B!TC# IT OUT!

[Hydra1337]

I hate double posting but my phone doesn't like it when I edit a previous post.

I just got off the phone with Enfamil and discovered something about their "non-GMO" infant formula. Apparently they call it "non-GMO" because only one ingredient (the soy in the vegetable oil) doesn't come from a genetically modified source. Everything else has been modified. The representative on the phone initially tried to bribe me with a lot of coupons and a free container of formula when I pointed out that the ingredient list on their regular infant and non-GMO infant formula was EXACTLY THE SAME DOWN TO THE GRAMS.

It even says on the container it's not guaranteed to be totally free of GMO products because both kinds are made in the same facility and on the same machine (which they claim they clean).

Please keep this in mind if you or anyone you know buys "non-GMO" formula.

[Mermaid Clara]

Depression is a bitch. I don't know if I need new meds or if something else is making my depression kick into over drive, I just bought 5 new betta fish and I can't even look at them or try to get the tanks set up without feeling extremely depressed. My moods are extremely erratic, but I can't tell if it's because I got my period or what. I also have been having extremely hard time getting out of bed.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch. Hugs, Kelly. It might actually be the period, but talk to your therapist.

[Hydra1337]

I agree with Sabrina. If you want to talk or anything feel free to message me.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm dealing with the same thing! period and depression. no motivation, all that jazz, it's the worst. message me if you want to talk, I'm here for you.

[Mermaid Clara]

Thanks mer-sisters!


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[mermaid_selene]

When people tell me mermaiding is childish http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160527/f3b42f2fa392a53ff277f4e660952251.jpg


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

When people tell my mother that:

At a ceremony for a scholarship I got for a field marine bio class. One mom was bragging about her daughter's academic accomplishments. And with my 2.6 GPA? My mom got so salty she started shoving my mermaiding photos in people's faces. Well, MY daughter's a mermaid!

I just about died.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And then she went on an hour long rant about how mermaiding is something real and all of these other kids waste their time on something that ultimately won't mean anything. "And why are they so proud???"

Didn't stop her from full on cursing me out when my next report card came, though. XD

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My dad has had this...grudge? Feud? With this guy he knows. This guy has $20,000 horses, and pretty much thinks his poo doesn't stink.

He was bragging about his daughter winning first place at a local rodeo, and my dad whipped out a photo of me in my mermaid tail, on my horse rearing up, and said "yeah? My daughter is a horse riding mermaid! Eat those apples!"

At least your mom is proud of you, and brags about it and approves of your mermaiding.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Yeah, definitely grateful for her support.

And that is basically what my mom did. Lol. Your dad sounds fantastic.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

He really is. Old and grumpy, but fantastic as well.

[Mermaid Mystery]

anxious to start a new project but I have no money for supplies. I have a lot of anxiety right now.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Tiny minuscule bitch.

my hair is no longer mermaid hair. It's Basic Asian Bitch hair.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wha happened?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I've just realized that perhaps my over-acquaintance with death might not be the good thing I generally tout it to be.

"I've got the stages of grief down, I'll never be completely immobilized by the death of a loved one, etc, etc."

But I just realized that whenever a family member doesn't pick up their phone I start freaking out.

I.e, Dad, why is your phone going straight to voicemail, and why are you not freaking here yet?!?!?! I'm starting to get worried.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Aaaand he just texted me back. Classic over reaction from Sabrina.

[SeaGlass Siren]

We'll what happened was I went in thinking I'd get pink ombré hair but I got blonde ombré instead. Miniscule bitch because it doesn't bother me that much because I think it looks pretty ok. Like I look like bill Kaulitz of my hair was straight. Not angry But slightly disappointed I didn't get the pink.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Gotcha. I can understand being somewhat annoyed by it, though. *sympathy*

[MermaidSasha]

Well today was an emotional upsetting day :(

My husband's grandfather passed away Monday morning and Friday was the funeral. My husband and the family were extremely close to their grandfather. My husband considered that man a father and a best friend. It was a very sad day. We played his favorite song and I bawled like a baby. I'll always remember the happy times though.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh Ava. Hugs to you.

[MermaidSasha]

Thank you

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm so sorry Ava, sending virtual hugs

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I was going to start on the fluke of my tail, and I can't find the rest of my black lycra. I have looked everywhere.

I don't even need a yard of fabric. Its so frustrating, so I'm going to have to go to the fabric store just to buy a single yard of black lycra, even though I know I have some around here SOMEWHERE.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch.


A friend of mine was planning on attending the local community college and continuing to stay with his grandparents until he finished his education and got a job.

They're shipping him to Arizona tp live with his mom. She's six years sober, but he still can't trust her and I just want to punch things.

[Imogen Finnly]

How do you deal with a ballooning fluke? Its really hard to swim in it after a while cause its so engorged and floaty

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[Mermaid Jaffa]

How do you deal with a ballooning fluke? Its really hard to swim in it after a while cause its so engorged and floaty

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If its fabric, undo the seams of the fluke edge and sew in some fin lines.

[Imogen Finnly]

Its a silicone haha sorry i should have specified. It was a custom tail not made by me.

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Does it not have drainage holes?

[Imogen Finnly]

Yeah only two but the others are sealed up. I think they sealed on accident when she sandwiched it together.


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Maybe a helpful tailmaker could give some help?
Pearlie might be able to give some advice.

[Imogen Finnly]

I hope!

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Y'all are gonna love this one, me and my husband were doing what married couple's do, it was sweet, nice....he said something, and I could have SWORN he said "Hodor".....


He hasn't let me live it down, and in fact told my sister, and some of my cooler family.
As I was hanging out at out family get together to honor and remember my grandfather and those who have fallen, all I heard was "Hodor, hodor hodor!"

😓

[Merman Dan]

I feel like such a prude at times, when I tell folks that even though I am a gamer I do not like GoT. It's too violent, vulgar, and over the top for me. Mind you, the first episode I tried to watch was Red Wedding. ;)

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Yikes! The red wedding definitely made me want to stop watching. But through it all, I couldn't...too much that I needed answered.

And you aren't a prude just because of that!
I love gaming and fantasy, and superheroes, and weird shows, but I am having a hard time getting into "The Flash"
"Supernatural"
"The Arrow"
My husband is getting agitated at me for it because we cant figure out why I don't really like it.

[SeaMansa]

So I just got a new job (I would really rather not say where to keep people's peace of mind. But just know, a lot of you tail receivers may encounter this place. And if you have complaints, I now know why)
But yea.... Its horrible. Ya know how they give u training videos and stuff before they put you to work? Well, yeah, no, this shit was nothing like how thy said.
First of all, they want us to be very careful...but they also want us to be quick. They want us to do things individually giving everything attention, but if we do that, we will fall behind and get yelled at or fired. Its hot as shit, and worst of all, I work alone. I cannot do this by myself, and everyone else has partner but me, and I'm like what the living fuck? Things go by so much quicker and more efficiently with a partner.
But I am hanging in there. I really need the money, afterall. I 100% feel that I will be fired. This is a very physically demanding job, and I don't have the height or muscle mass for this.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Yikes! The red wedding definitely made me want to stop watching. But through it all, I couldn't...too much that I needed answered.

And you aren't a prude just because of that!
I love gaming and fantasy, and superheroes, and weird shows, but I am having a hard time getting into "The Flash"
"Supernatural"
"The Arrow"
My husband is getting agitated at me for it because we cant figure out why I don't really like it.

Because the show diminishes each and every single powerful woman to nothing except people that men could fuck.
Because the actresses are always in the nude and for some reason the males aren't. Was so different than the first season when everyone was nekkid.
Because there is never a happy ending and the villains always win.
Because in the show any woman who had previous sexual relations always "wants it" according to the director.

Need I continue?

[Mermaid Lunette]

Because the show diminishes each and every single powerful woman to nothing except people that men could fuck.
Because the actresses are always in the nude and for some reason the males aren't. Was so different than the first season when everyone was nekkid.
Because there is never a happy ending and the villains always win.
Because in the show any woman who had previous sexual relations always "wants it" according to the director.

Need I continue?

yeeeeep. that's how i feel. (also, to me, on flash and arrow, the female characters just aren't written well. like, they very often will have female characters do something that 100% does not make sense or is not logical for their personality and backstory, so like with the guys they are rounded out and stick to their personality but with the girls it's like "every woman must go through uncharateristic mood swings and do stuff that if you actually know their personality, they would never ever do because women are fickle, haha." bullcrap.

like, writing a well rounded female character is just like writing a well rounded male character? it's really not that difficult -_-; what matters are the charaters desires and motivations and then the logical actions they would do considering those first 2 things, i mean, damn.

[Mermaid Marius]

Because the show diminishes each and every single powerful woman to nothing except people that men could fuck.
Because the actresses are always in the nude and for some reason the males aren't. Was so different than the first season when everyone was nekkid.
Because there is never a happy ending and the villains always win.
Because in the show any woman who had previous sexual relations always "wants it" according to the director.

Need I continue?
I hate how all of the women end up being raped and taken advantage of. And I hate how they show it. It makes my stomach turn and whenever I try to bring it up the argument is always "Well it's supposed to be realistic. In a time like that, those things happened."
If we're going realism where are the thousands of troops dying from cholera? Why aren't people walking around with their faces falling off from untreated Syphilis? Because I have my reservations and refuse to fully watch the show, I can't make a solid argument against it, and I acknowledge that. But from what I've seen, I'm not a fan.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I pretty well think that's the reason why I don't like them.

I like the female characters in the shows, but some of the stuff they do in the show is just bogus.

I also CANNOT stand, (dont ask me why, I don't know) when a show has a different actor playing someone than who plays that same person in the movie. (not sure if I worded that right)

If RBJ plays iron man in the movie and they make a tv show in the same time, I want the same actor. I don't know. I'm picky?

My husband made me sit down and try "Lost Girl"? And from the first episode, it's not the most awful thing I've seen. The main character (female) is attractive, and it seems they make her overly sexual.. She steals people's life force by kiss, and she can seduce control ones feelings by touch, so she's kissing, and touching everyone. I like the concept of the show, not how they have portayed her so far

[PhaylennMurúch]

I pretty well think that's the reason why I don't like them.

I like the female characters in the shows, but some of the stuff they do in the show is just bogus.

I also CANNOT stand, (dont ask me why, I don't know) when a show has a different actor playing someone than who plays that same person in the movie. (not sure if I worded that right)

If RBJ plays iron man in the movie and they make a tv show in the same time, I want the same actor. I don't know. I'm picky?

My husband made me sit down and try "Lost Girl"? And from the first episode, it's not the most awful thing I've seen. The main character (female) is attractive, and it seems they make her overly sexual.. She steals people's life force by kiss, and she can seduce control ones feelings by touch, so she's kissing, and touching everyone. I like the concept of the show, not how they have portayed her so far


I don't want to spoiler Lost Girl for you but her sexuality makes sense because of what she is, you'll find out pretty soon

[Shimmer Mermaid]

A succubus? But like I said I'm not past the first episode.

