B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Lunette]

yea, i really didn't think he was this type of guy :'( it is just very frustrating. we were so close to being out of the woods and suddenly we fall straight into a pit :'(

[SeaGlass Siren]

i think you need yo kick him out of your friend circle. that SOB doesnt deserve your kindness.

[Mermaid Lunette]

possible, just talking it out with people helps me feel better at least ^^ thanks everybody :') he was kinda distant after the 6 month mark when signing the car to him didn't happen. so he isn't really in our friend circle anyway.

[Cordelia]

So sorry to hear this happened to you, Lunette. Never co-sign a loan for someone, and cut that guy right out of your life. Who cares if he was mad or not? He knew what he was doing and he obviously didn't care.

[Mermaid Lunette]

yea, you are right (all of you) and no worries, we learned our lesson, never co-signing for like anything again really ^^;

[Naufra]

When murderers and other badly-behaved people blame their lack of self-control on a health problem you yourself have and you manage to be a functioning, contributing member of society in spite of it. Way to make it harder for others with that condition to get work or even help, @$$#0les. Way to build the already crippling social stigma about that condition! Good job,%&#$ers! Thanks SO much for making it so that I can't even admit to what I have and show people what a good example of someone who lives with that condition and still manages to have a life and a career looks like! Thanks for blaming every stupid thing you do and every bad choice you make on a condition that the rest of us have to work our asses off to HIDE now just so that we don't lose our jobs! THANKS! Now crawl into a hole and die.

[Mermaid Pickles]

Well my rant is just about pointless. But I'll put it anyway since it might help it get out of my head.

I went to a convention recently, and about three weeks ago, looked at my bank account to find fraudulent charges. I went to the bank to dispute these charges, then noticed that a bunch of charges were made to my debit card while i was taking a four-hour nap during the con. Only person who was anywhere near my was my now ex-boyfriend. My sister and i confronted him about it, and he denied it, but then was like "Yeah i used your card for parking and food. No. Just food. Oh. Parking, food, and used it at a booth." I have a withdrawal that was made using my PIN number while i was asleep. We asked him about it, and he denied, saying it must have been me. But my sister even has proof I was asleep. Because she called me multiple times while I was taking my nap, and only her last call during that time frame woke me up. I had asked my now-ex to watch my stuff while i slept, since i had set my bag down by the chair i was in. When my sister called me and woke me up, I immediately called her back, freaking out because my now-ex was not there and neither was my bag. I couldn't find him, he wasn't answering his phone. I sat and waited, and about thirty minutes later, he came back, carrying MY bag and a bunch of food which he then ate by himself. I asked where he'd been and how he'd paid for the food when he'd said he'd left his debit card in the hotel room in his suitcase, and he claimed he'd found it in his pocket. His debit card, that is. Turns out, when I checked my bank records, there were charges to the food spots in the convention center, a starbucks on the second floor of the convention center, a booth, and an atm withdrawal. Now, after almost three weeks, he's admitted to the parking, some of the food, and the atm, but he won't admit to the booth. Though he can't exactly use the excuses that I did it, since I was asleep when those charges were made, or that someone else took my card, since if someone else took my card, they wouldn't be stupid enough to give it back. And i have the card besid emy bed, since I can't use it since my account is frozen. And once he admitted to using it in an atm he claimed it was an accident and that he thought my card was his. And I know that is a lie. He keeps his card in his back pocket, and mine was in a hidden pocket within a purse within a backpack. His debit card is black and blue. Mine is red and has my picture on it. Stealing my debit card and using it is a federal offense. If i could afford it, I would file charges. But I can't afford it. And now I can't get the flipping money back because he won't talk to me and it's too late to take it up with the bank.

Also. I broke my foot. YOU KNOW HOW FRUSTRATING THAT IS WHEN YOU HAVE TO CALL THE SCUBA SHOP AND TELL THEM YOU CAN'T COME SWIM WITH THEM BECAUSEYOU HAVE A BROKEN FOOT? It is insanely frustrating.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh Pickles!
And everyone else who's posted since I last checked!
Sympathies to everyone!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Sounds like you're in a bit... *sunglasses* of a pickle.

YEAHHHHHHHHH

[Mermaid Mystery]

Sounds like you're in a bit... *sunglasses* of a pickle.

YEAHHHHHHHHH

JESUS

[SeaGlass Siren]

Never gets old.

[PearlieMae]

You are evil. I knew I liked you.

[Mermaid Pickles]

Pfft. I love you guys. Very nice joke. Surprisingly, I don't think anyone's ever made that joke before. YOU MAY WELL BE THE FIRST-

[SeaGlass Siren]

nope people have made it a joke before :P it's called the horatio caine meme. you might have seen it on Supernatural :P

[SeaGlass Siren]

You are evil. I knew I liked you.
can't you tell by the horns in my picture? :p

[Mermaid Freyja]

can't you tell by the horns in my picture? :p

So much metal \m/ \m/

[Princess Pearl]

So much metal \m/ \m/

MERMAID METAL


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqJKZVnNLT0

[Mermaid Freyja]

Ah, haha! Princess Pearl beat me to it!
I heart Dethklok XD

[SeaGlass Siren]

.. what the fuck am i watching o-o but also we need a mermaid metal thread.

[SeaGlass Siren]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBafPBKC0Ok

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Did i just dream typing something in here just then??

[PearlieMae]

KEYBOARD? That is NOT metal!

[AnnaAbyss]

F*CK YEAH METAL MERMAIDS! Didn't know there were any other metal heads here?! :D I'm changing my profile picture dammit.

[Mer-Crazy]

F*CK YEAH METAL MERMAIDS! Didn't know there were any other metal heads here?! :D I'm changing my profile picture dammit.
I like Baby Metal (the band) does that count?

[AnnaAbyss]

Yes, it counts c:

[SeaGlass Siren]

There was another mer on here who listens to metal though I'm not sure if she's on anymore :(

[Mermaid Kate Silverfin]

I like metal too :) Mainly symphonic metal

[Mermaid Freyja]

F*CK YEAH METAL MERMAIDS! Didn't know there were any other metal heads here?! :D I'm changing my profile picture dammit.

Yes! Metal mermaid, right here \m/
I'm a huge fan of the bands out of Scandinavia, Finland, Germany, Russia and the UK, plus a few in the states and even Mongolia.
Arkona, Korpiklaani, Epica, Ulaanbaatar, Amon Amarth, TYR, Ensiferum, Unleashed...to name a few ;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Kamelot, nightwish, amaranthe, the agonist, and arch enemy here :)

[Fun123joker]

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH i was working on my neoprene tail. ran out of white spraypaint so i used acrylic and i let it dry and i was rinsing it and its getting off just like acrylic would do. i was hoping to stain the fabric but now im just UGGGGGGGH. now im just trying to get as much acrylic off so i maybe could save it annd buy more spraypaint to cover the bad paint job with a good one.

[Winged Mermaid]

Just a reminder that this thread is for non-mer related drama, it's a venting thread for every day issues. If you want to discuss mer related stuff that may be labeled "drama" please post in the drama bubble thread: http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?1679-%28%28-The-Drama-Bubble-Thread-%29%29

Gonna move some stuff over there now to try and keep this thread on topic ;)

[PearlieMae]

Whoops! Sorry! :blush:

[AniaR]

... *is in a metal band called sweetleaf*

[SeaGlass Siren]

Turns out the dude i was supposed to collab with ended up being a total creeper stalker so now i'm in NO BAND :D

[Mermaid Mystery]

thanks Iona I totally forgot about that thread lol

[MermaidBrynley]

thanks Iona I totally forgot about that thread lol
SAME! Sowwy :cool:

[Mermaid Kelda]

I thought the drama bubble thread was just for drama/pot stirring/community oriented bitching?

[Winged Mermaid]

It is, people were doing that in this thread :P

[Celaeno]

31608

[SeaGlass Siren]

Symphonic metal ...

love the Forrest Gump meme

[Mermaid Kelda]

It is, people were doing that in this thread :P
Sorry, what I meant was I thought this thread was for non-drama bitching, regardless of topic. I tend to stay out of the drama thread because I don't like drama, but if all mer-related general bitching goes in there too it'd mean I'd miss the opportunity to cheer up/commiserate/sympathise with people about their failed moulds or sewing calluses. I guess my point is that it makes more sense to me to separate negative posts by whether or not they're targeted at someone and likely to start drama, or just general harmless bitching/asking for advice.

[SeaGlass Siren]

i think it was because people were being mentioned :P

[Echidna]

Today's one of those days when I just want to be someone else.

Migraine incoming, perforated artery again, shark week on top (too early), and I just got a mail saying I lost a crappy lawsuit that was a stupid farce on my expense, literally.
:gah:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

:(
That's awful Echidna.

[SeaGlass Siren]

that.. really is aweful :|

[Mermaid Mystery]

welp. I'm re-dying my hair the day before the San Jose swim. oops.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Idiot online: If you think men and women are equal think again, men are more dominate in every single sport that's why they keep the genders seperate hurhurhur even in chess and boardgames and video games durrrr


You, boy, are an idiot. Lucho Libre, Mixed Martial Arts, Karate, Kung Fu, Tae Kwon Do, UFC. Women have equal game play as men and both sides equally win. There is no dominance over the other. Your arguments are invalid.

[SeaGlass Siren]

fucking hate mansplainers. =_= bitch just called me unequivocally wrong.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Agreed, SeaGlass.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

fucking hate mansplainers. =_= bitch just called me unequivocally wrong.
Dude, I just watched a Laci Green video that was about part of the women's reproductive system. It was not an opinion video, it was just explaining actual biological facts. 75% of the comments are M'lady McDudeBros mansplaining HER OWN BODY to her. I just can't. Yes, male human, please explain my body to me. It's not like I can just, you know, LOOK DOWN.
-raaaaaage-

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[Mermaid Mystery]

if a man can't find the clitoris then he can't tell anyone about female anatomy LMAO

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ THIS. THIS SO FUCKING MUCH.

like if you dont have a vagina dont fucking tell me i dont know my own body >.> that would be like ME saying they should get circumsised because the male penis is never clean. how will i know? i dont because I DONT HAVE A PENIS.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I am FILLED with rage

[Naufra]

Wait - Did the dumbasses being discussed here actually claim that the clitoris doesn't exist? Is that what I'm understanding here? Because there are countless medical texts that can tell them otherwise even if they've never had the opportunity to see female anatomy for themselves. Hell, with all the porn that kind of guy watches, they've probably seen tons of them by now.

[SeaGlass Siren]

i think she meant if during sex the guy cant even locate the clit then they should STFU.

ALSO - to the youngins who just joined, please pardon my language.

[Madison MerFaerie]

You guys remember when that anti-abortion Idaho legislator thought that doctors could assess "the situation" inside a pregnant uterus by having the woman SWALLOW a camera???

[Naufra]

I don't know if that's hysterically funny or just pathetic.

[Mermaid Ciela]

You guys remember when that anti-abortion Idaho legislator thought that doctors could assess "the situation" inside a pregnant uterus by having the woman SWALLOW a camera???

That... Please, please tell me that's not serious. Aside from our reproductive organs not being connected to our digestive tracts... That's gotta be a joke...?


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ohhhhh dear. What?!

That sort of man. Drives. Me. Insane.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ugh. Republican white men...

[Merman Chatfish]

Ugh. Republican white men...

I just got on, haven't ready anything before this post yet, yet I fully agree.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Just go back a page, Chatfish. It involves mansplaining about the female reproductive system by men who probably couldn't find their sexual partner's clitoris to save their lives.

As Labrynth so eloquently put it.

[Merman Chatfish]

Just go back a page, Chatfish. It involves mansplaining about the female reproductive system by men who probably couldn't find their sexual partner's clitoris to save their lives.

