B!TC# IT OUT!

[Echidna]

Methinks all this belongs into the Beefcake thread.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Probably! XD

[Seatan]

I just styled and wrote personal notes to 62 people tonight. SIXTY TWO. I want to gouge my eyes out. I like my job as an online stylist, but for reals, I never want to see a $58.00 t-shirt again. WHO BUYS ALL THIS OVERPRICED STUFF???? (Screams the person with a $2000 tail. But hey at least that has expensive materials. This is just PLAIN GREEN COTTON.)

[Merman Arion]

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Arion is handsome cutely-abashed guy. I am creepy smirking brow-wag guy. This is the way of the world.

Lol Seavanna. You're too adorable :hug:

[Merman Chatfish]

Got a rant this time, sort of. I feel a bit silly getting so worked up over this, but since my local pool banned all toys including swim fins, I haven't been able to shake this feeling that I'm not a proper mermaid and never will be one.

I get feelings like that a lot, like
how there are things I want to do (including mermaiding) but don't have the money
how many things I have missed because we live in the middle of nowhere with nothing around and people who have the same interests as me
how I would have friends and be able to do stuff I want to do if I was born female and not male.

Hmm...sounds like my depression is acting up again :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

:(
Well, Chatfish, I'm sure you'll manage to find a few people with common interests near you. Also, people can be awful when others try to break through their stereotypes, but they can change. Just do what you want, and be patient wIth the people around you, maybe they'll come around.

[Ciriun]

:hug: Chatfish, whether or not the people in your area support who you and what you want to be, there are plenty of people out there and on here who do. I know it can be hard to pull yourself up from feeling depressed like that, but hopefully knowing you have friends on here will help some.

[PhaylennMurúch]

today was the Pride Parade in SF, I saw my fare share of fine asses. I did seriously feel like a bit of a perv but my parade buddy took about 600 photos (all voluntary) of fine asses.

[Mermaid Mystery]

jealous I wanted to go! I was working :(

[SeaGlass Siren]

my voice just left me. i work tomorrow. FUCK.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Darn.

[SeaGlass Siren]

thankfully i can still go in and work. whenever someone loses a voice, we never pass up the opportunity to say (er.. show them a note that says) "the sea witch ursula stole our voice, but we can still assist!"

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That is fantastic. XD

[SeaGlass Siren]

the best part is i'm known as their residential mermaid. so they are gonna flip their tail feathers. :P

[Merman Chatfish]

My manager isn't to happy with me...normally I am an assistant manager but sometimes I guard and when I guard I have cleaning duties at night. Tonight I was to do concessions and took an hour to do what others do in 10-15 minutes (hose down the area and lay down soap). I am not sure why I am so much slower, the other two times I was a guard each of those chores (cleaning bathrooms) also took 2 to 3 times as long. Granted last week in the women's I hit dirt under the toilets I don't think anyone has done, and I did do a little extra tonight since the area was still dirty from last weeks flooding, but I don't think it should take 50 minutes longer than normal. Not sure what I am doing wrong.

[Starfrit]

So this past week's been an absolute nightmare, and thanks to finally just getting fed up and drinking myself into a coma on Saturday night I barely remember that much of it.

Work sucks, I'm working my ass off and taking as many hours as my boss is able to give me and I still can't afford my rent. I just sent my boyfriend every cent I had and I'm still short. Bear in mind I got paid on Friday, so now I'm going two weeks-- yet again-- without any money for groceries, and it's likely my next paycheck's going to get swallowed up entirely by bills and the rest of the money I owe for rent, too. :T My boyfriend's got a way better job with more hours and better pay (like, twice as much as what I make) so he has no problem covering for me and buying the groceries, but I hate having to rely on him so much. He says he doesn't mind because he knows I'll pay him back when I can, but I feel like a huge burden.

I'm only getting about 30 hours a week, and I'm working extra hard in the hopes that my boss will give me more hours, but it just isn't happening... It doesn't help that work is so slow anyway that there are times when everything's prepped, everything's cleaned, and there's nothing else to do so we're just... sitting around waiting for customers to show up.

I work 12-8 so I feel like I have no time during the day to go out and actually do anything with friends on the days that I'm working, which only adds to my chronic depression, and then on the days I actually have off, I'm so depressed I can barely get out of bed, much less leave the damn house.

Do you know how many times I've actually gotten to swim in my brand-new, gorgeous, perfect tail? Once. Almost two months ago. I can never get to the pool for the public swims, and with the way work's been going I can't even afford the admission fee into the pool anyway. My tail is hanging in the closet and I can't do anything with it and it's killing me. Yeah, the weather's getting warmer which means the water's getting warmer, but this stupid island's climate is so fucked up that one day it can be 25 degrees and gorgeous out, the next day it's less than 10 degrees and it's grey and cloudy and miserable. Guess which days I end up working on and which days I'm off? I'll give you a hint: I'm wearing two sweaters and a housecoat on the days I'm actually off.

Plus, the only swimmable river I could even bring my tail to is nearly half an hour out of St. John's... So I'd need my boyfriend to drive me there, and he works more often than I do so that's even harder to plan, especially when you barely know what the weather's going to be like thanks to how often it fuckin' changes.

It's just so frustrating, and nothing seems to be working out. It got to the point on Friday when I saw how pathetic my paycheck was that I was scared I was going to end up having to sell my tail just to be able to afford basic shit, and it broke my heart. I've since convinced myself that I won't have to, but the thought keeps creeping back.

Last Tuesday I was so just generally depressed about everything going on right now that I went to bed at 11:30 Monday night, and didn't get out of bed until 6:30pm Tuesday night. And even then the only reason I got up was because Dave came home from work, found out I'd been in bed all day and hadn't eaten or drank anything, and dragged me out to force some toast into me and try to cheer me up. It helped, which is something, but not by very much.

So yeah, that's pretty much why I've been so quiet on MN lately. I haven't been in a great state.

[Echidna]

I found one of the pills lying around on the floor that can kill a small child or a pet.
AGAIN.
The last time, my little one escaped death by a hair's breath.

I've been freaking the entire night about it, crawling around in every corner and looking with a flashlight to see if more of those tiny deadly buggers are lost.
Both my parents take loads of these meds, and despite all my pleas to be careful with them and only take it inside a room where no little ones have access to, it happened again.

I'm sad and freaked and desperate.
I wish I could pack my things and be out of here, but I'm stuck in this house.
And I cannot be around and look after my forgetful parents 24 hours every day.

Worst thing is, if someone finally dies, I know what they will do.
They'll be "so sorry!" and be careful for about 3 days, and then it's all back to "normal".

I wonder how I ever managed to grow to adulthood.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow, everyone. I'm so sorry this is happening. Chatfish, Tieri, Echidna. :(
Chatfish - it's probably that you aren't Guard enough to get really practiced at the cleaning piece. When I was waitressing I only worked once a week and so I was much slower than everyone because I just wasn't working frequently enough.
Tieri - I don't even know what to say. That's all so awful.
Echidna - I empathize. Used to work at a retirement community, so... ugh. I hope nobody dies.
All three of you - virtual hugs. I hope things improve soon. ♡

[Lotus the Mermaid]

What I wish I could do after reading these stories:

:group hug:

I'm so sorry. I'll be praying all of your situations improve. :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Agreed.

[Echidna]

Thanks guys.

I think I'll have to double my efforts.
But it gets so tiring, sometimes I think persuading a wall would be easier :p

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Chatfish, you are the first lifeguard I've ever heard of that cleans the place as well! Is your pool centre so small that the lifeguards have to maintain the premises too?

So much sadness from everyone... I hope things work out for you all.

[Merman Chatfish]

Chatfish, you are the first lifeguard I've ever heard of that cleans the place as well! Is your pool centre so small that the lifeguards have to maintain the premises too?

So much sadness from everyone... I hope things work out for you all.

My last pool was like that too. At this one we hose down the bathroom floors and concession area, restock bathroom supplies, straighten chairs, pick up trash, vacuum the pool and clean the large item filter. I thought all outdoor pools do that.

I was at work today for an inservice and afterwards I am worried I may have paranoia. I am worried people are talking about me at the pool, especially two I am kind of friends with. I am also woried I may be becoming too close as friends and not sure. Its happened at my last pool...I don't understand the line between being friendly professional and being friends. I already have a hard enough time distinguishing acquaintances from friends*. Its also harder because many people are friends or at least knew each other outside of work so I am more confused because I can't just follow by example. Some of the other assistant managers are more goofs than I am and I tend to stick to the more serious and better lifeguards which are mostly all females and being a male that causes additional problems (did last year too).
I just feel that people are unhappy with me but don't know.


*In college one friend would tell me a group of people were not actually my friends, and then a person in that group would tell me another group which includes the first person are not friends for different reasons. In the past people who would talk to me I considered friends, now its a friend is someone you hang out with. Sadly with that second one it means I have no friends. Outside of family I have only actually hung out with two people in the last year and one of them doesn't want to be friends.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Damn, Chatfish! That sucks!
*flails about*

[Merman Chatfish]

Thank you all for your support.

[PearlieMae]

My last pool was like that too. At this one we hose down the bathroom floors and concession area, restock bathroom supplies, straighten chairs, pick up trash, vacuum the pool and clean the large item filter. I thought all outdoor pools do that.

I was at work today for an inservice and afterwards I am worried I may have paranoia. I am worried people are talking about me at the pool, especially two I am kind of friends with. I am also woried I may be becoming too close as friends and not sure. Its happened at my last pool...I don't understand the line between being friendly professional and being friends. I already have a hard enough time distinguishing acquaintances from friends*. Its also harder because many people are friends or at least knew each other outside of work so I am more confused because I can't just follow by example. Some of the other assistant managers are more goofs than I am and I tend to stick to the more serious and better lifeguards which are mostly all females and being a male that causes additional problems (did last year too).
I just feel that people are unhappy with me but don't know.


*In college one friend would tell me a group of people were not actually my friends, and then a person in that group would tell me another group which includes the first person are not friends for different reasons. In the past people who would talk to me I considered friends, now its a friend is someone you hang out with. Sadly with that second one it means I have no friends. Outside of family I have only actually hung out with two people in the last year and one of them doesn't want to be friends.

Maybe this can help a little?
http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-behaviors-of-phenomenally-likable-people.html

[Mermaid Jaffa]

You're not the only one... I have no friends either and that hasn't stopped me from enjoying myself. It does get very lonely and sometimes I wish for someone to like me for me, with all my eccentricities. But that hasn't happened yet. I've still a long road to travel, maybe one day I'll stop and rest over and maybe even find someone!

Work wise there is nothing happening, I tried and tried, seems only people want to hire young and cheap labour, over someone who has more experience, skills and knowledge. I've had family finding me jobs which require certification in things I've never heard of! Such as the one for the local KFC... Did you know you needed to have Deep Fryer Certificate Level 3 to work at KFC?? To which I say, I don't have, to which they say, "They will train you!" My heart says, "That's not how it works anymore. What century are these people from??" I thought moving to the city would gain me more jobs and eventually a permanent job but the competition is tough.

[Merman Chatfish]

I just talked to someone at the pool and my manager. They say everything is fine, so then it sounds like I need to talk to my therapist and talk to her about possible paranoia. This has happened before Unfortunately.

[Mermaid Alea]

Aww man that is tough. Just know that anyone who is going to talk bad about you behind your back is not worth being friends with. Of the people out there that don't make good friends for you there are tons of people out there who would be a good friend. You just have to learn to be more confident in yourself. Don't be worried about what people think of you. There will always be someone out there who won't like you or understand you. But there will be a lot of people who will like you. It is like when you meet someone that you just don't want to be around because you have nothing in common with them, they are annoying, etc and you try to be nice to them but it just doesn't work out. It is a tough thing to realize thought because I think most of us want to be liked by everyone and be known as a likeable person.

I think in high school I learned to not care. I didn't care about what people thought about me wearing bright colors and sparkly gold pants, etc. I was fine with standing out because I didn't care about fitting in. The friends I found in high school were cool with that because they themselves were different and fun because they didn't try to be 'cool'. I don't have a whole lot of friends, and really I rarely hang out with people, but those people I do hang out with lift me up instead of bringing me down and that is important. They are nice and we have a good time when we do get together. I grew up an only child so I am used to being a loner and I find that normally if I am hanging out with just one person, I quickly get tired of them before the end of the day. I do much better in a group setting. You will have to figure out all of these things - Who are your real friends or what do you want in a friend? How can you learn to not care so much about what others think?

My boyfriend is the social butterfly and I am a bit of a lone wolf, but even I need some real world social interaction at times. I hope this helped even just a little. I am by no means a social expert but I have definitely dealt with not fitting in, worrying about what others thought of me, longing to be included in certain groups, etc. You just have to push through it and grow. :hug:

[Echidna]

sometimes I wish for someone to like me for me,

I like you!

