B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Varshana]

I would just let the friendship with #2 fade naturally. That's how interpersonal relationships work. Unfortunately, people don't take that "I don't want to be your friend anymore" speech well (although I had to have an encounter like that once to end a 7 year friendship that had become abusive).

[Mermaid Varshana]

While we're on the topic of society and social media, I hate this idea that we should treat people like they cease to be human the instant they put on a skimpy outfit and seem proud of it. Look, you might not agree with what she's wearing, and it may even make you butthurt that she has the gall to have the body and the self confidence to wear it, but DUDE, don't think that gives you the permission to treat her like she's lost her personhood card.

[Alveric]

Kakarotte is right, just let it fade from friendship to acquaintance. Only break a friendship if it becomes abusive or in some fashion dangerous.

[Dacora]

While we're on the topic of society and social media, I hate this idea that we should treat people like they cease to be human the instant they put on a skimpy outfit and seem proud of it. Look, you might not agree with what she's wearing, and it may even make you butthurt that she has the gall to have the body and the self confidence to wear it, but DUDE, don't think that gives you the permission to treat her like she's lost her personhood card.

This so much. I do think there is such a thing as showing too much but I can't stand it when people say they are sluts for showing off their body. My aunt does it a lot out of jealousy, espically when its a skinnier woman than her.

So my mother has lost all my trust when it comes to money.
I recently had to close my bank account since I did not have enough money in it to keep it open without it being charged a fee, but I do still get paychecks from working once in awhile when my work needs me. So I still needed a way to cash the checks. What I wanted to do was make a joint account with my mom and dad where I don't have to have a minimum amount in there but our money is seprate. But my mom just signed me up so I could access their account and my money and their money is the same account. I told her it was a bad idea, one of us would make the mistake of thinking we have more money than we do and overdraw the account. Well guess what? I was right!! My mom overdrew the account by almost $300. What ticks me off the most is I told her how much was mine. I got all my receipts and counted how much money I had left and how much was theirs. Wrote it down even, but no. Now my money is gone, dog food is almost gone and I have 20 bucks for gas in my wallet. I still need to buy a heat gun to finish my tail and other things I can't do because my money is gone. So after they pay me back I am still going to use their account to cash the checks but I am getting one of those prepaid, reloadable visa cards and putting the money on that card.

And what pissed me off even more is today I was trying to help them with something and she messed it up. I told her she was doing it wrong and her response was "Oh she is so smart! Maybe we should make her do the bills since she is smarter than us!" You have no clue how hard it was to shut up and not tell her if I was the one doing the bills I wouldn't screw it up and not spend money that is not mine to spend in the first place.
I just want to bang my head on the wall i'm so frustrated.

[Goldie]

This so much. I do think there is such a thing as showing too much but I can't stand it when people say they are sluts for showing off their body. My aunt does it a lot out of jealousy, espically when its a skinnier woman than her.

So my mother has lost all my trust when it comes to money.
I recently had to close my bank account since I did not have enough money in it to keep it open without it being charged a fee, but I do still get paychecks from working once in awhile when my work needs me. So I still needed a way to cash the checks. What I wanted to do was make a joint account with my mom and dad where I don't have to have a minimum amount in there but our money is seprate. But my mom just signed me up so I could access their account and my money and their money is the same account. I told her it was a bad idea, one of us would make the mistake of thinking we have more money than we do and overdraw the account. Well guess what? I was right!! My mom overdrew the account by almost $300. What ticks me off the most is I told her how much was mine. I got all my receipts and counted how much money I had left and how much was theirs. Wrote it down even, but no. Now my money is gone, dog food is almost gone and I have 20 bucks for gas in my wallet. I still need to buy a heat gun to finish my tail and other things I can't do because my money is gone. So after they pay me back I am still going to use their account to cash the checks but I am getting one of those prepaid, reloadable visa cards and putting the money on that card.

And what pissed me off even more is today I was trying to help them with something and she messed it up. I told her she was doing it wrong and her response was "Oh she is so smart! Maybe we should make her do the bills since she is smarter than us!" You have no clue how hard it was to shut up and not tell her if I was the one doing the bills I wouldn't screw it up and not spend money that is not mine to spend in the first place.
I just want to bang my head on the wall i'm so frustrated.

I feel where you are coming SooOOoo much. It is really hard when dealing with you're mother is like trying to reason with a five year old with a since of entitlement ,and like an idea that since she "made" you she should own you and everything that you are and do. SORRY FOR YOUR TROUBLES!

[SeaGlass Siren]

You don't have those cash places where u are? :0 a friend of mine doesn't have an account either but he goes to these places to cash his check and he keeps the money on him at all times

[SeaGlass Siren]

Also, I think your mom knows she's spending your money.. So how about this; go to the bank teller and tell them what's happening and see if they can do anything about it...? I don't know of it'll be much help..

[SeaGlass Siren]

Speaking of mothers...

K so mom is saying I broke her Facebook when she was the one doing all the clicking and all that happened was just Facebook messing with her pictures! it's fuckin early in he morning not even 8 oclock yt and she's already blaming me for something I didn't do so I am quite upset and hurt... Then asks if I want to see a picture of a ghost. I don't like ghost images so I say no.


All of a sudden she goes saying how i should cancel the mothers day reservation for tomorrow and im like... Well why? Then she goes on this rampage about how disrespectful I am ! All I said was no because I didn't want to see a ghost picture, and she's all like " it's do early in the morning and you're already starting up problems. Go away! And cancel that reservation, I don't need your love!"


What the fuck man...

[Dacora]

@goldie
THANK YOU! That is exactly it. I love my mom to death but jeez I just don't know why she goes bonkers like that sometimes. Then makes everyone out to be the bad guy and it drives me nuts. Dont get me wrong, I am thankful for her birthing me and putting a roof over my head but I cant stand it when she or any parent really, gets the feeling their child owes them everything beacuse they choose to raise the kid. There where other options the parent could have taken too. But they took on the kid, and apart of that is to give the kid a place to stay,give clothes and food. Why? Caz you choose to keep it.
Thats like adopting a dog and being mad when you have to care for it. If you didnt want to care for it in the first place Why adopt it?
But I never had a kid before so what do I know?


Also, I think your mom knows she's spending your money.. So how about this; go to the bank teller and tell them what's happening and see if they can do anything about it...? I don't know of it'll be much help..

They do have they places to cash it but they normally charge you for it. I normally travel through the city to see my boyfriend and having a big sum of money on you is just asking for trouble.

I did once and she set me up with my old bank account and made it where I had no charges. But she had to go to a diffrent bank location. We think she was waving charges on my account since her and my mom are buds. But since she moved she can't anymore.

I figured she knew she was using my money, and the thing is if she asked me I would have given her money and she knows that, I just wish she would have let me buy what I needed first. Aslong as I have the money on the visa no one can use it unless I give them the card and the pen number. So I will probally use that until I find a steady job to have my own bank account.

This is not the first time stuff has happened over the years and its other things too. She has told me straight up that if she could take back the day I was conceived she would. I think she loves me but also resents me since I was not planned and ruined her party life when it just started. It's a huge strain on our relationship and its ruined the whole "loving mother and daughter" thing. Not to mention she wanted a boy then when she didnt get that she wanted me to be a pretty girly girl that wears dresses and make up. I also shat over that plan. Along with everything about me being totally diffrent than her. I turned out to be the polar opposite of the kid she wanted.

After 18 years of all of it its gotten to the point where I don't care if I'm the bad guy anymore. It does not bother me when she yells caz if its not one thing its another.

Ill hopefully be out on my own soon and I hope it will help out our relationship. I know we get along better when I take off to my boyfriends moms house and stay there with them from Saturday to Monday then come back. So maybe just being gone will fix it. Less room to bump heads I guess.

What a great topic for mothers day. Its kinda funny, I wanted to take her out to eat but I cant now. Caz im broke. XD

P.S My phone is a jerk and is autocorecting words into things that dont make sense. So im sorry if this is a huge wall of typos.

[Dacora]

@goldie
THANK YOU! That is exactly it. I love my mom to death but jeez I just don't know why she goes bonkers like that sometimes. Then makes everyone out to be the bad guy and it drives me nuts. Dont get me wrong, I am thankful for her birthing me and putting a roof over my head but I cant stand it when she or any parent really, gets the feeling their child owes them everything beacuse they choose to raise the kid. There where other options the parent could have taken too. But they took on the kid, and apart of that is to give the kid a place to stay,give clothes and food. Why? Caz you choose to keep it.
Thats like adopting a dog and being mad when you have to care for it. If you didnt want to care for it in the first place Why adopt it?
But I never had a kid before so what do I know?


Also, I think your mom knows she's spending your money.. So how about this; go to the bank teller and tell them what's happening and see if they can do anything about it...? I don't know of it'll be much help..

They do have they places to cash it but they normally charge you for it. I normally travel through the city to see my boyfriend and having a big sum of money on you is just asking for trouble.

I did once and she set me up with my old bank account and made it where I had no charges. But she had to go to a diffrent bank location. We think she was waving charges on my account since her and my mom are buds. But since she moved she can't anymore.

I figured she knew she was using my money, and the thing is if she asked me I would have given her money and she knows that, I just wish she would have let me buy what I needed first. Aslong as I have the money on the visa no one can use it unless I give them the card and the pen number. So I will probally use that until I find a steady job to have my own bank account.

This is not the first time stuff has happened over the years and its other things too. She has told me straight up that if she could take back the day I was conceived she would. I think she loves me but also resents me since I was not planned and ruined her party life when it just started. It's a huge strain on our relationship and its ruined the whole "loving mother and daughter" thing. Not to mention she wanted a boy then when she didnt get that she wanted me to be a pretty girly girl that wears dresses and make up. I also shat over that plan. Along with everything about me being totally diffrent than her. I turned out to be the polar opposite of the kid she wanted.

After 18 years of all of it its gotten to the point where I don't care if I'm the bad guy anymore. It does not bother me when she yells caz if its not one thing its another.

Ill hopefully be out on my own soon and I hope it will help out our relationship. I know we get along better when I take off to my boyfriends moms house and stay there with them from Saturday to Monday then come back. So maybe just being gone will fix it. Less room to bump heads I guess.

What a great topic for mothers day. Its kinda funny, I wanted to take her out to eat but I cant now. Caz im broke. XD

P.S My phone is a jerk and is autocorecting words into things that dont make sense. So im sorry if this is a huge wall of typos.

@ mermaidandrea
Ah yes the "no I dont wanna go out anymore" bit. I would still take her out, but I wouldn't blame you if you didnt.

[Ariel-Starfish]

@goldie
THANK YOU! That is exactly it. I love my mom to death but jeez I just don't know why she goes bonkers like that sometimes. Then makes everyone out to be the bad guy and it drives me nuts. Dont get me wrong, I am thankful for her birthing me and putting a roof over my head but I cant stand it when she or any parent really, gets the feeling their child owes them everything beacuse they choose to raise the kid. There where other options the parent could have taken too. But they took on the kid, and apart of that is to give the kid a place to stay,give clothes and food. Why? Caz you choose to keep it.
Thats like adopting a dog and being mad when you have to care for it. If you didnt want to care for it in the first place Why adopt it?
But I never had a kid before so what do I know?



They do have they places to cash it but they normally charge you for it. I normally travel through the city to see my boyfriend and having a big sum of money on you is just asking for trouble.

I did once and she set me up with my old bank account and made it where I had no charges. But she had to go to a diffrent bank location. We think she was waving charges on my account since her and my mom are buds. But since she moved she can't anymore.

I figured she knew she was using my money, and the thing is if she asked me I would have given her money and she knows that, I just wish she would have let me buy what I needed first. Aslong as I have the money on the visa no one can use it unless I give them the card and the pen number. So I will probally use that until I find a steady job to have my own bank account.

This is not the first time stuff has happened over the years and its other things too. She has told me straight up that if she could take back the day I was conceived she would. I think she loves me but also resents me since I was not planned and ruined her party life when it just started. It's a huge strain on our relationship and its ruined the whole "loving mother and daughter" thing. Not to mention she wanted a boy then when she didnt get that she wanted me to be a pretty girly girl that wears dresses and make up. I also shat over that plan. Along with everything about me being totally diffrent than her. I turned out to be the polar opposite of the kid she wanted.

After 18 years of all of it its gotten to the point where I don't care if I'm the bad guy anymore. It does not bother me when she yells caz if its not one thing its another.

Ill hopefully be out on my own soon and I hope it will help out our relationship. I know we get along better when I take off to my boyfriends moms house and stay there with them from Saturday to Monday then come back. So maybe just being gone will fix it. Less room to bump heads I guess.

What a great topic for mothers day. Its kinda funny, I wanted to take her out to eat but I cant now. Caz im broke. XD

P.S My phone is a jerk and is autocorecting words into things that dont make sense. So im sorry if this is a huge wall of typos.

@ mermaidandrea
Ah yes the "no I dont wanna go out anymore" bit. I would still take her out, but I wouldn't blame you if you didnt.




Wow....

[ShyMer]

It seems the hospital in Frederick does not have a special diet for diabetics.

My husband's grandfather is in the hospital because he'd fallen pretty badly. They're giving him regular food with normal pie and everything. How can a hospital of all places, one that supposedly has a diabetes center, allow diabetic inpatients sugary food?? It's not like they never get elderly diabetic patients there, after all.

Is this normal? I find this to be unacceptable.

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's unacceptable.

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Can I just say, 'UGH!'

I spent ALL DAY searching for neoprene in-store today, and called ALL OVER the place looking for it, but was eventually unsuccessful. So, I end up having to just go to the internet. So, I go to several websites before deciding on Rockywoods, since their prices seem to be the most reasonable, and their stock seemed nice.

Every sheet of neoprene I tried to buy in a light color like "buttercup" or "cool white" is apparently unavailable. When I went to check out, card in-hand with 7feet of the buttercup color in 2mm B type foam, I go all the way through the checkout process only to get a notification that I could not buy the amount I'd need. I sigh, to all the way back through the process and try to find any other possible color, all of which appeared "unavailable."

Now, I'm about to have to settle for black which will be a pain, but doable. I'll now just have to completely change the color of my neoprene sheet and hope the paint will be able to withstand it.

FRUSTRATIIIING!

Edit:
Now, apparently, black isn't in sufficient quantity. :|
This is flipping ridiculous.

Edit 2: Aaand a sheet of white is magically back in stock. >:V

[MerMarla]

Can I just say, 'UGH!'

I spent ALL DAY searching for neoprene in-store today, and called ALL OVER the place looking for it, but was eventually unsuccessful. So, I end up having to just go to the internet. So, I go to several websites before deciding on Rockywoods, since their prices seem to be the most reasonable, and their stock seemed nice.

Every sheet of neoprene I tried to buy in a light color like "buttercup" or "cool white" is apparently unavailable. When I went to check out, card in-hand with 7feet of the buttercup color in 2mm B type foam, I go all the way through the checkout process only to get a notification that I could not buy the amount I'd need. I sigh, to all the way back through the process and try to find any other possible color, all of which appeared "unavailable."

Now, I'm about to have to settle for black which will be a pain, but doable. I'll now just have to completely change the color of my neoprene sheet and hope the paint will be able to withstand it.

FRUSTRATIIIING!

Oh I feel your pain! But there is a solution.... Call Alan Buhtz, product consultant at FoamOrder.com at 415-503-1133 . He has been just wonderful in answering all my questions. Not only does he have black neoprene, but also white. The nylon colors I was looking at are Beige, Ivory, and brown. If Beige is on black neoprene its more my skin tone, if I put beige on white, its more yellow. You have to get samples to see what you really want. Some nylon colors don't come on white, as that's a new neoprene just coming in. So ask lots of questions, order the free samples in all the thicknesses and colors you think you might want. You can Email Alan at <product-info@foamorder.com> I would go to FoamOrder.com and see the neoprene sample color chart. I know they may be slightly different than your monitor displays but it will be close.

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. In my research I thought Foam Order had the best prices, and best of all, it's in stock.

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Oh I feel your pain! But there is a solution.... Call Alan Buhtz, product consultant at FoamOrder.com at 415-503-1133 . He has been just wonderful in answering all my questions. Not only does he have black neoprene, but also white. The nylon colors I was looking at are Beige, Ivory, and brown. If Beige is on black neoprene its more my skin tone, if I put beige on white, its more yellow. You have to get samples to see what you really want. Some nylon colors don't come on white, as that's a new neoprene just coming in. So ask lots of questions, order the free samples in all the thicknesses and colors you think you might want. You can Email Alan at <product-info@foamorder.com> I would go to FoamOrder.com and see the neoprene sample color chart. I know they may be slightly different than your monitor displays but it will be close.

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. In my research I thought Foam Order had the best prices, and best of all, it's in stock.

Thanks Marla. Unfortunately I've already made the purchase XD
In my frustration, I managed to get the full sheet of white which will be good for what I'm trying to do (lionfish). It cost me 90 bucks, but fortunately I had the money to spare since my husband's family has this thing about throwing money at me for my birthday. I'll definitely keep Foam Order in mind for my next neoprene purchase though, that's for sure!

[MerMarla]

Thanks Marla. Unfortunately I've already made the purchase XD
In my frustration, I managed to get the full sheet of white which will be good for what I'm trying to do (lionfish). It cost me 90 bucks, but fortunately I had the money to spare since my husband's family has this thing about throwing money at me for my birthday. I'll definitely keep Foam Order in mind for my next neoprene purchase though, that's for sure!


Aww, ok, are you sure you can't cancel the order? You just placed it, and they have customer support ppl on phones. I think Foam Order was like less than $60 for a sheet of Neoprene, but don't quote me! LOL! For $30 savings, I would try. Then you could get the color you REALLY wanted!

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. And.... and.... you might be able to get white on white neoprene! That would really make your Lionfish POP! Oooooh! its gonna be beautiful any how!

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Aww, ok, are you sure you can't cancel the order? You just placed it, and they have customer support ppl on phones. I think Foam Order was like less than $60 for a sheet of Neoprene, but don't quote me! LOL! For $30 savings, I would try. Then you could get the color you REALLY wanted!

Good luck!
Mermaid Marla

P.S. And.... and.... you might be able to get white on white neoprene! That would really make your Lionfish POP! Oooooh! its gonna be beautiful any how!

I'm actually trying to call them right now and cancel the order, but their office is closed right now and uuugh. So I have to leave them a message and hope they get back to me in the morning. Poopy. I'm looking at Foam Order right now and, yeah, I'd DEFINITELY want to save the extra $30, haha! That's more paints and supplies I could be getting!

[MerMarla]

I'm actually trying to call them right now and cancel the order, but their office is closed right now and uuugh. So I have to leave them a message and hope they get back to me in the morning. Poopy. I'm looking at Foam Order right now and, yeah, I'd DEFINITELY want to save the extra $30, haha! That's more paints and supplies I could be getting!

Oh, figures! I hope you can leave a message and that they get back to you tomorrow right away. Your bucking the Memorial Day fever of companies closing for the long weekend. So I hope they are open at least until noon.

I can't wait for you to post your drawings for your tail... if you did, I probably missed them. I am still hunting and pecking my way around this site!

Good luck! I know Alan can help you out! He's great to talk to!
Nite, nite!
Mermaid Marla

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Yeah, hopefully the accounting office still gets my message. What a headache, otherwise.
I have, actually, posted drawings for my tail on my project thread, but I'm changing up the fluke shape a bit and some of the painting pattern (wanna include a little more blacks in the fluke) but the basic idea is still the same.

http://mernetwork.com/index/attachment.php?attachmentid=10764&d=1366108767

I'd be very upset if they try and charge me a fee for cancelling the order, when it was literally just moments after I made the purchase, because they are away from the office for Memorial Day weekend. Hopefully it all works out, and I'll definitely be giving Alan a call :>

[MerMarla]

Yeah, hopefully the accounting office still gets my message. What a headache, otherwise.
I have, actually, posted drawings for my tail on my project thread, but I'm changing up the fluke shape a bit and some of the painting pattern (wanna include a little more blacks in the fluke) but the basic idea is still the same.

I'd be very upset if they try and charge me a fee for cancelling the order, when it was literally just moments after I made the purchase, because they are away from the office for Memorial Day weekend. Hopefully it all works out, and I'll definitely be giving Alan a call :>

Mermaid Nerinae,
How did things work out? Did you get your order cancelled? Did you call Alan? I love the drawings! What did you change your fluke shape to look like? I am still fretting on what color to get, beige on white or beige on black... I am leaning on the black neoprene with beige on both sides... now to determine thickness! Too many decisions, and I have that "analysis paralysis" indecision thing going on.

Hope all went well, please let me know how you faired!
Mermaid Marla

[Mermaid Nerinae]

Mermaid Nerinae,
How did things work out? Did you get your order cancelled? Did you call Alan? I love the drawings! What did you change your fluke shape to look like? I am still fretting on what color to get, beige on white or beige on black... I am leaning on the black neoprene with beige on both sides... now to determine thickness! Too many decisions, and I have that "analysis paralysis" indecision thing going on.