[Mermaid Clara]

My only best friend, the only person I hang out with just told me she's not going to talk to me any more. I feel like this is my fault? I don't know how to react to this except to bawl my eyes out. I just lost my best fucking friend I've ever had and I can't even function with out her. I'm having a panic attack and I can't stop crying. I feel like because I didn't see her yesterday and went to a old friend's house instead made her cut me off. I so fucking scared she's going to start cutting herself again and possibly kill herself. http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160601/455c3f2d16c8aad1fa693e8de56301ee.jpg


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[MerDragon Arie]

Have you ever had issues with your own pod members? Like there is a specific person that just get's under my skin and I haven't even met said person yet! Like I just want to fin slap SO HARD. I usually never have issues with people but when they are being bullies the Dragon side of me starts to come out. I just don't understand why people have to be so salty, catty and bullies. We are all apart of the same community here! It's been super hectic lately and this person is trying to make certain people look bad and like a villain. Not cool dude.. :mad::cry:

[Hydra1337]

On the Game of Thrones subject not every woman is raped and taken advantage of. Theon's sister doesn't fit that category at all and Danaerys rose up past that in major ways. I do admit that most of them are like you described but I felt the need to put in my two cents.

[Mermaid Arabella]

On the Game of Thrones subject not every woman is raped and taken advantage of. Theon's sister doesn't fit that category at all and Danaerys rose up past that in major ways. I do admit that most of them are like you described but I felt the need to put in my two cents.

In the books, Dany isn't raped. She's very scared the first time she has sex with Khal Drogo (duh, she's like 14), but he is very tender with her and comforts her. He never forces himself on her. That's probably the #1 thing I hate most that the show changed.

[Hydra1337]

I see. I never read the books so I didn't know that.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I found that scene in the first book to be extremely touching, actually. I'd been cursing Drogo's name for the last few chapters and then he goes and does his best to excite and arouse and otherwise get Dany off and comfort her. And I was just like, "okay, he ISN'T a scumbag."

[Mermaid Arabella]

I found that scene in the first book to be extremely touching, actually. I'd been cursing Drogo's name for the last few chapters and then he goes and does his best to excite and arouse and otherwise get Dany off and comfort her. And I was just like, "okay, he ISN'T a scumbag."

EXACTLY!! And then the show just goes and ruins it! He doesn't even seem to like her at all until she gets preggers! :mad:

Oh, and also, pretty much all of Season 5 with Sansa Stark never happened in the books. That is some freaky crap that NEVER HAPPENED!! People like to talk about the awful things George RR Martin writes (mainly killing off major characters) but the show actually has LOTS more sex/rape, violence, and murder than the books. As a friend put it recently, "It's the HBO factor - they can, so they will."

[Hydra1337]

Now that you mention that scene from the book I vaguely remember a friend telling me about it. My tiny bitch is now I feel obligated to read the books but will never have the time for it. Lol

[Mermaid Mystery]

Have you ever had issues with your own pod members? Like there is a specific person that just get's under my skin and I haven't even met said person yet! Like I just want to fin slap SO HARD. I usually never have issues with people but when they are being bullies the Dragon side of me starts to come out. I just don't understand why people have to be so salty, catty and bullies. We are all apart of the same community here! It's been super hectic lately and this person is trying to make certain people look bad and like a villain. Not cool dude.. :mad::cry:

you have no idea lol

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Pretty much the same stuff Arie said. Looking forward to A-Kon this weekend and hoping to put all that stress behind me.

[The Water Phoenix]

Today I woke up sick, yay, with a blocked nose, headache and a sore throat. Not fun! I also had to do household chores (fun) but the fumes from the cleaning stuff only aggravated my headache. My good trusty headphones that I got for my 14th birthday went bust today, music does not sound clear like it used to, just a metallic hot mess. So now I have to wait until Monday so I can get a replacement pair. :(

[Mermaid Clara]

I super really need my own car!!!! I planned on taking my dad's car, which is also my car because I don't have a car, today to drive myself to work and see my friend after work. But last minute my dad was like "i need the car today so I'm going to take you to work today" I absolutely hate being driven around and having to wait for people to pick me up and stuff. I realize this is a extremely selfish bitch, but I just need to bitch because it's really bothering me.


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Trying to eat healthy for me and my merling, and I ate a thing with avocados and I have been so sick ever since.

[Hydra1337]

I drank so much last night I got sick and now I'm hungover. I can't even rest because my daughter will only let me feed her so I had to get up at 7AM.

[JayJ79]

Trying to eat healthy for me and my merling, and I ate a thing with avocados and I have been so sick ever since.

those were avocadon'ts

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Oh Jay, you're punny

[Mermaid Clara]

Fuck cancer! I fucking hate cancer!!!! My mom has cancerous tumors on her liver and needs a liver transplant. I'm so fucking upset but I can't show it because I'm at work.


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[Amphitrite]

I've had a shitty day health wise and one of my few stress relief options that I use is now covered in equal parts drama, shit, and ego. I HATE DRAMA. Get it off me! And all I want is a nice chat and fun with some good friends and someone decides to be an asshole. Do I have any right to be upset or question anything NO. Screw that! You mess with everyone and think I'll play pretend with you? You need medication or a swift kick in the ass or both. I don't tolerate that bullshit. Meanwhile I'm barely able to move irl without feeling like the room is spinning and I'm going to be sick. THANKS. SO MUCH.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Kelly, Amphitrite, orange candles are going on my window sill tonight.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

??? What do the Orange candles represent?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I don't have any Orange candles, but will putting an Orange halter on my horse for the night do? It glows.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

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[Amphitrite]

I don't understand either Sabrina, but thank-you! <3

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Orange, in candles, is used for strength and healing. And that is a great harness. ♥

[Amphitrite]

Thanks! <3

[Mermaid Clara]

Kelly, Amphitrite, orange candles are going on my window sill tonight.

Thanks Sabrina.


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[Saelyyia]

So I know I shared a bit about my lowsy living situation awhile back, the unemployeed dad who has anger issues, etc. Now I'm just frustrated. After Months of trying to hold everything together and barely scraping by my Father is just an ungrateful jerk who has turned my house into a war zone to the point where my anxiety condition has given me enough panic attacks that I had to be removed from my desk at work several times and taken away from the public eye until someone could calm me down and I am hardly eating from loss of appetite and if i get any sleep it is just restless and full of nightmares that I don't always wake up from...I am starting to completely pass my limit.

Now his newest mental game is he is pretending I don't exist entirely and if he does acknowledge my presence it is in the form of talking either to my cats or the other people in the room about me as if I am not there. I can't take care of things if he wont communicate with me! And why is my 60 year old father doing this? Because I went groccery shopping Saturday evening at 6pm instead of during the afternoon (during which I was at the movies with my mom and cousin which had been planned for over a week). And he could of just said "he could you pick me up some [insert whatever he wanted at the store]" but instead he yelled at me and told me i was irresponsible and selfish and to just forget about it and that he wanted nothing because it was "too late". I asked if he was sure and he got even more mad.

I stayed with him and moved back in full time when he got laid off after the merger and put mine and my boyfriend (of almost 6 years) life on pause so that he could stay in the house I grew up in and have groceries and help until he got back on his feet...that was 2 years ago. And this isn't the first time he has done something childish and emotionally/mentally harmful. I love my Dad and I am of the firm belief that you take care of your parents, it is just what you do but I'm not sure how much more of this I can handle. I am the baby of his 3 children (by 12 years) and where are my brother and sister? She can't be bothered to admit she has a Dad because he said something 10 years ago she didn't like that he didn't just take her word as law on everything and my brother is I don't even know because he hasn't spoken to our dad since '94 and now he travels for work all the time.

I am at the point where I know that for my health I need to take me and my 2 cats and get out, but the boyfriend and I just can't seem to find a place and we are just plum out of luck with finding a room-mate too. This are just way too stressful and I feel like I'm drowning in it. And I can't even turn to my family because Mom is jsut as bad which is why I don't live with her. (she threw a sledge hammer at my face when i was 17) I love her but she just isn't stable and the other brother says he can't be bothered with family problems. I feel super guilty too. If we do manage to find a place and I move out Dad is going to lose everything. He has no real income, just random small chunks here or there for the odd job, and he has no where to really go. My aunt said he can stay with her (4 states away) if he leaves everything behind. He doesn't even have the money to get to her and she doesn't want to help get him there she just said if he can get there. I don't want him to lose everything, I just don't wanna be bullied and manipulated, shamed, and overworked to help someone who is so nasty and at this point bad for my health. I know it is just his situation making him like this, but I don't want it to get so bad that we don't have a relationship left to salvage when I do move on and he does land on his feet...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch. Ouch. Ouch.


Ouch.

[SeaMansa]

So.... Am I the only one pissed off about this guy who rapes a girl behind a dumpster and then basically gets off with a slap on the wrist of 6 months? BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T WANT THIS TO INTERFERE WITH HIS LIFE????
WHAT? HE RAPED A GIRL! The amount of people, even if its a small portion, who think this is okay is truly baffling. Eveything about this case is messed up. And now I hear he is trying to get his 6 month sentence knocked down to house arrest! How arrogant do you have to be?? He and his father are trying to play the victim in a case where he raped an unconscious woman!
Some are calling this rape culture, some are calling this white privilege, I don't get a fuck what you call it. Its fucked up how this works. You have some people with no prior arrest being given at least a few years on rape. A lot of people are talking about this but Brian Banks was sentenced to SIX YEARS for a rape he didn't even commit and he had no record and had a promising career in atheletics just the same as this guy, and yet he wasn't given 6 months. He was given 6 years.

I can't. I fucking cannot. What is this world coming to?

[Mermaid Kelda]

I can't. I fucking cannot. What is this world coming to?
Unfortunately, the world has been like this for a long, long time. It's thanks to social justice movements that people are seeing this stuff and getting justifiably outraged. I'm optimistic that things are getting better, and I hope my generation's children can live in a world a little better than ours!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Well, our whole legal system is designed to screw the victim left, right and sideways while the perpetrators get off. Particularly for young adult white males.

One in 5 women will be raped within their lifetime (in the U.S.) as of the 2015 calculations. One in 4 amongst those who go to college because of campus rape culture.

At this point, I don't expect much from our legal system.

If you really want your blood to boil go read the blog "When Women Refuse" it's all just testimonies from women about horrid scenarios. After I read that, I had nightmares.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Keep in mind that one in five statistic is considerably lower than the stat for worldwide. Don't recall that one off the top of my head, though.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

So.... Am I the only one pissed off about this guy who rapes a girl behind a dumpster and then basically gets off with a slap on the wrist of 6 months? BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T WANT THIS TO INTERFERE WITH HIS LIFE????
WHAT? HE RAPED A GIRL! The amount of people, even if its a small portion, who think this is okay is truly baffling. Eveything about this case is messed up. And now I hear he is trying to get his 6 month sentence knocked down to house arrest! How arrogant do you have to be?? He and his father are trying to play the victim in a case where he raped an unconscious woman!
Some are calling this rape culture, some are calling this white privilege, I don't get a fuck what you call it. Its fucked up how this works. You have some people with no prior arrest being given at least a few years on rape. A lot of people are talking about this but Brian Banks was sentenced to SIX YEARS for a rape he didn't even commit and he had no record and had a promising career in atheletics just the same as this guy, and yet he wasn't given 6 months. He was given 6 years.

I can't. I fucking cannot. What is this world coming to?

No, you're not. This case has had me reeling. I'm just glad they released his photo and name. The internet will seek justice for her, but it's not going to be pretty. Maybe that'll teach the judge. It wasn't about him, it was about his parents' money. I'm 99% positive they paid off the judge. He changed his mind halfway through this whole mess. I read her letter. It was powerful and she's so incredibly brave. I am praying for justice to be done.

[Sapphire Mermaid]

I am just so thankful those 2 angels came by at the right time for her! It could have been so, sooo much worse if it wasn't for those 2 on their bikes. I read her statement and I am so amazed at how strong willed and determined she has remained throughout this whole process. So much sister love going on in my heart right now for that girl!