As for the job madness; I have given up on most "normal" job activities.
I even grow some of my food myself (otherwise it's full of pesticides which give me bad headaches and bleedings).
My dream is to become wholly independent (food- and energy-wise), but that won't happen unless I somehow come unto enough money to buy a large piece of land or something. :/

[Madison MerFaerie]

I love my job. It's usually pretty fun, but it occasionally involves really tough situations. This job has been my dream-job since I was 3. From a young age I've known that these situations exist, but today is the first day that I had to deal with it. So far, telling myself "you knew was going to happen" is not helping. Feeling pretty bummed out today...

[telzey.amberdon]

My manager isn't to happy with me...normally I am an assistant manager but sometimes I guard and when I guard I have cleaning duties at night. Tonight I was to do concessions and took an hour to do what others do in 10-15 minutes (hose down the area and lay down soap). I am not sure why I am so much slower, the other two times I was a guard each of those chores (cleaning bathrooms) also took 2 to 3 times as long. Granted last week in the women's I hit dirt under the toilets I don't think anyone has done, and I did do a little extra tonight since the area was still dirty from last weeks flooding, but I don't think it should take 50 minutes longer than normal. Not sure what I am doing wrong.


Its tough doing things the right way. It always takes longer and seems harder. Be proud in the job you did, nobody else did it that night.

[Ciriun]

Can I jump on the job market is evil bandwagon? Everywhere I look wants someone with prior experience in whatever it is, usually a year or two. For example, sales. I applied at a local Jo-anns and didn't get the position because I've never worked sales before. Well how am I supposed to get experience if no one will hire me without it?

To rub salt in the wound, the job posting I applied to is still up but I got my rejection email probably around a month ago.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Would some of your co-workers be willing to hang out after work, Chatfish?

What happened Madison?

[MerMaisy]

So I'm going to a community college to study early childhood education. I'm currently studying for the math assessment and I'm super cranky because I hate math. I learned all this stuff like 3 years ago and I don't remember it. It's not like I'm going to be teaching 3 year olds how to use logarithms[emoji19]. I get about 2 days off a week and this is how I have to spend it if I'm going to be responsible. I just want to go swimming with my tail.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And that SUCKS Ciriun. I can't say I know what you're going through - I started working at fifteen and, despite being only seventeen, haven't been out of a job for very long since, but I many of my family members are very jobless.
So, *hug*

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Also, ouch, Maisy.

[Ciriun]

Good for you, Sabrina. Starting work at a younger age will make it much easier in the future. At that age I was struggling with serious depression and could barely drag myself out for school some days. Now I've just got anxiety and possibly some other mental health problems as well which make things like applying for jobs way more stressful than they should be.

I am cautiously optimistic about my application to Petsmart for a stocking position I put in earlier today. Fingers crossed.

And Mermaisy, I sympathize. Math stinks and for most majors they require you to learn way more than you will ever need.

[MerMaisy]

I was like that too Ciriun. My anxiety got wayyy better after I switched to an alternative school from the high pressure public school I had been attending. Good luck with the job search.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

After all of the stuff i went through as a kid, i have triggered anxiety.
Meaning:
I can have a man look at me a certain way, and go into an anxiety attack.

Last night i had one, and it was the worse one ive had in almost a year.
Anyway, i saw a video where this guy posted him recording his own anxiety attack.
I did the same. I so desperately want to post it, to show everyone who knows me that it is a VERY real thing, and i cant help it.
But I'm terrified. Horrified.
Ive been called so many horrid things because of this, im scared to put it up.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I have a newfound obsession with Jurassic park and its taking over my life

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Gotcha, Ciriun. Many of my friends have mental health issues and I myself have slight PTSD from being hit by a car when I was ten. Doesn't really interfere with anything except getting my licence, though. I can't bring myself to practice enough to get good at driving.

And good for you Shimmer. If you do post it, post the link for us. I'm sure many of of us will post some supportive comments on YouTube. But if you don't feel ready to post, don't push it, either. Take it easy and do this at your own pace. Also, anyone who gives you crap about it can go soak their head in a toilet.

And Labrynth: sooo feel you about Jurassic.

[Merman Chatfish]

Would some of your co-workers be willing to hang out after work, Chatfish?

Because I am an assist manager I cannot unless its like a big group of them. Some people have talked about going to some movies but have never been invited.

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah but thats probably because it'd be weird to invite one of their bosses out ._.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

^ What SeaGlass said.

[SeaGlass Siren]

dylan i'm so sorry you have to go through that :(

[telzey.amberdon]

The minute you can, run!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hug*
So sorry Dylan. Sounds everyone is being REALLY unfair. :(

[SeaGlass Siren]

Honestly Dylan, i can tell you that i was exactly in that sort of situation. Constantly being called lazy, a bitch, when really i call them out on their BS and actually do more than my share of the chores.
When i finally left they realized how wrong they were and now they can't function without me.

When you leave oh ho ho you will taste the freedom and they'll wan't you to come back.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Hun, don't let FAAAAAMILY tie you to toxic people. Just because you're related by blood does NOT mean they get held to a standard that is more lax than the standards you hold strangers to. IMHO family should be held to a higher standard because of the long standing relationships.

How old are you, btw?

[Raayvhen]

Rawr! Why must I get decently buzzed after one beer?!

[Mermaid Alea]

Aww that is really lame Dylan. :( I don't really know how to make your sister less negative. Some people are just negative by nature. I am an only child so I haven't had to deal with siblings, but I definitely know what it feels like to be underappreciated. I try to be nice and do right but sometimes it feels like I get called out on even the tiniest thing and it turns a good day into a really bad day. My boyfriend has 6 brothers and sisters and he is the second oldest. He told me that he used to fight with his older sister all the time, but he said once she went off to college they became closer and now they get along really well. So maybe once you are able to leave and be off on your own everyone's opinions of you will change.

You don't sound lazy at all to me. To me it sounds like you deserve that down time on your computer. Sometimes I think it is hard for people to comprehend that others in their life work hard too and they don't exactly live a carefree life.

Here is my issue:
Recently it seems like my Mom has been treating me like I am an idiot. She tries to explain to me how to do certain tasks and I tell her, "Mom, you already taught me how to do this years ago." or, "Mom, I already know how to do that." and she insists on still explaining it to me. I have literally been shown how to sweep, mop, vacuum etc and I feel insulted that she thinks I don't already know how to do those things.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Here is my issue:
Recently it seems like my Mom has been treating me like I am an idiot. She tries to explain to me how to do certain tasks and I tell her, "Mom, you already taught me how to do this years ago." or, "Mom, I already know how to do that." and she insists on still explaining it to me. I have literally been shown how to sweep, mop, vacuum etc and I feel insulted that she thinks I don't already know how to do those things.
Dementia patients do that. They forget and then the next minute tell you the same things that they just told you.

[Mermaid Alea]

Yeah my Mom has been worried about her memory. I think she just has a selective memory. She remembers everything business related really well but then family life stuff not so much. When I was little she would forget to pick me up after school, she forgets when my Dad is going on a trip he has been telling her about for like a month, etc.

[PearlieMae]

Rawr! Why must I get decently buzzed after one beer?!

Are you joking? :D Think of the money you'll save! :lol:

[Raayvhen]

Are you joking? :D Think of the money you'll save! [emoji38]
But its no fun when you're havinng a beer at home after work and you have to go upstairs for all the things.

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[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'm 20 years old. I can't wait until my mom helps me remodel my room. I'm thinking of cleaning it so I can get my room remodeled and lock myself in there. If my sister pisses off my brother again. I'm not going to get in a fight with him to help her out. I say this now, but I just know in my heart that I can't watch my brother harm her if he loses it again. You know, it's the funniest thing to me when I think about it. I wish they would realize that the only reason I might do less for them than before is because of how nasty they chose to be. I mean, I think it's amazing I still do anything to help them after being called all those insults. I probably have gotten a bit lazier but helping someone who thinks it's okay to walk all over you and take the my way or the highway attitude doesn't deserve my help. I won't sit by and watch a fight between siblings, but I'll be damned to hell before I go out of my way to help someone who insults me and tries to blackmail me like she did. I don't know how she got the pictures she got because there is no way I harmed her in a mood swing, and even if I did, I'm sure I was fighting within the prison of my own mind to stop myself. That's why I held back the last time she instigated a fight. The text I sent her had threats like I'll hurt you or your cat or I'll kill you, but I was angry. After a minute or two, I sent her a text that said that I could never do any of that, and I said I was running away. I actually ended up spending the night sleeping in my car until really late before coming back home to sleep in my own bed. I just think it was really low of her to try and twist me into some abusive person because of my mental disorder while pointing out as many flaws as she could about me. It took a lot of will power to stick to what I was asking her. It's like I said before. I don't ask for much. I just want them to respect my belongings and not do stuff that puts them at risk of getting broken. If they listened to me and left my computer alone while they cleaned, I wouldn't have this thought in my head that they could be responsible for my charger braking like it did. I was luckily to find one for 30 something dollars. That one was marked down because someone opened it. Obviously the universe isn't out to get me because I've done something wrong. You know, Karma. The only time I've ever gotten upset with someone enough to give them a hard time is because they deserve it. My bipolar doesn't spontaneously happen. For me to get angry in a mood swing way, it has to be triggered by something someone else does. It's never one sided. It's never just me that's the problem. However, if I get upset about anything, my family is all to happy to make up some kind of excuse to twist it into it being my fault. I sometimes can't even express my frustration about anything because my older brother tells me to shut up from another room when it doesn't concern him, and he threatens to get physical because he lacks the ability to argue his own view on things. It used to be easier for me to let this go, but now, the second they insist on me shutting up instead of letting me express my issues with something because they don't think I have any grounds or right to express them. I can feel a bipolar mood swing getting triggered. It isn't me, but they are provoking such negative emotions inside me without remorse that I can barely hold it back and under control. Last time I snapped out of a moodswing on my own, I was shaking like I was having a seizure. They are doing this so often, I think it could kill me to try and snap myself out of a mood swing. They won't let me express anything, and this negativity continues to build inside. My sister has no idea how exhausting it is for me to hold myself back when she tries to fight with me over stupid stuff. I moved my computer into my room to get some peace away from them, but I need a way to let this negativity go before I explode. I don't want to let it loose in a destructive way, but I can already feel it trying to break through. I think bits and pieces of it have already begun to surge out. I try to stay positive. I try to stay focused on the good things in life. I just can't escape the negativity surging toward me. I know life is full of ups and down, but I just wish I didn't have to deal with any of this.

Dylan, it sounds like you're someone with a really sweet heart surrounded by people who do NOT have such a gift. That's a difficult situation to find yourself in. You can feel like there's something wrong with you because you can't help but help those who are hurting. You can also feel isolated and alone because it's difficult for your family to understand you or your feelings. Just know that there's NOTHING wrong with you. You're a sweet, caring individual and the world needs more people like you. But more importantly, the world needs YOU. Don't let anyone take that away from you and make you calloused like they are.

Now, as for your situation, it's tough, I know. But honestly, if there's anyone you can stay with even for a few days on the weekends or just every once in a while, it could help you to have some peace to yourself. Take some time for yourself everyday, take control of YOUR world and separate yourself from the chaos whenever possible. They may nag you about not being there for them or whatever, but don't let that get to you. If they're stubbornly bent on self-destructive tendencies, that's not on you. I know it's hard, because you have a sweet heart, but you're just putting a band-aid on the problem and encouraging those negative behaviors when you bail them out of it. Sounds really harsh, but it's true. Right now, it sounds like you're in serious need of some self-love because you've stretched yourself too thin caring for others around you. I'll be praying for you to get out of this situation as soon as possible, but I really hope this message helps in the meantime. If you ever need to talk or vent to someone, feel free to message me! No strings attached! :)

[Vixy]

I've just had the most horrid event, just makes me angry. My singing group had a lovely day at the festival, singing and then we went to a wedding. We stopped singing after only a few songs in our set as they just weren't listening, they spoke over us and shouted and jeered. So very drunk.

I attempted to get them to join in and one of them turned to me and said 'Aren't you going to play us songs we actually know?" We're a sea shanty group, so of course we don't play modern music.

I said to him "Don't you know the drunken sailor, we're a sea shanty group this is what we do"

Just really irritated after a good day.

[Yulia]

Trying to talk a Swedish girl out of wanting a basic.
Like just trust me, you don't want to deal with lying tailmaker!
"WOAH, your tail was crazy expensive, Mertailors basic only kosts 4000!"
That's because it's a thousand per swim you get out of it.

[Mermaid Mystery]

as long as you're an angel he won't be THAT bad. not every single tail is horrible, I've gotten two great ones but that might just be my luck.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Dylan, just be aware that with MerTailor, you could very easily be throwing away a large sum of money. I personally wouldn't risk it, but you do what makes you happy. I just wouldn't feel like a good mersister if I didn't mention it. Much love. :)

[Merman Arion]

I read about all these problems and pestered him a bit about my tail, but I decided to drop it and leave him to focus on his work. I was just really impatient for my tail, and I was getting overly concerned about all these little details, and I should have just left it alone.

