B!TC# IT OUT!

[Azurin Luna]

Well... our world just turned upside down.
My hubby got fired 2 weeks ago due to a silly challenge he did with his students a year ago. The director of his school has been fishing for reasons to fire him for a while and because this challenge could have endangered the life of a student they had enough ground to fire him, though they let him finish the school year so that the students wouldn't have the trouble of not being able to do their final exams. (The kid is totally fine and the challenge was totally within safe limits)
Today he has been at the doctor and he came back telling me he got diagnosed with heavy depression and close to a burnout. He got forwarded to a psychotherapist and has to return each week to the doctor for check-ups. He is also no longer allowed to work, which hit him very hard, cause he feels guilty towards his students.
More over he feels guilty towards me and our unborn baby, cause we have to go through this with him. I told him over and over that I would stay at his side no matter what and that we will pull through this, and he is happy I'm willing to do this, but he can't shake the feeling.

I'm sure we are getting through this and with the help of the doctor and the psychotherapist everything will turn out fine. I just had to get this off my chest

[Slim]

Luna, I hope things get better soon.


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[Hydra1337]

Stay strong.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

So many hugs going your way, Luna.


Things'll turn around.

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[Mermaid Marius]

Today I get a text saying, and I quote "Where did you get your mermaid tail. I'm considering getting one"
Bitch what? I get SO angry when I get texts like this from friends and strangers who think that mermaiding is just a fun little commitment-less hobby they can just waltz into at their leisure.
So I swallowed the tsunami building inside me and kindly told her all about the top tail makers currently and how my tail is by Finfolk and then casually dropped that my tail is worth over $4,000.
That was quite the wake up call for her. Rightfully so.
Goodness, I get so frustrated when people think this is just some whimsical hobby where we sit and look pretty. A lot of people around me think it's a cool gig but they don't realize that it's also a large financial investment and and it is physically demanding! On your legs, your ankles, your ribcage, your back, your arms! Not to mention all the external elements you have to deal with: heat, cold, moisture/rain, people touching you...
And if it's festival season: THE MOSQUITOS. DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON THE MOSQUITOS...

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[Mermaid Lanier]

A possibly TMI bitch: Shark week started yesterday, and it introduced itself with so much pain from cramping that I spent my morning curled up on the nice, cold bathroom floor, occasionally getting up to throw up in the toilet. I have never cramped that badly before. It's continued today, although with less bathroom lounging and loss of stomach content. Although I did bleed through my favorite jeans. :(

*sighs* It's okay... I only have to do this once a week every month for the rest of my life.

[crystalleaf]

Old people are literally the worst!!!
I hate how they think :" I managed to survive for 50 years in a civilization with an expected lifetime of 90 so I deserve to treat everybody else like trash. "
I mean seriously, what is wrong with those people?! I just walked past one old man to get to the bus and he pushed me at the wall of the bus screaming how rude I am and that I must be mentally ill.
...Because I am like 30 years younger and faster....
Aaaargh!
* rant end*

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[crystalleaf]

Now he is with me in the bus and still screaming and nobody says anything. I am so angry I could cry.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch. I am so sorry.

Worked in a retirement community for a while, and my mom still works there. Some old people are great, and others are awful.

No fun. But if he's cranky and awful now? He's probably been cranky and awful his whole life.


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[MermaidLana]

I hate it so much when people keep saying you're weird and shit, just let me be fucking weird then, being normal is boring.

[Slim]

I let people say and think I'm weird if they feel that way. I look at it that while everyone is important, their opinion doesn't count toward that. Don't let it phase you Lana.

[Mermaid Clara]

When you recognize a mermaid from your local pod in your sculpture class at college. But it's been 6 weeks and you've been too scared to talk to her and every time you almost get the courage up to talk to her you chicken out. I really want to be friends but I'm such a chicken to even start a conversation with her!


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[Slim]

Clara, you're in the same the same position if you don't say anything. The worse thing that could happen is your in the same position if you say something. With nothing to lose but something to gain, I hope you at least say Hi to her.

[Mermaid Alea]

Thanks for your wisdom Slim. I am already feeling a lot better about my job and I feel like I am getting the hang of it!


When you recognize a mermaid from your local pod in your sculpture class at college. But it's been 6 weeks and you've been too scared to talk to her and every time you almost get the courage up to talk to her you chicken out. I really want to be friends but I'm such a chicken to even start a conversation with her!


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Well the good thing is you already know what you share in common! I would just straight up say, "Hi, I don't know if you remember me but I was at the pod meetup." If I were her I would be happy to have another mer in a class with me. It was awkward when I found out that a merman went to my college and we planned to meet up on campus and I was nervous but it was great to find another mer at my college. I have since graduated college and I regret not being more outgoing in college. I know it is hard to get up the courage to say hi to someone and you feel super nervous when you go for it, but it pays off. She might have recognized you but she could be too shy herself to say hi!

[Slim]

I just want to vent but I'm getting tired of having to "earn" my way of getting into every Pod group on Facebook in my area. I recently joined the Florida Merfolk group and got kicked out without warning or messages. One of the admin to that is the same one that might had stop me from getting in the Pod of the South for so long. Is there something of about my face that makes me look like a mervert? :( It's just aggravating that I'm being judge before anything as I try be a good member of the community. She should at least read the message where i sent a video of me mermaiding to prove I'm not a mervert. Sorry for venting. It just has me worry I may get kicked out from Pod of the South without warning after spending over a month getting in.

[crystalleaf]

I'm sorry to hear that :0 But why so you have to prove so much in the first place? I mean aren't there members from on here in it? They should speak up for you

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[Slim]

Iona helped me get into pod of the south. Part of me feels as I just don't look like a typical guy. Like most skinny guy has issues or something. I wish I had an answer.


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[Slim]

When I make my merman page, I plan on retrying. I try to keep my personal page and merman page separate because of merverts. I got rejected again and the message wasn't even read [emoji45]


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[Slim]

Last update on it. I got straight up blocked. That the 2nd group that happened to. To judge me based on my profile picture is basically feeling like being told don't go near that person because they look sick looking. I tried the last 15 years to try to look normal and not so thin so I can't help but take this offensively. Block was by the same girl. I just had to vent as I try to help everyone but this one really bothered me.


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[crystalleaf]

Maybe write to one of the other people and explain? I know it ain't fair and actually they should apologize to you (in my opinion)

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[Slim]

Maybe write to one of the other people and explain? I know it ain't fair and actually they should apologize to you (in my opinion)

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The other admin block was removed but recommended not to join in case of block again. So I can at least look inside and pm people on meetup. It's not the most ideal solution but I'll take it. Writing to the other admin was how I got the most recent block removed. I since blocked the other admin. I plan to make it big as a merman in a couple years and I'm sure she'll see me as one of the popular mers someday [emoji846]. Just got to get pass these babies steps.


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[crystalleaf]

Crossing my fins for you 🙆

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[Slim]

Thank you Crystalleaf. After today events, my ex want to take me to Weeki Wachee this weekend if she beats her cold in time. All the people I swim with are sick this week as 2017 reared it first ugly head today that it want to worse than 2016. My best friend found out his fiance son was found dead this morning. There really isn't no detail what happened yet. They only left that state 7 days ago so it's really hard on them. I'm just now waiting for that call when he ready to talk. I know it'll take time as he helped her raised her son like he was his own too. I was refer to other local mergroup so I can't complain too much but I still feel bad for my best friend family. I refuse to let this month stay on a bad note.

[Mermaid Lanier]

Oh my gosh, Slim. I can imagine you feel pretty bad about this. I'm sorry that you have to put up with total bull like that.

[Slim]

Yes I do feel bad about it and bummed out but it is what it is. I'm moving forward from it and hopefully be in a better position soon.
Oh my gosh, Slim. I can imagine you feel pretty bad about this. I'm sorry that you have to put up with total bull like that.

[Mermaid Lanier]

So pissed off right now. I'm damn determined to get an A in math for once in my life, but each time I'm close (e.g. "If I ace these next two quizzes I'll be at a 90.05") I manage to screw it up and land a 70 on a quiz. I just did it again after swearing up and down that this time I SWEAR I'll have an A by tomorrow. So why the hell do I think I could ever major in a STEM degree in college? Biology is feeling more and more like a pipe dream.

[Slim]

So pissed off right now. I'm damn determined to get an A in math for once in my life, but each time I'm close (e.g. "If I ace these next two quizzes I'll be at a 90.05") I manage to screw it up and land a 70 on a quiz. I just did it again after swearing up and down that this time I SWEAR I'll have an A by tomorrow. So why the hell do I think I could ever major in a STEM degree in college? Biology is feeling more and more like a pipe dream.

I'm sorry to hear Lanier. I wish I could help but those two field are hard for me. I'm hoping for some luck for you.



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[Mermaid Mia]

So pissed off right now. I'm damn determined to get an A in math for once in my life, but each time I'm close (e.g. "If I ace these next two quizzes I'll be at a 90.05") I manage to screw it up and land a 70 on a quiz. I just did it again after swearing up and down that this time I SWEAR I'll have an A by tomorrow. So why the hell do I think I could ever major in a STEM degree in college? Biology is feeling more and more like a pipe dream.

Hey there. Im positioned to get my biology degree within the next year. I had to get a tutor to get me up to speed in math in middle school, and i failed out of calculus in high school. Statistics for me was a breeze though. Some people just think differently. If you want a STEM degree don't let just ONE part of the acronym stop you.


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[Marriih]

Woah Slim that's just horrible... and what a sad and disappointing thing to be done by mers, I mean, they're usually open-minded, welcoming and tolerant. This just goes completely against it. Even the not reading your message part is just... sad. :(
Must be very frustrating...

[suzanne86]

Not to worry, Lanier. Oftentimes a "B" is good enough. Getting a perfect score or grade is certainly an ego boost, but in the reality of life "perfection" in academics is no sure guarantee of success in employment, salaries, or getting along with other people. Hang in there, do your best, and then let the chips fall where they will. No use being too hard on yourself. Enjoy the swim!

[Slim]

Thank you Marrih. It actually did get fixed shortly after you replied. The person was worry about me being a creepier because a sent a couple messages (I only sent 3 over a month period) so there was a misunderstanding which I forgave. I can finally have the chance to meet local mers since she knows I'm a nice honest person with help of the other mer. I'm just so glad is finally fixed and that isn't wasn't because I was a guy or something along that line. Yes it very much cross my mind because she wasn't kicking out the local mermaids which lead to my worry. I do sometimes over analyze things.

To keep things on topic for this chat; my mother which I'm currently supporting so she can take care of my gram (and not put her in a nursing home here in Florida) told me I need to stop playing around at the pool start supporting the family more. I only go swimming for 2 hours a week and I work between 60 to 70 hours between both jobs. ALL of my money goes straight to the bills so my mom can watch her. I'm already slowly burning out from working so much and just to be told that just upset me. I'm already watching my grandmother so my mother can get out of the house on my time off so I just felt truly burned by that statement. I love my gram but it's about time I start finding a way to break free when my mom retire in July. That providing my 2nd job last that long as they recently filed for bankruptcy. My ride for this Sunday for Alexander Spring can't bring me :( One of my other friend might but not sure fully so I'm hoping there is a way or an opportunity come where I can get a ride as I'll cover the person gas fully. My van just won't make the trip.


Woah Slim that's just horrible... and what a sad and disappointing thing to be done by mers, I mean, they're usually open-minded, welcoming and tolerant. This just goes completely against it. Even the not reading your message part is just... sad. :(
Must be very frustrating...

[Mermaid Lanier]

Thank you for your well-wishes, Slim! And you have mine as well. That's a sticky and emotional situation that you're in, and I hope you find an out before you burn out and crash. Know that you have lots of mers cheering you on!*

Mermaid Mia, that gives me a lot of hope. I've got statistics up as my next math class, so hopefully I follow in your footsteps (fin-strokes?) and do well there!*

Suzanne, that's very true. The issue is that I slacked off in my Freshman year and got a C, and have only gotten a lot of B's in STEM subjects since. My GPA is pretty dismal, although I've done well on standardized testing. In the end, I'm striving to become an aquarist. Volunteering and interning will be of more use than a single math class, so you're definitely right.*

[Mermaid Momo]

Slim you're always welcome to join my pod! I only ever delete people if they aren't contributing or are lurking hardcore or I've never met nor talked to them. (or people report harassment of being uncomfortable ) Arizona Merpod, Give us a search on facebook and the group should show up :) We let people in even if they don't live in AZ so that they can see what's going on especially if they'll be traveling to AZ

[Slim]

Thank you Momo. I sent a request to join. I'm Jason. You can tell which request is mine as my profile picture has a Elvis, Tina Turner, and Michael Jackson impersonator in the picture with me. :)


Slim you're always welcome to join my pod! I only ever delete people if they aren't contributing or are lurking hardcore or I've never met nor talked to them. (or people report harassment of being uncomfortable ) Arizona Merpod, Give us a search on facebook and the group should show up :) We let people in even if they don't live in AZ so that they can see what's going on especially if they'll be traveling to AZ

[MermanOliver]

So pissed off right now. I'm damn determined to get an A in math for once in my life, but each time I'm close (e.g. "If I ace these next two quizzes I'll be at a 90.05") I manage to screw it up and land a 70 on a quiz. I just did it again after swearing up and down that this time I SWEAR I'll have an A by tomorrow. So why the hell do I think I could ever major in a STEM degree in college? Biology is feeling more and more like a pipe dream.


Hey there. Im positioned to get my biology degree within the next year. I had to get a tutor to get me up to speed in math in middle school, and i failed out of calculus in high school. Statistics for me was a breeze though. Some people just think differently. If you want a STEM degree don't let just ONE part of the acronym stop you.


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Not to worry, Lanier. Oftentimes a "B" is good enough. Getting a perfect score or grade is certainly an ego boost, but in the reality of life "perfection" in academics is no sure guarantee of success in employment, salaries, or getting along with other people. Hang in there, do your best, and then let the chips fall where they will. No use being too hard on yourself. Enjoy the swim!

Hi Lanier!

Exactly what Mia and Suzanne said, getting a STEM degree is not just about getting an A in math. In fact, putting too much pressure on yourself is actually counterproductive (just like freediving - the harder you push the less likely it is to actually acieve your goal. Relaxing is the key! ;) ). I wasn't that brilliant at university myself, but finally got my degree in Engineering and a really nice job afterwards.

Looking back the more relaxed I went into the examns the better I performed. Just stay focussed and go with a "I'll-do-my-best" attitude, then everything will work out fine in the end.

You will manage, I am sure! :)

[Mermaid Lanier]

Hi Lanier!

Exactly what Mia and Suzanne said, getting a STEM degree is not just about getting an A in math. In fact, putting too much pressure on yourself is actually counterproductive (just like freediving - the harder you push the less likely it is to actually acieve your goal. Relaxing is the key! ;) ). I wasn't that brilliant at university myself, but finally got my degree in Engineering and a really nice job afterwards.

Looking back the more relaxed I went into the examns the better I performed. Just stay focussed and go with a "I'll-do-my-best" attitude, then everything will work out fine in the end.

You will manage, I am sure! :)

Thank you, Oliver! I'll keep that attitude in mind. :)

[Slim]

One of my jobs always asked why I didn't I quit my early morning job. Today proved my point. That job that asked why is letting me go in 2 weeks because that business is doing that bad. They don't even have a plan to last past May. So i'm going from working 60 to 70 hours a week down to 20 to 30 hours a week. It's not going to be enough to pay all the bills but it is what it is. But I guess it's not all bad. My former store manager from a previous job want to take me to corporate meeting and dinner as they are allow to invite one guest in clearwater because of an employee and guest talent show. I'm pretty sure she using me as her ace in the talent contest because of my merman tail. Who knows? It's another chance for me to swim.

[Squall]

Bit of an old one this, almost exactly a year since it happened actually. So after discovering this community I finally had an incentive to learn to swim, I booked lessons and started in January last year. Things were going well, very well in fact, until the day before the penultimate lesson. I tripped up while walking down the street, landing heavily on my left shoulder. For months afterwards certain shoulder movements were incredibly painful, including the sort of moves used for swimming. I did my best to ignore it for the last two lessons but it still held me back quite a bit. Having said that, of all the people left in the group at the last lesson, I was the only one that was asked if I wanted to go in the main (grownups) pool. So a year later and my shoulder is mostly better, still get a twinge in it now and then though. Probably going to have to book some private swimming lessons at some point as I'm past needing beginners lessons, but not good enough for what the local pool calls intermediate lessons. This is not where I was planning to be by now regarding swimming, my plan was to learn to swim, go to the pool regularly to get fit and more confident in the water. Not that confidence was ever lacking, I think I was the only one in the group that didn't have some fear of the water, found using floats frustrating and was always glad to be rid of them. Had things gone to plan, by now I should be looking into trying a monofin and experiencing the frustration of finding a pool that'll let me swim with it. So still kinda landlocked at the moment and feeling more than a bit frustrated to the point where I'm pondering getting a fabric tail just to wear indoors for the time being.