As Labrynth so eloquently put it.

Ahh. I just accept I don't know the female reproductive system that well and move on.

[Merman Chatfish]

That... Please, please tell me that's not serious. Aside from our reproductive organs not being connected to our digestive tracts... That's gotta be a joke...?


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Actually I think that was not a joke. Same people who think if you are raped and don't want the baby your body will make it so on its own.

Personally I think that only female representatives (about 18% (even though 51% of the US population is female)) should be allowed to make laws and vote on things that are laws that impact women. But then I also think that local governments should be filled with one person from each neighborhood, each county government is one elected person from each local region, state government elected from each county, and so on.

[Merman Chatfish]

Just a reminder that this thread is for non-mer related drama, it's a venting thread for every day issues. If you want to discuss mer related stuff that may be labeled "drama" please post in the drama bubble thread: http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?1679-%28%28-The-Drama-Bubble-Thread-%29%29

Gonna move some stuff over there now to try and keep this thread on topic ;)

I also did not know that. Looks like I have a lot of catching up to do.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Agreed Chatfish. The men who write those laws don't know shit.

[Merman Dan]

Ugh. Republican white men...

Hey now! I may consider my complexion to be a bit off-green but I am still a tree-hugging money-loving Pagan Libertarian. I tend to vote Republican because I believe in a small government and flat taxes. You will not get those from a Democrat. As for the clitoris, well I did watch Monty Python's Meaning of Life! :)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Sorry, Dan!
But you aren't exactly the norm amongst green-tinged republican men!! For most republicans, flat taxes and small government aren't why they vote republican.

(I have to say, I believe in progressive taxes and government intervention, but not really the issue at hand.)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

So let's just refer to the assholes in question as incompetent mansplainers instead.

[Merman Dan]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1g5iPdwTL4

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

My feet are cold and I cannot seem to get them warm.

Grr.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch. That is annoying.

[Merman Chatfish]

My feet are cold and I cannot seem to get them warm.

Grr.

Given your in Texas I would stick your feet outside the window, that should warm them up.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I am currently in CO, so it gets really chilly at night and the blankets are good for my body but oddly do not help my feet.

[Merman Chatfish]

I am currently in CO, so it gets really chilly at night and the blankets are good for my body but oddly do not help my feet.
You really tall?

[Mermaid Strega]

Why. Why would you get into a public pool knowing you have something contagious? They shut down the hot tub at my local Rec center because some jacka$$ with something contagious went in the water.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

You really tall?

5'5"

[Merman Chatfish]

5'5"
Oh so you can fit into a bed unlike mine. Try this, find two shirts you have worn and put in microwave for 30 seconds. Remove and wrap your feet in them.

[Madison MerFaerie]

That... Please, please tell me that's not serious. Aside from our reproductive organs not being connected to our digestive tracts... That's gotta be a joke...?

Nah boo, it was a legitimate question from a republican male in a position to make decisions about the female body. Here's a link; skip to 1:12 if you don't want to watch the whole 2 minutes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUse5tIMoNU

[Mermaid Mystery]

oh my god I'm cringing so hard it hurts

[CheshireKat]

^This.

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[Merman Dylan]

I am currently in CO, so it gets really chilly at night and the blankets are good for my body but oddly do not help my feet.

Aysun, I don't know if you are aware of this, but it sounds like something the body does naturally. When it's cold out, the human body will divert heat away from your hands and feet to keep the part of your body where vital organs are warm. If you wrap your feet up in wool it should keep them insulated. Wool is an awesome insulator and it should warm your feet up quick. I understand being cold all too well. I not only have barely any body fat, but I'm tall and skinny. My house has tile floor, and during the winter, even in florida, it can get pretty cold. Of course, Winter in Florida doesn't last longer than 2 or 3 months if at all.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

I have cold feet even in summer.

[MermaidBrynley]

I am sick.
I was sick 2 weeks ago and got better.
I had to cancel a party for tomorrow and I have an event on Saturday and if I have to cancel that too I will be SO upset.
My head is KILLING me, my throat is sore and I kind of feel like I'm going to pass out. So much pressure in my head.
Ugh this just SUCKS. There's no other way to describe it. It sucks.
That is all. If you read it, thanks for listening.


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[Merman Dylan]

I hope you feel better. Take lots of Vitamin C, generic Dayquil and Nyquil will help, and take ibuprofen. My family is allergic to Penicillin and Sulfa Products which is just about all the meds that treat colds. I've been there, and we always had to get creative with treating it. I know a certain kind of Tea with honey can soothe your throat too, and it will calm your nerves. I hope you feel better soon.

[Merman Dylan]

I know this may sound tacky, but a good cure for a sore throat and feeling cold is hot soup. Make sure you put lots of healthy stuff into it. That's what my family usually does. Ginger Ale is also good, but what you really want is lots of hot soup like split pea soup and vegetable soup. If you're handy in the kitchen, chop up potatoes, carrots, scallions, onions, garlic, and whatever other vegetables you fancy. Add vegetable bouillon to add flavor and seasonings. Cook into a soup, and you have something that will help you feel better whether you have a cold or you're feet are cold. The steam from the soup and the warmth will open up your sinuses which will help to relieve the pressure on your head. Take plenty of hot showers because the steam will also help to relieve the pressure on your sinuses. Gargle saltwater too, that will help you with your throat. If you can make it to the beach, swimming in the ocean and fresh air will do you wonders even if you don't feel like doing it. If you can manage to do stuff outside, do it. The outdoors can really help you. I'm no doctor, and if it gets too bad for this to help, you should go and see one. I really do hope you feel better.

[Mermaid Ciela]

Nah boo, it was a legitimate question from a republican male in a position to make decisions about the female body. Here's a link; skip to 1:12 if you don't want to watch the whole 2 minutes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUse5tIMoNU

http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/24/5e787233702157d4f0cd9ae16c60bf2f.jpg

Politicians should be required to have some sort of background in some sort of science so all the idiots like that get weeded out of the political pool early on. Oi vey!

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[Mermaid Strega]

That... Please, please tell me that's not serious. Aside from our reproductive organs not being connected to our digestive tracts... That's gotta be a joke...?


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I'm an idahoan... My republican father, bless his heart, and most other men around here of this variety legit believe women's bodies can't get pregnant during rape. I was like dad, there's not some magic psychological off switch. O_O

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Education of this sort takes time and patience. As much as we'd all love to stick it to these guys, it wouldn't help much.

There was a girl in my middle school survival group who was like this. Totally homophobic, didn't believe in evolution, anti-abortion, all that. It took time but she's definitely changed. Which is a good thing, because two of the other girls in the group are lesbians, another considers herself "bendy," and I myself am more attracted to intelligence than anything else (yes, I am one of THOSE bookworms). She's been really sweet about it all.

So progress is definitely possible but patience is key. One has to show these sorts of people the truth of what they're saying and introduce them to more progressive ideals bit by bit. Many DO come around.

[Naufra]

Oh so you can fit into a bed unlike mine. Try this, find two shirts you have worn and put in microwave for 30 seconds. Remove and wrap your feet in them.

Chatfish, you're a genius. :hail:

[Raayvhen]

Final paper, (Three week overdue) Midterm, and course portfolio due in T-Minus 12.5 hours.

Work done: Everything except the two papers.

Beer Level: 16 oz. Currently on the Three Magnets Rain IPA.

Lets do this shit.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck!

[AnnaAbyss]

GAAAAH!!!! There's been a whole town of people in Denmark who brutally slaughtered a pod of beautiful pilot whales. I want to cry and scream. I hate what our species is doing to this one of a kind Earth. It's like it is in out nature to destroy ourselves and everything around us. You know I just feel like I have a really deep connection with whales and dolphins and have since I was a small kid. Even though I've never swam with them I just hold them close to my heart. Poor babies. Sleep peacefully. *Cries*

[Sabrina the Selkie]

:(
Noooooo!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I found an article on the slaughter. Evidently, it's illegal in the EU and Denmark, but they're protecting this annual event because it's a tradition. :(

WARNING: Graphic images!!!
http://www.9news.com.au/world/2015/07/25/11/32/250-pilot-whales-killed-in-annual-slaughter-in-faroe-islands

[Echidna]

GAAAAH!!!! There's been a whole town of people in Denmark who brutally slaughtered a pod of beautiful pilot whales. I want to cry and scream. I hate what our species is doing to this one of a kind Earth. It's like it is in out nature to destroy ourselves and everything around us. You know I just feel like I have a really deep connection with whales and dolphins and have since I was a small kid. Even though I've never swam with them I just hold them close to my heart. Poor babies. Sleep peacefully. *Cries*

I feel the exact same way.

Didn't a bunch of Taiji-dolphinkillers participate in that Faroer slaughter?
"Sadistic minds think alike", probably.

And in Alaska/Canada, 500 narwhals and around 1000 belugas are killed every year by native hunters.
There is a discussion about it right now in the environment section, but no matter whether one thinks this is "needed" or not, it will wipe out more species in the end.

Because that is the only thing man does well.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

If I may say so, I think man does a LOT of good. We can't be fatalistic or else we may as well give up on protecting the environment. We could start a petition or sign one if there already is one out there. There are ways we can help even on this side of the globe, and we're human beings as well. We can make a difference! Humans aren't all evil, sadistic killing machines. We're proof of that. :)

[Yulia]

I want to differentiate that Faroe Islands and Denmark are very far apart, two very different places.
It's just part of the Danish Kingdom.


Still a dumb unnecessary tradition that should be stopped. Make whale-piñatas like modern people.

[IllynReaver]

I feel the exact same way.

Didn't a bunch of Taiji-dolphinkillers participate in that Faroer slaughter?
"Sadistic minds think alike", probably.

And in Alaska/Canada, 500 narwhals and around 1000 belugas are killed every year by native hunters.
There is a discussion about it right now in the environment section, but no matter whether one thinks this is "needed" or not, it will wipe out more species in the end.

Because that is the only thing man does well.

I will speak up for the Inuits in Alaska and Canada, I may not be getting all the facts correct so feel free to correct me, I know a lot of them have to hunt like that just to feed themselves because they can't afford the prices of food. http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/north/nunavut-s-hunger-problem-we-can-t-pretend-it-doesn-t-exist-anymore-1.2929573 http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2012/06/11/nunavut-food-prices-protest-inuit-poverty_n_1588144.html. So I guess what I'm trying to say that yes the killing of more whales is not good, the issue of these people starving to the point they have no other choice but to hunt these creatures is another problem that needs to be addressed. I think in some cases a head of lettuce can cost them almost $30.

[AniaR]

And honestly Canadian aboriginal groups are a hell of a lot different than other parts of the world. They hold the balance of animals and nature as paramount. Most of our Canadian activism groups are made up of huge amounts of various aboriginal groups. It is the militant thinking that you can't fight for nature but also utilize it that drives me nuts. I just find there is so much ignorance. In Canada we are taught in schools a lot about the cultures of others but it is not the way in other places.

[IllynReaver]

And honestly Canadian aboriginal groups are a hell of a lot different than other parts of the world. They hold the balance of animals and nature as paramount. Most of our Canadian activism groups are made up of huge amounts of various aboriginal groups. It is the militant thinking that you can't fight for nature but also utilize it that drives me nuts. I just find there is so much ignorance. In Canada we are taught in schools a lot about the cultures of others but it is not the way in other places.

I wish there was a way to "like" your comment on here Raina. Obviously I can't speak for the Inuits in Alaska and Canada, only try my best to bring awareness to the face some of the aboriginals are starving and the only source of food they have is what they can hunt. There are quotas in place actually, so many can be taken in a five year period for the groups that eat the meat for subsistence. I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you're worried about the one, worry about the other as well. I'd be more concerned with commericial whaling and tourists trying to try whale meat. If there's a concern about aboriginals hunting whales, then make sure they have access to food with all the nutrients they need to live at an affordable cost.