I hope you will get what you paid for :thumbs-up:

[Yulia]

Mertailor has certainly not changed to neoprene.

[Meronica]

I already paid for it, so there isn't anything I can do about it. I'm actually very excited about getting it and trying it out. He's done some pretty nice work recently, and I walked into his shop to see what he was working on. I think it will be fine. I understand that Neoprene and Neoprin is different, and I understand what makes them different. I'm curious to find out how a spandex polyester mix works as a barrier in the tail. Since I can't refund it, I'll use it as a learning experience.

Here's a picture of one of the tails he's recently finished or finishing up with.
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I'm excited to see what mine will look like. I can't see myself using my silicone tail anywhere other than in a spring, and I don't get a chance to go there as often as I would like. It might last longer for me. They do a great job with the custom paint and if the only problem with it ends up being that barrier. I won't complain. I guess might start to stretch, but they use a very thick layer of this Polyester and Spandex mix. If nothing else, m curiosity will be satisfied, and I don't think that's a bad thing.

The tail you pictured was sent to the Project Mermaids girls. They recently did a shoot with it; I love that paint job. I personally own one of his "basic silicone" tails with the neoprin and I haven't had a problem with stretching or major damage after a year of use. The communication thing bugged me too, and I emailed him in a very friendly way just to "check in" and always got a response in a day or two. Definitely stay positive and hopefully your tail comes out great. (:


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[Mermaid Mystery]

http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/05/9cdc698aaffdc0224b56066edbc295d3.jpg is she being serious

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Is it just me or is one side of the fluke bigger than the other? Creation Sirene tail that is.

Oh I just saw the Mertailor one... But isn't she already blacklisted? Why are people still paying for junk?

[PearlieMae]

OFFS!

[Mermaid Alea]

Dylan that is really tough dude. I would have had the same idea to wrap the paddles in a towel and I am sure it would have worked if you had been allowed to do that! I understand what you mean about not wanting to be chewed out by your Mom. I have had times like that and my friend's boyfriend had his Dad chew him out today for the most petty thing ever and he ended up crying. :( We ended up being able to help calm him down and later he called his Dad telling his Dad where he was coming from and that really helped. I think most of us can agree that we have dealt with parents who don't understand or they might be too strict about certain things, etc. This guy I am talking about totally means well but he doesn't like confrontation with his parents, so he tries to just avoid conflict and keep quiet. Today we encouraged him to explain where he was coming from. Of course it sounds like you have already tried that, and no one wants to really listen. I have had that problem too.

What have your friends told you? When they come over do they see what you are talking about with family issues?

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Dylan, it's easier said than done, but it sounds like you're giving these people too much power over you and you'll have to learn eventually how to not let what they say and do get to you. It's tough when it's family, but that's the only way you'll be able to spend anytime with them. Otherwise, you'll just want to move out and never look back, and you'll always wonder whether you could've had a relationship with them. Now, notice I didn't say a GOOD relationship with them, because I don't believe that's possible unless they change. But in the meantime, try surrounding yourself with people who will love you. Make friends, visit a church, go to conventions. Places where I've made friends and I know you will, too. I'll keep praying for you in the meantime and I'm here if you need to talk! Anyone can add me on Facebook. I'm Ashley Rodriguez. Same profile picture. I promise I'll listen and won't judge you! :)

[Yulia]

Is it just me or is one side of the fluke bigger than the other? Creation Sirene tail that is.

Oh I just saw the Mertailor one... But isn't she already blacklisted? Why are people still paying for junk?

I don't think she's blacklisted, and I believe there are many european mers that don't care/don't know better.
(The european mertailor fits her so well sometimes)

[Mermaid Clara]

I know this probably doesn't seem like that big of a deal but i'm just super upset about it.
so my other hair dresser the one from the other salon, not the salon where my hair got ruined, told my mom that i need to cut off MOST of the length of my hair. i am NOT happy about this, mostly because i hate short hair on myself and because i don't want anyone to touch my hair. my hair almost reaches the end of my shoulder blades and its in dire need of being trimmed MAYBE about an inch and a half or two inches because my hair is so scraggly and dry and damaged from the terrible bleach job the other lady did on my hair(6 hour at the salon in one day to remove the Splat hair dye that stained my hair). i'm honestly still so shattered and broken from my horrible experience at the other salon i'm starting to refuse to let anyone to touch my hair, except my mom. Thinking about cutting off most of my hair makes me close to tears.:crying:

[PhaylennMurúch]

I know this probably doesn't seem like that big of a deal but i'm just super upset about it.
so my other hair dresser the one from the other salon, not the salon where my hair got ruined, told my mom that i need to cut off MOST of the length of my hair. i am NOT happy about this, mostly because i hate short hair on myself and because i don't want anyone to touch my hair. my hair almost reaches the end of my shoulder blades and its in dire need of being trimmed MAYBE about an inch and a half or two inches because my hair is so scraggly and dry and damaged from the terrible bleach job the other lady did on my hair(6 hour at the salon in one day to remove the Splat hair dye that stained my hair). i'm honestly still so shattered and broken from my horrible experience at the other salon i'm starting to refuse to let anyone to touch my hair, except my mom. Thinking about cutting off most of my hair makes me close to tears.:crying:

hun, if you can make it down to San Francisco, my hair dresser was able to save a TON of my hair after a bleach/splat/other color/bleach debacle (seriously, it was hairmageddon). It took a whole freaking day but they did a ton of specialty organic treatments but the results were totally worth it

[Mermaid Mystery]

I have a KILLER hairdresser in Campbell who might be able to save your hair. seriously she's a miracle worker.

[Mermaid Mystery]

it's 9:30 PM, I have a Marilyn Manson concert that I've been waiting MONTHS for and have been keeping myself well only so I can go to the concert. my mom comes in and starts SCREAMING at me about a paper that I didn't turn in today because it wasn't due today. she tells me that I'm cutting class and I'm going to fail out of high school and tells me I can't go to the concert. why does she have to start shit.

[telzey.amberdon]

You didn't do the work that wasn't due yet. Sounds like you are now an adult . Good, take some of the heat off the rest of us.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I did the work I just haven't turned it in because it wasn't due

[SeaGlass Siren]

Did you proverbially slap the paper in her face? My parents used to do that to me all the freaking time

[PearlieMae]

High school is such a useless churning of crap that doesn't matter in the big scheme of things...Sorry you're dealing with it.

[Mermaid Mystery]

class was canceled today. ugh.

[SeaGlass Siren]

email the essay to your teacher. that way you are covered.
if emailing essays are allowed in college and university this should be ok.

there should be some teachers drop box in the office as well. for good measure, print 3 copies and leave it in the office drop box.

at my highschool there was a teacher's office for specific departments (math, english, drama, music, sciences, art...) so you can hand the third one in to the department.

[PearlieMae]

...I'm so happy I don't have long hair. My hair is funky because my hair has three places where it grows a certain way that I have to put a paste or gel in my hair to get it to lay down. The hair spirals on the back of my head in two places and it has something it does funky at the front. I don't think hair crowns or whorls are the words they used, but I heard this, I don't think I'm spelling it right but here it is, calak.
.

It's actually 'cowlick'. Like a cow licked you across the head, making your hair lay in a different direction. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cowlick

[Mermaid Mystery]

I want to knit my friend's cobra a sweater but my loom is too big :/

[PearlieMae]

Cobras are cold blooded and a sweater would only annoy it.

[Mermaid Mystery]

yeah I know, but he said he wants one and I offered to try even though I have no idea what I'm doing. it's a tolerant cobra, sometimes he wears hats.

[PearlieMae]

Hahaha! Cut the toe off of a tube sock. Instant sweater! I'd love to see a cobra in a top hat.

How does he deal with the whole 'poisonous snake' thing?

[MarkF]

Did you know that you don't need a high school degree to go to college. Many electrical engineers I've worked with left high school after 10th grade and went straight to college and shave two years off their school life.

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah but some of us dont want to be electrical engineers.
some college courses require highschool prerequisite classes. for instance, my librarian program required me to finish 4 years of highschool english. the pharmacy program i wanted to go into required that you pass grade 11 and 12 physics and biology with an average of 80% (didnt work out for me)

[Mermaid Mystery]

Hahaha! Cut the toe off of a tube sock. Instant sweater! I'd love to see a cobra in a top hat.

How does he deal with the whole 'poisonous snake' thing?

he has tons of venomous species and one venomoid king cobra. the venomoid's glands were removed but they appear to be growing back. he's a herpetologist I think, which is totally cool. his Instagram is @chrisweeet if you want to check out his collection, he's got some fuzzy things too. and he has been bitten lots of times, but the only full bite was from a pit viper, which totally rotted his finger. he's a pretty cool dude!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I've heard it enough that I don't even correct it anymore lol

[Merman Dan]

yeah but some of us dont want to be electrical engineers.

How many years to be a train engineer? Woo woo! ;)

[Starfrit]

Just had drama explode on my introductory post on the "Mermaids are the best :D" group (I don't even know why I joined, that entire group is a freaking mess) because a 12-year-old kid decided to use my post to try to advertise his new "tail shop" and try to get customers... When he has no examples of his "copywrited" tails, says he and his friends have done LOTS of research to make the best tails ever but can't say what materials his tails use (just "swim fabric mostly"), at first he says he's got tails already made but then later on says that his tails aren't even finished, he has no website because "the site glitched" and had to be sent off to his "dad's friend who majored in computers," later says it's a "payed profeshinal" fixing everything up, even though... his parents don't know he's a "copywited disigner of a company" and don't know about his interest in mermaiding at all so where is he getting the money to get this fixed up????????? And the business email he plastered on my stupid post doesn't even work (I tried sending an email off to it but gmail said the email doesn't even exist)

and then the kid flips out in caps lock because YOU'RE ALL JUST LIKE THE OTHER KIDS AT SCHOOL, YOU THINK JUST BECAUSE I'M A KID I CAN'T DO THIS and it's like... ugh.

Everything he says is a contradiction of everything else he says and COPYRIGHT DOESN'T WORK THIS WAY, THERE'S NO BUSINESS HERE, YOU'RE A KID YOU CAN'T LEGALLY ENGAGE IN BUSINESS DEALINGS LIKE THIS, TECHNOLOGY DOESN'T WORK LIKE THIS, UUUGGGHHH.

CHILDREN.

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[Mermaid Freyja]

Just had drama explode on my introductory post on the "Mermaids are the best :D" group (I don't even know why I joined, that entire group is a freaking mess) because a 12-year-old kid decided to use my post to try to advertise his new "tail shop" and try to get customers... When he has no examples of his "copywrited" tails, says he and his friends have done LOTS of research to make the best tails ever but can't say what materials his tails use (just "swim fabric mostly"), at first he says he's got tails already made but then later on says that his tails aren't even finished, he has no website because "the site glitched" and had to be sent off to his "dad's friend who majored in computers," later says it's a "payed profeshinal" fixing everything up, even though... his parents don't know he's a "copywited disigner of a company" and don't know about his interest in mermaiding at all so where is he getting the money to get this fixed up????????? And the business email he plastered on my stupid post doesn't even work (I tried sending an email off to it but gmail said the email doesn't even exist)

and then the kid flips out in caps lock because YOU'RE ALL JUST LIKE THE OTHER KIDS AT SCHOOL, YOU THINK JUST BECAUSE I'M A KID I CAN'T DO THIS and it's like... ugh.

Everything he says is a contradiction of everything else he says and COPYRIGHT DOESN'T WORK THIS WAY, THERE'S NO BUSINESS HERE, YOU'RE A KID YOU CAN'T LEGALLY ENGAGE IN BUSINESS DEALINGS LIKE THIS, TECHNOLOGY DOESN'T WORK LIKE THIS, UUUGGGHHH.

CHILDREN.

Oh Facebook :(
Sorry you had to deal with that, Tieri. It always sucks when you think you've found a place that's safe from the bs...but the few bad eggs want to *introduce* themselves right away.

[Merman Arion]

@ Tieri

I just read the post.
Forgive me for saying this but you are not helpful at all by being nice to this kid. What he's doing is a fucking mess and someone has to tell him to let it go and give up whatever he was trying to pull off. He's not fooling anybody. The fact that he's hiding all this from a lot of people including his parents is very irresponsible. I also confess I'm kind of baffled that you just wrote a post bitching about what just happened and his attitude, YET in the group, you responded to him with one last message which was encouraging and loving with a heart emoticone.

I honestly don't get that. I apologize for my honesty right here.

