventually the interviewer will get asked "Did you ask every question on the list, and record the answer to every one?" and they have to be able to, truthfully, say "yes".
I had some sort of account security thing come up, and in the phone call the person on the other end had to keep asking me the same security question over and over. After the sixth time, he apologized, but he still had to ask it.
When dealing with a bureaucracy, expect this. The easiest path is to just give the bureaucrats what they want, irrelevant of how silly it is.

Thank you mers for your support!

No, the lady that interviewed me was not HR, she was finance. The company is too small for a hr department.

No loss to me, as I am getting a kick start to my retail career, just need help from the trainer to flesh out my retail resume a bit more.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck!

[Seraphina Suds]

Give it until the max shipping time is over with, then go to your bank. Shipping with no tracking is a red flag for sure. I just had to do the same thing with a ladies Legend of Zelda Link hoodie. The site didn't ship my order then shut down, telling their customers they were no longer in business. -_- My case with the bank is still processing.
Augh, that's so sketchy D: I bet the hoodie was super cute too... It's past the max shipping time (unless you only consider business days, which they didn't specify) so I'm going to my bank this week. It just sucks because I thought I had finally found affordable, cute leggings in my size, but nope...

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

So. We were talking about mansplaining awhile back.

My high school is fortunate enough to have a climbing gym complete with high ropes course.

It took me a few tries, but I was determined to self belay up an entry point I hadn't tried before. I managed it.

The instant I get up, the boys who were already in the air were coming from all directions to my platform; there was nowhere for me to go. So I'm squished up there with four other boys when the instructor calls time.

I let the four boys self belay down first. Two of them go to another platform to stream line the process. I was about to go but couldn't get the attention of the peoole on the ground to be my breaker. So I just wait my turn with the breaker we have. The two boys self belay down.

The breaker starts to send the tie in point and the grigri to me. Then he looks at me, starts, pulls the tie in point and the grigri back down, unclips them and just sends me the carabiner to the tie in point. He refuses to send me the grigri and gets some people to assist him in belaying me down. He refuses to let me self belay.

I'd just self belayed UP the damn entry point. Self be laying down is the SAFER part and he refused to let me do it.

I was also the only girl up today because the guys made a point of taking all the widetails.

I wanted to punch him

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ your story reminds me of an episode of Arthur where DW had to babysit the tibble twins. They were exactly like that. Hogging the toys, saying "we can do this better than you!". They are basically the terrible tibble twins.

little boys who act little boys will always remain little boys.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm so sick of my moms constant verbal abuse. I used to record it and if I recorded what she's saying to me currently and sent it to the police you bet your sweet ass she'd be arrested. On that note, my cat is terribly sick and my mom continues to scream at me that she's going to die. I think she'll live but it's nice to know my mom has no faith in anyone anymore. Keep her in your thoughts, she's only five. http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160217/61b18dac7b065188cb4ba01e4ff61fe8.jpg

[Echidna]

Best wishes for your kitty!

Had to rush to the vet last night with mine because someone in my house didn't pay attention.
Again
:gah:

didn't get any sleep.

by now, I feel guilty for not getting my little ones out of here sooner.

[PearlieMae]

Best wishes for your kitty!

Had to rush to the vet last night with mine because someone in my house didn't pay attention.
Again
:gah:

didn't get any sleep.

by now, I feel guilty for not getting my little ones out of here sooner.

I hope she's going to be okay! :hug:


I'm so sick of my moms constant verbal abuse. I used to record it and if I recorded what she's saying to me currently and sent it to the police you bet your sweet ass she'd be arrested. On that note, my cat is terribly sick and my mom continues to scream at me that she's going to die. I think she'll live but it's nice to know my mom has no faith in anyone anymore. Keep her in your thoughts, she's only five.

GET HER TO THE VET NOW.

[Mermaid Mystery]

She was at the vet yesterday. She had some blood work done. Unfortunately this far we have no idea what's going on. Hopefully by we'll know ASAP. I don't want to lose her, we lost her brother the first few months we had him. I miss him terribly, he had a little neuter tattoo and he liked to snuggle up into armpits. I don't know what I'd do without my little chubby bub.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Results are in. Kidneys are fine, something strange is going on in the liver. She needs an ultrasound. They said it's likely not FIP, which is what killed her brother. Could be a lot of other things though.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck!!!