[Marinus Mortimer]

Hello I recently made a request to admins on the forum but as I suspected merging my Merman Marinus account with my old account Yemar Pina cause the password to shift and I have once again lost access to my mernetwork account due to the recent merging i had to open this one to deliver the message so can you guys just send me the password so I can once again log in to my account that it's now named Yemar Pina...

[Hydra1337]

This morning I had an ultrasound done for surrogacy. The embryo's size was fine but the heart rate was low and hard to find. After talking with the doctors they said I'm going to have another ultrasound on 4/6 to see which way this pregnancy is going to go because as of right now it could go either way. Knowing that I could suffer another miscarriage (even though the doctors stress it is once again the embryos not me) really upsets me but I'm trying to stay positive so the stress doesn't make anything bad happen.

[Marinus Mortimer]

This morning I had an ultrasound done for surrogacy. The embryo's size was fine but the heart rate was low and hard to find. After talking with the doctors they said I'm going to have another ultrasound on 4/6 to see which way this pregnancy is going to go because as of right now it could go either way. Knowing that I could suffer another miscarriage (even though the doctors stress it is once again the embryos not me) really upsets me but I'm trying to stay positive so the stress doesn't make anything bad happen.

Wishing you the best Hydra it must be hard going through that but remember the lord has a plan for everything.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck, Hydra.

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[Slim]

I hope you get good news when that day arrives.

[Hydra1337]

So I went to the ER last night when I started bleeding. I did not miscarry but I'm definitely at risk due to a hemorrhage under the placenta so now I'm on bed rest.

[Slim]

:( I hope things starts turning better for you soon.


So I went to the ER last night when I started bleeding. I did not miscarry but I'm definitely at risk due to a hemorrhage under the placenta so now I'm on bed rest.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hug* Hydra.

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[Hydra1337]

Thank you all for the support. It means so much with all the stress from this situation.

[MermaidIndie]

I am working on an individual scale tail project and I'm so close to being done. Yet the past few times I've gone to work on it my anxiety gets the better of me and i suddenly feel like every task is monumental. It's so frustrating


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[Ashe]

I totally understand that Indie. I've been putting off my tail for a week now because I need to sew on the fins and fluke. Not sure why but I just can't bring myself to do it. But it takes five minutes? Silly brain.

[WaterDragon]

I am working on an individual scale tail project and I'm so close to being done. Yet the past few times I've gone to work on it my anxiety gets the better of me and i suddenly feel like every task is monumental. It's so frustrating


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I'm in the same spot, I just need to cast the fluke and belly scales and assemble the tail but I am freaking out a bit about the next few steps.

[MermaidIndie]

Well as miserable is it is to be stuck at least were in it together!! I'm going to really try and motivate myself to push through this last stretch. I believe in you guys!


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[Azurin Luna]

Urgh... I went to my bi weekly checkup for my pregnancy, I'm 34 weeks now and everything is going fine for me and the baby. All check ups have been good so far. But as we sat there talking about how and were I wanted to give birth she suddenly tells me that I can't give birth in a bath at home, while she knew that's what I wanted from the start. She said that I could sit in the bath until the time was that the baby was to be born and then I had to move to a bed to go into labour. The only option I have now to give birth in a bath is to go to the hospital where they have a special bath that they can empty quickly in case something goes wrong.

I was taken aback by that so much that when I got home I burst out in tears. I could really slap them for not telling me this earlier, cause then I would have adjusted my plans without pressure or fear of making a wrong decision. :(

[Mermaid Lanier]

My dad is in the ER this morning because his heart jacked up again. He's been having issues for years, so they went in and did an ablation, which is a mini-surgery that allows them to kill off specific nerves in the heart. It must not have worked. I don't know much now, but it's a mix of scary and irritating that it's come back again.

[Slim]

Lanier, I hope he alright and gets better. I'm very sorry to hear :(

[Mermaid Lanier]

Lanier, I hope he alright and gets better. I'm very sorry to hear :(

Thank you, Slim. It looks like they were able to shock him back into rhythm, but it would be nice if they could find a way to prevent it from happening again.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Urgh... I went to my bi weekly checkup for my pregnancy, I'm 34 weeks now and everything is going fine for me and the baby. All check ups have been good so far. But as we sat there talking about how and were I wanted to give birth she suddenly tells me that I can't give birth in a bath at home, while she knew that's what I wanted from the start. She said that I could sit in the bath until the time was that the baby was to be born and then I had to move to a bed to go into labour. The only option I have now to give birth in a bath is to go to the hospital where they have a special bath that they can empty quickly in case something goes wrong.

I was taken aback by that so much that when I got home I burst out in tears. I could really slap them for not telling me this earlier, cause then I would have adjusted my plans without pressure or fear of making a wrong decision. :(
Who told you that? Nurse, doctor, or your midwife?

(Because doctors will do almost anything to prevent a patient from going the home birth route)

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[Slim]

I got proof an admin in the Pod group is abusing her power [emoji35]. It took one admin to allow me in the group and the other admin removes every comment I make. Everyone that knows me knows I never do anything bad.


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[NerineArcticMermaid]

Your comments on MY THREAD were not relevant. And those were the only ones removed besides the comment that violated the rules.

[Slim]

Nerine I don't mean to call someone else on here but explain please. Carpooling isn't against the rules and looking to share rides. Mentioning where I plan to get my future tail means I'm excited about my future goal to swim in the south isn't no more advertising than you mentioning in a separate post why you took down your mermaid page because of your job. I'm asking for fairness. I got what I believe is proof, I'm not stating faults on here as I want answer. If you don't want me to go to meetup on there, say so. I submitted my proof including unread message. I'll be happy to discuss this in private messages or on the group. If I may ask, why did you ban me from joining 2 separate groups in the past before I could even comment in the first place?


Your comments on MY THREAD were not relevant. And those were the only ones removed besides the comment that violated the rules.

[AniaR]

*rolls eyes*

Slim I am sorry you're having that experience, you should message one of the Mernetwork admins as they're the ones who set up the pods and delegated admins for each group.

[Slim]

Thank you. I'll let that be my next step. I learn from my previous time of trying to join the group just to get banned instead of accepted that if I get into the group, I should make screenshots of my OWN post just incase they get deleted. People want to be part of something and we all got dreams. I messsage one of the other admin that fixed the issue and let her know this is like dare to say "round 3" with the person not giving up on me. "Round 2" was actually a local Florida Merfolk group with that same admin and it lead to me of the fear my post would get deleted or I get block again. If everything stays the same after I give the other admin a chance to talk to her, then I will make another group. I just will ensure it becomes bigger and better than her as everyone in this region needs a welcome place. But I will let the admin of the mernetwork know ahead of time of the group so it's an easy transition on everyone. I want to keep the handling as professional as possible. Hearing to this day that people can't get in without a reason why is just troublesome to me. The mermaiding community is expanding faster than ever and the groups should be just as welcoming :)


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Slim I am sorry you're having that experience, you should message one of the Mernetwork admins as they're the ones who set up the pods and delegated admins for each group.

[Azurin Luna]

Who told you that? Nurse, doctor, or your midwife?

(Because doctors will do almost anything to prevent a patient from going the home birth route)

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My midwife told me, she is fine with home birth, just not in the bath, which I find odd, cause it has more pro's then cons everywhere I read about it. The biggest problem she has with it, is that she can't see if the umbilical cord is around the baby's neck or not.

[MermaidLiara]

Who told you that? Nurse, doctor, or your midwife?

(Because doctors will do almost anything to prevent a patient from going the home birth route)

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Actually, in our country (mine and Azurin's) doctors and midwives do everything to prevent a patient from giving birth in a hospital. I think it has to do with costs. Nowadays, I hear a lot of women say: ''if you want a hospital birth, you have to demand it and stand up for yourself.'' Even if you planned a hospital birth, midwives refuse to take you if you haven't dilated enough. In the past two years, many of my friends and family members planned a hospital birth. All of them ended up giving birth at home. :(

[Mermaid Clara]

My dad just told me the reason my cat is refusing to eat is because her kidneys are failing. She hasn't eaten in two days and she only wants people food. I really love my cat, she's 16 years old but doesn't look old, I've had her since I was 5 years old. But my bitch is that when I started crying that he told me I shouldn't be crying because I've never taken care of her, which is a total lie. I'm the only one who cleans and changes her litter, gives her water and feeds her. He hardly ever feeds her and only when I beg him because I can't when I'm away at work.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I am so sorry, Clara

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[Slim]

I'm really sorry Clara. Anything that can be said or say will not make it easier but I feel what you are going through. My cat Bandit sudden passed 2 years ago without warning so yeah I will admit that even reading what you said brought back memory but I know you are strong enough to get through it. I'm always a message away on her and facebook. Though it may look bad now, in the past mother gave one of the cats a small spoon of unfavored pedialyte which did hydrate the cat enough to eat and add a couple more months. That's a do at your own risk. I really wish you the best :(

[PearlieMae]

You need to get your cat to the vet right away! I am going through this with my 16 year old cat right now, and you need to have a vet check its urine for proteins and sugar and creatinine, and follow your vet's instructions as to a course of action. Depending on the health of your cat, it might not be a problem, but if your cat is in poor health you certainly don't want it to suffer with kidney failure, which can be very painful.

[MermaidLiara]

@Clara: *hugs* <3

[Hydra1337]

Try Burt's Bees diaper rash cream and let it sit on your razor burn for a few hours before you work. It works best if it sits overnight but idk what's open right now that would carry it. I know it sounds like an odd thing to suggest but it helps more than just diaper rash. It helped me with wicked razor burn and with my daughter's eczema.

[Hydra1337]

I am beyond emotional right now... This morning I miscarried at home for a second time and was in gruelling pain for over three hours. I had to wait until early afternoon to go to the fertility clinic where I've been going for my surrogacy appointments to make sure I was okay. Everyone was very surprised yet solemn because my appointment from last week showed no more bleeding or any other warning signs. I know they say it was just Mother Nature but it's still a terrible thing to go through. I can't mentally go through this again so now I have to start looking around for a job to support my family because my husband is disabled and can't work.

On an unrelated note my Spoonflower swatches haven't been shipped yet because they're behind schedule. If they had been shipped on time I would have been able to order the fabric I needed for my first fabric tail before I lost my only source of income. So once again my mermaid tails have to be put on hold.

[Slim]

I'm so very sorry that happened to you Hydra :( I really wish there something I could say or do to help. I know no one doesn't deserve to go through so such a lost. I'm always on here via tapatalk and I can be reached through Facebook via my profile you want someone to talk to. I believe you can come through this stronger than before.

[deepblue]

I know they say it was just Mother Nature but it's still a terrible thing to go through. I can't mentally go through this again so now I have to start looking around for a job to support my family because my husband is disabled and can't work.

It doesn't matter if it's Mother Nature, it's incredibly painful on every level when you wanted the pregnancy, and for those who didn't, the physical pain can still be unbelievable, and I don't wish it on anyone. I'm so sorry. I've been through it myself a few times, including two years ago this May, and also an abnormal pregnancy (which wasn't a pregnancy at all but a tumor that acts like one) that had to be removed. I later found out I have a genetic variant that affects B vitamins and is related to miscarrying. If I'd known before... well I don't know, because I did not know.

I'm just so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you don't have a lot of choice in stopping to take some time or even in slowing down, but I hope that somehow you are able to. It can be so exhausting on both the mental and physical levels. I talked about it with a close group of friends and not really to anyone else, but it was hard when two of them were having successful pregnancies at the time. Happy for them, yes, devastated for myself. Anyway. Talking about it can help, I hope you have someone you can do that with.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Lots of love to you Hydra.

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[KaylinSilvermerr]

Hydra,

I'm so sorry you're going through this, just know you're not alone, ok?

~Kaylin

[deepblue]

I think flames came out the top of my head when I just saw what happened to my fluke mold.

http://i26.photobucket.com/albums/c142/ironlightsaber/The%20Rebels%20Album%202/tumblr_ltsv9uPiJQ1qc86xvo1_500_zps5a460b1e.gif

Today I sprayed my mold with a second layer of Krylon clear, because I've read that as recommended to get a shinier silicone casting.

I sprayed it out on the balcony, and left it there to dry.

Unexpected tree trimmers showed up- we were told they'd be here two days ago, and they were. We were not notified that they would be back. So I did not expect them to be out there again, under my balcony with a giant wood chipper again. When the noise of the engine revved up, and they started feeding branches in, dust went up and now my mold has flecks of dust all over it, at one with the clear coat. The entire mold went out there pretty white and pristine, and now it looks like I used black and grey speckles. And the surface is rough all over. I will try another coat and who knows, maybe it will help smooth things over... but I doubt it.

I really hope that did not just ruin the mold. I'm going to wait and see how a second layer will do, but I'm very concerned any casting I do from this mold is going to look terrible. I might be able to save such a thing with a clear coat of silicone painted over it, but I have a feeling pitting will be all over it.

Sigh. Not the end of the world but, man....

[Hydra1337]

Thank you for the support everyone. Honestly I considered taking a break from Mernetwork and anything mermaid related because I was so distraught. Once I read all the support from you guys it made me feel a lot better and helped me better accept what happened. I say "better accept" for a reason. Apparently two embryos for this couple's previous surrogate didn't stick but Family Formers (the surrogate agency) thought it was just the surrogate and if the last embryo didn't stick to me then the embryos were definitely bad. They neglected to tell me any of this until after I was already under contract and implanted. Before that I was told they were all good quality. And here's another thing about this agency that annoys me! The fertility clinic they work with (Boca Raton Fertility Clinic) apparently mixed up my blood type and tried to say I needed a special shot. I knew I wasn't that blood type so I had to push for my blood getting retested so I would be taken seriously.

If anyone else on here is considering surrogacy please please PLEASE for the sake of your own sanity avoid Family Formers.

[deepblue]

Omg, that's awful, Hydra! Because of my history, we are planning on surrogacy. It really sounds like the clinic and agency need to get better organized! Holy cow, a special shot and questionable embryo situation, that's just... that's too much. I'm not in Florida, but I am glad to know of that agency name. I'll be making sure they're not related to any of the clinics here. Although, the clinic we plan to go to is also the surrogate agency, they're inclusive- at least, if they're not the agency, they do the finding for clients. I feel bad for that couple though... there are so many reasons this could be happening. So rough. :/

I'm glad you're feeling better able to cope.

[Mermaid Octavia]

Not a bitch or a vent... just... a sad.

I saw there was a mermaid here that has a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder, and an enabling father. I can't find her right now, but I'm sure she would understand.

I'm getting married shortly, and it's sad that my sister and father will not be involved, due to each being so incredibly toxic. Father is undiagnosed, but I'm convinced based on his behavior the past 30 years that he's got Narcissistic Personality Disorder at the very least, and quite possibly Antisocial Personality Disorder (a sociopath). My sister is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, and our mother suspects that she too is a sociopath.

I've had to cut both out of my life for my own health and safety, and when we were speaking, I wanted my sister as my maid-of-honor. I won't get into why I cut them both from my life, but everything is so much easier and peaceful than before. No more constant crisis from one day to the next, no more suicide threats over what to cook for dinner, or when to study for a test, no threats of shooting herself when I don't have the art supply she needed for an elective community college class... No more derogatory name-calling, no more calling me at midnight to yell at me and call me a whore, no more telling me I'm fat but then demanding I bring a man home to give him grandchildren, no more passive-aggressive behavior, no more threats to punch me in the face...

It's just sad though, that so many people wave the banner of "blood is thicker than water" and "they're family so you have to stick together". No, no you don't, especially when said family is toxic and abusive. I realized that I don't know what having a father is like, since mine never bothered with either my sister or I unless we could perform a function for him. :/ His children are his latest hobbies and alcohol.

My sister simply uses people and throws them away like trash. I can't be around her - she's way too dangerous. She'll do anything and say anything she can to coerce people to give her money, attention, time, perform favors for her... then when they're no longer useful, she humiliates and berates them and dumps them like a used candy wrapper. It's really sad, and neither one of them seem to realize that their lives are in shambles because of their awful behavior.

At least the wedding will have minimized drama because Chaos Incarnates #1 and #2 won't be there.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

*hug*

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[Sepharina]

My sister found my journal. I had my religious/witchcraft info in there , she ran her mouth to everyone , I was forced to come out as Wiccan and a witch all at the same time , now said sister has a problem with me , said sister makes fun of me , and said sister has ruined my family relationships because she ran her mouth when she could have politely asked me why I had that kind of info in a journal. Now my grandma thinks I need to see a doctor because I'm not Christian , and all this other crap that I can't write because it's too long. Just , really mad that she couldn't have been the mature person she is , and she has now started a war between me and her.

/life is amazing

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Holy fuck. What kind of sister outs you?