[Starfrit]

@ Tieri

I just read the post.
Forgive me for saying this but you are not helpful at all by being nice to this kid. What he's doing is a fucking mess and someone has to tell him to let it go and give up whatever he was trying to pull off. He's not fooling anybody. I also confess I'm kind of baffled that you just wrote a post bitching about what just happened and his attitude, YET in the group, you responded to him with one last message which was encouraging and loving with a heart emoticone.

I honestly don't get that. I apologize for my honesty right here.

Nah, I totally get what you mean. Honestly I find the whole situation frustrating as hell, but at the same time I'd feel like a huge asshole just straight-up telling a kid on the internet to give up his apparent dream. Not to mention he was pretty obviously freaking the hell out after it was pointed out to him that he had zero clue what he was doing. So once I realized he was just a dumb kid with good intentions I tried to give him some positive advice to help him figure shit out better, in case he really is serious about starting a tail business.

I'm really weird when it comes to these situations with kids. I don't know how to handle them at all-- Normally I'd just take on my usual to-the-point, kind-of-aggressive approach with explaining what's wrong like I do with older people here on the forum, but I didn't wanna like... Make a kid cry??

Basically, the whole thread was super stupid and everything about it ground on my every nerve, but I'm not really capable of being a dick to kids or shooting down their "dream" or whatever. I mean, Jazz was around the same age or something when she started making tails, right? x.o Ugh, I have no idea if I'm making any sense.

[Merman Arion]

@Tieri

I get it now. Don't worry :)
Kids sure make things hard for us sometimes.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I almost punched a kid at work the other day, but refrained. So I can completely understand how kids make our lives difficult.

(For the record, yes, he absolutely would have deserved it.)

(Pearlie can vouch for the deservingness)

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm at the concert and I look like a total dork but you know I'm fifteen and not totally decked out in goth attire and my piercings closed up lmao

[Mermaid Mystery]

these seats have me in tears

[IllynReaver]

Just had drama explode on my introductory post on the "Mermaids are the best :D" group (I don't even know why I joined, that entire group is a freaking mess) because a 12-year-old kid decided to use my post to try to advertise his new "tail shop" and try to get customers... When he has no examples of his "copywrited" tails, says he and his friends have done LOTS of research to make the best tails ever but can't say what materials his tails use (just "swim fabric mostly"), at first he says he's got tails already made but then later on says that his tails aren't even finished, he has no website because "the site glitched" and had to be sent off to his "dad's friend who majored in computers," later says it's a "payed profeshinal" fixing everything up, even though... his parents don't know he's a "copywited disigner of a company" and don't know about his interest in mermaiding at all so where is he getting the money to get this fixed up????????? And the business email he plastered on my stupid post doesn't even work (I tried sending an email off to it but gmail said the email doesn't even exist)

and then the kid flips out in caps lock because YOU'RE ALL JUST LIKE THE OTHER KIDS AT SCHOOL, YOU THINK JUST BECAUSE I'M A KID I CAN'T DO THIS and it's like... ugh.

Everything he says is a contradiction of everything else he says and COPYRIGHT DOESN'T WORK THIS WAY, THERE'S NO BUSINESS HERE, YOU'RE A KID YOU CAN'T LEGALLY ENGAGE IN BUSINESS DEALINGS LIKE THIS, TECHNOLOGY DOESN'T WORK LIKE THIS, UUUGGGHHH.

CHILDREN.
oh goodness, I just read that post. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. :(

[Mermaid Mystery]

honestly I wish you guys would just drag the kid but I'm also a horrible person

[Starfrit]

Normally I'd be aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllll about dragging people, and I almost did before I realized just how freakin' young this kid is. From what little I could make out on his Facebook, I don't think he's even 13 yet. I can be a pretty shitty person to lots of people, but I can't bring myself to rip into a kid no matter how stupid they're being.

Plus, I reeeeeeeeaaaaaaally didn't want to drag the drama out further on my own thread. x.o

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm screaming I thought this guy was Marilyn Manson until he started spitting shit rhymes and now everyone knows I'm a weeb

[Mermaid Mystery]

I was CERTAIN because he sounds like Manson and his hair was in his face and the dad bod but no omg I'm embarrassed af

[Mermaid Mystery]

I can hear his voice I'm in tears

[Mermaid Mystery]

I can't breathe

[Mermaid Mystery]

I've had a very positive experience to be honest. it could be better but he can be nice. I kinda hate how everyone treats people when they say theyre getting a mertailor tail. it's like trying to stop someone from jumping off a building. it's understandable, but let them live. not all his work is horrendous.

also the concert was great and my mom should've left me there because I want him to adopt me. we didn't stay for smashing pumpkins.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I think honestly, what makes people react that way when discussing Mertailor is the fact that it's such an expensive risk to take when there are plenty of tailmakers out there who will take that money and turn it into a guaranteed great product. And also, in all honesty, I think part of it is that people are sick of hearing the complaints after purchases, and they don't want him to stay in business when he's giving out shoddy work and treating customers like second class citizens. That's my theory anyway. Not to rain on anyone's parade.

[PearlieMae]

I'm at the concert and I look like a total dork but you know I'm fifteen and not totally decked out in goth attire and my piercings closed up lmao


these seats have me in tears


honestly I wish you guys would just drag the kid but I'm also a horrible person


I'm screaming I thought this guy was Marilyn Manson until he started spitting shit rhymes and now everyone knows I'm a weeb


I was CERTAIN because he sounds like Manson and his hair was in his face and the dad bod but no omg I'm embarrassed af


I can hear his voice I'm in tears


I can't breathe


I've had a very positive experience to be honest. it could be better but he can be nice. I kinda hate how everyone treats people when they say theyre getting a mertailor tail. it's like trying to stop someone from jumping off a building. it's understandable, but let them live. not all his work is horrendous.

also the concert was great and my mom should've left me there because I want him to adopt me. we didn't stay for smashing pumpkins.

PLEASE! This isn't Facebook. Posting crap like this is something I'M bitching about.

[Meronica]

I've had a very positive experience to be honest. it could be better but he can be nice. I kinda hate how everyone treats people when they say theyre getting a mertailor tail. it's like trying to stop someone from jumping off a building. it's understandable, but let them live. not all his work is horrendous.

Thank you. It alienates a lot of merfolk from Mernetwork. He does make a ton of decent tails and donates tails to Project Mermaids to support ocean conservation. I've personally been a part of it and seen them. (That's where his new silver/blue striped one and the clownfish one have gone) I'm not going to debate anyone's opinion of him, it just gets tiring seeing him referred to as "youknowwho", "he who shall not be named", etc. and makes those of us with Mertailor tails feel like we're not really welcome here on the forum.


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[Mermaid Mystery]

PLEASE! This isn't Facebook. Posting crap like this is something I'M bitching about.

I know I should've posted some of that in a different thread but some of it is from my whole social anxiety point of view plus I was just having a panic attack the other night about how I wasn't going to the concert and I've been asked how I'm doing and wanted everyone to know I was okay.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Thank you. It alienates a lot of merfolk from Mernetwork. He does make a ton of decent tails and donates tails to Project Mermaids to support ocean conservation. I've personally been a part of it and seen them. (That's where his new silver/blue striped one and the clownfish one have gone) I'm not going to debate anyone's opinion of him, it just gets tiring seeing him referred to as "youknowwho", "he who shall not be named", etc. and makes those of us with Mertailor tails feel like we're not really welcome here on the forum.


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yeah, I wish people could also see that he does some good shit. Lotus makes a good point too, but i feel strange on this forum because I have a positive experience and I point it out. I know it's just the anxiety talking but I feel like everyone is judging me. every mer I've met in person loves my tail and I've only gotten compliments on it from everyone except a few mers on Instagram. I can't help but feel like I need a new tail from another tailmaker for some reason. The only things that I'm totally skeptical about are his tops (because dear lord ive seen some awful ones) and the fact that he has a saltwater aquarium in his shop because I'm a huge fish person and it doesn't seem like he's ready to take care of such challenging fish but who knows? I like to look at both sides, I see that he's done some horrendous work but he's also done some great things.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I honestly feel like I could be starting shit but whatever

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I don't think it'll start an argument unless someone who legitimately hates him wanders in and sees it. Your points are all valid. And please, don't let anyone make you feel less of a mer for having a Mertailor tail! That's awful and completely not true.

[Theta]

I think Mertailor is a little bit "When he is good, he is very, very good; but when he is bad, he is horrid." A lot of people around here have gotten good tails from him; a lot have had bad experiences. There was the whole thing that the longtimers we through with how he tried to get our forums shut down because people were discussing their bad experiences. He's grown a lot over the past several years, but people are still having problems, so the old wounds keep getting reopened. I don't really get the idea that people with MT tails are excluded from the forum, though. So many people here have beautiful MT tails!

As far as his FB fan army goes, tbh, I'd rather have them scarce around here. They can be pretty rabid.

I had a pretty good experience with him. Maybe a neutral experience? I bought a tail from him, it came within the specified time frame, I was happy with it. We didn't correspond too much during the process, but this was years ago, pre dragonskin and intense customization. Sometimes I think about getting a silicone from him, the next time I get a tail. I haven't decided yet though.

[AniaR]

I think the good from mertailor was actually Matty honestly. Especially the high profile tails, sculpts, and paint jobs

[AniaR]

Can someone point to an actual example on MerNetwork of the community bashing someone for having a mertailor tail?? I've been here since the start and I don't see it. I see people get mad for people who have been treated bad, and I've seen people ask questions, and I've seen people celebrate with others who are happy.

Eric is the one who perpetuated the rumour his clients couldn't post here. Lol

[AniaR]

In fact back in the day Eric made a fake account bashing himself and people told the fake account it was uncalled for lol

[Mermaid Mystery]

Raina I have to agree a bit. And another mer and I were kinda bashed on by someone because she said his tails were "the kind you don't want" and spent like an entire night trying to convince me to buy a finfolk tail because they're infinitely better. this happened the day I got my tail and I was so happy to have it. she was directly bashing it. I don't have that kind of money and I'd grow out of it immediately, otherwise I'd be all for a finfolk tail. but I'm happy with what I have.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I have 26 days or so left in the state and as much as I did not want to be here in the first place, I wish I had more time to get one specific thing done before I go back to my home state...

[PearlieMae]

I have 26 days or so left in the state and as much as I did not want to be here in the first place, I wish I had more time to get one specific thing done before I go back to my home state...

I really want to finish your tail before you leave!!!

[Mermaid Cascada]

I feel like the community is accepting of every mer with any type of tail. Even if you have no tail at all. If you have been bashed by one person it does not mean the whole community feels the same way as that person and would exclude you. There is so much love and acceptance here! <3

At the same time though, the community tries to point people in the direction of reviews and share their knowledge so they can make an informed decision. It's heartbreaking to see someone choose mertailor, and to end up completely disappointed with their tail. Although that is not always the case.

[PearlieMae]

Raina I have to agree a bit. And another mer and I were kinda bashed on by someone because she said his tails were "the kind you don't want" and spent like an entire night trying to convince me to buy a finfolk tail because they're infinitely better. this happened the day I got my tail and I was so happy to have it. she was directly bashing it. I don't have that kind of money and I'd grow out of it immediately, otherwise I'd be all for a finfolk tail. but I'm happy with what I have.

Who was bashing you??? Were they doing it in private?

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I really want to finish your tail before you leave!!!

I know you are working very hard :)

This was more of a whine than a true "bitch"
Being in Co can be very hard for me at times...
Painfull memories overwhelming me if I am not very careful about how I structure my thoughts and actions.
It is also confusing to me for it to be in the 50s and 60s in July.

And I may have just fried the only way I have to charge my phone during the week. (No electricity)

[Merman Arion]

I gotta be honest here, I used to call Eric names in the past and then, I stopped because I understood that I was more upset and frustrated about his ways of doing business rather than the guy himself. I live in France, I don't personally know Eric. I just know he's gay, dated Matt the real talented artist, has tourette and he's too egotistical to function.

I know I can be passionate when I get frustrated and angry about something. It does'nt excuse bashing nevertheless. Even if we have facts and trusthworthy reviews here to prove our concerns, it came to my understanding that it's best to focus on the positive things rather than setting fuel into fire and create drama. Today, in the "mermaids are the best" facebook group, I said my opinion about Dylan's choice going to Mertailor and then, another merman came over and barked at me and accused me of defaming him and his products. And like there weren't enough accusations, I was also called out for being "jealous". What I did next? Basically nothing. That was my cue to leave and I kept my mouth shut. There was no point to argue with that guy since he didn't even bothered to check all the facts.

The point I want to make is that despite my differences with Eric before, I never bashed someone who got a tail from him. I don't recall I did that. Correct me if I'm wrong. However, I do admit that I used to excessively point out pretty often the monofins showing through the flukes of his tails. I mean, I even did it on Bonnie's tail a long time ago when she got one and I regretted doing that because a) it was a dick move, b) it was none of my business anyway and c) she was happy with her tail and that was the most important thing.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Who was bashing you??? Were they doing it in private?

