B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Rillia]

Okay so on a daily basis I am sure there are things that really get under your skin that occur.

Here is your chance to vent no matter how small the situation or how idiosyncratic it is.

I'll Start......

I really hate it when blonde girls act like they are dumb just to show off for other guys.
And i hate daisy dukes, and male customers who are rude to you just to show off for their date -_- Not cool guys not cool...........:mad:

[Prince Calypso]

i fucking hate insecure girls who have to cling all on their man when they pass by you.
sweety excuse me but if your that concerned about another man taking your boy then maybe you need to be more concerned with him and not me

[Kanti]

I hate it when older people immediately think they know more than you do and speak to you in
a condescending manner. It's also annoying when older people demand respect just because
they're older while they treat you like utter shit.
When you beat them in an argument and they say "You just don't understand right now, you will
when you're older" and junk like that -__-

[Kanti]

I really hate it when blonde girls act like they are dumb just to show off for other guys.

I have a bunch of chick friends who do the opposite xD
Normally they wouldn't have anything to do with videogames but if a guy they think is cute
starts talking about videogames, allovasudden it's their favorite thing to do.
I hate gamer chicks who always love to make everyone painfully aware that they play videogames.
I suppose that's not really the same thing xD

[Mermaid Rillia]

haha it could be in certain situations but i have to agree on the gamer chick thing. its highly annoying

[Kanti]

Blerg. I used to work at Gamestop and they hired some girl who was bent on letting everyone know
that she loooooved videogames. I'd hear her brag to customers when they didn't even ask or talk to
the other employees about how much she knew about games A B and C. I dunno if that's sexist of me
or not? I know a lot of girls often are unsupportive of each other but I just felt like it was so fake sounding
x_x

[Mermaid Rillia]

Most gamer girls in fact DO NOT brag about it.
So most likely she got intel on such games and proceeded to regurgitate info on them.

[Syrenia]

I was a district manager of a video game store. I play more video games than I care to say, but I don't brag about them. So I'm going to have to agree with you.

[Nemefish]

I have a bunch of chick friends who do the opposite xD
Normally they wouldn't have anything to do with videogames but if a guy they think is cute
starts talking about videogames, allovasudden it's their favorite thing to do.
I hate gamer chicks who always love to make everyone painfully aware that they play videogames.
I suppose that's not really the same thing xD

i am a gamer chick but i dont show off that i am, i speak about it with another gamers when it pops up in a conversation, and i totally agree with you when you say that about girls who act like if they are all i9nto what a guy is into just to show off because hes cute XP

PS. i also hate the thing about the adults thinking they can talk down to you and be a total dictator just because they re older (like my bitchy mom T_T)

[Nemefish]

Most gamer girls in fact DO NOT brag about it.
So most likely she got intel on such games and proceeded to regurgitate info on them.

yea what she sayz :D

[Ayla of Duluth]

I work on a tour boat that takes customers around the lake. We often get classes of kids. Usually they're younger, but yesterday the kids were 11th graders in high school. The class was standing on the side of the slip, waiting to board, when I shit you not, a girl looks at me and says "are we going on a boat ride?" ...are you fucking kidding me? No! We're going to sit on this boat for a couple hours and then leave! My coworker thought it was hilarious. It was disappointing. A junior in high school is one year away from graduating, and she doesn't know that when you're going on a boat it usually means you're going out on the water. =,,= ugh.
Then another girl from the back of the group actually asked which end of the boat is the front. Oh, gee, Idunno. Maybe the part that is pointy and says FRONT on it in big bold letters. Seriously. Kids are retarded these days. What happened to the education system?
Anyways, we were underway, and yet another girl was wondering, "who's controlling this big ship?" her friend didn't hesitate in saying "it's driving itself!" in an obnoxiously shocked tone. Then all the girls started freaking out. "ohmygawd, like, it's driving itself? That is like, so totally cool." bitch turn your dumb ass around and you can see the captain driving this damn thing. He was the one that took your ticket. He's wearing the hat that says CAPTAIN OF THE VISTA FLEET on it.

Seriously, before we even got out on the lake I was ready to jump overboard. #endrant

[AniaR]

crocs and uggh boots. :/

[LittleTreasure]

You know what I like to think about UGG boots? This may be a tired joke buuut... they're UuuuuuuuuuuuuuGGLY.

I hate how some guys (most of the guys who have hit on me) don't understand social cues. Just because I talked to you in class one day doesn't mean I'm madly in love with you. It means I was being friendly and I don't care whether you are male or female, I still like to talk to my classmates. Do I have to act like a bitch to get the message across? Why do I have to make it clear to guys that I don't want to date them just because I paid a little attention to them, like any other person? Do I have to scream in your face to tell you that I don't want to date you? WHAT IS IT WITH SOME GUYS? >~<;;;

Do guys just not talk to girls unless they want to get into their pants or...what? Someone please enlighten me. I have the hardest time being blunt about these things but I feel like I'm going to start doing it soon.

[MermaidAubrin]

Okay i know this will make me sound like a total smart ass but I hate hate hate when people misuse "literally" ugh it just bothers me so much!!! For example "I was so scared I literally died" NO YOU EFFIN DIDN'T


Also "your mom" jokes, i use them sometimes but for some reason my generation feels the need to tack "your mom" on to EVERYTHING


Okay enough bitching from me for today :)

[AniaR]

I also hate when people say "no offence" and then follow it up with something seriously offensive. lol

[Mermaid Rillia]

I hate it when people can't finish a sentence. liek they start it and then got side tracked by something and they cant finish it.

I also hate when people cut in line. And obnoxious drunk people.

crocs annoy me because they are so ugly. like, who would let their kid out in public wearing those?

And when I go to the store and the guy at the deli starts hitting on me and hinting that he wants my number when my fiance is right there with me. -_- (Have you no shame deli boy)?

[Mermaid Momo]

i hate it when older people (and sometime people in my own age category) talk to me like i'm stupid or i can't make my own decisions or they don't take me seriously then they say, "oh! you're in 7th grade right? back in my day..." and i usually just smile nicely until their done then my mom's like: "she's almost 16 ya know, and i'm sure she's getting tired of people thinking she's forever 12." (my mom gets what i'm going through, she looks exactly like me which means people believes she's forever 12 too and they always talk down to her until i say something with mom in it on purpose so that they can get the hint.)

[Kanti]

I hate how some guys (most of the guys who have hit on me) don't understand social cues. Just because I talked to you in class one day doesn't mean I'm madly in love with you. It means I was being friendly and I don't care whether you are male or female, I still like to talk to my classmates. Do I have to act like a bitch to get the message across? Why do I have to make it clear to guys that I don't want to date them just because I paid a little attention to them, like any other person? Do I have to scream in your face to tell you that I don't want to date you? WHAT IS IT WITH SOME GUYS? >~<;;;

Do guys just not talk to girls unless they want to get into their pants or...what? Someone please enlighten me. I have the hardest time being blunt about these things but I feel like I'm going to start doing it soon.

Haha I think guys are only interested in being your friend if they think or want something to do
with you relationship-wise. Sometimes there's exceptions but for the most part I find it to be
true :/
I've had friends for a long time, then when they finally ask me out and I say I don't want to go out
with them, I'd rather be friends, they suddenly disappear. I guess I was only fun when you thought
you had a chance with me? o_o

Here's a pretty entertaining video regarding the topic xD

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

[Kanti]

i hate it when older people (and sometime people in my own age category) talk to me like i'm stupid or i can't make my own decisions or they don't take me seriously then they say, "oh! you're in 7th grade right? back in my day..." and i usually just smile nicely until their done then my mom's like: "she's almost 16 ya know, and i'm sure she's getting tired of people thinking she's forever 12." (my mom gets what i'm going through, she looks exactly like me which means people believes she's forever 12 too and they always talk down to her until i say something with mom in it on purpose so that they can get the hint.)

Urg. I hate it ESPECIALLY when the person is only like 3-5 years older than you.
My boyfriend's friends do that sometimes.. They'll be like "OMG YOU WERE BORN IN THE 90s THAT'S
RIGHT!! YOU DUNNO ANYTHING ABOUT THE 80s!!" It's like.. I was born in 1991... You were born in
1987.. Yea you totally remember the 80s right? All 3 years? I bet it was super awesome and you totally
went wild and did all the stuff everyone did.
I also hate it when professors or teachers automatically think they're right compared to you just because
they're professors. Not saying I'm smarter than them, but they're human, they have the capability to be
wrong too.

[Kanti]

Most gamer girls in fact DO NOT brag about it.
So most likely she got intel on such games and proceeded to regurgitate info on them.

Yea of course. A lot of my friends like videogames but they won't throw themselves all over the topic
to try and show off. They'll only bring them up if the conversation pertains to it or if they generally want
to talk about them.
I guess the type of stuff I was talking about is when someone is all "OMG I LOOOOOOVE VIDEOGAMES!
I ALWAYS PLAY VIDEOGAMES EVERY CHANCE I GET! I WAS PLAYING VIDEOGAMES SINCE BLABLA
OMG I'D TOTALLY KICK YOUR ASS, I'M BETTER THAN HALF THE GUYS I KNOW AT VIDEOGAMES!"
At that point it's like wtf? Who asked you? Also calm down, we get it, you play videogames..

[New York Mermaid]

I hate the fact that i get sick all the time and that im such a good person that i sometimes let people walk all over me, and that i just cant say no to certain people..

I hate how my family is being torn apart from each other, my father has no one but me and isint doing well, My mother just wont let things go and its been 8yrs since.. No one understands how much stress they put me under when they complain to me about the issues they have with family members. I've put myself into a bubble of silence at least till vacation.

I hate how so many people I know can be so two faced. Im also on that line of a person who i dont even want to call a friend anymore, because anytime i see her she just wants to not only show off every little thing in her "new" house (she's been living in it for 18yrs), but talk about how she has such a bad life with her husband, and yet they wont seek therapy or be open with each other.. But she expects me to give her advice from the air (meaning i give her advice and it goes in one ear and out the other). She flip flops on everything and expects me to take time off work to just hang out with her (meanwhile she doesnt work, I work 6 days a week, I havent had a week to myself and my hubby since.... May 2011. The sad part is i've known her since i was 6yrs old, she's changed way too much for me. (the word snob comes to mind) I dont care how much money you have or what expensive car you drive, as long as your humble and respect others, thats what matters to me. Oh and what ticks me off she calls me when she has nothing to do, she did it to me one day when it was my anniversary weekend. I specifically told her the night before i left DONT CALL ME CAUSE IM ON MY ANNIVERSARY GETAWAY!!.. 5 voicemail & 7 text messages later.. rose where are you?, im bored, pick up,, etc.. I was seeing Beyond RED!. She called me one valentines day to complain to me that her husband didint buy her Godiva chocolates just the "rite aid brand" .. UM.. my hubby bought me a little box of cheap chocolates and a cupcake from Crumbs.. Lady have you ever heard its the thought that counts?? you understand now why i rather hang out with sharks and orcas..lol

*I also Hate the fact that I have hiccups while trying to type..

Okay, im done. **calms down back to happy mermaid**

[Kanti]

I hate how so many people I know can be so two faced. Im also on that line of a person who i dont even want to call a friend anymore, because anytime i see her she just wants to not only show off every little thing in her "new" house (she's been living in it for 18yrs), but talk about how she has such a bad life with her husband, and yet they wont seek therapy or be open with each other.. But she expects me to give her advice from the air (meaning i give her advice and it goes in one ear and out the other). She flip flops on everything and expects me to take time off work to just hang out with her (meanwhile she doesnt work, I work 6 days a week, I havent had a week to myself and my hubby since.... May 2011. The sad part is i've known her since i was 6yrs old, she's changed way too much for me. (the word snob comes to mind) I dont care how much money you have or what expensive car you drive, as long as your humble and respect others, thats what matters to me. Oh and what ticks me off she calls me when she has nothing to do, she did it to me one day when it was my anniversary weekend. I specifically told her the night before i left DONT CALL ME CAUSE IM ON MY ANNIVERSARY GETAWAY!!.. 5 voicemail & 7 text messages later.. rose where are you?, im bored, pick up,, etc.. I was seeing Beyond RED!. She called me one valentines day to complain to me that her husband didint buy her Godiva chocolates just the "rite aid brand" .. UM.. my hubby bought me a little box of cheap chocolates and a cupcake from Crumbs.. Lady have you ever heard its the thought that counts?? you understand now why i rather hang out with sharks and orcas..lol


Sweet jesus lol o_o
You're right to not call them a friend, that sounds like someone who's just stepping all over you.
Sometimes people are just very inconsiderate, I suppose it could be due to their upbringing or how
attractive they are. But seriously, complaining about chocolates? That's super low -__- At least
you GOT something.

I have a friend who's a bit like that. She's essentially had everything handed to her her whole life since her family is pretty rich, so now she's 20 something and doesn't have a job. She calls me even though I have things I've got to get done yet sometimes I humor her. She also only calls when she has no other friends to hang out with then she has the nerve to say "if you weren't around I'd be soooo bored". Which also annoys me because when we hang out, all she does is get on her iPhone and starts telling me stories about her day and all the troubles and things she's been doing the whole time we're together. Sometimes I think people just want everyone to listen to them. Not only that but she has a tendancy to steal/copy my ideas so she often likes to invite herself over so she can take a peek at what I'm working on.

I also hate it when people ask you for advice, then they just tell you how that won't work. Then you keep giving more advice but for some reason it's never the right advice. At that point it's like wtf then I'm not good at giving you advice so why do you ask? It's just some disguise so they can tell you about their problems -__-

[New York Mermaid]

Sweet jesus lol o_o
Not only that but she has a tendancy to steal/copy my ideas so she often likes to invite herself over so she can take a peek at what I'm working on.

Wow, time to hide your stuff when she pops on in.. :/

[Nyx]

Hate it when people are ignorant, and hate it even more when I mess up and make an ignorant statement.
Hate it when people go out of their way to show you that they look down on you.
Hate it when people say "no there is no other way/ it's impossible" before even trying to think about a solution.
And absolutely hate it when people who you are close to, and you expect they would believe what you say, won't trust or believe you in something without a reason as to why they don't believe you.

[SireniaSolaris]

Okay i know this will make me sound like a total smart ass but I hate hate hate when people misuse "literally" ugh it just bothers me so much!!! For example "I was so scared I literally died" NO YOU EFFIN DIDN'T



:)

OMG, you are not the only one! I am like that with the word irregardless - it is not correct! Almost every time I hear it, what people really mean to say is, regardless! It's like nails on a board to me! D:

[SireniaSolaris]

I hate it when people can't finish a sentence. liek they start it and then got side tracked by something and they cant finish it.

I also hate when people cut in line.


I am guilty of the sentence thing :$
Thing is, it drives me nuts too. Most of the time it is not even because I get distracted. I start to say something and then my mind just totally blanks and I have NO idea what thought I was in the middle of voicing. I'm only 23 so it really kind of worries me. Started happening after I gave birth :(

Now, for the line thing.... in my adult age I seem to have become one of those people who are a**holes to a*ssholes. People try to get in front of me, I very sternly (and sometimes loudly) say, "Excuse me. I was waiting here." Get in front of them "Thanks."

I actually called out this one lady at the grocery store the other day. I get in line with my two lunch items, this lady walks over, steps in FRONT of me, and starts putting her things on the counter. I said, "Excuse me. I'm not THAT invisible. I am in line, thank you very much. You can get BEHIND me." She looked like she couldn't believe it. People are so RUDE sometimes!!

Driving is even worse.... I'm very horn happy these days....

[SireniaSolaris]

Here's a pretty entertaining video regarding the topic xD

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA


omg... this was both, hilarious & depressing. I have soooo many guy friends. This kind of makes me sad T-T

[embry]

crocs and uggh boots. :/

I SO AGREE!!! they go swell with the cowboy boots in Alberta too *rolls eyes*

[Kanti]

[QUOTE=Kanti;22001]Wow, time to hide your stuff when she pops on in.. :/
Yea forsure. I usually hide the important junk xD
It's always annoying because she loves to casually ask me about it to keep tabs on what I do
but she never says anything looks great. She's sort of condescending because she went to a
very expensive art school and hasn't done anything artistic that makes her money yet I sat
down in my garage and taught myself everything and essentially make a living off it. She just
never really likes to admit she's wrong and when she asks me advice a second later she pretends
she knew it all along and was just "double checking" xD


I guess that's another thing I dislike. If you're wrong why can't you just accept it and say so? It
seems everyone's so fixed on trying to one-up each other that even when someone's information
is pretty much correct, you always have some person who comes in and is all "YOU BELIEVE THAT?"
then they continue to explain themselves in a totally condescending way.
I always quiz her on something before I tell her the answer and she loves to pretend she knows but
then she whips out her iphone and is all "BUT I'M JUST CURIOUS, LET'S CHECK" then after she
realizes she was wrong, she'll be all "Oh yeaaaa that was my second guess! I must've been thinking
of something else"

Lol sorry quite a rant xD
I like this thread too much, clearly

[Kanti]

omg... this was both, hilarious & depressing. I have soooo many guy friends. This kind of makes me sad T-T

Yea it's funny but again, it does sort of make me go "aww ): this is sort of true."
I dunno whos side to take on the issue, though. I have a lot of guy friends who are guilty of only
hanging with me because they think they have a chance, but then sometimes you have the girls
who are very flirty and keep the guys thinking that they're going to get a chance when they're
really not.
I try to never mislead anyone, I always kiss my bf in front of everyone and hang on him when we
go to parites yet this stuff still happens. I also know they're not genuine friends because they actually
go so far as to try and make themselves seem better than my bf, so in a way it's sort of like they're
under the delusion that I'd leave him for them?
But then if you go out and say it straight that you don't like them and are uninterested, they turn around
and label you a cold bitch. So in the end I don't even know if you can win @_@

[Mermaid Rillia]

Ohh that video is soo sad but soo true....

I hate it when managers go on a power trip.
I hate it when girls let their ego get in the way.
And i absolutely cant stand guys who ignore the freaking ring on my finger when I make it impossible to miss.

[Gem Stone]

i hate it when girls get mad at me cause their boyfriends enjoy talking to me more than them. although sometimes its funny when me and the guys will be standing around talking about guns or shooting or cars (big things in my town) and their girlfriends will stand ten feet away and shoot me death glares. I will tell them,"i think your girlfriend wants you" and then they say,"she can wait" or somethng like that. its hilarious. but i guess guys need to talk about something with someone who has a brian everynow and then.
also dislike that video, i have tons of guy friends and not a single one likes me in that way. im %100 positive

[Spindrift]

It is more common that I get frustrated with myself than with other people:

I hate it when I'm clumsy, or stupid, or a dumbass, or lose stuff.
I hate it when I break stuff.
I hate it when I'm not on top of things.
I hate getting interrupted, or not being able to work on my own projects.
I hate being short.
I hate stumbling over my words or not being able to talk when I'm explaining something to someone. I just look like I'm overly excited or nervous when I'm not.

Pet Peeves for other people:

I do not get along well with uneducated people. If you're still trying to actively learn on your own, that's cool. But if you stop because you think it's not worth it, you won't have my respect.
I hate it when people misspell words that aren't difficult to spell. I get it if you're not from here, or dyslexic, or have some other kind of problem, but the people I know who have those issues at least try. If it doesn't look like you're trying, I'm just going to dismiss anything you say because I won't think you're worth my time to understand.
I hate it when people use words and don't know what they mean. Or talk about things they know nothing about, like when my brother tries to lecture me on my major when he quit college.

Other stuff:

I hate it that a large number of people are so narrow minded - in that they are only aware of their own problems. No one in the general public cares about global or widespread issues unless it has something to do with raising taxes or something.
I also hate when people say they "are from Hawaii" to show off when they've only lived there for a few years and know nothing about it except for places to eat and people to hang out with. I ran into this couple who -insisted- they were from Hawaii but weren't born there and didn't grow up there and knew nothing of island history.
I hate how other people aren't more proactive. Then when they meet me they gush about how they wish they had my life and how I'm so lucky. I got to do the things I do because I took control of my actions and goals at a very young age. There's more to life than MTV. Volunteer, or IDK, go to the gym.
I hate how the USA runs itself.
I hate it when people won't entertain any thought or opinion that is not their own. I research my ass off of any issue I hear about to form my own opinion, but I always consider both sides of the story.

This weekend I helped protest against a circus that uses animals as part of its show. I have no quarrel with the circus handlers - I assume they are either a) willfully ignorant or b) brainwashed (think Milgrim experiment (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milgram_experiment)), but the people buying the tickets are supporting a venue that not only electrocutes elephants and whips them with bullhooks that pierce their skins, but also makes them live in detestable conditions while they travel. I saw 6 elephants be loaded into ONE train car. They were shackled inside and they didn't even have enough space to turn around. They have to piss and crap on each other the entire journey. Also one elephant got hit in the knee and squealed because it was too slow (they just did a 2 hour show and they were now being hustled to walk 2 miles to the train station from the venue).

And people were yelling at us (we were instructed to never raise our voices and to stay respectful by the protest organizer) by saying we were ruining a "fun event" for their children, who just wanted to see the elephants. The tactics circuses use on circus animals are NOWHERE NEAR equivalent or related to the training techniques considered standard in housebreaking a cat or a dog. And people just don't care.

[Spindrift]

also dislike that video, i have tons of guy friends and not a single one likes me in that way. im 0 positive

I get the hate from girls too because I can speak nerd and go to an engineering school. The video is totally edited for comical effect. Also, they should interview less prettier girls and then see what answers they get. Sometimes guys are just really superficial. Or they are friends with a chick and aren't necessarily into her, but would still have sex with her if propositioned... because it's still sex.

[Kanti]

@Gem - haha awww. I think if anything the girlfriends should be mad at their boyfriends, not you. You're
not in a relationship so it's really not your responsibility. Also if the gf is so insecure that she's shooting
death glares in a conversation she can plainly hear isn't bad or dishonest, then maybe she's the ony with
insecurity issues o_o

@Spin - I know what you mean. I think all 'uneducation' or 'ignorance' stems from not having any sort of
open mind. Sometimes I get people who won't even talk to me about certain things because they don't want
to change their minds. At that point it's sort of like, then why do you agree with that? You can't even defend
yourself and you don't even want to talk about it?? I get that a LOT with old people xD
And bleh I hate the circus. I watched a behind the scenes video for Ringling, who I think is pretty popular for
mistreating their animals, and it was disturbing. Shame on the people who think you're "ruining their good time".
Either they're sadistic freaks and loooove animal torture or they're THAT unaware of what's going on.

[Mermaid Rillia]

I HATE the circus! went once as a kid and i never went again. Evene when i was little I could see that the animals were being mistreated.

I too have to agree with the uneducated part. I dont understand how its so hard to try to learn.

[Bellasea]

I hate rude people. Well, most of the time I dislike people altogether, but soemtimes I jsut want to shoot rude people.

One example- thter is this one guy that talkes to the girl whose lokcer is next to mine. He stands in my way evryday. I ask him to move. I ask very politely. Then i give up, I open my locker, ehich hits him in the shoulder. He shifts over just enough to let my locker open fully, then he steps right back in fron tof my locker. Then he doesn't move. This happens every day! Grr:mad:

[Spindrift]

I hate rude people. Well, most of the time I dislike people altogether, but soemtimes I jsut want to shoot rude people.

One example- thter is this one guy that talkes to the girl whose lokcer is next to mine. He stands in my way evryday. I ask him to move. I ask very politely. Then i give up, I open my locker, ehich hits him in the shoulder. He shifts over just enough to let my locker open fully, then he steps right back in fron tof my locker. Then he doesn't move. This happens every day! Grr:mad:

You should ask the girl really loudly if she is impressed by a dude who doesn't treat women respectfully. :P

[Bellasea]

And then I would loudly be called a bitch.