[Ashe]

Stella I'm glad that your cat is looking positive so far. I really hope she pulls through. Hugs! :hug:

Well on my side, the significant other just broke up with me. Not much of a bitch, but more of a bummer. We weren't together for very long, only a month, but I really liked her. Like a lot. Oh well. I was going to be really cheesy and ask her to the winter formal dance with a big sign and balloons, but I guess that was blown.
One of my good friends is taking me out to the dance now so we're just going to party the night away together :yay:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hugs to Kalani

[RomanLaveau]

Just a little vent that is not really a problem just wanna get it out. SOOOOOOOOO Some of these Mers in the whole community are some of the most irritating people ever! First off, some Mer named Mer Cass Aurora or whatever the hell, tried to call me racist for a post I made on fb. I am definitely highly opinionated when it comes to pro-black liberation and uplifting my people, if you don't like it, I could honestly give a shit less, but pro-black is not anti-white! IF you think it is, you're dumb, I have been dating the same white man for almost 3 1/2 year, gtfo here with that BS! Secondly, I don't see how some of them think that because you added me as a "Friend" on fb you can talk to me any ol way; NO, you will get cussed out in .02 seconds, like I don't know you like that, so don't be surprised! And lastly, bad mouthing me to other mers is annoying and childish unless it's an actual problem, if its not stfu and keep it pushing. I'm over it now lol

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Just a little vent that is not really a problem just wanna get it out. SOOOOOOOOO Some of these Mers in the whole community are some of the most irritating people ever! First off, some Mer named Mer Cass Aurora or whatever the hell, tried to call me racist for a post I made on fb. I am definitely highly opinionated when it comes to pro-black liberation and uplifting my people, if you don't like it, I could honestly give a shit less, but pro-black is not anti-white! IF you think it is, you're dumb, I have been dating the same white man for almost 3 1/2 year, gtfo here with that BS! Secondly, I don't see how some of them think that because you added me as a "Friend" on fb you can talk to me any ol way; NO, you will get cussed out in .02 seconds, like I don't know you like that, so don't be surprised! And lastly, bad mouthing me to other mers is annoying and childish unless it's an actual problem, if its not stfu and keep it pushing. I'm over it now lol
Naww! Poor fishy! Would you like to learn the MEGA FIN SLAP? Mega Fin Slap em all into oblivion because that's where they belong.

[Calizaire]

Just a little vent that is not really a problem just wanna get it out. SOOOOOOOOO Some of these Mers in the whole community are some of the most irritating people ever! First off, some Mer named Mer Cass Aurora or whatever the hell, tried to call me racist for a post I made on fb. I am definitely highly opinionated when it comes to pro-black liberation and uplifting my people, if you don't like it, I could honestly give a shit less, but pro-black is not anti-white! IF you think it is, you're dumb, I have been dating the same white man for almost 3 1/2 year, gtfo here with that BS! Secondly, I don't see how some of them think that because you added me as a "Friend" on fb you can talk to me any ol way; NO, you will get cussed out in .02 seconds, like I don't know you like that, so don't be surprised! And lastly, bad mouthing me to other mers is annoying and childish unless it's an actual problem, if its not stfu and keep it pushing. I'm over it now lol

That's not a mer community thing love, that's just how a-holes are. A-holes span every niche of this world. Bad mouthing isn't too cool, but it says way more about them than it does about you.
Hugs. :hug:

[MermaidCelesteFL]

I'm so upset...

A few years ago, I was the lead character in an anime con show called "The Final Fantasy Ball". I had a great time then, and I dont regret the experience, but the con owner and I had a disagreement later down the line. I was eventually banned from this convention, because the con owner saw me as a threat for calling him out on shady business practices.
Fast forward a couple years, and I befriended a guy who was also badly hurt from this con owner. He even saved me from attempting suicide last year. I divulged my deepest secrets and innermost thoughts to him, and he told me about how life with this other guy was hell and he even treated his own wife and (third) son like crap. I encouraged him to call CPS on the guy to save the child from further neglect and abuse.