I don't like naming names but they left one comment on an old post (which has since been deleted) and then it continued in private.

[Jinx]

Okok! I've got a couple things that have gotten under my skin lately.

First the mermaiding one, I hate that this married man at my pool who comes with his wife and teenage daughter sits there gauking at me as I put my tail on literally drooling and eventually pitching a tent in his trunks. I am there with my boyfriend and 4 kids, he is there making it awkward for everyone at the pool and uncomfortable even though I am NOT showing off much skin in my tail and top. It is repulsive and if I was his wife instead of standing there tapping her foot at him I would full out punch him out, which my boyfriend is apt to do if it happens again when he is around.

Second how everyone doesn't believe my age. When I go into my kids schools or a bar or even to get cigarettes I get carded and it always either turns into an asshole trying to dismantle my driver's license at which point I put my gun carry permit, and passport down and ask if they want to destroy all my id. Or it ends up with an "oh you looks so young I thought you were a student" which is bullshit cause I have had 4 kids go through that school in the last 7 years, or "tell jakob his little sister is her to see him" at which I reply " I have a kid that is a senior at this school and has been here 4 years now. What is wrong with you that EVERYTIME I come you call me a student or child? I have fucking gray hairs for gods sake!" Or from bartenders or cigarette stores I get "oh you'll be happy when you hit your 30s and you still get carded." To which I reply "fuck no I won't because I am approaching my 40s and I still get assholes who are younger than me thinking I am a teenager". Looking young is the biggest pain in the ass you can imagine! I have even had the woman at the DMV ask my son who was there to take his permit test if he was there as my over 18 driver for ME to take my test! I was 34!!! When I have people asking my 14 year old where his mom is and I am standing right there I have to force myself to keep from punching people out. I have 4 kids ,3 exhusbands, and I am far from a teenager. It is a curse to look like you haven't aged since you were 16! Everyone who says other wise has no clue how much it hurts when people ask if I had my 17 year old son when I was 7! I hate people who do it. Don't ask if I sleep in formaldehyde ! Don't say You started young! It is assinine and rude.

Thanks for the rant everyone. I needed that.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I feel your pain. I have the Asian antiaging curse. I'm 24 and still look like a 9th grader

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Ugh, sorry Jinx. That's awful. And honestly, the fact that you do look young makes that creep at the pool even creepier. That's so uncomfortable.

[Naufra]

Jinx, if I lived anywhere near you, I would offer to sort that guy out for you. I can kill a boner like nobody else, and I do it even better with a hammer. As for the rest, how rude and presumptuous people can be rarely fails to astound me. About getting carded, it's regulation in my company and possibly law in my state that we have to card anyone who looks like they could be under the age of 30, so there's a lot of CYOA involved, but the comments are entirely unnecessary and unprofessional. I can see where it would be frustrating for you, especially with how outright offensive some people can be.

[Merman Dan]

I feel your pain. I have the Asian antiaging curse. I'm 24 and still look like a 9th grader

I'm 49 but have been told I look less than 600 months old... wait... what??

[Mer-Crazy]

The point I want to make is that despite my differences with Eric before, I never bashed someone who got a tail from him. I don't recall I did that. Correct me if I'm wrong. However, I do admit that I used to excessively point out pretty often the monofins showing through the flukes of his tails. I mean, I even did it on Bonnie's tail a long time ago when she got one and I regretted doing that because a) it was a dick move, b) it was none of my business anyway and c) she was happy with her tail and that was the most important thing.

Haha. You actually pointed out when my monofin showed through my Merbella tail too. I didn't mind though, I knew it was there, I could see it too and there wasn't much I could do about it. I just a 'damn someone else noticed' moment haha.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Fixing to be fucking 20, i got offered a kiddie menu the other day when i went with my father out to eat.
"Sir, im 20."
"Ahahahaha such a cutie this joker is!!"
Like, could a 12 year old break your arm?!? Because im fixing to!!

[Mermaid Momo]

my bitch is that just when I was planning on buying material for my tail bit by bit (I was going to buy the neoprene I need and paint for the fluke) All of a sudden all of my school fees hit my account and now they take up my entire paycheck and if I don't pay them I won't get my financial aid. I don't mind having to wait a bit longer but I'm really disappointed because I was looking forward to trying my hand at making another tail.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'm so sorry, Momo. I completely understand that frustration. House payments and utilities snuck up on me right when I was about to pay off my tail. It was only thanks to my mom's sweet offer to pay it off that I was able to make it. Otherwise, it may have taken another year. Anywho, you'll be a gorgeous mer! I can't wait to see your tail once it's done! :)

[AniaR]

Raina I have to agree a bit. And another mer and I were kinda bashed on by someone because she said his tails were "the kind you don't want" and spent like an entire night trying to convince me to buy a finfolk tail because they're infinitely better. this happened the day I got my tail and I was so happy to have it. she was directly bashing it. I don't have that kind of money and I'd grow out of it immediately, otherwise I'd be all for a finfolk tail. but I'm happy with what I have.

was that in a thread HERE though? See, mertailor went on a whole campaign against mernetwork a few years ago, that started with the original mer yuku. Everything was to try and make people believe mernetwork was a bad hate place, so they wouldn't come here, and consequently see bad reviews with proof. lol. I know some people on FB will be stupid and judge tails, but I literally don't see anyone do it on here ever when it's someone's personal tail and anyone who even comes close to it gets knocked back something fierce from the forum as a whole. And that's regardless of the tail maker. So the whole "mernetwork hates people with eric's tails" just doesn't fly for me, especially when people can't point to a single thread where it happens in the entire history of this place.


I don't like naming names but they left one comment on an old post (which has since been deleted) and then it continued in private.

I'm guessing this was not on mernetwork; as mernetwork doesn't allow for deleting of posts.

[Mermaid Wesley]

^you can delete a post actually, not a thread though. And I do see the odd comment against the tails people own, but very rarely on mernetwork. Usually I see people bashing Eric and mertailor as a company, as well as people who jump to his defense. I used to be much more ready to jump on an "Eric messed up" discussion, but at this point, it's not worth my energy. I encourage people to read reviews, but I think once someone HAS a mertailor tail, people need to be quiet about their feelings about the tail. Some of them are beautiful. I don't like the style but some people do and that's 100% fine. I think we are a big community and some people are bound to make hurtful comments, but as a whole, Mernetwork is actually a much more positive place compared to when I joined. I remember vicious insults flying daily when I first joined, so in comparison everything seems a bit more mild now. But that's just me (sorry for the wall o text I'm on mobile)


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[AniaR]

I think you can delete a post as a mod. Not a regular member can?

[Mermaid Mystery]

yeah it was on Instagram. and I do remember a bit of Eric's ridiculous drama. the brand new forum that he tried to create, the Thom drama (what the hell was that about?), some other crap. sometimes I read really old threads and I've seen some things from both him and Matt. Matt has cleaned up his act though which is nice.

[Princess Kae-Leah]

I agree about MN being a more positive place now. I guess most of the mers I had the most issues with aren't as active any more or something...

[Ashe]

I agree about MN being a more positive place now. I guess most of the mers I had the most issues with aren't as active any more or something...

That's what I was thinking. I remember when I first joined ages ago there were a few people I didn't want to talk to at all just because I was uneasy around them. It seems that the people who come on and stir up drama leave fairly quickly, though.
Also, I'm happy to see you around again! I was wondering where you were for the longest time :)

[Ashe]

Okay Jinx, on to you. Putting your two rants together, it sounds like that sick man is itching to get off to someone he probably believes is a minor. No offense to you, but it may be a likely situation. That is disgusting as hell...

[AniaR]

I agree about MN being a more positive place now. I guess most of the mers I had the most issues with aren't as active any more or something...
They aren't at all. I find people like that never last here. Sometimes I find it a difficult place so I just wait it out and they move on. People who are just interested in putting others down never last long in our community anymore.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Okay Jinx, on to you. Putting your two rants together, it sounds like that sick man is itching to get off to someone he probably believes is a minor. No offense to you, but it may be a likely situation. That is disgusting as hell...
ok usually I can find a lot to say on the subject but I'm so disgusted all I have to say is:
ew. What the fuck.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Okay Jinx, on to you. Putting your two rants together, it sounds like that sick man is itching to get off to someone he probably believes is a minor. No offense to you, but it may be a likely situation. That is disgusting as hell...

That's what I said! So creepy. :<

[Cordelia]

@Jinx - I would file a formal complaint with the pool's management. If this is happening to you, then it is likely that you are not the only person this man is "targeting", and someone much younger (child/teen) might not feel as though they have a right to advocate for herself.

[IllynReaver]

Sorry to post this in advance, I can't think of where else to put this. It's a little personal, but I'm just so upset about this. I made an appointment with a doctor that was supposed to be a specialist in his field, I went to him specifically for that reason. Making the appointment was easy enough, the staff was courteous when handling my paperwork and explaining what I'd get charged for. Then I met the doctor. In the barely five minutes that he talked to me I told him why I was there, what had worked for me before and tried my best to describe the level of pain I dealt with constantly and that the medication he was trying to get me to take wouldn't work for me. He didn't listen to a single word I said, I had to tell him repeatedly why I couldn't take the medication, he wasn't even sure it would work on top of that. When I got upset that he wasn't listening to my concerns and expressed my desire to get better care from him, he told me that he couldn't work with me and that I needed to leave his office because I didn't "believe" in him. I managed to walk out and talked to one of the employees asking if there was anyone I could talk to about the doctors outright rude behavior and treatment towards me. There wasn't. I had to phone a friend to help calm me down I was so mad, I coudln't believe that I'd been kicked out of a doctors office for simply expressing a doubt about the procedure. The doctor didn't even try to explain, or work with me at all! He just threw me out, saying how we couldn't have a relationship because I didn't believe in his treatment. I've never met a more arrogant, condescending person who calls themselves a professional. I'm contesting the charge for the "treatment" I received while there, it wasn't even worth 10 cents.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Oh my goodness, that's awful. Some doctors have enormous egos. I bet you could at least write a review about your experience wherever his clinic is listed online. That might help a little bit. I'm glad you're contesting the charge, too. That's inexcusable. What a diva. :1

[IllynReaver]

I just didn't understand that, I mean you go to a doctor for help. That was the whole point, I didn't go there to get talked down to and thrown out of the office all because i felt the treatment wasn't going to work for me, because it hadn't in the past and I wanted to know if there wasn't anything else he could do. If that was it, I would have been willing to try it again, but he didn't even give me a chance. Didn't do his job to reassure me or make me feel at ease about it. As soon as I said I didn't feel I was being helped I was told to leave.

[PearlieMae]

To file a complaint about your doctor (like unprofessional conduct, incompetent practice, or licensing questions), contact your State medical board. You don't have to tolerate being treated like that! A nurse practitioner once told me "Doctors bury their mistakes".

I used to train doctors on the proper uses of certain pharmaceuticals and the egos I encountered were...pardon me...sickening. Hold his feet to the fire!

[IllynReaver]

To file a complaint about your doctor (like unprofessional conduct, incompetent practice, or licensing questions), contact your State medical board. You don't have to tolerate being treated like that! A nurse practitioner once told me "Doctors bury their mistakes".

I used to train doctors on the proper uses of certain pharmaceuticals and the egos I encountered were...pardon me...sickening. Hold his feet to the fire!

I'll have to look into the state medical board for that thanks :)

[Ciriun]

Illyn, I know where you're coming from. Not nearly as bad as your case, but last time I went to a specialist she clearly wasn't listening because I kept having to repeat myself. The worst example was when I explained my allergy testing history, specifically that the first time I tested positive for a cat allergy while the second one came up negative. She actually brought in a different doctor to patronizingly explain to me how I should get rid of my roommate's cat because we were all certain I was allergic! I was so shocked I just blurted out that no, we were not certain because of the second test. All he said was, "Oh. Well, you should probably consider it anyway." :anger explode:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Well, filing that sort of complaint probably will deflate his ego a bit. XD

Warning, somewhat personal rant ahead that basically amounts to: I feel useless and that I wish I could help people who won't let me help them. Or else need to help themselves and therefore helping them would actually hurt them.

Anyway, I went to Ohio to visit two friends, one in Dayton and one in a suburb thereof. Fantastic to see both.

One was actually my mom's friend. She lost her husband about five months back to a twenty year long battle with cancer. At first I was afraid to even say his name, but she actually initiated conversation about him and my mom and I just sat for about an hour and a half listening to the story of her life with him. The good, the bad, the incredibly Japanese (which, when your husband is a Japanese farm-boy and you're a no nonsense Puerto Rican migrant who spent most of your life singing in New York City, that's mostly bad). It was incredible to watch her just talk through it all.

The next morning, we went to a widow's grief group with her. By the end of it our friend was ready to throttle this one woman, who I DO greatly sympathize with.

