B!TC# IT OUT!

[Merman Arion]

I'm sorry Amphitrite.

Here is a big hug :hug:

[Mermaid Clara]

Apparently I need to find new hobbies and activities that are "age appropriate" because "if I want friends" then I need to stop acting like a child and grow up.
Loving words of advice from my dad.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Whadda dick.

[Mermaid Clara]

Whadda dick.

I know right!


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Remind me to go give my parents and family in general for being so supportive of my interests.

I'm sorry your dad is like that. *hug*

[PearlieMae]

Apparently I need to find new hobbies and activities that are "age appropriate" because "if I want friends" then I need to stop acting like a child and grow up.
Loving words of advice from my dad.


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Your dad needs to butt the f*** out and quit trying to squash your dreams.

It's your life. Make of it what you will.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Like, right?

[SeaGlass Siren]

Bibbitybop your foot up his ass

[Mermaid Clara]

Your dad needs to butt the f*** out and quit trying to squash your dreams.

It's your life. Make of it what you will.

I'm turning 20 this year! I just want to live my life and have fun and make the best life I can ever have! But because of him I can't do anything I want, he's always putting me down telling me that I'm never going to get a boyfriend or have friends "the way your acting" and telling me I'm "extremely overweight" wtf who says that to their daughter!?!? I'm maybe 20 to 40 lbs overweight and most of it is baby fat and weight I gained was from depression and stress eating when I was in middle school and high school. I shouldn't have to explain myself to him every time I want to do something or defend my actions.
He doesn't understand that most of my friends I've met online and communicate though social networks. Well screw you too dad!


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[Mermaid Alea]

I know it hurts hearing that from a parent, I have heard the whole "you will never get a boyfriend or have friends because of ___". Just be you and you will be happy. The way you are acting you will get a boyfriend and friends because you are being yourself and people will appreciate that. I still struggle to realize that my boyfriend loves me for me. He likes how I am into stuff 'normal' people aren't into and everything.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

He really shouldn't be fat shaming you. Especially since you're not even that heavy.

People need to SUPPORT their children emotionally. Like, please.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I want to fight your dad. I'll be in Sacramento tomorrow so I can fight your dad.

[Mermaid Muir]

I keep relapsing and I hate it! I can't make it through each day without worrying if I'm going to break later. Also I can't get help because what it is will just get me ridiculed by the family, as if I don't already get it enough (for those wondering, think how a single person reduces libido) It honestly hurts me physically and mentally but it the only way to get any release at times. I feel like i can't get by without it somestimes

[Mermaid Clara]

I want to fight your dad. I'll be in Sacramento tomorrow so I can fight your dad.

Hehehe, I wish you could! I wish I would have known you'd be in Sac so we could meet up or something. I'm mostly in Rancho Cordova/Folsom areas but I have to work until 3:30 tomorrow[emoji22]


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[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm doing hockey stuff all day tomorrow anyway, but it would've been nice to meet up!

[PhaylennMurúch]

we'll do a meetup in Sac so we can swim, eat yummy food and fight Kelly's dad and whomever is on your page telling you that he says it because he loves you

[Mermaid Clara]

we'll do a meetup in Sac so we can swim, eat yummy food and fight Kelly's dad and whomever is on your page telling you that he says it because he loves you

Yep! Totally down for that, except fighting... I don't do fights.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I mean, we can fight for you.
Only reason I'm not a black belt in karate is because I got terrified of the responsibility and quit at red. I was ten, at the time, but I've kept myself in fighting trim.

[emoji14]

[Mermaid Clara]

I mean, we can fight for you.
Only reason I'm not a black belt in karate is because I got terrified of the responsibility and quit at red. I was ten, at the time, but I've kept myself in fighting trim.

[emoji14]
mkay! just don't fight my Auntie, I actually like her, y'all can go beat up my dad though, he's full of shit.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Lololol

[Mermaid Clara]

Ok so I'm starving I barely ate this morning. I went to Joanns fabric to get some fabric and was stuck in there for 45 minuets waiting to get my fabric cut then spent another 45 minuets in line to pay. So mom and I went to that hotdog place and got hotdogs for myself, her, and dad. I got two chill bacon dogs. I got home and they forgot to put ranch on them so I put ranch on one but it came out of the bottle too fast and so I just took a knife and spread it onto the other hotdog. My dad is freaking out on me for eating two chill bacon ranch dogs when he wolfs down two hotdogs with everything on them. WTF! When was the last time I let myself eat a yummy hotdog? Like almost a year ago! Here he is calling me 50+ pounds over weight and telling me that I'm unhealthy and fat.
So who wants to beat him up? I'll happily give you my address[emoji35]


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[Mermaid Mystery]

on my way to fight ur dad

[telzey.amberdon]

Ok so I'm starving I barely ate this morning. I went to Joanns fabric to get some fabric and was stuck in there for 45 minuets waiting to get my fabric cut then spent another 45 minuets in line to pay. So mom and I went to that hotdog place and got hotdogs for myself, her, and dad. I got two chill bacon dogs. I got home and they forgot to put ranch on them so I put ranch on one but it came out of the bottle too fast and so I just took a knife and spread it onto the other hotdog. My dad is freaking out on me for eating two chill bacon ranch dogs when he wolfs down two hotdogs with everything on them. WTF! When was the last time I let myself eat a yummy hotdog? Like almost a year ago! Here he is calling me 50+ pounds over weight and telling me that I'm unhealthy and fat.
So who wants to beat him up? I'll happily give you my address[emoji35]


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Come to NH, went to Joanne today, 5 min to get trim, 2 min to get cut, one minute to buy. No hot dog vendors though.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hug*


Also. I think I'm developing a dust allergy. I shelve books at a library, and lately I've been getting headachy about two hours into my shift.

I mean part of that is dealing with Dewey. But the headache seems to originate in my sinuses.

[suzanne86]

Go easy on your Dad. He loves you, and is just pulling your chain.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Go easy on your Dad. He loves you, and is just pulling your chain.

it's past that point. from past stories some of the shit he says is borderline abusive

[suzanne86]

Sabrina — I did that library gig before, too. When I blew my nose, all the dust was mixed in with my snot — gross. But I never had headaches, though. Those came from my boss, who was always on my case. Hang in there.

[PearlieMae]

Kelly, your dad sounds like an ass.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Go easy on your Dad. He loves you, and is just pulling your chain.

nothing about fat shaming is funny, nothing about food shaming is funny, nothing about verbal abuse is funny

it seems that his love has a fair few chains attached, and all around Kelly's neck

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Preach it, Phaylenn!



Sabrina — I did that library gig before, too. When I blew my nose, all the dust was mixed in with my snot — gross. But I never had headaches, though. Those came from my boss, who was always on my case. Hang in there.
Ouch. Yeah. I could just feel that the build started in my nose, you know?

[Adalira]

Sabrina, would a simple anti histamine work to help against the allergies?
I have a dust allergie myself and take a simple anti histamine pill when it gets too much, it helps me a lot.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I think it should, actually. I tend to medicate with tea after the fact, but an anti histamine would probably help.

I will do this.

[Mermaid Mystery]

nothing about fat shaming is funny, nothing about food shaming is funny, nothing about verbal abuse is funny

it seems that his love has a fair few chains attached, and all around Kelly's neck

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[Sherielle]

I found out today that a friend of mine committed suicide last night and that another friend is currently dying of cancer.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

I found out today that a friend of mine committed suicide last night and that another friend is currently dying of cancer.
There's nothing I can say to such terrible news. I am so so sorry, and I will keep all of you in my thoughts.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh gods. Sherielle...

There are no words for that.

*hugs*

[Mermaid Mystery]

I had similar news just last month. I know how shocking it is, I'm really sorry for your loss.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

Sweet and merciful Neptune...

Planks.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Okay. So, here's a lighter topic for us.

I had some major drama with a friend of mine last year. Basically, she was being her usual entitled self. I called her on it. She wondered what my deal was, I said let's talk about it over coffee. She insisted we have it out via text. I acquiesced, against my better judgement, and told her.

She decided that I was a horrible and cruel person. "If that's who you are, Kate, I feel SORRY for you" she said, and hadn't spoken to me since.

I ran what I said to her passed multiple people, who all seem to think I handled it well. The theories on why she reacted the way she did vary from her daddy issues (I called her on behaviors she has ascribed to her emotionally abusive father. She started using those tactics on me, I said so. I DIDN'T say that she was acting like him, I just listed behaviors), to the thought that she had a long standing crush on me.

She was in my study hall last semester. She dropped it to avoid me.

And I get to school today, and my English class changed from Shakespeare to Creative Writing. Surprise surprise, there she is.

So, I know she won't critique my writing fairly. But I know my style and I know people like it. I know the teacher will like it. That's not my problem.

The problem is that I will have to critique HER work. She will not take anything I say seriously. She's a decent writer, and in better days we functioned as friendly rivals. I grew a LOT from critique she gave me. But something I noticed, even then, was that SHE never grew from critique I gave her.

She's gonna just be mad at me for doing what the class requires.

And we still haven't spoken. I need to talk to her before we start criticizing each others writing. Or else the teacher is gonna just be pissed at us for general lack of maturity in our interactions.

[SeaGlass Siren]

OH school drama. how i do not miss thee.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hate it. I never get involved, either. But this time, she wrapped it up and deposited it on my doorstep.

If she has decent critique for me, I'll definitely listen to it. I always want to improve. I just wish she'd give me the same courtesy, and I know she won't.

[PearlieMae]

Hate it. I never get involved, either. But this time, she wrapped it up and deposited it on my doorstep.

If she has decent critique for me, I'll definitely listen to it. I always want to improve. I just wish she'd give me the same courtesy, and I know she won't.

Fuck her. Rise above. Give her work a critique that you would give a stranger in a writing workshop and leave it. Whether she acts like a spoiled brat or behaves like she has moved on from your shared 'drama' is on her. What do you care? She has no power over you.

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ and if she doesnt like your critique tell her she doesnt have to listen to it and do whatever she wants... so when she hands in her assignment she can fail MUAHAHAHA

[Sherielle]

There's nothing I can say to such terrible news. I am so so sorry, and I will keep all of you in my thoughts.

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Oh gods. Sherielle...

There are no words for that.

*hugs*


I had similar news just last month. I know how shocking it is, I'm really sorry for your loss.Thank you, everyone. It was quite a shock to say the least. I'm really sad for his daughter, who also lost her mother a few years back and she's in her early 20's.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Another hug for you Shrielle.

Also. She is in my Anthropology class too! We got put together as lab partners.

I noticed her hanging back after class, so I guessed she asked to be moved.

I went back after handling a few things, and indeed she did. She didn't share any details to paint me an asshole to the teacher, at least.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But yes. Clearly, she won't let the hatchet be buried, so I have to let her go. I'm fiercely loyal to my friends. To a fault. So I've just wanted to try and fix things... and. Well.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And its made worse by the fact that I know she's hurting. Her father's ego and systematic emotional abuse has completely destroyed a lot of who she is.

I just wish I could help.

[Mer-Crazy]

The Aussie dollar is so bad ATM that a tail from Pearlie would cost me $5000 ARGHHHHHHH I hate the economy.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Good morning auntie flow. This time I was prepared for your visit.

[Echidna]

I usually prepare all my food by myself (for good reason), but sometimes someone else in the family does the cooking.
Every single time, I find stuff in the meal that is at best nauseating, and at worst life-threatening.

I held up until the fourth unkempt human hair today, then I put the bowl back and said sorry, lost my appetite, and I'm again cast as the ungrateful, mean villain who does everything to give their poor family a hard time.