This week, I discovered that there is going to be a HUGE cast party for everyone who has ever been cast in the Final Fantasy Ball. I miss my friends, and since I'm no longer associated with the con, I dont get to see them often, if at all. It turns out that I am purposely not invited to this event.
Why?
Because that close friend that I trusted decided to become friends with the asshole con owner again, and has divulged all of my secrets to him, which in turn, got twisted and spread to the entire active con community. Now all of my "friends" believe that I am actively trying to take away babies for no reason, slandering the convention at any given opportunity, and am faking being bipolar for attention. So none of them want to see me or speak to me anymore.

In a matter of a week, I lost close to a hundred friends, because of rumors. None of them are willing to stand up to the rumors, or even ask me about them.

What's worse, is that today I entered a depressive episode, and I'm too afraid to reach out to anybody for help. Nobody will believe me.

[Merman Arion]

Just a little vent that is not really a problem just wanna get it out. SOOOOOOOOO Some of these Mers in the whole community are some of the most irritating people ever! First off, some Mer named Mer Cass Aurora or whatever the hell, tried to call me racist for a post I made on fb. I am definitely highly opinionated when it comes to pro-black liberation and uplifting my people, if you don't like it, I could honestly give a shit less, but pro-black is not anti-white! IF you think it is, you're dumb, I have been dating the same white man for almost 3 1/2 year, gtfo here with that BS! Secondly, I don't see how some of them think that because you added me as a "Friend" on fb you can talk to me any ol way; NO, you will get cussed out in .02 seconds, like I don't know you like that, so don't be surprised! And lastly, bad mouthing me to other mers is annoying and childish unless it's an actual problem, if its not stfu and keep it pushing. I'm over it now lol

I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of BS attitude. I unfriended right away and moved on.

[Merman Storm]

I could repeat all the obvious ways this is so wrong, but I'm sure you'll think of them.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/baby-dolphin-dies-after-tourists-pull-it-from-124230809.html

[Saelyyia]

I am so frustrated and done I don't know how much more I can handle. I just found out on my way to work today that my own uncle may have just screwed us over and cost my dad, myself, and my cats our house because he misses being able to spend money without caring basically! To start the story my dad is in IT and has been in computers since they first came around. But two years ago the company he was working for got bought out and he was laid off along with most of the employees from his company during the merger. No big deal right? Well per the contract from the buy out he had to sign a non-compete clause and he would recieve a $200,000 check. He figured okay I'll take it and I just wont go into video conferencing for the year and a half the contract states. However the market crashed again and no one was hiring and he got really screwed. At the time he got laid off I was bed-ridden most of the time and working 6 hour weeks at a local restaurant as a server. I suffer from about 5 chronic conditions that drastically effect my life and make it very hard on myself and my family and boyfriend. In this time he did some odd jobs and we just lived off the check from the merger. I eventually found full time work and got my health mostly in check but by then the money had run out, I have lots of medical bills and we were out of credit too. Flash forward and he finally got in with a new IT contracting company run by a really old friend along with my uncle and things were finally looking up. But we noticed things started getting shady and that his boss kept telling the guys that he couldn't afford to pay them right now even though they have been working the jobs like crazy. Come to find out that my uncle cooked a deal with the boss to bring in $12,000 a month regardless of if he is actually doing any work. He doesn't need that much money and because of it no one else is getting paid. Then find out he had dad pulled off two contracts so he could have them too but then the contracts fell through because my uncle has a bad rap in the industry as being a problem child.

So now while my boyfriend was planning to move back in with me and my father was suppose to be leaving the state for work for 6 months to a year. Instead we find out that come March we might be homeless and I can't afford to go anywhere let alone take care of both of us. And my dad has diabetes which keeps costs high too. I'm really freaked out and no one has answers on if this will right itself and because of it I had a pain flare up and I'm shaking so bad at work and I feel sick and exhausted and my skin is crawling. I am also the youngest of 4 and none of my sibling care or are even willing to help. They all say they are better off without our dad just because he doesn't believe in playing their BS greedy games. Sorry to just whine a bunch but I don't even have anyone to vent too because I have been takin care of him full time since I wsa 16 and my boyfriend and I both work full time in conflicting schedules and by the time he gets home I am just a pile of nothingness in the corner usually. And worse I have a big family dinner coming up and I am gonna have to sit there with my uncle and pretend that he isn't pretty much number one on my "you're dead to me" list. this isn't the first time he has done this and it wont be the last. Not to mention he isn't even support his family. My two eldest cousins (18 and 20) are supporting their whole family while one is taking 19 units in a premed program and working two jobs and the other is running his own business. So what did he really need the $12,000 for? Was it really worth making part of your family homeless?!?!