But apparently, at the last meeting, our friend's honesty about her husband's failings had allowed that woman the same freedom, but this meeting she was back to her "my life with him was perfect" script. By the end of the meeting, I wanted ro throttle her. But I do get it, as much as any single seventeen year old CAN get it. She'd spent her life defined by other people and her relation to them, and she was unprepared to SELF validate upon the death of her husband, who she primarily defined herself by, even when she was contemplating leaving him. I just wish there was something I could've done to help her with that.

But of course, I couldn't. And even if I could, she wouldn't be prepared to take life advice from a teenager anyway.

I just felt really useless.

And then came the friend in the suburb, who is actually a friend of mine. And I couldn't help her EITHER.

I do get that she can't come home, I DO get her many traumas, I DO get that she couldn't help her littlest brother against the PTSD fueled wrath of her huge younger brother even if she tried. I do get that if she sued her father for custody of the little one she'd loose. I get that that would be too painful, being in the area and unable to help her littlest brother. And I do get that if I tried to help that littlest brother, I'd be rewarded with a giant footballer coming at me with a knife, because I remind him of his horribly abusive mother. I also called him on his pathological lying and he hates me now.

But I HATE that she's stuck in Ohio, broke, waitressing, with no college education even though she had a full ride from a community college back home had she not run away from her nutty younger brother. I hate that she's being ostracized by the local Pagan community because they're all Neo-Wiccan and she's a Traditionalist Greek Pagan. I hate that the local Neo-Wiccans have actually managed to completely isolate her by convincing everyone that she's evil demon-spawn. For a group obsessed with harming none, they're DEFINITELY harming someone just because she doesn't live by the same doctrines and worship the God and Goddess of Wicca.

And I hate that my mom and I can't put her up in our apartment till she finds one out here. Because we're broke too, even with me working to help support us.

Again, I just feel really useless.

I just really wish I could help someone. But again the middle child might actually kill me if I tried to help the little one. Luckily, the little one is entering high school this year, MY high school, so I can keep a closer eye on him and make sure he's eating more than just pizza and school food.

But again, incurring the wrath of the middle child is not something that I want to do. And I don't know how he'll react if he sees the little one run up and hug me like he usually does when the middle one isn't around.

Once, before we stopped talking all together, I tried arguing with his very right-wing ideas and got he shoved me and charged at me when I tried to back away.

Luckily my mom was going through the drive through at a nearby fast-food place and I could just glare at him and get in. I don't know what would have happen if not for that coincidence.

Sorry for the personal rant. I just needed to vent.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ciriun. That sort of incompetence makes me want to hit something.

[PearlieMae]

Apropos of nothing...

:headwall:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But, yeah. When I was about twelve I got this pair of shoes with a really high arch. Really good for strengthening the feet and ankles, but I was an idiot so I ended up not ever touching my heels to the ground when I walked. Of course, I ended up developing a problem with my right Achilles tendon. It would just lock for hours at a time, making it impossible to flex my feet. Sometimes it was so bad I couldn't put any weight on my right foot. I'll never forget walking into my first day of High School trying to convince my mom that I didn't need to use a walker.

I went to my idiot doctor about it. She decided nothing could be done and that I'd just have to put up with it and wait out the locking spells.

My mom needed a hysterectomy, and the specialist she went to was also a GP. We switched to her. Sje was much better. Then she needed a hip replacement, so I finally talked to the guy who did that surgery about my ankle troubles. He recommend some strengthening exercises and told me that the trouble was with my Achilles. He pointed out that one calf was noticeably smaller than the other, too (going round a derby track counter-clockwize all the time will do that to you). It still occasionally locks, but the exercises greatly improved the problem.

I hate that one doctor. She was perpetually unprofessional and if she just didn't know what was wrong, she just decided it couldn't be fixed.

So sorry everyone had those doctor issues.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Sabrina, that's a horrible situation. I love your heart to help these people. Especially, the youngest sibling. You may not be able to help in a way that feels hands-on. But just the fact that you care about him speaks volumes to him, I'm sure. And you CAN help by speaking to him, making him feel loved and accepted and listened to. Again, it doesn't feel like much, but that's something. I don't know what's wrong with the older sibling to make him so cruel, but I'm sure he's broken, too. That doesn't excuse his behavior, but it's something to consider. Kill him with kindness as best as you can. In all honesty, that will make him feel powerless and maybe he'll get over himself a little and face his pain. As for the other people you want to help, I'd say being a listening ear and offering that much is enough for anyone at any age. In a few years, when you're in your 20s, you'll have friends of all ages and it won't feel weird anymore. There will still be those that will see your age and think you must not know as much as they do. But they'll be few. I personally pray for people I can't help physically and it makes me feel better since I really feel that it helps. Just like I'll be praying these people to get help, and that you can be at peace with the little ways you can help right now. They're more significant than you think! If you ever need to talk, my door's always open! I really hope that helps. :)

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

:(

[IllynReaver]

@Sabrina, you're such an amazing kind heart-ed person. Don't ever lose that or feel that you're useless, you can't always help everyone :( but it is unfortunate that so many people have experience doctors outright ignoring their concerns and problems and dismissing anything they say.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Thanks, everyone. ♡
You guys do make me feel better.

And yeah, Lotus, the middle child is definitely broken. Suffers from PTSD, and the sister and I think there might be some brain damage from repeated blows to the head a la frying pan and football as well. Their mother was horribly abusive, as well as sexy. She could bat her eyelashes out of almost any situation and it thusly took ages for their father to get custody. They all ended up really fucked up.

The problem with that, though, is that it means middle child goes and breaks someone's leg on the football field and he gets a computer. Of course, that skips steps in the process. After that incident, the school managed to get him diagnosed. Then, because they're paying closer attention to him, they realized the awful economic situation at home and gave him a computer after THAT, to help with school work, but still. To his mind, violence = reward.

To sum it up, the eldest got the emotional abuse, the middle child got the physical abuse, and the littlest was being protected by everyone and came out ALMOST unscathed. But now the middle child is traumatizing the littlest. So I have a horrible premonition that he'll escape emotional trauma from his abusive mom, but end up with PTSD anyway because of his brother. On top of abandonment issues because the eldest HAD to leave when the middle one got violence. There was nothing she could do and she was terrified.

And of course the father has "he's my SON! Nothing could possibly be wrong with him" syndrome essentially because he doesn't want to feel like a negligent father because he can't afford therapy.

So, operation: provide littlest with some emotional support and a slightly more positive role model has commenced!

Anyway, thanks guys. ♡♥♡

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Dylan, everyone's just worried.
But now that you have ordered it, I think everyone will back off. We all really hope that your tail comes out well and beautifully.
Good luck. We'll ALL keep our fingers crossed, I'm sure.

I'm excited to see your tail when you get it! ♥

[AniaR]

I find it offensive that just mentioning him gets people saying such awful things. I can't go back on my tail, and I don't want to go back on my tail. If I have a great experience with his tail, then I don't want someone saying something so nasty that I feel pressured to buy a more expensive tail when the cheaper on works great. People who do that are wrong, and if I keep hearing from people that I should get a tail from a different tail maker instead. I will deliberately stick with the mertailor to show them up. I don't want pear pressure making me unhappy with my tail. That is totally wrong, and it is a very poor representation of the people who buy tails from other tail makers.

good luck with all that then.

[PearlieMae]

I don't know why you're getting your fins in such a tangle, you don't even have your tail yet. Everyone was trying to look out for you, knowing his reputation and having seen proof and heard the miseries of others who've experienced his bad work. Calm down!

We all hope that you get a good tail from him. No one will know if you do until you get it. No need to get all snooty. Chill the f*ck out, dude

[IllynReaver]

@Dylan, buying anything off the internet is a risk. People are just making sure you understand that he does have a reputation with his work and not so great customer service if the product didn't turn out as expected. Seriously, chill out about it. You took the plunge, made your decision, it's like you're beating a dead horse with a stick right now. If your tail turns out just the way you want then more power to you. If not, then know that people will still support you and not point a finger at you all "I told you so". Just relax, breathe and go look at videos of fish or something.


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[Princess Pearl]

My fabric tail just all of a sudden COMPLETELY stretched out, and now it's baggy and see through and you can even see the writing on my monofin and I've got a HUGE show in three weeks and I don't know if I'll have time to do a new tail and ARRRRRGGHHHHH!

Phew. I feel better now.

[Ashe]

Ouch, Pearl. What kind of fabric did you use? Or did you paint it?

[Mermaid Sirenia]

Saw a post talking about performing as a musician, made a mermaid version of it. Free for everyone's use!http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07/10/5b5b8259a7b231a4f23eddf7b31ace95.jpg

[Yulia]

I have NO problem with people getting good mertailor tails, that's great.

What I don't accept is how The Mertailor in some way think that ten working tails makes up for one crappy tail and sad mer.
It's not okay, and it happens again and again, I want him to make his company evolve and get better.
He's the biggest on the market and he has a RESPONSIBILITY because of that.

I think the problem is that people don't think he deserves more orders because of the way he handles his customers sometimes.
And I have to agree with Arion, I don't know him personally so I'm only referring to him as a businessperson.


And guys trust me, I know the deal of getting a bad cheap tail.

[SeaGlass Siren]

well this escalated quickly.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Changing the subject for a post,
Got a job interview at a local christian pizza place in an hour.
I dont have a lot of nice clothes because of my recent move, so im wearing a nice pair of jeans, a nice reg tshirt, and tennis shoes.
There is a possibility of me working immediately after the interview if i get the job, and getting some training.

This is my first actual job interview ever. Im. So. Nervous. And scared.
I think my outfit will be fine, but im still nervous.

[SeaGlass Siren]

You'll be fine shimmer :) just be prepared to answer questions

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Thank you. :) I practiced answering random questions this morning, and i think i have that down. I have to ask though, is it rude to ask what i would be making an hour? The reason being is because I am living on my own, and have been having help taking care of bills and such (i own the house, got a roommate, all they had to do was pay the electric bill) roommate is moving. And i have to know if i can make enough money to pay my bills alone.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Saying a prayer for you, Shimmer! I'm sure they'll love you! Just remember to breathe! :)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Thank you. :) I practiced answering random questions this morning, and i think i have that down. I have to ask though, is it rude to ask what i would be making an hour? The reason being is because I am living on my own, and have been having help taking care of bills and such (i own the house, got a roommate, all they had to do was pay the electric bill) roommate is moving. And i have to know if i can make enough money to pay my bills alone.

Back in the day it was considered rude, but now i guess it really depends because usually the potential employer already discloses all that information already so you wouldn't need to ask. from what i've seen in toronto all employers always disclose pay on the job advert. it's a legitimate concern though given your situation so i wouldn't be afraid to ask.

[PearlieMae]

It's not rude to ask how much you'll be paid! They'll no doubt tell you!

[SeaGlass Siren]

sometimes they'll also tell you in person before they start the interview too.

[Princess Pearl]

Ouch, Pearl. What kind of fabric did you use? Or did you paint it?
It's a Fin Fun, but I've had it for a whole year of very hard use. I knew it would give out eventually, but why did it have to be NOW?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Gotcha. That really stinks, Pearl. Maybe spruce it up with some paint? It really might help.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

If you heat set it, Acrylic will work and provide some REALLY nice texture if you do it scale by scale. You have to paint it while it's on, though, because Acrylic don' stretch fer nuthin. T-shirt paint is also fabulous, and will probably work BETTER and allow for some stretch.
I just like acrylic because I always have it on hand. My mom is an artist and uses acrylic as a medium, and she never minds me using it. So it's what I use.

Paint really might help, even if you use it in spots and patches.


Good luck!!! *fingers crossed*

[Princess Pearl]

Old tail is beyond saving- It's almost completely see-through and just doesn't fit. It's so baggy it hangs off me in folds. The only reason it stays on is I sewed in an elastic waist when I first got it.

HOWEVER, I found that the store that I got the fabric for my walking tail has more of the same (still from the remenants bin! Huzzah!) so I'll be able to sew it up and at least START sequinsing it. If the crafting gods are kind I should have it wearable in time for the gig.

[Raayvhen]

The guy that I really like keeps sending me mixed signals even though we both agreed (and I lied to him about it which makes me a really shitty person) that we're mutually not interested. Like he keeps inviting me to parties and out downtown as well as being stupidly nice and offering to buy me drinks when we're out. Also, we have a class together (And I'm fucking pathetic because I 90% only took it because of him) and he always goes to sit next to me and always gives me really fucking solid and long hugs.

I'm driving myself crazy because I know that I need to just talk to him but I want to run it by one of our mutual friends first but I'm scared.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Weirdness.... ugh. People. Is it possible he lied to you about his interest because he thought you weren't interested....?

I dunno.

[Mermaid Lunette]

The guy that I really like keeps sending me mixed signals even though we both agreed (and I lied to him about it which makes me a really shitty person) that we're mutually not interested. Like he keeps inviting me to parties and out downtown as well as being stupidly nice and offering to buy me drinks when we're out. Also, we have a class together (And I'm fucking pathetic because I 90% only took it because of him) and he always goes to sit next to me and always gives me really fucking solid and long hugs.