[mermaid hannah]

i hate all the drama, all the boy stealing, useless tears over people you wont remember in ten years. all the lies and rumours. the silly games everyone plays. how you can lose your best friend over the stupidest things. the catty girls that dont give a fuck about anything but bringing you down. or the girls that only talk about how fat they are or how much they hate themselves..the stupid fact that you cant take your mind off that one person no matter what. the butterflys you try to kill inside your stomache but they live and they still want to fucking flutter around. you know basicly i hate everything that goes with middle/high school...lol im good now..

[Spindrift]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&amp;v=RPPsf-Mi8FY


http://youtu.be/PfW8deSlsiA

Warning: profanity

[Lotus]

And obnoxious drunk people.
I actually find drunks funny as hell, unless they're trying to hit me. And I love Jenna Marbles. But this thread is about pet peeves, so here's mine: we used to live in a house about ten miles from where we currently live. Our landlords live overseas and didn't give a flying fuck about us, so long as we payed rent on time. We went 10 days with virtually NO HEAT in our house the first winter... I emails them every day, sometimes twice a day for a week, with no response. So my husband emailed them and tols them we were leaving if it wasnt fixed. la-tee-da, they listened. And that's how every single issue we had there went. I would say something needed attention or fixing, Id get blown off, Mike would have to get involved, and suddenly they were all ears. Now listen, I'm no feminazi, but when I have to get my husband to speak for me to be heard, I see that as an act of war. It's happened to me in the shop where we take our bikes to be fixed too. I tell them something needs to be done a certain way, and they blow me off and do it their way. I don't get it. Is what I have to say less valid because I have tits? Occasionally my male customers treat me like a bimbo too.... the nice thing there though is that if people are rude to us at work, my boss kicks them out, no discussion necessary. Anyway, I digress. That's what I hate. Being treated like a dumb-ass when I certainly don't act like one.

[Lotus]

oh yeah, and I hate it when my brother in law hooks back up with his ex, even though we've all warned him not too... then she cheats again.... then he cries on MY shoulder again... wash, rinse repeat.
The last time I told both of them to just fuck each others lives up and leave me and my husband the hell out of it.
oh, and I hate it when my Mom talks about our family history of alcoholism EVERY time I have a glass of wine in her presence... I stopped drinking in front of her once, and she told me how proud she was I kicked the habit. gah!! it's like when Jason Bateman gets conned into drinking a glass of scotch in front of his boss in "Horrible Bosses" and then called a drunk in a meeting.
and no-win situations. those totally blow. especially for me lol

[Mermaid Sirena]

When the person you're supporting looks at you and says 'I love you but you need to grow up and be an adult.'
When someone stops giving a damn about physical affection and connection.
When someone states every single time you do something without them that they 'hope your not doing anything.'
When Someone is incompetent to the point of being your child while trying to act like your parent.
When you go two years without ever getting the dance they promised so long ago when you really needed it to feel close and loved.
When all you can think is 'I wish...' and no matter how hard you try to make that wish a reality it seems to only slip father away with every step forward.
When you love someone but wish you didn't so you could get back to where you used to be in life, but knowing they make you so happy that the gain or loss of material possession could never justify loosing them.
When you know someone truly loves you despite everything they are, and truly do everything in their power to make you happy.
When all you have is hope and stress and fear and joy and pain and love and sorrow and ultimately, peace.

[Spindrift]

When the person you're supporting looks at you and says 'I love you but you need to grow up and be an adult.'
When someone stops giving a damn about physical affection and connection.
When someone states every single time you do something without them that they 'hope your not doing anything.'
When Someone is incompetent to the point of being your child while trying to act like your parent.
When you go two years without ever getting the dance they promised so long ago when you really needed it to feel close and loved.
When all you can think is 'I wish...' and no matter how hard you try to make that wish a reality it seems to only slip father away with every step forward.
When you love someone but wish you didn't so you could get back to where you used to be in life, but knowing they make you so happy that the gain or loss of material possession could never justify loosing them.
When you know someone truly loves you despite everything they are, and truly do everything in their power to make you happy.
When all you have is hope and stress and fear and joy and pain and love and sorrow and ultimately, peace.


Sounds like you need to dump someone's sorry ass.

[Mermaid Sirena]

I would if there wasn't a list over twice as long of wonderful amazing things that I love him for. It's a long complicated story, just somedays it gets to much and all i can think of is the bad & wish I could fix it like everything else.

[Spindrift]

Check out the motivational thread I made: http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?1947-Courage-Wolf-to-the-Rescue!-Motivational-Thread-to-Keep-You-Moving-Forward

[Lotus]

Hey, I have more!!
See, I got to thinking and I realized that I hate a LOT of things- but here's one more that just makes my ass itch... are you ready? .... it's when someone says, for no reason, with no provocation what-so-ever, "DON'T JUDGE ME"
Here's why:
In my experience with various sub-standard human beings, I've found that this is a common statement. "don't judge me". Out of nowhere, somebody is telling you up front that A.) your opinion means jack shit to them and B.) that there's probably a damn good reason you SHOULD be judging that person.
Let me let you all in on an obviously little known fact of life. PEOPLE CAN AND WILL JUDGE YOU, WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT, FOR WHATEVER THEY WANT, AND THEY DON'T CARE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT.
Not saying that's right or ok or whatever- you know, every situation is different... but that's life. So with this little nugget-o-knowledge I would deduce that most people would come to terms with the fact that as long as you are OK with who and what you are, people can judge all they like. But it's not gonna ruffle your feathers. And therein lies the heart of my annoyance. People who shout about not wanting to be judged are really just publicizing their own insecurities and opening themselves up to the very thing they rebel so fiercely against- JUDGEMENT. Look, if you don't shower and you don't brush your teeth and you dress like a bum, no professional person would even accept you into a job interview for, let's say, a bank teller position. They will judge you, in five seconds, based on what they see when you walk in the door. You wanna be a rebel and really make a point? Keep your damn mouth shut and do your thing quietly while upholding an image that doesn't draw attention to yourself. Then blow everyone's minds with that song or that art or that tail later on, when no one expects it. You wanna make people think your a hot-headed, immature, ego-driven dick-wad? Start fights with people you don't know while you hide behind an internet ID and, oh yeah, don't forget to let EVERYONE know how fucking awesome you are while you're at it. That'll show 'em old boy!!
OR, be a total slut who can't stop screwing other guys behind your boyfriends back- and then lie to him about it while you piss and moan about people thinking you're a common whore. yeah. Look, all I'm really saying here is that people need to OWN UP to who and what they are, and accept that some people aren't gonna like it. Not saying you shouldn't occasionally get mad and have an outburst, but for GODS sake, when you do, make an intelligent point. You do realize that your chances of changing someones mind about what they truly believe are slim-to-none, right? And if said person truly believes you have flaws and they don't like you, ask yourself: DO I LIKE ME? and if so, who cares what so-and-so thinks? I dig me, and that's fine. As James Hetfield so eloquently screamed: "roamer, wanderer, nomad, vagabond- call me what you will".
screw em. Love yourself.... another GREAT quote: "here's to those who wish us well, and those who don't can go to hell," - Elaine Bennis, Seinfeld.
Much Love y'all. Rant over.
P.S. I'd like to go on the record to say that 90% of the things I feel I've been wrongly judged for are things I was ashamed of doing in the first place. Working on the other 10%. I realize I got take my own medicine. ;)

[Mermaid Rillia]

I HATE insecure guys. And i hate it when people say "I support you" when they cleary don't because their actions don't show it. (even though you have spent every dime you had on their dream).
I HATE it when people are fickle with what they want in life. I HATE it when people have un-protected sex thinking that "getting knocked up will never happen to me" when it very well could and they know they are too irresponsible and selfish and young to have a child. I HATE it when people who can barely afford one child have more of them. I HATE it when girls gripe about people thinking of them as a slut or talk of them as if they are a common whore. Like seriously, you did something to give people a reason for saying that. And if you legitamently have done nothing to earn that title then fuck 'em.

I also absolutely HATE when people go out to dinner and then cant afford to tip at the end of the meal. PEOPLE that is RUDE, and makes your servers life hell and makes the reason they came to work a total waste of time.

Okay, thats my bitching for today/tonight (i hope). Back to happy mermaid phase :)

[Ayla of Duluth]

I hate when someone spreads a rumor about you and then everyone treats you like a social pariah because no one bothers to go to you and ask if it really happened. Then everyone hates you for something you didn't do and chances are if no one is talking to you, you'll never know that it was because of a rumor, thus those people make it virtually impossible to solve the problem and straighten out your reputation.

[Alveric]

Anyone who would flush your friendship because of an unsubstantiated rumor, was never a friend to begin with.

[Gem Stone]

I hate people who say theyre going to try and lose weight, so they start working out, they eat a salad at McDonald's, and then they have two cookies, a milkshake, coffe with extra whipped cream, French fries, a diet coke, and an ice cream done and then cry and whine about not loosing any weight. It makes no sense to me.

[Ayla of Duluth]

I hate people who say theyre going to try and lose weight, so they start working out, they eat a salad at McDonald's, and then they have two cookies, a milkshake, coffe with extra whipped cream, French fries, a diet coke, and an ice cream done and then cry and whine about not loosing any weight. It makes no sense to me.
my mom does that. but not with fast food. she buys a bunch of healthy "low cal, low fat" foods and then she eats it ALL, then complains about why she's not losing weight. also she watches tv and buys into EVERYTHING they say. Dr Oz could tell her that eating peanuts without chewing them is healthier for her than chewing them because herp derp derp, and she'd totally overlook the choking risk just because he said it so it must be true. it gets so annoying sometimes. especially when she obnoxiously bounces around the living room at 5am to her excercise [never knew how to spell that damn word] dvds. she's 58 and she's in a tiny sports bra and huge shorts. WITH TENNIS SHOES ON THE CARPET. i'm just gonna go take a nap. =,,=

[sunrise]

I hate people who expect to be handed everything. There's a girl who sits at my lunch table- she's not anyone there's friend, and here's why: the stupid teachers give her every answer, and if they don't she expects US to give her the answers. She's a total brat about everyhing and brags about anything- she always has to have the better story. I hate her teachers for favoring her and one other student and if my friends call the teachers out, they get threatened with detentions. I hate the counselor who didn't so anything when an old friend of mine and I was bullied, but the moment my friends and I try one thing to get the girl who keeps trying to get answers from others to leave, she threatens to give us detentions for bullying. I hate stupid students who think something is dumb because it's different. The old friend I was talking about was bullied partially because she got a pet rat, so because it's not a hampster or dog, cat or fish, it's automatically wrong to them. Sorry, but Charlie is nicer than any hampster I've ever met. I hate over enthusiastic day camp people. They make my skin crawl. I had to volunteer for Bible Camp, and being near the women that had done it for a while was horrible. Some lady screamed at me and made me crythe first day because she sent me to the wrong station and tried to force me to sing and dance. I doubt any of the kindergarteners would mind if people weren't all as bubbly as her. I also hate it when adults talk to me really slow because I do one thing wrong. Hello, I'm 14, not five. Maybe if you didn't treat me like I had the IQ of a one year old, I'd show more respect and motivation. To add to this, I hate how all of a sudden, a teacher who I could at least tolerate for the years I was forced to have her (challenge teacher) treats me like I'm even dumber than before, or like I'm not able to comprehend because she found out I have a seizure disorder. I just want to scream "I'm a smart 14 year old girl! Not some stupid glass figure that can't think, and has a crack that you need to watch or else it'll shatter!!" (Ironically, she's been the reason for a few breakdowns, and the subject of some very very twisted and mean poetry. Some of my best though :) ) Then, my biggest issues: When an adult in power over me, such as a teacher or supervisor lies to the principal about something I did to get me in trouble,especially since said supervisor gained nothing in doing so.And last but not least: when I state the facts of what said supervisor said, and what actually happened and my mom tells me to shut up and get over the fact that someone that's supposed to be watching over students and helping them had no problem lying to the principal, and even smiled sweetly at me the next day. The NERVE!!! So I guess you could say I kinda hate a lot of the staff at my school district, considering over half of the teachers and staff act in one of these ways.

[Merman Ray]

I hate people who expect to be handed everything.

This is the "occupy" movement. Mommy and daddy government will give everything to me for "free". FOOLS!

Ironically (ironic because this is a thread about complaining) one of the things that I hate about people is people who complain too much.

[Coradion]

I have an issue with the weight thing too. If you are overweight, obese, or whatever and you don't want to be, then work towards fixing it. People tell me I can't understand because I'm "skinny". I am not skinny, I'm just in decent shape. When I was 17 I used to be 5'10" and 245 pounds according to BMI that is obese. I was working out six days a week, six and a half hours a day and I still struggled with my weight. I do have a genetic factor going against me, big deal tons of people do, but that is no excuse. I did not grow into my body or any of that crap. It took me four years to get to where I am now and I'm still not totally happy, I'm 6'1" and 170. So, I do get it. What pisses me off is people complaining to me about their weight and not making steps to fix it. If you really care enough, then you will start right now to be who you want to be, not tomorrow, not in a week. Right now. I hate it when people complain about mean comments others made about their pictures. I do think there is more than one way to be beautiful, but if you are not in the best shape and put revealing pictures of yourself on the internet and someone who doesn't know you is mean they might be a jackass, you shouldn't be hurt by it. It happens, either take steps to be in better shape or take different or less revealing pictures or ignore them and quit whining.

[Spindrift]

I hate people who expect to be handed everything. There's a girl who sits at my lunch table- she's not anyone there's friend, and here's why: the stupid teachers give her every answer, and if they don't she expects US to give her the answers. She's a total brat about everyhing and brags about anything- she always has to have the better story. I hate her teachers for favoring her and one other student and if my friends call the teachers out, they get threatened with detentions. I hate the counselor who didn't so anything when an old friend of mine and I was bullied, but the moment my friends and I try one thing to get the girl who keeps trying to get answers from others to leave, she threatens to give us detentions for bullying. I hate stupid students who think something is dumb because it's different. The old friend I was talking about was bullied partially because she got a pet rat, so because it's not a hampster or dog, cat or fish, it's automatically wrong to them. Sorry, but Charlie is nicer than any hampster I've ever met. I hate over enthusiastic day camp people. They make my skin crawl. I had to volunteer for Bible Camp, and being near the women that had done it for a while was horrible. Some lady screamed at me and made me crythe first day because she sent me to the wrong station and tried to force me to sing and dance. I doubt any of the kindergarteners would mind if people weren't all as bubbly as her. I also hate it when adults talk to me really slow because I do one thing wrong. Hello, I'm 14, not five. Maybe if you didn't treat me like I had the IQ of a one year old, I'd show more respect and motivation. To add to this, I hate how all of a sudden, a teacher who I could at least tolerate for the years I was forced to have her (challenge teacher) treats me like I'm even dumber than before, or like I'm not able to comprehend because she found out I have a seizure disorder. I just want to scream "I'm a smart 14 year old girl! Not some stupid glass figure that can't think, and has a crack that you need to watch or else it'll shatter!!" (Ironically, she's been the reason for a few breakdowns, and the subject of some very very twisted and mean poetry. Some of my best though :) ) Then, my biggest issues: When an adult in power over me, such as a teacher or supervisor lies to the principal about something I did to get me in trouble,especially since said supervisor gained nothing in doing so.And last but not least: when I state the facts of what said supervisor said, and what actually happened and my mom tells me to shut up and get over the fact that someone that's supposed to be watching over students and helping them had no problem lying to the principal, and even smiled sweetly at me the next day. The NERVE!!! So I guess you could say I kinda hate a lot of the staff at my school district, considering over half of the teachers and staff act in one of these ways.

That wall of text was a little hard to get through, but I share your hatred of administrative staff. The way I see it is that those kinds of jobs don't hire efficient/qualified people because the pay is so crappy. So the people working those jobs are usually the ones who don't know what they are doing. I have to get on their asses for every little thing here in college, including just making sure a form they asked -me- to sign actually gets to the right person.

Come to think of it, I also can't understand why educational programs in the US are so poor. Other countries do it right when teachers get paid these amazingly high salaries and are revered. The more respected the job is, the better quality will come out of it. If there were stricter restrictions and more qualifications and it paid more, maybe kids in America would actually learn stuff instead of having that 30-40% drop out rate and obsession with themselves. All these people going to school want to be doctors or lawyers and in the end it's pretty rare that I meet any doctor or lawyer that is actually good at their job or know what they are talking about. And of course when budget cuts are enforced educational programs are usually one of the first to go. Society is ridiculous.

[Merman Chris]

This is the "occupy" movement. Mommy and daddy government will give everything to me for "free". FOOLS!

Ironically (ironic because this is a thread about complaining) one of the things that I hate about people is people who complain too much.

What an insulting, simplistic characterization of the movement. You are merely repeating FOX news and Limbaugh-like talking points. The occupy movement is not about getting stuff for free. It is about finally getting the filthy rich and the corporations to pay their fair share like we in the middle class do, so that all Americans have access to social services that benefit everyone. Are you a multi millionaire? I highly doubt it, and yet here you are on the side of the 1%, programmed by their agents to ignore your own self-interests to benefit the elite. Who's the fool?

[sunrise]

That wall of text was a little hard to get through, but I share your hatred of administrative staff. The way I see it is that those kinds of jobs don't hire efficient/qualified people because the pay is so crappy. So the people working those jobs are usually the ones who don't know what they are doing. I have to get on their asses for every little thing here in college, including just making sure a form they asked -me- to sign actually gets to the right person.

Come to think of it, I also can't understand why educational programs in the US are so poor. Other countries do it right when teachers get paid these amazingly high salaries and are revered. The more respected the job is, the better quality will come out of it. If there were stricter restrictions and more qualifications and it paid more, maybe kids in America would actually learn stuff instead of having that 30-40% drop out rate and obsession with themselves. All these people going to school want to be doctors or lawyers and in the end it's pretty rare that I meet any doctor or lawyer that is actually good at their job or know what they are talking about. And of course when budget cuts are enforced educational programs are usually one of the first to go. Society is ridiculous.

Yeah, it was pretty choppy, sorry 'bout that. :$ I agree, there's so much improvement that needs to be done in education. And with administrative staff, I could rant for hours about the mayor of my town, but I'll only say one thing: our town hasn't had a tornado siren since the sixties or seventies. We didn't have one until 2010, yet we have brick sidewalks and all that. I guess the people in charge figure, we'll all die pretty and without a warning. :doh:

[Prince Calypso]

i know this is most likely gonna sound really mean so
FLAMER SHIELD UP!!!

i hate fat people who use being fat as an excuse for everything.
"why didn't you come to my party?"
"didn't have a ride."
"dude you live like a mile away from my house!! i can walk to your place in under half an hour."
"i cant walk that far, encase you haven't noticed kris i'm fat."
"no your lazy."

[New York Mermaid]

im having an annoyed moment and i need to.. scream.. However i've had a migraine all damn day,

ive been running around endlessly for my sick father and i cant have a decent word in without someone wanting to push me up against a wall. I

dont like being bullied for something I dont agree with. I dont like being told "oh it has to be done this specific way," when i see 4 different actions that can be taken for the better.

Im this close to blocking someone off my facebook, for their continual posting on my RL Facebook...

And im done/

[SageSpirit]

I guess the first thing I'll complain about is a substitute teacher my class had back in December.
Okay, so my normal teacher had to go take care of her 90-year-old dad. Therefore we had to get a substitute teacher. This teacher told us to just call him ''Mr. P.'' We never learned his last name, from what I remember. Now, whenever our class isn't doing anything, I'll bring out a notebook and start drawing things. And what does this guy do? He goes over to my desk, THROWS the notebook off my desk, and tells me that ''drawing is for kindergartners.''
That one sentence had gotten me so mad. Art is (alomst) my life, and I just wanted to stand up, and scream at him how wrong he was. But, sadly, I am a push-over and didn't do anything. And that's when it got worse.
He had somehow gotten into a fight with one of the smartest kids in the whole grade, and he ends it by saying ''I'm older, so therefore I know more!'' No, you don't. And at the end of the school day, my friend, Talia, was so mad at this guy she got everyone to rebel against this guy. The next day, he had slapped a kid across the face for not saying ''Good morning Mr. P.'' The kid might have been lying, considering all of the lying that he did before. I suppose it was true, because by the end of day he was banned from stepping foot on school grounds.
And the other thing I'll be complaining about is/are Minecraft Griefers.
Griefers go around on Minecraft destroying things people worked hard on (ie; a diamond tower). I had unknowingly befriended not one, but two griefers. It was fun at first, we just ran around with lots and lots of TNT and diamond blocks.
And then they ran off. I just followed them, still not knowing that they were griefers, and they blew up the forest near the town I made. Then they ran straight to a house I made for a friend (it was pretty cool, the roof burned forever without burning down the house), and they start putting TNT around the house.
Now, if you put tnt down in the game, you can't remove it. You have to detonate it.
Out of pure fear for that house and everything that I've worked for, I left the game, and because I was the admin/controller, they were kicked out at the same time. Somewhere among the line, they screwed up the animal spawning, so no animals are around anymore. To this day, I'm still replanting that forest and trying to get the animal to spawn again.
On the bright side, I figured out to prevent TNT from blowing up.
So moral of the story/stories; teachers can be rude, and don't allow random people joining you in your server, despite the fact that they go to the same school as you.

[deepblue]

edited for personal reasons. carry on.

[Ayla of Duluth]

-My dad is a know it all.
-He also follows me around when I'm on the phone and listens to my conversations, commenting on what I say every time he gets the chance. He always has something negative to say. And when I call him out on it, asking him to stop and it's rude, his favorite excuses are "I'm your father, I can say things like that" and, "quit bitching for the sake of bitching.
-I have an 8 1/2 month old Pomeranian puppy. I've only had him for around two months now. Lately I've discovered that the Pomeranian breed is more stubborn and hardheaded than other breeds, so you have to be firmer with your training. I use a louder, sterner voice than I usually would, and if he continues to misbehave, I grab onto the scruff of his neck and push him into his kennel. Since I've used this more direct method of training, I've made significant progress with his behavior. You apparently just need to be more stubborn than they are. ANYWAYS, my dad doesn't like this method, and every time the dog gets scolded, he picks him up and comforts him, and I feel like its giving the dog mixed signals, or teaching him that when he gets scolded, he can run to dad for pity and sympathy. Again, when I call my dad out on it, his excuse is "it's my house, you can't tell me what to do. Show some compassion."
-my dad doesn't believe in this whole mermaiding hobby. He thinks no one around my nautical themed city would hire a mermaid for anything. Well let me tell you something, today I saw the "Ripley's" aquarium truck in the canal park area near the lake, and apparently, Ripley's helped us build our very aquarium. I've been doing everything I know how to do to raise money for a Raven tail so I can follow my dream and put a smile on people's faces. I've set up an indiegogo account, (feel free to contribute, perks are worth it, link in my signature) I'm still offering custom etched glass, I've been saving up money from work like crazy, and I've even started...-shudder- donating plasma. Yet with me trying do hard, my dad still believes this is a phase in my life. He constanly reminds me every day about how no one will sponsor me, no one will donate to my cause, and even though one of the businesses here hired a jack sparrow impersonator for an event and it was one of the biggest money raisers the city has ever had, no one would ever be interested in hiring a mermaid.

Dad problems. -rolls eyes-

Oh yeah. And even though I've prepared myself with a 28 slide PowerPoint and a 4 page report about the mermaiding industry and why companies should sponsor me, I haven't gotten a single call back from any of the places I've inquired about. :( I called back a few and they said they still had to talk to their managers, but it's just an excuse. The manager of my local pharmacy said he'd have to ask the manager of the store. HE IS THE MANAGER OF THE STORE.