Sepharina I am so sorry.

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[Sepharina]

I have no idea Sabrina! No. Absolute. Idea. I get that she might be concerned , but she has took it more as a bullying type deal. I just , I dunno what ima do .

[MermaidSasha]

Not cool of your sister at all! I'm sorry :( Being someone that is pagan, I'm here if you need to vent to someone. I hope your family comes around and at least lets you explain your spirituality and choices to them. Never fun to have family or friends who jump to the worst conclusions when it comes to witchcraft.
*Hugs*

[Marinus Mortimer]

I guess I'm lucky that witch craft has been in my family for generations, in the Yoruba or Santeria traditions I was thought the craft from a young age especially when I got to stay over at my grandmas she was always receiving clients in her home, I remember I used to sneak around and observe her rituals and consults it was always good to watch except the blood sacrifices but those were necessary...


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Always easier to be a witch when you come from a family of witches. I'm just lucky that my family accepts my practice, let's me get on with rituals, etc.

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[Mermaid Clara]

My dad keeps fat shaming me. Tells me "that nobody will hire a professional mermaid who has a gut as big as mine" or "nobody wants a mermaid who doesn't look good in a tail"
I'm so upset right now, I've been down in the dumps for what feels like forever because I feel like I don't have a nice, pretty, skinny body. My tummy is too big, face is too round, my legs and bum and arms are too fat. I feel like I have no hope for ever making my silicone tails. I feel like I've got no more hope and inspiration to achieve my dreams of being a professional mermaid all because of my body type. I'm hardly have a flicker of desire to work on sculpting for my tail. It comes and goes but I usually have a road block or huge obstacle in my way which prevents me from making any sculpting progress.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Your dad needs to learn when to shove off. That's awful.

Don't let his crud get to you.

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[Slim]

This upset me greatly. I know I'm on the other side of the spectrum on this being a tall super skinny guy and all people do is lay the "anorexic" jokes. Sabrina is right that your dad should just shove off. I quickly looked at your fb picture linked to your account and girl, you are not no where near the size to be counted as big. I can get you proof of people twice the size of you that are making money as mermaid and merman. Being a mermaid is your dream and you WILL make it. I believe and you and I'm sure everyone else here does too. My family has been a pain in my lack of butt trying to discourage me but the friends I'm making and the fact it's healthy thing makes this all worth it. You are beautiful on the inside and kids will see that as you being a mermaid. Kids don't worry about looks as they only worry about the person. Your dad need to see it from the people you are entertaining. If you let your family make you quit out of this, you will regret it later in life. Believe me as I put my dream on hold for over 10 years. I don't want to see that happen to someone else.


My dad keeps fat shaming me. Tells me "that nobody will hire a professional mermaid who has a gut as big as mine" or "nobody wants a mermaid who doesn't look good in a tail"
I'm so upset right now, I've been down in the dumps for what feels like forever because I feel like I don't have a nice, pretty, skinny body. My tummy is too big, face is too round, my legs and bum and arms are too fat. I feel like I have no hope for ever making my silicone tails. I feel like I've got no more hope and inspiration to achieve my dreams of being a professional mermaid all because of my body type. I'm hardly have a flicker of desire to work on sculpting for my tail. It comes and goes but I usually have a road block or huge obstacle in my way which prevents me from making any sculpting progress.


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[Hydra1337]

After waiting for over two weeks I FINALLY got my tail swatches (Spoonflower was behind on orders so it got delayed). They all turned out terrible. Everything printed too dark or had no detail despite looking perfect on the computer. One was supposed to be bright blue and it somehow turned out dark purple. Now I have to find a different website to print my designs and my tail gets delayed even more.

[Slim]

Will they refund you or are you stuck with what they gave you? Sorry that happened to you.


After waiting for over two weeks I FINALLY got my tail swatches (Spoonflower was behind on orders so it got delayed). They all turned out terrible. Everything printed too dark or had no detail despite looking perfect on the computer. One was supposed to be bright blue and it somehow turned out dark purple. Now I have to find a different website to print my designs and my tail gets delayed even more.

[Marinus Mortimer]

Minor set back! I stepped on my dorsal sculpt. I put it on the ground while I work on the other half cause I have limited space on the kitchen table I cried a little cus it'll take me a few hours to fix...[emoji36]https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170418/0d4ea419cfe7a674b5a72bc4b68c3f76.jpg


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[Hydra1337]

Will they refund you or are you stuck with what they gave you? Sorry that happened to you.

I don't know...I emailed them already so I'm just waiting to hear back. I hope I either get a free reprint or a refund because everything about these swatches is terrible. I'm still trying to get over how the blue one managed to turn out purple. I double checked the settings in Photoshop and the final files but everything was fine so they should have printed pretty true to what's on my screen (according to other reviews on the fabric). If they try to say it's something wrong on my end I'm going to be PISSED.

[The Water Phoenix]

Minor set back! I stepped on my dorsal sculpt. I put it on the ground while I work on the other half cause I have limited space on the kitchen table I cried a little cus it'll take me a few hours to fix...[emoji36]https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170418/0d4ea419cfe7a674b5a72bc4b68c3f76.jpg


Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Awww :( The clay picked up the detail really well on the tread of your boot. It's a pity that unfortunately happened :(

[Slim]

I'm sure they'll work with you. I will be surprised if they blame you but I doubt they will. In worse case, they can be the beta piece and I'll still try to help if there anyway I can.


I don't know...I emailed them already so I'm just waiting to hear back. I hope I either get a free reprint or a refund because everything about these swatches is terrible. I'm still trying to get over how the blue one managed to turn out purple. I double checked the settings in Photoshop and the final files but everything was fine so they should have printed pretty true to what's on my screen (according to other reviews on the fabric). If they try to say it's something wrong on my end I'm going to be PISSED.

[Marinus Mortimer]

Awww :( The clay picked up the detail really well on the tread of your boot. It's a pity that unfortunately happened :(


I know but after a tedious night I've fixed it yayy.
https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170418/716a17d6d3cbf1403e80cfdded90c020.jpg




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[Mermaid Momo]

I don't know...I emailed them already so I'm just waiting to hear back. I hope I either get a free reprint or a refund because everything about these swatches is terrible. I'm still trying to get over how the blue one managed to turn out purple. I double checked the settings in Photoshop and the final files but everything was fine so they should have printed pretty true to what's on my screen (according to other reviews on the fabric). If they try to say it's something wrong on my end I'm going to be PISSED.

Did you create your image in CMYK or RGB? I think spoonflower prints in CMYK. Did you buy swatches or the full yardage that you needed?

[Mermaid Saoirse]

People are reposting Mernation's photos of my tail on Instagram and not mentioning me anywhere. They're not my photos- but it's my tail. I guess I just feel a little irked since that's my baby. There's not much I can do though. :/
At least some are considerate enough to tag Mernation.

[Hydra1337]

Did you create your image in CMYK or RGB? I think spoonflower prints in CMYK. Did you buy swatches or the full yardage that you needed?

sRGB is what they print the files as and what I made the files as. I got swatches because I was testing out multiple color schemes for my mermaid tail fabric.

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

There was a shooting in Fresno today, I'm trying to contact my family to see if they are okay but my parents got rid of their cell phones awhile ago. The shooting was in an area they were supposed to be in today.

[LeeniusUnicorn]

There was a shooting in Fresno today, I'm trying to contact my family to see if they are okay but my parents got rid of their cell phones awhile ago. The shooting was in an area they were supposed to be in today.

Oh goodness, I hope they are safe.


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[Slim]

There was a shooting in Fresno today, I'm trying to contact my family to see if they are okay but my parents got rid of their cell phones awhile ago. The shooting was in an area they were supposed to be in today.

I hope they are okay


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[Khaleesi Daenerys]

I finally got in contact with them they are ok. Thank you so much guys it felt like days went by in such a short time, I'm glad to have this place for a support system.

[Slim]

I finally got in contact with them they are ok. Thank you so much guys it felt like days went by in such a short time, I'm glad to have this place for a support system.

That's a relief.


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[Hydra1337]

I'm glad they're okay.

[Hydra1337]

Spoonflower FINALLY got back to me. They sent me a generic response that my files didn't have enough contrast to make the details visible (which is COMPLETELY untrue especially since bright blue printed DARK FLIPPING PURPLE) but will have a "one time courtesy" and let me send it back for a refund. So in short I get some money back and now I have to start over on a new site that does the same thing after i find a job.

[Slim]

At least you're getting the money back but sorry that still happened to you.


Spoonflower FINALLY got back to me. They sent me a generic response that my files didn't have enough contrast to make the details visible (which is COMPLETELY untrue especially since bright blue printed DARK FLIPPING PURPLE) but will have a "one time courtesy" and let me send it back for a refund. So in short I get some money back and now I have to start over on a new site that does the same thing after i find a job.

[Slim]

I want to get this off of my chest. There this one admin of a facebook group that I personally feel that isn't being fair at all. One person asked people to share the last post and she was told that was against the rule. I understand if it stopped there and that would be fine. Someone else read the rules and asked how it was against the rule and guess what? No answer because the post got deleted then. I did turn around made a separate asking is it now against the rule to ask about how something is against and I tag the admin to it. I was no only ask to remove the tag, but also told it shouldn't concern me. I have every reason to be concern on this. First the person on here about 2 pages again told me I broke the rules on this very thread and I never revealed who she was. The other thing is this same person never explain to me why I got ban from two groups before I even joined. How can people follow the rules as it seem to be made up in that pod? The other thing is she said that this should not concern me. I should be concern. I got banned before I could even joined so yes I want to know what rule is broken so she doesn't banned me for 3rd time. The 3rd thing is why is there a post about becoming an art teacher (not mer related) is acceptable on there but a person can't couldn't ask how something was against the rule. I'm done this with. I will remain part of pod of the south. Keep in mind someone else created a pod of the southeast after getting tired of deleted post. A bunch of other people already private message me expressing the that they wish the other admin in that group would come back.

[Slim]

And just like that, person deleted another thread because another person express not understanding. People have good of heart; as a teacher that person should understand that. If your job doesn't allow you to be a mer than don't run a group that could cause your job being in danger. Feels like we are getting punished for that person hiding her hobby behind her job back. I just don't know. Sorry for venting everyone.

Update:
I ask why post got deleted again regarding are we not suppose to ask what rule we got broken. I got a message saying I got a warning for instigating. The person block me from responding to the PM but I want to make something clear. Other people questioning because they don't understand too doesn't mean I should get the warning. She could had easily deleted their post. I still ask why I got banned before I even joined the group and I'm never going to get that answer. Yes I got screenshots. I leave nothing to chance. People should be able to post without worry if they follow within the rules.

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

@ Hydra I'm happy you are getting a refund. I hope the next company you go through will be better.
@ Slim I'm sorry you are having so much trouble with that group. I'm not on any of the Facebook groups so I don't know how they work or how to become an admin. Have you tried starting a group on meetup? Or maybe another social site?

[Slim]

Someone got tired of watching the stuff happening within the group so a new pod group got created. Facebook is the best to find meetup. I'm not so much worry about it. It's frustrating because other people ask and that makes me like an crap starter...nope. People stood up on their own after I did a couple weeks ago.


@ Hydra I'm happy you are getting a refund. I hope the next company you go through will be better.
@ Slim I'm sorry you are having so much trouble with that group. I'm not on any of the Facebook groups so I don't know how they work or how to become an admin. Have you tried starting a group on meetup? Or maybe another social site?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

But pro tip, Slim. This thread is kind of specifically for bitching about our lives outside of the forum.

For complaints like this, go to the drama bubble thread.

I'm so sorry that this is happening, though. I've had fairly good luck with the Facebook pods and I wish that for everyone.

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[Slim]

I didn't know there was a drama bubble thread. Sorry :( I know now.


But pro tip, Slim. This thread is kind of specifically for bitching about our lives outside of the forum.

For complaints like this, go to the drama bubble thread.

I'm so sorry that this is happening, though. I've had fairly good luck with the Facebook pods and I wish that for everyone.

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[Merman Dylan]

Slim, I'm really sorry about all that. I had a very similar issue while in a Bipolar Mood Swing not long ago. I personally prefer to leave the past for sharks to munch on, but her decisions seem to be frequently self destructive and unhelpful to those going through a hard time. I feel like she is trying to maintain the rules, but her method of trying to enforce rules in an environment that is supposed to be fun seems to be upsetting a lot of people. I feel like she has good intentions, but I left that group feeling like she had no idea how to interact with anyone with a mental disorder nor the capacity to let anything slide. I feel like her position as admin puts a strangle hold on the pod of the south to the detriment of others. I really hope this issue gets worked out peacefully, but I perceive the end result being her brushing this off instead of recognizing the severity of her own actions.

[Merman Dylan]

After all, she couldn't recognize her part in my mood swing's out burst on this thread. I don't think she'll recognize it when she does anything wrong.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

You're fine!!! Given that your postings haven't turned into any outright fights, I think you're okay.
I totally get that you need to vent, too. So no shame. Just letting you know for the future. A lot of us take our turns on the Drama Bubble Thread, as much as we all try to keep it to a minimum.

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[Merman Dylan]

But pro tip, Slim. This thread is kind of specifically for bitching about our lives outside of the forum.

For complaints like this, go to the drama bubble thread.

I'm so sorry that this is happening, though. I've had fairly good luck with the Facebook pods and I wish that for everyone.

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This is a good point.

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

My husband told me today that he wants to take me snorkeling on Saturday! :)
We've been having a hard time lately. It seems we never get to spend anytime together anymore whenever we do he's usually being an a**hole and not wanting to talk to me refusing to go anywhere ect. We usually just spend all weekends with him playing video games or watching tv.
Im so excited I finally get to spend some time with him alone and away from the f-ing house. :D
Regarding this ^^^^ my husband came home a few minutes ago told me he's working Saturday, so it has to be pushed back to Sunday. That's fine doesn't bother me, then he went on to tell me he invited two of his friends from work...
That pissed me off, whenever we go out with his friends I get pushed back into being by myself no matter what I do! I always end up alone and having a terrible time. He knows we never spend time alone together he knew how much I was looking forward to this but he has to be a selfish piece of SH^T and invite his friends along.
Then when I ask him why I get "I dunno" I ask him how his friends got invited along I get "it just happened" then when I finally get some vague details it turns out he invited them. I get even more mad then he changes his F-ing story and tells me they just invited themselves!
What a dumb selfish jerk I married why is it so hard to get any alone time together? Why can't he just act like a good husband for once? :mad::anger explode::anger explode::soap box::headwall::gah::gah::headdesk::gah:
I swear the only way I will ever get any attention from him is if I start flirting with one of his friends, :mermaid kiss: but it won't be the attention I want. :rolleyes: Ugh. Sorry for the rant he went to sleep right after I got mad and tried talking to him about how I feel. :cry::sad eyes: He's snoring loudly now, not wearing his machine again. So I'm going to have another migraine in the morning and have to deal with the loud kids and loud dog all day again, great. :doh:
Night guys thanks for the space for me to rant. <3 :fallover::bed now:

[Slim]

Regarding this ^^^^ my husband came home a few minutes ago told me he's working Saturday, so it has to be pushed back to Sunday. That's fine doesn't bother me, then he went on to tell me he invited two of his friends from work...
That pissed me off, whenever we go out with his friends I get pushed back into being by myself no matter what I do! I always end up alone and having a terrible time. He knows we never spend time alone together he knew how much I was looking forward to this but he has to be a selfish piece of SH^T and invite his friends along.
Then when I ask him why I get "I dunno" I ask him how his friends got invited along I get "it just happened" then when I finally get some vague details it turns out he invited them. I get even more mad then he changes his F-ing story and tells me they just invited themselves!
What a dumb selfish jerk I married why is it so hard to get any alone time together? Why can't he just act like a good husband for once? :mad::anger explode::anger explode::soap box::headwall::gah::gah::headdesk::gah:
I swear the only way I will ever get any attention from him is if I start flirting with one of his friends, :mermaid kiss: but it won't be the attention I want. :rolleyes: Ugh. Sorry for the rant he went to sleep right after I got mad and tried talking to him about how I feel. :cry::sad eyes: He's snoring loudly now, not wearing his machine again. So I'm going to have another migraine in the morning and have to deal with the loud kids and loud dog all day again, great. :doh:
Night guys thanks for the space for me to rant. <3 :fallover::bed now:

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[Princess Aegean]

That sucks, Khaleesi. Hopefully one of these days you'll be able to have a conversation with him about how what he's doing makes you feel.

[MermaidLiara]

Khaleesi, that sucks. Maybe you should cancel and do something nice for yourself? You could go to a nail salon, go swimming, etc :)

Also, it sounds as if he doesn't respect you at all :( It would not even occur to me to invite other people to dates I've set without discussing it first with the person I've set said date with. That is just wrong.

You need to sit him down and have good talk about this!