The time before there were small pieces of hard plastic in the food, and before then, ground glass.
No wonder I have internal bleedings so often, ffs.
And I can't count the times there were small bugs and vermin in the soup.

But everyone is thinking I'm being evil and ungrateful.
I have to get the eff away from them.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That's so awful, Echidna. How do you even get ground glass into food?

Can't really compare, but my vegetarianism puts me in a similar situation with my family. They "forget" and then I'm puking for a couple of days.

[Echidna]

I'm vegetarian too.
And no idea how they manage to put the things.
I've never lost a hair into a meal despite my hair going down to my hips.

I once said that maybe, subconsciously, they wanted to harm me, which was of course met with a big, outraged fuss.
It's just that if I don't shut myself into a room all day, chances are every time I get closer, I end up being hit, trodden on, and slashed trying to pass by from a suddenly widely swinging arm or leg.

I'm green and blue on some days literally if I'm not careful and always keeping a certain distance.

Once, my left eye was nearly gauged out because they wanted to "pet my hair" but ended up knocking off my glasses with a fist and then poking a finger in the eye instead.
How much of a klutz can you possibly be?
:cry:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow. That is really intense. And incredibly not okay!

[Mermaid Mystery]

that's terrible. when I was in treatment for my eating disorder the chef didn't wear a beard net. how the hell is that supposed to help anyone recover? I know your pain. And how does someone mess up that bad?

[Imogen Finnly]

I feel like I do think fit in here that much anymore. I might take a break.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

What's happened, Imogen?

[Hollydell]

So on december 15 my dad finally caved and purchased me a monofin for my birthday!!! yay!
the shipping said it would arrive in 2-6 buisness days. which would mean latest december 23rd. now being close to christmas i did expect it to be a little late.
on december 28th i contacted the company to inquire about where the package was. I was then told by the sales lady because it was coming to canada it would take 8-10 buisness days. being already on the 9th day i dissmissed this and went on about my day. today being january 7th i contacted the company yet again. this time i recieved a tracking number. i called up the shipping company and they sent me somewhere else who then had an answer for me. My parcel was lost or misplaced and didnt reach Canada though it was sent on the 17th. they then sent me back to the original company to file a claim on this item. they orignial company tried to resend me to the shipping company claiming they couldnt do anything. when i refused to get off the online chat the woman finally said she couldnt send a new one because they didnt have my size anymore but she would issue a full refund. now the money is back in my dads bank account and im left empty handed.

i know its not the biggest deal in the world but im still super dissapointed. like honestly why wouldn't the shipping company contact the original sellers. like they make it seem like its my fault the package got lost.

It just seems like right now everything is going downhill and when i finally see a little bit of good something else comes crashing down.
( I know this should be in with the mental illness because I feel like this from my depression) but I feel like screaming, crying, curling in a ball and waiting for this nightmare to end.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That's awful. I ordered a finfun over the holidays, and never recieved shipping confirmation. It came a day after I expected, which was a relief. But I get that anxiety. I would have been so upset if it had been more than just a misplaced email.

[PearlieMae]

Mermaid HollyDell, I understand your disappointment, but at least the money got refunded. Consider the sheet volume of packages that are nailed, one or two are bound to get misdirected or lost. My Secret Santa gift it's in limbo between New York and Canada and I sent it on December 1st!

Like I said, I understand your disappointment, but don't let it trigger your depression. You'll get a new one shortly, I'm sure. Back in my day (yes, I'm old), average wait times for something ordered through the mail was 4 to 6 weeks, minimum!

[Hollydell]

Mermaid Selkie,
I'm glad you got your tail you must be so excited!

PearlieMae,
Thank you, you made me smile! My dad got home from work and joked about owing me a new birthday gift. I've been working on the other part of the tail pretty much all day and im feeling a lot better. Thanks <3

[Mermaid Mystery]

is murder legal in Canada? I'm going to kill my family if I don't get an answer soon.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Don't think it is, Mystery.

And yeah, I was pretty excited. Now to modify it.

[Mermaid Clara]

Not really a bitch but just a sad thing I'm upset about. I woke up and turned on the tank light for my betta tanks this morning. I though he was sleeping but when I moved his tea cup he wasn't moving. No gill movement just laying there. I'm so upset I really loved House. I rescued him and his brother from teeny tiny cups for my local Pet Club. But there was no way of telling how old he was. I'm afraid of that it was the ammonia levels or something that was my fault. But the tank was completely cycled. I'll have to take it in to the pet store today to have them check it. I've never had a betta die on me so early I've only had him since November 2015.
Swim in peace House, you were a beautiful and loving betta
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[Mermaid Mystery]

Pet Club is terrible to their bettas. So glad he had a good life with you, swim in peace little buddy.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

He was so beautiful, judging by the picture. I always bought them sick myself, gave me a challenge, bringing em back to life.

That is a really short run. My condolences, Kelly.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I am seething with rage. It's our last night in the hotel and I want to go swimming. So we're waiting for the elevator and 3 of them don't go to the 14th floor. So we waited a half hour for a fucking elevator and then we get to the 14th floor. Our hotel has a gorgeous pool room so I wanted to do a mini shoot in my new tail. I get there and there's at least 20 people in this tiny pool. Everyone is staring at me. It's insanely loud and I have sort of sensitive hearing so we leave. the pool closes at 10 and it's 9 now. I want to scream.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Did you manage to get in?

[Mermaid Rillia]

I love it how I made this thread in 2012 and its been so therapeutic for people since :)

[Mermaid Rillia]

Imogen don't leave!!! I just got back :cry:

Whats going on lovely?

[Mermaid Clara]

Way to go Kelly. You finally get to hang out with your only best friend who actually cares about you and you go and fuck it up. I embarrassed my friend tonight when she was buying some lingerie for when her boyfriend move in with her tomorrow. I messed up big time after she asked me if I could ask the sale lady of they had a bigger size and I joked about how she was shy after we were talked about how it should have fit her fine. I could tell in her voice that she was super mad at me and so I just shut up for the rest of the night until I just got home now. I was silent the whole ride to my house and only talked when we got to my house and I thanked her and gave her some gas money. She probably regrets having me as a friend, I always manage to screw something up when I find a good friend. Everything was fine until she got a boyfriend and now I'm left in the dust because she cares more about him than me. I'm not trying to sound selfish but this always happens to me every time I find a good friend they always ditch me for a boy. I'm just such a screw up, I could tell she hated me on the way home by the way she kept making loud annoyed and angry sighs. I wouldn't judge her if she decides to stop talking to me and stop being my friend, I would do the same to me after what I did tonight. I shouldn't even be feeling sorry for myself or be bitching, it's my fault.


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[Mermaid Jaffa]

True friends like you for you. They don't care about all those stuff that makes other bitch and whine. They care for you with all your quirks, and accept you for who you are.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

What exactly did you do? Most of my friends would laugh if I teased then about being shy about lingerie... of course must of my friends are men, but still.

She may feel embarrassed, but I doubt you screwed it up forever and ever.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

No way, Kelly. See, that's not your fault. If her capacity for love and friendship was so thin that it could be easily shattered by an off-hand joke which was in no way intended to offend her, that's not your fault. If your friends in the past have had so little loyalty to you that they forgot about you when a boy showed up, that's not your fault. If your friends don't care as much as you clearly do because you're beating yourself up over what you said which may have hurt her feelings, that's not your fault. You just haven't found the right friends yet. And that's also not your fault. They're difficult to come by, but they'll last a lifetime and they'll be just as interested in your feelings as you are in theirs. I really hope that helps. Praying that you find good people to surround yourself with in the very near future. :)

[Mermaid Clara]

I feel like I bitch too much, but it feels so good to let it all out!
So I was hired at big retail store and I only worked once last week for maybe 4 or 5 hours. I checked my schedule yesterday and this morning and they haven't given me any hours for this coming week and the week after! Wth!!!!! I'm like freaking out. I'm so afraid that they are firing me or that I was seasonal. I never was told if I was seasonal but I was hired two weeks to a month before they hired seasonal employees for Christmas. I really don't want to go through the stress and anxiety of finding a new job again. I really hope it was a mistake. I'm really freaking out.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

what a great day to die

[Saren]

Mystery are you alright?

[Mermaid Rillia]

mystery are you okay???

[SeaGlass Siren]

Mystery whatever you do, please don't kill yourself

[Saren]

Wait...mystery please tell me your talking about Bowie....please?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Mystery??

[SeaGlass Siren]

Let's try messaging her

[Merman Arion]

Either she was talking about Bowie or she meant her. In any case, we have to get through her.

@Mystery, I hope you are okay. Don't do anything stupid.

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's been 6 hours since she was online...

[Mermaid Lilium]

Does anyone have her on Facebook or a phone number for her?

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I just sent a pm, but I dunno...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

If she was talking about Bowie, she's probably at school now (typing during passing period myself). So we might not know anything for a while.

[PearlieMae]

Her most recent instagram has a pic of Bowie, let's hope it was that.

She says: "mermaidofthelabyrinth - if any of you know me well enough you're probably concerned in the slightest. honestly you should be. this is the worst news I've ever received and honestly I'm on the edge about life. see you tomorrow hopefully"

[SeaGlass Siren]

Well she certainly lives up to her name "mystery". Tasteless Jokes aside.... I hope she responds soon

[Madison MerFaerie]

I'm her Facebook friend and she posted about Bowie 7 hours ago and nothing since...

[Madison MerFaerie]

I messaged her through Facebook. I'll post when I hear back from her.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Thanks Juliette

[Mermaid Clara]

Mystery- please don't! A lot of people are here for you to talk to, I'm here for you too. Please respond because I'm about to drive to San Fransisco and call your name throughout the streets looking for you to make sure you're still with us. Please don't kill yourself!


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[Saren]

This is insane...I'm praying she's ok

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Me too. I really hope she's okay.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I went and messaged her on FB too.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That's good.

Not sure if my PM went through MerNetwork or Tapatalk....

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm okay. I'm really shaken up though. I'm not as stupid as I was three years ago where if I heard this news I would've offed myself immediately. I haven't done anything stupid but I feel like absolute shit. Thank you guys.

[Mermaid Clara]

I'm so glad you're alright Mystery.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Thank. The. Gods.

*hug*

So glad you're alright.

[Merman Arion]

SHE CAME BACK !!! :cheerleader: :cheerleader: :cheerleader:

[Adalira]

So happy to see you are ok Mystery! :hug::hug::hug::group hug::group hug:

[SeaGlass Siren]

JesusmotherMaryJosephRegisKelly

im so happy you're ok ;-;

[Hollydell]

Mystery are you alright?
Depression is very hard to deal will alone, I understand if you don't want to open up but if you need to talk I'm here, your fellow Mers are here.

Are you shaken up about David Bowie or is it something else?


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[Mermaid Mystery]

David Bowie and Toulouse the turkey vulture. My depression is undiagnosed because I deny everything honestly, and I don't think I'll start owning up to it any time soon.

[Mermaid Rillia]

Mystery please know that we are all here for you. If you ever need to talk you can pm me or if you need to talk i will give you my phone number. We dont need any more beautiful souls leaving this earth unnecessarily. I'm so glad you came back to tell us that you are okay. :phew:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Same. Just PM me if you need anything!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

To bring us to a lighter topic: College Apps. Have applied to three schools, and am busily p repairing my application for my top school.