Hope all went well, please let me know how you faired!
Mermaid Marla
Weeell, I got the order cancelled, but the charge still hasn't dropped from my account. It may take another day or so, since it was over Memorial Day weekend but after it goes back on I'll be calling Alan and getting information from him on ordering some neoprene. I'll probably consider getting the beige or natural color on black neoprene. I'm going to use 1.5mm. It's the nice halfway point between 1 and 3. I figure it'll also make sewing easier (if I end up having to sew most of it) when it's stacked because 3mm will be SUPER thick when sewing. D:

As far as the fluke shape, it was going to be sort of a whale-esque shaped fin with some longer ends, just so it looks a little more flowy. :>

[MerMarla]

Weeell, I got the order cancelled, but the charge still hasn't dropped from my account. It may take another day or so, since it was over Memorial Day weekend but after it goes back on I'll be calling Alan and getting information from him on ordering some neoprene. I'll probably consider getting the beige or natural color on black neoprene. I'm going to use 1.5mm. It's the nice halfway point between 1 and 3. I figure it'll also make sewing easier (if I end up having to sew most of it) when it's stacked because 3mm will be SUPER thick when sewing. D:

As far as the fluke shape, it was going to be sort of a whale-esque shaped fin with some longer ends, just so it looks a little more flowy. :>


Oh! Mermaid Nerinea, This is great news! I do know that it's Murphy's Law working overtime! LOL! Anytime you want something right away, there are at least 5 things in the way that complicate matters! I'm glad you got the order cancelled. That was the first step, and the biggy.

I also decided to use the 1.5 mm, but beige on black (beige on back side, too). First I am making a skinsuit jacket. The gym I belong to just filled the outdoor pool and its a mite cold yet. I wish neoprene came in 1.0 mm, but I have yet to find it. So 1.5 will suffice. I was concerned with too much buoyancy, and having put on too much weight (30 lbs over the last 2 years) I float way to easy. So the neoprene was a question in my mind. I kept remembering my old wetsuit, that was 1/4 inch farmer john and 1/4 jacket over that... and I needed a huge amount of weight to get down. Then had to use the compensator to balance out the extra weight.

In my previous life at Weeki, we only used our lungs to adjust our neutrality in the water. I almost can't do that anymore because of the extra "love handles" I grew :(. So I will have to design a weight belt, or maybe line my tail eventually with small fishing weights, or similar, maybe curtain weights, dunno. I don't think you can get lead "shot" or fishing weights anymore because its toxic to rivers and fish if they swallow it off a fishing line.

I love the whale-shaped fluke. One of our Massachusetts vanity plates has a Right Whale tail/fluke on it! I may trace it out and use it. Or a Beluga, my favorite whale! Haven't really thought that far in advance. I am working on losing my 30 lbs first! LOL!

Hope all goes well for you! Glad I could help somewhat! Keep me posted if you have time!
(((Hugz))) & Bubble https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/e/B0C'z
Mermaid Marla

[Mer_Adella]

Ok...still kind of upset so please excuse the language that is about to ensue.

I was in alabama with my boyfriend (his job travels and since I had no job I planned on staying there for a few years at most) but I got a job that I couldn't turn down and had to move back to Michigan. I flew and since it was such a small plane, I couldn't bring my dog with me. I was nervous about leaving my dog with him because for 10 months of her life, she had NEVER been away from me for a single night. Everything went ok. But last night that asshole called me and told me that she ate the middle of a metal pop can.
Now...let me explain....the middle is not the tab, as most of his family assumed (dumbasses) the middle is the middle! the part between the silver top and silver bottom, USUALLY the part that has the label on it....he said that he was playing cards in the garage (so they can smoke) and he came in and found her on the floor chewing on the metal top. he scolded her and threw the leftovers away then looked around and didn't find any other pieces around. So she ate it. He then told me and I got pissed. I asked "where were you?" he answered in the garage playing cards. "why wasn't she with you?" his response : idk. so I told him that he needed to take her to the vet. he came back with "Oh she will be fine. Mike's dog ate 20 christmas light bulbs and survived." SHE WILL BE FINE??!!! REALLY? besides the point Mike's dog is a Malmute. My dog is a small 40lb black and tan coonhound. I hung up because I was about to say somethings that would damage our relationship.

I can't exactly do anything about it because I don't have the money to drive down 13hrs, get my dog, and drive all the way back. But I am so mad! We have been together for 3 1/2 years. I love this kid, yes, he did something horrible but I can't help but love him. But seriously? I am so pissed. He loves the dog too, but its like I have to do everything. I asked where she got the pop can. (My dog isn't big enough to get on counters or table) He said he didnt know where she had gotten it from. And that made me madder. Its him and his cousin down there right now....so SOMEONE had to have drank the pop and left the can on the floor or on the end table next to the couch. But seriously? No one knows where she got it from? So I basically told him that maybe I shouldn't have taken this job because obviously someone needs to babysit the dog and them to make sure that the house is picked up and that the dog doesn't eat things they leave out. I'm so mad!!!! and upset because EVERYONE (him, his cousin, his cousin's fiance, his aunts uncles sister), are all telling me "she will be fine, my dog did this....".

Just so everyone is aware; no I will not break up with him, so please don't let that be your answer. I basically came up with two descisions in my mind. 1) if she does happen to die because of this, we are NEVER getting another pet. Because obviously I will have to be the person to take care of it which means that I can't travel with the pirate festival because I will have to find accommodations with my dog. and 2) I am considering getting a IUD as means of birth control because it lasts 3-5 years. I honestly don't want kids because he wouldn't/can't take responsibility. That is a far off decision but I am actually considering telling him that I don't think we can have them because he can't be responsible with a dog...what would happen with a kid??

Ok now that I said that last part...I do love him...we are going to get married. I do believe that if two people agree that they can get married and CHOOSE not to have kids that is fine. My aunt and Uncle did the same thing. They had nieces and nephews to care for. But I will not like any answer that says "break it off" blah blah blah. cus trust me some of his family his friends and mine as well have told me before "why be with him if your considering not having kids?" so please be careful with what you say ( I know its your opinion but at least take that into consideration that I would like helpful suggestions as far as what to do with my dog...or other things like that)

Thank you for reading this and reading myself repeat things over...but its hard for me. as I said I am in MI and he's in AL and I can't do anything on my end here.

[Jadestone]

Oh, Adella, I'm so sorry to hear about your dog!! That's really serious! Is there any way you can convince him to take her to the vet? :(

As for the options you listed: from his behavior I would definitely agree he is not ready to be taking care of pets OR children. It's not just that he let your dog eat the shard of metal, he also is refusing to take action about it and is pretending it's fine. If he had swooped in and rushed her to the vet, then that would to some degree balance out his negligence, but the fact that instead he's choosing to not do anything as a way to not accept responsibility... To me that's what makes him not ready to be the primary care for the life of others :(

Are kids something you and he have always wanted? I think it's definitely not the time to have them now, and you could go through with your IUD plan if you're comfortable with it, since after the 3-5 years you can reassess whether it's something you're ready for. If he planned children to be a part of his future, maybe this will shake him up enough to pull his act together--and keep it there.

*hugs* I'm so sorry you have to go through this! Let us know how your sweet dog does :(

[AniaR]

boo to medications that solve one problem but create another! *falls over*

[Mermaid Kalliope]

(Sorry if it's been said before... A lot of pages to go through)

I hate it when you have to CONSTANTLY remind someone that they have responsibilities and need to get them done and all they say is "Augh, I know" Or when you ask them if they are going to do something and they just go "Yeah" all non-committal. I sometimes fall under the "I know" but that's usually because they ask me during a time frame that I can't do it. (IE call a company that's closed for the day because I had OTHER responsibilities to take care of)

I've worked (just recently lost this job) at a grocery store as a "bagger" and I absolutely F**king HATE it when people treat me like I'm some stupid, ignorant piece of s#!t that won't amount to anything in my life because I'm obviously stupid, otherwise WHY would I be working this job? Then they get all "ERMAHGAWD" when I say something that is highly educated and insightful. I ALSO hate it when my BOSS treats me like I'm a dumbass and don't know shit about doing my job when I've been doing it CORRECTLY for months on end. -.- WTF...

The stupidity thing gets me the most though... it just UGH I WANNA SQUISH BABIES. Okay, maybe not really... But for someone who is a GATE (Gifted And Talented Education) student, a member of the (USA) National Society of Highschool Scholars, and an honors student, it is HIGHLY degrading... I just UGH... A lot of the time I think it's because I look 16 or 17 (I'm 23, 24 in June) and usually don't wear make-up and I'm a GIRL so, that adds up to me being stupid. It just... ARUGH. Or even when I'm at the tidepools educating other people on the marine life and the volunteer person comes up to me and starts explaining everything I had just been telling someone else within earshot. -.- Really? Just because I'm in a bikini doesn't mean I'm a bimbo.

Then there's the mermaid "talk". The "Why would you waste your money on a tail" and then proceed to tell me the MILLIONS of reasons why being a mermaid is a BAD idea and why I shouldn't pursue it. That goes for acting too. I get the "There are thousands of girls JUST LIKE YOU trying to do the EXACT SAME THING." I'm sorry, but no. There aren't thousands of girls JUST LIKE ME out there, otherwise I think I'd notice. And yeah, I know it's a tough field, but I don't care. I want to do it. Just because I don't work a 9-5 job doesn't mean that I'm a worse person than you. You want to pursue business? Go ahead! I support you that's awesome. Nursing? Fantastic! You're helping people! Pro-wrestler? Dude, you're getting exercise and a check, nice!

Just augh... I guess older people who don't support the new ways the younger generation has to make money in this f**cked up time. ><

End rant... PHEW glad to get that out there. I'll post again when more comes to mind. haha Wow, that felt great.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Adella! Oh my gosh!

I've worked in a vet's and yes, dogs do eat quite a bit of crazy things and survive! Cats, too, for that matter. But a metal soda pop can is terrible! I'm assuming (s)he chewed it up quite a bit, which means that it could be in small pieces. Now, this can be good, and it can be bad... If it gets "surrounded" by food and other things they can pass with little to no harm to her. If they don't... well... Perforation happens and that can only be fixed with surgery... Sometimes.

I really, really hope that she is okay. I have had lots of pets in my life and have held them very dear. If he doesn't want to take her to the vet, tell him to get mineral oil and either add that to her food or flush her system with that. It won't harm her, it will just help lubricate the pieces. But best of all, you should definitely press him to go take her for an X-Ray. That way, the vet can determine whether or not the pieces can pass safely.

Coon hounds are a wonderful breed, albeit, rare. Hounds don't handle things the way malamutes and other large dogs do. :< He needs to understand that. <3 Best of luck to you, hun. I'll keep both of you in my prayers.


As for the not having kids - Talk to him first. Very seriously talk to him about it. Don't cut corners and don't sugar coat it. I know you love him and I won't tell you to break up, but having children is a decision made by BOTH partners in a relationship. I don't want to see you damage anything by making a decision firmly then not really discuss it. If that makes sense. <3 Hope things work out, love.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Oh my god. One thing that annoys me beyond most things is when people try to talk you out of following your dreams and taking risks because of "slim chances" or "what ifs." Obviously some do or we wouldn't have examples of people who made it. I'd be happier now if I didn't listen to them early on.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Oh my god. One thing that annoys me beyond most things is when people try to talk you out of following your dreams and taking risks because of "slim chances" or "what ifs." Obviously some do or we wouldn't have examples of people who made it. I'd be happier now if I didn't listen to them early on.

Hear, hear! (or is it Here, here!) *raises glass*

[AnnaAbyss]

Oh my god, same situation here. Absolute story of my life... -__-

[Mer_Adella]

Adella! Oh my gosh!

I've worked in a vet's and yes, dogs do eat quite a bit of crazy things and survive! Cats, too, for that matter. But a metal soda pop can is terrible! I'm assuming (s)he chewed it up quite a bit, which means that it could be in small pieces. Now, this can be good, and it can be bad... If it gets "surrounded" by food and other things they can pass with little to no harm to her. If they don't... well... Perforation happens and that can only be fixed with surgery... Sometimes.

I really, really hope that she is okay. I have had lots of pets in my life and have held them very dear. If he doesn't want to take her to the vet, tell him to get mineral oil and either add that to her food or flush her system with that. It won't harm her, it will just help lubricate the pieces. But best of all, you should definitely press him to go take her for an X-Ray. That way, the vet can determine whether or not the pieces can pass safely.

Coon hounds are a wonderful breed, albeit, rare. Hounds don't handle things the way malamutes and other large dogs do. :< He needs to understand that. <3 Best of luck to you, hun. I'll keep both of you in my prayers.


As for the not having kids - Talk to him first. Very seriously talk to him about it. Don't cut corners and don't sugar coat it. I know you love him and I won't tell you to break up, but having children is a decision made by BOTH partners in a relationship. I don't want to see you damage anything by making a decision firmly then not really discuss it. If that makes sense. <3 Hope things work out, love.


Thanks for the good advice :) I guess she is doing fine. Whenever she does chew on something it always ends up in tiny TINY pieces. He's been feeding her bread pieces I guess. I basically did tell him he couldn't handle kids because he couldn't watch a year old dog, and he didn't like me saying that but I had to say it. We have a long time before we will actually have kids so he could turn around but I basically had to say my peace. He did understand and he is trying to cheer me up and all that; he will text me sweet things and let me know how my dog is doing. So far she is fine. I told him that the only way to make sure that she passes it is to watch her poop for shards and things. Thanks everyone for their suggestions and sympathies.

I knew that animals always tended to eat odd and strange things. And I'm glad that someone understands that coon hounds and malmutes can digest different things in different ways. I am shocked that it seems black n tan coonhounds are "rare". I never would have guessed that.

[MermaidHyli]

In laws...im so fing sick of in laws..cabt they just leave us a lone for a few days? Granted my fiance is a mommas boy but good grief I had my rents off my back by the time i was 18..plus his mother is a psychopath good grief it really boils my gills!

[Mermaid Varshana]

Vent:

Why.....WHY do people languish around in shitty goddamned stupid idiotic abusive relationships? I have a friend whose girlfriend forbids him from hanging out with friends, has cheated on him, controls his FB, goes through his phone daily, but he's still giving her "one more chance" and that he's "settled" for now. Why do humans allow this?

[deepblue]

Dear people coming into the bulding- that's a fecking bedroom window and it's 11pm. STFU and keep walking. Morons, inconsiderate DOLTS.

[merline]

Vent:


Why.....WHY do people languish around in shitty goddamned stupid idiotic abusive relationships? I have a friend whose girlfriend forbids him from hanging out with friends, has cheated on him, controls his FB, goes through his phone daily, but he's still giving her "one more chance" and that he's "settled" for now. Why do humans allow this?
that's their relationship. you should probably stay out of it and concern yourself w/ your own man and his fb acct. If they are in a relationship or married why are you still clinging on to him :rolleyes: Fix what's wrong in your bedroom instead of peering in windows of other folk's br across town!
That is my vent... ishes who are all up in your relationship with the excuse that they're looking out for your man for you . :lol:
have gun will deal with you... so get a life or lose the excuse of a life you have... your choice.

[SeaSister]

This is kind of a strange pet peeve, but I get annoyed by people who hate people. Weird, right?

The other night I was visiting my best friend and my gay "friend" at his house, and at one point we were talking about how some punks broke into his car and stole his stereo system, and he was just ranting away about it. I mean, I can understand getting seriously upset about stuff like that, but he seems to have lost all hope in humanity and swears that he hates EVERYONE (except for me and his other friends of course) and would like for them to all burn in hell. o_o

I'm just sitting there like, um, okay then. Sh-t happens, sometimes people are idiots and jerks and what have you, but what are you going to gain from going around being the ultimate pessimist your whole life? Never expecting anything from the worst from people? You're just going to be lonely and miserable and cranky for the rest of your days. Now, I've been called "innocent" and "naive" on more than one occasion, but I'd rather be childish and optimistic than jaded and pessimistic. I figure I'll go a lot farther and be a lot happier in life, so yeah, it kind of pisses me off when I come across these people who are just like "omg I hate everyone argh" and put a damper on the mood. Seriously, they just ruin it for everyone. Just put on a smile and move on instead of dwelling on the bad parts of humanity.

Besides, the best way to deal with angry/mean/rude people is to annoy them with your happiness. XD
I like to take cues from my grandma. One time there was a car tailgating her, and there was only one lane so nowhere for her or him to move. He was getting pissed off, swerving behind her, etc. etc. When eventually there were two lanes and he passed her, he was glaring at us, but she just smiled and waved at him, lol. Also, apparently she's had people break into her car a lot to steal her groceries, even breaking her windows to get in; she doesn't live in the greatest part of town. But even so, she doesn't seem to get mad or hateful. Instead, she's said to me "well, I just leave the car doors unlocked now because I don't want them breaking my windows. They probably need the food more than me, so even though it's annoying because I have to make another trip to the grocery store, I try to not let it bring me down."

I think that this is such a great, positive attitude to have, and I really admire my grandma for it. It's not easy to be forgiving, but I think that it's worth it in the end. You might get taken advantage of, sure, but people will be people. It's best to just not let them affect you too much. After all, there's nothing you can do about it, right? So what's the point in screaming and throwing a tantrum? Just smile, wave, and move on. Keep your heart light and your glasses rose-coloured. Just keep swimming, right?

So yup, that's my rant. I don't like people who always ignore the silver lining and prefer to preach hate and anger and revenge. I can't say that I always do it, because like I said, it's hard... but more often than not, I'll try to kill them with kindness instead. :)

[Mermaid Varshana]

have gun will deal with you

Looks like someone got their MerNetwork and 4chan accounts mixed up.

[Mermaid Lilium]

that's their relationship. you should probably stay out of it and concern yourself w/ your own man and his fb acct. If they are in a relationship or married why are you still clinging on to him :rolleyes: Fix what's wrong in your bedroom instead of peering in windows of other folk's br across town!
That is my vent... ishes who are all up in your relationship with the excuse that they're looking out for your man for you . :lol:
have gun will deal with you... so get a life or lose the excuse of a life you have... your choice.

1) go back to 4chan

2) you should sort you sh!t out before telling other people what to do. Stop being a douche and I seriously suggest not threatening people with GUNS or people like me will go apeshit at you, cause we don't let that stuff fly on here.

3) Fix your own bedroom issues. Sounds like your own insecurities are clouding how you see others.

4) Unlike you seem to do, you will notice that Kakarotte is caring about the safety and well-being of a friend, something that any decent human being does. She at no point said or hinted at being jealous, just that she couldn't understand why her friend was staying in the situation. You are the only one who said that sort of thing, so again - perhaps this is a reflection of your own insecurities.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Well, since there's a screencap of this, I will point out the following:

1) The Internet isn't anonymous.

2) Death threats are extremely illegal. Even over the Internet.

3) Forum rules are clearly posted for every soul to read.

4) She did something highly illegal and against forum policy, and she had to fill out personal information to join this forum.


I swear, some kids don't think these days. You can't just go anywhere on the net and take out your hostilities on other Internet users. Your IP address and login history basically says, "I broke the law."

[merline]

Kakarote I dont know you so I was not threatening you personally. I dealt with one female who did stalk my ex and said the exact same things to him. "oh you should hang out with old gfs again" "Oh you should not let her have control of you fb acct" He liked staying home I never prohibited anything and since we were married I did not think he should be writing other women. So yes I do think your meddling attitude is inappropriate and Yes I do intend to deal with it head on next time I confront it. Not a threat to you personally because I do not know you but yes I DO think it is inappropriate to be meddling in another couple's relationship. This man probably LIKES being with his mate and doesnt feel like hanging out with old females he used to know... it is called trying to be faithful. I dont know what a 4 chan acct is. So my pet peeve is meddling people i do think it is inappropriate to meddle in the relationships of others. You are assuming he is being forced to be with her. My thought is he would not be there if he didnt like it... accept that and move on with your life.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Kakarote I dont know you so I was not threatening you personally.

may I refer you to this line:


have gun will deal with you... so get a life or lose the excuse of a life you have... your choice. <- This is directed to kakarotte (you even quoted her above your threat), and not only totally out of line to say to a young woman whether you know her personally or not.

also for example florida state law says.... "anyone who writes or composes and also sends or procures the sending of any letter, inscribed communication, or electric communication that threatens to kill or do bodily harm to someone commits a felony in the second degree. The letter or other form of communication can be signed by the composer or anonymous. The threat to kill or do bodily harm does not have to be directed at the recipient of the letter." http://www.ehow.com/list_7433231_laws-regarding-death-threats-florida.html

as someone who has been married, this suggests that you are of a slightly older ages and as the majority of members on here are very young women, some of which are still Minors, this is TOTALLY rediculous for you to say EVEN if you say you didn't mean it or intend to direct it at kakarotte specifically. Re-read your post from the point of view of someone who can't see your thought patterns, and is possibly young and vunerable.


I dealt with one female who did stalk my ex and said the exact same things to him.

yes but not everyone should immediately be branded a stalker by you and treated 'as such' by you. Kakarotte sounds like someone genuinely concerned, not obsessed or stalking. She wants to still see her friend. Doesn't mean she wants him for herself *rolls her eyes*

And I will say this next bit for the benefit of both you and kakarotte seeing as kakarotte was struggling to understand why someone would stay in an abusive situation:

I have been in abusive situations myself. I have watched my Mum deal with my dad and his mental abuse. Abusers tend to be controlling, restrict freedom, put victims down and make them believe they deserve it, they say sorry and then do it again - they're often charming and persuasive at first and can convince the victim to stay through that, also people are fools in love. They stay and give people more chances than they deserve and even I am currently guilty of that as my husband has cheated on me online repeatedly over the last year. But having fought for 7 years to be together, it's not something that I am going to instantly throw away. A great deal of money and emotion has been invested in my relationship but I'm not a fool, I know I shouldn't put up with this because it will 'just happen again' but I still stay because I have my own reasons - perhaps Kakarotte's friend has his too, he just needs to know that no matter what he has a friend there looking out for him.