[Hydra1337]

I hope Anonymous or 4chan find that asshole and ruin his life at home.

[SeaMansa]

If not, I hope people of the internet never forget. They say he was training for the Olympics? I hope hundreds of thousands of people show up and protest every single swim meet he ever attempts. The court system may let him off the hook, but I hope the people don't forget. I want ever employer he has to know about who he is and what he did. I want his life to forever stained by something he thinks he can just roll over. Not today.

[Hydra1337]

No one will forget. He'll be haunted by this his whole life and onwards.

[Mermaid Clara]

I woke up to a dead betta. My beloved Doctor Who passed away. I'm extremely upset because he was my favorite betta, sure all of my fish are my favorites but Doctor was amazing. He was always swimming around and he always looked at me whenever I was around his tank.
Swim in peace, Doctor.
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[Sapphire Mermaid]

Okay, so here is my rant, and I am in no way trying to offend anyone when I say this. Here goes:

Silicone tails. I get that they are amazing and it's so much fun seeing people make them and get creative, but I am so sick to death of them being seen as so much better than the fabric ones. I have seen some tails made with fabric that the silicone ones have nothing on. But it seems that they go widely under the radar because they aren't silicone. I am just sick of it! Every tail is amazing because it allows people to become something they have dreamed of, and it doesn't matter if it's made of silicone, fabric, or old bit of leather. (I mean, it wouldn't swim well, but if you love it, go for it!) Everyone should feel like their tail is the bees knees, because it is! If it lets you be who you truly feel you are, then, as far as I am concerned, it is the best tail in existence!! Screw everyone else's! Your tail is fabulous.

I just hate the lack of love across the board at times.

Okay, I feel better now.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

If you are calling someone specific out, this should go in the drama bubble thread.


And yes. Both types of tails are awesome, and they have individual bonuses. Silicone is more ostensibly realistic, but fabric is no less etherial and beautiful AND has agility and manouverablity on its side. It's all in what the mermaid in question needs.

Pretty much everyone on the forum recognizes this.

[Sapphire Mermaid]

If you are calling someone specific out, this should go in the drama bubble thread.


And yes. Both types of tails are awesome, and they have individual bonuses. Silicone is more ostensibly realistic, but fabric is no less etherial and beautiful AND has agility and manouverablity on its side. It's all in what the mermaid in question needs.

Pretty much everyone on the forum recognizes this.

I'm not calling anyone out. Which is why I posted it here. It's a general feeling I get from people. And I am not just talking about people here. It's across the board.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I actually just yesterday (granted I've gotten told this by quite a few people as well) got told by someone who was going to hire me to appear at a mermaid themed baby shower, which they wanted me specifically even more because I am also pregnant.

They asked if I could send photos of myself in my tail, (they were going to send me a head piece that matches my tail to wear as well). They saw I have a modded fabric tail and said "oh, we thought you had a good tail. Like a rubber one. Nevermind."
It hurt my feelings SO bad. I worked my butt off to make my fabric tail as realistic as possible.

[Hydra1337]

That's so mean...that sucks.

[Echidna]

They asked if I could send photos of myself in my tail, (they were going to send me a head piece that matches my tail to wear as well). They saw I have a modded fabric tail and said "oh, we thought you had a good tail. Like a rubber one. Nevermind."


this makes me effin' MAD! And it didn't even happen to me.
:mad:

And yep, I've seen fabric tails just as realistic as silicone, in my eyes at least.
Fabric tails with long, trailing chiffon flukes (though a total downer to swim in) look so much better, again imo, than a silicone one with the old bump over the heels and those skinny little sidefins.

But I'm used to be in the minority with my taste :)
I love opera, classic music, and old literature.
You want me gone, just put up some of that horrible noise they call music nowadays, that everyone seems to love so much :lol:

Apart from personal preference, you have to consider silicone tails cost a fortune, and humans tend to think of expensive things as better than something that was cheap in comparison.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ugh. That is awful Shimmer. What horrid, horrid deal breakers!

...grrrrrr...

Definitely seconding Echidna.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Shimmer... That is HORRIBLE. Forget them, girl! You're a beautiful mer and they will regret writing off a pro performer. I personally have a silicone and can't do nearly as many flips or tricks in it until I get stronger! A lot of times, fabric mers are better at performing than silicone mers either because of experience or just physical maneuverability! Just putting that out there! Keep swimming and you'll be noticed!! :)

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Annoying. Had an eye test on Wednesday. My eyesight's worse than before. Now 9.25 in left, 11.00 in right, and my next glasses, I have to wear multi focals! Luckily, I don't have to change swim goggles yet, I can just wear the same one. My next appointment, she will check on how my cataracts are doing, and any other changes in my eyes. I'm not blind by cataracts yet, I can still see just fine. Making the most of what I have left.

[LouLouBelle]

^ Everything Lotus just said!

Both types of tail have their pros and cons. I love the realistic look of the silicone tails, and I also love the more ethereal look you can get with a fabric tail. Depends what mood I'm in as to which I prefer!


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[Mermaid Jaffa]

Okay, so here is my rant, and I am in no way trying to offend anyone when I say this. Here goes:

Silicone tails. I get that they are amazing and it's so much fun seeing people make them and get creative, but I am so sick to death of them being seen as so much better than the fabric ones. I have seen some tails made with fabric that the silicone ones have nothing on. But it seems that they go widely under the radar because they aren't silicone. I am just sick of it! Every tail is amazing because it allows people to become something they have dreamed of, and it doesn't matter if it's made of silicone, fabric, or old bit of leather. (I mean, it wouldn't swim well, but if you love it, go for it!) Everyone should feel like their tail is the bees knees, because it is! If it lets you be who you truly feel you are, then, as far as I am concerned, it is the best tail in existence!! Screw everyone else's! Your tail is fabulous.

I just hate the lack of love across the board at times.

Okay, I feel better now.
It does feel that way sometimes, especially if you're new. I know I felt exactly like that, then after a while, I'm just meh, I make my own tails, I'm happy. They're super nice to look at, the silicone tails, even drool over it if its a design I can relate to in terms of my swimming skills. Other than the prettiness of them, I'm over it.

I got me fabric tails. Easy to repair or replace. Easier to make now that I've done a few and even can make my own swimwear. Fabric tails are nice and light, does not require help to put on, easy washing and drying, super flowy if you know how to make it so.

And easier to swim in and perform tricks. I've yet to see a silicone tail wearer do more tricks like barrel rolling, front and backwards flips, hang upside down, do handstands, stuff that fabric tail wearers find easier to do.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

So last night my husband asked me why I put my fabric tail in the back room (my craft room, but I usually keep my tail in the living room or our bed room), and I told him what happened, and that I'm kind of not wanting to look at my personal mermaid stuff for a few days.

He paces the house, and goes "You know what? Screw this. You're getting a silicone tail. And I'm gonna order it TONIGHT."

So I was like "okay, good luck ordering a fully custom silicone tail tonight... You do realize it takes weeks to get an order even started with a tailmaker?"

He says (oh so innocently) "I will get it done. Watch me. You will have a silicone tail within the month!"

So I say "let me know what you find babe!"

He comes back 30 minutes later with a fabric tail pulled up with a screen printed rainbow snake skin pattern printed on it and puts his phone in my face and declares "I FOUND ONE! Ready to ship, really pretty, silicone, and not that expensive! Told you I could find one."

I literally could NOT hold back my laughing tears.

I go "babe, that's a fabric ta-"

"NO! It says silicone RIGHT THERE." *points proudly to the words "silicone tail" in the tags*

"Babe...that's a tag. This tail is $75... Most silicone tails are around $1000 at least. The description says it's made of fabric hun....and it only comes in children's sizes."

"Oh..."

"I'm sorry."

"Its okay, I just want you to have the kind of tail you talk about, and give you what you want."

I had to explain that until I deliver and am no longer pregnant, and am at a steady weight, I don't want a really expensive silicone tail anyway. I'd rather swim with my stretchy fabric tail that I made.

I had to take hours to explain the differences of the tails, fabric, neoprene, silicone, every where in between to him because he wanted to know.

So now every time I talk to him, even about something TOTALLY unrelated, he goes back to "we will get a silicone tail. Then you'll feel better because you'll have a silicone one"

Again, I have to explain that i was never upset about not having a silicone tail, I was upset that they just flat out dissed my tail.

Its just frustrating. Not my husband, but the fact that the whole ordeal happened in the first place.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Shimmer, that is super sweet. You got a great pirate! So thankful for supportive hubbies!

[Mermaid Arabella]

What a bunch of meanie-heads! Don't you listen to them, Shimmer, I'm sure your tail is BEAUTIFUL!! Don't hide it away, be proud! <3 (And what a sweet hubby you have!)

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Shimmer, that is super sweet. You got a great pirate! So thankful for supportive hubbies!
He is so great. I'm really glad he supports all of my insane ideas and plans. (he even supported my idea to make a HUGE rideable toothless costume for my horse)

What a bunch of meanie-heads! Don't you listen to them, Shimmer, I'm sure your tail is BEAUTIFUL!! Don't hide it away, be proud! <3 (And what a sweet hubby you have!)
I'm very proud of it, it's just almost if I had worked months on a painting and someone told me it sucked. But my tail is safer in the craft room. Especially with us fixing to have a baby in the house. So I'm thinking maybe get my hubby to make me a tail rack to put back there.

[Hydra1337]

What does your tail look like? I don't think I've seen it.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I don't have a current pic of it, but here's a pic of when I was still laying scales. It's light blue in front, dark in back.

http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160610/ef9c22cd0f9968328caa6d64ade04217.jpg

[Hydra1337]

Are those individual fabric scales?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

It's weird paper thin plastic, I got a LOT of it a while back, and it's water proof, easy to cut and easy to paint.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

And the silver scales are holographic and "shimmer" in the light

[Hydra1337]

Oooh. That's really cool!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you 😊

[PearlieMae]

Shimmer, those people who dissed you for having a fabric tail are asshats and you don't want to do that party. If you wanted to press the issue, you could say 'I don't have a multiple-thousand dollar silicone tail to go over my baby bump, that's just false economy. I don't know of ANYONE who'd have a silicone tail for a pregnant belly.'

But it doesn't sound like it would have been a fun party.

HOWEVER, if you were to advertise yourself specifically FOR baby showers, with photos in your fabulous fabric tail, you could probably book parties right up until your due date! I mean, how unique! Turn your disappointment into a profitable opportunity!

:mermaid kiss:

Also, your hubby sounds like a dream! :fallover:

[Hydra1337]

I am so sick of this effing stove! It's literally brand new but apparently is factory faulty! It takes me half an hour to boil a saucepan of water (shown in the pic) and the burners apparently don't even stay on! I'm having my husband remind our landlord to either come fix it or repair it because I'm sick of missing out on hot food during my daughter's naps because of a faulty stove.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

You honestly are like the fairy godmother of the mermaid world.

That is the best idea I have heard and I didn't even think to specifically advertise for baby showers!

I definitely will have to tell him that he's got mermaids swooning over his heroism. Lol

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Sympathy, Hydra.

And that is a great idea, Pearlie, Shimmer!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My dad (if you go back on this thread you'll find where we talked about him winning the lottery and buying us all a mermaid island) said that if he did get us a mermaid island, that he would totally put Pearlie in charge because she's just so great at pretty much everything and has so much experience. Lol like Pearlie would be in charge of business ordeals and such, and then shed have a little group of other mermaids who have made waves in the mermaid business world as well to talk to, like Raina, kariel, hannah, merman christian (didn't spell his name right most likely). I thought it was pretty great.