Fins crossed. I have a 2.5 GPA. Of course, my ACT is a 30, but still. Makes college apps complicated. Especially when my top school is international. Although quote from the reps that visited my Japanese class "if you have above a 3.0, you're more likely to get a scholarship."

So maybe I can at least get in with a kickbutt essay.

[Starfrit]

Mystery, I'm glad you're doing okay. <3 You know there are plenty of people here willing to lend an ear if you ever need to talk or just vent about life in general. We're here for you, bb!

[Hollydell]

Mystery, you don't have to own up to it but I think you know in your heart it's true.
But know that if you ever need to talk let any of us know. Please, any time any way, Skype, call, text, anything to help you to not get to this point let us know. Though we don't know you personally you are still someone most of us consider friends <3
I can only speak for myself but I love you will all my heart and I would be devastated to know I couldn't help you. <3


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[Mermaid Mystery]

this morning I woke up crying from the mix of depression and seeing all these messages. I love you all so much. Next year I'm gonna try to make it out to mermania so I can meet some of you, I also travel a lot so hopefully I can see some of you in person. Thank you guys so much.

[Mermaid Lily_Pad]

Try and keep positive darlin, and think about seeing someone. I was diagnosed as bi polar, manic depressive, etc etc and then I went to a therapist who speacialized in anxiety and he threw all of those diagnosis out. I have PTSD, and all of my other issues stem from that. It has helped tremendously. Go and see someone, please. You see how many care for you here, but you need someone in real life to help you through as well.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Like we've all said, Mystery, feel free to come talk to us.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And that goes to anyone who needs it!

[Mermaid Rillia]

ditto ^What Sabrina said^

[LouLouBelle]

Mystery - I'm still relatively new to the forum and don't really know you, but I want to echo what everyone else has said.

I've suffered enough with depression myself. It's a lot more common than people realise. I've been at the stage where I felt so awful it was as if something really horrific had happened... but it hadn't. I would randomly break down in tears for absolutely no reason and I remember being at work and passing off my swollen face as hay fever... I had seen a GP and psychologist but it didn't help at all. It wasn't until I moved and got a new GP that I finally got it sorted out. She said she could tell I was 'fine in myself' from talking to me, and didn't have any need for a psychologist. Looking back it does make sense - if you're struggling to cope with something in particular, psychology can help. But if it's a chemical/hormonal imbalance that's making you feel awful, no amount of psychology will change that. You need to figure out which one before you can do anything about it.

There's absolutely no shame at all in asking for help. My advice would be to get help and if you don't feel it's working, get a 2nd opinion. It's not normal to feel like that all the time - you should be able to enjoy life and if you just can't, then ask for help. (I tried a variety of different antidepressants before finally finding one that worked for me, and I still can't believe the difference it's made.)

In the meantime, I'm sure I can speak for everyone when I say you can always vent on here.

If you are able to make it to mermania next year, look forward to that when you're feeling low. Having something so amazing to look forward to can definitely help.

Love and hugs, [emoji177]


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[Mermaid Mystery]

alright everyone, I do need a bit of advice. I'm possibly getting a Bowie tattoo next month and I don't know exactly what I want. I already have a labyrinth piece planned out but for now I want something small. I was thinking the black star but I don't know. I know it will probably hurt like a bitch but I hope it will lift my spirits a bit.

[Starfrit]

Get the red and blue Ziggy Stardust lightning bolt! :D

[SeaGlass Siren]

I was gonna suggest the same thing.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I was thinking that as well, but I don't know where I'd put it.

[Mermaid Mystery]

https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160113/0804528a5d7ca8f7a5d8102e1af8feac.jpg I sort of have this in mind but I'm not sure. decisions are hard.

[Mer-Crazy]

Me: Joins a website for making friends because I'm lonely
Website: Ask your friends to sign up too!
Me: Bitch I don't have any friends! That's why I'm here damn it!

[Merman Arion]

This morning I got to wake up with a huge erection. It has been 30min and it doesn't want to stop :headwall:

Whoever thinks it's cool, let me tell you it's not! I feel very uncomfortable. It's like my penis has a mind on its own, it's super annoying.

:gah: :gah: :gah:

[Merman Arion]

Sorry I sounded like a mervert. I just..

:headdesk:

[Mer-Crazy]

This morning I got to wake up with a huge erection. It has been 30min and it doesn't want to stop :headwall:

Whoever thinks it's cool, let me tell you it's not! I feel very uncomfortable. It's like my penis has a mind on its own, it's super annoying.

:gah: :gah: :gah:
BWAHAHAHAHAHA :rotfl:Arion you freaking crack me up.

[Mermaid Rillia]

Me: Joins a website for making friends because I'm lonely
Website: Ask your friends to sign up too!
Me: Bitch I don't have any friends! That's why I'm here damn it!


This is so relatable....

[SeaGlass Siren]

Fuck my life. I don't make a big deal usually of celeb deaths (cuz it happens to everyone and its part of the circle of life) but today I find out that Alan Rickman (Severus snape) has died from cancer.

Too many people dying and I hate it.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Excuse me while I wear black for the rest of my life.

[Saren]

I honestly couldn't believe it I had to search for the truth myself...this is insane...

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm angry. At everything.

[Saren]

How can you not be...this is terrible

[Mermaid Lily_Pad]

This is so horrible.

[Mermaid Mystery]

what a terrible week. honestly I don't have a huge attachment to Alan Rickman but I can't say he wasn't awesome, that would be lying. What is it with everyone dying of cancer at 69? Tim Curry is 69, if anything happens I swear to god…

[Mermaid Mystery]

on the bright side, Donald trump is also 69

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

Regardless of political or personal feelings, it is really not funny to insinuate or hope that someone may die...


I mean, replace his name with any other name.

"On the bright side, my dad is 69"

"On the bright side, my teacher is 69"

He may be a prick, but he is still a person and has a family and stuff...

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[Mermaid Clara]

Ugh it's shark week and it's draining my energy. I'm really want to work on my silicone tail but I also really want to take a nap. Not to mention the cramps in my back and legs which I can't take ibuprofen for because it messes with my depression and anxiety medicine. Bleh just sitting on the couch punching out foam scales and watching X-Files.


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[Echidna]

Regardless of political or personal feelings, it is really not funny to insinuate or hope that someone may die...



Indeed.
What I've seen on Social Media in that regard had me speechless- what supposedly grown people with a moral superiority complex thought fit to plaster all over the internet.

If this is how some react to differing views, it says a lot more about them than about the person they are bashing.

But it was good for weeding out intolerant, immature people from my friendslist for sure.

[Mermaid Mystery]

it was just a joke. I meant no harm in it. I just have a dark sense of humor. It's also how I cope with things. If you don't like it then I'm sorry that you feel that way, but it was still a joke and I don't see a problem with it. I can, however, see where you are coming from.

[Mermaid Mystery]

aaaaaaand Celine Dion's husband died. This is really a depressing week for everyone.

[SeaGlass Siren]

WHY ARE PPL DYING.

STOP DYING.

CANCER YOU BITCH GTFO NO ONE LIKES YOU.

[Adalira]

My hubby told me today that Alan Rickman had passes away and my reaction was :" What? No! That can't be! No! How!" and a whole bunch of other shout outs of "please don't let this be true".
Ugh.....too many people are dying, i just read that Celine Dion's husband passed away as well. May they all rest in peace :-(

[Adalira]

WHY ARE PPL DYING.

STOP DYING.

CANCER YOU BITCH GTFO NO ONE LIKES YOU.


^ That exactly!!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Disneys Robin Hood voice actor died too....

[Adalira]

ugh.....can someone please press the STOP button on death FFS!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm setting out to protect Tim Curry and Steven Spielberg and Cher see you in a month
edit: forgot Barry Bostwick

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm done. Fuck this. I'm grabbing a drink.

[Mermaid Mystery]

we all need one (except I can't drink here. I can in England though see you all there)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Right, Mystery? Get you there.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I don't have enough mourning clothes for this

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Thank the gods my mom thinks wearing all black means never having to match your colors. Therefore I own plenty of mourning clothes. Almost.

[Mermaid Clara]

Ugh shark week is killing me! I'm extremely tired and my cramps migrated to my left leg and I can barely sit down I've been walking around the house in circles trying to make it go away. My dad thinks I have a blood clot and just bitched at me for eating a large bowl of ice cream and told me I'm disgusting. I don't have a blood clot, my mom had leg cramps when she had her periods too. It's just kinda embarrassing to tell my dad no I don't have a blood clot because I'm fat and inactive, I just have weird shark week crams.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

I've got it this week too, and on top of it I'm sick and depressed. And again, I'm here for u. I'll beat up ur dad.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Ugh shark week is killing me! I'm extremely tired and my cramps migrated to my left leg and I can barely sit down I've been walking around the house in circles trying to make it go away. My dad thinks I have a blood clot and just bitched at me for eating a large bowl of ice cream and told me I'm disgusting. I don't have a blood clot, my mom had leg cramps when she had her periods too. It's just kinda embarrassing to tell my dad no I don't have a blood clot because I'm fat and inactive, I just have weird shark week crams.


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Hooray for menopause!!!:lol:

I only have to worry about that every 3 to 4 months! Hehehe!
:cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleade r::cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerlea der::cheerleader:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

You terrible person, Jaffa. (Because yes, my week too. And I am also sick. Had to call out school and work twice. *headdesk*)

[PearlieMae]

Hooray for menopause!!!:lol:

I only have to worry about that every 3 to 4 months! Hehehe!
:cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleade r::cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerlea der::cheerleader:

I'm doing the menopause dance with Jaffa, except I don't have to worry about the three to four month thing! Shark weeks no more! Woohoo!! :yay:

Sorry, girls, but menopause rocks on a lot of levels! :mermaid kiss:

[RomanLaveau]

This morning I got to wake up with a huge erection. It has been 30min and it doesn't want to stop :headwall:

Whoever thinks it's cool, let me tell you it's not! I feel very uncomfortable. It's like my penis has a mind on its own, it's super annoying.
:gah: :gah: :gah:

LMFAO join the club hahahahaha


on the bright side, Donald trump is also 69

OMG this was the funniest thing I've read all week hahahaha Don't you dare apologize for that joke ! Don't you do it lmao

[Mermaid Mystery]

I never will, don't worry lmao

[Mermaid Rillia]

Ugh, I have wine and Harry Potter playing on the TV. Alan Rickman, you will be missed. Thank Poseidon I have plenty of mourning clothes.:cry:

[Adalira]

I hear you Mermaid Rillia....i have not watched Harry Potter since i heard the news but i know watching it will not be the same for me next time. He will be greatly missed, what an amazing actor he was!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

He was so incredible.

[Mermaid Clara]

Apparently my dad wouldn't have to be so abusive "if I wasn't such a bad kid" he's been this way I was born maybe since I was 5. Now he's on the phone lying to my mom saying that because I refused to do chores he took away my laptop and cell phone, which I turned into world war 3. What really hurt is he compared me to my deadbeat ex friend who practically got pregnancy scares every week, he claimed that "at least she has social skills and is attractive"
I'm fucking done, I'm just done. If my mom really knew what he was saying to me when she was gone at work. Sad thing is she would probably say close to the same things to me. He also said its because I don't get to know my bosses that they have probably fired me because they don't know who I am and that's why I don't have any hours this week and next week.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

I don't know if you're comfortable with contacting child protective services, but it might help. Otherwise I get my drivers license in May and I'll come pick u up and beat up ur dad.

[PearlieMae]

I don't know if you're comfortable with contacting child protective services, but it might help. Otherwise I get my drivers license in May and I'll come pick u up and beat up ur dad.