[mermaid_selene]

I'm so upset...

A few years ago, I was the lead character in an anime con show called "The Final Fantasy Ball". I had a great time then, and I dont regret the experience, but the con owner and I had a disagreement later down the line. I was eventually banned from this convention, because the con owner saw me as a threat for calling him out on shady business practices.
Fast forward a couple years, and I befriended a guy who was also badly hurt from this con owner. He even saved me from attempting suicide last year. I divulged my deepest secrets and innermost thoughts to him, and he told me about how life with this other guy was hell and he even treated his own wife and (third) son like crap. I encouraged him to call CPS on the guy to save the child from further neglect and abuse.

This week, I discovered that there is going to be a HUGE cast party for everyone who has ever been cast in the Final Fantasy Ball. I miss my friends, and since I'm no longer associated with the con, I dont get to see them often, if at all. It turns out that I am purposely not invited to this event.
Why?
Because that close friend that I trusted decided to become friends with the asshole con owner again, and has divulged all of my secrets to him, which in turn, got twisted and spread to the entire active con community. Now all of my "friends" believe that I am actively trying to take away babies for no reason, slandering the convention at any given opportunity, and am faking being bipolar for attention. So none of them want to see me or speak to me anymore.

In a matter of a week, I lost close to a hundred friends, because of rumors. None of them are willing to stand up to the rumors, or even ask me about them.

What's worse, is that today I entered a depressive episode, and I'm too afraid to reach out to anybody for help. Nobody will believe me.

Omg that's awful! I know the struggle of friends who are not trustworthy and betray that trust you have. People always say to bipolar people your faking it but it bothers me that they don't know the real struggle so reading this hit so close to home. Dam people can be such a-holes it's like you can't trust anyone these days because as soon as they find someone else that means more to them they ditch you!!! Hang in there there are much better people out there.

[Merman Arion]

I am so frustrated and done I don't know how much more I can handle. I just found out on my way to work today that my own uncle may have just screwed us over and cost my dad, myself, and my cats our house because he misses being able to spend money without caring basically! To start the story my dad is in IT and has been in computers since they first came around. But two years ago the company he was working for got bought out and he was laid off along with most of the employees from his company during the merger. No big deal right? Well per the contract from the buy out he had to sign a non-compete clause and he would recieve a $200,000 check. He figured okay I'll take it and I just wont go into video conferencing for the year and a half the contract states. However the market crashed again and no one was hiring and he got really screwed. At the time he got laid off I was bed-ridden most of the time and working 6 hour weeks at a local restaurant as a server. I suffer from about 5 chronic conditions that drastically effect my life and make it very hard on myself and my family and boyfriend. In this time he did some odd jobs and we just lived off the check from the merger. I eventually found full time work and got my health mostly in check but by then the money had run out, I have lots of medical bills and we were out of credit too. Flash forward and he finally got in with a new IT contracting company run by a really old friend along with my uncle and things were finally looking up. But we noticed things started getting shady and that his boss kept telling the guys that he couldn't afford to pay them right now even though they have been working the jobs like crazy. Come to find out that my uncle cooked a deal with the boss to bring in $12,000 a month regardless of if he is actually doing any work. He doesn't need that much money and because of it no one else is getting paid. Then find out he had dad pulled off two contracts so he could have them too but then the contracts fell through because my uncle has a bad rap in the industry as being a problem child.