So yeah, I can see things from both points of view but Merline, you are way out of line to state things the way you have done.


since we were married I did not think he should be writing other women. So yes I do think your meddling attitude is inappropriate

ummm... I think everyone has this thing called human rights where they can talk to anyone they want to? I don't see much distinction between being FRIENDS with a woman or a man. My two best friends are a 42 y/o man and a trans guy who is a year or two younger than me. And my husband's best friends are either gay guys or girls, because that is just who he gets on with the best. And I stand by that even after he has cheated on me. So no, I don't think it's meddling, I think it's being a concerned friend venting frustration on a neutral forum. Just like I'm being a concerned friend defending a fellow member.


This man probably LIKES being with his mate and doesnt feel like hanging out with old females he used to know... it is called trying to be faithful.

I will refer you back to my statement about why people stay in abusive situations. Yes he may 'like' being with her but that doesn't mean he's not in an abusive situation that he is 'putting up with' when he shouldn't neccessarily be. And kakarotte never said that her friend didn't want to see her anymore, she said that the girlfriend had told him not to be in contact with others. Classic control-freak abuser tactic there btw. Something that you seem to say you demanded in your own relationship... that's quite telling ya'know?


You are assuming he is being forced to be with her. My thought is he would not be there if he didn't like it... accept that and move on with your life.

And you are assuming that he isn't being abused, which basically does force people to stay until they get the strength to leave. And again I refer you to my explanation of why people stay in abusive situations. You saying 'he would not be there if he didn't like it'... well I can tell you've never been in an abusive relationship. Well, at least as the victim anyway *rolls her eyes*.

P.S. Learn to type/spell.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Might I add: my friend DESPERATELY wants to hang out with his old female friends and is terribly lonely now. Not for sex, not to cheat, but because he still loves those people as friends. 95% of all his friends are female. Now he has to sneak around behind her back just to talk to his old friends at all. It's taken an enormous toll on him. That's part of why he contacted me over the whole ordeal in the first place and vented for an hour and 5 minutes. He wants the strength to leave, but doesn't have it yet. I'm married too. My husband and I have numerous friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with individually. We don't go through each other's phones or know each other's passwords for anything. Because we trust each other. I'm fucking awesome and so is he. There's no need to suspect cheating. Virtually all of my friends' relationships are like that, 'cause that's healthy.

[merline]

my statement was addressed to the next meddler who enters my life. Interesting the concept of your "right" to meddle with men who are in relationships is so important to you ... :lol:
Kakarrote, I think you should tell them to go to couple's counseling and let them sort it out on their own. There are professionals for that.

Each time I got married, I left other men and their problems behind. I concerned myself with my spouse and his problems from that point on. One person's view of healthy is another person's view of hell, decadence, skankiness, etc. There are various socio-cultural variables to consider so there are no rules that all must adhere to. What works for one is not one size fits all.. Just let them sort it out.
PS Karkarrote, I wish you the best. When I got married last time, one of my ex male friends continued to call me and tell me how bad things were with him and his gf and begged to see me. I refused. I could see through it that he wanted to BE with me again and wanted to put me in a position to cheat so I cut things off with him very decisively. Many do not and that is why marriages last 2 years tops these days. Each person must deal with this the way that suits them best and deal with the consequences that will follow.

[Mermaid Lilium]

my statement was addressed to the next meddler who enters my life. Interesting the concept of your "right" to meddle with men who are in relationships is so important to you ... :lol:
Kakarrote, I think you should tell them to go to couple's counseling and let them sort it out on their own. There are professionals for that.

Each time I got married, I left other men and their problems behind. I concerned myself with my spouse and his problems from that point on. One person's view of healthy is another person's view of hell, decadence, skankiness, etc. There are various socio-cultural variables to consider so there are no rules that all must adhere to. What works for one is not one size fits all.. Just let them sort it out.

again with the idea that she's 'meddling' what the hell. Did you even read what she and I have posted? :doh:

You at no point in your original post stated that it was for 'the next meddler' and the context of the original post, and the tone of the over-all post, most certainly made the comment a threat towards kakarotte to those who didn't know your apparent intentions. Maybe you should learn how to write properly next time you want to post a statement like that. Plus do remember that posting online does constitute a written threat.

I really do feel sorry for 'your men' if you control them like you seem to do and accuse any female friend of theirs as being a 'meddler'. :crazy:

I think your view of meddling is VERY skewed but that's just my opinion I guess. And you're allowed your own opinion, but when you use your opinion to attack others who are just venting in what is supposed to be a safe and neutral thread, that's wrong.

And as someone who is very familiar with D/S and BDSM and have been for about 10 years, I get what you're trying to say but if you actually read what kakarotte explained, that does not apply to this situation.

I like how you tried to use long words to avoid the fact that you've totally ignored every single point me and kakarotte have made/put to you. *rolls her eyes*
I could add in plenty of 'impressive' words to prove my point, but I don't need to :lol:

[Echidna]

my statement was addressed to the next meddler who enters my life.

Then you're a really immature person.

Stop trying to wiggle yourself out.
You came here and dropped a damn death threat.
You probably feel secure because you think "oh, internet, anonymity trololo".
Well, let me tell you: you are NEVER untraceable.
Just because you made yourself a new account here doesn't mean people don't know who you are.

You should:
1) get a grip
2) grow up
3) stop making yourself new accounts here each time you get banned, if stuff like this is all you have to say.

[Mermaid Varshana]

"Just because you made yourself a new account here doesn't mean people don't know who you are."

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ENLIGHTEN ME, Caltuna! THE PLOT HAS THICKENED!!!!

http://forum-img.pinside.com/pinball/forum/?bb_attachments=810094&bbat=92381&inline

[merline]

I dont know what d/s is Kat Arnold. You are injecting things that refer to you that I don't even know of. I never meant to offend anyone. I totally meant that you should leave people's relationships to them to sort out period. That is just my opinion. I have been a seductress and I have also been a faithful married woman. So I do see both sides of this argument. Single skanks will always feel they have a right to slide on whatever man they want. And married women will always feel that skanks are disease infested scum. Cheating men will always USE the scanks for a moment and cast them aside. So it is what it is.

PS I have never had an acct here before nor another one. And yes skanks can be either married or single.

[Mermaid Lilium]

I dont know what d/s is Kat Arnold. You are injecting things that refer to you that I don't even know of. I never meant to offend anyone. I totally meant that you should leave people's relationships to them to sort out period. That is just my opinion. I have been a seductress and I have also been a faithful married woman. So I do see both sides of this argument. Single skanks will always feel they have a right to slide on whatever man they want. And married women will always feel that skanks are disease infested scum. Cheating men will always USE the scanks for a moment and cast them aside. So it is what it is.

it's along the lines of people liking people to control them, which you seem to refer to without naming d/s or knowing what d/s is, as it is somewhat widely understood within society to varying degrees.

you say you don't mean to offend anyone and then you say 'single skanks' as if all single women are 'skanks', you speak apparently on behalf of all married women when myself, kakarotte and apparently yourself, are all married women and you are the only one who thinks this way.

I also hate the term 'skank' or 'slut' or anything that borders on 'slut-shaming'.

Also to be honest, none of this actually has anything to do with anyone cheating/seducing on anyone. The only reference to that within the posts has been saying that the girlfriend has cheated on the guy, and within your posts. So I don't think you actually see our side of the argument. Not everyone is cheating or wanting to cheat with everyone else 0.o' Sheesh.

You really do have a sick and twisted view of the world, darlin' :crazy:

*shares kakarotte's popcorn*

[Brine]

I'm sorry if I'm interrupting something, but I just came off of two days of complete and utter chaos. Now, my boyfriend is a lifeguard, yes? Yes. So at the pool he's guarding for is a woman, a woman who is nearly ten years older than my boyfriend, yet still thinks it's okay to try and be sexual with him. Fine, whatever, my boyfriend's a cutie, but if his girlfriend tells you to stop, you stop. Now, my boyfriend is not the brightest bulb in the lamp and he didn't really get it, he just thought she was being overly friendly (yeah, but he's a lovable idiot.)

Anyway, this woman just happens to be an alcoholic and she gets into an accident with her three year old in the car. Naturally, her husband throws her out. Now she takes complete advantage of the fact that my boyfriend (To hell with it, his name is Bryan) is such a nice person. She manages to sucker him into bringing him to OUR home to stay the night. Now, one night. Not such a bi deal, I can do this..... OH MY SWEET HARLEM SHAKING HONEY BOO BOO!!!!!! First, she gets completely trashed off of alcohol I was SAVING to drink for myself! Espresso flavored vodka. I barely got a shot of it. She downed the entire bottle. She didn't even ask if it was okay, just went into my fridge and grabbed it. She didn't even apologize when I told her I was saving it. I gave Bryan "the look" and he nodded, but it was 1am, there was nothing we could do.

Then me and Bryan go out onto the porch to light a few small light show-y fireworks because....just because. And she comes out and is all "let me light one". And she is trashed. I mean she's so drunk, she's one sheet to the wind. Now, this dumb woman decides to hold the lit firework in her hand. Guess what? It goes of, she gets third degree burns, and we have to go to the hospital. We are at the hospital for three hours. She's screaming and hollering and making all this fuss and even tries to hit the doctors helping her. Three. Hours. Finally we get back home and we all pass out.

Fast forward to 8pm the next night. She gets under my best friend's skin. We get back home and she wants to dye her hair blue. Now my tub is blue. My tub. is blue. And right now, nothing I use is working to get it out. the dye job goes screwy.And we have to make sure no dye gets on anything else. Now, she's still all upset because she has nobody else but us and yada yada yada. The only good thing to come out of this was that Bryan and I got to have a huge private talk about where we were going and stuff like that and it went well.

Now she's off to rehab for six months, Bryan is at work, and me? I'm busy cleaning up the junkyard of a house that was left after. Mountains of soda cans, my blue bathroom, pizza boxes and all kinds of other stuff...I...I just.....I'm at a loss. Why are we so nice that we just suffer in silence with a house guest like that.....

[Mermaid Tula]

Brine, I've had the hair dye issue as well. Ajax or Comet helps a lot. Spray your tub down and coat the living hell out of the tub. Let it sit for a while. Like at least an hour or so. Then take a rough scrubby sponge and put in some elbow grease.

[Brine]

thanks Tula. I need to go out and buy some. :)

[Elle]

@Brine; That sucks! I had a friend like that once upon a time. she'd come over, order herself food so she could eat while she was here, drink anything she could find, emptying rubbish out of her bags and car here (and forgets where the bin is when she does it) and get under everyone's skin. She even broke our shower screen (had to get the whole thing replaced) once because she was mad at her mum and supposedly couldn't control her anger. :(
I lost my shit about 3 months ago, told her what I thought of her and her behaviour, told her to f*** off and haven't seen or heard from her since. And my life (and house) are so much better for it

@Merline, I'm sorry that you have such a bad outlook on relationships from every time you got married that you need to resort to criminal violence (guns are not toys). all marriages last 2 years tops? My husband and I have been together for 5 years. My parents have been together for 30. lots of my friends are married or in serious long term relationships and they've been going for a minimum of 4 years.
Your basically saying most (if not all) men are asshole who want to just get with anything and everything with boobs. and most (if not all) women are skanky sluts or whatever. I think you need a knew out look on life. We don't want your terrible out look on here.

Also, guys are allowed female friends, just as girls are allowed male friends. it's rude to be that bitch who tells her husband/boyfriend you can't hang out with that chick anymore. If you aren't secure in the relationship, why are you in it to begin with?

[Mermaid Tula]

@Merline My husband and I have been together for a little over 10 years. I have male and female friends, and my husband has male and female friends. Neither of us has cheated. We talk all the time. I don't go through his cell phone, or control his facebook or anything like that. He has the same respect for me.

From what I've gathered from all of the posts you have made about relationships is that your relationships haven't had mutual respect. There are several things that make relationships work, and work for a long time. Respect and communication and trust are three of the biggest in my family.

I hope you can find someone who has at the least those three aspects, and I hope you can find happiness in your life, with or without a significant other.

[SeaSister]

@Merline My husband and I have been together for a little over 10 years. I have male and female friends, and my husband has male and female friends. Neither of us has cheated. We talk all the time. I don't go through his cell phone, or control his facebook or anything like that. He has the same respect for me.

From what I've gathered from all of the posts you have made about relationships is that your relationships haven't had mutual respect. There are several things that make relationships work, and work for a long time. Respect and communication and trust are three of the biggest in my family.

I hope you can find someone who has at the least those three aspects, and I hope you can find happiness in your life, with or without a significant other.

I wish there was a "like" button for posts. That was very well-put. :)

[Mermaid Tula]

Thanks SeaSister <3

[Mermaid Momo]

Vent:

Why.....WHY do people languish around in shitty goddamned stupid idiotic abusive relationships? I have a friend whose girlfriend forbids him from hanging out with friends, has cheated on him, controls his FB, goes through his phone daily, but he's still giving her "one more chance" and that he's "settled" for now. Why do humans allow this?
He may not know how to leave, or he may genuinely love her or believe she loves him. Like Kat Arnold said, abusive relationships are very tricky. Because sometimes the person in said relationship doesn't think it's abusive at all, mostly because their abuser candy coats things and sucks up to them. One second she could be yelling at him and throwing things at him and verbally abusing him and the next she could be in his lap feeding him icecream and whispering sweet nothings in his ear.Not saying that that's what he's going through but its how most abusive relationships are. Maybe you could tell him how you feel and how worried you are about him? or see if some of his other friends feel the same way.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Oh, he knows how I and pretty much everyone he knows feels. He hates living this way. One friend told him it was like they were 15 and he was grounded. I hope he finds the courage soon. It's really unfortunate and a bit terrifying how much humans are willing to live with.

[deepblue]

If it gets so bad that you can't stand to see it, you might have to step away. For your own sake. I had a friend who went back into an abusive relationship she was OUT of over and over, and finally I told her I love you but I can't watch this anymore, watching her be hurt all the time, the madness, it was more than anyone who loved her could witness. Two years later, she found me, and we're friends again. She had to take stock, get away from him, and it took another year for her to approach me. But she is married to a wonderful man now, her life is very different. She told me my leaving out of love was one reason she got out of the abusive relationship for good.

In this case, there wasn't a thing I could do, and she was already isolating with him, my stepping away was in no way going to make it worse nor was it abandoning her.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

For one, I agree with ALL of the posts that have been said by Kat and Kakarotte. You seriously need to get some perspective.


You are assuming he is being forced to be with her. My thought is he would not be there if he didnt like it... accept that and move on with your life.

As for this ^ up there... It's not always that simple. My most recent relationship was great and dandy, but then it became emotionally abusive and I WANTED to leave. My gods, did I want to leave, but he was helping pay my rent and groceries. I lose him, I lose a place to live. I hated that. I felt horrible that I had to lie to him about where I was and who I was with because he was terrified I would cheat on him or that I was ignoring my responsibilities. (I would go out on a weekend to relax... Rest of the week, took care of what I needed to.) I am an extraordinarily loyal person, and I would never, ever cheat on my significant other. So, lying to hide from his anger just... That wasn't right, but I had no way out at all...

So, yeah, I was there and didn't like it. It f***ing happens. I couldn't leave until someone reached out and offered help to me. Get off your stupid high horse and meet people and learn their different stories.

Also:

med·dle

[med-l] Show IPA
verb (used without object), med·dled, med·dling.to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation;interfere officiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in mypersonal life!

sup·port

[suh-pawrt, -pohrt] Show IPA
verb to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage,etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.


Two very different words. Try to remember that. She isn't meddling with his life, she's supporting a friend.

[Elle]

med·dle

[med-l] Show IPA
verb (used without object), med·dled, med·dling.to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation;interfere officiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in mypersonal life!

sup·port

[suh-pawrt, -pohrt] Show IPA
verb to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage,etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.


Two very different words. Try to remember that. She isn't meddling with his life, she's supporting a friend.


HAHAHAHA. Kailani you're awesome!

[Aycrin]

crocs annoy me because they are so ugly. like, who would let their kid out in public wearing those?

But... but they're just so comfy ( Q A Q )... They kind of remind me of the wooden Dutch shoes in an incredibly vague way, too. Why does everyone hate crocs? Haha ha...

[Mermaid Kalliope]

HAHAHAHA. Kailani you're awesome!

I love dictionaries! ^_^

[Seyani]

But... but they're just so comfy ( Q A Q )... They kind of remind me of the wooden Dutch shoes in an incredibly vague way, too. Why does everyone hate crocs? Haha ha...

Those Dutch wooden shoes need to be EXACTLY your size and shaped to your feet to be comfy ... other than that they are soo nooooooot comfy, crocs may be comfy. o.o

[SeaGlass Siren]

Bought a house. Oh wait that's not bitching.


We bought a house and theres still muh work neede to be done that cuts into our work hours. Like physically driving to the sales place and picking up our heck because they didn't tell us it had to be made out to heir full name and they told us to get a replacement but the bank is saying they have to return the check and RAGH !!! So inconvenient!!!

[Dacora]

But... but they're just so comfy ( Q A Q )... They kind of remind me of the wooden Dutch shoes in an incredibly vague way, too. Why does everyone hate crocs? Haha ha...

Dude, I have had my crocs forever. I love them, so comfy. <3

[Mermaid Allie]

My friends keep forcing me to watch scary movies. It really scares me and I hate it.

[Echidna]

My friends keep forcing me to watch scary movies. It really scares me and I hate it.

Meh.
Can't you just say you find such movies boring/unentertaining/uncool, whatever?

Or is it a "group thing", where there's the unspoken rule "we do this, and that, and watch this kind of movie...
you're either with us, or without us?"

[Mermaid Allie]

It's a "group thing" and it's getting hard to get out of.

[lasserine]

This is kind of a strange pet peeve, but I get annoyed by people who hate people. Weird, right?

The other night I was visiting my best friend and my gay "friend" at his house, and at one point we were talking about how some punks broke into his car and stole his stereo system, and he was just ranting away about it. I mean, I can understand getting seriously upset about stuff like that, but he seems to have lost all hope in humanity and swears that he hates EVERYONE (except for me and his other friends of course) and would like for them to all burn in hell. o_o

I'm just sitting there like, um, okay then. Sh-t happens, sometimes people are idiots and jerks and what have you, but what are you going to gain from going around being the ultimate pessimist your whole life? Never expecting anything from the worst from people? You're just going to be lonely and miserable and cranky for the rest of your days. Now, I've been called "innocent" and "naive" on more than one occasion, but I'd rather be childish and optimistic than jaded and pessimistic. I figure I'll go a lot farther and be a lot happier in life, so yeah, it kind of pisses me off when I come across these people who are just like "omg I hate everyone argh" and put a damper on the mood. Seriously, they just ruin it for everyone. Just put on a smile and move on instead of dwelling on the bad parts of humanity.

Besides, the best way to deal with angry/mean/rude people is to annoy them with your happiness. XD
I like to take cues from my grandma. One time there was a car tailgating her, and there was only one lane so nowhere for her or him to move. He was getting pissed off, swerving behind her, etc. etc. When eventually there were two lanes and he passed her, he was glaring at us, but she just smiled and waved at him, lol. Also, apparently she's had people break into her car a lot to steal her groceries, even breaking her windows to get in; she doesn't live in the greatest part of town. But even so, she doesn't seem to get mad or hateful. Instead, she's said to me "well, I just leave the car doors unlocked now because I don't want them breaking my windows. They probably need the food more than me, so even though it's annoying because I have to make another trip to the grocery store, I try to not let it bring me down."

I think that this is such a great, positive attitude to have, and I really admire my grandma for it. It's not easy to be forgiving, but I think that it's worth it in the end. You might get taken advantage of, sure, but people will be people. It's best to just not let them affect you too much. After all, there's nothing you can do about it, right? So what's the point in screaming and throwing a tantrum? Just smile, wave, and move on. Keep your heart light and your glasses rose-coloured. Just keep swimming, right?

So yup, that's my rant. I don't like people who always ignore the silver lining and prefer to preach hate and anger and revenge. I can't say that I always do it, because like I said, it's hard... but more often than not, I'll try to kill them with kindness instead. :)
Why does it matter, in this story your "friend" was gay?

[Echidna]

It's a "group thing" and it's getting hard to get out of.

Ah I see.
This is unfortunate :/

When I was in school, I plain out refused to do any of the dumb things my class mates considered a must to be cool and "one of them"
(alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc) and consequently became the outsider.
I didn't mind, but it was sometimes very difficult because the hip kids decreed I couldn't be spoken to, and had to be made fun of and molested, even in class.
It was pretty ugly.
Once, they asked me when the hell I'd commit suicide at last?
I just laughed at them and said they were in for a long wait if that was what they wanted.

The funny thing is; they grew up eventually, and seemingly don't remember a thing now :p

[Mermaidmechanic]

Ah I see.
This is unfortunate :/

When I was in school, I plain out refused to do any of the dumb things my class mates considered a must to be cool and "one of them"
(alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc) and consequently became the outsider.
I didn't mind, but it was sometimes very difficult because the hip kids decreed I couldn't be spoken to, and had to be made fun of and molested, even in class.
It was pretty ugly.
Once, they asked me when the hell I'd commit suicide at last?
I just laughed at them and said they were in for a long wait if that was what they wanted.

The funny thing is; they grew up eventually, and seemingly don't remember a thing now :p


Ah, I always got in trouble at school for being a bully to the bullies. My family instilled a very strong sense of justice into me and I can't bear to watch something unjust go without punishment. I would have beat the crap out of those kids if I saw them being unkind to you (and probably would have gotten in trouble for it too). D:< So I guess my rant is I can't stand it when someone thinks it's okay to mentally and physically harass others that are either too kind, timid, or scared to protect themselves from such abuse.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Another vent, I must say: I despise the rampant demonization of the poor. It's one of the things that saddens me the most. Justifying it by using ones self as a golden measuring stick for why it's their fault or how something must be inherently inferior about a person if they're poor.