[Sapphire Mermaid]

A mermaid island! Yes!!!

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[The Water Phoenix]

Another thing to rant about..not really. When my friend and I were on our way back from the local dog park, we accidentally drove over a bird that was in the road. We tried to get around it but it was already injured and couldn't get out of the way, plus we were going too fast. I heard it hit the underside of the car and I originally thought it was a stick or a rock but it was a bird, flapping around. The bird is out of its misery now, I'm just sad about the whole ordeal. It happened so fast and we weren't expecting a bird to be in the road. We didn't even see it until last minute. The bird is in a better pace now :(

[Shimmer Mermaid]

If it was already injured there's no telling how long it had been there for. It's better for it to be out of it's misery than to still be in pain. Someone hit a little doe the other night in front of my house and didn't even stop to see if she was okay, didn't stop to get her out of the road so she wouldn't be a hazard to other drivers... I went out there and they had put an unfixable hole in her stomach, had it been able to be sutured I would have fixed it, and put her in the barn and nursed her back up like I've had to before. But instead she was kicking and crying there, she calmed when I put my hand on her, and I luckily had a shot the vet gave me a while back just in case my now passed older horse got down and we needed to put her down.
It was humane and I buried her to keep her from being messed with.

[The Water Phoenix]

The bird was already injured so I guess a car had already hit it. We wanted to slow down, but the road was busy :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hugs to both of you. That is so hard.

In my town, squirrels have a habit of just dropping dead in the road (or perhaps above the road, my town has so much tree canopy coverage, we technically count as a forest) and I always try to pull them out of the way before a car hits them.

And once, my dad and I found a cat-caught little one. Died before we could even think of taking it to a reserve for treatment.

And I've tried to help birds after my grandmother's dog got to them. And then he got to the shoe box and killed it on the landing to her floor of the two-flat.

Also. A friend of mine's mom accidentally ran over a Chihuahua. While driving down an extremely busy Chicago street during rush hour. It had gotten off leash, and they could see the owner chasing after it, but couldn't stop in the crowded conditions, neither to avoid it, or check on it after.

[The Water Phoenix]

Thanks Selkie :( Running over animals here in Australia doesn't happen very often, but it does happen. When I was in New Zealand, I remember seeing possums run over on the roads. They are not native to New Zealand but still not a very pleasant sight.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Indeedy. Sorry you had to see it.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I've taken in a little buck and a little doe, and then a doe that was down trying to give birth and got attacked by a coyote.
The buck got shot by a bow and had an arrow in his back thigh, removed the arrow, cleaned, and sutured. Kept him in a single stall for about a month and a half while it healed up and he could walk normal again.
Little doe had been hit, and had a gash in her belly, me and my local vet put all her *ehem* parts back in, and sutured her, she stayed in the barn for 3 months, and once I let her into the wild, she chose to stay in the woods and field by my house. That was a few years ago and she still visits.

The mother doe had her legs pretty gashed up, and the stress of it all caused her to have complications delivering, I acted as a midwife and helped her deliver her twins. And kept her legs clean, and infection free so they could heal. Both her and her babies run the same herd as the other doe.

I'm lucky that I've got the experience to save the ones I can, and am legally able to keep them until they are able to be released.

[PearlieMae]

My dad (if you go back on this thread you'll find where we talked about him winning the lottery and buying us all a mermaid island) said that if he did get us a mermaid island, that he would totally put Pearlie in charge because she's just so great at pretty much everything and has so much experience. Lol like Pearlie would be in charge of business ordeals and such, and then shed have a little group of other mermaids who have made waves in the mermaid business world as well to talk to, like Raina, kariel, hannah, merman christian (didn't spell his name right most likely). I thought it was pretty great.

Hahaha! Thanks, but I think I'm probably more of a cranky old mer that doesn't put up with much shit, really.

I have been thinking about you being the baby shower mermaid and I hope you pursue it! Find a wheelchair and decorate it with lots of pink and blue and ocean colored tulle, have your husband be your mertender and dress him in doctor scrubs! (I'm talking about dry events, obviously.) Modify baby shower games to have an undersea theme, and you'll be a star(fish)!

[Hydra1337]

So I just got back from a mango festival near me and I'm extremely disappointed that I wasted the last of my change to go. "Free food" and "free mangos to take home" does not mean a few free samples and no free mangos but a butt load of advertising for immigration agencies.

[Merman Dan]

I still want to see Humango vs Mangerine on Syfy. ;)

[Amphitrite]

Hdra if you are in the USA (and it applies in your state) might I suggest looking into an escrow account?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Why must Instagram choose now to be ornery?!?!?!

[Mermaid Arabella]

Need to vent without causing drama on fb. Last week, I was asked to be Fluttershy on a MLP panel for DCC, which I was really excited about and changed my cosplay lineup to accommodate. Yesterday, 5 days before con, I was told that the original Fluttershy can make it after all, but thanks "for being willing to change [my] plans." I really wanted to respond with, "I wasn't WILLING, I DID change my plans!" But I don't want to start drama and burn bridges so I didn't. But today I've just been really upset that I don't get to participate in this fun thing that I'd been excited for, and I feel even worse b/c I feel like this is such an insignificant thing to be upset about (esp. in light of this weekend's events), but I'm still upset anyways and I'm just more upset that I'm upset over something so trivial. :(

[Shimmer Mermaid]

First off hun, I would be upset about it too. You changed your plans for it, and were told the original was able to make it after you changed your plans, and just a few days before showtime. Reguardless that's not cool of them. They should've at least been a bit more considerate.

Second, yes this weekend's events are terrible and devestating, but that doesn't mean you can't be upset over something you've been prepping for as well.

[Mermaid Momo]

Had to cancel a photoshoot because it's too hot for it :c I was looking forward to it too.

[Mermaid Arabella]

Second, yes this weekend's events are terrible and devestating, but that doesn't mean you can't be upset over something you've been prepping for as well.

I know, but yesterday I was comforting my friend (who is both gay and trans) and letting him vent his fear and anger - and today, this is what I've been upset over and I just keep thinking, "REALLY?!" Like, part of my brain knows it's okay to be upset about something happening to me, but another part just keeps thinking that it feels so shallow and childish compared to what many others are dealing with.

[Mermaid Arabella]

I just posted a WIP picture of one of the new additions to my Fluttershy cosplay across my cosplay platforms and got a great response. Screw the mean ponies, I'm excited to debut my updated Fluttershy, and I will be one happy pony! :D #channelingRarity

[Hydra1337]

Hdra if you are in the USA (and it applies in your state) might I suggest looking into an escrow account?

Uh...for what?

[SeaMansa]

Your husband sounds like a great guy by the way, Shimmer. And that's really horrible what those people said to you, especially in that manner. But hey, their loss. I know u must be feeling pretty bad if u had to set away ur tail from sight (I've done similar things before) but I hope u feel okay soon

[Amphitrite]

Hydra, I was responding to your post regarding your broken stove. It sounds like your landlord has had plenty of opportunity to fix it and hasn't. So, I was suggesting that you put next month's rent in what is called an escrow account which is a legal way to force the issue. It's you having proof that you can pay rent and plan to... After they fix your stove. So instead f you paying for a place that doesn't work you're taking legal control of the situation.

[Merman Dylan]

I don't know. This isn't much, but I want to get it off my chest. I feel like I have terrible social skills. At the springs, I often end up interacting with kids, and for the most part, I think I'm pretty good interacting with them except for those times they say something upsetting like you aren't real or question the fact that I'm a merman. A lot of kids seem surprised by the fact that I have a tail and I'm a guy. The only way I know how to respond is to explain that mermaids are the girls and mermen are the guys. If they keep pestering me about it, I every once in a while let it slip to them the fact that I'm more at home in the water and that they shouldn't upset someone that can swim better than them. I feel awful for letting that slip even if it's one of the older kids. I've never said something like that to the younger kids. I'm beating myself up over that because it feels so wrong to say. I might have been a little more grumpy because of all the people that were trying to take my picture without asking. I feel horrible. I don't know how people know how to respond. I'm also a little reclusive. If I'm not asked first or if I'm not intentionally trying to pose for a camera or doing something like a gig, I like to keep to myself or stay close to my friends. It's like people think I'm there to entertain them or pose for them when I'm swimming during my free time. I think I know how the whales feel at sea world. For the most part, this doesn't usually get under my scales. It's just that I wish I could swim at the springs sometime and enjoy myself without attracting a lot of attention. I don't mind getting attention, but I can feel overwhelmed a bit when a lot of people are focused on me. And before people get on my case about feeling overwhelmed, I work retail for a living, so I'm used to being center stage for the customers when I'm on the clock. If I did a gig in front of a lot of people, I think I would be fine. I know how to be professional about stuff. I just hate my personal time turning into the professional stuff. I guess it can't be helped. Everyone wants to take a picture when they see me in my tail whether I want my picture taken or not. I'm used it and okay with it most of the time, but I still struggle a bit when I socialize. I want to do gigs someday, but I'm not doing anything set in stone. I'm sorry. I had to vent.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I had to outright tell a little boy that I was a human in a tail, not because he was questioning me, but because he was utterly terrified of the water and the family member that was teaching him how to swim LEFT HIM IN THE POOL AND WENT INTO THE JACUZZI TELLING HIM TO 'PRACTICE'

He was sitting all depressed on the steps, so I taught him how to inflate his lungs and take advantage of the buoyancy issue and how to move his hands in the doggy paddle motion without breaking the surface and splashing himself in the face (that was partially what was freaking him out) and told him that astronauts use pools to simulate zero gravity of deep space.

Didn't make him pick his feet up off of the pool floor. So he was calm.

But I am ticked at that woman!

[Talia]

I don't know. This isn't much, but I want to get it off my chest. I feel like I have terrible social skills. At the springs, I often end up interacting with kids, and for the most part, I think I'm pretty good interacting with them except for those times they say something upsetting like you aren't real or question the fact that I'm a merman. A lot of kids seem surprised by the fact that I have a tail and I'm a guy. The only way I know how to respond is to explain that mermaids are the girls and mermen are the guys. If they keep pestering me about it, I every once in a while let it slip to them the fact that I'm more at home in the water and that they shouldn't upset someone that can swim better than them. I feel awful for letting that slip even if it's one of the older kids. I've never said something like that to the younger kids. I'm beating myself up over that because it feels so wrong to say. I might have been a little more grumpy because of all the people that were trying to take my picture without asking. I feel horrible. I don't know how people know how to respond. I'm also a little reclusive. If I'm not asked first or if I'm not intentionally trying to pose for a camera or doing something like a gig, I like to keep to myself or stay close to my friends. It's like people think I'm there to entertain them or pose for them when I'm swimming during my free time. I think I know how the whales feel at sea world. For the most part, this doesn't usually get under my scales. It's just that I wish I could swim at the springs sometime and enjoy myself without attracting a lot of attention. I don't mind getting attention, but I can feel overwhelmed a bit when a lot of people are focused on me. And before people get on my case about feeling overwhelmed, I work retail for a living, so I'm used to being center stage for the customers when I'm on the clock. If I did a gig in front of a lot of people, I think I would be fine. I know how to be professional about stuff. I just hate my personal time turning into the professional stuff. I guess it can't be helped. Everyone wants to take a picture when they see me in my tail whether I want my picture taken or not. I'm used it and okay with it most of the time, but I still struggle a bit when I socialize. I want to do gigs someday, but I'm not doing anything set in stone. I'm sorry. I had to vent.

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I get you completely, and I hear you. I do not do proffesional gigs, so all the time I spend with my tail on is my own.