I was about to say the same thing. There are resources that can help you! Call the non-emergency line of the police department and ask them to forward you to child protection services and/or the domestic abuse unit.

[MerDragon Arie]

Shark week has hit me too! I have ovarian cysts so it really sucks. I want to get up and be productive but some days I can't even get out of bed! I want to get everything taken out but they wont because I'm "too young". I am super tired and not been sleeping well! Also there has been foundation work going on for 2 weeks on my apartment building. These guys are super loud and start work at 9am everyday! I understand it being loud because of the work but they don't have to yell at each other over talking about girls. Like save that talk for lunch time dudes -_- Have to move out of these apartments soon! There has been so much going on already this year!! busy busy busyyy!

[Mermaid Tory]

My issue is very minor compared to all of yours but I need to bitch it somewhere. I will be at a local children's museum for their pirate island week as the only mermaid. There will also be a jack sparrow impersonator. I've had a contract with them for months now and when the flyers came out for 2016 events I was so excited but the pirate's photo was in it and another mermaid's photo who isn't even going to be there. She was a volunteer from last year in a costume with a cardboard fluke that the kids could see under the cloth. No mention of me anywhere. Not on the website or the fb page but the jack's photo is on all that and they posted a video of him. I know it's called pirate island but I'm a local Proffesional who lives with in 15 min of the museum while he is like 2 hours away and I lost a huge chance to get some good publicity going. My heart just sunk when I saw that old photo being advertised instead of one of mine. I'm decently new and I need the publicity wherever I can get it yet I'm not credited anywhere relating to the site. Even the team of scuba divers got credit.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

My issue is very minor compared to all of yours but I need to bitch it somewhere. I will be at a local children's museum for their pirate island week as the only mermaid. There will also be a jack sparrow impersonator. I've had a contract with them for months now and when the flyers came out for 2016 events I was so excited but the pirate's photo was in it and another mermaid's photo who isn't even going to be there. She was a volunteer from last year in a costume with a cardboard fluke that the kids could see under the cloth. No mention of me anywhere. Not on the website or the fb page but the jack's photo is on all that and they posted a video of him. I know it's called pirate island but I'm a local Proffesional who lives with in 15 min of the museum while he is like 2 hours away and I lost a huge chance to get some good publicity going. My heart just sunk when I saw that old photo being advertised instead of one of mine. I'm decently new and I need the publicity wherever I can get it yet I'm not credited anywhere relating to the site. Even the team of scuba divers got credit.
Tory, you should say something. Keep it kind and professional, of course, but you need to protect your brand. Plus I'm sure they'd much rather show your gorgeous tail than a cardboard one. It's good for their business too. It may have just been an oversight.

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[Elodea the Mermaid]

My complaint is minor but annoying. I burst a blood vessel in my eye at an UW shoot yesterday. Now I look like a zombie. Stupid water pressure :-(

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[RomanLaveau]

I'm so irritated right now...So I'm staying with my bf at his apartment for the weekend and when I got here Friday, it was like 1 am and there was no parking in the visitor parking so I obviously park next to him in the regular parking (they don't have numbers on the spaces and in NC these kids go home since its right next to the University). And at 5 am they towed my car since there was no permit, (Who the hell is up at 5 am towing peoples cars, GO TO FUCKING IHOP) however I left a note stating "All the visitor spots were taken, and I am in Apartment 1J and if any become available to let me know" but they still towed it! So me and Judo go through all the papers they gave him regarding living here, and we didn't find one damn thing about if parking was full or where to go if there wasn't enough, hell it didn't even tell us they have visitor parking! So of course this is bullshit so I call them, and told them everything, and she told me "oh well theres visitor parking on the opposite side of the complex, and they own the other apartment complexes like a mile away up the mountain, or to park across the street and he can pick me up" First off, if my boyfriend lives on this side of the complex and you have no signs saying theres more, then why the fuck would he be on the other side of the complex and how would he know since you have not informed him about where his visitors should go. Secondly, WHY IN THE HELL AM I GOING TO PARK A MILE AWAY in building complex that is not the one my boyfriend is living at, (I was like "y'all have 3 things; Me. Fucked. Up. if you thought I was leaving it somewhere I'm not familiar that far away). Not to mention I can't just see that those apartments are yours and you have no signs and once again you have not informed him those spaces were available! And lastly across the fucking street, this is a two way street and then there is a giant drop off and then a river and THENN the student parking for the University, now if you meant the river I'm glad you recognize I'm a merman but my car won't do so well and then if you meant the student parking lot at the University then you are even dumber than I thought because WHY WOULD I PARK AT THE UNIVERSITY IF I AM NOT A STUDENT, I am not visiting the university I'm visiting my bf, so ya'll need to figure your shit out because this could've been avoidable if you actually informed your tenants what they should do in certain situations as if this has never happened before! I'm still in the midst of cussing everyone in that office out, but while I'm waiting to speak to the higher ups, I figured this was the best way to get this off my chest! This is probably the worst explained, most discombobulated story ever. Sorry if it's hard to understand; literal word vomit!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Cuss the eff out of them Hun.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I mean really. Do. That's just ridiculous.

[Saren]

My mom is trying to get in contact with me after bashing my older sister and younger sister. I hate talking to her. She's either going to tell me someone died or that my sister did something or complain about how she never has any money.

I can't take it anymore! This isn't the mother I once knew! Sure she was verbally abusive and physically abusive when I was growing up but that kind of comes with the Hispanic parents package where I'm from. But now? She's just a terrible person who always fights to see the negative. She treats me: the daughter who ran off at 17 to get married, who almost got pregnant, who can't ever get a stable job, and who refuses to continue her education, like a fucking Saint. Like the ground I walk on is gold. Why? Because I married a man.
My older sister? Smart. Like I don't understand half he shit she says she's so fucking smart. And gorgeous. Sometimes she's bitchy, but hey who isn't? She owns her one house! Has this great job that pays her a lot of money! She has her own business, that's doing pretty good. And she has a Bachelors and Masters degrees. She's also getting married. But to a lady. So now my sister is an "atheist" who "disrespects" my mother when she doesn't talk to her, even though my mother admitted to me that she acts like my older sister doesn't exist! My mom is such a fucking hypocrit! All I want is for her to move back in with her mother, or her siblings. Maybe then she'll be happy.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh Saren. That sucks.

[New York Mermaid]

Sick and Tired of certain people going behind my back, talking Poop about me/ my friends and then doing things out of spite, like they've been thinking about it first and then trying to push me out of my usual place, please kid. I mean seriously can we not, and just cut the crap and act like adults. if you have a problem then say it to my face. Instead of going behind my back and having me find out from others. At work, everyone's a freaking gossip. Nothing new. Im a quiet person I keep to myself, just because I refuse to participate doesn't mean im a jerk.

Sheesh some people I tell you- total witches. I got enough of this when I worked at the aquarium and now its happening again in a different manner. Im this close to blowing up someone's spot, but im not going to because I need to be the bigger person here since this person cant be. If this person keeps it up, however may just do it, Because they've worn down my patience quite alot.

[Merman Arion]

I don't know what's happening.

I haven't updated my Facebook page much since MerMania and I feel so bad about this. It's like I don't even want to. Something is holding me back while I'm having no issue sharing on my Instagram account. It's not like I'm giving up or quit, I just feel "Urrgh." Like I would rather take the time to do something else. I have so many stuff to share that are way long overdue like finishing to edit the unboxing video of my splash tail from Finfolk, my swimming time with Mermaid Crystal back when I visited her in the Netherlands, and all the pictures from MerMania...

What the fuck is wrong with me?? :(

[New York Mermaid]

We have those moments of not wanting to do much. It happens. Maybe link your Instagram to your FB Fan page? I think you should work at your own pace, Share things when you are ready to.

[Adalira]

So my dog has not been acting like himself for over a week now, waking me up in the middle of the night to go outside and do his business. I knew something was wrong and now i know he most likely has another urine way infection.
The vet was booked full for today but they have 30 minutes tonight where anyone can come in without an appointment so we will go early enough to get in so he can be checked up.
He might have something else going on as well...he just is not himself. Fingers crossed tonight at the vet!
And just now my mom told me that a friend (close to 70 years old i believe) of ours passed.
I feel awfull since he wrote me an email for Christmas and i did not even read it, just deleted it. The email most likely would have explained that he had cancer and was going in for treatment beginning of January.
The reason i did not read the email is that the last few times my parents saw him (i only had email contact with him the past years) he was being very racist and my parents could not take it anymore.
After i heard how he had talked last year i decided to step back because i can't deal with racist talk at all. My parents did the same and did not read his Christmas email either.
Still i feel bad now for not even having read his email or replied.
The past week has been so crappy...i have had Meniere attacks every day from stress, unable to drive a car.....our move to a new place has been posponed for at least 2 months, most likely 4, so i have started unpacking things again and trying to get the house organized again in this big mess.

But i won't let this end on a bad note.
I saw this video shared by a friend on facebook recently and remembered to share it here now.
Anyone seen this video before?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YbYWhdLO43Q

[Mermaid Lorelei]

I don't know what's happening.

I haven't updated my Facebook page much since MerMania and I feel so bad about this. It's like I don't even want to. Something is holding me back while I'm having no issue sharing on my Instagram account. It's not like I'm giving up or quit, I just feel "Urrgh." Like I would rather take the time to do something else. I have so many stuff to share that are way long overdue like finishing to edit the unboxing video of my splash tail from Finfolk, my swimming time with Mermaid Crystal back when I visited her in the Netherlands, and all the pictures from MerMania...

What the fuck is wrong with me?? :(

Don't worry about it hun! I prefer updating my instagram more than my facebook, too. Lanai's suggestion was a good one (linking your instagram to your facebook). Honestly though, facebook can be tiring and that's okay. Sometimes I take a break on my facebook or set up automatic posts so I don't have to remember to log on all the time. Maybe take a few days to do something other than mermaiding to refresh yourself? And certainly don't feel bad about not posting!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I usually update Instagram more than Facebook. It's totally normal.
On another note, I have to ask my dad for permission to get my tattoo. I'm nervous as hell. Wish me luck!

[Mermaid Momo]

I have a small bitch compared to everyone else but right when I'm able to afford to make another tail, every single sequin I ask my supplier about is sold out!


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[Mermaid Clara]

I have a small bitch compared to everyone else but right when I'm able to afford to make another tail, every single sequin I ask my supplier about is sold out!


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That's annoying! I bought my sequins from a manufacturer on Alibaba, so they were made to order. But the shipping was close to the price of the sequins, but it's worth it because I bought in bulk.


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[Mermaid Momo]

That's annoying! I bought my sequins from a manufacturer on Alibaba, so they were made to order. But the shipping was close to the price of the sequins, but it's worth it because I bought in bulk.


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I actually am getting mines from alibaba too :(

Do you happen to have a link to the company you bought from? Because I'm getting tired of being told my choices are sold out going on 2 months

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[Mermaid Clara]

I actually am getting mines from alibaba too :(

Do you happen to have a link to the company you bought from? Because I'm getting tired of being told my choices are sold out going on 2 months

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I hope this link works but its the company Guangzhou Hanjie Trade Co., Ltd.
http://www.zxfl.en.alibaba.com/product/1613992664-211964610/2014_Bulk_Colorful_Loose_Sequin_in_Shell_Shape_for _Dress.html

[PhaylennMurúch]

I don't know what's happening.