So now while my boyfriend was planning to move back in with me and my father was suppose to be leaving the state for work for 6 months to a year. Instead we find out that come March we might be homeless and I can't afford to go anywhere let alone take care of both of us. And my dad has diabetes which keeps costs high too. I'm really freaked out and no one has answers on if this will right itself and because of it I had a pain flare up and I'm shaking so bad at work and I feel sick and exhausted and my skin is crawling. I am also the youngest of 4 and none of my sibling care or are even willing to help. They all say they are better off without our dad just because he doesn't believe in playing their BS greedy games. Sorry to just whine a bunch but I don't even have anyone to vent too because I have been takin care of him full time since I wsa 16 and my boyfriend and I both work full time in conflicting schedules and by the time he gets home I am just a pile of nothingness in the corner usually. And worse I have a big family dinner coming up and I am gonna have to sit there with my uncle and pretend that he isn't pretty much number one on my "you're dead to me" list. this isn't the first time he has done this and it wont be the last. Not to mention he isn't even support his family. My two eldest cousins (18 and 20) are supporting their whole family while one is taking 19 units in a premed program and working two jobs and the other is running his own business. So what did he really need the $12,000 for? Was it really worth making part of your family homeless?!?!

I'm so so sorry to hear that. This is a very complicated situation. Why not ask your uncle and call him out on his bullshit?? He is wrong he should make amends and fix the issue. No one is that heartless to screw a deal and make his whole family at risks and homeless.. I hope so for your sake that things will look up and work out. Keep us updated.

[Saelyyia]

Thanks Arion, we did call him out he just said "I want my old standard of life back" Basically he is a giant man child. My dad is contacting the companies the contracts were suppose to be for personally behind everyone's back to see if he can salvage this. My boyfriend finally got up for work so he knows and now he is all mad. Luckily after 5 years I know him well enough to know he isn't mad at me but he is super worried. most of my conditions are stress sensitive. I'm just hoping we get answers soon. I can't handle taking on another job. I work 40 hrs a week at an office and run my own business both entertaining and making costume props so I already don't really have any "me" time let alone time to take on another job unless I took a night job and just stopped sleeping.

[PearlieMae]

I really really hate humanity sometimes.

http://www.snopes.com/2016/02/18/dolphin-killed-by-beachgoers/

[LouLouBelle]

I really really hate humanity sometimes.

http://www.snopes.com/2016/02/18/dolphin-killed-by-beachgoers/

I saw that on Facebook. The first photo is enough to bring me to tears. Heartbreaking doesn't even begin to cover it.

Every single person involved should be jailed and tortured.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Woooow. That is sick.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And hugs to Sealyyia. That is horrid.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I really really hate humanity sometimes.

http://www.snopes.com/2016/02/18/dolphin-killed-by-beachgoers/

I saw that yesterday. It made me cry! Stupid humans!

[mermaid_selene]

I really really hate humanity sometimes.

http://www.snopes.com/2016/02/18/dolphin-killed-by-beachgoers/

No animal should be treated or die in such a way. Makes me sick

[Mermaid Mystery]

Results are back. It's cancer.

[Saelyyia]

Oh my....Mystery I am so sorry *hugs*

[SeaGlass Siren]

Just to let everyone know I've read every single post here... And I offer you my deepest sympathies, express the greatest anger, and flipping all the tables.

[Mermaid Mystery]

We have more information. It's lymphoma. She started chemo today. I'm so nervous. She's still my little baby, she doesn't deserve to go through all of this.

[Mermaid Danielle]

We have more information. It's lymphoma. She started chemo today. I'm so nervous. She's still my little baby, she doesn't deserve to go through all of this.

Try to keep your hope and mentality up Mermaid Mystery: the stronger you are, the less stress your pet will feel and hopefully, it will help you significantly as well. Animals are extremely resilient even when they are so sick. My dog has had an extremely aggressive form of cancer which, in the week preceding the visit to the vet, made her feel terrible, so much so that she did very little other than eat small amounts. Even then, and after the sudden surgery which left her in a bit of pain (even on the meds) and the lessened her mobility for several months, she still was pretty happy and continued to fight to get back to her normal self.

Lymphoma is a different type of cancer than what my dog had, but I understand the fear of losing your baby and the heartache that comes with their suffering during treatment. If you want to talk, feel free to message me.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Update on my story: I contacted a friend of mine who has close ties to the con community and asked why I wasn't invited. The people running the event said that they won't go into detail, but I am definitely not welcome there. If I want to get back on their good graces, I can talk to them after the party is over and apologize.

F that. I'm not apologizing for anything. And I'm not kissing anyone's butt so that I can have friends again.