Also I'm only 19 and I found stretch marks on my thigh. :(

[Mermaid Rillia]

Ayla, Im 20 almost 21 and i have strectch maks on my thighs. It comes with being a lady. they may not look that wonderful, but its a part of you, and you should always embrace who you are. :)

Second. I hate it when I have a true medical reason for calling out of work and the manager gives me a hard time and tells me that i need a doctors note to prove there was something wrong. Like I have been so close to being like "fuck you" and walking out. I cant stand people who treat you like you're disposable. Like, seriously?! Have you no soul bossman?
I would also like to point out the fact that I am obviously way mature for my age because when going to dinner with other friends my age I have to stop them from throwing ice at eachother and drawing male genitalia on the table. :/ Really? how old are we again?! I'm also starting to seriously hate the fact that it seems like my dreams of getting a tail are slipping away more and more each day. I'll keep dreaming. But i'm sick of people telling me im rediculous!!!

end rant. :)

[Winged Mermaid]

Just feel like bitching because my I'm in the middle of a move and that's just been eating away at what's left of my nerves for a few weeks. Been living in a hotel for over a week and eating out for a little longer than that, so my stomach is hating me very much despite me picking the healthier choices when I have the option and giving it herbs to sooth it. I had a DELICIOUS salad with actual raspberries in the vinaigrette and on the salad today btw, it was $14 though O_O Small town restaurants, yay. The apartment we applied to is taking too long to process our applications so we're spending more money on the hotel, and the moving company says we can get our stuff on the 7th at the very soonest. The weather here sucks- their summer is like San Diego's winter- and I'm looking at a possible 2 hr commute to school (partially on a freezing 1 hr ferry ride) because of my husband's work. Starting to lose it over here!!! X_x

[Azurin Luna]

I hate people who say, "you know?" at the end of every sentence. My bf has started doing that since he started play Eve every freaking day, every second he can spare to it. And then he tells me how boring life is... if you are glued to the pc, yeah, live gets boring indeed.
He also is a teacher who thinks everybody is stupid, so he has to explain everything in almost baby language. That really irritates me. Or the fact that he keeps getting louder on teamspeak while it doesn't matter how loud you talk, they won't listen if they don't want too.
Or that I have to keep repeating me, because he has 'super' earphones that block out the sound from outside.

End of bf annoyance rant. I do still love him though :)

[Lotus]

I hate the chicks my husband works with. They are crazy, annoying bitches who think it's cute to flirt with him because he's THE ONLY intelligent, good looking man in the office who isn't over 60. And then they do the "tee-hee, you're hubby is cute," shit to me when/if I'm there. It doesn't annoy me because I think he's gonna go off and cheat on me, it annoys me because these gals are his CO-WORKERS, they are supposed to behave like PROFESSIONALS, and they DON'T. What's worse is that they do this shit, and my husband, who used to work with all men, now has the idea that this small handful of dumb chicks is an accurate representation of how ALL WOMEN ARE. To top it all off, they do the high-pitched cutesy baby talk shit. Some of these women are over 40. WTF??
Lastly, I hate it when people see me in the grocery store with my three girls (the younger two are 3 and 18 months) and say "looks like you have your hands full!" I swear if I had a nickle for every time
I have heard that I'd be rich. I just wanna look at these people and say "No shit!"

[Merman Dan]

Lastly, I hate it when people see me in the grocery store with my three girls (the younger two are 3 and 18 months) and say "looks like you have your hands full!"

I have seven children, three by birth and four by adoption. My oldest son, now 18 has cerebral palsy and uses a power wheelchair. My oldest daughter, also 18, has spina bifida and uses hand crutches. I have an 11-year old son diagnosed with mild spina bifida and an 10-year old son diagnosed with mild CP. We have a 10-passenger van with a wheelchair lift, which we use whenever we all want to travel in the same car.

As you can imagine, we get our share of "Are you a 'home'? "

[Merman Ray]

There are times I wish I could be normal.

[Lotus]

There are times I wish I could be normal.

Normal is a setting on a washing machine. I have discovered that the most "normal" people I have known are also the most screwed up. Be different! as Dr. Suess said "those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind,"

[LittleTreasure]

I love that quote SO much, Lotus.

Yeeah...I just poured out my soul in this post but I realized maybe it's not such a good idea to post it all here, so I edited it out. Too complicated and too involved, and person I'm having problems with might see it here. I've been having problems with a certain friend. If anybody actually wants to know about it or would be willing to talk, feel free to pm me, but I feel like I just can't bitch it out...not even here.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

I cannot stand it when I am stood up... and worse, I can't stand it when I'm stood up and my instincts told me it was going to happen before I agreed on the date to begin with. Someday I'll learn to go with my gut, but until then, I'll keep letting myself down.

There are many other things, but I'll discuss them later.

[Mermaid Summer]

That I have a headache before work. It always happens.

[Thalassa]

I hate when people use the F-word when it's not necessary. Granted, IMHO there are very few times that call for profanity, but...really? When you're talking in normal conversation and it goes like this:

Me: "How are you?"
Them: "F***in great!"
Me: "...that's good...any reason?"
Them: "I F****in got a f******in internship!"
Me: "That's fantastic! I thought you were going to have to wait longer to find out. How did you know so fast?"
Them: "I was walking down the F*****in street and bumped into the f******in guy in charge! And I f****in asked him if I f*****in got the job, only I didn't really f****in say that because with him I gotta watch my f*****in mouth..."

You get the gist.

Really? What in heaven's name does that word add to the story? All it does is make me want to punch you in your "F***in mouth."

[Bellasea]

So I will probably offend some people with what I'm about to say, but I will continue anyway cause I'm pissed.

So, one of the lakes, Duck Lake, by where I live is great for swimming. There is a channel (not a boat channel, so shallow that while in my tail I had to army crawl through it) that connects it to Lake Michigan. Duck Lake drops off really quick, so its great for using a monofin b/c I can get to like 5 or 6 ft without being too far from shore.

Also, I am a very catious swimmer. I know my limits. I don't swim in Lake Michigan after storms because of rip currents. I don't even go past my knees if the water is rough, just because I never want to put myself in a situtaion that might put me in danger.

So anyways, in the past two weeks two 18 yr olds drowned in Duck Lake while swimming across. Both sets of parents admitted that their sons were not strong swimmers. Now, I'm pissed b/c the whoel communtiy is going to be all hyped up on this water saftey bit . when like 3 weeks ago some parents bitched me out b/c I warned them about letting their ten-year olds swim in Lake Michigan after we had just had like 2 weeks straight of storms. The kids were out by the sandbar, which i will admit is a lot of fun to be when the waves are white capping, but not the safest place to be at age ten while there is a chance of rip curretns. But I'm upset, becasue the next time I decide to go to Duck Lake and swim in either my tail or monofin, I will probably be bitched out about endangering myself and other shit. Also, the county is takling about shuttifn the beach, and possibly setting up places where you can only swim. Which upsets me cause those areas won't include the nice stretch for doing laps for triathalon training. I am really just upset over the whole hype about how 'dangerous' the lake is.

[Winged Mermaid]

That sucks Bellasea. A few stupid people always ruin it for everyone :(

[Spindrift]

I hate when people use the F-word when it's not necessary. Granted, IMHO there are very few times that call for profanity, but...really? When you're talking in normal conversation and it goes like this:

Me: "How are you?"
Them: "F***in great!"
Me: "...that's good...any reason?"
Them: "I F****in got a f******in internship!"
Me: "That's fantastic! I thought you were going to have to wait longer to find out. How did you know so fast?"
Them: "I was walking down the F*****in street and bumped into the f******in guy in charge! And I f****in asked him if I f*****in got the job, only I didn't really f****in say that because with him I gotta watch my f*****in mouth..."

You get the gist.

Really? What in heaven's name does that word add to the story? All it does is make me want to punch you in your "F***in mouth."

I try hard to never swear. It's classier. :)

[Merman Dan]

I was a district manager of a video game store. I play more video games than I care to say, but I don't brag about them. So I'm going to have to agree with you.

I have a PS3, Wii, and xbox... I have 7 kids. I also have not personally touched any video game in years. I just don't think they are fun, anymore. I don't want a game that's sole activity is fighting, killing, shooting, and the like. I take no joy in that. I want more games like Myst, but a tad more exciting. Give me games where the goal is exploration and discovery. I want to explore the pyramids, investigate a rainforest, or discover Atlantis. I do NOT want to use guns to kill robots or kung fu to dismember opponents.

That being said, my 11-year old son ONLY want to play kung fu games. He absolutely HATES it when I take him to Gamestop, as I enjoy asking for games that don't exist. "Do you have Pan Flute Hero? No? How about Sweeney Todd for the Wii? No? Never mind. How about a game where I play the fish and get to pull fishermen out of their boats? No again? This IS a game store, isn't it?"

[Lotus]

I do NOT want to use guns to kill robots or kung fu to dismember opponents.
I get that- I think there are quite a few games that go too far with the "kill 'em all" thing. That being said, my husband still plays war games from time to time. I think for him it's more of an outlet for how much he misses the Army though. And he never plays when the girls are up, so they don't see or hear any of it. Now for my next tiny rant....
Lately, people have been calling the restaurant where I work asking what time we close. I tell them we CLOSE at 9, but we usually STOP SEATING at 830. I always get this response- "oh, ok, well we will be there WAY before then," Then, at 8:59, the people who called earlier show up and want a table. We politely tell them we stopped seating half an hour ago. Then they argue with us about how "the girl on the phone said you close at 9," usually right to my face, and since I'm "THE GIRL ON THE PHONE," I tell them even more politely that I told them we USUALLY STOP SEATING AT 830. Then I get a lecture about how they drove to the restaurant to eat and because I LIED TO THEM, now they have to go hungry..... I'm really sorry to swear, but, WHAT THE HELL?
People come in all the time and treat us like we are their own personal servants. Like "what do you mean you don't want to start up all the woks and grills and fryers again one minute before close so I can have my Kung Pao chicken?" "why did you sweep and mop and do all your side work and clean the entire kitchen? Didn't you know I was coming???" I could SLAP these people. And you know, the really sad thing about these types is this- my boss and his family are extremely accommodating people, and nine times out of ten, if you ask Jason nicely for something, he'll make exceptions. But people are just rude and downright insulting and then they go on the local internet forum and spread rumors like we have gone out of business or they saw a rat in the kitchen (which you can't see from the dining room) and all because they chose to ignore "the girl on the phone" when she gave them fair warning that we stop seating early. GRRRR.

[Thalassa]

Æolius: I know what you mean. I don't like the "shoot 'em up" games. So little finesse! Granted, I don't like Myst either (I guess I'm too oblivious to ever be good at it). My favorite games are racing games (you know, like Disney racing where the goal is really to win the race not to bash the other's car) and games like Age of Empires and Harvest Moon where I can focus on building something up.

Lotus: That is so annoying! I've never worked in the food industry, but it was similar in my copy shop. People would show up a minute before closing with this expressing like "SAFE!" And then proceed to bawl us out when we tell them they have to leave their job and pick it up in the morning. "What do you mean you can't make 20 copies of my 200-page booklet double-sided and bind them all? I got here before 9:00, and I NEED it!" (Note: All of this asked would have taken at least an hour. If it's like, one copy, we don't beef about it. XD) These people fail to realize that closing time means literally you are CLOSED. That means no work for the customers goes on, just the stuff that needs to get done to CLOSE the place (tills, sweeping, maintenance, etc). I was the shift worker for closing time for 3 years, and I literally had to threaten to call security regularly.

[AniaR]

I need to bitch it out right now about crazy youtube users. Ive started changing my videos over to moderated comments, I dont like to censor people, and if someone doesnt like me that's fine... but that's not what Im getting. Im constantly getting people asking questions that are IN the video and the description and already answered AGAIN in the comments. It drive me nuts, especially when the people are rude demanding. And I've got this kid posting all over my videos telling people not to waste their money on a realistic tail and make one or buy from mermagica. So I started responding saying those are great for people who wanna have fun, but my tail suits my needs. She proceeds to tell me to mind my own business, she's not talking to ME. Im like, uh omg? You're posting comments on my videos! YOU ARE TALKING TO ME AND IT'S VERY MUCH MY BUSINESS. her comments get so stupid, that youtube actually pre-censors them, lol! I log on to my own videos to see "comment removed" and "comment hidden" and I gotta go a round about way to see what she says. So I try explaining to her how youtube comments work etc, I even tried noting her to explain things but she keeps deleting her account. I seem to be having an issue with "haters" who post from multiple accounts they then delete, saying things only certain people would have opinions on etc which makes me believe a certain person is behind most of it. But this girl, I dont think she was that person, just somewhere out in space lol.

I get people constantly asking me to give them a tail, or demanding it, and the other weird thing is people asking me to email Raven for them! Im just so freaking busy and tired >.> I gots no patience for it. I dont wanna sound unappreciative of having fans, I mean, the fact I can even complain is cool BUT OMG it's driving me bonkers.

[AniaR]

p.s. I know a lot of you have jumped in too, to answer questions, and step up to nutters like this. Honestly, Ive just been deleting the nonsense and will just start moderating

[Ayla of Duluth]

I was sitting on the couch with a bag of kettle corn watching that happen to you. It was hilarious to see all the idiocy going around and I felt bad for you. But it was still amusing.

[Thalassa]

Seriously, Raina (or are we supposed to call you AniaR?)! Sometimes, I'm like "Don't you people know how to READ? It's practically the first thing she says in her description!" And it's ridiculous how some people think, "Oh, gee! If I comment on her video she'll just give me a tail!" How dumb. XP

[Mermaid Summer]

I want to break this lease

[Ayla of Duluth]

I'd say if the person uses text abbreviations and butchers their sentences so bad you can hardly make out what they're saying, or if they ask something that is obvious, just don't even acknowledge them. Only reply to the serious inquiries.

[Merman Dan]

I'd say if the person uses text abbreviations and butchers their sentences so bad you can hardly make out what they're saying...

IKWYM ;)

[Ayla of Duluth]

Like this guy! ^ what does that even mean?! =,,=

[Bellasea]

I know what you mean. ^^ But, I am just assuming that is what IKWYM means. :D

[Mermaid Summer]

When hubbys and I feel the time is right to get pregnant, we will try and it will be a private act.

Count back 9 months like everyone else.

[Mermaid Sirena]

I would kill for some A/C right now. It's been over 100 degrees almost every day for the last 3 weeks straight, even at night it doesn't go below the 80's... I feel like a giant puddle of melted mermaid.

[New York Mermaid]

Im having issues with my thyroids, today i went to the doctor thinking i would get told about my ultrasound results, well Nope, it wasnt going to be so easy, I ended up getting a tube into my nose and down my throat to see whats going on in there, though they numbed me, by far it was the most uncomfortable thing ever, i wanted to cough or sneeze, it was one of those two, the nausea from the anesthetic didint help, im kinda glad i had a rice cake previously..

As if that wasnt enough, i had to get blood done. Now that sounds like a regular thing but.. hi--i have a severe phobia of needles, no i dont faint, i literally go into a shut down, my mind wont hear of it, my body wont move. And yet i knew better because i was getting sick of this contstant weight gain and hair loss among other things. So I took the needle and almost broke my husbands hand in the process. Now to wait till monday for the results. :/

[Mermaid Summer]

Paypal is giving me a headache.

[Thalassa]

I'm so annoyed! I wanted to use Google plus to help advertise for mer-gigs...but it won't let me use my business name (or mer-name) because it determined it's not a real name. My accounts on Google Plus and Reader have been suspended. I don't want to use my real name, because I want to keep this job and my job as an educator separate, and my pro mermaiding separate from my personal life. Is this really so hard for Google to understand?

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

I try hard to never swear. It's classier. :)

Thalassa, Spindrift, I am the same way... it doesn't make sense to me. I grumble (more or less under my breath) but it is usually more colorful (vivid descriptions or the animals they resemble or what'd happen if I got my hands on them), and only when I'm angry. Using profanity for emphasis in a sentence diminishes both the emphasis and the profanity.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Aeolius, your fictional games sound like fun... though I'm not sure that your stance against fighting and killing and shooting games would hold up with Sweeney Todd for Wii. Hunting and first person shooter games don't impress me much, either, but I do like roleplaying games and fantasy strategy games.

[Merman Dan]

Here I sit, at my hairdressers. Three weeks ago, I had her dye my hair with kelp-colored dye. It was on my bucket list. ;). Within a week it turned a lovely neon lemon-lime color. So I went back and she tried a different color to darken it up. Within two weeks it ended up this weird greenish copper color. I rather liked it as it was unique. My wife however was less than impressed. So, here I sit getting it bleached out. Oh well.

[Merman_Shawn]

Here I sit, at my hairdressers. Three weeks ago, I had her dye my hair with kelp-colored dye. It was on my bucket list. ;). Within a week it turned a lovely neon lemon-lime color. So I went back and she tried a different color to darken it up. Within two weeks it ended up this weird greenish copper color. I rather liked it as it was unique. My wife however was less than impressed. So, here I sit getting it bleached out. Oh well.

I have run the hair-dye gauntlet myself. The problem with "un-natural" colors, is that they always fade really quickly, and the fade isn't always flattering.

[Merman Dan]

I have said it before but this time I mean it. No more vacations until the in-laws are dead. ;)

Between my MIL, who not only smokes but thinks it's fine to leave butts on the beach, complains endlessly about all of her maladies, and has no manners whatsoever (this is not your planet, knock on the door when it's closed), and my FIL who is now in a wheelchair because he broke his leg twice in the past two months; complaining endlessly with a hearty GODDAMNIT every half an hour because the univers will not bow to his whims, I have about had it on this "vacation"

Yes, the beach house has an elevator, but it is too smal to accommodate a larger wheelchair. The doorways are too narrow and the thresholds are raised. It is most definitely not accessible.

And then there are the teenagers, who feel they do not need to contribute anything, or the ten year old who wants to sleep past noon, or the 11 year old who thinks he is 18 and therefor is immunie to parental control.

I feel like a minimum wage worker at an assisted living care facility. That's fine, at home, but this is supposed to be a bloody vacation.

I want to spend the day swimming in the Atlantic, playing in the surf and opening my eyes in the saltwater to look for shells beneath the surface. Instead, I have an 8 year old pouting because I cannot hold her in the pounding surf while her sister also wants to swim.

Shoot me now.

[SilverSiren]

I figured I would come over here to post this here too. I was over at the Mermaid Magazine thread. I went to the site to see what it was all about and perhaps subscribe to the mag. Well, the site is messed up because someone had it in their head to hack it and put malware on it so it would automatically download to your computer! Yay! So I just have to say... I hate hate HATE crappy people like that! Going around ruining everyones peace with their stupidity! Like these kids next door to me riding around the neighborhood on their very loud, very ILLEGAL, dirt bike at 11pm! And what can we do about it? NOTHING! Except bang our heads on the wall for stress relief so we don't go bonkers and buy an AK47 and have fun on the rooftop! Ahhhhh... I feel a little better now... until the kids wake up next door and start the physiological torture once again. :headwall:

And Aeolius... I feel for ya. *hugs*

[Dacora]

How am I supposed to save up for my future,get into college and be a responsible, contributing member of society like every nagging adult wants me to be when I cant get a job because I need 3+ years of experience to work a darn cash register? I mean really,how am I supposed to get experience when no one will hire me? Am I supposed to wake up with it one day? Or maybe I should act like all the other self absorbed teens in my town and sit on my butt all day and expect everything to fall in my lap on my command. I want to work, I have all the time in the world,a working truck and a strong back. It seems that the teens in my town who don't want to work hard and would rather mooch off of their parents are able to get jobs. While the ones who actually want to work, like to work and actually want to help out around the house cant find a job for miles....

[~Ivablu~]

I get seriously pissed off when people smoke in hugely public places, like disneyland. GO AND HAVE A FAG IN THE CARPARK OR SOMETHING, NOT IN SOME POOR LITTLE KIDS FACE!!!!!
And theres also this girl at school who was my best friend for about 4 years, but this last year shes started getting really stupid and annoying, and spending her whole life reading. She doesnt do her homework, just sits and listens to her stupid audiobooks in class, at lunchtime, after school, and in weekends. She never even talks to me and my friend anymore, unless she just blurts out some random shit to do with her book like
"heeheeheeheeheehee (high pitched annoying laugh) jamie is soooooooo stupid, he shouldnt even have gone with katrine, shell only cheat on him..."
Then reads again. We have lost absolutely all patience with her, if shes not gonna talk to us, she might as well just sit by her self.
I dont even think she realises she doesnt have friends anymore :(

Well, good to get all that bitching outta my system! now i'll just act like a normal person again:)

[Mermaid Lohgan]

I hate it when people ignore me. Like I'm just not there. It really hurts.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

I'm with you, Aeolius and Ivablu1, on the obnoxiousness of smoking. I loathe it. At karaoke last night, there is one lady (an ex-girlfriend-turned-friend of a friend) who basically spent every moment she wasn't singing outside smoking. One guy commented that he hadn't seen me sing since he arrived, when I sang seven songs that night, because he'd been outside with the other smokers so much. At my old job I was practically the only one in the entire bookstore who didn't take smoking breaks throughout my shift. And I despise the fact that even when there are posted signs about how far away from the doors people need to stand in order to smoke, they always stand right by the entrance and let their exhaust waft inside!

[Mermaid Sirena]

[[Insert Rant here]]

[Ayla of Duluth]

I'm not angry right now, I'm just disappointed and felt like I needed to get this off my chest.

A while back, a fan on my mermaid facebook page and a light member of mernetwork asked me to make them an etched martini glass, which I was extremely happy about. They were my first customer, and I did my best on the design they came up for me. I rush delivered it, it had to get to them by the end of the week, so I was literally doing the etching within the hour of UPS closing in order to get it to them on time. Because of this, I didn't have any time whatsoever to take pictures. I remember I got to UPS 5 minutes before closing.

Anyways, I sent it to them and they let me know they had gotten it a few days later. The day I sent it to them, I asked if they'd mind taking a few pictures and writing a small review for me on mernetwork to get the word out. They said they'd be happy to, and that the glass was a present for their sister who ended up liking it very much.

That was the last I heard from this person. No review was ever posted, no pictures taken, no word out about the product they received so others could read it and decide to purchase a bit of art from me. It's been months now and I've pretty much given up hope that this person will write a review like they said they would. I'm just really disappointed because I was hoping that their review would get me a little more business...They're the only customer I've had. Other people have shown interest but have backed out for whatever reason. I even gave this customer a huge discount because shipping was surprisingly expensive. I ended up breaking even with that order. I was planning on using my glassworks to raise money for a tail, but that's not going anywhere, not that I need it to.

Anyways, I'm just kinda feeling down about it and needed to get that off my chest. I feel like I have a real talent, people have praised me for how gorgeous my work is, but that doesn't matter when it's not selling, and it just makes me feel...I dunno, like there's something wrong about it all? Maybe I'm not reputable because there's no testimonials or anything from other people about my work, but everyone has to start somewhere.

Thanks for listening. <3

[Mermaid Ashleigh]

UGGGH!!! so today i finish my first ever mermaid bra that i decided to make by myself and i had everything down and glue and dried...so i put it on and show everyone then take it off so it doesnt get broken then later that same morning my little brother ran into my room and broke all the starfish on the bra then ran around bragging about it to everyone

[Merman Dan]

UGGGH!!! so today i finish my first ever mermaid bra that i decided to make by myself and i had everything down and glue and dried...so i put it on and show everyone then take it off so it doesnt get broken then later that same morning my little brother ran into my room and broke all the starfish on the bra then ran around bragging about it to everyone

Take the broken bits of starfish and put them in his breakfast cereal. Two days later, tell him what you did. Justice is served.