I do not think you are being rude by setting up boundaries for yourself with people, or for not letting kids tell you whatever they want with zero consequences, even if it is downright wrong, and parents would not let them say it in another circumstances.

I have had interactions with kids where they would insist in touching me (tail, earrings, even bra!) even after I stated I did not want to be touched. If they insist in ignoring my boundary, then I just swim off and I don't let them get near me. I have had kids just sitting with me for more than half an hour making conversation while their mothers are swimming or using their cell phones; they do not think for a second about telling them to leave me be. I don't mind a bit of interaction, but I am there for my own enjoyment, not to entertain or look after your kid, lady, specially around water.

The pictures for me are less stressful. Since I go to a City Hall pool, it is forbidden to take pictures of people. If you want a picture you have to ask and obtain permission. I usually don't mind, but I like that I have the option to say no if I don't feel like it.

So it's not you, Dylan. It's them. :hug:

[Hydra1337]

Hydra, I was responding to your post regarding your broken stove. It sounds like your landlord has had plenty of opportunity to fix it and hasn't. So, I was suggesting that you put next month's rent in what is called an escrow account which is a legal way to force the issue. It's you having proof that you can pay rent and plan to... After they fix your stove. So instead f you paying for a place that doesn't work you're taking legal control of the situation.

Apparently my husband kept forgetting to remind him so it's not my landlords fault and its going to be taken care of now. The suggestion is appreciated though.

[Imogen Finnly]

As much as i am happy to be pregnant, this nausea is too much already. It last for hours!

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Ah, I slept through mine. I had to in order to keep my prenatals down, but turns out the prenatals made me sick as well. How far along are you?

[Imogen Finnly]

Sometimes my prenatal pills makes it worse too. I cant even look in the fridge anymore :(
I think im anywhere from 1-5 weeks. My first appointment when i found out was a few weeks ago and they couldn't see it yet. But the test i took came back positive..

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm 26 weeks, and it does get easier. I couldn't even stand to smell food my first trimester. The good news is it usually doesn't last that long. I'm so happy for you though!

[Imogen Finnly]

Thank you! Seriously. I cant stand pizza and hamburgers all the terrible food im used to.. haha ive been craving like salads and stuff.. but any weird onion food, oh geez forget about it.
Im actually kind of afraid of throwing up. Its usually all or nothing when it comes to it.

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I have had problems with eggs specifically. The smell, the taste, I cant handle anything with eggs.

[Hydra1337]

So my surrogacy has been delayed thanks to some asshat OB I saw in the past. I was originally matched to be the surrogate for a very sweet couple in Argentina but after WEEKS of waiting for their doctor to even look at my medical records AFTER receiving them I got denied. I apparently got denied because one doctor wrote me in as "vaguely suicidal" and that I took medication but declined counciling which made it look like I just wanted drugs.

When I was at the hospital I expressed my worry of raising my daughter in a house that was literally falling apart (which I'm sure I mentioned in a previous bitch post) and they basically said "here try these pills" and asked if I wanted counciling. I said I couldn't go because I didn't have a car, friends or family that could drive me there, and the nearest bus stop was too far of a walk for a woman who JUST FREAKING GAVE BIRTH. The hospital apparently took that as excuses.

Even the co-owner of the surrogacy agency was furious when that happened and told me she got into a heated argument with the doctor over it. She knows I'm not "vaguely suicidal", a druggie, or anything of the like. Especially considering I passed my MMPI test (a test you literally cannot lie to beat that can tell if you're suicidal or have any mental issues) with flying colors. So what she's doing is paying out of pocket for me to see the same psychologist I saw for my first psych evaluation to give me the all clear for my next match.

With how much she genuinely cares about me I know she'll fix this issue but I still have the paranoia in the back of my head that something will go wrong AGAIN. It has me so worried I'll randomly start crying and with it being my husband's first father's day the timing is really shitty.

It seems like every time I'm about to have money to start making my own tail something happens...

[MermaidCelesteFL]

A local mermaid planned on giving me a gig this weekend that she couldn't make. I cleared my schedule and cancelled plans with people to make the gig. The client cancelled and went with someone else.
This has happened almost every weekend since February. I'm really getting fed up with this.
Screw you, gig salad.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Ok, so, remember that roommate that I b*tched about that purposely excludes me from social gatherings? He has gotten worse. Last night, after I got home from work, I normally am greeted by my lovely kitty, Raja. This time, no greeting, not even a sound. All of my roommates (except for two) were seated on the couch watching tv together. I asked all of them if they had seen my cat, and nobody responded. I walked around the house and called her name, checked under my bed, and nothing. I decided that she probably fell asleep somewhere and would come find me later. Two hours later, I got up and looked around for her again.

Eventually, I found her. Outside, in the screened in porch area, with all of the blinds pulled shut and it was raining outside. Poor thing was miserable. She must have been out there for hours. Nobody is admitting to putting her outside and forgetting about it, but it could have been only one person- that one roommate.

I swear to goodness, if Raja gets sick, there will be hell to pay.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I would pitch a fit. Reguardless, they have no right to make potentially harmful decisions about your cat, and shouldn't have put her out there without your permission first.

Also I love her name. ❤ I hope she's okay

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Thanks! That's the name she came with when I adopted her as an adult. I think it's rather fitting, considering Jasmine is my favorite Disney Princess (and sometimes my club name).

I do let her outside on the deck whenever I am home- and either I am out there in the pool and keeping an eye on her, or I open the blinds to remind me that she is outside. I rarely ever ask my roommates to let her outside in my absence (although she has a tendency to loudly beg to go outside sometimes), and when I do, they all follow the same protocol. This guy has outwardly posted on FB about how much he hates me and my cat, multiple times.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

And even after he posted about him not liking you, -first off, rude- your other friends are still not doing anything?

[MermaidCelesteFL]

I talked to my best friend about it this morning on my way to work. She owns the house and lives with us- and she has a major say in who lives in the house. I love her to pieces, but she is very introverted and sometimes oblivious to social cues and others' emotions (Asperger's). She said she was going to talk to the roommates about it today. When I finally showed her that he has been maliciously excluding me from roommate get-togethers, I hope that she got the message.

I think she thinks that her brother (another one of the roommates) did it; and he has a tendency to forget hygiene, chores, and errands from time to time(mental disability, I don't know what he has other than a form of autism)- but he is never malicious about it. He has let my cat out a couple times per my request, but he always lets her back in a little while later.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm glad you talked to her about it. I hope that things get straightened out, because you have posted about this same thing before, and it kept happening and that's not fair for you in the least bit.

[Imogen Finnly]

Personally, i would find another place to live. From your pervious posts about this guy, this situation is making your life worse.
Find a small room to rent or a guest house with another girlfriend and call it a day. Thats me at least.

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[Imogen Finnly]

I wouldn't have the patience to deal with all the bologna you're putting up with. It would've gotten real ugly if they did that to my cat. Luckily it wasn't hot like it is out here (115°)

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[Imogen Finnly]

Also, my own small rant here, i have hit maternity cup sizes, and grew out of my mermaid top:((

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[MerDragon Arie]

Really tired of being in constant bad pain and discomfort from these MASSIVE ovarian cysts. I'm trying so hard to gather funds up for my surgery that I need ASAP. I've been trying to get a hold of my OB-GYN to figure out if there is another option besides the $2240 the surgery facility wants up front. Every time I bleeping call the person I need to talk to isn't there. I really really need this surgery done and over with, I just want to be back to normal and back to my normal life. I don't know what to do anymore I'm trying so hard not to give up. :cry:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Hug. Ovarian cysts are awful, I hear.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I had just finished my mermaid top a few weeks ago, only to realize-the seashells are now too small. I went from being a big A-to a small C. I am a splash away from a nip slip.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That is also awful.

[Dancing Fish]

Shimmer, could you temporarily sew a bit of extra fabric (like sparkly spandex or skin tone powermesh) between the cups to help cover the extra cleavage? That worked in for belly dance shows in a pinch, when a costume didn't fit well or a student was feeling modest. What a pain though! I went up a cup size and my rib cage permanently expanded by two inches even after I lost the the baby weight. My shoe size increased too!

[Imogen Finnly]

I had just finished my mermaid top a few weeks ago, only to realize-the seashells are now too small. I went from being a big A-to a small C. I am a splash away from a nip slip.
We share the same pain! Ill be resting drinks and food on my chest if i wear this mermaid top at this point haha
Its back to wearing rash guards and plus sized bikini tops haha

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I don't know what I'm gonna try to do with it yet...
Maybe just buy a cheap shell top in a bigger size.

[Merman Dylan]

I had to outright tell a little boy that I was a human in a tail, not because he was questioning me, but because he was utterly terrified of the water and the family member that was teaching him how to swim LEFT HIM IN THE POOL AND WENT INTO THE JACUZZI TELLING HIM TO 'PRACTICE'

He was sitting all depressed on the steps, so I taught him how to inflate his lungs and take advantage of the buoyancy issue and how to move his hands in the doggy paddle motion without breaking the surface and splashing himself in the face (that was partially what was freaking him out) and told him that astronauts use pools to simulate zero gravity of deep space.

Didn't make him pick his feet up off of the pool floor. So he was calm.

But I am ticked at that woman!
I would be so pissed off at any parent that did that.

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[Merman Dylan]

I get you completely, and I hear you. I do not do proffesional gigs, so all the time I spend with my tail on is my own.

I do not think you are being rude by setting up boundaries for yourself with people, or for not letting kids tell you whatever they want with zero consequences, even if it is downright wrong, and parents would not let them say it in another circumstances.

I have had interactions with kids where they would insist in touching me (tail, earrings, even bra!) even after I stated I did not want to be touched. If they insist in ignoring my boundary, then I just swim off and I don't let them get near me. I have had kids just sitting with me for more than half an hour making conversation while their mothers are swimming or using their cell phones; they do not think for a second about telling them to leave me be. I don't mind a bit of interaction, but I am there for my own enjoyment, not to entertain or look after your kid, lady, specially around water.

The pictures for me are less stressful. Since I go to a City Hall pool, it is forbidden to take pictures of people. If you want a picture you have to ask and obtain permission. I usually don't mind, but I like that I have the option to say no if I don't feel like it.

So it's not you, Dylan. It's them. :hug:
It's funny. I've got one of those weird personalities where I'm super social and chatty and other times when I just want to be alone. I don't mind interacting with kids, and I do know that I need to get better about that. However, it worries me when parents leave their kids near me. I plan on getting SCUBA and CPR certification in the future, but I'm not certified right now. Kids can drown in any depth of water. I don't swim with my legs the way I used to swim, so in a way, I've lost touch with what that's like which made it very weird when I made an attempt to swim without my tail. However, if something happened, there isn't a lot I could do.

The pictures getting g taken are incredibly annoying when it's without permission, but I can swim far away underwater and prevent them from getting a good photo. I do a majority of my swimming in tail. For me, that is the most comfortable way to be and swim. It's the one thing I can't explain how or why, but for my entire life, I just feel so much more at home in the water or at the beach. There's something about the sea and water that tugs at my heart the way the moon tugs on the ocean and makes waves.

I honestly feel fickle. If someone asks to take a photo the answer is yes. I don't care if it's my free time. I'll let them take a picture. I won't work to hard to really pose, but I'll let them take my picture. However, when they try to take my picture without asking. The answer is no, and I will swim away UNDERWATER, so they can't get a good picture. I might even hide underwater. I'll do something to make the picture come out bad. Muwahaha.