[Mermaid Allie]

Oh wow that's so mean! I kinda get it though and that's great that you rose above it all.

[Echidna]

Oh wow that's so mean! I kinda get it though and that's great that you rose above it all.

Well, I'm not sure I've "risen" above it.
I tend to expect nothing good from people until they prove to be nice, for example.
And I have little to no patience for those who are impolite, inconsiderate of others, rude, mean, and so on.
I also hate it when people- mostly girls and women- slander and gossip about others (who are generally not present),
especially if done in a malevolent fashion.
I can't stand that, no matter whether it's true or not.

@VisionaryBri;
whoa, with such a backstory, no wonder you won't let people mess with you!
I tend to just ignore stuff, and only get physical when it's impossible to ignore any longer
(when they hold on to me, lol).
I probably would have ignored a guy slapping me as well, as long as he didn't repeat it;
depending on how insolent he came across, I might have slapped his hand or something.
Or not.
And then I would have gone for days and months being angry with myself for NOT doing something :D

On the other hand, such things are varying a lot depending on country/culture.
I've never seen a man touch a waitress inappropriately in Europe, much less in Asia;
unthinkable!
Whereas (as seen in movies :p) in the US, while not considered terribly gentleman-like, it seems to be common.

At this point, I have another thing to vent about.
I was looking for a new bathing suit yesterday, and I'm really miffed about how the models presented some of the stuff.
On a decent site like amazon, no less.
Seriously girls.
Do you HAVE to pose like that?
We want to buy the bikini, not YOU. *angryglare*

pic here (kids don't look :p)


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[Mermaid Varshana]

....it looks like they're advertising for Vivid Entertainment.

[SeaSister]

Why does it matter, in this story your "friend" was gay?

:/

Interesting how, out of that entire post, the thing that you pay most attention to is that I specified that the person happened to be gay.

Honestly, there is no meaning to it whatsoever. I just didn't want to use names and so I identified the people in the story by they're relationship to me - the best friend and the sassy gay one. If there was another girl there, she would be identified as my girl friend, or a male friend would be my guy friend. The reason why I didn't just stick with "guy friend" for him is because he's a tranny/cross-dresser (not sure what the "preferred" term is here) and actually prefers to be referred to as a girl in most cases, like in RuPaul's Drag Race (which we like to watch a lot). I just didn't want to bother explaining all of this as well as why I'm sometimes unsure of whether to refer to him as a guy or girl, so I thought that "gay friend" would just make things simpler. If using that term comes across as offensive or homophobic, however, I'll be sure to choose my words more carefully in the future.

[Echidna]

I need to vent!!
I hate it soo much when people take the things of others and then are not careful with them!!

Just returned from my usual swim exercise, there was lots of traffic in the roped off area,
where the coast guard were training their swimmers.
I had my monofin and a weight belt, and was swimming laps.
Since I spent so much time under water, the coastguard trainer comes over and starts being all nosy.
What did I train (freediving :p), where did I learn to dive that long, etcetc
(he was horribly garrulous and obviously had never seen a decent swimmer before :rolleyes:).

After my usual 3 hours were up, I came out of the water, and he was there, extends his hand and says:
"Can I see the monofin please?"
I didn't want to hand it over, so I kept a hand on it, and he took offense
("I'm not going to break it"), so I let go reluctantly, and (what else)
he starts bending it lengthwise like crazy.

I could have screamed.
Turns out he doesn't know &%$ about monofins, but thinks he's supersmart because he's the coastguard trainer.
I snatched it back and left, but I was fuming all the way back, and I found a small scratch on the fin's underside
that wasn't there before the manhandling.

I am so furious!!

[Mermaid Tula]

Omg Catluna! I would have been furious! I wouldn't have stood there quietly while he bent my monofin. I probably would have gotten super bitchy "Excuse me, Will not you do that? If you knew anything, monofins shouldn't be bent that severely at all." kind of moment. Plus I probably would have demanded an answer from him in the first place about why he wanted to see my monofin. Then again, I've become really touchy about certain things and my monofin is one of them. (I've had a lot of stuff that even friends have broken because they were mishandling it.) I would go back when he was there and demand to see something of his and manhandle it.

[Mermaid Tula]

My turn to vent.

So I love my daughter unconditionally. But she's pushing buttons like crazy lately.
Yesterday, I had a plate full of cookies in the fridge that were supposed to last the week. (snacks and lunch treats)
So I dozed for about an hour, thinking my daughter was dozing next to me. Apparently, she got up while I was out. She snuck into the kitchen, got into the fridge, and ate all but about 8 cookies. Now there was probably about 3 dozen cookies.
So I was pretty steamed about that. But here's the icing on the cake.
She had the gal to ask if she could have a cookie.... Like I wouldn't notice that almost all of the cookies were gone.
Of course, she was wired the rest of the day. We went to the store, she got to push one of the mini carts at least until she crashed it into a display. So after that incident, she was put in the cart so she couldn't wreak more havoc. We went out for dinner, I'm surprised she didn't knock anything over.
About 9pm, I was wishing for a a treadmill attached to a generator so that we could run her and power our house for a week!
So after picking up the hubby at 10pm, we got home, sent her to bed and thankfully she crashed.

So yeah. Kids. Some days I wish I could just ship her off to a reform school or something. I love my little monster, but damn it! She at all my cookies!

[deepblue]

Yikes... that's a lot of cookies....


After my usual 3 hours were up, I came out of the water, and he was there, extends his hand and says:
"Can I see the monofin please?"
I didn't want to hand it over, so I kept a hand on it, and he took offense
("I'm not going to break it"), so I let go reluctantly, and (what else)
he starts bending it lengthwise like crazy.

I could have screamed.
Turns out he doesn't know &%$ about monofins, but thinks he's supersmart because he's the coastguard trainer.
I snatched it back and left, but I was fuming all the way back, and I found a small scratch on the fin's underside
that wasn't there before the manhandling.

I am so furious!!


Holy criminy- I'd make a complaint to his superiors, I really would. CG is military, and he had no right to behave that way- his superior officer needs at least to be told, "Look, your guy approached me and I don't know why, but then he bent my property." He had no reason to talk to you in the first place- sounds like a way to talk to an attractive gal- or to handle your monofin. A complaint might not do you any good, but if someone talks to him and about that behaiour, it could save the next gal from his approach. What a jerk!


I'm just peeved. Why do people offer help if they're not going to give it- especially if you don't even ask for help! They offer, and offer, and you say okay, and then nothing. I think they want to help, and then really, they don't or can't... but people, helping is not helping if you get someone's hopes up and then don't come through. GAH.

[Echidna]

I wouldn't have stood there quietly while he bent my monofin.

I didn't.
I yelled "do NOT bend it that much!!" and he gave me that disbelieving "geez, hysterical girl, sheesh"-look.
Some people just lack any kind of sensitivity.

I had a friend once who ruined my laptop's keyboard by hammering the keys like he wanted them to come off despite my entreaties to press them like a normal person.
He just said, "what's the problem? just buy another keyboard, geez. No need to fuss about an object lol!"
(note: we're no longer friends :p)

So...I'm kinda touchy when others mishandle my stuff. grrr....:mad:

[Mermaid Tula]

Oh geeze and he kept bending it. How rude! I agree with Deep on finding out who is superior is to have him get a talking to. It's not much, but maybe it'll help some.

[Echidna]

Why do people offer help if they're not going to give it- especially if you don't even ask for help! They offer, and offer, and you say okay, and then nothing. I think they want to help, and then really, they don't or can't... but people, helping is not helping if you get someone's hopes up and then don't come through. GAH.

Oh yeah, that's another annoying thing.
It's common with people who like to pretend they're oh-so-generous and helpful, but only as long as they know you won't take them up on their offer.
And as soon as you give in to their incessant, "well, we've TOLD you you can at any time...blabla..your own fault if you don't partake of the offer", and ask them to actually do what they offered...dead silence.
And sometimes their "better half" is sent to speak on their behalf, and berate you for "demanding" something all of a sudden.
Yep.

[deepblue]

I just got back from the beach... yesterday was a big beach day here, great weather and a Sunday. The beach has an unbelievable amount of trash on it. Plastic everywhere. If people don't care, I wish they'd stay off the beach. It's horrid.

[AniaR]

Today I hate self entitlement.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Today I hate self entitlement.
W3rd.

[Mermaid Margarete]

I know it's old news and I haven't been on the forums in FOREVER but I've been inactive because I am SO upset about not having my fishbutts tail by now. I ordered it back in october and I have been avoiding the forums cause its just reminds me how upset I am that I don't have it yet. I can't even stand to see their updates on facebook... *sigh* Tails aren't cheap and it's really shoty of Fishbutts to note even let their customers know how many other orders in front of them so they can even get SOMEWHAT of an idea... instead they offer only silence and will send you an update ONLY when your tail is ALL DONE T_T

I just want my tail...

[Mermaid Kalliope]

*warning... foul language*



I fucking hate it when my roommate turns into a sorry pathetic little shit. Now, I get she has health problems, and I am understanding of them, but constantly using them as an EXCUSE not to do things is just fucking stupid. She does it ALL the time. It wouldn't be so bad if ahe actually TRIED to make things better, but she doesn't. You can practically fucking hand her a magic pill to fix her problems and she would find some reason why it wouldn't work.

I am getting so fucking sick of pulling her dead weight around. I can see why her mom is done paying for shit for her. Also, she doesn't even make any comment that she's upset and then later gets ALL pissy that she felt left out or whatever when she barely made an effort to speak up or participate. Instead she rests her head against the couch and finds excuses. Then later she gets all "I was in a bad mood... blah blah blah" How the fuck am I suppoaed to know that when you don't say a fucking word?! Now, her solution is to sleep. Which she will deny that she's sleeping. Oh! And she slept pretty much all day already. So, she was only up and about for maybe an hour?

And! She complains about being sick all the time, but when peoole tell her ways to get better (eat healthy, lose weight, exercise) she just gets pissy and repeats "I KNOW." Until you shut up.

UGH I'm just fucking DONE.

[Mermaid Stark]

**I'm sorry if this hurts anyone, I just need to get it off my chest.**

I absolutely hate it when people don't use proper punctuation. What gets me fired up even more is when they don't use punctuation at all! Yeah, okay, a few mistakes are fine, everyone makes them, but not using punctuation at all? Seriously?
Punctuation was designed to be used so that people could read something and understand it, not so that you could just toss it to the side! It makes it easier for the reader, too.

What also gets me annoyed is when people use punctuation in the wrong way. Like sometimes, people will use an ellipsis for every single sentence. You are not restricted from using other punctuation.

Once again, I'm sorry if this offended someone. It was just annoying me and I needed to say it.

[Mermaid Stark]

I didn't.
I yelled "do NOT bend it that much!!" and he gave me that disbelieving "geez, hysterical girl, sheesh"-look.
Some people just lack any kind of sensitivity.

I had a friend once who ruined my laptop's keyboard by hammering the keys like he wanted them to come off despite my entreaties to press them like a normal person.
He just said, "what's the problem? just buy another keyboard, geez. No need to fuss about an object lol!"
(note: we're no longer friends :p)

So...I'm kinda touchy when others mishandle my stuff. grrr....:mad:


WHAT?!... WHAT?!
Oh my God! I literally screamed at my computer while reading that. I would have punched him in the face! Kudos to you for holding back, Caltuna! Yeah, I agree, you should definitely contact someone about that. That is NOT right.
I hate it when people do that to your stuff! You should have made him buy you another one! You break it, you buy it.

[Mermaid Varshana]

I swear to the universe, all the money issues we seem to run into while living in Akron are going to end up taking decades off my life, killing me sometime before I turn 60. I hate being the chief money manager in our marriage. The idea of starting a family after this gives me hives.

[Mermaid Nerinae]

My turn to let it out:

After I'd gotten my monofin, my husband and I made an early-morning trip to Lowe's to get the supplies for extending and modifying it. All-in-all, it was about $40 worth of supplies. Good haul, I thought, I'd have enough to make my fluke and have extra left over for stabilizing fins, etc.

When I go to do everything, today, I work to do all the measurements on my fluke, cut the shape out, and cut an additional shape out of the sheeting for some stabilizing and support of the fluke (I don't want it super floppy, but I don't want a stiff fluke, either) and get up to go over to my collection of supplies so I can bolt the extensions onto my monofin and... They aren't there. :|

My husband and I recently did an overhaul cleaning of the apartment, but I'd asked to keep all of my mermaiding supplies and tools in their bags in a neat little corner by the lizard's terrarium. All of the other bags are there, but not the Lowe's bag with my modding supplies. Sigh. So, now, what I thought I was going to have done today and cured tomorrow will now have to wait about five more days to even go buy more supplies, and money is still tight.

I'm so frustrated right now because that's $40 worth of tiny little screws and washers and glue and clamps, etc, that I have to re-buy all over again and hadn't even been able to use ONCE!

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Financial problems that cause you to lose your things in your storage unit and feeling backed into a corner with practically no options.

[AniaR]

I think we need to all bitch about money in general. lol. money problems suck

[Marlin]

I think we need to all bitch about money in general. lol. money problems suck


I fully second this!

[Merrow Erie]

Blerg. I used to work at Gamestop and they hired some girl who was bent on letting everyone know
that she loooooved videogames.


First of all, this entire thread is hilarious. As for this girl in question, she definitely stretched it too far. I'm heavy into gaming, and getting challenged for 'credibility' is a huge slap to the face. Maybe she wants to beat the critics to the punch, or maybe she's just an attention-seeking whore.

Either way, when it comes to gaming, having ovaries automatically means you're lying or you suck at it.

[Mermaid Lilium]

I think we need to all bitch about money in general. lol. money problems suck

aye but we just stole the head of your national bank, to run the Bank of England :')

[SeaGlass Siren]

@loner: Unless you're Celeste, female Canadian pro gamer, AND crowned first season king of the nerds.

[Mermaid Isabela]

Okay. I really don't rant but... Here it goes...!

This weekend, on Saturday, was my very first public event. The Pirate Invasion of Belmont Pier. Everything turned out so very smoothly! Or so I thought. While I was greeting many kids on the shore; a family walks up to me, ( Mom, grandma, two girls, and a boy). They all seemed fine, and they were extremely cute kids. They boy was playing with, what I thought was a toy sword. He was swinging it around, and slashing at the air, at one point, I notice that the blade did an extremely clean cut in the sand. ( Seriously, it made the sand look like butter! ) That's when I noticed that these parents had given their children a REAL sword to play with! WHO DOES THAT!? THE KIDS WERE NO OLDER THAN 6 YEARS OLD!!

I made a point to tell them to be careful with it. But, the kids didn't listen to me, and their parents weren't paying any attention to them at all. I kept most of the other children on the opposite side of the siblings with the sword. ( Rowdy kids and sharp objects? No thanks! ) It wasn't my responsibility, but I did NOT want to see a child get hurt!

And this is when it gets ugly. At some point, one of the girls got a hold of the sword. And she began stabbing it on the ground RIGHT next to me. She swung it a few times too! I told her to move back if she was going to play with it and luckily she did. But, apparently not enough. Shortly after, a canon went off, and most of the kids got scared. So, to make it fun, I lifted my hands and went "Boom!" Which seemed to calm them down... But as my hand was going upwards, I KNEW exactly what had happened. The girl had swung her sword at me at the exact moment, and I felt my finger being cut... I honestly started freaking out internally, but I kept it calm, since I didn't want the other kids to get scared....

I rolled my hand into a fist while it was up in the air, and brought it down, and dug it in the sand and waited for the majority of the kids to fade away. I called my friend over, and calmly explained what had happened. At this point, I hadn't seen the damage the sword had done to my finger, but once my friend brought out a towel... well.. we kind of both freaked out... My WHOLE HAND, was COVERED in pools of blood. The sand next to me was drenched, and the waves were washing off a trail of blood, my tail, sash and belts, had blood in it. It was very gruesome! I'm guessing the family noticed what had happened because me and my friend didn't see them at ALL after that ( And we stayed for four more hours! ).... :( I didn't need stitches.. luckily... And I'm glad it happened to me, and not another child... But.. I could have lost a finger... or worse!!!

WHO THE HECK GIVES THEIR KIDS A REAL SWORD TO PLAY WITH!? WHAT THE HECK!? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!

[MerEmma]

OH MY GOD. WHAT? What the hell happened? I mean, I'm COMPLETELY with you there...wtf? I hate to curse but just, damn, I am just...dumbfounded. I was afraid while reading that he slashed through your tail but gosh, a finger is worse...damnit, I'm so sorry that happened!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Oh my god Isabella!! Are u ok? You didn't get an infection??

[Ashe]

Wtf Isabella? What is wrong with those parents?! And why the hell did they do nothing about it afterwards???? I am so sorry, I really hope it gets better soon! <3

[Mermaid Isabela]

A lot of people were saying that. "They could have stabbed your tail!" Lol! The thought never occurred to me. My main priority was to keep the other children away from them, and I guess I forgot about myself in the process. I'm guessing the parents ran away to avoid any confrontation/lawsuit etc. After the whole ordeal I washed it and treated it well, so it didn't get infected. I'm not in pain or anything... I'm just baffled by some parents... :( Honestly...

[Echidna]

WHAA?! :jawdrop:

That's just...incredible.
(wow, all our other rants suddenly sound petty lol)

Somebody (security there? lifeguards? anyone?) should have taken that thing away asap.
It's as much a weapon as a gun.
Would they have allowed someone with a gun there?
I'm speechless, really.

You should sue them.
The guys who gave their kid the weapon owe you recompensation at the very least, since you were hurt.
That they just left makes them equal to the perpetrator of a hit-and-run accident.:mad:

[Mermaid Isabela]

Well that's the thing... My friend / mertender was going to talk to them, or point them out to security. But no one saw them after that... :( So we deduced that they DID realized what happened, and to avoid charges or confrontation, they booked it out of the beach..

[AniaR]

yeah I have had many situations at public events where parents do not watch their kids. You don't have to be accommodating, you can throw on the teacher voice and tell them exactly where to go. And if the folks don't like it, you can direct them to the manager is security. I once had a gig where I was left on a tarp in the pouring rain with a class of junior high kids. The teachers were off chatting and the kids were going nuts and finally I had to scream for one of the teachers. As a teacher myself, and having been also injured as a result of the kids, I was mad enough to not care what happened from putting a few clear boundaries down. I told them if they weren't going to actively supervise their students they had to leave my tent, as I clearly, couldn't move from my spot and was not responsible for watching them or behaviour management.

[Mermaid Isabela]

I used to be an elementary school teacher's aid, so I basically used my "teacher voice" to tell the girl that she should not play so close to us with a sharp object. I guess it was my fault too, for not paying so close attention to her. Though, live and learn.

[deepblue]

As a parent, I can see why you did what you did, you saved a number of innocent little eyes from possible trauma. At the same time, a kid behaving like that makes me think there's very little parental guidance of the intelligent kind going on, so I hope that somehow, that child and her parent saw at least the blood. Something has to shock people like that into reality. Such an injury could have been so much worse, I shudder to think of it.

Absolutely unbelievable the way some people parent. GRRR.

[Little_Orca]

I am so tired of being depressed. I am tired of feeling worthless and trapped by factors that I cannot seem to change. I don't want to be me anymore and I am powerless to change anything about it. I don't want to be this disgusting blob of a person whose only existence so far is to help other people and inspire other people while I continue to die inside and turn into a husk of a person with some permanent dolphin smile to keep those around my blissfully unaware of my suffering.

[Mermaid Varshana]

I am so tired of being depressed. I am tired of feeling worthless and trapped by factors that I cannot seem to change. I don't want to be me anymore and I am powerless to change anything about it. I don't want to be this disgusting blob of a person whose only existence so far is to help other people and inspire other people while I continue to die inside and turn into a husk of a person with some permanent dolphin smile to keep those around my blissfully unaware of my suffering.

Ditto. I hate living here, isolated from everyone except my (quite womderful but perpetually busy) husband. Stuck for more than another year. Therapy does seem to be helping though.

[Echidna]

Now, now.
You're making me sad :(
I'm sure both of you have many wonderful things in your life which you are so used to you cannot appreciate them.

Like...hm...family members. Pets. Not too many health problems?
As long as one can work/workout/travel, life is so much easier.

This won't help you squat, of course :D
I know, I went through a long phase of depression myself as a teen (actually I lost someone and mourned them, but psychologists say if you mourn longer than 1 year you are depressed, or something like that).

Looking back now, I still remember how awful this bleak outlook I had was, but at the same time, I could kick myself for wasting time with depression when I was young and perfectly healthy.

[SeaSister]

@caltuna Alright, you mentioning how you were diagnosed with depression after mourning for more than a year makes me want to go on another rant. I'm currently studying psychology and, although I'm only just starting my third year in the program, I hate, hate, HATE the DSM. I think that if psychologists rely on it too much, it's just a recipe for disaster. It's basically a "how-to guide" for psychology, but it basically assumes that people are like robots with malfunctions that need to be treated as such. It's very black-and-white, and I really disapprove of the way it determines whether or not a person is depressed. What if some people go through the stages of mourning more slowly or more quickly than others? What if you were incredibly close to the deceased person? What if you have another disorder that effects your rate of emotional recovery? What if, what if, what if. The DSM is like a check-list that doesn't really take into account other factors. Like I said, I'm not experienced enough to know the DSM in-depth, but from what I do know... urgh. It really frustrates me. :/

[Little_Orca]

Sister: I have my masters in art therapy counseling. The thing about the DSM is that is is euro-centric. If you adopt a multi-cultural view on things and understand that cultural influences (such as ritual and length of mourning) are not pathological, the DSM is not as bad, not that it is 100%. Things are taken out and added often, hence why there are so many editions.