Bye Felicia.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hugs to all!

[New York Mermaid]

Stressed beyond, Im currently having trouble coping with something, other than my health.

How do I handle someone who is spiteful and two faced to me, and who has disrespected my family. The problem is, there are people who see this person as sweet and nice, but this person has that 'holier that thou' attitude and even has gone as far as having others spy on me, what I do, where I go, only to talk about me behind my back (and you wonder why im such an introvert). I try to avoid them as much as possible, but it continues on.

I feel that If I tell them something I'll get ripped apart by their 'groupies', and be forever labeled as a mean person. But at the same time I don't want to be a doormat. Im sorry but Im so tired of it.


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I Also want to add in that Im super tired of being Copied, in other things. Being a copycat doesn't make you better than the original. There was a person in one of my groups who alot of my members were not fond of because this person was known to not only cause drama but talk about people behind their back, unfortunately someone added them into the group and I was consistently messaged (by group members mind you) to have that person removed from the group. I did remove that person, suddenly they create a group not even a few hours later. I mean really.. No interest in things what so ever, suddenly I bend to my group only for this person to go and do this.

Really tired of the spiteful things, you think at their age they would have grown out of their teenage antics. I do what's best for my groups, if they don't feel safe or comfortable with this person (myself included) , I wont have them there. Im tired of being the bigger person and holding my tongue, that's for sure.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I feel like a bad lizard mom because my babby is borderline obese because whenever my mom feeds her she gives in to those puppy dog eyes and gives her too much. She's been on a diet but she's not losing any weight. I stopped feeding her crickets because she never eats them and they're annoying and more likely to carry parasites but they were her main source of exercise. I have no lizard-proof areas in the house and I've got other pets so I have almost nowhere to walk her. I don't know what to do I feel so terrible.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch. Good luck. Maybe knit or crochet a little lizard harness so you can bring her outside?

[Starfrit]

Wellp, it's come to the point where, depending on how things go this summer... I might just end up selling my tail.

It's nothing with the tail itself, it's just that the ban here in town is just getting worse, not better— my old spot's "thinking" about lifting the ban when their new center opens, but it's still not for certain... The only place I can find that's (apparently) letting people swim there is like three towns over and almost a half hour's drive. I don't have a car, I don't drive, and I can't justify suckering someone into driving that far out just so I can swim for less than an hour.

And I'm terrible at talking to people about this because of my anxiety, like I have to spend thirty minutes just to hype myself up to make a single phonecall anywhere and then I just feel sick afterwards. I'm bad at talking to people I don't know, I can't take the lead on anything so I'd never get anything done with a petition...

I've had my tail for almost a year and swam in it twice. It's a thousand-dollar piece of closet space, and it's breaking my fuckin' heart. But there's nowhere indoors where I can take it, and there's maybe a month and a half in the year where the water's even manageable enough for outdoor swimming here...

I dunno, man. I'm just really fucking bummed lately.

[Kaila Mermaid]

I got my leggings from Lotus and all went well

[Kaila Mermaid]

Please disregard last post. It was meant as a response to a waaayyy earlier topic and my phone just now caught up >< dangit tapatalk.
Mystery I'm so sorry to hear... And don't sell your tail Tieri! Murphies law as soon as you sell it they'll lift the ban

[Mermaid Mystery]

Ouch. Good luck. Maybe knit or crochet a little lizard harness so you can bring her outside?

I've thought about it, it's too cold right now but idk. she might be too small for a harness.

[Mermaid Alea]

Ok this might be a stupid question, but is there a way to have a lizard hamster wheel? I saw a big 'hamster' wheel at an animal rescue that a bunch of raccoon kits were running in. They really loved it! I don't know if a lizard would use one or not.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm researching it, it would have to be pretty big though. Hamster wheels cause spinal issues if they aren't big enough, and smiles is a big longer than the average hamster haha. I don't know if she would know what to do.

[Ilyena]

Same with us here, the bans are getting f$^#en rediculous, literally the only place we have is the ocean where kids can hurt themselves even more. No one will listen to reason and the fact it was some idiot's fault.