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[Hydra1337]

So yesterday I exchanged messages with a 13 year old girl on Etsy because she wanted to buy one of my "silicone mermaid tails". I politely pointed out that the description stated the listing was for a digital file of a mermaid tail not one you could swim in. She apologized and I made her feel better by saying it's better to ask before buying.

...Then at 4AM someone else actually purchased one from my listing. After what happened with the girl I messaged the buyer to make sure they understood they were just buying the design not a swimmable tail. They really thought it was a tail and asked me to cancel the order. Needless to say I had to refund their money.

I get that a lot of people don't really read descriptions but who seriously thinks a whole tail set will sell for $30 with free shipping?

[MermaidCelesteFL]

So yesterday I exchanged messages with a 13 year old girl on Etsy because she wanted to buy one of my "silicone mermaid tails". I politely pointed out that the description stated the listing was for a digital file of a mermaid tail not one you could swim in. She apologized and I made her feel better by saying it's better to ask before buying.

...Then at 4AM someone else actually purchased one from my listing. After what happened with the girl I messaged the buyer to make sure they understood they were just buying the design not a swimmable tail. They really thought it was a tail and asked me to cancel the order. Needless to say I had to refund their money.

I get that a lot of people don't really read descriptions but who seriously thinks a whole tail set will sell for $30 with free shipping?

Have you SEEN some of the comments on tailmakers' and famous mers' youtubes and instagrams? That's pretty much one of the only reasons why I follow Mertailor on IG, because it's entertaining to watch a handful of kids (AND ADULTS) beg for a free tail, and say that it would be great for exposure. You would be surprised how many people want something for nothing.

[Hydra1337]

And I thought my faith in humanity couldn't sink any lower.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Sorry, man. Some people are just that undisciplined. I've seen a lot of it in the tourism industry, and I'm sure anyone who has ever worked in the service industry has seen it as well. The fact of the matter is, you have to assume that your customers don't/can't read signs or descriptions, and can/will fight you for your products.

[Hydra1337]

I've worked in retail so unfortunately I'm very familiar with how stupid people can be.

[Dancing Fish]

I only posted my store 2 days ago and I've already had people ask if I'm really selling silicone tails for $70. Uh...no.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

Urgh. Today's my 2nd wedding anniversary and my husband is away in a different state for work. He was away for the same job last year, so we haven't had a chance to celebrate our anniversary together yet.

Blegh.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

😢 I'm sorry Lorelei

[AelianaNympha]

Urgh. Today's my 2nd wedding anniversary and my husband is away in a different state for work. He was away for the same job last year, so we haven't had a chance to celebrate our anniversary together yet.

Blegh.

That sucks. :( I can totally relate - my husband was in the marines for four years so the first three and a half years of our relationship were long distance.

Just look at the positives - you're married. So while you may not get to celebrate a few things together over the years, you have the rest of your lives together to look forward to. I know that doesn't fix your immediate problem, and it just feels like crap anyways, but it can be at least a small source of comfort. (It was for me, anyways.)


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[Azurin Luna]

Meh, nature hates me...

I was really getting hopeful that I would be pregnant because it had been nine weeks since my last period. But this morning I felt like being stomped in my guts... needless to say, but I'm not pregnant :'(

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Meh, nature hates me...

I was really getting hopeful that I would be pregnant because it had been nine weeks since my last period. But this morning I felt like being stomped in my guts... needless to say, but I'm not pregnant :'(

That's so disappointing, hon. I'm so sorry. I'll be praying this verse over you!

"May he give you the desire of your heart
and make all your plans succeed." - Psalm 20:4

*hugs* Let me know if you ever need someone to just listen. <3

[Mermaid Clara]

Grrr... Nothing is truly lost until your mom can't find it. I can't find my sculpting tools or the shells I was using to make my clay scales. I may just have to order new tools and go to the store to find a shell that would work. I don't know where they could have been put, I've looked everywhere!!!!


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[KateyMermaid]

Not really a bitchy post...more like an anxiety post.

But a derecho storm is supposed to hit Indiana and Ohio overnight tonight. Winds gusting up to 70mph.

I. Hate. Severe. Weather.

HATE
(Note: I enjoy summer thunderstorms, rolling thunder, occasional lightning and rain. That is not what tonights storm is projected to be)

I'm kinda freaking out. Gas can, anything that might blow around is in the garage, and I downloaded the NOAA weather alert app on my phone so that it will wake me up if there are any weather alerts or warnings.
Yup. Paranoid. Gonna go cook dinner and drink some gin to forget about looming storms.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

In Illinois. I feel you. Storm might be bad here, too.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

Thanks guys. We got to talk last night over the phone and that helped. <3

[Imogen Finnly]

No matter how hard i try, i can never seem to get along with my mom. And being pregnant has made it worse, because she is already trying to tell me how to raise this unborn bean.
But at the same time, she doesnt have a problem picking fights with me still. I guess being pregnant is all incredibly important, but not when your mom wants fight with you about everything.

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[Keiris]

Sorry to hear that you are having to tolerate that, Imogen. Family can at times be......trying.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Do what I did-tell the doctor what's going on, and say it's really stressing you out. He'll say something like "avoid stress as it can be harmful to the baby and you" tell your mom next time she starts up that the doctor said you were putting stress on the baby. Then just walk off.

My step mom was literally doing the same thing, and me and my husband live separate than them.

So now if she tries to start something, I just get up and yell "PROTECTING MY CHILD !!!" and walk out. I also told her that if she keeps being such a dingus, that she won't be a part of our sons life. My husband agreed with me, as did my dad who is married to her.

She changed her tone.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

What Shimmer said. All of that. Boundaries are vital!

[Mermaid Alea]

I only posted my store 2 days ago and I've already had people ask if I'm really selling silicone tails for $70. Uh...no.

Haha maybe they should try making their own silicone tail for $70.

[Imogen Finnly]

Youre right, but in Hispanic families or mine to say the least, boundaries aren't taken seriously by parents. My dad isnt like that, but my mom just... old school Mexican moms are a totally different ball games i guess...
I guess all i can do is keep trying .


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[Imogen Finnly]

You guys are the besties:)

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[KateyMermaid]

OK, I have had at least THREE GigSalad leads that have either lead me on to finally say no, or ghosted on me. They get all offended when I quote them my travel fee.
I had a lady that was over 200 miles away and was upset that the travel fee was more than the party fee. Like, sweetheart, I am the closest mermaid to you, and I'm going to be driving six hours to do a 1hr pool party. Of course my travel fee is more than the event cost! yeesh! The whole point of running a business is to MAKE money. (I would like to point out that in no way is mermaiding paying the bills. I'm lucky if I break even for a party or event. At best my profit is MAYBE $20. I'm not talking crazy fees here)

I esp love the clients who tell me their daughter/son is so excited and that they already told them I was coming, and didnt realize what my costs were. Like, what? How is that my problem? I am happy to send a gift or letter for a small fee, but I am not responsible for the fact that you promised your child something before it was confirmed.

-headdesk-
Some people.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

"Hello, my child's birthday is coming up, and I'd like to hire you to swim with the kids and play games. How much would an hour or two cost? I'd like you to be able to bring her a special mermaid gift as well, how much would all of that be?"

*quotes price* (mind you, I am not expensive at all, because I live in a small farm town. Like you, I have to cover travel, and I would have to cover the gift.

"Are you SERIOUS? I figured like $20 an hour! Is there a way for you to lower the price? I'll give you exposure. "

😑

Have had a few this summer like that.

[KateyMermaid]

Yup. Gotta love those people.

I had a woman who got seriously angry at me when I said I was not going to give her SIX year old daughter a mermaid tail the mother had bought on etsy. I explained that not all tails are safe and I only support certain tails for kids (none of which this tail was) and how I was uncomfortable telling her 6yo daughter she was a real mermaid, and giving her a questionable tail with no mermaid lessons.
(I teach swim lessons irl. Most 6yo kids cannot put a tail on and go.)
This lady blew up and started insulting me and how I thought I was special and "some kind of expert" (8 years of mermaiding. Also swim instructor)
Apparently the mom decided her friend (zero mermaid experience. Never swam in a tail) could do a better job.

Tried to at least tell her to hire a lifeguard or have adults supervising the party. She told me where i could shove that piece of advice.

I haven't heard from her. I hope no one died.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Yeesh. I don't envy you.

As excited as I am to get myself to a place that I can start gig-ing, I am not looking forward to that.

[Saelyyia]

That is just wrong (on the moms behalf) I see it all the time with princess gigs too. People always try to pull the "you're getting free exposure" and they don't want to pay. I way undercharge for my services and people still pull that and then get indignant an insulted. So I just use this picture to break things down for them and walk away. I know it says princess ing but just pretend it says mermaiding....
http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160623/af458cf5c35ba547a7a6fdf0c3f15a62.jpg
**Photo from a fb princessing group. I did not create it.**

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Some people really just don't get it. For us, safety is our main concern, it keeps us able to swim in public pools, public places in our tails. When a story goes up of how a woman put her young daughter in a questionable tail without ANY experience, WE take the fall, because then everyone pulls the whole "no mermaid tail is safe, even with experience!" so our fins and tails are banned from pools and beaches.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

The free exposure thing is bologna when you're told to stay for a few hours, deal with 10+ kids, (i have dealt with pervy dads at more than one gig), bring a special custom mermaid present, essentially feed yourself (as most don't offer, and get offended when you ask, so unless the kids think it's fun to "feed the mermaid" or you state in your contract that it's part of the deal to be fed, you've gotta wait), smile-smile-smile, and try to keep the kids from ripping either your tail-top-or feelings to shreds.

[KateyMermaid]

Pretty much.

I wish I could say that elitist parents are exclusive to entertainment. But they're not. I see it at my lessons all the time. Parents who think their child is perfect.

I have a kid who is severely adhd in one of my classes and often has to sit on the side of the pool because he endangers himself when I'm working with other students. The dad is in denial about this and yells at me after every class for ignoring his kid (none of the other kids in the class have listening issues and are happy to follow direction)
I have another boy who is12 and can't swim at all. He's in a class with 5yo. Mom wanted him to move up because "he'll be embarrassed".
Nope. Your son can't swim. He gets to stay with the little kids until he progresses. I don't care if his ego is wounded. I'm not going to move him up in a more advanced class when he's not ready.

Some parents suck.


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[AelianaNympha]

I see the same stuff all the time teaching. And it doesn't stop. I teach high school. I have students who straight up tell me they didn't study for a test and then their parents email me and insist that their student earned a higher grade than that. The parents completely ignore how little their kids are actually trying. They're entitled and aren't shy about it.


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[KateyMermaid]

And I hear you on free exposure. Parties are NOT exposure.
You just want a free mermaid.

I don't think I've broke even in what I've pocketed as a mermaid vs what I have invested in it. I run a BUSINESS. Insurance. Taxes. Payroll. Fees. There's a reason I charge what i do. I will always try to work with a client within reason.

I always wonder if these people argue with their mechanic or Doctor, or whoever over their prices as well lol


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

The fact that you deal with this so often because of you being a swim instructor, and still manage to keep your cool makes you a super hero.

I have the hardest time dealing with rude parents.

[KateyMermaid]

Parents are the reason I drink. [emoji23]

I just sigh, explain my case, and occasionally tell them they are welcome to go elsewhere.
I am lucky enough to work with management who are safety oriented and don't tolerate entitled parents.

And don't get me wrong, so many of my students (and their parents) are just lovely and awesome and agreeable.


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[mermaid_selene]

i am so upset, my friends and i were going to go swimming with our mono-fins at the beach but i totally forgot about the surgery i had to get. i got my tonsils removed and i cant go swimming for another 3 weeks *sigh* my throat is killing me and ive already gotten sick of ice cream. there could be worse surgeries though i just really wanted to swim.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch. No fun, being land locked.