[Mermaid Oshun]

I am so tired of being depressed. I am tired of feeling worthless and trapped by factors that I cannot seem to change. I don't want to be me anymore and I am powerless to change anything about it. I don't want to be this disgusting blob of a person whose only existence so far is to help other people and inspire other people while I continue to die inside and turn into a husk of a person with some permanent dolphin smile to keep those around my blissfully unaware of my suffering.
Dont feel that way Orca! Never lose hope that you can do or be anything you want to be with the right planning. I have a friend who lost massive amounts of weight by using HCG injections. She was a LOT larger than you and over 3 months she looked like a totally different person. She gained some back after that and then went and had massive liposuction which made her super thin. So if being thin is that important to you, you can do it! Don't forget Star Jones who had her tummy stapled and sometimes you can get health insurance to cover that. So if it is that important to you, it CAN be fixed.

[Mermaid Oshun]

Ditto. I hate living here, isolated from everyone except my (quite womderful but perpetually busy) husband. Stuck for more than another year. Therapy does seem to be helping though.
Kakarotte, that is what your merfriends are here for! We help to keep you occupied while hubbie is away. Is there a place to swim near you? Some high schools and universities have indoor pools. There are also public pools. There are certain times that you can access them. An internet search for swimming pools with your zip code and maybe a few phone calls will get you that data. I swim every other day or some times everyday.

Maybe take up gourmet cooking to plan super delicious meals each night! Don't forget a super work out each day. Develop an interest in singing! What self respecting mermaid can't sing like a siren? Develop an interest in some cosmetic aspect of yourself. Find a long hair forum to try to grow super long mermaid hair! Take up corset training to develop a iconic mermaid hourglass figure.

Take some online classes at a local university. They offer $5200.00 government grants for that on www.fafsa.ed.gov (http://www.fafsa.ed.gov) . You know that mermaids eat a lot of brain food so they are super intelligent! You MUST develop your intellect to the point of being HIGHLY intelligent to be a half decent mermaid. Get a part time job! By the time you do all of that your day will be over you will be exhausted and your hubby will be home!

[Mermaid Varshana]

Lol, I'm actually a straight A experimental psych student at Kent State, and I have a million hobbies, including makeup, swimming, learning, writing, jewelry making and exercise. I'm a great cook, too. My problem is that I'm autistic, so making friends and keeping a "normal" job is hard. I had friends in Dayton but i lived there for 15 years. I feel incredibly isolated, and while hobbies and school are great, they're not really a substitute for interpersonal real life quality human contact. MerNetwork is great, however i can't go out dancing with a computer. I've been fired or laid off about 8 times. That feeds the neverending money problems. Modeling for money works to a point...though I've had very bad experiences with lecherous photographers. I'm doing medical testing now to pay for my dog's surgery. Seeing a therapist is helping me find where I'm just not connecting with people in person. It's just a slow process.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Now, now.
You're making me sad :(
I'm sure both of you have many wonderful things in your life which you are so used to you cannot appreciate them.

Like...hm...family members. Pets. Not too many health problems?
As long as one can work/workout/travel, life is so much easier.



oh no! I appreciate everything I have. Like, so much that thinking about it makes me cry sometimes. Apparently, my mirror neurons probably don't function properly. It's the mechanism in your brain that manages mimickery, empathy, the ability to read and parrot body language, manages vocal inflection to match the social setting. My need for meaningful social interaction does not seem to "care" about this. I have learned to fake some things. Not enough to be able to hold down a real job or make new friends (it takes me about 3-5 years to really get people to notice I exist and like me). Dealing with this has been a rough lifelong learning experience.

[Ciesl2ja]

This might sound super petty and stupid, but I hate that my skinny ass roommate can eat anything she wants and if I so much as look at a cookie, I gain 5 lbs. I know I am not "big" but no one wants to hire a chubby mermaid for any event. I have been busting my ass and eating mostly lettuce while she just sits around and eats Oreos. It is just so FRUSTRATING! My body just hates me and I hate it, which is a vicious cycle. I guess I just feel discouraged :/ I really want to lose more weight before I get my Raven tail.

[Mermaid Cascada]

This might sound super petty and stupid, but I hate that my skinny ass roommate can eat anything she wants and if I so much as look at a cookie, I gain 5 lbs. I know I am not "big" but no one wants to hire a chubby mermaid for any event. I have been busting my ass and eating mostly lettuce while she just sits around and eats Oreos. It is just so FRUSTRATING! My body just hates me and I hate it, which is a vicious cycle. I guess I just feel discouraged :/ I really want to lose more weight before I get my Raven tail.

Oh no. Eating healthy food to loose weight probably isn't working because it takes exersice to. Anyways I'd hire a chubby mermaid because theyr'e adorable and don't feel discouraged because if you are beautiful on the inside then you are beautiful on the outside (I'm sure you are) :D

[Ciesl2ja]

Thank you Cascada :) That made me smile. I guess I need to start doing more than powerwalking...

[Mermaid Varshana]

I highly recommend weightlifting. The myth that it doesn't burn calories is a lie. The more muscle you have, the more calories you'll burn 24 hours a day even if you're sleeping. You might not notice much weight loss because muscle weighs more than fat. I weigh the same as I did when I was a size 14 in junior high, but I'm a size 6 now.

[deepblue]

I feel incredibly isolated, and while hobbies and school are great, they're not really a substitute for interpersonal real life quality human contact. MerNetwork is great, however i can't go out dancing with a computer. I've been fired or laid off about 8 times. That feeds the neverending money problems.

I woke up feeling emotionally lousy and I identify with this so much.

And the rest, I'm removing. Never fecking mind.

Yeah, I know admin can probably still see it. But following suit that others are bitching about their similar stuff, and thought it felt good to get it out... removing it.

[deepblue]

Maybe that should have gone in the living with mental illness thread, but it's definitely a B!TC# for me.

[Ariel-Starfish]

oh my lord! :O

[Mermaid Oshun]

I know the feeling about differences in metabolism. Up until I was in my 20's, I was one of those people who could overeat and I was still a stick figure. I wanted to gain wait desperately. Now that I have past 40, however, I went on a 500 calorie diet for a month and did not lose a pound. I looked at a photo of myself and realized though that I should not worry about losing weight. I just finally have the curves I used to want so desperately. To turn around and become a stick figure again would be so counterproductive. But like I said if I did want to lose, there is always the HCG injections my friend used. She lost like 60 pounds in a few months. She lost so much weight that it did NOT look good on her bone structure. Her bones were too big to be that skinny. Every thing looked knobby. Big knobby wrists, elbows and knees. I told her as a friend she needed to gain a little weight back to look attractive.

[Jessica]

I highly recommend weightlifting. The myth that it doesn't burn calories is a lie. The more muscle you have, the more calories you'll burn 24 hours a day even if you're sleeping. You might not notice much weight loss because muscle weighs more than fat. I weigh the same as I did when I was a size 14 in junior high, but I'm a size 6 now.


I had to take weightlifting class in order to graduate with my associate degree in may, and I loved it. Well not at first, but it turned out to be an amazing way to get into shape. I gained about 3-5 lbs during the class, but I lost so many inches around my hips and butt. My shorts from last year are nearly falling off me and I have so much more energy. I highly recommend weight lifting for women because it will also strengthen your bones.

Ciesl2ja,


my little sister has the same problem. She can't eat anything without gaining weight. It might help to exercise before you eat breakfast. This will jump start your metabolism in the morning and you will burn more calories during the day. My sister also can maintain her weight better if she eats more frequently during the day (smaller meals). Unsalted, air popped popcorn is a good low calorie snack that will fill you up as long as you don't add butter.

Power walking is a great start. Try picking up some wrist weights to wear while you walk or wear a backpack with a few books in it. Adding weight will increase your results and help you build strength.

[Echidna]

@caltuna Alright, you mentioning how you were diagnosed with depression after mourning for more than a year makes me want to go on another rant. I'm currently studying psychology and, although I'm only just starting my third year in the program, I hate, hate, HATE the DSM.

It's annoying for sure.
Lately, the time allotted for mourning "normally" has been reduced dramatically.
Not completely sure what it was- either 3 months, or 1 month.
I don't take those guys seriously, anyways.

When a doctor diagnoses a depression here, he gets a fat bonus paid from insurance, and he'll earn a hefty sum when prescribing antidepressants (and so will the pharmacists).
Unsurprisingly, the diagnosis depression has spread like a wildfire :p

It's worst if you have a serious illness that goes untreated because all doctors decide they will earn more money if they just ignore the disease and say you're depressed/mental instead.
I just love how every illness that is either too expensive or not yet understood is supposed to be "mental", until some daring guy comes along and proves the real reason for your aches and other symptoms is some noxious little bugger
(example: helicobacter).

Man, if the human psyche/fantasy were half as powerful as the psych guys claim, I'd be a superhero.

[Ciesl2ja]

Thanks for all the advice and encouragement everyone. I have thought about doing PX90 but I've heard its really, really hard. Also, St. John's Wort is a great natural way to help depression and lavender oil helps me calm down when I am anxious. There are lots of natural remedies to help with emotional issues we all face daily, but be sure to research about the remedy before you just go on and do it :D

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Kakarotte, that is what your merfriends are here for! We help to keep you occupied while hubbie is away. Is there a place to swim near you? Some high schools and universities have indoor pools. There are also public pools. There are certain times that you can access them. An internet search for swimming pools with your zip code and maybe a few phone calls will get you that data. I swim every other day or some times everyday.

Maybe take up gourmet cooking to plan super delicious meals each night! Don't forget a super work out each day. Develop an interest in singing! What self respecting mermaid can't sing like a siren? Develop an interest in some cosmetic aspect of yourself. Find a long hair forum to try to grow super long mermaid hair! Take up corset training to develop a iconic mermaid hourglass figure.

Take some online classes at a local university. They offer $5200.00 government grants for that on www.fafsa.ed.gov (http://www.fafsa.ed.gov) . You know that mermaids eat a lot of brain food so they are super intelligent! You MUST develop your intellect to the point of being HIGHLY intelligent to be a half decent mermaid. Get a part time job! By the time you do all of that your day will be over you will be exhausted and your hubby will be home!

Sorry, but this has been bugging me all day.

Stereotypes.

You don't have to be anything to be a "half-decent" or "self respecting" mermaid. There are plenty of mers out there that can't sing, don't have the "iconic mermaid hourglass figure", or swim every day and are self respecting and far more than half decent.

Also, there is no intelligence requirement to be a mer, just passion and imagination.

If everymer had to be able to sing, be highly intelligent, have an iconic hourglass shape, possess long flowing locks of hair *and* be in peak condition, we wouldn't have a whole lotta mers. Not everyone can fall under having all that. For many reasons.

Some aren't born with the needed genes, some lack the funds to get to a pool/beach or even pay the membership that some public facilities ask for.

Nothing against you, personally, but I hate those stereotypes. I can stand it when people try to slap them onto everyone. (Like how all girls have to be tall, skinny, big boobs, tiny waist and blonde.)

[Echidna]

^^eh.
I didn't read those suggestions in this way.
More like a light-hearted, slightly funny way to present as many time-eating activities as possible-
since, you know, "depression" is supposed to stem from boredom and inactivity.

I disagree with that theory btw.
A depression does not mean you have to be disinterested in everyone and everything.
Dejection and sadness should not be labelled as depression at all if they can be explained.
Ye, but that's another story. :p

[Mermaid Oshun]

yes Caltuna, it was meant as something to lighten the mood and provoke a chuckle...(satire or high brow perhaps?) Since mermaids have not even been proven to exist, certainly one who is self respecting is laughable and clearly said in jest and light heartedly. Thank you Caltuna.

[SeaSister]

Lol, so true Golden Pearl! I saw one of the many "mermaid sighting!" videos on YouTube and found it funny how many people say things like "that's not what mermaids look like!", "most aquatic creatures are dark colours, blonde hair isn't something you'd see in a sea creature", "mermaids don't have to come to the surface to breathe", "mermaids are bald", etc. etc. Everyone has such concrete ideas of what they believe a "real" mermaid to look like, even though no one has ever actually seen a real mermaid. It's really very interesting how adamant people are regarding what they think real mermaids would look like.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

@GoldenPearl - I wasn't saying *you* were putting it that way, but a lot of people can be like that. Kids even. I have been slapped with so many stereotypes in my life that they get on my nerves.

Your suggestions were meant in a light-hearted manner, but I've seen a lot of mers hurt deeply by comments like that. :-/ Mers who have been put down for one point or another. Living near Los Angeles, I feel like there is a ton of pressure on me, personally, to have all those. Which doesn't help my own problems of low esteem and depression.

I guess, what I'm saying is that I apologise for pointing at you and mermaid stereotypes (or just stereotypes) piss me off.

@Caltuna - I know exactly what you mean, but I must say that if I am bored, the depression bug creeps in. :-/ I have to be mentally active almost constantly. But it very much doesn't stem from that.

[Merrow Erie]

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[Azurin Luna]

Gah! Why can't UPS just not give my parcel to the neighbors? It's just fabric not something that needs signing for *mutters* Now I have to travel to the other side of town to pick it up on a workday. So I can't even pick it up tomorrow
I just want to finish my tail >:|

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Runninh faucets when you aren't using them. HUGE waste of water especially here in the desert. If you're going to inspect something for more than 5 seconds, turn it off.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Quick rant...

I live in a tourist town by the sea and this weekend the sun is out so the center of town is super busy today.

I went in to make some returns and was only in town for about an hour. And just that time was enough to make me loathe people - Everyone was being ignorant and barging into me/past me or suddenly cutting in-front of me in the shops all without any common courtesy. Is is too much to ask for an 'excuse me' or 'sorry'? Even when it's hot and busy I still try to be polite with people. I hate crowds and people acting like that doesn't help. I hate going in supermarkets in the run up to xmas cause people get crazy then too.

[LittleTreasure]

I just had my first day at the beach in years... Cocoa Beach in Orlando... Lovely and fun, right? Yes, unless you count the other people at the beach. They are rude, mean and completely inconsiderate of others. At least today. Of course I brought my newly finished tail to get in and take pictures.

I would love to think most people are capable of being nice, but apparently not. I headed up to the pier to get to the bathrooms and change into my shell top. I walked under it and being klutzy, ran smack into a board and knocked myself onto my ass... The lady sitting next to me didn't blink an eye or ask if I was ok even though I screamed in pain as I hit my head. I went up to the showers to hose myself off since I was covered in sand and slipped again... Nobody said anything.

So I was hurting and pissed by then. I got my tail on with my dad's help - discovered it's really hard to do that in the waves - and then took some pics.... Bad pics but whatever, and swam some. My parents flipped out about me going in the waves even though I am a very strong swimmer which got us into an argument. That's lovely, around kids. Not one came up to see me after that. And one old lady with her grandkid came by and said, "Really?" While I was sitting right next to her...

In conclusion I will be doing the rest of my mermaiding in pools or the lake... It is a lot easier to get in and out of the tail, plus no sand and I don't get yelled at by anyone by doing something I can do very well by now.. I hope I didn't sound like a spoiled little girl saying all this.... But I know I am at least capable of courtesies like an "Are you ok?" when someone gets hurt in front of me, or of keeping my mouth shut when I don't like what I see. You know?

[Mermaid Kalliope]

I think you're justified in complaining. That's just inconsiderate. If someone falls, check if they're okay! Too many people are stuck in their own bubbles and can't be bothered to interact with anyone they don't know. "Strangers are dangerous" and the internet have hurt our "good neighbour" attitude. I miss the 90s. :-(

As for the swimming, just do it to prove it. Usually, people shut up when they are proven wrong. Also, is there any one else you can go to the beach with?

[LittleTreasure]

Yeah, I actually did prove it. It took some effort but I did swim into the tide and made it back. I had just turned around when my dad was yelling at me to stop going forward. >–> I know my own limits.

It would've been nice to go to the beach with friends but we're on a family vacation :p so I just had them. My brother understands that I can do this since I had just finished swimming in just my monofin with him. He told me he was trying to reason with my mom when I was in my tail. He's great. I understand though why they were nervous.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Well, if you ever come out to Southern California, we'll go for a swim. :-D No yelling or arguing.

[LittleTreasure]

Haha, if I ever get the chance to, that'd be awesome. :)

[Mermaid Tula]

So I just read back through a few pages. I'm a parent. I have a 5 year old. Even as young as she is, she knows not to swing weapons around like that. Right there is the parent's fault for not teaching them proper handling, and not enough attention. I know this sounds mean, but if I would have been there, I would have snatched the sword out of the kid's hand after seeing them stabbing, swinging and jabbing with it with no supervision.

People drive me crazy. LT, I would have ran over to help you up. I was raised to help others, even if it's just an "Are you alright?". I've picked up other peoples kids when they've fallen and taken them over to the parents. (Got yelled at by the parents for that one.) I've helped all types of people with things they've needed. Someone can't reach something, and I barely can, I'll stretch my happy ass and get it for them. Hell, I've climbed shelves at the grocery store to help an older man who was wheelchair bound.

I seriously mourn kindness and helpfulness in this day and age. No one seems to want to help out their fellow people. I know it's not much, but I'm teaching my daughter to be helpful and kind. She knows that when she sees someone who needs help, she goes and offers to help them.

[Mermaid Lilium]

So I just read back through a few pages. I'm a parent. I have a 5 year old. Even as young as she is, she knows not to swing weapons around like that. Right there is the parent's fault for not teaching them proper handling, and not enough attention. I know this sounds mean, but if I would have been there, I would have snatched the sword out of the kid's hand after seeing them stabbing, swinging and jabbing with it with no supervision.

People drive me crazy. LT, I would have ran over to help you up. I was raised to help others, even if it's just an "Are you alright?". I've picked up other peoples kids when they've fallen and taken them over to the parents. (Got yelled at by the parents for that one.) I've helped all types of people with things they've needed. Someone can't reach something, and I barely can, I'll stretch my happy ass and get it for them. Hell, I've climbed shelves at the grocery store to help an older man who was wheelchair bound.

I seriously mourn kindness and helpfulness in this day and age. No one seems to want to help out their fellow people. I know it's not much, but I'm teaching my daughter to be helpful and kind. She knows that when she sees someone who needs help, she goes and offers to help them.

Parenting, you're doing it right.

I think it must have been a full moon, people have been 'silly-buggers' as my nan would say, for the last few days, as I know lots of other people, including myself who've had people acting up like that.

[Mermaid Tula]

Haha thanks Kat! I see so many kids in this day and age who are a pain in the ass and it drives me insane because the parents do nothing! It pisses me off when I see them demanding for stuff, screaming at the tops of their lungs, completely disrespecting their parents, acting violently towards their family. Oh I can go on and on. I seriously don't understand how parents let this behavior continue. I for one think that if you see someone who has a kid like that needs to be sent to family counseling and learn how to deal with their kids, rather than just give them what they want or ignore them.

[LittleTreasure]

Thanks, Comatose Angel :) I was also raised to help people when they're in trouble. I don’t know why people are so rude in public. And it drives me crazy when I see spoiled rotten children getting their way because their stupid parents don't know any better... Because they were raised the same way.

[Mermaid Momo]

Okay I just hav to rant now . My sister's boyfriend is in jail and she keeps getting on these "Skype in jail" websites even though I keep telling here that they carry viruses. Well guess what? My computer just gave up today. When I started it up, the screen was black besides the cursor. I could move the cursor but nothing else. So I start to freak out. I've lost all my data, my drawings, my videos, programs, etc and she comes up stairs and grabs me by my throat (which I hate when people touch my throat) and when I snapped at her and slapped her arm she lays down on the futon and says really loudly "Ronda's having her period because her boyfriend died" and my dad says" the compute r's broke get owe it. You need to go outside any way." What he doesn't understand is that this computer is how I get my money. Now a days all of my art is done digitally and no computer means no money from commissions. Oh and did I mention that I also can't edit any photos or videos? (I'm paid by a few Internet aidoru groups to edit their photos and mix their videos)I'm furious and all everyone is doing is laughing at me. And my mom says "you can do the drawing off the computer" we'll who's going to pay for the tubes to ship them? Who's gonna pay for the supplies? The paper, pencils, paint,markers? Because last I checked they aren't willing to drop even $20 on me (but they can drop $800+ on my brother a d $300+ on bailing my sister out of jail for a crime she deserves to go to jail for ) but you know I have the money to go spend on all these materials. And while iokay it i can cut and paste a few crappy flowers onto crappy printed photos and send them to the aidoru groups. That will keep my name clean right?
Sorry for the mistakes I'm just really frustrated and typing on iPhone is hard when you're doing it really really fast.

[Mermaid Danielle]

draggersprez (http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?27-draggersprez), I'm sorry that things are so hard right now. The only suggestion I have is to save up for your own computer so no one else can use it, and cause a problem like this. Good luck to you.

[Mermaid Kalliope]

Just look them in the eye and say "No computer; no job. That's how it works, end of story." It's especially hard to explain to parents sometimes that 80% of stuff is dealt with through a computer. :-/

[Mizuko]

I just had to send my first message to a new member regarding their mermaid name being very similar to my own >< I never thought I would have to do it- but considering this mer appears to be in the Pod of Oceana like myself I felt I needed to let them know I owned the business name and don't want my clients to get confused. I feel bad about it, as they are new, but what else can I do? Sue them? XP How does everyone else handle these situations?!

[deepblue]

Okay I just hav to rant now . My sister's boyfriend is in jail and she keeps getting on these "Skype in jail" websites even though I keep telling here that they carry viruses. Well guess what? My computer just gave up today.