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

Thanks guys it's defiantly frustrating. He said we can talk about it tonight when he gets home from work.
On one hand I don't want to make him cancel with his friends because we are going to a beach we haven't been to before and his friends have. I also don't want the guys to feel bad because it's not their fault they didn't know.
On the other hand I'm serious when I say I can't remember the last time we spent any time alone together away from other distractions. I guess depending on what time he gets home on Saturday we can spend some time together at the beach next to our house. I could also possibly make him watch the kids while I go take mermaid exercise class next weekend. :thinks:

[Princess Aegean]

My anxiety just decided it wanted to attack me today. Ive been a little stressed but nothing major. I just want it to calm down by tonight so I can get some sleep. Just wanted to tell someone about it. So thanks for being someone!

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

My anxiety just decided it wanted to attack me today. Ive been a little stressed but nothing major. I just want it to calm down by tonight so I can get some sleep. Just wanted to tell someone about it. So thanks for being someone!
Aw man I'm sorry I know how bad anxiety attacks can be. I'm glad you have this forum to post about it on. If you don't mind any advice, if you can just sit down in front of the tv eat something comforting slowly drink some water. You can put the tv on low just for background noise maybe some soft music instead.

[Mermaid Alea]

That is really lame Khaleesi. :( I definitely think you should do something nice for yourself! Sometimes even our favorite people let us down and it really hurts - but some of the best medicine is to spend some time with yourself - that way you can do whatever you want to do without worrying about what the other person wants to do.

Princess Aegean - I hope you sleep well tonight! Luckily it is almost the weekend so you will have some time to relax soon!:hug:


Hang in there mers! :group hug:

[Marinus Mortimer]

OMFG here comes my personal drama...




So my fishy friends like some of you may or may not know that i live in a shelter because me and my mom just recently moved to the united states from my home island Puerto Rico [emoji1202], none of our more established family in this town extended a hand to help us out we stood in the streets last winter for 3 whole days before we got emergency placement the place was horrible but im great full my mom had a place to sleep in warmth i quickly got a job at a warehouse stacking boxes and picking boxes and more frigin boxes lol but yeah thanks to my income we were moved to another type of shelter a transitional type so from here we will move to our own place soon.


Any whoo theres this neighbor (shes a drug addict) that we suspect comes in to our house to steal our food supplies or other meager stuff the kind of stuff you wouldn't notice were gone for a while it continues to happen even when the house is locked, i believe she has a replica of our key because a few weeks back i came up and left the keys on the table my mom came up after me cause i go up the stairs super quick i was in my room, by the time my mom came up the keys where not there and i was 100% sure i had left them at the table thats what i always do its just instinct any ways a few weeks later my mom was ranting in a very loud voice how some one must have stolen the keys cause there was no other way for them to be gone, guess what that same day me and my mom had cleaned the house and rearanged furniture one because she still had hope of finding the keys somewhere and two because the shelter has cleanliness inspections every few days so you know we cleaned and stuff the keys where nowhere to be found, we took a break to smoke some seaweed outside and when we came back up the keys magically appeared next to the couch, and i say magically because be swept and moped all the floors cause my mom with her OCD meticulously likes everything clean and i mean EVERYTHING when she told me where shed found them i told her that those keys must have been left there because there was no way we cleaned and rearranged the furniture and not noticed such an obvious thing right there in our faces, so thats why i believe she has a key to our house constantly theres things missing like sugar or dish washing detergent, ive informed the office to check the camera recording to see if they can find any proof of this but they have done little to nothing about the matter.
My mom is at the point where she will fight her if she catches her in any slick move needles to say they are both Puertoricans so its natural our neighbor would comply to a fist fight but even though my mother can mop the whole street with her we cant risk loosing out home and the chance at an apartment after were so close to getting out of this hell hole ill sit down with the administrators on Monday to discuss the issue again if i see no effort from their part ill go up a step and call the offices in Boston and they are basically the big boss so hopefully they put someone to work in this situation before it escalates into something worse. Thanks for listening to my problems.




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[LeeniusUnicorn]

That is horrible Mortimer. I really hope they do something about it and right away.
Good luck and I hope your mom and you get into your own place soon.


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[Marinus Mortimer]

thanks Leen they better do something about it before it becomes a issue bigger than it should be

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[AniaR]

what the actual hell Mortimer that is INSANE!!!

First off, I am sorry you had to have the experience at all of the shelters. I am glad those services exist but it sucks you needed to use them.

How is this neighbor able to keep breaking into your space? I wonder if picking up a safe might help to put things in? I'll try to brain storm ideas that's so frustrating :(

[Marinus Mortimer]

Thanks for your concern Raina but unfortunately she is our next door neighbor but there are cameras all over the place and even though i may be a spiritual person i know things wont just vanish contentiously like that so hopefully they will take the proper steps in solving the issue.


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[LeeniusUnicorn]

The cameras they have up might be just for show and might not actually work. [emoji29] Some places do that. You can do some easy tricks to know when she has been in the house without her knowing. Things like leaving a piece of paper in the door so if it has already fallen to the ground before you got home, you know she was there. You can youtube cheap home security videos. I've seen one that used forks as a lock. Worth checking out.


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[MermaidCelesteFL]

Going to complain about my roommate AGAIN for a moment, so please excuse the same-old issues that I have mentioned before coming back up.

For those not following my growing-issues-with-roommate saga, here is a quick synopsis:

My one roommate and I used to be relatively close friends until we moved in together with a bunch of other guys. Things went sour, because he decided to hold all of our RPG sessions (with my best friend and other friends) specifically when I couldn't be there. He cut me out of the game, and I was upset. Then a snowball of other events happened which made us almost mortal enemies with each other, including my cat peeing on his stuff, him purposely holding game nights with my friends and excluding me from every one, and forcing my friends to change their plans to be with him when they had originally planned on hanging out with me.

Last year, he found himself homeless, and my best friend took him in to our house and let him share a room with another one of our housemates. His car died before he moved out of the last apartment, so he constantly needs rides to and from work and activities EVERY DAY. My best friend, being the nice, autistic person that she is, can't say no to anyone- and is now forced to drive him everywhere, even if it exhausts her. As the mom-friend, she feels responsible for him all the time. Since last year, she has less and less best-friend time to spend with me, even if we live in the same house. This other roommate has her under his thumb, and spends every day with her, and I would consider myself lucky if I could get a few hours with her every few months.

So the other day was her birthday. Knowing her, she usually wants a small, intimate dinner with friends, no giant party or anything. My other roommate put himself in charge of festivities for her birthday, and he planned a huge surprise party and a night out at a local tourist destination. All of the other roommates and friends knew these plans, except for me. So, seeing that I cannot stand to be in his presence anymore, I decided to seek out my own friends for comfort. Before I left, I gave him a chance to tell me what the plans were, so that I wouldn't miss my best friend's birthday. The response? "I dunno, we might be going to Wonderworks, because she hasn't been there, but I'm not sure." No actual time given to come back, so I just waited at my friend's house for someone to tell me what the plans exactly were.

So I waited, and waited. I ended up texting my best friend, because it was getting super late and I hadn't heard anything back yet. Apparently he told her that he told me EXACTLY what the plans were, what time I should be there, and all of the necessary information- but I decided not to come. I missed her entire party and friend get-together, because this little a-hole lied to her. To top it all off, he has also been passive-aggressively talking smack about me all over facebook for a good long while, even though I haven't even done anything to him. I was so hurt that I contemplated cutting again.

I know she is autistic, and she probably doesn't know that I'm hurting massively over all of this, but it also looks like she made her decision. She chose him over me. And now I'm left alone without a best friend, living in a house with five other people, and one person that makes my life absolutely miserable.

Just one more year until my boyfriend moves down, and I can get out of this mess.

EDIT: I also thought over this situation, and while I know blaming is wrong, I feel like I'm still the one at fault. I probably wouldn't have missed her party if I had come back home much earlier, or just didn't leave at all. I may have gotten upset over nothing, but at this point, I don't know.

[Glinda Rose]

I hadn't planned on participating in this thread, but Celeste I am so sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds like that guy has been really nasty to you. :hug:And I'm especially sorry that it's had a huge impact where your autistic friend is concerned. Have you had a chance to talk to this friend, maybe explain your exact feelings about the situation, and what it looks like from your perspective? She may be totally unaware of how her choices affected you. I know that sometimes, if I'm hurting over something, I want the person who did it to me to somehow realise it, but people aren't mind readers and cannot just guess at your feelings.

I really hope you manage to get out of this situation soon. Is there anyone else you could talk to in the meantime? You deserve to have a real friend who has your back no matter what. Know that, at the very least, there are lots of very benevolent souls on here who I'm sure would have your back in a heartbeat.

[Princess Aegean]

Celeste, this is NOT your fault. That guy is being extremely immature, and it sucks that other people have to pay for his actions. I went through something similar a year or so ago. You aren't alone. If you need another friend, I'll be down in Florida in two weeks

[Marinus Mortimer]

The cameras they have up might be just for show and might not actually work. [emoji29] Some places do that. You can do some easy tricks to know when she has been in the house without her knowing. Things like leaving a piece of paper in the door so if it has already fallen to the ground before you got home, you know she was there. You can youtube cheap home security videos. I've seen one that used forks as a lock. Worth checking out.


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Weve have set up booby traps and some where triggered which let us to believe she really was coming into our unit, and fortunately the cameras aren't just for show because these a monitor in the office where you can see a live feed of all the cameras around and inside the building so they should or have caught her on tape i swear if they don't do anything to ensure my family safety ill sue the administration we are at that limit where we cant even step outside without having to lock everything and the constant paranoia is too much for me i have some mental issues due to some childhood trauma and i swear every time the neighbors upstairs make a noise at night my mind goes into a frenzy thinking shes under the effects and braking into our unit for who knows what reason some night i cant even sleep due to this situation. Im currently receiving counseling and my therapist has also made some moves to see this fixed but to no avail yet.



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[Keiris]

Mortimer, I am very sorry to hear of your circumstances and yet I admire you so much for being strong and diligent to change them. I don't mean to be intrusive but with you carrying the burden of your family's income can your Mom find work to help you guys get out of there?

[Marinus Mortimer]

Thanks Keiris, unfortunately she was fired do to her health she is suffering from what she doesn't want to admit is bone Cancer. She had cancer 15 years ago in her ovaries she was diagnosed after giving birth to my kid brother she survived through kemo for 6 years after being diagnosed and was finally cured, ive always taken care of her when she couldn't do it for herself so id know when something is wrong she has been having minor bone fractures and joint dislocations from doing every day things like walking and lifting things the most recent was about two months ago she was putting the groceries in place (because im the one who carries them 3 flights up stairs) and fracture her index and middle finger while placing the gallon of milk, i went with her to the hospital and the doctor said that from that it looks like she has a type of osteoporosis all over her body it was devastating for me i even had to step out the room for a few minutes while i worked up the strength not to explode in tears which is hard for me as i am a cold person exempt for when it comes to my mom i swear sometimes i think the umbilical was never cut lol, but when we got home i sat down with her and she talked about how she feared it could be cancer creeping up for round two we both cried for a bit but she's a fighter. We even discussed that if she were in a state where it was terminal that she would stop treatment and spend her last days happily, i didn't even know what to think i still don't think ill be sane after she is gone but well cross that bridge when i get to it... so yeah thats why she was told she couldn't work anymore as a CNA care giver or should i say the nurse that takes care of the elderly, its a shame cause she went to college and got a bachelors degree on that, hopefully when she gets better shell be able to do what she loves again but for now im the only one that works, its hard but we all got to do it


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[Princess Aegean]

My goodness, Mortimer. Life just isn't giving you much of a break is it? That's all terrible. You seem to be holding up well though considering the circumstances. Just make sure you don't hold it all in until you're too overwhelmed to function.

[Keiris]

Mortimer, my heart goes out to you. I hope your Mom is able to recover and regain some strength. You possess an inner strength to shoulder such a burden. I think you share a similar strength as Raina. Both beautiful on the outside and STRONG, very strong yet quite vulnerable on the inside.

[Marinus Mortimer]

Mortimer, my heart goes out to you. I hope your Mom is able to recover and regain some strength. You possess an inner strength to shoulder such a burden. I think you share a similar strength as Raina. Both beautiful on the outside and STRONG, very strong yet quite vulnerable on the inside.

Keiris that means a lot to me thank you and the community for the support i swear if it weren't for y'all id be in a ward by now this community has always been like a fallout shelter for me throughout the years, when life hit me Mernetwork had something somewhere that would lift me up again be it seeing others go through similar things and still move on, it gives me strength. I've gained a deep admiration for Raina recently, i didn't understand her at first but then i learned about her and i knew she was someone to be respected for the strength she has i couldn't imagine what it would be like to lose my mom i don't think id be able to get through it but seeing her gave me some hope.


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[Marinus Mortimer]

Im so sad [emoji24] i just learned that one of my good friends committed suicide i feel so hopeless right now cause i dont even know why he did it he was only 21 we went to high school together he was always smiling and making jokes he had a great heart we even swam together to open sea because he wanted to go to the far away rock i always talked bout i hadn't seen him in 2 years that ive been in the US but we maintained communication through fb he never told me things were so bad sure he had troubles but who doesn't R.I.P Gabriel [emoji26][emoji17]▪️


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[Khaleesi Daenerys]

I'm sorry about your mom, and your friend.

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

I wasn't able to post this in the chat box because it's too long of a story so I decided to put it here.

So it happened last weekend on Saturday and Sunday. The one on Saturday happened at one of the beaches in la jola. My husband and I were going to meet up with his friend to go snorkeling but we couldn't find him we waited for two hours and no shit walked over three miles looking for him, me in my long sleeve wet suit so that was exhausting. After we couldn't find his friend we decided to get into the water and look for him out there. So we got in the water and the waves were really strong there were a lot of large rocks about knee high and lower back high. Well the fins I bought were hard inflexible about medium length cheap fins while I was trying to get out to open ocean all the rocks were between me and the open ocean.
The waves knocked me into these two rocks and one of my fins got stuck in between them so I had to use a bit of energy to get it out that was scary on its own but then the waves treated me like a pinball and knocked me back and fourth between every rock a few times over really banging up my knees. Which made it to where I couldn't stand on my own without help and no one would help me stand up so I could get out of the water, so it just kept dragging me over every rock back and fourth until Finally it dragged me a few feet away from all the rocks. The sand that the waves were carrying was really thick it got into the snorkel and fucked up the little breathing ball thing and made it harder to get air in. ( I found that out after I got home. Full face mask/snorkel)
But after being dragged across the rocks so many times I had started to have a panic attack so my husband had to hold onto me and help swim me to shore and help me out of the water. I almost passed out on the way to shore.
(I know because I've had panic attacks before and a lot of them I have also passed out from them before. None of my panic attacks have ever happened in or around water before.)
But finally I got out of the water and was able to calm myself down. The entire lower half of my body got bruises all over it.

Then on Sunday my husband wanted to try again but at one of the Coronado beaches because there were no large rocks in the way and the waves are calmer. Well my fins were moving from side to side too much in the water I guess they weren't on properly that time so we decided to leave the fins on the beach and just walk out till the water was too deep to stand and swim out.
Well he held my hand and every time a wave came we either braced or jumped. At one point he decided to hold onto my hips with both hands. Then a really large wave came and it went over my head completely. I decided to swim to the top to get air but my husband wouldn't let go of me so he was effectively holding me under water the entire time. I hadn't gotten the chance to prepare for the wave before it came so I only got like a half breath before it engulfed me. I ended up with a lot of water up my nose and some down my throat. When it passed I decided I was done and just wanted to lay on the beach for awhile.

[Slim]

I'm very sorry this happened to you. Definitely not the bonding time you wanted. I'm glad you are alright. I'm still dang about all that serious of bad events. I agree with your decision to lay on the beach for awhile. All the fun and relaxation from it was already taken away and no longer enjoyable :(


I wasn't able to post this in the chat box because it's too long of a story so I decided to put it here.

So it happened last weekend on Saturday and Sunday. The one on Saturday happened at one of the beaches in la jola. My husband and I were going to meet up with his friend to go snorkeling but we couldn't find him we waited for two hours and no shit walked over three miles looking for him, me in my long sleeve wet suit so that was exhausting. After we couldn't find his friend we decided to get into the water and look for him out there. So we got in the water and the waves were really strong there were a lot of large rocks about knee high and lower back high. Well the fins I bought were hard inflexible about medium length cheap fins while I was trying to get out to open ocean all the rocks were between me and the open ocean.
The waves knocked me into these two rocks and one of my fins got stuck in between them so I had to use a bit of energy to get it out that was scary on its own but then the waves treated me like a pinball and knocked me back and fourth between every rock a few times over really banging up my knees. Which made it to where I couldn't stand on my own without help and no one would help me stand up so I could get out of the water, so it just kept dragging me over every rock back and fourth until Finally it dragged me a few feet away from all the rocks. The sand that the waves were carrying was really thick it got into the snorkel and fucked up the little breathing ball thing and made it harder to get air in. ( I found that out after I got home. Full face mask/snorkel)
But after being dragged across the rocks so many times I had started to have a panic attack so my husband had to hold onto me and help swim me to shore and help me out of the water. I almost passed out on the way to shore.
(I know because I've had panic attacks before and a lot of them I have also passed out from them before. None of my panic attacks have ever happened in or around water before.)
But finally I got out of the water and was able to calm myself down. The entire lower half of my body got bruises all over it.