I haven't updated my Facebook page much since MerMania and I feel so bad about this. It's like I don't even want to. Something is holding me back while I'm having no issue sharing on my Instagram account. It's not like I'm giving up or quit, I just feel "Urrgh." Like I would rather take the time to do something else. I have so many stuff to share that are way long overdue like finishing to edit the unboxing video of my splash tail from Finfolk, my swimming time with Mermaid Crystal back when I visited her in the Netherlands, and all the pictures from MerMania...

What the fuck is wrong with me?? :(

Facebook has been a bit of a minefield as of late in regards to the mer community, a lot of negativity flowing from people who are starting drama then playing victim. I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of mers were stepping back until the negativity runs its course

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ i'm one of those mers. just popping here and there occasionally.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Never been too involved on Facebook myself, aside from being a part of my pod, but definitely got the sense that it's a little nuts right now.

[Sherielle]

Just found out another friend died last night from a massive heart attack. That makes three this year.
2016......stop it

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh wow. Sending you hugs, Sherielle.

[PhaylennMurúch]

oh hun, I'm so sorry! *hugs*

[Saren]

So my dog has not been acting like himself for over a week now, waking me up in the middle of the night to go outside and do his business. I knew something was wrong and now i know he most likely has another urine way infection.
The vet was booked full for today but they have 30 minutes tonight where anyone can come in without an appointment so we will go early enough to get in so he can be checked up.
He might have something else going on as well...he just is not himself. Fingers crossed tonight at the vet!
And just now my mom told me that a friend (close to 70 years old i believe) of ours passed.
I feel awfull since he wrote me an email for Christmas and i did not even read it, just deleted it. The email most likely would have explained that he had cancer and was going in for treatment beginning of January.
The reason i did not read the email is that the last few times my parents saw him (i only had email contact with him the past years) he was being very racist and my parents could not take it anymore.
After i heard how he had talked last year i decided to step back because i can't deal with racist talk at all. My parents did the same and did not read his Christmas email either.
Still i feel bad now for not even having read his email or replied.
The past week has been so crappy...i have had Meniere attacks every day from stress, unable to drive a car.....our move to a new place has been posponed for at least 2 months, most likely 4, so i have started unpacking things again and trying to get the house organized again in this big mess.

But i won't let this end on a bad note.
I saw this video shared by a friend on facebook recently and remembered to share it here now.
Anyone seen this video before?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YbYWhdLO43Q

Hey Adalira I hope your dog is alright. Hopefully just a minor UTI or bladder infection! I know how precious our pets can be in our lives, so I'm sending good vibes your way.

And I'm sorry to hear about your family friend. I hope things get better for you, and thanks for the video. I've seen it before, it's really weird and bizarre but it does do some cheering up

[Merman Dan]

Facebook has been a bit of a minefield as of late in regards to the mer community, a lot of negativity flowing from people who are starting drama then playing victim. I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of mers were stepping back until the negativity runs its course

Agreed. I just want to swim and have fun with my friends. :)

[Mermaid Lily_Pad]

Oh Shirelle, I'm so sorry for your losses.

[Saren]

What do you do when you've taken all the advice you could on how to convince a pool to let you swim in your tail, when your ready to do ANYTHING (liability insurance, liability release waiver, swim test, rent out the pool privately, swim only during specific times, only in the lap lanes, and the director just flat out says no.
Says it's not necessary to swim, so no. Not safety is an issue (understandably). It's just not necessary to swim, so no I won't see you do a swim test, no you can't swim in your tail here. I wasn't even given a fucking chance.
To top it all off I had to HUNT her down in her office because she always conveniently forgot to call me back.
I'm thinking of fighting this, of going over her head but I honestly don't know what to do.

[Adalira]

@ Sherielle...i'm so sorry! I don't even know what to say else then i'm so sorry....... :hug:

@ Saren, Could you maybe offer the pool to do a sort of "meet and greet" at the pool one day for kids as a thank you for them letting you swim there? Or to do a kids party or performance there?
That is what i did with the pool here. I was only allowed to swim on Friday mornings there which was fine by me as long as i was allowed to swim and since there pool is AMAZING! It's like swimming in the jungle under star light!
Anyway, they started getting great responses to it so they gave me discount coupons to come swim there and i offered them a meet and greet fr their guests (it's a hotel/pool/indoor amusement park/all you can eat/ lots more lol) they spread the word to their guests that at a Frriday morning they could come meet a real mermaid and they would take photos for them and such.
It was a fun morning and great experience for me as a beginning mermaid.
Your pool could do the same, advertise this special meet and greet for their guests which would be good exposure for the pool and great experience for you. A win win situation if you ask me :-)

Last night we went to the vet and we were there for a while.
There was more going on with my dog then i had thought and hoped.
Whenever you come in there with your pet your have to weigh him on the big scale and it turned out he had lost 4 to 5 kilo in weight (8 to 10 pounds).
He normally weighs around 40 kilo which i think is 88 pounds or so, which is a perfect weight for him.
His urine was fine, which was sort of surprising to me, but he did have a bit of blood in his urine which is most likely a prostate problem which we will have to deal with later (we talked about surgery and what not)
The vet said that his liver wasn't working properly and something was wrong with the liver.
He then said he wanted to take his temperature just in case.......my dog was not happy with this at all...my mom and I held him since he growled so badly showing his teeth and then it happened....for the first time ever (and my dog is 5 years and some months) he bit me :-(
He did not do it to hurt me nor did he bite through the skin but it did hurt. I had to yank my hand out of his teeth and mouth.
No blood luckily but my hand is bruised, luckily it's my left hand which i don't use as much.
When the vet was done it turned out he had a high fever which he got a shot for immediately.
He also had blood in his poop so he has a bacterial infection in his bowel.
He can't eat anything until tomorrow and then i can only give his white cooked rice, Friday he can get a little bit of boiled chicked with it and i have to slowly start his diet from there again and gaining back his weight.
The anti biotics he will have to take for 5 days starting tonight but if he shows signs of getting weak i have to call the vet again and immediately come back.
The anti diarrea pills start tonight as well.
I will have to keep a close eye on him the next days.
I know he is a very strong dog but i feel so bad for him.
He has not eaten since yesterday 2 pm and he did not even eat a meal then, he only got some slices of saucage.
He is super hungry and follows me everywhere begging me for some food.
it's hard to have to "torture" your pet like this, i just need to stay strong and not accidentally slip him a snack :eek::sad eyes:

[Saren]

@Adalira
The pool doesn't let me swim there with my tail, it's just with my fins, which is a normal thing to allow anyway. Offering them something like that won't sway them, wether or not they have patrons it will remain open because the military men and women need it for training. While I foresee maybe doing a party poolside, I would hope not. I would think its a bummer to have a mermaid right by the pool but she's dry and can't swim in the nice cool water.

[Adalira]

Is there any other pool you could go to, to swim?
Like the pool at a hotel, a pool at a school, even a pool at rich people's house? Anything else?

[Saren]

Is there any other pool you could go to, to swim?
Like the pool at a hotel, a pool at a school, even a pool at rich people's house? Anything else?

There are pools in other bases that I will be meeting with soon, hopefully maybe they will give me a chance to explain.

But otherwise not really, most hotels in Japan don't seem to have swimming pools (also if they did they'd only be for patrons), same thing with school pools. Most homes also don't have pools, I also don't know any rich people (interesting choices btw). And I learned public pools in Japan are almost strictly lap swimming, super strict. Plus I don't speak Japanese so I makes things harder. But thank you for your suggestions. I'm going to keep trying.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

In Japan, there is a really deep pool to swim in. I don't know what its called, the person is a freediving lady and she always has a group with her. Some videos show learners doing freediving dolphin kick, and sometimes they just race around the deep pool playing around.

Here is her channel, maybe you can contact her through youtube?
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKolwmRV3uW412bCfhd99vQ

[Saren]

In Japan, there is a really deep pool to swim in. I don't know what its called, the person is a freediving lady and she always has a group with her. Some videos show learners doing freediving dolphin kick, and sometimes they just race around the deep pool playing around.

Here is her channel, maybe you can contact her through youtube?
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKolwmRV3uW412bCfhd99vQ

There's many pools like that, but you can only swim there if your part of a diving or freediving club or school. I'm trying to join one but I don't understand Japanese so many schools and clubs won't have me.

She is actually a freediving champion. I wouldn't be able to communicate with her (my Japanese is introductory at best).

My problem is being allowed to swim in my fabric tail, not swimming in my monofin alone. It's strange they're totally fine with monofin swimming, but if I put on a fabric tail it's suddenly a problem. Thanks though Jaffa. I'll follow the channel. Who knows, maybe I'll end up joining her school.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

If you introduce her to tail swimming, she might actually don one, and the pools may change their minds.

In one of her videos, is a blonde lady person swimming in a merfin. So there's still some hope.

[SeaGlass Siren]

After this one Disney trip we can't go on any more trips to the states because the Canadian dollar went down again... And I am genuinely sad and angry because if this keeps up it may mean that i can't go to mermania next year or the syrenstudios meetup this year ... Sigh..

[Mermaid Mystery]

My mom made me an appointment for a haircut, I love my hair and I'm growing it out, and she's bitching at me because "I asked for a haircut" but I never did. She tells me i look ugly, I'm growing my hair out, what do you expect? On top of this she went behind my back and messaged project mermaids that I have short hair that won't look good underwater and is now pressuring me into getting extensions. I like my hair the way it is, the color is the only thing that needs fixing. She's being a total bitch.

[Saren]

It will look nice underwater! I've been growing my hair out and I feel the only time it looks nice is underwater. There's a mermaid I follow on IG who has a blonde pixie cut and I think she looks gorgeous that way! I feel you on the whole mom thing. I don't even live with mine and she's being insufferable right now. If anything just skip the appt. Or go for a light trim to get any dead ends out the way.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Light trims are good. I buzzed my hair when my Gram was first diagnosed with ovarian cancer, the February of my Freshman year of HS. I'm a senior now, and I've only had two trims since, but both were great experiences.

On another note. My Gram has brca 1, which means there's a 50% chance my mother does. If she has it, there's a 50% chance I do.

So, there is basically a 25% chance that I have a gene that basically makes breast and ovarian cancer almost inevitable.

Yay. *headdesk*

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I think I'm too active on this thread:

So, I am super forgetful and because of that I tend to leave stuff places. For whatever reason I can recall books with immense clarity and memorized the top ten endangered species list by both common and scientific name last night.

So I guess I'm one of those academics types who remembers scenes from books and individually important moments of my life in beautiful detail along with various facts and statistics. But when it comes to little things I need to do, I'm completely scattered.

I'm also the sort of artsy-writer type who keeps things in piles on the floor. They look like hell, but there is a system.

Now. My mother likes to pretend that she is extremely Spartan, but really, she's as messy as I am. Her crap's just spread across the house as opposed to condensed in a room, so it looks better. That, and when she is legitimately Spartan in belongings, she keeps a clean house. But once she has stuff, she just can't function.

Anyway. A few years ago, I lost a checkbook, and my mom and I just didn't have the time to remedy the situation. She then forgot about it.

We needed a voided check last night and the issue that I didn't have it came up.

She went into my room and blew my piles to shreds, throwing my stuff everywhere and threatening to break a guitar against the wall. Apparently, my room will be gutted by the time I get home from school today.

And now I'm sitting with a bunch of white boys who don't get that this sort of arbitrary argument is a mainstay of Latina mothers and daughters in certain communities. (I.e. poor areas of Chicago where my mother was born out of wedlock in the fifties).

So. Blah.