That really does suck. It's maddening when anyone doesn't get what it computers are in this world today just because their paradigm isn't in the same place. However, have you tried a reinstall of the OS? I know you've lost everything, and that sucks beyond the telling of it. But- if you can reinstall either its OS or another, such as (free) Linux Mint OS, and get your computer up and running again, maybe that'd help.

Besides, if you were to use Linux Mint, no one else would probably know how to use it past browsing, and you don't have to install Skype. :)

I just hope there's something that can help you out. New computers are so expensive. Used ones are, for that matter.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Okay I just hav to rant now . My sister's boyfriend is in jail and she keeps getting on these "Skype in jail" websites even though I keep telling here that they carry viruses. Well guess what? My computer just gave up today. When I started it up, the screen was black besides the cursor. I could move the cursor but nothing else. So I start to freak out. I've lost all my data, my drawings, my videos, programs, etc and she comes up stairs and grabs me by my throat (which I hate when people touch my throat) and when I snapped at her and slapped her arm she lays down on the futon and says really loudly "Ronda's having her period because her boyfriend died" and my dad says" the compute r's broke get owe it. You need to go outside any way." What he doesn't understand is that this computer is how I get my money. Now a days all of my art is done digitally and no computer means no money from commissions. Oh and did I mention that I also can't edit any photos or videos? (I'm paid by a few Internet aidoru groups to edit their photos and mix their videos)I'm furious and all everyone is doing is laughing at me. And my mom says "you can do the drawing off the computer" we'll who's going to pay for the tubes to ship them? Who's gonna pay for the supplies? The paper, pencils, paint,markers? Because last I checked they aren't willing to drop even $20 on me (but they can drop $800+ on my brother a d $300+ on bailing my sister out of jail for a crime she deserves to go to jail for ) but you know I have the money to go spend on all these materials. And while iokay it i can cut and paste a few crappy flowers onto crappy printed photos and send them to the aidoru groups. That will keep my name clean right?
Sorry for the mistakes I'm just really frustrated and typing on iPhone is hard when you're doing it really really fast.

Mermaid Danielle is right, BUT don't give up on the laptop. You might be able to hard reset it so you don't need to buy a new one, but it would mean forever loosing your data. Do you know anyone locally who's good with computers? Ordering a new laptop Hard drive would be cheaper and remove all the crap from the viruses. THEN if you get this laptop back to working, or if you buy a new one, make sure you password lock it with a long complicated password that only you know, and make sure you install stuff like avast antivirus (which is what I use) adblock plus (ad blocker for firefox) and malwarebytes anti-malware software. I also suggest CCleaner while you're at it =)

is your laptop windows or apple btw? If it's windows then I might be able to get you a step by step breakdown on how to salvage it because i'm married to a computer geek hehe

and I'm sorry about all of this stuff with your family. Make sure your sister can never use your laptop again (make sure guest accounts are disabled) and force her to buy her own. Then it's up to her if she wants to screw up her own laptop.

[deepblue]

Pissing me off today: People who feel the need to debate when a discussion is all that is warranted or wanted. Someone who accused me of denying reality because I didn't agree with something he says, and then when I present the evidence to back my statement up, he ignores it. Same guy then accuses me of denying something he mentioned, which I did not mention at all, because the facts in what we were discussing don't go there and I don't have the information necessary to call someone a misogynist... I know there are plenty out there, I've dated at least two. I think giving someone that label is a pretty serious accusation. When I give someone that label, even in my own mind, it's well deserved, and it doesn't happen often.

Now, though, I understand something... two of my friends dated this guy and when they got out they said he'd been emotionally abusive and a button pusher... but since both these gals are also problematic darama queens, I reserved judgement and don't take sides. But if he can't even have a civil discussion without losing his mind, well yeah. I see how what they said could be true. This man is an old acquaintance... I used to think more highly of him, but I lost a lot of respect for him last night.

ETA- I meant drama queens, of course, but somehow da-rama also works there. :p

[Mermaid Momo]

Thanks everyone. I actually use a desktop computer (windows) I got it to fire up on safe mode just enough to save a few drawings and programs to a USB and then do that auto reset thing (I can't remember what it's actually called but basically I set it back a few days when It was working fine) but the computer still didnt work after rebooting it. I'm really bummed because this year I'll need to be writing a bunch of essays for scholarships this year but without a computer... I hope I can figure something out soon.

[Mermaid-Rose]

Water pollution, coral bleaching, etc. :(

[deepblue]

Thanks everyone. I actually use a desktop computer (windows) I got it to fire up on safe mode just enough to save a few drawings and programs to a USB and then do that auto reset thing (I can't remember what it's actually called but basically I set it back a few days when It was working fine) but the computer still didnt work after rebooting it. I'm really bummed because this year I'll need to be writing a bunch of essays for scholarships this year but without a computer... I hope I can figure something out soon.

Your local library should have computers you can use for that.

[Mermaid Danielle]

Mizuko, sorry about that. I'm sure it is awkward and frustrating, since you don't want to come off as a nasty person, but is important to maintain your identity. Good luck.

[Mermaid Momo]

Your local library should have computers you can use for that.
I live in a very very small town :( the library is miles away from me :( I'm thinking to just use my phone then beg my dad to let me use his laptop (he thinks if anyone but him touches his precious laptop it'll spontaneously combust. Even though I know more about is laptop than he does )

[Mermaid Momo]

To make things worse, I just had to put my cat;Kenny to sleep because we couldn't afford all the medical work to get rid of his blockage. The vet said he was in so much pain and wouldn't survive till Monday

[ShyMer]

I'm so sorry about your cat! That has to be the worst, that something could be done but it's too expensive.

[Mermaid Lilium]

To make things worse, I just had to put my cat;Kenny to sleep because we couldn't afford all the medical work to get rid of his blockage. The vet said he was in so much pain and wouldn't survive till Monday

*just sends lots of hugs and mermaid kisses* I'm so sorry hun =( it's heartbreaking to have to do but at least he isn't suffering anymore, you did the right thing, and a very brave thing at that. People don't understand how brave and emotionally strong you have to be to take that decision to ease your cherished pet's suffering xx

[Goldie]

Well you guys, it finally happened…My Dad passed away after a LONG battle with brain cancer. I find it very hard to stay motivated these days. I have kind of backed off from everyone and everything just so I could try to get used to the idea that he really isn’t here anymore. But I think now, even though we knew it was coming there is just not going to be any getting used to it. Nothing to do but keep swimming.

[AniaR]

Goldie, I am very sorry to hear about your dad. Thankfully he isn't suffering anymore- cancer is terrible. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and your family too. <3
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So, when I published my book and put it out there, I expected people to use it. I didn't expect to be credited for my ideas or anything because the whole idea behind the book was making the ideas for your mermaid businesses available to everyone. That being said it's been pointed out to me by many that a certain person who always claims to be the best and not get any help from anyone else (but has interestingly enough used my help before and thrown me under the bus), bought my book (yes, I know they did from the admin side of my account) and it pretty much going through it chronologically and posting those things to their page claiming them as their own. Not just because it's insulting to me and really low brow, but it's sort of insulting to everyone, since the material was clearly meant for everyone and now they're trying to pass it off like they're being innovative by literally posting total phrases right out of my book. -_- (it's sort of like how a while back another mermaid claimed to have invented mermaiding and we'd all be around years before her) I know I shouldn't expect anything from this person, they've already demonstrated to me time and time again their ability to take from others and maintain the illusion that they figured it all out or invented things themselves... it's just incredibly annoying. Especially that they don't even have the common sense to at least not post those things literally in the same order as they're published in my book -_-. That's my bitch lol

[MermaidHyli]

I'm sorry Goldie, my father also suffers from cancer =/ just know he is no longer suffering and you have us as a family to support you through this time <3

[AniaR]

People buying fake likes for their FB page, lol. Why even waste that kind of money? lmao. they aren't real people. not going to help you and people aren't idiots when you create your page and a day later have so many likes, lol desperate much?

[Goldie]

Thanks it means a lot to have a place to come and get that out. You all are the first ones that I have told really because it is just so hard to say. So I thought well maybe I can type it and pour it out of my head that way.

[AniaR]

don't feel you need to keep it to the bitching thread. Plenty of people start their own grieving threads to help them heal. <3

[Mermaid Tula]

So I really need to vent. I own my trailer, but the land isn't mine, so I rent the land. Today my landlord's brother came over and delivered a notice that our yard was a mess and we have to many cats. Yes my yard was kind of messy. But the paper said there's a 1 cat or 1 dog rule. When we moved in, we talked with our landlord and he OKed 2 cats. (I have 3, but have been trying to find her a new home) I have 3 days to fix everything or I'm getting kicked out of the home I own. I've been having panic attacks on top of a migraine, on top of having to clean up the yard in 95 degree dry weather. My hubby has been trying to get a hold of our landlord all day, but he hasn't been able to all day. So tomorrow, my hubby is going to the office to see if he can talk to the landlord in person. I'm so irate and panicky right now I can barely breathe. Luckily I have a few friends who are going to help me pick up my yard and organize it so it looks decent. I did have a broken canopy that was on the ground. The landlord's brother said the yard looked like a gypsy camp. Racist much. I just want to scream and go crazy, but I'm trying desperately not to do either because of my daughter. I was already brought to tears because she said she didn't want to get rid of the yard or our house. (She's 5 and doesn't quite understand what's going on)

[deepblue]

Gah, there is nothing worse than a migraine in a heat wave. I am so sorry you're dealing with that. Fingers and flukes crossed for you that the landlord relents and chills the heck out about all this.

[Mermaid Tula]

Thanks Deep. I hope so too. I took some ibuprofen so hopefully my head will stop pounding. I'm hoping we can keep at least 2 of my babies.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Well you guys, it finally happened…My Dad passed away after a LONG battle with brain cancer. I find it very hard to stay motivated these days. I have kind of backed off from everyone and everything just so I could try to get used to the idea that he really isn’t here anymore. But I think now, even though we knew it was coming there is just not going to be any getting used to it. Nothing to do but keep swimming.

I'm sorry Goldie =( The shutting yourself away is ok for a while but please try to reach out to friends and family cause they love you and want to support you through this. They are all still here and so are you, you have today to enjoy on your own behalf and on behalf of your dad. We will ALWAYS miss the people we loose but it gets easier with time to keep moving forward.

[Mermaid Tula]

So it's official. I can't have my cats. I'm now in the process of rehoming my babies. Luckily one of my friends is going to be able to take 2 of the kittens and I found someone else to take the other kitten. Now I just have to find homes for my 3 adult cats. I think I"m going to have a migraine for the next 3 months. I'm so heartbroken right now. I know I'll be able to get over it, but right now it just feels like someone is ripping my heart out.

[Miyu]

Oh, Comatose Angel, I'm so sorry :( I've had to rehome some of my kitties and bunnies as well... ((HUGS)) I know there's not a whole lot I can do to help, but offer a shoulder. Do you get to visit them, at least?

[Mermaid Tula]

2 of the kittens I'll be able to visit since my friend is going to take them. But the other kitten I won't be able to visit, and I don't know about the adults. I haven't been able to find a home for them yet. I hope I can find them a good home. I worry about my babies. I don't want them going to the pound cause I know there's a slim chance they'll be adopted because of their ages. 2 are around a year and a half ish old, and my momma kitty is about 6 or 7. I've had her since she was a kitten. I might be able to keep her if I can keep her inside only.

[deepblue]

Know what's the MOST FUN EVAR? Guys who get pissy and turn into jerks because you're not into them, even though you've never been into them, have nothing in common, and they have known this for 13 years.

And it's awesome when they try to drop hints that you're not into them and are ~shallow~ and don't want them because of their size. AWESOME. Dude, it's not your fecking size, it's the fact that you're arrogant with a superiority issue, a self-centered world view, and a belief that no one is as smart as you are. You're a JERK. I don't even know if you're a good looking man by the standards in which I might view physical attractiveness because your personality is so fecking unattractive much of the time!!!

And, I've noticed he only goes for small, fitter or thinner women like me. So does that make him shallow? For being attracted to what he's attracted to? I bet it doesn't in his eyes.

YEAH THAT ROCKS.

And while I'm at it, he can suck it. I'm attracted to a wide range of body types, men and women. I do prefer healthy, fit bodies. And there is NOTHING wrong with that. Especially since it's not my only goddamn criteria. My last boyfriend was in a wheelchair and couldn't walk for a long time, the one before him was a healthy 'over' weight that I preferred to the meth-addicted skinny he became. And the last woman I had anything to do with is bodacious and curvy as hell so screw you, M.

/VENT
GAH!

[Elle]

VENT!
I know I've talked about my darling monster in law before but as our wedding gets closer her opinions become louder.
She didn't want to sit at the same table as her ex husband (my future father in law) so we sat her at a different one. She doesn't want him saying anything at the wedding. I'm choosing to ignore that one because he's a nice guy and I wouldn't be that rude.
She has to bring her new bf. now if it was an bf she had for a while I wouldn't mind, but she has more ex's than Taylor Swift. This newest one we've never met, we know that he has a LONG history of drug convictions, DUI's and spent a lot of time in and out of jail.
If she can't bring him she won't come. How rude of us to not give her a plus one. Never mind the fact that she has no personal friends as she alienates everyone and when we did up all the seating arrangements she just broke up with someone. Also when she started seeing this new one, she left to go to the other side of the country and didn't talk to us for 6 months.
Also as we haven't given my partners younger brother plus ones they aren't coming either (that turned out to be her putting words in their mouths so they don't have an issue).

what was once a very easy situation has now become hell. I'm not enjoying the process of planning my wedding with my partner because she's spending the whole time breathing down our necks telling us how to do it

[SeaGlass Siren]

Elle... :fish kisses: wedding stress on my end too

[Alice]

-Sigh- Did you know I'm a Whiner for having crippling social anxiety and I shouldn't be able to go to a place i enjoy (ie amusement parks) because I'm a whiner and cant deal with people pushing on me in lines that could possibly throw me into a mental break down right there in line . THE MORE YOU KNOW

[ShyMer]

I'm feeling really low, you guys. I'm sure it's part exhaustion and hormones kicking in, but I feel like complete crap. I've been away because of combo dog sitting and camps. I haven't been home in almost three weeks. I've had to put up with my mother who seems to randomly hate me, horrible disrespectful brother who cares for no one but himself, my "friend" who only seems to care about what I can do for her, and, to top it off, my husband who isn't taking his new job stress well.
My husband just started a demanding software development position in which he has to frequently miss lunch and work overtime so he can prove himself to his boss. Mostly he works from home, but they usually go in one day of the week to have meetings in person and such. Since his office is in the town I'm in, we were hoping to visit the evening he was already here, as its a long drive and were trying to key the gas bill as low as we can.
The problem is that this also happens to fall on the same night of class for me, and there isn't much time we could meet. I'm trying to go for my second degree black belt, which is a huge commitment and is going to be a very difficult journey to prepare for. I should not be missing classes if I want to get there.
So there was a one hour period of time in between when we were going to go walk on the park. When he didn't answer my calls after 45 minutes of waiting, I gave up and tried to focus on preparing for class. He showed up just before class, but I couldn't skip out then. I felt terrible, and I probably should have chosen him over class, but it wasn't a fair choice to have to make either way.
I did get to see with him for a little while after class, but the great part didn't start until after I got home and spent an hour looking for my phone that had been swallowed by my parents' crummy recliner.

I made the mistake of asking that he let me know if he wasn't going to be able to make it next time. Apparently I'm selfish and inconsiderate. He has to work to provide for us so we can have a house someday and he's gotta work his butt off to prove himself. There was absolutely no way he could text or call or email me to let me know he was going to stand me up, because work is just that demanding and busy and something about a meeting I don't remember.
I was just trying to make him understand that I was hurt and lonely but he crushed me. Later on when he calmed down he realized that I was probably upset and kept trying to get me to tell him what was wrong. I can't believe he would do that and expect me to confide in him. I just tried to do that and he shut me down. I feel like I can't trust him, and that makes me feel more horrible than I've ever felt before.
I could tell he still thought he was completely justified. Sure, maybe he really couldn't take a minute from working on their project, but attacking me over it was an inappropriate response. I wouldn't have minded so much of he'd just explained what had happened. He even apologised that I got upset, not because he'd yelled at me about something that shouldn't even be a big deal. He even put the blame on me when trying to apologise, or rather, trying to make me stop whining.
People who love each other don't talk that way.

I don't have anyone I can talk to. I'm really lost and feel unloved. I wish I could trust him, but how can I when I have to be afraid that he'll explode on me again? This sort of things happened before. I can't bring myself to yell back at him like he probably deserves, especially since what he says has a grain of truth to it.

Sorry for the long post, guys. I just need to tell someone who might care. I seem to be lacking people like that in my life right now.

[Echinacea]

*hugs* May I recommend a nice hot bubble bath? And chocolate. Like you say, it may well be a bunch of environmental things ganging up on you all at once, but it can still make you crazy! Hang in there!

[Mermaid Tasia]

I know what you mean! I have had that issue before. A guy thinks you have SO much in common (you don't) and thinks you should leave your current boyfriend for him, especially when he has nothing to offer. I am not necessarily talking money (But I will choose a guy who can pay his own bills over one who can't any day), but I am talking intelligent conversations, similarities in thinking (one who thinks the world is out to get him because he refuses to get off his butt as opposed to a guy who KNOWS you have to work for the things you want) and at least SOME semblance of adulthood. (Sitting around smoking pot vs getting a job and actually TRYING to make something of their life. That also goes for the people like my ex who wear a military uniform just to get attention and think they have PTSD from BCT and then act like they are a veteran (even trying to get a veteran license plate) when they hadn't even been out of basic for one year, never been out of the country, or even on a separate coast.

I am happy for my boyfriend. He lets me do what I want (with my mermaid tail, for example) and just asks for me to be safe (since I do a lot by myself, he is working in a different state at the moment) and has even said if I want to go to the beach while he is visiting he would even carry me to the water. That is awesome stuff. Also, when I move after school (we will be living together) he even said I could use part of the garage for doing my own tail if I want. (This is a big thing since he is a mechanic and will need the garage.) I am a lucky mer :)

[Dacora]

I am so disappointed in my Mom and Dad. They decided to get a divorce and that's fine by me. Honestly I never saw it working between them and the only reason my mom and step-dad got married was to support 2 year old me. But they are acting like children about it. My mom is already seeing another man (married on top of that) and they have not even started the divorce. She got home at 1:30 AM. And my Dad closed out all the credit cards and bank accounts so mom cant get any money to pay for bills or for gas to pick up my brother. To top it off the guy my mom is seeing is giving her money for gas and he wants me to like him and wants me to hang out with them. So I was nice. I went with my mom and brother one night and hung out with him, his wife and kids. He kept telling my 13 year old brother dirty things. When I confronted him he just made fun of it. Then he kept pestering me about my stomach issues and kept offering me food. I told him no thanks, ill eat when I get home.

I told my mom about it and she said he can be nagging about it and she didnt like him saying that to my brother either and I should confront him about it. I dont even want to see him again. I dont mind that she will see other men, it bothers me that she is still married.
I have tried talking to them both but its like they dont even give a fuck about anything other than petty arguments.
It doesn't help that my Aunt has been gossiping about it and telling lies about my mom.

The only escape I have to all of this is to go to my boyfriends house and I cant even go there since the guy my mom is seeing wife wont take care of her daughters hair and got lice. Then came over and gave it to me because the wife is a lazy fuck who don't give a shit to even brush the poor kids hair and see that she has fucking lice!
Idk what to do. I feel like im the only one thats actually worried about my brothers future. Every one else is too worried about making drama.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Hate it when someone always thinks that they're right all the time. Seriously.

[Mermaid Marius]

I flippin' hate when my mother tries to tell me what I can and can't do in college. My decisions are no longer her decisions once I'm past 18! It's my life now! Your opinions and advice are welcome, but you can't tell me what to do anymore!

[Lyretail]

I hate everything~ c:
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[SeaGlass Siren]

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[Mermaid Lilium]

2 of the kittens I'll be able to visit since my friend is going to take them. But the other kitten I won't be able to visit, and I don't know about the adults. I haven't been able to find a home for them yet. I hope I can find them a good home. I worry about my babies. I don't want them going to the pound cause I know there's a slim chance they'll be adopted because of their ages. 2 are around a year and a half ish old, and my momma kitty is about 6 or 7. I've had her since she was a kitten. I might be able to keep her if I can keep her inside only.

If you haven't managed to rehome them, try the humane society or at least make sure that it's a no-kill shelter. The one where my american mom (in-law) lives, they foster them in homes and show some in the thrift store for permanent rehoming. If I were nearby I'd foster them for you but sadly I'm an ocean away =( wish I could do more to help!

[Mermaid Varshana]

So, my husband's known about this trip to Florida for months. He's known it was going to be immediately before or immediately after August 11th. His mom couldn't do it? That's a shame, but that's okay, we can manage. Now he wants to further put it off because of school and work? What the hell - WE'VE BEEN PLANNING THIS FOR OVER 3 MONTHS, DUDE. No, I'm not going to put alll our eggs in one basket for the trip we as a family were planning for December. First this trip was supposed to be Europe over Spring Break. Then it got moved to summer. I was okay with that. Then it became a trip to Florida and Disney/Sea World. I was okay with that. Then it became a short trip to the beach and several attractions in the area. Fine, as long as I see the ocean and play in it. Then his mom had to drop out. That sucks...okay, maybe this can be a short honeymoon, since we put that off too. You can't come either? Well...I hate doing this, but can I just go for part of the week instead before I go back to school? No, because you want to go too - but you can't? Why should I be stuck in Akron if I have few obligations that can't wait a few days? I'm tired of having to live vicariously through my writing world. Can't I have a break since I can afford it with the money that I earned by submitting my body to experimental medicine?Thing is, our finances in December are ALWAYYYYSSSSS FUCCCCKKKKEDDDD beyond recognition. The only way we'd go in December is if his mom takes us. I suppose we could take some of my whoreout-to-Big-Pharma money and set it aside, but I just don't trust that SOMETHING isn't going to happen between now and then that would suck that money away. And to be honest, it's way easier to convince family to loan us money in an emergency than for enjoyment. I want him to come along? But DAMMIT I'm so, so done with putting my life on hold for no good reason. I have no major pressing obligations that can't wait a few days while I'm away. Life is too temporary.