[Mermaid Celissa]

I'm sorry Ashley! I got mad when my brother broke my starfish snowglobe >:[

[happyguava]

Today I would like to bitch about waiting. And patience (or lack thereof!!). I can think of four really exciting big things that are happening with Mermaidens but they're all in a matter of months and some have been postponed for various reasons. Ohhh the torture of sitting here waiting for awesome things to happen!!!

Solution: fill in the space with MORE awesome things! Muahahahaha.

[Ayla of Duluth]

Today I would like to bitch about waiting. And patience (or lack thereof!!). I can think of four really exciting big things that are happening with Mermaidens but they're all in a matter of months and some have been postponed for various reasons. Ohhh the torture of sitting here waiting for awesome things to happen!!!

Solution: fill in the space with MORE awesome things! Muahahahaha.

This! This a thousand times!

[Mermaid Ashleigh]

Take the broken bits of starfish and put them in his breakfast cereal. Two days later, tell him what you did. Justice is served.

Thats so nasty i would throw up just watching him eat it!

[Mermaid Ashleigh]

I'm sorry Ashley! I got mad when my brother broke my starfish snowglobe >:[

Ik how that goes i had this really cool genuine spinosaur tooth and my little sister was supposed to be watching him and she turned hr back and he sent the thing flying toward my door... where it exploded yeah that was a sad day to

[Ashe]

It really gets on my nerves when people underestimate my age and decide to call me hun. It kind of goes along with older people thinking they know way more than me :( But that's just my opinion

[Merman Dan]

It really gets on my nerves when people underestimate my age and decide to call me hun. It kind of goes along with older people thinking they know way more than me :( But that's just my opinion

Try living in the south, sometime. But yeah, it gets on my nerves as well. I take out my frustrations by driving down the road, waving frantically at complete strangers. It really seems to boggle some people. ;)

This one came to mind:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LT2KRO5WLUE

[Ashe]

That is just hilarious! i find way to many things funny, so as i was really analyzing the lyrics, i broke down and started crying i was laughing so hard! so, thanks for making my day! :lol:

[EnidDarkWater]

Let me start off by saying I work at Hottopic. Cool every one says.NO. Not cool. I'm glad you think our store is awesome but there is very little that I hate more than the mall rats coming in and asking 50 questions,following you around, asking to try stuff on and not buying anything! Then leaving only to come back like 11 times through out the day to do it all over again ( not joking this past sat a girl came in11 times! >.< I also hate how people come in a buy a single pin and drop my ADT >.< There are some days I really want to strangle people.

[Little_Orca]

All right, here I go... I am bitching this out...

I had a great weekend. I got to go to the Portland Pirate Festival (PPF) twice. While at the PPF, I met at least 2 other mermaids and gave some new merfolk information on how to find this site so they could make their own tails. Even though I thought I had enough suntan lotion on, I didn't and I got a pretty nasty burn. I also didn't have enough water and got dehydrated, heat exhausted, and all sorts of fun little things.... but I really did have fun, so I wasn't going to complain.

But... the day after... I am complaining about that. I know a person who I was acquaintances with in high school that has loved mermaids apparently, made herself a few tails, but never really got around to learning about the network and connecting with people, etc. She has been following me on Youtube and has been a big fan. When she learned that LittleOrca was the girl she knew in high school, she freaked out and had to meet me for coffee, share tails, and etc. So we had coffee, we met at craft stores, I gave her input on tail painting, and she considered me some tail painting god. :rolleyes:

She also wanted to meet to take some tail pictures. All right, photo shoot, no biggie. So, despite two days at the pirate festival and how I was after it, I drove over an hour to get to this location, only to find the water full of not-so-friendly worm-like leeches and other critters. All right, no biggie... I got a few pictures... and ripped my new tail... Fine, I can fix it. That is okay... *sigh* But then I was constantly hounded, "What are we doing now?" "What pics now?" "Am I moving?" "What is going on now?" "Now?" I couldn't take it and I had to work very hard to keep being polite.

When I do photo shoots with Mr Orca what happens is organic. He turns me loose in the tail and snaps pictures. Some turn out great, some not so much. It's just what happens. Yes, some are posed, but most are candid and they make the best shots. This clashing of styles coupled with my introvertedness and needing TIME to figure out what I was going to do and to get the nerve up to get into the water with the little worm-things took a toll on me. Not to mention, I had a huge headache through the whole process.

Eventually, we left the small creek and went for a river. Great! Room to swim! I switched tails to my spotted tail since the other one needed repair, and when I got in the water.... no... Just no. The river was in the shade, the water constantly moving (of course), and thus it could not heat up. The water felt 40 degrees. It might have been more, but with the burn, it was epically cold. I could stand it for probably fifteen minutes before I had to get out. I could not feel my feet or fingers. I could move them, I knew they were there, but I could not feel them or feel anything when I touched them. To make matters worse, I had to deal with a slew of lines like: "What happened to my swimming buddy?" "You really can't handle any of this, can you?" "Don't worry, I will only call you a wuss to your face." ... Says the mermaid who is wearing neoprene...

When I finally got home, I got into a hot bath and could at last feel my hands and feet, 2 hours after the initial shock of the cold water. Everything she said though started to hit me hard. .. Maybe I shouldn't be a mermaid anymore... Maybe I should give up on my wedding tail dream... It all stung and it all weighted me down. I tried to think instead of all the fun at the PPF, but I could not get the rest out of my mind. And now that I am about to post pictures from the event, the thoughts are coming back. Still being sick from the events is not helping, either. I'm feeling lost and as though what I dream of does not matter, says the "wuss" mermaid.

[Mermaid Arianna]

Sounds like you had a rough weekend, im sorry. I don't think you are a wuss! I have looked up to you as a mermaid and you were one of the mers who inspired me to make tails for myself. You can't give up just because one person called you something! If you want that wedding tail then get it! But yes, you are a tail painting goddess :P
Just keep your fins up <3<3<3<3<3 besides, you are the one who's signature is "to thine own mermaid be true" <3

[roamingmer]

Sounds like your friend needed an injection of empathy.
Sometimes the words spoken in haste may not be the most thoughtful and become much worse when coupled with sunstroke and exhaustion. Try to rise above it by cresting through the surf and allowing your heart to sing with joy about who you are deep down.

[Mermaid Annariea]

little orca, ignore her. i would have wussed out in cold water too, and in leech-infested water. i wouldnt have even gotten in. that doesnt mean im any less of a mermaid than anyone else, and same for you.

[MrOrca]

The worst part was she really seemed mad that we could not handle the cold of the water (not to be mean) when she is much more insulated and I am not just talking about the neoprene tail... I guess she assumed I was a professional photographer and that regardless of the situation I was going to direct her... Not to mention that the river was nasty, I slipped on the rocks and nearly killed myself right in front of her, and the fact that the river is cold as a freezer...

[LittleTreasure]

LittleOrca, you are NOT a wuss...don't let some person you barely know anymore bring you down with mean comments. I'm sorry you had a hard time! Just because you are a mermaid doesn't mean you aren't human too, and nobody has nerves of steel...so cold water plus the worms would've made me think twice about touching that water too. I probably would've only posed beside the water, knowing how sensitive I can be about water temperature.

[Spindrift]

I got dumped yesterday, out of an 8-month relationship. (Unnaturally short for me, since the relationship before that was 2 years and the one before that was 3 years so it's not like I date people like they're a passing fancy or something.) Anyway, from what I 'know', neither of us wanted to be separated. We were really good friends for a really long time (met him in 2009) before anything happened. However the guy was quite a bit older than me and was getting increasingly uncomfortable with the situation, especially since some of his neighbors made some comments and his profession requires him to rely on his reputation (performer). He also claimed it was because I will be moving away in a year or two and he wants to find someone who would stay around. It isn't fair. I feel really empty. And we run stuff together so it's not like I can't see him. I can't talk to anyone about it since no one would have approved of it in the first place. I really hurt right now and I can't stop being mopey even though I've already been asked out twice in the past week (no one really knew about the relationship except for my mer-partner so everyone else thinks I'm single). Also this came out of nowhere to me, although he claims it has been bothering him for a while. I'm so frustrated with myself and everything hurts.

[Mermaid Saphira]

I got dumped yesterday, out of an 8-month relationship. (Unnaturally short for me, since the relationship before that was 2 years and the one before that was 3 years so it's not like I date people like they're a passing fancy or something.) Anyway, from what I 'know', neither of us wanted to be separated. However the guy was quite a bit older than me and was getting increasingly uncomfortable with the situation, especially since some of his neighbors made some comments and his profession requires him to rely on his reputation (performer). He also claimed it was because I will be moving away in a year or two and he wants to find someone who would stay around. It isn't fair. I feel really empty. And we run stuff together so it's not like I can't see him. I can't talk to anyone about it since no one would have approved of it in the first place. I really hurt right now and I can't stop being mopey even though I've already been asked out twice in the past week (no one really knew about the relationship except for my mer-partner so everyone else thinks I'm single). Also this came out of nowhere to me, although he claims it has been bothering him for a while. I'm so frustrated with myself and everything hurts.

merhugs <3

[Mermaid Celissa]

Aw, I'm sorry Spin! If you want to vent or chat, you can always PM me :)

[Little_Orca]

*Hugs for Spin* Sorry sweetheart. :(

[Mermaid Annariea]

one of my other passions is singing.
so, i met a friend online through a girl i know personally, because he and i started talking about music on one of her facebook statuses. hes really cool, and we got to know each other, however not in any sort of flirting manner. he has a girlfriend and a daughter, and completely loves them, and i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and id NEVER flirt with someone else.

anyways, he is from finland, and finnish is his first language.
i dont speak finnish, but i learned a song in finnish ("kuolema tekee taiteilijan" by nightwish), and told him about it because he knew of the band. he asked me to record me singing it, so i did (like weeks after we started talking). i figured it could be a good way to get constructive criticism on how to pronounce the words properly, and recorded myself singing it. i posted it on youtube, and linked to it on facebook after he saw it and said my finnish wasnt too bad, since it wasnt a bad video, and it wasnt supposed to be personal or anything.
i said that it was originally for a friend in the description, and my boyfriend asked who, so i told him.
hes been furious with me since last night.

I DONT KNOW WHAT I DID WRONG. i really dont understand, and im so pissed off and i keep just bursting into tears. i deleted the video, but of course, hes still angry at me. usually when hes mad, he just sleeps it off and the next day hes fine. NOPE. i went to snuggle with him this morning, figuring he would be okay again, and he pushed me away and said "stay the f*ck off me".

I REALLY DONT GET IT, THERE WAS NOTHING IN THE ENTIRE VIDEO THAT HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN MAD ABOUT.
i guess hes mad because i sang something for someone else? a guy, for that matter?
i didnt think that he would get mad about something like that, though, thats the thing. otherwise i wouldnt have done it. i just figured "hey why not, its a good way to see if im pronouncing it right rather than just guessing or sticking it on youtube for EVERYONE to see and criticize."

im so pissed off, and i dont know what to do about it. i just want to scream and punch things. this makes me so upset. ugh. :'(

[Mer_Adella]

Okay so here's my b*tch....

My 40hr /week job is answering phones, paying bills, payroll, customer service, janitorial duties (my title is office manager but my boss refers to me as his glorified secretary [b*tch #1]).

My problem is that i work in a heavy equipment diesel shop we work on everything ranging from tractors to large semis and the occasional vehicle. My boss says that first come first serve, but he tends to work on his friends and his own while customers equipment sits untouched (at one point an entire year!). And then when those customers come in, obviously irate, he tells me to deal with them. Other times he and the customer just yell at each other till one of them backs down. In my mind, he is a horrible boss, shouldn't own his own company, and doesn't have any people skills what-so-ever.

I also work for 9.50/hr (which i know i shouldn't complain about since so many don't have jobs right now) but i have been working here for over a year and haven't gotten a raise although he has said i am getting one. Everytime that I bring it up, he says that he will change it in the computer. UGH HELLO....i'm the one that changes it. he also tells customers he will bring their parts in (beacuse they are at his house) and he never brings them in. suddenly they arrive by UPS (he never had them at all just jerked them along until UPS delivered them)

my boyfriend at one point told me to quit. not even to show up to work and just take a month or two off. I couldn't do that. I have responsibilities and morals. I wont quit before giving 2 weeks and having another job (which i have been looking for 6 months and still nothing). I just dont know how much more I can take. I am at my breaking point. Every morning I wish that a deer would jump in front of my truck so i could have a reason for not coming in, or a blown tire, or the flu, or something!

[SilverSiren]

Brianna- That's a MASSIVE over reaction from the BF there! Something else is going on with him and you should tell him that you need to have a real conversation with him in all seriousness. I do NOT want to jump to conclusions here at all but when people act like that (in my personal experience) it's because they have done exactly what they are trying to put you in blame for, so they don't have to feel bad about what they did, especially when they make a MUCH bigger deal about it than they should. Human nature/psychology. *hugs*

Adell- Search for a job better suited to you that would make you happier and give you they pay and respect you deserve. Give your two weeks notice when you find said job. Tell your boss it was nice working with the company but you feel it's time to move on. Life is too short to be wasting your time in a job that only serves to make you miserable!

[Mer_Adella]

SilverSiren- thanks for that. I am looking, specifically in the medical field. I want to work in the medical field so bad, but I am not limiting my options. I have put my resume out there and am looking everywhere. I am just waiting for that one person whose willing to give me an interview. I would love to quit right now, just to ease my life a little bit, but like you and I have said, find the said job first.

[Alveric]

Adella: If your current job is near breaking you, don't hold out for the perfect job. Find a fall-back that's less stressful, even if it pays less. Then resume your search for something better.

[SilverSiren]

SilverSiren- thanks for that. I am looking, specifically in the medical field. I want to work in the medical field so bad, but I am not limiting my options. I have put my resume out there and am looking everywhere. I am just waiting for that one person whose willing to give me an interview. I would love to quit right now, just to ease my life a little bit, but like you and I have said, find the said job first.

Have you tried calling the paces you send in your resume at? Call them. Tell them you would really like to work with them and would appreciate the opportunity to have a interview with them to see if your a fit for their company and if their company is a fit for you. Oh, and one thing that employers actually LIKE is when the interviewee has questions for them too! A question a lot of people don't ask that is a really good one, not just for the interviewer but for your personal future knowledge, is "What about my resume interested you the most to consider me a potential employee for your company?". Do this toward the end of the interview, the answer may surprise you and they will be reminded of why they considered you in the first place. Sorry if this isn't anything of news for you, just tryin to help :)

[Mer_Adella]

SilverSiren- your right in the regard that it isn't news to me, I have called they all just tell me they are still reviewing or they chose someone else. I thank them and that's that. But I read your question that people should ask at the end of an interview and its a really good question. I normally always have quesitons for the interviewer when I am getting interviewed. But I never thought to ask that question. Thanks for the advice :)

[AniaR]

insomnia. It's driving me bonkers. I am so tired but having a really hard time sleeping. I usually have a bad cycle of insomnia once a year or so. We live so close to a highway that the cars are going all night and keep me awake. The people below me smoke like a chimney IN THEIR ROOM so to stop from waking up with second hand smoke I had to buy an air purifier and put it on EVERY night. If I don't I always wake up in a cloud of smoke. I'm also just a very light sleeper so any noise will wake me up. Feeling tired and run down. I do take meds for it, but I do find that usually once a year they aren't very effective so I think this is it. Going to see about upping the dose if it's cool with the doc. Fins crossed.

[Mermaid Margarete]

Okay, here's my rant:
I put hours into an experiemential personal fund raiser for a hobby of mine and then I launch it. I'm not holding my breath for any results but I make sure I make my close friends and family aware of it.
A few hours pass and one of my really good friends sends me a PM saying how much she hopes I don't get mad at her and how much she loves me but she basically thinks I'm a terrible person for fund raising for something personal. I send her a message back saying while I respect her point of view I'm not doing anything wrong or that breaks any rules. She then proceeds to say how she hopes my fund raiser does well and that she wishes she lived closer (she moved recently) so I wouldn't have to do the fund raiser and she could just help me one on one etc etc. She also claims that asking for money for this sort of hobby is highly frowned upon in that community.

SOO I look into her cliams by going to the most popular forum for this hobby and searching for "crowdsourcing" the term she used to describe me using a website for a fund raiser... AND I found ONE forum topic on it...

It's author?

My friend.

It was started this morning.

As I read it I found myself in shock... she was being two faced towards me saying things such as "how do I explain this to my friend who is doing this and asking everyone we know for help. I wish I could just tell her that this isn't cool but she is one of my best friends but honestly her doing this is really disappointing and makes me mad."

I PM'ed her back, letting her know I found the forum post and felt like she was being two faced with her so-called "honesty" ... she hasn't repsonded since...

Do you ever wish you were wrong about something that you innocently stumbled upon?... cause I do right now...

and I feel sick...

[AniaR]

ugh Im so sorry you are having that experience. That sucks :(

[Ashe]

Im sorry about that Gintsuki :( I really dont think that's ok, and im mad that she did this. Lot's of people fundraise for hobbies! I can't remember specific names at the moment, but ive seen many mers fundraise for tails and items that they want! Ive come across other hobby kickstarters too! I see nothing wrong with that at all. If people want to be generous, they will! If not, tough cookies, no milk. It's not like you're demanding for money! No, she is the one who doesnt understand. Sorry that im insulting your friend, but she is a huge wuss not to talk to you about this in person, and feels the need to ask online strangers for help about something she believes is a big issue when it's not, and then not being honest with you at all. Big coward.

K, im done.:eek:

[Mermaid Annariea]

Brianna- That's a MASSIVE over reaction from the BF there! Something else is going on with him and you should tell him that you need to have a real conversation with him in all seriousness. I do NOT want to jump to conclusions here at all but when people act like that (in my personal experience) it's because they have done exactly what they are trying to put you in blame for, so they don't have to feel bad about what they did, especially when they make a MUCH bigger deal about it than they should. Human nature/psychology. *hugs*

nah, he isnt doing anything wrong... id know if i had reasons to be suspicious. been there, done that with him, about 4 years ago haha. hes just a jealous and overprotective person by nature. later that day, he took me out to lunch and said he just wanted to drop it, and asked that i dont do it again, at least without him knowing/being okay with it. and we were fine after that. plus, he wasnt accusing me of cheating or being unfaithful... i think he just got really jealous that i sang for another guy.

my biggest problem now is that... on the 29th, the friend i made the video for... i called him "finland", because he was super finnish. anyways... hed been fighting depression for a really long time... and he killed himself. he almost told me too, over facebook, just hours before he did it. he IM-ed me and said, "hey i have really bad news for you. and i dont think youll understand..." but when i asked what was wrong, he took a few minutes and just replied, "im swedish ^-^". i laughed and figured he was just being goofy like he usually was...
im so mad at him for thinking that was the proper way of dealing with it, i dont understand how he could do this to everyone he loved. he had a 5 year old daughter! he just... left her, even though he had recently gotten back together with the childs mother. he seemed so happy and i just dont understand.

UGH. PERKELE.
IM SO MAD. AND SAD. AND I JUST WISH I COULD HELP HIS FAMILY MORE.
which is another thing. he didnt even tell his family about his daughter because he was afraid theyd look down on him because most of them were super christian.
SO I HAVE TO TRY AND EXPLAIN ALL OF THAT TO THEM. WTF WTF.

i almost wish i could bring him back to life and kill him myself.
but id probably just slap him.
really, really hard.

i just dont know what the proper way of handling this is. im so upset and im trying not to blame myself, but i feel like i couldve done more.

[Mermaid Annariea]

also, raina, thats awful. insomnia sucks, and the fact that the smoke goes up into your room from theirs is just ridiculous. i think you should say something. they are exposing you to something you dont want to/ shouldnt be exposed to, AND its hazardous for your health.

gintsuki, what an awful thing for a friend to do/ say. people do fundraisers for personal things all the time. as long as you arent putting "DONATE FOR CANCER" or something, and lying about it, then it doesnt matter. if people want to donate, they will, if not then they wont. simple as that. i wish you luck, and i hope that your friend stops being so judgmental.

[Mermaid Margarete]

insomnia. It's driving me bonkers. I am so tired but having a really hard time sleeping. I usually have a bad cycle of insomnia once a year or so. We live so close to a highway that the cars are going all night and keep me awake. The people below me smoke like a chimney IN THEIR ROOM so to stop from waking up with second hand smoke I had to buy an air purifier and put it on EVERY night. If I don't I always wake up in a cloud of smoke. I'm also just a very light sleeper so any noise will wake me up. Feeling tired and run down. I do take meds for it, but I do find that usually once a year they aren't very effective so I think this is it. Going to see about upping the dose if it's cool with the doc. Fins crossed.

That sucks. I've had insomnia before (not fun) and I hate second-hand smoke! For the sleep - have you ever tried a white noise maker?


Im sorry about that Gintsuki :( I really dont think that's ok, and im mad that she did this. Lot's of people fundraise for hobbies! I can't remember specific names at the moment, but ive seen many mers fundraise for tails and items that they want! Ive come across other hobby kickstarters too! I see nothing wrong with that at all. If people want to be generous, they will! If not, tough cookies, no milk. It's not like you're demanding for money! No, she is the one who doesnt understand. Sorry that im insulting your friend, but she is a huge wuss not to talk to you about this in person, and feels the need to ask online strangers for help about something she believes is a big issue when it's not, and then not being honest with you at all. Big coward.

K, im done.:eek:

I'm really mad at her. I told her found the posts online and she hasn't said anything since. You're right, it was very cowardly of her to do that and I actually got the idea to fund raise for this cause I saw mers on her fund raising for their tails! Which I thought was brilliant! Like you said, if someone is feeling generous - so be it - if not, oh well. I'm not forcing anyone to give me any money.

What really gets under my skin about this is she gladly accepts donations from her 5k fans and has told me of instances of when some random fan will insist on buying something for her that she posted on her wall that she wanted - I mean, really? She's saying she has a right to be disappointed and mad at me cause I'm doing a fund raiser that has perks/rewards?! Instead of just going around asking for money??

I just can't wrap my mind around her thought process and her coming to me saying "bestie - don't get mad at me for being honest" and then I just so happen to stumble upon a public post that says -she- is actually mad at -me- ! I'm confused and hurt more than anything.

[Ashe]

Hmmm, im sure someone has already posted this here, but i just hate hate hate it!!! So i really despise the people on youtube who go ahead and comment things like this: Hey, no offense, but your video sucks and your life is a fail.
I mean REALLY?!?! Just putting the words no offense in front of something extremely hurtful and horribly rude does not make it ok! Sure, i say no offense on things every once in a while, but when i do, i actually mean no offense and am probably giving them a touch of constructive critisism. Some people really get on my nerves.