[Princess Kae-Leah]

I actually agree with aspects of both Echidna and Raina's views, which I think shows how I try to balance my sense of fairness, justice, and respect of all with my personal strong animal rights beliefs.

I certainly have empathy for the Canadian Inuit's situation. The extremely high cost of store-bought food is unacceptable, something really needs to be done to reform that. People should be educated about their situation and culture, as most Americans have no idea that there's a population of people here in North America with levels of food insecurity comparable to Africa. If there was something I could do, like help donate to food to them, I would. I'm also concerned about their ridiculously high suicide rate. It goes without saying that suicide rate AT LEAST five times the national average is a very tragic statistic and something needs to be done to help them. I do not agree when activists like Paul Watson demonize the Inuit as sadistic animal killers who in they seem to think kill only because they enjoy it and their culture, not because their food situation is very desperate so they don't have much of a choice but to hunt what they can to survive. I'm not completely sure that they misrepresent on purpose as much as they're just not well-informed about that part of the world, and have a hard time imagining anyone in modern times genuinely needing to hurt to survive. Some people also seem to have a hard time grasping that the situation of Canadian Inuit in Nunavut is very different from to American Inuit in Alaska, who have access to a lot more conveniences in comparison.

With all that said, that doesn't mean I have to like the idea of killing marine mammals. Killing such intelligent and beautiful creatures as narwhals, seals, and polar bears is just not something I could ever be completely comfortable with. Where I think some activist groups have gone wrong with the issue of Inuit hunting is their approach. I think a lot of people in the animal rights and environmental community need to wake and realize that the old saying "you catch more flies with honey than vinegar" is there for a reason. Instead of alienating them by telling them how horrible you think they are, try to work with them. Politely contact Inuit leaders and explain your concerns in a respectful, well-informed manner. Try to help them find alternative sources of food and income so they no longer had to rely on killing animals as much. I would let them know that I truly feel for them and want to help. I also think in respect to their soverignity(sp?), any petitions ending their hunts should be addressed directly to the native leadership instead of the Canadian government. Paul Watson claims Inuit whaling is illegal because it's not approved by the IWC, but considering the past I think it's important to respect native soverignity.

I see both HSUS and IFAW at least attempting to be more sensitive and informed about native issues, by even making infographics and posts clarifying the difference between the large-scale commercialized cull of seals in Atlantic Canada and Inuit subsistence hunting in the north. I've shared some of those posts on my mer-FB page. After the "Sealfie" campaign targeting Ellen DeGeneres went viral last year, I followed a thread on HSUS's page where some Inuit posted their concerns, and the admin politely explained that HSUS does not protest against native subsistence hunting. They handled the situation respectfully, without saying a single harsh word about the Inuit or their culture. I was actually really impressed.
https://scontent-sea1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xtp1/v/t1.0-9/11146312_810992392283806_6808086856141980212_n.jpg ?oh=1df085094e510d8d17b79d94b9e5e3c2&oe=5616AE29
The International Fund For Animal Welfare made this cool infographic explaining the difference between the two seal hunts

(https://www.facebook.com/ifaw.au/photos/a.237824886267229.51693.236624143053970/810992392283806/?type=1)

[AniaR]

great infrographic

and yeah, I dont like that they eat it either! but I understand, and I do understand the cultural identity aspect, even though they don't use it as an excuse, they are so multifaceted that there's a bigger picture here. I wish everyone could have taken the courses I'd taken!

[Cordelia]

Is it too much to ask that we be on time and not at least an hour late every time we do something?! F'ing hell! I love sitting around and watching you slowly eat cereal as the minutes pass by. not.

[Mermaid Clara]

Tests for me are hard. I get bad test anxiety and forget stuff I know. So I do bad on tests. I'm not doing so good in this math class, getting Ds and Cs on the tests. I should have dropped it and told dad before the drop deadline but he said no and that it was easy class. He's now denying that I ever told him. I'm scared. Cause I know that I'll not be able to pass this class with a C and that he'll be very mad at me and possibly hurt me mentally and maybe physically.


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[Cordelia]

Aww. Is there any tutoring center at your school? Is it high school or college?

[Mermaid Clara]

Aww. Is there any tutoring center at your school? Is it high school or college?

It's college and we don't have the tutoring center open during the summer.


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[Mermaid Ciela]

What kind of math is it? Khan Academy might be able to help with the content, and as for your test anxiety - can you ask your professor if there's any extra credit work you can do? I'm sure he/she might he able to find some type of work you can do so that you can demonstrate that you know the material.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

I have 2 packages that haven't moved in like 2 days and one that was supposed to ship on Friday but still hasn't shipped yet and I just want everything to get here already

[Merman Chatfish]

Tests for me are hard. I get bad test anxiety and forget stuff I know. So I do bad on tests. I'm not doing so good in this math class, getting Ds and Cs on the tests. I should have dropped it and told dad before the drop deadline but he said no and that it was easy class. He's now denying that I ever told him. I'm scared. Cause I know that I'll not be able to pass this class with a C and that he'll be very mad at me and possibly hurt me mentally and maybe physically.


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Something that worked for me is having a teacher read it to you and you respond conversationally. Some places allow it, some don't.

[Mermaid Cascada]

I don't understand when someone (a guy at that) tries to tell me that mothers cannot lactate unless they are expecting or have recently had a baby. And if thy do it's because a doctor gave them chemicals to unnaturally produce hormones. I've tried explaining to him that adoptive mother can breast feed naturally. But noooo, it's "common sense" that they don't.

[deepblue]

Because he doesn't know the facts and can't admit that he doesn't? I don't think a lot of people are aware that adoptive moms can bring on lactation with natural methods. But if they're told this, without backed-up facts to the contrary, they probably ought to admit they don't have enough information and go get that information. Then admit they were wrong or misinformed. It just kills some people to admit they're wrong or that they don't know everything.

[Mermaid Cascada]

Because he doesn't know the facts and can't admit that he doesn't? I don't think a lot of people are aware that adoptive moms can bring on lactation with natural methods. But if they're told this, without backed-up facts to the contrary, they probably ought to admit they don't have enough information and go get that information. Then admit they were wrong or misinformed. It just kills some people to admit they're wrong or that they don't know everything.
Yeah, he's definitely one of those people. He also had an argument with me that periods are not as painful as girls say they are. Yup, he's one of those...

[Mermaid Ciela]

Yeah, he's definitely one of those people. He also had an argument with me that periods are not as painful as girls say they are. Yup, he's one of those...

Oh, dear. That's unfortunate! If I were you, I'd try staying as far away from him as possible so as to save myself the headache of face-palming every time he opens his mouth (or near enough as makes no odds). Good luck!!


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[Keiris]

Yeah, he's definitely one of those people. He also had an argument with me that periods are not as painful as girls say they are. Yup, he's one of those...

He sounds like a F O O L.

[Kaila Mermaid]

Back on the politics thing. One of my favorite quotes was when they were interviewing a Senator in Religulous and the senator retorts, "you don't have to pass an IQ test to be a senator" and then realized what he just said and sits down.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I don't understand when someone (a guy at that) tries to tell me that mothers cannot lactate unless they are expecting or have recently had a baby. And if thy do it's because a doctor gave them chemicals to unnaturally produce hormones. I've tried explaining to him that adoptive mother can breast feed naturally. But noooo, it's "common sense" that they don't.


ugh. MANSPLANING. =_=

[PearlieMae]

Yeah, he's definitely one of those people. He also had an argument with me that periods are not as painful as girls say they are. Yup, he's one of those...

I would have to prove to him how testicles aren't as delicate as guys say they are. :catfight:

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ yes. by kicking him swift in the BALLS.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

I would have to prove to him how testicles aren't as delicate as guys say they are. :catfight:
Word.

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[Naufra]

I would have to prove to him how testicles aren't as delicate as guys say they are. :catfight:

Pearlie, you're awesome. Would you like a rawhide mallet or a dead-fall hammer for this demonstration? I'd be happy to assist in the name of science.

[PearlieMae]

Pearlie, you're awesome. Would you like a rawhide mallet or a dead-fall hammer for this demonstration? I'd be happy to assist in the name of science.

:-D I have a pair of vintage Doc Martin's that should fill the bill nicely!

[Merman Dan]

I would have to prove to him how testicles aren't as delicate as guys say they are.

I'll just leave this here...
http://www.candyboots.com/wwcards/cardscans/fishballs.jpg

[Adalira]

It feels like forever since i have last been here.
I have missed all of you!
I have been working super hard and extremely long days.
The house we live in was still for sale all this time. My parents actually offered us to buy it for a very low price.
We tried to but could not get an appointment with the bank, so we wanted to seek out a different bank or some other way.
Then my mom asks me if it is ok that they sell the house for a much larger amount to other people. If so, they will help us out with building a new house on their land.
We thought that that was a great option as well. off course we would not take a house for free, never.
But since my hubby and i are business owners it is extremely hard to get a loan or morgage, not just extremely hard, it is impossible since banks feel that having your own business is not a steady income even though you can proof that it is.
So if my parents would be able to help us out we could simply pay them back monthly amounts which would be great.
Today we got the phone call that this house is sold and we have to be out by Decembre 1st.
BUT!!! Here it comes....my mom said on the phone:" So you need to go to the bank asap and get a loan for a house."
I was shocked and lost for words, then i explained to her that our own bank did not even want to talk with us about a possible loan since we are business owners.
Not to mention the fact that if we build on their land no bank will give us a loan since we do not own the land but my parents.
To a bank not even owning the land is an extra risk.
So what do you do now you may wonder....well...we have no clue.
We have been investing in our business the past months and our business has been growing and growing which is great. But if we had known we would not have my parents help out financially we would have no invested like we did and looked at other options.
I am stressed out and upset.
Off course it is my parents money and they can spend it as they please, i only wish they would have given us a heads up when they changed their minds about helping us out, would it have killed them to talk to us about having changed their minds? A little heads up?
My mom was in a complete panic since they have an entire building to unpack before decembre first, yet they are not willing to come home early from the holiday they are on.
We still have so much work to do, to try and even get the building permit to build a house on their land, then find the right house building company and then to get the job done.
And we have 4 months to do it in.
I had 2 building companies that had ok prices for the wooden houses. I talked to both of them today and one of them called me back this afternoon. Well....turned out i misunderstood him in every conversation, however that is possible. And the houses he builds are €100.000 more then he said to me a few months back so that is a no no.
The other company has houses that are around 100m2 (what we are looking for since we work from home as well) and prices around €40.000 but this is roof tiles, excluding foundation, gas electric and water installation and you have to put a kitchen in, bathroom etc.
At this point i have no idea if we are able to afford anything.
Renting is a problem for us as well since we work from home and have and need all our supplies at home to do our work, i may have to look into renting again.
My hubby is from America and he has said our other option is to move to America, we live in the Netherlands now.
That would mean selling everything we have asap and starting all over from scratch since the move alone will not be cheap and then finding a house in America, getting my dog there as well......
If you think hard work is paying off.....well forget it!
I have been working my ass off the past months, working non stop, haven't had a holiday in years and we are still in shit. Sure our business is growing and sales have almost tripled this year but does the bank care? Nope.
After all this hard work we still are at a point where we are stuck.
I was just about to take this weekend off since i have been dealing with a bad foot (most likely tendonitis) for weeks and weeks now and have been working non stop.
I did try to lay on the bed but still working in bed with the laptop.
Finally i thought i could rest this weekend only to hear this news and my hubby telling me :" We will not be able to rest at all the next 4 months.."
I just want to :mad::catfight::soap box::headwall::anger explode::catfight::soap box::anger explode::headdesk::mad: ...................you know?