[mermaid_selene]

i hope to make a speedy recover, but as a teenager getting them removed i have the risk of my throat bleeding and i cant have that happen. being a landlocked mer isnt fun but ill try my hardest to recover


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck

[Mermaid Alea]

i am so upset, my friends and i were going to go swimming with our mono-fins at the beach but i totally forgot about the surgery i had to get. i got my tonsils removed and i cant go swimming for another 3 weeks *sigh* my throat is killing me and ive already gotten sick of ice cream. there could be worse surgeries though i just really wanted to swim.


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Well, you are not alone in missing out on swimming. I have been talking with some local mers about meeting up this weekend and one mermaid who I really wanted to meet dislocated her knee recently and can't go. :( I am really sorry for you mers I know it is really sad to miss out on swimming, but I do hope you recover and you can find something to preoccupy yourself while you heal. :hug:

[mermaid_selene]

Well, you are not alone in missing out on swimming. I have been talking with some local mers about meeting up this weekend and one mermaid who I really wanted to meet dislocated her knee recently and can't go. :( I am really sorry for you mers I know it is really sad to miss out on swimming, but I do hope you recover and you can find something to preoccupy yourself while you heal. :hug:

aw thanks :)


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[Mermaid Jaffa]

Well, you are not alone in missing out on swimming. I have been talking with some local mers about meeting up this weekend and one mermaid who I really wanted to meet dislocated her knee recently and can't go. :( I am really sorry for you mers I know it is really sad to miss out on swimming, but I do hope you recover and you can find something to preoccupy yourself while you heal. :hug:
Same here. Two weeks before May, I caught a bad cough which made me so ill and weak, and I had to sleep for two weeks in between puking my guts out. Even though I'm much better now, and just when I think I can go swimming again, I get a little sniffle which sucks. I feel so dry and like I'm missing out on something very important!

I hate winter!

[Imogen Finnly]

Someone i never met filed a false auto insurance claim against me. Oh geez.

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[The Water Phoenix]

I'm just so done with this particular girl in my drama class. There's no point in reasoning with her because she never listens. Telling me what to do when she NEVER contributes. I'm just.so.done. *facepalm*


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[Merman Storm]

We seem to have the worst luck when it comes to vacations.

The day before the vacation: My home AC decides to fail. At the time we are having the worst heat wave of the year, with temperatures over 100F. Not too much of an issue, except for our three cats, who will be left alone in a hot house.
I call a repair guy to come out. Its Sunday, so its expensive. He cannot find anything easy to fix, says it looks like the compressor. He needs to talk to the manufacturer (which means he needs to come back on a weekday), to be sure.

My step son and daughter visit the house once a day to check on things, and they say they know someone. I let them call that someone to look at it on Tuesday, our travel day. We get to the airport, board the plane, and sit. And sit. And sit. An hour later they say the plane's #2 AC is broken, and to lock it out they need to turn off #1, which means unloading the passengers, doing the work, and re-loading. (The flight can proceed with just one AC, but its an hour to lock out the broken unit, so they were trying to fix the broken unit first. But eventually they had to just go with it.) While we are in the middle of re-loading, I get a call from the AC repair people. It is the compressor, and its $6500 for a new unit. Two silicone tails. With little choice, I tell them to proceed, all the while trying to get through the line to get on the plane.
Of course, due to the delay, we miss the connecting flight. Fortunately, while we were unloaded, we got a replacement flight.
We get to the destination, but our luggage does not. It did not make the flight change. The luggage with my tail in it.

We get to the house we are renting. I check my e-mail. The quote from the repair people is in it. The quote I was given over the phone was wrong: At the time he did not realize I have a fancy, high efficiency unit ( a SEER 16, two stage whole house heat pump.) A new unit is $8500. Three tails.

Recovery: I decide to let the first guy take a second look and give me his quote.
The airline delivers our lost luggage. We were missing it for only 18 hours.
The original repair guy notices that my AC is still under warranty (nice of repair people #2 to not mention that), but installation of a new compressor is a messy job. So its going to cost $1800, but that's still almost $7000 less than before.

This afternoon: Time to walk across the street and go for a tail swim in the gulf of Mexico. Maybe there will be a thunderstorm sometime today. I can see one in the distance.....

[Amphitrite]

OK, dealing with two pigs on another message site who are being nasty, harassing, evil, vile, and egotistical. I'm banned suddenly and have not been told why. I and others are being treated horribly and those of us who have gone through the proper channels are being ignored and permanently banned. The two in authority are abusing their stations, and harassing peopl. The one told my friend to choose between his FIANCEE and being his 'friend' they've purposely harassed these two by encouraging people to flirt with the guy in order to get the girl angry so that they could ban her. This is worse, because the two in authority used to be very close friends of mine and once upon a time they weren't giant assholes. I tried to speak kindly and honestly with the one and he yelled at me because suddenly the offshoot site that has been around longer than he has is supposedly breaking rules, even though there are a lot of these kinds of sites. Anyways I've been registered there since '03 and can't believe how horribly I and a massive number of others are being treated because someone has a giant ego. Cried and had stomach problems and nearly threw up. I've managed some cereal tonight for dinner but that's it...

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Someone called me out on IG because I support SeaWorld. They asked me to watch "Blackfish" to change my mind.

I'm doing my best not to start a flame war here as well, so let's just say that I'm not moving on my stance, and I'm really irritated with people who try to convince me otherwise.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Some people should mind their own business. Agree to disagree. I dont personally agree with seaworld, but I have my own reasons as to why I don't. And I'm sure you have your reasons as to why you support them. It's not right to bring it up publicly like on IG and make a big ordeal over it.

I understand some of the reasons people support it. Everything is like this, unfortunately, "if you dont agree with what I believe in-you're automatically wrong, and a terrible person."

I recently got yelled at on IG through comments where everyone could see and join in, because I'm not T TOTALLY against using a bit on a horse. I agree that some people use them to an extreme extent, but when used properly, and the right bit is used with a delicate hand, it's a handy learning tool.

Breastfeeding vs bottle feeding Is the same way

As is pretty much everything, you just gotta ignore it and not let it get you riled up.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Oh man... I'm also a supporter of breast feeding, and get a little upset when I have anti-vax friends that post the same picture of the baby doll with all of the shots hanging out of it.

[KateyMermaid]

I hate my bank sometimes.

So I recieve an email today at 5pm saying that I need to activate my new debit card that has a chip in it. They go on to say that they will be deactivating my current debit card on 7/12/2016.

Here's the thing, I didnt recieve a new debit card with a chip. It hasn't been activated,because I dont have it.

So I call customer support, and the dude on the line has no idea what I'm talking about and says I just need to activate my new card. and I have to mansplain to him that I dont have one. Finally the poor bloke catches on, and says they will mail a new chip debit card to me.

the best part? My current debit card will be deactivated until the new one arrives. over 2 weeks earlier than they said in the email. excuse me? And when I explained that was unacceptable, as I dont use credit, and pay all of my bills and handle business transactions through that card number, it needs to stay open and available. Apparently the banks solution was to tell me to get a temp card from my local branch, which means going through ALL OF MY AUTO PAY ACCOUNTS and changing the card number, and dealing with the verification of that process, only to have to do that AGAIN when the official new card arrives that has a chip in it.

So basically my bank has locked up my debit account for at least 2 weeks, with no solution for me. and my bills are due in a week.

I know its not the customer service guys fault, he's just the messenger, and I was trying to not be an ass to him. But damnit. I hate my bank right now.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Getting reaaaal tired of a certain mer appropriating other people's culture and being hella racist. ��☕️

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I feel ya, SeaGlass.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Is there a story for the drama thread? I'm kinda interested.

[Merman Arion]

Is there a story for the drama thread? I'm kinda interested.

This. I'm ready for tea time [emoji196]☕️


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[SeaGlass Siren]

okidoke. EVERYONE MIGRATE TO THE DRAMA THREAD.

[PearlieMae]

Getting reaaaal tired of a certain mer appropriating other people's culture and being hella racist. ��☕️

Hmmm...does her name rhyme with MANNAH?

[SeaGlass Siren]

WITCH PLEASE if she the fairest in the land then i am moving to the SEA.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I am 28 weeks along on Thursday, which is also the day I go in for my second ultrasound, and my glucose test. Meaning-i have to drink some horrible tasting punch stuff, then have blood drawn to check my sugar levels.

I dont care to drink the punch, but I frakkin hate having my blood pulled.
Haaaaaate it. I'd rather have to eat nothing but oatmeal for the rest of my life than have my blood drawn.

I am more nervous for getting my blood drawn than I am for delivery to be quite honest.

I have one tattoo, probably will never get another, because just the idea of needles, and essentially, it was more of a "hes already started permanently drawing on my skin, i have to let him finish."

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck, Shimmer!

[LouLouBelle]

Good luck Shimmer - hopefully it won't be as bad as your dreading!

I can sympathise to a certain extent as I hate having blood drawn and usually go light headed... I'm surprised they're resorting to that if it's just glucose testing, though - surely that could just be done using a finger prick?

Either way, good luck! It'll all be worth it in the end. [emoji4]


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

May be TMI: but oh well

My husband is at work and sent me a text essentially asking me to send him a boob picture, which I don't mind, we've sexted before, what married couple hasn't done something similar?

So I'm usually like "yaaaas I love my breasts, they are so nice, and I love the shape, and everything." essentially my boob confidence is through the roof most times.

Well I went to go take a pic, and well, I'm pregnant, my boobs have changed. I feel like I'm rocking a pair of traffic cones with eyes.

Either way, I sent the pic, and he's praising my chest, and I feel like I've lost my breast confidence.

My chest has gotten bigger since getting pregnant, I feel unappreciative of my mammary glands and I dont know what even to say. 😓

[KateyMermaid]

Wrong thread. Whoops
Edit: deleted

[PhaylennMurúch]

May be TMI: but oh well

My husband is at work and sent me a text essentially asking me to send him a boob picture, which I don't mind, we've sexted before, what married couple hasn't done something similar?

So I'm usually like "yaaaas I love my breasts, they are so nice, and I love the shape, and everything." essentially my boob confidence is through the roof most times.

Well I went to go take a pic, and well, I'm pregnant, my boobs have changed. I feel like I'm rocking a pair of traffic cones with eyes.

Either way, I sent the pic, and he's praising my chest, and I feel like I've lost my breast confidence.

My chest has gotten bigger since getting pregnant, I feel unappreciative of my mammary glands and I dont know what even to say. 


Honey that's perfectly normal. You've known your breasts since puberty and all of a sudden you look down and go "WTF!?!?!! Who the hell are you and where did my boobs go?"
It's that moment when they go from being passive organs to food source. I found that loading up on comfy yet super cute bras and nice tops helped a LOT during both of my pregnancies

[Imogen Finnly]

May be TMI: but oh well

My husband is at work and sent me a text essentially asking me to send him a boob picture, which I don't mind, we've sexted before, what married couple hasn't done something similar?

So I'm usually like "yaaaas I love my breasts, they are so nice, and I love the shape, and everything." essentially my boob confidence is through the roof most times.

Well I went to go take a pic, and well, I'm pregnant, my boobs have changed. I feel like I'm rocking a pair of traffic cones with eyes.

Either way, I sent the pic, and he's praising my chest, and I feel like I've lost my breast confidence.