Then on Sunday my husband wanted to try again but at one of the Coronado beaches because there were no large rocks in the way and the waves are calmer. Well my fins were moving from side to side too much in the water I guess they weren't on properly that time so we decided to leave the fins on the beach and just walk out till the water was too deep to stand and swim out.
Well he held my hand and every time a wave came we either braced or jumped. At one point he decided to hold onto my hips with both hands. Then a really large wave came and it went over my head completely. I decided to swim to the top to get air but my husband wouldn't let go of me so he was effectively holding me under water the entire time. I hadn't gotten the chance to prepare for the wave before it came so I only got like a half breath before it engulfed me. I ended up with a lot of water up my nose and some down my throat. When it passed I decided I was done and just wanted to lay on the beach for awhile.

[Mermaid Clara]

I just put my cat to sleep. I miss her so much.
Rest In Peace my princess
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[PearlieMae]

I just put my cat to sleep. I miss her so much.
Rest In Peace my princess
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I'm so sorry to read this sad news. They leave a cat shaped hole in your heart when it's their time to go. :hug:

[Slim]

I'm sorry for your cat passing. It's one of the hardest feeling in the world :(

[KaylinSilvermerr]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Its hard when they find their way into our hearts in only ways that they know how to do. She was loved by you, and she most likely loved you in return.

<3

~Kaylin

[Mermaid Clara]

So my dad is being a major dick again. He's constantly yelling at me since last Sunday. He's insulting me and calling me an idiot and telling me I'm an addict. Saying I can't stop spending money and can't stop eating like wtf! I know I over drew my account once by accident because it was the gym membership fee and the second time was an accident as well because I doubled checked my account before I spent any money. I understand that I have a spending problem sometimes and I need to save more money and spend it better but he just started ripping into me about my eating problems. Even though I shouldn't be surprised about him being a jerk but the fact that my cat just go put down 2 1/2 days ago has left me raw and unguarded. Idk wtf his problem is but I can't handle this shit anymore!

[PearlieMae]

Your dad is a dick and is projecting some of his own issues onto you, for whatever reason.

Your money is not his business. Neither is your eating.

You are an adult now. Save your money up and get the fuck awway from that toxic asshole.

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

I'm sorry about your cat :( your dad is such a jerk. I agree with pearlie you need to get the heck out of there. It feels so much better being away from that toxicity you will be relieved. Hope you get to leave soon.

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Not quite a b*tch, but annoying. I did a really awesome non-mer multimedia advertising photo/video shoot for a VERY well known company recently, and I can't talk about it until the material comes out (IF they even use the pics with me, they had 15 people there). If they do use my likeness, you guys will be the first to know!!!

Now for the actual (continual) b*tch post: the roommate that I hate announced yesterday that he is going with my friend and a few other friends to Europe by the end of the year. I guess he's not getting a car any time soon, is he? I guess he's okay with leeching off of my friend forever.

I have officially disowned my only best friend. It hurts me so much to have to do it, especially since it isn't really her fault; but I can't take this torture anymore of thinking that she's my best friend, and then she doesn't share ANYTHING with me or talk to me anymore- even if I live in the same house as her. I feel so lonely whenever I'm at home with the two of them present. But oddly enough, I feel just fine around any of my other three roommates.

I keep telling myself that it's another year left of this mess before I can move out. At least I'm gradually making new friends at my new job to replace all of the ones I lost thanks to aforementioned roommate.

[PearlieMae]

A dear friend, who recently died suddenly, once said to me "friends aren't forever. Remember, there's 'end' in 'friend'."

People come into your life, and leave your life, in an endless parade. People also come into your life to teach you something...ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from these people that are making you feel so badly.

Once you figure that out, you'll be able to move forward, and you'll be stronger and smarter, and you won't allow that situation to make you feel badly again.

Also remember, ask the same question - what are you supposed to learn - from situations that make you happy, too, so you can recognize and repeat them in the future.

Life is a journey. You learn something new every day...if you pay attention.

I hope you feel better about things, soon. :hug:

[MermaidCelesteFL]

Thanks, Pearlie. I needed that.

[Marinus Mortimer]

A dear friend, who recently died suddenly, once said to me "friends aren't forever. Remember, there's 'end' in 'friend'."

People come into your life, and leave your life, in an endless parade. People also come into your life to teach you something...ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from these people that are making you feel so badly.

Once you figure that out, you'll be able to move forward, and you'll be stronger and smarter, and you won't allow that situation to make you feel badly again.

Also remember, ask the same question - what are you supposed to learn - from situations that make you happy, too, so you can recognize and repeat them in the future.

Life is a journey. You learn something new every day...if you pay attention.

I hope you feel better about things, soon. :hug:

Aww i didn't need that but it warmed my heart ❤️ Pearlie is like Super Mermaid Mae-El to me!

Ps the above is a reference to Kal-El aka Super Man...


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[Marinus Mortimer]

Um yeah i guess im going to write this, this should be the right place, dont come at my neck for this and dont take it as instigating or rude cause people usually read rudeness in some things i say...

So today i had a discussion with some great mermaids about piracy and design or arth theft, i dont consider it to be such a big deal and the fact that people report the pages and what not will not change anything unless the artist takes proper measures.

My question to you guys is Does the Disney company go around suing the tail making companies that have been asked to recreate the little mermaid tail or the Dory tail even the people from Splash and how many people have splash tail recreations some of the most renounced Mers in our community have a splash tail yet no one complains about how the design was stolen or taken without permission right, at the end of the day no one is making original tail designs because they are based off of nature no one can brand the blue tang or Dory tail because its something that already existed, you dont see fish throwing lawsuits around either, this is the way i view it theres is not one thing created by man that can be considered an Original nothing, everything made is simply a copy or a update to the previous design like davinci and his aircraft glider and the invention of the first flying plane the Brothers and Davinci copied or enhanced the already existing design created by nature (birds) even now this is happening in every aspect of life coping is part of the creation cycle.

Again no need to come for my throat im just trying to convey my point of view in a more double thought type of way cause i usually type what comes to mind without filter and sometimes i sound rude but its just my nature.

I as an aspiring tail maker would never steal anyone's designs not because art theft bothers me but because i am more than capable of creating my own copies of nature.


I just wanted to get that out my chest cause every time im seen as the bad guy or Devils advocate and im not im just stating the truth and people get offended.



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[Mermaid Momo]

My question to you guys is Does the Disney company go around suing the tail making companies that have been asked to recreate the little mermaid tail or the Dory tail

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Yep! They do, it's why princess companies work under the radar, why you can't use anything licensed by the Mouse. Ariel tails take design liberties, as in they aren't exact copies for little mermaid images printed out onto fabric and sold for profit, that would get you a Cease and Desist from Disney and ultimately being Sued (being in a group for princess party companies, I have seen it happen once or twice to people who advertised their characters with exact names like Elsa and Anna, or Tiana.


even the people from Splash and how many people have splash tail recreations some of the most renounced Mers in our community have a splash tail yet no one complains about how the design was stolen or taken without permission right,


The creator of the original Madison tail is aware that people have made reproductions and actually welcome it, that's the difference between stealing and sharing content or building on it.


at the end of the day no one is making original tail designs because they are based off of nature no one can brand the blue tang or Dory tail because its something that already existed, you dont see fish throwing lawsuits around either,


Except the problem isn't a blue tang tail, or a clownfish tail, we know those can't be copywritten and are seen in nature, the problem is a)stealing an actual literal photo of someone's creation. and b) The tails that are stolen are NOT seen in nature, finfolk or the customer came up with a unique design, the fluke, the fins, everything is unique to that one tail, these tails aren't blue tangs or clownfishes or man o war tails, these are one of kind tails who's exact likeness is just pulled and plastered lazily onto a cheap item.




I as an aspiring tail maker would never steal anyone's designs not because art theft bothers me but because i am more than capable of creating my own copies of nature.


I just wanted to get that out my chest cause every time im seen as the bad guy or Devils advocate and im not im just stating the truth and people get offended.



You aren't seen as a "bad guy" because you're "stating the truth" you're seen as a bad guy because you advocate for theft of someone's hard work, and are very vocal about it, even getting to the point of being straight up rude and petty about how much you are right, you also wave around that you're an aspiring tail maker, yet you can't see the wrong in the stealing of someone else's design and property straight up even to the last detail, and even blame the creator for having their content stolen (which someone else pointed out reminded me sickingly of the things people say to survivors of assault or trauma, and your response to that is a whole nother rabbit hole I will not be diving into.)

Another one of your usual arguments is that it isn't taking any money out of FF's pockets because they charge so much for items, and that is simply wrong, as someone who will be going into the business you should realize how much of that cost goes into their pockets, usually far less than what is charged. I charge $500+ for my custom made costumes and items and you know how much goes into my pockets? $100 or less, usually more around the $75 range. Why? Because for one I need to price my items at a competitive pricing in order to compete in the market, 2: most of the money goes to materials, upkeep of my machine, advertising, rent, etc. all until I end up with the meager paycheck for me to spend on myself, usually spent on food and textbooks.

I am curious, do you have any background in art? Have you ever sold any of your own art creations before? Because if you have I can't fathom how you can argue FOR art theft.

[Marinus Mortimer]

Yep! They do, it's why princess companies work under the radar, why you can't use anything licensed by the Mouse. Ariel tails take design liberties, as in they aren't exact copies for little mermaid images printed out onto fabric and sold for profit, that would get you a Cease and Desist from Disney and ultimately being Sued (being in a group for princess party companies, I have seen it happen once or twice to people who advertised their characters with exact names like Elsa and Anna, or Tiana.

Did not know that



The creator of the original Madison tail is aware that people have made reproductions and actually welcome it, that's the difference between stealing and sharing content or building on it.

Did not know that either.




Except the problem isn't a blue tang tail, or a clownfish tail, we know those can't be copywritten and are seen in nature, the problem is a)stealing an actual literal photo of someone's creation. and b) The tails that are stolen are NOT seen in nature, finfolk or the customer came up with a unique design, the fluke, the fins, everything is unique to that one tail, these tails aren't blue tangs or clownfishes or man o war tails, these are one of kind tails who's exact likeness is just pulled and plastered lazily onto a cheap item.
But at the end of the day people draw up their inspiration from nature usually they see a cute fish or a butterfly and they recreate it to their likeness. Thats what i do i search the web for inspiration and a color pallet then draw from there.



You aren't seen as a "bad guy" because you're "stating the truth" you're seen as a bad guy because you advocate for theft of someone's hard work, and are very vocal about it, even getting to the point of being straight up rude and petty about how much you are right, you also wave around that you're an aspiring tail maker, yet you can't see the wrong in the stealing of someone else's design and property straight up even to the last detail, and even blame the creator for having their content stolen (which someone else pointed out reminded me sickingly of the things people say to survivors of assault or trauma, and your response to that is a whole nother rabbit hole I will not be diving into.)
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But im still the bad guy. Ill be Ursula then thats fine with me. [emoji23][emoji23][emoji1434]
I grew up not very wealthy, the best example was when me and my mom had to steal a whole chicken so that our family could have a thanksgiving dinner, we've had to walk in to a shoe store with old broken shoes and walked out with new ones so that me and my siblings wouldn't be bullied at school for not having the new kicks,
My whole life I've had to steal not because i wanted something but because i needed it and couldn't buy it, and don't think we stole for pleasure i remember my lil bro once took a toy and didn't say anything until we got to the car my mom scolded him on why it was wrong to steal something without the need and took him back to the store and he had to apologize and got grounded, with that said I've never stolen from a person only from big stores that wont see a difference in income from a stolen pair of shoes or a bag of rice. Im not saying that stealing is the right thing but sometimes its required to survive.

And about the survivors of trauma thing i said again it wasn't meant to sound that way, but i still think they are partly to blame and i said " partly" because the Sisters know this is happening this stuff gets discussed on their Pod group all the time and um sure people inform them the same way they posted it here, they know how to avoid this and still do little to nothing.




Another one of your usual arguments is that it isn't taking any money out of FF's pockets because they charge so much for items, and that is simply wrong, as someone who will be going into the business you should realize how much of that cost goes into their pockets, usually far less than what is charged. I charge $500+ for my custom made costumes and items and you know how much goes into my pockets? $100 or less, usually more around the $75 range. Why? Because for one I need to price my items at a competitive pricing in order to compete in the market, 2: most of the money goes to materials, upkeep of my machine, advertising, rent, etc. all until I end up with the meager paycheck for me to spend on myself, usually spent on food and textbooks.

I am curious, do you have any background in art? Have you ever sold any of your own art creations before? Because if you have I can't fathom how you can argue FOR art theft.

You have a great pint, but your telling me that two pectoral fins require a gallon of silicone? A gallon of Dragon Skin is like 200 and something bucks if im not mistaken but most extra fins by most tail makers range from 150 to 200 dollars or more when to make those fins you'd require only a portion of a gallon especially with comercial tail makers they make their sculpts as thin as they can be while still looking beautiful to save on materials, they are not spending 2500 in silicone and pigments alone?

They make money because if there was no profit they wouldn't be doing it and live off what rocks?

Ive never sold anything but i once made a script in high school for theatre class it was a project in group my job wasn't to write but to decorate the scene and control the sound effects but i decided to pitch in my idea and even wrote the script for our play because the assigned writer was a slacker, then one of my good friends the slacker that was supposed to write the script but instead was the lazy rock dragging the group project down took my script and said it was him who did it, i couldn't do anything because he didn't say anything until the end, the grading was not individual so if he failed to do his job the whole group grade would lower so i let it slide for the greater good and my grade. Point is I've been robbed of my art before a learned that it wasn't a big deal, at least not for me theres an old Spanish saying i like but does not qualify for FF it is " A thief who steals from a thief deserves a hundred years of forgiveness " it sounds better in Spanish lol.



Im glad you took the time to write this response i learned from it nbs.
Also im glad you didn't come at my neck like everyone else you actually were nice about it so thanks momo, i dont remember if i apologized last time for how i talked to you but ill do it again sorry for sounding like a womanizer last time and thanks again for being nice this time!

I guess next time i express my opinion on something and people dont like it ill probably be banned as im on thin ice like the forum king [emoji146] said but ill gladly accept his wrath because i will always express my opinion on stuff even if is not shared with the res of the fishes...




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[Mermaid Momo]

I don't think it's the actual opinion you're voicing that put you on such thin ice but like I said, the way you say it, you're quick to get defensive and argumentative instead of voicing your opinion in a calm and respective way and because you get so defensive so quickly and start making quips and smart ass-y responses it comes off as very rude and hostile.

And I get where you're coming from, I grew up poor too, taking toys from the trash cans, eating one can of chef- boyarde a night for a family of 5, and cooking over a tealight, and yes I have stolen a few times to get by but one thing my parents taught me was that I steal to survive, I don't steal because It's something free because someone else somewhere will probably suffer consequences because of my stealing, whether that be a job, or cuts in their paycheck for missing merchandise, so people stealing just to gain a buck doesn't sit right with me at all.

And as for pricing, you also have to factor into the time it took for them to master their art, and to sculpt things. I charge $60 for a custom sewing pattern, it sure as heck doesn't take $60 to draw a pattern on printer paper and scan it in, but it pays for the time I spent learning how to draft patterns, the time I spent to learn how to use my software to make it into a digital pattern for the customer, and the time it took for me to do all the math required to draft that pattern so while the actual pattern took minimum supply costs, my talents and abilities to make that pattern will bring the price up (which is why they say you can't get something cheap and well done, because if it's cheap then probably they haven't put in the blood, sweat, and tears required to learn that craft well)

For another example about why I hate art theft: I have been an artist my entire life, I have sold my art since I was 12 years old when I got my first artist alley table, My art doesn't sell for much, $30-$50 from me directly, but it's still not enough to live off of, heck, I eat ramen noodles most times and more often than not I'm having sleep for dinner (strangely I somehow gained weight from a diet like this..) but recently I made some Steven Universe artwork to sell, a poster of a character named Garnet, now In my shop this poster was selling for $15, each, but someone contacted me telling me that someone stole my artwork and was selling the posters, shirts, and mugs for insanely cheap, I'm talking $3/poster cheap. This shop had hundreds of reviews for MY artwork on things, they were producing for cheap and selling cheap meaning they were selling more than I could ever dream of, here they were rolling in dough off my artwork and I was looking forward to another night of shut-eye for dinner, something as simple as a stolen drawing on a mug could be taking food out of someone's mouth, so I personally know what it's like to have art theft effect me negatively, and can be more empathetic to people who have had it happen to them too, even if their products are an arm and a leg, I don't know if that's how they feed their kids, or stay alive.