[Ayla of Duluth]

I have sort of a rant that's been building up inside me.
So I'm sure you guys all know about the marriage amendment, vote "no" to allow gays the right to marry and "yes" to keep it between a man and a woman.
I used to be an avid believer in gay rights and equality and all that. But recently, something clicked in my brain, and now I'm more of a traditional kind of person. I have made the decision to vote yes on the ballot in favor of keeping marriage between a man and a woman. Every day on facebook, I see my "transgender" friend telling people to vote yes, posting links to equality websites, and actually bitching people out when he finds out they're voting yes. I've done my best to stay quiet about it, because he is a good person and a good friend, but I think he's taking this whole thing too far.
I don't think its fair for him to be able to spew this LGBT equality stuff at everyone and then get mad at them when they don't believe in the same things he does. I had this issue with another friend of mine, who is also a close family friend. He found out I'm voting yes on the ballot, and he called me ignorant and blocked me. All of this hatred has made me push myself away from the LGBT community I once supported with everything I had. I now feel that many people in the LGBT community are selfish and hateful and even discriminatory, in the sense that they abandon anyone who doesn't believe in the same things they do.
I decided enough was enough. I liked a page on my facebook called "Minnesota For Marriage." they are against gay marriage. Not two minutes after I liked the page, "you know who" popped up and called me out for it, saying I have made the wrong choice and I am hateful [funny how often that word is used] and he actually went so far as to say if I don't change my vote to "no" he will block me and spread the word to everyone around me about how I'm homophobic.
Honestly, all this drama just makes me wonder what the world would be like if gay marriage actually was legalized. I have a feeling that the LGBT community would rub it in our faces, as they are doing now. And something is just not right when you're bullied into keeping quiet about your opinions because you're afraid to be hated. ugh. I'm voting yes because of my personal beliefs, and for many other reasons, but I have also respected your opinion on the subject and not once have I ever called you out on your choice to vote no. You have the right to freedom of speech, but you DO NOT have the right to bully other people into silence. From this day, I will not be afraid to voice my beliefs and anyone who disrespects me for that can go to hell.
all better :3

[Ayla of Duluth]

also, honestly this is the only place I have ever felt safe saying all that. I haven't even said anything about it to my own family. They're voting no.

[Mermaid Annariea]

I have sort of a rant that's been building up inside me.
So I'm sure you guys all know about the marriage amendment, vote "no" to allow gays the right to marry and "yes" to keep it between a man and a woman.
I used to be an avid believer in gay rights and equality and all that. But recently, something clicked in my brain, and now I'm more of a traditional kind of person. I have made the decision to vote yes on the ballot in favor of keeping marriage between a man and a woman. Every day on facebook, I see my "transgender" friend telling people to vote yes, posting links to equality websites, and actually bitching people out when he finds out they're voting yes. I've done my best to stay quiet about it, because he is a good person and a good friend, but I think he's taking this whole thing too far.
I don't think its fair for him to be able to spew this LGBT equality stuff at everyone and then get mad at them when they don't believe in the same things he does. I had this issue with another friend of mine, who is also a close family friend. He found out I'm voting yes on the ballot, and he called me ignorant and blocked me. All of this hatred has made me push myself away from the LGBT community I once supported with everything I had. I now feel that many people in the LGBT community are selfish and hateful and even discriminatory, in the sense that they abandon anyone who doesn't believe in the same things they do.
I decided enough was enough. I liked a page on my facebook called "Minnesota For Marriage." they are against gay marriage. Not two minutes after I liked the page, "you know who" popped up and called me out for it, saying I have made the wrong choice and I am hateful [funny how often that word is used] and he actually went so far as to say if I don't change my vote to "no" he will block me and spread the word to everyone around me about how I'm homophobic.
Honestly, all this drama just makes me wonder what the world would be like if gay marriage actually was legalized. I have a feeling that the LGBT community would rub it in our faces, as they are doing now. And something is just not right when you're bullied into keeping quiet about your opinions because you're afraid to be hated. ugh. I'm voting yes because of my personal beliefs, and for many other reasons, but I have also respected your opinion on the subject and not once have I ever called you out on your choice to vote no. You have the right to freedom of speech, but you DO NOT have the right to bully other people into silence. From this day, I will not be afraid to voice my beliefs and anyone who disrespects me for that can go to hell.
all better :3


i know how that feels. it was that way with me and religion for a LONG time, it still is really. my mom and grandmom still get onto me sometimes about how "theyre so sad they wont see me in heaven" because i dont believe in christianity or god or jesus or anything, and am instead somewhere between athiesm and paganism (im still forming my beliefs really, leaning towards paganism.)

even though i somewhat disagree (i am mostly neutral about the gay marriage situation), im glad that you are going to vote based on your beliefs and not something that someone else expects you to do.
this goes for everyone: NEVER LET ANYTHING OR ANYONE COMPROMISE YOUR BELIEFS OR MAKE YOU CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL. it is your opinion, your beliefs, your feelings, and NO ONE ELSE has any right to change them, or to make you feel like you are a horrible person for the way you think. <3

[SilverSiren]

nah, he isnt doing anything wrong... id know if i had reasons to be suspicious. been there, done that with him, about 4 years ago haha. hes just a jealous and overprotective person by nature. later that day, he took me out to lunch and said he just wanted to drop it, and asked that i dont do it again, at least without him knowing/being okay with it. and we were fine after that. plus, he wasnt accusing me of cheating or being unfaithful... i think he just got really jealous that i sang for another guy.

my biggest problem now is that... on the 29th, the friend i made the video for... i called him "finland", because he was super finnish. anyways... hed been fighting depression for a really long time... and he killed himself. he almost told me too, over facebook, just hours before he did it. he IM-ed me and said, "hey i have really bad news for you. and i dont think youll understand..." but when i asked what was wrong, he took a few minutes and just replied, "im swedish ^-^". i laughed and figured he was just being goofy like he usually was...
im so mad at him for thinking that was the proper way of dealing with it, i dont understand how he could do this to everyone he loved. he had a 5 year old daughter! he just... left her, even though he had recently gotten back together with the childs mother. he seemed so happy and i just dont understand.

UGH. PERKELE.
IM SO MAD. AND SAD. AND I JUST WISH I COULD HELP HIS FAMILY MORE.
which is another thing. he didnt even tell his family about his daughter because he was afraid theyd look down on him because most of them were super christian.
SO I HAVE TO TRY AND EXPLAIN ALL OF THAT TO THEM. WTF WTF.

i almost wish i could bring him back to life and kill him myself.
but id probably just slap him.
really, really hard.

i just dont know what the proper way of handling this is. im so upset and im trying not to blame myself, but i feel like i couldve done more.

Oh, that's so so sad. I'm sorry you have to deal with that now. There is nothing you could have done sweety. It was his to work out and if he had told you THEN you could have done more but he chose not to. When someone is that depressed they don't think of anyone other than themselves because they are just so consumed by their sadness they don't see anything but that. I've been on that side of the fence, I wanted to die and I came so very close to doing it, but I was to afraid to, so I didn't and I lived with the sadness until I met my now husband. He made me so happy that I felt brave enough to tell him what was going on and what made me sad. I'm a far happier person now and I see that I was being foolish and can't believe my disregard for everyone who cared for me. I just couldn't see it at the time, I was too consumed by my sadness. So, it's not your fault, there is nothing you could have done, trust me. *hugs*

[Mermaid Narina]

I also hate when people say "no offence" and then follow it up with something seriously offensive. lol
now THAT annoys me too!

[Mermaid Narina]

i also hate it when you express your beliefs and people put you down for it.
like the other day, two girls in my class asked "tash, whats your opinion on gay marriage?". now i have heard, almost on a daily basis, their opinions FOR it, and never said anything, so i figured: i will give my honest opinion. All i said was "I dont agree with it", and it launched an entire maths lesson (80 minute) arguement, where they cornered me and attacked me for my religion. I have never said anything about it before, and i would NEVER attack a gay guy/girl at all!
I felt really angry that they couldnt accept it. In the end, someone said to the two girls "leave natasha alone", and they said "no. she cant just say that without justifying it."

and i had a moment where i wanted to be like "gurl, exCUSE me?"
anyway, my rant is OUT!
I really really hope i didnt offend anyone! i have my beliefs, you have yours and i will never force mine onto you! <3

[Dacora]

i also hate it when you express your beliefs and people put you down for it.
like the other day, two girls in my class asked "tash, whats your opinion on gay marriage?". now i have heard, almost on a daily basis, their opinions FOR it, and never said anything, so i figured: i will give my honest opinion. All i said was "I dont agree with it", and it launched an entire maths lesson (80 minute) arguement, where they cornered me and attacked me for my religion. I have never said anything about it before, and i would NEVER attack a gay guy/girl at all!
I felt really angry that they couldnt accept it. In the end, someone said to the two girls "leave natasha alone", and they said "no. she cant just say that without justifying it."

and i had a moment where i wanted to be like "gurl, exCUSE me?"
anyway, my rant is OUT!
I really really hope i didnt offend anyone! i have my beliefs, you have yours and i will never force mine onto you! <3

I really hate when people do that. I support gay marrige but I respect that you have a diffrent opinion than I do. I actually was raised in a family that does not support it and got bashed a lot for supporting it. Eventually I told them its MY beliefs, if you dont like it then kiss my butt. They have not given me issues since.


I really HATE when people look down on you for liking something. Recently I have been getting teased for keeping my fish and having a 110 gallon tank. I get teased more when they find out I keep goldfish in the 110 gallon tank. Then I get it worse when they find out I only have 3 right now. Is it so bad I want my fish to have a good life? Its fine for you to treat your dog or cat when he gets sick but when I treat my fish for something im crazy? Since when did fish become inmune to sickness? GET A LIFE A REALIZE THERE ARE MORE PETS THAN YOUR DOG OR CAT!! Just so you guys know, I love dogs and cats. I have 2 dogs and a cat and I am fostering 3 kittens right now. Im just tired of people looking down on my fish so much.

Sent from my HTC One X using Tapatalk 2

[Koral]

I'm in a panic, I really have something to B!TC# about...

So, I was driving home from swimming last night, and I've been noticing my car having more problems after my dad and BF fixed radiator. The day of fixing, BF and I noticed an oil leak and pointed it out to my dad, he said it was fine and he put some anti-leak in there but it would take 200 miles to "work." It was not fine. Last night, my car ran out of oil and right before my BFs exit my car finally started losing power. I hit 20 MPH and pulled off. I called my mom a bit startled mainly so I could calm down. She started yelling and screaming at me. She called me things I really don't think are true. Obsessive compulsive, bipolar, putting mermaiding before everyone and everything, and said I am living in a fantasy. Forgive me for living MY fantasy, my dreams and desires. I'm obviously not putting everyone and everything (college) before mermaiding, because I make sure to attend classes, do my work, love on my BF. Yeah, I don't spend every free moment talking to mom or dad but I do hang out with them just not ALL THE TIME. I can go to school and still do other things on the side!!! I TOLD her I was trying to move out, and I'm going to get a job so I can better afford school and now so I could get a better car. So, I called BF to get me and the tow company, and she called again and gave me two choices.

Move out and do whatever with my life.
Come back home and never, ever do anything BUT school. No boyfriend. No mermaiding. No friends. Nothing but school and being a robot about it, having my father drive me to and from. I have 3 years before I graduate, only 1 year in.

I don't want to stop the things in life that keep me going, keep me alive and sane. Boyfriend. Friends. Mermaiding. It's what I do.
I've been trying to move in with boyfriend but his apartment complex won't let me because they are low income and it's supposedly a huge hassle to get put on the lease. I don't know what to do. I don't want to stop... everything...

[Mermaid Annariea]

Oh, that's so so sad. I'm sorry you have to deal with that now. There is nothing you could have done sweety. It was his to work out and if he had told you THEN you could have done more but he chose not to. When someone is that depressed they don't think of anyone other than themselves because they are just so consumed by their sadness they don't see anything but that. I've been on that side of the fence, I wanted to die and I came so very close to doing it, but I was to afraid to, so I didn't and I lived with the sadness until I met my now husband. He made me so happy that I felt brave enough to tell him what was going on and what made me sad. I'm a far happier person now and I see that I was being foolish and can't believe my disregard for everyone who cared for me. I just couldn't see it at the time, I was too consumed by my sadness. So, it's not your fault, there is nothing you could have done, trust me. *hugs*

yeah, i know. it really sucks. i keep waiting for his IMs on facebook. i just keep telling myself that i couldnt have known he was feeling that way, since he seemed to make it a point to come off as perfectly happy.
and im glad you didnt and are happy now :D


i also hate it when you express your beliefs and people put you down for it.

haha, i know that feeling all too well. there was one time in my senior year of high school, my english teacher (she was from the philippines and had such a thick accent that it was hard to understand her, WHY WAS SHE TEACHING ENGLISH?!) asked the class who was christian. guess who was the ONLY ONE IN THE ENTIRE CLASS that didnt raise her hand? yep, me.
she then gave me a dirty look as other students exclaimed, "OH MY GOD, YOURE A SATANIST?" and i had to explain to them that since i dont believe in anything about christianity, i therefore dont believe satan exists either. they didnt seem to understand that. anyways, my teacher then proceeded to tell us how we were going to be learning about the anglo saxons, and how they were "pagan but christian".
when i tried to explain to her that you sort of couldnt be pagan AND christian, since they contradict each other, she got mad at me and said that i was only upset about it because i wasnt christian.

no im upset because YOURE A FACKING IDIOT.
i hated that class, she was a bxtch to me all year. and she would only call me by my last name. "SHOEMAKE! STOP TALKING!"
"but... i wasnt talking..."
"yes you were, i watched you."
"BUT I WASNT TALKING."

i shouldve gotten her fired.

long story short, good for you on voicing your beliefs, and dont ever let anyone tell you youre wrong. unless its actually harming others.

anyways im done with my rant now.

[Mermaid Annariea]

I'm in a panic, I really have something to B!TC# about...

So, I was driving home from swimming last night, and I've been noticing my car having more problems after my dad and BF fixed radiator. The day of fixing, BF and I noticed an oil leak and pointed it out to my dad, he said it was fine and he put some anti-leak in there but it would take 200 miles to "work." It was not fine. Last night, my car ran out of oil and right before my BFs exit my car finally started losing power. I hit 20 MPH and pulled off. I called my mom a bit startled mainly so I could calm down. She started yelling and screaming at me. She called me things I really don't think are true. Obsessive compulsive, bipolar, putting mermaiding before everyone and everything, and said I am living in a fantasy. Forgive me for living MY fantasy, my dreams and desires. I'm obviously not putting everyone and everything (college) before mermaiding, because I make sure to attend classes, do my work, love on my BF. Yeah, I don't spend every free moment talking to mom or dad but I do hang out with them just not ALL THE TIME. I can go to school and still do other things on the side!!! I TOLD her I was trying to move out, and I'm going to get a job so I can better afford school and now so I could get a better car. So, I called BF to get me and the tow company, and she called again and gave me two choices.

Move out and do whatever with my life.
Come back home and never, ever do anything BUT school. No boyfriend. No mermaiding. No friends. Nothing but school and being a robot about it, having my father drive me to and from. I have 3 years before I graduate, only 1 year in.

I don't want to stop the things in life that keep me going, keep me alive and sane. Boyfriend. Friends. Mermaiding. It's what I do.
I've been trying to move in with boyfriend but his apartment complex won't let me because they are low income and it's supposedly a huge hassle to get put on the lease. I don't know what to do. I don't want to stop... everything...

i wish i lived close to you. my boyfriend and i want an apartment so we can move out of his dads place, and i would totally help you.
your mom is completely in the wrong. if youre juggling everything you have to do with everything you want to to, and are getting it all done, then what does she have to complain about? she has no right to do that to you, and honestly, i dont know why she snapped on you like that...
honestly, what i would do is, just stay with your boyfriend. you dont have to "move in", just say youre staying the night there... every night... xD you can help him with groceries or rent or whatever he needs, and if someone complains, then ask them to put you on the lease. but mostly keep it a secret haha. thats what i would do, anyways.

[Mermaid Lei Loni]

Just keep swimming Koral! I know we just talked about this over the phone, so I'm not going to repeat myself here too. But I wanted to support you here. And don't worry, we'll figure everything out. Worst case scenario is you crash on my couch until we figure things out further. But I won't let you live on the street. And I won't let you let go of your dreams. I've been down this road before, and you will make it out, just hang on sister! :) We'll talk more soon. Love ya!

[Mermaid Margarete]

I'm in a panic, I really have something to B!TC# about...

So, I was driving home from swimming last night, and I've been noticing my car having more problems after my dad and BF fixed radiator. The day of fixing, BF and I noticed an oil leak and pointed it out to my dad, he said it was fine and he put some anti-leak in there but it would take 200 miles to "work." It was not fine. Last night, my car ran out of oil and right before my BFs exit my car finally started losing power. I hit 20 MPH and pulled off. I called my mom a bit startled mainly so I could calm down. She started yelling and screaming at me. She called me things I really don't think are true. Obsessive compulsive, bipolar, putting mermaiding before everyone and everything, and said I am living in a fantasy. Forgive me for living MY fantasy, my dreams and desires. I'm obviously not putting everyone and everything (college) before mermaiding, because I make sure to attend classes, do my work, love on my BF. Yeah, I don't spend every free moment talking to mom or dad but I do hang out with them just not ALL THE TIME. I can go to school and still do other things on the side!!! I TOLD her I was trying to move out, and I'm going to get a job so I can better afford school and now so I could get a better car. So, I called BF to get me and the tow company, and she called again and gave me two choices.

Move out and do whatever with my life.
Come back home and never, ever do anything BUT school. No boyfriend. No mermaiding. No friends. Nothing but school and being a robot about it, having my father drive me to and from. I have 3 years before I graduate, only 1 year in.

I don't want to stop the things in life that keep me going, keep me alive and sane. Boyfriend. Friends. Mermaiding. It's what I do.
I've been trying to move in with boyfriend but his apartment complex won't let me because they are low income and it's supposedly a huge hassle to get put on the lease. I don't know what to do. I don't want to stop... everything...

Your mom totally overreacted. I'm not trying to judge here, but it sounds like there might be something else she's taking out on you - something you might not even be aware of. Give her a chance to calm down first - I know my mother has kicked me out a few times, yeeeet I'm stilling living at home XD

[Koral]

Again I can't thank you enough for how wonderful you are, Loni.

I agree with you guys, she really is overreacting. Over a car. I don't know what her problem with me is, why she snapped so hard like this. I already planned on moving out.

I'd like to try to be hush hush about living with my boyfriend. I will ask him what he thinks about it, but he's already gone to his complex managers about it and they said no. This is the first time I've seen an apartment like this. The last low income place I was at didn't even need MY information, yet they're making a huge deal about it here. But, since he already asked them, if they find out about me "spending so many nights here" then they'd throw a fit. My beau's brother comes over a lot, and they ALREADY have said something to my beau about THAT! So I know they'd find out about me.

Then, a small part of me wonders, "Is he making all this up? He says he's excited to have me move in - is he lying? Does he not really want me here? Should I ask the complex about their procedure to add people to existing leases, myself?" I wonder if I am burdening him too much. He says he cares about me, he's slipped the L word here and there and for once outright said it (though I froze up at that moment due to past relationship complications, I do love him). But I wonder how far he would go to help me until I am on my feet. I want to help him, but I need his help first. If I could just move in with him, that would make my life so much easier. He's practically neighbors with the Tracks transportation here, and I could either walk, get a ride, or take the bus from wherever the Tracks land me close to my school in the next town over. Driving, I'm only 10 minutes from my college at his place!!! *sigh*

I have another option I am considering (school housing), but it would put me into debt or cost me $600 a month which I can't do yet. But how things are going right now, that debt is looking pretty acceptable, and I'm assuming financial aid would pay for most or all of the rent until I can make it on my own. I hope they don't have a lease agreement.

Gaahhh sorry I am saying so much, but it is really helping to get all this chaos off my chest. I am so stressed, but trying my hardest not to be.

[Mermaid Annariea]

koral, the best thing to do is to talk to him about it seriously. ask him to be serious, and that if he isnt comfortable with you living with him, to tell you so you know for sure.
my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years, and i moved in with him a few months ago, but he was really iffy about it. he wanted me to be near him again, since i moved to new jersey a year before, but he also didnt want it to pull us apart, being together so much. so far its been wonderful, it really has.

and honestly, try talking to your mom too. a lot of people arent even going to college right now because of the economy and personal things. she should be OVERJOYED that you are focused on your education and still are able to make time for the things you love. if you dont do something you enjoy, youll end up becoming sad and depressed, and NO ONE wants that. she should understand that.

[happyguava]

My bitch for the day: I'm sick of everything costing so much money. At the moment it's looking like we can't afford the right insurance, which closes the door to working at several pools and events. *headdesk*

[Mermaid Allie]

Ok first of all i have no idea if this is in the right place.... so someone tell me and ill move it lolol! Ok so I was wondering if anyone else has this problem and can sympathize with me about it. So my friends and I all got into H2O just add water at the same time and then I decided we should all make tails. We did and we all have them. There are two major problems that have come up. First of all and most importantly, BOTH MY OTHER MER-FRIENDS WONT SWIM IN PUBLIC WITH THEM. Like not even at the super close hotel pool that usually has a population of 1 old lady and a lifeguard or less. they want to wait until MAY when my friend opens her pool. Seriously? May? And they have this weird fettish about getting our tails together and only swimming together and shit. (scuse my language) (is there like a policy about that or something? lemme know) And they got all pissed when i finished my tail first. Sorry that my mom wanted to make it for me and you weren't home when you said you were. ok. HELPPPP!! Any mers have suggestions? Oh and one more thing. I have the money and I want a fish butts realistic tail. i'm more serious about mermaids then them and i really have a passion for them. I just don't get that they don't think the realistic tails are worth 250 dollars. So she told me I couldn't get one. Because then I wouldn't match them. Seriously? I mean maybe i'm just being a jerk but personally, I think that's out of line to tell me I can't get a tail. She also told me that I can't have a blue tail. I mean thats just not fair.... right? :jawdrop: :confused: :doh:

[Merman_Shawn]

Your friends sound pretty selfish and it sounds like they have a bunch of insecurities about attracting attention. The only reason I can see for them saying you can't get a Fishbutt is because they feel the need to conform, because conformity is comfortable. The key is to somehow get them out of their comfort zones and maybe the rest will follow. As for you friends telling you what you can and can't do;That is unacceptable. Does one of your friends already have a blue tail and doesn't want to share the color? Tell your friends that there are lots of merfolk out there with blue tails(myself included), so if that is the case, their argument is invalid. As for having matching types of tails, that is just plain ridiculous, there are plenty of merfolk pods with different types of tails.
Basically it sounds like you know what you want, and they resent you for being more motivated about it. Buy your Fishbutt, and be a happy mermaid. They have no say as what you spend your money on.

*Although I should mention that I'm not sure if Stevi(Fishbutts) is accepting any orders right now, she's pretty swamped at the moment.*

[Winged Mermaid]

Ok so I was wondering if anyone else has this problem and can sympathize with me about it. ....

This is the right place! I removed your post in the other thread. Also we do allow cursing as long as you don't over do it ;)

Anyhow, it sounds like they're being ridiculous. There are plenty of pods and professional mermaids (some of them big name mers) who work together and none of them have the same type of tail or look, and it works fine. In fact individuality and creativity is encouraged and honored with merfolk, as our tails are an extension of ourselves and thus individual and unique. And so what if you have a blue tail too? The vast majority of tails are blue. Blue, green, and turquoise are the most common tail colors. Blue has always been the most popular, but no one cares if others have the same colored tail as another mer. That's just petty.

They need to realize that even though you may be mermaiding buddies, you are your own mermaid. It's your life, your passion, your dream, and you do not need to answer to them. They should respect that. If you want to swim on your own, swim on you own. If you want a blue tail, get/make a blue tail. If you want a realistic tail, get a realistic tail! You're your own mermaid, do what makes you happy! They should not hold you back, but celebrate your growth. You know, be HAPPY for you instead of putting you down. If they can't then I seriously suggest you re-evaluate your friendship. If you lay down your boundaries about this, and tell them that they need to respect you and they don't change, then they are not real friends. I hope you can work it out. Just remember it's better to move on than to stick with "friends" who hold you back and put you down.

[Mermaid Allie]

Thank you!! Great advice! Just wanted to make sure i wasn't going insane and i wanted to get that off my tail!!!

[Mermaid Allie]

Thank you Winged mermaid for your encouragement!! I really needed that :)

[Koral]

I talked to my boyfriend and my mother. Boyfriend is very happy to have me move in and said "let's go to the property management together tomorrow." So my ease is rested there. As for my mother? She is now DEMANDING that I come home and "drop the mermaid shit" her words exactly, there. She's trying to make my choice for me. I had told her I was going to move out and get a job and a car, and that was her response to me.