[Merman Arion]

So, my husband's known about this trip to Florida for months. He's known it was going to be immediately before or immediately after August 11th. His mom couldn't do it? That's a shame, but that's okay, we can manage. Now he wants to further put it off because of school and work? What the hell - WE'VE BEEN PLANNING THIS FOR OVER 3 MONTHS, DUDE. No, I'm not going to put alll our eggs in one basket for the trip we as a family were planning for December. First this trip was supposed to be Europe over Spring Break. Then it got moved to summer. I was okay with that. Then it became a trip to Florida and Disney/Sea World. I was okay with that. Then it became a short trip to the beach and several attractions in the area. Fine, as long as I see the ocean and play in it. Then his mom had to drop out. That sucks...okay, maybe this can be a short honeymoon, since we put that off too. You can't come either? Well...I hate doing this, but can I just go for part of the week instead before I go back to school? No, because you want to go too - but you can't? Why should I be stuck in Akron if I have few obligations that can't wait a few days? I'm tired of having to live vicariously through my writing world. Can't I have a break since I can afford it with the money that I earned by submitting my body to experimental medicine?Thing is, our finances in December are ALWAYYYYSSSSS FUCCCCKKKKEDDDD beyond recognition. The only way we'd go in December is if his mom takes us. I suppose we could take some of my whoreout-to-Big-Pharma money and set it aside, but I just don't trust that SOMETHING isn't going to happen between now and then that would suck that money away. And to be honest, it's way easier to convince family to loan us money in an emergency than for enjoyment. I want him to come along? But DAMMIT I'm so, so done with putting my life on hold for no good reason. I have no major pressing obligations that can't wait a few days while I'm away. Life is too temporary.

something to make you smile ;)

When Mermaid Varshana's husband change plans the first time :

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The second time :

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The fifth time :

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The sixth time :

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What may happen next :

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[Mermaid Tula]

Thanks for the info Kat, I did look in to the humane society. the closest no kill shelter is about 4 hours away. Luckily, I had a few friends who were really helpful and took in my girls. 1 is here in town, the other is less than half an hour away.

[Mermaid Varshana]

Maybe I'm missing something. Maybe I'm too autistic to understand this. But why is a person's impulse upon being hurt, to hurt someone else like they were? I've heard two people say this, and I can't wrap my mind around it. Like...if you were abused, wouldn't you never want anyone to feel that way because it sucked so much for you? Because you'd want to make sure that that type of abuse never happened to anyone else? When i was young, i was abused terribly, but I guess I don't get it still :/

[AniaR]

Maybe I'm missing something. Maybe I'm too autistic to understand this. But why is a person's impulse upon being hurt, to hurt someone else like they were? I've heard two people say this, and I can't wrap my mind around it. Like...if you were abused, wouldn't you never want anyone to feel that way because it sucked so much for you? Because you'd want to make sure that that type of abuse never happened to anyone else? When i was young, i was abused terribly, but I guess I don't get it still :/

Sometimes they do it knowingly, sometimes they do it without realizing it. When they do it knowingly they may justify it with bizarre reasons in their head, or they don't feel the person they're hurting is taking their own hurt seriously, so they need to show them what it feels like. When they do it without knowing, it's likely because no one has ever put boundaries down with them, and insisted on them being followed. (sometimes people will put boundaries down, but get scared by the person's reactions. An unstable person will always freak out at boundaries) And there's a very high chance they've been surrounded by people who enable their poor behaviour directly or indirectly.

In both cases, hard consistent boundaries are what work, and when they don't, you get the hell out of the relationship even if they're family. If you determine the person likely has a personality disorder, there are loads of books for coping with them in your life. My mother has borderline personality disorder and was abusive my whole life. As an adult I read books about bpd and tried the techniques in them. For some people, it's worth it to have some or all contact with the person, but it became clear after some reading, therapy, and work, that my mother was one of the more extreme BPDs and very dangerous, so I stopped speaking and seeing her 4 years ago. It changed my life in the best possible way.

[Mermaid Varshana]

I have a borderline person kind of in my life, but I keep her way on the outskirts. I purged a narcissist about a year ago. I think these particular two are more the types that never put boundaries down with other people, so they've conflated having no backbone with being nice and being an asshole with being assertive.

[Mizuko]

I've had it. I've had enough.
My older sister has bullied me throughout most of my life. I cannot remember her ever saying anything nice about me- its always negative. I've been out of home now for 7 years- not even in the same city as her anymore- but she still finds things to contact me to complain about. Its gotten to the point where I think she is genuinely SEARCHING for something I've done which she doesn't like. Dont even get me started on what she thinks of my mermaiding!
All I can remember from her is being called fat, ugly, crazy, stupid, adopted, annoying... throughout most of my life. It hurt more because it wasn't just some random peer or kid at school: it was my big sister. I loved her.
Now, here we are, I am 24 years old and she is 26 and about to get married. Within the first few days of her engagement she told me that 'this was her time' and that between then and her wedding I 'wasn't a loud' to have anything special happen. Yep. Her exact words. I let if slide because, well, I wasn't planing on doing anything special.
But two days ago, herself and my mother were in town trying to find her some shoes for her wedding. I suck it up to go see them- I get along really well with my parents, so seeing mum was the only reason I went. I told myself that it would be ok, its just a few hours, I can handle a few hours with my sister.
Boy was I wrong.
I cant understand how she can sit there and tell me that I'm doing everything wrong, that I should think of her and my parents more often (what the heck? I get along better with my parents than she does!) as if she knows exactly how I should live my life.
I was so angry. I asked her to stop, to change the subject, to try and calm myself down so that I could be civil. But she wouldn't stop. So I got up and left the resturant (yep, she quite happily does this in public- smiles the whole time like she's doing nothing wrong) shaking with anger and betrayal.
I guess, I've opened myself up to being hurt by her too often. I tell myself every time that its going to be different. But it never is. She will never change.
So I give up. I'm not going to try with her anymore. It will break my families heart, but what else can I do? Continue to be belittled and bullied for the rest of my life? Nobody stands up for me.

[Anahita]

Oh, Mizuko, I'm sorry to hear that. :( My partner's older sister is that type of person, too, and she does the same thing to him that it sounds like your sister does to you. It's never easy to have to just give up on a family relationship, especially a sister, but that's pretty messed up that she still acts the same mean way towards you that she did when she was a child. Like, it's wrong when you're a child anyhow, but it's even more so when she's a full grown adult getting married! Jeez, I've heard of bridezillas, but to tell your own sister she "wasn't a loud' to have anything special happen."... ​:(

[MermaidHyli]

Ive dealt with the same thing my entire life from my older brother. He's my only sibiling so I'm the baby. We're 9 years apart and he never misses a chance to "throw me under the bus" he was physically a bully when we were younger but moved out of the house when I was 12 it was nice till he would come for visits. Now he finds any and every way to insult me condemn me and sabotage my marriage. He can do it right in front of my mom and when I finally for the first time stood up for myself she said stop talking and my husband said nothing. It sucks being bullied and abused by a sibiling its better to just cut the ties and see them as less as possible. I'm really sorry this is also happening to you. I dont have a sister but I can only imagine its similar. :( I hope you are able to settle your dispute within yourself. Be the bigger person and just accept that they are that way and than distance yourself. Sometimes its just better that way.

[Mermaid-Rose]

I've had it. I've had enough.
My older sister has bullied me throughout most of my life. I cannot remember her ever saying anything nice about me- its always negative. I've been out of home now for 7 years- not even in the same city as her anymore- but she still finds things to contact me to complain about. Its gotten to the point where I think she is genuinely SEARCHING for something I've done which she doesn't like. Dont even get me started on what she thinks of my mermaiding!
All I can remember from her is being called fat, ugly, crazy, stupid, adopted, annoying... throughout most of my life. It hurt more because it wasn't just some random peer or kid at school: it was my big sister. I loved her.
Now, here we are, I am 24 years old and she is 26 and about to get married. Within the first few days of her engagement she told me that 'this was her time' and that between then and her wedding I 'wasn't a loud' to have anything special happen. Yep. Her exact words. I let if slide because, well, I wasn't planing on doing anything special.
But two days ago, herself and my mother were in town trying to find her some shoes for her wedding. I suck it up to go see them- I get along really well with my parents, so seeing mum was the only reason I went. I told myself that it would be ok, its just a few hours, I can handle a few hours with my sister.
Boy was I wrong.
I cant understand how she can sit there and tell me that I'm doing everything wrong, that I should think of her and my parents more often (what the heck? I get along better with my parents than she does!) as if she knows exactly how I should live my life.
I was so angry. I asked her to stop, to change the subject, to try and calm myself down so that I could be civil. But she wouldn't stop. So I got up and left the resturant (yep, she quite happily does this in public- smiles the whole time like she's doing nothing wrong) shaking with anger and betrayal.
I guess, I've opened myself up to being hurt by her too often. I tell myself every time that its going to be different. But it never is. She will never change.
So I give up. I'm not going to try with her anymore. It will break my families heart, but what else can I do? Continue to be belittled and bullied for the rest of my life? Nobody stands up for me.

Can I send this to your sister?:

[PearlieMae]

Can I send this to your sister?:

:::snicker:::

[Alveric]

Not aloud to have anything special happen?

Just to screw with her head, I'd be tempted to get pregnant if I were you. (I know bad reason to get pregnant, but I'd still be tempted. :mad:)

[Mizuko]

Thanks everyone <3
I spoke to my parents about it all. I told them how I felt and why I was going to cut ties with her. And they were... surprisingly understanding. More so than I would've thought (I was expecting them to be like "but she's your sister!!"). I feel a lot lighter- I dont have to bother with her anymore. I dont even want to go to the wedding now, but because its overseas and my tickets already paid for, I kinda have to... At least I'll be sharing a room with my parents, and its in Thailand so I'll suck up any abuse from her just to go swimming on the reefs!!! lol!!
I wish it was different, but this is the only option I can see where I wont be hurt anymore.

[Anahita]

Aw, Mizuko **hugs** Alternatively, you can just skip the wedding ceremony, go swimming in your tail, and then show up at the reception in said tail and eat all the wedding cake :) If you're quiet, technically you're not "aloud" so technically you're not breaking her psychotic guidelines. :D

(Do Western weddings even work that way? I'm never 100% sure because the movies confuse me... But what's a wedding without food afterwards? That's why everyone goes - or maybe I'm too Persian and can't distinguish get-togethers with being fed. ;) Also, maybe disregard my advice on showing up in the tail... that's just me being a meanie again... although honestly, I do think that'd be awesome payback for someone who has been so wicked for so long... )

[Mizuko]

haha, I am totally taking my tail. I might not show up at the wedding in it, but I'm sure as hell going to go swimming in it! I dont care what she thinks/says! I've paid for the trip, I might as well do something I love while I'm there :D

[Anahita]

Exactly!

[Merman Arion]

I've had it. I've had enough.
My older sister has bullied me throughout most of my life. I cannot remember her ever saying anything nice about me- its always negative. I've been out of home now for 7 years- not even in the same city as her anymore- but she still finds things to contact me to complain about. Its gotten to the point where I think she is genuinely SEARCHING for something I've done which she doesn't like. Dont even get me started on what she thinks of my mermaiding!
All I can remember from her is being called fat, ugly, crazy, stupid, adopted, annoying... throughout most of my life. It hurt more because it wasn't just some random peer or kid at school: it was my big sister. I loved her.
Now, here we are, I am 24 years old and she is 26 and about to get married. Within the first few days of her engagement she told me that 'this was her time' and that between then and her wedding I 'wasn't a loud' to have anything special happen. Yep. Her exact words. I let if slide because, well, I wasn't planing on doing anything special.
But two days ago, herself and my mother were in town trying to find her some shoes for her wedding. I suck it up to go see them- I get along really well with my parents, so seeing mum was the only reason I went. I told myself that it would be ok, its just a few hours, I can handle a few hours with my sister.
Boy was I wrong.
I cant understand how she can sit there and tell me that I'm doing everything wrong, that I should think of her and my parents more often (what the heck? I get along better with my parents than she does!) as if she knows exactly how I should live my life.
I was so angry. I asked her to stop, to change the subject, to try and calm myself down so that I could be civil. But she wouldn't stop. So I got up and left the resturant (yep, she quite happily does this in public- smiles the whole time like she's doing nothing wrong) shaking with anger and betrayal.
I guess, I've opened myself up to being hurt by her too often. I tell myself every time that its going to be different. But it never is. She will never change.
So I give up. I'm not going to try with her anymore. It will break my families heart, but what else can I do? Continue to be belittled and bullied for the rest of my life? Nobody stands up for me.

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[Merman Arion]

Thanks everyone <3
I spoke to my parents about it all. I told them how I felt and why I was going to cut ties with her. And they were... surprisingly understanding. More so than I would've thought (I was expecting them to be like "but she's your sister!!"). I feel a lot lighter- I dont have to bother with her anymore. I dont even want to go to the wedding now, but because its overseas and my tickets already paid for, I kinda have to... At least I'll be sharing a room with my parents, and its in Thailand so I'll suck up any abuse from her just to go swimming on the reefs!!! lol!!
I wish it was different, but this is the only option I can see where I wont be hurt anymore.


haha, I am totally taking my tail. I might not show up at the wedding in it, but I'm sure as hell going to go swimming in it! I dont care what she thinks/says! I've paid for the trip, I might as well do something I love while I'm there :D

That's the spirit!
Mizuko, you are a wonderful girl, never doubt about your value. NEVER. We all love you :hug:

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[Merman Dan]

although honestly, I do think that'd be awesome payback for someone who has been so wicked for so long...

Oh, I would think raising one's hand when the "If anyone objects to this marriage, let them speak now or forever hold their peace..." part rolls around might also be amusing. ;)

[Merman Arion]

Oh, I would think raising one's hand when the "If anyone objects to this marriage, let them speak now or forever hold their peace..." part rolls around might also be amusing. ;)

"Someone" is gonna be pretty pissed afterwards :lol:

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[Elle]

haha, I am totally taking my tail. I might not show up at the wedding in it, but I'm sure as hell going to go swimming in it! I dont care what she thinks/says! I've paid for the trip, I might as well do something I love while I'm there :D

Good for you!!! I'd go to the wedding, sit in the back and as soon as it's over leave for the beach and go for a swim. At least with all the crap going on you'll still have a good memory of the day. And on a positive note, you mermaiding hobby may just put a dampener on her day! I think she'd deserve it!

[Mermaid Octavia]

Goodness, on behalf of decent older siblings, I apologize, Mizuko. :/ Siblings can be a pain sometimes but they're family. You should treat them as you would like to be treated.

I have problems with my younger sister, who likes to bully me. She used to be physically abusive but I felt I couldn't fight back because she's smaller than me, younger than me, any excuse you could find. After she started hitting me in the head with shoes while I was sleeping, I laid into her and now she's not physically abusive anymore. She's got some issues but thankfully, our relationship is better now than it used to me.

I used to blame myself for her bad behavior but I got over that. >_> Her bullshark is her bullshark!

[Miyu]

Mizuko, that sucks. You are awesome! I'm glad your parents are ok with you distancing yourself from her. But by golly, you have fun swimming in Thailand, and pretty please bring us back some video/pics! If she's too mean while you're there, I would totally just ditch the wedding and go swimming, and maybe show up for cake at some point in the reception if you feel like it LOL!

Varshana - Really, sister, I totally know the feels. ((HUGS)) Uber suckage. No bueno. I pretty much agree with Frenchie's gif-laden reply. I can't explain why people feel the need to hurt others; I get hurt by almost everyone who's been in my life on a regular basis, and I've never been able to figure out why... I guess I'm a push-over? So I am of no help there, sadly. I can offer a sympathetic ear, though.

Frenchie: You and the gifs :P
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[Anahita]

I have problems with my younger sister, who likes to bully me. She used to be physically abusive but I felt I couldn't fight back because she's smaller than me, younger than me, any excuse you could find. After she started hitting me in the head with shoes while I was sleeping, I laid into her and now she's not physically abusive anymore. She's got some issues but thankfully, our relationship is better now than it used to me.


My little sister used to be like that too. I think come high school for me I just got so pissed I lost my cool and punched her as hard as I could (I figured at that point I was only 14 years old and sickly, while she was ten or eleven and pretty healthy, so the playing field was even by my count). After the little squabble that ensued all serious physical fights came to an end. I got a busted lip and a few chunks of hair pulled out and she got a chunk of cheek scratched out. I honestly would have done it sooner if it weren't for the fact that my mother let her do it because I "did something to deserve it". :P

Thankfully now that she's an adult, she just thinks she's smarter/cleverer than me... So we'll see how that goes. I'm not laying in wait to laugh at her, but I am definitely going to tell her "I told you I knew better than you" when sh*t hits the fan. (Which it kind of already is since she's living in her car with her boyfriend that's 15 years older than her and refuses to get a job).

[Merman Dan]

I am the youngest of three brothers and endured my fair share of abuse from my brothers, in my youth.

I am patiently waiting for the day when they are in nursing homes. Then I shall put unripe persimmons in their tapioca pudding and order will be restored.

[Mizuko]

Thank you so much everyone <3 I really really appreciate it. I feel like I dont talk about the carp she puts me through, so its nice to be able to tell someone :3
What makes me sad, is how common this bullying within families is. Like, its NOT ok, no matter how they are related to you, but people seem to turn a blind eye toward it? I have friends who dont take me seriously because my sister is 'nice' to them. When I'm a parent, I'm sure as heck going to pay close attention to how my children treat eachother!!

[mermaidwhisperer]

ohmigosh I had to giggle at *carp* being that this is an ocean inclined site. I know. My sense of humour is a bit *fishy*

[Ariel-Starfish]

AAARGHHH!!! Now I just had it!! Here goes: Doday I went for a swim in my local pool, and after doing my usual laps I tried to ask the lifeguard if i could bring my tail with me next time.
He was really impressed and I told him how it looked like and how I swim etc etc. He told me I could try It sometime ONLY when there where not much people in the pool for safety. My mom stood there beside me with a face like 'omg here she goes again. ( She already tried to stop me from asking this, my parents won't let me use my tail in public places).

And later on, after dinner whe came back to subject and told my dad.

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

[Mermaid Varshana]

I have Aspergers too. It took a lot of resourcefulness and courage, but I moved out at the age of 25. I'll tell you...I can't even imagine moving back in again. It makes your relationship with your parents a lot less stressful, and you life all around improves.

[ShyMer]

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

They doesn't sound very supportive of things you care about :/

Do you have any friends that would be willing to help you? I think it would make the lifeguards feel better about you using the pool in your tail if you and the people with you are confidant about the whole situation.
This might help your parents see that you mean business and it's nothing to be embarrassed or concerned about as well.

That's awesome that you found a pool with a deep area to use your tail in. I bet they'll love you!
I'm looking forward to doing some serious swimming myself this weekend at a few lakes nearby. Super excited! The water's gross, but there shouldn't be as many people, so I'm looking forward to stretching my fins. Up until now I've had to paddle around in tiny backyard pools. I feel extra sympathy for fish in tiny containers :(

[Mermaid_Dominique]

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

I know how you feel, my parents divorced about 4/5 years ago and I live with my mother now. We are very close but she really isn't into mermaiding stuff and all that. I tried to warm her up a bit because I'm making a silicone mermaid tail at my boyfriends' house and I would love her to know about it and support me. I told her about the community and stuff and she wasn't really interested and found it all a bit strange. I decided not to tell her about it, or any other relatives because I know they would never approve, they're a bit old fashioned. I'm really irritated about it because it feels like they don't accept a part of me that I finally embraced after all these years. :/

[SeaGlass Siren]

I am the youngest of three brothers and endured my fair share of abuse from my brothers, in my youth.

I am patiently waiting for the day when they are in nursing homes. Then I shall put unripe persimmons in their tapioca pudding and order will be restored.

I must remember this method

[Ariel-Starfish]

I know how you feel, my parents divorced about 4/5 years ago and I live with my mother now. We are very close but she really isn't into mermaiding stuff and all that. I tried to warm her up a bit because I'm making a silicone mermaid tail at my boyfriends' house and I would love her to know about it and support me. I told her about the community and stuff and she wasn't really interested and found it all a bit strange. I decided not to tell her about it, or any other relatives because I know they would never approve, they're a bit old fashioned. I'm really irritated about it because it feels like they don't accept a part of me that I finally embraced after all these years. :/


Thanks for all the replays everyone! <3

my parents know I love my hobby, but they always think I go 'to far' with these things... They always have been very supportive for me and I'm thankful for that! But on the other hand they never let me go get a challange or how do you call it? I just think it's my weird combo of having Autism and really bad eyes...

[Mermaid_Dominique]

Thanks for all the replays everyone! <3

my parents know I love my hobby, but they always think I go 'to far' with these things... They always have been very supportive for me and I'm thankful for that! But on the other hand they never let me go get a challange or how do you call it? I just think it's my weird combo of having Autism and really bad eyes...