[Little_Orca]

It is so hard to think of where to begin with all that is going on that is causing me anger and stress. Some of the stress is 'good' and will turn into good things later, and I know I will have more time later, but for right now... I feel like I am stuck in a jar.

I suppose the first place to start is that I went back to school last year. I have a Master's in Art Therapy Counseling, but I have discovered after three years in the paid world (and 2 years of internship) that it just does not make me happy. It took a lot to stand up and realize that I was not okay working in the environment that I am (more on that later) and that I was not happy and I wanted to do something that allowed me to be more creative, even within set parameters, and to learn new skills, so I went back to school to get my degree in Graphic Design. I am hopeful, as my professors see positive work in my skills and appreciate my willingness to learn and to admit when I am having a hard time and to ask for help. What makes this hard is that I still work during this time. I work a full 40 hours a week and then I have to take 12 credits a term (and that is just the design program, that does not include the underclasses [math, English, etc] that I would have to take if my other degrees did not trump them.) This gives me little time for sleep or other things. I keep my sanity by multitasking: While I am working on design work I sit on Facebook and take short two minute breaks, I build perler/hama bead things or crochet while I work, or I have videos playing in the background that I can laugh at, such as Markiplier. These little things can help, but they don't take away the stress. This is the stress that will pay off later and I just have to keep going.

My work environment has gotten increasingly hostile and that makes it harder for me to keep working and doing what I do. Currently, I am a peer support specialist at a 16-bed locked facility for persons with mental illness. We are sub-acute and, in general, work with persons who are suicidal and/or are in the process of getting a medication adjustment and were not safe enough to be out on the streets again. Not to mention, a lot of people we take in are also coming off of heavy drugs they use to self-medicate (sad when meth is cheaper than your anti-psychotics, huh?) We have taken on cases as of late that are more acute than sub-acute and require more assistance and one-on-one time than we can offer with our low staffing (roughly 5 people [including a nurse] to every 16 residents.) The stress can be insurmountable at times; especially when we have persons who are actively searching for ways to kill themselves on our unit and will make -everything- a weapon. What helps is supportive and awesome teammates, but what doesn't help is the lack of support I've had as of recent.

A typical night for me will have five staff members: Team Lead, three Peer Supports/Recovery Specialists, and a nurse. On my team, we have a person (that I will call Glenn) who makes constant errors that could jeopardize the safety and recovery for the people at our facility. Glenn has missed contraband items that people have sneaked into the facility (lighters, blades, cigarettes, etc) and has been found using the company computer to look at images that are NSFW (nudes, etc.) My other coworker (who I will call Jack) and I have talked to our supervisor and team lead about it. We were forced into a big uncomfortable meeting about it with Glenn, Jack, the teamlead, myself, and the clinical director. For an hour I was very uncomfortable and the meeting was utter nonsense. Details aside, it felt it was a show for HR rather than to fix anything.

Fast forward to last Wednesday night. Early in the shift, I saw a resident in a wheelchair who was able-bodied and using it as a toy; which is dangerous (poppin' wheelies, trying to be silly, etc.) When I inquired about their use of it to the team lead (a sub team lead, not my usual one), as it had been previously discussed with that resident that they were not allowed to use it since they did not need it, I was informed by the team lead that residents are "Allowed to be annoying." I expressed that my concern was not with annoyance, but holding the resident accountable to the boundaries that had been set up and for safety purposes. I felt that my core reason for bringing this up was not validated. Eventually, the resident got out of the chair and additional staff folded it and put it away to keep the resident from playing further in the chair.

Later, the same resident asked all the staff members if there was any room fresheners (Febreze) that they could use so that their room smelled better. They were told by two staff members (the nurse and myself) that we did not have any. Glenn told them this as well, but then stated he was going to see what he could do to help out. Glenn went and got the disinfectant spray from the exam room and handed it over to the resident. As he was handing it to them, I informed Glenn that that wasn't an air freshener spray, to which he replied with an "I know." When I tried to express my concern about handing a toxic spray out to the residents to use as an air freshener, his tone because more gruff and all he repeated was, "I know" until the third time and he said, "I know. I am -just- trying to be accommodating." I gave in then and I took a different route where I instead informed the nurse as to what had happened and said that the resident and their roommate may appear sick later and if they did, I wanted her to know the chemical that was given out so that way if poison control needed to be called that she had the right information for the situation.

After I left work, I felt terrible. I do not like confrontation and speaking up is not in my comfort zone. Based on the meeting we attended, I was trying to speak up and make a better effort at that, but I felt that night only reinforced the whys as to why I don't speak up and why I keep my head down and just work. I did not feel safe taking a break and leaving Glenn on the unit alone with the team lead away in her office (Jack's wife was ill and he had to leave early), and the nurse having to work with medications and help the residents out in that manner. I was still upset when I got home and my usual after-work self care did nothing to assist in my mood.

I was diagnosed with depression over 15 years ago. This event exacerbated it. The following morning, I woke with my depression in a terrible state. I did not want to get out of bed and I had to fight to get to school. I ended up skipping my last two classes to go home because I was in a poor state of mind with persistent SI and I had almost cried multiple times on campus. On that morning, I expressed that I did not want to come to work, not because I was concerned about working with Glenn since I knew it was his day off, but that my mood was still low and I was not sure how well I would do my job. I came to work because 1) There was not enough time to call out respectfully, 2) I need my PDL for more important things, and 3) Fake it til you make it, right?

This was the third time I have felt under some form of attack by Glenn (the first time being when he cornered me in the kitchen, prevented me from escaping to give me talking-to about being a good teammate), and though him telling me "fuck you" in front of other staff because he had to do his job and I refused to do it for him did not bother me as much as it bothered everyone else that was there, I am counting that as well just to keep things together. My regular team lead and Jack have encouraged me to file paperwork against him for these acts, but I don't know what good filing paperwork on it would be and I don't want to make any more waves than are already rocking the ship. I just want to keep my head down and work without anymore problems.

Coupled with all that is this guilt I have about lacking in the mermaid community. I have not posted or contributed anything to here in a long while. I lurk, but I rarely leave any feedback or help people like I used to. I am exhausted, but I still feel a tremendous amount of guilt for that. I try to be supportive where I can, usually offering mere "likes" on Facebook or on Instagram to the mermaids I follow to keep them going forward with their awesome lives. Meanwhile, I feel stuck. I would love to cultivate a deeper mermaid life, to do more things as a mermaid. I would not mind the hard work and the devotion that it would take to get there. I am involved with a local group of mermaids, Una's Fantasea Traveling Cove, but I cannot make meeting times or go to all the events they do because of my work and school schedule. So, I feel guilty about that as well. I feel guilty and miserable for not being able to help or progress.

In addition to the guilt around that, there is anger at myself for who I am. I've been told by my mermaid friends and mermaids I look up to that I am an inspiration for other mermaids. That my old videos where I was tipping the scales at over 325 pounds and telling the world to screw itself and still doing what I wanted to do has inspired merfolk of all sizes to do the same: tell the world to shut up and become a mermaid. To do what they love. That is not the part that makes me angry. The part that angers me is that I'm an inspiration because (no sugar coating it) I'm fat. I don't want to be known for inspiration because I am 'that fat mermaid.' It didn't bother me much before, but now it's like all I feel I'm known for. I've lost about 120 pounds and I've managed to keep that off, but I am still sitting at over 200 and that is not sitting well with me. As you can imagine from the other things going on in my life, there is no time for proper exercise. The best I can do is walking, and I aim for at least 2 miles a day, but I need to more and I need to tone to get the skin that is hanging to firm up. I want to do more, but I can only function so much on 5 hours of sleep a night. Again, stuck.

TL;DR: Work sucks, Life sucks, Depression sucks, I wish I had more mermaid time.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I don't see you as fat. To me, you shine brightly amongst the bland world where everybody is like everybody else. Sure you are a plus size mer, but I never use your inspiration as "that fat chick is a mermaid deal". Mers come in all shapes and colors. Just like I'm old, tubby and ugly.

I've never considered myself beautiful. Plain Janes look nicer than me. Sure I'm dorky looking, hunched back, nasally voice etc. But I've come to accept that its what counts on the inside, than what's on the outside. Inside, I'm a beautiful mermaid, even if I just swim for fun. If people cannot accept that, then they don't belong in your world.

As for your workplace, it sounds like those people are in the wrong type of jobs. To not care if patients bring in contraband and then not giving a hoot if someone is potentially endangering themselves. It sounds like they are just there for the money. If you can, apply for a job elsewhere? Or does it have to do with your studies that you have to work at that place?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh Orca. Sending hugs your way.

[Little_Orca]

As for your workplace, it sounds like those people are in the wrong type of jobs. To not care if patients bring in contraband and then not giving a hoot if someone is potentially endangering themselves. It sounds like they are just there for the money. If you can, apply for a job elsewhere? Or does it have to do with your studies that you have to work at that place?

I'm pretty much stuck here at the moment. They will work around my school schedule, I have benefits, and I need the money to pay back my school loans. I hope to get out and into a design job once I graduate in June.

[Calizaire]

Minor bitch:
I went to the craft store to buy some acrylic paint primer. It's all locked up in a cage, so ok, I find some gal shelving stuff and ask her to unlock it for me. Gal shakes her head and says, "Oh nooo, no I don't have a key for THAT. You need to go ring the bell."
I return to the cage and see there's a bell you can push. Push bell. Wait. Wait a bit more, push bell again. Wait. Getting annoyed.
Little old lady and some burly dude who looks ridiculous in his red smock finally come. Little old lady asks, "You need something from in there?"
Me: yes
Her: Have you already picked out what you want?
Me: yes, I had some time to think about it while I was waiting for someone to come unlock it. (snark purposely interjected)
Burly dude seems to only be there because this transaction requires a witness?? Like some kinda double key nuclear missile launch bullshit.
They're both eyeballing me like I asked to borrow their car.
Lady asks for my ID. Ummm...ok. I show her. She asks me my birth date. It's ON the freaking license lady! Good job, I'm actually a 17 year old girl who looks 39 and in order to deal with the pain of that, I paid $100 for a fake ID so I could come to Michaels and buy paint illegally to huff it to deal with the pain. You caught me. Then she actually freaking writes down my driver's license number on her little clipboard. She asks me, "what are you using it for?"
Seriously? You're selling a product, I'm buying it, who fucking cares? My inner smart ass says, "Ima huff half of it and when I'm good and fucked up Ima go tag the shit outta some boxcars" but in reality I say, "I going to paint some shells".
Burly dude speaks, "But that's primer, not paint"
Me: "I want to prime the shells first because they tend to absorb the paint a little." Am I REALLY having this conversation?? Am I engaged in some kind of craft debate??
They nod to each other. I guess my story checks out??
She unlocks the cage and asks what I want. I go to reach for it and burly dude moves. She nearly swats me and says, "I will get it." I'm not allowed to touch the paint? She gets my paint, and tells me, "this will be at the counter for you." I'm not to be trusted carrying the paint to the check out. I might be tempted to huff it and/or graffiti the craft store, ya never know. She leaves with her paint cage guard safely. Whew, they survived another day on the paint aisle, they can go home safe to their families tonight.
Check out: I am carded AGAIN for my paint. Checker writes down my license number AGAIN. Only after I have purchased the paint am I allowed to actually touch it.
Jesus effing Christ. I almost *want* to do something illegal with it now!