[Mer-Crazy]

And, profit to companies other than the original creator aside, can you imagine how utterly devastating it would be for the customer who's tail they pirate? I know how hard Raven worked on my tail, how much time, effort and love she put into it and I know how upset it would be for me and for her is someone stole my design. The design she made especially for me, and mass produced it. Tails, especially silicone tails, tend to be very precious and personal to their owners (not to mention the creators). They're not just stealing from a company, they're stealing something incredibly precious and personal to a person.

[Marinus Mortimer]

I don't think it's the actual opinion you're voicing that put you on such thin ice but like I said, the way you say it, you're quick to get defensive and argumentative instead of voicing your opinion in a calm and respective way and because you get so defensive so quickly and start making quips and smart ass-y responses it comes off as very rude and hostile.

And I get where you're coming from, I grew up poor too, taking toys from the trash cans, eating one can of chef- boyarde a night for a family of 5, and cooking over a tealight, and yes I have stolen a few times to get by but one thing my parents taught me was that I steal to survive, I don't steal because It's something free because someone else somewhere will probably suffer consequences because of my stealing, whether that be a job, or cuts in their paycheck for missing merchandise, so people stealing just to gain a buck doesn't sit right with me at all.

And as for pricing, you also have to factor into the time it took for them to master their art, and to sculpt things. I charge $60 for a custom sewing pattern, it sure as heck doesn't take $60 to draw a pattern on printer paper and scan it in, but it pays for the time I spent learning how to draft patterns, the time I spent to learn how to use my software to make it into a digital pattern for the customer, and the time it took for me to do all the math required to draft that pattern so while the actual pattern took minimum supply costs, my talents and abilities to make that pattern will bring the price up (which is why they say you can't get something cheap and well done, because if it's cheap then probably they haven't put in the blood, sweat, and tears required to learn that craft well)

For another example about why I hate art theft: I have been an artist my entire life, I have sold my art since I was 12 years old when I got my first artist alley table, My art doesn't sell for much, $30-$50 from me directly, but it's still not enough to live off of, heck, I eat ramen noodles most times and more often than not I'm having sleep for dinner (strangely I somehow gained weight from a diet like this..) but recently I made some Steven Universe artwork to sell, a poster of a character named Garnet, now In my shop this poster was selling for $15, each, but someone contacted me telling me that someone stole my artwork and was selling the posters, shirts, and mugs for insanely cheap, I'm talking $3/poster cheap. This shop had hundreds of reviews for MY artwork on things, they were producing for cheap and selling cheap meaning they were selling more than I could ever dream of, here they were rolling in dough off my artwork and I was looking forward to another night of shut-eye for dinner, something as simple as a stolen drawing on a mug could be taking food out of someone's mouth, so I personally know what it's like to have art theft effect me negatively, and can be more empathetic to people who have had it happen to them too, even if their products are an arm and a leg, I don't know if that's how they feed their kids, or stay alive.

Yes in the first piracy tread i has a jerk but this time that was not my intention i even asked Selkish several times to please stop arguing with me because it still wouldn't change a thing, but she ignored it and kept on.

I thank you for taking the time to discuss this with me i do admit your pints have swayed my view point but im still am and will be a pirate my self, not the tail stealing pirates btw i wouldn't steal from other people.


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[KatieScottArt]

Yep! They do, it's why princess companies work under the radar, why you can't use anything licensed by the Mouse. Ariel tails take design liberties, as in they aren't exact copies for little mermaid images printed out onto fabric and sold for profit, that would get you a Cease and Desist from Disney and ultimately being Sued (being in a group for princess party companies, I have seen it happen once or twice to people who advertised their characters with exact names like Elsa and Anna, or Tiana.


Yeah, large companies get super crazy about that kind of stuff! I work for Playstation and everything we design is required to be approved by Legal before going in game. I make a lot of signage textures too and even the font has to be legally approved! Its bananas, but I guess it makes sense for copyright infringement. I had no idea how nit picky companies get about that stuff so we have to take extreme precaution when replicating anything. Also, my friend got a cease and desist from Disney for making an exact replica of Captain Jack Sparrow's jacket. They told him that they will sue if he makes more and sells them (props to being a baddass seamstress though). :)

[Slim]

I'm not mad but this super annoys me. The facebook drama I thought from the previous month that kinda divided the community isn't apparently over. That person decide to start hitting up different mermaid pages leaving bad reviews (which involve comments made from the drama at the end of April) under a fake name. I already figured out who she is and disappointed she sent her friend to do her dirty work. Claiming for someone to be something without proof is just bad but to bring that drama to their business page is pathetic. Keep drama among yourself but don't bring it to person page business page. If you really want to take business away from another mermaid, can do do fairly by being a better mermaid which can be done with good work ethic. Making a fake profile to leave a bad review and that fake profile will get taken down. As usual I got screenshot of the person review before it was removed and the person's private message that has the SAME exact wording as the person real profile page. If anyone else business page gets affected by a fake profile, let me know and I'll work on getting the fake profile closed. Enough with the cyber-bullying everyone. We are all better than this.

Edit: I just realize this is meant for the drama topic. Sorry I posted this in the wrong thread.

[AniaR]

that is the jerkiest thing ever to do. Someone did that to me after some drama last year. Some girl from california who was friends with someone I was arguing with, went on my page and lied and said one of my mermaids hit her nephew in the face while putting on a tail at swim school. Well we only have 1 boy in swim school and I have his folks on fb. we also NEVER put our fins on in front of the kids. She just 100% made it up. ALL my bad reviews on FB are fake. It's that one from her, and 2 from men I argued with on a thread of a news piece about sexism lol.

[Ashton]

Yes in the first piracy tread i has a jerk but this time that was not my intention i even asked Selkish several times to please stop arguing with me because it still wouldn't change a thing, but she ignored it and kept on.

I thank you for taking the time to discuss this with me i do admit your pints have swayed my view point but im still am and will be a pirate my self, not the tail stealing pirates btw i wouldn't steal from other people.


Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Hey I have a question about that- why did you say you were just fine with people stealing, and that they can use your images, but then go and watermark them? (Just wondering)

[Marinus Mortimer]

Hey I have a question about that- why did you say you were just fine with people stealing, and that they can use your images, but then go and watermark them? (Just wondering)

I said i was fine with it but that doesn't mean i wont take the necessary precautions. [emoji23]


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[Slim]

It's just absolutely sad that people will go to such length. Have you try to dispute and report those bad reviews on facebook to get them removed? I'm assuming you did but I'm going to ask that anyways. The one person that did the bad review for the Florida mers happen to hate and blocked me because who I'm friends with. It's fine though. I get the advantage that with that block, that person will not see me rise. The part that tickles me from all of this is my boss is going on a vacation and one of the location is where he taking his family is where that particular mer works. I wish I could be a fly on the wall in the next two week as I did let him know who block me but told him don't judge the place based on one bad apple as the place got decent review. I think people fail to see that I may be a new mer but I happen to watch to rise of many including Hannah Fraser and Mermaid Melissa and my 20+ year of internet search experience.


that is the jerkiest thing ever to do. Someone did that to me after some drama last year. Some girl from california who was friends with someone I was arguing with, went on my page and lied and said one of my mermaids hit her nephew in the face while putting on a tail at swim school. Well we only have 1 boy in swim school and I have his folks on fb. we also NEVER put our fins on in front of the kids. She just 100% made it up. ALL my bad reviews on FB are fake. It's that one from her, and 2 from men I argued with on a thread of a news piece about sexism lol.

[MerDragon Arie]

Are there any Mermaids perferabbly tailmakers that would be willing to message me and help me out with something. Long story short my tailmaker from last year is refusing to give me some money back for the tail that I was paying off. The tail isn't what I wanted and asked her to fix things during the process and was just told that she couldn't do it. I tried to be nice at first and now she is giving me problems. PayPal wont do a dang thing apparently since the transactions were from last year. She told me that if I don't come up with a payment plan for the remander of the tail plus $300 for shipping then the whole deal is voided along with my money. I'm really p-off and would like some advice on what I can do.

P.S I don't have the tail she still has it.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

So I guess I am kind of interuptting a conversation here, but I need to let something out.

My boyfriend of a over year left me for one of my friends. Who was claimed by him to be a better person than me. (and trust me she is rude, hateful, and many people have claimed it)

I'll admit it wasn't the best relationship, but it was my first real relationship and at the end things were going better than they had been.

We have know each other for over 2 years and we grew so close to on another; he was basically my best friend. He was my first kiss and my first love. However I learned he was arrogant, egotistic, and basically a narcissist.

I tried to seperate myself from him before, but I thought something had changed. He kept making me see how everything was my fault and though I resisted that belief, I eventually started to believe it all.

After a year of arguing and us not talking to each other for over a month, we tried to work things out and it was going really well. Until I got really busy for about a week straight and he didn't get enough attention.

He blamed me for creating excuses when I tried to fix it and finally that weekend he told me he was tired of dealing with me.

Throughout the next week, my friend dumped her boyfriend and go togther with mine.

I thought I was fine being without him and at first I was. But now, I can't remember how frustrating I felt or how much he hurt me. Every day is a toss up on whether I am going to be an emotional wreck or strong.

I knew I was on the edge of breaking down when I went to a local festival to sell raffle tickets, but I thought it would help me not think about everything. When I showed up he was there with my friend, arms wrapped each other. They went to watch the bands at the stage, but they kept parading back and forth past my booth and they always made sure to at least hold hands when they'd pass.

I just feel very betrayed and hurt and a slight bit angry.

Especially at the fact that I knew his mom wouldn't take pictures or a video of him at graduation so I did and sent it to him. I knew that he would want something to remember him getting his diploma and walking across (I knew his new gf would do it, but I didn't see her there). I saw he had seen it and I didn't even get a thank you in return. So I commented on not getting a thank you and he looked at it and never said a word.

So again even slightly more upset.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Sounds like he gaslit the heck out of you. I know it hurts, but let your mean friend have him.

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[fabianfrz]

Are there any Mermaids perferabbly tailmakers that would be willing to message me and help me out with something. Long story short my tailmaker from last year is refusing to give me some money back for the tail that I was paying off. The tail isn't what I wanted and asked her to fix things during the process and was just told that she couldn't do it. I tried to be nice at first and now she is giving me problems. PayPal wont do a dang thing apparently since the transactions were from last year. She told me that if I don't come up with a payment plan for the remander of the tail plus $300 for shipping then the whole deal is voided along with my money. I'm really p-off and would like some advice on what I can do.

P.S I don't have the tail she still has it.

WTF? 300$ for shipment? How often does it travel around the globe before you would get it?

[Slim]

Izzy, you are better without them. The holding hand in front of your both was them knowing what they were doing. Be glad they did this now and not before you got more attached. Sorry it happen to you in the first place.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

Sounds like he gaslit the heck out of you. I know it hurts, but let your mean friend have him.

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That has been my plan. I've already seen trouble in paradise, so I am enjoying sitting back and letting karma do it's job.


Izzy, you are better without them. The holding hand in front of your both was them knowing what they were doing. Be glad they did this now and not before you got more attached. Sorry it happen to you in the first place.

Thank you. I guess I am shocked after one night him literally crying saying he didn't want to lose me to him going off and shutting me out.

Thank you both for the encouragement.


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[Slim]

He made that decision and the hand holding was a conscious decision. You already been burned. He needs to learn from the mistake. A zebra painting all it strips to black doesn't make it a stallion, it's still a zebra. If he wasn't going to change and better himself, he would had done so already. I know you can move forward on this but I'm here to talk if you want to.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

He made that decision and the hand holding was a conscious decision. You already been burned. He needs to learn from the mistake. A zebra painting all it strips to black doesn't make it a stallion, it's still a zebra. If he wasn't going to change and better himself, he would had done so already. I know you can move forward on this but I'm here to talk if you want to.

Yeah. And thank you. I'll remember if I need someone. My mom and dad just repeat that it will take time and I'll get over it. I am mostly trying to restore my confidence fill back up the shell of me that was left behind.


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[Mermaid Momo]

Are there any Mermaids perferabbly tailmakers that would be willing to message me and help me out with something. Long story short my tailmaker from last year is refusing to give me some money back for the tail that I was paying off. The tail isn't what I wanted and asked her to fix things during the process and was just told that she couldn't do it. I tried to be nice at first and now she is giving me problems. PayPal wont do a dang thing apparently since the transactions were from last year. She told me that if I don't come up with a payment plan for the remander of the tail plus $300 for shipping then the whole deal is voided along with my money. I'm really p-off and would like some advice on what I can do.

P.S I don't have the tail she still has it.
I suggest you make a separate thread with all the info on the tail and the maker including any screenshots, the more evidence the better we might be able to help you.

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[Marinus Mortimer]

Fu***********************ck [emoji36] so while cleaning my room i had to move the dorsal mold, i did so with more care than a Bomb Squad i managed to place it on the ground without any problems i left it there and when i come back my mother had stepped on it braking a piece, we had a huge argument about how she destroyed months of my work and so on but i know she would never do it on purpose so i let it go im stillll pissed though... and if any of you follow my Extended Tail thread youll know whats going to happen even though i can fix it easily, i see it as a sign from providence its saying i dont want that dorsal so start over, wich i translate to " Hulk Smash!" Ill re do my dorsal right on the tail mold that way the split in the dorsal will serve as a seam...https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20170607/a17b2918928252e32b7c236baecc7392.jpg


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[Hydra1337]

I just found out a man my husband and I considered family died in his sleep early this morning. I feel like a piece of shit friend for not talking to him more since I moved down to Florida despite knowing he had a lot of health problems for his age. I can't even go to his funeral or be there properly for his wife or kids (who are my age) so I'm stuck communicating via internet. I should have been there more but instead I procrastinated like I do everything else and now I'm going to regret it the rest of my life.

[Slim]

Hydra, don't regret it. You had no way of knowing and your intention was good. You were going through so much the last couple months anyways that nothing would had changed regardless.

[Sea~Phoenix Savannah]

So I guess I am kind of interuptting a conversation here, but I need to let something out.

My boyfriend of a over year left me for one of my friends. Who was claimed by him to be a better person than me. (and trust me she is rude, hateful, and many people have claimed it)

I'll admit it wasn't the best relationship, but it was my first real relationship and at the end things were going better than they had been.

We have know each other for over 2 years and we grew so close to on another; he was basically my best friend. He was my first kiss and my first love. However I learned he was arrogant, egotistic, and basically a narcissist.

I tried to seperate myself from him before, but I thought something had changed. He kept making me see how everything was my fault and though I resisted that belief, I eventually started to believe it all.

After a year of arguing and us not talking to each other for over a month, we tried to work things out and it was going really well. Until I got really busy for about a week straight and he didn't get enough attention.

He blamed me for creating excuses when I tried to fix it and finally that weekend he told me he was tired of dealing with me.

Throughout the next week, my friend dumped her boyfriend and go togther with mine.

I thought I was fine being without him and at first I was. But now, I can't remember how frustrating I felt or how much he hurt me. Every day is a toss up on whether I am going to be an emotional wreck or strong.

I knew I was on the edge of breaking down when I went to a local festival to sell raffle tickets, but I thought it would help me not think about everything. When I showed up he was there with my friend, arms wrapped each other. They went to watch the bands at the stage, but they kept parading back and forth past my booth and they always made sure to at least hold hands when they'd pass.

I just feel very betrayed and hurt and a slight bit angry.

Especially at the fact that I knew his mom wouldn't take pictures or a video of him at graduation so I did and sent it to him. I knew that he would want something to remember him getting his diploma and walking across (I knew his new gf would do it, but I didn't see her there). I saw he had seen it and I didn't even get a thank you in return. So I commented on not getting a thank you and he looked at it and never said a word.

So again even slightly more upset.

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Mermaid Izzy, I feel you. I was 100% where you were a few years ago. I had a friend that I started dating, the relationship lasted for 4 years, he too was my best friend, first love and first real relationship.

He also would blame me for some his choices "but you weren't available that day." though he was more of a narcissist and pushover.

We had good and bad times, I had also separated from and gotten back together with him, but at the end he just told me not to call him.

I frequently saw him with his girlfriend who I knew and previously tried to be friends with although she was just acting nice toward me while trying to get closer to my (now ex) boyfriend.

She would hug/kiss/cuddle him whenever I was around, it broke my heart so much I had to leave whenever she came by and it caused me to practically abandon my friends because my ex and I shared friends and therefore so did she.

I felt heartbroken, alone, betrayed, depressed and angry (at him, his girlfriend, one of her friends and myself).

I was depressed for so long after that, I had my strong days and my emotionally wrecked days.