[Naufra]

I'm back in my old home turf of New England for about a week, and I forgot to tell my big brother that I would be in the area, so now he's feeling quite hurt that I didn't tell him and even though he said he could still get time off work to visit with me he declined when I tried to make plans with him. So now I think he's mad at me and I feel like such a huge jerk. Trying to arrange to see any of my friends or anyone who isn't related by blood has been awful, getting a solid schedule has been like trying to nail jello to a wall so I had no idea what to tell anyone when they asked which days to take off from work or where we could meet, which left a lot of people who were hoping to see me feeling put-out. I should have at least told him, though. I'm such an awful little sister.

[Echidna]

I'm so sorry, Adalira.
I wondered where you went!

And yes, working like an ox does not pay off in Europe (you'd have to do something illegal or unethical to become rich here...), space and houses cost a life's ransom in the denser populated areas, and living isn't cheap either.

So I can relate.
We've been looking to relocate forever, but it's too darn expensive, and I cannot imagine getting to overseas with my 2 little ones.
It feels like being stuck, and all that ever comes up is :money:

[Adalira]

I'm back in my old home turf of New England for about a week, and I forgot to tell my big brother that I would be in the area, so now he's feeling quite hurt that I didn't tell him and even though he said he could still get time off work to visit with me he declined when I tried to make plans with him. So now I think he's mad at me and I feel like such a huge jerk. Trying to arrange to see any of my friends or anyone who isn't related by blood has been awful, getting a solid schedule has been like trying to nail jello to a wall so I had no idea what to tell anyone when they asked which days to take off from work or where we could meet, which left a lot of people who were hoping to see me feeling put-out. I should have at least told him, though. I'm such an awful little sister.

You are not ann awful sister. You simply forgot.
You know what that makes you? That makes you human, nothing more, nothing less.
If you have told you brother that you simply forgot, that should have been enough for him.
The fact that he is now not wanting to see you is not your fault but his, and it is his loss nor yours.
From what you write i can see you are doing the best you can and the people that love you will now and will wait for a next time to be able to see you.
I have a friend who lives in the next town from me, we rarely see each other and we rarely email since she is very ill.
When she does email she is always apologetic and i always tell her to stop apologizing. We will see each other when we see each other and we will write when we write.
True friendship and truly loving and caring for someone means there is no time limit to when you have to see each other or write or anything.
So do not worry or beat yourself up about it.:hug:

[Adalira]

I'm so sorry, Adalira.
I wondered where you went!

And yes, working like an ox does not pay off in Europe (you'd have to do something illegal or unethical to become rich here...), space and houses cost a life's ransom in the denser populated areas, and living isn't cheap either.

So I can relate.
We've been looking to relocate forever, but it's too darn expensive, and I cannot imagine getting to overseas with my 2 little ones.
It feels like being stuck, and all that ever comes up is :money:

I know exactly how you feel, it sure feels like the only way to make money is to do something illegal which we are not prepared to do, if only i were more of a bad ass without a conscience :lol:
I even told my hubby yesterday:' I have been working my ass of for years now without a holiday...and what good did it do us? We are still in the same place as we were years ago."
And to top it off, about a month ago i was able to finally put exercising into my daily routine again so i decided to start up slowly so i would not overdo it....and i got repaid with a nice case of tendonitis in my right ankle. How lovely.
I kept on walking and working the next 2 weeks until it got so painful that my hubby demanded i stay in bed as much as possible while he did most of the chores and work for me. He brought me my laptop in bed so i could at least do all my computer work everyday ( about 6 hours every day of work on that thing)
My foot is slowly getting better even though it is still in pain and i have decided not to stay in bed anymore and just get back to work. No other choice at the moment.
One positive thing happened though, this morning when i woke up i remembered having talking to a 3rd building company and i looked it up and remembered the man told me that 100m2 is around €20.000 for the house and then probably another €20.000 for the foundation, installment of electric, gas and water etc. So that is already a much better price for us. We will have to contact them on Monday to see how fast they would be able to deliver the house.
That does take the pressure of a bit but we still have a long road ahead of us to figure out what we can do.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

At least something's looking up, Adalira!

So sorry about the tendon. I've started working out again too. I miss the physical prowess I had when I was doing Martial Arts. I left just as I started to earn the title of "Martial Artist" because I was terrified of the responsibility of being a black belt. Stupidest decision of my life. Of course I was eleven, but still.

Good luck with the house, I hope that all works out nicely.

And about the lactation mansplaining. Even men can lactate and successfully feed children. I can't remember when, but I DO know that a European man fed his babies when his wife died in childbirth. (Just so the asshat can't say "well, probably only in little villages in Africa" or some such bullshit.)

[Merman Chatfish]

And about the lactation mansplaining. Even men can lactate and successfully feed children. I can't remember when, but I DO know that a European man fed his babies when his wife died in childbirth. (Just so the asshat can't say "well, probably only in little villages in Africa" or some such bullshit.) I want to do that...that way my wife can relax, plus a better bonding experience.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I want montrose merman's head on a stake

[AniaR]

I want montrose merman's head on a stake
What he do now?

[Mermaid Mystery]

he just popped up on my Facebook wall as a "suggested friend" and so I thought I'd look to see if he gave up or not. instead I see thishttp://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/08/02/dc77ff445a549c063bac51ac4f3c2bf7.jpg which has so many things wrong with it I don't know where to start

and he thinks he's going to merfest, lol nope if you think harassing everyone in the community including minors is okay you're probably not welcome

also I see him using his other account to like all his "burn" posts

[Echidna]

If he'd just posted the photo, it might have counted as a certain kind of humour.
But with that text...
no wonder this dude had a hard time at Merfest.

[SeaGlass Siren]

That's it. Burn the bitch.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I just went lookin for it and now I can't find it

[Fun123joker]

YOU GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME
THE ONE WEEK WE ARRIVE IN FLORDIA TO SWIM AND SHIT IS THE WEEK OF MY PERIOD. MY PARENTS WENT OUT TO BREAKFEST WITHOUT ME AND NOW I NEED TO SOMEHOW SMUGGLE TAMPONS BECAUSE MY MOM IS CRAZY RELIGOUS SHE WONT LET ME WEAR TAMPONS. I HAVE NO CASH AND MY ONLY HOPE IS MY DAD BUT BECAUSE HE'S A GOOD HUSBAND HE IS STILL GONNA TELL MY MOM

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK KKKKKKKKKKK

:soap box::anger explode: im probably gonna ask for money and see if there are any shops near by that sells them

[SeaGlass Siren]

shouldnt the ladies washrooms have 25cent tampon dispensers?

[Celaeno]

She won't let you wear tampons?! What?!

[Celaeno]

shouldnt the ladies washrooms have 25cent tampon dispensers?

Oh, good point!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Yeah there are a lot of religious people that believe if you shove anything up your vagina you lose your virginity. :|

[Lotus the Mermaid]

That's silly... Using tampons can make a woman's first time less painful. And her life so much easier. :'>

[Merman Dan]

Yeah there are a lot of religious people that believe if you shove anything up your vagina you lose your virginity. :|

Which brings to mind the age-old question of what do you call a bottle of virgin olive oil after you've opened it? ;)

[Celaeno]

Ugh...there's no such thing as virginity, it doesn't exist! I didn't lose anything, I made my sexual debut!

[SeaGlass Siren]

^i like you.

[Starfrit]

I AM SO FRUSTRATED, UGH. So we're finally getting a week of GORGEOUS weather, nearly 30c today and yesterday, super warm and sunny... And I can't go swimming in my tail. I'm avoiding the pools where I live because I've had a really hard time with the chlorine the last few times I went (plus the pools around here are really iffy about tails now because of all of the controversy in the news), so I want to go to the river outside of town, where I grew up, to swim around in fresh water and feel like a real mermaid and get a nice photoshoot and all that. But my boyfriend keeps arguing that the water's too cold, and won't listen to me when I tell him it'll be fine-- After all, the water around here is ALWAYS a little chilly no matter what kind of summer we're having, which is why I opted for a neoprene tail-- The last time I swam in it (which was, sadly, back at the beginning of March), it held heat like CRAZY. But Dave won't listen to me. >:T

I figured I might be able to change his mind this week, or at the very least find someone else to go with me... And then last night, I hit my period. So that basically means I can't swim for a week, because I can't use tampons. And I honestly don't know if the weather will last that long, because it's been nothing but rain and drizzle and frost warnings all summer up to this point (the weathermen in my province got arrested for the shit weather. (http://www.buzzfeed.com/craigsilverman/crimes-against-newfoundland-weather#.ak1k2BQlp) Yeah, that happened.) The forecast is even changing to drop to colder temps and start raining again later the week... :c

My tail is just sitting uselessly in my closet. :c All I want is ONE good outdoor swim, but it feels like everything is working against me! Is that so much to ask? DAMN YOU, UTERUS, YOU FILTHY SQUISHY TRAITOR.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Tampon troubles for you too eh?

[Celaeno]

Shark Week is ruining everything for everyone lately!

[Merman Dan]

Gee, the only trouble I ever had with tampons was the summer I learned to scuba dive. It was a popular prank to stuff tampons in people's snorkels. ;)

[SummerRogue]

Omg are all us mers syncing? *sinking*


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[PearlieMae]

:neener:

[SeaGlass Siren]

mine is synced with Echidna's. :P i finished a week ago

[Starfrit]

Gee, the only trouble I ever had with tampons was the summer I learned to scuba dive. It was a popular prank to stuff tampons in people's snorkels. ;)

That... That sounds kinda dangerous. 8C

I mean, why would anyone want to tampon tamper with someone else's diving equipment? D:



Omg are all us mers syncing? *sinking*

The thought of actually syncing my period with another human being is kind of unusually exciting to me-- I used to have really irregular periods and the closest to "syncing" I ever did with another female was when my periods would sync up with the shedding cycle of the family iguana... >->

[SeaGlass Siren]

when i used to live with my family (literally, dad was the only male in the house) Mom would start, then older sister, then me, then my younger sister. ... and now i have a niece and she should be getting hers soon 8|

[Echidna]

mine is synced with Echidna's. :P i finished a week ago

sounds about right


:neener:

:mad: :catfight:

[Mermaid Mystery]

well I'll add my two cents. it's shark week here too and I have two parties to go to. I hate this time of the month, it's always at the most inconvenient times.