I'm 25. I'm moving out anyway. Somewhere. First I just need to get the roof over my head and move out as peacefully as possible, taking what I can of mine from their house. Then I can wander out and find a job. I'm first going to try a couple places just by my school so I can walk to them. And some nearby places across the bridge that are a little further but still walkable. I can try career services here too... I have some options, I just need to get out of my situation, it's unhealthy. I'm at my BF's house right now, and I am dreading going back because I fear she may never let me leave... I don't PLAN on dropping out of school like she keeps claiming I am. I'm an A student. I know what I want. I know what makes me happy. And I can multitask my life successfully. She thinks I can't.

She's also going to try and force me into counselling now. I predict she will sit in and control the entire sessions, and plans on using it as a brainwashing tool, and put me on a million medications...

[Koral]

Alliegator it sounds like your controlling friends are merely hellbent on reenacting a popular mermaid show. They should seek inspiration, not be yet another H20 immitator crew. Be your own little group of friends who share something enjoyable. And I second what Winged Mermaid says.

[Merman Dan]

As for my mother? She is now DEMANDING that I come home and "drop the mermaid shit" her words exactly, there. She's also going to try and force me into counselling now. I predict she will sit in and control the entire sessions, and plans on using it as a brainwashing tool, and put me on a million medications...

She would prefer that you do what, then? Hang out with unsavory types of people and engage in illegal activities? As a D&D player, I went through the same sorts of things when I was in high school. My hobby was different, true, but at least it kept me out of trouble and off the streets! Now I am 46, married, a father to 7, and employed... and, oh yeah, I still play D&D and I'm a merman. :)

As for the therapy, yeah, my mother tried that too, when I needed help financing a car as a teen. I went to the first session and told him I didn't see the need for therapy as I discussed my problems with my friends, would never take a medication that altered my moods or perceptions, and that I enjoyed being odd. Since the shrink was hellbent on prescribing Prozac* to each and every patient and I blatantly told him I would never take it, I never had to attend a second session.


* - Disclaimer: I realize that such medications have helped countless individuals and I am not discounting their use. I am simply one of those stubborn males that won't even take aspirin for a headache.

[Koral]

She would prefer I stay home all the time and do nothing but school, and she would allow me to go see my boyfriend. As a college student I DO need to network, but as a human I need something to do in my life that "keeps me going."
Yeah, in high school my vice was the computer, always online roleplaying. I never participated with those hardcore party groups. But now I'm in COLLEGE and I should have the freedom to pick whatever I'd like as my side-hobby and hell, maybe even a side-job. That doesn't mean I'm dropping out of college or avoiding getting a "real job." I know my responsibilities, I can PERFORM my responsibilities, as I have in the past, but she is hellbent on assuming that I CAN'T.

Yes, I have moved out a handful of times in the past, and something always happened that I had to come home. It hasn't been because I "couldn't do it." It was bad living conditions. For example, I had moved in with a man as a roommate that turned out to be a pervert, and he did things like keep the house at 90 degrees so I would wear less clothing, and spank my butt whenever he could - I started smoking there because of the stress. The last time I moved out, I was with a pretty bad boyfriend, that's all I'll say there. I stayed there for months, and after my job told me "oh yeah, you're seasonal," I was going to go right into another job, but then decided I needed to get out of my bad living situation.

But now? I'm with a wonderful man, I'm in college, I have the capabilities to get out and stay out. I lived without a car once, I can manage it again. Though it turns out all that's wrong with my car is the transmission has a leak, so maybe if I keep refilling, I can at least jobhunt and get to and from until I can get a car from one of those "all you need is a job" dealerships.

Also, if my boyfriend's apartment can't add me to the lease for sake of being lazy, rude assholes... then I can get into school housing. I just looked at a paper and its apparently just under 1900 per quarter to live there, and financial aid can cover it to those that are accepted, and I'm damn sure I would be. I'm starting to see a LITTLE light at the end of the tunnel.

OH. One thing she said to me is really really bothering me. She really doesn't understand, and yet I know I can't argue it to her. I did try to argue it a little and she was still firm on her choice. Anyway, she at one point said "fantasizing about mermaids all day is what 16 year olds do. Not 25 year olds. Grow up." Nevermind that MANY of us here are older than teenagers, especially the ones serious about it (from what I have seen).

[Merman Dan]

"...Grow up."

Them there's fightin' words!!

[Koral]

Haha yeah. She knows I don't fight back. I'm too scared to. She yells, puts words in my mouth, makes me out to be a terrible monster, and pretty much puts me down. I just shut up, sit there and stare forward, say "okay" or "yeah" or even "sure" when needed. I always agree, and don't talk back just to avoid further verbal slashing aforementioned.

But in my mind I am plotting other things. In this case, when I am moving, where I am moving, etc etc.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

I have sort of a rant that's been building up inside me.
So I'm sure you guys all know about the marriage amendment, vote "no" to allow gays the right to marry and "yes" to keep it between a man and a woman.
I used to be an avid believer in gay rights and equality and all that. But recently, something clicked in my brain, and now I'm more of a traditional kind of person. I have made the decision to vote yes on the ballot in favor of keeping marriage between a man and a woman. Every day on facebook, I see my "transgender" friend telling people to vote yes, posting links to equality websites, and actually bitching people out when he finds out they're voting yes. I've done my best to stay quiet about it, because he is a good person and a good friend, but I think he's taking this whole thing too far.
I don't think its fair for him to be able to spew this LGBT equality stuff at everyone and then get mad at them when they don't believe in the same things he does. I had this issue with another friend of mine, who is also a close family friend. He found out I'm voting yes on the ballot, and he called me ignorant and blocked me. All of this hatred has made me push myself away from the LGBT community I once supported with everything I had. I now feel that many people in the LGBT community are selfish and hateful and even discriminatory, in the sense that they abandon anyone who doesn't believe in the same things they do.
I decided enough was enough. I liked a page on my facebook called "Minnesota For Marriage." they are against gay marriage. Not two minutes after I liked the page, "you know who" popped up and called me out for it, saying I have made the wrong choice and I am hateful [funny how often that word is used] and he actually went so far as to say if I don't change my vote to "no" he will block me and spread the word to everyone around me about how I'm homophobic.
Honestly, all this drama just makes me wonder what the world would be like if gay marriage actually was legalized. I have a feeling that the LGBT community would rub it in our faces, as they are doing now. And something is just not right when you're bullied into keeping quiet about your opinions because you're afraid to be hated. ugh. I'm voting yes because of my personal beliefs, and for many other reasons, but I have also respected your opinion on the subject and not once have I ever called you out on your choice to vote no. You have the right to freedom of speech, but you DO NOT have the right to bully other people into silence. From this day, I will not be afraid to voice my beliefs and anyone who disrespects me for that can go to hell.
all better :3

Hey Ayla, I certainly appreciate your frustrations with the actions of your friends (as an aside, are they just facebook friends/acquaintances or would you consider them actual real capital-F Friends? If the former, they're probably not worth your time, but if the latter, then I think you need to call for a complete debate and actually discuss both sides, and figure out what each of you are REALLY saying to each other and what you're hearing from each other), particularly when they are so very critical and rude about their comments and attitudes.

However, I have to point out, at least from the description you've given of your views, it seems that you're largely taking the stance against gay marriage because you're irritated with the actions of your "friends"... which seems odd, if you truly were "an avid believer in gay rights and equality and all that" (as another aside, just using the term "... and all that" suggests that, in fact, you were no such thing, just a live and let live person, which is just fine, wonderful, in fact). So that means that because you find your gay and transgendered friends offensive, you've decided that everyone else has to suffer for the actions of a few? That people who have long lasting relationships should be unable to marry because your friends are facebook loudmouths?

Also, there is nothing "traditional" about opposing gay marriage. The whole concept was unimaginable a relatively short time ago, so how could there be a tradition against it? Modern concepts of being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered or so forth have only existed free of other definitions (replete with additional qualifications and a worldview that simply doesn't hold true anymore, such as the idea that women are to be married off by their families in order to gain greater wealth or social standing for the family). Marriage is being redefined, like it or not, but not in court rooms or churches or voting booths, but in the minds and hearts of each person who wishes to get married. And instead you're saying that gender roles and the mere fact that someone was born in such a way restrict them from being able to marry the person of their choosing, because your friends are brats? Yeah, that's not hateful... but it's a sign of being hurt by people you trusted and cared for a friends, and lashing out at others in an attempt to re-establish your equilibrium (an attempt that doesn't work). Might I suggest 1. Getting to know some more GLBT people from different ages, backgrounds, and settings, 2. praying and meditating on the differences between the actions of the few and the cost to many, and 3. talking to your friends about how their comments have hurt or offended you and how you might find common ground, or unsubscribing from them so that you don't have to see their comments on your feeds, or deleting them first if they are such jerks as to attack you? Otherwise, I think you're directing your attention at the symptoms and not the actual illness.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

By the way, Koral, today is National Coming Out Day. It's time to come out to your mom. No giving up. No saying "yes ok" in order to make it easier. Fights and arguments are uncomfortable... very much so, but you need to make sure she knows this isn't a fight she can win. In this case, you're not fighting her... you're fighting yourself, and your own reticence to stand up to her. She's definitely going to win in that case... it's two against one, after all (or at least 1.5 against 1/2). If you're moving in with your boyfriend, you're not under her roof. As long as you're continuing to do well at school and you find a job that can support you (after being out of paying work for a little over a year, largely due to my own lack of drive in filling out applications and sending out resumes and actually going in person to places to apply, pick up applications, and so forth, I can attest that it's easy to say "I'll get a job" but it's even easier to put it off or not focus on it or be driven away by minutiae). It's time to come out to her as a young lady with a life of her own, whose mother needs to treat her and her interests (and your accomplishments, which, as a straight A student, are pretty impressive) with respect or suffer the consequences... being ignored and separated from her daughter. Don't give in... don't be afraid she'll force you into anything... come out. We have cookies :)

[Merman Dan]

come out. We have cookies :)

Well, not exactly cookies...
http://www.liveaquaria.com/images/categories/product/p-37168-Chocolate-Chip-Sea-.jpg
Chocolate Chip Sea Star (http://www.liveaquaria.com/product/prod_display.cfm?c=497+528+2967&pcatid=2967)

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Well, not exactly cookies...
http://www.liveaquaria.com/images/categories/product/p-37168-Chocolate-Chip-Sea-.jpg
Chocolate Chip Sea Star (http://www.liveaquaria.com/product/prod_display.cfm?c=497+528+2967&pcatid=2967)

Actually, as a matter of fact, I HAD chocolate chip stars (and brittle stars and sea horses and several other creatures) as pets. For awhile I had both a saltwater tank and a freshwater tank.

[SilverSiren]

Haha yeah. She knows I don't fight back. I'm too scared to. She yells, puts words in my mouth, makes me out to be a terrible monster, and pretty much puts me down. I just shut up, sit there and stare forward, say "okay" or "yeah" or even "sure" when needed. I always agree, and don't talk back just to avoid further verbal slashing aforementioned.

But in my mind I am plotting other things. In this case, when I am moving, where I am moving, etc etc.

I used to have a mom just like yours. I was afraid of her. I moved away and haven't spoken to her since. I'm the happiest I have ever been in my life. There is a thread here somewhere that I speak of this and AnaiR had the same issue with her mom too. We both just stopped speaking to our moms. It's hard but only in the sense of having to figure out the best way to execute it so she can't track you down and your in control of contact if you wish to have contact. I'm not saying you SHOULD do it but I know I'm a happier person because I did it. I think the thing that finally made me do it was my brother (not related or speaking to her) "If she was a friend and she treated you this way, would you allow it or tell her to fuck off?". He was right, just because she was my mother didn't give her the right to treat me so badly, nor did it give me the obligation to have to put up with it! I know what your going through, I'm sorry. *hugs*

[Koral]

Though I missed the "national coming out day" I think, I DID take action against her. I haven't really verbally argued my point against her, because she still insists I am living purely in immature fantasy and last told me today "when you grow up and realize I was right, you will call me apologizing." Other things were said, such as "you hate me, and you are me, so every time you look in the mirror...." in other words telling me I should hate myself I guess. I tell her repeatedly that I love her, no matter what, and she still puts those words in my mouth, "you hate me with a passion." Sure, she's been a very supportive mom and I'm really blessed for that, but now she is not supportive of me anymore. She's supportive in the sense of... she'll have dad help with my car, etc, but highly unsupportive of the things that make me happy in my spare time.

Anyway, I am moving out now into student housing, as my boyfriend's apartment really doesn't want me on the lease (I don't know what their problem is, maybe just too lazy to do the paperwork. They're also overly strict). I should get a call from the school today to pick up the key, and I can start moving. For this, I am happy. I'll keep in touch with my mother if she doesn't give me that rude attitude.

[Morticia Mermaid]

I'm happy for you Koral. It sounds like you were living in extremely unhealthy living conditions. I'm glad you decided to take the necessary steps to get out of that situation

[Koral]

Yes, it will put me into more debt with college, but right now I'd say it's worth it.

[SilverSiren]

"you hate me, and you are me, so every time you look in the mirror...." .

You're not your mother, because if everyone was like their mother, I would be a spiteful, bitter, bitch. lol I know you probably know your not her but sometimes we like to hear it from other people to confirm it. :)

[Koral]

Thanks Silver. I realize I'm not, surely, but I agree it's nice to hear.
If I were like my mother, I would be relentless, argumentative, and have half a dozen mental health problems.

But, I'm not saying I hate my mother at all, nor am I trying to play her out to be a monster. She has done things to take care of me. She's made sure I have transportation, a roof over my head, food in my belly, gas in my car. She's been someone I could talk to when I really needed it (though I often don't like what she says), but at least I was able to get some things off my chest. She and my father have rescued me from bad living conditions in the past and say "you always have a place with us."
Yet I need to get out of the house. I think I'm just at the age where if I stay here, there will be nothing but fighting. Anytime I've moved out, we've gotten along swimmingly.

[Mermaid Annariea]

koral, im happy that youre getting out of there. your mother has no right to be like that towards you.
im so glad my mom and i have always gotten along. it must really be awful to have a mom who says such mean things :(
good lucky with the move! and i wish you the best!

[New York Mermaid]

if you havent seen my personal facebook post this is whats going on, this is why i've been going through so much and a period of absence


Beyond depressed and upset, my mother's stressing me out to a point that i might have to sell my birds and move to long island, away from my sick father (who has no one but me to care for him) and my sister, (the only one who i actually have ties to). I cant stand her constant bitching over and over about suddenly she wants the apartment for herself, and then its her niece and now its her uncle. she gave me the apartment to me and my husband who works only a block away because of convenience and because i was stuck in a 5th floor apartment for 7 years which i lived in for over 20yrs. now she wants the apartment for her uncle who has dementia and heart problems and is in a home with proper care- but she doesnt feel that way,

but she feels he needs to be close to her house, with no nurses aid and no one around to watch or help him 24/7. Im so done with my mother I swear. Im having such a hard time with this.. i spent 4 grand on fixing this place up, the rent is even over paid by a month extra, I did so much to this once disgusting house and i havent even been here for a year yet.

Im so pissed right now I have no idea what to do anymore. I have no money to even move somewhere else at the moment we cant save much anymore because of just trying to settle in this apartment, it needed so much repair. poor milton who will have to spend $300 a month trying to get to work on top of a $1700 rent in a shared apartment with his sister.. I swear if i leave this apartment and loose the only 2 things that keep me happy, I officially will cut my mother off completely..

I was seriously crying so much last night going through all of this, I havent slept and i even had to take 2 anti anxiety pills. I ust cant do it anymore. My dad has no one to help him but me. My sister and i are very close, she was in tears when i told her about it. My mother has changed so much its amazing, I do everything right, everything not to step on her toes, to keep her happy, suddenly she does this to me. I cant do it anymore!

[Koral]

It seems to me that mothers around the world are acting strange as if they want to be cut off from their daughters. What's up with that? :(

I really wish I had some good advice for you, Lanai. "Getting out" is healthy and a good option, but yes it is very very hard I know. Has menopause* found her yet? Maybe she will get over it and mellow out? My mother recently hit menopause, but she's not getting over her dilemma with me. So I'm getting away. If it's at all possible, do that. Maybe tell her to reimburse the 4 grand and the 1 month overpay of rent, and you'll get out of her hair. At least if she were to pay back all the extras you've put into the apartment YOURSELF, you and your husband would be able to move out and get a fresh start.

*mentioning this because as most know, this can cause more outbursts and volatile behavior.

[New York Mermaid]

yep ive done that and faught tooth and nail about it with her, she is going through menapause, and probably has been for the past 3 years.. sheesh

[Koral]

That's a long course of menopause. o_o

So I have something else to bitch about now, and this time it's just me letting off some steam.
I was supposed to get the single bedroom to myself while the other girls share the master bedroom. I found out today that girl 1 took it unto herself to move into the single bedroom. I found out that this girl 1 is pretty damn ornery, too. But I know girl 2 from sculpture class last quarter, from my experience she is very nice and others are vouching that she is really laid back. Girl 2 is who I am sharing a room with. I was planning on decorating the HELL out of my room, and above all after 1.5 years of hoarding my door-beads, I am finally hanging them. I'm not taking no for an answer (they are these really cute beads of bubbles and fish of neon tropical colors). At least, I'm hoping she doesn't mind the door beads and my choice decor. If I have to I will just hang them on the window or wall. Actually, that sounds better anyway. :/

But still, I'm concerned about this ugly-minded young lady. I'm hoping to either win them both over, or team up with my former classmate/now roommate girl 2 and get on girl 1's ass until she finally can't stand it and change rooms. Is that territorial of me? I like peace in my living space, and if there's not, I want them out LOL.*

*Poster note: Again, just letting off some steam. But I do like peace in the household. Sure, I'd love them to be out, but what can I really do but just be nice, and cope. I can't say the same for seeeveral other classmates I've heard about in the apartments, though.

[Thalassa]

Hi, Koral! I really identified with your whole mom thing; my mom is that way. Luckily/unluckily I did as she said and pushed myself through college with no social life. On one hand, it's great being graduated and having the nice paycheck (although I did have to look for a job for 2 years after graduating) and starting my career. On the other hand, I missed out a lot on the social life and feel I could have gotten so much more out of my college experience. So there's pros and cons to all. I'm glad you're out (seems to be, right?).

As for roommates...I'm lucky because I arranged to pay for both parts of a shared room, making a private room. But I lived with a series of roommates that were assigned to me for quite a while, and I learned that you really can't try to change your roommate. Either you get along or you suck it up until they or you move out. Making life hard for them just makes you be the "bad" roommate...and that gets around. Soon enough the only people who will room with you are either the newbies who have no choice or the people nobody else wants.

That is a rough situation. I sympathize with you, I just advise against "teaming up" and trying to make life hard for somebody. Maybe I'm too nice...XP

[Koral]

I'm perfectly capable of multitasking college, job, activities, and boyfriend. It can get stressful, but at the same time my mind operates very quickly and I kind of need a lot going on in my life so I don't go insane. To each their own, of course. And I'm glad you did what you feel is right - everyone should. I did what I felt is right. :)

You were lucky to be able to afford both sides of the room. It would cost me an extra $1200 - $1900 do that each 3 month quarter. Sadly, not all of us are that fortunate. :( As for the ornery gal, she may well enjoy making life miserable for others, I do admit maybe it's a little unfair that no one can give her a taste of her own medicine. But, of course I'm going to suck it up and be super nice. I talk big online but I am a bit of a guppy in reality (I know a mermaid that can attest to that). I was raised to "be nice to those that are rude," as kindness goes further (or in my case, shut up and get stepped all over). But, in the back of my mind I may be screaming and yelling, and online I can say things I can't say IRL, just to get things off my chest so I don't actually do them in person. Then, I'm over it. :)

[Felicia]

SO here's my B!TC#...

I just moved to be closer to my family and to live with a very good friend I've had since I was little, she's always copied me which was fine to an extant it was a bit flattering that someone wanted to be like me, however I just found out she's taken it too far... She legally changed her name so it's the same as mine, got engaged to someone that she only dated 3 months kuz he has the same name as my man, she dyed her hair and got the same piercings and the same tattoo I have(only one that she knows about)...creepy right... Well when I brought up that it's a bit odd she said "your over reacting, I'm just experessing myself" I told her it was a bit too weird for me and my fiancée so we broke the rental agreement and moved in with my mother for the time being, hopefully we can find a place soon because she drives me insane and always want to know when I will be giving her grandbabys..... Ummmm never hopefully.....

Im not sure if I did over react but I don't really want another "me" running around it was ok when she just acted like me but changing her name and appearance seems like its gone too far

Anyhoo that's my b!tc# of creepiness and such

[Thalassa]

For some reason I'm reminded of that movie where the roommate wants to take over the others' life...what was that called again? XP

I agree, that's definitely very creepy, IMHO that's too many coincidences for her to be just borrowing a few of your ideas. :-S

[Winged Mermaid]

That is beyond creepy O_O I would GTFO of there too! As they say.. bit#hes be crazy. I feel sorry for her that she feels like she has to deny who she is so severely that she does that to herself. One of the very best feelings in the world is knowing that are finding who you are and being true to yourself. For her that will just be a big empty gaping hole. Still.. best to stay away if she's not listening to reason. Could end up like a horror movie with her trying to steal your face (literally) or something X_x

[Elle]

That's a bit weird. I had that happen to me a while ago, everytime I bought clothes or changed my hair this girl did the exact same thing, even when I cut all my hair off. so I made the decision to turn into her she changed back and started mentioning to everyone that I was copying her. So i got to be me again and she stayed as herself :)

[Felicia]

That is beyond creepy O_O I would GTFO of there too! As they say.. bit#hes be crazy. I feel sorry for her that she feels like she has to deny who she is so severely that she does that to herself. One of the very best feelings in the world is knowing that are finding who you are and being true to yourself. For her that will just be a big empty gaping hole. Still.. best to stay away if she's not listening to reason. Could end up like a horror movie with her trying to steal your face (literally) or something X_x

Ikr feel like I'm gunna be killed or something ...... And I like my face where it is quite frankly. Worse part is I now live in the same town... So we will se how this progresses but I don't think it will end well for one of us

[Mer_Adella]

Ok I know this is going to sound bad and what not but here it goes.

Imagine yourself living in your boyfriend/girlfriends house and they work all week long and are only home from Friday @ 8pm to Sunday @8pm (48 hrs) and during that time he doesn't make any sexual advancement towards you. Sure they kiss you but no hanky panky. You even wear your most cleavage revealing top.

That's what I am going to. We've been together for almost 3yrs now. I know it's stupid but I feel as if I am not attractive enough for him. He will give me a kiss and gig and tell me he loves me but no sex. I just feel like crying and wondering what I can do to make myself prettier short of a nose job or boob job. I am a country girl : I love to get muddy wear a pony tail sweatshirt holy jeans etc. I just don't know what to do. ( ok yes I know ...tell him! But how do you explain to the man that you love that you want him to take you like a maid in the millionaires house?)

I'm so sad so lost and sooo alone (he left to go back to work)

[Thalassa]

This is going to sound equally bad and judgmental, but to me sex doesn't make the relationship. I believe in abstinence until marriage and in building a strong bond without the sex...and I don't think no sex is necessarily indicative of how attractive he finds you. Where I'm from when a boy doesn't try to initiate physical contact until you say so shows he respects you and is a sign of good character. Have you talked at all about your attitudes towards sex? Maybe he just doesn't think as much that way, is waiting, etc...you wouldn't know unless you talked about it. Is sex all you want from him, or is it more that he's working such long hours that's got you in a knot?