Could be possible, I have a sister with autism :) and my mother was/is always very protective of her. I can imagine how it must be for you. It's wonderful that they are very supportive, I think it's a big step for them to let go because parents always want the best for their child, no matter how old he or she is haha :D.

[Elle]

On Wednesday we got a call from the hospital telling us that my fiancée's second youngest brother has been in a motorcycle accident. So obviously we all went down to the hospital that he was in to go see him. He had broken his leg in two place and fractured his pelvis. He also sustained a head injury and was concussed.
We got down there just after lunch and went in to see him. Kyle (fiancée) stepped out to make a phone call while I was talking to his brother. When Kyle came back his mother was with him, sporting a black eye with her pupils the size of dinner plates, and the first words out of her mouth her "You need to get out of here, this is for family only. You aren't a part of this family, you need to leave." I said fine and left. Kyle followed not before telling the security guard on duty to keep and eye on his mother because she's being a bit un reasonable. She also tried to stop Kyle's Son from coming with us, and caused him a bit of pain, that wasn't much fun
I told Kyle if this is how she's going to act, I don't want her coming to the wedding. Kyle agreed with me.
So I was sitting in the waiting room looking at photos and videos on my mobile with my stepson when dearest mother in law came out. She said sorry but "it's for family only so people who aren't family shouldn't be in there" while she was trying to get my partners son off the seat to take him back in to the emergency room. I told her I didn't care there where better ways to go about it rather than being that rude. That must have triggered something as she went off her nut, telling me I shouldn't be posting horrible things about her on my facebook, or texting her nasty things (which I think is interesting as she's not on my facebook and have never posted anything about her on it, I don't have her mobile number and I don't have any money on my phone.)
I asked to see the texts that I had supposedly sent her and she was unable to show me anything. She went to say that I "didn't have a son", and that "I didn't have a son in hospital". Now I know that Kyle's son isn't my son, but seeing as I have been that person in his life since he was 18 months old (he's almost 6 and a half now), he calls me mum, and I have had to go to hospital with him before so I was pissed, I wanted to hit her. But I restrained myself, told her to stop talking to me, to get out of my face and I turned around and refused to face her. At this point I was called a rude bitch, along with a 100kg Fat Heifer and how dare I turn my back on her. Now I know I'm a bigger girl, but I'm not 100kg (220lb) I'm more like 80kg (176lb) She then decided it would be a good idea to threaten my physical safety and my life stating "I'll get you bashed, they turn you upside down and inside out" "You won't be around anymore after this". I concentrated on shielding my step son so he didn't have to see her carry on like this, while a security guard that had been sent to follow her asked her if she like to step into a quiet room. Kyle was trying to move my mother in law away from me (with her screaming "don't you touch me") and I picked up my step son up and moved away as he was close to crying with his hands over his ears.

Kyle and I walked out of the hospital, while I was still carrying my step son and went around the corner to sit down and relax. He was so concerned about his Nana following us that he kept looking down the street to make sure she wasn't there.
We had to wait 2 hours before she left so that we could go back to the hospital. In that time my mother in law sent Kyle numerous texts defending herself, saying I was in the wrong and how dare I waltz in uninvited on a family situation.
Kyle and I both decided (again) that it would be best if she didn't come to the wedding (less than 2 months away now). Neither of us wanted her there after that performance. So now we're at the point of uninviting her to the wedding. What fun for us

[Mermaid Varshana]

Crazy people are awesome, no? I also had the unfortunate job of uninviting a rude crazy person who was close to us from our wedding. You made the right decision. It won't be pleasant and there will be lots of dumb posturing, but then you'll have a better, less drama filled wedding because of it.

[AniaR]

Elle, she sounds like a typical borderline personality disorder mom. I have one, and they are so much more common than people realize. This is a great forum for people who have someone with BPD in their life, but even if she doesn't have BPD (most are undiagnosed) the forum acts for people who show symptoms, which she certainly does. So check it out http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/ Check out this specific area, I bet you if you read some posts, they'll start ringing a bell ;) http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?PHPSESSID=c994e8c8b217191ef49b8824f4f815 f9&board=11.0 could give you great pointers. If you think this really applies to her I have awesome books for you! <3

[Miyu]

Hey, at least there will be no drama at the wedding! (everyone, ignore your phones! :p) Good for you for making that decision. I know it's hard, but seriously that lady sounds pretty messed up, and it's just not good to be around that kind of stuff. ((HUGS))

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Ok... I am really ticked off now, so I have to vent.

You know what?

In the time I took writing a thorough discussion and argument proving my points above and explaining my thought process on the mermaid tarot thread, I could've written a whole chapter of a book, another article, or fill in about a dozen of the cards and archetypes... and all some people can come up with is an eloquently worded "nuh-uh!"? I'm insulted.

Too bad. There are at least three mermaid oracle decks out there. They can go buy one of them.

[New York Mermaid]

Stupid Thyroid!! I'm sick of this- I cant catch a break here, I train hard, walking/running miles, swimming or good ole' cardio for 1 -2 hours daily, I eat portioned high fiber meals and stay away from Starches and other fatty things. i drink lots of water and i gained 10 lbs in 2 months!!.:mad:

This is unacceptable, I'm trying to loose weight, I go to the docs today I get my thyroids checked (ugh needles :/ ) and once again they are acting up. I'm <---> this close to get them removed, but that results in taking a pill for the rest of my life. im about ready to put myself on a rice cake and soup diet.. cheese, this month keeps getting better and better :headdesk:

[Mermaid Momo]

Ok... I am really ticked off now, so I have to vent.

You know what?

In the time I took writing a thorough discussion and argument proving my points above and explaining my thought process on the mermaid tarot thread, I could've written a whole chapter of a book, another article, or fill in about a dozen of the cards and archetypes... and all some people can come up with is an eloquently worded "nuh-uh!"? I'm insulted.

Too bad. There are at least three mermaid oracle decks out there. They can go buy one of them.
I'm sorry you feel that way :( I really hope you continue with the tarot though, I really like where it was going!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Joy&raptors if it's about who I think you're referring to, I think you have every right to be upset.

[Miyu]

New York Mermaid: aww that stinks. Thyroids can be a b!tc#... The only thing I can say is I was in my best shape when a made fresh veggie/fruit juice (secondhand juicers are cheap) and smoothies every day... Otherwise it's a battle with my weight for me as well :/ ((HUGS)) And pills suck >.<

Raptor: I agree. There are other more "traditional" mermaid decks out there. Every tarot artist makes their deck first and foremost for themselves. Who knows, maybe eventually there will be 10 mer-themed Tarot decks out there to choose from! I'm personally enjoying learning all this about sea deity mythology.

[New York Mermaid]

@moonlightmermaid yea it sucks I actually have a nutribullet I've been using for rasberrie and other smoothies with flax seeds. But thanks for the advice I might need to entice a shark the next time I go swimming to get me motivated

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Thanks SeaGlass Siren and Moonlight Mermaid. I probably shouldn't have said anything on here (or even responded to them the first time), but I think sharing knowledge and ideas can be really fun.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

And New York Mermaid, I'll pray that you feel much better ASAP :(

[deepblue]

I've had it. I've had enough.

I just wanted to say how sorry I am you're dealing with this. I understand. I'm the middle child of three, and I've actually stopped speaking to my younger sister because she's such an emotionally, verbally abusive, horrible person to me and to my mom. The disrespect is mind-blowing, and my mom makes excuses and wants me to be the bigger person and somehow fix things. Well, I can't and won't try- I've tried. Thing is, some people are just toxic. Blood related or not, I'm done with her because she's toxic. And since she's a huge liar and manipulative and arrogant, I have no faith whatsoever that she will ever change. So I'm done with her. My mom, from guilt, constantly convinces herself that my little sister is 'getting better' but she isn't.

I let go of her, and it was liberating. I don't need her in my life and I don't want her around my child.

My entire family is so screwed up though. Years of living through various abuses and all of it culminating in a highly traumatic event... I'm the only one who got help, starting 20 years ago, so now I've bypassed them all in sanity, but because I got the diagnoses, they are all still convinced that I'm 'the' crazy one. Which is astounding... because my life isn't perfect but it's good. It's nice. I like it. Theirs? Chaos. To me, that shows who's evolving.



Raptor: I agree. There are other more "traditional" mermaid decks out there. Every tarot artist makes their deck first and foremost for themselves. Who knows, maybe eventually there will be 10 mer-themed Tarot decks out there to choose from! I'm personally enjoying learning all this about sea deity mythology.

I'm not aware of the entire story, but I agree with ^that from what I've read so far.

I used to manage an occult bookstore, and we carried every tarot deck on the market. Every. One. I can tell you, there is a market for every kind of deck. For every three super traditional decks, the market always needs and wants unique decks - and it will find its audience. It will resonate with those as unique. Some people will only ever want variations on the Rider-Waite, and that's fine for them (though there are older decks, which the RW is actually based on but that don't spell things out as clearly and so aren't as popular), but the really unique decks were always my favorite. A good example of decks which must be learned from a zero point and referring to no others are The New Orleand Voodoo Tarot and the Tarot of the Secret Forest. The artists created an entirely new set of symbolism, yet it's still truly tarot. Very, incredibly creative and cool.

Someone needs to do something new in the mermaid decks, happy if it's you, Raptor.

[New York Mermaid]

Joy&raptorsunrestrained: Thank you, I need all prayers,Good vibes and thoughts I can get.

It keeps getting worse... My dad has to have not one but two surgeries October, he's getting a pacemaker put in and also getting major back surgery. I also have to help my mom out since she lost her job. I gave her the only bit of money I had to at least buy her some food for the week. I don't know what to say or do any more I cant catch a break. I just want to swim into a cave and not come out until it all gets better.:(

[Thalassa]

Okay, I've gone back and forth about posting this because there are so many ways for it to look wrong.

I'm tired of fighting with myself! I have anxiety, and EVERY minute of every day is a fight against the negative inner dialogue. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes because I have to shake my head and tell myself to shut up about every 20 minutes because my "That was so stupid, I make no sense, they think I'm an idiot, why the heck did I do that, I just want it to stop, I'm an idiot, I really just want to die, just shut up, I'm making it worse, I've lost it again, now why did I do THAT, oh my gosh I look so stupid..." inner dialogue is relentless. Now, I'd like to say I DON'T want to die, but for some reason I catch myself thinking it when what I'm really thinking is "I'm so tired of being stressed all the time and I really really just want it to STOP." Yes, I have a therapist. And I'd better post this quick, here, or I'll convince myself that it'll make me look weak and stupid in front of y'all and it's better off not said.

At the moment, the inner me is saying, "You're such an attention hog, they'll think you're just trying to get attention, what kind of person posts about mental issues on the internet, you look so crazy and desperate, they won't think you're cool, there are people with REAL problems here, why are you whining..."

Yay. I'm just finding that I don't want to face the world anymore. I sleep 10+ hours a day when I can and still find myself going to bed ASAP because I feel tired. I'll be talking with my doctor, etc. about it but I just needed an immediate outlet.

Sorry.

[Thalassa]

Joy&raptorsunrestrained: Thank you, I need all prayers,Good vibes and thoughts I can get.

It keeps getting worse... My dad has to have not one but two surgeries October, he's getting a pacemaker put in and also getting major back surgery. I also have to help my mom out since she lost her job. I gave her the only bit of money I had to at least buy her some food for the week. I don't know what to say or do any more I cant catch a break. I just want to swim into a cave and not come out until it all gets better.:(

Sending prayers and good wishes your way!

[New York Mermaid]

Sending prayers and good wishes your way!

Thanks Thalassa, Sending some your way too.

[ShyMer]

Okay, I've gone back and forth about posting this because there are so many ways for it to look wrong.

I'm tired of fighting with myself! I have anxiety, and EVERY minute of every day is a fight against the negative inner dialogue. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes because I have to shake my head and tell myself to shut up about every 20 minutes because my "That was so stupid, I make no sense, they think I'm an idiot, why the heck did I do that, I just want it to stop, I'm an idiot, I really just want to die, just shut up, I'm making it worse, I've lost it again, now why did I do THAT, oh my gosh I look so stupid..." inner dialogue is relentless. Now, I'd like to say I DON'T want to die, but for some reason I catch myself thinking it when what I'm really thinking is "I'm so tired of being stressed all the time and I really really just want it to STOP." Yes, I have a therapist. And I'd better post this quick, here, or I'll convince myself that it'll make me look weak and stupid in front of y'all and it's better off not said.

At the moment, the inner me is saying, "You're such an attention hog, they'll think you're just trying to get attention, what kind of person posts about mental issues on the internet, you look so crazy and desperate, they won't think you're cool, there are people with REAL problems here, why are you whining..."

Yay. I'm just finding that I don't want to face the world anymore. I sleep 10+ hours a day when I can and still find myself going to bed ASAP because I feel tired. I'll be talking with my doctor, etc. about it but I just needed an immediate outlet.

Sorry.

Aww you lovely dear, you. That must be extremely exhausting and confusing to have that going on in your head all the time. It's more frustrating when you don't have anyone close to you to talk to about it, or at least not without feeling like you're being foolish or attention seeking in doing so. Have you considered seeing a therapist? I guess a doctor could give you medication to help with your anxiety, but it's not gonna help resolve anything, you know?

Edit- never mind, I somehow missed that part where you said you're seeing a therapist and all. Sorry about that :/

[Miyu]

Thalassa: ((HUGS))

[Thalassa]

Thanks, friends. I appreciate the support and letting me vent. <3

[emma11]

Okay, I've gone back and forth about posting this because there are so many ways for it to look wrong.

I'm tired of fighting with myself! I have anxiety, and EVERY minute of every day is a fight against the negative inner dialogue. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes because I have to shake my head and tell myself to shut up about every 20 minutes because my "That was so stupid, I make no sense, they think I'm an idiot, why the heck did I do that, I just want it to stop, I'm an idiot, I really just want to die, just shut up, I'm making it worse, I've lost it again, now why did I do THAT, oh my gosh I look so stupid..." inner dialogue is relentless. Now, I'd like to say I DON'T want to die, but for some reason I catch myself thinking it when what I'm really thinking is "I'm so tired of being stressed all the time and I really really just want it to STOP." Yes, I have a therapist. And I'd better post this quick, here, or I'll convince myself that it'll make me look weak and stupid in front of y'all and it's better off not said.

At the moment, the inner me is saying, "You're such an attention hog, they'll think you're just trying to get attention, what kind of person posts about mental issues on the internet, you look so crazy and desperate, they won't think you're cool, there are people with REAL problems here, why are you whining..."

Yay. I'm just finding that I don't want to face the world anymore. I sleep 10+ hours a day when I can and still find myself going to bed ASAP because I feel tired. I'll be talking with my doctor, etc. about it but I just needed an immediate outlet.

Sorry.

I feel ya. <3 I went through that about 3 years ago. It was so bad I couldn't step outside my house other than to go on walks. Hours upon hours were spent walking for me, thank goodness I live out in the boonies or people would have thought I was insane wandering around the streets hysterically crying and not understanding why.

Medicine helped me, just enough to get me over the trying part in my life, and then I weaned myself off the meds. I'm not saying it's going to get 100% better, because it's not. That anxiety and nerves and terrible crap holding us back is part of who we are. Mine I imagine as a very large black beast, one that wraps itself around me at the worst moments and tries to swallow me whole. But it is NOT the end. It gets better. And we fight those monsters every day of our lives. But it gets better.

But the most important thing? YOU ARE NOT WEAK. This does not mean you are weak, or that you are less of a person than any other human on this god forsaken planet. We are all here for a reason, you as well. Weakness is a sense of being powerless, and you my dear are anything but that. Just by being able to post this is enough to show yourself that. Strength is something that comes from within, and soon you'll see that there's a well of power inside of you that you might never have seen before. <3 <3 You have people in this world who love you without ever meeting you. Don't ever forget that.

[Ariel-Starfish]

Could be possible, I have a sister with autism :) and my mother was/is always very protective of her. I can imagine how it must be for you. It's wonderful that they are very supportive, I think it's a big step for them to let go because parents always want the best for their child, no matter how old he or she is haha :D.

Yes they do ^^ <3

[Elle]

Crazy people are awesome, no? I also had the unfortunate job of uninviting a rude crazy person who was close to us from our wedding. You made the right decision. It won't be pleasant and there will be lots of dumb posturing, but then you'll have a better, less drama filled wedding because of it.


Hey, at least there will be no drama at the wedding! (everyone, ignore your phones! :p) Good for you for making that decision. I know it's hard, but seriously that lady sounds pretty messed up, and it's just not good to be around that kind of stuff. ((HUGS))

Yes! I'm looking forward to a drama-less wedding!!! I'm kinda glad in a way that it's happening now, so we don't have to worry about it later and it has been dealt with :)


Elle, she sounds like a typical borderline personality disorder mom. I have one, and they are so much more common than people realize. This is a great forum for people who have someone with BPD in their life, but even if she doesn't have BPD (most are undiagnosed) the forum acts for people who show symptoms, which she certainly does. So check it out http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/ Check out this specific area, I bet you if you read some posts, they'll start ringing a bell ;) http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?PHPSESSID=c994e8c8b217191ef49b8824f4f815 f9&board=11.0 could give you great pointers. If you think this really applies to her I have awesome books for you! <3

I did actually think about that. My step sons mother has BPD but she got diagnosed and has been seeking help (Makes everything so much easier)
The only reason I don't think this applies to my mother in law is because this change in her has occurred over the last couple of months. Though I don't know if BPD is something that just pops up one day or not. I think it may have something to do with illicit substances (she spent sometime in jail recently for possession and selling)

[Meridian Mer-Gyver]

I am not the admin of this page, it was started yesterday and I totally support and back it! If you have been burned, ripped off, or left out to dry then join this group and lets make voice a pod of voice to be heard! Ps. You can also report their page as a scam, if a company is continuing to take money from its clients and NOT delivering on any promises, then it is a SCAM and its ILLEGAL

https://www.facebook.com/phishphanny

[Phoenix Mermaid]

Ok so my grandma passed away yesterday. The entire process has been pretty terrible, and me, being the grandCHILD!, has gotten dragged into and is pretty much acting as one of her children. Helping make the hospital choices and life decision for her. She's got 7 children, and only my father has done anything to deal with any of this. Although she wasn't really on speaking/good terms with any of her other children. And I feel like my uncle is making hits at me on facebook, posting things like "not even a funeral?... hope our children do us the same way" and posting photos like "if you have to hide what you are doing from someone, then you know in your heart what you are doing is wrong."

1st of all! grandma didn't even want you to know! She doesn't like you, and as far as she was concerned you took her granddaughter away from after you dumped her on grandma when she was only a baby for about 14yrs. Then you go through CPS to get her taken way to get her back, then tell her lies about it. And from what many people in our family say your a pedophile! who molested your own sister, nieces and elderly people who can't help themselves! Some even suspected you did that to your own children! Grandma was sick with discuss from you. She was disgraced to have you as a child. And the name you go by! That's not even your God-given name, she gave you! Instead you use the name of a deceased child because your hiding! Fucking Despicable! How is anyone going to find you to notify you of grandma being sick or passing when you don't even use your real name! Whatever! Like i said she didn't want you to know anyways! The only reason you know is because I thought your daughter deserved to know because my grandma raised your daughter!

2ndly Yes there will be no funeral! Because if you had been there with her you would know that, she DID NOT WANT a funeral. All she wanted was to be with grandpa once she passed! That is ALL! Even If it means she won't get the exact type of burial she wanted. Somehow, she'll be with grandpa in the end! That's all she really wanted. SO how dare you speak on that! You could of been there when grandpa passed! Especially since grandma humbled herself and asked you to be there(not something she does often or freely, she was very stubborn and often held grudges) What did you tell her? NO! You said NO! And as far as she was concerned since you didn't want to be there for grandpa she didn't want you there for her!
You don't know what she wanted! You were never there, never lifted a finger for her! When was the last time you even saw grandma? That's right, some 16yrs ago or so... You had all that time to come visit her, but never did. The only time you spoke with her is when you called to ask her to give you money!

How DARE you speak on her funeral or anything I've done for her as a granddaughter to honor her last wishes! Because as far as i see it, I'M THE ONLY ONE DOING ANYTHING FOR HER, besides my dad, TO HONOR HER WISHES! I was there before she got sick, while she got sick, and all through her dying! I went to visit with her whenever I could. It wasn't very often but still she KNEW I at LEAST TRIED to see her whenever I could! And for what I did for her, what very little I did for her!, she was so grateful to have someone love her with her faults like I did! And for that she left me everything! And nothing to her children. Let's see you shit a brick when (and if) you find that out. You won't find out from me though... I did you a favor by letting your daughter know of your mother's passing because I knew she would let you know (it wasn't my grandma's wishes for you to know, and I'm sorry you do know but.... your daughter, she is my cousin, i grew up with her, i love her<3 ) But I will do you no more favors.
How dare you make me feel anything, because of anything you do! :anger explode:


ugh i'm sorry that was so long and terrible guys. i've been struggling for months with an unmedicated mental illness and then dealing with this the last few months. and yesterday was just the icing on the cake. i just had to say something about it to someone or somewhere because i feel like i'm going a little crazy :sad eyes:

[Phoenix Mermaid]

i feel a little better now though

[PearlieMae]

i feel a little better now though

Phoenix, I am so sorry for your loss and that you are being put though all this. Sometimes family are the absolute worst. I hope everything smooths out for you, soon. <3

[Mermaid Syrena]

Phoenix-That sounds horrible. I cannot even begin to understand, but I can certainly imagine it. Poor baby. *hugs tight* Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. You ARE doing the right thing, you have nothing to feel bad about.