[Fun123joker]

Yeah there are a lot of religious people that believe if you shove anything up your vagina you lose your virginity. :|

yep. thats excatly why. but tbh i still have worn them. actually it kinda makes me feel better about loosing my virginity because according to religon its already gone sooooo

oh btw problem solved. i just told them firmly that i had to go to CVS (even though we were there yesterday. lol im too lazy to keep track on what exact day it lands on)

[Starfrit]

lol im too lazy to keep track on what exact day it lands on

I know that feel. :T Turning 25 in a few months and I still can't track my period worth a damn. They used to be all over the place (anywhere from 1 to 3.5 months apart, with no pattern, for no reason) and even though they're monthly now I still completely forget about it. My boyfriend does a better job tracking my period than I do... XD

[Adalira]

So i have good news....my mother called me yesterday letting me know that she was in panic when she called me about the house and said some stupid things. That they were off course going to help us out with the house.
So that takes a lot of pressure off for sure.
Still i am under a lot of stress about what is next to come.
To top it off i had a complaint from a customer.
Pearliemae told me to get thicker skin when dealing with customers and i have done my best to get that.
I was doing great with it untill now with this customer.
So we ship worldwide and we never have had complaints (knock on wood) about items getting damaged apart from 1 woman with a magic wand which was an easy fix with a half a drop of glue.
In my second Etsy shop i sell craft supplies and we ship wedding doves, butterflies and birds all over the world from Asia to America to Australia etc.
I had an order from a woman here in the Netherlands our own country and off course she got a damaged dove GRRRR.
It is such an easy fix with half a drop of glue, i know because i tried but she is such a complainer now about how she ordered something in good condition and expected it not to be broken or damaged and she is soooo upset because now she has to go to the store to buy glue.
She is trying to get me to send her a new bird which i am not willing to do.
I have a policy that if people do not want insured shipping but standard shipping i am not responsible for damages.
First she said that the beak of the dove was not there, which i was 100% sure of it was because i double checked the order.
Then she said it was there in the box and how upset she was it got damaged.
She said that the box was perfect so it was not the shipping companies fault.
All it takes is half a drop of glue to fix it.
It is a craft wedding bird made out of styrofoam, feathers, sequins and the beak is i think out of paper.
Anyway, i had 1 of those birds with a defect that i put aside (i have a habit of not throwing things away cause it may come in handy one day) and i used that one (same as hers) to try to glue it.
I took of the beak and glued it back on. Half a drop and done.
So i want to send her a tube of the craft glue that i have in stock so she can't complain or leave a bad review.
But...the tube says that the glue is for all materials except styrofoam and the bird is made out of a styrofoam body, yet the glue works perfect.
A good friend of mine said not to send her the glue because she has another thing to complain about.
But the glue works, i think it does not work on bigger surfaces maybe but we are talking about a miniscule area where only half a drop of glue is needed and it works perfectly.
So what should i do?
Send her the glue and hope it makes her happy?
Or not send her the glue and wait for the bad review?
To glue or not to glue, that is my question....

[SeaGlass Siren]

Guys..(er.. ladies) i use the Clue App to track my periods. best damn thing ever. Laci Green was talking about it in one of her videos and i gave it a shot.

[Adalira]

Every since i have been on birth controll pills (since i was 15 i believe) i have had my periods like clockwork.
By the way, i did not get birth controll pills to actually controll birth or not having one for that matter lol.
No the doctor recommended it to me since my periods would take over a week each time, sometimes 8 to 9 days.
This way they are like clockwork and about 4 to 5 days each time.

[Mermaid Mystery]

yeah I'm on birth control so I can count out the weeks and it usually starts on Tuesdays.
I'm not using it for sex (although it's always good to have it) but I have really irregular periods, like I had one for a full two months and it was god awful.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I went on mine because i dont want kids :P easier to regulate my periods that way cuz they used to be 30+ days sometimes shorter.

[WaterDragon]

But...the tube says that the glue is for all materials except styrofoam and the bird is made out of a styrofoam body, yet the glue works perfect.
A good friend of mine said not to send her the glue because she has another thing to complain about.
But the glue works, i think it does not work on bigger surfaces maybe but we are talking about a miniscule area where only half a drop of glue is needed and it works perfectly.
So what should i do?
Send her the glue and hope it makes her happy?
Or not send her the glue and wait for the bad review?
To glue or not to glue, that is my question....

Most Glues will eat Styrofoam overtime. if you want to send her a glue you should look for one that is made for Styrofoam.

[Celaeno]

Guys..(er.. ladies) i use the Clue App to track my periods. best damn thing ever. Laci Green was talking about it in one of her videos and i gave it a shot.
I was using the same app to track my ovulation to avoid getting pregnant. I'm due in a month. :p

[Adalira]

Most Glues will eat Styrofoam overtime. if you want to send her a glue you should look for one that is made for Styrofoam.

The only other glue i have is superglue, the kind that glues stuff in 2 or 3 seconds.
it does not say anything about styrofoam on the tube so i have no idea if that would work.

[SeaGlass Siren]

xD.....

[Adalira]

I went on mine because i dont want kids :P easier to regulate my periods that way cuz they used to be 30+ days sometimes shorter.

Trust me, now i am using it not to get kids. Me and my hubby are not particularly fond of children to say the least lol

[Mermaid Mystery]

I counted everything and I'm on it for the most important holidays, Thanksgiving and Halloween.

[Celaeno]

Hubby is getting snipped after I have this one. I don't want back on the pill, I really dislike hormonal birth control, and IUDs just cause me more problems than they're worth.

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah. about the only benefit i get from it is no cramps. (hallelujah)

[WaterDragon]

The only other glue i have is superglue, the kind that glues stuff in 2 or 3 seconds.
it does not say anything about styrofoam on the tube so i have no idea if that would work.
I just did a quick Google search to see what glues will and wont eat Styrofoam and Super glue will eat it but normal white school glue apparently works just fine, rubber cement might also do the trick.

[Adalira]

I just did a quick Google search to see what glues will and wont eat Styrofoam and Super glue will eat it but normal white school glue apparently works just fine, rubber cement might also do the trick.

Thank you :-)
Off course i have no simple white school glue.
The doves are covered with a soft material like a fabric so i'm not even sure if the glue will come in contact with the styrofoam.
If she wants the glue i have i will send it to her.
She sent me a photo of the dove earlier and from what i can see, the fabric is still on the spot of the beak, the beak simply fell off without tearing the fabric away and exposing the styrofoam.

[WaterDragon]

Thank you :-)
Off course i have no simple white school glue.
The doves are covered with a soft material like a fabric so i'm not even sure if the glue will come in contact with the styrofoam.
If she wants the glue i have i will send it to her.
She sent me a photo of the dove earlier and from what i can see, the fabric is still on the spot of the beak, the beak simply fell off without tearing the fabric away and exposing the styrofoam.

I'm sorry I couldn't help you find a solution. if she does end up leaving a bad review try not to let it get you too down ok? the items you sell are really cute.

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.

[Merman Dan]

Hubby is getting snipped after I have this one. I don't want back on the pill, I really dislike hormonal birth control, and IUDs just cause me more problems than they're worth.

After our third, my wife had her tubes tied as she had complications during pregnancy. We adopted four more after that and have our eyes on another. :)

[Celaeno]

We're considering adopting a third down the road. :)

[Naufra]

You are not ann awful sister. You simply forgot.
You know what that makes you? That makes you human, nothing more, nothing less.
If you have told you brother that you simply forgot, that should have been enough for him.
The fact that he is now not wanting to see you is not your fault but his, and it is his loss nor yours.
From what you write i can see you are doing the best you can and the people that love you will now and will wait for a next time to be able to see you.
I have a friend who lives in the next town from me, we rarely see each other and we rarely email since she is very ill.
When she does email she is always apologetic and i always tell her to stop apologizing. We will see each other when we see each other and we will write when we write.
True friendship and truly loving and caring for someone means there is no time limit to when you have to see each other or write or anything.
So do not worry or beat yourself up about it.:hug:

Thanks, Adalira. I talked to my brother, and he's not upset, just disappointed we couldn't meet up this time. I'm disappointed that we couldn't hang out, too, because I don't know when I'll be in the area again, but I did see him last time I was around and maybe he could come to Texas someday and see me. ^_^

[Amphitrite]

I'm angry/anxious/overwhelmed/frustrated/screaming without making noise! @$:?+&4 :p Seriously if I ever have to try to put together my class schedule by comittee I will pull every single hair out of my scalp. I'd like to tell this person to back off but they really are too dense. >.<

[SeaMansa]

So. I live in Miami. And despite what many other people will tell you about this place (I'm always surprised to read what people have to say about this place because I disagree whole-heartedly) I love this place and never want to leave. I'm not a traveling person. All I need is here.
So imagine how I feel reading about all this global warming/climate change horror that basically says not only is my city going to be underwater within the century, but that our local government isn't doing anything to actually find a solution for it. So basically, from what I read, they are denying that its a problem despite the evidence and findings and we, as citizens, are basically just waiting around for sudden watery death.
My mother just causally showed me something uploaded from her facebook friend, who lives in a more northen part of FL, where its been raining for 23 days and its FLOODED. I cannot even. What the hell, America? Idk how I eil sleep at night with all this on my mind.
Life is scary.

[Merman Dan]

A solution for nature? Good luck with that. Look at the Hatteras Lighthouse (http://www.nps.gov/caha/learn/historyculture/movingthelighthouse.htm) on my own North Carolina Coast: "When completed in 1870, the Cape Hatteras lighthouse was located a safe 1,500 feet from the ocean... By 1970, this process, which has caused the gradual westward migration of the Outer Banks for at least the past 10,000 years, left the lighthouse just 120 feet from the ocean’s edge and almost certain destruction.". The best solution would be to live on a boat. ;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Yes. Find a boat and live on it.

[PearlieMae]

sounds about right



:mad: :catfight:

Yes, but the caveat is that I'm 55.

[Merman Dan]

Or the H20ME (http://www.ussubstructures.com/h2o.html)

http://www.ussubstructures.com/USSStructures-H2OME-bkg-stat.jpg

[PearlieMae]

...She is trying to get me to send her a new bird which i am not willing to do.
I have a policy that if people do not want insured shipping but standard shipping i am not responsible for damages.
First she said that the beak of the dove was not there, which i was 100% sure of it was because i double checked the order.
Then she said it was there in the box and how upset she was it got damaged.
She said that the box was perfect so it was not the shipping companies fault.
All it takes is half a drop of glue to fix it....
To glue or not to glue, that is my question....

"I have a policy that if people do not want insured shipping but standard shipping i am not responsible for damages." If it was damaged in the box, but the box was not damaged, it still counts as damaged in shipping.

She sounds like a total pain in the ass. You could:

A: refund the price of the bird and let her figure it out;

B: Tell her to glue it on with plain old white glue (PVA, school glue, Elmer's, it's all the same thing). NOT super glue or rubber cement, they have solvents that will eat the styrofoam;

C: Tell her to ship it back and you'll fix it...with 50/50 shipping. She pays to ship it to you, you pay to ship it back, on the understanding that she does not leave you a negative review.

D: Tell her to bite you, she didn't want to insure it, so if it got broken on its way to her, it's not your problem. Take the hit and live with the (potential) bad review. It's truly not the end of the world.

I got a less than good review from someone here on Mernetwork for an item that turned out darker than I'd pictured it! She was right, I didn't say it might not come out exactly as I photographed it. I was upset...for a minute. And guess what? We are still friends! :D

Good luck!

[Echidna]

I have looked into living on a boat, as living space here is insanely expensive.

Turns out a boat would be even MORE costly due to difficult water + electricity access, it would be horribly cold as heating is a problem, and on top you have to pay a fortune simply for your boat to be allowed to anchor anywhere.

:(
Oh yea, I also checked all lighthouses here, and jobs for lighthouse watcher.
There are none left, the houses operate fully automatic now and are closed down.

[Merman Dan]

Oh yea, I also checked all lighthouses here, and jobs for lighthouse watcher. There are none left, the houses operate fully automatic now and are closed down.

If you go to GSA Auctions (http://gsaauctions.gov/gsaauctions/aucindx/) and navigate to Real Estate then Lighthouse, you will find six lighthouses currently for sale. Granted most have lead paint and asbestos, remain active aids to navigation and thus have automated fog signals that would damage the human ear, have restrictive historical covenants that have to be followed, and some may only be purchased by a non-profit.

I tried to buy one, years ago... long story, there.

[Echidna]

lead paint and asbestos, remain active aids to navigation and thus have automated fog signals that would damage the human ear

that would be a big no-no.

Better to invest in a tiny island.
You know I'd be totally up for a joint venture with that.

Even though my cats would probably divorce me. They are norwegian forest breeds.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I want to see the kitties! I have Norwegian elkhounds lol. and I'm hoping in the future I'll find a place that isn't expensive as hell, definitely not in California but somewhere.