[Starfrit]

The ocean isn't even an option where I live— not only is the water insanely cold, but the tides and undercurrents are both unpredictable and REALLY strong, so it's easy to get hurt or worse if you're not careful— and where I'm still only learning with my tail (largely because NOBODY WILL LET ME SWIM IN THE BLOODY THING AAARRRGGHHH), that's not a risk I feel comfortable taking.

Le sigh.

[Sherielle]

I love being ignored.
Oh wait....no....I hate it.
But I always seem to be. I guess I say things or do things that people don't like. I get that but if no one ever fucking tells me what I'm doing, how in the hell can I stop?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch, Sherielle. Definitely been in that situation before.

[Mermaid Momo]

Bans are bad here too :( I don't have anywhere to swim which made me feel like finishing my tail would be a bit pointless. So far the only place I have are natural springs and rivers which I'm very nervous about swimming in my first silicone tail in because of the weight difference between it and my last neoprene and fabric tails I've had.

[Mermaid Coralia]

Sherielle, I feel your pain. I feel like I get glossed over here a lot, kinda overshadowed by the "bigger fish", so to speak.

Don't worry though, people come around. and if the don't, fuck em. Lol.

[Sherielle]

Sherielle, I feel your pain. I feel like I get glossed over here a lot, kinda overshadowed by the "bigger fish", so to speak.

Don't worry though, people come around. and if the don't, fuck em. Lol.


Thanks. It's not so much here as it is with a group of my friends. But getting glossed over sucks too.

[The Magic Crafter]

Just spent over an hour writing a Fin Fun Tail review for the forums... and I hit "Post Review" (and on top of that, thought it was "Review Post...")... and my computer logged me out of the web-page and I lost the data... Waaaaah! :fallover: Ugh. Guess that'll be a project for another day!

[Echidna]

Always save it with copy!
Many sites tend to log you out after a few minutes typing.

I normally always save, but once or twice, I lost a longer mail that took me ages to compose.
Usually, the re-typed version is then muuuch shorter :lol:

[Little_Orca]

I'm being forced by my job to take additional training courses for my job... the job I am going to quit as soon as I am done with school and as soon as I find a design job... The worst part, is I will have to miss a week of school for this crap and I wont be able to do an internship as well as a result. My degree trumps the need for the training, as my whole fucking experience in grad school was in relation to this! But since I took a "lower position" (because full time and benefits... even if it is at slave wages for my degree status) I have to do this. I'm cheesed off.

[Little_Orca]

A former resident of mine was reported missing today. :( They have a TBI (traumatic brain injury) and thus cannot problem solve as easily as someone else their same age and are easily taken advantage of. This hurts my heart.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hugs*

[Mermaid Lily_Pad]

So, I was just made the equivalent of a manager at my new Job after being there only 6 months. I have had a ton of sucess in those months and basically shown that I am passionate, dedicated and good at what I do, proven by my clients reviews, requests, and comments. I also work over 40 hours a week, have stayed late, worked through breaks, gone in on my days off when they needed me and basically shown that I love my place of employment and will do anything for my boss and owner without complaint. Some of the other workers (who wouldn't lift a finger to help the place more then their allotted time) are less then thrilled with my new position and people who I considered friends or acquaintances have suddenly begun to twist my words and go above my bosses head to other higher up managers to get me in trouble/fired. I am a teacher at heart, and a pacifist. I don't condescend or reprimand. I try to encourage every chance I get and address problems in a neutral understanding way. It kills me that people can be so mean spirited. My manager who promoted me thankfully has stood by my side through all of this and doesn't cave to the bitching.

When I first got the position a sign written by the owner of the establishment was posted in the break room announcing it. One of the other managers came in while I was at the table with a friend and said sarcastically, "someone got promoted" I could feel her eye roll and the way she said it made me actually feel ashamed and embarrassed. What was worse was my friend at the table said just as sarcastically, "yeah, "someone", and gave me the stink eye. I saved her butt a week or so later when her mom had an emergency so I took over the rest of her duties so she could leave early. Now she calls me the best manager ever.

Now I have to train with the "eye rolling" manager, who I feel, doesn't like me at all, and who believed the girl who twisted my words to get me in trouble. I reeaalllyyy don't want her to train me. Ugh.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That is PAINFUL, Lily_Pad. I send you many hugs.