I'd try talking to him but don't couch it in terms such as "I WANT SEX!!!!1!" You could say, "I feel I hardy get to spend any time with you," "I'm afraid you don't find me sexually attractive," "What's your attitude towards the woman initiating intimate encounters..." stuff like that.

Hope this helps! Sorry you're going through a frustrating time.

[Thalassa]

Ikr feel like I'm gunna be killed or something ...... And I like my face where it is quite frankly. Worse part is I now live in the same town... So we will se how this progresses but I don't think it will end well for one of us

Now, I'm not sure because I'm not a legal expert...but if it gets worse after you move out (she starts showing up an inordinate amount of times, etc) I'd go to the authorities. However, if you give mixed messages (ie: go out to lunch together one day and then freak out if she shows up the next day, then do something together a week later...) I don't think they'll pay much attention. I think you have to have asked her to leave you alone...anyone with a legal background have any advice?

[Mer_Adella]

Well we have been together for almost three years. Sex is not an important factor for us but it is our "alone" time and fun time and serious talking time. That sounds horrible but we have our funniest and most serious talks afterwards. We know that we are each others soul mates and sex doesn't matter a whole bunch but him not making advancements towards me feels like I am just a "roommate" is all

[Thalassa]

Well we have been together for almost three years. Sex is not an important factor for us but it is our "alone" time and fun time and serious talking time. That sounds horrible but we have our funniest and most serious talks afterwards. We know that we are each others soul mates and sex doesn't matter a whole bunch but him not making advancements towards me feels like I am just a "roommate" is all

So, it sounds to me as though it's not specifically the sex. You're frustrated with his lack of concentration, making it seem as though you're a secondary in his life (however inadvertently). Let's face it, we all want to know we're loved.

As I said, I'd talk with him and just be honest that you're feeling shut out of his life, that you know he has to work long hours...maybe see if you two together can come up with some ways to make the time you have together mean more. I'd bring up that you're wondering whether he 'still' finds you sexually attractive.

TBH if you just leave it you'll likely keep going the way you are. Eventually you may get fed up with it and leave, or he'll get a clue and be better, or you'll get mad and he'll just wonder why...airing things out is usually the best way to go. IMHO

(...and when did I become a relationship counselor? XP)

[Felicia]

Now, I'm not sure because I'm not a legal expert...but if it gets worse after you move out (she starts showing up an inordinate amount of times, etc) I'd go to the authorities. However, if you give mixed messages (ie: go out to lunch together one day and then freak out if she shows up the next day, then do something together a week later...) I don't think they'll pay much attention. I think you have to have asked her to leave you alone...anyone with a legal background have any advice?

Well im hoping it won't come that but who know what I'll have to do I haven't talked to her since the day I left but she's called and text like 1,000 times or so by now. At this point I just hope she will realize bein me ain't that great and go back to herself (whoever that may be). I'm just glad I have family here so I have somewhere to live for now, because it seems it's hard to find a place here after breaking a rental agreement : / so we are stuck with my mum till atleast November when my friend(who's fine with bein herself rather than me) from Moscow comes here to live because if finding a house takes till then she will let us live with her.

[roamingmer]

Re At Home Alone... ;-)
As a work-a-holic (which I know is bad) when I get home friday evenings im pretty much exhausted and want / need some space to myself just to work through the weeks activities / conversations etc. This can sound selfish to a significant other, but is just the way I am. The weekend becomes my 'crash' time - if there are activities which I also want to do for myself (e.g. fitness) then It cuts even more time from the weekend. Im really happy to share it with significant other, but sex is not always the primary goal. Quality time together can be much more important when dealing with longer term issues.

What is much more important is to talk with the partner - and listen. It might take time for him to release all his feelings (testosterone can be like a mental block for guys to get in touch with their feelings) and listening without predujice is important. If you react emotionally then it is more likely the guy will clam up (wont want to hurt you) and have much more difficulty in working out what 'feelings' actually feel like.

[Elle]

Well we have been together for almost three years. Sex is not an important factor for us but it is our "alone" time and fun time and serious talking time. That sounds horrible but we have our funniest and most serious talks afterwards. We know that we are each others soul mates and sex doesn't matter a whole bunch but him not making advancements towards me feels like I am just a "roommate" is all

This is gonna sound crass, but have you considered jumping him? if your in the same bed, just wait til he's asleep. or in the shower. when he's getting changed. or if all fails walk around naked.

[Mer_Adella]

lol Elle, yes I have sometimes he just grunts and says that he is tired and thats all that I get. Other times he says come on we have people over

[Mermaid Saphira]

SO here's my B!TC#...

I just moved to be closer to my family and to live with a very good friend I've had since I was little, she's always copied me which was fine to an extant it was a bit flattering that someone wanted to be like me, however I just found out she's taken it too far... She legally changed her name so it's the same as mine, got engaged to someone that she only dated 3 months kuz he has the same name as my man, she dyed her hair and got the same piercings and the same tattoo I have(only one that she knows about)...creepy right... Well when I brought up that it's a bit odd she said "your over reacting, I'm just experessing myself" I told her it was a bit too weird for me and my fiancée so we broke the rental agreement and moved in with my mother for the time being, hopefully we can find a place soon because she drives me insane and always want to know when I will be giving her grandbabys..... Ummmm never hopefully.....

Im not sure if I did over react but I don't really want another "me" running around it was ok when she just acted like me but changing her name and appearance seems like its gone too far

Anyhoo that's my b!tc# of creepiness and such

I use to have a friend (ex friend now) that tried to be just like me as well. Just an example..she was a lefty and would (try) to write w/ her right hand just because I did...even worse we were only in 2nd (1st?) grade! I had to get my mom to come in a few times T_T Luckily, she moved away *phew*

[Koral]

Ohhh Adella I don't like what I hear. :( I don't know what to say other than to share my similar experience. Now sex is no problem - he or I initiate pretty equally, though sometimes I do have to remind him or at least send an intimate hint for him to chase after. (The game of chase is pretty fun!) Sure sure "relationships aren't about sex at all" but in my opinion intimacy is a very important part of nature. We are not the common animal that only mates during mating season solely to procreate. We are like our dolphin friends that go at it year around just for fun. ;) Call me crass, but we're all humans.

For a while, my beau and I, when living together, had that sort of "unintentional roommate" status. I had stopped initiating because I was the only one starting things. Eventually I got sick of it and confronted him about it. Communication goes very far in a relationship, and in ours it happens frequently. I outright told him that his lack of advancing makes me feel unattractive, I feel he doesn't find me beautiful, etc. I asked him why he wasn't advancing on me, why I had to do it all the time. He told me this: "I'm used to women coming on to me, I've never had to advance on a woman." I told him pretty much the same; that men always came to me, and since he wasn't doing that, he must not want me. He said he'd try his best to change that, and now he knows my situation and I know his. He's getting better, but since I've been through a lot of stress he's backed off again, but he still makes an effort when we ARE finally alone (his brother visits his place a lot). Problem now is with my stress I sometimes deny the smut. When I'm in a calm situation again I'll probably have to remind him it's okay to advance on me.

I hope sharing my experience helps a little bit. Just remember that communication is extremely healthy in a relationship and never be afraid to talk about anything on your mind. "Knowing, is half the battle." Question. Do you see him during the week? Do you live together? Is the 48 hours the ONLY time you see him? I ask all this because your scenario is different in that way from mine, and honestly I am a little worried. What's he doing when he gets home from work? Then again, I don't know what kind of job he has either to gauge the time frames. Just remind him that you too have needs, you find him intimately attractive and want to share that special bond with him. All in all, just talk.

And I have to say, some men have thicker brains than others, if you've already told him "your lack of advance makes me feel as though you don't find me beautiful or want me," you may have to remind him repeatedly til he gets it. Or, (*)risk losing you if he can't communicate and help in making the relationship healthy. It's a partnership, which means both people have to work together to make something beautiful. When faced with the chance of losing you, if a man really loves you, he will panic and look harder at the error in his ways. If you see he doesn't care upon the risk occurring, then he sadly doesn't care and it must be time to move on.(*) Thalassa is right about clearing the air, let me tell you men are clueless when we are angry, and even if it's obvious what they've done, they just don't get it and need to outright know. Leaving him without telling him will leave him clueless, so tell him why you are contemplating leaving him (just to support what I said in the meat of this paragraph, not saying you're leaving him).

Just... most men are clueless. End of story. LOL

* this I speak from multiple experiences in the past, I'm not BSing this part or blowing smoke out my tail end.

[Felicia]

I use to have a friend (ex friend now) that tried to be just like me as well. Just an example..she was a lefty and would (try) to write w/ her right hand just because I did...even worse we were only in 2nd (1st?) grade! I had to get my mom to come in a few times T_T Luckily, she moved away *phew*

Well we been friends since we were like 6 or so our mums have known each other since highschool and I've always been use to her buyin the same clothes and occasionally she would dye her hair black (my natural hair color) but alot of people dye their hair black its nothing unusual but now my hair is usually 2-4 colors usually very vibrant funky colors its hard to say its not copying now.... But this all started when we were like 8 or 9 with clothes and style in general which was fine but I think the part that has me freaked out the most is the name thing... I mean that's my name for cryin out loud and she didn't tell me about I found out because of our mail and such, which if she's "expressing herself" and it's not suppose to be weird seems like something would have been said

[Mer_Adella]

I hope sharing my experience helps a little bit. Just remember that communication is extremely healthy in a relationship and never be afraid to talk about anything on your mind. "Knowing, is half the battle." Question. Do you see him during the week? Do you live together? Is the 48 hours the ONLY time you see him? I ask all this because your scenario is different in that way from mine, and honestly I am a little worried. What's he doing when he gets home from work? Then again, I don't know what kind of job he has either to gauge the time frames. Just remind him that you too have needs, you find him intimately attractive and want to share that special bond with him. All in all, just talk.

And I have to say, some men have thicker brains than others, if you've already told him "your lack of advance makes me feel as though you don't find me beautiful or want me," you may have to remind him repeatedly til he gets it. Or, (*)risk losing you if he can't communicate and help in making the relationship healthy. It's a partnership, which means both people have to work together to make something beautiful. When faced with the chance of losing you, if a man really loves you, he will panic and look harder at the error in his ways. If you see he doesn't care upon the risk occurring, then he sadly doesn't care and it must be time to move on.(*) Thalassa is right about clearing the air, let me tell you men are clueless when we are angry, and even if it's obvious what they've done, they just don't get it and need to outright know. Leaving him without telling him will leave him clueless, so tell him why you are contemplating leaving him (just to support what I said in the meat of this paragraph, not saying you're leaving him).

Just... most men are clueless. End of story. LOL

* this I speak from multiple experiences in the past, I'm not BSing this part or blowing smoke out my tail end.

Koral thanks for that :) good to know I'm not the only one. No I do not see him during the week. Yes, the 48hrs is the ONLY time I see him. We talk or text throughout the week on the phone. When he gets home from work on friday he comes in and kisses me and gives me a hug. Otherwise we cook dinner and sit down and watch TV. We bought a house together, mostly to have a place to call home and a place where I can live and we can be alone together when he is home from work. He is a robotic engenieer (the robots that build cars...he builds/programs them) So his job is every where and anywhere. He works down by detroit right now but possibly in a month he will be in Kanas City, MO and I will only see him every other weekend. And yes, I have told him and we have talked about it before. Not recently, but we have. He had said that sometimes he is just tired, othertimes that he is tried of making the move, (which mine are suttle aka kissing his fingers, neck, licking earlobe whereas his are plainly grabbing my boobs lol) I know that I will need to talk to him soon. I know that he cares about me (otherwise when he gets home from work he wouldn't come and kiss me first right?)

Thanks Koral :) I am actually going to put hair extensions in tonight so that way when he gets home this weekend he will be "surprised" that I look different (nothing drastic but just a small change he will notice)

[roamingmer]

It really does sound like male exhaustion - and libido goes flat. And if there is a nyphomaniac in the house it really can have a strange effect on guys - not the way you expect. However one big change which you might try - Throw out the TV. (well not literally) and enjoy more time and quiet evenings. I found the TV, Internet and Mernetwork (joke) a great way to soak up the brain power when overload kicks in. And it does it very well. We got rid of our TV 6 years ago and now only watch the programmes we really want to see. Really good comedy; home design etc. Perhaps a film or two (on notebook), but im not a big film fan. An semi-erotic film to allow his imagination to flourish.

Wait for him to come home and wait in your mermaid form. Big sign above saying help me? You got stuck after a long day wishing... Take him to bed to talk and slowly stroke his hair, temples and chest. He probably really needs to _relax_. Hot tub scrub with quiet music on a saturday morning? He might be really tired and rebel (so listen for the warning signs - grunts, low attention span, drifting off into space when you talk to him). Or you might be able to lift the lid and let his soul unwind.

From my experience - working 10-12 hour days for months on end; the last thing I want at a weekend is an over-sexed partner; even if it can be relaxing. And when guys are tired and stressed; they are pretty useless at reading subtle signs even when women think they are obvious. Koral is completely correct...

[Koral]

I agree with roaming after hearing what his job is. :) Male exhaustion for SURE. Can cloud the brain! The tub soaking and massage is a REALLY good idea (and can lead to more if you are skilled and lucky). I know when my beau is stressed or sore, I love to rub his shoulders, back, neck, back of his head. Even if we aren't being really intimate at this point, just making him feel good in a relaxing manner makes ME feel good. In that heart-floating bubbly sort of way. A bonding experience, really! And, if he doesn't feel pressured, it REALLY helps. My first boyfriend I ever had, he really pushed me about it, saying things like "it's been ____ since we did it," and he was to the hour on reporting our last intimate moment. It was so annoying that I rarely took him to bed. So just focus on him relaxing, don't talk much about it, and it will probably just happen when you least expect it. :)

(and this, nereids and tritons, is why we need an adult section bahaha!)

[Mermaid Lei Loni]

I'm really feeling the need to bitch it out right now. I'm so frustrated, I'm not even sure where to start.

My health is in the toilet. I have Type 1 Diabetes and am on insulin therapy. I also have a myriad of other health related issues that I don't want to go into right now. I've been coming to work feeling like crap for weeks. My body is starting to fall apart. I think a huge part of it is stress related too. So I put in a request at my work to take a leave of absence for a week. We were talking about how that might be a problem, because there is so much work so I asked to take Thursday, Friday, and Tuesday off so I could work through the stress at home (don't even get me started!) and so I could schedule some more Dr's appointments and a therapist. And this week is especially bad because this is my Dad's death anniversary week (which I didn't want to disclose to my work), so I'm struggling emotionally too. I'm sooo behind on all of my diabetes checkups, that I'm worried I'm going to land myself in the hospital again, compounded with the grieving and stress and I needed some time. Let's just say that the company wasn't really willing to work with me on this leave that I need to take, even when I explained that MOST of it was for HEALTH reasons. If Utah wasn't an "at will work state" I'd probably have grounds for a lawsuit. At any rate, I was able to weasel a day out of them plus the Tues. I need for one of my Dr appts. But it's not going to help in the slightest. On top of that, they also said that in the future, they wouldn't able to give me a dedicated "flex day" (like I was promised in March when I was hired on). I had been taking a day off which had allowed me to get the things done I needed to. But that's gone now too. I was working a 40 hr week, 10 hr days. But they want me here 5 days for 8 hrs, which makes it VERY difficult for me to get to the Dr as I need. And sure, my boss claims to not care if I need medical leave, but then he goes and makes it soooo hard for me to get it. And I always get scrutinized when I leave. I've come to work with my sugars at 500 (which is deadly) before, because I'm scared of what my boss might say. There have been days that I've worked an entire 8-9 hr day with high blood sugars, blurred vision (from too high sugars), migraines, you name it. I'm working on getting my blood sugars in control, but the problem is that I can't get to a specialist because of the problems leaving work. I do the best I can to manage my diabetes, but with it being Type 1 I really need to be visiting an Endocrinologist regularly. Which brings be back to asking for time off because I'm unwell and need to go to the doctor. And my boss is telling me to work and take the bus (but I can't considering transit in Utah can take HOURS to travel 10 miles, which means I need a full day off). He even had the audacity to tell me that maybe work needs to be a bigger priority and to work on home stuff after the fact. When all of this is HEALTH related. I felt like he just signed off on a death warrant. Work and die. So I'm sitting here sobbing at my desk. I need the insurance and the job, but the job is making me sicker. And I'm starting a transition plan and applying to new jobs, but it all takes time, and I'm sick now. I'm just at the end of my rope, and I'm soo upset about not being supported at a job that I've worked so hard at I've made myself sick from stress. I go the extra mile for this company, and when I needed a little time....they turned their back because we're "too busy". I guess the joke will be on them when I walk out of here.

Okay, I feel a little better now. :)

[roamingmer]

We sometimes have inspirational people at work as our rehabilitation devices can change outlook on lives. A year ago we had someone who had worked as Chief Technical Officer for a very large well known multi-national. He suffered Guille Barre syndrome (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guillain%E2%80%93Barr%C3%A9_syndrome), survived and now talks about how it changed his life. Short cut: You only live this life once. When you die no-one is going to remember how hard you worked; just that you passed. Your health is critically important.

Unfortunately the USA healthcare system is majorly dysfunctional, needs a lot of change, but creaks along somehow. I remember years ago someone telling me about the Esalen Institute - where if you cant pay your way you can offer to work. No idea if it is any good but might be something I have to do for myself as well.

[Koral]

That is some F****ED up crap, Lei Loni. Your work is more important than your HEALTH? That just infuriates me so much to read, they are lucky I don't walk in to their sorry excuse for a company and give them my two cents and a balled fist to the boss' face - *inhale* Right, I think it's time you walk out of there, Loni. Are you able to make it a month without a job, with those you live with helping to support? Just enough time to make your DR's visits, cool the stress away, and then pick back up. I've been hoping you could find another place to start anew ASAP. Maybe if you do find a new workplace, ask them if you can start after a week or two, just enough time to restore your health?

I am all worried about you now! :'( I'll give you a big hug when I can.

[Mer_Adella]

Okay so this isn't mostly a B*tch but its something that is bothering me....and I have heard all the things like "find another job" etc. but here it goes.


My boss just had his truck repo-ed from the shop about 15min ago. I saw it because I was in my office and saw the truck back up to his truck and start strapping it up. I went out and told my boss this "Dave there is someone backing up to your truck". He jumped down from the ladder and ran outside (he must've known what it was about because he ran, and that man does not run). Him and the guy talked and I could tell that Dave was mad (but my boss used to be the repo guy so he knew that it was just easier to let him take the truck then get into trouble) He then mentioned that it was something to do with a bank and a lawsuit going on with that bank. Something about taking shop property.

He then took the only other mechanic with him to go and pay his truck off and go talk to his lawyer. Now let me clarify. There are three people that work here; the boss, the mechanic, and me. And him and the mechanic took off and I am left alone. I dont want to be alone here especially if they are going to come back and try to take more stuff. What am I supposed to do??

Now it just makes me leery because if he is having stuff repo-ed that means that there is something wrong going on. I am just more or less owrried that when finally FINALLY I have come up with a way to pay my bills efficiently and on time that I will be out of a job because the shop will go under.

That's my bitch.....I am more or less looking for point of views from business owners and/or support. I know that I need to find another job, that is a work in progress. Thanks for listening...er....reading :D

[mermanjr]

Okay so this isn't mostly a B*tch but its something that is bothering me....and I have heard all the things like "find another job" etc. but here it goes.


My boss just had his truck repo-ed from the shop about 15min ago. I saw it because I was in my office and saw the truck back up to his truck and start strapping it up. I went out and told my boss this "Dave there is someone backing up to your truck". He jumped down from the ladder and ran outside (he must've known what it was about because he ran, and that man does not run). Him and the guy talked and I could tell that Dave was mad (but my boss used to be the repo guy so he knew that it was just easier to let him take the truck then get into trouble) He then mentioned that it was something to do with a bank and a lawsuit going on with that bank. Something about taking shop property.

He then took the only other mechanic with him to go and pay his truck off and go talk to his lawyer. Now let me clarify. There are three people that work here; the boss, the mechanic, and me. And him and the mechanic took off and I am left alone. I dont want to be alone here especially if they are going to come back and try to take more stuff. What am I supposed to do??

Now it just makes me leery because if he is having stuff repo-ed that means that there is something wrong going on. I am just more or less owrried that when finally FINALLY I have come up with a way to pay my bills efficiently and on time that I will be out of a job because the shop will go under.

That's my bitch.....I am more or less looking for point of views from business owners and/or support. I know that I need to find another job, that is a work in progress. Thanks for listening...er....reading :D
move to florida alot more work and more jobs with better pay as well

[Mer_Adella]

move to florida alot more work and more jobs with better pay as well


Bahahahahahaha I may just have to do that Mermanjr! If only i can convince my bf to sell the house with 40 acres we just bought

[SilverSiren]

For some reason I'm reminded of that movie where the roommate wants to take over the others' life...what was that called again? XP

I agree, that's definitely very creepy, IMHO that's too many coincidences for her to be just borrowing a few of your ideas. :-S

The Resident, is the movie I think you are talking about. I have it on my OnDamand movie list... creepy stuff.

[Mer_Adella]

The Resident, is the movie I think you are talking about. I have it on my OnDamand movie list... creepy stuff.

There is a movie called "The Roommate" where a college has two girls in a dorm and one girl is obsessed with her roommate. Dyes her hair the same color, gets jealous when the girl goes on dates, gets the same tattoo as the roommate and goes as far as pretending shes the roommate and sleeps with the ex boyfriend (right before she kills him) not to scare you or anything. but just saying....that is the movie and your situation is creepy....good thing you moved.

[Felicia]

There is a movie called "The Roommate" where a college has two girls in a dorm and one girl is obsessed with her roommate. Dyes her hair the same color, gets jealous when the girl goes on dates, gets the same tattoo as the roommate and goes as far as pretending shes the roommate and sleeps with the ex boyfriend (right before she kills him) not to scare you or anything. but just saying....that is the movie and your situation is creepy....good thing you moved.

Great one of the few movies I haven't seen so I don't know how to get away from her lol........ Now I'm not sleepin like ever again... But on a more realistic note I don't think she will like kill me or anything.... I hope.... But I think she actually believes she's bein "herself" and that I'm the crazy for pointing out that I think it's just mega weird I really don't think she sees the similarity in everything... Well other than the name which she says she did it in honor of Felicia Hardy(black cat) from marvel not to copy me but we already had the same middle name because our mums thought it would be "cute" since they are friends and we were born 4 months apart so now we are bout Felicia Renee.... So it's weird to me but she says we don't look anything alike and that she's truly "in love" with her guy(with the same name as my man)she's marrying the same week as my wedding even though they have been together/known 3 months but it seems too fast to be getting married already or even know who the person really is or if it's love but whatever for now I will hide out with my mum and hopefully things will blow over and she will move or something

[SilverSiren]

There is a movie called "The Roommate" where a college has two girls in a dorm and one girl is obsessed with her roommate. Dyes her hair the same color, gets jealous when the girl goes on dates, gets the same tattoo as the roommate and goes as far as pretending shes the roommate and sleeps with the ex boyfriend (right before she kills him) not to scare you or anything. but just saying....that is the movie and your situation is creepy....good thing you moved.

Same movie, I live in Europe so things are called differently over here sometimes to make more sense to Europeans, ie a roommate over here is a flatmate or resident. There is another movie we have here that is called something different even though its the same movie as in the US, I can't remember the name of it right now, but I do remember it striking me as very odd and funny. Also, over here, we call "The Office" tv show "The Office: An American Workplace" due to the fact we had the original "The Office" which was British before being adapted into "The Office" that now runs as a American show remake of the British one. Anywaayyyyss, back to the subject at hand, lol. Sorry, didn't mean to cause confusion.