[PhaylennMurúch]

Minor bitch:
I went to the craft store to buy some acrylic paint primer. It's all locked up in a cage, so ok, I find some gal shelving stuff and ask her to unlock it for me. Gal shakes her head and says, "Oh nooo, no I don't have a key for THAT. You need to go ring the bell."
I return to the cage and see there's a bell you can push. Push bell. Wait. Wait a bit more, push bell again. Wait. Getting annoyed.
Little old lady and some burly dude who looks ridiculous in his red smock finally come. Little old lady asks, "You need something from in there?"
Me: yes
Her: Have you already picked out what you want?
Me: yes, I had some time to think about it while I was waiting for someone to come unlock it. (snark purposely interjected)
Burly dude seems to only be there because this transaction requires a witness?? Like some kinda double key nuclear missile launch bullshit.
They're both eyeballing me like I asked to borrow their car.
Lady asks for my ID. Ummm...ok. I show her. She asks me my birth date. It's ON the freaking license lady! Good job, I'm actually a 17 year old girl who looks 39 and in order to deal with the pain of that, I paid $100 for a fake ID so I could come to Michaels and buy paint illegally to huff it to deal with the pain. You caught me. Then she actually freaking writes down my driver's license number on her little clipboard. She asks me, "what are you using it for?"
Seriously? You're selling a product, I'm buying it, who fucking cares? My inner smart ass says, "Ima huff half of it and when I'm good and fucked up Ima go tag the shit outta some boxcars" but in reality I say, "I going to paint some shells".
Burly dude speaks, "But that's primer, not paint"
Me: "I want to prime the shells first because they tend to absorb the paint a little." Am I REALLY having this conversation?? Am I engaged in some kind of craft debate??
They nod to each other. I guess my story checks out??
She unlocks the cage and asks what I want. I go to reach for it and burly dude moves. She nearly swats me and says, "I will get it." I'm not allowed to touch the paint? She gets my paint, and tells me, "this will be at the counter for you." I'm not to be trusted carrying the paint to the check out. I might be tempted to huff it and/or graffiti the craft store, ya never know. She leaves with her paint cage guard safely. Whew, they survived another day on the paint aisle, they can go home safe to their families tonight.
Check out: I am carded AGAIN for my paint. Checker writes down my license number AGAIN. Only after I have purchased the paint am I allowed to actually touch it.
Jesus effing Christ. I almost *want* to do something illegal with it now!


That is all company policy, you know to keep people from stealing the spray paint/primer and huffing it. They have had SUCH a problem that this was implemented to prevent people from getting the paint and huffing it in the bathroom

[Hollydell]

Was it the same lady at the checkouts?
If the company has a strict policy with the paint and a DL is required the girl at the cash might not have known it was already taken. Or she was trying to cover her own butt.
My boss always says "I'd rather have 20 copies I can shred at the end of the day; instead of no copies. People will start pointing fingers, someone will feel attacked."
Safety for the staff to be extra careful. But I'm sorry it made your shopping experience bad!
The floor staff personal you first saw should have gone to get someone to help you out. Or at least gone to grab someone who could.


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[Echidna]

@ Calizaire
that story made my day. hehehe.
But it was probably so annoying in person. Hugs!

As to companies employing such methods because of previous problems, I guess this amounts to
"this is why we can't have nice things".

[Calizaire]

@ Calizaire
that story made my day. hehehe.
But it was probably so annoying in person. Hugs!

As to companies employing such methods because of previous problems, I guess this amounts to
"this is why we can't have nice things".

Glad I got someone to chuckle! The serious, "company policy" stuff....sorry, I had to show less ID to buy beer today. Which is the more dangerous substance?
And I have to show no ID to vote, but Gawd forbid I want spray paint, that's "policy".
*eyeroll*

[Adalira]

@ Little Orca...i am so sorry you are going through a rough time. Sending a big hug your way! :hug:

@ Calizaire... I don't know if i was able to deal with what you went through in that store.
I think i would have told them to shove it up their asses and left the store never to return, then file a complaint.
We dont have any crazy store policies like that here, thank god!
From the way your describe it all it seems like you bought paint that was made out of gold our something lol.

[Mermaid Momo]

I hope this link works but its the company Guangzhou Hanjie Trade Co., Ltd.
http://www.zxfl.en.alibaba.com/product/1613992664-211964610/2014_Bulk_Colorful_Loose_Sequin_in_Shell_Shape_for _Dress.html

That's the company I'm trying to order from too haha, Sadly they haven't responded to me in a week so I'm not really sure what's going on :(

[Adalira]

That's the company I'm trying to order from too haha, Sadly they haven't responded to me in a week so I'm not really sure what's going on :(

Chinese companies have a bad habit of forgetting to reply in time.
What i do is simply email them again asking if they can give me a reply to my email since i have not heard back yet.
Normally that does the trick.

[Little_Orca]

Fuck people and their narrow minded beauty ideals.

"That person is not beautiful because they are not white, not thin, not following a gender-stereotype -I- approve of, don't dress the right way, don't act a certain way, are lazy, are not educated to my standards, and have a plethora of issues I don't care to understand."

"If these people would just stop eating..." (News flash, if everyone stopped eating they would die. I know what you were trying to say, but you see that comment I made? That is how stupid your comment sounds.)

That mythic norm you are searching for is just that: A MYTH! I have known more mermaids than I have known people who are 'perfect.' Ask me which one I believe is real?

I could attack your physical appearance, I could attack your gender or anything that you align yourself to, but why? That would make me no better than you are. I do have one thing though over you: compassion. Those people may not be "beautiful" to you and there may be things about them that I personally do not find attractive, but you know what? That does not make them any less of a person and it sure as fuck does not mean that they deserve any less compassion and respect from their fellow human beings.

And one more thing, my dear, you are ugly. Not on the outside... You have won a genetic lottery to ensure that you have what our society deems as the 'attractive' and 'wanted' traits. Oh no, you are ugly inside: where your black little heart attempts to pump the tar that is your blood through your circulatory system of hate.

[Mermaid Clara]

That's the company I'm trying to order from too haha, Sadly they haven't responded to me in a week so I'm not really sure what's going on :(
I think its Chinese new year for them so they are probably all off of work.

[Saren]

Chinese New Year is Feb. 8

[Mermaid Clara]

Chinese New Year is Feb. 8

Oops! I could have sworn that other companies told me they wouldn't be working some time around January until February because of it.


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[Saren]

Oops! I could have sworn that other companies told me they wouldn't be working some time around January until February because of it.


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They may not be. It would make sense that the 2 weeks around Chinese New Years many companies would take off:

[Spindrift]

Chinese companies have a bad habit of forgetting to reply in time.
What i do is simply email them again asking if they can give me a reply to my email since i have not heard back yet.
Normally that does the trick.


It's not that they have a bad habit of forgetting to reply in time. It's that the rest of the world doesn't follow their national holidays. No one is working right now. It's Chinese New Year.

[Spindrift]

Chinese New Year is Feb. 8

It's not a one day thing in Chinese culture. They follow lunar calendar.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Ugggh!!! Its shark week and I already made plans to go swimming tomorrow.

*sigh*

So so glad I don't have to endure it every month like I used to. I've calculated how much money I've saved by not buying new products each month... $20 - $30 depending on what I need and what's on special.

[Adalira]

It's not a one day thing in Chinese culture. They follow lunar calendar.

Actually i do a lot of business with Chinese companies all year round and for me they do have a bad habit of not replying to my emails so i constantly have to email them over and over asking them to reply, give me quotations on my requests and ask over and over if my order was shipped out yet or not etc etc etc.
If it is a holiday now than they may reply after that, or they may forget so it is best to email them again if they do not reply when the holiday is over, trust me, been there A LOT as well lol

[LouLouBelle]

I was ID'd a few weeks ago... in Hobby Craft! [emoji38]Apparently I look too young to be trusted with a little tin of varnish (I'm 31) I can honestly say it made my day!

Little Orca - I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I know it's easy to say, but try to focus on the positives. At least your working towards a better future and you're not stuck there indefinitely. *hugs*

My minor 3-part bitch for the day: it's Monday. I'm at work. I've got the cold.


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[Mermaid Clara]

Looks like I'll have to find a new job or a second job because my work won't give me any hours. I busy all week except Tuesday's and Thursday's and Saturday's because of school. This completely ruins my plans on being able to save up money to move out.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck, Kelly! The job search is always a pain in the neck.

[Mer-Crazy]

Also this thread is for non-mer related bitching ^_^ All mer-related bitching should please be directed to the drama bubble thread :) have a nice day.


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[Mermaid Momo]

Yeah, I've found in the past that there's always crazy drama springing up on the forums this time of year

I've noticed too, around this time and when winter starts to get under way. I think it's because now is the time when a lot of mers are pulling their tails out of storage for warmer weather and a lot of people start coming out of the woodwork.

My bitch: I have waaay too much time and nothing to do with it :( I have some costume commissions but I'm waiting on the customers to send the deposit before I can start (it irks me so much when ppl decide to go through with it and you send them the invoice and tell them they have a week to pay the deposit and sign the contract and nearly a week later the deposit is still unpaid and the contract isn't signed then they get mad at you when you tell them you filled the spot with someone else already)

But I am looking forward to doing the commissions if they all pay on time. I have a briar rose, Princess Tiana (blue dress), silvermist (pirate fairy version), and a snow white.

[Calizaire]

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This was posted under a cute little ad for Swimtails...
What is WRONG with people??
It's fun and it's certainly not affecting you...why do you care so much?

[Saren]

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This was posted under a cute little ad for Swimtails...
What is WRONG with people??
It's fun and it's certainly not affecting you...why do you care so much?

Because there's no joy in their lives so the only satisfaction they can get is by making themselves seem more important than others.

[Calizaire]

Doesn't it seem odd to take time out of your day to volunteer to a product page that you would not want their product? As if they care...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

It is. But I would guess there's a kernel of the child in her that didn't want to let go of fantasy. People like that were generally forced by their parents, family, friends, and teachers to let go of their sense of wonder. Then they get bitter that other people fought like hell and managed to keep it.

[shimmygoddess]

Because there's no joy in their lives so the only satisfaction they can get is by making themselves seem more important than others.

some people are just like that. Last year my pod and I, and my daughter went to take our pictures at the 'sand Desk' at the local TV station. One of the meteorologists was coming in to work and saw us and requested we send her the photo ASAP and they posted it on the the weather report, their website, and FB blogs and people were dissing my kid. Assholes, she was 9 at the time and they were bashing a little girl. Only fuckturds would do that, so try to not let it bother you.

[SeaMansa]

I know I usually complain about my college life here but...seriously, does anyone here actually have a career in their college field?
I really regret going into what I went into, and while I love it, there is no job market for it and I hate being my age and still living at home (yeah I know 21 and at home is still kind of normal but it still urks me to see folks younger than me with cars and jobs knowing I have neither because I am broke college student with no real training in anything other than writing and writing is pretty much useless.....) Ugh. Its really tiresome, all these negative thoughts. And I tell myself to think positive, but everytime I do I just recall that thinking positive isn't going to fix the issue.
Fact is, I have no skills, no training, I feel like ive wasted my time in college, and anytime I get a job interview, it always goes back to the fact tht I don't have a car to be able to go from school, to work all and be there on time so my job options are limited. I remember just a few years ago, I was the only one of my friends working. Now I'm the only one of my friends without a job.