I'm driving myself crazy because I know that I need to just talk to him but I want to run it by one of our mutual friends first but I'm scared.

hmm, it might just be me but these all sound like things good friends do? maybe after that conversation he didn't want it to get weird and really wanted to keep your friendship so he is just being extra attentive? i mean, making you feel incuded is a friend thing, and buying you stuff might just mean he is a bit of a gentleman? there is the possibility that after you two said that he either lied as you did (probably for the same reason you did, as irony would have it) or he might have developed feelings afterwards and had just been surpressing them?

but in all honest it doesn't sound like he is doing anything particularily romantic? i mean, i wasn't there so i don't know, is there anything else he has been doing that is sending mixed signals? because it sounds like you might just be thinking these things are romantic because you have romantic feelings for him? (again, i wasn't there nor do i have all the info so i could be mistaken)

[Yulia]

I'm the worst mermaid ever. :cry:

[PearlieMae]

Why do you say that, Yulia? You're an awesome mermaid!

[Yulia]

I can't even take my tail off right, even though I read the caring threads like twenty times and even once before we left for the beach today.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong, heck I can't do it any other way because I need to take it off.
And still I ripped the seam even more at the waist and now I don't dare to use my tail anymore before I get home and can repair it.
I used towels, didn't pull directly at the waist, did it a little bit at a time...
But I can repair it. Still feel so terrible for destroying Fifi's hard work.

[Seraphina Suds]

Aww, Yulia. It happens to the best of us. At least it's repairable!

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[Naufra]

The guy that I really like keeps sending me mixed signals even though we both agreed (and I lied to him about it which makes me a really shitty person) that we're mutually not interested. Like he keeps inviting me to parties and out downtown as well as being stupidly nice and offering to buy me drinks when we're out. Also, we have a class together (And I'm fucking pathetic because I 90% only took it because of him) and he always goes to sit next to me and always gives me really fucking solid and long hugs.

I'm driving myself crazy because I know that I need to just talk to him but I want to run it by one of our mutual friends first but I'm scared.

I was in your situation once. He honestly wasn't romantically interested in me, he was just really affectionate towards close friends and once we had established that we both wanted to be just good friends, he felt comfortable being as affectionate as he wanted to be towards me. Turns out other friends in the past had misinterpreted his affectionate behavior and things had gotten very awkward.

Maybe this guy just feels more comfortable around you now that he knows where he stands with you and is just being himself more freely now that he doesn't feel the need to worry about how you feel about him. As for inviting you out and buying you beverages, you shouldn't worry about them being romantic gestures; those are just things friends do, even friends of the opposite gender. Buy him a beverage next time you two go somewhere, see how he reacts. ^_^

[JayJ79]

Changing the subject for a post,
Got a job interview at a local christian pizza place in an hour.

hope your interview went well!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I want all the pretty hair accessories but half my head is shaved and the rest of my hair is really short [emoji20]

[Sabrina the Selkie]

One of my guy friends just asked me out.

I knew it was coming, and I even like him romantically, but there are so MANY reasons why this is a no go.

Namely, I'm about to go into my senior year of high school. He's two years older than me and leaving for the air force in thirty days. I just can't...

So I invited him out for coffee and a pokemon battle and told him to knock that Davy Jones Locker shit off. (We're both maritime nerds, and enjoy role-playing as pirates. It was REALLY funny when I got into mermaiding, just gonna say)

Yes, he really pulled "I wanna go on a date with you before I die" bullshit.

He's going in as an engineer. -.-

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But he just agreed we can keep it platonic for the time being. Oh thank the gods.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

One of my guy friends just asked me out.

I knew it was coming, and I even like him romantically, but there are so MANY reasons why this is a no go.

Namely, I'm about to go into my senior year of high school. He's two years older than me and leaving for the air force in thirty days. I just can't...

So I invited him out for coffee and a pokemon battle and told him to knock that Davy Jones Locker shit off. (We're both maritime nerds, and enjoy role-playing as pirates. It was REALLY funny when I got into mermaiding, just gonna say)

Yes, he really pulled "I wanna go on a date with you before I die" bullshit.

He's going in as an engineer. -.-

Hi Sabrina! I don't know you at all, but I have to tell you, the exact same thing happened to me in my junior year. I was going to be a senior, the interested party was going into the air force academy two states away. It didn't work out for us, haha, but it sounds like you've got a good, confident head on your shoulders. You'll handle things maturely whether y'all end up making a go of it or not. Good luck to you and your friend.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Thank you. I have a feeling we'll end up keeping it platonic for now, and end up together for at least a little while when he's back. Who knows.

And ANOTHER issue: he's also my dear, dear friend's ex boyfriend. (The one I was talking about in my Ohio rant about being useless to help my friend with her Ohio troubles and her littlest brother against the rampages of the middle child. That's a few pages back on this thread)

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Thank you. I have a feeling we'll end up keeping it platonic for now, and end up together for at least a little while when he's back. Who knows.

And ANOTHER issue: he's also my dear, dear friend's ex boyfriend. (The one I was talking about in my Ohio rant about being useless to help my friend with her Ohio troubles and her littlest brother against the rampages of the middle child. That's a few pages back on this thread)

Oh wow. That is quite a complication. Good luck again!

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Taking things in a totally different direction, I am sick TO DEATH of mansplaining and the general fragility of “masculinity”.

I train in powerlifting three days a week, and have for about the last year. One of my friends mentioned in a FB status that he was having trouble getting a bench at his gym because it is so busy there. Some guy posted a meme about chest day v. leg day. Chuckle chuckle, hardee har har. No advise, no pertinent information. So I told my friend what I usually do when the benches are stacked six deep in dude-bros… I roll a moveable bench over to the power rack and do my bench press on that after I do my squats. You get some weird looks, but no more so than you do for bringing boobs into the weight room in the first place. Anyway, he said he’d never though of that, that the power rack is usually not as busy as the benches at his gym and that he’d try it. We proceeded to have a nice little equitable conversation about the subject. All of a sudden, here’s Mr. M’lady McMeme, back with information about what exercise my friend should do instead of flat bench/any of the things I’ve said. Mind you it’s an hour after his original comment, and we’ve had a whole conversation about lifting that he decides to pretend hasn’t even happened, and certainly didn’t spawn his sudden burning need to be helpful. DO YOU EVEN LIFT, BRO?! DID YOU JUST GOOGLE THAT, BRO? I will fight you.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ugh. Feel that. Used to take Karate, and gyeeeeeh.

[Mermaid Mystery]

!!!!!!!!!
(Mr. M'lady McMeme is now my favorite thing lol)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Right?

[Shimmer Mermaid]

They shoved me off over the interview, and said they were full, even though a day before, said they were hiring.

Went to GameXChange yesterday, and the gentlemen in there and i had a 2 hour long convo about pokemon, then they proceeded to tell me "you are the hottest nerd we've ever met. We're hiring!" I got the app and am turning it in this week.

Im not worried about being hit on by them, because i am used to it and can handle it, but i dont have "real" job experience.

[PearlieMae]

It sounds to me like you already have the job and it's better than the Xian pizza parlor! Good for you!

[deepblue]

All of a sudden, here’s Mr. M’lady McMeme,

Ha! lol, love that. And yes, I similar with anything to do with Linux. Guy asks, "Hey who all uses Linux?" I answer, and a few guys, and next thing I see is replies to the guys, with no acknowledgment whatsoever of what I just said, as if they have a filter on that doesn't allow them to see women in the thread. Very annoying.

Except among my friends. I don't associate with numbskulls, so my guy friends are not the sort to don those blinders, or to mansplain an hour after a conversation was had.

[IllynReaver]

Yes, he really pulled "I wanna go on a date with you before I die" bullshit.

He's going in as an engineer. -.-

Considering he's a few years older than you, and pulling the whole sympathy thing to get a date, please, please please, don't fall for that. If he makes you feel uncomfortable in anyway, get out of there.

[Elodea the Mermaid]

Considering he's a few years older than you, and pulling the whole sympathy thing to get a date, please, please please, don't fall for that. If he makes you feel uncomfortable in anyway, get out of there.

Oh my, I didn't take that as literal when I read it the first time. Definitely a HUGE red flag if he wasn't joking.

[Mermaid Lunette]

oh gosh, SPEAKING of mansplainning, i was talking about comics (well specifically ant-man and the wasp) so i should have expected it considering fake fan boys just cankt help themselves) and at first he throws a bunch of shit comic facts at me like that automatically means he is right and of course i argue right back but i notice he is basically ignoring my points and just keeps talking about things that happened in the comics that at this point are irrelevant.

luckily he eventually realized him throwing random comic book scenarios wasn't gonna make me stop so he eventualy did. thank god, it was still annoying as heck though, like he couldnkt just leave me be, like he HAD to try and tell me why it was ok that ant man is getting a movie while the wasp is basically being killed off, which as you can guess is bullshit.)

[IllynReaver]

Oh my, I didn't take that as literal when I read it the first time. Definitely a HUGE red flag if he wasn't joking.

I've dealt with guys who have used that tactic before. I just want her to be safe. Even if he agreed to be platonic, personally I'd still keep my guard up.

[Mermaid Mystery]

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh no, he was DEFINITELY joking. And I don't fall for that shit anyway. I was just annoyed that he'd even joke like that.

The point is, we've been friends for years, and we're both comfortable with keeping it that way for the time being..

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And good luck Shimmer!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But just so you get the context, we were being piratey and Davy Jones Locker came up, and then he made a joke about going there and that we should subsequently go on a date. I glowered and said he wasn't going nowhere. And then we talked about potential relationship crap and he was understanding about the whole thing.

[Merman Chatfish]

Lyrique posted an amazing picture of her and some others swimming in Hawaii and I feel jealous because I haven't been able to do stuff like that and might never.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

It'll happen Chatfish. I'm sure it will.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I am so frustrated.
For the past few days I have been overwhelmed with emotions and mostly consternation about things that really are not a big deal when put in perspective.

I sobbed because of year long heartbreak.
I sobbed because I won't get to swim before I leave CO
I sobbed because I had to choose if going to Ohio for a job was financially reasonable.

After a day of that nonsense, I told myself the next day would be better. Those things were thought of and finished and I would lay in my tent and read and not worry.

But no.

Today one of my old bosses (whom I have a fair slew of problems with, though I will not get into those just now) tells me that he has a gig for me in another state if I want it.

UGH

UUUUUUUAAAAARGH

I cannot accept it for /so many reasons/

The very least of which is that I don't have a tail (which is not the purpose of this rant and don't worry Pearlie, we are good)

And I am 99% sure it is a nonpaying gig where I could get tips but I cannot rely on that to pay my bills

AND

I am pretty much also sure that he expects me to be his assistant 4 times a day and mermaid in between.

How is that feasible? How do I get to my location, mermaid for a bit, shoo people away so I can change, magicly not be seen, take my makeup off, work for him, put my makeup on, and get back in the tail /without being seen or having my stuff fucked with while I am gone/, and then get back in the grove before doing it all again?

Plus the drive there is inordinately stressful and since I would be arriving a week late, there would not be a camping spot for me.

I just hate to have to say no and shoot myself in the foot for that job in the future. Well. Part of that job. Mermaiding there.

Just.

I know I have to say no. I just don't want to deal with all this consternation right now.

(And no, this is not a gig I can pass along so please, don't ask)

I can't just ignore him and when I tell him no, he will inevitably guilt trip me.

How are you ever going to be a great performer if you don't perform?
People would do so much for the /privilege/ to work for me
If you had managed to book a gig, your tail would be done by now (not how it works, ass)
Why don't you just borrow or rent one? (Not how it freaking works. And spend what money I do make renting a costume?!)

Just...
:(

I just needed to get that off my chest before I wailed aloud and disturbed the neighbors...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

:(
No fun. That sounds really wail worthy.

[MarkF]

Hey Aysun_the_Mermaid, that’s truly frustrating. Your not alone, many have swam that stream before you. As for your old boss, well he’s a part timer in your life. A Mermaid does need a wrangler, a wrangler needs a Mermaid! And what Aysun_the_Mermaid needs is smiling faces awestruck/inspired and more money.
As with any business you’ll need to get the word out and build a referral base. I can imagine money’s tight, lets start with Craigslist. You need a jpg version of a business card. This piece needs to be right, it’s the only way they have to judge you until they call. The card has to have an image or likeness of your Mermaid self, hair done right, poised such that they want to meet you. Guessing children would be the largest party market your likeness is for them. We need the categories you want to work- greeting, posing for photos, party entertainer, model. Where you can work “Giving them ideas”
Poolside, lakeside, birthdays, anniversaries, business functions, etc.
Titling your add “Meet A Real Mermaid-They do exist!” Play the part, be an actress.
You can create large postcard ad with the business card image on it, anywhere someone leaves a business card, you leave your ad card. Vistaprint.com is what I use.
Every opportunity to talk with a parent is an opportunity to send your message. Be persistent! Business comes in waves. If someone can’t afford a Mermaid today, they have friends- hand out the cards.
Keep your message alive, a seashell hair beret, mermaid neckless. You are your own Ad.
When Aysun the Mermaid is with people you are making the world a happier more wondrous place. You can be a motivating force for a person’s whole life.
Show special, because you are!
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[Mermaid Mystery]

oh wow, yesterday was a full year since I was admitted to treatment. I think I'm getting a headache, I miss it so much.