[roamingmer]

Just look out for 'death at a funeral' which was remade as 'death at a funeral' but completely different cast. Or the magic roundabout which had the same story but completely different voices; and often wording...

[Mer_Adella]

Same movie, I live in Europe so things are called differently over here sometimes to make more sense to Europeans, ie a roommate over here is a flatmate or resident. There is another movie we have here that is called something different even though its the same movie as in the US, I can't remember the name of it right now, but I do remember it striking me as very odd and funny. Also, over here, we call "The Office" tv show "The Office: An American Workplace" due to the fact we had the original "The Office" which was British before being adapted into "The Office" that now runs as a American show remake of the British one. Anywaayyyyss, back to the subject at hand, lol. Sorry, didn't mean to cause confusion.

I never thought of that. Plus I wasn't for sure if you were from Europe or not. I'm more of a dry humored person so I watch a lot of "Keeping Up Apperances", "Monty Python", and as of right now "Mrs. Brown's boys". *chuckles* i am so weird.

[Alveric]

I'm generally a contented person, but now I have a bitch. Old age! When I was in my forties I could genuinely say that I could do anything I did when I was nineteen, it just took longer and hurt more. No I'm fifty-six and I'm more and more running across things I just can't do anymore, no matter how long I take or how I grit my teeth.

And injuries don't heal like they used to. I sprained my achilles tendon in June and I still can barely walk! In fact, it's getting worse. I'm going to have to use a cane. I'd like to actually be an eighty-year-old man before I start walking like one!

At least I still have all my hair.

[roamingmer]

Yes injuries take longer to heal, but sometimes it is also about lifestyle and getting the right advice.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8doH7rZg9E
In your case I would seriously be asking who is giving you rehabilitation advice; are you performing exercises correctly (all to easy to do it wrong) and is someone monitoring you?
Once an injury lasts more than a few days our bodies adapt to our compensation movements; and they become the normal. Low back pain is the great example - you have an injury, you move differently. You fear repeating the injury and you learn the compensation stategies. Which generally put you at more risk of injury in the future. The biggest risk factor for low back pain - is a previous incidence of low back pain.
Also the body is good at adapting and inventing pain. All too often chronic pain (>12 weeks to 6 months) is often not related to a physiological injury; rather the body gets itself in a positive neuro-chemical feedback loop and reports pain when it is not there.
A seperate high risk factor for long recovery periods - is psychological stress levels. Two identical atheletes training identically will recover differently if one is happy and the other is thinking of splitting up with their partner; or has house / money issues; is not sleeping well etc.

[Koral]

I feel the need to B!TC# and not sure to whom, so here it comes. :(

I'm trying really hard to mentally and physically settle in with my new roommates. They are filthy and disgusting. I confronted them about the entire place being dirty. There is random stuff strewn everywhere and their game systems may as well be just a pile of thrown about abused pieces of machinery. The floor is littered with debris, unused and broken cat toys, cat litter, hardened food, random bits of metal and I don't even know what - on top of all the dirt and whatever all the stains are. I trip over EVERYTHING when I walk around and heaven forbid I have to walk around at night - I can't go without kicking something of theirs and stubbing my toe. So when I confronted them about it, one exclaimed "This is clean! I just have a lot of clutter." Yeah. Right! It's FILTHY. Now, there's an overflowing pile of dishes (none of which are mine, as I diligently clean my few dishes the instant I finish using them) as well. One of them if not both apparently leaves their clothes in the washer for so long that they are hardened to a crisp, and *I* had to put their clothes in the dryer just so I could use it.

And tonight? There is no negotiation. The "head" of the household, as I look at her (she has been here the longest anyway), is really infuriating me. She's got her cuddly guy friend here (no, not boyfriend, just a guy friend, I walked in on them spooning on the couch). They're watching movies in the living room so I have to hide in the bedroom. She closed the door on me, and got huffy that I was doing my laundry cause it's barely as loud as the TV blaring. I can't even post up on the kitchen table where I might find an empty plug if I was so lucky, but I can't because the table is littered with so much clutter you can barely see a corner of the table itself.

Now, students are not supposed to have pets here. Apparently, the other roomie got her cat "OK'd" by the FORMER head of student affairs, because she was "home sick" and the cat helps with her "illness." Bullshit. Cats are no longer qualified as service animals, and it wasn't even worded as that. The litter box is FILLED with poop and litter ALL OVER the floor. And I swear it looks like someone took all the catfood and threw it all over the entire apartment. I've HAD IT I've only been here a week and already I'm wanting to hide in a germaphobe bubble. I also moved my fish to my BFs mostly because I am terrified that the cat is going to kill my fish. I would go to class worried the entire time that I would return to his little tank on the floor and Valentine missing. Already the cat's jumped on the kitchen counters and tore down a ton of dishes (thank gods the beast didn't break my favorite coffee mug). The new head of student affairs is a good teacher and friend of mine, he's taken really good care of me as a student and now in his new position. I'm going to go to him and ask him to check the files of the roommates and see if a cat was OK'd. And ask if he can take his time looking for CLEAN roommates with NO PETS. I don't care if it takes a couple weeks, and I know I just moved in but this is just unbearable. Student affairs usually does a "roommate match" but since I was going through a really hard time at home, he moved me ASAP and originally picked these girls because I was to have my OWN room but the other gal took it because she "felt it was deserved" and didn't tell student affairs like she was supposed to. I'm willing to wait and find the roommates I match better with. I don't even get along with these girls.

I know roommates aren't perfect, but with as many options as there are to choose from, it can't be THIS bad.

MAN that felt good to get out.

[Blondie]

Whoa, she should NOT of gotten a cat with out talking to everyone else in the house first. What if someone was allergic? I have a friend who would do something like that. She had SOOO many pets at her house. She never took care of them and her house just stank because they pissed on the floor and the litter boxes weren't cleaned out. It was awful. She's in college now and she just took a cat in and is keeping it in her dorm room. I don't even think she can do that...

But I think you need to sit down with your roommates and discuss some ground rules and talk about the cat. Maybe convince her to keep it outside and inside at night? If you can't get them to go by those rules, I'd look into moving out. There is NO need for you to live like that and act like the mother cleaning everything up. That's just not right..

[Winged Mermaid]

Small little rant here: I know my husband isn't my "keeper" or anything.. but I must admit I get frustrated when I have a narcolepsy "oops nap" (as I call them) and he just lets me sleep instead of waking me up. He knows I would want him to wake me up but he just lets me sleep becuase "I must need it". That's all well and good, but it does not do me good, especially when it's after 7. I'm having a horrid time with my delayed phase sleep disorder even more since I've moved to the Pacific Northwest. Right now I got bed at 4:30am and get up at 2:30pm and no matter how many different things I try (and believe me I've tried just about everything - I could go on and on) I can't get it to budge. I'm super stressed out trying to find a job and feeling guilty for not having one in this new town yet, and having an insane sleep schedule is not helping at all. I'm trying to be "gentle with myself" in not bullying myself for something that is a health issue, but it's so hard. And then I fall asleep at 10:30pm for an hour and he just lets me sleep when he knows how frustrated I am! God knows what time I'll get to bed now D: Worst part is usually once it goes "forward" it sticks I could go on and on about frustrations with that. Just.. AAAAHHHHHH!!! >_<!!! I FREAKING HATE MY SLEEP DISORDERS.

[roamingmer]

Dumb idea but have you spoken to an alternative therapist to work out what could be causing the phase sleep disorder? Or perhaps your body is just telling you to move to Europe. Im heading the opposite way; 4am wake up (wide) and no chance to sleep - even if I had to work late the night before. Good luck

[Koral]

iblondie; The head of student affairs, the nice one I said I am pretty much friends with, he didn't even tell me she had a cat. I honestly don't think he knows, otherwise I know he would have asked me "do you mind a roommate with a cat." Indoor or outdoor, the cat box still is full and still would be full in the future. What bothers me more is the messiness of them. I am NOT going to clean up after them. I WAS, but as I saw how fast they make things messy, I decided it is not my ajkflsdifj job. Screw the ground rules, I can tell now they won't respect them, so I'm just going to student affairs. We're allowed to switch dorms I know, and this scenario was all one big rushed solution that should have taken a few days longer to find me roommates more suitable. Cleanliness and no pets (unless they're in a tank). That is ALL I ask for. I'm not even asking for best friends with these clean petless women, or to perfectly get along with them as I know we'd all have our boundaries and tolerate one another. I just want those two things.

[Koral]

Update!

I talked to head of student affairs. :D He takes SUCH good care of me! Probably helps that he favored me in class as his best student? Such a pity to hear rumor that they're moving him back to teaching. At least I spoke up now, and not later. So, they're going to have a surprise inspection earlier than usual at this apartment. The girl is OK'd to have a cat, BUT she is suppose to clean up after it very very well. The apartments are supposed to be kept cleaned for health reasons. I have a huge sinus issue so while I cannot literally smell things unless it's riiiight under my nose, smells really mess with my nose - I think that's why I got sick last night and I'm okay today after fresh air. I did laundry and my nose was repeatedly right over the uncleaned litterbox. Anyway! I talked about everything going on here and he was surprised to hear how bad it was. So he is moving me into the single bedroom so I have my own room AS WAS PLANNED initially. The girl that "stole" my room actually broke contract and she could get fined and penalized for what she did. And the fact she's not keeping up after her cat. And both of them could get a warning for how terribly messy the place is.

Yay! My own room! So I can hide in there and not have to smell the horrid cat remnants, not have to bear with their mess, and be a happy little mermaid in my own bubble. :)

She is supposed to be moving out tonight, but I can hear her in there nagging at someone about something over the phone, and she's not doing a thing about it. She's already been warned. All I have to do is drop a hint that I heard they're doing mid term house inspections soon but not 100% sure when, so they at least have a "fair warning." I love my old teacher/head of student affairs!! <3

[Blondie]

I'm glad it all worked out for you!! :) YAY!

[Koral]

Yeah, I'm just waiting for her to MOVE OUT of there. She was supposed to move out tonight but instead I came home to hear her B!TC#ing on the phone to someone about something (too muffled to hear), slamming dishes around, then she left and slammed the door really hard. I KNOW that Head of Student Affairs (let's just call him HSA) kept anonymity concerning me, but I also know the timing is "coincidental" as well. New girl moves in shortly after ornery girl moves into open room against contract. Ornery girl gets caught now that new girl is here. New girl gets room as new girl was supposed to. I'd be on to me, too. LOL!
I'm sorry, I just like rules. I follow them. I set them and follow them. I would hope others do, too. I'm a rat if I feel the need.

As it is, she is only in that room 10% of the time. Usually she is in there for maybe an hour or two either napping (she sleeps at her boyfriend's), or getting ready for class or work. She practically lives with her boyfriend. Soooo.. why not let someone have the room who will actually utilize the space (and I'll stress again that on the forms it was written that I was to take that one). SOO I guess tomorrow I have to talk to HSA again, as he told me to report if she did not comply. :)

Hooray, rules.

[Gem Stone]

I know we all get busy and from time to time we put certain things on hold to get other things back on track, but it's still frustrating that I took so much time away from mermaiding trying to get my personal and work life straight and now it's all together and now it's too cold to go swimming!!!! ARGH!! It's just not fair! I finally got everything else fine, and now I can't swim without worrying about frostbite! I mean seriously?! It's never cold in Texas until I want to swim!

[Elle]

I have been called 7 times today from our house phone provider to ask it I wanted an upgrade. One of them refused to talk after I stated I wanted to be taken off the call list and hung up on me and another yelled at me when I told him that I'd already been called 6 times before him and wanted the company to stop calling me.
I'm sad and exhausted from dealing with all these calls in the last hour :(

[Koral]

I swear those people can be far too rude. I know they probably get a lot of people that yell at them, but that's still no excuse to act unprofessionally on the phone to their customers for wanting to keep their service as-is and stop being HARASSED. I understand your frustration, I tend to just hang up on them right away. I just say "stop calling," and promptly hang up without any hesitation!

I recently had to deal with this for TWO MONTHS from a company wanting me to take a survey for some... education services thing. They called me 1 - 2 times a week for 2 months and every time I picked up the phone (expecting someone else to be calling), it was them. I'd do exactly what I told you (after enough phone calls answered trying to get them to stop), just hang the f#%$ up.

Good luck with them!

[Ashe]

Yeah, sorry about the phone issues girls, I had an experience almost like that a little while back. When i got my new phone, this one guy who i didnt know had called me and left a voicemail thinking i was another guy named josh or something. I let it slide cause everyone types a wrong number, right? The next day: he calls again. Then began texting me! I got my dad to tell him it was the wrong number, and he stopped for a few days. Next week? Same calls from the same guy. Again, we told him it was the wrong number. This pattern went on for a couple of weeks, until the guy totally raged!! He was cussing us out saying that he was done with our games and wanted to talk to "Josh" right now. Seriously? This guy had to have issues or something :mad: But, I finally got a new number and everything was fine after that :) But same, i also get those annoying sales calls. :(

[Dacora]

.

[Koral]

I think politics are a poor choice of topic/subject here and I am not going to make a comment other than "bad choice."

[MerAnthony]

:nocomment:

[Dacora]

I think politics are a poor choice of topic/subject here and I am not going to make a comment other than "bad choice."

I didnt mean to offend anyone, that is why I didnt say any of the canidates names and kept my prefrence to myself. Im just tired of people around my area acting like kids about it and needed some place to blow steam without being bombarded by fire.
I can delete it if is offensive to some people. Very sorry if I caused any issues.

Sent from my HTC One X using Tapatalk 2

[Mermaid Allie]

I HATE MY ENGLISH TEACHER SO MUCH. like i can't even describe how much i hate her. She never teaches in class, or gives us any notes, and then she throws this insane test at us and keep in mind, i'm HORRIBLE at english. Like i'm so bad at that stupid arbitrary interpretation crap. UGH. But i'm actually a good writer, which was perfected by my amazing english teacher last year. The problem is that this year, the dumbass teacher doesn't like the writing style that my other teacher spent months working on with us. So I have NO IDEA what she wants from me. and she's never available if i want to talk to her. i want to tell the principal that she's incompatent, and i have good proof of it, but i don't know if its appropriate....

[Mermaid Arianna]

If you have a problem with it then you should tell the principal. I hate my science teacher this year, she is certified as a law teacher for high school and now she is teaching middle school science. Plus everything is a competition to her.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I have a feeling I'll be frequenting this thread often. I've got a ton of Asian rants (sine I myself am Asian and live under such.. Hardcore Asian parents.)

[SeaGlass Siren]

I was hoping i wouldnt have to rant so soon, but here i am about to rant. bear with me, i'm not going to spend my time correcting my grammar/spelling/capitalization/punctuation....

*WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTAINS PROFANITY, AND IS INTENDED FOR AN OLDER AUDIENCE. VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED*

WELL TO START, there is a very fine line between asking for financial help from family, and leeching off their money. with that said, i've got family on both sides leeching off our money. (all of my family is in vietnam, minus my immediate family... mom, dad, sisters, and a niece)

NONE of them want to work, and they're always complaining how they have no money for "doctors, medicine, school" blahblahblahblah same damn shit over and over again.

is it selfish of me for thinking that way about my family? like i'd understand if they did legitimately need it for those things, HOWEVER! they have not been using my family's money for those thing.. NOPE! they've been using it to GAMBLE. DRINK. BLOWING OFF OUR MONEY AS IF THEY'RE BALLERS. SCHIESE!!!

and this has been happening for YEARS. and these are fully grown men and women with CHILDREN. (i don't view them as family as rude as that sounds because in no way have they ever helped us in anyway...one of them i don't even know about decides to talk shit about me! like wtf!)

and you know what fucking pisses me off? THEY THINK MONEY FALLS FROM THE SKY IN NORTH AMERICA. i am not kidding. i'm talking about like
"oh you guys live in AMERICA (note: I know you're uneducated, but do you need us to constantly remind you that we are in Canada. CANA-FUCKING-DA. we're nowhere close to being American you stupid Vietnamese people!) money just falls from the sky! (no it doesn't we have to work hard for that money, unlike you fucking viet people that just sit on your lazy asses all day just asking us for money.)

what pisses me off even more? my parents HAVE to give that money. "we can't abandon family!" no, we cant, but they're not fucking children. hold on a second let me just type up more profanity, i need to get my anger out of my system.

FUCKING BLOODY HELL YOU STUPID FUCKING ASIAN CUNT TWATS ! YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE FUCKING SMART, NOT FUCKING STUPID! SHIT! (I'm clearly not fond of being Asian)

Ok i'm done.


Like go work for your own money you;re like 30-40 year olds. my parents cannot fucking baby you all the time. fuck. GEEZE.

ok i'm done ranting.

[Ashe]

Dayyyumm... Someone's blowing off some steam there. Sorry that is what you have to deal with Andrea :(. Well, mine isn't nearly as bad, but it gets on my nerves. Well, if you know me, I love animals. Period. So my family had a Halloween party this year so we moved our guinea pig into the garage because no matter how much we clean her, she just smells well, not pretty. But I still love her so much and I play with her everyday! But then, my friend (kinda) and I walked into the garage to play air hockey and she see's my guinea pig's cage with blankets over it to keep her warm in the corner. Well, now she thinks that we take horrible care of her and is going around telling everyone that we need to relocate her to a new home or something. I've been trying to get it through her head that little piggy is usually inside, we just had company around. Still, she thinks we are animal cruel or something. Second, i have four cats. Yeah, I know it's a lot, but its also a long story. If you really want to know then PM me. Girls at my school thrive for attention and boys. They think that spreading rumors will boost their chances of getting both. Long story short, a girls randomly walks up to me and asks, "Hey, you're the one with twelve cats right?" WTF? Yup, that is about it.

[Merrow Fair Isle]

Sorry to hear that Andrea. :(

[SeaGlass Siren]

Dayyyumm... Someone's blowing off some steam there. Sorry that is what you have to deal with Andrea :(. Well, mine isn't nearly as bad, but it gets on my nerves. Well, if you know me, I love animals. Period. So my family had a Halloween party this year so we moved our guinea pig into the garage because no matter how much we clean her, she just smells well, not pretty. But I still love her so much and I play with her everyday! But then, my friend (kinda) and I walked into the garage to play air hockey and she see's my guinea pig's cage with blankets over it to keep her warm in the corner. Well, now she thinks that we take horrible care of her and is going around telling everyone that we need to relocate her to a new home or something. I've been trying to get it through her head that little piggy is usually inside, we just had company around. Still, she thinks we are animal cruel or something. Second, i have four cats. Yeah, I know it's a lot, but its also a long story. If you really want to know then PM me. Girls at my school thrive for attention and boys. They think that spreading rumors will boost their chances of getting both. Long story short, a girls randomly walks up to me and asks, "Hey, you're the one with twelve cats right?" WTF? Yup, that is about it.


Ah the stereotypical highschool females.. The many, the proud, the uneducated.... And ditzy shit-stirrers! How I pity thee kalani. I wonder what they will end up doing with their lives...

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's alright merrow I'm glad I have a place to vent now. About Asian people :|

[Merrow Fair Isle]

My biggest pet peeve is rudeness/ being inconsiderate of others. It can be direct, indirect, bullying, gossip, intolerance, pettiness, elitism, racism, bigotry, meaness, or generalized assholery.

I also dislike jokes made in bad taste...and I fall victim to this a lot. I have a pet potbellied pig, and people seem to find it hilarious to make bacon jokes, or " looks delicious" comments. My neighbor calls her our " pet holiday roast". It's just ignorant. Would you say that about a dog or cat??? Katie is FAMILY, not livestock we are fattening up for consumption!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

.... Well. I dont make those jokes... But since im Asian, I hear a lot of those jokes . I totally get what you're feeling. I had a hamster named Katie and I had a photo of her up and people kept commenting that she looks like food.

After a while I just shrug it off.

[Mermaid Annariea]

andrea, i completely understand your point. and up to a certain extent, i could understand your parents point, too, but it seems to be well past reasonable now.

kalani, 4 cats isnt that much, but the fact that people are exaggerating it is just stupid. my bfs mom has 5 cats and 2 dogs, and once she moves back here with us, itll be 6 cats (the two dogs have to go up for adoption, but shes doing it through the pit bull thing, and is going to make sure they end up with a good home) and i want a snake. and another cat. so maybe 7 cats and maybe a snake.
anyways, just ignore those stupid girls. i hated high school, girls were always trying to get between my boyfriend and i, trying to ruin our relationship and get with him. once we graduated, that all ended (except every once in a while, one girl still desperately tries). hopefully theyll grow up soon and leave stupid rumors aside.

merrow, i HATE when people joke like that about animals. its funny sometimes to a point, but theres definitely a line. i used to have ferrets, and people would joke about them all the time. i usually ended up walking off and theyd ask why i got so offended. WHY DO YOU THINK?! ugh, people are just idiotic. also, i bet your pig is adorable (:


anyways. now time for my rant.
i feel like i have no friends. every time i try to hang out with someone, they either ignore me, or theyre too busy, or they give me some bullshit excuse as to why they cant. i seriously havent hung out with anyone in MONTHS. i just sit at the house and do nothing. its even worse when im not working and my boyfriend is, because then i literally just sit on my computer for hours until he comes home. i have nothing to do. nowhere to go.
one friend in particular really upsets me. she and i used to be BEST FRIENDS. we hung out every day, did everything together, and then i moved away for a year or so. i still kept in touch, and i visited a lot since my boyfriend lived near her, so i still saw her every few months. but when i moved back to where i live now (with my bf, 5 mins away from her), she had sort of just drifted. she was hanging out with different people (mostly bad influences), which i expected, i dont expect to be her only friend. but youd think that she would at least make time sometimes to hang out with me... but every time i text her or message her on facebook or whatever else i do to contact her, she ignores it. she reads it, and doesnt even reply. no bullshit excuses, no "im really busy right now, sorry", nothing. and it hurts.

my boyfriend and i were up at the mall the other day, and she works up there as a waitress in one of the restaurants, so i stopped by to say hi. i wasnt going to stay long, i just figured maybe she wouldnt mind seeing me for a second.
instead, she walked past me and says, "i cant fucking deal with this right now," and goes to one of her customers.
it wasnt packed. there was maybe 4 people in the whole restaurant.
so we left. i almost cried i was so upset. i just dont understand what the hell i could have done. that was about two weeks ago, and i figured maybe she was having a bad day at work, so i messaged her saying "hey, sorry if i came at a bad time. i just figured since i was up at the mall, i would stop by and see you, but maybe another time. whatever was wrong, i hope your day gets better <3", and, SURPRISE SURPRISE, she read it and didnt reply.

i havent tried talking to her since. i give up. i dont know if i did something wrong, or if shes just turned into a fucking bitch, but i cant imagine doing that to someone i once called my best friend.
i just feel so... forgotten... or something. like nobody cares.

oh well. theres my sap story/rant.

[Ashe]

I'm so sorry Brianna, I totally feel you there. Same thing happened with this one girl in sixth grade. I thought we would have been best friends for like, ever! I told her about me being a mer, and she gave me so much sh*t about it. She spread rumors (like I need anymore) about me literally thinking I was a mermaid and left me as a loner for months afterwards. I asked her what was up, but she just said "oh, like you don't know?" And walked away. At open house I smiled and said hey, and she glared at me. My mom stepped in and said hello and she "sweetly" said hello back, but then rolled her eyes. I'm pretty sure that another rumor sprouted somewhere that I said something about her and she believed it or something, and now that is why she hates me but I'm not sure.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm suddenly glad I don't get too personal with people. I feel for you both I really do. :(

[Mermaid Annariea]

kalani, i dont understand girls sometimes. i really dont.

and andrea, hahaha im about at the point now where im just giving up on trying to have friends.