[Saren]

I know I usually complain about my college life here but...seriously, does anyone here actually have a career in their college field?
I really regret going into what I went into, and while I love it, there is no job market for it and I hate being my age and still living at home (yeah I know 21 and at home is still kind of normal but it still urks me to see folks younger than me with cars and jobs knowing I have neither because I am broke college student with no real training in anything other than writing and writing is pretty much useless.....) Ugh. Its really tiresome, all these negative thoughts. And I tell myself to think positive, but everytime I do I just recall that thinking positive isn't going to fix the issue.
Fact is, I have no skills, no training, I feel like ive wasted my time in college, and anytime I get a job interview, it always goes back to the fact tht I don't have a car to be able to go from school, to work all and be there on time so my job options are limited. I remember just a few years ago, I was the only one of my friends working. Now I'm the only one of my friends without a job.

I had and can have a career in my field Veterinary Technology, but I know it's not a common thing due to a variety of reasons. I'm sorry your having a hard time. But don't compare yourself to others, because you and your situations are different. I'm sure you work really hard, and others can't compare to you.

[Adalira]

I've noticed too, around this time and when winter starts to get under way. I think it's because now is the time when a lot of mers are pulling their tails out of storage for warmer weather and a lot of people start coming out of the woodwork.

My bitch: I have waaay too much time and nothing to do with it :( I have some costume commissions but I'm waiting on the customers to send the deposit before I can start (it irks me so much when ppl decide to go through with it and you send them the invoice and tell them they have a week to pay the deposit and sign the contract and nearly a week later the deposit is still unpaid and the contract isn't signed then they get mad at you when you tell them you filled the spot with someone else already)

But I am looking forward to doing the commissions if they all pay on time. I have a briar rose, Princess Tiana (blue dress), silvermist (pirate fairy version), and a snow white.

Congratulations on all your custom orders! That is so awesome!
I agree that it is extremeley annoying to wait for people to pay.
When i first started out many many (wow i'm old!) years ago i did a custom job for a woman, painted a butler tray (as we call it, it's a wooden tray on a wooden stand) and i made the misstake not to ask for a down payment because i believed in the honesty of people. She gave me her number to call when it was done.
When it was done i called and called and she would not come to the phone. She had her daughter blow me off every time. I learned a hard lesson that day!
I ended up selling the butler tray to someone else though :-)
Since then i always ask for a down payment for big custom jobs like that.
I hope you get paid soon though so you can get started!

Do you have an etsy shop for your costumes?

[Adalira]

I know I usually complain about my college life here but...seriously, does anyone here actually have a career in their college field?
I really regret going into what I went into, and while I love it, there is no job market for it and I hate being my age and still living at home (yeah I know 21 and at home is still kind of normal but it still urks me to see folks younger than me with cars and jobs knowing I have neither because I am broke college student with no real training in anything other than writing and writing is pretty much useless.....) Ugh. Its really tiresome, all these negative thoughts. And I tell myself to think positive, but everytime I do I just recall that thinking positive isn't going to fix the issue.
Fact is, I have no skills, no training, I feel like ive wasted my time in college, and anytime I get a job interview, it always goes back to the fact tht I don't have a car to be able to go from school, to work all and be there on time so my job options are limited. I remember just a few years ago, I was the only one of my friends working. Now I'm the only one of my friends without a job.

I am sorry you are going through this SeaMansa!
i am not sure how the road systems work in America, but would it be possible to get a scooter in stead of a car?
Here a scooter can go 50 kilometers per hour, speed wise, (31 miles per hour) which is the same speed cars are allowed to drive in the cities.
Also A LOT of people bike to work here, biking is a really big thing here, but you would have to live somewhat near the city you would work in although some people bike for 30 minutes or more to get to work since most families have a working mom and working dad but can't afford 2 cars.
Is public transportation an option?
Here that is a big thing as well, again because a lot of people can't afford a car or a second car so they use the train and the bus.
I have no idea how the roads work in America or if jobs are nearby or very far away. Just throwing ideas at you here :-)
A friend of mine's kids had to choose a college to go to and there actually is something (i could not believe they had something like that these days) that tells you how much % chance you have to get work in that field if you choose to study that certain subject.
One of her sons had various things he wanted to study for but the chart showed there was less than 1% chance of a job in that field so they decided to look for something else that actaully has a job chance in the end as well.
Do they have something like that in America?

[Merman Arion]

Some mermen are trying to seduce MY Keiris with their own butts.

I. AM. NOT. HAPPY. [emoji34][emoji36]

#KeirionShipSinking

[SeaGlass Siren]

Quick arion show them both your own XD


cant be lak without the L ;D

[Saelyyia]

I know I usually complain about my college life here but...seriously, does anyone here actually have a career in their college field?
I really regret going into what I went into, and while I love it, there is no job market for it and I hate being my age and still living at home (yeah I know 21 and at home is still kind of normal but it still urks me to see folks younger than me with cars and jobs knowing I have neither because I am broke college student with no real training in anything other than writing and writing is pretty much useless.....) Ugh. Its really tiresome, all these negative thoughts. And I tell myself to think positive, but everytime I do I just recall that thinking positive isn't going to fix the issue.
Fact is, I have no skills, no training, I feel like ive wasted my time in college, and anytime I get a job interview, it always goes back to the fact tht I don't have a car to be able to go from school, to work all and be there on time so my job options are limited. I remember just a few years ago, I was the only one of my friends working. Now I'm the only one of my friends without a job.

SeaMansa I am so sorry you are facing this struggle. I am not much older than yourself (23) and I was a writing major (business composition mostly) and I got most of the way through that before I switched my major to Holistic Health & Healing. The writing just stopped being fun to me after awhile and while I was good at it the job field was a nightmare. I worked as a technical writer for about 2 years for a video conferencing company from home. I don't know if you might want to try checking the internet crooks and crannies for companies that will let you work remotely. That is how I found the company I worked for back then as I didn't have a car myself. But largely I had the sucky time of it having to be through connections of people my parents know. Dad has been in computers, programming, infrastructure, and video since it became a thing. And Mum's best friend's daughter is a publicist for fashion designers so I interned with her for a bit.

Anyways...Don't feel to bad or beat down though. The job markets are really ugly in this country right now and most of us have a hard time getting into our fields. As it is I'm not working in the holistic world. Instead I am a full-time receptionist for a graphics printing company and on the weekends I'm an entertainer for children's parties. I'm still living at home because we live in a very very expensive area and my dad needs the help. But it takes time. It sucks in the mean time but when you finally get there it will stop seeming like all that do-nothing struggle wasn't so bad. Just remember to keep your friends close for the real hard parts and that there are people that love you and care about you even when you feel like you are stuck in a rut and should be at a different place in your life. Everything happens in time.

[Mermaid Momo]

I know I usually complain about my college life here but...seriously, does anyone here actually have a career in their college field?
I really regret going into what I went into, and while I love it, there is no job market for it and I hate being my age and still living at home (yeah I know 21 and at home is still kind of normal but it still urks me to see folks younger than me with cars and jobs knowing I have neither because I am broke college student with no real training in anything other than writing and writing is pretty much useless.....) Ugh. Its really tiresome, all these negative thoughts. And I tell myself to think positive, but everytime I do I just recall that thinking positive isn't going to fix the issue.
Fact is, I have no skills, no training, I feel like ive wasted my time in college, and anytime I get a job interview, it always goes back to the fact tht I don't have a car to be able to go from school, to work all and be there on time so my job options are limited. I remember just a few years ago, I was the only one of my friends working. Now I'm the only one of my friends without a job.

I'm in the same boat as you are, in college (19 years old atm. 20 in may) an then going home in the summer to live with my parents who still had to drive me around because I don't have my license or a car (I have my permit but I'm terrified of driving) and then looking at all my friends who have moved out already and have cars and jobs and I feel like I shouldn't be where I'm supposed to be at my age because I'm comparing myself to them.

What I realized is that I can't compare myself to people who aren't in the same boat as me. All my friends who have moved out all dropped out if school and work full time while I'm a full time student which puts stress on scheduling if I had a job. Also they all have 4+ roommates and that's why they can afford their apartment while I'm planning on getting one with just my fiancé and I which will mean we'd need a higher income than any of them have. That's the same with the car, they all don't have anything else to spend their money on and can save up while I have to buy books that are anywhere from $300+ each. (So I usually spend $1k on books each semester and then I also have to buy food and stuff)

Then there's my family. My fiancé and I both help my older sister with our nephew (her son) since she works fast good it's hard fr a single mom on that income and also payin for school (she's doing online ) to buy everything a baby needs so we help her with diapers and formula and water and toys and medicine and clothes and then we also babysit when she's at work (she usually works overnights 6pm to 4am)

So once I think about that I realize that I'm not as far behind as I think I am, I just have different circumstances.


Do you have an etsy shop for your costumes?

I don't , I have a storenvy but most of my order are through my Facebook page
Https://facebook.com/forbiddenkingdomshop




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[Adalira]

Gave your page a big fat like :thumbs-up: I love the colors of your website as well, they are so soft and pastelly.
And that Jasmin costume is just gorgeous!

[Keiris]

Some mermen are trying to seduce MY Keiris with their own butts.

I. AM. NOT. HAPPY. [emoji34][emoji36]

#KeirionShipSinking

Now, now, Arion, it's going to take more than a few random fishbutts to sink THAT ship.;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

AhHhHhHhhHhhHhh

[RomanLaveau]

Some mermen are trying to seduce MY Keiris with their own butts.

I. AM. NOT. HAPPY. [emoji34][emoji36]

#KeirionShipSinking

Didn't you kiss another man that wasn't Keiris? lol

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[Madison MerFaerie]

Shit just got real.

[RomanLaveau]

I know I usually complain about my college life here but...seriously, does anyone here actually have a career in their college field?
I really regret going into what I went into, and while I love it, there is no job market for it and I hate being my age and still living at home (yeah I know 21 and at home is still kind of normal but it still urks me to see folks younger than me with cars and jobs knowing I have neither because I am broke college student with no real training in anything other than writing and writing is pretty much useless.....) Ugh. Its really tiresome, all these negative thoughts. And I tell myself to think positive, but everytime I do I just recall that thinking positive isn't going to fix the issue.
Fact is, I have no skills, no training, I feel like ive wasted my time in college, and anytime I get a job interview, it always goes back to the fact tht I don't have a car to be able to go from school, to work all and be there on time so my job options are limited. I remember just a few years ago, I was the only one of my friends working. Now I'm the only one of my friends without a job.

Well I'm in my senior year and in my internship! I have an assistant position at a Law firm after I graduate in May! Honestly I networked my way to get to this point. I got involved and made connections with the right professors and now I'm pretty much set with what I need to get a job after school. I'm from California and didn't have a car cuz I go to school in NC, you just have to make a way to get what you want. Your experience is really what you make it, try to sit down and just write what you can do to get what you need and go for it; things in your head can definitely overwhelm you but when I write it down then I can formulate a plan from that.


Shit just got real.

lmao omg I'm just kidding hahahahaha

[SeaGlass Siren]

There needs to be a new reality tv show called "the real gay mermen of Mernetwork". :grabs popcorn:

[Winged Mermaid]

So my husband and I just had a whole thing with him telling me how he thinks selfies "have no value whatsoever" "are a waste of everyone's time- even the 0.1 seconds it takes someone to scroll past it is a complete waste" "completely narcissistic" and "utterly detestable". All because after thinking about it for a super long time (over a year) I bought a selfie sick. (Because he always gets annoyed if I ever ask him to take a photo of me. Also because when I want photos with my friends somewhere and having to ask a stranger to take it, I get major social anxiety- plus the danger of someone just running off with my phone which has happened to people.) So, that was a fun conversation to have. -_-