Also I think that it was beyond nice of you to take a video for him.

Mermaid Izzy, you are way better off without either of them (even though it may not always seem like it). It may help to distance yourself physically from that situation and definitely from them while you heal. This will sound cliche but even though it may not be easy it is possible and there will definitely be better days ahead of you. If you ever want anyone to talk to I'm happy to lend an ear, just PM me.

Also, people aren't lying when they say karma's a b****, i just sat back and smiled myself as his new girlfriend cheated on him and then dumped him for another guy that I was a close acquaintance with. He then came to me heartbroken and wanted me back, though the one in my case doing the shutting out was me >:) (I feel I should say this, I did try to speak with him years later and "just be friends" but he was only interested in using me to make himself feel better and offered almost nothing in return. People like that rarely change.)

Again, if you need a friend I'm here.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

Mermaid Izzy, I feel you. I was 100% where you were a few years ago. I had a friend that I started dating, the relationship lasted for 4 years, he too was my best friend, first love and first real relationship.

He also would blame me for some his choices "but you weren't available that day." though he was more of a narcissist and pushover.

We had good and bad times, I had also separated from and gotten back together with him, but at the end he just told me not to call him.

I frequently saw him with his girlfriend who I knew and previously tried to be friends with although she was just acting nice toward me while trying to get closer to my (now ex) boyfriend.

She would hug/kiss/cuddle him whenever I was around, it broke my heart so much I had to leave whenever she came by and it caused me to practically abandon my friends because my ex and I shared friends and therefore so did she.

I felt heartbroken, alone, betrayed, depressed and angry (at him, his girlfriend, one of her friends and myself).

I was depressed for so long after that, I had my strong days and my emotionally wrecked days.

Also I think that it was beyond nice of you to take a video for him.

Mermaid Izzy, you are way better off without either of them (even though it may not always seem like it). It may help to distance yourself physically from that situation and definitely from them while you heal. This will sound cliche but even though it may not be easy it is possible and there will definitely be better days ahead of you. If you ever want anyone to talk to I'm happy to lend an ear, just PM me.

Also, people aren't lying when they say karma's a b****, i just sat back and smiled myself as his new girlfriend cheated on him and then dumped him for another guy that I was a close acquaintance with. He then came to me heartbroken and wanted me back, though the one in my case doing the shutting out was me >:) (I feel I should say this, I did try to speak with him years later and "just be friends" but he was only interested in using me to make himself feel better and offered almost nothing in return. People like that rarely change.)

Again, if you need a friend I'm here.

Thank you, that makes me feel a lot more hopeful. And thankfully he graduated this year and I probably won't see him unless we bump into each other in this small town. Plus my friend, well ex-friend, doesn't hang out around me because I talk with people she doesn't like.

And speaking of cliche, after telling my ex about some of the cliche stories I have written, he said that I should use my life as a story. So for once I will take his advice and I am currently working on my story with him and warning others of the signs of bad relationships (esp. With narcissist people)


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[Sea~Phoenix Savannah]

Thank you, that makes me feel a lot more hopeful. And thankfully he graduated this year and I probably won't see him unless we bump into each other in this small town. Plus my friend, well ex-friend, doesn't hang out around me because I talk with people she doesn't like.

And speaking of cliche, after telling my ex about some of the cliche stories I have written, he said that I should use my life as a story. So for once I will take his advice and I am currently working on my story with him and warning others of the signs of bad relationships (esp. With narcissist people)


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Of course, and I'm glad. That's great to hear. Why? 'Cause they're real? XD But seriously I'm happy to hear that, less drama to deal with makes for a happy/ier life.

I've written cliche stories too, though I like them and that's all that matters. Yeah, go for it! And in addition to helping others avoid and recognize bad relationships and "interesting" people it can also help you in your healing process. I'm actually considering doing this myself.

[JadeSparrow]

I wanted to reach out to my friends and talk about what happened to my family on FB but my feed was filled with happy announcements(like my friends are going to have a baby, my other friend got promoted etc) and I didn't want to rain on their parade so I'll let it out here because this seems like a appropriate thread for it.

My grandparents own a pet food factory in Korea. Yesterday it burned down completely. The firefighters were very brave and tried to put the fire out for 15 hours but they couldn't save it. Thankfully nobody was injured but we lost so much. To make it even worse, Korean insurance is different from here so they aren't paying for anything. And to top off that, they also have to pay for the damage the fire caused to the nearby factory. My mother is in Korea right now while I'm in the US so we are communicating through messages but she said the police said it looks like someone set the fire to the factory purposely. They will look through security cameras that were in the nearby areas but it will take them at least a week to identify the person.. if we are lucky :( It makes me very upset that someone would do such horrible thing. I'm glad nobody was working when the fire started though.. but this even is so upsetting. My grandparents have worked very hard for years and when they are just about to retire, this happens out of the blue. I just don't even know what to say. I've had a headache since yesterday but at least writing this out here seemed to help me a bit.

[PearlieMae]

I'm not mad but this super annoys me. The facebook drama I thought from the previous month that kinda divided the community isn't apparently over. That person decide to start hitting up different mermaid pages leaving bad reviews (which involve comments made from the drama at the end of April) under a fake name. I already figured out who she is and disappointed she sent her friend to do her dirty work. Claiming for someone to be something without proof is just bad but to bring that drama to their business page is pathetic. Keep drama among yourself but don't bring it to person page business page. If you really want to take business away from another mermaid, can do do fairly by being a better mermaid which can be done with good work ethic. Making a fake profile to leave a bad review and that fake profile will get taken down. As usual I got screenshot of the person review before it was removed and the person's private message that has the SAME exact wording as the person real profile page. If anyone else business page gets affected by a fake profile, let me know and I'll work on getting the fake profile closed. Enough with the cyber-bullying everyone. We are all better than this.

Edit: I just realize this is meant for the drama topic. Sorry I posted this in the wrong thread.

No, this is the right place post this.

I am so sorry to read this terrible news! I hope your family can bounce back from this tragedy. I'm very glad no one was hurt!

[Anita Mermaid]

I really hope things calm down around here for y'all

LONG TIME NO SEA EH?

[Mermaid Lilium]

Anniiittaaaa *glomp*

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[PearlieMae]

I really hope things calm down around here for y'all

LONG TIME NO SEA EH?

I DIDN"T RECOGNIZE YOU!!!!! :mermaid kiss:

[deepblue]

I wanted to reach out to my friends and talk about what happened to my family on FB but my feed was filled with happy announcements(like my friends are going to have a baby, my other friend got promoted etc) and I didn't want to rain on their parade so I'll let it out here because this seems like a appropriate thread for it.

My grandparents own a pet food factory in Korea. Yesterday it burned down completely. The firefighters were very brave and tried to put the fire out for 15 hours but they couldn't save it. Thankfully nobody was injured but we lost so much. To make it even worse, Korean insurance is different from here so they aren't paying for anything. And to top off that, they also have to pay for the damage the fire caused to the nearby factory. My mother is in Korea right now while I'm in the US so we are communicating through messages but she said the police said it looks like someone set the fire to the factory purposely. They will look through security cameras that were in the nearby areas but it will take them at least a week to identify the person.. if we are lucky :( It makes me very upset that someone would do such horrible thing. I'm glad nobody was working when the fire started though.. but this even is so upsetting. My grandparents have worked very hard for years and when they are just about to retire, this happens out of the blue. I just don't even know what to say. I've had a headache since yesterday but at least writing this out here seemed to help me a bit.

I'm so sorry that happened! I hope they find whoever did this and they're brought to justice.

[Sea~Phoenix Savannah]

I told myself I wouldn't post here yet just because I'm still quite new-ish to the network, but F*** that I just reached my breaking point.
So first off, I realized I don't actually have a lot of friends and worse I don't really know how to keep them, at least not since I got out of high school. I can seriously count the friends I have on one finger, being an introvert with CPTSD doesn't exactly help (I'm working on managing the latter). I'd love to have more but social situations... One person who I thought was a better friend didn't even tell me when/where/ invite me to her WEDDING! So much stuff happens in their lives that they don't bother to tell me about it's ridiculous! I'm like 'you have my phone number it's not that hard to text me.' I've decided to start calling them my close acquaintances. But it still hurts and enrages me to see that they couldn't be bothered to even say "hi, it's been a while."

My left rotator cuff is starting to bother me again and I always have to be careful about my right, my knees still hurt if I'm on them too much/ in odd positions.

I have a $500 dollar certification test to save up for and what if I don't pass?!? I now need to go to the chiropractor again, the raise I got (at a job that pays less than my last job) recently was laughable. My last job I was at for 4 years, which during the last one was abused by one of my coworkers (constantly scared for my safety) and the management did nothing! They demoted her, but wouldn't let her go because they "don't want her to have a bad experience." Are you &$$#^@% kidding me?!? She added 4 new triggers to the list. Additionally I wasn't even the only one she was rude to (though I got the worst of it). I've got a new job now thanks to another acquaintance, so that's good.

Unexpected cost ate up 1/3rd of my finances this month. All my car expenses are going to come one after the other, and next month of all times. My (eventual, though it could happen next year) moving costs increased by $1,000.

Scheduling conflicts in August for two events I really want to go to.

Catcalls. 'Nuff said. Been dealing with harassing texts from an ex, I'm going to the police about that, it's gotten crazy.

My family (my mom & aunt in Georgia excluded) is flipping insane. My grandma is living with my oldest aunt who's vindictive, two faced & just plain rude and because of that has taken on behaviors mimicking Alzheimer's (if not having actually developed the disease). My aunt is also has power of attorney for my grandma, despite being the worst person for it (and may have actually committed fraud!) she has rebuilt and refurnished her house with my grandmother's money and probably more that I don't even know about. My other aunt meanwhile (who if you ask me is the most deserving of it) has only gotten maybe $10,000 if that. My mom has gotten maybe a couple hundred, I, have gotten $100 wtf? And if I heard correctly my aunt's adoptive daughter (I don't know why she decided to adopt, she's not very maternal and that's me restraining myself. Bored? Trying to compensate for having raised two kids that have both gone to jail numerous times? Whatever.) may be on state assistance even though my aunt is retired and uses my grandma's money. If I did hear correctly I will report that, without hesitation.

I don't mind being single until I go on social media and literally almost all I see is "engaged!" "just married!" "it's a boy/girl!" which is the reason I stopped using Facebook in the first place, I will only get on it for the mer page I'm making.

*Exhales loudly* I think that's it, had to say it.

[Anita Mermaid]

Anniiittaaaa *glomp*

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Love ya too fish face

LONG TIME NO SEA EH?

[Anita Mermaid]

I DIDN"T RECOGNIZE YOU!!!!! :mermaid kiss:
MWAH!
I'm BACK

LONG TIME NO SEA EH?

[deepblue]

Ugh. I'm so bugged that this bugged me so much. lol
Someone asked me if I'm my daughter's grandma. I realize that technically, I easily could be. I had her when I was 39. And I am used to people thinking I'm younger based on looks, which proves it doesn't mean much. Still, health issues (bad asthma stuff happened late last year and early this) and learning how to eat entirely different have me not at my best, and this did not help! I'm really not ready to be mistaken for my child's grandma. When I am, I will go full Sea Hag. But I'm not there yet!

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_qkio9o2HGcI/S3WgQPE4cYI/AAAAAAAAAIQ/Co8tSVk416c/s400/merhag.jpg

[Ocean]

When you are happy:D and excited:dance: about all things good:thumbs up: and some party pooper comes along and starts ranting:jelly:..... then you question what they are doing as it makes no sense:thinks: and they ask you to back off as if you have stalked them endlessly:rolleyes: - that twisted mentality doesn't make me mad:crazy: but it sure does upset me.... I do not like manipulators:no-no: - feeling genuinely really hurt...:sad eyes:

ok, so I have kindly been advised to clarify that the initial point of my post was due to the fact is that my friend and I were on fb and this very thing was happening to her and so we were wandering how others deal with it - perhaps I miss interpreted the point of that thread(?) soooo now that I have made my huge signature smaller :phew: hopefully my link to me swimming wont appear like a sales pitch:thumbs-up:

[lotusauriel]

Really? When someone comes into a thread to stomp around and just sell sell sell, and implies that everyone else is stupid or irrelevant, and then when someone calls them on it, they turn things around and act like the other person is the crayfish. Sure. Narcissist.

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[Slim]

When you are happy:D and excited:dance: about all things good:thumbs up: and some party pooper comes along and starts ranting:jelly:..... then you question what they are doing as it makes no sense:thinks: and they ask you to back off as if you have stalked them endlessly:rolleyes: - that twisted mentality doesn't make me mad:crazy: but it sure does upset me.... I do not like manipulators:no-no: - feeling genuinely really hurt...:sad eyes:

Nicely putting it, your responses did come off as your trying to switch the topic to your product almost every time. I thought a couple times I accidentally clicked on your your thread. To make a product is exciting. It does lose it excitement to the customer when it's almost included in ever other response.

Sorry for the brutal honesty here but to be confused about a person response, I can understand. However I can't figure out how anyone is a manipulator and we have a drama thread if you feel that way. I personally will not buy your product for this reason: I now know I could be a manipulator if there was a disagreement. That the impression I get.


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[Ocean]

oh dear..... I thought this was a sort of fun, supportive B it out thread... I genuinely dont get what I'v done wrong here, I have not pointed at anyone and said anything because this comment was in general, people do that and it makes me sad - I am not trying to push my product today at all - I made a couple of posts about it the other day and that is it - I am adjusting my profile as my pc will allow - my signature is WAY too big - it doesn't seem to want to stay smaller when I have tried.... very slow network this early am.... If anyone thought I had crossed lines I am super happy to have a pm dropped in my box and I will sort it out like that, that would be cool.

ok, so I have kindly been advised to clarify that the initial point of my post was due to the fact is that my friend and I were on fb and this very thing was happening to her and so we were wandering how others deal with it - perhaps I miss interpreted the point of that thread(?) soooo now that I have made my huge signature smaller :phew: hopefully my link to me swimming wont appear like a sales pitch:thumbs-up:

[Slim]

Look at it in my way and keep in mind that I'm not trying to upset you. I want people to succeed. I saw the thread in question and I think it would had been best to end there. Frustrating by all means but you accidentally gave yourself a bigger audience here. This thread is the last place you want people to see. People do have twisted mentality because of the fact they been burned by new items makers that are here today and gone tomorrow. Can't waste your time with shrimps. Mistakes and misunderstandings happens but people will forget in no time. Once you been around a bit, you'll see how supportive this community really is.


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[Hydra1337]

A ridiculous amount of pools and beaches in my area keep getting shut down ("temporarily") because of bacteria making a lot of people sick. This combined with the fact that I now work full time means even if I had a tail or monofin I wouldn't be able to go swimming. I love mermaids and designing tails but I'm never going to financially be in the situation where I can get a pool let alone a tail. I live paycheck to paycheck so it's not like I can just steadily put money aside. I've had horrible things happen to me in the last several months and I feel like this is just the icing on the cake.

[fabianfrz]

@Hydra1337: Bacteria is the reason why chlorine is added to the water. The more bacteria is inside, the more chlorine must be added, however there is a minimum and a maximum proportion (at least in austria but it should not be different in other countries).

[deepblue]

That's terrible. I always feel squicked out when I think about swimming in public pools. :/ Because yes, the chlorine is there for a reason (the bromine when it's a bromine pool of course), but it can't do the job when the number of people and the germs they bring in outweighs its efficacy.

The more people, the more sweat, body oils, skin and hair products, the more sunscreen, and all that can make it harder for the chlorine or bromine to do their job.

It would help if pools had a rule where you had to shower before entering. But even with the signs that say, "Please shower prior to entering..." you will always have people who ignore it, and I imagine pool management feels they don't have the staff to watch for that. Maybe enough shut downs could change that.

And of course you *still* see people who claim that urine is sterile, so just pee in the pool. No matter how many studies are showing otherwise, that myth persists, and urine in the pool means the chlorine is also being depleted by that, when that particular part of what it's working on could be a nonissue, if people would just stop peeing in the pools.

[Slim]

Yesterday was hard worrying about two sick pets but I hate it when a person makes you feel like you been used the entire time. You see someone take on more than what they can handle so you offer to help. Donate stuff to help support them for her event out of respect. First to buy the ticket to her event. As soon as I mention not to use the same fabric she made the fluke with as it started to chip, everything went downhill. To explain 2 months later I'm still waiting for the shell because she jump on a new project. It took her over a month just to make the tail. She did offer to fix the tail but I don't see how Mermaid Athena is going to do that with a block. Sorry if this is more of a vent. I really hope she puts better quality in her color books she making for the mers because I don't want more people getting burn. Because of the tail flaking is why I haven't posted pictures of the new fabric "Ariel" tail. I wanted to give her a fair chance of correcting errors....