[Adalira]

"I have a policy that if people do not want insured shipping but standard shipping i am not responsible for damages." If it was damaged in the box, but the box was not damaged, it still counts as damaged in shipping.

She sounds like a total pain in the ass. You could:

A: refund the price of the bird and let her figure it out;

B: Tell her to glue it on with plain old white glue (PVA, school glue, Elmer's, it's all the same thing). NOT super glue or rubber cement, they have solvents that will eat the styrofoam;

C: Tell her to ship it back and you'll fix it...with 50/50 shipping. She pays to ship it to you, you pay to ship it back, on the understanding that she does not leave you a negative review.

D: Tell her to bite you, she didn't want to insure it, so if it got broken on its way to her, it's not your problem. Take the hit and live with the (potential) bad review. It's truly not the end of the world.

I got a less than good review from someone here on Mernetwork for an item that turned out darker than I'd pictured it! She was right, I didn't say it might not come out exactly as I photographed it. I was upset...for a minute. And guess what? We are still friends! :D

Good luck!

Thank you PearlieMae!
I wrote to the woman last night offering her the glue and she accepted it.
Offering the glue would be the cheapest solutions since the shipping is only €1.38.
The way she wrote to me showed what a pain in the ass she was and that she was trying to get something for free.
This is the first and last time i will do it though.
It just so happened to come at th worst time when i'm under so much stress from the house being sold and just wanted her and her problem go away.
I went to you Etsy shop to read the review and if it is the 1 star review then i agree with your answer, that 1 star was very harsh and unfair.
Great to hear that you are still friends though! :-)

[Adalira]

I have looked into living on a boat, as living space here is insanely expensive.

Turns out a boat would be even MORE costly due to difficult water + electricity access, it would be horribly cold as heating is a problem, and on top you have to pay a fortune simply for your boat to be allowed to anchor anywhere.

:(
Oh yea, I also checked all lighthouses here, and jobs for lighthouse watcher.
There are none left, the houses operate fully automatic now and are closed down.

I'm so sorry to hear that Echidna! :-(
have you tried looking into a really old crappy house, like a fixer upper so to speak.
A house you can buy for dirt cheap and fix up yourself over time?
How about land? Is that expensive to buy? Just the land without a house on it, cause then you have the option of building a house on it yourself.

[Adalira]

So. I live in Miami. And despite what many other people will tell you about this place (I'm always surprised to read what people have to say about this place because I disagree whole-heartedly) I love this place and never want to leave. I'm not a traveling person. All I need is here.
So imagine how I feel reading about all this global warming/climate change horror that basically says not only is my city going to be underwater within the century, but that our local government isn't doing anything to actually find a solution for it. So basically, from what I read, they are denying that its a problem despite the evidence and findings and we, as citizens, are basically just waiting around for sudden watery death.
My mother just causally showed me something uploaded from her facebook friend, who lives in a more northen part of FL, where its been raining for 23 days and its FLOODED. I cannot even. What the hell, America? Idk how I eil sleep at night with all this on my mind.
Life is scary.

I know what you mean. The world is changing and it is scary!
Not only the temperatures are changing, the weather etc....also nature is changing rapidly and not for the better.
When i see photos of people at the beach and leaving their trash behind when they go home, the trash then getting into the ocean it pisses me off.
And it is not only at the beach.
Here in the Netherlands the government had commercials on tv about how we, the people, should not have any more lights on in our house then neccessary. So no more garden lights to create atmosphere etc because it is wastefull. Funny thing is though when you drive on the highway or anywhere at night the big industrial companies and big companies next to the road have all the huge lamps on all night long all over the place. We do not hear anyone telling them to shut those down at night.
We are getting more and more windmills to get green energy.
I believe that in Denmark 25% from the electricity is coming from windmills which is great.
I still have hope for a better future though!
There is always hope!

[PearlieMae]

Thank you PearlieMae!
I wrote to the woman last night offering her the glue and she accepted it.
Offering the glue would be the cheapest solutions since the shipping is only €1.38.
The way she wrote to me showed what a pain in the ass she was and that she was trying to get something for free.
This is the first and last time i will do it though.
It just so happened to come at th worst time when i'm under so much stress from the house being sold and just wanted her and her problem go away.
I went to you Etsy shop to read the review and if it is the 1 star review then i agree with your answer, that 1 star was very harsh and unfair.
Great to hear that you are still friends though! :-)

Hahaha! Actually that review was recent, from an Etsy newbie who made me crazy with emails! It was an unfair review, and I gave her a chance to take a refund, or as Etsy says "kiss and make up", but she blew me off.

I've already moved on. :D

You've got enough stress to deal with.I'm glad you found a solution that didn't make you nuts! Good luck!

[Meronica]

To any of you with an Etsy account, I've got a problem. I ordered a mermaid crown from a certain seller who I will not disclose other than over PM until this is solved, but it's been over a month and it still hasn't been shipped nor have I been given so much as a picture update, despite many promises that it is "just about finished, and I should expect a picture within a day or two".

I opened an Etsy case, and today she closed it and told Etsy that I was given a refund through Paypal, but that didn't happen and she sent me another message saying that she is almost done with it (yet again) and that I should expect pictures in a day or two (yet again). Obviously summer is mermaid season and at this point I would prefer a refund since this has turned into such a headache, I know she's lying, and I'm sick of waiting. But does anyone experienced with selling on Etsy know what I can do about her closing the case and lying about giving me a refund? :/


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[Celaeno]

You should be able to open a case through PayPal itself to get a refund, but if all else fails, contact your bank and tell them you want to initiate a chargeback due to non-receipt of item.

[Mermaid Mystery]

smiles can't tell the difference between worms and fingers. back to square one, ugh.

[Starfrit]

To any of you with an Etsy account, I've got a problem. I ordered a mermaid crown from a certain seller who I will not disclose other than over PM until this is solved, but it's been over a month and it still hasn't been shipped nor have I been given so much as a picture update, despite many promises that it is "just about finished, and I should expect a picture within a day or two".

I opened an Etsy case, and today she closed it and told Etsy that I was given a refund through Paypal, but that didn't happen and she sent me another message saying that she is almost done with it (yet again) and that I should expect pictures in a day or two (yet again). Obviously summer is mermaid season and at this point I would prefer a refund since this has turned into such a headache, I know she's lying, and I'm sick of waiting. But does anyone experienced with selling on Etsy know what I can do about her closing the case and lying about giving me a refund? :/

Oh HEEEELLLLL no. That is fraudulent as hell and I would report that to Etsy PRONTO. If you have notes from her admitting that she lied and didn't refund you, screencap and send them in along with your report (if you can include links to the notes themselves, do that too; admins can access them in cases like these). Do NOT let her get away with it, and if you're still within PayPal's protection window, file a charge back IMMEDIATELY. Otherwise, go to your bank and explain the situation, and they can help you get your money back from there.

File the chargebacks, tell her you're not backing down until you get ABSOLUTE PROOF that damn crown is done. No more stringing you along— "Pics now, or GTFO!"

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ what tieri says.
bitch better have yo money!!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

This is a direct copy paste from my facebook.

Guys, let's stop trying to undermine important issues with other issues that are probably as important.
One is not worse than the other, one should not be given more attention than the other. If you care about an issue that's great. But don't be like "uhhh what about this?? Pay attention to this!!"

[Adalira]

Oh HEEEELLLLL no. That is fraudulent as hell and I would report that to Etsy PRONTO. If you have notes from her admitting that she lied and didn't refund you, screencap and send them in along with your report (if you can include links to the notes themselves, do that too; admins can access them in cases like these). Do NOT let her get away with it, and if you're still within PayPal's protection window, file a charge back IMMEDIATELY. Otherwise, go to your bank and explain the situation, and they can help you get your money back from there.

File the chargebacks, tell her you're not backing down until you get ABSOLUTE PROOF that damn crown is done. No more stringing you along— "Pics now, or GTFO!"

Could not have said it better myself.
Totally agree!!

[Adalira]

So i have 3 Etsy shops now.
1 Of the shops has more antique and vintage home and garden items.
My first sale on there was to a woman in China.
She sent me an email prior to ordering to ask how long delivery would take and i told her.
I also let her know that every order is shipped out with standard shipping which is the cheapest method for our customers.
That means there is no tracking number. But we do make photos at the post office when they put the official stamps on it and send these photos to our customers to show proof that their order has been shipped out.
I told this woman that shipping is normally with standard shipping, so no tracking number but if she wanted a tracking number i could change the shipping costs in Etsy fr her (it is €6.30 extra to get a tracking number. The Dutch Postal Services are very expensive with international shipping) and her reply was literally : "no thanks !!haha"
So we shipped it out as a standard package without a tracking number.
We shipped it out on June 5th and she has not received it and off course her first email to us was:" Can you give me the tracking number please."
I was like.... what the h..... she did not want a tracking number and now she is asking for one?
So i explained to her that she did not want a tracking number therefor there is none.
Anyway, she has emailed me a couple of times after that telling me it still did not arrive.
So i told her to contact customs in her country to ask if they are holding on to it for some reason.
She has photos of what the package looks like and the information on top of it so she can simply send that to customs to make it easier.
She wrote to me again today since she says she does not know how to contact customs and she really did not receive anything yet.
So i explained to her agaih how she can contact customs, 1 by contacting your postal service in your country and asking them how to contact them, and 2 by looking on google.
I have already contacted the Dutch Postal Service to ask if there were any delays to China and gave them her adress and they said there were no delays as far as they know but since there is no tracking number they can't help any further.
I understand it is upsetting not to have a tracking number but she said she did not want one since it costs extra.
The reason we ship everything with standard mail, is because it is a lot cheaper than with a tracking number and normally everything arrives.
This is the first time ever that someone has not received something.
If we start listing our items as shipping with a tracking number i believe our sales will start dropping because it is so much more expensive.
And i have the information on our Etsy shop on different places (even at our "welcome" message. So i believe we have done everything right here.
It annoys me though that she said:"no thanks !!haha" and now starts complaining and being upset. :catfight:

[Merman Chatfish]

At work today the rest of the lifeguards and managers started playing musical chairs. Its where they run around taking each others chairs and whoever is not in a chair when the pool closes loses. And of course people are still swimming while the guards are doing this. I absolutely hate it and refused to play. What would you think if you saw the lifeguards who should prepared to rescue your kid if they drown start playing this game?

[Madison MerFaerie]

What would you think if you saw the lifeguards who should prepared to rescue your kid if they drown start playing this game?

I think that's completely inappropriate. If anything happened at the pool and response time of the lifeguards was questionable in any way due to them playing a game…Oh man, you guys would probably be in for a world of hurt liability-wise.

[PearlieMae]

That's very unprofessional and potentially dangerous.

[Merman Chatfish]

I know if I say something this is going to be a response and when I asked a parent about what she thought she gave the same answer..."they are just blowing off steam and its fine...theres only 6 people in the water" (we always have 12 on deck and 4 are suppose to be on break in the guard room incase of an emergency).

[CheshireKat]

Barbecue Jesus Truck.

First time I saw the truck with the jesus covered in flames and the whole 'homosexuality/sex/basic science/etc is sinful and you're gonna burn' schtik, I thought it was a barbecue food truck. I legitimately believed it was a barbecue truck
I was like 'Look honey, BARBECUE!' and then I noticed the jesus on it and was like, 'well ok, maybe they're a mission being cool and feeding homeless people and stuff and being y'now cool human beings to each other'. I also may have been hungry. Hunger was a factor.

But no, it was just some assholes driving around in a creepy truck with a tortured dead guy burning alive on it threatening others to worship him or face death and torture. Totally makes me want to know more about your religion guys, way to go.

Anyway then my brain immediately supplied me with this label: Barbecue Jesus Truck.