[Mermaid Muir]

Stuck hiding being transgender and pagan. Just the other day I got told that being anything but catholic is not allowed in my house! I can't even see a therapist because my parents think that I shouldn't be complaining and that I should respect god more. I'm tired of suffering with no way to see a professional! O well off to college in the fall, I'll be able to see help there hopefully

[AniaR]

Back to drawing WindTurbines

that's my merwranglers line of work... wind turbines!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Stuck hiding being transgender and pagan. Just the other day I got told that being anything but catholic is not allowed in my house! I can't even see a therapist because my parents think that I shouldn't be complaining and that I should respect god more. I'm tired of suffering with no way to see a professional! O well off to college in the fall, I'll be able to see help there hopefully

On behalf of Christians, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that. I hope you know not all of us Christians are like that. If you ever need someone to just vent to, please feel free to message me! :hug:

Like Raina said, it really bothers me when people use their religion to hate on people. They completely missed the point of what Jesus called us to do. Oi... :'<

[CheshireKat]

Stuck hiding being transgender and pagan. Just the other day I got told that being anything but catholic is not allowed in my house! I can't even see a therapist because my parents think that I shouldn't be complaining and that I should respect god more. I'm tired of suffering with no way to see a professional! O well off to college in the fall, I'll be able to see help there hopefully
While I can't say I understand what you're going through being transgender (while sympathetic I am not transgender and it doesn't sit well for me to claim I know what you're going through because well, I don't) I COMPLETELY understand feeling fearful/wary/frustrated/all alone in the pagan department.

Living in the south and being a pagan is difficult sometimes to put it lightly and downright dangerous at worst (no offense to any Christians, I <3 those that are tolerant and awesome). I've been spit on, threatened, stalked, assaulted, and discriminated against either because someone found out I was pagan or they recognized a (very small) piece of jewelry that I (ironically) wear as both protection and as a symbol of my faith.

That being said, Unitarian Universalists tend to be super awesome and open, as well as Buddist temples. I've found both to be safe havens and have had members physically protect me before until police/authorities were called to the danger had passed. Also, there are usually A LOT more pagans in your area than you'd think (at least in the south).

College is awesome and you should TOTALLY take advantage of student services. Also, college towns are generally MUCH more open-minded to just about everything.

If you can get to a Unitarian Universalist church and explain your situation, I have found they will help. I have seen Unitarians pose as friends for people in your type of situation to throw off the scent of their families so they could get help (of any kind) and just be themselves.

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[IllynReaver]

@muir like others have already said, take full advantage of help and support you can get while at college. Growing up in a strict Christian home I can relate to that and I'm also pagan. Best of luck, and know that getting away from home helps a lot.


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[Merman Arion]

I'm really pissed off to see so much hate on the internet over Caitlyn Jenner's acceptance speech about the award she received. Why can't people just fuck off and go on with their own lives?! It makes me so mad to watch all these trolls throwing shade and hate behind a computer. I'm thinking about Jazz and I really find her inspiring and brave to put up with all that crap. I hope her show on TLC will work.

Rant done.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Yes. Arion. Feel.

And Muir, I'm not transgender, but definitely Pagan. My mom was totally supportive of that until she realized that it wasn't a faze and the altar wasn't going away.

She's from a Mexican Baptist family, so while she's denounced any religion whatsoever, she has a vague sense of a singular God. As well as that end of the family's talent in passive aggression. *sigh*. Oddly enough, I got more support on that front from my Dad, who calls himself "selectively" Christian Scientist and minds not at all that his wife (my step-mom) is selectively Catholic and his daughter is a traditionalist Pagan.

But enough about my fairly good fortune in that regard. The point is, Muir, you'll find support in the places you'd least expect, and as others have said, your town probably has a lot more Pagans in it then you think. You just need to find them.

Beyond that, there ARE Christians like Lotus_Blooming who will accept you whole heartedly.

CheshireKat is TOTALLY right about Unitarian Universalists. And about Buddhists too. They WILL accept you, and help you if you need it.

Good luck!

[PearlieMae]

...snip...
Today one of my old bosses (whom I have a fair slew of problems with, though I will not get into those just now) tells me that he has a gig for me in another state if I want it. I cannot accept it for /so many reasons...snip...I know I have to say no. I just don't want to deal with all this consternation right now. I can't just ignore him and when I tell him no, he will inevitably guilt trip me.

How are you ever going to be a great performer if you don't perform?
People would do so much for the /privilege/ to work for me
If you had managed to book a gig, your tail would be done by now (not how it works, ass)
Why don't you just borrow or rent one? (Not how it freaking works. And spend what money I do make renting a costume?!)


I hope you've flat out told him NO! Leave that manipulating fool behind. He is not worth your time or energy. There are plenty more gigs in the sea (once I finish your tail!).

Hugs, hugs and more hugs!

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I hope you've flat out told him NO! Leave that manipulating fool behind. He is not worth your time or energy. There are plenty more gigs in the sea (once I finish your tail!).

Hugs, hugs and more hugs!

Honestly, in my scramble to not deal with him I told him that I couldn't accept because my tail was not complete and tried to leave it at that.
He told me to throw more money at you and pick it up on the way to the gig and so a few hours later I told him that that was not possible. Then he told me to borrow the one from work and I told him that was not possible and he should know better and somehow it went from him asking to me asking so I called my other boss and confirmed that it was a no and hopefully he will leave me alone for the time being.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Cheshire, IllynReaver, and Sabrina, I'm so sorry you've had such horrible experiences with these "Christians," but I'm darn positive they don't know the Lord if they're not loving. That's a verse, actually. 1 John 4:8. Ugh, I'm just so sorry! :hug:

[MerMaisy]

So I got fired from my job because I "didn't seem happy in the job" and I would "freeze with clients and it didn't seem like I cared" so now I need to find a new job because I'm starting college soon and I want to move out. The bosses were crazy. Apparently another front desk girl got fired for the same reasons and was hired back soon after. Also they were interviewing people in the room next to where they were firing me.. At the same time. I worked at least 20 hours in the past 2 weeks and they only paid me $90. On the bright side we'll probably get a puppy and I'll have more time to work on mermaiding and modeling. That's my rant for the day.

[CheshireKat]

Cheshire, IllynReaver, and Sabrina, I'm so sorry you've had such horrible experiences with these "Christians," but I'm darn positive they don't know the Lord if they're not loving. That's a verse, actually. 1 John 4:8. Ugh, I'm just so sorry! :hug:
:: hugs :: thanks hun, it means a lot.

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[PearlieMae]

Honestly, in my scramble to not deal with him I told him that I couldn't accept because my tail was not complete and tried to leave it at that.
He told me to throw more money at you and pick it up on the way to the gig and so a few hours later I told him that that was not possible. Then he told me to borrow the one from work and I told him that was not possible and he should know better and somehow it went from him asking to me asking so I called my other boss and confirmed that it was a no and hopefully he will leave me alone for the time being.

Oh yeah, New Jersey is SO on the way.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

No problem. Really. Message me anytime!!! :) <3

[IllynReaver]

@lotus_blooming thank you for that :) I really wish more people were accepting and loving towards others.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Gotta love lotus_blooming. One of the kindest people I've had the pleasure of interacting with on the net.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Omg, you're so sweet!! You're gonna make me tear up. :'>
Love you guys!! <3

[SIF]

Been on for the good part of hours trying to find where to start a tail-maker review, or a thread or make a post and I know it's supposed to pop down under the "Forum Actions" and it doesn't so please don't tell me it does. Where do i look to start something?

[Mer-Crazy]

Been on for the good part of hours trying to find where to start a tail-maker review, or a thread or make a post and I know it's supposed to pop down under the "Forum Actions" and it doesn't so please don't tell me it does. Where do i look to start something?
I think the Admins have to start a new Tail Maker review thread, because Iona said it's been coded differently.
As for starting another thread of any other kind, just go the the section you want to start a thread in, say 'tail maker discussions' for example and then click 'post new thread'.

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[SIF]

My button doesn't appear.

[SIF]

between the Forum line with the little house to the left and the "Forum:______" line in bold, there's never a button.

[SIF]

I FOUND ONE!!!! Thanks Mer-Crazy!

[PearlieMae]

Questions...if I block someone, I no longer see their posts...do they still see mine? Do they see old posts I've made?

[Echidna]

^^
yes, I think so. Unless they block you in turn.

[PearlieMae]

Rats. Thanks, hun.

[Naufra]

Cheshire, IllynReaver, and Sabrina, I'm so sorry you've had such horrible experiences with these "Christians," but I'm darn positive they don't know the Lord if they're not loving. That's a verse, actually. 1 John 4:8. Ugh, I'm just so sorry! :hug:

Lotus, people like you and Mermaid Michelle are the reason I don't hate Christians as a whole or Christianity as an institution. It's very common for people to declare themselves to be something and then not hold to the rules for being that thing, whether it's a Christian or Muslim or Pastafarian or Klingon or whatever. You walk the walk in addition to talking the talk, and as a result, you are a fine human being. I just wish you didn't feel the need to apologize for others who won't practice what they preach so often, it must be emotionally exhausting.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Lotus, people like you and Mermaid Michelle are the reason I don't hate Christians as a whole or Christianity as an institution. It's very common for people to declare themselves to be something and then not hold to the rules for being that thing, whether it's a Christian or Muslim or Pastafarian or Klingon or whatever. You walk the walk in addition to talking the talk, and as a result, you are a fine human being. I just wish you didn't feel the need to apologize for others who won't practice what they preach so often, it must be emotionally exhausting.

Aww, thank you!! That means so much, seriously.
It can get a bit exhausting because I feel the hateful, ignorant people are the loudest. D;
But I don't mind if it helps heal some wounds caused by ignorant people. <3

[SeaGlass Siren]

... Well I came to bitch about my new glasses falling off my face the whole day, but that doesn't even compare to what I'm reading in this thread. Holy crap.

[SeaMansa]

I hate racists. And it seems that as the days go by, I just keep finding more and more of them. It's starting to piss me off in more ways than one, but I must f find better ways to handle it. Verbally going at it continuously will only make me look like bigger fool than them.
Fuck them. I have no time for bullshit people with bullshit minds.
#Thatsallfolks

[Mermaid Lunette]

i can't even right now. i just...

a year ago a friend of ours went to get a car. we drove him but turns out he did not have enough credit and no one was available to co sign for him. so the naive bleeding heart in me was like "hey, maybe we could?" so my husband co signs but then he finds out that if our friend signs at all it might not work. so they tell my husband that if he signs for the car himself and simple transfers it over in 6 months it will be fine.

i feel beyond foolish about it (my husband was the smart one and hesitated) but eventually because i wanted to help out our friend my husband agreed (having a good heart and all) so he was gonna pay for everything but my hubby was gonna put it in his name for now. a few months pass and we find out he has not spent a single dime and my husband's credit is being thrown down the drain.

my hubby talks to (i am just gonna call him Liar McJerk pants from this point on) so hubby talks to liar Mcjerk pants and try to get a payment plan down, liar McJerk pants actin all innocent. so a few months later, still no payments. hubby's credit is garbage now and there is no end in sight.
my best friend moves in and finds out of our plight so she is like "oh, well i will buy the car from you and make payments to fix your creit." because my best friend is an angel like that. so i am freakin out because know hubby has to confront Liar McJerk pants and take the car back. (when hubby went to do this last night i was so anxious that lotus_bloming, my other angel friend, came over late that night to keep my company) to everyones surprise jerk pants takes it very well and gives the car back without a fuss. i felt a huge wave of relief.

then today happened.

mere hours later that night, while we slept and just got the car back...it was repoed, because liar McJerk hadnkt dropped a cent and it had been over a year.


the cruel irony is weighing on me heavily today.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

:hug: :'(

[PearlieMae]

Liar McJerkpants needs his ass kicked!

[Mermaid Lunette]

Liar McJerkpants needs his ass kicked!

i am inclined to agree :'(

(and i remember last night just being thankful he wasnkt mad when being asked to give the car back)

[Mermaid Lunette]

:hug: :'(

:'( :sad eyes::sad eyes::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[Dancing Fish]

Oh gosh, how terrible he took advantage of you like that!! So sorry. Gah. Some people.