[lotusauriel]

So I have a serious problem with things being made from "natural rubber", but not being labelled as what they truly are. Then I have to argue with people who think they know more than I do.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natural_rubber

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[Sepharina]

Can someone get me a "grow up faster card" ? That would be FAbULOus

[Slim]

Be careful what you ask for. I joked that once in high school. I went from 5'1" to 6'3" in a 1.5 years and my back has the stretch marks to prove this. Thank goodness I haven't grown more since.


Can someone get me a "grow up faster card" ? That would be FAbULOus

[Mermaid_Izzy]

Be careful what you ask for. I joked that once in high school. I went from 5'1" to 6'3" in a 1.5 years and my back has the stretch marks to prove this. Thank goodness I haven't grown more since.

I agree, I grew 4 inches in around 6 months and have stretch marks on my lower back.

Sometimes I wish that I was older, but at the same time I miss my childhood.


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[Khaleesi Daenerys]

Psh I've been the same height since I was in fourth grade :( I would LOVE to grow just another three inches in height.

[Sepharina]

Oh carp I only said that so I could move out of my house :) (my family is getting on my nerves)
And get a job. I'd work at Publix but I don't have my anxeity meds yet so yeeeesaahhh that's not happening right now.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

Oh carp I only said that so I could move out of my house :) (my family is getting on my nerves)
And get a job. I'd work at Publix but I don't have my anxeity meds yet so yeeeesaahhh that's not happening right now.

I feel you.


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[Satine]

This is my own personal vent because I don't have anyone i can talk to about this. Don't you guys just hate it when someone wants you to do something but rather than asking you in a positive way then encouraging you. They just tell you, you need to do it now and quickly. Then every day multiple times a day they find a way to negatively passive aggressively hint that you need to do that thing?

I have very very high anxiety and things loop through my head endlessly and I have to try very hard to break out of that loop and stop obsessing. It's not like I am ever going to forget what I need to do even with out the constant negative reminders. And I will feel like shite about myself and guilty that I haven't done it and ashamed because I am disappointing them. Witch only causes my initial problem to spiral more out of control

i think it would be better if that person said hey I support you and I am going to help you even if it's just saying something nice about you once in a while.

and I am afraid to tell them this because I don't want them to get upset with me and I don't want a confrontation.

witch makes me feel like a horrible ugly person who doesn't deserve goodness hope or love. Like a disappointment and a failer.

Does anyone one else ever feel this way??? It's very hard for me to deal with this on my own. Sometimes I just want to break down and cry but I know that won't accomplish anything so I am sad and frustrated. Just looking for someone to vent to figured this might be the thread for it.

[Mermaid Summerlilly]

So I'm on vacation in NB right now, and our cottage is right next to Parlee Beach. It's normally beautiful all the time, but UGHHH this year the STUPID government people and the overabundance of tourists is causing the water in the bay and at the beach to be super duper polluted, so there are signs everywhere like "water not safe for swimming" and "do not swim". IT SUCKS. I'm sorry to be so salty, (unlike the ocean here BECAUSE IT TURNS OUT ITS WAY OVER THE LEVELS OF FECAL BACTERIA FROM THE CAMPSITES) but I'm so pissed off. I brought my two fabric tails, my Fin Fun and my Mermaid Kat, and I can't swim in them until we drive back to Quebec and stop at a hotel that will hopefully have a pool... to make matters worse, my shell top is too small because I made it last year with a bra base that was already too small, and my Fin Fun (that I only received about a month ago) that I've only swum in twice, already has a massive hole in the ankle for no reason, and the waistband came unstitched without me even pulling on it... I know my problems are small and irrelevant compared to other people's, but the ocean here is super polluted and that's super terrible for everyone in general... AND NO ONE'S TRYING TO FIX IT

My problems are really stupid but I had to rant somewhere...

[Mermaid Clara]

My dad is pissed at me because I only got a B- on my final test for my summer class. He told me I'm pathetic and full of excuses.


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[Arking]

Wildfires. Stupid, horrible sun blocking summer ruining wildfire smoke. It bloody looks like a different planet here, orange sun and all. It's bad enough that the beach is polluted thanks to people dumping raw sewage into the inlet but now the sun's gone and precious forests are on fire. What kind of rain dance does one even need to do to quell this!?

[Slim]

A B- is great. Sorry but I don't agree with your dad being pissed. You tried and he should be happy.


My dad is pissed at me because I only got a B- on my final test for my summer class. He told me I'm pathetic and full of excuses.


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[Mermaid_Izzy]

My dad is pissed at me because I only got a B- on my final test for my summer class. He told me I'm pathetic and full of excuses.


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I agree with Slim. He should be proud of you no matter what you make.

Our teacher once explained to us if a class is taught at a correct rigor a majority of the class should recieve C's (so in a class of fifteen: 2-A's, 3-B's, 5-C's, 3-D's, 2-F's). Considering that scale your grade would be above the average. (Hope that made sense. [emoji23])


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[officialmermaidkelly]

Okay so I don't want to start more drama but I seriously need to vent about something. So I will refer to the others with fake names.
Sooooo, a few weeks back i went to the post office to check if my new monofin has arrived. It was a week past arrival date and i didn't have the tracking number. I called the office but no answer so i went up there to check. The post office mentioned it may have gone into another mermaid (with a very very similar name's) po box because we were working together and friends and they new that and the package had no last names just "Mermaid Kelly" on it. So, they say its not there, that they couldnt find it (they checked 3 times) and said they may have put it into the other Mermaid's box by mistake but they cannot go into the box with out their permission or someone who has a key to her box. At this point i tried contacting finis for the tracking number to make sure its there and contacted the other mermaids friends who are on her box as the owner (with the similar name) is off island all the way across the country. I still text her asking if she has received it and basically asked her friends who are on the box if they see it let me know and if they could get it to me if they did receive it. The owner HATES me so she of course accused me of trying to go into her box with out permission and saying her friends are watching me (which is triggering because a week prior my ex from florida flew in and he always stalked my social media after i blocked him and said similar things to what she says. She doesnt know that and she wouldn't care so i never bring that to her attention). So after her little freak out and after i left the post office, i block her number again and my mom ended up getting in contact with finis about surprising me with a new monofin. They send a new one to her and they come visit me so I FINALLY GOT MY MONOFIN!! And i love it. Then the other morning i get a phone call, from other mermaids friend and a girl i work with at a restaurant saying that because the monofin was sitting there FOR OVER A MONTH it was a $30 fee. She wanted me to pay her back and pick up my monofin but my thoughts were "if yall would have checked the box and got me the fin when i f**king asked there wouldn't be a fee!" So I politely tell her i already got a new monofin & she can just keep this one. It really frustrates me because they caused a big scene and made me out to be some terrible person trying to steal their mail when i knew my mail was in their box and made me feel sh*tty for it when i was right the entire time. Its sooo annoying but I'm so glad i have my fin now. Anyways i just really needed to vent this out here because i was getting so irritated and didn't want to start anything with anyone by bringing this girl up again. Hopefully this is the last bs thing she tries to pull lol


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[Keiris]

Wildfires. Stupid, horrible sun blocking summer ruining wildfire smoke. It bloody looks like a different planet here, orange sun and all. It's bad enough that the beach is polluted thanks to people dumping raw sewage into the inlet but now the sun's gone and precious forests are on fire. What kind of rain dance does one even need to do to quell this!?

Are you ok out there Arking?

[Arking]

Are you ok out there Arking?
Fine fine...just hanging out taking selfies
41814

[Mermaid Whisper]

Definitely not what I wanted to see at 2am, but happy you're hanging in there!


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[lotusauriel]

Fine fine...just hanging out taking selfies
41814Lolol

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[lotusauriel]

When you question why a particular group gets to talk about oppressing and harassing people that are different from them, and they jump on you. Then other people, who have absolutely nothing to do with it, are not admins, and really have nothing to do with anything think they somehow have to mediate and further oppress. Not cool. Really not cool. And why the hell doesn't the block function really block people?

[Mermaid_Izzy]

Fine fine...just hanging out taking selfies
41814

That's horrible! I hope things get better for you.


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[Mermaid_Izzy]

When you question why a particular group gets to talk about oppressing and harassing people that are different from them, and they jump on you. Then other people, who have absolutely nothing to do with it, are not admins, and really have nothing to do with anything think they somehow have to mediate and further oppress. Not cool. Really not cool. And why the hell doesn't the block function really block people?

Because the block function is through the MerNetwork not Tapatalk. Tapatalk just puts people on a "do not disturb" type mode.


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[Arking]

Haha thanks all for the well wishes. Truly the fires in British Columbia are more of a concern to me than whether I'm having a lovely day finning about in the water. For the first time in two weeks we have blue skies right this very moment but its predicted to disappear again for the remainder of the week as temperatures drop up to 20 degrees and we get some much needed rain in the area.

As a side it's been depressing. I'd totally still like to complain about how a lack of sunshine can really impact my mood and my energy levels. I've had such a low tolerance this past week, and I've not really dealt much with my own personal needs in favor of focusing on work and rushing to get things sorted before the end of summer. It's nice to come back on the forum and see the fun tails and updates.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

Haha thanks all for the well wishes. Truly the fires in British Columbia are more of a concern to me than whether I'm having a lovely day finning about in the water. For the first time in two weeks we have blue skies right this very moment but its predicted to disappear again for the remainder of the week as temperatures drop up to 20 degrees and we get some much needed rain in the area.

As a side it's been depressing. I'd totally still like to complain about how a lack of sunshine can really impact my mood and my energy levels. I've had such a low tolerance this past week, and I've not really dealt much with my own personal needs in favor of focusing on work and rushing to get things sorted before the end of summer. It's nice to come back on the forum and see the fun tails and updates.

At least the rain will help combat the fires and keep them from starting back.


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[Arking]

At least the rain will help combat the fires and keep them from starting back.


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If it makes it into the interior it will for sure. Sadly I think most of it gets dumped along the coastal mountain range in the rain forests here. We'd need a good sized tropical storm front to push through to really douse the interior woods to do any good I fear. Such a dry summer, my herbs and flowers don't mind it too much but I fear it's becoming all too common.

[Mermaid_Izzy]

If it makes it into the interior it will for sure. Sadly I think most of it gets dumped along the coastal mountain range in the rain forests here. We'd need a good sized tropical storm front to push through to really douse the interior woods to do any good I fear. Such a dry summer, my herbs and flowers don't mind it too much but I fear it's becoming all too common.

Yeah. Here I had a pretty dry summer too, but it came in patches and then it would pour rain for two or three days. My garden didn't do well.

I hope things get better for you!


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[Keiris]

Wish you could take some of our rain. At one point it was covering the whole street and I could have swam out instead of driven! Btw, Arking, they make good moisturizers for that skin condition.:lol:

[Arking]

We finally are getting a spritz of rain this evening, a whopping 1-3mm. It's kind of sad I think it all fell on me when I walked home, all 3 drops or so. It counts though, don't let anyone tell you any different.

I feel like I'd need a good swim in that moisturizer, get me all slick and shiny.

[Keiris]

Don't make me go there.:jester:

[PearlieMae]

Don't make me go there.:jester:

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[Keiris]

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hahahah Pearlie! You're a bad influence. I like that.

[lotusauriel]

Lol

[Hydra1337]

#keiringshipper

[Arking]

Haha cute ;)

I need to get in the water soon, hopefully Friday is the big day!

[Keiris]

Haha cute ;)

I need to get in the water soon, hopefully Friday is the big day!

Patiently waiting in the water...

[Mermaid Clara]

I'm having a major panic/anxiety attack and I have work at 4pm. My dad won't let me call out, he says that I don't have a good excuse to miss work. He is currently threatening to take away my internet for 6 months if I call in sick, I'm 21 freaking years old, stop treating me like I'm 5! I'm a young adult and can make my own decisions.


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[PearlieMae]

I'm having a major panic/anxiety attack and I have work at 4pm. My dad won't let me call out, he says that I don't have a good excuse to miss work. He is currently threatening to take away my internet for 6 months if I call in sick, I'm 21 freaking years old, stop treating me like I'm 5! I'm a young adult and can make my own decisions.


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The solution to that is to get a data plan on your own phone and pay for it yourself. Otherwise, I'm afraid it's "my house, my rules" until you move out.

[Arking]

Patiently waiting in the water...
*gasp*

Just not fair.

[Arking]

So it's raining, and it's cold. Looks like fall is here and I've missed my window this season. I really hope not but I'm starting to be agitated by how bad the weather has been these past two years for swimming and going to the beach. Unusually cold for most of the summer, and then dry as hell which starts fires and blocks out the sun. It's a bummer to be sure.

Another frustrating point is how impossible it seems to keep my tiny one bedroom apartment clean. I've been devoting two hours a day every morning this past week to tidying and repair projects. It's never ending!

[Mermaid Aria]

So it's raining, and it's cold. Looks like fall is here and I've missed my window this season. I really hope not but I'm starting to be agitated by how bad the weather has been these past two years for swimming and going to the beach. Unusually cold for most of the summer, and then dry as hell which starts fires and blocks out the sun. It's a bummer to be sure.

Another frustrating point is how impossible it seems to keep my tiny one bedroom apartment clean. I've been devoting two hours a day every morning this past week to tidying and repair projects. It's never ending!
Sorry about the scrappy weather! That's no fun! But I definitely feel the 1 bedroom apartment struggles! As soon as my bf and I clean ours its a disaster again a day later. I'm also running out of room for my craft supplies.

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[Keiris]

Smaller spaces can be a challenge that's for sure. I'm walking around a 6'X8' canvas in the middle of my living room floor and the makings of a silicone tail on the kitchen floor. It forces me to kick the art projects in the ass to clear up space. Don't even get me started on the Halloween costume allocated to the bedroom.
Arking, it sounds like you need to get away to somewhere a little more tropical. ;)

[Arking]

Yes please, time to move back to Crystal River FL right about now.

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[mermaidrobynn]

Maybe not exactly the right thread but I just need to get this out of my system. It's 3:26 am here and I can't sleep. I told my mom one of my friends is suicidal and we agreed on telling their mother to try to get her help again and I'm so nervous she's gonna be pissed or that I'm actually just making it worse... I'd rather have her be pissed than be dead but you know, I'm scared she'll feel betrayed and do it anyway

[Slim]

Sorry to hear but you did the right thing by notifying.


Maybe not exactly the right thread but I just need to get this out of my system. It's 3:26 am here and I can't sleep. I told my mom one of my friends is suicidal and we agreed on telling their mother to try to get her help again and I'm so nervous she's gonna be pissed or that I'm actually just making it worse... I'd rather have her be pissed than be dead but you know, I'm scared she'll feel betrayed and do it anyway

[Khaleesi Daenerys]

You did the right thing. Your friend should thank you for it down the line.

[Dancing Fish]

Maybe not exactly the right thread but I just need to get this out of my system. It's 3:26 am here and I can't sleep. I told my mom one of my friends is suicidal and we agreed on telling their mother to try to get her help again and I'm so nervous she's gonna be pissed or that I'm actually just making it worse... I'd rather have her be pissed than be dead but you know, I'm scared she'll feel betrayed and do it anyway

Then you are a true friend, and I hope your friend will appreciate that you want her alive. She might be pissed off but she's in a really bad place right now, and hopefully she'll come to see that this is a sign that there are people who love her dearly. :hug: Kudos to you for making such a tough decision!

[Slim]

Maybe not exactly the right thread but I just need to get this out of my system. It's 3:26 am here and I can't sleep. I told my mom one of my friends is suicidal and we agreed on telling their mother to try to get her help again and I'm so nervous she's gonna be pissed or that I'm actually just making it worse... I'd rather have her be pissed than be dead but you know, I'm scared she'll feel betrayed and do it anyway

Is there any updates?


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[mermaidrobynn]

Is there any updates?


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Not yet, her mother isn't replying. We only have her instagram so mom dropped her cell number in a pm asking her mother to contact her but we haven't heard anything yet :/

[Arking]

Setting up my camera to record the eclipse and get some HD video and photography. Haven't seen one of these in over a decade should be a great event but lo and behold, my memory cards are full and batteries are dead!

[Slim]

Setting up my camera to record the eclipse and get some HD video and photography. Haven't seen one of these in over a decade should be a great event but lo and behold, my memory cards are full and batteries are dead!

This struggle is real. I got no photos from the spring trip yesterday as the battery in my camera exploded. Camera is no good [emoji20]


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[Arking]

Smaller spaces can be a challenge that's for sure. I'm walking around a 6'X8' canvas in the middle of my living room floor and the makings of a silicone tail on the kitchen floor. It forces me to kick the art projects in the ass to clear up space. Don't even get me started on the Halloween costume allocated to the bedroom.
Arking, it sounds like you need to get away to somewhere a little more tropical. ;) Follow up, so in the crummy weather I taught myself to repair my vintage radio BUT
in all my cleaning this week I lost the components to build my AM radio transmitter. It never ends I tell you. Small apartment but many many places for things to vanish.