And now everytime I see that truck I point and yell 'Barbecue Jesus Truck!' and get a hankering for barbecue.
.
TL:DR: Invest in a marketer so you don't end up as the Barbecue Jesus Truck. If you really want to draw people to your banner, don't treat them like shit by telling them they're a bad person and they're going to suffer because you don't agree with their lifestyle.

It just makes me want to walk by you flipping you the bird on my way to a barbacue joint owned by LGBTQ people.

:: steps off of soapbox and goes to find barbecue ::

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[Lotus the Mermaid]

Ugh, I hope someone makes him paint over it. Maybe something along the lines of "Jesus said love." :) <3

[CheshireKat]

At this point it's a running joke where we live; and they can only hang out in certain businesses cause they learned if they were in the parking lot people boycotted the business. It's sad cause thay could be doing so much good, and instead they just decide to spew viritrol. Such a waste.

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[Madison MerFaerie]

I know if I say something this is going to be a response and when I asked a parent about what she thought she gave the same answer..."they are just blowing off steam and its fine...theres only 6 people in the water" (we always have 12 on deck and 4 are suppose to be on break in the guard room incase of an emergency).

I find it surprising, ridiculous, and sad that a parent felt that way. I would be really upset! Six people in the water is six opportunities for an accident to occur and your co-workers would have been delayed in their response because they weren't doing their jobs… I'm glad that you, a responsible adult, are around to make sure the pool is safe.

[Keiris]

Ugh, I hope someone makes him paint over it. Maybe something along the lines of "Jesus said love." :) <3

Lotus, your kind heart will reach FAR MANY MORE people than a disgraceful image like that painted on the side of a van. I somehow doubt that Jesus would be proud of that. More likely he would be sad/angry of the image that it projects of him towards others.

[CheshireKat]

Apparently I heard from one of my friends that they have a Barbecue Jesus Hummer too. At this point they're kinda just a running joke. :: shrugs ::

And Lotus that soapbox rant wasn't directed in any way towards you or any other of the awesome Christians; I <3 you guys! It's more because since the aweful shooting in Chattanooga,Tn and the WBC coming and just being horrid in general, they tend to rile up others like them and it's frustrating that someone can be so callous to another person.

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[Merman Chatfish]

I find it surprising, ridiculous, and sad that a parent felt that way. I would be really upset! Six people in the water is six opportunities for an accident to occur and your co-workers would have been delayed in their response because they weren't doing their jobs… I'm glad that you, a responsible adult, are around to make sure the pool is safe.

Thank you. I talked to our manager's manager and he agrees with me, but thats not to say it will stop...people tend not to listen.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Does anyone have a person in their life that just... whenever they talk, it just grates on you? Sadly, my husband's best friend is that person for me. x-x

And he lives with us...

He's one of those people that always feels he's right no matter what, and he's not a naturally selfless person. He's a naturally selfish person. He's also manipulated us into allowing him to stay for half the price that we agreed upon. He moved his stuff into our new house literally before we did. Originally, he wasn't even going to pay us more than $20/mo apparently, even though he has a great job and is capable of paying the appropriate amount. (He's said this himself). Because he moved in and pretended he didn't hear me say that it's $200/mo the three different times that I said this. Lunette witnessed one of those three times. My husband doesn't even believe that he manipulated us, because he trusts him. But I confronted him about it (nicely) and I know that he's guilty of manipulation from how he flipped out on me. I assumed he was innocent, too. I really wanted to believe he was...

Anyway, so I just can't wait for October when he moves out. I just can't stand him and trying to be nice to him so that he doesn't ask me if there's something bothering me and I want to shout at him, "It's you! You're what's bothering me!" Sigh... :(

[Mermaid Lunette]

Does anyone have a person in their life that just... whenever they talk, it just grates on you? Sadly, my husband's best friend is that person for me. x-x

And he lives with us...

He's one of those people that always feels he's right no matter what, and he's not a naturally selfless person. He's a naturally selfish person. He's also manipulated us into allowing him to stay for half the price that we agreed upon. He moved his stuff into our new house literally before we did. Originally, he wasn't even going to pay us more than $20/mo apparently, even though he has a great job and is capable of paying the appropriate amount. (He's said this himself). Because he moved in and pretended he didn't hear me say that it's $200/mo the three different times that I said this. Lunette witnessed one of those three times. My husband doesn't even believe that he manipulated us, because he trusts him. But I confronted him about it (nicely) and I know that he's guilty of manipulation from how he flipped out on me. I assumed he was innocent, too. I really wanted to believe he was...

Anyway, so I just can't wait for October when he moves out. I just can't stand him and trying to be nice to him so that he doesn't ask me if there's something bothering me and I want to shout at him, "It's you! You're what's bothering me!" Sigh... :(

so sorry he is still being a bother :'( it is so sad that your hubby cankt see it :/
like, he gaslighted you and i saw it and just, it is so upsetting. the year has been going by really fast though! october will be here soon!!!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

so sorry he is still being a bother :'( it is so sad that your hubby cankt see it :/
like, he gaslighted you and i saw it and just, it is so upsetting. the year has been going by really fast though! october will be here soon!!!
I think it would be easier to get over it if I didn't have to see him every day. But until he moves out, I've taken really big strides in forgiving him, but I'm still annoyed by him and therefore, I just avoid him as much as possible. (T-T)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh, Lotus. Good luck with that parasitic piece of... urg! That sounds like a really annoying and hurtful situation.

[Celaeno]

Does anyone have a person in their life that just... whenever they talk, it just grates on you? Sadly, my husband's best friend is that person for me. x-x

And he lives with us...

He's one of those people that always feels he's right no matter what, and he's not a naturally selfless person. He's a naturally selfish person. He's also manipulated us into allowing him to stay for half the price that we agreed upon. He moved his stuff into our new house literally before we did. Originally, he wasn't even going to pay us more than $20/mo apparently, even though he has a great job and is capable of paying the appropriate amount. (He's said this himself). Because he moved in and pretended he didn't hear me say that it's $200/mo the three different times that I said this. Lunette witnessed one of those three times. My husband doesn't even believe that he manipulated us, because he trusts him. But I confronted him about it (nicely) and I know that he's guilty of manipulation from how he flipped out on me. I assumed he was innocent, too. I really wanted to believe he was...

Anyway, so I just can't wait for October when he moves out. I just can't stand him and trying to be nice to him so that he doesn't ask me if there's something bothering me and I want to shout at him, "It's you! You're what's bothering me!" Sigh... :(

Your husband thinks $20/month is fair compensation? This 'friend' of his sounds like a nightmare! I'd draw up a rental contract stating the correct amount and make him sign it if he wants to stay.

[Celaeno]

Thank you. I talked to our manager's manager and he agrees with me, but thats not to say it will stop...people tend not to listen.

I'm glad you brought to higher management's attention.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Lotus, your kind heart will reach FAR MANY MORE people than a disgraceful image like that painted on the side of a van. I somehow doubt that Jesus would be proud of that. More likely he would be sad/angry of the image that it projects of him towards others.

I just saw this! Thank you so much! Yes, I agree. I believe that messages like that can be likened to something the Pharisees would say, spreading hate and division instead of grace and love, and those were the people Jesus was angry with in Scripture so... :1

And thanks, Cheshire! I knew you wouldn't aim anything at anyone! Don't worry!!! I agree. I don't understand how people can be so inhumane toward others. I know not everyone understands how to empathize with others completely, but only sociopaths can't do it at all. x-x

Celaeno and Sabriba, you're so sweet. I really want to kick him out, but he's been my husband's friend for years and he still considers himself my friend, though I don't know if that's even true anymore. As Lunette stated, she was the one who noticed it based on what I described to her from the situation. I felt so stupid and I hate to admit it, but I had to keep from crying in the middle of Wall-Mart when she made me realize it sounds like he manipulated us. (We were buying pins for the tail). (╯︵╰,) I'm so thankful she did, though! It occurred to me that it was possible, I've seen him sort of manipulate others on a smaller scale. But for him to manipulate US, his friends, seemed extremely unlikely. I thought he respected us more than that. But he's a narcissist through and through. And that much I did know, but because he's never been cruel to us and had always actually seemed to care, I thought he at least had a "heart of gold." But no... So now, I just avoid him. He already got in my nerves before but I thought it was just me being impatient with his personality. Every time I talk to him, he mansplains to me how his opinion is right and mine is wrong. X-x; it's very irritating... But oh well. At least my friend Jaz is moving in and she knows about the situation and is very sweet and protective of me so hopefully, that will help!!
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[Mermaid Lunette]

I just saw this! Thank you so much! Yes, I agree. I believe that messages like that can be likened to something the Pharisees would say, spreading hate and division instead of grace and love, and those were the people Jesus was angry with in Scripture so... :1

And thanks, Cheshire! I knew you wouldn't aim anything at anyone! Don't worry!!! I agree. I don't understand how people can be so inhumane toward others. I know not everyone understands how to empathize with others completely, but only sociopaths can't do it at all. x-x

Celaeno and Sabriba, you're so sweet. I really want to kick him out, but he's been my husband's friend for years and he still considers himself my friend, though I don't know if that's even true anymore. As Lunette stated, she was the one who noticed it based on what I described to her from the situation. I felt so stupid and I hate to admit it, but I had to keep from crying in the middle of Wall-Mart when she made me realize it sounds like he manipulated us. (We were buying pins for the tail). (╯︵╰,) I'm so thankful she did, though! It occurred to me that it was possible, I've seen him sort of manipulate others on a smaller scale. But for him to manipulate US, his friends, seemed extremely unlikely. I thought he respected us more than that. But he's a narcissist through and through. And that much I did know, but because he's never been cruel to us and had always actually seemed to care, I thought he at least had a "heart of gold." But no... So now, I just avoid him. He already got in my nerves before but I thought it was just me being impatient with his personality. Every time I talk to him, he mansplains to me how his opinion is right and mine is wrong. X-x; it's very irritating... But oh well. At least my friend Jaz is moving in and she knows about the situation and is very sweet and protective of me so hopefully, that will help!!
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i mean, the situation happened because you are a good trusting person whom wants to assume and believe that everyone is decent, which is a good quality! but unfortunately some people just aren't very decent. at least you are aware of the situation now so you can be knowledge. silver lining?

also, yay! jazz!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

i mean, the situation happened because you are a good trusting person whom wants to assume and believe that everyone is decent, which is a good quality! but unfortunately some people just aren't very decent. at least you are aware of the situation now so you can be knowledge. silver lining?

also, yay! jazz!

That is definitely a silver lining. :)
I appreciate you helping me to realize for sure that's what was happening!! And yes, she's moving in this week! Already moved her mattress in yesterday. So yay~ <3

[Celaeno]

He's being very disrespectful to you in your own home. If he won't listen to you because you're a woman, I'd have a talk with your husband. At the very least he should be piping up with a "You can't talk to my wife like that."