My chest has gotten bigger since getting pregnant, I feel unappreciative of my mammary glands and I dont know what even to say. 😓
My kind of feel the same. They are starting to become less perky, and feel like lead weights. The smaller one is catching up the other, but even still its smaller in comparison. Not to mention stretch marks.. :( youre not alone at all.. my husband still loves them though haha

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

My nipples feel like when you get a shirt with a decal a tad too small, then put it on and it stretches the decal. My nips are the decals.

[PearlieMae]

Hahaha! Awww! I feel for you!

If I can offer a little advice from the far side of the age spectrum, one day you will reach an age where you wish you had all that time back that you wasted worrying about your boobs/belly/butt/wrinkles/etc.

BELIEVE THEM WHEN THEY TELL YOU YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!

Old Pearlie, PEACE OUT! ;)

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Not really a bitch, not really not. I haven't been riding my horses as much lately because I feel like I'm too unbalanced, this has caused me to lose almost all of the muscle from my legs. The doctor said I could still ride, just go easy, but I got my hella toned legs from jumping and running on my horses, which obviously I'm not going to do
While so far along.

[Imogen Finnly]

Oh my god your hair is so longggg..! I only dream of that kind of hair! I just cut all of the deadness off my head with curls it is so short now.

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[Mermaid Mystery]

I have so much anxiety???? like I don't even eat lunch at work bc I'm so anxious it kills me. and I have to improvise a mermaid top in the next week and get time off and aaaaaaaaaa

[Shimmer Mermaid]

So I got my Mahina Merfin tuesday, it is now Saturday.

When I go swimming, I go to my uncles pool a couple of towns over, I have privacy, and am able to just do my thing.

Wednesday we went swimming, I have to take my little sister, otherwise I get bitched at for not including her and essentially told by my uncle that I can't swim there unless I'm considerate to her.

Which i am totally fine with. No problem taking her at all. But Wednesday when I was TRYING to test my monofin that I got SO I COULD STAY IN SHAPE WHILE PREGNANT, every four seconds my sister demanded I hand off my monofin. Which i-again- had no problem doing because I wanted to see how it did on differently shaped feet and different swimming methods so I could give it a review from more than just one person.

But my sister keeps demanding I let her have the fin every time I turn around, every time we swim. I told her that she can get herself a finfun since she has a job, and only wants to play in it, not for fitness, and I'm trying to swim with it as much as possible because I'm trying to stay in shape (my doctor actually informed me that the dolphin kick with the fin will actually help strengthen the muscles in my stomach needed for labor) and essentially got told that I'm a selfish bitch. Her friend agreed with Me(her friends sister is also pregnant). But then we both got told we were assholes.

If she goes to the pool without inviting me, nobody bats a damn eye, But if I do the same thing, I get bitched at and told not to come back unless I'm "nicer" to her and "considerate to her feelings" when they don't put her up to the same standard.

My husband works almost all day, and when he gets home, it's dark and too late to go to the lake to swim.

She's 16, has a load of friends to swim with and WAY more opportunities than I do.

Not only that, but at the moment, me and my husband only have one vehicle between us.
While my sister has her own truck.
When we go to the pool, my dad tells us to use his big truck so we can fit the fin, towels, etc.

It has begun to piss me off beyond belief because I don't want to have the stress of fighting with her if she chooses to pick a fight over the fin when we swim, so it's caused me to put off swimming at all. But I don't want to stop swimming especially since I can't ride my horses to stay in shape.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hug*

I hope your sister buys herself a fin.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I do too. I feel so bad because I feel like I'm being selfish, but my husband bought it for me because I wanted a new one for fitness and if I'm only getting to swim in it for a minute or two, then have to wait however long she decided she wants to swim in it, only to have the same thing happen a few minutes later, I may as well stay home.

[Mermaid Alea]

Wait, she is 16 and you have to take her along!? At first I when I was reading this I expected her to be younger, but heck at that age you shouldn't be having to take her along every time. Is there any way you could find somewhere else to swim and not tell her or your uncle?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Our local pools are constantly filled with people, and some don't allow fins of any sort. The only other place would be the lake, but me and my husband only have one vehicle and he takes it to work everyday, and the lake I wouldn't want to go without him.

We were talking about getting an above ground pool, and using that until we finish our pool.

[Hydra1337]

Wow...I'm so sorry, Shimmer. I hope you actually get the above ground pool.

[Ashe]

I was expecting her to be a little girl when you I first read the story. Gosh, I'm sixteen and I don't even remember the last time any one of my friends or myself acted like that... no offense. And those double standards are such a bother, I understand that :(

You need to encourage her to buy a fin of her own if she wants it so badly, and remind everyone else that the fin you're wearing is yours. Maybe you can get her friend to persuade her as well? It seems like she understands.

Hugs!

[PearlieMae]

Tell her to stop acting like a spoiled brat and get her own freakin' fin!

Seriously! Why are you letting her boss you around? If you have to share, get a timer and split the fin usage into half hour intervals. If she doesn't like it, she can stay her ass at home.

[Hydra1337]

With a stressful situation like that sometimes it's easier to say fuck it. I learned that one the hard way when I was pregnant.

[Ashe]

Tell her to stop acting like a spoiled brat and get her own freakin' fin!

Seriously! Why are you letting her boss you around? If you have to share, get a timer and split the fin usage into half hour intervals. If she doesn't like it, she can stay her ass at home.

And here we see the bad cop, er, siren :lol:

[Merman Dylan]

So, I let myself get baited into this situation, and I'm struggling to let it go. I'm not innocent and unfortunately responded with antagonistic words like a moron. If I don't vent it, I feel like it's going to build up inside and become worse. I do not want to rub anyone's name through the muck, nor do I want to fight over this because fighting won't solve anything. I'm a moron for letting this get to me and engaging at all. I can share the screenshots, but I hope I won't have to. I forgot my meds today, so that didn't help me much.

Basically, I tried to argue against Allen Sherrod with news articles as preliminary searches for evidence, but I could have been nicer and not call him a dick or an asshole. He did get extremely rude, and I have the screenshots to prove it. However, I do want apologize for my part.

Basically, the meme said that:
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My response to this was that I thought it was wrong and that I never heard a democrat or Muslim say this ever. I have no idea how a comment like this turned into what it did. I have family that served in the military, and even my oldest brother including me have given the military service an honest thought. My brother has sericeous, and he was declined, and I have Bipolar Disorder and ADHD. The odds of me ever getting an honest chance at the military is almost non existent along with many careers. I can't believe I was such a fool to get baited into this.

[Merman Dylan]

I'm thinking that sharing this here will escalate things...this might have been a bad idea. If it wasn't for the threat to beat me up....

[Keiris]

Well if it makes you feel any better Dylan, I can't open any of your attachments.

[Merman Dylan]

Well, it's just a bunch of hostility and Islamophobia stuff I had a problem with that started all of this. Truth be told, I was a barnacle brain and forgot my meds today. One of the behavioral things I'm working on right now is impulse control. I have been struggling not to just go and spend money, engage in conflicting posts and what not. Forgetting my meds just turned the odds against me. It isn't an excuse, but it is something I need to work on.

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[Merman Dylan]

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when I disagreed with this.

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this was the reply I got. that turned into a very heated argument.

[Keiris]

Honestly, Dylan, people like him think it's his way or the highway and he feels entitled to ramrod his opinion down everyone's throat just because he was in the military. I imagine if he was that belligerent and headstrong while he was there, he was probably reprimanded often. Try not to let an insignificant blowhard affect your mood. They are everywhere and there opinions carry only as much weight as you allow them.....in other words, worthless.

[Mermaid Mystery]

yikes. making threats…someone should contact the police and ban him from mermaid events. what a lowlife piece of shit. not sugar coating anything, he's just purely an asshole.

[Merman Dylan]

I, personally, don't want to fight about this. I just didn't want to hold it in. I had to vent, but I'm starting to feel better.

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[Merman Dylan]

I get you completely, and I hear you. I do not do proffesional gigs, so all the time I spend with my tail on is my own.

I do not think you are being rude by setting up boundaries for yourself with people, or for not letting kids tell you whatever they want with zero consequences, even if it is downright wrong, and parents would not let them say it in another circumstances.

I have had interactions with kids where they would insist in touching me (tail, earrings, even bra!) even after I stated I did not want to be touched. If they insist in ignoring my boundary, then I just swim off and I don't let them get near me. I have had kids just sitting with me for more than half an hour making conversation while their mothers are swimming or using their cell phones; they do not think for a second about telling them to leave me be. I don't mind a bit of interaction, but I am there for my own enjoyment, not to entertain or look after your kid, lady, specially around water.

The pictures for me are less stressful. Since I go to a City Hall pool, it is forbidden to take pictures of people. If you want a picture you have to ask and obtain permission. I usually don't mind, but I like that I have the option to say no if I don't feel like it.

So it's not you, Dylan. It's them. :hug:
Thanks for replying. I know it's a little late, but thank you for your time.

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[MermaidCelesteFL]

Alec, that guy is a flat-out troll. The best way to shut him up is to not engage him at all. I've seen it tons of times before. I know what he says is hurtful, but he is only lashing out at you because he gets enjoyment out of your reaction.

Here, enjoy this video.


https://youtu.be/FMEe7JqBgvg

[Merman Dylan]

Alec, that guy is a flat-out troll. The best way to shut him up is to not engage him at all. I've seen it tons of times before. I know what he says is hurtful, but he is only lashing out at you because he gets enjoyment out of your reaction.

Here, enjoy this video.


https://youtu.be/FMEe7JqBgvg
I will remember this. I don't get as bad as I did normally, but I also don't have the social skills. I think he might be my first troll.

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[Merman Dylan]

I want to thank everyone for listening to me vent. I'd imagine I'm exhausting to listen to with all the problems that I get involved with. I feel like I'm learning how things work and how to better manage myself with each mistake I make. Hopefully, I continue to get better, and I no longer have to use this thread to vent. If I ever do need to vent, I hope becomes only the small stuff. Cheers to hoping for things to get better.

[AelianaNympha]

So I'm with my husband's family for the Fourth of July. We went to see the fireworks at the waterfront and when they started we realized we couldn't see, so we moved forward a few feet and had to stand so we could see over the people standing in front of us. We didn't realize that we'd blocked some people who were sitting behind us by standing. Now I don't know how long they'd asked us to sit - maybe they asked us nicely a few times and we didn't hear because fireworks. Regardless they started yelling at us to sit - they'd been sitting in that spot for two hours and we'd come and blocked them as soon as the fireworks started. I get it. They didn't swear but they were a little rude in yelling. Again, they might have asked nicely and I didn't hear. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Well my husband's uncle was drunk and got belligerent. I just sat down and they said thank you (impatiently). Like okay. We blocked you, sorry, we sit and problem is solved. Well we decided to move to get away from the problem and the uncle remained there to be rude back. Now I was raised to turn the other cheek - no need to be rude back. It's not my responsibility to call them out, and even if I needed to stand up for myself, the Fourth is not the time. Everyone's just there to do the same thing you want to do. No need to start a war; we're all there to celebrate FREEDOM. Well, later everyone is still upset about it and I voiced my opinion that I understood why they were upset and we WERE in the wrong because they were there first. I quickly realized that no one - not even my husband - agreed with me. Add to this my anxiety (I literally JUST had a panic attack last night cause many of them got drunk and loud and sweary in a family restaurant), and I was about to hyperventilate. And the uncle does NOT know how to just give me my space so I can calm down, mostly because he is drunk. Now I definitely don't want to start a battle here or anything. I just needed to vent that I'm frustrated that I'm the outsider in my opinion. Is it that hard to meet anger with peace and walk away?


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