[Lotus the Mermaid]

He's being very disrespectful to you in your own home. If he won't listen to you because you're a woman, I'd have a talk with your husband. At the very least he should be piping up with a "You can't talk to my wife like that."
I agree. It's really very frustrating in every way. But to be fair, my husband wasn't in the room when I got my confirmation that he was DEFINITELY manipulating us. And I never actually talked to him about it because it was so hurtful and disheartening. He was extremely disrespectful to me and to Lunette behind her back (I've already told her) because she helped me to realize his manipulation by helping me to remember that I had made myself clear in her presence as to how much the rent was. I told my hubby just a minute ago how I'd really like for us to ask his friend to leave and explained that it's because of how he treated me when I confronted him (about something only partially related to the subject - how he didn't listen to me when I told him how much rent was and that hurt my feelings. I said this because I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt still and hope that he really simply didn't hear me or something). So I really don't feel comfortable with him living with us anymore. My husband's response was entirely understanding and he's all right with us asking him to leave. I just don't feel that I can wait another two months with him here... I want to have peace with him since he's my hubby's best friend, but I feel the best way to acquire that peace would be to have him leave. Sigh... :(

[Celaeno]

You definitely need your sanity. I'm glad your husband is backing you up.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Lotus... First off I'm very glad he is being kicked out, and that your husband is understanding.
Second... I think your husband needs to find a better friend :/

[IllynReaver]

@Lotus Glad to hear he's moving out, that's a horrible situation to be in. :(

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Thanks, all. I'm really glad my hubby has my back in this situation. He always does, but we've never dealt with a situation like this before so I got insecure. X-x

He pointed out something that I never realized, too. Evidently, a lot of our arguments over the years we've been together have been about this friend. (Only when we've been forced to interact often like when they lived together before). That is a bad sign! He always puts me first and he reiterated that tonight, but man... I would LOVE to never have to deal with this guy again. T-T

Anyway, thank you all so much for your support!! I'll let you know when the situation changes. Hugs and love to all!! :hugs: <3

[Mermaid Lunette]

yes! so glad to hear he might move out :D (it has been difficult to hold my tongue when i come over)

[NerineArcticMermaid]

:mad:
:headwall:
5hrs of editing over the last week...

STUPID F*&$% program. crashes..reloads autosave...crashes again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

UGH!!! I wa so close to finishing IllynReavers video!! It was beautiful and etherial!

[Adalira]

Thanks, all. I'm really glad my hubby has my back in this situation. He always does, but we've never dealt with a situation like this before so I got insecure. X-x

He pointed out something that I never realized, too. Evidently, a lot of our arguments over the years we've been together have been about this friend. (Only when we've been forced to interact often like when they lived together before). That is a bad sign! He always puts me first and he reiterated that tonight, but man... I would LOVE to never have to deal with this guy again. T-T

Anyway, thank you all so much for your support!! I'll let you know when the situation changes. Hugs and love to all!! :hugs: <3

I agree with what everyone else has already said about the matter.
This so called friend needs to move out of your house pronto!
I'm happy to hear that your hubby is on your side and is willing to ask him to leave, that must be such a relief!
Out with the manipulator and in with the peace and quiet!
Good luck! :hug:

[Adalira]

For anyone of you who is thinking of taking someone in to stay.....here is a saying a friend of mine told me and it sure is the truth :" Guests are like fish, after 3 days it starts to stink."
My parents had guests in their house in Denmark last week and boy oh boy was that awful for them.
My brother and his wife were there and another couple....this is a tiny house they have and in my eyes not big enough for 6 people.
The couple did not pay for ANYTHING! and let my parents pay for everything. These were not my parents guests by the way but my brothers
My brother gave my parents money to pay for stuff.
On the second last day my brother, his wife and the couple played a concert together and when they got paid my brother said:" I will give the money from this concert to my parents to pay for the expenses ok?"
And guess what the couple said? The said:" No, we want our share since we still have to do concerts in Sweden and want the money for travels."
Guests are just lovely :thumbdown:

[Mermaid Mystery]

my anxiety level has been so dangerously high lately and I don't know why. I go back to school tomorrow and I don't want to. I'm thinking of applying for a job that I can't apply for until I have my drivers license. I'm bored with drivers ed, it gives me more anxiety because it makes everything sound hard and I'm scared of all these laws. I have to take the SATs this year and I just want to crawl under a rock and die. Also, if I took the job I'm thinking about I wouldn't be working with some of my lifelong friends and it wouldn't be my second home. I don't think I'd have to quit that job since its twice a week during summer and once every two weeks during the school year but what if I do? I don't get paid for that job but I would for the other one. I have problems with both facilities as well, one more than the other. I'd be working with more animals and cooler ones at that but is it worth it? I'm getting so close and climbing the ladder so quickly and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I can give that all up, and if I started at a new facility I bet they'd make me start from the beginning which is so tiring. I'm going to probably be thinking about this for weeks now, which means I won't concentrate on important things like sleeping and school. I really don't like this whole growing up thing.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Yeah, growing up sucks.

I work at a library and I love it, but still. The added resonsibility of working is scary. You're going into your Junior year? I'm going into Senior.

Is there any way to keep both jobs? I wouldn't want to throw away progress either. Not that I've made much at my library. (I just shelve)

Good luck. I'm sure either or both will open up new possibilities and broaden pathways.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I hate having more adult responsibilities. I am going into junior year, even though I only was in actual school for a semester last year. I'm thinking I could keep both, because one isn't full time and the other says they have a flexible schedule. I think it would be good to broaden my horizons since I've had my heart set on an unrealistic job for years and it's time to break out of my comfort zone. Thank you

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Both is good. New jobs are good for broadening horizons.

I was sure I was gonna be a cop for years, then I started working at a library, which meshes much better with the prospect of mermaiding. And my bibliophilic tendencies.

Yay.

[Mermaid Mystery]

they're both in the same department, just different locations. one of their animals is one of our animals' brother! I met him today which totally has me excited. I love certain aspects of both jobs, I guess I should check out pros and cons? this is new to me, I never really put thought into moving locations.

[Adalira]

You actually get paid for working in a library?
In the Netherlands that is considered more of a volunteer job, meaning no pay.

I understand that growing up is scary.
Especially with all the responsibilities.
Usually when you live at home, meals are cooked for you, laundry gets washed, the house gets cleaned, errands get run etc.
When you are on your own it means doing it all yourself not to mention the stress of paying all your bills, working or going to school or even doing both.
It is very scary.
My hubby is 25 and still has trouble adapting to this life.
Even long back for the days where i could just stay in bed and watch cartoons as a kid, or play outside with not a care in the world.
Growing up sucks, but there is no way out of it, unless you marry a millionair i guess lol or become one yourself ;-)
As far as your job, if you need the money from the one job then take it.
It's sad to say it but money is what you need to survive, meaning pay your bills, pay for food etc.
If you can keep both, that is even better.
You can always choose later if needed.
The best of both worlds sounds perfect for you at this time.
I would suggest taking a day or afternoon of.
Like a Sunday afternoon and just do whatever it is that you want to do.
For me a Sunday afternoon means laying in bed and watching a long dvd with some chocolate.....aaaahh.....heaven :-)

Working in a library sounds so awesome!
I love books, i love reading, i love peace and quiet, i love being surrounded by books!
If only they paid you to work at them here, i would have definitely went for it.
Congrats on such an awesome job!

[CheshireKat]

:: gently nudges pretty shinies and comfort food towards Nerine:: :: cautious hugs :: it will be glorious, and this is just a temporary setback.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Ah but it's not just reading and putting books away :P *states at library tech diploma on my wall*

its a lot of cataloging new books, weeding outdated books, setting up programs for the community so guests can come back, shipping and reviewing books for inter library loans, acquisitions, promoting books and people, not to mention dealing with theft and hobos, and copyright laws....

[Adalira]

What you described still sounds like an awesome job to me! :)
Love love love books!

[Sephina]

Sadly I'm seriously considering leaving mermaiding. The thought alone makes me pretty depressed, but in the past two years I've seem in my tail maybe 3 times. I just don't get to use my tail enough to really justify it. I don't really have much of a pod near me, so no one to swim with. It just depresses me that I have something I put do much money into, only to never use it. I feel like it would be better off with someone who could use it on a regular basis.

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[PearlieMae]

:(

I swim solo all the time! I don't have a swimmable tail right now AND I MAKE THEM!

Don't give it up if you truly love the feeling of gliding through the water...your signature gif is so graceful, you clearly have a knack for it...so maybe there's a little setback...you'll get past it!

Swim on, sister! :mermaid kiss:

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Maybe you could get another monofin, one that fits all foot sizes, then bring that to the pool each time you go to the pool. You might end up with a swimming buddy.

I swim alone too. Got me eye candies to look at on the side, waiting to rescue someone... Hahaha!

[Naufra]

I just saw this! Thank you so much! Yes, I agree. I believe that messages like that can be likened to something the Pharisees would say, spreading hate and division instead of grace and love, and those were the people Jesus was angry with in Scripture so... :1

And thanks, Cheshire! I knew you wouldn't aim anything at anyone! Don't worry!!! I agree. I don't understand how people can be so inhumane toward others. I know not everyone understands how to empathize with others completely, but only sociopaths can't do it at all. x-x

Celaeno and Sabriba, you're so sweet. I really want to kick him out, but he's been my husband's friend for years and he still considers himself my friend, though I don't know if that's even true anymore. As Lunette stated, she was the one who noticed it based on what I described to her from the situation. I felt so stupid and I hate to admit it, but I had to keep from crying in the middle of Wall-Mart when she made me realize it sounds like he manipulated us. (We were buying pins for the tail). (╯︵╰,) I'm so thankful she did, though! It occurred to me that it was possible, I've seen him sort of manipulate others on a smaller scale. But for him to manipulate US, his friends, seemed extremely unlikely. I thought he respected us more than that. But he's a narcissist through and through. And that much I did know, but because he's never been cruel to us and had always actually seemed to care, I thought he at least had a "heart of gold." But no... So now, I just avoid him. He already got in my nerves before but I thought it was just me being impatient with his personality. Every time I talk to him, he mansplains to me how his opinion is right and mine is wrong. X-x; it's very irritating... But oh well. At least my friend Jaz is moving in and she knows about the situation and is very sweet and protective of me so hopefully, that will help!!
ヽ（´ー｀）┌

Let me know if you need this guy's ass kicked, I'll sort him out for you. After that, I'll help move all his stuff out. ^_^

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I agree with what everyone else has already said about the matter.
This so called friend needs to move out of your house pronto!
I'm happy to hear that your hubby is on your side and is willing to ask him to leave, that must be such a relief!
Out with the manipulator and in with the peace and quiet!
Good luck! :hug:

Thank you so much. :hug:
I can't express how much this community means to me. There are so many amazing mers on here! I'm very happy that my hubby is on my side, as well. I love him.
We have two other guests that we've known a long time, too, but they've both been fantastic and paid the rent on time and everything. We love giving our friends a place in our home. I've just determined now that this guy is not our friend. And I totally understand and agree with your friend's saying when it comes to guests that are total strangers. They can end up being selfish people and taking advantage. And evidently, even when you know them, but they're already selfish. :< Thankful that he's almost out the door...

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Let me know if you need this guy's ass kicked, I'll sort him out for you. After that, I'll help move all his stuff out. ^_^

Omg, thank you!!! I really appreciate that. I promise I'll let you know! XD

[IllynReaver]

@Sephina. I swim alone as well. Like others have said, maybe get a separate monofin and swim that way at a pool? Never know who you might run into that's been wanting to do something like mermaiding. Hell I've found people I work with interested in it when I started mentioning swimming and showed them some pictures.


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[Adalira]

Totally agree here.
I have swimmed alone myself as well. At first it was akward for me but the pool i swam at was so nice and magical (it's build like a jungle and you swim under the stars) that i soon lost myself in the fantasy of the pool and swam away every Friday morning (only time i was allowed there with the tail)
I'm sad not to swim anymore due to health reasons but i want to start again someday anyway, i just love it too much!

Here is a link with photos of the awesome pool i swam at:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7dcW56KsuM

[IllynReaver]

What an amazing pool!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Mansplaining at 7am in the morning about being pro life. Ugh.
but seeing meilyn own him was pretty entertaining.

[Keiris]

Mansplaining at 7am in the morning about being pro life. Ugh.
but seeing meilyn own him was pretty entertaining.
SeaGlass you are so funny with your term, "mansplaining." Every time I see it, it makes me chuckle. Now I have to question myself to see if I ever do it. :lol: